Speaker 1: Appod Shape Production. Welcome back to another episode of am
Speaker 1: I Bad Mum Podcasts? The question we constantly ask three
Speaker 1: times a week as we are on the downhill slide
Speaker 1: to Christmas, school, holidays.
Speaker 2: And Christmas, I just brought up I mean it would
Speaker 2: have changed within seconds, but I did just bring up
Speaker 2: this countdown and it says forty three days, eleven hours,
Speaker 2: twenty nine minutes in well now fifty eight seconds.
Speaker 1: Not going to mean anything to the people that listen
Speaker 1: when the episode actually comes out.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well, at this point in time whilst we're doing it,
Speaker 2: that's how far off we are. We're going to be
Speaker 2: even closer when this goes crazy.
Speaker 1: Well, we've only just got past birthday. So on the
Speaker 1: weekend we had the girl's birthday party. When I say
Speaker 1: birthday party, it was a dinner. Yeah, it was dinner
Speaker 1: at a restaurants sweet sixteen though. Yeah, eight kids, and
Speaker 1: I was paying. Obviously that's the right thing to do. Yeah,
Speaker 1: white kids to a birthday dinner and you pay apart
Speaker 1: from rach. So I booked one table for them, so
Speaker 1: they were all sat at their table, and then I
Speaker 1: booked a table for Jay and I across the other
Speaker 1: side of the restaurant, and I said to the waitress,
Speaker 1: I want to be in control of what they're ordering,
Speaker 1: Like I will order for the table go and ask
Speaker 1: them like what drinks they want, but I will order
Speaker 1: for the table. Yeah, and please run that past me,
Speaker 1: because I am not having eight teenagers in charge of
Speaker 1: what the bill's gonna look like, rach. So they all
Speaker 1: chose a mocktail. Yeah, yep, that was my sixteen dollars
Speaker 1: each for first drink. And then Amelia comes over to
Speaker 1: me into a mum. The girls are asking if they're
Speaker 1: gonna order oysters. I went, absolutely not. They are not
Speaker 1: ordering oyster. Why, I said, look at where we are.
Speaker 1: We're not buying oysters. Oysters are not going to fill
Speaker 1: you up. We're ordering bread, we're ordering potatoes, we're ordering chips.
Speaker 2: I was like, I also love that they're all probably
Speaker 2: like what fifteen sixteen, and they're all sitting in there
Speaker 2: just trying to like run up the bill. Yeah, we'll
Speaker 2: just get a tray of oysters. What do you want
Speaker 2: a glass of champagne to go with that?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 3: No, I know.
Speaker 2: Also, my daughter is only eleven, and she would have
Speaker 2: ordered a mocktaul one hundred percent she loves mocktails.
Speaker 1: It was one of those kind of bittersweet moments where
Speaker 1: I saw how much fun they had and what a
Speaker 1: lovely time, and you know what, their friends are lovely. Yeah,
Speaker 1: every single one of those girls came over to my
Speaker 1: table before they left and thanked me for dinner, which
Speaker 1: is beautiful. However, I am still a little sad about
Speaker 1: how much it cost me. Am I a bad mum?
Speaker 1: Or not letting them help?
Speaker 2: I fight this battle a lot actually, because we talk
Speaker 2: about this, like just the topic of not letting them help.
Speaker 2: And even my brother looked after them for a couple
Speaker 2: of days. He goes, I get it now, why you
Speaker 2: don't always let them help? And I was like, yeah, well,
Speaker 2: give me your take on it. He goes, well's the time.
Speaker 2: It's time consuming to let them do everything, especially in.
Speaker 1: A situation like even when they were small, small and
Speaker 1: you needed to get ready for school or whatever, and
Speaker 1: it was like, come put your shoes on, and they're
Speaker 1: like sat there. It's like they got the shoelaces one
Speaker 1: loop and you're just like hope, eventually, like I'll just
Speaker 1: do it. I'll do it.
Speaker 2: Doing in the car when we're getting out of the
Speaker 2: car because we're gonna be there and you're like going,
Speaker 2: oh my gosh. And I think also the time consumption
Speaker 2: in the battle, Like sometimes it is time consuming to
Speaker 2: battle with them about particularly certain things of just doing
Speaker 2: the thing. So you've got a battle for them to
Speaker 2: just say, let's use, for instance, brush your teeth. It's like, yeah,
Speaker 2: it's time consuming, but I really want you to brush
Speaker 2: your teeth. Well, I'm not clearly doing it for you,
Speaker 2: but I want your brush teeth. How many times you
Speaker 2: have to ask to brush your teeth?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Do you want them to fall out of your head?
