1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:03,000 Speaker 1: Coming up on Relatables. Come on, don't think I don't 2 00:00:03,000 --> 00:00:04,400 Speaker 1: think you know it's not Chris. We're saying it's not. 3 00:00:04,640 --> 00:00:06,720 Speaker 1: But I'm not in the moment. How am I supposed 4 00:00:06,720 --> 00:00:08,159 Speaker 1: to do it when I'm not in the most I've 5 00:00:08,200 --> 00:00:09,879 Speaker 1: tried this before. Actually, you beat me into this every 6 00:00:09,880 --> 00:00:11,360 Speaker 1: time I talk about this, and I've done it before. 7 00:00:11,440 --> 00:00:12,600 Speaker 1: Just think about If you guys want to hear me, 8 00:00:12,640 --> 00:00:15,640 Speaker 1: do it. Go listen to the whole discography of Relatable. 9 00:00:15,720 --> 00:00:19,040 Speaker 1: Don't gas you'll hear it. Some like to say, are 10 00:00:19,040 --> 00:00:21,360 Speaker 1: you talking about it? Just say it? You have a girl, 11 00:00:21,360 --> 00:00:23,640 Speaker 1: I always do it. Yeah, you're the key, I always 12 00:00:23,720 --> 00:00:26,120 Speaker 1: do it. You ever go? Are you trying to say 13 00:00:26,160 --> 00:00:28,159 Speaker 1: you don't do it? You're the sex icon on the 14 00:00:28,160 --> 00:00:42,920 Speaker 1: pod Relatable. The Relatables podcast is hosted by myself, Audie 15 00:00:42,920 --> 00:00:46,720 Speaker 1: Clark aka Mummy, and I'm happy to say my partner 16 00:00:46,760 --> 00:00:50,400 Speaker 1: in crime, Jake Craig aka Daddy Let's go. And I'm 17 00:00:50,440 --> 00:00:52,760 Speaker 1: happy to say that today because I'm wearing a shirt 18 00:00:52,920 --> 00:00:55,160 Speaker 1: with Daddy's face on it. Yeah, look at my shirt. 19 00:00:55,480 --> 00:00:57,440 Speaker 1: I got Mummy's face on it. This might be the 20 00:00:57,440 --> 00:01:00,440 Speaker 1: best you've ever looked in the pod. I'm slightly gas 21 00:01:00,480 --> 00:01:03,840 Speaker 1: on you before this episode, mate, slightly gas, Yeah, lightly gas. 22 00:01:03,920 --> 00:01:07,920 Speaker 1: You are let's go looking good? Oh how funny. I 23 00:01:07,959 --> 00:01:11,840 Speaker 1: don't know what it is about you, but oh yeah, yeah, 24 00:01:12,000 --> 00:01:16,319 Speaker 1: let's address the elephant in the room. Yeah, boy, And 25 00:01:16,360 --> 00:01:18,520 Speaker 1: it's not the shirt with my face on it. Jake 26 00:01:19,200 --> 00:01:21,680 Speaker 1: is starting to grow what would you call it? Oh 27 00:01:21,760 --> 00:01:28,440 Speaker 1: call this a very I'd call this a pristine mustache. 28 00:01:28,600 --> 00:01:31,520 Speaker 1: You would call it a mustache. It's quite long on 29 00:01:31,600 --> 00:01:33,720 Speaker 1: it goes wrapped around the mouth. I don't know how 30 00:01:33,760 --> 00:01:35,840 Speaker 1: to shape it. You should get like a little kid 31 00:01:35,959 --> 00:01:39,000 Speaker 1: or something. I'm gonna need you because with some TikTok tutorials. Well, 32 00:01:39,040 --> 00:01:39,920 Speaker 1: a couple of episodes ago. 33 00:01:39,920 --> 00:01:41,240 Speaker 2: I don't know if it was on a Patron episode, 34 00:01:41,280 --> 00:01:44,400 Speaker 2: if it was a normal episode, but I think we 35 00:01:44,400 --> 00:01:46,000 Speaker 2: were talking about something and you were like, why don't 36 00:01:46,040 --> 00:01:46,720 Speaker 2: you grow a bit? 37 00:01:46,880 --> 00:01:47,039 Speaker 1: Yeah? 38 00:01:47,080 --> 00:01:48,720 Speaker 2: I said that, and then I said, like, I can, 39 00:01:48,840 --> 00:01:50,800 Speaker 2: but the mustache isn't very thinking. You're like, oh, sure 40 00:01:50,840 --> 00:01:52,440 Speaker 2: you can grow on. So I was just like, well, 41 00:01:52,440 --> 00:01:54,360 Speaker 2: fuck it, I'm gonna try. I don't think it's looking good. 42 00:01:54,400 --> 00:01:55,960 Speaker 2: Give it another two or three weeks. 43 00:01:55,680 --> 00:01:58,760 Speaker 1: Like, yeah, I haven't shared my mustache. It's slightly maybe 44 00:01:58,800 --> 00:02:00,720 Speaker 1: too long on the edges. 45 00:02:00,880 --> 00:02:03,320 Speaker 2: So yeah, I just need to figure out slightly just yeah, 46 00:02:03,360 --> 00:02:05,080 Speaker 2: but I'm scared because if I go too far, I 47 00:02:05,080 --> 00:02:05,960 Speaker 2: got to shave it all off. 48 00:02:06,680 --> 00:02:09,720 Speaker 1: I can't. It's been so long. It's been three weeks 49 00:02:10,080 --> 00:02:12,720 Speaker 1: maybe more. That's pretty good. This is actually this has 50 00:02:12,720 --> 00:02:14,720 Speaker 1: been like a year and a half mine. It's been 51 00:02:14,760 --> 00:02:17,600 Speaker 1: three weeks. Actually, if we could do November, if you 52 00:02:17,720 --> 00:02:20,400 Speaker 1: grow yours for men's mental health, and I'll die mind 53 00:02:20,520 --> 00:02:22,440 Speaker 1: I've actually got hairy. It's just blonde blonde. 54 00:02:22,480 --> 00:02:24,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, so well here's the thing that though, I may 55 00:02:24,280 --> 00:02:26,680 Speaker 2: as well keep it until November, because by by November 56 00:02:26,720 --> 00:02:27,760 Speaker 2: it should be good enough. 57 00:02:27,840 --> 00:02:30,239 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a couple of months. Good idea, good eyes. 58 00:02:30,280 --> 00:02:33,280 Speaker 2: So maybe I'll even like with the norm buzz trimmer, 59 00:02:33,600 --> 00:02:37,040 Speaker 2: like on a super long setting, say shave it so 60 00:02:37,080 --> 00:02:39,680 Speaker 2: I'm only cutting off barely, barely a millimeter and then 61 00:02:39,680 --> 00:02:41,720 Speaker 2: they're all the same length, and then I need to 62 00:02:41,760 --> 00:02:43,160 Speaker 2: figure out how to like, I should just go to 63 00:02:43,200 --> 00:02:43,600 Speaker 2: the barber. 64 00:02:43,639 --> 00:02:46,360 Speaker 1: Actually, we'll go to Ash. The barber's name is Ash. 65 00:02:46,680 --> 00:02:48,520 Speaker 1: Just go give me a mate, what do you want done? 66 00:02:48,560 --> 00:02:52,160 Speaker 1: Just up? Yeah, actually like little trim and be like 67 00:02:52,160 --> 00:02:54,200 Speaker 1: you actually reckon. You could maybe Spruce just get it 68 00:02:54,280 --> 00:02:55,960 Speaker 1: nicely shaped and just get him to do that every 69 00:02:55,960 --> 00:02:59,120 Speaker 1: fucking week. Do it be a nice panthering SESSI too, 70 00:02:59,160 --> 00:03:02,240 Speaker 1: he'd like it. 71 00:02:59,680 --> 00:03:06,560 Speaker 2: Yeah, So I actually wanted to start this episode with 72 00:03:07,480 --> 00:03:12,960 Speaker 2: so as men, we well, one of the reasons we 73 00:03:12,960 --> 00:03:15,240 Speaker 2: started actually the podcast is because we wanted to kind 74 00:03:15,280 --> 00:03:18,720 Speaker 2: of normalize guys talking about their feelings a bit more 75 00:03:19,040 --> 00:03:21,360 Speaker 2: open stuff. And I think like we do when then 76 00:03:21,400 --> 00:03:23,000 Speaker 2: sometimes we like go a little while where. 77 00:03:22,800 --> 00:03:25,239 Speaker 1: We don't and we have fun and blah blah blah. 78 00:03:25,280 --> 00:03:27,720 Speaker 1: But I wanted to start this episode with some feelings, right, 79 00:03:27,960 --> 00:03:33,640 Speaker 1: I love that from you. So as guys, this is 80 00:03:33,680 --> 00:03:34,680 Speaker 1: to everyone out there. 81 00:03:34,600 --> 00:03:36,240 Speaker 2: Listening and to you and you're going to agree with me, 82 00:03:36,280 --> 00:03:39,240 Speaker 2: I assume, and to all the dudes out there everyone. 83 00:03:39,600 --> 00:03:42,960 Speaker 2: We don't like when we get in a relationship, we 84 00:03:43,080 --> 00:03:46,080 Speaker 2: don't really talk about our relationship. 85 00:03:46,960 --> 00:03:47,520 Speaker 1: What do you mean? 86 00:03:48,520 --> 00:03:52,160 Speaker 2: So I wouldn't be able to tell you a time 87 00:03:52,880 --> 00:03:56,240 Speaker 2: where so because guys like don't ask the questions and 88 00:03:56,240 --> 00:03:58,960 Speaker 2: we're not going too that in depth. It's like when 89 00:03:59,080 --> 00:04:02,320 Speaker 2: we're talking about our relationship with a friend, it's quite 90 00:04:02,360 --> 00:04:05,240 Speaker 2: often about maybe a fight we've had and we want 91 00:04:05,280 --> 00:04:09,240 Speaker 2: their opinion or or yeah, like just something like we 92 00:04:09,240 --> 00:04:11,240 Speaker 2: don't talk about the good things basically because that's just 93 00:04:11,240 --> 00:04:11,960 Speaker 2: not what we talk about. 94 00:04:12,000 --> 00:04:14,240 Speaker 1: You'd almost say, how's your missus gone? You're like good? Yeah, 95 00:04:14,240 --> 00:04:16,000 Speaker 1: like yeah, you're just like good. But like that's then 96 00:04:16,120 --> 00:04:17,800 Speaker 1: even if someone says, how's the missus, Like I don't 97 00:04:17,800 --> 00:04:19,800 Speaker 1: remember the last time I've said that to anyone, Well, yeah, 98 00:04:20,000 --> 00:04:20,760 Speaker 1: like you just assume. 99 00:04:20,920 --> 00:04:25,200 Speaker 2: Yeah, And so I wanted to come on and basically 100 00:04:25,200 --> 00:04:27,640 Speaker 2: it's like because if you think about it, if the 101 00:04:27,640 --> 00:04:30,240 Speaker 2: only thing, like if the only reason we ever talked 102 00:04:30,279 --> 00:04:32,279 Speaker 2: to one of our friends about our girlfriends or to 103 00:04:32,320 --> 00:04:34,280 Speaker 2: each other about girlfriends is because we're having an issue. 104 00:04:34,320 --> 00:04:35,760 Speaker 2: It's like, oh, what do you think about this fight 105 00:04:35,800 --> 00:04:37,800 Speaker 2: we had? It's like I think, like, fuck, you guys 106 00:04:37,839 --> 00:04:41,640 Speaker 2: just fight all the time. Negative, Yeah, it's only negative things. 107 00:04:41,640 --> 00:04:42,960 Speaker 2: And so I think I wanted to come on here 108 00:04:43,000 --> 00:04:49,600 Speaker 2: and tell you that like Beth is like the the 109 00:04:49,600 --> 00:04:53,159 Speaker 2: best girlfriend ever had, right yeah, and like the like 110 00:04:53,200 --> 00:04:56,480 Speaker 2: she's made me the happiest of you know, any and 111 00:04:56,600 --> 00:04:59,960 Speaker 2: like hopefully forever. Yeah, and like ever since I kind 112 00:04:59,960 --> 00:05:01,840 Speaker 2: of I thought that way, I obviously assumed that about 113 00:05:01,839 --> 00:05:04,520 Speaker 2: you and Cassie. But I think I want you to 114 00:05:04,680 --> 00:05:07,839 Speaker 2: know that just so if I ever do come to 115 00:05:07,880 --> 00:05:09,640 Speaker 2: you where it's like Beth. 116 00:05:09,480 --> 00:05:11,440 Speaker 1: And I have had an argument. I know, so then 117 00:05:11,520 --> 00:05:14,080 Speaker 1: you that's your goal and goal, yeah, that's how you 118 00:05:14,120 --> 00:05:16,839 Speaker 1: see the relationship. Yeah, so it's not like all you 119 00:05:16,920 --> 00:05:19,680 Speaker 1: hear is bad things like oh, she just seems so naggy. 