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Speaker 1: And with her with Kate Ritchie podcast.

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Speaker 2: How about this restoring Guys, when you find somebody in

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Speaker 2: a relationship and you're trying to work out is that

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Speaker 2: my partner for life? Is that the one you shouldn't

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Speaker 2: I've always thought you shouldn't settle, And to me, settling

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Speaker 2: is going for somebody that maybe looks great on paper.

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Speaker 2: Do you know what the awesome scene is in the

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Speaker 2: Notebook where the mum and her are sitting in the

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Speaker 2: car Swans on the river, No, a different scene and

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Speaker 2: they go along and here's the guy shoveling coal, and

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Speaker 2: there's that message that runs. It's like a subplot to

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Speaker 2: the movie. There's that message that runs, which is very

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Speaker 2: clear that she married the guy who had the money,

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Speaker 2: that was good on paper, but her heart and the

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Speaker 2: fun and the love was really with the guy who

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Speaker 2: was shoveling coal.

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Speaker 3: So does that he had a bit of a raw

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Speaker 3: nerve with you? Was there a moment with Lisa and

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Speaker 3: her parents where you made it you found.

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Speaker 2: The found that guy with the coal, he's turning it

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Speaker 2: into diamonds.

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Speaker 1: In Succession, you know how there's the girl in Succession

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Speaker 1: who's basically she's the high paid prostitute who's marrying for money,

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Speaker 1: and the mum says, hey, just do it, honey, because

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Speaker 1: you're setting yourself up for life. Yeah, I reckon, That's

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Speaker 1: what Lisa's parents said. That is really setting yourself up

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Speaker 1: for life. Just trust when your.

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Speaker 2: Parents had to sit you down and say you're going

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Speaker 2: from from COV's Harbor to the Shire, they sort of

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Speaker 2: said you're kind of moving sideways, didn't I kind of said,

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Speaker 2: you've just traversed slightly, and you haven't really gone up

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Speaker 2: or down, You've just driven.

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Speaker 1: The difference is Bronti has signed up to an absolute

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Speaker 1: six foot four, a chubby, little fun stuff.

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Speaker 2: Branting to an a and Brontie's quite young. So I

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Speaker 2: don't know why she decided just to settle for you,

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Speaker 2: because she could have done a hell of a lot.

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Speaker 1: Better saying she saw that jet ski shop.

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Speaker 2: Mate, Oh my god, I've got a traffic pick.

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Speaker 3: Can I just say everyone wants the faeries are right?

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Speaker 2: You like you are? You are looking for it.

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Speaker 3: You have a piece of paid that you need, your

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Speaker 3: check list yet maybe, but we all know you get

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Speaker 3: to a stage in your life where you single, your

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Speaker 3: thirty years of age and you go I don't think

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Speaker 3: I'm going to get this fair retail. Yeah, there are

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Speaker 3: a lot of people that do settle what's around here,

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Speaker 3: and they look back at previous relationships and go, you

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Speaker 3: know what, Dave was a really.

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Speaker 2: Lovely yod God that was fun.

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Speaker 3: I probably should have given him more of a chance.

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Speaker 2: Well, this story on redd it is about a girl

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Speaker 2: and she used to hang around with her friend and

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Speaker 2: one guy in particular. Anyway, the friends kind of dispersed

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Speaker 2: and after a while one of the girls went and

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Speaker 2: got another boyfriend, and she ended up marrying this guy.

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Speaker 2: They then sat down for a dinner, which was got

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Speaker 2: ten years had passed. They sat down and he started

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Speaker 2: saying how he went off to find somebody else because

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Speaker 2: he had a crush on the best friend, and that

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Speaker 2: he decided to settle because he didn't know how to

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Speaker 2: approach the other girl. So you're a loser, mate, Okay,

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Speaker 2: to get this wrong swing it.

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Speaker 3: So the woman that he's married to, now, right, he

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Speaker 3: married her, but then said she was.

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Speaker 2: The easy one, she was the easy option. She he

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Speaker 2: liked her, They obviously got on well, but he always

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Speaker 2: had a crush and he always had a thing for

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Speaker 2: over here. Yeah, so then they go, decided to get married.

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Speaker 2: They're now getting divorced after a dinner party that they

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Speaker 2: went to where he actually admitted that he had feelings

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Speaker 2: for her at one stage, and she went, oh, I really,

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Speaker 2: So you just decided because I was the easy option.