Speaker 2: I'm not paying for them again, just FYI like I'm not.
Speaker 2: You know, it's that battle and you go.
Speaker 3: Oh, just do it myself. Yeah, but your girls are
Speaker 3: now there are the end of it.
Speaker 1: Yes, but it's the same thing. I've still got the
Speaker 1: same thing in that I might ask them to put
Speaker 1: their washing away. Yeah, it would be so much easier
Speaker 1: for me to go in eat room yep and put
Speaker 1: their washing away than me constantly going you haven't put
Speaker 1: your washing away yet. I've actually put your wash away.
Speaker 1: I actually do one thing, put your washing away. I've
Speaker 1: just walked past here and it's still there. Oh, and
Speaker 1: now you've moved the washing from there to that chair,
Speaker 1: but it's still not put away. Like that's the next thing,
Speaker 1: like exactly the same thing. It doesn't matter whether they're
Speaker 1: toddlers or teenagers. It's exactly the same battle. But this
Speaker 1: particular occasion, normally this is a w weekly thing. And
Speaker 1: I will put our recycling, take it out to the
Speaker 1: recycling bink. I put our recycling under the sink, and
Speaker 1: then each week I'll take it out to the bin.
Speaker 1: And then I do the same with our bottles. And
Speaker 1: so whether it be cans, plastic bottles, you know, Kumbucha, Sodally's,
Speaker 1: whatever they might be, and wine bottles.
Speaker 3: Yep, that's the great reflection piece.
Speaker 1: Yeah, they all go into a container in the garage.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: And then at some point, and this is not normally
Speaker 1: a weekly thing. This is maybe every couple of weeks
Speaker 1: or once a month, I take the boxes of bottles,
Speaker 1: I put them in the boot of my car, and
Speaker 1: I take them down to the bottle bank.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, yeah, the containers for change.
Speaker 1: Or yeah yeah yeah yeah, which is really good, like
Speaker 1: you're recycling them so you feel good. You also get
Speaker 1: ten cents back per bottle. So depending on how big
Speaker 1: your month has been, you actually get some money off
Speaker 1: your woolworthsholf at the end of it. This particular occasion,
Speaker 1: I was taking some bottles out and Amelia said to me, oh,
Speaker 1: you know, you see Anna, their friend. I said yeah.
Speaker 1: She said, oh, her mom lets her help with the
Speaker 1: bottles and takes them and puts them in the machine
Speaker 1: and the rest of it, and then she gets to
Speaker 1: keep the money. I was like, that's nice, Like that's good.
Speaker 1: She went, Can we do that? And I thought about
Speaker 1: it for a second and I was like no, And
Speaker 1: she went why And I was like, just because no,
Speaker 1: Just because I've decided no, and I'm an adult and
Speaker 1: I've got every ride to say no. I don't have
Speaker 1: to explain myself just because no. In my head, I'm
Speaker 1: going I cannot bear for you to see how many
Speaker 1: bottles go in that bottle bank, because you'll go to
Speaker 1: school and Siena will have two dollars fifty and you'll
Speaker 1: be there well thirty five dollars.
Speaker 2: This particular incentive did not work within the third Ay household.
Speaker 1: You're just gattering the recycling bin at home recycling bin.
Speaker 2: And the reason behind this was exactly for that reason,
Speaker 2: I'm going, well, there's not one that's super close by
Speaker 2: to us where we live.
Speaker 1: See ours is really convenience.
Speaker 2: Yeah, see, I would probably be more inclined. But the
Speaker 2: other thing was it was an incentive for the kids
Speaker 2: of like here, it makes money. It just took so
Speaker 2: long to do, and then it would just bang up.
Speaker 2: See you were saying, like you can handle like three weeks,
Speaker 2: four weeks. I have like that tendency where I'm like, no,
Speaker 2: I don't want to see them. I have to go
Speaker 2: to bin every two days. I don't want to see them.
Speaker 1: Yep.
Speaker 3: And then six weeks later you're still.
Speaker 2: Banging on about the same thing about taking these you
Speaker 2: know things, because it was like Dad said we could
Speaker 2: do this. Okay, good, so Dad wants to do it,
Speaker 2: then like I'm not taking that responsibility on it. And
Speaker 2: I remember getting to the end of it, and they'd
Speaker 2: also like taken on one of the little businesses. The
Speaker 2: lovely lady was like, you can come and take all
Speaker 2: of my bottles, and you can have my bottles, and
Speaker 2: there bit more money for you.
