WEBVTT - GOODBYE 2024! 0:00:00.040 --> 0:00:03.560 I think in July I bought a Cat's Lotto ticket 0:00:03.720 --> 0:00:08.880 and I won ten dollars on it. Like this, I care, No, 0:00:08.960 --> 0:00:10.479 I'm kidding, it's right. 0:00:15.520 --> 0:00:17.960 Where's Your Head At is a podcast that talks all 0:00:18.040 --> 0:00:23.360 things relationships, breakups, reality TV, trending shows, and everything in between. 0:00:23.640 --> 0:00:26.360 This is your new go to destination for laughs, gossip, 0:00:26.520 --> 0:00:30.760 intimate details, advice, and much more. 0:00:33.560 --> 0:00:38.840 It is officially twenty twenty five. Welcome everyone to twenty 0:00:38.880 --> 0:00:41.800 twenty five. We hope that you are not feeling too 0:00:41.880 --> 0:00:45.519 dusty today, but you had an amazing start to your 0:00:45.560 --> 0:00:46.000 new year. 0:00:46.120 --> 0:00:49.040 High Matt, Hello Anna, and happy new Year to you 0:00:49.120 --> 0:00:51.720 and everyone that is listening. Can you believe it's twenty 0:00:51.720 --> 0:00:55.200 twenty five? I swear to you not. It honestly feels 0:00:55.200 --> 0:00:56.640 like it was twenty twenty yesterday. 0:00:57.200 --> 0:00:59.120 I know, it feels like it was twenty ten when 0:00:59.160 --> 0:01:02.640 I graduated. Sco oh yeah, today like twenty twenty five. 0:01:02.920 --> 0:01:06.200 It's it's scary, Honestly, where the last couple of years gone. 0:01:06.280 --> 0:01:09.480 I can't even tell you where twenty one to twenty 0:01:09.520 --> 0:01:12.680 three went? Yeah, I know, no idea. If you tell me, 0:01:13.160 --> 0:01:16.160 tell me, let me know. I've lost it. I've disappeared. 0:01:16.480 --> 0:01:19.240 I mean, I feel like each year has like something 0:01:19.280 --> 0:01:23.040 really special that happens. Maybe something not so special, but 0:01:23.080 --> 0:01:26.039 the thing that I loved it for the most significant. Yeah, 0:01:26.160 --> 0:01:28.200 I think the thing that I love the most about 0:01:28.200 --> 0:01:30.640 a new year is it's like a fresh slate. It's 0:01:30.720 --> 0:01:35.319 like anything can happen, start again. Anything that's shitty that 0:01:35.440 --> 0:01:38.760 happened last year, it's out the window. Catch you never, 0:01:39.040 --> 0:01:42.120 we don't want to see you anymore. It's like, you know, 0:01:42.280 --> 0:01:43.160 positive vibes. 0:01:43.200 --> 0:01:46.319 Really, I agree, I mean, I agree. Let's start twenty 0:01:46.319 --> 0:01:49.640 twenty five off with positive vibes and look forward with 0:01:49.840 --> 0:01:50.640 good energy. 0:01:51.080 --> 0:01:56.440 We have very exciting plans as well for twenty twenty five. 0:01:56.520 --> 0:01:59.720 We have recorded this a little bit before, so technically 0:01:59.760 --> 0:02:03.400 we us still in twenty twenty four currently, but our 0:02:03.800 --> 0:02:06.760 new episode that's going to come out next week will 0:02:06.760 --> 0:02:10.040 be our very first twenty twenty five episode back, and 0:02:10.080 --> 0:02:12.799 we are shaking things up at Where's your Head At? 0:02:13.160 --> 0:02:15.840 We are going to be staying a little bit more 0:02:15.840 --> 0:02:19.720 true to ourselves in what life stage we're at, exploring 0:02:19.760 --> 0:02:22.320 those themes, exploring adulthood, and it's going to be so 0:02:22.400 --> 0:02:24.400 much fun. We are so excited. But I don't want 0:02:24.440 --> 0:02:26.280 to give too much away, So that's all I'm going 0:02:26.320 --> 0:02:26.680 to say. 0:02:27.040 --> 0:02:31.760 We started the podcast single and just not having any 0:02:31.800 --> 0:02:35.240 idea how to date, and now we've both got both married. 