1 00:00:00,640 --> 00:00:03,120 Speaker 1: You're listening to the FITZI and whipp A podcast. 2 00:00:03,320 --> 00:00:04,960 Speaker 2: Kelly's given us a kill from Mount Adam. 3 00:00:05,000 --> 00:00:07,280 Speaker 3: Good morning, killd morning guys. 4 00:00:07,480 --> 00:00:09,680 Speaker 1: Kel, what's going on in your world? Tell us something interesting? 5 00:00:10,480 --> 00:00:15,640 Speaker 4: Well, my eldest she's sixteen in November. She recently has 6 00:00:15,880 --> 00:00:19,239 Speaker 4: got a boyfriend, her first one, and she asked the 7 00:00:19,239 --> 00:00:21,000 Speaker 4: other day if they could have a sleepover. 8 00:00:21,320 --> 00:00:27,560 Speaker 5: Okay, no, fifteen, I'm thinking is too young. But she's 9 00:00:27,640 --> 00:00:31,760 Speaker 5: getting annoyed at the no. So I'm a bit like, 10 00:00:31,960 --> 00:00:33,639 Speaker 5: I don't want to be a sperid of my mum. 11 00:00:33,960 --> 00:00:34,879 Speaker 4: What am I going to do? 12 00:00:36,520 --> 00:00:37,720 Speaker 2: This is a tough one. 13 00:00:38,000 --> 00:00:40,559 Speaker 3: This is this is I mean, you are right in 14 00:00:40,600 --> 00:00:42,599 Speaker 3: the sweet spot here because this is the thing. 15 00:00:42,760 --> 00:00:45,640 Speaker 2: Fifteen years of age? Is it too young? Can you? 16 00:00:45,960 --> 00:00:47,600 Speaker 2: Can you say to her? Kill? 17 00:00:47,920 --> 00:00:49,720 Speaker 3: I want to know he can stay over to ten 18 00:00:49,760 --> 00:00:51,479 Speaker 3: or eleven o'clock and then I can drop him home 19 00:00:51,600 --> 00:00:53,280 Speaker 3: or they definitely want the sleepover. 20 00:00:54,040 --> 00:00:56,680 Speaker 4: No, he's been doing that. We've said like the ten 21 00:00:56,680 --> 00:00:59,959 Speaker 4: o'clock is the latest, and he goes. But the next 22 00:01:00,280 --> 00:01:03,000 Speaker 4: issue is now the request of day the night? 23 00:01:03,480 --> 00:01:06,320 Speaker 1: Can Kel? Can they sleep in separate bedrooms? I mean, 24 00:01:06,360 --> 00:01:08,039 Speaker 1: I know that sounds crazy. 25 00:01:08,160 --> 00:01:10,759 Speaker 4: But at two three I am when we're all asleep. 26 00:01:11,880 --> 00:01:15,080 Speaker 1: Footsteps down the hallway. It's such a funny thing. I mean, 27 00:01:15,080 --> 00:01:16,679 Speaker 1: that was kind of the general rule in our house 28 00:01:16,720 --> 00:01:20,039 Speaker 1: that partners and people couldn't stay over. But then you 29 00:01:20,040 --> 00:01:22,880 Speaker 1: know the house we'd go to over over the summer period. 30 00:01:23,080 --> 00:01:25,959 Speaker 1: Are you sharing them? We're allowed to stay. It's going 31 00:01:26,040 --> 00:01:29,000 Speaker 1: to happen. It's in a way, you know, and my 32 00:01:29,440 --> 00:01:31,520 Speaker 1: skill friend and if they're not doing it at home, 33 00:01:31,520 --> 00:01:34,800 Speaker 1: were they going to find somewhere else to go? Is 34 00:01:35,319 --> 00:01:37,080 Speaker 1: the park or the back of the car or wherever. 35 00:01:37,120 --> 00:01:42,480 Speaker 1: Sarah's got a lengthy list of when bus you know 36 00:01:42,480 --> 00:01:44,360 Speaker 1: you could be in the It. 37 00:01:44,360 --> 00:01:46,400 Speaker 2: Was with the bus driver which I found a. 38 00:01:46,200 --> 00:01:48,280 Speaker 1: Delivery section at the back of kmart. 