Speaker 3: And then I would absolutely if I was taking the money,
Speaker 3: I would be okay, no worries.
Speaker 2: It's on my back, but I was like, no, this
Speaker 2: is your thing, you need to do it.
Speaker 1: I actually quite like it, Grace, because you know what
Speaker 1: I'm like with I love to save a bit of
Speaker 1: money here. That don't get me wrong, Like I'll spend
Speaker 1: on the things I want to spend on. But I
Speaker 1: also love I love it when I get like some
Speaker 1: sort of bargain or.
Speaker 3: But what are you getting for getting?
Speaker 2: Like literally it spits out cash back at you or
Speaker 2: is it like, yeah, you get let me explain to you.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like I think this is a great incentive.
Speaker 2: I also grew up in South Australia, where it was
Speaker 2: it's been a thing from the moment I was born.
Speaker 2: So this is just new obviously to Queensland. Yeah is
Speaker 2: that right? Well yeah, South Australia has always had it,
Speaker 2: and it was it was a big thing. My dad
Speaker 2: was also a pretty big drinker, so he was always
Speaker 2: cashing in those checks because there was so many cans.
Speaker 1: Well, because it feels you're getting something for nothing pretty
Speaker 1: much if you're drinking that drink. Any anyway, I know,
Speaker 1: I find it quite fun. I find it quite therapeutic,
Speaker 1: like standing there and put it in the machine and
Speaker 1: it takes you the old one it spits out. Doesn't
Speaker 1: like that one, but yeah, no, it's pretty fun.
Speaker 3: So it just counts it and then.
Speaker 1: And then at the end, once you finished, you just
Speaker 1: press receipt yeap and it prints out like a little
Speaker 1: piece of paper with a barcode. And then you go
Speaker 1: into woolies and you just scan the barcode at the
Speaker 1: end and it takes that money off your shopping.
Speaker 3: Ah. Well, it's a great little incentive.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so you might go and get your dinner for
Speaker 1: the evening and go cool, Now I've got like seven
Speaker 1: dollars off?
Speaker 3: Is my seven barcodes? Did?
Speaker 1: Yeah? No, if you've put them all in it one time,
Speaker 1: it only gives you one receipt, so it counts them
Speaker 1: all ust.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but you can't save up all your receipts, like okay,
Speaker 2: just save for instance, like I don't shop very often,
Speaker 2: so I would have been to like the containers for
Speaker 2: change that week and then the next.
Speaker 3: Week and then the next week. Could I take all
Speaker 3: three barcodes with me to the wooly shops?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, well.
Speaker 1: What would even be funnier? Can you do this? Actually?
Speaker 1: At some point is save them up save them up,
Speaker 1: save them up. So you've got like twenty seven of these,
Speaker 1: and then I'll want to watch you at the self
Speaker 1: served check out at the end going beep and that's
Speaker 1: thirty cents off, beep another dollar fifty because I am
Speaker 1: that person, because I'm like, no, I'm using these. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I am absolutely using these.
Speaker 3: That was me in my head picturing you.
Speaker 2: Standing out the self checkout with like twenty seven barcodes
Speaker 2: and like each of them is like three dollars, five dollars.
Speaker 3: Like for me, I'm like, bro, I chapped out the guy.
Speaker 1: At Wlworth recently. He even said to me. He came
Speaker 1: up to me, you can't use those here? Oh I can?
Speaker 1: He said, now you can't. You're on a card only machine.
Speaker 1: I went, look, they're working absolutely. Look it's taking money
Speaker 1: off my show.
Speaker 2: He's here.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but it counts that as cash. It's counting that
Speaker 1: as a cash. You need to be on one of
Speaker 1: the checkelts. I went, no, mate, don't try and interrupt me.
Speaker 1: I know how this works. Look watch me. And he
Speaker 1: kept that you need to move to a different one.
Speaker 1: I want no, I don't need to move to a
Speaker 1: different one. It's working. What he was worried about is
Speaker 1: if I was going to put too many in and
Speaker 1: it was going to more than pay for the shopping. Oh,
Speaker 1: and then I can't give you cash? Yes, And I
Speaker 1: was like, I'm not going to have that problem. I
Speaker 1: know how much I've got and I know how much
Speaker 1: I've spent. He stood there over me, all high mighty,
Speaker 1: like really not happy with what was happening here. I
Speaker 1: was just ignoring him. And then at the end of it,
Speaker 1: I went, oh, well, there we go. Seems to have
Speaker 1: worked out okay, doesn't it.
Speaker 3: He's like, Okay, calm down, do you want a job here? Hey?
