WEBVTT - Ever heard of the glamour gap? Kate Langbroek has some thoughts

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<v Speaker 1>Hello, and welcome to something to talk about. I'm Sarah

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<v Speaker 1>La Marquin. I almost forgot my name for a minute,

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<v Speaker 1>just then welcome to this episode. It has been five

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<v Speaker 1>years since Kate Lanebrook and her husband and four children

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<v Speaker 1>packed up to move to Italy, a decision that to

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<v Speaker 1>this day has people stopping her in the street to

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<v Speaker 1>talk about. Now firmly entrenched back into the reality of

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<v Speaker 1>life back in Australia, we decided it was time to

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<v Speaker 1>sit down with the always entertaining and always unpredictable Kate

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<v Speaker 1>to shamelessly pick her brains for an update on the

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<v Speaker 1>whole work life family.

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<v Speaker 2>Ratio in mid twenty twenty four.

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<v Speaker 1>Apart from her thoughts on shadow labor and the often

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<v Speaker 1>thankless work performed by many across the country day in

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<v Speaker 1>and day out, we also talk about the quote unquote

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<v Speaker 1>glamour gap that exists between male and female television presenters

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<v Speaker 1>when it comes to the very large difference in time

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<v Speaker 1>spent in hair and makeup. So given Kate describes herself

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<v Speaker 1>as a lazy dresser, as she says even her boots

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<v Speaker 1>have to have zips if she can't be bothered doing

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<v Speaker 1>up laces. Would the glamor gap be a deal breaker

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<v Speaker 1>if she were to be offered the TV job of

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<v Speaker 1>her dreams. I also ask her about her apparent witching powers,

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<v Speaker 1>and she opens up about experiencing anxiety for the first

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<v Speaker 1>time in her life last year and how her husband's

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<v Speaker 1>response unexpectedly inspired her latest project. Kate Langbrook, Welcome back

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<v Speaker 1>to Something to talk About.

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<v Speaker 3>Kay, Sarah Serah, whatever will be will be? Quit chatting

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<v Speaker 3>just you and me? Okay, Sarah Sarah? Does everyone always

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<v Speaker 3>sing that song to you?

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<v Speaker 2>No, you're the first person.

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<v Speaker 1>Ah, We've recorded it because you know that's what we do,

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<v Speaker 1>because it's a podcast. So do I have your permission

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<v Speaker 1>to use that and new opening credits for Something to

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<v Speaker 1>Talk About?

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<v Speaker 3>You have my permission to use me any way you like?

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<v Speaker 3>Milady friends.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh well, look, Kate, it's already been an absolute pleasure

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<v Speaker 1>having you back on Something to talk about. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>I was going to mention I don't always talk about

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<v Speaker 1>things that go off air. Don't panic here, don't worry.

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<v Speaker 1>It's nothing controversial. I think we did all of that

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<v Speaker 1>on air, didn't we And that's tame when we went.

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<v Speaker 3>Off air, and you know I'm not a panicer.

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<v Speaker 1>No, No, that that is right. I do not think

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<v Speaker 1>that I could make you panic, but I certainly don't

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<v Speaker 1>even want to. But at the end of our chat

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<v Speaker 1>last year, Kate, we had a conversation about catching up.

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<v Speaker 1>And I know that sounds so flippant, but I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>somebody that, within reason says that too flippantly. Oh, let's

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<v Speaker 1>really catch up, let's have a COMPLI let's do lunch.

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<v Speaker 1>I really mean it, and I honestly feel you all this. Obviously,

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<v Speaker 1>I think everyone knows what Kate says is pretty straight shooter.

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<v Speaker 1>But of course, spoiler alert, we never did did we no?

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<v Speaker 3>No? Because we were like Morning side of the Mountain

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<v Speaker 3>and Twilight side of the hill, Like, we just live

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<v Speaker 3>in different universes and it's hard to get them together.

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<v Speaker 3>So I actually look forward to this because it's you know,

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<v Speaker 3>it's fun. Well that we get to thank you.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's exactly what I was going to say, and

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<v Speaker 1>so our dear listeners, basically what I'm saying to you

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<v Speaker 1>is it's never a hardship for you to sit down

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<v Speaker 1>and have virtual coffee and banana bread with Kate Langbrook,

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<v Speaker 1>and for me selfishly, because she and I never got

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<v Speaker 1>together to have real coffee and real banana bread. This

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<v Speaker 1>is our excuse to catch up again.

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<v Speaker 3>Kate.

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<v Speaker 1>You have recently launched your own podcast, The buck Up

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<v Speaker 1>with Late Balbo, which is a weekly antidote that promises

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<v Speaker 1>to provide a joyous reprieve from depressing news cycles, buzzwords

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<v Speaker 1>to do lists with a whole lot of laughter and levity. Kate,

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<v Speaker 1>I definitely need laughter and levity in my life. I

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<v Speaker 1>think a lot of us do right now. So I

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<v Speaker 1>am proposing that today we do a bit of a podcast,

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<v Speaker 1>smash up a little bit of something to talk about,

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<v Speaker 1>and then I thought we could maybe bring a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit of the buck up. So what do you think

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<v Speaker 1>two podcasts for the price perfect.

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<v Speaker 3>Perfect fantastics because otherwise the times are heavy. They are,

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<v Speaker 3>there's no doubt, and there's no doubt that it's important

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<v Speaker 3>that you take on that stuff. But the way also,

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<v Speaker 3>because we're so connected and the news is just coming

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<v Speaker 3>at you constantly, there's only so much the human spirit

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<v Speaker 3>can bear. And there's these other aspects to the human

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<v Speaker 3>spirit which actually help you endure everything and make bad

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<v Speaker 3>times better, and that is humor and joy and as

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<v Speaker 3>you said, levity and just an exchange of stories from

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<v Speaker 3>your life you know how these hopefully everyone has a

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<v Speaker 3>friend that when they see that friend they feel better after.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, some people are drainers, some people drainers, and

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<v Speaker 3>some people are taps. So Nathan Valvo and I are

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<v Speaker 3>the tap. We're just going to You can turn the

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<v Speaker 3>tap on it anytime there's a little half hour. We

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<v Speaker 3>guarantee you'll feel better at the end of it, just

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<v Speaker 3>for us sharing our lives, our listeners lives and having

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<v Speaker 3>a laugh about things, because laughter is the greatest gift.