120 00:05:19,960 --> 00:05:22,560 Speaker 1: She just seems like she's so negative. It's like because 121 00:05:23,200 --> 00:05:25,440 Speaker 1: maybe one percent of the time that's what happens, and 122 00:05:25,480 --> 00:05:27,720 Speaker 1: that's when you have a fight. Yeah, but ninety nine 123 00:05:27,760 --> 00:05:29,440 Speaker 1: percent of the time you are right because the only 124 00:05:29,480 --> 00:05:31,680 Speaker 1: time I've really talked about Cassie is like I had 125 00:05:31,920 --> 00:05:33,760 Speaker 1: it wasn't too bad. It was a negative thing, and 126 00:05:33,800 --> 00:05:36,040 Speaker 1: I didn't know how to go about there. And you're 127 00:05:36,040 --> 00:05:37,840 Speaker 1: like that's a tricky one. Yeah, I never like come 128 00:05:37,880 --> 00:05:40,520 Speaker 1: to and like fuck, well we had the best date ever? No, yeah, 129 00:05:40,560 --> 00:05:42,840 Speaker 1: like we never do like I like you would in 130 00:05:43,160 --> 00:05:44,440 Speaker 1: on Monday, though you did say like I had a 131 00:05:44,480 --> 00:05:46,039 Speaker 1: great time. It was a different type of love with Cassie, 132 00:05:46,040 --> 00:05:47,560 Speaker 1: blah blah blah, like and I would say, like I 133 00:05:47,640 --> 00:05:49,960 Speaker 1: actually had the best time, like two full weeks of 134 00:05:50,000 --> 00:05:52,720 Speaker 1: every living second together with Beth and we didn't argue once, 135 00:05:52,720 --> 00:05:54,560 Speaker 1: didn't disagree with anything, like I had the best time ever. 136 00:05:55,000 --> 00:05:57,359 Speaker 1: And so I think it's just like something that we 137 00:05:57,440 --> 00:05:59,480 Speaker 1: probably don't have to elaborate on it every fucking day, 138 00:05:59,520 --> 00:06:01,800 Speaker 1: Like we just don't do that. But it's something that 139 00:06:01,839 --> 00:06:04,840 Speaker 1: I want you to know just in case future. Yeah, 140 00:06:04,880 --> 00:06:06,279 Speaker 1: because like if Beth does something where I had an 141 00:06:06,360 --> 00:06:08,680 Speaker 1: argument with her and it's like, well, and Jake, I 142 00:06:08,760 --> 00:06:10,520 Speaker 1: know that you've told me once before, like she's the 143 00:06:10,520 --> 00:06:11,960 Speaker 1: happiest you've ever made her, Like give it the benefit 144 00:06:11,960 --> 00:06:13,240 Speaker 1: of the doubt in this one. It's sort of like 145 00:06:13,320 --> 00:06:15,040 Speaker 1: human nature. It's the same thing like when you get 146 00:06:15,040 --> 00:06:16,640 Speaker 1: a cold, like it is I wish I would be 147 00:06:16,640 --> 00:06:18,960 Speaker 1: healthy again. It is. It's the same thing like when 148 00:06:19,120 --> 00:06:21,200 Speaker 1: your relationship is so good you don't think about talking 149 00:06:21,200 --> 00:06:23,080 Speaker 1: about it, but as soon as it gets that little 150 00:06:23,120 --> 00:06:24,680 Speaker 1: bit of like badness in it, and you're like, oh, 151 00:06:24,720 --> 00:06:26,320 Speaker 1: fuck a bit to talk to someone about it. Yeah, 152 00:06:26,360 --> 00:06:27,960 Speaker 1: but you don't. But I think that's a very good 153 00:06:27,960 --> 00:06:31,039 Speaker 1: realization from you. Yeah, And so I kind of thought, yeah, 154 00:06:31,080 --> 00:06:33,400 Speaker 1: I assume it's the same from you. Yeah. Yeah, yeah, 155 00:06:33,440 --> 00:06:35,279 Speaker 1: Like she's like to have you some everyone's ever made 156 00:06:35,320 --> 00:06:37,320 Speaker 1: you so it's like whenever you maybe come to me 157 00:06:37,320 --> 00:06:39,400 Speaker 1: and it's like, oh, I've had an argument withheh blahlah blah, 158 00:06:39,440 --> 00:06:39,880 Speaker 1: it's like. 159 00:06:39,800 --> 00:06:41,520 Speaker 2: I'm not just gonna side with you straight away, you know, 160 00:06:41,680 --> 00:06:43,479 Speaker 2: because it's like if you and I had an argument, 161 00:06:43,560 --> 00:06:45,640 Speaker 2: let's say, and I was talking to Beth about it, 162 00:06:45,640 --> 00:06:47,520 Speaker 2: it's like she's gonna side with me straight away because 163 00:06:47,520 --> 00:06:48,120 Speaker 2: she's my girlfriend. 164 00:06:48,200 --> 00:06:50,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like stuff like that. Yeah, it's the same thing, 165 00:06:50,240 --> 00:06:51,600 Speaker 1: like you go to your parents are obviously gonna side 166 00:06:51,640 --> 00:06:54,000 Speaker 1: with their kid, yeah, exactly, Like that's why parents always 167 00:06:54,000 --> 00:06:56,560 Speaker 1: side with their kid when a teacher got mad at Yeah, 168 00:06:56,600 --> 00:06:58,800 Speaker 1: and it's like, well, I'm obviously gonna side of them. 169 00:06:58,839 --> 00:07:00,240 Speaker 1: You're gotta side with the kid. But it's also it's like, 170 00:07:00,320 --> 00:07:03,000 Speaker 1: fucking the teacher probably had a reason. Letters teachers don't 171 00:07:03,040 --> 00:07:05,360 Speaker 1: just fucking hate kids for no reason exactly. But the 172 00:07:05,440 --> 00:07:08,640 Speaker 1: funny you actually bring up love is because we talk 173 00:07:08,680 --> 00:07:11,520 Speaker 1: on the podcast all the time. It's probably one of 174 00:07:11,560 --> 00:07:14,600 Speaker 1: the most reoccurring themes is that girls fall in love 175 00:07:14,640 --> 00:07:17,720 Speaker 1: when they're together, yes, and men fall in love when 176 00:07:17,720 --> 00:07:20,840 Speaker 1: they're apart. Yes. But do you know why that is 177 00:07:21,280 --> 00:07:23,320 Speaker 1: we say it all the time? No? Yeah, no, we 178 00:07:23,400 --> 00:07:25,239 Speaker 1: just know. We know that happened. We know that happened, 179 00:07:25,280 --> 00:07:26,880 Speaker 1: but I don't know why that is. And I have 180 00:07:26,960 --> 00:07:30,280 Speaker 1: figured out why really. I went did some research for 181 00:07:30,320 --> 00:07:33,120 Speaker 1: the pod, watched the whole ted talk on It was 182 00:07:33,160 --> 00:07:37,000 Speaker 1: called How We Fall in Love by Dawn Masla. Okay, 183 00:07:37,040 --> 00:07:39,760 Speaker 1: comn okay, So we need a little bit of background information. 184 00:07:39,840 --> 00:07:42,480 Speaker 1: This is the science behind why we fall in love 185 00:07:42,640 --> 00:07:46,080 Speaker 1: like men and women. Yeah okay, and this is so interesting, 186 00:07:46,080 --> 00:07:47,640 Speaker 1: but we need a little bit of background info. And 187 00:07:47,640 --> 00:07:49,640 Speaker 1: it's going to sound like a bit of sciencey boring stuff. 188 00:07:49,640 --> 00:07:51,320 Speaker 1: But if we get through it, we'll get through that 189 00:07:51,360 --> 00:07:53,680 Speaker 1: bit the end of its juice. Yeah, okay, cool cook coo. 190 00:07:53,880 --> 00:07:57,800 Speaker 1: So background info is we have certain neurotransmitters in our 191 00:07:57,840 --> 00:08:01,920 Speaker 1: brain that turn on receptors that produce different chemical compounds, 192 00:08:02,280 --> 00:08:04,720 Speaker 1: and they go up and down when we fall in love. Yep. 193 00:08:04,800 --> 00:08:07,200 Speaker 1: So it's called the biochemistry of love. Yes, okay. So 194 00:08:07,280 --> 00:08:10,360 Speaker 1: for example, your cholesterol levels go up the stress hormone, 195 00:08:10,400 --> 00:08:13,920 Speaker 1: which makes you feel nervous. Butterflies, yes, exactly, like when 196 00:08:13,960 --> 00:08:15,760 Speaker 1: you're go on first date and you're like, I'm on, 197 00:08:15,880 --> 00:08:17,880 Speaker 1: I got butterflies. Tech Like, we could be nerdy and 198 00:08:17,920 --> 00:08:21,640 Speaker 1: be like, my cholesterol levels a rising. You meet your 199 00:08:21,720 --> 00:08:24,160 Speaker 1: date first, she's like oh, she's like, I'm so nervous, 200 00:08:24,200 --> 00:08:31,160 Speaker 1: and you're like your cholesterol level another second day, another one. 201 00:08:31,480 --> 00:08:36,959 Speaker 1: The oxytocin levels increase, making you feel horny. Woman's testosterone 202 00:08:37,000 --> 00:08:39,160 Speaker 1: goes up when you fall in love, making you feel aggressive. 203 00:08:39,559 --> 00:08:42,280 Speaker 1: So my girl's get a bit aggressive in best bites. 204 00:08:42,880 --> 00:08:47,280 Speaker 1: Oh god, and the opposite happens for men, So the 205 00:08:47,360 --> 00:08:50,120 Speaker 1: testos stone goes down, making us feel more passive. Bad 206 00:08:50,160 --> 00:08:56,600 Speaker 1: for gains girls, it's very very interesting. Soon goes down. Yes, yes, 207 00:08:56,720 --> 00:09:00,000 Speaker 1: and both serotonin levels dropped, causing us to feel more 208 00:09:00,120 --> 00:09:03,000 Speaker 1: obsessed with each other. Okay, so basically it's like, so 209 00:09:03,080 --> 00:09:05,319 Speaker 1: when you're apart, when you meet someone, you like them, 210 00:09:05,600 --> 00:09:08,000 Speaker 1: and then when you're apart, your serotonin levels dropped, so 211 00:09:08,000 --> 00:09:09,720 Speaker 1: it's like, I want to be with that. That's exactly 212 00:09:09,800 --> 00:09:12,080 Speaker 1: exactly the same thing. Oh my god, my levels are 213 00:09:12,120 --> 00:09:16,400 Speaker 1: so low. You should get it for me, man. Yeah, 214 00:09:16,600 --> 00:09:20,160 Speaker 1: well low for a month. But okay, so here is 215 00:09:20,200 --> 00:09:22,640 Speaker 1: where I gets juicy. So we often mentioned on the 216 00:09:22,720 --> 00:09:24,960 Speaker 1: potty right, like to wait three days before you sleep 217 00:09:24,960 --> 00:09:27,319 Speaker 1: with him and stuff like that. Oh yeah, the little yeah. 218 00:09:27,520 --> 00:09:29,200 Speaker 1: But we've always just said that because that's what we're hear. 219 00:09:29,320 --> 00:09:32,800 Speaker 1: I just hear it. There's actually science that backs it up. 220 00:09:33,600 --> 00:09:36,520 Speaker 1: So when a woman's in love, her oxytocin levels go 