WEBVTT - "My Ex is Accusing Me of Cheating - HELP!" || HOTLINE 0:00:05.800 --> 0:00:07.360 Welcome back to the Where's Your Head At? 0:00:07.360 --> 0:00:10.280 Hotline, our weekly show where we catch up with each 0:00:10.320 --> 0:00:11.480 other and connect with. 0:00:11.480 --> 0:00:13.520 You all on our hotline voicemail. 0:00:13.680 --> 0:00:15.560 We want to hear from you, guys, so please send 0:00:15.600 --> 0:00:18.840 your stories, questions, advice or tea to Where's Your head 0:00:18.840 --> 0:00:21.520 at pod at gmail dot com to be featured on 0:00:21.520 --> 0:00:23.800 one of our episodes. I'm Anna and I'm Matt. 0:00:24.200 --> 0:00:25.000 Let's jump in. 0:00:27.160 --> 0:00:31.960 Good morning Anna, Good morning. 0:00:32.240 --> 0:00:35.600 Back in the studio. It is freezing in Melbourne today. 0:00:35.720 --> 0:00:37.720 It is very cold. It was a very cold weekend 0:00:37.760 --> 0:00:40.400 to be honest, Yeah, here I am in my shirt. 0:00:40.560 --> 0:00:42.720 I don't know how you're doing that at all. 0:00:42.920 --> 0:00:45.199 I run hot, I run hot. I put up a 0:00:45.200 --> 0:00:46.879 story on the weekend because I was like, am I 0:00:46.920 --> 0:00:49.120 the only person that has a fan on while they're 0:00:49.120 --> 0:00:50.680 like sleeping in the mids of winter? 0:00:51.120 --> 0:00:51.400 Yeah. 0:00:51.479 --> 0:00:54.360 I've heard it's actually good for your anxiety to sleep 0:00:54.440 --> 0:00:57.760 in cold. So maybe it's like subconsciously you're like, I'm 0:00:57.760 --> 0:00:59.480 so anxious, so I need the cold. 0:00:59.560 --> 0:01:01.160 I think my mom said that she was so worried 0:01:01.200 --> 0:01:03.200 about me being overheating when I was a baby. She 0:01:03.280 --> 0:01:05.759 used to have me like really cold in like the crib, 0:01:05.880 --> 0:01:07.399 so I think that's what I'm used to when I sleep. 0:01:07.440 --> 0:01:10.440 Now, now you just freeze yourself today. 0:01:10.520 --> 0:01:12.480 I love freezing when I sleep. I love it. It 0:01:12.480 --> 0:01:14.000 makes me fall asleep like straight away. 0:01:14.480 --> 0:01:19.160 Yeah, it is nice. Do I look hotder today? 0:01:19.600 --> 0:01:22.120 I don't mind the denim on denim? But no, I didn't. 0:01:22.160 --> 0:01:22.959 Why what did you do? 0:01:24.560 --> 0:01:26.640 Matt just gave me the stranger's look. 0:01:26.880 --> 0:01:30.160 No, I'm ovulating, And apparently on the day that you ovulate, 0:01:31.040 --> 0:01:33.480 the flow app basically told me I'm ovulating. And on 0:01:33.560 --> 0:01:35.759 the day that you ovulate, you're meant to look hotter 0:01:35.800 --> 0:01:37.559 because you're meant to attract people. 0:01:37.640 --> 0:01:43.000 Put the pheromones out there. Yeah. I wasn't sniffing at pheromones. Sorry, 0:01:43.080 --> 0:01:46.520 and I didn't smell anything, but sure pheromones. 0:01:46.560 --> 0:01:49.320 I'm just saying visually, because apparently visually you do. 0:01:50.320 --> 0:01:53.120 Sure. Yeah. What did Michael say when you woke up? Did? 0:01:53.320 --> 0:01:54.200 I'm sure? He said? Yeah? 0:01:54.760 --> 0:02:00.440 He was like, fuck, yeah, you look way hotter. Results 0:02:00.480 --> 0:02:01.800 from Matt from that, So that's. 0:02:01.680 --> 0:02:04.760 How science works. It works. It's true. 0:02:05.200 --> 0:02:08.639 Interestingly, it's a year until I get married. 