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<v Speaker 2>It absolutely is.

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<v Speaker 1>It is as I said, really well, actually I stole

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<v Speaker 1>it from the press release, so antidote is not my word.

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<v Speaker 1>It's whoever did the very clever press release for the

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<v Speaker 1>buck Up. But it really is the antidote to what

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<v Speaker 1>we're living through.

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<v Speaker 3>Glad Yeah, the antidote to the times. And in fact,

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<v Speaker 3>Sarah Harris, who does the project and who I'm lucky

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<v Speaker 3>enough to see on Tuesday nights when I do the show,

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<v Speaker 3>she sent me a message the other day when the

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<v Speaker 3>other week when at law and she said, oh my goodness,

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<v Speaker 3>I actually do feel better than I did, And she said,

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<v Speaker 3>this is the Prozac of podcasts. If I was really clever,

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<v Speaker 3>I would have put that.

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<v Speaker 1>In antidote prozac all the same thing, look Sarah Harris,

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<v Speaker 1>she could also be writing press releases on the side.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think also, Kate, as you say, sometimes we

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<v Speaker 1>need that levity and it has quite a profound, I

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<v Speaker 1>think effect on the human spirit. And sometimes humor and

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<v Speaker 1>the lightness and the having a bit of fun and

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<v Speaker 1>frivolity is something that sometimes people think, oh, I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>going to be taken seriously, or people are going to

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<v Speaker 1>say these are very serious times, we don't have time

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<v Speaker 1>for something called the buck up. But actually it's it's critical,

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<v Speaker 1>as you say, and it's so great when people that

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<v Speaker 1>have that profile like I do not necessarily need to

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<v Speaker 1>be quote unquote sin because I think.

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<v Speaker 3>Any more than you already are and through your work,

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<v Speaker 3>and you know, we're all exposed to the world, and

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<v Speaker 3>because of the nature of the world we live in,

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<v Speaker 3>we're even exposed to parts of the world and happenings

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<v Speaker 3>in the world that we normally would not be And

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<v Speaker 3>sometimes when I look at the news in the morning,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm just like, oh, a terrible like terrible, and you

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<v Speaker 3>feel a weight inside you that really, if you were

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<v Speaker 3>to live I guess in a way that in a

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<v Speaker 3>more old fashioned way, I guess you would know your neighbors.

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<v Speaker 3>You would know you know the people at school, or

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<v Speaker 3>the other people walking their dogs, or the people at

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<v Speaker 3>the shops. You wouldn't necessarily have that weight on you. You

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<v Speaker 3>would have a proper community. So I think community has

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<v Speaker 3>been kind of become a bit of a weezer word

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<v Speaker 3>in many ways, of like, any time people want to

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<v Speaker 3>just lump people together, they call it commuit unity. But

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<v Speaker 3>real community is linked by knowing each other. And when

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<v Speaker 3>you're taking on all this stuff from people that you

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<v Speaker 3>don't know, and it fills you with fear of your children,

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<v Speaker 3>for the world, for people that you love, it's not

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<v Speaker 3>helpful to anybody because all it does is atrophy you,

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<v Speaker 3>I think, and make you incapable of It makes you

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<v Speaker 3>scared of your fellow humans. And it's just it's just

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<v Speaker 3>not helpful.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's connection too, isn't it. Because as you say,

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<v Speaker 1>the word community has been a little bit exploited, probably

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<v Speaker 1>by I think certain sort of corporate jargon over the

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<v Speaker 1>last few years.

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<v Speaker 2>But at its heart, it is about.

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<v Speaker 1>That human connection and that's such a critical part of

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<v Speaker 1>navigating all of these parts of life. None of us

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<v Speaker 1>can do it without the village as we say.

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<v Speaker 3>No, that's right. And you know, if you've because I've

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<v Speaker 3>been lucky enough to spend most of my professional life

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<v Speaker 3>in well across many camps really but very soundly rooted

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<v Speaker 3>in comedy and with comedians. That's always been during the

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<v Speaker 3>comedy festivals, you know, Melbourne recently, Sydney's got Brisbane's got one.

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<v Speaker 3>When you sit in a room of people laughing, the

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<v Speaker 3>energy is so great, it's so powerful, but it's always underestimated.

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<v Speaker 3>It's like it's a long standing understood truth that a comedy,

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<v Speaker 3>a comedy film will never win an Academy Award. You've

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<v Speaker 3>got to delve into the depths and you know, get

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<v Speaker 3>a beautiful actress to make yourself look ugly and then

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<v Speaker 3>everyone's like, oh yay. But comedy is, like you said,

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<v Speaker 3>a little bit, it's not valued. It's seen as a

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<v Speaker 3>flippancy and sometimes it can be, but it also is

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<v Speaker 3>one of the basic tenets of my survival. And as

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<v Speaker 3>Megan Marker would see, my thrive. It's not enough to survive,

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<v Speaker 3>it gotta thrive, and it is. It's just happiness is

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<v Speaker 3>such a leavening of the breed of your soul that

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<v Speaker 3>it makes everything else happy.

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<v Speaker 2>Wow, that was a beautiful sentence. Kate.

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<v Speaker 1>You mentioned Sarah Harris therean that you appear alongside her

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<v Speaker 1>on the project on Tuesdays, and you also appear instellar today.

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<v Speaker 1>You've been photographed for Images so beautiful.

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<v Speaker 3>That was such a beautiful shoes.

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<v Speaker 1>I wanted to ask you about that side of your

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<v Speaker 1>role in the media. Because of the project, there's big

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<v Speaker 1>hair and makeup, and then there's wardrobe, and then you

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<v Speaker 1>come on set for Stella if there's a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>obviously focus on the styling, what you wear, hair and makeup. Again,

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<v Speaker 1>do you like that side of what your role sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>demands of you?