221 00:09:36,640 --> 00:09:38,760 Speaker 1: up fifty one percent when she finds a man that 222 00:09:38,800 --> 00:09:41,520 Speaker 1: she actually likes, and that's her dope. Meine goes up 223 00:09:41,559 --> 00:09:44,400 Speaker 1: with that, and so she's in this little love bubble 224 00:09:44,440 --> 00:09:47,000 Speaker 1: oxytocin through the roof, don't mean through the roof, and 225 00:09:47,040 --> 00:09:50,199 Speaker 1: she's feeling really good. So that so it can be 226 00:09:50,240 --> 00:09:53,480 Speaker 1: seen that oxytocin is the love hormone for women, but 227 00:09:53,760 --> 00:09:58,760 Speaker 1: it can't be for men because testosterone blocks oxytocin. So 228 00:09:58,800 --> 00:10:00,640 Speaker 1: they had to find a similar comp in men that 229 00:10:00,720 --> 00:10:05,280 Speaker 1: had the same effect, which is called vasapressin. So the 230 00:10:05,320 --> 00:10:08,400 Speaker 1: funny thing about vasapressin is it goes all the way 231 00:10:08,480 --> 00:10:10,960 Speaker 1: up when like you're doing four play anything like that, 232 00:10:11,360 --> 00:10:14,640 Speaker 1: but as soon as you come vasipressin straight back down. 233 00:10:17,080 --> 00:10:21,520 Speaker 1: So interesting, Hey, So we find out that women fall 234 00:10:21,559 --> 00:10:24,360 Speaker 1: in love through kissing and cuddling and anything like that 235 00:10:24,400 --> 00:10:29,240 Speaker 1: because they're oxytocin rises and oxytotocin climaxes when they come. 236 00:10:30,120 --> 00:10:31,640 Speaker 1: So it's through the roof. So as soon as a 237 00:10:31,679 --> 00:10:33,280 Speaker 1: girl as sex with someone that it stays up, it 238 00:10:33,320 --> 00:10:36,880 Speaker 1: stays up there. However, a men's vasapressin and when they 239 00:10:36,920 --> 00:10:39,319 Speaker 1: love hormone, when they're sexually transmitted, they're cuddling everything like 240 00:10:39,400 --> 00:10:41,400 Speaker 1: it's gone through the roof as soon as they come 241 00:10:41,679 --> 00:10:43,679 Speaker 1: boom straight back down. That's why we get when we 242 00:10:43,960 --> 00:10:48,079 Speaker 1: post not clarity, yes, so we're just like bang so. 243 00:10:48,280 --> 00:10:50,160 Speaker 1: Well we can take away from this is it means 244 00:10:50,240 --> 00:10:54,920 Speaker 1: that the neurotransmitters in the male's brains take time to 245 00:10:55,000 --> 00:10:57,480 Speaker 1: produce vasapressin, like when you're with them, everything like that, 246 00:10:58,160 --> 00:11:00,319 Speaker 1: and if you don't have sex with them and then 247 00:11:00,320 --> 00:11:02,959 Speaker 1: the guy leaves, it's just on a high and it 248 00:11:03,080 --> 00:11:06,000 Speaker 1: keeps going. That's why we feel like we're in love 249 00:11:06,000 --> 00:11:08,720 Speaker 1: when we're apart, because our vacipressent just keeps rising because 250 00:11:08,720 --> 00:11:13,120 Speaker 1: we're not coming orgasmin So girls feel love when we're 251 00:11:13,120 --> 00:11:15,000 Speaker 1: together and she has sex and we're together and it's 252 00:11:15,000 --> 00:11:17,360 Speaker 1: just in this little love bubble. But we feel it 253 00:11:17,480 --> 00:11:19,760 Speaker 1: after when we're apart, and it gives time for those 254 00:11:19,760 --> 00:11:22,320 Speaker 1: neurotransmitters to turn on, turn the receptors on, and then 255 00:11:22,400 --> 00:11:25,560 Speaker 1: just keep rising. This is some seriously juicy stuff. Yeah, 256 00:11:25,600 --> 00:11:28,480 Speaker 1: that's serious. I thought that was so interesting, like hacks 257 00:11:28,480 --> 00:11:31,240 Speaker 1: in the system. So here you go. Is this? Why 258 00:11:32,559 --> 00:11:33,280 Speaker 1: is it okay? 259 00:11:34,200 --> 00:11:38,800 Speaker 2: Sometimes people will give advice like let's say you're single, 260 00:11:39,880 --> 00:11:42,880 Speaker 2: some advice that like I reckon we've given to dilemmas 261 00:11:43,040 --> 00:11:47,680 Speaker 2: and I've been given is like, before you make any decisions, 262 00:11:49,440 --> 00:11:52,280 Speaker 2: have a wank. Yes, you've got to experience that PNC 263 00:11:53,720 --> 00:11:57,000 Speaker 2: postal clarity. Yes, But if you do have a wank 264 00:11:57,040 --> 00:11:58,439 Speaker 2: and you're like, oh no, no, I still want to, 265 00:11:59,480 --> 00:12:01,200 Speaker 2: then maybe there I don't know. 266 00:12:01,120 --> 00:12:03,679 Speaker 1: How actually like they actually like well, I think if 267 00:12:03,720 --> 00:12:05,920 Speaker 1: you it sounds so derogatory, but if you have a 268 00:12:05,960 --> 00:12:08,920 Speaker 1: wank and you still like them, like it's actual, like 269 00:12:09,040 --> 00:12:11,320 Speaker 1: really love whether the vasa pressing was just taking over 270 00:12:11,400 --> 00:12:13,480 Speaker 1: otherwise and like you just got your hit. I'm done, 271 00:12:13,600 --> 00:12:15,760 Speaker 1: So here's a question. Then I assume they mustn't have 272 00:12:15,760 --> 00:12:18,120 Speaker 1: touched on it. But so like. 273 00:12:19,600 --> 00:12:24,040 Speaker 2: With my girlfriend, if we do the deed, yeah, I 274 00:12:24,120 --> 00:12:26,640 Speaker 2: actually like like I joke around, I'm like yeah, post 275 00:12:27,720 --> 00:12:30,520 Speaker 2: but I actually don't really like like I still want 276 00:12:30,600 --> 00:12:34,000 Speaker 2: to cudd all kiss, like I still like doing that 277 00:12:34,080 --> 00:12:35,760 Speaker 2: after but I will say like. 278 00:12:35,720 --> 00:12:37,720 Speaker 1: I definitely need time, like if there was a round 279 00:12:37,760 --> 00:12:40,480 Speaker 1: two involved. But this is need I need time. This 280 00:12:40,600 --> 00:12:42,800 Speaker 1: is like how you know you're in love. Okay, So 281 00:12:42,840 --> 00:12:45,559 Speaker 1: this is like this initial talking stage that like if 282 00:12:45,600 --> 00:12:47,959 Speaker 1: you first have sex with them and then you're like, oh, 283 00:12:48,040 --> 00:12:49,719 Speaker 1: I didn't really like this and it doesn't go back 284 00:12:49,720 --> 00:12:52,400 Speaker 1: to normal and you're apart, I don't love them. Oh 285 00:12:53,720 --> 00:12:55,719 Speaker 1: when you have sex, then your vast presson knows down, 286 00:12:55,760 --> 00:12:57,240 Speaker 1: but you still want to cuddle on stuff like that 287 00:12:57,280 --> 00:12:59,000 Speaker 1: and just keep you rather and then when you leave 288 00:12:59,120 --> 00:13:00,240 Speaker 1: oh okay, okay, okay, okay. 289 00:13:00,280 --> 00:13:02,319 Speaker 2: So so it's like, let's say you go on a 290 00:13:02,400 --> 00:13:05,839 Speaker 2: date with someone, yeah, and through the date, and then 291 00:13:05,880 --> 00:13:07,760 Speaker 2: like let's say you're three three dates in all right, 292 00:13:07,800 --> 00:13:09,360 Speaker 2: and then on this third date you sleep together and 293 00:13:09,400 --> 00:13:11,160 Speaker 2: for those three dates at the vast present. 294 00:13:10,920 --> 00:13:13,400 Speaker 1: Yea yeah yeah yeah, through the roof, and then you 295 00:13:13,440 --> 00:13:15,880 Speaker 1: find it. So you on the third date, you guys 296 00:13:16,280 --> 00:13:17,040 Speaker 1: have sex. Yep. 297 00:13:17,720 --> 00:13:20,840 Speaker 2: So after you have sex, your vast person obviously boom, 298 00:13:21,040 --> 00:13:24,280 Speaker 2: and if it kind of like goes down and it 299 00:13:24,400 --> 00:13:29,240 Speaker 2: stays down and you're like, oh, that means you're not 300 00:13:29,360 --> 00:13:31,840 Speaker 2: all that into them, and then also like when you leave, 301 00:13:32,240 --> 00:13:34,440 Speaker 2: you're still not like all that into them. Yeah, So 302 00:13:34,559 --> 00:13:36,680 Speaker 2: is that like basically a sign where it's like, oh no, 303 00:13:36,720 --> 00:13:38,520 Speaker 2: I actually chemically don't like this. 304 00:13:38,600 --> 00:13:41,280 Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm chemically not love, not attracted him. Where as 305 00:13:41,320 --> 00:13:44,679 Speaker 1: the girl those three dates, she's been getting that oxytocin 306 00:13:44,720 --> 00:13:46,360 Speaker 1: and as soon as she comes from that sex, she's 307 00:13:46,360 --> 00:13:49,040 Speaker 1: more in love. So it's kind of hard on the girl. 308 00:13:49,160 --> 00:13:51,800 Speaker 1: Oh wow, that's that is the So is that way? 309 00:13:51,800 --> 00:13:56,120 Speaker 2: It's kind of like I guess, like statistically, yeah, it 310 00:13:56,200 --> 00:13:59,000 Speaker 2: is quite often, like some guys do it, but I 311 00:13:59,080 --> 00:14:01,240 Speaker 2: think it's more common for a girl to fall in 312 00:14:01,280 --> 00:14:01,760 Speaker 2: love quicker. 313 00:14:01,920 --> 00:14:03,880 Speaker 1: I think so too, because you do all those stages. 314 00:14:03,920 --> 00:14:06,360 Speaker 1: You have to do all those stages first to rise 315 00:14:06,360 --> 00:14:09,079 Speaker 1: the oxytocin, and you're cuddling, you're kissing, you're sexually attracted 316 00:14:09,120 --> 00:14:10,880 Speaker 1: to each other on dates, you seek you skin you 317 00:14:10,880 --> 00:14:13,720 Speaker 1: haven't seen for the first time, which is same for 318 00:14:13,760 --> 00:14:15,600 Speaker 1: to do. But as soon as he gets all that hit, boom. 319 00:14:15,640 --> 00:14:19,240 Speaker 1: See ya. So that's crazy And is that why here 320 00:14:19,320 --> 00:14:21,200 Speaker 1: we go? Okay, that's why you make them wait though, 321 00:14:21,600 --> 00:14:22,480 Speaker 1: make them wait? Okay? 322 00:14:22,480 --> 00:14:28,400 Speaker 2: But is that why post nut clarity is like a 323 00:14:28,600 --> 00:14:31,160 Speaker 2: hundred times worse when you watch porn? 324 00:14:31,360 --> 00:14:33,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, yes, because you don't there's no love there at all. 325 00:14:34,040 --> 00:14:38,160 Speaker 1: There's literally nothing there. That's why you feel gross. Especially Yeah, 326 00:14:38,200 --> 00:14:40,840 Speaker 1: you watch some video and what I'm doing. Yeah yeah, yeah, 327 00:14:40,880 --> 00:14:43,320 Speaker 1: and like the vast pression just took over. The vaster 328 00:14:43,400 --> 00:14:46,240 Speaker 1: pression took over my body. You know. You delete the 329 00:14:46,280 --> 00:14:49,240 Speaker 1: tablets instantly. Yeah, yeah, it doesn't matter if there's