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Speaker 3: one of our episodes. I'm Anna and I'm Matt.
Speaker 1: Let's jump in.
Speaker 3: Good morning Anna, Good morning.
Speaker 1: Back in the studio. It is freezing in Melbourne today.
Speaker 3: It is very cold. It was a very cold weekend
Speaker 3: to be honest, Yeah, here I am in my shirt.
Speaker 1: I don't know how you're doing that at all.
Speaker 3: I run hot, I run hot. I put up a
Speaker 3: story on the weekend because I was like, am I
Speaker 3: the only person that has a fan on while they're
Speaker 3: like sleeping in the mids of winter?
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I've heard it's actually good for your anxiety to sleep
Speaker 2: in cold. So maybe it's like subconsciously you're like, I'm
Speaker 2: so anxious, so I need the cold.
Speaker 3: I think my mom said that she was so worried
Speaker 3: about me being overheating when I was a baby. She
Speaker 3: used to have me like really cold in like the crib,
Speaker 3: so I think that's what I'm used to when I sleep.
Speaker 1: Now, now you just freeze yourself today.
Speaker 3: I love freezing when I sleep. I love it. It
Speaker 3: makes me fall asleep like straight away.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it is nice. Do I look hotder today?
Speaker 3: I don't mind the denim on denim? But no, I didn't.
Speaker 3: Why what did you do?
Speaker 1: Matt just gave me the stranger's look.
Speaker 2: No, I'm ovulating, And apparently on the day that you ovulate,
Speaker 2: the flow app basically told me I'm ovulating. And on
Speaker 2: the day that you ovulate, you're meant to look hotter
Speaker 2: because you're meant to attract people.
Speaker 3: Put the pheromones out there. Yeah. I wasn't sniffing at pheromones. Sorry,
Speaker 3: and I didn't smell anything, but sure pheromones.
Speaker 2: I'm just saying visually, because apparently visually you do.
Speaker 3: Sure. Yeah. What did Michael say when you woke up? Did?
Speaker 3: I'm sure? He said? Yeah?
Speaker 2: He was like, fuck, yeah, you look way hotter. Results
Speaker 2: from Matt from that, So that's.
Speaker 3: How science works. It works. It's true.
Speaker 2: Interestingly, it's a year until I get married.
Speaker 3: That's very exciting. Believe that said that before and we're
Speaker 3: going to be in hot Greece right now in a
Speaker 3: year in Europe, I'm excited for that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I know.
Speaker 2: And also I think flights come out like one year before,
Speaker 2: so I think flights to Europe are officially on sale
Speaker 2: for that time. So yeah, you start looking, I think
Speaker 2: we should. I haven't even put out wedding invites. I realized, like,
Speaker 2: because I talk about the wedding with like my close
Speaker 2: friends and family, they all kind of know that they're coming.
Speaker 3: They're going to be some people when the invites come out.
Speaker 2: Yes, So people have been like talking to me about like, oh,
Speaker 2: I need to like start booking my flights to Greece,
Speaker 2: and I'm like, holy shit, they're not invited. And then
Speaker 2: it's awkward if someone said that to me and then
Speaker 2: I actually don't invite them. So then I'm like, fuck,
Speaker 2: am I just going to end up with like a
Speaker 2: wedding of one hundred?
Speaker 3: You know?
Speaker 2: It's my dream to have like fifty people max at
Speaker 2: my wedding.
Speaker 3: I remember I was there with someone and I'm pretty
Speaker 3: sure they said they can't wait, and I was just like, oh,
Speaker 3: I don't think you're right.
Speaker 1: It's so awkward.
Speaker 2: So like maybe it's good that we're talking about this now,
Speaker 2: so no one gets.
Speaker 1: Their hopes hopes even if you're an engagement party, why
Speaker 1: not getting.
Speaker 3: In that's the idea of having a big engagement party,
Speaker 3: so then you have a smaller wedding.
Speaker 1: Well that was why we had it.
Speaker 2: People were literally when I had a big engagement party,
Speaker 2: people were saying to me like they thought it was
Speaker 2: a surprise wedding, and I was like, no, it's literally
Speaker 2: for the reason you just said.
Speaker 1: It's because I don't want to have a big wedding.
Speaker 2: So I'm like, let's celebrate with everyone, like even for me,
Speaker 2: Like it's literally going to be my four best friends,
Speaker 2: a few other friends and that's it. Like I'm not
Speaker 2: I'm not going out of my way to invite everyone
Speaker 2: who have been friends with So basically you're copying it in.
Speaker 3: You'd assume, so you're assumed. So it's like on the one, O, yes,
Speaker 3: I I'll see it. That's fine.
Speaker 1: Do you want to the wedding should do? You know what,
Speaker 1: there's been a few people who have asked to be
Speaker 1: the MC, who to MC yours my wedding?
Speaker 3: Who would even be in the conversation.
Speaker 2: Like there's been a few like my you're just saying this,
Speaker 2: So I pitched my argument a bit better.
Speaker 3: But I think it's nanimous. I think it's pretty old.
Speaker 1: I mean, if you want to give me like maybe
Speaker 1: you can do.
Speaker 3: Like a I'm not going to use my material. I'm
Speaker 3: going to save it, but you can get the idea.
Speaker 2: Maybe you can do an audition on the podcast to
Speaker 2: be to be the em of my wedding.
Speaker 3: All right, all right, but I don't want to use
Speaker 3: my material.
Speaker 1: Do you already have pre play?
Speaker 3: Well no I haven't, but I don't want to waste
Speaker 3: it now on the podcast, Like you know what I mean?
Speaker 3: I want to not waste but I want to don't
Speaker 3: want to use I'll use it on the night. Yeah,
Speaker 3: I don't want to crack.
Speaker 1: The last Now he's saving us.
Speaker 3: We can play it afterwards on the podcast for sure,
Speaker 3: but do you know what I mean, I'm gonna save it.
Speaker 2: We Speaking of the wedding, I actually took my best
Speaker 2: friends away on the weekend. We went down to Sorrento,
Speaker 2: and I asked them all to be my maids of honor?
Speaker 3: Did you not maids of honor?
Speaker 1: I asked them all to be my bridesmaids, and.
Speaker 3: My maid of honor how'd you go about that?
Speaker 2: So I wanted to make it sentimental. You appreciate a
Speaker 2: good sentimental gesture it and I wanted to make it
Speaker 2: very sentimental. So I wrote them all a hand written letter. Look,
Speaker 2: I thought it was like. I was like, this is
Speaker 2: so sweet.