0:02:09.200 --> 0:02:11.639 That's very exciting. Believe that said that before and we're 0:02:11.639 --> 0:02:13.919 going to be in hot Greece right now in a 0:02:14.000 --> 0:02:17.760 year in Europe, I'm excited for that. 0:02:18.120 --> 0:02:18.560 Yeah, I know. 0:02:18.919 --> 0:02:22.680 And also I think flights come out like one year before, 0:02:22.840 --> 0:02:25.560 so I think flights to Europe are officially on sale 0:02:25.639 --> 0:02:29.160 for that time. So yeah, you start looking, I think 0:02:29.160 --> 0:02:32.360 we should. I haven't even put out wedding invites. I realized, like, 0:02:32.720 --> 0:02:34.840 because I talk about the wedding with like my close 0:02:34.880 --> 0:02:37.640 friends and family, they all kind of know that they're coming. 0:02:37.880 --> 0:02:40.840 They're going to be some people when the invites come out. 0:02:41.000 --> 0:02:44.760 Yes, So people have been like talking to me about like, oh, 0:02:44.800 --> 0:02:46.959 I need to like start booking my flights to Greece, 0:02:47.040 --> 0:02:51.280 and I'm like, holy shit, they're not invited. And then 0:02:51.280 --> 0:02:53.360 it's awkward if someone said that to me and then 0:02:53.400 --> 0:02:55.639 I actually don't invite them. So then I'm like, fuck, 0:02:55.680 --> 0:02:56.880 am I just going to end up with like a 0:02:56.919 --> 0:02:57.840 wedding of one hundred? 0:02:58.160 --> 0:02:58.440 You know? 0:02:58.520 --> 0:03:01.080 It's my dream to have like fifty people max at 0:03:01.080 --> 0:03:01.560 my wedding. 0:03:01.720 --> 0:03:03.480 I remember I was there with someone and I'm pretty 0:03:03.520 --> 0:03:05.480 sure they said they can't wait, and I was just like, oh, 0:03:05.520 --> 0:03:06.280 I don't think you're right. 0:03:09.440 --> 0:03:10.560 It's so awkward. 0:03:10.639 --> 0:03:13.959 So like maybe it's good that we're talking about this now, 0:03:14.320 --> 0:03:16.239 so no one gets. 0:03:16.000 --> 0:03:21.240 Their hopes hopes even if you're an engagement party, why 0:03:21.280 --> 0:03:21.960 not getting. 0:03:21.680 --> 0:03:23.880 In that's the idea of having a big engagement party, 0:03:23.919 --> 0:03:25.239 so then you have a smaller wedding. 0:03:25.400 --> 0:03:26.799 Well that was why we had it. 0:03:26.919 --> 0:03:30.120 People were literally when I had a big engagement party, 0:03:30.360 --> 0:03:32.200 people were saying to me like they thought it was 0:03:32.200 --> 0:03:34.520 a surprise wedding, and I was like, no, it's literally 0:03:34.560 --> 0:03:35.520 for the reason you just said. 0:03:35.520 --> 0:03:37.840 It's because I don't want to have a big wedding. 0:03:37.920 --> 0:03:41.600 So I'm like, let's celebrate with everyone, like even for me, 0:03:41.880 --> 0:03:45.400 Like it's literally going to be my four best friends, 0:03:45.960 --> 0:03:48.440 a few other friends and that's it. Like I'm not 0:03:48.600 --> 0:03:50.800 I'm not going out of my way to invite everyone 0:03:50.840 --> 0:03:55.120 who have been friends with So basically you're copying it in. 0:03:54.640 --> 0:03:59.560 You'd assume, so you're assumed. So it's like on the one, O, yes, 0:03:59.640 --> 0:04:01.680 I I'll see it. That's fine. 0:04:02.480 --> 0:04:05.440 Do you want to the wedding should do? You know what, 0:04:05.880 --> 0:04:07.920 there's been a few people who have asked to be 0:04:07.960 --> 0:04:11.600 the MC, who to MC yours my wedding? 0:04:11.720 --> 0:04:13.920 Who would even be in the conversation. 0:04:13.640 --> 0:04:16.520 Like there's been a few like my you're just saying this, 0:04:16.560 --> 0:04:19.159 So I pitched my argument a bit better. 0:04:19.240 --> 0:04:22.839 But I think it's nanimous. I think it's pretty old. 0:04:22.880 --> 0:04:25.240 I mean, if you want to give me like maybe 0:04:25.240 --> 0:04:25.760 you can do. 0:04:25.839 --> 0:04:28.560 Like a I'm not going to use my material. I'm 0:04:28.560 --> 0:04:30.480 going to save it, but you can get the idea. 0:04:30.600 --> 0:04:32.640 Maybe you can do an audition on the podcast to 0:04:32.720 --> 0:04:34.720 be to be the em of my wedding. 