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Speaker 2: We begin today by acknowledging the traditional custodians of the
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Speaker 2: to their elders past and present. We extend that respect
Speaker 2: to Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people's here today. Welcome
Speaker 2: to the Grow and Glow Podcast.
Speaker 1: I'm Ashy, I'm Kiara. This is a podcast where we learn, laugh,
Speaker 1: and level up together. Let's go deep, let the emotions flow,
Speaker 1: and find the lessons to grow and glow. Nothing is
Speaker 1: off the table with Grow and Glow, and we're here
Speaker 1: to be your expander.
Speaker 2: Hello, It's time to Grow and Glow.
Speaker 1: Hacky Wednesday or mad Monday? What are we? What day
Speaker 1: is today? Wednesday? Wacky Wednesday? Yeah, so funny. Well today
Speaker 1: we're not talking about quotes, but not the inspiring ones
Speaker 1: that really light us up, dent the quotes that we
Speaker 1: don't like, we don't agree with. Yes, and there's a few. Yeah, yeah, First.
Speaker 2: Okay, My first one is don't let the hard days win.
Speaker 2: Sometimes we just need to sit in a hard day
Speaker 2: and let a hard day win and go.
Speaker 1: I'm just having the better of me. I'm just having
Speaker 1: a bad day today.
Speaker 2: And you know, what you can say that and then
Speaker 2: you can go I want to wake up fresh tomorrow
Speaker 2: morning and it's a new day.
Speaker 1: It's allowed. It's okay to have You're always gonna have
Speaker 1: good days. I just like embrace the bad days. That's it.
Speaker 2: And I feel like a lot of quotes are like that,
Speaker 2: but sometimes we just have bad days and so notimes
Speaker 2: you need a day Like Honestly, when I was going
Speaker 2: through a lot of my hard times, I was going
Speaker 2: through like once a week probably at that point in time,
Speaker 2: I actually need like a whole day to just like
Speaker 2: cry and like feel crap, feel sorry for myself. And
Speaker 2: the next I was like okay, Like I'm okay now,
Speaker 2: Like of course I had those moments and stuff, but
Speaker 2: sometimes you do just need to let the day win
Speaker 2: and go, Okay, tomorrow's a new one.
Speaker 1: Let's wake up fresh and try again. Yes, that's normalized
Speaker 1: having a bad day. Yeah, it's okay. I love that one.
Speaker 1: My next one is don't quit? What do you mean
Speaker 1: don't quit? Like? Why have we been sold the story
Speaker 1: that you should never quit? And I have definitely taken
Speaker 1: that on board from my whole life until now, And
Speaker 1: I'm like, you know what, I actually look at other
Speaker 1: people that quit and stop doing something that doesn't serve them.
Speaker 1: I see them as so inspiring, Like how incredible and
Speaker 1: brave for them to say, no, this doesn't serve me anymore. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's so freaking cool, because it's really hard to do. Yeah,
Speaker 1: because you think giving up means that you're weak or
Speaker 1: you're not good at it, or you've failed, or you're
Speaker 1: letting people down, and all those thoughts keep you attached
Speaker 1: to something, because you shouldn't give up if it's not
Speaker 1: feeling good anymore, it doesn't feel aligned, or it's not
Speaker 1: serving you, it doesn't let you up, you don't look
Speaker 1: forward to it. You're allowed to quit on the relationship,
Speaker 1: on the job, on the business, whatever it is. You
Speaker 1: are allowed to quit when it doesn't feel good. So true.
Speaker 2: I was listening to a podcast the other day and
Speaker 2: they were saying that growing up in society, people had
Speaker 2: a job and that was all that they did. Like say, like,
Speaker 2: if your dad was a plumber, he was a plumber
Speaker 2: at fifteen, and then he was a plumber all the
Speaker 2: way up into so he was sixty. And then your
Speaker 2: mum was a nurse, and then maybe she stopped when
Speaker 2: she had children and then was just a stay at
Speaker 2: home mum.
Speaker 1: And that's all that she did. But it's so cool
Speaker 1: that this.
Speaker 2: Day and age, we can go, oh, I'm going to
Speaker 2: try something new, isn't it? But we don't hold so
Speaker 2: much like value in what we do and sticking to something,
Speaker 2: and instead we're more fluid and just honoring ourselves and like, oh,
Speaker 2: I want to try something new and spicing up our
Speaker 2: life and it makes it more.
Speaker 1: Interesting, it does. Or you do something that then you
Speaker 1: get an opportunity to go over here. Yeah, it doesn't
Speaker 1: mean you're quitting. It means that you're leveling up and
Speaker 1: you're trying something new and you're learning new things and
Speaker 1: you're expanding. Like how cool is that You're pivoting.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're not just stuck going to the same thing
Speaker 2: every day, complaining about it, unhappy. You're going, Oh, that
Speaker 2: doesn't feel good anymore, let's change it up.
