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Speaker 3: Have you met him?

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Speaker 3: No, if it's in I have hung out with Brad

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Speaker 5: We've got a red carpet with him, and that's hanging out.

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Speaker 1: That's not being his friend. He wouldn't remember you.

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Speaker 3: We did an interview and remember that he looked back

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Speaker 5: There has to be a deficiency. Are you going to

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Speaker 4: And I don't know whether this would put you off

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Speaker 5: You're an idiot when it comes to hygiene, Kate, I

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Speaker 2: My husband's Greek and he's been doing a brad pickway

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Speaker 3: The day the outside of you are and hand home.

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Speaker 4: And he was one of these guys that just didn't

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Speaker 4: Can I just clear up something quickly with you. I

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Speaker 6: And so when an adult said something that to a child,

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Speaker 6: All the emotional energy you have in that moment needs

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Speaker 4: And you can adapt to then that kind of that

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Speaker 4: way of parenting, whether it's a chat, sorry, you can

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Speaker 4: adapt that way of parenting, whether it's a discussion about

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Speaker 4: kind of wait or about other things within the household.

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Speaker 4: Always put your focus on the child, not the person

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Speaker 4: who's saying the things you don't want them to say.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, totally, we love you.

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Speaker 5: To the sixth season of The Imperfect it starts when

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Speaker 5: is it up?

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Speaker 1: When's your fairst episode?

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Speaker 5: Do you want to kick it off?

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Speaker 6: Monday? This coming Monday episode one with I don't think

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Speaker 6: we'll have to say who, but it rhymes with hat rummins.

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Speaker 3: Wow, wow the tennis player. That is amazing.

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Speaker 5: Hey I could do a good in swinging around it

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Speaker 5: out very nice.

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Speaker 1: Love you here, thanks for coming in.

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Speaker 6: By thank you you.

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Speaker 3: Sits In Whipper with Kate Ritchie is a Nova podcast

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