Speaker 1: You know what.
Speaker 2: I don't write anymore with my hand, like I type
Speaker 2: with my fingers, like I'm not taking pen to paper anymore.
Speaker 2: And like after writing one letter, my hand was cooked.
Speaker 2: I had to write them days apart because my hand
Speaker 2: was like cramping.
Speaker 3: Up to try and make them long as well, so
Speaker 3: they fit a whole page absolutely. Yeah. So I remember
Speaker 3: when I wrote letters to Jen when she went away,
Speaker 3: so she read one each night and I let wait
Speaker 3: to a lot. Yeah, when she was like doing the trail,
Speaker 3: so she had no phone or nothing so she could
Speaker 3: read them. I remember I started on like the last
Speaker 3: night before she left. And it's so hard, like you said,
Speaker 3: and I wanted to make whole pages worth so they
Speaker 3: they looked. I was like, oh my god, it's not
Speaker 3: as easy as you think.
Speaker 1: My handwriting by letter four was just it was not
Speaker 1: as good as.
Speaker 2: Like letter one. My handwriting was on point. I was like,
Speaker 2: I have great penmanship. By the end of it, I
Speaker 2: was like trying to write it as quickly as I
Speaker 2: can to get rid of Yeah, I joined my letters, dear.
Speaker 3: I got my joining license. I've got that. Don't worry,
Speaker 3: but I don't. I don't use it. I don't use it.
Speaker 1: That's so funny, you know what.
Speaker 2: That's an Australian thing because I went to like primary
Speaker 2: school in the UK and we didn't have that. And
Speaker 2: then I came to Australia when I was in year seven,
Speaker 2: I think, and everyone's talking about this joining license and
Speaker 2: I'm like, what the fuck I'm unlicensed around She was like, the.
Speaker 3: Teacher didn't pull you up, see your drivers, Like what.
Speaker 1: Do you do? You like, whip it out if they're
Speaker 1: like I.
Speaker 3: Can't remember, but I remember you stayed back like lunchtime
Speaker 3: and you had to write something for your teacher, and
Speaker 3: then you got your pen license that was first, and
Speaker 3: then your joining license was next.
Speaker 1: It's like your driver's license for children.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it was fucked.
Speaker 2: Wild, but anyway, I wrote them all the letter, and
Speaker 2: then I also made them each like a photo book
Speaker 2: of all of our favorite memories together. And then I
Speaker 2: got them each a nine carrot gold diamond necklace because
Speaker 2: I was like, it felt like I was proposing. I
Speaker 2: was like, this is the only time I'm going to propose,
Speaker 2: Like I want to propose with a diamond, Like I
Speaker 2: was proposed to with a diamond.
Speaker 1: I want to propose with the diamond.
Speaker 2: So they each got like a really dainty, tiny little
Speaker 2: diamond necklace and it was very cute. So initially I
Speaker 2: was like, so I had the four bags and I
Speaker 2: was like, how the fuck am I going to do this?
Speaker 2: I took them all to Sorrento, and then I was
Speaker 2: My plan was to do it at the Peninsula Hot
Speaker 2: Springs because we had like a cute little dome, which
Speaker 2: if you go to the Hot Springs, get a dome.
Speaker 1: It's so nice.
Speaker 3: It was like I need to go there for a while.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's such a vibe. It's just chill.
Speaker 2: It's like I feel like you're doing something good for
Speaker 2: your health, especially after Saturday night drinking. Going to the
Speaker 2: Peninsula Hot Springs, my hangover was gone like in about
Speaker 2: ten seconds because I jumped in a cold pool and
Speaker 2: was like just like scared me into like soberness. But anyway, Sarah,
Speaker 2: my friend, picked me up. We went to a hunter's market.
Speaker 2: I did a hunter's market because I've been getting rid
Speaker 2: of everything because I'm just like, how much did I sell?
Speaker 1: What do you mean how much? Yeah?
Speaker 2: I sold most of it, and then everything after I
Speaker 2: went to the charity because I was like, everything is
Speaker 2: going if this yeah, if I've brought it to this market,
Speaker 2: then it's like it's gone. But anyway, Sarah picked me
Speaker 2: up from the hunter's market and I had my four
Speaker 2: bags with me, and then she obviously saw them, so
Speaker 2: I was like, fuck it, I'm just gonna like. I
Speaker 2: set up my camera in the car and I was like,
Speaker 2: I want to give you something, and she like, she's
Speaker 2: my maid of honor and she burst out crying. It
Speaker 2: was so nice. I recorded it so I'll put it
Speaker 2: on my socials. But it was such a cute moment,
Speaker 2: Like it was just so nice.
Speaker 3: How did you come to the conclusion that says dog
Speaker 3: was going to be the maid of honor? I mean
Speaker 3: the other.
Speaker 1: Yeah, the girls over the other the other girls, you
Speaker 1: know what. I think. It's just it was a really
Speaker 1: hard decision.
Speaker 2: Initially, I thought I was just gonna do all bridesmaids,
Speaker 2: but you know, Sarah is one of my longest friends.
Speaker 2: She literally made like a full spreadsheet for the engagement party.
Speaker 2: She was like so helpful and just like you know what,
Speaker 2: like going out of her way, and you know, I
Speaker 2: think she's one of my longest friends and I love her,
Speaker 2: and I just thought that it was the right decision.
Speaker 2: But yeah, we're all like such a tight nic group,
Speaker 2: so it doesn't really matter that there's a maid of
Speaker 2: honor because we're all so close.
Speaker 3: Not to take away from you, Sarah, but no, but you.
Speaker 2: Know what I mean, Like I don't want the other
Speaker 2: girls to feel bad, but then I also want to
Speaker 2: celebrate Sarah as my.
Speaker 1: Maid of honor. It's just like I'm trying to find
Speaker 1: the happy medium.
Speaker 3: It's hard, isn't it.
Speaker 1: But it's hard. But I think the other girls will when.
Speaker 2: They eventually, like you know, get engaged and want to
Speaker 2: pick their bridesmaids. Imagine if some of them choose their
Speaker 2: sisters or they don't want the whole group, that's a
Speaker 2: more challenging decision.
Speaker 3: I've been very open about who my groom's an eye,
Speaker 3: and as they swap over, I send them a message
Speaker 3: and say you've just taken over. Congratulations, you just got
Speaker 3: and then sorry, mate, you've just been subbed out for
Speaker 3: blah blah, do this, do this to move back in.