Speaker 1: So cool, but so brave, So brave. True strength is
Speaker 1: knowing when to let go and when to give up
Speaker 1: and being okay with that and having peace around that
Speaker 1: and just being proud that you made that decision that's
Speaker 1: right for you right now. Yeah, regardless of what anyone
Speaker 1: else says.
Speaker 2: I like consistency. Do not introduce me to a vibe
Speaker 2: if you cannot make it. So it's basically saying that
Speaker 2: if you meet someone on their best day and a
Speaker 2: high vibe and great, you need to stay consistent with
Speaker 2: that person rather than evan flowing out of like whether
Speaker 2: you're going through a hard season, whether something's popping up,
Speaker 2: whether you're feeling stretched, whether you're feeling this, whether you're
Speaker 2: feeling uncomfortable. I would just read that and I was
Speaker 2: like freaking honestly, it made me feel the same way.
Speaker 2: So we spoke about this probably a month ago, and
Speaker 2: we were screenshotting them. I saw this one pop up
Speaker 2: and I was like, oh, it got me. Yeah, I
Speaker 2: don't like that the person you show up for, that's
Speaker 2: what it's saying. You have to be that person every
Speaker 2: time time, all the time.
Speaker 1: God, that's so much pressure, so much pressure. I wake
Speaker 1: up tomorrow and I'll feel different how I feel today. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's really not a great one.
Speaker 2: And there were so many likes on some of these, Yeah,
Speaker 2: and I was like, wow.
Speaker 1: The expectations people have on other people. Yeah, that's a
Speaker 1: big reflection there. Right, there's no room for mistakes. There's
Speaker 1: no room for different lous. Yes, even in your relationship.
Speaker 1: Imagine getting with someone, like meeting someone and they expect
Speaker 1: you to be the high Vibe twenty four seven no
Speaker 1: matter what. It's dehumanizing people, isn't it. Yeah. My next
Speaker 1: one is around toxic diet culture. But nothing tastes as
Speaker 1: good as skinny feels. Oh do you remember hearing that?
Speaker 1: I remember hearing this, I don't know, maybe ten years ago.
Speaker 1: That was like the whole thigh gap and like just
Speaker 1: being as skinny as you can was so in And
Speaker 1: that's what people used to say, like, nothing tastes good,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, what chocolate does? Got that chocolate? Chocolate
Speaker 1: tastes really good. I forgot that quote until you said that.
Speaker 1: I'd rather be chocolate and have a bit more curves
Speaker 1: and be skinny and not enjoy chocolate. First of my
Speaker 1: life be happy and comfort for chocolate makes me happy exactly.
Speaker 1: So yeah, I really don't like that one, and I
Speaker 1: really hope my daughter never hears that. That's awful.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And you know the crazy thing is all these
Speaker 2: people that are super skinny are probably way less happy,
Speaker 2: definitely then they would be if they just enjoyed themselves,
Speaker 2: enjoyed life.
Speaker 1: Yeah, like we say, enjoy going out to dinners and
Speaker 1: enjoying that dessert and that birthday cake and that celebratory
Speaker 1: drink whatever. It is actually enjoying life and life's celebrations,
Speaker 1: which a lot of the time involved you know, food
Speaker 1: and drinks and sweets and whatever, but never enjoying that
Speaker 1: because you want to be skinny. Yeah, that's bad. It's
Speaker 1: sad because a lot of women would still be living
Speaker 1: by that. Yes, but no, thank.
Speaker 2: You expect nothing, appreciate everything. I don't think we should
Speaker 2: expect nothing.
Speaker 1: Expect nothing. Yeah, you've given me some hard twitters.
Speaker 2: I think that we should definitely have expectations on how
Speaker 2: we want to be treated, how we should be respected,
Speaker 2: how people should make us feel. I think, yeah, we
Speaker 2: should have expectations and standards.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and you've really helped me with that because I've
Speaker 1: gone to Kiara. I think we're just a certain friendship,
Speaker 1: I think, and I'm like, you know, I shouldn't expect anything,
Speaker 1: and blah blah blah, and you're like, why the bare minimum?
Speaker 1: Is that? What all you think that you're worth? And
Speaker 1: it was like really challenging to hear that, and I
Speaker 1: was like shit, and it really made me reflect and go,
Speaker 1: holy shit, I'm allowed to have standards of how I
Speaker 1: would like to be treated in a friendship or a connection.
Speaker 1: We have that in our intimate relationships. Why do we
Speaker 1: not have that in other relationships? That's so true. Yeah,
Speaker 1: Like we have a certain stand of how you want
Speaker 1: to be treated and not treated with our intimate partner, right,
Speaker 1: lots of them. It's not unconditional, it's like, yeah, but
Speaker 1: in other relationships. So that's a really good one. So true.
