1 00:00:05,921 --> 00:00:07,281 Speaker 1: Apoday production. 2 00:00:10,121 --> 00:00:13,521 Speaker 2: We begin today by acknowledging the traditional custodians of the 3 00:00:13,601 --> 00:00:16,441 Speaker 2: land on which we gather today and pay our respects 4 00:00:16,481 --> 00:00:19,641 Speaker 2: to their elders past and present. We extend that respect 5 00:00:19,721 --> 00:00:25,441 Speaker 2: to Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people's here today. Welcome 6 00:00:25,481 --> 00:00:27,041 Speaker 2: to the Grow and Glow Podcast. 7 00:00:27,201 --> 00:00:30,801 Speaker 1: I'm Ashy, I'm Kiara. This is a podcast where we learn, laugh, 8 00:00:30,841 --> 00:00:33,961 Speaker 1: and level up together. Let's go deep, let the emotions flow, 9 00:00:34,120 --> 00:00:36,961 Speaker 1: and find the lessons to grow and glow. Nothing is 10 00:00:37,001 --> 00:00:38,681 Speaker 1: off the table with Grow and Glow, and we're here 11 00:00:38,721 --> 00:00:39,841 Speaker 1: to be your expander. 12 00:00:43,961 --> 00:00:46,400 Speaker 2: Hello, It's time to Grow and Glow. 13 00:00:47,480 --> 00:00:52,000 Speaker 1: Hacky Wednesday or mad Monday? What are we? What day 14 00:00:52,040 --> 00:00:59,041 Speaker 1: is today? Wednesday? Wacky Wednesday? Yeah, so funny. Well today 15 00:00:59,361 --> 00:01:02,641 Speaker 1: we're not talking about quotes, but not the inspiring ones 16 00:01:02,681 --> 00:01:06,641 Speaker 1: that really light us up, dent the quotes that we 17 00:01:06,721 --> 00:01:11,321 Speaker 1: don't like, we don't agree with. Yes, and there's a few. Yeah, yeah, First. 18 00:01:11,121 --> 00:01:14,840 Speaker 2: Okay, My first one is don't let the hard days win. 19 00:01:15,280 --> 00:01:17,441 Speaker 2: Sometimes we just need to sit in a hard day 20 00:01:17,881 --> 00:01:19,321 Speaker 2: and let a hard day win and go. 21 00:01:19,481 --> 00:01:21,920 Speaker 1: I'm just having the better of me. I'm just having 22 00:01:21,961 --> 00:01:22,721 Speaker 1: a bad day today. 23 00:01:22,721 --> 00:01:24,681 Speaker 2: And you know, what you can say that and then 24 00:01:24,721 --> 00:01:26,401 Speaker 2: you can go I want to wake up fresh tomorrow 25 00:01:26,401 --> 00:01:27,880 Speaker 2: morning and it's a new day. 26 00:01:28,041 --> 00:01:30,401 Speaker 1: It's allowed. It's okay to have You're always gonna have 27 00:01:30,441 --> 00:01:33,121 Speaker 1: good days. I just like embrace the bad days. That's it. 28 00:01:33,161 --> 00:01:35,041 Speaker 2: And I feel like a lot of quotes are like that, 29 00:01:35,121 --> 00:01:37,361 Speaker 2: but sometimes we just have bad days and so notimes 30 00:01:37,360 --> 00:01:39,681 Speaker 2: you need a day Like Honestly, when I was going 31 00:01:39,681 --> 00:01:41,761 Speaker 2: through a lot of my hard times, I was going 32 00:01:41,761 --> 00:01:44,840 Speaker 2: through like once a week probably at that point in time, 33 00:01:44,961 --> 00:01:46,721 Speaker 2: I actually need like a whole day to just like 34 00:01:47,000 --> 00:01:49,761 Speaker 2: cry and like feel crap, feel sorry for myself. And 35 00:01:49,761 --> 00:01:51,441 Speaker 2: the next I was like okay, Like I'm okay now, 36 00:01:51,521 --> 00:01:53,281 Speaker 2: Like of course I had those moments and stuff, but 37 00:01:53,521 --> 00:01:55,921 Speaker 2: sometimes you do just need to let the day win 38 00:01:55,961 --> 00:01:57,481 Speaker 2: and go, Okay, tomorrow's a new one. 39 00:01:57,561 --> 00:02:00,241 Speaker 1: Let's wake up fresh and try again. Yes, that's normalized 40 00:02:00,281 --> 00:02:03,241 Speaker 1: having a bad day. Yeah, it's okay. I love that one. 41 00:02:03,881 --> 00:02:07,321 Speaker 1: My next one is don't quit? What do you mean 42 00:02:07,361 --> 00:02:10,481 Speaker 1: don't quit? Like? Why have we been sold the story 43 00:02:10,481 --> 00:02:14,281 Speaker 1: that you should never quit? And I have definitely taken 44 00:02:14,321 --> 00:02:16,960 Speaker 1: that on board from my whole life until now, And 45 00:02:17,001 --> 00:02:19,281 Speaker 1: I'm like, you know what, I actually look at other 46 00:02:19,321 --> 00:02:22,361 Speaker 1: people that quit and stop doing something that doesn't serve them. 47 00:02:22,401 --> 00:02:25,881 Speaker 1: I see them as so inspiring, Like how incredible and 48 00:02:25,881 --> 00:02:29,400 Speaker 1: brave for them to say, no, this doesn't serve me anymore. Yeah, 49 00:02:29,401 --> 00:02:32,281 Speaker 1: that's so freaking cool, because it's really hard to do. Yeah, 50 00:02:32,321 --> 00:02:34,520 Speaker 1: because you think giving up means that you're weak or 51 00:02:34,561 --> 00:02:36,361 Speaker 1: you're not good at it, or you've failed, or you're 52 00:02:36,401 --> 00:02:39,720 Speaker 1: letting people down, and all those thoughts keep you attached 53 00:02:39,761 --> 00:02:41,721 Speaker 1: to something, because you shouldn't give up if it's not 54 00:02:41,721 --> 00:02:43,961 Speaker 1: feeling good anymore, it doesn't feel aligned, or it's not 55 00:02:44,001 --> 00:02:45,641 Speaker 1: serving you, it doesn't let you up, you don't look 56 00:02:45,680 --> 00:02:48,240 Speaker 1: forward to it. You're allowed to quit on the relationship, 57 00:02:48,281 --> 00:02:50,081 Speaker 1: on the job, on the business, whatever it is. You 58 00:02:50,121 --> 00:02:53,081 Speaker 1: are allowed to quit when it doesn't feel good. So true. 59 00:02:53,121 --> 00:02:55,041 Speaker 2: I was listening to a podcast the other day and 60 00:02:55,081 --> 00:02:58,441 Speaker 2: they were saying that growing up in society, people had 61 00:02:58,481 --> 00:03:00,561 Speaker 2: a job and that was all that they did. Like say, like, 62 00:03:00,680 --> 00:03:02,681 Speaker 2: if your dad was a plumber, he was a plumber 63 00:03:02,721 --> 00:03:04,401 Speaker 2: at fifteen, and then he was a plumber all the 64 00:03:04,441 --> 00:03:06,281 Speaker 2: way up into so he was sixty. And then your 65 00:03:06,321 --> 00:03:08,001 Speaker 2: mum was a nurse, and then maybe she stopped when 66 00:03:08,041 --> 00:03:09,321 Speaker 2: she had children and then was just a stay at 67 00:03:09,321 --> 00:03:09,721 Speaker 2: home mum. 68 00:03:09,641 --> 00:03:11,801 Speaker 1: And that's all that she did. But it's so cool 69 00:03:11,800 --> 00:03:12,041 Speaker 1: that this. 70 00:03:12,041 --> 00:03:13,481 Speaker 2: Day and age, we can go, oh, I'm going to 71 00:03:13,520 --> 00:03:15,641 Speaker 2: try something new, isn't it? But we don't hold so 72 00:03:15,761 --> 00:03:19,081 Speaker 2: much like value in what we do and sticking to something, 73 00:03:19,121 --> 00:03:22,120 Speaker 2: and instead we're more fluid and just honoring ourselves and like, oh, 74 00:03:22,281 --> 00:03:24,561 Speaker 2: I want to try something new and spicing up our 75 00:03:24,601 --> 00:03:25,881 Speaker 2: life and it makes it more. 76 00:03:25,761 --> 00:03:28,441 Speaker 1: Interesting, it does. Or you do something that then you 77 00:03:28,481 --> 00:03:30,681 Speaker 1: get an opportunity to go over here. Yeah, it doesn't 78 00:03:30,680 --> 00:03:32,280 Speaker 1: mean you're quitting. It means that you're leveling up and 79 00:03:32,321 --> 00:03:34,121 Speaker 1: you're trying something new and you're learning new things and 80 00:03:34,121 --> 00:03:36,281 Speaker 1: you're expanding. Like how cool is that You're pivoting. 