Speaker 1: Nuh, that's like blackmailing his friends.
Speaker 3: Now, whenever we drink and we have like DMS, I
Speaker 3: always say it. I always say who's who? I think
Speaker 3: that's better than like at the eleventh hour picking then,
Speaker 3: like everyone's sort of like, is it going to be me?
Speaker 3: Is it going to be me? Yeah?
Speaker 2: Well it's funny because like obviously my TikTok algorithm is
Speaker 2: very much on like bridesmaids and you know that type
Speaker 2: of thing and wedding talk and all of that. And
Speaker 2: there's this girl who was like, if someone asks you
Speaker 2: to be a bridesmaid, you need to be friends with
Speaker 2: them for a minimum of five years, because like, I
Speaker 2: just got asked to be a bridesmaid by this random
Speaker 2: girl from my work and it was really uncomfortable and
Speaker 2: it was the worst thing I've ever done and don't
Speaker 2: do it. So I feel like lucky that I have
Speaker 2: a really tight knit group of five including me, And
Speaker 2: it was kind of an easy decision. I mean, the
Speaker 2: only real hard decision was to pick and made of
Speaker 2: honor and it's.
Speaker 1: Sady, So I'm happy all as well.
Speaker 3: So you're at the Hot Springs. How's up? Yeah.
Speaker 2: So basically we had a night in Sorrento, and then
Speaker 2: I still had the three bridesmaids that I hadn't told,
Speaker 2: so Sarah knew the night before, and then Sarah helped
Speaker 2: me plan it. So we literally like smoke bottbs of
Speaker 2: the girls on Sunday morning, set everything up at the
Speaker 2: hot spring.
Speaker 1: So we had the little dome and then they came
Speaker 1: in in their.
Speaker 2: Robes and then I was like surprise, and they read
Speaker 2: their letters and they all cried.
Speaker 1: It was beautiful. It was really nice.
Speaker 2: I feel like people don't talk about these moments, like
Speaker 2: when I was saying to you before, like you know,
Speaker 2: I've been proposed to by Michael, but I was like
Speaker 2: I never thought what I'd get to propose to someone,
Speaker 2: but I did. I got to propose my bridesmaids and
Speaker 2: my maid of honor. So it was very cute and
Speaker 2: like this. They took like thirty minutes to actually get
Speaker 2: to the Peninsula Hot Springs and to the dome, and
Speaker 2: like I was freaking out, like.
Speaker 1: I was sweating.
Speaker 2: I had like a what is it a sweaty apper lip,
Speaker 2: Like I was like a slu like. I was like,
Speaker 2: you know what I mean, I was waking out. I
Speaker 2: didn't get on one knee, but I got on my
Speaker 2: I just sat down and we all sat in a
Speaker 2: little circle. It's also going to be on my socials
Speaker 2: eventually excited to see. Yeah, it's cute. It's a very
Speaker 2: cute moment.
Speaker 1: But anyway, it was a big weekend for me.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you sound like you had a full on weekend.
Speaker 3: It was go go go. How was drinking on Saturday
Speaker 3: nights if you're hungover?
Speaker 1: You said, Oh, I was a little hungover.
Speaker 2: I I don't know, like some you know, when you
Speaker 2: just like get together with all of your friends and
Speaker 2: you're just like loving life. And we had a few
Speaker 2: wines me and says he shared like a bottle and
Speaker 2: then we were like do we get another bottle? And
Speaker 2: then Laura ended up coming and she came and helped
Speaker 2: us finish the next bottle, and I just got really
Speaker 2: drunk really quick, and I was like, whoa.
Speaker 3: It's so easy to escalate, isn't it. I remember I
Speaker 3: spoke last week he had any thought about dry July.
Speaker 2: You know what, I'm kind of into it, and like,
Speaker 2: to be fair, there's been a lot of interest on
Speaker 2: the Facebook page, on the where's your head at them?
Speaker 2: Facebook page, you guys are keen, and so I'm kind
Speaker 2: of like, well, fuck if everyone else is keen, I'm keen.
Speaker 3: I got sold by my family. They're like, yeah, go
Speaker 3: do it, but they're not going to donate to the end.
Speaker 3: They're like, we're not going to like donate at the
Speaker 3: start if we do a charity thing for it, if
Speaker 3: we raise money, and then like the going to reward you,
Speaker 3: yeah at the end for me just to pay fifty
Speaker 3: dollars to have a coffee out drinking night. They said,
Speaker 3: you've got to do it the whole time before we
Speaker 3: think about it.
Speaker 1: But I was like, I know you too well.
Speaker 3: Yeah, they know me too well. Like you said, when
Speaker 3: you're with your mates and you're with them, it just
Speaker 3: fucking escalates so quickly, doesn't it. Yeah, it's just so
Speaker 3: much fun social drinking.
Speaker 2: But do you know what though, I said to the girls.
Speaker 2: I was like, I'm like, don't get me any more drinks.
Speaker 2: I'm drunk, and then somehow I ended up with another drink.
Speaker 1: So I was like, technically, it's not my fut it's
Speaker 1: not your fault.
Speaker 3: Someone puts to drink in front of you. I'm a
Speaker 3: massive advocate for don't waste alcohol. I have these beers
Speaker 3: because I'm back at mums and they were been there
Speaker 3: since before I left, and they're like just about to expire.
Speaker 3: And I'm like, normal person, just like drinking what's thrown out.
Speaker 3: But I'm not trying to drink at the moment, So
Speaker 3: I'm trying to offload him to like all my sister's
Speaker 3: boyfriends and fiances, anyone that comes right, Hey, do you
Speaker 3: want to grab these fucking six fast gifting beers trying
Speaker 3: to get rid of because I'm like, the worst thing
Speaker 3: is there expire. That's the worst thing. I don't want
Speaker 3: alcohol to expire. I can't waste it.
Speaker 1: Why are you even an advocate for not wasting alcohol?
Speaker 3: Because it's alcohol. It's there for a reason. It's to
Speaker 3: be drunk.
Speaker 1: That's see, that's not the same mindset.
Speaker 3: Wow, on the weekend, I didn't touch a drop of alcohol.
Speaker 3: I had a very folesome weekend.
Speaker 1: Yes, you look better than you did last week.
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna lie fucking demons.
Speaker 1: That's smiling.
Speaker 2: He's a bit chipper, i am, But I'm still skipped
Speaker 2: into the studio.
Speaker 3: I still feel burnt out though. You know, my weekend
Speaker 3: consisted of like sleepings, walks, coffee, pasta, horror movies. I
Speaker 3: had the most wholesome, beautiful weekend That does.