Speaker 2: And like even like when all these things come up
Speaker 2: with Ashley too, Like what I say to her is
Speaker 2: I'm like, you are such a loyal friend, you are
Speaker 2: such a caring friend. You are so giving and kind
Speaker 2: with your time, like your effort, just everything. So why
Speaker 2: should you not expect that back? Yeah, to an extent.
Speaker 1: To an extent, Yeah, I don't expect you to be
Speaker 1: exactly how I am. We do have different love languages
Speaker 1: and like different resources and different amounts of money or whatever.
Speaker 1: But I think just in that particular situation, you were like,
Speaker 1: you're literally asking for the bare minimum. You are not
Speaker 1: asking for it. No, that's when you check in with
Speaker 1: your standards. That's exactly right.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and then what was the second half of it,
Speaker 2: Appreciate everything.
Speaker 1: I do love a quote that's like swap expectations for appreciation.
Speaker 1: I feel like we try to really live in that
Speaker 1: energy of appreciating, you know, the cards that life gives
Speaker 1: us and what we do have, rather than focusing on
Speaker 1: what you don't have.
Speaker 2: But I think everything's a little bit that positive positive.
Speaker 1: Definitely, the pensure's gone swung a little bit that way. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: and everything all the time. Yea sounds great. Yes, you're
Speaker 1: allowed to have a little pity party for yourself. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I feel like a few episodes ago, I'm going to
Speaker 1: contradict myself here. I said nothing worthwhile is ever easy.
Speaker 1: I take that back. How good that we can just change?
Speaker 1: I take that back. I don't like it. I've changed
Speaker 1: my mind. And guess what, that's okay to change your mind.
Speaker 1: It is ok to change. I really hope we listened
Speaker 1: back to episodes in a couple of years time and go,
Speaker 1: oh oh we will. Yeah.
Speaker 2: I would even listen back to last year's ones and
Speaker 2: do that.
Speaker 1: Which is great. It's anyone listening. If you think we
Speaker 1: have different opinions and change our mind. We have we
Speaker 1: hope we contradict ourselves. Yeah, I don't understand. I hope
Speaker 1: I listen back and go ooh yeah, because you grow
Speaker 1: and you learn and you know, do things differently. But yeah,
Speaker 1: nothing worthwhile is easy. I feel like this business with you,
Speaker 1: which we didn't mean for it to turn into a
Speaker 1: business but it is now, it's been so easy. It's
Speaker 1: been really easy and so flowy and so fun. And
Speaker 1: there's been no drama and stress, like apart from taking
Speaker 1: a few wrong turns this morning, and like delays in
Speaker 1: a shipment order or like there's been little bits and
Speaker 1: pieces that are like, oh, what are we gonna do here?
Speaker 1: But this has been the easiest, most fulfilling, fun project.
Speaker 2: And I think it's because we don't put pressure on it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and it is so worthwhile and it's so impactful
Speaker 1: and it's so positive and it fills up so much
Speaker 1: of my buckets. So that's been really easy. So it
Speaker 1: doesn't always have to be hard. I mean, I think
Speaker 1: business can be very very hard, and relationships can be
Speaker 1: really hard, and inner work can be really hard, and
Speaker 1: that's so still worthwhile. But not everything is going to
Speaker 1: be really hard. Some things can just be really easy
Speaker 1: and flowy. Yeah, some friendships, some relationships, some things in work.
Speaker 1: I mean, it is cool, amazing.
Speaker 2: This has been the most flowy, easiest thing compared to
Speaker 2: all the other businesses I've done.
Speaker 1: You know, it's just like you know, launches and everything
Speaker 1: just pops up and happens. And to this, even the launches,
Speaker 1: we've had no website issues and nothing like.
Speaker 2: But we've said since day OT, we're like, we want
Speaker 2: this to be like a passion project. We don't want
Speaker 2: the pressure. So we don't want it to be like there's.
Speaker 1: No deadline, no pressure. If one person can't do something,
Speaker 1: the other person picks up the extra effort. It's so amazing,
Speaker 1: Like the times we want to launch things or do things,
Speaker 1: it's just whenever it feels good for us. So we've
Speaker 1: got time and space, Like, it's so nice not to
Speaker 1: have that pressure. And I think because we're in that energy,
Speaker 1: we were unconsciously in that energy or we were conscious
Speaker 1: with it, in that energy, it just creates us. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it creates more of that opportunity and more of that energy,
Speaker 1: and more of that abundance with goals and hitting milestones
Speaker 1: and financial things and everything. It just it does keep
Speaker 1: coming to us because we're in that energy.
Speaker 2: So true, we're not resisting with anything, We're just flowing
Speaker 2: with it.
Speaker 1: That's manifestation, right, We're in the flow.