0:02:35.400 --> 0:02:39.280 Now we're both married, so yeah, different style of life. 0:02:39.400 --> 0:02:41.360 I guess everyone grows up like we started. I was 0:02:41.360 --> 0:02:44.359 looking back at our podcast. I was just looking back 0:02:44.360 --> 0:02:46.200 at it, like looking back at episodes and like looking 0:02:46.240 --> 0:02:48.120 at titles and all that sort of stuff, and like 0:02:48.160 --> 0:02:50.799 I was saying, before it goes back to twenty one, 0:02:50.880 --> 0:02:54.200 like where did that go? I know, like where it was. 0:02:54.320 --> 0:02:55.480 I was looking at the episodes and I was looking 0:02:55.480 --> 0:02:57.560 at the years, and I was like, whoa, We've been 0:02:57.560 --> 0:02:59.840 doing this for like four is that four years? Nearly 0:03:00.040 --> 0:03:01.200 would be four years this year? 0:03:01.639 --> 0:03:04.960 Like remember when we went on a date and Michael 0:03:05.120 --> 0:03:06.600 and the girl that you were on a date. 0:03:06.480 --> 0:03:13.519 With had been together. Yeah before, but I'm just neither 0:03:13.560 --> 0:03:14.519 of I. We don't date. 0:03:14.560 --> 0:03:16.680 We're married, but like you know what I mean, Like 0:03:16.919 --> 0:03:20.400 how crazy of an evolution has this podcast been? And 0:03:20.560 --> 0:03:23.200 for people who have listened from the start, like you 0:03:23.240 --> 0:03:26.600 guys are seriously so close to our hearts, and like 0:03:27.440 --> 0:03:30.120 you really have seen the journey. And I know that 0:03:30.120 --> 0:03:32.840 that's a shit word to say, but it's been a rollercoaster. 0:03:32.960 --> 0:03:36.120 It's been unexpected and like that said, like you just 0:03:36.160 --> 0:03:39.119 don't think you're going to grow up, but we all do. 0:03:39.480 --> 0:03:43.080 And we've seen it very clearly in front of which 0:03:43.120 --> 0:03:45.640 are those eyes and everyone else is we've done. 0:03:45.520 --> 0:03:47.480 It in front of everyone. Over the last couple of years, 0:03:47.600 --> 0:03:48.120 it's been. 0:03:48.160 --> 0:03:50.320 Yeah, and we are. We're excited for what's to come. 0:03:51.600 --> 0:03:54.080 I think it's like really time for us to sit 0:03:54.120 --> 0:03:58.360 in that niche of like, you know, two newly married. 0:03:58.120 --> 0:04:01.480 People, you're about to have a child. 0:04:01.960 --> 0:04:05.160 About to have a child, relationships and all of those 0:04:05.160 --> 0:04:09.360 things that you know, hopefully our listeners are going through 0:04:09.600 --> 0:04:12.040 you can send to people. It's going to relate to people. 0:04:12.120 --> 0:04:13.520 So we're excited about that. 0:04:13.800 --> 0:04:17.520 Quickly, before we move on, what's your highlight of last year? 0:04:17.720 --> 0:04:19.520 I think I know, because you've got a couple of 0:04:19.520 --> 0:04:21.440 big things. What was your highlight of twenty twenty four? 0:04:21.600 --> 0:04:25.520 I would obviously have to say it is equal first 0:04:25.800 --> 0:04:29.520 with getting married in Corfu to the love of my life, Michael, 0:04:30.120 --> 0:04:34.160 and also finding out that we are expecting a baby. 0:04:34.520 --> 0:04:39.000 They're my two equal highlights. Yeah, twenty twenty four has 0:04:39.000 --> 0:04:43.080 been a crazy, crazy year for us. So yeah, that's 0:04:43.160 --> 0:04:45.159 definitely highlight. What's your highlight? 