39 00:01:48,040 --> 00:01:50,880 Speaker 3: Wiley was driving while he was driving, which I thought 40 00:01:50,920 --> 00:01:53,440 Speaker 3: was an amazing skill to a bit. 41 00:01:53,360 --> 00:01:55,640 Speaker 1: Of a road hasard. But that's okay, kel What will 42 00:01:55,640 --> 00:01:58,640 Speaker 1: the decision be here? Like, do you just say, hey, 43 00:01:59,160 --> 00:02:01,480 Speaker 1: the reality is going to find somewhere if I don't 44 00:02:01,520 --> 00:02:03,680 Speaker 1: offer something good, well. 45 00:02:03,400 --> 00:02:05,280 Speaker 4: Maybe she just needs to hold out a couple of 46 00:02:05,320 --> 00:02:06,600 Speaker 4: months till she's sixteen. 47 00:02:06,920 --> 00:02:07,840 Speaker 5: That sounds a bit. 48 00:02:07,680 --> 00:02:09,280 Speaker 2: Better, Kelly. 49 00:02:09,600 --> 00:02:12,600 Speaker 3: You know what this is where you need to let yourself, 50 00:02:12,639 --> 00:02:14,480 Speaker 3: go and have trust in your child. 51 00:02:14,919 --> 00:02:19,160 Speaker 1: She's a teenager. Ryan, we were all the same thirteen 52 00:02:19,240 --> 00:02:21,160 Speaker 1: twenty fourteen. What should Kelly do? If you've been in 53 00:02:21,160 --> 00:02:24,720 Speaker 1: this situation? And I remember my first girlfriend, the mum 54 00:02:25,400 --> 00:02:28,679 Speaker 1: awkwardly knowing our age and possibly what was going on, 55 00:02:29,080 --> 00:02:31,480 Speaker 1: she went and bought some She went and bought a 56 00:02:31,600 --> 00:02:35,560 Speaker 1: protection and put it in the math bib you eat, mate, 57 00:02:35,600 --> 00:02:41,840 Speaker 1: and put it in her bathroom if you were ever 58 00:02:43,200 --> 00:02:46,480 Speaker 1: of early action from her FEMA. Okay, sorry Sarah for 59 00:02:46,520 --> 00:02:49,519 Speaker 1: taking a serious topic and discussing with Kelly, who called 60 00:02:49,560 --> 00:02:52,160 Speaker 1: with the dilemma how she could help her daughter. She 61 00:02:52,400 --> 00:02:56,680 Speaker 1: protection needs to be considered for young kids. Right, if 62 00:02:56,680 --> 00:03:02,280 Speaker 1: you didn't have children, we wouldn't believe you'd evers. 63 00:03:00,600 --> 00:03:03,680 Speaker 2: Protection a club lock because people were stealing her car. 64 00:03:04,840 --> 00:03:06,680 Speaker 1: She had three security guards at her front door. When 65 00:03:06,680 --> 00:03:08,480 Speaker 1: I'd come around in front and up for dinner. 66 00:03:09,400 --> 00:03:13,600 Speaker 2: Big Muey, he security guard for a couple of hours. Kelly, Kelly, 67 00:03:13,800 --> 00:03:15,600 Speaker 2: thank you, Kel. I don't know what the answer is. 68 00:03:15,880 --> 00:03:17,040 Speaker 4: There is a lot of thanks. 69 00:03:17,080 --> 00:03:19,120 Speaker 1: Anyway, guys, We're going to get people to call on 70 00:03:19,160 --> 00:03:21,960 Speaker 1: this topic because everyone's been through this scenario. I think 71 00:03:22,600 --> 00:03:25,119 Speaker 1: what were the rules with your parents and people staying over. 72 00:03:25,880 --> 00:03:28,440 Speaker 2: Let's go to a Lissa Now from Mount Druitt. Hi, Lisa, 73 00:03:28,520 --> 00:03:29,440 Speaker 2: what did you want to say? 74 00:03:30,320 --> 00:03:33,560 Speaker 4: Morning guys. I just heard Kelly on the radio talking 75 00:03:33,600 --> 00:03:37,280 Speaker 4: about sixteen year old being able to stay at their mom. 76 00:03:37,520 --> 00:03:38,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, what's your advice? 