five 330 00:14:49,240 --> 00:14:51,480 Speaker 1: minutes left in the video. You delete the tabit instantly, 331 00:14:51,600 --> 00:14:54,160 Speaker 1: clear the search history. It is true because you feel disgusted. Yeah. 332 00:14:54,160 --> 00:14:56,680 Speaker 1: And then and and also when that vaster pressence plummeted, 333 00:14:56,680 --> 00:14:58,320 Speaker 1: you're like, I'm never doing that. And girls don't get 334 00:14:58,360 --> 00:15:01,480 Speaker 1: post that clarity because they just want there like oh yeah, 335 00:15:01,480 --> 00:15:03,240 Speaker 1: that's good, and they want to cut it after and yeah, 336 00:15:03,280 --> 00:15:04,600 Speaker 1: like they may not want to go again, but they're 337 00:15:04,640 --> 00:15:09,400 Speaker 1: just like high, yeah yeah they and they needed they 338 00:15:09,440 --> 00:15:12,120 Speaker 1: need a minute after after they come to like you 339 00:15:12,160 --> 00:15:14,720 Speaker 1: have ever been like fuck, I just need a second. Yeah. 340 00:15:14,880 --> 00:15:17,120 Speaker 1: Whereas like we were not to like talk a big game, 341 00:15:18,280 --> 00:15:24,640 Speaker 1: but it's like, oh my legs are shaking. Oh man. 342 00:15:24,680 --> 00:15:26,920 Speaker 1: It's not about science, about how you use it. Yeah. 343 00:15:26,960 --> 00:15:30,440 Speaker 1: So it's a lot of science terminologies, which this is 344 00:15:30,440 --> 00:15:34,920 Speaker 1: not a science podcast, but I thought I tried to 345 00:15:34,920 --> 00:15:37,040 Speaker 1: break it down so I could understand it. And I 346 00:15:37,040 --> 00:15:39,160 Speaker 1: hope that came across quite well. No, no, I think 347 00:15:39,200 --> 00:15:41,840 Speaker 1: that's like very dumbed down. Yeah yeah, yah. I watched 348 00:15:41,840 --> 00:15:43,120 Speaker 1: a video and she was using all these big term 349 00:15:43,320 --> 00:15:48,840 Speaker 1: and I was like, okay, I'll use and here so 350 00:15:48,960 --> 00:15:52,000 Speaker 1: funny how like so like science people, you could like 351 00:15:52,360 --> 00:15:53,280 Speaker 1: a simple and. 352 00:15:54,080 --> 00:15:55,720 Speaker 2: In so many senses, but some people will be like, 353 00:15:55,760 --> 00:15:58,720 Speaker 2: so therefore, yeah. 354 00:15:57,800 --> 00:15:59,920 Speaker 1: Just adding words to an essay. Here you get the 355 00:16:00,080 --> 00:16:01,840 Speaker 1: eight hundred word counter. Yeah, they like, what are you 356 00:16:01,880 --> 00:16:04,920 Speaker 1: talking about? Oh, it's ridiculous. Do you remember in high school? 357 00:16:05,280 --> 00:16:07,480 Speaker 1: I remember the first time I don't know what year 358 00:16:07,480 --> 00:16:09,200 Speaker 1: we were all in, but it's like you all do 359 00:16:09,280 --> 00:16:12,280 Speaker 1: the same assignment basically in like history. 360 00:16:12,680 --> 00:16:15,880 Speaker 2: And I remember the first time we got an assignment 361 00:16:16,000 --> 00:16:18,240 Speaker 2: in it was history, I believe or something like that 362 00:16:18,280 --> 00:16:20,080 Speaker 2: where it had to be an eight. 363 00:16:19,960 --> 00:16:22,920 Speaker 1: Hundred word essay. I remember hated those things. I hated 364 00:16:22,960 --> 00:16:25,000 Speaker 1: them as well. And I remember, tell you what I did. 365 00:16:25,000 --> 00:16:26,880 Speaker 1: I just put down the bottom. You just put all 366 00:16:26,920 --> 00:16:29,120 Speaker 1: the words in what Oh? Yeah, I was gonna say 367 00:16:29,120 --> 00:16:29,880 Speaker 1: the hack. Yeah. 368 00:16:30,120 --> 00:16:32,400 Speaker 2: And because the teachers like scare you and they go, 369 00:16:32,480 --> 00:16:34,680 Speaker 2: we have an app on our phone count the words 370 00:16:35,120 --> 00:16:36,760 Speaker 2: and so yeah, you'd go down and you just like 371 00:16:36,920 --> 00:16:39,880 Speaker 2: write a whole bunch of random words. You write like 372 00:16:39,920 --> 00:16:41,160 Speaker 2: ten words in copy and paste it a how. 373 00:16:41,080 --> 00:16:42,880 Speaker 1: Much times but color them why at the bottom of 374 00:16:42,880 --> 00:16:45,040 Speaker 1: the page, so they teachers count it. But it's like 375 00:16:45,800 --> 00:16:47,400 Speaker 1: no one got in trouble for it. Oh, no one 376 00:16:47,440 --> 00:16:49,800 Speaker 1: did know. And you know they have like they definitely 377 00:16:49,800 --> 00:16:51,480 Speaker 1: don't have it in high school. They can check pleasures. 378 00:16:51,480 --> 00:16:53,720 Speaker 1: I'm like, bullshit, Yeah what and how do they check 379 00:16:53,720 --> 00:16:56,680 Speaker 1: against chat ChiPT? Yeah, I reckon. I'll tell you. Being 380 00:16:56,720 --> 00:16:58,560 Speaker 1: in UNI when chat gibt was just coming out like 381 00:16:58,600 --> 00:17:00,480 Speaker 1: last year would have been a dream. Oh my god. 382 00:17:00,480 --> 00:17:02,560 Speaker 1: And they had no way to do. Yeah. 383 00:17:02,600 --> 00:17:04,639 Speaker 2: And also there's you there's probably ways where you can 384 00:17:04,640 --> 00:17:08,399 Speaker 2: say to chat GPT, like all right, here's like copy 385 00:17:08,440 --> 00:17:10,399 Speaker 2: and paste, like here's essays I've done in the past. 386 00:17:10,640 --> 00:17:12,080 Speaker 1: Make the one you wrote for me sound like I 387 00:17:12,080 --> 00:17:16,240 Speaker 1: wrote like chat GPT is literally artificially intelligence. Literally it's 388 00:17:16,280 --> 00:17:19,760 Speaker 1: so good. There's no way you can call it's better 389 00:17:19,760 --> 00:17:22,320 Speaker 1: than Google. That's what people. When I was away, I 390 00:17:22,320 --> 00:17:25,560 Speaker 1: swear Google's becoming obsolete. I agree. I was looking up 391 00:17:25,640 --> 00:17:28,960 Speaker 1: to find places to eat TikTok, to find and I 392 00:17:29,000 --> 00:17:31,040 Speaker 1: do that in Sydney to find what I want to know, 393 00:17:31,480 --> 00:17:33,840 Speaker 1: chat GPT because it takes out a step. Were like, 394 00:17:33,960 --> 00:17:36,119 Speaker 1: young Google, I don't know how tall is Jake Craig, 395 00:17:36,480 --> 00:17:38,000 Speaker 1: And it'll be like click a link to find out 396 00:17:38,000 --> 00:17:39,520 Speaker 1: how Jake Craig how tall? You have to go read 397 00:17:39,560 --> 00:17:41,760 Speaker 1: an article. Yeah, whereas I go chat major in Jake 398 00:17:41,760 --> 00:17:45,560 Speaker 1: Craig is five eleven. Yeah, it'll be like, no, I've 399 00:17:45,560 --> 00:17:47,359 Speaker 1: got it on. I've got it on a shirt right here, 400 00:17:47,440 --> 00:17:49,840 Speaker 1: five eleven and handsome. I could have put five eleven 401 00:17:49,840 --> 00:17:51,920 Speaker 1: and ugly, but I didn't. I prefer six foot and ugly. 402 00:17:55,280 --> 00:17:58,040 Speaker 1: What do you put on yours? Nothing? Nothing? Nothing? Just 403 00:17:58,600 --> 00:18:01,719 Speaker 1: speaks to yourself. Mate, don't five seven and unhappy? You're 404 00:18:01,720 --> 00:18:05,040 Speaker 1: gonna wear that the gym stuff? Why not? Like? Seriously, 405 00:18:05,080 --> 00:18:08,320 Speaker 1: who gives a single ship when anybody thinks about it? 406 00:18:08,400 --> 00:18:12,320 Speaker 1: Like you? Who gives a single ship where anyone thinks 407 00:18:12,359 --> 00:18:15,040 Speaker 1: about you? Like we went we were in Pitt Street 408 00:18:15,040 --> 00:18:18,200 Speaker 1: in Sydney, vlogging yesterday or two days ago or whatever, 409 00:18:18,440 --> 00:18:21,080 Speaker 1: and we were just thinking, like every person out here 410 00:18:21,240 --> 00:18:24,000 Speaker 1: is like you're never ever ever going to see them again. 411 00:18:24,359 --> 00:18:26,840 Speaker 1: I'm getting that, I'm getting more confident in myself recently. 412 00:18:27,520 --> 00:18:29,040 Speaker 1: I don't know what's come over me. I'm just like, 413 00:18:30,359 --> 00:18:32,480 Speaker 1: it's so cliche, but I just don't care what people think. 414 00:18:32,520 --> 00:18:35,040 Speaker 2: I know something. It's you know what it is. We're 415 00:18:35,040 --> 00:18:36,160 Speaker 2: twenty four, we're both twenty four. 416 00:18:36,240 --> 00:18:38,480 Speaker 1: Now, I'm twenty four and a half your twenty four fresher, 417 00:18:38,480 --> 00:18:41,080 Speaker 1: little baby. But like with this close to a frontal 418 00:18:41,080 --> 00:18:45,119 Speaker 1: low being developed, oh this is closed, bro, I'm closer 419 00:18:45,119 --> 00:18:48,520 Speaker 1: than you. But where this close? My vassi pressing ras 420 00:18:49,400 --> 00:18:52,040 Speaker 1: or your vassa pressing brain must be going ten days 421 00:18:52,040 --> 00:18:54,760 Speaker 1: away from the missus. That's what I forgot, So bringing 422 00:18:54,760 --> 00:18:57,119 Speaker 1: it back and then we'll finish. The reason I also 423 00:18:57,440 --> 00:19:00,360 Speaker 1: thought that that hypothesis was real is because as soon 424 00:19:00,400 --> 00:19:02,760 Speaker 1: as I left my girlfriend in Bali, she's staying there 425 00:19:02,760 --> 00:19:04,639 Speaker 1: for an extra ten days. As soon as I jumped 426 00:19:04,640 --> 00:19:10,520 Speaker 1: in that taxi, I felt something. I felt more horny horned. Yeah, 427 00:19:10,520 --> 00:19:12,320 Speaker 1: I just got a boner as soon as they got 428 00:19:12,320 --> 00:19:14,399 Speaker 1: on the tackle, like sorry, making me a second. Yeah, No, 429 00:19:14,520 --> 00:19:16,600 Speaker 1: I honestly I was in the taxi thinking about it, 430 00:19:16,640 --> 00:19:18,080 Speaker 1: like she gave me this note and I was thinking 431 00:19:18,080 --> 00:19:20,400 Speaker 1: about that looking back at all the time, and I 432 00:19:20,440 --> 00:19:22,600 Speaker 1: honestly felt not that I don't love her when we're together, 433 00:19:22,680 --> 00:19:26,240 Speaker 1: but I felt something more going on inside me. I 434 00:19:26,280 --> 00:19:27,919 Speaker 1: was in the airport and I was thinking, fuck, that 435 00:19:28,040 --> 00:19:30,359 Speaker 1: was good. I love this woman, something about missing them. Yeah, 436 00:19:30,359 --> 00:19:31,639 Speaker 1: but when I was with him, like I still think 437 00:19:31,680 --> 00:19:33,159 Speaker 1: I love her, but I wasn't thinking like funk up? 438 00:19:33,200 --> 00:19:35,720 Speaker 1: So well, see this is why. But I was thinking 439 00:19:35,760 --> 00:19:36,960 Speaker 1: that when I was on the flight time, I was like, 440 00:19:36,960 --> 00:19:37,879 Speaker 1: fucking love this woman. 