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<v Speaker 3>Kate, mm, Well, the wardrobe girls will tell you, and

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<v Speaker 3>my girlfriend Alice would tell you that I am a

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<v Speaker 3>lazy dresser. Like even my boots I've gone on have

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<v Speaker 3>to have zips. I can't be bothering laces. Like sometimes

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<v Speaker 3>my Girlfriendnaly says to me, are you a toddler? That

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<v Speaker 3>you that you I would almost have velcrow, but it

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<v Speaker 3>is very lucky. It's like it's a beautiful thing. And

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<v Speaker 3>particularly during lockdown, you really learned that that the things

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<v Speaker 3>that you once resented or you know you saw as

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<v Speaker 3>an obstacle were actually things you were lucky to have.

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<v Speaker 3>So to go in once a week and have someone

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<v Speaker 3>actually do your makeup or do your hair was incredible,

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<v Speaker 3>And so I try to be less lazy. But when

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<v Speaker 3>I go into the project and the style of Rachel

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<v Speaker 3>sort of oversees this team of other stylists in there,

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<v Speaker 3>and they really just these so great and they're doing news,

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<v Speaker 3>they're doing whatever. And I've got some clothes hanging on

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<v Speaker 3>the rack. Normally this is what I do. I try

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<v Speaker 3>on the first one, I put it on over whatever

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<v Speaker 3>T shirt I'm wearing at the time, and I go,

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<v Speaker 3>that'll do. They're always like, can you try on the others?

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<v Speaker 3>Just so we know. I'm like, oh, man, like really pitiful,

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<v Speaker 3>and this is my uniform that I wear all the time.

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<v Speaker 3>I've got overalls on. Do you call them overalls? That yes,

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<v Speaker 3>bib and brace.

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<v Speaker 1>Overalls like yeah, I think other people, yeah, say braces,

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<v Speaker 1>but absolutely overalls over a T shirt.

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<v Speaker 3>Over a T shirt. I have very few shirts in

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<v Speaker 3>my Wardrobeordan's taking them.

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<v Speaker 1>Other buttons, yeah, button I don't love, but dresser.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, you've got it. You've got it. So just things

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<v Speaker 3>I can pull on and pull off things I can

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<v Speaker 3>zip and weep off. So I do enjoy like everyone

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<v Speaker 3>like sometimes you put on a garment, So transformative, isn't it.

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<v Speaker 3>It really elevates you. You're like, it's great for the spirit.

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<v Speaker 3>Like laughter. Beauty is also, I think, a high principle,

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<v Speaker 3>not a low principle. So not like in a not

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<v Speaker 3>in a self obsessed sort of I'm gonna say, kardash

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<v Speaker 3>in way just a shorthand for what we know what

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<v Speaker 3>that means, but as our noble principle. Entire you know,

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<v Speaker 3>entire civilizations have been founded on the love of beauty,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, the Romans and the Italians to this day,

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<v Speaker 3>et cetera. So it does. It elevates you and it

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<v Speaker 3>lifts you up. But I am loath to use that

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<v Speaker 3>as much as I possibly should. Also because I'm busy.

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<v Speaker 3>I've got four kids, I've got a husband, I work,

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<v Speaker 3>and I can't be asked.

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<v Speaker 1>It's I'm reluctant. It would be a bit cliche of

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<v Speaker 1>me to say, it's so refreshing to hear a woman

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<v Speaker 1>in the spotlight that's going on national television or going

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<v Speaker 1>in a major national magazine saying not going to worry

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<v Speaker 1>too much about that. So I'll be cliche and say

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<v Speaker 1>it is refreshing to hear somebody say that. But I

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<v Speaker 1>think about this a little bit in terms of women,

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<v Speaker 1>because I would say, for me, kay, I do agree

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<v Speaker 1>with you about aesthetic like it's something that actually feel

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<v Speaker 1>quite strongly with is a form of I think self

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<v Speaker 1>expression and identity, and it's some it can be misunderstood

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<v Speaker 1>in our society because I think everyone assumes if a

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<v Speaker 1>woman's taking those things seriously whatever it is, that oh,

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<v Speaker 1>she's pandering to the male gaze, or there's some sort

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<v Speaker 1>of metric to use, as he said, the Kardashian shorthand

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<v Speaker 1>for it, and.

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<v Speaker 3>Who have taken it, because they have taken it to

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<v Speaker 3>this extraordinary length.

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<v Speaker 1>Exactly, and there is obviously a level of exploitation and

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<v Speaker 1>more problematic things going on there. But that doesn't mean

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<v Speaker 1>that leaning into any of that glamour fashion style, whatever

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<v Speaker 1>it is, it doesn't have a more profound connection to

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<v Speaker 1>identity and self expression. But I always also love exploring

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<v Speaker 1>the idea that some people are like, that's just not

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<v Speaker 1>really something that I can be bothered doing.

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<v Speaker 2>The buttons up or what.

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<v Speaker 1>Else would constitute address that you might think, well, that

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<v Speaker 1>would be amazing, but just could not be bothered. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>assuming zippers are good, are they?

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, you know, really good. I don't want to

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<v Speaker 3>sound like I'm amish. What is it the Armies are

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<v Speaker 3>they anti zipper? It must be zippers, is it? But

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<v Speaker 3>they have buttons?

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<v Speaker 1>Didn't know that they were anti zipper?

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<v Speaker 3>Nice And because I think it's one of those fastenings

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<v Speaker 3>is new technology, so it must be the zipper.

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<v Speaker 1>Because right, yes, yes, that's a I can't imagine then,

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<v Speaker 1>like you talked about laces before, and so like a

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<v Speaker 1>corset or something like that. Yes, million different buttons just yes,

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<v Speaker 1>never never.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, when you watch you know something set in

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<v Speaker 3>you oldie times and they look so beautiful and they're

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<v Speaker 3>sort of wasp wasted, or you know that show that

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<v Speaker 3>We're Bridgitton. When I was watching Bridgington, right, I was

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<v Speaker 3>like those they look so beautiful and it really is

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<v Speaker 3>like that that it's the epitome of feminine, right, sometimes

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<v Speaker 3>even to the point of being crippling in many ways,

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<v Speaker 3>but it was the epitome of femininity. But I'm just like,

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<v Speaker 3>what would I have done in the olden days? What

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<v Speaker 3>would I have done? Oh? There is no way unless

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<v Speaker 3>I had a lady in waiting, you know, and you

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<v Speaker 3>did the traditional lean over the table.