Speaker 1: Sound blissful, but it was sound blissful.
Speaker 3: But yeah, I still feel a little bit burnt out.
Speaker 3: You know, when you're so relaxed you don't want to
Speaker 3: come back to life, to the podcast, to work, to everything.
Speaker 3: You're just like I just want to relax, you know
Speaker 3: what I mean. Yeah, So it was good weekend, you
Speaker 3: know what.
Speaker 1: I've been feeling burnt out too.
Speaker 2: And we had this conversation because I called Matt like
Speaker 2: just before we arrived at the podcast, and I was like, hey,
Speaker 2: are feeling Dane. He's like, I had a really relaxing weekend,
Speaker 2: very burnt out, and I was like.
Speaker 1: Same, Like why are we so burnt out?
Speaker 3: Just go, go go. I think my mind never relaxes
Speaker 3: as well. Like I noticed on the weekend, something I've
Speaker 3: brought up before is like I'm enjoying what I'm doing,
Speaker 3: but then it makes my mind go like fuck, this
Speaker 3: is going to end soon, do you know what I mean?
Speaker 3: Like just what I was doing, like watching movies and
Speaker 3: I'm like, fuck, this is going to end. I'm like,
Speaker 3: and then I get so stressed out in my own head.
Speaker 3: I'm like, fuck, this is gonna like and I don't
Speaker 3: enjoy the moment I'm in, do you know what I mean? Yeah,
Speaker 3: because I'm always thinking like this is going to end,
Speaker 3: like what's the time? And I've got to really work
Speaker 3: on that. Something I've got to work on.
Speaker 2: You can also do some meditation things that help you
Speaker 2: to be more present on YouTube.
Speaker 1: Just look them up. I think that would be really
Speaker 1: good for you.
Speaker 3: If anyone else has any tips, like fire and on
Speaker 3: our Facebook page or dm me privately, just so I know,
Speaker 3: because I'm really bad at bat. I think with it
Speaker 3: my whole life, to be honest. Just yeah, living in
Speaker 3: the moment.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's so hard, Like not a lot of people
Speaker 2: are living in the moment. I mean we I always
Speaker 2: talk about like you need three things in life that
Speaker 2: you're looking forward to to be happy.
Speaker 1: That's not exactly living in the moment.
Speaker 2: And yeah, I guess it's just about like making sure
Speaker 2: that your reality is a happy place and just like
Speaker 2: trying to just I mean, I'm in the moment right now,
Speaker 2: in the podcast, What.
Speaker 1: Are you thinking about? You think about your toasting that
Speaker 1: you're going to have after.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and then the next podcast are going to do
Speaker 3: and everything like that. I'm constantly thinking, I'm like, what
Speaker 3: am I doing when I get home? Like, yeah, it's
Speaker 3: just always stuff is always I'm alos thinking in the future,
Speaker 3: and I always forget to enjoy that moment that.
Speaker 1: We're in, celebrate the small winds that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I've got to learn. I keep saying I've got
Speaker 3: to learn, but I've I've definitely got to I've got
Speaker 3: to learn. I tried to. On the weekend. I went
Speaker 3: into I went for a walk around the local lake.
Speaker 3: I didn't have headphones on because I wanted to enjoy
Speaker 3: the moment and what I was doing. And then I
Speaker 3: got to the lake and I decided to go in, and.
Speaker 1: They saw that that looks really nice.
Speaker 3: It was, but even then I was still worried, like
Speaker 3: just thinking about everything else. I've just got to be
Speaker 3: so like mindful of my inner thoughts and where I'm at.
Speaker 2: But even when you're cold plunging into a lake, you're
Speaker 2: thinking about other shit.
Speaker 1: How I'm thinking about, like how freezing your body is.
Speaker 3: Well, it sort of distracted me from how cold I was,
Speaker 3: do you know what I mean? It sort of took
Speaker 3: away and I was sort of thinking about other things.
Speaker 3: But then again, you sort of want to like live
Speaker 3: in that moment, enjoy that freezing cold.
Speaker 2: Well, where are you up to with your ADHD and
Speaker 2: like getting diagnosed and all of that.
Speaker 3: Well, I'm pretty sure this has something to do with that,
Speaker 3: that not living in the moment. Thinking that, I'm like,
Speaker 3: I'm pretty sure it would. I have booked in to
Speaker 3: see the psychiatrist, so I'm amazing waiting it's in there.
Speaker 3: I don't know if anyone else is going through the
Speaker 3: same process as I am, but they're booked out like
Speaker 3: months in advance. Like, yeah, it's pretty bad. I've got
Speaker 3: a slot with someone canceled, so I'm in like five weeks,
Speaker 3: six weeks, I'm going in.
Speaker 1: That's a long time away.
Speaker 3: It's a very long time. So but I'm I mean,
Speaker 3: I'm educating myself at the same time, but I would
Speaker 3: like to still talk to someone, like, you know, and
Speaker 3: get the yeah, to get the clarity that I need
Speaker 3: and maybe medication if that's the right way to go.
Speaker 3: I've heard that the medication does switch off all those
Speaker 3: thoughts in your head that stop you from living in
Speaker 3: the moment and all the different I don't say voices
Speaker 3: because it's not really voices, but like it's like an
Speaker 3: orbit of different thoughts that you bounce between in your head.
Speaker 3: So apparently there's one that stops that. So I'm looking
Speaker 3: forward to trying that. Then again, like, do I really
Speaker 3: want to like this is what how I be for
Speaker 3: like twenty seven nearly twenty eight years? What will be
Speaker 3: twenty eight years when I get probably get it? So
Speaker 3: it's like, do I really want to not be me?
Speaker 2: Well, it'll still be you, You'll just feel maybe a bit
Speaker 2: more clarity.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: True, I mean it's it's totally like you. If you
Speaker 2: want to try it, try it and just see how
Speaker 2: you feel.
Speaker 3: That's a good point. So that's what my mum said.
Speaker 3: I mean, when the psychiatrists from the one of the
Speaker 3: shows I've casted for, she said, do I want to
Speaker 3: do an ADHD test on you? She's like, do you mind?
Speaker 3: I was like, well, I've lived, I've lived so long
Speaker 3: the way I am like, do I need to know? Like?
Speaker 3: Was that when I was like, I like, I don't know,
Speaker 3: but I'm happy to go and check it out and like,
Speaker 3: you know, get that clarity, like you.