441 00:19:38,640 --> 00:19:41,320 Speaker 2: Damn what Yeah, fucking you get in that. Girls get 442 00:19:41,320 --> 00:19:43,280 Speaker 2: the rage. That's why they get more aggresive. Your testosterones 443 00:19:43,320 --> 00:19:44,640 Speaker 2: going on. Yeah you're female. 444 00:19:44,960 --> 00:19:47,320 Speaker 1: Maybe hopefully I'll go to the gym after in that rage, 445 00:19:47,359 --> 00:19:51,600 Speaker 1: that love rage. Two questions. One point is that's why 446 00:19:51,680 --> 00:19:53,720 Speaker 1: I think that you should sleep in separate rooms. More 447 00:19:53,800 --> 00:19:57,160 Speaker 1: great point, because why do girls? Yeah, what's with this? 448 00:19:57,920 --> 00:20:01,400 Speaker 1: Any girl pops this thing? What's this? When we're asleep, 449 00:20:02,080 --> 00:20:04,800 Speaker 1: like it's bonding time. We're both asleep, unconscious. You don't 450 00:20:04,840 --> 00:20:07,160 Speaker 1: even know I'm here until you wake up, Like, let 451 00:20:07,160 --> 00:20:10,639 Speaker 1: me sleep in another room, Like I like, yeah, Like 452 00:20:10,680 --> 00:20:12,679 Speaker 1: I don't dislike sleeping with you, but it's like I 453 00:20:12,720 --> 00:20:15,359 Speaker 1: want my vasa presdent to go up while I'm in 454 00:20:15,359 --> 00:20:17,399 Speaker 1: the other room. You get you, we'd both get a 455 00:20:17,400 --> 00:20:21,240 Speaker 1: better sleep. We both like different things. Oh so like 456 00:20:21,280 --> 00:20:24,000 Speaker 1: well yeah, like what if have you heard, for instance, 457 00:20:24,040 --> 00:20:26,639 Speaker 1: your girlfriend likes waking up with five as Yes, you 458 00:20:26,680 --> 00:20:28,920 Speaker 1: like to wake up when you wake up? Yes? Okay. 459 00:20:29,160 --> 00:20:30,760 Speaker 1: Second question is. 460 00:20:32,480 --> 00:20:35,840 Speaker 2: This This is off topic, but does it count if 461 00:20:35,840 --> 00:20:38,440 Speaker 2: you were to have masturbate in a bathroom toilet? 462 00:20:38,440 --> 00:20:41,639 Speaker 1: Are you part of the my high club. It's a 463 00:20:41,760 --> 00:20:45,000 Speaker 1: very side note. I'm gonna say no. Yeah, I feel 464 00:20:45,000 --> 00:20:51,760 Speaker 1: like that's like pedal high club. Yeah yeah, no, no 465 00:20:52,640 --> 00:20:54,320 Speaker 1: for me. But what I was going to say was, 466 00:20:54,480 --> 00:20:59,399 Speaker 1: have you ever heard of the European bed mass? Scandinavian? Scandinavian? 467 00:20:59,520 --> 00:21:02,040 Speaker 1: Me and bet you do? Do it only where I 468 00:21:02,119 --> 00:21:03,359 Speaker 1: taught you that. No, I've never heard of it. In 469 00:21:03,400 --> 00:21:04,720 Speaker 1: Twe went to Bali and it was one of the beds. 470 00:21:04,720 --> 00:21:06,000 Speaker 1: I'm like, what's going on it? I didn't know what 471 00:21:06,040 --> 00:21:08,320 Speaker 1: to do, like you know, so I didn't teach you that. 472 00:21:08,400 --> 00:21:10,320 Speaker 2: No, Oh, I just we figured it out from TikTok 473 00:21:10,359 --> 00:21:11,320 Speaker 2: and there's two we do it. 474 00:21:11,480 --> 00:21:12,919 Speaker 1: So there's two blankets on a bed and you get 475 00:21:12,960 --> 00:21:15,159 Speaker 1: your own thing. I love it too fair with Cassie's 476 00:21:15,160 --> 00:21:16,800 Speaker 1: tiny So I don't even notice she's there. Oh, I 477 00:21:16,840 --> 00:21:19,080 Speaker 1: noticed best there. Not like and not because she's huge, 478 00:21:22,520 --> 00:21:25,560 Speaker 1: She's far from huge. But she's a blanket hog. Bro 479 00:21:26,000 --> 00:21:27,800 Speaker 1: I'm saying it before I say it again. She's a 480 00:21:27,800 --> 00:21:30,320 Speaker 1: blanket hole. I don't think Cassie does it. She's like 481 00:21:30,359 --> 00:21:33,360 Speaker 1: a fucking neck. She puts her neck in my shoulder 482 00:21:34,560 --> 00:21:38,960 Speaker 1: and I wake up and I'm like, get off me, 483 00:21:39,080 --> 00:21:42,639 Speaker 1: like you you know what's funny is like for some reason. 484 00:21:43,600 --> 00:21:46,119 Speaker 2: So if if I woke up and Beth was like 485 00:21:46,160 --> 00:21:48,160 Speaker 2: next to be touching me, I'd be like, I'd get 486 00:21:48,160 --> 00:21:49,520 Speaker 2: a roll over and some space. 487 00:21:49,600 --> 00:21:51,240 Speaker 1: Yeah. But if I woke up and Henry was like 488 00:21:51,280 --> 00:21:53,520 Speaker 1: up next to me, like like the dog's doing it? 489 00:21:53,560 --> 00:21:55,440 Speaker 1: You want it? Yeah, he's fluffy, yeah, like I want 490 00:21:55,480 --> 00:21:59,399 Speaker 1: to be. And also do you run cold when you 491 00:21:59,400 --> 00:22:01,199 Speaker 1: get a better hot? I run hot. I mean to 492 00:22:01,200 --> 00:22:03,879 Speaker 1: be so hot, whereas girls they lay it up. It 493 00:22:04,040 --> 00:22:05,680 Speaker 1: was hot in Boling. She's got a doner and I'm 494 00:22:05,680 --> 00:22:08,439 Speaker 1: out here in and just sweating. Yeah that's crazy. And 495 00:22:08,440 --> 00:22:09,679 Speaker 1: I was just like and then she was a cuddle. 496 00:22:09,680 --> 00:22:14,280 Speaker 1: I'm like, you got thirty seconds pooking around the only 497 00:22:14,320 --> 00:22:17,280 Speaker 1: thing I yeah. In BALI if the air con was good. 498 00:22:17,680 --> 00:22:19,560 Speaker 1: I'd pump it and use a blanket because like you 499 00:22:19,560 --> 00:22:21,960 Speaker 1: get cozy. That's what I was having on six yenegrees 500 00:22:21,960 --> 00:22:22,960 Speaker 1: and then when I better went to night. 501 00:22:23,280 --> 00:22:25,560 Speaker 2: Yeah, like sometimes it's I am more comfortable sleeping in 502 00:22:25,600 --> 00:22:26,400 Speaker 2: Bali than my own house. 503 00:22:26,440 --> 00:22:28,640 Speaker 1: The only thing I feel like air con air does 504 00:22:28,640 --> 00:22:30,359 Speaker 1: something to your sinuses after a while. 505 00:22:30,359 --> 00:22:32,080 Speaker 2: You're right, it's proven like it makes you sick. Yeah, 506 00:22:32,320 --> 00:22:34,320 Speaker 2: from like humid to non humid because it dries out 507 00:22:34,359 --> 00:22:34,920 Speaker 2: your room as well. 508 00:22:35,000 --> 00:22:36,560 Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, it's like not as hell because it's 509 00:22:36,600 --> 00:22:39,400 Speaker 1: it's just like fake air, is it, Like it's got 510 00:22:39,400 --> 00:22:41,760 Speaker 1: to be something like how do they make that's old 511 00:22:41,800 --> 00:22:45,320 Speaker 1: version of the Like surely that goes through some chemical 512 00:22:45,320 --> 00:22:47,680 Speaker 1: process and filtered as well. It's probably better. I don't reckon. 513 00:22:47,720 --> 00:22:49,600 Speaker 1: I feel like my nose was always blocked when I 514 00:22:49,640 --> 00:22:51,800 Speaker 1: woke up in Ballet, but he is like fresh, yeah weird. 515 00:22:58,680 --> 00:22:59,480 Speaker 1: Alrighty guys. 516 00:22:59,720 --> 00:23:02,440 Speaker 2: Next, I just wanted to touch on something about two 517 00:23:02,520 --> 00:23:06,199 Speaker 2: or three episodes ago. We had a dilemma, and in 518 00:23:06,240 --> 00:23:10,800 Speaker 2: this dilemma, I explained that the creepiest dudes are actually 519 00:23:10,800 --> 00:23:13,240 Speaker 2: the ones that I ask you to come back to 520 00:23:13,280 --> 00:23:16,679 Speaker 2: their place and you say no, and then if they 521 00:23:17,280 --> 00:23:19,600 Speaker 2: think to themselves that if they can get you back 522 00:23:19,600 --> 00:23:22,760 Speaker 2: there and get you to like give consent, that they're 523 00:23:22,760 --> 00:23:25,040 Speaker 2: doing the right thing and getting consent. I just want 524 00:23:25,040 --> 00:23:27,879 Speaker 2: you to know that that's the wrong thing. By no means, 525 00:23:27,880 --> 00:23:29,240 Speaker 2: do we think that's the right thing, or do I 526 00:23:29,240 --> 00:23:32,639 Speaker 2: think that's the right thing. That's actually coercive consent. We 527 00:23:32,680 --> 00:23:34,480 Speaker 2: had a listener point that out to us, which we 528 00:23:34,520 --> 00:23:37,479 Speaker 2: really appreciate, and I just wanted to apologize that we 529 00:23:37,520 --> 00:23:40,800 Speaker 2: did that. I did not know that, and that we 530 00:23:40,840 --> 00:23:44,120 Speaker 2: have now educated ourselves and that is coercive consent, which 531 00:23:44,160 --> 00:23:46,840 Speaker 2: is the wrong thing, and we want to preach that 532 00:23:47,440 --> 00:23:49,480 Speaker 2: by no means do we think that that's right at all. 533 00:23:49,640 --> 00:23:50,680 Speaker 1: We didn't think it was right. 534 00:23:51,000 --> 00:23:53,440 Speaker 2: We learned that it's illegal and that no means no 535 00:23:53,520 --> 00:23:55,880 Speaker 2: from the start, and we just want everyone to. 536 00:23:55,880 --> 00:23:59,439 Speaker 1: Know that no means no. No means no. 537 00:23:59,600 --> 00:24:02,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, sorry about that, and that's up to us 538 00:24:02,880 --> 00:24:03,879 Speaker 2: to educate ourselves. 539 00:24:04,320 --> 00:24:07,440 Speaker 1: And yeah, let's get back into it, all right, guys. 540 00:24:07,800 --> 00:24:10,480 Speaker 1: It's dilemmas time. Hey, guys, love the pod. I have 541 00:24:10,520 --> 00:24:13,679 Speaker 1: a dilemma for you. I have always been generally insecure 542 00:24:13,760 --> 00:24:16,120 Speaker 1: in the bedroom, but once I'm a little bit more 543 00:24:16,160 --> 00:24:18,679 Speaker 1: comfortable with the person I like. I like to switch 544 00:24:18,760 --> 00:24:23,280 Speaker 1: things up lowell like positions, and that my current boyfriend 545 00:24:23,320 --> 00:24:25,600 Speaker 1: and I tend to have spicy converos when we aren't 546 00:24:25,640 --> 00:24:28,919 Speaker 1: together because we're long distance because of his work, but 547 00:24:29,119 --> 00:24:31,720 Speaker 1: have only really done it in Missionary, and when I 548 00:24:31,760 --> 00:24:34,119 Speaker 1: try to switch things up or suggest something else, it 549 00:24:34,240 --> 00:24:37,560 Speaker 1: just never happens. I always hint towards trying other things 550 00:24:37,600 --> 00:24:41,120 Speaker 1: and tell him he can literally do whatever he wants. Yeah, 551 00:24:41,320 --> 00:24:45,439 Speaker 1: but he still does the same thing every time his 552 00:24:45,560 --> 00:24:48,680 Speaker 1: friend's old joke and say it's me who's vanilla, when 553 00:24:48,720 --> 00:24:51,960 Speaker 1: I definitely feel like I have a sexier and higher 554 00:24:52,000 --> 00:24:55,800 Speaker 1: sex drive and want to try more things. Sorry if 555 00:24:55,840 --> 00:24:57,679 Speaker 1: it's long, but I just don't know what it means 556 00:24:57,880 --> 00:24:59,960 Speaker 1: or what to do. Help a girl out. Love you guys. 557 00:25:01,200 --> 00:25:05,760 Speaker 2: Hey, I gotta say Missionary is the fucking best, and 558 00:25:05,960 --> 00:25:08,600 Speaker 2: I like, some dudes are just very vanilla. 