Speaker 2: Sometimes it's better to just say nothing and just take
Speaker 2: note of what you see. I think as long as
Speaker 2: we can calmly communicate, we should say something if we
Speaker 2: feel like we need to.
Speaker 1: Mmmm, that's a really interesting one. Mm. Sometimes I do
Speaker 1: choose to say nothing because I feel like I'm talking
Speaker 1: to a brick. Yeah, and are we trying to reason
Speaker 1: with the unreasonable and emotionally protecting yourself? Yeah, because I
Speaker 1: feel like sometimes if I voice something and they can't
Speaker 1: hold space or even try to begin to understand what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, I end up more frustrated. So then it's
Speaker 1: like it's just not worth it. I prefer to just
Speaker 1: devent it out to Steve or a friend or journal
Speaker 1: on it sometimes. But then sometimes, like it depends on
Speaker 1: the situation. Hey, I see where you're coming from, and
Speaker 1: I like to attempt at least once. Yeah.
Speaker 2: Personally, yeah, I like to try to reason or explain
Speaker 2: or even if it's not getting through, sometimes writing a letter, yeah,
Speaker 2: because it's not very often that things don't get through
Speaker 2: some only one of there's like really big situations. But yeah,
Speaker 2: I just think that we shouldn't always be okay with
Speaker 2: just being like, okay, that's happened to now, I don't
Speaker 2: have to say anything.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you don't have to put up with them. And
Speaker 1: you're big talkers. I feel like, yeah, and as.
Speaker 2: Long as you can calmly communicate and you're not reactive
Speaker 2: and you're at that point.
Speaker 1: I feel like, yeah, this last couple of years, me
Speaker 1: and you've had to have quite a lot of hard
Speaker 1: conversations with people in our lives. And some have stuck
Speaker 1: around and some have like dwindled away. But we're definitely
Speaker 1: big communicators. Like we're not one to just sweep under
Speaker 1: the rug and like don't say anything because they might
Speaker 1: upset us. That's a hard thing to learn to do though,
Speaker 1: because it, once again, it takes such to be vulnerable, Like, yeah,
Speaker 1: you have to be so brave because you're putting your
Speaker 1: heart on the line. Whether they'll write back, what will
Speaker 1: they say, how they respond, can they hold space? And
Speaker 1: if none of that's being received, it's like a hard
Speaker 1: pill to swallow. But I love that you know where
Speaker 1: you stand. Yeah, like you know how some say nothing,
Speaker 1: it says a lot, that's it.
Speaker 2: But like we know where we stand. Whereas when you're
Speaker 2: in that in between, you're like, what's going on?
Speaker 1: This?
Speaker 2: What's going on the fact. When you communicate and you
Speaker 2: get it across and you get your answer, it's like closure.
Speaker 1: It's closure. Yes, yeah, nothing worse than not having closure.
Speaker 2: Hey, I know it's a really uncomfortable feeling.
Speaker 1: I think that's a bit of the anxious attachment style though. Hey, yeah,
Speaker 1: because you like want an answer and you want to
Speaker 1: like know where you're at. That's it. But it definitely
Speaker 1: feels good for me. Yeah. Closure, Oh yeah, you move on,
Speaker 1: be free, and they can move on. You can energetically
Speaker 1: like unplugged. I think we have so many are like visuals.
Speaker 1: I remember Taylor teaching me this, Like we are energetically
Speaker 1: plugged into so many different people. And when you got closure,
Speaker 1: you can pull out that cord and be free, let
Speaker 1: it go.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: But if there's no closure, I feel like you keep
Speaker 1: the cord plugged in. Even if it's like from Afar
Speaker 1: and it's a really long cord, it's still like plugged
Speaker 1: in over there. Yeah, it lives in your head rent free.
Speaker 1: But until you finally unplug and that's done, you just
Speaker 1: feel so much better, so true, so much light. You're
Speaker 1: not holding onto it anymore. It's really hard when you
Speaker 1: have energetic plugs to people that you're biologically plugged into,
Speaker 1: like your mother and father, it's not as easy to
Speaker 1: unplug and let go. You're a part of them. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you like literally grew inside your mom's stomach, even like
Speaker 1: not knowing my real father. It's every now and again,
Speaker 1: it still pops into my head. I'm biologically unplugged into
Speaker 1: this man somewhere along the lines, you know, I'm part
Speaker 1: of his DNA. Yeah, it's really hard to unplug from family.
Speaker 1: But like other people, if you can do that, it's
Speaker 1: so healthy. Yeah, it is so healthy. That's the exact
Speaker 1: right word. Yeah. Yeah, that's strange energy. Oh so draining.
Speaker 1: No thanks. My last one is another toxic diet culture.
