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Speaker 1: Matt, Yeah, something really embarrassing happened to me the other day,

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Speaker 1: and it's going to be one of those things that

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Speaker 1: you know, when something embarrassing happens, then you never forget it,

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Speaker 1: like you think about it sometimes at night.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: So Ajay and I are about to begin the second

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Speaker 1: part of the renovations on our house, which is like

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Speaker 1: the major renos, Like we literally happened to move out

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Speaker 1: of our house for it to happen. And so we

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Speaker 1: went to the Joiner like their office squarehouse thing the

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Speaker 1: other day to meet them in person and to just

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Speaker 1: go through like cabinets and all that shit. So I'm

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Speaker 1: in there, it's myself, aj and two of the people

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Speaker 1: from the joinery place, and you're chatting for like twenty minutes,

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Speaker 1: half an hour at this point, and all of a sudden,

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Speaker 1: I felt a little tickle in my throat, like you

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Speaker 1: know when a tickle just comes on in your throat

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Speaker 1: and you haven't been drinking anything or anything, like, it's

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Speaker 1: just this little scratch. And I just kept talking through it,

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Speaker 1: and I was like like trying to get rid of it.

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Speaker 1: And I've just met these people. I'm so fucking embarrassed

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Speaker 1: by this. Then all of a sudden, like the scratch

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Speaker 1: got worse and worse all at the tickle, and then

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Speaker 1: I realized, like I'm about to start like coughing and choking,

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Speaker 1: like you know when you like can't fucking breathe because

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Speaker 1: you're choking on like spit and nothing. So then I

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Speaker 1: start going like like and I'm starting to choke. Meanwhile,

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Speaker 1: I've left my drink bottle in the car, which is

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Speaker 1: like twenty meters away, AJ has no water on him.

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Speaker 1: Then like instant panic fucking sets in. I can't breathe,

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Speaker 1: and I'm mortified that I'm starting to choke in front

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Speaker 1: of these two people, like a guy and a girl

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Speaker 1: in their fucking thirties. So then I start having the

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Speaker 1: biggest coughing fit. But you know when you're coughing and

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Speaker 1: choking so much that you can't talk, like I couldn't

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Speaker 1: say a word, and then I'm going like this to them,

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Speaker 1: like I'm doing the cup signal with my hands because

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Speaker 1: i need fucking water. And AJ starts going, what's going on?

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Speaker 1: Like he can't even figure out what's happening, and then

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Speaker 1: they all start running around. Oh and they mustn't have

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Speaker 1: had like a tap close by whatever. So then the

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Speaker 1: guy's just like reached into this cupboard or whatever and

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Speaker 1: pulled out uh soda like mineral water and so like

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Speaker 1: at this point, I'm like, give me fucking anything. I've

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Speaker 1: got tears rolling down my eyes because I'm fucking choking

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Speaker 1: this much like my masca is going. I'm like like,

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Speaker 1: I can't breathe, i can't talk. Meanwhile, I'm also so mortified,

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Speaker 1: and AJ's like half laughing because he's fucking embarrassed. Then

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Speaker 1: this guy gives me his like, you know, the sam

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Speaker 1: Pellegrino green mineral water. No, so then I'm chugging that down.

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Speaker 1: But then because I'm choking so bad, the fist fucking

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Speaker 1: mineral water in my throat is coming back up because

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Speaker 1: it's all bubbling in my throat, and I'm going, I

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Speaker 1: fucking ran outside. Meanwhile, they can see me because it's

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Speaker 1: just the long windows, and I'm standing in the car

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Speaker 1: park choking. I'm vomiting, like the soap water is coming

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Speaker 1: up in my throat and AJ. I could see AJ

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Speaker 1: just being like what the fuck is going on? And

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Speaker 1: this went on for like ten minutes, and I'm outside

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Speaker 1: choking for ten minutes until it finally goes away. But

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Speaker 1: even once like I stopped, I calmed down, I like