559 00:25:09,320 --> 00:25:12,160 Speaker 1: Yeah they are. Some dudes are boring. 560 00:25:12,920 --> 00:25:16,399 Speaker 2: I honestly think I'm one of them. Really, like I 561 00:25:16,440 --> 00:25:18,320 Speaker 2: reckon eighty percent of the time. 562 00:25:19,000 --> 00:25:22,159 Speaker 1: My preference is boring. Yeah, my preference. And then like 563 00:25:22,400 --> 00:25:25,359 Speaker 1: every now and then, you know, if we're both in 564 00:25:25,400 --> 00:25:29,240 Speaker 1: the mood, Yeah, spice it up. I was gonna say, 565 00:25:30,359 --> 00:25:33,480 Speaker 1: why are dudes so boring? It's actually a great question 566 00:25:33,520 --> 00:25:36,160 Speaker 1: because I do feel like girls are like they want 567 00:25:36,160 --> 00:25:40,040 Speaker 1: to do more stuff. It's in I'm thinking for him, 568 00:25:40,040 --> 00:25:41,880 Speaker 1: maybe just because he's away for work and he comes 569 00:25:41,880 --> 00:25:45,159 Speaker 1: home and he just wants to missionary missionary, missionary. But 570 00:25:45,160 --> 00:25:46,520 Speaker 1: he should be listening to his part, Like if my 571 00:25:46,520 --> 00:25:47,720 Speaker 1: girlfriend came to me and said, hey, I want to 572 00:25:47,760 --> 00:25:50,679 Speaker 1: try some new position, let's do it, Like, yeah, like 573 00:25:50,920 --> 00:25:53,760 Speaker 1: I try new positions if but he but he also 574 00:25:53,840 --> 00:25:55,919 Speaker 1: like he's the thing is like he actually might just 575 00:25:56,040 --> 00:25:58,719 Speaker 1: be very vanilla. I think the easiest thing to do 576 00:25:58,760 --> 00:26:01,159 Speaker 1: here is but the ounds of it, you haven't actually 577 00:26:01,600 --> 00:26:03,960 Speaker 1: sat down and talked to him. Oh yeah, you do 578 00:26:04,000 --> 00:26:06,800 Speaker 1: it over text like spicy message, yeah, which is completely different, 579 00:26:07,119 --> 00:26:09,040 Speaker 1: or you hint it when things are about to get sexual, 580 00:26:09,160 --> 00:26:10,919 Speaker 1: like oh yeah, maybe throw me around or like do 581 00:26:11,000 --> 00:26:12,879 Speaker 1: whatever you want. Like if I heard do whatever you want, 582 00:26:12,920 --> 00:26:14,760 Speaker 1: and then I'm about to have get lost in the moment. 583 00:26:14,920 --> 00:26:18,639 Speaker 1: So maybe when there's no sexual text textion sexual tension 584 00:26:18,720 --> 00:26:21,520 Speaker 1: over text, or in the moment just sitting down having dinner, 585 00:26:21,840 --> 00:26:23,560 Speaker 1: but just be like, hey, you know how we have 586 00:26:23,600 --> 00:26:25,280 Speaker 1: sex like we just did mission early time, Like I 587 00:26:25,320 --> 00:26:27,520 Speaker 1: love that, but I also I kind of want to 588 00:26:27,520 --> 00:26:29,480 Speaker 1: try some new things. I kind of need that, which 589 00:26:29,480 --> 00:26:30,120 Speaker 1: can be keen. 590 00:26:30,359 --> 00:26:33,040 Speaker 2: Like here's a question that she doesn't say it in this, 591 00:26:33,160 --> 00:26:35,919 Speaker 2: but while you guys are actually having sex, do you 592 00:26:36,000 --> 00:26:37,199 Speaker 2: ever take charge a bit? 593 00:26:38,040 --> 00:26:40,280 Speaker 1: Sometimes? Like some girl might need you to take charge 594 00:26:40,320 --> 00:26:42,240 Speaker 1: because he's scared to do it. Some girls don't like 595 00:26:42,320 --> 00:26:44,160 Speaker 1: to take charge that they like to be the passive one. 596 00:26:44,160 --> 00:26:46,159 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, but I can. I don't know 597 00:26:46,160 --> 00:26:47,560 Speaker 1: what it's just said. I don't know the percentages, but 598 00:26:47,600 --> 00:26:49,399 Speaker 1: I feel like a lot more girls like the guys 599 00:26:49,440 --> 00:26:50,159 Speaker 1: to be in control. 600 00:26:50,440 --> 00:26:53,840 Speaker 2: I think that's probably a pretty common leader, just a llead. 601 00:26:54,040 --> 00:26:56,720 Speaker 2: I wouldn't say I know any statistics, but I'm thinking, like, 602 00:26:57,840 --> 00:27:00,000 Speaker 2: but I'm not even I just need help the first 603 00:27:00,240 --> 00:27:02,160 Speaker 2: couple of times true, and then he'd be here. 604 00:27:02,320 --> 00:27:04,800 Speaker 1: You can be like, okay, to be fair, how this 605 00:27:04,840 --> 00:27:06,840 Speaker 1: is for you? To be fair? If like a girl 606 00:27:06,880 --> 00:27:08,080 Speaker 1: is there and she's like all right, let me just 607 00:27:08,119 --> 00:27:09,840 Speaker 1: get on top of you now, like it's hot, oh 608 00:27:09,840 --> 00:27:13,120 Speaker 1: my god. Yeah. Guys also like to just be told 609 00:27:13,119 --> 00:27:14,800 Speaker 1: what to do or like just hit it from the back, 610 00:27:15,280 --> 00:27:19,359 Speaker 1: like yeah, like slap my ass. Yeah, like just maybe 611 00:27:19,359 --> 00:27:21,240 Speaker 1: that's what you wanted to do. You might want not 612 00:27:21,320 --> 00:27:23,119 Speaker 1: want that, but you might just be like do it 613 00:27:23,119 --> 00:27:24,760 Speaker 1: from behind. We've learned it on the pod that like 614 00:27:24,800 --> 00:27:27,520 Speaker 1: initially it's gonna sound awkward and you're gonna feel like 615 00:27:27,640 --> 00:27:28,920 Speaker 1: I don't want to say that, or like I don't 616 00:27:28,960 --> 00:27:30,440 Speaker 1: want to do that. But as soon as you start 617 00:27:30,480 --> 00:27:32,600 Speaker 1: like practicing and doing it more than once, you should 618 00:27:32,600 --> 00:27:34,560 Speaker 1: be in a comfortable position with your boyfriend where you 619 00:27:34,600 --> 00:27:36,359 Speaker 1: can try new things and not feel embarrassed. 620 00:27:36,920 --> 00:27:40,960 Speaker 2: This situation could benefit with baby steps. So first step, 621 00:27:41,080 --> 00:27:45,000 Speaker 2: I'm I'm glad you said steps. Going to say babies, 622 00:27:47,359 --> 00:27:52,879 Speaker 2: this could benefit with from baby steps. Right, so you 623 00:27:53,000 --> 00:27:55,720 Speaker 2: could say to him over dinner, like you were saying, 624 00:27:55,760 --> 00:27:58,320 Speaker 2: like I would really like it if you started to 625 00:27:58,400 --> 00:28:01,600 Speaker 2: talk dirty maybe and talking dirty we have found out 626 00:28:01,640 --> 00:28:03,800 Speaker 2: it's not all that hard, Like it's kind of just 627 00:28:03,840 --> 00:28:05,600 Speaker 2: like maybe a bit of groaning, like a bit of 628 00:28:05,640 --> 00:28:07,520 Speaker 2: like oh fuck, like fuck yeah, I don't just like 629 00:28:07,800 --> 00:28:10,520 Speaker 2: say you probably would love for him to be like 630 00:28:11,040 --> 00:28:12,760 Speaker 2: even while in missionary like him just be like, oh 631 00:28:12,800 --> 00:28:14,360 Speaker 2: you're so fucking hot, give us one like. 632 00:28:14,320 --> 00:28:19,640 Speaker 1: You're in sexes. Come on, don't you know it's not Chris, 633 00:28:19,760 --> 00:28:21,679 Speaker 1: but saying it's not. But I'm not in the moment. 634 00:28:21,760 --> 00:28:23,280 Speaker 1: How am I supposed to do it when I'm not 635 00:28:23,320 --> 00:28:25,200 Speaker 1: in the most I've tried this before. Actually, you babe 636 00:28:25,200 --> 00:28:26,600 Speaker 1: me into this every time I talk about this, and 637 00:28:26,640 --> 00:28:28,080 Speaker 1: I've done it before. Just think about if you guys 638 00:28:28,119 --> 00:28:29,280 Speaker 1: want to hear me do it. Go listen to the 639 00:28:29,280 --> 00:28:33,080 Speaker 1: whole discography of relatable don't gas. You'll hear it. Some 640 00:28:34,280 --> 00:28:37,240 Speaker 1: say talking about it. Just say it. You have a girl, 641 00:28:37,240 --> 00:28:39,840 Speaker 1: I always do it. You're the king, I always do it. 642 00:28:39,880 --> 00:28:42,640 Speaker 1: You ever go? Are you trying to say you don't 643 00:28:42,680 --> 00:28:44,800 Speaker 1: do it? You're the sex icon on the pod. Let 644 00:28:44,800 --> 00:28:48,040 Speaker 1: me just hear what you would try and do. No, 645 00:28:49,920 --> 00:28:51,400 Speaker 1: that's what you would say. She would say, talk to it. 646 00:28:51,480 --> 00:28:57,920 Speaker 1: You go, no, I'm done. Oh man. Sometimes I will 647 00:28:57,920 --> 00:29:02,320 Speaker 1: say this sex icons back. I will say this. 648 00:29:02,840 --> 00:29:08,680 Speaker 2: Sometimes sometimes it's like I forget to do dirty talk 649 00:29:08,920 --> 00:29:11,160 Speaker 2: and then and then I'll be like, oh, it's been 650 00:29:11,280 --> 00:29:14,640 Speaker 2: like I don't know I'm in it. It's been like 651 00:29:14,880 --> 00:29:16,560 Speaker 2: I know, it's been a couple of minutes and I 652 00:29:16,600 --> 00:29:17,480 Speaker 2: haven't made a noise. 653 00:29:17,960 --> 00:29:19,440 Speaker 1: So then I try and make up for the noise. 654 00:29:19,480 --> 00:29:20,240 Speaker 1: I haven't made. 655 00:29:21,600 --> 00:29:30,840 Speaker 2: Fuck, so basically, okay, I reckon, there's I'm sure if 656 00:29:30,840 --> 00:29:32,640 Speaker 2: you're the type of person that wasn't trying to positions 657 00:29:32,640 --> 00:29:34,160 Speaker 2: Gili spicy, then I'm sure you want to hear some 658 00:29:34,200 --> 00:29:36,960 Speaker 2: nice dirty talk, so start with that, and then you 659 00:29:37,120 --> 00:29:39,280 Speaker 2: reacting positively to said dirty talk is going to give 660 00:29:39,320 --> 00:29:40,240 Speaker 2: him even more confidence. 661 00:29:40,440 --> 00:29:41,320 Speaker 1: That's my experience. 