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Speaker 1: Good a. Welcome to the show. This is better than yesterday,

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Speaker 1: making it better every episode since twenty thirteen. My names

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Speaker 1: Olsha Ginsberg. I am a podcaster, I'm a TV host,

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Speaker 1: I'm an author. I'm a husband, dad, stepdad. A person

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Speaker 1: who discovered today that his onesie wet weather motorcycle riding

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Speaker 1: you go. It looks like I've weed myself, found myself

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Speaker 1: of pants. But hey, that's the things you do when

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Speaker 1: where I'm going to ask your questions. I've been thinking

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Speaker 1: a lot about the show over the last couple of weeks,

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Speaker 1: and certainly the format of the show is it's moved

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Speaker 1: and changed. So I've moved and changed, and you've moved

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Speaker 1: thinking for Monday Wednesday, I'll still keep having a guest

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Speaker 1: coming in because I still really like that. I like

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Speaker 1: talking to people. But on Monday I might answer questions.

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Speaker 1: I've yet to figure out what I'm going to do

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Speaker 1: on Friday. I might try some different things each week,

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Speaker 1: see what you like. But yeah, I was thinking on

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Speaker 1: today's episode I would answer some questions now. I put

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Speaker 1: just message me there specifically. So interesting questions today. Some

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Speaker 1: about Sensor, we need, something about dopemin, some about Sarah Tonin.

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Speaker 1: Somebody asking me about being ticklish. I don't know if

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Speaker 1: that's legit. We're going to get to that, but I

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Speaker 1: do need to play some ads. Be right back, all right,

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Speaker 1: here we go. It's the Monday Questions edition of the podcast,

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Speaker 1: and I'm very grateful that you wrote these questions in

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Speaker 1: This one comes from Mammy sixty six wants to know

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Speaker 1: what's my favorite Australian band right now? Far out man. Okay,

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Speaker 1: every time I asked you your favorite movie about this,

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Speaker 1: or a favorite book about that, or favorite particularly music,

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Speaker 1: it's like, I can't give you one, all right, I

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Speaker 1: can't give you just one. So I'm going to give

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Speaker 1: you three and two of these things and not like

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Speaker 1: the other. The first one I'll give you is a

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Speaker 1: band out of Sydney called Fangs with a Z soup. Cool.

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Speaker 1: But look, I'm fifty, I'm a white guy. I used

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Speaker 1: to play in bands. I'd ride a motorcycle, I ride bicycles.

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Speaker 1: I bite my bottom lip when a riff hits. All right,

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Speaker 1: there you go, and Fangs are great. They're a punk

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Speaker 1: band they have I like them because you know, I

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Speaker 1: really like what they're about. They're very melodic. They have

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Speaker 1: great guitar tone. This means a lot to me. It

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Speaker 1: might not mean a lot to many people, but means

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Speaker 1: a lot to me. How's your guitar tone? Like some

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Speaker 1: people are about snare drum sounds, some people are about

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Speaker 1: I'm not even play guitar. I played bass, really good

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Speaker 1: guitar that lovely human beings. I was very lucky In

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Speaker 1: fact that one night during the Melbourne International Comedy Festival

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Speaker 1: the comedy festival, one of those wonderful things that happens.

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Speaker 1: I was out with Heggy and I don't know. I

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Speaker 1: think we sat down with him and Cody and some

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Speaker 1: of the guys from Fangs to eat a succulent Chinese

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Speaker 1: And yeah, really recommend him Fangs with a Z. The

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Speaker 1: second one I'll give you is an old band, but

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Speaker 1: Wolf and I have been listening to them a lot lately.

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Speaker 1: funk band called rock Melons, which was super cool. Eventually

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Speaker 1: a Tales from the City I think was the album.

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Speaker 1: It's actually pretty freaking good man that an Australian band

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Speaker 1: was doing that kind of music. Then it's pretty sick.

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Speaker 1: Rock Melon New Groove was the really big song from then,

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Speaker 1: the third one I'll give you is which skull? All right?

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Speaker 1: be my skull? So which skull one would? They're a

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Speaker 1: doom band who has lineage to Armored Angel if that

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Speaker 1: missing ad that Audrey and I did. We had a

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Speaker 1: this and which is really cool because they look after us.

