WEBVTT - REWIND: That Hole is an In Not an Out!

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<v Speaker 1>Apogee Production.

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<v Speaker 2>Girls type in central. Who's the guy? I like, he's

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<v Speaker 2>really good? Oh, Johnny Sims.

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<v Speaker 3>Boys watch Johnny Simms.

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<v Speaker 4>That's how girls like to be more like Johnny Simms,

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<v Speaker 4>whereas guys are watching the most hectic.

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<v Speaker 1>When you're with your friends, you talk about all the

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<v Speaker 1>ship everything everything. Your friends single like you or they Yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>And they're really hot and they're really available and they're amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>DM, what what's the I'm gonna put you on spot

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<v Speaker 1>The worst nationality mail to date.

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<v Speaker 3>Australian definitely definitely boring.

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<v Speaker 4>Don't go to any effort. I think of grunt and

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<v Speaker 4>a boom grab is full play. A date is at

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<v Speaker 4>the bar.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, don't ask questions.

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<v Speaker 3>They just sit there and like don't brush their teeth,

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<v Speaker 3>like if we've got deodor and.

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<v Speaker 2>Turn up in singles like I could go on. Actually,

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<v Speaker 2>Australians are.

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<v Speaker 3>My father worst American.

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<v Speaker 4>They they've got the riz and the rizz is charisma

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<v Speaker 4>and they're just born. Whether it's fake minnas or real Mennas,

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<v Speaker 4>they're just you know, they'll offer you their coat, they'll

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<v Speaker 4>come up to in a bar, they'll come up to

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<v Speaker 4>getting like that.

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<v Speaker 2>They're good.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, they're good. But American just like any bye. Just

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<v Speaker 4>got back from New York and it was the best.

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<v Speaker 4>I got picked up in the airport line like the

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<v Speaker 4>guy who does who stamps your He was like, where

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<v Speaker 4>are you staying? And I was like here. He's like,

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<v Speaker 4>you're going to take me out?

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<v Speaker 3>And I was like, yes, I've a right, but also no,

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<v Speaker 3>because you're not my time. So I say Americans are

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<v Speaker 3>the best. They just I say Americans shoot?

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<v Speaker 2>What is it they shoots? Oh yeah, definitely.

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<v Speaker 4>Actually the last time I was in New York, I

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<v Speaker 4>hooked up with a Frenchman so that didn't work out.

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<v Speaker 4>But no Americans to shoot their shot.

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<v Speaker 1>What scares you about the mail the most? It's a commitment.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, yeah, you are right.

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<v Speaker 4>As soon as the guy I questioned a guy, but

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<v Speaker 4>this is on me and please.

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<v Speaker 2>Know this is my issue, not there.

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<v Speaker 3>As soon as the guy shows real interest, it freaks

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<v Speaker 3>me out.

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<v Speaker 1>I reckon. You get bored because you've done the hard work,

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<v Speaker 1>so you like. What you like to do is you

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<v Speaker 1>look at someone and say, oh, I want to do this.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to see if he looks a challenge. But

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<v Speaker 1>once that challenge is done.

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<v Speaker 2>Nabbed him. Thank you. Next it's really bad.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah it is, and it's something I've definitely got and

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<v Speaker 4>I know it, and they say the first step is

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<v Speaker 4>recognizing it.

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<v Speaker 2>Tick.

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<v Speaker 4>I get yeah, and then I'm like, wha, what the heck?

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<v Speaker 4>I lose interest pretty quickly.

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<v Speaker 2>But that's on me, you know, I'm I don't know.

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<v Speaker 4>I question and I'm like, really me, how old are you?

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<v Speaker 2>Thirty nine? So I should know better.

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<v Speaker 1>But what I said about maybe thirty four.

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<v Speaker 2>Thirty four loah his botox to men? Thank you? No.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I struggle with commitment, but I think that's probably

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<v Speaker 4>because I grew up in a household where they were

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<v Speaker 4>high school sweethearts. So that kind of drama that you

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<v Speaker 4>have in high school played.

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<v Speaker 1>Out through your brothers and sisters.

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<v Speaker 3>Two brothers, yeah, and well they think of what you

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<v Speaker 3>got up to.