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<v Speaker 1>Was Scarlet O'Hara and gone with them?

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, exactly exactly, But more likely I would have been

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<v Speaker 3>not upstairs but downstairs and in some steamy kitchen, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>with all everything hanging out as I juggled pots and pans,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, for them upstairs. But even so, if I

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<v Speaker 3>was downstairs, I would be like the downstairs in the Titanic,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, they would.

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<v Speaker 1>Dancing jig and the ones.

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<v Speaker 3>Of course, yes, the car, the car.

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<v Speaker 1>You would be there with Leo, doesn't matter what part,

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<v Speaker 1>first class, wherever it's going to be, Kate, Leo steamy

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<v Speaker 1>hand on the car.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, I think I'm dancing a jig wherever I am.

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<v Speaker 3>I like to think I'm dancing a jig. Yeah, even

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<v Speaker 3>if it's just internally. I think.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, Kate, if you did decide to go back

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<v Speaker 1>into acting, we talked about your acting career last time,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe like a period drama, you know, Bridgeton, and it

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<v Speaker 1>could be what does somebody with Kate Langbrook's fuss free

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<v Speaker 1>approach to dressing in this time?

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, really.

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<v Speaker 3>Imagine, imagine that when I come the diamond of the

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<v Speaker 3>season and then I come in all at jiggle, they

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<v Speaker 3>would not like it.

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<v Speaker 1>What about the makeup? Hair and makeup? We talk about

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<v Speaker 1>the pay gap? I have talked about the pay gap,

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<v Speaker 1>Yes we have. I'm sure of course you have heard

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<v Speaker 1>and observed firsthand multiple times the hair and makeup gap.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not sure what it's called. Maybe there's a fancy

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<v Speaker 1>word for it, the glamor everybody ever talks about that.

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<v Speaker 1>So let's say you're at the Project on Tuesday night

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<v Speaker 1>and yes, you know, you and Sarah. All women on

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<v Speaker 1>commercial TV, not just in Australia, around the world can

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<v Speaker 1>be anywhere between you know, forty five minute minimum, often

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<v Speaker 1>sixty ninety minutes, and people are listening going what do

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<v Speaker 1>they do in that time? Believe me, they do, They

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<v Speaker 1>do things. And then you would have Will Lead or

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<v Speaker 1>any of your male.

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<v Speaker 3>Sam Taunton sad they whipping five minutes before the HI.

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<v Speaker 2>How does that make you true?

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<v Speaker 3>Well, you know this is interesting because it's like anyone

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<v Speaker 3>listening to this, who any woman who's got ready for

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<v Speaker 3>an event that she's going to with her partner, husband

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<v Speaker 3>or whatever, would have noted this. The leader, the prep,

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<v Speaker 3>the whatever, the shopping, the shoes, the fittings, the la la,

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<v Speaker 3>and then the husband if he even has a tux

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<v Speaker 3>or puts it on, brushes his hair, squirt of whatever

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<v Speaker 3>to hide the funk of him, and he's out the door.

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<v Speaker 3>But this is what I kind of think if I

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<v Speaker 3>was offered the and it is television, right, so it's vision,

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<v Speaker 3>so that's a very important part. Like today I've come in,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not wearing makeup. Probably I should be. For people

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<v Speaker 3>who for her high death watching this in a high definition,

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<v Speaker 3>which is, by the way, horrendous. If I was off

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<v Speaker 3>to go on the show, on that show or any

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<v Speaker 3>other and offered the opportunity to save sixty to ninety

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<v Speaker 3>minutes a day, I would not take it. Really, I

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<v Speaker 3>wouldn't take it too much time, but I would put

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<v Speaker 3>I would put this this shiny halloween lantern face on

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<v Speaker 3>television without any of the niceties that go with television.

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<v Speaker 3>I actually wouldn't do it, to be honest, even though

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<v Speaker 3>we dream of it. When we see the guys, we're

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<v Speaker 3>always like, it's how easy for you? Which it is.

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<v Speaker 1>And then let's just say that you were thinking about

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<v Speaker 1>going back or moving into TV full time you were

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<v Speaker 1>offered to aim her morning TV show or whatever TV

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<v Speaker 1>may look like in five years, could be a whole

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<v Speaker 1>other time slot that I'm not even thinking and it

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<v Speaker 1>all sounds great, and then they say, and it would be,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, ninety minutes every day day in hair and

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<v Speaker 1>makeup Monday to Friday and then wardrobe. Would that then

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<v Speaker 1>be a deal breaker for you, Kate?

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<v Speaker 3>I do think I think of that often when I see,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, the sisters who do who do Morning Teva,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, Silvia or nat Bar Gean. Nat Bar is

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<v Speaker 3>doing some heavy hitting at the moment, by the way,

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<v Speaker 3>isn't she She's just just like bam bam coming out

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<v Speaker 3>swinging amazing. Anyway, I think they've got up. It's like

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<v Speaker 3>that Ginger Rogers Fred Astare thing with their male co

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<v Speaker 3>hosts everything. They're doing everything he did, but backwards in

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<v Speaker 3>high heels and in hair and makeup nineteen minutes before.

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<v Speaker 3>So they must be getting in at like three thirty

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<v Speaker 3>in the morning they are. I don't know it comes

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<v Speaker 3>at You're right, it would be a consideration, But I

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<v Speaker 3>also don't think, you know, if you're wanting people to

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<v Speaker 3>wake up with you, I think it's nice that you

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<v Speaker 3>have made that effort, don't you.

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<v Speaker 1>I do. It's what I wanted to ask you about it,

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<v Speaker 1>because I don't think there's any easy answers to this.