0:04:35.120 --> 0:04:37.240 All right, all right, but I don't want to use 0:04:37.240 --> 0:04:37.839 my material. 0:04:38.600 --> 0:04:40.080 Do you already have pre play? 0:04:40.200 --> 0:04:41.640 Well no I haven't, but I don't want to waste 0:04:41.680 --> 0:04:43.720 it now on the podcast, Like you know what I mean? 0:04:43.760 --> 0:04:45.360 I want to not waste but I want to don't 0:04:45.360 --> 0:04:47.120 want to use I'll use it on the night. Yeah, 0:04:47.120 --> 0:04:48.000 I don't want to crack. 0:04:47.839 --> 0:04:50.840 The last Now he's saving us. 0:04:51.640 --> 0:04:54.000 We can play it afterwards on the podcast for sure, 0:04:54.200 --> 0:04:56.479 but do you know what I mean, I'm gonna save it. 0:04:56.520 --> 0:04:59.559 We Speaking of the wedding, I actually took my best 0:04:59.560 --> 0:05:02.760 friends away on the weekend. We went down to Sorrento, 0:05:02.960 --> 0:05:05.640 and I asked them all to be my maids of honor? 0:05:05.960 --> 0:05:07.200 Did you not maids of honor? 0:05:07.240 --> 0:05:09.280 I asked them all to be my bridesmaids, and. 0:05:09.279 --> 0:05:11.000 My maid of honor how'd you go about that? 0:05:12.200 --> 0:05:17.039 So I wanted to make it sentimental. You appreciate a 0:05:17.080 --> 0:05:20.320 good sentimental gesture it and I wanted to make it 0:05:20.400 --> 0:05:25.480 very sentimental. So I wrote them all a hand written letter. Look, 0:05:25.839 --> 0:05:27.479 I thought it was like. I was like, this is 0:05:27.520 --> 0:05:28.040 so sweet. 0:05:28.560 --> 0:05:29.039 You know what. 0:05:29.240 --> 0:05:32.239 I don't write anymore with my hand, like I type 0:05:33.880 --> 0:05:37.240 with my fingers, like I'm not taking pen to paper anymore. 0:05:37.560 --> 0:05:41.120 And like after writing one letter, my hand was cooked. 0:05:41.160 --> 0:05:44.040 I had to write them days apart because my hand 0:05:44.120 --> 0:05:45.479 was like cramping. 0:05:45.040 --> 0:05:46.839 Up to try and make them long as well, so 0:05:46.880 --> 0:05:49.239 they fit a whole page absolutely. Yeah. So I remember 0:05:49.240 --> 0:05:50.880 when I wrote letters to Jen when she went away, 0:05:50.920 --> 0:05:52.600 so she read one each night and I let wait 0:05:52.640 --> 0:05:55.839 to a lot. Yeah, when she was like doing the trail, 0:05:56.040 --> 0:05:57.720 so she had no phone or nothing so she could 0:05:57.720 --> 0:06:00.680 read them. I remember I started on like the last 0:06:00.760 --> 0:06:03.160 night before she left. And it's so hard, like you said, 0:06:03.200 --> 0:06:05.080 and I wanted to make whole pages worth so they 0:06:05.880 --> 0:06:09.880 they looked. I was like, oh my god, it's not 0:06:09.880 --> 0:06:10.800 as easy as you think. 0:06:11.080 --> 0:06:13.960 My handwriting by letter four was just it was not 0:06:14.040 --> 0:06:14.920 as good as. 0:06:14.960 --> 0:06:17.720 Like letter one. My handwriting was on point. I was like, 0:06:17.839 --> 0:06:20.960 I have great penmanship. By the end of it, I 0:06:21.080 --> 0:06:23.000 was like trying to write it as quickly as I 0:06:23.080 --> 0:06:26.359 can to get rid of Yeah, I joined my letters, dear. 0:06:27.400 --> 0:06:30.279 I got my joining license. I've got that. Don't worry, 0:06:30.279 --> 0:06:32.600 but I don't. I don't use it. I don't use it. 0:06:32.680 --> 0:06:34.480 That's so funny, you know what. 0:06:34.520 --> 0:06:38.159 That's an Australian thing because I went to like primary 