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Speaker 1: wiped all the tears off my face, like the scratch

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Speaker 1: was still kind of there. So then I go back

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Speaker 1: inside and then I'm like I'm so sorry, like I

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Speaker 1: still can't talk, and AJ's like, what the fuck is

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Speaker 1: going on? Oh, It's the most embarrassing thing ever. And

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Speaker 1: so then I finally calmed down. My eyes were like

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Speaker 1: bloodshot because I was like choking that bad. Then I

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Speaker 1: sat there for the rest of the meeting, and I

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Speaker 1: slowly started being able to talk again because I was

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Speaker 1: then I just had to like make fun of it,

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Speaker 1: and towards the end like be like thaying so much

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Speaker 1: this did happened, Like I just said to them, I

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Speaker 1: did not come in here and nearly choked to death

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Speaker 1: one of those things like I'm never gonna fucking forget it.

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Speaker 1: And I said to them both, I'm never come back here.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna have to go with a different join up.

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Speaker 1: I said, like, I can't be seen here ever again.

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Speaker 1: Like I'm fucking so embarrassed.

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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, that is so funny, Like I've got

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Speaker 2: tears in my eyes hearing that story. That happened to

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Speaker 2: me once, but not It wasn't embarrassing. It was more

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Speaker 2: just inconvenient because it happened to me in the back

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Speaker 2: of the uber when my COVID was huge and he

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Speaker 2: had put up like glad wrap in between us, and

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Speaker 2: then he was also wearing masks.

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Speaker 1: He would have thought you had COVID or something.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think I had to have a mask on

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Speaker 2: it as well at the time. And anyway, he had

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Speaker 2: this little like you know, one of the air wick

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Speaker 2: things on the vents, and the vent was in the

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Speaker 2: back of the car and it was kind of blowing

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Speaker 2: straight in my face and I think that's what did

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Speaker 2: it to me. And I just started going and then

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Speaker 2: like you know, it got worse and worse and worse.

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Speaker 2: And he pulled over and said, I have to cancel

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Speaker 2: the ride. You've got to get out, and I said,

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Speaker 2: it's not COVID, COVID. I said, it's not COVID. It's

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Speaker 2: like this thing in the back that I'm reacting to,

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Speaker 2: this air week thing. And he said, I don't care. Sorry,

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Speaker 2: you've got to get out. And I've gotten out, but

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Speaker 2: that conversation is happening while I'm choking and can't breathe.

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Speaker 2: And I've gotten out, and he's just dropped me on

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Speaker 2: the side of the road in Surrey Hills. Nowhere where

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Speaker 2: am I getting water from the drain on the side

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Speaker 1: It's the worst. And it reminded me as well. It

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Speaker 1: happened to me once in school when we were doing

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Speaker 1: a test in the hall and you know how like

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Speaker 1: the whole fucking year is in there and it's dead silent,

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Speaker 1: and then you're having a choking fit. That's like my

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Speaker 1: worst nightmare, and it came true. And I'm so fucking embarrassed,

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Speaker 1: Like I'm embarrassed to ever go back there. But we're

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Speaker 1: about to work with him for like the next five months,

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Speaker 1: like we're about to work with them. So every time

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Speaker 1: I see them now, I'm gonna be like, I've got

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Speaker 1: the water, Like I'm gonna have to make a fucking

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Speaker 1: joke about it, or do I just not bring it

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Speaker 2: I think, like I think it might be one of

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Speaker 2: those things that's.

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Speaker 1: Like I think it's embarrassing, but it's not.

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Speaker 2: They'll never think about it again.

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Speaker 1: But it was like theatrics man Like, it was like

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Speaker 1: I'm choking and AJ's like, what is going on? And

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Speaker 1: he didn't have water off.

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Speaker 2: I can just imagine a They're going, what are you doing? Yes?

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Speaker 2: And I'm not in person, by the way.

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Speaker 1: I couldn't talk like that's how much I was choking.