Speaker 3: Can we just like before we quickly wrap up?
Speaker 2: I know we speak about this a lot, and we've
Speaker 2: been talking about Woolies, but Aldi, I attempted going back
Speaker 2: there again yesterday and I love like I love talking
Speaker 2: about it, and so I pulled it into Audi and
Speaker 2: I was like, oh, look at me go. I took
Speaker 2: my own bag in because like, I'm so excited, like
Speaker 2: I'm not an idiot.
Speaker 3: I now know what I'm doing.
Speaker 2: I know that they've got like these free range split chicken,
Speaker 2: you know, like so easy to cook, like you know,
Speaker 2: an hour and the oven kind of thing anyway, went
Speaker 2: through and got those. At one stage, I was like, Rachel,
Speaker 2: you've got chicken in your bag and you have been
Speaker 2: standing looking at this It looked like a junk path
Speaker 2: through the middle. How can you have chicken right next
Speaker 2: to like lawn mowers. It just some it doesn't make
Speaker 2: sense to me. But then it was sort of almost
Speaker 2: like blows my own mind because then I get distracted
Speaker 2: by the special buys, the special byes through the middle,
Speaker 2: forgetting that I've now got chicken in my bag, to
Speaker 2: the point that I was almost going to turn around
Speaker 2: and go and change the chickens over because I've been
Speaker 2: in my bag too long. Honestly, that place blows me.
Speaker 2: You get anything wrong, No, no, no, no, I just
Speaker 2: like to look.
Speaker 1: Yeah, because you get caught up there and next thing
Speaker 1: you know, you've bought a bath matt and you play
Speaker 1: some ski gear.
Speaker 2: I just genuinely always have a bit of a giggle
Speaker 2: to myself because I'm liked, Katie loves this place. And
Speaker 2: then I just keep walking pace. No, but you're good
Speaker 2: at it, I'm not good at it. And then I
Speaker 2: got to the self checkout right picked up two lemons.
Speaker 3: Thought I was so good and grab that.
Speaker 2: And now I'm in my self service checkout so they
Speaker 2: can't slam my things down here.
Speaker 1: And I'm so glad they've introduced those.
Speaker 2: Yeah. But I also then realized that I had like
Speaker 2: a fair hit of meat, and this poor guy's almost
Speaker 2: like standing on my shoulder, like, bro, I'm not going
Speaker 2: to steal anything.
Speaker 3: Calm down.
Speaker 2: So I turned to him and I was like, oh,
Speaker 2: this lemon is rotten.
Speaker 3: I'm gonna give it back to you. I don't want it.
Speaker 3: It was like I felt so entitled because he was
Speaker 3: just standing there. I was like, here's your rotten lemon.
Speaker 1: You needed to prove to him that you weren't about
Speaker 1: to steal shit. And actually, you're somebody that really cares
Speaker 1: about the quality of their lemons. Therefore, you are never
Speaker 1: going to be stealing stuff in Audi. You're either the
Speaker 1: person that's stealing shit in Audi or you're the person
Speaker 1: that's very careful about which lemon they're choosing.
Speaker 3: You can't be Then I turned to him, and then
Speaker 3: do you know what he did?
Speaker 2: He was so kind and he goes, can I go
Speaker 2: and get you another one? I was like, oh, and
Speaker 2: it shocked me how kind he was, and I was.
Speaker 1: Like, because you're the one that was stereotyping. He's stereotyping
Speaker 1: you thinking you're a Audi definitely going to be stealing it.
Speaker 3: Shit, you've got a bag full of me like.
Speaker 1: Stereo typed him. He's working with Audi. He's not going
Speaker 1: to be helpful. He's not going to help me.
Speaker 3: But then I thought about it. I went, oh, yes, please, Yeah,
Speaker 3: that would be great. I'd love another lemon.
Speaker 2: And then he walks off, and then my head I
Speaker 2: go to the point of like, oh does he think
Speaker 2: now I'm distracting him?
Speaker 1: What steal shit? Oh?
Speaker 3: Okaie. I needed to get out of the quick smile.
Speaker 2: I was like thanks for the lemon, okay, yeah, and
Speaker 2: then paid for it all. I was like, see, I
Speaker 2: have a good day and just got out of there.
Speaker 2: It was just one of the most messed up situations.
Speaker 3: But then I got home. My brother was like, oh,
Speaker 3: this is really nice chicken, like yuh, And.
Speaker 1: I was like, I stole it from Autie, stole it
Speaker 1: from Audi.
Speaker 3: You'd be impressed.