81 00:03:36,561 --> 00:03:39,321 Speaker 2: Yeah, you're not just stuck going to the same thing 82 00:03:39,521 --> 00:03:42,281 Speaker 2: every day, complaining about it, unhappy. You're going, Oh, that 83 00:03:42,281 --> 00:03:43,961 Speaker 2: doesn't feel good anymore, let's change it up. 84 00:03:44,121 --> 00:03:47,761 Speaker 1: So cool, but so brave, So brave. True strength is 85 00:03:47,881 --> 00:03:50,561 Speaker 1: knowing when to let go and when to give up 86 00:03:51,361 --> 00:03:53,761 Speaker 1: and being okay with that and having peace around that 87 00:03:53,841 --> 00:03:56,160 Speaker 1: and just being proud that you made that decision that's 88 00:03:56,281 --> 00:03:59,161 Speaker 1: right for you right now. Yeah, regardless of what anyone 89 00:03:59,161 --> 00:04:00,481 Speaker 1: else says. 90 00:04:00,521 --> 00:04:04,001 Speaker 2: I like consistency. Do not introduce me to a vibe 91 00:04:04,121 --> 00:04:07,241 Speaker 2: if you cannot make it. So it's basically saying that 92 00:04:07,321 --> 00:04:09,441 Speaker 2: if you meet someone on their best day and a 93 00:04:09,561 --> 00:04:12,921 Speaker 2: high vibe and great, you need to stay consistent with 94 00:04:12,961 --> 00:04:15,841 Speaker 2: that person rather than evan flowing out of like whether 95 00:04:15,881 --> 00:04:18,041 Speaker 2: you're going through a hard season, whether something's popping up, 96 00:04:18,041 --> 00:04:20,641 Speaker 2: whether you're feeling stretched, whether you're feeling this, whether you're 97 00:04:20,641 --> 00:04:22,921 Speaker 2: feeling uncomfortable. I would just read that and I was 98 00:04:22,961 --> 00:04:26,241 Speaker 2: like freaking honestly, it made me feel the same way. 99 00:04:26,320 --> 00:04:28,081 Speaker 2: So we spoke about this probably a month ago, and 100 00:04:28,161 --> 00:04:29,801 Speaker 2: we were screenshotting them. I saw this one pop up 101 00:04:29,801 --> 00:04:31,960 Speaker 2: and I was like, oh, it got me. Yeah, I 102 00:04:31,961 --> 00:04:33,881 Speaker 2: don't like that the person you show up for, that's 103 00:04:33,880 --> 00:04:35,601 Speaker 2: what it's saying. You have to be that person every 104 00:04:35,641 --> 00:04:36,561 Speaker 2: time time, all the time. 105 00:04:36,641 --> 00:04:38,801 Speaker 1: God, that's so much pressure, so much pressure. I wake 106 00:04:38,880 --> 00:04:41,880 Speaker 1: up tomorrow and I'll feel different how I feel today. Yeah, 107 00:04:41,880 --> 00:04:43,080 Speaker 1: that's really not a great one. 108 00:04:43,121 --> 00:04:45,721 Speaker 2: And there were so many likes on some of these, Yeah, 109 00:04:45,921 --> 00:04:47,241 Speaker 2: and I was like, wow. 110 00:04:47,401 --> 00:04:50,481 Speaker 1: The expectations people have on other people. Yeah, that's a 111 00:04:50,521 --> 00:04:54,961 Speaker 1: big reflection there. Right, there's no room for mistakes. There's 112 00:04:54,961 --> 00:04:59,481 Speaker 1: no room for different lous. Yes, even in your relationship. 113 00:04:59,561 --> 00:05:02,921 Speaker 1: Imagine getting with someone, like meeting someone and they expect 114 00:05:02,921 --> 00:05:04,400 Speaker 1: you to be the high Vibe twenty four seven no 115 00:05:04,440 --> 00:05:07,521 Speaker 1: matter what. It's dehumanizing people, isn't it. Yeah. My next 116 00:05:07,521 --> 00:05:11,001 Speaker 1: one is around toxic diet culture. But nothing tastes as 117 00:05:11,001 --> 00:05:14,001 Speaker 1: good as skinny feels. Oh do you remember hearing that? 118 00:05:14,121 --> 00:05:17,121 Speaker 1: I remember hearing this, I don't know, maybe ten years ago. 119 00:05:17,201 --> 00:05:20,200 Speaker 1: That was like the whole thigh gap and like just 120 00:05:20,281 --> 00:05:22,401 Speaker 1: being as skinny as you can was so in And 121 00:05:22,440 --> 00:05:25,041 Speaker 1: that's what people used to say, like, nothing tastes good, 122 00:05:25,081 --> 00:05:28,041 Speaker 1: and I'm like, what chocolate does? Got that chocolate? Chocolate 123 00:05:28,041 --> 00:05:30,481 Speaker 1: tastes really good. I forgot that quote until you said that. 124 00:05:30,481 --> 00:05:32,561 Speaker 1: I'd rather be chocolate and have a bit more curves 125 00:05:32,601 --> 00:05:34,401 Speaker 1: and be skinny and not enjoy chocolate. First of my 126 00:05:34,521 --> 00:05:38,761 Speaker 1: life be happy and comfort for chocolate makes me happy exactly. 127 00:05:39,681 --> 00:05:41,561 Speaker 1: So yeah, I really don't like that one, and I 128 00:05:41,601 --> 00:05:43,921 Speaker 1: really hope my daughter never hears that. That's awful. 129 00:05:44,201 --> 00:05:45,801 Speaker 2: Yeah, And you know the crazy thing is all these 130 00:05:45,841 --> 00:05:48,881 Speaker 2: people that are super skinny are probably way less happy, 131 00:05:49,281 --> 00:05:52,681 Speaker 2: definitely then they would be if they just enjoyed themselves, 132 00:05:53,161 --> 00:05:53,921 Speaker 2: enjoyed life. 133 00:05:54,081 --> 00:05:56,681 Speaker 1: Yeah, like we say, enjoy going out to dinners and 134 00:05:56,801 --> 00:05:59,001 Speaker 1: enjoying that dessert and that birthday cake and that celebratory 135 00:05:59,081 --> 00:06:03,681 Speaker 1: drink whatever. It is actually enjoying life and life's celebrations, 136 00:06:03,681 --> 00:06:06,041 Speaker 1: which a lot of the time involved you know, food 137 00:06:06,121 --> 00:06:09,721 Speaker 1: and drinks and sweets and whatever, but never enjoying that 138 00:06:10,161 --> 00:06:13,481 Speaker 1: because you want to be skinny. Yeah, that's bad. It's 139 00:06:13,481 --> 00:06:15,400 Speaker 1: sad because a lot of women would still be living 140 00:06:15,401 --> 00:06:17,601 Speaker 1: by that. Yes, but no, thank. 141 00:06:17,440 --> 00:06:21,720 Speaker 2: You expect nothing, appreciate everything. I don't think we should 142 00:06:21,761 --> 00:06:22,681 Speaker 2: expect nothing. 143 00:06:22,521 --> 00:06:25,841 Speaker 1: Expect nothing. Yeah, you've given me some hard twitters. 144 00:06:26,841 --> 00:06:29,241 Speaker 2: I think that we should definitely have expectations on how 145 00:06:29,281 --> 00:06:33,081 Speaker 2: we want to be treated, how we should be respected, 146 00:06:33,721 --> 00:06:36,241 Speaker 2: how people should make us feel. I think, yeah, we 147 00:06:36,241 --> 00:06:38,081 Speaker 2: should have expectations and standards. 148 00:06:38,281 --> 00:06:40,001 Speaker 1: Yeah, and you've really helped me with that because I've 149 00:06:40,041 --> 00:06:42,521 Speaker 1: gone to Kiara. I think we're just a certain friendship, 150 00:06:42,561 --> 00:06:45,320 Speaker 1: I think, and I'm like, you know, I shouldn't expect anything, 151 00:06:45,361 --> 00:06:48,521 Speaker 1: and blah blah blah, and you're like, why the bare minimum? 152 00:06:48,721 --> 00:06:50,320 Speaker 1: Is that? What all you think that you're worth? And 153 00:06:50,361 --> 00:06:52,361 Speaker 1: it was like really challenging to hear that, and I 154 00:06:52,361 --> 00:06:55,281 Speaker 1: was like shit, and it really made me reflect and go, 155 00:06:55,401 --> 00:06:58,241 Speaker 1: holy shit, I'm allowed to have standards of how I 156 00:06:58,241 --> 00:07:00,640 Speaker 1: would like to be treated in a friendship or a connection. 157 00:07:00,961 --> 00:07:03,241 Speaker 1: We have that in our intimate relationships. Why do we 158 00:07:03,320 --> 00:07:06,281 Speaker 1: not have that in other relationships? That's so true. Yeah, 159 00:07:06,361 --> 00:07:07,681 Speaker 1: Like we have a certain stand of how you want 160 00:07:07,681 --> 00:07:09,841 Speaker 1: to be treated and not treated with our intimate partner, right, 161 00:07:10,041 --> 00:07:13,361 Speaker 1: lots of them. It's not unconditional, it's like, yeah, but 162 00:07:13,681 --> 00:07:16,881 Speaker 1: in other relationships. So that's a really good one. So true. 163 00:07:16,881 --> 00:07:18,761 Speaker 2: And like even like when all these things come up 164 00:07:18,801 --> 00:07:20,161 Speaker 2: with Ashley too, Like what I say to her is 165 00:07:20,161 --> 00:07:21,961 Speaker 2: I'm like, you are such a loyal friend, you are 166 00:07:22,001 --> 00:07:24,681 Speaker 2: such a caring friend. You are so giving and kind 167 00:07:24,761 --> 00:07:28,041 Speaker 2: with your time, like your effort, just everything. So why 168 00:07:28,041 --> 00:07:32,521 Speaker 2: should you not expect that back? Yeah, to an extent. 