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Speaker 1: There was no words coming out. How funny not funny

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Speaker 1: at the time. And then we got in the car,

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Speaker 1: like because we were there for like over an hour,

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Speaker 1: and we got in the car and AJ was just

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Speaker 1: piecing himself. He's like, what the fuck happened? I'm like,

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Speaker 1: I was nearly dying. Oh, anyway, be careful out there, everyone.

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Speaker 2: Be careful.

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Speaker 1: You can choke on nothing at a really bad time.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, But that's the thing. It's more embarrassing that there

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Speaker 2: was nothing to choke on.

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Speaker 1: You know what I mean, I know and you're just

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Speaker 1: talking and it just happened anyway.

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Speaker 2: Welcome to close friends.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I saw this TikTok and it was pretty straight forward.

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Speaker 1: She said. As an adult, low maintenance friendships are the

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Speaker 1: best kind of friendships.

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Speaker 2: What is a low maintenance friendship?

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Speaker 1: Like the kind of friendship where you don't have to

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Speaker 1: be in each other's pocket twenty four to seven, or

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Speaker 1: like the kind of friends where you just catch up

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Speaker 1: once every now and then and it's like nothing happened

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Speaker 1: in between kind of thing. Compared to our friendships when

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Speaker 1: we were in our teens and early twenties and stuff

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Speaker 1: where I felt like the friendships that I did have

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Speaker 1: back then, it was very much like you're in each

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Speaker 1: other's pockets twenty four seven, you know, everything that's going

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Speaker 1: on every single day kind of thing. And she was

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Speaker 1: saying that as an adult now she really appreciates the

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Speaker 1: more low maintenance friendships, which I agree with.

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Speaker 2: Interesting, I'm definitely a high maintenance friendship kind of person then.

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Speaker 1: See, But to me, like I would say that mine

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Speaker 1: and your friendship is low maintenance.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, for sure, But I mean, like I'm just thinking

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Speaker 2: about like all my friends as a whole.

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Speaker 1: You do have a very close friends group, yeah, whereas

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Speaker 1: I don't. Yeah, I have lots of friendship.

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Speaker 2: I know everything about my best friend, I know everything

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Speaker 2: about him and yeah.

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Speaker 1: Left on ter I've got a lot of friends, but

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Speaker 1: they're like all from different groups kind of thing. Whereas

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Speaker 1: I feel like you do have that very close like

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't have that. That's so random that you

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Speaker 2: don't have that.

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Speaker 1: I've always with I've always been that way because in Newcastle.

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Speaker 1: I've always been that way though through school, like never

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Speaker 1: been in a big friend group really, Yeah, always just

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Speaker 2: Now I'm one of those people who has like four

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Speaker 2: best friends, but they all serve a different purpose, you

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Speaker 2: know what I mean? Like, what why I feel attacked today?

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Speaker 2: Everyone just keeps laughing everything. Well, I've got like, I've

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Speaker 2: got best friends, but they're all you know, because I'm

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Speaker 2: one of those people who has like multiple best friends

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Speaker 2: and I always have had because I think half of

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Speaker 2: me goes. I would never want to put anyone above

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Speaker 2: anyone else. I don't want there to be one best

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Speaker 2: friend above. And also I've never felt like the other

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Speaker 2: person's best friend, so I get a bit scared that

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Speaker 2: I'm going, you're my best friend, but they're going, that's nice,

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Speaker 2: but this person over here is my best friend, do

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Speaker 2: you know what I mean? Yes, that's how I felt.

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Speaker 1: I used to use the term best friend a lot,

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Speaker 1: like in high school, like I had my best friend

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Speaker 1: and whatever, and in my early twenties maybe, but as

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Speaker 1: I've gotten older, like that term's gone.