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<v Speaker 1>As in it's as you said, it's that example, getting

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<v Speaker 1>ready for an event at home. If you're in a

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<v Speaker 1>heterosexual relationship and the as the guy comes in and

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<v Speaker 1>gets ready in two minutes. It's not fair and it's crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>But then are we outraged about it? And that is

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<v Speaker 1>some people may be outraged.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not.

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<v Speaker 1>I really wanted to know. Yeah, what what your thoughts?

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<v Speaker 3>No, but it's just one of those things that you clock.

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<v Speaker 2>It is.

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<v Speaker 3>It's like at Christmas time, Christmas would not happen without

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<v Speaker 3>the women generally.

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<v Speaker 2>That's right. Well, I do get a bit outraged about it.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it's annoying. It's annoying. It's you know, no one

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<v Speaker 3>in an office would get a present if were it

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<v Speaker 3>not for the women. This is true, you know what

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<v Speaker 3>I mean. It's like it's just the stuff that we do.

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<v Speaker 3>But I think in many ways like that your strength,

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<v Speaker 3>there is also your weakness. So women make the world beautiful,

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<v Speaker 3>and we are the ornaments of the world. There is

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<v Speaker 3>no doubt We're not the birds. We're not the drab,

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<v Speaker 3>brown ones. We're the colorful, beautiful ones. Not always don't

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<v Speaker 3>have to be, but that is something that is open

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<v Speaker 3>to us, and I love that we have that capacity

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<v Speaker 3>I have, but it can also consume you.

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<v Speaker 2>It's true.

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<v Speaker 3>And you know you said for the male gaze earlier,

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<v Speaker 3>ninety percent of it is not for the male gaze.

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<v Speaker 2>That's right, and it's.

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<v Speaker 3>It's either for our gaze or for the gays of

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<v Speaker 3>each other.

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<v Speaker 1>And when we come back, I ask Kate about how

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<v Speaker 1>she's balancing the work family life ratio in twenty twenty four.

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<v Speaker 1>Her answer is very unexpected and very funny. Kate, I

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to get your pick your brains on this thing

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<v Speaker 1>that we call work life family ratio because you always

0:24:05.440 --> 0:24:10.359
<v Speaker 1>have such really refreshing, wonderful insights into it. You and

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<v Speaker 1>I obviously have discussed previously, you and your family going

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<v Speaker 1>to Italy for two years in Joey nineteen. I know

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<v Speaker 1>people still stop you on the street and talk about that.

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<v Speaker 1>You've written a book about it.

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<v Speaker 3>But which I love. By the way, my favorite people

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<v Speaker 3>other than the buck up people now, but my favorite

0:24:28.760 --> 0:24:30.800
<v Speaker 3>people in the world are the people who stop me

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<v Speaker 3>to talk about the book because we've just shared so much,

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<v Speaker 3>like we've shared Italy for starters, and we've shared two

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<v Speaker 3>years of my life. And you know what I learned,

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<v Speaker 3>What I learned from it, not that i've you know,

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<v Speaker 3>that beauty conversation is very Italian.

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<v Speaker 2>That's right.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think also, as you know, even from the

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<v Speaker 1>moment that you first announced that you and the family

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<v Speaker 1>were going over, there is huge response on social media

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<v Speaker 1>because it's that thing that people talk about and dream

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<v Speaker 1>about and don't necessarily do. And that's why I wanted to,

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<v Speaker 1>like I say, sort of shamelessly, just pick your brains

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<v Speaker 1>and ask you what is your day to day life

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<v Speaker 1>rhythm looking like.

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<v Speaker 2>In twenty twenty four, we talked.

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<v Speaker 1>About the buck Up. That's a weekly podcast.

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<v Speaker 3>Good Nurse, Yes, that's weekly. Yeah, so we do that.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh look my week and now because I'm freelancing. So

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<v Speaker 3>for years I did until I went to Italy. Really

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<v Speaker 3>I did a long you know, I did twelve years

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<v Speaker 3>of breakfast radio with Hughes and then I had a

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<v Speaker 3>year off and then we did National Drive. So that

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<v Speaker 3>even though particularly doing breakfast radio tired nurses your constant companion,

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<v Speaker 3>but you still have this structure to your day, and

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<v Speaker 3>the same doing drive, you're not as tired, but you

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<v Speaker 3>have a structure to your day. And now I kind

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<v Speaker 3>of have structure because I'm freelancing, but my structure is

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<v Speaker 3>about the family mate. It's brutal. Some days I have done,

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<v Speaker 3>I have done a day's work by eight thirty am.

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<v Speaker 3>I have done washing, I have done I've maybe cooked

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<v Speaker 3>a meal. I've been to the shops when they open

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<v Speaker 3>at seven o'clock. I've made lunches of whatever. All of

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<v Speaker 3>those things I don't have to do, and yet I

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<v Speaker 3>have to do them. I have to do them for

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<v Speaker 3>the family, but also I have to do them for

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<v Speaker 3>myself because it was my idea. It was my idea,

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<v Speaker 3>And sometimes I'm like, I think about that now, and

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<v Speaker 3>we talk about it on one of the episodes of

0:26:46.960 --> 0:26:50.560
<v Speaker 3>The buck Up as well. This concept of shadow labor,

0:26:50.920 --> 0:26:55.879
<v Speaker 3>which drives me fucking crazy, which is the work that

0:26:55.920 --> 0:26:58.359
<v Speaker 3>they make you do. They make you do now that

0:26:58.480 --> 0:27:00.560
<v Speaker 3>used to be done by other people. Like you go

0:27:00.640 --> 0:27:03.399
<v Speaker 3>to a car park and it's a there's no person

0:27:03.440 --> 0:27:05.399
<v Speaker 3>there anymore, and you have to put your license numbering

0:27:05.400 --> 0:27:07.600
<v Speaker 3>in and you have to data data or you try

0:27:07.600 --> 0:27:10.080
<v Speaker 3>to book on a plane and you're filling out the

0:27:10.160 --> 0:27:14.440
<v Speaker 3>things and you go to the through supermarket. Yes, yeah,