0:04:45.920 --> 0:04:47.599 God, it was massive year. There was a heap of 0:04:47.600 --> 0:04:54.159 things that happened. But probably I think in July I 0:04:54.200 --> 0:04:56.799 bought a Cats Lotto ticket and I won ten dollars 0:04:56.839 --> 0:05:03.640 on it. Silight Oa. No, I'm kidding. That was amazing day. 0:05:03.680 --> 0:05:05.920 It was obviously a couple of weeks ago marrying Tammy, 0:05:06.160 --> 0:05:07.720 the love of my life. It was the last day 0:05:07.760 --> 0:05:10.839 of my life. Yeah, amazing though. It was awesome. And 0:05:10.880 --> 0:05:14.279 then obviously the honeymoon, which we will touch on. We 0:05:14.320 --> 0:05:17.000 will give you an episode about that, guys, but we 0:05:17.040 --> 0:05:19.040 will and it will tell you all about it. It 0:05:19.080 --> 0:05:20.280 was just perfect. Yeah. 0:05:20.520 --> 0:05:22.360 No, we were very excited to hear all about that 0:05:22.400 --> 0:05:25.440 honeymoon and also just to get like the behind the 0:05:25.480 --> 0:05:28.480 scenes because I don't know anyone who's been to Lapland 0:05:28.680 --> 0:05:32.000 or any info. I feel like if anyone's wanting to 0:05:32.040 --> 0:05:35.440 go to Lapland, it would be really interesting. 0:05:35.160 --> 0:05:40.680 Go go. It's amazing. Honestly. If one thing I'm going 0:05:40.760 --> 0:05:43.760 to say, like people always go on like honeymoons to 0:05:43.960 --> 0:05:46.600 like sunny places like the Mold Eyes or like Fiji. 0:05:46.600 --> 0:05:49.760 It says nothing wrong with, nothing wrong with, nothing wrong 0:05:49.760 --> 0:05:52.480 with But we did it differently and went here and 0:05:52.560 --> 0:05:53.719 it was amazing. 0:05:54.160 --> 0:05:56.240 It was very up both of your alley though, like 0:05:56.360 --> 0:05:57.360 both love Christmas. 0:05:57.760 --> 0:06:01.080 Yeah, so romantic, Yeah, very romantic. 0:06:01.279 --> 0:06:03.479 Okay, we're going to talk more about that next year. 0:06:03.880 --> 0:06:06.760 But technically everyone who's listening to this is in twenty 0:06:06.800 --> 0:06:10.640 twenty five. So we thought that we could do our 0:06:10.760 --> 0:06:14.680 ins and outs of twenty twenty four to twenty twenty five. 0:06:14.760 --> 0:06:15.320 So I think we. 0:06:15.240 --> 0:06:18.680 Should start without outs of twenty twenty four. The things 0:06:19.000 --> 0:06:22.240 that we are not bringing into twenty twenty five. 0:06:25.680 --> 0:06:31.280 My first one is just negativity, So like, I want 0:06:31.320 --> 0:06:35.240 to leave all the negative stuff behind me because obviously, 0:06:35.720 --> 0:06:40.960 you know, it's the nature of the beast that we're in, 0:06:41.320 --> 0:06:43.840 and I think that a lot of people want to 0:06:43.880 --> 0:06:46.839 be negative towards us, and it can stay in twenty 0:06:46.880 --> 0:06:48.960 twenty four. I don't give a fuck about it anymore. 0:06:49.600 --> 0:06:54.080 So yeah, praying, Yeah, that is also online. And then 0:06:54.400 --> 0:06:56.880 in reverse to that, my inn is like focusing on 0:06:56.920 --> 0:06:59.400 your own life and making your own life the best 0:06:59.440 --> 0:07:01.520 thing ever, so that you don't even have time to 0:07:01.600 --> 0:07:06.640 focus on anyone else except yourself. Okay, My next out 0:07:06.839 --> 0:07:11.760 is out for drinking caffeine and alcohol, mainly because I'm 0:07:11.760 --> 0:07:16.800 pregnant and I can't drink those things. But also I'm 0:07:17.360 --> 0:07:20.800 so off caffeine, like I could drink one coffee a day, 0:07:21.320 --> 0:07:22.720 wild Wild. 0:07:22.760 --> 0:07:23.320 I was as. 0:07:23.280 --> 0:07:27.000 Addicted as you. Now, I'm a you know, I'm a 0:07:27.040 --> 0:07:27.920 reformed woman. 0:07:28.200 --> 0:07:32.640 Well, my in is actually these oxy shreds. I've been 0:07:32.800 --> 0:07:35.240 smashing it and like they're going out of fashion. Such 0:07:35.240 --> 0:07:38.360 a good yeah, such good caffeine here. Okay. 0:07:38.720 --> 0:07:42.840 My out of twenty twenty four is impulsive buying. I 0:07:42.880 --> 0:07:46.320 think sometimes when I'm stressed out or like I don't know, 0:07:46.400 --> 0:07:48.680 I need some dopamine, I just go on a spending 0:07:48.840 --> 0:07:50.640 free and then I have no money and I'm like, 0:07:50.680 --> 0:07:53.440 what the fuck, So why did I do that? 0:07:53.840 --> 0:07:55.680 Do you remember we did this last year? We did 0:07:55.680 --> 0:07:58.160 ins and outs, and one of mine was impulse buying. 