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Speaker 2: I was keen on you that I would just My

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Speaker 2: question is in relationships, if you do settle right, if

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Speaker 2: we call it the broad term of settling thirteen twenty

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Speaker 2: four to ten. If you've done this, do you get

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Speaker 2: in a point to a point in your marriage where

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Speaker 2: you're bored? Are you going to be bored? Forever is

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Speaker 2: a long time? And when you go, I'll take that

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Speaker 2: because I'm cool with average. Oh wait, you know what,

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Speaker 2: I couldn't get what I wanted in life, so I

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Speaker 2: stopped striving for it and I went, you know what,

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Speaker 2: don't worry about the boutique range on the top shelf.

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Speaker 3: I'll just have the smiron off close thirteen twenty fourteen.

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Speaker 3: Did you settle for someone that you weren't one hundred

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Speaker 3: percent on?

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Speaker 2: Imagine calling oh people, it happens.

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Speaker 1: It's life, mate, there's stability. It's stability, matey. But it's

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Speaker 1: stability what you want. I think a lot of people

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Speaker 1: do more. You don't know what if you go, I'm

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Speaker 1: going to shoot my shot. I'm going to shoot my shot.

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Speaker 1: I'm going to go out there and I'm going to

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Speaker 1: strive for the top shelf and you miss, and then

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Speaker 1: you're alone and you go, you know what, I had

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Speaker 1: a nice.

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Speaker 2: Guy hanging a nice girl. We should just we have

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Speaker 2: all been to weddings where we've sat there and we've thought,

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Speaker 2: oh my god, this is a boring future and they're

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Speaker 2: only together. I'd give it seven to ten.

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Speaker 3: You can't judge that, mate, this is the thing. Then

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Speaker 3: you get the thirty and you're still looking for your

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Speaker 3: fairy towel. Then you get the thirty five. Then you

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Speaker 3: get to forty and you start going, do you know

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Speaker 3: what happens? Have I missed my chance?

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Speaker 2: Like MDGCD hit forty And if you've settled, all of

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Speaker 2: a sudden, there's a new girl at work who's a

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Speaker 2: little bit younger, a little bit fitter, a little bit cooler,

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Speaker 2: and you think, hang on a minute, maybe my SHOT's

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Speaker 2: not over, and that what you did with Lisa, let's

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Speaker 2: move on from that.

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Speaker 1: You know what what you have is in a relationship,

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Speaker 1: you have this weird rose colored glasses. That both says

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Speaker 1: a you can get you're going to be more successful

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Speaker 1: single than you really will be. You had more confidence

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Speaker 1: when you were single than you really do have, and

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Speaker 1: that people want you more than you really are going

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Speaker 1: to get. So if you break up with someone, you

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Speaker 1: got time to go out there and strive for number one.

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Speaker 2: It's not there.

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Speaker 1: You don't have the confidence to speak to him anyway.

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Speaker 1: They're not that interested and you have no game.

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Speaker 2: Chris, Marsden Park? Can we get Chris On? I think

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Speaker 2: we're just Chris trying to get Chris On.

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Speaker 3: He's gone, His wife has gone. Even I've given you

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Speaker 3: he's the wife's walked in. He's another radio calling honey,

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Speaker 3: no give us, give us a call. You know, did

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Speaker 3: you settle for someone that you just weren't one hundred percent?

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Speaker 3: Are you still with that person now? Things can change?

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Speaker 3: Maybe you could fall in love further down the trade you.

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Speaker 2: Could all right, Chris, we've tracked him down from Marsden Park.

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Speaker 2: Chris on the topic of settling, is this you or

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Speaker 2: do you know somebody that did this?

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Speaker 4: This was me, Like, we're broken up now, but we're

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Speaker 4: together for a long time, and I was pretty much

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Speaker 4: settled in for the for the long haul, and I

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Speaker 4: found I started a lot of goal and that was back.

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Speaker 4: That was what was making me happy.

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Speaker 2: That was playing golf, playing golf.

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Speaker 3: So, Chris, okay, where why did you make the decision?

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Speaker 3: How long were you with this person before you decided

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Speaker 3: to marry them? Also, I can understand so Chris sounds

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Speaker 3: like a firecracker. I mean, we need to get more

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Speaker 3: personality out of Chris.

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Speaker 2: Was the one that settled. Yeah, I know, I have

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Speaker 2: to think how boring she's That's rude, Chris, call us

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Speaker 2: back now, Chris, she's still there.

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Speaker 3: I gotcha. Okay, So how long were you with this

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Speaker 3: person before you went? Now, you know what, I'm not

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Speaker 3: going to get anyone better. I'm going to marry her.

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Speaker 4: Like we've basically we had a kid together.

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Speaker 3: Okay, gotcha? Now, Chris, are you still with this person currently?

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Speaker 2: No, not anyone, but with someone Else's what we got

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Speaker 2: there from a broken line, Chris, Thanks buddy. Interesting, we've

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Speaker 2: got a phone call from Gail coming through. Could be

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Speaker 2: your mum, could be some harsh reality for the The group

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