169 00:07:32,321 --> 00:07:34,161 Speaker 1: To an extent, Yeah, I don't expect you to be 170 00:07:34,241 --> 00:07:37,241 Speaker 1: exactly how I am. We do have different love languages 171 00:07:37,361 --> 00:07:41,161 Speaker 1: and like different resources and different amounts of money or whatever. 172 00:07:41,841 --> 00:07:44,321 Speaker 1: But I think just in that particular situation, you were like, 173 00:07:44,401 --> 00:07:46,641 Speaker 1: you're literally asking for the bare minimum. You are not 174 00:07:46,761 --> 00:07:49,441 Speaker 1: asking for it. No, that's when you check in with 175 00:07:49,441 --> 00:07:51,081 Speaker 1: your standards. That's exactly right. 176 00:07:51,321 --> 00:07:52,921 Speaker 2: Yeah, and then what was the second half of it, 177 00:07:53,201 --> 00:07:54,241 Speaker 2: Appreciate everything. 178 00:07:54,721 --> 00:07:58,241 Speaker 1: I do love a quote that's like swap expectations for appreciation. 179 00:07:58,361 --> 00:08:00,001 Speaker 1: I feel like we try to really live in that 180 00:08:00,121 --> 00:08:02,721 Speaker 1: energy of appreciating, you know, the cards that life gives 181 00:08:02,801 --> 00:08:04,641 Speaker 1: us and what we do have, rather than focusing on 182 00:08:04,681 --> 00:08:05,401 Speaker 1: what you don't have. 183 00:08:05,761 --> 00:08:09,001 Speaker 2: But I think everything's a little bit that positive positive. 184 00:08:09,081 --> 00:08:12,001 Speaker 1: Definitely, the pensure's gone swung a little bit that way. Yeah, yeah, 185 00:08:12,081 --> 00:08:15,001 Speaker 1: and everything all the time. Yea sounds great. Yes, you're 186 00:08:15,001 --> 00:08:17,201 Speaker 1: allowed to have a little pity party for yourself. Yeah. 187 00:08:17,281 --> 00:08:19,321 Speaker 1: I feel like a few episodes ago, I'm going to 188 00:08:19,361 --> 00:08:23,241 Speaker 1: contradict myself here. I said nothing worthwhile is ever easy. 189 00:08:23,801 --> 00:08:26,201 Speaker 1: I take that back. How good that we can just change? 190 00:08:26,241 --> 00:08:29,361 Speaker 1: I take that back. I don't like it. I've changed 191 00:08:29,361 --> 00:08:31,521 Speaker 1: my mind. And guess what, that's okay to change your mind. 192 00:08:31,601 --> 00:08:33,041 Speaker 1: It is ok to change. I really hope we listened 193 00:08:33,081 --> 00:08:34,761 Speaker 1: back to episodes in a couple of years time and go, 194 00:08:35,041 --> 00:08:36,241 Speaker 1: oh oh we will. Yeah. 195 00:08:36,281 --> 00:08:38,081 Speaker 2: I would even listen back to last year's ones and 196 00:08:38,081 --> 00:08:38,361 Speaker 2: do that. 197 00:08:38,321 --> 00:08:40,241 Speaker 1: Which is great. It's anyone listening. If you think we 198 00:08:40,481 --> 00:08:42,521 Speaker 1: have different opinions and change our mind. We have we 199 00:08:42,561 --> 00:08:45,361 Speaker 1: hope we contradict ourselves. Yeah, I don't understand. I hope 200 00:08:45,361 --> 00:08:48,001 Speaker 1: I listen back and go ooh yeah, because you grow 201 00:08:48,041 --> 00:08:51,601 Speaker 1: and you learn and you know, do things differently. But yeah, 202 00:08:51,721 --> 00:08:55,601 Speaker 1: nothing worthwhile is easy. I feel like this business with you, 203 00:08:55,721 --> 00:08:57,281 Speaker 1: which we didn't mean for it to turn into a 204 00:08:57,281 --> 00:09:00,241 Speaker 1: business but it is now, it's been so easy. It's 205 00:09:00,281 --> 00:09:03,201 Speaker 1: been really easy and so flowy and so fun. And 206 00:09:03,241 --> 00:09:07,041 Speaker 1: there's been no drama and stress, like apart from taking 207 00:09:07,081 --> 00:09:11,641 Speaker 1: a few wrong turns this morning, and like delays in 208 00:09:11,681 --> 00:09:14,561 Speaker 1: a shipment order or like there's been little bits and 209 00:09:14,601 --> 00:09:16,521 Speaker 1: pieces that are like, oh, what are we gonna do here? 210 00:09:16,601 --> 00:09:20,921 Speaker 1: But this has been the easiest, most fulfilling, fun project. 211 00:09:21,241 --> 00:09:22,921 Speaker 2: And I think it's because we don't put pressure on it. 212 00:09:23,041 --> 00:09:26,641 Speaker 1: Yeah, and it is so worthwhile and it's so impactful 213 00:09:26,641 --> 00:09:28,961 Speaker 1: and it's so positive and it fills up so much 214 00:09:29,041 --> 00:09:31,961 Speaker 1: of my buckets. So that's been really easy. So it 215 00:09:31,961 --> 00:09:34,281 Speaker 1: doesn't always have to be hard. I mean, I think 216 00:09:34,561 --> 00:09:37,041 Speaker 1: business can be very very hard, and relationships can be 217 00:09:37,081 --> 00:09:40,161 Speaker 1: really hard, and inner work can be really hard, and 218 00:09:40,201 --> 00:09:42,841 Speaker 1: that's so still worthwhile. But not everything is going to 219 00:09:42,921 --> 00:09:45,041 Speaker 1: be really hard. Some things can just be really easy 220 00:09:45,041 --> 00:09:48,201 Speaker 1: and flowy. Yeah, some friendships, some relationships, some things in work. 221 00:09:48,721 --> 00:09:50,001 Speaker 1: I mean, it is cool, amazing. 222 00:09:50,601 --> 00:09:53,481 Speaker 2: This has been the most flowy, easiest thing compared to 223 00:09:53,521 --> 00:09:54,681 Speaker 2: all the other businesses I've done. 224 00:09:54,761 --> 00:09:57,281 Speaker 1: You know, it's just like you know, launches and everything 225 00:09:57,361 --> 00:10:00,761 Speaker 1: just pops up and happens. And to this, even the launches, 226 00:10:00,801 --> 00:10:02,561 Speaker 1: we've had no website issues and nothing like. 227 00:10:02,801 --> 00:10:04,601 Speaker 2: But we've said since day OT, we're like, we want 228 00:10:04,601 --> 00:10:06,761 Speaker 2: this to be like a passion project. We don't want 229 00:10:06,761 --> 00:10:09,081 Speaker 2: the pressure. So we don't want it to be like there's. 230 00:10:08,921 --> 00:10:11,841 Speaker 1: No deadline, no pressure. If one person can't do something, 231 00:10:11,961 --> 00:10:14,921 Speaker 1: the other person picks up the extra effort. It's so amazing, 232 00:10:15,161 --> 00:10:17,401 Speaker 1: Like the times we want to launch things or do things, 233 00:10:17,441 --> 00:10:20,001 Speaker 1: it's just whenever it feels good for us. So we've 234 00:10:20,001 --> 00:10:22,281 Speaker 1: got time and space, Like, it's so nice not to 235 00:10:22,321 --> 00:10:25,481 Speaker 1: have that pressure. And I think because we're in that energy, 236 00:10:25,521 --> 00:10:27,841 Speaker 1: we were unconsciously in that energy or we were conscious 237 00:10:27,881 --> 00:10:30,761 Speaker 1: with it, in that energy, it just creates us. Yeah, 238 00:10:30,761 --> 00:10:33,481 Speaker 1: it creates more of that opportunity and more of that energy, 239 00:10:33,481 --> 00:10:36,401 Speaker 1: and more of that abundance with goals and hitting milestones 240 00:10:36,441 --> 00:10:39,201 Speaker 1: and financial things and everything. It just it does keep 241 00:10:39,201 --> 00:10:40,841 Speaker 1: coming to us because we're in that energy. 