0:07:58.240 --> 0:07:59.040 Impulsive buying. 0:07:59.120 --> 0:08:01.840 Yeah, I'm literally sitting at the tennis in January with 0:08:01.880 --> 0:08:04.720 my mate. We're watching the tennis and I was like, oh. 0:08:05.120 --> 0:08:07.800 I was like, I've got the Taylor Swift concert coming up, 0:08:07.840 --> 0:08:10.000 and Super Bowl Day looks like the Chiefs are going 0:08:10.040 --> 0:08:11.840 to be in it. I'm gonna buy myself a calc 0:08:12.160 --> 0:08:14.720 a Travis Kelce jersey. So I'm sitting there and I 0:08:14.800 --> 0:08:16.960 buy it. It's like two hundred and twenty bucks, and 0:08:17.560 --> 0:08:18.720 he looks at me and he goes, I listen to 0:08:18.720 --> 0:08:20.360 your podcast the other day, man, and I'm like yeah, 0:08:20.360 --> 0:08:24.120 and he goes, you literally said no impulse buying, and 0:08:24.200 --> 0:08:26.320 I was like, I've fucked it up already in January 0:08:26.480 --> 0:08:28.280 and I was like, no, no, this is a necessity. 0:08:28.280 --> 0:08:30.120 I need this. I've got two good wears out of 0:08:30.160 --> 0:08:32.680 it scheduled in. I was like, that's not impulse. That's planned. 0:08:32.800 --> 0:08:33.439 To be fair. 0:08:33.520 --> 0:08:37.440 You do love that Travis Kelce sweatshirt or whatever it is, like, 0:08:38.040 --> 0:08:38.880 you wear that a lot. 0:08:39.080 --> 0:08:41.360 Yeah, so I wouldn't say that was impulse, but at 0:08:41.400 --> 0:08:42.960 the time it looked impulse because I was just sitting 0:08:43.000 --> 0:08:45.080 at the tennis and I quickly bought it. But yeah, 0:08:45.120 --> 0:08:48.000 it got its use. But yeah, impulse buying is on 0:08:48.040 --> 0:08:50.400 my outlist again. I think that you're right. You get 0:08:50.400 --> 0:08:53.480 a quick dopemin hit from it, but when you look 0:08:53.520 --> 0:08:57.440 at your bank statement a few days later, the dope 0:08:57.440 --> 0:09:00.520 meine is very depinished. But then it spikes again when 0:09:00.559 --> 0:09:02.760 the past will comes and you come home and it's 0:09:02.760 --> 0:09:04.880 at the door, you get that dopening back again. So 0:09:04.880 --> 0:09:05.720 it's a double whammy. 0:09:06.000 --> 0:09:08.800 Let's not try to convince people to what is it? 0:09:08.840 --> 0:09:10.600 Compulsive by impulse? 0:09:11.200 --> 0:09:15.320 Impulse by Sorry, My final out of twenty twenty four 0:09:16.120 --> 0:09:19.880 is just accepting that sometimes things that are a bit 0:09:19.960 --> 0:09:24.120 shit happen, but it's actually an alignment to you. So 0:09:24.920 --> 0:09:28.120 I don't know, maybe let's just say you lose a friend, 0:09:28.280 --> 0:09:31.600 but it's actually an alignment because unfortunately your values don't 0:09:31.640 --> 0:09:37.040 align anymore. So just seeing redirection or things that happen 0:09:37.120 --> 0:09:39.160 that feel a bit shit as more of an alignment 0:09:39.200 --> 0:09:42.320 than something annoying that's happening, and just trusting in the universe, 0:09:42.559 --> 0:09:44.720 trusting in the process. That's a big one for me. 0:09:45.120 --> 0:09:47.320 Mine is sort of on that as well. 0:09:47.840 --> 0:09:48.720 Oh wait, that's an INN. 0:09:49.960 --> 0:09:51.360 Yeah, well this is where it gets confused. 0:09:51.840 --> 0:09:56.440 An INN, it's an in to focus on. Yeah, okay, 0:09:56.480 --> 0:09:57.280 that's my first in. 0:09:57.440 --> 0:09:59.880 Sorry guys, No, it is confusing. Like I said, when 0:10:00.040 --> 0:10:02.720 I was riding them, I was riding them and I 0:10:02.840 --> 0:10:06.440 was like, because my next one is out is letting 0:10:06.480 --> 0:10:09.480 people take my energy. I find that when I put 0:10:09.520 --> 0:10:13.079 myself in like social situations or just in everyday life, 0:10:13.280 --> 0:10:14.520 I give a lot more. 0:10:15.240 --> 0:10:17.280 It's like the more people you give your energy to, 0:10:17.640 --> 0:10:20.840 then your cup gets less full. You need to protect 0:10:20.840 --> 0:10:21.400 your energy. 