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Speaker 1: Good day, champions. Hope you're great, Welcome to another installment

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Speaker 1: of your Favorites podcast. Is it, though, he says optimistically,

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Speaker 1: I don't know. Let's hope it's in the top hundred.

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Speaker 1: I hope you well. So we've all heard the saying

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Speaker 1: go where you grow, Go where you grow. It's kind

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Speaker 1: of cheesy, isn't it. I agree, it's totally cheesy. It's cheesy.

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Speaker 1: I don't use it. Mah, maybe I use every now

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Speaker 1: and then despite its cheesiness. But what I do love

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Speaker 1: is I love the idea. I love the idea of putting.

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Speaker 1: I'm going to personalize it and then you can personalize

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Speaker 1: it to you if it's relevant. But I love the

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Speaker 1: idea of putting myself in situations or circumstances or environments

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Speaker 1: or challenges or roles that are going to help me

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Speaker 1: get better, help me grow, help me evolve, help me learn,

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Speaker 1: help me develop skill and confidence and competence, and help

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Speaker 1: me become a better version of me. And again this

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Speaker 1: comes back to the stepping away from the theory and

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Speaker 1: stepping into the doing. Being proactive so that we can

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Speaker 1: be productive, so that we can do things that are

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Speaker 1: uncomfortable or unfamiliar or inconvenient or uncertain, because that's all

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Speaker 1: of those uns the unfamiliarity, uncertainty, the uncomfortable stuff, the

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Speaker 1: uncertain stuff, that's where we grow. That's often where we grow,

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Speaker 1: and so that's where we need to go quite often.

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Speaker 1: And growth can be like growth is a really individual

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Speaker 1: thing for you. So you know the area of your

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Speaker 1: development or your psychology or physiology, or skill or career

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Speaker 1: athletic ability or athletic prowess. Perhaps more accurately, it could

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Speaker 1: be relevant to any of those things. And so growth

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Speaker 1: or improvement or positive change all the same thing that's

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Speaker 1: going to be represented differently to different people. So I'm

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Speaker 1: really interested in becoming a world class podcaster, and I

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Speaker 1: know that I can't become a world class podcast and

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Speaker 1: maybe I am already who knows. I don't know. I'll

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Speaker 1: let you be the judge. Maybe I'm shit, But anyway,

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Speaker 1: I know that I can't become really good or better.

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Speaker 1: I can't grow and learn and evolve. I can't develop

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Speaker 1: the skill and the art and the science of podcasting

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Speaker 1: to world class level without doing podcasts. I can simulate

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Speaker 1: it all I want. I can talk to myself in

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Speaker 1: who does that and not you are But it's only

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Speaker 1: when I step into the process, when I step into

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Speaker 1: the doing, when I go where I grow, which is

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Speaker 1: sitting there like I am right now in front of

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Speaker 1: I've done this a lot, and I try to be

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Speaker 1: stories which are relevant and potentially helpful and powerful for you.

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Speaker 1: It's only when I keep showing up and keep doing

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Speaker 1: it where I grow. I can't develop skill. I can't

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Speaker 1: get better at this by not doing this. I can't

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Speaker 1: build muscle by not doing strength training. I can't become

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Speaker 1: more knowledgeable unless I am consciously and proactively putting myself

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Speaker 1: in a situation where I'm learning. Now that could be

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Speaker 1: incidental learning. I guess when I'm going through a process

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Speaker 1: is a possibility, and so learning could be growth. Becoming

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Speaker 1: better communicator or writer or teacher, even like this is

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Speaker 1: I love this idea. Becoming a better thinker For some people,

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Speaker 1: that's growth. And I don't necessarily mean being smarter or

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Speaker 1: Is it empowering or disempowering? Is the stuff that typically

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Speaker 1: So growth on an individual level, growth for you could

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Speaker 1: can't get good at the thing that we're not doing,

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Speaker 1: I've learned lots of stuff about leadership and communication and

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Speaker 1: science of public speaking and professional and corporate speaking. I

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Speaker 1: know that I've learned a lot by being around great

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Speaker 1: I've learned a lot being in and around it, But

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Speaker 1: where I personally have learned the most is when I'm

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Speaker 1: not saying the other stuff is not good. It's all good,

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Speaker 1: thing that I want to be good at. So what

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Speaker 1: What do you want to be better at? What do

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Speaker 1: maybe it's not that, Maybe it's something way, way simpler

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Speaker 1: to be better at saying no to people because you're

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Speaker 1: an overwhelming fucking people pleaser. And while it's nice to

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Speaker 1: of that, guess what, you're not making people happier, or

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Speaker 1: luck with that, because that's fucking ridiculous. But is that

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Speaker 1: only way that you can grow in this space is

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Speaker 1: to go no, no, and you know what, just and

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Speaker 1: when they go oh oh, you don't need to give

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Speaker 1: pretty regularly, hey, do you want to do? Whatever it is?

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Speaker 1: And depending on the situation, I'm not always a selfish prick.

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Speaker 1: Do I want to go bowling on a Friday night?

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Speaker 1: not my thing though, that's not me saying, hey, you're

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Speaker 1: I've been humiliated. I've done things well, I've done things terribly.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes I'm going to be the dumbest in the room,

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Speaker 1: But how I get better in that room, how I grow,

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Speaker 1: how I learn, how I evolve, is I be around

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Speaker 1: my insecurity and fear and giant ego. I'm not grown

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Speaker 1: in that room. I'm not learning, I'm not developing. Why

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Speaker 1: I don't mean physically bigger. I mean grow, improve, learn, adapt, develop,

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Speaker 1: So you're not going to accidentally get amazing. You're not

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Speaker 1: of the stuff that I share with you is theory.

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Speaker 1: Me sitting here just banging out a whole lot of

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