Speaker 1: One moment on the lips forever on the hips. I've
Speaker 1: heard someone actually can this one. No, do you know
Speaker 1: it takes like like seven thousand calories or something to
Speaker 1: put on a killer of fat. Wow, No, a moment
Speaker 1: of chocolate is not going to be on your hips
Speaker 1: on the lips for ever on the hips, and what
Speaker 1: do I mean for ever on the hips? You can
Speaker 1: lose weight, you can tone up, you can go to
Speaker 1: the gym. Like no, it's the stupidest quote I've ever heard,
Speaker 1: But I remember this being really prominent and float around
Speaker 1: heaps back when I first started in the health and
Speaker 1: fitness industry. I feel like the health and fitness industry
Speaker 1: years ago was so much more toxic. There's such a
Speaker 1: movement now.
Speaker 2: But none of us even realize that, isn't it crazy.
Speaker 2: I'm sure like I contributed to it, but like me too.
Speaker 2: When we were speaking on that other episode about certain
Speaker 2: ways that you know, I appeared online and that like, yeah,
Speaker 2: me too, but definitely at the time and place that.
Speaker 1: Was then am I actually saw this video the other day.
Speaker 1: It was not nice to see and it was I
Speaker 1: don't know, it's so this TikTok trending sound and it's
Speaker 1: something in the past. Anyways, they put up my old
Speaker 1: diet plans and then there was all these comments. I
Speaker 1: never read this stuff, but I kept getting tagged and
Speaker 1: tagged and tagged, and I was like, shit, what is this?
Speaker 1: And it just caught me the vunerable moment I read
Speaker 1: the comments and just so many were like, oh, Ash,
Speaker 1: you know, toxic diet culture, and she used to encourage
Speaker 1: us to eat rye bread wraps and kangaroo sausages. And
Speaker 1: my whole philosophy around health has been clean eating, and
Speaker 1: I still stand by that. I think the less processed
Speaker 1: foods that we eat, and the more we can eat
Speaker 1: whole foods that nature has grown us, and like meat fruits,
Speaker 1: very paleo wave living, I believe that is the best
Speaker 1: for majority of us. So I still stand by that.
Speaker 1: But it's interesting how so many people think they accused
Speaker 1: me of causing them to have an eating disorder because
Speaker 1: I'm so focused on the healthy food that they more
Speaker 1: took it as like I'm saying there's good and bad foods.
Speaker 1: But I was just like, let's be as clean as possible,
Speaker 1: and these are healthier alternatives. Yeah, but because I recommend
Speaker 1: certain products, and then these girls got obsessed with these products,
Speaker 1: like the ry wraps, like I don't care what wrap
Speaker 1: you have. That was just a rap that I really enjoyed. Yeah,
Speaker 1: Like kangaroo sausages are very high protein and very lean meat. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I wanted to be lean and strong, so I went
Speaker 1: for the leanest, highest protein option. But like these days,
Speaker 1: I'm not as strict, but yeah, I definitely think I
Speaker 1: probably contributed to parts of that. But once again, like
Speaker 1: we all have a choice through follow and what we eat,
Speaker 1: what we take on, So I can't take full responsibility
Speaker 1: where everyone's at. But back then that's what it was
Speaker 1: for a lot of people, whereas now there's this movement
Speaker 1: of intuitive eating and I love that. It's like more
Speaker 1: listening to what feels good for your body. For you. You
Speaker 1: don't love gluten, I can tolerate it really well. Some
Speaker 1: people can't have dairy, choose a vegan protein paddle, And
Speaker 1: there's a big movement on looking after our hormones, getting
Speaker 1: off the pill and healthy fats are good for you.
Speaker 1: They good for your brain, healthy, good for your skin,
Speaker 1: They're good for you.
Speaker 2: Know.
Speaker 1: I feel like there's a movement more towards health. There's
Speaker 1: still a very heavy focused on and I never went
Speaker 1: down this path, but a lot of finished coaches are
Speaker 1: still around calories and macros, which for me, personally working
Speaker 1: with women, I found that quite toxic because they're so
Speaker 1: focused on the number is and it's like if you
Speaker 1: eat five hundred calories of McDonald's compared to five hundred
Speaker 1: calories of beds. It's not going to compare. It can't compare.
Speaker 1: Process is different in your body. You have different nutrients
Speaker 1: and well, lack of nutrients McDonald's is going to affect
Speaker 1: your skin, your digestion, the way you feel, the insulin spike, vegetables, fiber, vitamins, minerals, nutrients, like,
Speaker 1: you can't compare them. But yeah, when you're focus on
Speaker 1: calories or macros like that can sometimes cause you know,
Speaker 1: not a healthy relationship with food. So anyway, that's a
Speaker 1: whole other topic. It's good. Yeah, that quote just does
Speaker 1: not sit okay with me. No, I can't wait for
Speaker 1: our girls to grow up like with us as role models,
Speaker 1: Like I can't wait to just even now, I feel
Speaker 1: like we've got such a nice healthy balance with our kids,
Speaker 1: Like I think people think me being in the health
Speaker 1: and fitness industry, that my kids be on this super
Speaker 1: strict like everything's healthy and whole foods, And yeah, majority
Speaker 1: of the foods that I feed them are really good
Speaker 1: for them. Because I want them to feel their best.