662 00:29:41,400 --> 00:29:42,880 Speaker 2: I think that's the only thing I can say about it, 663 00:29:42,880 --> 00:29:45,000 Speaker 2: because that's that's the only way I feel like. 664 00:29:45,160 --> 00:29:46,800 Speaker 1: The only other thing it could be is he's not 665 00:29:46,840 --> 00:29:49,160 Speaker 1: confident enough to try other positions. To be fair, when 666 00:29:49,200 --> 00:29:52,040 Speaker 1: I was like eighteen ninety and I'd only done Missionary, 667 00:29:52,440 --> 00:29:55,040 Speaker 1: I was scared to go and doggy because you finished 668 00:29:55,000 --> 00:29:57,520 Speaker 1: straight away. No, I didn't even like I'm afraid, Like, honestly, 669 00:29:57,720 --> 00:29:59,720 Speaker 1: to god, I've thought I didn't know where the holes 670 00:29:59,720 --> 00:30:03,320 Speaker 1: like when you slip them around who I want to 671 00:30:03,360 --> 00:30:07,000 Speaker 1: know who scared us as kids and said it's hard 672 00:30:07,040 --> 00:30:10,800 Speaker 1: to find. Yeah, that's a misconceptions maybe, but maybe I 673 00:30:10,880 --> 00:30:12,520 Speaker 1: was shitting myself for sex. I was like, what if 674 00:30:12,520 --> 00:30:15,360 Speaker 1: I can't find the whole? Yeah? I was like what, 675 00:30:15,120 --> 00:30:16,640 Speaker 1: I'm like, well, how do you mean? No, I've never 676 00:30:16,640 --> 00:30:19,400 Speaker 1: seen one before. A supposed to know where that is. Yeah, 677 00:30:19,440 --> 00:30:23,680 Speaker 1: and then also you're never going to miss and put 678 00:30:23,720 --> 00:30:25,440 Speaker 1: it in the barn. I just want to give anybody 679 00:30:25,560 --> 00:30:28,360 Speaker 1: like there's no way wear a dilemma ones really but 680 00:30:28,480 --> 00:30:30,800 Speaker 1: maybe if like that's I feel like, I don't know, Yeah, 681 00:30:30,800 --> 00:30:32,800 Speaker 1: I don't know. You've got to be keen and really thrusty. 682 00:30:32,880 --> 00:30:36,000 Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, So I reckon dirty talk is the start, 683 00:30:36,080 --> 00:30:38,120 Speaker 1: all right, and then like come back to us, I 684 00:30:38,200 --> 00:30:40,040 Speaker 1: dare say, he's not very confident and you just got 685 00:30:40,080 --> 00:30:43,320 Speaker 1: to build his confidence up little step by step. Jump 686 00:30:43,320 --> 00:30:45,640 Speaker 1: on the so try and get him to do dirty talk, 687 00:30:45,720 --> 00:30:48,680 Speaker 1: and then jump on the Facebook group and do a 688 00:30:48,720 --> 00:30:50,880 Speaker 1: post and we approve it, right, Like, we'll prove the 689 00:30:50,920 --> 00:30:54,320 Speaker 1: post and just go update on this dirty talk will 690 00:30:54,320 --> 00:30:56,120 Speaker 1: have a name on it. You can't do that, Oh. 691 00:30:56,040 --> 00:30:59,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, I wonder if you can do anonymous posts in it. 692 00:30:59,480 --> 00:31:03,520 Speaker 1: Maybe possible, we'll Yeah. Unfortunately, if you want to message 693 00:31:03,560 --> 00:31:06,080 Speaker 1: ute it, you have to join Patreon. That's how you 694 00:31:06,120 --> 00:31:09,280 Speaker 1: get to ask. This is what we're doing. We got 695 00:31:09,280 --> 00:31:11,880 Speaker 1: this new Facebook group. Legal be in this description of 696 00:31:11,920 --> 00:31:14,640 Speaker 1: this video for anything updates on dilemmas or if you 697 00:31:14,640 --> 00:31:16,400 Speaker 1: think we're saying something dumb yeah, give. 698 00:31:16,280 --> 00:31:18,200 Speaker 2: Us updates on episodes, what you thought of it, and like, 699 00:31:18,720 --> 00:31:19,760 Speaker 2: like everyone can talk to everyone. 700 00:31:19,920 --> 00:31:21,800 Speaker 1: You got some advice, very like my boyfriend was the 701 00:31:21,800 --> 00:31:23,680 Speaker 1: same and I needed to fucking buy dildo to do it. Like, 702 00:31:24,000 --> 00:31:25,720 Speaker 1: if you're not afraid to put a dilemma and let 703 00:31:25,760 --> 00:31:27,920 Speaker 1: that put it in, we'll prove that shit straight away, 704 00:31:28,560 --> 00:31:29,680 Speaker 1: build that community up. 705 00:31:30,200 --> 00:31:33,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, but so dirty talks were it that I'd say, Okay, 706 00:31:34,120 --> 00:31:37,280 Speaker 2: my dilemma is Hello, guys. I'm a fifty year old 707 00:31:37,320 --> 00:31:40,880 Speaker 2: woman and have been single for almost five years, about 708 00:31:40,920 --> 00:31:43,520 Speaker 2: three and a half of that was during COVID. I'm 709 00:31:43,640 --> 00:31:48,720 Speaker 2: very independent, confident, smart, and I dare say cute. Oh yeah, 710 00:31:48,800 --> 00:31:50,920 Speaker 2: I don't look my age and often people are very 711 00:31:50,960 --> 00:31:53,960 Speaker 2: surprised when they find out how old I am. Anyways, 712 00:31:54,400 --> 00:31:57,520 Speaker 2: I met a guy at work recently and we connected instantly. 713 00:31:58,200 --> 00:32:00,960 Speaker 2: We have a lot of the same interest, same sense 714 00:32:00,960 --> 00:32:03,600 Speaker 2: of humor, and it's really easy to talk to him. 715 00:32:04,080 --> 00:32:06,640 Speaker 2: It's been a long time since I've felt so comfortable 716 00:32:06,680 --> 00:32:09,880 Speaker 2: talking and getting to know someone this way. It's obvious 717 00:32:10,240 --> 00:32:13,400 Speaker 2: we are both attracted to each other. We spend at 718 00:32:13,480 --> 00:32:17,040 Speaker 2: least thirty minutes talking well after work is done and 719 00:32:17,120 --> 00:32:19,680 Speaker 2: after everyone else has left the office, which is when 720 00:32:19,920 --> 00:32:21,960 Speaker 2: we got to know each other. So when we get 721 00:32:21,960 --> 00:32:25,760 Speaker 2: to know each other, but he is twenty six and 722 00:32:25,880 --> 00:32:27,840 Speaker 2: plot twist, I'm his boss. 723 00:32:28,160 --> 00:32:31,360 Speaker 1: Oh didn't see that coming. I didn't hire him. 724 00:32:31,680 --> 00:32:34,360 Speaker 2: I came into the job as a new manager. I 725 00:32:34,440 --> 00:32:38,840 Speaker 2: don't know what I'm asking. I just really feel conflicted. 726 00:32:39,560 --> 00:32:43,280 Speaker 1: Help, okay, okay, okay. Firstly, I wanted to say, oh, 727 00:32:43,320 --> 00:32:45,720 Speaker 1: I absolutely love that we got a fifty year old 728 00:32:45,760 --> 00:32:49,640 Speaker 1: milf watching Fuck yeah, milf, you may not be himum 729 00:32:49,680 --> 00:32:51,560 Speaker 1: just a fifth year old baddie. Yeah yeah, yeah, same thing. 730 00:32:51,720 --> 00:32:55,640 Speaker 1: She knows what I mean. Yeah, hold up, if you're 731 00:32:56,040 --> 00:32:58,920 Speaker 1: if you're fifty and you're a baddie and you don't 732 00:32:58,920 --> 00:33:02,400 Speaker 1: have kids, you're still just a milk. Yeah. I don't know. 733 00:33:02,440 --> 00:33:04,720 Speaker 1: Maybe we're wrong, But so first things first, thank you 734 00:33:04,800 --> 00:33:07,160 Speaker 1: very much for listening. But I also wanted to say 735 00:33:07,640 --> 00:33:11,600 Speaker 1: love does not change. Love does not change the dilemmas 736 00:33:11,600 --> 00:33:13,120 Speaker 1: we get from a en year old girls, twenty five 737 00:33:13,240 --> 00:33:16,080 Speaker 1: year old girls, thirty year old thing. But she's fifty. Yeah, 738 00:33:16,160 --> 00:33:18,040 Speaker 1: same thing, which is a good point. Good point, that's 739 00:33:18,040 --> 00:33:19,680 Speaker 1: all right, Yeah, it's the same thing. Okay, Well, we're 740 00:33:19,680 --> 00:33:21,960 Speaker 1: twenty four we're close to his age, so I gotta 741 00:33:22,920 --> 00:33:26,000 Speaker 1: love knows no bound this is this is a single 742 00:33:26,040 --> 00:33:30,360 Speaker 1: man's dream. His boss who's hot has a crush on him. 743 00:33:31,000 --> 00:33:34,280 Speaker 1: Fuck like being as like we try to be as 744 00:33:34,320 --> 00:33:36,760 Speaker 1: mature as possible in this pod. Still, any male would 745 00:33:36,760 --> 00:33:37,520 Speaker 1: love to admit that this. 746 00:33:37,480 --> 00:33:40,520 Speaker 2: Is their DREAMT Yeah, we do try to be mature 747 00:33:40,520 --> 00:33:41,880 Speaker 2: as possible with that one hundred percent true. 748 00:33:41,960 --> 00:33:44,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, this is like everybody's dream. So what can she do? 749 00:33:45,040 --> 00:33:46,720 Speaker 2: But like, here's the thing that's tough, is like there's 750 00:33:46,720 --> 00:33:49,080 Speaker 2: policies in place where it's like you're the boss, you're 751 00:33:49,080 --> 00:33:50,520 Speaker 2: definitely not allowed to have a relationship. 752 00:33:50,520 --> 00:33:52,640 Speaker 1: Is it all? Like, is there any like job places 753 00:33:52,640 --> 00:33:54,120 Speaker 1: that don't care if you I don't know. 754 00:33:54,120 --> 00:33:55,840 Speaker 2: I think there's places where you can go and you 755 00:33:55,880 --> 00:33:58,000 Speaker 2: can say like, oh, we would like to start a relationship. 756 00:33:58,000 --> 00:33:59,120 Speaker 2: We want you to know that we have finished each 757 00:33:59,160 --> 00:34:00,840 Speaker 2: o blah blah blah blah, and then I think that 758 00:34:01,000 --> 00:34:02,880 Speaker 2: I think the company can be like, yeah, that's cool, 759 00:34:02,880 --> 00:34:04,480 Speaker 2: you get to keep your jobs, or they can be like, 760 00:34:04,520 --> 00:34:06,479 Speaker 2: if you want to do this, one of yours is gone. 761 00:34:06,680 --> 00:34:07,840 Speaker 1: I don't know if that's how they do it, that 762 00:34:07,880 --> 00:34:09,560 Speaker 1: could be right, surely if you go to him and 763 00:34:09,600 --> 00:34:11,200 Speaker 1: say like, hey, we went on a couple of days 764 00:34:11,239 --> 00:34:13,120 Speaker 1: and we really like each other. I want to take 765 00:34:13,120 --> 00:34:15,560 Speaker 1: this further. Is that okay? And they surely they're be 766 00:34:15,560 --> 00:34:17,440 Speaker 1: like sure, like you just don't matter, let it affect 767 00:34:17,440 --> 00:34:19,160 Speaker 1: your work work like balance, but I think I feel 768 00:34:19,160 --> 00:34:23,239 Speaker 1: like they work better twenty six Yeah right, he's got 769 00:34:23,239 --> 00:34:25,040 Speaker 1: plenty of years for a career ahead of he can 770 00:34:25,120 --> 00:34:27,799 Speaker 1: quit if he loves you. Yeah, if he wants this, 771 00:34:27,880 --> 00:34:28,439 Speaker 1: he'll quit. 772 00:34:29,000 --> 00:34:31,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, you don't need to be but because like here's 773 00:34:31,120 --> 00:34:34,560 Speaker 2: the thing as well, Like I have I have done 774 00:34:34,680 --> 00:34:37,920 Speaker 2: shifts at so Beth manages a cafe Sydney, and I've 775 00:34:37,920 --> 00:34:41,720 Speaker 2: done shifts when she needs help and she doesn't boss 776 00:34:41,719 --> 00:34:44,359 Speaker 2: me around or anything by any means. But for some 777 00:34:44,440 --> 00:34:49,719 Speaker 2: reason I had to start like like if they if 778 00:34:49,719 --> 00:34:53,560 Speaker 2: she's desperate, like I'll obviously help her. But she says 779 00:34:53,600 --> 00:34:55,000 Speaker 2: like I can just have shifts if I want them, 780 00:34:55,000 --> 00:34:57,920 Speaker 2: just for extra cash. Yeah, but like I just am. 781 00:34:57,760 --> 00:34:59,600 Speaker 1: Like, you know what, no, because when you're there, you're 782 00:34:59,600 --> 00:35:02,560 Speaker 1: my boss, and it's just I just don't like the feeling. 