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Speaker 1: I've been driving this in cars for a long time,

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Speaker 1: I took it to Campra the other day. It's fantastic

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Speaker 1: and back don't worry. And if you look, I put

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Speaker 1: I'm listening to because they want to say, how can

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Speaker 1: you'll see me scroll past which skull which look if

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Speaker 1: you want to I don't know, moya lawn or lift

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Speaker 1: a deadlift, or I don't know, punch a punching bag,

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Speaker 1: it's good for that. So thank you for that, Mammy

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Speaker 1: sixty six. That was super cool. Someone wants to nile

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Speaker 1: from ticklish sometimes. I used to be super ticklish, like

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Speaker 1: really intensely, terribly reactively, uncontrollably ticklish. And then similar to

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Speaker 1: it's not good. But I'm way better now. Like Wolfie

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Speaker 1: and run. It's the best. So I hope that answered

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Speaker 1: your question. I'm guessing by your username, which I'm not

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Speaker 1: going to read out loud. You're asking that in a

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Speaker 1: in a non benign way. But look you do you

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Speaker 1: all right? Whatever you're into. Someone wants to know is

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Speaker 1: it true that Masks Singer Australia might be coming back

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Speaker 1: next year or not? I don't know. That's a two

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Speaker 1: about it. But no, I don't believe the Mask Singer

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Speaker 1: is coming back. Stop and Drain is asking why is

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Speaker 1: network television so unintellectual? Each maths ooh boy, I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: have to think about this one. I'll come right back

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Speaker 1: All right, thanks for listening. This is better I'm watching it,

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Speaker 1: gibs Burg. Thanks for listening to the show. I'm answering

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Speaker 1: some questions today. We've already talked about favorite Australian bands,

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Speaker 1: where it talked about ticklishness and the future of the

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Speaker 1: Australian television production Mask Singer, and now speaking of television,

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Speaker 1: someone called Stop and Drain is asking why is network

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Speaker 1: TV so unintellectual? Example maps? I ate sorry to Scott Morrison,

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Speaker 1: you're on this one. Stop if that is your first name,

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Speaker 1: I disagree with the premise of the question. I believe

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Speaker 1: to read this question correctly. In your opinion, this TV

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Speaker 1: is a intellectual and why is network TV like? That?

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Speaker 1: Is your question, and I look, I understand why you

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Speaker 1: Maps is a phenomenon. It's an incredibly successful show. Personally,

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Speaker 1: even though I know the people that make it, the

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Speaker 1: more I work with them all, I actually have never

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Speaker 1: goggle Box. That is the only stuff I've seen. But

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Speaker 1: it's like the greatest hits. You see what you need

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Speaker 1: to see. I would say, with a show like that,

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Speaker 1: you might think it's unintellectual, but I disagree with that.

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Speaker 1: I think it is actually quite intellectual because of the

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Speaker 1: way that people who view it use their brains to

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Speaker 1: assess the intricacies of the personalities and the webbed relationships

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Speaker 1: that happen within shows like that. To say something is

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Speaker 1: unintellectual is to I'm gonna say, there's a bit of

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Speaker 1: ego in that question, and there's a bitter, I'm better

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Speaker 1: Like those early seasons of Australian Idol, a big part

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Speaker 1: of the format was setting up people who weren't that

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Speaker 1: and they would sing in front of the judges, and

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Speaker 1: then everybody watching got a chance to kind of go haha.

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Speaker 1: but look, I can't undo it. That's what it was.

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Speaker 1: So in that similar way, I think people liked to

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Speaker 1: There's a shardon flouder about watching another person fail when

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Speaker 1: People would say, well, why do we watch that? And

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Speaker 1: day and have people go haha, you can't sing proud Mary.

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Speaker 1: To answer question, the thing you're referring to that makes

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Speaker 1: maths maths, I think it's the same thing that makes watching, say,

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Speaker 1: for example, on early seasons of Australian NI, or watching

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Speaker 1: people sing badly who have been deliberately put in the

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Speaker 1: edit is the same thing as watching fail videos, watching

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Speaker 1: someone try to write a surfboard off his roof into

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Speaker 1: a pool and missing. It's the same thing, except in

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Speaker 1: one as a context of relationship, one as a context

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Speaker 1: a surf board for its intended purpose. Yet I understand

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Speaker 1: the question because I in the past, I have felt

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Speaker 1: that I am bigger than or better than or you know,

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Speaker 1: I have felt inflated like I don't watch the now

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Speaker 1: said I felt like lot when I was a kid.

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Speaker 2: Right.

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Speaker 1: But the thing is these shows aren't accidentally massive. They

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Speaker 1: are absolutely colossal, because this is what a vast amount

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Speaker 1: attention in. And that speaks a lot too. Now people

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Speaker 1: might be getting different needs out of it. They might

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Speaker 1: might be getting relationship advice. I wouldn't take it, but

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Speaker 1: I guess that they're only going to be that little

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Speaker 1: in the show notes. It's a substack that's probably I'm

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Speaker 1: this stuff. And here is an AI voice that is

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