242 00:10:41,001 --> 00:10:44,081 Speaker 2: So true, we're not resisting with anything, We're just flowing 243 00:10:44,081 --> 00:10:44,401 Speaker 2: with it. 244 00:10:44,481 --> 00:10:46,841 Speaker 1: That's manifestation, right, We're in the flow. 245 00:10:47,881 --> 00:10:50,521 Speaker 2: Sometimes it's better to just say nothing and just take 246 00:10:50,561 --> 00:10:52,601 Speaker 2: note of what you see. I think as long as 247 00:10:52,601 --> 00:10:55,761 Speaker 2: we can calmly communicate, we should say something if we 248 00:10:55,801 --> 00:10:56,841 Speaker 2: feel like we need to. 249 00:10:57,241 --> 00:11:01,521 Speaker 1: Mmmm, that's a really interesting one. Mm. Sometimes I do 250 00:11:01,641 --> 00:11:04,561 Speaker 1: choose to say nothing because I feel like I'm talking 251 00:11:04,561 --> 00:11:06,801 Speaker 1: to a brick. Yeah, and are we trying to reason 252 00:11:06,841 --> 00:11:10,041 Speaker 1: with the unreasonable and emotionally protecting yourself? Yeah, because I 253 00:11:10,081 --> 00:11:12,561 Speaker 1: feel like sometimes if I voice something and they can't 254 00:11:12,601 --> 00:11:15,041 Speaker 1: hold space or even try to begin to understand what 255 00:11:15,081 --> 00:11:18,081 Speaker 1: I'm saying, I end up more frustrated. So then it's 256 00:11:18,121 --> 00:11:19,881 Speaker 1: like it's just not worth it. I prefer to just 257 00:11:19,881 --> 00:11:21,721 Speaker 1: devent it out to Steve or a friend or journal 258 00:11:21,761 --> 00:11:25,321 Speaker 1: on it sometimes. But then sometimes, like it depends on 259 00:11:25,361 --> 00:11:27,681 Speaker 1: the situation. Hey, I see where you're coming from, and 260 00:11:27,761 --> 00:11:29,601 Speaker 1: I like to attempt at least once. Yeah. 261 00:11:29,641 --> 00:11:32,921 Speaker 2: Personally, yeah, I like to try to reason or explain 262 00:11:33,041 --> 00:11:35,721 Speaker 2: or even if it's not getting through, sometimes writing a letter, yeah, 263 00:11:35,761 --> 00:11:37,481 Speaker 2: because it's not very often that things don't get through 264 00:11:37,601 --> 00:11:39,961 Speaker 2: some only one of there's like really big situations. But yeah, 265 00:11:40,001 --> 00:11:43,481 Speaker 2: I just think that we shouldn't always be okay with 266 00:11:43,681 --> 00:11:45,561 Speaker 2: just being like, okay, that's happened to now, I don't 267 00:11:45,601 --> 00:11:46,121 Speaker 2: have to say anything. 268 00:11:46,201 --> 00:11:47,681 Speaker 1: Yeah, you don't have to put up with them. And 269 00:11:47,761 --> 00:11:49,641 Speaker 1: you're big talkers. I feel like, yeah, and as. 270 00:11:49,601 --> 00:11:52,161 Speaker 2: Long as you can calmly communicate and you're not reactive 271 00:11:52,201 --> 00:11:53,561 Speaker 2: and you're at that point. 272 00:11:53,521 --> 00:11:55,401 Speaker 1: I feel like, yeah, this last couple of years, me 273 00:11:55,401 --> 00:11:56,721 Speaker 1: and you've had to have quite a lot of hard 274 00:11:56,761 --> 00:11:59,161 Speaker 1: conversations with people in our lives. And some have stuck 275 00:11:59,201 --> 00:12:02,001 Speaker 1: around and some have like dwindled away. But we're definitely 276 00:12:02,041 --> 00:12:04,441 Speaker 1: big communicators. Like we're not one to just sweep under 277 00:12:04,441 --> 00:12:06,601 Speaker 1: the rug and like don't say anything because they might 278 00:12:06,721 --> 00:12:08,521 Speaker 1: upset us. That's a hard thing to learn to do though, 279 00:12:08,561 --> 00:12:11,641 Speaker 1: because it, once again, it takes such to be vulnerable, Like, yeah, 280 00:12:11,721 --> 00:12:13,441 Speaker 1: you have to be so brave because you're putting your 281 00:12:13,481 --> 00:12:16,081 Speaker 1: heart on the line. Whether they'll write back, what will 282 00:12:16,081 --> 00:12:19,201 Speaker 1: they say, how they respond, can they hold space? And 283 00:12:19,241 --> 00:12:21,881 Speaker 1: if none of that's being received, it's like a hard 284 00:12:21,921 --> 00:12:24,001 Speaker 1: pill to swallow. But I love that you know where 285 00:12:24,041 --> 00:12:27,121 Speaker 1: you stand. Yeah, like you know how some say nothing, 286 00:12:27,201 --> 00:12:29,001 Speaker 1: it says a lot, that's it. 287 00:12:28,841 --> 00:12:30,561 Speaker 2: But like we know where we stand. Whereas when you're 288 00:12:30,561 --> 00:12:31,881 Speaker 2: in that in between, you're like, what's going on? 289 00:12:31,881 --> 00:12:31,961 Speaker 1: This? 290 00:12:32,001 --> 00:12:33,681 Speaker 2: What's going on the fact. When you communicate and you 291 00:12:33,761 --> 00:12:36,321 Speaker 2: get it across and you get your answer, it's like closure. 292 00:12:36,481 --> 00:12:39,521 Speaker 1: It's closure. Yes, yeah, nothing worse than not having closure. 293 00:12:39,641 --> 00:12:41,721 Speaker 2: Hey, I know it's a really uncomfortable feeling. 294 00:12:41,761 --> 00:12:44,561 Speaker 1: I think that's a bit of the anxious attachment style though. Hey, yeah, 295 00:12:44,721 --> 00:12:46,281 Speaker 1: because you like want an answer and you want to 296 00:12:46,361 --> 00:12:49,841 Speaker 1: like know where you're at. That's it. But it definitely 297 00:12:49,841 --> 00:12:53,081 Speaker 1: feels good for me. Yeah. Closure, Oh yeah, you move on, 298 00:12:53,441 --> 00:12:56,201 Speaker 1: be free, and they can move on. You can energetically 299 00:12:56,321 --> 00:12:59,281 Speaker 1: like unplugged. I think we have so many are like visuals. 300 00:12:59,401 --> 00:13:02,041 Speaker 1: I remember Taylor teaching me this, Like we are energetically 301 00:13:02,081 --> 00:13:05,641 Speaker 1: plugged into so many different people. And when you got closure, 302 00:13:05,681 --> 00:13:07,681 Speaker 1: you can pull out that cord and be free, let 303 00:13:07,721 --> 00:13:07,961 Speaker 1: it go. 304 00:13:08,201 --> 00:13:08,401 Speaker 2: Yeah. 305 00:13:08,441 --> 00:13:09,921 Speaker 1: But if there's no closure, I feel like you keep 306 00:13:09,961 --> 00:13:11,761 Speaker 1: the cord plugged in. Even if it's like from Afar 307 00:13:11,801 --> 00:13:13,601 Speaker 1: and it's a really long cord, it's still like plugged 308 00:13:13,601 --> 00:13:16,601 Speaker 1: in over there. Yeah, it lives in your head rent free. 309 00:13:16,841 --> 00:13:19,561 Speaker 1: But until you finally unplug and that's done, you just 310 00:13:19,561 --> 00:13:22,321 Speaker 1: feel so much better, so true, so much light. You're 311 00:13:22,361 --> 00:13:24,281 Speaker 1: not holding onto it anymore. It's really hard when you 312 00:13:24,361 --> 00:13:27,841 Speaker 1: have energetic plugs to people that you're biologically plugged into, 313 00:13:27,921 --> 00:13:30,761 Speaker 1: like your mother and father, it's not as easy to 314 00:13:31,121 --> 00:13:33,561 Speaker 1: unplug and let go. You're a part of them. Yeah, 315 00:13:33,641 --> 00:13:36,081 Speaker 1: you like literally grew inside your mom's stomach, even like 316 00:13:36,161 --> 00:13:38,321 Speaker 1: not knowing my real father. It's every now and again, 317 00:13:38,401 --> 00:13:41,081 Speaker 1: it still pops into my head. I'm biologically unplugged into 318 00:13:41,121 --> 00:13:44,521 Speaker 1: this man somewhere along the lines, you know, I'm part 319 00:13:44,521 --> 00:13:47,561 Speaker 1: of his DNA. Yeah, it's really hard to unplug from family. 320 00:13:47,641 --> 00:13:50,001 Speaker 1: But like other people, if you can do that, it's 321 00:13:50,041 --> 00:13:52,841 Speaker 1: so healthy. Yeah, it is so healthy. That's the exact 322 00:13:52,921 --> 00:13:56,721 Speaker 1: right word. Yeah. Yeah, that's strange energy. Oh so draining. 323 00:13:56,881 --> 00:14:00,921 Speaker 1: No thanks. My last one is another toxic diet culture. 