0:06:38.200 --> 0:06:40.320 school in the UK and we didn't have that. And 0:06:40.360 --> 0:06:43.640 then I came to Australia when I was in year seven, 0:06:43.720 --> 0:06:46.800 I think, and everyone's talking about this joining license and 0:06:46.839 --> 0:06:51.039 I'm like, what the fuck I'm unlicensed around She was like, the. 0:06:51.040 --> 0:06:53.600 Teacher didn't pull you up, see your drivers, Like what. 0:06:53.560 --> 0:06:55.520 Do you do? You like, whip it out if they're 0:06:55.560 --> 0:06:56.160 like I. 0:06:56.120 --> 0:06:59.160 Can't remember, but I remember you stayed back like lunchtime 0:06:59.200 --> 0:07:00.960 and you had to write something for your teacher, and 0:07:01.000 --> 0:07:03.159 then you got your pen license that was first, and 0:07:03.200 --> 0:07:04.880 then your joining license was next. 0:07:04.920 --> 0:07:06.920 It's like your driver's license for children. 0:07:08.200 --> 0:07:09.560 Yeah, it was fucked. 0:07:11.240 --> 0:07:14.240 Wild, but anyway, I wrote them all the letter, and 0:07:14.280 --> 0:07:17.400 then I also made them each like a photo book 0:07:17.440 --> 0:07:21.400 of all of our favorite memories together. And then I 0:07:21.440 --> 0:07:25.640 got them each a nine carrot gold diamond necklace because 0:07:25.640 --> 0:07:28.200 I was like, it felt like I was proposing. I 0:07:28.240 --> 0:07:30.200 was like, this is the only time I'm going to propose, 0:07:30.280 --> 0:07:32.400 Like I want to propose with a diamond, Like I 0:07:32.480 --> 0:07:33.920 was proposed to with a diamond. 0:07:34.440 --> 0:07:35.920 I want to propose with the diamond. 0:07:36.000 --> 0:07:39.160 So they each got like a really dainty, tiny little 0:07:39.320 --> 0:07:43.840 diamond necklace and it was very cute. So initially I 0:07:43.960 --> 0:07:46.040 was like, so I had the four bags and I 0:07:46.080 --> 0:07:47.560 was like, how the fuck am I going to do this? 0:07:47.600 --> 0:07:50.760 I took them all to Sorrento, and then I was 0:07:51.000 --> 0:07:52.920 My plan was to do it at the Peninsula Hot 0:07:52.960 --> 0:07:56.679 Springs because we had like a cute little dome, which 0:07:57.200 --> 0:07:58.840 if you go to the Hot Springs, get a dome. 0:07:58.880 --> 0:07:59.920 It's so nice. 0:08:00.160 --> 0:08:02.600 It was like I need to go there for a while. 0:08:02.680 --> 0:08:04.920 Yeah, it's such a vibe. It's just chill. 0:08:05.080 --> 0:08:07.280 It's like I feel like you're doing something good for 0:08:07.320 --> 0:08:10.840 your health, especially after Saturday night drinking. Going to the 0:08:10.840 --> 0:08:13.480 Peninsula Hot Springs, my hangover was gone like in about 0:08:13.520 --> 0:08:16.080 ten seconds because I jumped in a cold pool and 0:08:16.200 --> 0:08:21.120 was like just like scared me into like soberness. But anyway, Sarah, 0:08:21.280 --> 0:08:24.320 my friend, picked me up. We went to a hunter's market. 0:08:24.320 --> 0:08:26.480 I did a hunter's market because I've been getting rid 0:08:26.480 --> 0:08:30.679 of everything because I'm just like, how much did I sell? 0:08:30.880 --> 0:08:33.520 What do you mean how much? Yeah? 0:08:33.559 --> 0:08:35.600 I sold most of it, and then everything after I 0:08:35.600 --> 0:08:38.320 went to the charity because I was like, everything is 0:08:38.360 --> 0:08:41.480 going if this yeah, if I've brought it to this market, 0:08:41.600 --> 0:08:44.599 then it's like it's gone. But anyway, Sarah picked me 0:08:44.720 --> 0:08:47.800 up from the hunter's market and I had my four 0:08:47.840 --> 0:08:51.000 bags with me, and then she obviously saw them, so 0:08:51.040 --> 0:08:53.280 I was like, fuck it, I'm just gonna like. I 0:08:53.280 --> 0:08:55.120 set up my camera in the car and I was like, 0:08:55.120 --> 0:08:57.520 I want to give you something, and she like, she's 0:08:57.600 --> 0:09:00.480 my maid of honor and she burst out crying. It 0:09:00.520 --> 0:09:02.240 was so nice. I recorded it so I'll put it 0:09:02.240 --> 0:09:04.640 on my socials. But it was such a cute moment, 0:09:04.679 --> 0:09:05.920 Like it was just so nice. 0:09:06.120 --> 0:09:08.280 How did you come to the conclusion that says dog 0:09:08.400 --> 0:09:10.760 was going to be the maid of honor? I mean 0:09:11.200 --> 0:09:11.720 the other. 0:09:11.679 --> 0:09:15.480 Yeah, the girls over the other the other girls, you 0:09:15.520 --> 0:09:18.240 know what. I think. It's just it was a really 0:09:18.240 --> 0:09:18.840 hard decision. 0:09:18.840 --> 0:09:21.240 Initially, I thought I was just gonna do all bridesmaids, 0:09:21.640 --> 0:09:23.800 but you know, Sarah is one of my longest friends. 0:09:24.520 --> 0:09:27.640 She literally made like a full spreadsheet for the engagement party. 0:09:27.760 --> 0:09:31.199 She was like so helpful and just like you know what, 0:09:31.360 --> 0:09:34.400 like going out of her way, and you know, I 0:09:34.440 --> 0:09:38.280 think she's one of my longest friends and I love her, 0:09:38.320 --> 0:09:40.640 and I just thought that it was the right decision. 0:09:40.800 --> 0:09:43.120 But yeah, we're all like such a tight nic group, 0:09:43.160 --> 0:09:44.920 so it doesn't really matter that there's a maid of 0:09:44.920 --> 0:09:46.400 honor because we're all so close. 0:09:46.600 --> 0:09:49.800 Not to take away from you, Sarah, but no, but you. 0:09:49.800 --> 0:09:51.520 Know what I mean, Like I don't want the other 0:09:51.559 --> 0:09:53.679 girls to feel bad, but then I also want to 0:09:53.720 --> 0:09:54.800 celebrate Sarah as my. 0:09:54.760 --> 0:09:57.200 Maid of honor. It's just like I'm trying to find 0:09:57.200 --> 0:09:58.040 the happy medium. 0:09:58.360 --> 0:09:59.280 It's hard, isn't it. 0:09:59.360 --> 0:10:02.480 But it's hard. But I think the other girls will when. 0:10:02.280 --> 0:10:06.000 They eventually, like you know, get engaged and want to 0:10:06.040 --> 0:10:09.520 pick their bridesmaids. Imagine if some of them choose their 0:10:09.600 --> 0:10:12.040 sisters or they don't want the whole group, that's a 0:10:12.240 --> 0:10:13.400 more challenging decision. 0:10:13.520 --> 0:10:16.559 I've been very open about who my groom's an eye, 0:10:16.600 --> 0:10:18.520 and as they swap over, I send them a message 0:10:18.520 --> 0:10:23.440 and say you've just taken over. Congratulations, you just got 0:10:23.480 --> 0:10:25.360 and then sorry, mate, you've just been subbed out for 0:10:25.440 --> 0:10:28.760 blah blah, do this, do this to move back in. 0:10:28.880 --> 0:10:31.160 Nuh, that's like blackmailing his friends. 0:10:31.880 --> 0:10:34.080 Now, whenever we drink and we have like DMS, I 0:10:34.080 --> 0:10:36.560 always say it. I always say who's who? I think 0:10:36.559 --> 0:10:38.839 that's better than like at the eleventh hour picking then, 0:10:38.920 --> 0:10:41.240 like everyone's sort of like, is it going to be me? 0:10:41.400 --> 0:10:42.720 Is it going to be me? Yeah? 0:10:42.800 --> 0:10:45.760 Well it's funny because like obviously my TikTok algorithm is 0:10:45.840 --> 0:10:48.360 very much on like bridesmaids and you know that type 0:10:48.360 --> 0:10:51.560 of thing and wedding talk and all of that. And 0:10:51.600 --> 0:10:54.640 there's this girl who was like, if someone asks