783 00:35:02,760 --> 00:35:04,320 Speaker 1: So maybe not like yeah, like by no means that 784 00:35:04,360 --> 00:35:06,200 Speaker 1: she bossed me round it or anything, but like it's 785 00:35:06,280 --> 00:35:09,759 Speaker 1: just I just don't really maybe the dynamic it's just 786 00:35:09,800 --> 00:35:11,719 Speaker 1: not there, Like you can't, yeah, like you can't be 787 00:35:11,760 --> 00:35:13,920 Speaker 1: in a relationship. You know, you're a woman in power, 788 00:35:14,560 --> 00:35:19,080 Speaker 1: fucking good on you and then he's half your age 789 00:35:19,520 --> 00:35:22,480 Speaker 1: and you're his boss. I think, like this will work. 790 00:35:22,719 --> 00:35:24,880 Speaker 1: There's no reason. There's no reason why I work, but 791 00:35:24,920 --> 00:35:26,359 Speaker 1: he I think one of yourself. I wish she said 792 00:35:26,360 --> 00:35:28,080 Speaker 1: what job it was, if like if he can find 793 00:35:28,160 --> 00:35:30,120 Speaker 1: like if you're like a base manager at like some 794 00:35:30,239 --> 00:35:33,160 Speaker 1: I don't know, high up train and then he's just 795 00:35:33,239 --> 00:35:36,600 Speaker 1: like some basic and you can go anywhere else like 796 00:35:36,640 --> 00:35:40,520 Speaker 1: this switch like that, Yeah, why transfer? Yeah, yeah we 797 00:35:40,560 --> 00:35:44,279 Speaker 1: figured it out. You transfer him close enough, like with 798 00:35:44,320 --> 00:35:47,160 Speaker 1: in half an hour, yeah, and then go on dates. Sam. 799 00:35:47,239 --> 00:35:50,000 Speaker 2: He hasn't actually really said anything about like them having 800 00:35:50,000 --> 00:35:51,719 Speaker 2: gone on dates, on planning to go on dates, like 801 00:35:51,719 --> 00:35:54,040 Speaker 2: she just like so she's basically saying she has a 802 00:35:54,040 --> 00:35:56,400 Speaker 2: crush on him. She never felt connection like this for 803 00:35:56,400 --> 00:35:59,120 Speaker 2: a long time, and it sucks that she's fifty, he's 804 00:35:59,120 --> 00:36:00,880 Speaker 2: twenty six, and she's his boss. 805 00:36:01,040 --> 00:36:05,920 Speaker 1: The mature answer is don't do it. Yeah, you know better, Yeah, 806 00:36:06,080 --> 00:36:10,960 Speaker 1: love knows no binds. Yeah, but my life short girl. 807 00:36:11,719 --> 00:36:13,799 Speaker 1: Well he's actually he figure something out? 808 00:36:13,960 --> 00:36:16,239 Speaker 2: You could it's probably not the I don't know if 809 00:36:16,280 --> 00:36:18,040 Speaker 2: there's anything wrong with this. Could you secretly go on 810 00:36:18,080 --> 00:36:19,960 Speaker 2: a few dates? Like could you hint? Like I'd love 811 00:36:20,000 --> 00:36:21,839 Speaker 2: to take you on a date? And if he says no, 812 00:36:22,000 --> 00:36:23,040 Speaker 2: he says no, it is what it is. 813 00:36:23,080 --> 00:36:27,560 Speaker 1: But I also don't I don't like, why do jobs 814 00:36:27,600 --> 00:36:32,279 Speaker 1: get to choose who falls in love? I don't know. 815 00:36:32,360 --> 00:36:34,040 Speaker 2: I think it's just so I do of like she's 816 00:36:34,080 --> 00:36:36,920 Speaker 2: the boss and if they're dating, like, oh, is it like. 817 00:36:36,880 --> 00:36:39,839 Speaker 1: She's got a favor him obviously? How could you not? Yeah? No, 818 00:36:39,920 --> 00:36:42,200 Speaker 1: she's gonna look at him through gold lenses. Yeah right, 819 00:36:42,600 --> 00:36:46,120 Speaker 1: he'll be untouchable. How about why don't we his mature 820 00:36:46,360 --> 00:36:49,360 Speaker 1: and appropriate strategy? Why don't you see if there's actually 821 00:36:49,360 --> 00:36:53,279 Speaker 1: a connection there? Ask him, Hey, I think there are, 822 00:36:53,400 --> 00:36:54,880 Speaker 1: like you, maybe I don't, Maybe don't say that, Hey, 823 00:36:54,920 --> 00:36:55,680 Speaker 1: do you want to go on a date with me? 824 00:36:55,719 --> 00:36:58,480 Speaker 1: If he says yes, one date under the company's radar, Yeah, 825 00:36:58,520 --> 00:37:01,480 Speaker 1: who gives a fuck? Yeah, life like you can she's 826 00:37:01,520 --> 00:37:02,800 Speaker 1: just a job. At the end of exactly, I was 827 00:37:02,800 --> 00:37:04,600 Speaker 1: gonna say that before, Yeah, take him on one day? 828 00:37:04,640 --> 00:37:07,160 Speaker 1: And then if the connections were fighting for like you 829 00:37:07,200 --> 00:37:09,719 Speaker 1: think it is, let's talk and quit. He can quit, 830 00:37:10,440 --> 00:37:12,560 Speaker 1: he can quit. And if he's not open acquitting, talk 831 00:37:12,600 --> 00:37:14,400 Speaker 1: to your bosses. And I dare say, if they're human, 832 00:37:14,760 --> 00:37:16,319 Speaker 1: they won't give a fuck. Actually a good point. 833 00:37:16,480 --> 00:37:19,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, if they're human, then like they're either going to 834 00:37:19,640 --> 00:37:21,600 Speaker 2: be like look, it's actually not okay for him to 835 00:37:21,640 --> 00:37:22,440 Speaker 2: be in your department. 836 00:37:22,560 --> 00:37:25,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, but he can move to departments. Let's just yeah, 837 00:37:25,600 --> 00:37:27,600 Speaker 1: make sure the connections there first. Let's not just like 838 00:37:27,719 --> 00:37:30,040 Speaker 1: live in to Lulu Land. Yeah, don't go getting broken 839 00:37:30,080 --> 00:37:32,640 Speaker 1: hearted on us here. Yeah. Yeah, it's one I actually 840 00:37:32,719 --> 00:37:35,080 Speaker 1: really want updates on. Yeah, yeah, yeah, and make sure 841 00:37:35,160 --> 00:37:37,040 Speaker 1: but like it does get complicated if they start dating 842 00:37:37,080 --> 00:37:38,439 Speaker 1: and then you break up, you've got to like fucking 843 00:37:38,480 --> 00:37:40,319 Speaker 1: see him every day and shit. Yeah, so that's kind 844 00:37:40,320 --> 00:37:41,680 Speaker 1: of you just got to think about those things. It 845 00:37:41,760 --> 00:37:43,680 Speaker 1: is very complicated. But we like to live in Dulu 846 00:37:43,840 --> 00:37:45,640 Speaker 1: Land here? Could we do like living to Lulu Land? 847 00:37:45,680 --> 00:37:47,919 Speaker 1: And like, yeah, you got to think about it as well. 848 00:37:48,880 --> 00:37:50,759 Speaker 2: I don't like being a w downer, but what is 849 00:37:50,800 --> 00:37:52,720 Speaker 2: the likelihood of a twenty six year old and a fifty. 850 00:37:52,560 --> 00:37:55,719 Speaker 1: Year old work long term? But who knows. That's the 851 00:37:55,760 --> 00:37:57,480 Speaker 1: thing is that she said she an't either one of them. 852 00:37:57,520 --> 00:37:59,640 Speaker 1: She said she looks young. She could look thirty, she 853 00:37:59,680 --> 00:38:03,839 Speaker 1: could thirty. It's like, seriously, should look thirty? Good luck 854 00:38:03,920 --> 00:38:07,520 Speaker 1: should be it'd be funny the way true. Yeah, yeah, 855 00:38:08,480 --> 00:38:20,240 Speaker 1: throw some sex in there somewhere, all right, everybody, big, big, 856 00:38:20,760 --> 00:38:25,000 Speaker 1: big announcement. You might be thinking, oh, no, the Relatables 857 00:38:25,040 --> 00:38:28,000 Speaker 1: episodes are done for the week. Oh yeah, there's another 858 00:38:28,000 --> 00:38:29,719 Speaker 1: one on Patreon if you want to pay for it. 859 00:38:29,719 --> 00:38:33,200 Speaker 1: It's only five dollars, not very much. But we've got 860 00:38:33,200 --> 00:38:37,160 Speaker 1: a big announcement, which is on Friday. There is a 861 00:38:37,200 --> 00:38:42,840 Speaker 1: bonus episode every single week. Should we explain what the 862 00:38:42,880 --> 00:38:44,080 Speaker 1: episode's about or just give it to them? 863 00:38:44,120 --> 00:38:45,759 Speaker 2: See they like it, Give it to them if they're like, yeah, 864 00:38:45,760 --> 00:38:47,560 Speaker 2: I reckon, and I think like, as soon as you 865 00:38:47,600 --> 00:38:48,719 Speaker 2: listen to it, you'll be like, oh, I know what 866 00:38:48,719 --> 00:38:52,000 Speaker 2: they did. Okay, you'll listen to Monday, you'll listen to this, 867 00:38:52,280 --> 00:38:53,640 Speaker 2: and then if you're not on Patreon and you just 868 00:38:53,680 --> 00:38:54,879 Speaker 2: go listen to Friday, you'll be like. 869 00:38:54,800 --> 00:38:57,879 Speaker 1: I know what they did there? Yeah exactly. So enjoy that. 870 00:38:58,000 --> 00:39:01,239 Speaker 1: You're welcome more content, more, more content. Yeah, if you 871 00:39:01,239 --> 00:39:04,439 Speaker 1: want more content. There's also Patreon five dollars a month. Yep, 872 00:39:04,520 --> 00:39:07,160 Speaker 1: you get next episode every week. And then there's also 873 00:39:08,480 --> 00:39:10,400 Speaker 1: don't forget to join the Facebook group link in the 874 00:39:10,400 --> 00:39:13,120 Speaker 1: description description. That's where we want to start. Five star this. 875 00:39:13,160 --> 00:39:14,680 Speaker 1: We're doing ten k five stars. At the end of 876 00:39:14,719 --> 00:39:16,839 Speaker 1: the year, we slow down a bit. What happened to guys? Yeah, 877 00:39:16,920 --> 00:39:18,359 Speaker 1: ten k five stars by the end of your sounds 878 00:39:18,360 --> 00:39:20,839 Speaker 1: actually a bit unreachable. Yeah, okay, let's bring it back. 879 00:39:21,160 --> 00:39:23,120 Speaker 1: I'm bit scared. We don't we don't fail here. We 880 00:39:23,160 --> 00:39:25,959 Speaker 1: live in d lulu Land. Alrighty see you guys, see 881 00:39:26,000 --> 00:39:26,040 Speaker 1: you