Speaker 1: I want them to feel their bodies, I want them
Speaker 1: to have good sleep, I want them to have balanced
Speaker 1: hormones as they grow. That's super important to me. I
Speaker 1: want them to live till their hundred feeling amazing. But yeah,
Speaker 1: we go for ice. Yeah yeah. Me and Tarji we
Speaker 1: love having a little Oh my god, if you had
Speaker 1: the minicyclone, oh yeah, they're amazing. Oh yeah. Our kids
Speaker 1: will love them too, the cyclones for the mini ones,
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, I love them. Like yeah, we have
Speaker 1: treats and it's all about this balanced approach of living.
Speaker 1: And even when we go to birthday parties or whatever,
Speaker 1: I let TARGI whatever he wants. If it feels sick,
Speaker 1: I'm like, cool, what have we learned from this? Do
Speaker 1: you have five cupcakes? You feel lucky? That hurts your tummy?
Speaker 1: Let's time next time? Just have one and he gets
Speaker 1: to learn what feels good for his body and what doesn't.
Speaker 1: But there's no pressure around it.
Speaker 2: And I just gosh, that's so cool, so cool. And
Speaker 2: even Miller, babe, you would be shook. You know, she's
Speaker 2: little old woman, Miller, sixty years old. Her with her
Speaker 2: intuitive eating is insane.
Speaker 1: It's a greater, aren't they? Hey, babe, do you want
Speaker 1: me to make her up? Never had too much gluten
Speaker 1: today because she's gluten intolerance. I did not know that.
Speaker 2: So she's gluten intolerance, so she only has specific amounts.
Speaker 2: And then I'll even say she's like, I feel like
Speaker 2: I really need like a smoothie, Mom, can you make
Speaker 2: me a smoothie? And like sure, Hey, Mom, I really
Speaker 2: feel like I want a banana. Like she's just so
Speaker 2: and she goes, oh. Usually when I feel like this,
Speaker 2: for have a banana, like gives me more energy. Like
Speaker 2: she's insane, babe. You would hear her talk.
Speaker 1: About food and you would literally be so hackled. Would
Speaker 1: feel like she's like my little spirit animal. Honestly, she's
Speaker 1: so cute. She's so funny.
Speaker 2: And even if we go to a birthday party she
Speaker 2: got gluten, has I got gluten because obviously it makes
Speaker 2: her tummy soft.
Speaker 1: She but she knows.
Speaker 2: She's like she can pretty much have like a little
Speaker 2: palm full of gluten a day. Any more than that,
Speaker 2: like she's literally vomiting, like she's really struggles with gluten.
Speaker 1: I do not know.
Speaker 2: She has like two meals with gluten in it. She's
Speaker 2: done for the next day, I know.
Speaker 1: But what it's taught her.
Speaker 2: Is to listen and now she really she's way more
Speaker 2: in true with her body, like even then Lincoln, I
Speaker 2: know she's older and everything like that, but like, fuck,
Speaker 2: she's more true with her body sometimes than me.
Speaker 1: That's incredible. I'm like, girl, you're amazing. I just feel
Speaker 1: like some people are on this earth to heal. I
Speaker 1: feel like she's going to just have a big impact
Speaker 1: on the world.
Speaker 2: And even like I was saying to Ashi when we're
Speaker 2: coming up here, I was explaining to her what Ashi
Speaker 2: and I do and I said, like, we go on
Speaker 2: the podcast and we helped to make other women feel empowered,
Speaker 2: me feel this, and she like got it. And when
Speaker 2: I she's like, you have a great day talking to
Speaker 2: all the women and the men and whoever listens, and
Speaker 2: like she fully like she just got it. And she
Speaker 2: went from being like upset that I was leaving to
Speaker 2: being like, oh wow, you go mum.
Speaker 1: Wow, which is so cool, so cool and so like
Speaker 1: awesome for her age to have that awareness to understand it.
Speaker 1: She's so funny, funny character. You know. A charge asked
Speaker 1: me the other day and Steve was cracking up. It
Speaker 1: was a really good question. We're just driving to footy
Speaker 1: and he goes, Mom said yeah, honey, why do you
Speaker 1: wear makeup? When you said it doesn't matter what we
Speaker 1: look like? Oh yeah, I've had that one as well.
Speaker 1: I was like wow, and Steve laughed and like what's funny?
Speaker 1: And I was like, we're just geeling because like you're
Speaker 1: so clever and you're so smart. And Steve was like,
Speaker 1: really good pick up, Mum, why do you wear makeup?