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<v Speaker 4>One brother has blocked me on Instagram. He's like, I

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<v Speaker 4>love you, I just don't want to know.

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<v Speaker 3>One.

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<v Speaker 4>So the youngest brother, who's really kind of put together.

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<v Speaker 4>He's an environmental scientist. He got his HC back. No

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<v Speaker 4>one knew he was that smart. And then I'm like,

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<v Speaker 4>oh my god, like he's really intelligent, married his university sweetheart,

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<v Speaker 4>has two kids, has a house in Rubra and a

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<v Speaker 4>farm in Victoria. And then my other brother lives out

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<v Speaker 4>on a farm in Parks.

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<v Speaker 3>And he's no, he's no. He calls everything I.

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<v Speaker 2>Set him up with my girlfriends. He reads all else

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<v Speaker 2>to do exactly. He's so bored.

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<v Speaker 1>Where state you've ever been on?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god? So many.

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<v Speaker 4>There was a guy who ghosted me halfway through a date,

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<v Speaker 4>but then I found out he was married.

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<v Speaker 3>So it was really funny.

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<v Speaker 4>I feel like there's a lot of guys who got

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<v Speaker 4>married before the dating apps came along, and I think

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<v Speaker 4>they feel like they really missed out on dating apps

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<v Speaker 4>and they think we're all having sex.

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<v Speaker 2>And to be fair, they're not wrong.

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<v Speaker 1>Because I was supposed to say I think it is.

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<v Speaker 2>They're not wrong. It's a randy randy thing.

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<v Speaker 4>But so all these guys got married, and they're like, fuck,

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<v Speaker 4>all my mates are on the dating apps having all

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<v Speaker 4>this ex and I want to see what it's like.

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<v Speaker 4>So they did some stat bumble or Tinder or one

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<v Speaker 4>of them found that like thirty percent of the men

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<v Speaker 4>on dating apps are actually married. And I went on

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<v Speaker 4>a date with this guy and he wanted to go

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<v Speaker 4>to this really quiet pub that no one goes to

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<v Speaker 4>when I got there, and he was like sweating.

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<v Speaker 2>This was before, this.

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<v Speaker 4>Was when I had just started my dating column, so

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<v Speaker 4>I wasn't really known as dating promist.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah yeah, And he.

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<v Speaker 4>Was sweating bullets, sweating bullets, and he kept drinking and

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<v Speaker 4>he would like open his throat, you know when like they.

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<v Speaker 3>Drink and it just goes straight down.

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<v Speaker 4>He was not enjoying the beer. I was like, oh

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<v Speaker 4>my god, he's drinking so fast. And he kept going

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<v Speaker 4>out for cigarettes and I was like, this guy, I've

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<v Speaker 4>never seen someone so nervous on a date. But I

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<v Speaker 4>kind of stuck with it and I was like, he's

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<v Speaker 4>all right. Then he went out for a cigarette, like

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<v Speaker 4>he's like fifth cigarette. And so I got chatting to

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<v Speaker 4>the people next to me, and then ten minutes went by,

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<v Speaker 4>then like fifteen minutes and twenty minutes, and so then

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<v Speaker 4>I jumped back on the app and I had a

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<v Speaker 4>message from him saying, sorry I've left. You look like

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<v Speaker 4>you're having a really good chat to those guys. I

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<v Speaker 4>was like, I'm having a chat with these guys because

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<v Speaker 4>you've left. And then I went home crying and I

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<v Speaker 4>called my best friend.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, I've just been inquisted on a date.

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<v Speaker 2>This is so traumatic.

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<v Speaker 4>And he goes to me, no, this is a really

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<v Speaker 4>good article, and I was like, Y're what.

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<v Speaker 2>I stopped crying and then I was like, this is

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<v Speaker 2>breun article.

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<v Speaker 4>And then we did some research because no one researches

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<v Speaker 4>like a girl scorned and found him on Instagram and yeah,

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<v Speaker 4>he was married, so he is just thinking he could idiot.

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<v Speaker 1>So you do see how you've done the column on him?

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<v Speaker 1>So you did see what I mean? Yeah, why people

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<v Speaker 1>are so scared now?

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<v Speaker 3>He deserved it. He was married.

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<v Speaker 2>Naughty boy, Tell me what are you?