Speaker 1: Said, yeah, absolutely.
Speaker 3: Do you have any recommendations for this week?
Speaker 2: Okay, So I'm a huge vander Pump rules watcher, Like
Speaker 2: I have loved this show since the moment it came out.
Speaker 1: It's a reality.
Speaker 3: Teacher, tell us more. What is it about?
Speaker 2: Based in America Lisa vander Pump who's on the Real Housewives.
Speaker 2: It's kind of like a spin off show from her restaurant, sir,
Speaker 2: And it's all about all of the weight stuff because
Speaker 2: they have crazy, manic, fucked up lives and they're all
Speaker 2: fucking each other's partners and it's nuts.
Speaker 1: Anyway, you can make.
Speaker 3: A TV show out anything. You might see some.
Speaker 1: Crazy to go.
Speaker 2: So anyway, there is a main character in this show
Speaker 2: called Tom Sandoval who has been in a relationship with
Speaker 2: a girl called Ariana for nine years. Anyway, he cheats
Speaker 2: on Ariana with her best friend. And the latest episode, Yeah,
Speaker 2: Drama Central, I'm sure you would have seen it online.
Speaker 2: It's gone like full blown viral this whole situation. They've
Speaker 2: called it scandalvole because his name is Sandoval, but they've
Speaker 2: kind of made it scanned scandal Scandalval. Anyway, the craziest
Speaker 2: episode of reality TV I've ever seen in my life
Speaker 2: is the most recent episode of Van Trump Rules. It's
Speaker 2: called Scandalval, and like, fuck, it's is so real. At
Speaker 2: one point, he's having like a full blown panic attack
Speaker 2: because he's like, fuck, what.
Speaker 3: Have I done?
Speaker 2: Like it's so it's just I was in awe of
Speaker 2: just the whole episode.
Speaker 1: It was crazy.
Speaker 2: And then they're so obviously he's been having an affair
Speaker 2: with her best friend, and he like goes to the
Speaker 2: best friend's house and like they start like saying they
Speaker 2: love each other, and it's just like what the fuck? Yeah,
Speaker 2: so the girl's best friends and they're telling each other
Speaker 2: they love each other.
Speaker 1: It's just so twisted and so fucked up.
Speaker 3: Is it up today? Or can you binge the whole thing?
Speaker 1: What do you mean?
Speaker 3: Like is it all out?
Speaker 2: So yeah, binge it all it's on? How you Holy fuck?
Speaker 2: It's like it's just fucked. Like it's so fucked it's
Speaker 2: so twisted to think someone could do that to you,
Speaker 2: Like Michael and I started getting anxious watching it. Michael's like,
Speaker 2: never fucking do this to me.
Speaker 1: Never fuck my best friend. I was like, you know
Speaker 1: fuck mine.
Speaker 2: Like it's just so true on so many levels because
Speaker 2: of the realness of it. So that's my recommendation. If
Speaker 2: you're a vand of Pumbrules fan, you know exactly what
Speaker 2: I'm talking about.
Speaker 3: Still real.
Speaker 1: Oh, it's it's very real.
Speaker 3: So it's not contrived, no, because I think that The
Speaker 3: Real Housewives or whatever it is is very contrived. When
Speaker 3: I watched it.
Speaker 2: It's very fucking real. Like they have the couple who
Speaker 2: he like cheated on her. They have a final conversation
Speaker 2: and like then he's having a meltdown because it's a
Speaker 2: final conversation. It's just like it's cooked. It's so cooked,
Speaker 2: and it just like it makes you just feel.
Speaker 1: Like, fuck, life is good because fuck imagine dealing with that.
Speaker 1: Just imagine.
Speaker 3: Yeah, well they put themselves in their own situation, so
Speaker 3: they've only got theirselves to blame.
Speaker 2: Yeah, But like he talks about how he turned forty
Speaker 2: and like just has like a kind of like midlife
Speaker 2: crisis somewhere and felt.
Speaker 1: Like she was washed up.
Speaker 2: Yeah, he was felt like he was washed up and
Speaker 2: felt like you know he isn't. You know, like every
Speaker 2: sleep with someone who is attracted to again and all
Speaker 2: of this shit and it's just like so interesting to
Speaker 2: hear about it because you're like, fuck, like, am I
Speaker 2: going to feel like that when I'm forty? Like is
Speaker 2: a forty a forty year? Like when you turn forty
Speaker 2: and you have a midlife crisis? Is shit going to
Speaker 2: hit the fan? Because like Michael's thirty four, I'm like,
Speaker 2: in six years time, Michael's going to be forty. In fuck,
Speaker 2: I hope he doesn't have a midlife crisis. And fuck's
Speaker 2: my best friend.
Speaker 3: I think you can trust your best friends and Michael
Speaker 3: that they're not going to do that. But yeah, that
Speaker 3: is worrying if you have like a midlife crisis. Hopefully
Speaker 3: mine is I just buy a Ferrari or something.
Speaker 1: You have the cash, Yeah, that way.
Speaker 3: Not go fuck around my wife's best friend. But I
Speaker 3: think that like, yeah, everyone has a little midlife crisis
Speaker 3: in their own way.
Speaker 2: I feel, oh yeah, and at different times people are
Speaker 2: having midlife crisis. Is at thirty now, because they hit
Speaker 2: thirty and they you know, they don't have a house
Speaker 2: and they don't have the car that they thought they'd have,
Speaker 2: and they don't have the kids or the husband and
Speaker 2: all of it, and people it's a thing now that
Speaker 2: people are talking about, like people are having midlife crisises
Speaker 2: in their thirties early thirties because they're just not where
Speaker 2: they thought they'd be. And I think it's just that
Speaker 2: evolution of like people who are doing things a lot
Speaker 2: later and then you know that's a whole another you're.
Speaker 3: Going to be booked in for your mid life crisis.
Speaker 1: Fuck. I mean I have them every second week.
Speaker 3: Hopefully we have the podcast so we can touch on it.
Speaker 3: We can watch it take Flace episode by episode, So definitely.
Speaker 1: Still have the podcast here for life.
Speaker 3: I we can see it like episode by episode and
Speaker 3: it's just break down mid life. You dog very entertaining,
Speaker 3: very entertaining that I think.
Speaker 2: This is our own, very own reality.
Speaker 3: Well, my recommendation is watching something as well. So well,
Speaker 3: let's be honest. I actually had a mental blank before
Speaker 3: we came into tonight.
Speaker 1: Said what is it?