Speaker 1: And I said, I personally think I wear makeup because
Speaker 1: it's like, ah, you know, when you like to paint
Speaker 1: a picture or whatever, and it just enhances and it's fun,
Speaker 1: it's creative, and it's also Mummy's like me time just
Speaker 1: makes me feel really good. But most of the time,
Speaker 1: like you see, mommy doesn't wear makeup. It's like for
Speaker 1: occasions when I want to like feel good, I just
Speaker 1: I do look at it like art, but I definitely
Speaker 1: don't need it and it doesn't define my worth and
Speaker 1: I don't feel like it makes me a better person
Speaker 1: or anything like that. But it's like really interesting question. Yeah,
Speaker 1: all start coming up. Hey so cool and Mille is
Speaker 1: so cute.
Speaker 2: If I don't have my makeup on, She's like, oh Mommy,
Speaker 2: I love you without your makeup. Oh She'll actually comment,
Speaker 2: and I'm like, go, you make me not win away
Speaker 2: makeup so nuts, it's crazy. Alright, I've got one more quote,
Speaker 2: do one thing every day that scares you. I feel
Speaker 2: like this would not make me have a well regulated
Speaker 2: never sism.
Speaker 1: So when I round to be on edge flight.
Speaker 2: Constantly be on fire to flight, do one thing scares you.
Speaker 2: And that's one that I've seen around a fair bit.
Speaker 1: And I was like that quite a bit too. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I was like, no, I don't think find new things
Speaker 1: every single day that scares you. I don't know. No,
Speaker 1: that's not even realistic.
Speaker 2: Sometimes you just need to be well regulated.
Speaker 1: And definitely especially in the hardest seasons. Yes. Wow, And
Speaker 1: we're going to enter on a lighter not so.
Speaker 2: For the end of this episode, we are going to
Speaker 2: share with you guys some Instagram accounts that we just
Speaker 2: absolutely love.
Speaker 1: Yes, that we think must follow. Yes, I'll go first,
Speaker 1: go for it. The Holistic Psychologist. Yes, she is just
Speaker 1: my number one incredible the way that she breaks down
Speaker 1: to human psychology, her quotes that she puts up and
Speaker 1: then the captions, how simplified she makes everything. Yeah, and
Speaker 1: it's things all of us can relate to their childhood,
Speaker 1: just the inner work personality. I don't know, it's just
Speaker 1: broken down so well. And I've actually interviewed her before
Speaker 1: and she's such an incredible human and I've read one
Speaker 1: of her books. So I just absolutely love that woman.
Speaker 1: I think she's incredible.
Speaker 2: Oh that's awesome, so amazing, like following accounts like that,
Speaker 2: Like how much of an impact I can have in
Speaker 2: your day scene? Yeah, the bits and pieces that they
Speaker 2: put up each day, Yeah, so cool.
Speaker 1: And the fact they're sharing it with the world for free, like,
Speaker 1: I know, so cool. Amazing. Yeah.
Speaker 2: So Mel Robbins, do you know Robins? I love her
Speaker 2: and she always puts up such uplifting, inspiring, like amazing
Speaker 2: quotes and her clips, like her reels that come up
Speaker 2: on Instagram.
Speaker 1: I love them.
Speaker 2: I'fe through and come across her and I'm like thank you,
Speaker 2: Like just those nice little pick me ups and pet
Speaker 2: talks and things throughout the day. I just love following
Speaker 2: her and I love seeing her face on my feed.
Speaker 1: I actually don't follow on Instagram, but I listened to
Speaker 1: a podcast. Yeah, I need to get her on Instagram. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I love a podcast too. Yeah, I love a podcast. Great.
Speaker 1: My next one is Moon memes. Oh yes, they are
Speaker 1: so spot on. Steve and I send them to each
Speaker 1: other whenever we see them. But like your horoscopes, your
Speaker 1: daily ones, your monthly ones, Like at the moment, it
Speaker 1: is crazy, how like on pointer is every time I'm
Speaker 1: experiencing all the change my health. Oh like it's crazy.
Speaker 1: It really whigs me out, but I absolutely love it.
Speaker 1: Oh so good.
Speaker 2: Whenever new ones pop up, Hey, and you prompt me
Speaker 2: because you'll share them to your stories, And I'm like,
Speaker 2: I'm gonna go read mine.
Speaker 1: Yes, liked me to go read mine. It's so cool,
Speaker 1: so good, love it. They're always on point. Steve and
Speaker 1: I happen for years, Like I've followed that page for
Speaker 1: Iregon five plus years. I love it. Oh so good.
Speaker 1: So me next one.
Speaker 2: This girl I've only been following quite recently, but I've
Speaker 2: watched so much of her content on Instagram, The Queen Collected.
Speaker 2: So she's all about feminine energy and.
Speaker 1: Holy crap, she just talks about it so well.