0:27:14.680 --> 0:27:18.000
<v Speaker 3>shadow labor. So that was once someone's job and it's

0:27:18.080 --> 0:27:20.399
<v Speaker 3>all become our job. Like even if I want to

0:27:20.400 --> 0:27:23.359
<v Speaker 3>watch something on television, it's like scan this QR code

0:27:23.400 --> 0:27:25.720
<v Speaker 3>and into your thing and your blah blah and your

0:27:25.760 --> 0:27:30.840
<v Speaker 3>email and your It drives me crazy. The labor that

0:27:30.960 --> 0:27:35.280
<v Speaker 3>I do at home is not shadow labor. It is

0:27:36.600 --> 0:27:42.160
<v Speaker 3>my labor. It is life's labor. And there is something

0:27:42.720 --> 0:27:44.560
<v Speaker 3>you know, I don't want to. I don't want to,

0:27:45.119 --> 0:27:48.720
<v Speaker 3>you know, guild the lily too much. It's not even

0:27:48.760 --> 0:27:51.520
<v Speaker 3>a lily. I don't want to gild the weed, but

0:27:52.119 --> 0:27:55.760
<v Speaker 3>there is. I try to find that there's something noble

0:27:55.840 --> 0:27:59.080
<v Speaker 3>in it that I'm doing it. Sometimes I even have

0:27:59.119 --> 0:28:02.440
<v Speaker 3>to project myself in the future and imagine that I'm dead,

0:28:04.080 --> 0:28:09.000
<v Speaker 3>wishfully imagine that I'm dead and imagine how my family

0:28:09.040 --> 0:28:12.199
<v Speaker 3>will reflect on what I did, and that helps. I'm

0:28:12.240 --> 0:28:15.000
<v Speaker 3>the only person that does that. No, do you ever

0:28:15.080 --> 0:28:17.600
<v Speaker 3>imagine that you're ded and what it would sud.

0:28:17.960 --> 0:28:21.160
<v Speaker 1>I don't know that I do it specifically for those

0:28:21.320 --> 0:28:24.840
<v Speaker 1>shadow labor tasks. So if you're talking about some of

0:28:24.880 --> 0:28:29.000
<v Speaker 1>those things like food preparation and those things. I don't

0:28:29.000 --> 0:28:33.359
<v Speaker 1>do it then, but I absolutely do do it because

0:28:33.760 --> 0:28:35.719
<v Speaker 1>I think it's that thing we're all taught, aren't we

0:28:35.760 --> 0:28:38.920
<v Speaker 1>about what our priorities would be on our deathbed, but

0:28:38.960 --> 0:28:42.080
<v Speaker 1>then also the next stage after that, in terms of yes,

0:28:42.160 --> 0:28:44.520
<v Speaker 1>how you will be remembered and even when your children

0:28:44.600 --> 0:28:48.880
<v Speaker 1>are looking back ten, twenty, thirty, fifty seventy years, will

0:28:48.920 --> 0:28:51.760
<v Speaker 1>it have been worth doing this? So I absolutely do.

0:28:52.320 --> 0:28:55.440
<v Speaker 1>I don't think I do it though for things in

0:28:55.480 --> 0:28:57.160
<v Speaker 1>the kitchen, I think I'm just a bit more maybe

0:28:57.480 --> 0:29:00.400
<v Speaker 1>roll my eyes overtly, maybe I'll start thinking about at that.

0:29:00.760 --> 0:29:03.200
<v Speaker 3>Well, I'm not advocating it as a thing. It's just

0:29:03.280 --> 0:29:09.840
<v Speaker 3>sometimes probably I wish I was dead. It's probably as

0:29:09.960 --> 0:29:13.719
<v Speaker 3>basic as that. It's just a fleeting moment when you're

0:29:13.800 --> 0:29:18.720
<v Speaker 3>just like looking at all the mounds and the hordes.

0:29:19.680 --> 0:29:24.800
<v Speaker 3>But it's also a thing that we're always it seems

0:29:24.840 --> 0:29:30.040
<v Speaker 3>to be a conceit of the times that we're always

0:29:30.080 --> 0:29:34.280
<v Speaker 3>going we must have a conversation about whatever, la la la,

0:29:34.320 --> 0:29:36.920
<v Speaker 3>And some of those conversations are important, but I believe

0:29:37.040 --> 0:29:41.680
<v Speaker 3>actions are more important than conversations. One is sometimes lead

0:29:41.760 --> 0:29:44.600
<v Speaker 3>from the other, but so what I am doing in

0:29:44.640 --> 0:29:49.080
<v Speaker 3>my family and my husband, Peter Alan Lewis is also doing,

0:29:49.880 --> 0:29:54.640
<v Speaker 3>is we are showing. So people say all the time,

0:29:54.760 --> 0:29:56.600
<v Speaker 3>I don't want my daughter to grow up with an

0:29:56.680 --> 0:29:59.720
<v Speaker 3>eating disorder, so I tell her all the time she's

0:30:00.160 --> 0:30:02.400
<v Speaker 3>of all how she is or whatever, And yet they

0:30:02.440 --> 0:30:05.400
<v Speaker 3>watched their mother go kneel by mouth until it's wine

0:30:05.440 --> 0:30:08.040
<v Speaker 3>time or whatever. You know what I mean, absolutely so,

0:30:08.320 --> 0:30:10.880
<v Speaker 3>And I'm always like, it doesn't matter what you say.

0:30:11.960 --> 0:30:15.760
<v Speaker 3>What matters in every aspect of life is what you do,

0:30:16.840 --> 0:30:21.040
<v Speaker 3>and so I try to even though it is it

0:30:21.200 --> 0:30:23.640
<v Speaker 3>is well, I guess it's like a lot of things.

0:30:23.640 --> 0:30:26.480
<v Speaker 3>It's a once an honor and a burden, but it's one.