0:10:21.520 --> 0:10:23.320 Yeah, that's a good way putting it, because I find that, like, 0:10:23.400 --> 0:10:26.480 I'm so like first to be the most like I 0:10:26.559 --> 0:10:28.640 don't know, charismatic person in the room or the most 0:10:28.640 --> 0:10:30.360 like make everyone laugh. And I feel like if I'm 0:10:30.400 --> 0:10:33.080 just a little bit more protective of my energy and 0:10:33.120 --> 0:10:36.160 give it to like, not everyone, and just people that 0:10:36.200 --> 0:10:38.360 I love and myself especially, I feel like I might 0:10:38.400 --> 0:10:40.000 be a lot happier and I'll get home and be 0:10:40.160 --> 0:10:44.200 less drained and less like, Yeah, I have more for 0:10:44.240 --> 0:10:46.040 myself and more for my family, more for my people 0:10:46.040 --> 0:10:52.839 at home. I've got an inn no gossiping. I don't 0:10:52.880 --> 0:10:54.880 want to talk about other people. I don't want to 0:10:54.880 --> 0:10:58.040 give my energy about other people. I find that like, 0:10:58.160 --> 0:11:00.120 you know, your mates call you up and they're like, 0:11:00.640 --> 0:11:02.520 you know how you've been such hating And they go, oh, 0:11:02.559 --> 0:11:06.520 have you seen yadi yas doing this? And I buy in, 0:11:06.679 --> 0:11:09.240 I'm gonna lie, I'm no better than everyone else. I 0:11:09.320 --> 0:11:11.400 buy in, and I go, oh, really, like you know, 0:11:11.520 --> 0:11:14.480 is he doing this? What's this? None of that? Honestly, 0:11:14.480 --> 0:11:17.160 be like no, I don't give a shit totally. 0:11:17.240 --> 0:11:21.640 I feel like the people who are doing the most, 0:11:21.880 --> 0:11:24.600 like the coolest things in life or things where you 0:11:24.640 --> 0:11:27.360 look up to and go, wow, that's so amazing, are 0:11:27.360 --> 0:11:30.400 the people who are talking about ideas and their businesses 0:11:30.600 --> 0:11:33.920 and what's happening with that and kind of helping other 0:11:33.960 --> 0:11:37.160 people with businesses and balancing ideas off each other. I 0:11:37.160 --> 0:11:39.559 think that's that's the energy of twenty something. 0:11:39.559 --> 0:11:42.480 I admire a lot about my wife. If she does 0:11:42.559 --> 0:11:45.160 not gossip or give a shit, like doesn't buy into 0:11:45.200 --> 0:11:47.040 any of that sort of stuff. She doesn't have time 0:11:47.080 --> 0:11:50.360 for it. She's too busy smashing goals and you know, 0:11:51.080 --> 0:11:53.160 killing life to care about anything else like that. 0:11:53.679 --> 0:11:57.760 Love that in of twenty twenty five. Yeah, okay, celebrating 0:11:57.840 --> 0:12:01.680 all the wins and also days, so not letting a 0:12:01.720 --> 0:12:06.839 holiday pass this year, so for instance, Halloween, making sure 0:12:07.000 --> 0:12:10.080 you dress up. I don't know small business goals that 0:12:10.240 --> 0:12:14.040 I will achieve in twenty twenty five, celebrating all of them, 0:12:14.440 --> 0:12:19.200 anything small, you know, months of the pregnancy in the 0:12:19.280 --> 0:12:21.280 lead up. I think all of those small things, I 0:12:21.320 --> 0:12:24.880 really want to celebrate them because otherwise time just passes. 