Speaker 3: I should always run down but I forget. But I
Speaker 3: have one as well. It's not the actual one that
Speaker 3: I have, So if I remember, I'll do something with it.
Speaker 3: I'll track it on the Facebook page. But I think
Speaker 3: that we're in like winter now, like we said, I
Speaker 3: had a wholesome weekend. If you guys want some encouragement
Speaker 3: to do it. I don't know, are you a fan
Speaker 3: of The Fast and Furious Is?
Speaker 1: I actually don't mind them, to be honest.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I think that everyone that says they're ridiculous
Speaker 3: they just don't get it.
Speaker 1: They don't get it.
Speaker 3: They don't get it, they don't get it what they're
Speaker 3: trying to do. They're meant to be ridiculous, Like, yes
Speaker 3: they go to space, Yes, they fall out of aeroplanes
Speaker 3: with their car, like it's meant to be ridiculous. Yeah,
Speaker 3: And it's some good watching. It's good you just said
Speaker 3: that reality show like just like nonsense watching just in
Speaker 3: the background, just to like, you know, while you're on
Speaker 3: your phone. And I think that that can encourage you
Speaker 3: to stay in and you know and save some money
Speaker 3: in this winter and watch them. The new one came out.
Speaker 3: I watched it last week, gave it an eight out
Speaker 3: of ten, love it.
Speaker 1: You know what. I actually find them quite entertaining, to
Speaker 1: be honest.
Speaker 2: I mean it's fast moving, it's very you know, fast shape,
Speaker 2: and there's always something going on.
Speaker 3: A good great car, great cast, A new one has
Speaker 3: an awesome cast. Yeah, So like it's good Jason Statham,
Speaker 3: he's like my favorite.
Speaker 1: Love it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so that's my recommendation. Should go watch that, or
Speaker 3: watch it from the start and then watch past X
Speaker 3: and tell me what you think.
Speaker 1: Great recommendation.
Speaker 3: Let's jump for im on the spot. I remember it,
Speaker 3: don't worry, I'll come to me.
Speaker 1: Oh that's not your real life.
Speaker 3: I just remember I had a mental don't you just
Speaker 3: remembered it? That was true, But I have got to
Speaker 3: write him down when I remember him the fuck.
Speaker 1: Guys, don't worry.
Speaker 2: Next week you'll get to from that hold in its pressure.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 2: On that note, let's jump into our hot line.
Speaker 1: Hello, you've reached Anna and Nutt.
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Speaker 2: Please leave us a message on our hot line after
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Speaker 3: Okay, so this hot line is anonymous.
Speaker 1: Mistremous.
Speaker 4: Hey, guys, I'm just going to keep it short and sweet.
Speaker 4: Around twenty seventeen, I was in a relationship with this
Speaker 4: guy for about a year and then I was randomly
Speaker 4: just at home. He wasn't with me, but I had
Speaker 4: this like I guess it got feeling and I just
Speaker 4: thought he just doesn't seem right. He wasn't really acting
Speaker 4: that weird or anything. But I just had a feeling.
Speaker 4: I was scrolling on Facebook and this girl's photo came up.
Speaker 4: It was just a selfie, it was nothing, nothing special,
Speaker 4: and this gut feeling just grew and grew. I felt
Speaker 4: sick looking at her photo, and I thought, huh, I
Speaker 4: got a message this girl. So I messaged her and
Speaker 4: I said, Hi, I was just wondering if so and
Speaker 4: so has been in contact with Hugh, is there anything
Speaker 4: I need to know? And she replied and she said, hey, yeah,
Speaker 4: he's been messaging me. I wanted to tell you, but
Speaker 4: he told me that you guys had broken up, so
Speaker 4: I didn't think it was my place. Da da da
Speaker 4: da dah. We hadn't broken up. We were still very
Speaker 4: much together a year on. This was a girl that
Speaker 4: he had been with in the past before he had
Speaker 4: met me, and for some reason, I just got this
Speaker 4: sick feeling.
Speaker 1: Looking at her photo.
Speaker 4: Beautiful girl, but I just it was just my gut
Speaker 4: telling me he's being unfaithful, he's being unloyal. And yeah,
Speaker 4: it turns out he was messaging her asking her to
Speaker 4: go to his place.
Speaker 1: And have sex, asking for nudes.
Speaker 4: And after I found this out, the FBI came out
Speaker 4: in me, and I then found out lots and lots
Speaker 4: and lots more all these other girls that he had
Speaker 4: messaged and asked for photos and invited over. Whether or
Speaker 4: not he had them over, I can't even confirm. I
Speaker 4: then found out that there was actually men as well
Speaker 4: that he had been with while he was with me.
Speaker 4: I did not know that he was bisexual. Yeah, so
Speaker 4: there was a few shocks for me. But anyways, it's
Speaker 4: now twenty twenty six. I'm happily married with the baby.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so.
Speaker 4: That's my story. I guess follow you got girls, If
Speaker 4: you have an intuition and you have a feeling follower,
Speaker 4: it's always right.
Speaker 1: Fuck. I love that. So true.
Speaker 3: Well, it's a good thing. We'll start off by saying
Speaker 3: for people out there that do get heartbroken, that it
Speaker 3: all works out in the end and there's a happy ending.
Speaker 1: So nice to know that she's married with baby. It's
Speaker 1: just so cute that seventeen.
Speaker 3: It feels like yesterday, But it was.
Speaker 1: I feel like yesterday I was thinking what was I
Speaker 1: doing into that?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I had I had that thought the other day,
Speaker 3: like the last five years have gone that's not but
Speaker 3: the last five years have gone so quickly.
Speaker 1: Yeah, they really have.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so it's a happy ending for her. But now
Speaker 3: it makes sense because I was like, what, just a
Speaker 3: random girl that she found intuition, But obviously if he
Speaker 3: had already slept with her, that's why she was.
Speaker 2: You reckon that he had liked it, and that's what
Speaker 2: kind of made her go, I'm going to message this girl.
Speaker 3: Probably Yeah, I reckon.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean it's just so straight, like I don't
Speaker 2: know what it is, but it's just like such a deep,
Speaker 2: like sinking feeling that you get. And I don't know,
Speaker 2: do you get to men get women's de men's get
Speaker 2: do men get men's intuition?
Speaker 3: I don't think, Okay, I don't think. We look at
Speaker 3: a photo and we think the same way. I don't know,
Speaker 3: like I would never think.
Speaker 1: Like that, Yeah, I definitely.
Speaker 3: Yeah, my mind would never go that way.