0:30:26.520 --> 0:30:28.760
<v Speaker 3>Particularly since we came back, well since we went to

0:30:28.800 --> 0:30:32.080
<v Speaker 3>Italy and I had my wish come true to spend

0:30:32.120 --> 0:30:36.960
<v Speaker 3>more time with the family. I'm also like, why did

0:30:37.000 --> 0:30:41.400
<v Speaker 3>I wish that? Because I'm like normal and I'm my

0:30:41.640 --> 0:30:44.600
<v Speaker 3>inclination is like most people that I would like to

0:30:44.600 --> 0:30:46.719
<v Speaker 3>be selfish, and I would like to be lazy, and

0:30:46.760 --> 0:30:51.480
<v Speaker 3>I would like to you know, but you part of

0:30:51.520 --> 0:30:55.640
<v Speaker 3>the stretch of what you do in life, no matter

0:30:55.640 --> 0:30:57.440
<v Speaker 3>what it is, if it's having a family or not

0:30:58.600 --> 0:31:03.160
<v Speaker 3>but if you love and care for another creature, the

0:31:03.280 --> 0:31:06.959
<v Speaker 3>love and the stretch and the growth comes from going

0:31:07.040 --> 0:31:11.360
<v Speaker 3>beyond what you would like to do, going outside yourself,

0:31:11.600 --> 0:31:15.520
<v Speaker 3>And it's kind of powerful. It's a powerful concept, but

0:31:15.760 --> 0:31:20.480
<v Speaker 3>also it can leave you just exhausted. So I oscillate

0:31:20.520 --> 0:31:24.200
<v Speaker 3>between those two. I'm just like and that is. I

0:31:24.280 --> 0:31:28.520
<v Speaker 3>guess that is just the dance of life, isn't it?

0:31:28.520 --> 0:31:32.280
<v Speaker 1>It is? And I suppose the cost or the tax

0:31:32.320 --> 0:31:35.960
<v Speaker 1>I suppose, isn't it of unconditional love and caring for

0:31:36.040 --> 0:31:39.560
<v Speaker 1>people is what brings value to this world.

0:31:39.600 --> 0:31:41.320
<v Speaker 2>But God, it's hard work.

0:31:41.920 --> 0:31:46.520
<v Speaker 3>It's hard work. And we've got all the appliances, that's

0:31:46.640 --> 0:31:48.160
<v Speaker 3>still hard work.

0:31:49.160 --> 0:31:52.560
<v Speaker 1>Imagine that. Imagine the shadow labor when you were trying to,

0:31:52.680 --> 0:31:56.680
<v Speaker 1>you know, not put on that corset. Well, that's right,

0:31:57.160 --> 0:31:57.960
<v Speaker 1>you know in the bridges.

0:31:58.040 --> 0:32:00.560
<v Speaker 3>Yah, that's right. Well, the shadow labor is actually for

0:32:00.640 --> 0:32:03.120
<v Speaker 3>the for the poor Chicky was trying to lace me up.

0:32:03.680 --> 0:32:08.280
<v Speaker 3>She was doing the shadow. That was a lot she

0:32:08.440 --> 0:32:09.280
<v Speaker 3>was sucked into.

0:32:09.760 --> 0:32:12.200
<v Speaker 1>Actually, last year, when you and I spoke Kate talking

0:32:12.240 --> 0:32:15.480
<v Speaker 1>about family, we spoke about how your son Lewis is

0:32:15.560 --> 0:32:19.360
<v Speaker 1>dating Gypsy Lee. Kate Sobrano and.

0:32:19.320 --> 0:32:22.239
<v Speaker 3>Gypsy was kind of fresh, then, wasn't it. It was?

0:32:22.480 --> 0:32:27.280
<v Speaker 1>It was you said, she's just a beauty, she's divine,

0:32:27.400 --> 0:32:31.120
<v Speaker 1>and they're both really beautiful, two beautiful nepo babies who

0:32:31.240 --> 0:32:33.600
<v Speaker 1>neither of whom are casual. Do you know what I mean?

0:32:33.920 --> 0:32:34.720
<v Speaker 2>So beautiful?

0:32:35.160 --> 0:32:38.440
<v Speaker 1>And then Gypsy has since appeared in Stella early this

0:32:38.520 --> 0:32:44.560
<v Speaker 1>year we released her Beautiful. We asked Gypsy about obviously

0:32:44.600 --> 0:32:47.400
<v Speaker 1>you being part of the extended Stella family. There you go,

0:32:47.480 --> 0:32:50.080
<v Speaker 1>that's just more to add to your shadow labor taking

0:32:50.120 --> 0:32:53.520
<v Speaker 1>care of the Stella family as well. And Gypsy said

0:32:54.360 --> 0:32:58.560
<v Speaker 1>that you and her mum, Kate used their witching powers

0:32:58.600 --> 0:33:02.000
<v Speaker 1>to set us up in Away. Kate and Lewis have

0:33:02.120 --> 0:33:05.200
<v Speaker 1>the same bond that Mum and I have. I love

0:33:05.240 --> 0:33:07.840
<v Speaker 1>witching powers. That's really beautiful too, isn't it.

0:33:07.840 --> 0:33:12.400
<v Speaker 3>It was interesting because Lewis says to me, Mum, do

0:33:12.480 --> 0:33:17.080
<v Speaker 3>you know someone called Gypsy? And I went, oh, well,

0:33:17.120 --> 0:33:20.120
<v Speaker 3>I said, no, not not exactly, but I know her mom.