Speaker 2: And she also says like it's not just about feminine energy,
Speaker 2: but how like to have like a masculine energy make
Speaker 2: you feel more secure. There's like all the different things.
Speaker 2: So there's heaps of things that are popping up, and
Speaker 2: I'm like sending him to Kurtz and it's just it's
Speaker 2: really awesome and like different ways of looking at things.
Speaker 2: And yeah, I've just really thoroughly enjoyed her content.
Speaker 1: That's awesome. I love learving about feminine energy. My next
Speaker 1: one is Matthias Jay Barker. He's a trauma and relationship
Speaker 1: expert and coach. I've never met him, but he seems
Speaker 1: like the most beautiful man. I have to show you
Speaker 1: his videos. I've never seen an I've never seen him
Speaker 1: on Instagram. Oh the way he explains relationships and does
Speaker 1: different dynamics and different situations and even how to like
Speaker 1: respond to someone that's depressed or going through something like
Speaker 1: the examples he's given. He's incredible. Oh sorry for a
Speaker 1: lot of him.
Speaker 2: My next one is Big Little Feelings all things little
Speaker 2: kids and their emotions, and I just love it.
Speaker 1: I just grow it.
Speaker 2: I think there's just every parent should follow that page
Speaker 2: and you'll get yeah, so many tips and treats popping
Speaker 2: up all the time.
Speaker 1: M hmm. I love that page as well. Yeah. My
Speaker 1: last one is Quotes by Christy puts up a quote
Speaker 1: and then like you swipe cross and it's the same
Speaker 1: quote but in different colors. I just love all of
Speaker 1: the little quotes. It just like land at the right time,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, oh, it's a nice pick me up.
Speaker 1: I love quotes. Yeah, they always land at the right time.
Speaker 1: So she's a really good quote page. Oh so nice.
Speaker 2: I love a good quote too. So I've got two more.
Speaker 2: My next one is Chloe Bromage. So I love watching
Speaker 2: her on Instagram. I feel like, if you are someone
Speaker 2: who is lacking confidence or wanting to lean more into
Speaker 2: your authentic self, you watch her reels and she just
Speaker 2: makes you just feel unstoppable.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I really like her content and even her stories as well.
Speaker 2: Sometimes I just like, sit there in the morning you
Speaker 2: have a little listen. I'm like, oh, that was just
Speaker 2: like a boost that I need.
Speaker 1: Yeah. She really does not give zero fucks what anyone
Speaker 1: thinks about her or what she doesna owns herself and
Speaker 1: is so proud of herself and like loves herself sick
Speaker 1: in such a good way. It's so good. Power of it,
Speaker 1: so empowering.
Speaker 2: So that's someone who's really been picking me up. And
Speaker 2: then there's one more, And this one is a new one.
Speaker 2: You will love this one, babe. I don't know how
Speaker 2: to say the name. I think it's thy has loan
Speaker 2: iell it out.
Speaker 1: I think I follow him. Oh do you? I think
Speaker 1: is it a girl a guy?
Speaker 2: Maybe it's the guy. But basically it's all relationship stuff. Yeah,
Speaker 2: but they coach you through relationship situation, so they will
Speaker 2: replay it so they will go like, Okay, this is
Speaker 2: how you would handle the situation if you were triggered.
Speaker 2: And they do it and they go, this is how
Speaker 2: you can handle the situation calmly. It is amazing. It's
Speaker 2: so easy to digest and it's easy to also watch
Speaker 2: and like see where maybe you've gone wrong previously and
Speaker 2: be like, oh maybe when I word it, I could
Speaker 2: word it that way.
Speaker 1: Yeah that's cool, so cool.
Speaker 2: So I'm going to spell it out because I think
Speaker 2: I've butchered how I've said it. It's t h A
Speaker 2: I h as l O A N and all about
Speaker 2: like being regulated versus not being regulated, and like it's
Speaker 2: just relationship wise. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I was flicking through and I was like, this is awesome.
Speaker 1: Oh my god. I saw this thing the other day.
Speaker 1: It's like, next time you're in a heated discussion or
Speaker 1: argument with your partner and you're feeling triggered or feeling upset,
Speaker 1: or you're just feeling like, ugh, you're annoying me both,
Speaker 1: put on a party hat because it instantly changed your stage. Dude,
Speaker 1: like you instantly can't help but like giggle, and once
Speaker 1: you drop out of having your weapons out and like
Speaker 1: feeling defensive and blaming, then you can actually talk.
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, that's such a great idea. We all
Speaker 2: need party hats in our side drawls in our bedroom.
Speaker 1: Literally, I haven't done it yet, but I was like,
Speaker 1: that's such a cool little tip. I love that.
Speaker 2: It's so hilarious, like some funny glasses or something. Yeah, like, well,
Speaker 2: you need to just lighten the mood.
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