you 0:10:54.640 --> 0:10:57.040 to be a bridesmaid, you need to be friends with 0:10:57.120 --> 0:10:59.400 them for a minimum of five years, because like, I 0:10:59.480 --> 0:11:01.680 just got asked to be a bridesmaid by this random 0:11:01.679 --> 0:11:04.200 girl from my work and it was really uncomfortable and 0:11:04.240 --> 0:11:06.320 it was the worst thing I've ever done and don't 0:11:06.320 --> 0:11:09.000 do it. So I feel like lucky that I have 0:11:09.240 --> 0:11:13.360 a really tight knit group of five including me, And 0:11:13.440 --> 0:11:15.520 it was kind of an easy decision. I mean, the 0:11:15.559 --> 0:11:17.680 only real hard decision was to pick and made of 0:11:17.720 --> 0:11:18.880 honor and it's. 0:11:18.720 --> 0:11:20.640 Sady, So I'm happy all as well. 0:11:21.760 --> 0:11:24.120 So you're at the Hot Springs. How's up? Yeah. 0:11:24.160 --> 0:11:27.679 So basically we had a night in Sorrento, and then 0:11:28.160 --> 0:11:31.439 I still had the three bridesmaids that I hadn't told, 0:11:31.480 --> 0:11:34.440 so Sarah knew the night before, and then Sarah helped 0:11:34.480 --> 0:11:36.840 me plan it. So we literally like smoke bottbs of 0:11:36.960 --> 0:11:40.560 the girls on Sunday morning, set everything up at the 0:11:40.600 --> 0:11:41.280 hot spring. 0:11:41.400 --> 0:11:43.640 So we had the little dome and then they came 0:11:43.640 --> 0:11:44.200 in in their. 0:11:44.120 --> 0:11:47.640 Robes and then I was like surprise, and they read 0:11:47.640 --> 0:11:49.240 their letters and they all cried. 0:11:49.320 --> 0:11:51.480 It was beautiful. It was really nice. 0:11:51.520 --> 0:11:53.640 I feel like people don't talk about these moments, like 0:11:53.679 --> 0:11:56.320 when I was saying to you before, like you know, 0:11:56.800 --> 0:11:59.440 I've been proposed to by Michael, but I was like 0:11:59.480 --> 0:12:01.640 I never thought what I'd get to propose to someone, 0:12:01.679 --> 0:12:03.760 but I did. I got to propose my bridesmaids and 0:12:03.800 --> 0:12:06.839 my maid of honor. So it was very cute and 0:12:06.920 --> 0:12:10.520 like this. They took like thirty minutes to actually get 0:12:10.559 --> 0:12:13.120 to the Peninsula Hot Springs and to the dome, and 0:12:13.320 --> 0:12:15.079 like I was freaking out, like. 0:12:15.040 --> 0:12:16.000 I was sweating. 0:12:16.160 --> 0:12:18.720 I had like a what is it a sweaty apper lip, 0:12:18.880 --> 0:12:21.280 Like I was like a slu like. I was like, 0:12:23.280 --> 0:12:25.680 you know what I mean, I was waking out. I 0:12:25.679 --> 0:12:27.320 didn't get on one knee, but I got on my 0:12:27.559 --> 0:12:29.360 I just sat down and we all sat in a 0:12:29.360 --> 0:12:32.000 little circle. It's also going to be on my socials 0:12:32.040 --> 0:12:35.480 eventually excited to see. Yeah, it's cute. It's a very 0:12:35.559 --> 0:12:36.120 cute moment. 0:12:36.640 --> 0:12:39.200 But anyway, it was a big weekend for me. 0:12:39.400 --> 0:12:41.120 Yeah, you sound like you had a full on weekend. 0:12:41.200 --> 0:12:43.960 It was go go go. How was drinking on Saturday 0:12:44.040 --> 0:12:45.600 nights if you're hungover? 0:12:45.679 --> 0:12:47.800 You said, Oh, I was a little hungover. 