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<v Speaker 4>I want someone who's loud and fun and outgoing and

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<v Speaker 4>ambitious and age.

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<v Speaker 3>Age probably older.

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<v Speaker 4>I want someone who's probably already been married and had

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<v Speaker 4>kids because I don't want kids. No, no, no, I

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<v Speaker 4>just never got the maternity. Maternity, maternal maternity.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't even know.

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<v Speaker 1>The what.

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<v Speaker 2>May I never end up in maternity what No, I

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<v Speaker 2>never got it. So I'm I'm quite.

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<v Speaker 4>Happy to date a divorced guy because they've had their kids,

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<v Speaker 4>they've got out of the system. It's really hard to

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<v Speaker 4>date someone who wants kids because I'm never going to

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<v Speaker 4>change my mind.

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<v Speaker 3>And reason all these dudes think you will change your mind.

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<v Speaker 1>But the thing is that, see how you've got you

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<v Speaker 1>try and change them, But why can't they?

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<v Speaker 3>No, I never do No, I would never take kids

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<v Speaker 3>off someone.

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<v Speaker 1>What I'm saying is you like to change someone like

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<v Speaker 1>a male. Yeah, So why can't they change you to

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<v Speaker 1>change your mind?

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<v Speaker 2>No, because.

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<v Speaker 4>I will never be pushing something out of there.

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<v Speaker 1>There nothing's going out.

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<v Speaker 3>It's an inny, not an OUTI.

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<v Speaker 2>No, No, not for me. So divorce man prime Target.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh yeah, definitely. Yeah, Yeah, I definitely want to get married,

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<v Speaker 4>which is weird because I've done these articles and I

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<v Speaker 4>did a debate on Sky News the other day. Or

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<v Speaker 4>my marriage is outdated, but now I think marriage can

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<v Speaker 4>come in many forms as open marriages. Yeah, I'd like

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<v Speaker 4>to be married now.

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<v Speaker 1>Before we started the conversation today, you did talk about swingers.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>Ah, here's my problem with swinging.

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<v Speaker 1>On the spot. You know why, because I would look

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<v Speaker 1>at your articles all the time and I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>you put everyone else on the spot.

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<v Speaker 2>I love it. I love it. You've got me thinking

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<v Speaker 2>write anything about me. I'm tiving into my head. No. No,

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<v Speaker 2>with swinging.

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<v Speaker 3>My problem with swinging.

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<v Speaker 4>Is I only I would definitely swing if I could

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<v Speaker 4>hand pick every person in that room.

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<v Speaker 1>Though, because that's when you go in. From what I know,

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<v Speaker 1>you can go in there and if you don't can

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<v Speaker 1>say no to that person, but yes to that person,

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<v Speaker 1>not to that person. Yes.

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<v Speaker 2>That I just feel like would be gross.

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<v Speaker 4>And also I want them if I'm having sex, I

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<v Speaker 4>only want the people I've approved to be watching.

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<v Speaker 2>It's a control thing.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm in control.

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<v Speaker 4>Absolutely not, and I'd been too busy going do I

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<v Speaker 4>have a double chin angle?

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<v Speaker 2>I wouldn't be enjoying it.

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<v Speaker 3>My head would not be in the room. It would

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<v Speaker 3>be do I have cellul.

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<v Speaker 2>With everyone looking at me? Cellul? No?

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<v Speaker 4>But if I could get like five hot guys five

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<v Speaker 4>hot girls.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'd go for it.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh so you would be you would totally. I've tried it.

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<v Speaker 2>I really wanted to think. I written just about that

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<v Speaker 2>the pandemic was low.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, like I've doubled. Yeah. It was a bit of fun,

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<v Speaker 3>never dated, never just a.

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<v Speaker 1>Bit of like you went out for drinks and.

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<v Speaker 4>Girls really needy, like I kind of it was weird.

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<v Speaker 4>Dabbling made me go, oh, it's interesting seeing it from

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<v Speaker 4>a guy's point of view, because I've like got drunk

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<v Speaker 4>and walked up with the girl, and then I'm.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, from like text text text.

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<v Speaker 3>Cool, cool cool, and I'm no, that was just fun.

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<v Speaker 3>That was just silly.

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<v Speaker 4>H