324 00:14:00,921 --> 00:14:04,801 Speaker 1: One moment on the lips forever on the hips. I've 325 00:14:04,841 --> 00:14:08,161 Speaker 1: heard someone actually can this one. No, do you know 326 00:14:08,201 --> 00:14:10,681 Speaker 1: it takes like like seven thousand calories or something to 327 00:14:10,681 --> 00:14:14,321 Speaker 1: put on a killer of fat. Wow, No, a moment 328 00:14:14,441 --> 00:14:17,761 Speaker 1: of chocolate is not going to be on your hips 329 00:14:18,441 --> 00:14:19,681 Speaker 1: on the lips for ever on the hips, and what 330 00:14:19,721 --> 00:14:21,681 Speaker 1: do I mean for ever on the hips? You can 331 00:14:21,761 --> 00:14:23,521 Speaker 1: lose weight, you can tone up, you can go to 332 00:14:23,561 --> 00:14:26,961 Speaker 1: the gym. Like no, it's the stupidest quote I've ever heard, 333 00:14:26,961 --> 00:14:29,841 Speaker 1: But I remember this being really prominent and float around 334 00:14:29,881 --> 00:14:31,521 Speaker 1: heaps back when I first started in the health and 335 00:14:31,521 --> 00:14:33,761 Speaker 1: fitness industry. I feel like the health and fitness industry 336 00:14:33,841 --> 00:14:37,161 Speaker 1: years ago was so much more toxic. There's such a 337 00:14:37,201 --> 00:14:38,401 Speaker 1: movement now. 338 00:14:38,241 --> 00:14:41,081 Speaker 2: But none of us even realize that, isn't it crazy. 339 00:14:41,201 --> 00:14:43,441 Speaker 2: I'm sure like I contributed to it, but like me too. 340 00:14:43,521 --> 00:14:45,641 Speaker 2: When we were speaking on that other episode about certain 341 00:14:45,641 --> 00:14:47,601 Speaker 2: ways that you know, I appeared online and that like, yeah, 342 00:14:47,681 --> 00:14:50,001 Speaker 2: me too, but definitely at the time and place that. 343 00:14:50,041 --> 00:14:52,401 Speaker 1: Was then am I actually saw this video the other day. 344 00:14:52,441 --> 00:14:55,561 Speaker 1: It was not nice to see and it was I 345 00:14:55,601 --> 00:14:58,801 Speaker 1: don't know, it's so this TikTok trending sound and it's 346 00:14:59,001 --> 00:15:01,041 Speaker 1: something in the past. Anyways, they put up my old 347 00:15:01,121 --> 00:15:03,001 Speaker 1: diet plans and then there was all these comments. I 348 00:15:03,041 --> 00:15:05,401 Speaker 1: never read this stuff, but I kept getting tagged and 349 00:15:05,401 --> 00:15:06,921 Speaker 1: tagged and tagged, and I was like, shit, what is this? 350 00:15:07,881 --> 00:15:09,521 Speaker 1: And it just caught me the vunerable moment I read 351 00:15:09,521 --> 00:15:11,601 Speaker 1: the comments and just so many were like, oh, Ash, 352 00:15:11,881 --> 00:15:14,721 Speaker 1: you know, toxic diet culture, and she used to encourage 353 00:15:14,801 --> 00:15:17,481 Speaker 1: us to eat rye bread wraps and kangaroo sausages. And 354 00:15:18,321 --> 00:15:21,401 Speaker 1: my whole philosophy around health has been clean eating, and 355 00:15:21,441 --> 00:15:24,001 Speaker 1: I still stand by that. I think the less processed 356 00:15:24,001 --> 00:15:25,641 Speaker 1: foods that we eat, and the more we can eat 357 00:15:25,681 --> 00:15:28,721 Speaker 1: whole foods that nature has grown us, and like meat fruits, 358 00:15:29,081 --> 00:15:31,961 Speaker 1: very paleo wave living, I believe that is the best 359 00:15:32,041 --> 00:15:34,641 Speaker 1: for majority of us. So I still stand by that. 360 00:15:35,281 --> 00:15:38,121 Speaker 1: But it's interesting how so many people think they accused 361 00:15:38,161 --> 00:15:40,081 Speaker 1: me of causing them to have an eating disorder because 362 00:15:40,121 --> 00:15:42,481 Speaker 1: I'm so focused on the healthy food that they more 363 00:15:42,481 --> 00:15:45,481 Speaker 1: took it as like I'm saying there's good and bad foods. 364 00:15:45,681 --> 00:15:48,241 Speaker 1: But I was just like, let's be as clean as possible, 365 00:15:48,241 --> 00:15:51,401 Speaker 1: and these are healthier alternatives. Yeah, but because I recommend 366 00:15:51,441 --> 00:15:54,121 Speaker 1: certain products, and then these girls got obsessed with these products, 367 00:15:54,161 --> 00:15:56,081 Speaker 1: like the ry wraps, like I don't care what wrap 368 00:15:56,121 --> 00:15:58,681 Speaker 1: you have. That was just a rap that I really enjoyed. Yeah, 369 00:15:58,761 --> 00:16:03,161 Speaker 1: Like kangaroo sausages are very high protein and very lean meat. Yeah, 370 00:16:03,241 --> 00:16:04,961 Speaker 1: I wanted to be lean and strong, so I went 371 00:16:05,121 --> 00:16:08,401 Speaker 1: for the leanest, highest protein option. But like these days, 372 00:16:08,441 --> 00:16:11,801 Speaker 1: I'm not as strict, but yeah, I definitely think I 373 00:16:11,841 --> 00:16:14,841 Speaker 1: probably contributed to parts of that. But once again, like 374 00:16:14,961 --> 00:16:16,881 Speaker 1: we all have a choice through follow and what we eat, 375 00:16:16,961 --> 00:16:19,561 Speaker 1: what we take on, So I can't take full responsibility 376 00:16:19,721 --> 00:16:23,521 Speaker 1: where everyone's at. But back then that's what it was 377 00:16:23,641 --> 00:16:25,881 Speaker 1: for a lot of people, whereas now there's this movement 378 00:16:26,001 --> 00:16:28,761 Speaker 1: of intuitive eating and I love that. It's like more 379 00:16:28,801 --> 00:16:30,841 Speaker 1: listening to what feels good for your body. For you. You 380 00:16:30,721 --> 00:16:33,201 Speaker 1: don't love gluten, I can tolerate it really well. Some 381 00:16:33,241 --> 00:16:35,801 Speaker 1: people can't have dairy, choose a vegan protein paddle, And 382 00:16:35,841 --> 00:16:38,281 Speaker 1: there's a big movement on looking after our hormones, getting 383 00:16:38,281 --> 00:16:40,601 Speaker 1: off the pill and healthy fats are good for you. 384 00:16:40,601 --> 00:16:42,201 Speaker 1: They good for your brain, healthy, good for your skin, 385 00:16:42,241 --> 00:16:42,881 Speaker 1: They're good for you. 386 00:16:42,921 --> 00:16:43,001 Speaker 2: Know. 387 00:16:43,281 --> 00:16:46,281 Speaker 1: I feel like there's a movement more towards health. There's 388 00:16:46,321 --> 00:16:49,321 Speaker 1: still a very heavy focused on and I never went 389 00:16:49,361 --> 00:16:52,001 Speaker 1: down this path, but a lot of finished coaches are 390 00:16:52,041 --> 00:16:56,281 Speaker 1: still around calories and macros, which for me, personally working 391 00:16:56,281 --> 00:16:58,801 Speaker 1: with women, I found that quite toxic because they're so 392 00:16:58,921 --> 00:17:01,801 Speaker 1: focused on the number is and it's like if you 393 00:17:01,841 --> 00:17:04,080 Speaker 1: eat five hundred calories of McDonald's compared to five hundred 394 00:17:04,121 --> 00:17:07,561 Speaker 1: calories of beds. It's not going to compare. It can't compare. 395 00:17:07,801 --> 00:17:10,281 Speaker 1: Process is different in your body. You have different nutrients 396 00:17:10,281 --> 00:17:13,361 Speaker 1: and well, lack of nutrients McDonald's is going to affect 397 00:17:13,481 --> 00:17:21,480 Speaker 1: your skin, your digestion, the way you feel, the insulin spike, vegetables, fiber, vitamins, minerals, nutrients, like, 398 00:17:21,521 --> 00:17:23,680 Speaker 1: you can't compare them. But yeah, when you're focus on 399 00:17:23,721 --> 00:17:27,201 Speaker 1: calories or macros like that can sometimes cause you know, 400 00:17:27,241 --> 00:17:30,600 Speaker 1: not a healthy relationship with food. So anyway, that's a 401 00:17:30,640 --> 00:17:34,600 Speaker 1: whole other topic. It's good. Yeah, that quote just does 402 00:17:34,681 --> 00:17:37,041 Speaker 1: not sit okay with me. No, I can't wait for 403 00:17:37,120 --> 00:17:39,481 Speaker 1: our girls to grow up like with us as role models, 404 00:17:39,521 --> 00:17:42,360 Speaker 1: Like I can't wait to just even now, I feel 405 00:17:42,360 --> 00:17:45,321 Speaker 1: like we've got such a nice healthy balance with our kids, 406 00:17:45,360 --> 00:17:46,961 Speaker 1: Like I think people think me being in the health 407 00:17:46,961 --> 00:17:49,360 Speaker 1: and fitness industry, that my kids be on this super 408 00:17:49,360 --> 00:17:52,360 Speaker 1: strict like everything's healthy and whole foods, And yeah, majority 409 00:17:52,400 --> 00:17:54,041 Speaker 1: of the foods that I feed them are really good 410 00:17:54,080 --> 00:17:55,561 Speaker 1: for them. Because I want them to feel their best. 411 00:17:55,600 --> 00:17:57,080 Speaker 1: I want them to feel their bodies, I want them 412 00:17:57,120 --> 00:17:59,200 Speaker 1: to have good sleep, I want them to have balanced 413 00:17:59,241 --> 00:18:01,440 Speaker 1: hormones as they grow. That's super important to me. I 414 00:18:01,441 --> 00:18:04,321 Speaker 1: want them to live till their hundred feeling amazing. But yeah, 415 00:18:04,321 --> 00:18:06,801 Speaker 1: we go for ice. Yeah yeah. Me and Tarji we 416 00:18:06,921 --> 00:18:08,561 Speaker 1: love having a little Oh my god, if you had 417 00:18:08,600 --> 00:18:11,761 Speaker 1: the minicyclone, oh yeah, they're amazing. Oh yeah. Our kids 418 00:18:11,761 --> 00:18:14,241 Speaker 1: will love them too, the cyclones for the mini ones, 419 00:18:14,321 --> 00:18:17,200 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, I love them. Like yeah, we have 420 00:18:17,281 --> 00:18:19,521 Speaker 1: treats and it's all about this balanced approach of living. 