0:12:48.160 --> 0:12:50.960 I I don't know, like some you know, when you 0:12:51.040 --> 0:12:52.920 just like get together with all of your friends and 0:12:52.960 --> 0:12:55.680 you're just like loving life. And we had a few 0:12:55.679 --> 0:12:58.280 wines me and says he shared like a bottle and 0:12:58.320 --> 0:13:00.040 then we were like do we get another bottle? And 0:13:00.120 --> 0:13:03.440 then Laura ended up coming and she came and helped 0:13:03.480 --> 0:13:05.719 us finish the next bottle, and I just got really 0:13:05.840 --> 0:13:07.160 drunk really quick, and I was like, whoa. 0:13:07.320 --> 0:13:09.240 It's so easy to escalate, isn't it. I remember I 0:13:09.720 --> 0:13:11.960 spoke last week he had any thought about dry July. 0:13:12.880 --> 0:13:15.200 You know what, I'm kind of into it, and like, 0:13:15.840 --> 0:13:18.720 to be fair, there's been a lot of interest on 0:13:18.760 --> 0:13:21.280 the Facebook page, on the where's your head at them? 0:13:21.320 --> 0:13:24.120 Facebook page, you guys are keen, and so I'm kind 0:13:24.160 --> 0:13:26.720 of like, well, fuck if everyone else is keen, I'm keen. 0:13:26.880 --> 0:13:29.679 I got sold by my family. They're like, yeah, go 0:13:29.720 --> 0:13:31.600 do it, but they're not going to donate to the end. 0:13:31.800 --> 0:13:33.960 They're like, we're not going to like donate at the 0:13:34.000 --> 0:13:35.920 start if we do a charity thing for it, if 0:13:35.960 --> 0:13:38.720 we raise money, and then like the going to reward you, 0:13:38.800 --> 0:13:40.640 yeah at the end for me just to pay fifty 0:13:40.640 --> 0:13:42.960 dollars to have a coffee out drinking night. They said, 0:13:42.960 --> 0:13:44.440 you've got to do it the whole time before we 0:13:44.480 --> 0:13:45.160 think about it. 0:13:45.600 --> 0:13:47.240 But I was like, I know you too well. 0:13:47.320 --> 0:13:48.720 Yeah, they know me too well. Like you said, when 0:13:48.720 --> 0:13:50.600 you're with your mates and you're with them, it just 0:13:50.600 --> 0:13:53.400 fucking escalates so quickly, doesn't it. Yeah, it's just so 0:13:53.480 --> 0:13:54.840 much fun social drinking. 0:13:54.920 --> 0:13:57.240 But do you know what though, I said to the girls. 0:13:57.320 --> 0:13:59.920 I was like, I'm like, don't get me any more drinks. 0:13:59.920 --> 0:14:02.560 I'm drunk, and then somehow I ended up with another drink. 0:14:02.559 --> 0:14:04.520 So I was like, technically, it's not my fut it's 0:14:04.520 --> 0:14:04.920 not your fault. 0:14:05.000 --> 0:14:06.600 Someone puts to drink in front of you. I'm a 0:14:06.640 --> 0:14:11.480 massive advocate for don't waste alcohol. I have these beers 0:14:11.480 --> 0:14:13.600 because I'm back at mums and they were been there 0:14:13.640 --> 0:14:16.559 since before I left, and they're like just about to expire. 0:14:16.720 --> 0:14:19.200 And I'm like, normal person, just like drinking what's thrown out. 0:14:19.200 --> 0:14:20.360 But I'm not trying to drink at the moment, So 0:14:20.360 --> 0:14:22.240 I'm trying to offload him to like all my sister's 0:14:22.320 --> 0:14:24.560 boyfriends and fiances, anyone that comes right, Hey, do you 0:14:24.560 --> 0:14:27.640 want to grab these fucking six fast gifting beers trying 0:14:27.640 --> 0:14:29.120 to get rid of because I'm like, the worst thing 0:14:29.160 --> 0:14:31.800 is there expire. That's the worst thing. I don't want 0:14:32.160 --> 0:14:34.600 alcohol to expire. I can't waste it. 0:14:34.680 --> 0:14:37.800 Why are you even an advocate for not wasting alcohol? 0:14:38.000 --> 0:14:40.600 Because it's alcohol. It's there for a reason. It's to 0:14:40.640 --> 0:14:41.120 be drunk. 0:14:42.880 --> 0:14:46.080 That's see, that's not the same mindset. 0:14:46.160 --> 0:14:48.880 Wow, on the weekend, I didn't touch a drop of alcohol. 0:14:48.920 --> 0:14:50.560 I had a very folesome weekend. 0:14:50.640 --> 0:14:53.040 Yes, you look better than you did last week. 0:14:53.080 --> 0:14:55.400 I'm not gonna lie fucking demons. 