Speaker 2: Do you ever get like a sinking gut feeling that's
Speaker 2: like gut wrenching and you're just like something's wrong.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm trying to think of an example of when
Speaker 3: I feel like I have before. Yeah, yeah, but never.
Speaker 2: It's just like such a strong, overwhelming feeling and you're
Speaker 2: just that before one hundred percent when I got cheated
Speaker 2: on six times since seven.
Speaker 3: Days loyal Remember this story when my.
Speaker 2: Ex boyfriend fucked off to throw some parties in schoolies.
Speaker 1: Yes, I had that feeling.
Speaker 2: And he even called me every night and I still
Speaker 2: had the feeling, and I was like, what is wrong
Speaker 2: with me? Like, he's such a he's such a good
Speaker 2: loyal boy calling me before bed. Now I know for
Speaker 2: sure that he's not saying with people. Meanwhile, he just
Speaker 2: left them in the room and then went outside to
Speaker 2: make the phone call.
Speaker 3: Dog men, are just that I said something swear word.
Speaker 3: Hopefully it's beped.
Speaker 2: Out, no, but it's you know what. It kind of
Speaker 2: takes me back to what we were just talking about
Speaker 2: before with vander Pump Rules, where Tom Sandoval cheated on
Speaker 2: his long term partner.
Speaker 1: That was not the first time he cheated. It's like
Speaker 1: once they.
Speaker 2: Do it, once they get confident, they get comfortable, and
Speaker 2: they start doing it again.
Speaker 1: It's fucked up.
Speaker 3: Does she get a women's intuition.
Speaker 2: Or he came in she got it women's intuition? Yeah,
Speaker 2: she someone handed This is how it came out. So
Speaker 2: someone he was performing on stage, someone his phone fell
Speaker 2: out of his pocket. Someone handed her the phone and
Speaker 2: she just got a really bad gut feeling and went
Speaker 2: through his camera roll and found like a screen recording.
Speaker 1: Ah, women's intuition.
Speaker 3: Well, so she found out as well that he had
Speaker 3: been sleeping with guys at the same time, so she
Speaker 3: was like, not safe with anything, guys or girls. He
Speaker 3: was just going to cheat on.
Speaker 1: Her regardless of her.
Speaker 2: That's so stressful, Like I just it just like hearing
Speaker 2: women go through these types of situations. It's just like
Speaker 2: the trauma that I just know that comes from these
Speaker 2: types of situations.
Speaker 1: It's just stressful.
Speaker 2: And I think sometimes, as bad as it is, we
Speaker 2: almost need to go through these really shitty men so
Speaker 2: that when a good guy comes up, you're just like,
Speaker 2: oh my god, I appreciate you so much, Whereas like
Speaker 2: if you've not been through a shitty guy, you don't
Speaker 2: appreciate the good ones because you're just like, yeah, they're
Speaker 2: all like this, but really.
Speaker 3: Matt's time for Matt's motivational quote now on that life
Speaker 3: is like a glow stick. You don't glow into a break. No.
Speaker 3: I actually I said it the other day and nailed
Speaker 3: it at an event. Everyone loved it. Our friend of
Speaker 3: the podcast love that he used to was with him?
Speaker 3: What was it that again?
Speaker 1: Ready, let's go, guys, We're going to take two.
Speaker 3: How does it go?
Speaker 1: Take a pause.
Speaker 3: You're like a glow stick. You don't glow until you break.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, that's good.
Speaker 3: I think that's what it is.
Speaker 1: Okay, three, two, one go.
Speaker 3: You're like a glow stick. You don't glow until you break. No,
Speaker 3: you need to break fat so you can glow. You
Speaker 3: get the gist of what I'm trying to say. Do
Speaker 3: you remember putting glow sticks in the freezer to try
Speaker 3: and make them last longer? I thought that they were
Speaker 3: going to break again and then the cloak never works.
Speaker 3: Guyss kids like after a glowstick night, we put them
Speaker 3: in the freezer and the freezer be stacked for the
Speaker 3: glow sticks. That but you get what I'm trying to
Speaker 3: get what you're.
Speaker 2: Trying to say, And it's true, you need to break
Speaker 2: so that you can glow and appreciate the good guys.
Speaker 3: Yes, so she did and now she's happily married with kids.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry you had to go through that.
Speaker 3: Our next hotline is anonymous, another anonymous.
Speaker 5: Hey man, and I just need a little bit of
Speaker 5: advice on how to deal with my current situation.
Speaker 1: So I was with.
Speaker 5: My partner at the time for almost three years. We
Speaker 5: broke up, probably around two to three weeks ago or so,
Speaker 5: and the reason being was because my now ex partner has.
Speaker 1: Accused me of cheating.
Speaker 5: So the story behind that is that we broke up
Speaker 5: towards the end of last year, and after a little
Speaker 5: while that we had been broken up, I had slept
Speaker 5: with another person and that sort of thing, and then
Speaker 5: him and I were hanging out. I said to him,
Speaker 5: just because we're hanging out doesn't mean we're getting back together,
Speaker 5: and that sort of thing. And then I.
Speaker 1: Think a few.
Speaker 5: Days, I would say, maybe three or four days later,
Speaker 5: I'd slept with someone. And then next thing, you know,
Speaker 5: probably about a week or so later, him and I
Speaker 5: were actually getting back on track and we were going
Speaker 5: to get back together. But I didn't want to just
Speaker 5: let him into to think that he could walk all
Speaker 5: over me basically and come and go as you pleased.
Speaker 5: I was straight up and honest with him, told him
Speaker 5: everything about it. But for some reason, three months or
Speaker 5: so after i'd spoken to him, that's when he's now
Speaker 5: saying that I cheated and everything like that, and I'm
Speaker 5: just a little bit confused as to why I understand
Speaker 5: the situation was pretty shitty on my behalf, but I
Speaker 5: was under the impression that he understood that because we
Speaker 5: were hanging out, we weren't getting back together. And then
Speaker 5: now two or three weeks on from when we've broken up,
Speaker 5: he's now talking to another girl and seeing her basically,
Speaker 5: and I'm just there sitting there thinking did three and
Speaker 5: a half years mean nothing to you? Or how long
Speaker 5: have you been thinking about breaking up with me?
Speaker 1: Sort of thing?
Speaker 5: And I was just looking for a little bit of
Speaker 5: advice on how to how to go about it and
Speaker 5: get over it in a sense, and also how to
Speaker 5: kind of deal with being in the same workplace as
Speaker 5: him basically, so with work, we don't actually see each other,
Speaker 5: but I'm hearing a fair bit of stuff that he's
Speaker 5: been saying through other.