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Speaker 2: Me and my best friend the other day literally had

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Speaker 2: a conversation. We were drunk and on the way to

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Speaker 2: the club and we were we were like, we were like,

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Speaker 2: you know, like, you're my best friend, like no one

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Speaker 2: above you. And he was like, yes, you are that

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Speaker 2: person to me. And I was like, I am so

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Speaker 2: glad you're saying this because it's so validating to me.

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Speaker 2: And he's like, I love you, and I love you.

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Speaker 2: We're just best friend. That's cute, you know.

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Speaker 1: I was like, I.

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Speaker 2: Need that in my life, if you know what I mean.

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Speaker 2: So I love that we have a low maintenance friendship.

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Speaker 2: I feel like a majority of my friends are low

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Speaker 2: maintenance friendships, but I think it's important to have a

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Speaker 1: like this is not a worry in my life now.

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Speaker 1: I have no hard feelings towards her. Obviously, I haven't

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Speaker 1: seen her because she literally packed her card and moved

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Speaker 1: back to Melbourne in the middle of the night. But like,

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Speaker 1: if I ever saw her, I'd be like, how the

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Speaker 1: fuck are you? Like, I have no hard feelings. I

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Speaker 1: just felt like she could have gone a lot better

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Speaker 1: of a way around that. She could have said, look,

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Speaker 1: I can't afford rent. I'm going to move home to Melbourne,

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Speaker 1: but instead it was moved out in the middle of

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Speaker 1: the night and I never ever saw her again. And

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Speaker 1: my audience hated on me for that, saying you can't

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Speaker 1: keep a friend. I'm like, no, I'm way too fucking

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Speaker 1: nice and get walked over. But I've learned a lot

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Speaker 1: since then now I don't do shit for anyone.

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Speaker 2: No, that's so so so weird that you would be like, hey,

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Speaker 2: how you going, like and just.

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Speaker 1: Well, we've spoken about this on the podcast before, like

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Speaker 1: people doing wrong by you, you know, how we spoke

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Speaker 1: about that and like how we would act. But like,

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Speaker 1: I have no hard feelings towards anyone if anyone's ever

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Speaker 1: done something wrong by me in my lifetime, like I

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Speaker 1: just let it go and that's fucking it, Like that's

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Speaker 1: their problem, and on them, like I'm not going to

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Speaker 1: see her from across the room and be like, oh no,

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Speaker 1: especially with something like eight years ago, just like how

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Speaker 1: the fuck you've been? Yeah, where the fuck did you go?

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Speaker 2: Random? That was eight years ago?

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Speaker 1: I think it was, yes, seven or seven years ago, Like, yeah,

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Speaker 1: it was when AJ and I first got together, So

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Speaker 1: it was that long ago. Good time, So we can

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Speaker 1: only laugh about the memories, you know, wish her well.

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Speaker 2: I guess if I saw my friend that I lived with,

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Speaker 2: then I'm no longer friends like I because I missed

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Speaker 2: that that friendship. I'm like, I don't miss we had.

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Speaker 1: So much fun, Like I still laugh about some of

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Speaker 1: the shit that we used to do. Memory we had

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Speaker 1: poohs and high tea.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Well, when I'm looking through my videos and stuff

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Speaker 2: and see videos we just had like the best time.

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Speaker 2: So I don't know what happened, and God bless and

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Speaker 2: I hope he's well, no hard feelings, but it was

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Speaker 2: just really psycho because I was like, I was like you,

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Speaker 2: I was like I felt like I was trying to help.

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Speaker 2: And then I don't know, maybe we do high maintenance

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Speaker 2: for these people I'm at we are.

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Speaker 1: You've got to be careful with how much you give

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Speaker 1: to people because you will get walked over. I've learned

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Speaker 1: that lesson many times in real life.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, stunning, that's your life lesson of the day people,

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Speaker 2: And the other life lesson is I've got to go

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Speaker 2: top up my parking. So all right, well I'll go

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Speaker 2: get out of here and I'll see you next week.

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Speaker 2: Anything to say before we head off, close friends, not

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Speaker 2: that's it good