0:12:24.920 --> 0:12:27.199 You buy and if you don't celebrate you don't remember it. 0:12:28.120 --> 0:12:30.520 I agree a big one for me. You know, I'm 0:12:30.520 --> 0:12:32.920 big on all those things like dressing up for Halloween, 0:12:32.960 --> 0:12:36.040 doing the pumpkins, and then for Christmas like gingerbreads and 0:12:36.120 --> 0:12:38.800 like we're doing ugly Christmas jumper photos, like all that 0:12:38.840 --> 0:12:40.880 sort of stuff. Like just really buy into it, like 0:12:40.960 --> 0:12:46.040 really get stuck into it. My next in is meal preparation. Yeah. 0:12:46.080 --> 0:12:48.440 I feel like, yeah, I have sort of a life 0:12:48.440 --> 0:12:51.480 that doesn't have really much of a routine, so it's 0:12:51.520 --> 0:12:54.120 hard to prep and like and I feel like when 0:12:54.120 --> 0:12:56.400 you don't well, well, what my coach used to say 0:12:56.440 --> 0:13:00.640 when I was in football was the five piece Prior 0:13:00.760 --> 0:13:03.080 preparation prevents poor performance. 0:13:04.240 --> 0:13:07.640 Prior preparation prevents poor performance. 0:13:07.800 --> 0:13:10.320 So it's a tongue twister. Yeah. So if you like 0:13:10.360 --> 0:13:12.920 you prep yourself and I meal prep, you know, be 0:13:13.000 --> 0:13:15.880 easier to stay like healthy and lean up quicker. Just 0:13:15.920 --> 0:13:18.480 do that instead of buying you know, like a meal 0:13:18.559 --> 0:13:21.120 out for lunch every day and that's like what thirty 0:13:21.160 --> 0:13:24.240 forty dollars easy gone like that. So if I just 0:13:24.360 --> 0:13:26.080 meal prep at the start of the week again and 0:13:26.120 --> 0:13:28.720 get my meals done, I should see some sort of 0:13:29.400 --> 0:13:30.800 consistency love it. 0:13:31.440 --> 0:13:35.400 Okay, I think we've we're down to probably our final 0:13:35.520 --> 0:13:40.920 couple prioritizing self care. So I'm wanting to be big 0:13:40.920 --> 0:13:44.240 in twenty twenty five with candle lip baths, candle lip 0:13:44.360 --> 0:13:48.040 couples massages like massaging each other, putting the candles out. 0:13:48.120 --> 0:13:50.440 Can you do that the other day? What you went 0:13:50.480 --> 0:13:51.640 for a couple's massage? 0:13:51.800 --> 0:13:53.880 We did go for a couple's massage, but I was 0:13:53.920 --> 0:13:56.200 talking more like even if we just massage each other, 0:13:56.720 --> 0:14:01.000 put the lights down, candles, like, you know, nothing's better, right? 0:14:01.400 --> 0:14:01.880 So good? 0:14:02.240 --> 0:14:05.839 Yeah? How does Michael going for massages as? And is 0:14:05.880 --> 0:14:07.240 he good at massage? Good? 0:14:07.559 --> 0:14:08.200 Yeah, he's good. 0:14:08.240 --> 0:14:09.520 Apparently I'm not the best. 0:14:11.400 --> 0:14:12.880 Don't go to a massage. 0:14:12.920 --> 0:14:15.800 Well yeah, we got a massage and Tammy told the guy. 0:14:16.040 --> 0:14:17.920 He came around and she told him to like for 0:14:18.040 --> 0:14:20.960 a deep tissue one. Yeah, and I swear to you, 0:14:21.120 --> 0:14:24.000 I've I swear. He was picking every pressure point that 0:14:24.040 --> 0:14:26.120 I had. Literally, I was like laying there and I 0:14:26.160 --> 0:14:28.760 was like, oh was literally and I was like, I'm 0:14:28.760 --> 0:14:31.640 not in pain. I just want to relax. I want 0:14:31.640 --> 0:14:32.920 a relaxing massage. 0:14:33.560 --> 0:14:36.600 I remember in Thailand, Ones I literally had this massage 0:14:36.640 --> 0:14:38.600 and I genuinely felt like I had been beat up. 0:14:38.680 --> 0:14:41.960 This woman was fully like standing on my back the 0:14:42.000 --> 0:14:45.640 whole time, and it was like it was my lungs 0:14:45.640 --> 0:14:49.320 were claustrophobic because I was like I couldn't breathe. 0:14:49.720 --> 0:14:54.680 Yeah, something, I just want a relaxing one. I'm not sore, Yeah, relaxing. 0:14:54.240 --> 0:14:56.640 But not tickle it. She's like the perfect massage. 