421 00:18:19,521 --> 00:18:21,161 Speaker 1: And even when we go to birthday parties or whatever, 422 00:18:21,241 --> 00:18:23,161 Speaker 1: I let TARGI whatever he wants. If it feels sick, 423 00:18:23,201 --> 00:18:25,120 Speaker 1: I'm like, cool, what have we learned from this? Do 424 00:18:25,160 --> 00:18:28,041 Speaker 1: you have five cupcakes? You feel lucky? That hurts your tummy? 425 00:18:28,120 --> 00:18:30,961 Speaker 1: Let's time next time? Just have one and he gets 426 00:18:31,041 --> 00:18:32,961 Speaker 1: to learn what feels good for his body and what doesn't. 427 00:18:33,080 --> 00:18:35,080 Speaker 1: But there's no pressure around it. 428 00:18:35,201 --> 00:18:37,881 Speaker 2: And I just gosh, that's so cool, so cool. And 429 00:18:37,921 --> 00:18:40,761 Speaker 2: even Miller, babe, you would be shook. You know, she's 430 00:18:40,961 --> 00:18:46,161 Speaker 2: little old woman, Miller, sixty years old. Her with her 431 00:18:46,201 --> 00:18:48,201 Speaker 2: intuitive eating is insane. 432 00:18:48,400 --> 00:18:50,000 Speaker 1: It's a greater, aren't they? Hey, babe, do you want 433 00:18:50,001 --> 00:18:51,400 Speaker 1: me to make her up? Never had too much gluten 434 00:18:51,441 --> 00:18:53,600 Speaker 1: today because she's gluten intolerance. I did not know that. 435 00:18:53,681 --> 00:18:56,041 Speaker 2: So she's gluten intolerance, so she only has specific amounts. 436 00:18:56,041 --> 00:18:57,360 Speaker 2: And then I'll even say she's like, I feel like 437 00:18:57,400 --> 00:18:59,520 Speaker 2: I really need like a smoothie, Mom, can you make 438 00:18:59,521 --> 00:19:01,801 Speaker 2: me a smoothie? And like sure, Hey, Mom, I really 439 00:19:01,801 --> 00:19:04,321 Speaker 2: feel like I want a banana. Like she's just so 440 00:19:04,400 --> 00:19:05,920 Speaker 2: and she goes, oh. Usually when I feel like this, 441 00:19:06,001 --> 00:19:08,120 Speaker 2: for have a banana, like gives me more energy. Like 442 00:19:08,241 --> 00:19:10,640 Speaker 2: she's insane, babe. You would hear her talk. 443 00:19:10,521 --> 00:19:12,961 Speaker 1: About food and you would literally be so hackled. Would 444 00:19:13,001 --> 00:19:16,640 Speaker 1: feel like she's like my little spirit animal. Honestly, she's 445 00:19:16,880 --> 00:19:18,520 Speaker 1: so cute. She's so funny. 446 00:19:18,561 --> 00:19:19,960 Speaker 2: And even if we go to a birthday party she 447 00:19:20,360 --> 00:19:22,121 Speaker 2: got gluten, has I got gluten because obviously it makes 448 00:19:22,120 --> 00:19:22,721 Speaker 2: her tummy soft. 449 00:19:22,761 --> 00:19:24,441 Speaker 1: She but she knows. 450 00:19:24,281 --> 00:19:25,600 Speaker 2: She's like she can pretty much have like a little 451 00:19:25,640 --> 00:19:27,641 Speaker 2: palm full of gluten a day. Any more than that, 452 00:19:27,761 --> 00:19:31,080 Speaker 2: like she's literally vomiting, like she's really struggles with gluten. 453 00:19:31,120 --> 00:19:31,761 Speaker 1: I do not know. 454 00:19:32,120 --> 00:19:34,041 Speaker 2: She has like two meals with gluten in it. She's 455 00:19:34,120 --> 00:19:36,481 Speaker 2: done for the next day, I know. 456 00:19:36,561 --> 00:19:37,801 Speaker 1: But what it's taught her. 457 00:19:38,921 --> 00:19:42,321 Speaker 2: Is to listen and now she really she's way more 458 00:19:42,321 --> 00:19:44,920 Speaker 2: in true with her body, like even then Lincoln, I 459 00:19:44,961 --> 00:19:46,641 Speaker 2: know she's older and everything like that, but like, fuck, 460 00:19:46,681 --> 00:19:48,120 Speaker 2: she's more true with her body sometimes than me. 461 00:19:48,321 --> 00:19:51,521 Speaker 1: That's incredible. I'm like, girl, you're amazing. I just feel 462 00:19:51,521 --> 00:19:53,561 Speaker 1: like some people are on this earth to heal. I 463 00:19:53,561 --> 00:19:55,520 Speaker 1: feel like she's going to just have a big impact 464 00:19:55,600 --> 00:19:56,080 Speaker 1: on the world. 465 00:19:56,160 --> 00:19:57,721 Speaker 2: And even like I was saying to Ashi when we're 466 00:19:57,761 --> 00:19:59,761 Speaker 2: coming up here, I was explaining to her what Ashi 467 00:19:59,801 --> 00:20:00,960 Speaker 2: and I do and I said, like, we go on 468 00:20:00,961 --> 00:20:03,080 Speaker 2: the podcast and we helped to make other women feel empowered, 469 00:20:03,120 --> 00:20:05,840 Speaker 2: me feel this, and she like got it. And when 470 00:20:05,840 --> 00:20:07,801 Speaker 2: I she's like, you have a great day talking to 471 00:20:07,840 --> 00:20:09,840 Speaker 2: all the women and the men and whoever listens, and 472 00:20:09,880 --> 00:20:11,880 Speaker 2: like she fully like she just got it. And she 473 00:20:11,921 --> 00:20:13,640 Speaker 2: went from being like upset that I was leaving to 474 00:20:13,681 --> 00:20:15,321 Speaker 2: being like, oh wow, you go mum. 475 00:20:15,481 --> 00:20:18,880 Speaker 1: Wow, which is so cool, so cool and so like 476 00:20:19,120 --> 00:20:22,761 Speaker 1: awesome for her age to have that awareness to understand it. 477 00:20:22,921 --> 00:20:26,321 Speaker 1: She's so funny, funny character. You know. A charge asked 478 00:20:26,321 --> 00:20:28,880 Speaker 1: me the other day and Steve was cracking up. It 479 00:20:28,961 --> 00:20:32,120 Speaker 1: was a really good question. We're just driving to footy 480 00:20:32,681 --> 00:20:35,241 Speaker 1: and he goes, Mom said yeah, honey, why do you 481 00:20:35,281 --> 00:20:37,080 Speaker 1: wear makeup? When you said it doesn't matter what we 482 00:20:37,160 --> 00:20:39,481 Speaker 1: look like? Oh yeah, I've had that one as well. 483 00:20:39,600 --> 00:20:42,720 Speaker 1: I was like wow, and Steve laughed and like what's funny? 484 00:20:43,201 --> 00:20:45,041 Speaker 1: And I was like, we're just geeling because like you're 485 00:20:45,080 --> 00:20:47,520 Speaker 1: so clever and you're so smart. And Steve was like, 486 00:20:47,921 --> 00:20:50,200 Speaker 1: really good pick up, Mum, why do you wear makeup? 