Speaker 1: Colleagues, and that's shitty. It's just really disheartening.
Speaker 5: The fact that he feels like he can actually speak
Speaker 5: about me the way he has been and it's just
Speaker 5: as fucked to be completely honest. So yeah, sorry for
Speaker 5: the long one. Any advice you guys have would be
Speaker 5: much appreciated.
Speaker 1: Love you, guys. Thinks love you.
Speaker 2: I'm so sorry you're going through such a hard time
Speaker 2: at the moment.
Speaker 3: First of all, she was very transparent and honest with him,
Speaker 3: So I don't think there's it was cheating for say.
Speaker 2: I mean, if you're not together with someone, you have
Speaker 2: to expect that they are hooking up with other people,
Speaker 2: even if you were in a relationship at one point.
Speaker 2: If you're both now single, you can't hold them to
Speaker 2: a standard.
Speaker 1: And I guess it's.
Speaker 2: Until the moment where you're officially together. It's like bets
Speaker 2: her off. If you don't want them to be cooking
Speaker 2: up with someone else, you need to make it official
Speaker 2: with them.
Speaker 3: What happens if you have it official like an exclusive.
Speaker 2: Chat or in a relationship dipitation.
Speaker 3: So if he'd said, like he doesn't expect her to
Speaker 3: sleep with anyone in that time, then I think that
Speaker 3: she shouldn't. But she said that she wasn't. She said
Speaker 3: that they weren't together, So yeah, I think that she
Speaker 3: has nothing wrong there, do you know what, I think?
Speaker 1: Hurt people hurt people. That's just a fact of life.
Speaker 2: So he feels like in his mind, he's feeling really
Speaker 2: betrayed and really hurt. So he's almost how it feels
Speaker 2: is that he's trying to get back at her by
Speaker 2: openly seeing someone else, Like she obviously knows about this person,
Speaker 2: and he knows that that's going to hurt her because
Speaker 2: they clearly have a strong enough bond to keep getting
Speaker 2: back together. And I think the talking about her in
Speaker 2: the office, it's like very immature and very low emotional maturity,
Speaker 2: but also it sounds like he's doing it again to
Speaker 2: hurt her, he's to get back at her.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think that he should grow up and not
Speaker 3: talk of shit about your ex to people, like especially
Speaker 3: people that he can get back to him and that
Speaker 3: Like I know that we we don't talk shit on here,
Speaker 3: but we tell stories about our exs and that. But
Speaker 3: like I don't think that like talking shit to people
Speaker 3: openly like try. Yeah, that's just not on. That's just mature.
Speaker 2: If I was her, I just send him a very
Speaker 2: clear message setting a boundary saying you.
Speaker 3: Want to get back with him now or not.
Speaker 2: But I think she should, regardless of that, send him
Speaker 2: a message saying, hey, it's getting back to me that
Speaker 2: you're talking about our relationship and what's happened.
Speaker 1: This is.
Speaker 2: No, this is really inappropriate, and I would really appreciate
Speaker 2: it if you would stop stop talking about me.
Speaker 1: Thanks.
Speaker 2: I would just be like very cold, but also like
Speaker 2: set a boundary with him, just so he knows, like
Speaker 2: this isn't acceptable. I don't appreciate this, and it's affecting
Speaker 2: my place of work.
Speaker 3: I'm not saying this is the right thing. Does she
Speaker 3: fight toxic with toxic? Like?
Speaker 1: Nah? No?
Speaker 2: I mean like just I mean, yes, what you were
Speaker 2: telling her to go with someone who knows?
Speaker 3: No? No, no, just maybe she just starts rumors like
Speaker 3: old mate has isn't well down hard. I know, I'm
Speaker 3: taking the fierce, I'm taking a piss. Never do that.
Speaker 3: So what was I gonna say? Rise above it? Totally
Speaker 3: rise above it.
Speaker 1: There's nothing hotter than someone who looks like they're moving on.
Speaker 1: And then like if she's getting.
Speaker 2: Bothered by it, that's gonna like it's going to give
Speaker 2: him the serotonin that he needs to keep doing what exactly?
Speaker 3: Just rise above it? I say that all the time.
Speaker 3: Just be a bitger person than you know, you're better,
Speaker 3: know your worth and know that you it's not like
Speaker 3: it's water off your back.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I know how she feels though, when she's like,
Speaker 2: just three years mean nothing to you, Like we've been
Speaker 2: through so much.
Speaker 3: But but then again, didn't she sleep with so after
Speaker 3: they broke off black real quickly, So wouldn't he say
Speaker 3: the same thing?
Speaker 2: So he probably feels how she feels, like, didn't did
Speaker 2: use me nothing to you?
Speaker 3: Yeah, but then again they were broken up, he's not.
Speaker 3: She wasn't seeing them, but I don't know.
Speaker 2: Yeah, like you have to see it from like how
Speaker 2: each angle would see it, Like he's probably hurting and
Speaker 2: so then he's like trying to hurt her and vice versa.
Speaker 2: She's like, well, we weren't together, but now you're kind
Speaker 2: of like seeing someone very quickly. So it's a difficult
Speaker 2: situation to navigate. I don't It doesn't sound like she
Speaker 2: wants to get back together with him. It sounds like
Speaker 2: she wants to move on. So if that's the case,
Speaker 2: set some clear boundaries with him and just live your
Speaker 2: best life. You know what the best piece of breakup
Speaker 2: advice is is to just live your best life, Like
Speaker 2: go to the gym, go meet people and friends and
Speaker 2: do fun things and just look like you're having a
Speaker 2: good time and actually have a good time and make.
Speaker 1: Him go why is she so happy? There's nothing.
Speaker 2: So when you break up with someone and they look
Speaker 2: like they're having a good time and you're sitting at
Speaker 2: home crying and you're like, fuck you, why am I
Speaker 2: sitting here miserable and you look like you're having a
Speaker 2: swell time, it's annoying as fuck.
Speaker 1: So that's my advice. Just go have a good time.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and don't again, don't actually talk about him. That's
Speaker 3: low frequency, that's slow value sort of stuff. Like you said,
Speaker 3: go have a good time, make him jealous that he
Speaker 3: ever left, or that he's not trying to get back
Speaker 3: with you and he's found someone else and.
Speaker 1: In the meantime someone else.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
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Speaker 2: so we know.
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