0:14:55.560 --> 0:14:56.560 That's smiling. 0:14:57.040 --> 0:14:59.720 He's a bit chipper, i am, But I'm still skipped 0:14:59.760 --> 0:15:00.680 into the studio. 0:15:00.800 --> 0:15:03.520 I still feel burnt out though. You know, my weekend 0:15:03.560 --> 0:15:09.000 consisted of like sleepings, walks, coffee, pasta, horror movies. I 0:15:09.080 --> 0:15:11.120 had the most wholesome, beautiful weekend That does. 0:15:11.120 --> 0:15:13.800 Sound blissful, but it was sound blissful. 0:15:13.880 --> 0:15:16.160 But yeah, I still feel a little bit burnt out. 0:15:16.200 --> 0:15:17.640 You know, when you're so relaxed you don't want to 0:15:17.640 --> 0:15:22.320 come back to life, to the podcast, to work, to everything. 0:15:22.360 --> 0:15:24.720 You're just like I just want to relax, you know 0:15:24.760 --> 0:15:27.080 what I mean. Yeah, So it was good weekend, you 0:15:27.160 --> 0:15:27.520 know what. 0:15:27.800 --> 0:15:29.160 I've been feeling burnt out too. 0:15:29.200 --> 0:15:31.720 And we had this conversation because I called Matt like 0:15:31.880 --> 0:15:34.200 just before we arrived at the podcast, and I was like, hey, 0:15:34.200 --> 0:15:36.840 are feeling Dane. He's like, I had a really relaxing weekend, 0:15:37.080 --> 0:15:38.160 very burnt out, and I was like. 0:15:38.160 --> 0:15:40.360 Same, Like why are we so burnt out? 0:15:40.720 --> 0:15:43.000 Just go, go go. I think my mind never relaxes 0:15:43.040 --> 0:15:45.120 as well. Like I noticed on the weekend, something I've 0:15:45.160 --> 0:15:48.280 brought up before is like I'm enjoying what I'm doing, 0:15:48.720 --> 0:15:51.040 but then it makes my mind go like fuck, this 0:15:51.080 --> 0:15:53.120 is going to end soon, do you know what I mean? 0:15:53.760 --> 0:15:56.160 Like just what I was doing, like watching movies and 0:15:56.240 --> 0:15:58.840 I'm like, fuck, this is going to end. I'm like, 0:15:59.000 --> 0:16:01.040 and then I get so stressed out in my own head. 0:16:01.480 --> 0:16:03.360 I'm like, fuck, this is gonna like and I don't 0:16:03.560 --> 0:16:06.800 enjoy the moment I'm in, do you know what I mean? Yeah, 0:16:06.880 --> 0:16:08.520 because I'm always thinking like this is going to end, 0:16:08.560 --> 0:16:10.200 like what's the time? And I've got to really work 0:16:10.240 --> 0:16:11.520 on that. Something I've got to work on. 0:16:11.640 --> 0:16:14.840 You can also do some meditation things that help you 0:16:14.920 --> 0:16:17.040 to be more present on YouTube. 0:16:17.120 --> 0:16:18.680 Just look them up. I think that would be really 0:16:18.720 --> 0:16:19.080 good for you. 0:16:19.120 --> 0:16:21.320 If anyone else has any tips, like fire and on 0:16:21.360 --> 0:16:24.000 our Facebook page or dm me privately, just so I know, 0:16:24.040 --> 0:16:25.920 because I'm really bad at bat. I think with it 0:16:26.000 --> 0:16:28.720 my whole life, to be honest. Just yeah, living in 0:16:28.760 --> 0:16:29.240 the moment. 0:16:29.560 --> 0:16:31.920 Yeah, it's so hard, Like not a lot of people 0:16:31.960 --> 0:16:34.280 are living in the moment. I mean we I always 0:16:34.320 --> 0:16:37.200 talk about like you need three things in life that 0:16:37.280 --> 0:16:38.920 you're looking forward to to be happy. 0:16:39.440 --> 0:16:41.200 That's not exactly living in the moment. 0:16:41.880 --> 0:16:44.280 And yeah, I guess it's just about like making sure 0:16:44.320 --> 0:16:46.800 that your reality is a happy place and just like 0:16:47.360 --> 0:16:49.800 trying to just I mean, I'm in the moment right now, 0:16:50.480 --> 0:16:51.600 in the podcast, What. 0:16:51.520 --> 0:16:53.160