487 00:20:50,840 --> 00:20:54,001 Speaker 1: And I said, I personally think I wear makeup because 488 00:20:54,001 --> 00:20:55,441 Speaker 1: it's like, ah, you know, when you like to paint 489 00:20:55,481 --> 00:20:57,721 Speaker 1: a picture or whatever, and it just enhances and it's fun, 490 00:20:57,801 --> 00:21:00,880 Speaker 1: it's creative, and it's also Mummy's like me time just 491 00:21:00,921 --> 00:21:02,721 Speaker 1: makes me feel really good. But most of the time, 492 00:21:02,801 --> 00:21:04,801 Speaker 1: like you see, mommy doesn't wear makeup. It's like for 493 00:21:05,281 --> 00:21:07,160 Speaker 1: occasions when I want to like feel good, I just 494 00:21:07,241 --> 00:21:09,281 Speaker 1: I do look at it like art, but I definitely 495 00:21:09,360 --> 00:21:11,360 Speaker 1: don't need it and it doesn't define my worth and 496 00:21:11,400 --> 00:21:13,880 Speaker 1: I don't feel like it makes me a better person 497 00:21:13,921 --> 00:21:17,360 Speaker 1: or anything like that. But it's like really interesting question. Yeah, 498 00:21:18,120 --> 00:21:21,240 Speaker 1: all start coming up. Hey so cool and Mille is 499 00:21:21,241 --> 00:21:21,600 Speaker 1: so cute. 500 00:21:21,600 --> 00:21:24,080 Speaker 2: If I don't have my makeup on, She's like, oh Mommy, 501 00:21:24,120 --> 00:21:26,440 Speaker 2: I love you without your makeup. Oh She'll actually comment, 502 00:21:26,481 --> 00:21:27,801 Speaker 2: and I'm like, go, you make me not win away 503 00:21:27,840 --> 00:21:31,321 Speaker 2: makeup so nuts, it's crazy. Alright, I've got one more quote, 504 00:21:31,561 --> 00:21:34,241 Speaker 2: do one thing every day that scares you. I feel 505 00:21:34,281 --> 00:21:36,121 Speaker 2: like this would not make me have a well regulated 506 00:21:36,160 --> 00:21:36,720 Speaker 2: never sism. 507 00:21:38,400 --> 00:21:40,801 Speaker 1: So when I round to be on edge flight. 508 00:21:41,001 --> 00:21:43,240 Speaker 2: Constantly be on fire to flight, do one thing scares you. 509 00:21:43,281 --> 00:21:44,600 Speaker 2: And that's one that I've seen around a fair bit. 510 00:21:44,681 --> 00:21:46,321 Speaker 1: And I was like that quite a bit too. Yeah, 511 00:21:46,360 --> 00:21:48,360 Speaker 1: I was like, no, I don't think find new things 512 00:21:48,441 --> 00:21:51,041 Speaker 1: every single day that scares you. I don't know. No, 513 00:21:51,160 --> 00:21:52,161 Speaker 1: that's not even realistic. 514 00:21:52,241 --> 00:21:54,640 Speaker 2: Sometimes you just need to be well regulated. 515 00:21:54,160 --> 00:21:58,440 Speaker 1: And definitely especially in the hardest seasons. Yes. Wow, And 516 00:21:58,481 --> 00:22:00,160 Speaker 1: we're going to enter on a lighter not so. 517 00:22:00,241 --> 00:22:02,200 Speaker 2: For the end of this episode, we are going to 518 00:22:02,241 --> 00:22:04,200 Speaker 2: share with you guys some Instagram accounts that we just 519 00:22:04,281 --> 00:22:05,160 Speaker 2: absolutely love. 520 00:22:05,160 --> 00:22:08,600 Speaker 1: Yes, that we think must follow. Yes, I'll go first, 521 00:22:08,761 --> 00:22:11,960 Speaker 1: go for it. The Holistic Psychologist. Yes, she is just 522 00:22:12,080 --> 00:22:16,721 Speaker 1: my number one incredible the way that she breaks down 523 00:22:16,761 --> 00:22:19,600 Speaker 1: to human psychology, her quotes that she puts up and 524 00:22:19,640 --> 00:22:23,561 Speaker 1: then the captions, how simplified she makes everything. Yeah, and 525 00:22:23,561 --> 00:22:26,880 Speaker 1: it's things all of us can relate to their childhood, 526 00:22:27,041 --> 00:22:29,880 Speaker 1: just the inner work personality. I don't know, it's just 527 00:22:29,921 --> 00:22:32,801 Speaker 1: broken down so well. And I've actually interviewed her before 528 00:22:32,801 --> 00:22:35,360 Speaker 1: and she's such an incredible human and I've read one 529 00:22:35,360 --> 00:22:38,161 Speaker 1: of her books. So I just absolutely love that woman. 530 00:22:38,201 --> 00:22:39,080 Speaker 1: I think she's incredible. 531 00:22:39,241 --> 00:22:42,360 Speaker 2: Oh that's awesome, so amazing, like following accounts like that, 532 00:22:42,400 --> 00:22:43,761 Speaker 2: Like how much of an impact I can have in 533 00:22:43,801 --> 00:22:45,880 Speaker 2: your day scene? Yeah, the bits and pieces that they 534 00:22:45,880 --> 00:22:48,001 Speaker 2: put up each day, Yeah, so cool. 535 00:22:48,160 --> 00:22:49,880 Speaker 1: And the fact they're sharing it with the world for free, like, 536 00:22:49,961 --> 00:22:52,321 Speaker 1: I know, so cool. Amazing. Yeah. 537 00:22:52,360 --> 00:22:55,440 Speaker 2: So Mel Robbins, do you know Robins? I love her 538 00:22:55,521 --> 00:22:59,121 Speaker 2: and she always puts up such uplifting, inspiring, like amazing 539 00:22:59,201 --> 00:23:01,920 Speaker 2: quotes and her clips, like her reels that come up 540 00:23:01,921 --> 00:23:02,521 Speaker 2: on Instagram. 541 00:23:02,801 --> 00:23:03,240 Speaker 1: I love them. 542 00:23:03,281 --> 00:23:05,641 Speaker 2: I'fe through and come across her and I'm like thank you, 543 00:23:06,041 --> 00:23:08,400 Speaker 2: Like just those nice little pick me ups and pet 544 00:23:08,400 --> 00:23:11,001 Speaker 2: talks and things throughout the day. I just love following 545 00:23:11,041 --> 00:23:12,600 Speaker 2: her and I love seeing her face on my feed. 546 00:23:12,840 --> 00:23:14,720 Speaker 1: I actually don't follow on Instagram, but I listened to 547 00:23:14,721 --> 00:23:17,241 Speaker 1: a podcast. Yeah, I need to get her on Instagram. Yeah. 548 00:23:17,281 --> 00:23:19,880 Speaker 1: I love a podcast too. Yeah, I love a podcast. Great. 549 00:23:20,481 --> 00:23:23,561 Speaker 1: My next one is Moon memes. Oh yes, they are 550 00:23:23,921 --> 00:23:25,840 Speaker 1: so spot on. Steve and I send them to each 551 00:23:25,840 --> 00:23:28,001 Speaker 1: other whenever we see them. But like your horoscopes, your 552 00:23:28,041 --> 00:23:30,400 Speaker 1: daily ones, your monthly ones, Like at the moment, it 553 00:23:30,521 --> 00:23:34,641 Speaker 1: is crazy, how like on pointer is every time I'm 554 00:23:34,681 --> 00:23:39,080 Speaker 1: experiencing all the change my health. Oh like it's crazy. 555 00:23:39,120 --> 00:23:41,041 Speaker 1: It really whigs me out, but I absolutely love it. 556 00:23:41,241 --> 00:23:42,001 Speaker 1: Oh so good. 557 00:23:42,001 --> 00:23:44,241 Speaker 2: Whenever new ones pop up, Hey, and you prompt me 558 00:23:44,241 --> 00:23:45,840 Speaker 2: because you'll share them to your stories, And I'm like, 559 00:23:45,880 --> 00:23:46,761 Speaker 2: I'm gonna go read mine. 560 00:23:46,801 --> 00:23:51,001 Speaker 1: Yes, liked me to go read mine. It's so cool, 561 00:23:51,201 --> 00:23:53,281 Speaker 1: so good, love it. They're always on point. Steve and 562 00:23:53,321 --> 00:23:55,120 Speaker 1: I happen for years, Like I've followed that page for 563 00:23:55,201 --> 00:23:57,961 Speaker 1: Iregon five plus years. I love it. Oh so good. 564 00:23:58,561 --> 00:23:59,321 Speaker 1: So me next one. 565 00:23:59,321 --> 00:24:01,880 Speaker 2: This girl I've only been following quite recently, but I've 566 00:24:02,041 --> 00:24:04,921 Speaker 2: watched so much of her content on Instagram, The Queen Collected. 567 00:24:05,600 --> 00:24:08,561 Speaker 2: So she's all about feminine energy and. 568 00:24:08,761 --> 00:24:10,840 Speaker 1: Holy crap, she just talks about it so well. 569 00:24:10,880 --> 00:24:13,600 Speaker 2: And she also says like it's not just about feminine energy, 570 00:24:13,640 --> 00:24:16,281 Speaker 2: but how like to have like a masculine energy make 571 00:24:16,321 --> 00:24:18,281 Speaker 2: you feel more secure. There's like all the different things. 572 00:24:18,321 --> 00:24:19,880 Speaker 2: So there's heaps of things that are popping up, and 573 00:24:19,921 --> 00:24:22,521 Speaker 2: I'm like sending him to Kurtz and it's just it's 574 00:24:22,681 --> 00:24:25,400 Speaker 2: really awesome and like different ways of looking at things. 575 00:24:25,561 --> 00:24:28,360 Speaker 2: And yeah, I've just really thoroughly enjoyed her content. 