0:14:56.800 --> 0:14:58.040 I don't want them to tickle it. 0:14:58.560 --> 0:15:00.960 You know sometimes if they go too on the massage 0:15:00.960 --> 0:15:02.280 and then it gets really ctiicular and. 0:15:02.200 --> 0:15:06.240 You're like, that'd be icky someone doing that. I've got 0:15:06.280 --> 0:15:11.000 some on that though. Of inns for self care, I 0:15:11.040 --> 0:15:13.840 want to start my gratitude diaries regularly every night. 0:15:14.000 --> 0:15:15.520 I want to see you're good with that. I'm not 0:15:15.560 --> 0:15:17.720 going to be doing gratitude diaries I already know, yeah, 0:15:17.720 --> 0:15:19.280 you know, and do my baby book. I'm going to 0:15:19.320 --> 0:15:20.320 fill that in for the bay. 0:15:20.480 --> 0:15:24.640 That's cute. That's really cute gratitude diaries. And then I 0:15:24.640 --> 0:15:26.800 want to plan my day. I used to do that 0:15:26.840 --> 0:15:28.240 and I want to get back to doing that where 0:15:28.240 --> 0:15:29.920 I sat down in the morning and I wrote everything 0:15:29.960 --> 0:15:31.120 that I need to do. Even if you don't get 0:15:31.160 --> 0:15:33.360 them done, it's at least there's some stuff there so 0:15:33.440 --> 0:15:35.480 you can see what you need to do. And then 0:15:35.600 --> 0:15:38.520 I want to get back into therapy regularly, just to 0:15:38.520 --> 0:15:41.400 work on myself. I think everyone can say what they want. 0:15:41.440 --> 0:15:45.160 I've seen people online so therapy, but I genuinely believe 0:15:45.240 --> 0:15:48.200 that like going to therapy and talking to someone is 0:15:48.240 --> 0:15:49.520 healthy and a good thing. 0:15:50.200 --> 0:15:53.000 And no shame in the therapy. 0:15:52.640 --> 0:15:55.160 No shame in going there. I think that honestly, I 0:15:55.160 --> 0:15:57.800 think that ninety percent or a lot of people should 0:15:57.800 --> 0:15:59.360 go there. It does not hurt I reckon. 0:16:00.080 --> 0:16:02.119 Yeah, yeah, absolutely. 0:16:02.960 --> 0:16:06.480 And also I had staycations as well, so me and 0:16:06.520 --> 0:16:09.400 the is a good one. Me and the family are 0:16:09.440 --> 0:16:12.360 going this weekend on a staycation and I know we've 0:16:12.360 --> 0:16:14.520 got another one in the new year. Just it's easy 0:16:14.520 --> 0:16:16.600 to drive somewhere, even if it's in your town, Like 0:16:16.640 --> 0:16:18.440 you go to a hotel or something. We're going to 0:16:18.520 --> 0:16:22.640 a hotel that's on surfas in surfer sorry, and just easy, 0:16:23.080 --> 0:16:25.320 like you know, just a good getaway. Mix it up 0:16:25.320 --> 0:16:25.760 a little bit. 0:16:25.800 --> 0:16:30.160 Really absolutely. My final one is and this is so niche, 0:16:30.200 --> 0:16:33.160 but I just like loved someone gave me this advice, 0:16:33.200 --> 0:16:34.520 so I just kind of want to pass it on. 0:16:35.040 --> 0:16:40.040 It's having signature sense for occasions. So for example, Michael 0:16:40.080 --> 0:16:43.520 and I had a specific fragrance for our wedding, and 0:16:43.560 --> 0:16:47.000 now when we smell that of like my wedding scent 0:16:47.120 --> 0:16:50.880 or his, it instantly brings us back. And so for 0:16:50.920 --> 0:16:53.520 the pregnancy, although I'm trying not to wear too much perfume, 0:16:53.640 --> 0:16:56.440 I have Chanelle Mademoiselle that I've been wearing, so it's 0:16:56.440 --> 0:17:02.000 going to like remind me of this prat Yeah, Mademoiselle, Mademoiselle. 