77 00:03:39,760 --> 00:03:43,000 Speaker 4: My advice is probably no. But at the same time, 78 00:03:43,040 --> 00:03:45,360 Speaker 4: they will probably do whatever they want to anyways, because 79 00:03:45,400 --> 00:03:46,600 Speaker 4: I'm a tween mum myself. 80 00:03:49,760 --> 00:03:51,640 Speaker 3: This is what you've got to have trust and you 81 00:03:51,680 --> 00:03:54,640 Speaker 3: know what, we need to look back to when we 82 00:03:54,640 --> 00:03:57,200 Speaker 3: were young, because you know what they're going to do 83 00:03:57,240 --> 00:03:58,080 Speaker 3: it at some stame. 84 00:03:58,080 --> 00:03:59,440 Speaker 1: You have trusted yourself. 85 00:03:59,680 --> 00:04:03,000 Speaker 3: No, no, no, But Sarah, this is the thing you make 86 00:04:03,080 --> 00:04:05,680 Speaker 3: mistakes as a kid and you learn from them. This 87 00:04:05,720 --> 00:04:07,440 Speaker 3: is the thing I think you have to go through 88 00:04:07,480 --> 00:04:10,520 Speaker 3: that you can't deny them like they're going to do 89 00:04:10,560 --> 00:04:11,800 Speaker 3: it at some stage anyway. 90 00:04:11,880 --> 00:04:13,280 Speaker 1: I mean, it's one of those things if you look 91 00:04:13,320 --> 00:04:15,760 Speaker 1: back and you compared what you did to your kids 92 00:04:15,800 --> 00:04:18,000 Speaker 1: actually playing it out and repeating what you did, would 93 00:04:18,040 --> 00:04:20,600 Speaker 1: you want them to do that? They'll do it differently, 94 00:04:20,800 --> 00:04:22,480 Speaker 1: similar mistakes but different. 95 00:04:22,640 --> 00:04:23,920 Speaker 2: Of course, of course. 96 00:04:24,240 --> 00:04:26,960 Speaker 3: But that's your parents probably did the exact same thing. 97 00:04:27,080 --> 00:04:34,280 Speaker 1: They wouldn't have done what we did. Christine, Christine, she's 98 00:04:34,320 --> 00:04:37,200 Speaker 1: still the Oh my god, she was running of the ball, 99 00:04:37,279 --> 00:04:39,440 Speaker 1: sitting on Sanchez's shoulders the wrong way around. 100 00:04:40,480 --> 00:04:42,599 Speaker 3: All right, all right, we need to give away two 101 00:04:42,600 --> 00:04:44,840 Speaker 3: tickets to Bruno Mars. I think that that was a 102 00:04:44,839 --> 00:04:47,039 Speaker 3: great topic to kick it off with this morning. 103 00:04:47,080 --> 00:04:49,200 Speaker 2: Said to your group, if it was it was, do 104 00:04:49,240 --> 00:04:49,680 Speaker 2: you know what? 105 00:04:49,800 --> 00:04:53,159 Speaker 1: And if Kelly can say, hey, wait till you're sixteen 106 00:04:53,720 --> 00:04:55,400 Speaker 1: and I'll give you Bruno Mars tickets. 107 00:04:56,080 --> 00:04:56,919 Speaker 2: If we give the. 108 00:04:56,880 --> 00:05:01,000 Speaker 1: Bruno Mas tickets, she's got something to trade that ibor sometimes. 109 00:05:01,800 --> 00:05:04,320 Speaker 2: Kelly, can you bribe it with Bruno Mars tickets. 110 00:05:05,320 --> 00:05:06,520 Speaker 4: That is a really good one. 111 00:05:07,480 --> 00:05:08,560 Speaker 1: Kelly, you've got the tickets. 112 00:05:09,360 --> 00:05:10,799 Speaker 4: Yes, thank you, Kelly. 113 00:05:10,839 --> 00:05:13,800 Speaker 1: I feel for you. 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