576 00:24:28,481 --> 00:24:31,880 Speaker 1: That's awesome. I love learving about feminine energy. My next 577 00:24:31,880 --> 00:24:37,521 Speaker 1: one is Matthias Jay Barker. He's a trauma and relationship 578 00:24:37,721 --> 00:24:40,640 Speaker 1: expert and coach. I've never met him, but he seems 579 00:24:40,681 --> 00:24:43,360 Speaker 1: like the most beautiful man. I have to show you 580 00:24:43,360 --> 00:24:46,440 Speaker 1: his videos. I've never seen an I've never seen him 581 00:24:46,481 --> 00:24:50,561 Speaker 1: on Instagram. Oh the way he explains relationships and does 582 00:24:50,640 --> 00:24:54,400 Speaker 1: different dynamics and different situations and even how to like 583 00:24:54,880 --> 00:24:57,521 Speaker 1: respond to someone that's depressed or going through something like 584 00:24:57,561 --> 00:25:00,640 Speaker 1: the examples he's given. He's incredible. Oh sorry for a 585 00:25:00,681 --> 00:25:01,241 Speaker 1: lot of him. 586 00:25:01,441 --> 00:25:05,840 Speaker 2: My next one is Big Little Feelings all things little 587 00:25:05,921 --> 00:25:08,561 Speaker 2: kids and their emotions, and I just love it. 588 00:25:08,681 --> 00:25:09,600 Speaker 1: I just grow it. 589 00:25:09,681 --> 00:25:11,681 Speaker 2: I think there's just every parent should follow that page 590 00:25:11,681 --> 00:25:14,201 Speaker 2: and you'll get yeah, so many tips and treats popping 591 00:25:14,281 --> 00:25:14,840 Speaker 2: up all the time. 592 00:25:15,120 --> 00:25:17,521 Speaker 1: M hmm. I love that page as well. Yeah. My 593 00:25:17,600 --> 00:25:19,840 Speaker 1: last one is Quotes by Christy puts up a quote 594 00:25:19,840 --> 00:25:21,321 Speaker 1: and then like you swipe cross and it's the same 595 00:25:21,400 --> 00:25:23,241 Speaker 1: quote but in different colors. I just love all of 596 00:25:23,281 --> 00:25:25,281 Speaker 1: the little quotes. It just like land at the right time, 597 00:25:25,321 --> 00:25:26,600 Speaker 1: and I'm like, oh, it's a nice pick me up. 598 00:25:26,600 --> 00:25:29,001 Speaker 1: I love quotes. Yeah, they always land at the right time. 599 00:25:29,080 --> 00:25:31,601 Speaker 1: So she's a really good quote page. Oh so nice. 600 00:25:31,880 --> 00:25:34,761 Speaker 2: I love a good quote too. So I've got two more. 601 00:25:35,241 --> 00:25:39,200 Speaker 2: My next one is Chloe Bromage. So I love watching 602 00:25:39,241 --> 00:25:41,241 Speaker 2: her on Instagram. I feel like, if you are someone 603 00:25:41,241 --> 00:25:43,161 Speaker 2: who is lacking confidence or wanting to lean more into 604 00:25:43,160 --> 00:25:45,960 Speaker 2: your authentic self, you watch her reels and she just 605 00:25:46,041 --> 00:25:47,801 Speaker 2: makes you just feel unstoppable. 606 00:25:47,880 --> 00:25:48,120 Speaker 1: Yeah. 607 00:25:48,120 --> 00:25:50,641 Speaker 2: I really like her content and even her stories as well. 608 00:25:50,721 --> 00:25:52,321 Speaker 2: Sometimes I just like, sit there in the morning you 609 00:25:52,321 --> 00:25:53,600 Speaker 2: have a little listen. I'm like, oh, that was just 610 00:25:53,640 --> 00:25:55,121 Speaker 2: like a boost that I need. 611 00:25:55,241 --> 00:25:57,840 Speaker 1: Yeah. She really does not give zero fucks what anyone 612 00:25:57,880 --> 00:26:00,640 Speaker 1: thinks about her or what she doesna owns herself and 613 00:26:00,761 --> 00:26:03,201 Speaker 1: is so proud of herself and like loves herself sick 614 00:26:03,241 --> 00:26:05,640 Speaker 1: in such a good way. It's so good. Power of it, 615 00:26:05,840 --> 00:26:06,600 Speaker 1: so empowering. 616 00:26:06,681 --> 00:26:09,080 Speaker 2: So that's someone who's really been picking me up. And 617 00:26:09,120 --> 00:26:11,761 Speaker 2: then there's one more, And this one is a new one. 618 00:26:11,840 --> 00:26:14,160 Speaker 2: You will love this one, babe. I don't know how 619 00:26:14,160 --> 00:26:16,360 Speaker 2: to say the name. I think it's thy has loan 620 00:26:16,681 --> 00:26:17,840 Speaker 2: iell it out. 621 00:26:17,880 --> 00:26:19,801 Speaker 1: I think I follow him. Oh do you? I think 622 00:26:19,880 --> 00:26:21,801 Speaker 1: is it a girl a guy? 623 00:26:22,201 --> 00:26:25,201 Speaker 2: Maybe it's the guy. But basically it's all relationship stuff. Yeah, 624 00:26:25,481 --> 00:26:29,840 Speaker 2: but they coach you through relationship situation, so they will 625 00:26:29,880 --> 00:26:32,240 Speaker 2: replay it so they will go like, Okay, this is 626 00:26:32,241 --> 00:26:35,321 Speaker 2: how you would handle the situation if you were triggered. 627 00:26:35,321 --> 00:26:36,641 Speaker 2: And they do it and they go, this is how 628 00:26:36,681 --> 00:26:39,481 Speaker 2: you can handle the situation calmly. It is amazing. It's 629 00:26:39,481 --> 00:26:41,521 Speaker 2: so easy to digest and it's easy to also watch 630 00:26:41,600 --> 00:26:43,561 Speaker 2: and like see where maybe you've gone wrong previously and 631 00:26:43,640 --> 00:26:45,401 Speaker 2: be like, oh maybe when I word it, I could 632 00:26:45,441 --> 00:26:46,080 Speaker 2: word it that way. 633 00:26:46,201 --> 00:26:47,721 Speaker 1: Yeah that's cool, so cool. 634 00:26:47,721 --> 00:26:49,041 Speaker 2: So I'm going to spell it out because I think 635 00:26:49,041 --> 00:26:51,360 Speaker 2: I've butchered how I've said it. It's t h A 636 00:26:51,681 --> 00:26:55,441 Speaker 2: I h as l O A N and all about 637 00:26:55,441 --> 00:26:59,241 Speaker 2: like being regulated versus not being regulated, and like it's 638 00:26:59,321 --> 00:27:01,321 Speaker 2: just relationship wise. Yeah. 639 00:27:01,360 --> 00:27:03,241 Speaker 1: I was flicking through and I was like, this is awesome. 640 00:27:03,481 --> 00:27:04,880 Speaker 1: Oh my god. I saw this thing the other day. 641 00:27:05,080 --> 00:27:07,920 Speaker 1: It's like, next time you're in a heated discussion or 642 00:27:08,080 --> 00:27:10,880 Speaker 1: argument with your partner and you're feeling triggered or feeling upset, 643 00:27:10,961 --> 00:27:13,600 Speaker 1: or you're just feeling like, ugh, you're annoying me both, 644 00:27:13,640 --> 00:27:17,880 Speaker 1: put on a party hat because it instantly changed your stage. Dude, 645 00:27:18,321 --> 00:27:20,721 Speaker 1: like you instantly can't help but like giggle, and once 646 00:27:20,721 --> 00:27:23,000 Speaker 1: you drop out of having your weapons out and like 647 00:27:23,041 --> 00:27:26,481 Speaker 1: feeling defensive and blaming, then you can actually talk. 648 00:27:26,840 --> 00:27:28,961 Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, that's such a great idea. We all 649 00:27:29,001 --> 00:27:32,121 Speaker 2: need party hats in our side drawls in our bedroom. 650 00:27:32,321 --> 00:27:34,680 Speaker 1: Literally, I haven't done it yet, but I was like, 651 00:27:34,721 --> 00:27:36,881 Speaker 1: that's such a cool little tip. I love that. 652 00:27:36,921 --> 00:27:40,641 Speaker 2: It's so hilarious, like some funny glasses or something. Yeah, like, well, 653 00:27:40,681 --> 00:27:42,041 Speaker 2: you need to just lighten the mood. 654 00:27:42,201 --> 00:27:44,601 Speaker 1: Oh anyways, guys, thank you so much for joining us. 655 00:27:44,721 --> 00:27:47,080 Speaker 1: If you love this episode, don't get to click the 656 00:27:47,160 --> 00:27:49,441 Speaker 1: little follow button follow button and give us a five 657 00:27:49,481 --> 00:27:51,400 Speaker 1: star reading if you want, and also join our private 658 00:27:51,400 --> 00:27:53,881 Speaker 1: Facebook community. Yeah, that's where we chat. You guys. Get 659 00:27:53,921 --> 00:27:55,721 Speaker 1: access to all of our launchers for everything that we've 660 00:27:55,721 --> 00:27:57,920 Speaker 1: got coming up, and you can ask us any questions, 661 00:27:57,921 --> 00:28:00,321 Speaker 1: give podcast suggestion ideas. Otherwise. 662 00:28:00,801 --> 00:28:08,201 Speaker 2: See you on Monday Friday,