0:17:02.280 --> 0:17:08.680 Mademoiselle probably just remind me of being nauseous. But anyway, 0:17:09.440 --> 0:17:14.000 having specific sense for specific occasions, because if you are 0:17:14.040 --> 0:17:15.960 going through like an important time of your life, let's 0:17:15.960 --> 0:17:18.280 just say you just get engaged or you're just in 0:17:18.320 --> 0:17:21.920 a fresh relationship, it does really scent brings you back, 0:17:21.920 --> 0:17:24.479 and music and all of that type of nostalgia. Just 0:17:24.480 --> 0:17:27.359 like really creating that throughout your life I think is 0:17:27.400 --> 0:17:27.879 so fun. 0:17:28.119 --> 0:17:31.439 My Tammy and I did the same thing, and she 0:17:31.960 --> 0:17:35.520 had a wedding scent that was like she went hard 0:17:35.560 --> 0:17:37.359 on it, Like it reminds me every time she wears 0:17:37.359 --> 0:17:40.119 it now, so she doesn't wear it now, but she 0:17:40.200 --> 0:17:42.800 wore it on the honeymoon and I was like, Oh, 0:17:43.040 --> 0:17:44.600 this is your wedding one, isn't it. She's like yeah, 0:17:44.600 --> 0:17:46.199 And I was like, I thought i'd wear it here 0:17:46.240 --> 0:17:49.600 as well. So it's the honeymoon wedding. Yeah, it's nice, fart. 0:17:49.720 --> 0:17:52.120 We've retired that, and I've retired the one I wore 0:17:52.119 --> 0:17:53.800 on the wedding as well, which I really liked. So 0:17:53.920 --> 0:17:55.080 I'm a bit annoyed about that. 0:17:56.560 --> 0:17:58.720 I actually remember saying, just having on the wedding day, 0:17:58.800 --> 0:18:00.440 what are you wearing? You smell so good? But I 0:18:00.480 --> 0:18:02.280 can't remember what she said, because but it did. It's 0:18:02.320 --> 0:18:02.840 not amazing. 0:18:03.359 --> 0:18:06.359 Yeah, it was get back to us. It was really nice. 0:18:06.400 --> 0:18:11.720 It was a good one. My last in the final 0:18:12.080 --> 0:18:15.200 is actually actually I used it today, so I even 0:18:15.280 --> 0:18:16.719 used it in this year and I'm going to continue 0:18:16.720 --> 0:18:19.879 it in It's let it be. You can't control a situation. 0:18:20.000 --> 0:18:21.520 I was on the phone, I was on the phone 0:18:21.560 --> 0:18:23.520 to my mum. I left to get to this studio 0:18:23.720 --> 0:18:26.520 two hours ago, right, it took me two hours of traffic, 0:18:26.520 --> 0:18:29.320 And you can't control that. Like, you can't. You can 0:18:29.359 --> 0:18:31.720 get anxious, you can get worked up, you can sit there. 0:18:32.160 --> 0:18:34.680 You can't. You can't do anything, you know what I mean? 0:18:34.720 --> 0:18:35.160 Like you can't. 0:18:35.160 --> 0:18:35.920 It's so true. 0:18:35.960 --> 0:18:38.399 You have to give that control of stuff that you 0:18:38.440 --> 0:18:41.919 can't control up and let it be. Because what am 0:18:41.960 --> 0:18:44.040 I supposed to do? Like fucking v line through all 0:18:44.080 --> 0:18:47.000 these cars fly like I can't. So why am I 0:18:47.000 --> 0:18:49.119 getting anxious? Why am I getting worked up over something? 0:18:49.320 --> 0:18:51.560 Why are you getting angry and then like you know, 0:18:51.680 --> 0:18:54.600 angry on the road like this toxic vibes. 0:18:54.760 --> 0:18:56.719 Let it be. I've got I'm trying to learn some 0:18:56.840 --> 0:18:59.040 coping mechanisms with it. I used to have an elastic 0:18:59.080 --> 0:19:00.920 band that I wore, and I felt like that I'd 0:19:00.960 --> 0:19:03.280 flick it and then that would like distract me. I 0:19:03.320 --> 0:19:05.920 sort of now dig my thumb into my other thumb 0:19:06.040 --> 0:19:08.520 to sort of like distract myself. I also say stuff 0:19:08.520 --> 0:19:10.719 I'm grateful for, because we said you can't be grateful 0:19:10.760 --> 0:19:13.840 and anxious at the same time through trying to do that, 0:19:14.200 --> 0:19:16.600 so I try to be grateful. Also, I just want 0:19:16.600 --> 0:19:18.600 to be a chill dude when it comes to those 0:19:18.600 --> 0:19:20.880 sort of situations. So just think you. 0:19:20.920 --> 0:19:23.399 Are quite chill now. It's just like I feel like 0:19:23.480 --> 0:19:29.240 sometimes you just flip just not chill. Yeah, you'll mainly chill. 0:19:29.560 --> 0:19:32.200