0:33:20.520 --> 0:33:22.800
<v Speaker 3>And he goes, oh, I've got some really nice messages

0:33:22.800 --> 0:33:26.080
<v Speaker 3>from her. And I said to him, Lewis the old

0:33:26.160 --> 0:33:29.120
<v Speaker 3>ladies in the Village of Matt making you, And I said,

0:33:29.200 --> 0:33:31.800
<v Speaker 3>I'm not, I'm not actually playing an active part in it,

0:33:31.880 --> 0:33:34.040
<v Speaker 3>but I know that it's going on, like I'm not

0:33:34.320 --> 0:33:38.880
<v Speaker 3>being an obstacle. And then Trudy, my girlfriend, went to

0:33:39.280 --> 0:33:41.920
<v Speaker 3>an op shop and found these really beautiful I love

0:33:41.960 --> 0:33:45.040
<v Speaker 3>op shoppy stuff and she's a brilliant vintage and op shopper,

0:33:45.640 --> 0:33:53.000
<v Speaker 3>and she found these beautiful Irish Lynen Place matts right,

0:33:53.320 --> 0:33:59.160
<v Speaker 3>and she gave them to Kate to give to Gypsy

0:33:59.240 --> 0:34:02.160
<v Speaker 3>to drop off at our house. So then they got

0:34:02.160 --> 0:34:06.320
<v Speaker 3>into this really strange sort of they hadn't met, but

0:34:06.360 --> 0:34:08.440
<v Speaker 3>they were messaging each other about this thing. And then

0:34:08.480 --> 0:34:11.440
<v Speaker 3>Peter and I last year went to back to Italy

0:34:11.520 --> 0:34:14.080
<v Speaker 3>for the first time and went to Paris for Peter's

0:34:14.080 --> 0:34:18.439
<v Speaker 3>first time. And when we left, so we were gone

0:34:18.440 --> 0:34:20.640
<v Speaker 3>for three weeks. When we left, Lewis was going on

0:34:20.680 --> 0:34:23.960
<v Speaker 3>his first walk with Gypsy. And three weeks later he

0:34:24.080 --> 0:34:26.880
<v Speaker 3>facetimed me. We were in Paris at that point and

0:34:26.960 --> 0:34:29.279
<v Speaker 3>he was going to the movies with Gypsy the next day,

0:34:29.480 --> 0:34:31.600
<v Speaker 3>and I knew they'd seen each other in between, and

0:34:31.640 --> 0:34:34.840
<v Speaker 3>I said to Lewis, have you got a girlfriend, Lewis?

0:34:34.920 --> 0:34:39.160
<v Speaker 3>And he said, I think I do, Mum and that.

0:34:40.280 --> 0:34:43.319
<v Speaker 3>So now they've had like they've passed the year anniversary.

0:34:44.600 --> 0:34:48.960
<v Speaker 3>It was beautiful, amazing, witching powers.

0:34:48.560 --> 0:34:53.280
<v Speaker 1>Indeed, beautiful phrase, beautiful phrase, witching powers.

0:34:52.920 --> 0:34:53.920
<v Speaker 2>Indeed, I love it.

0:34:53.960 --> 0:34:55.600
<v Speaker 1>But then it's a little bit of you know, your

0:34:55.600 --> 0:34:58.279
<v Speaker 1>social media there as well, you know, see those do

0:34:58.400 --> 0:35:03.480
<v Speaker 1>those videos? You're never not it's trying to lead.

0:35:04.680 --> 0:35:08.000
<v Speaker 3>But also she was, Kate was spot on in her instincts.

0:35:08.040 --> 0:35:12.040
<v Speaker 3>I have to say, like spot on. Nothing could have

0:35:12.040 --> 0:35:15.879
<v Speaker 3>been easier. And it's really only in retrospect that I go, oh,

0:35:15.920 --> 0:35:19.959
<v Speaker 3>my goodness, when your kid brings someone home, it could

0:35:20.000 --> 0:35:24.439
<v Speaker 3>go disastrously wrong suddenly, like if you didn't like them

0:35:24.560 --> 0:35:27.600
<v Speaker 3>or whatever. It is a myriad exactly.

0:35:28.040 --> 0:35:31.600
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, And look, I mean I'm sure every parent has

0:35:31.640 --> 0:35:35.600
<v Speaker 1>to contemplate that and obviously deal with it sometimes. And

0:35:35.719 --> 0:35:39.720
<v Speaker 1>I've got no doubt personally that you would absolutely handle

0:35:39.800 --> 0:35:41.080
<v Speaker 1>that really graciously.

0:35:41.560 --> 0:35:44.240
<v Speaker 3>Oh do you think so that I would, Sarah? Because

0:35:44.280 --> 0:35:46.759
<v Speaker 3>you know, you know how it is when you're in

0:35:46.840 --> 0:35:50.120
<v Speaker 3>love with someone and when you're first in love and

0:35:50.120 --> 0:35:53.319
<v Speaker 3>when you're young, Yes, like which of us has not

0:35:53.360 --> 0:35:54.720
<v Speaker 3>made a mistake in our youth?

0:35:55.920 --> 0:35:56.520
<v Speaker 1>I did?

0:35:58.480 --> 0:36:01.680
<v Speaker 3>And if my pearance, I mean I didn't see my

0:36:01.800 --> 0:36:04.480
<v Speaker 3>parents then because they I'd left the Jehovah's witnesses, so

0:36:04.960 --> 0:36:08.080
<v Speaker 3>luckily I was free to make my own mistakes. Or

0:36:08.320 --> 0:36:10.319
<v Speaker 3>was I lucky there was no one there to say

0:36:10.360 --> 0:36:13.160
<v Speaker 3>to me. I don't know. I don't know about this, honey,

0:36:13.239 --> 0:36:16.120
<v Speaker 3>I don't know. But you have to be really careful

0:36:16.160 --> 0:36:19.000
<v Speaker 3>how you deal with it, because you're dealing with you're

0:36:19.080 --> 0:36:24.440
<v Speaker 3>trying to talk to someone about you're trying to express

0:36:24.560 --> 0:36:29.760
<v Speaker 3>I imagine reservations where they see none that's true.

0:36:30.000 --> 0:36:32.799
<v Speaker 1>And it's complicated, and I mean people can have that

0:36:32.880 --> 0:36:35.880
<v Speaker 1>even with good friends, can't they. We've all seen somebody

0:36:35.880 --> 0:36:39.439
<v Speaker 1>that we care deeply about, and yes, know that it's

0:36:39.520 --> 0:36:43.040
<v Speaker 1>really not going to be good. But it's very complicated

0:36:43.080 --> 0:36:45.120
<v Speaker 1>to have those conversations, and you have to high up

0:36:45.120 --> 0:36:47.240
<v Speaker 1>I love this person, is it in their best interest

0:36:47.320 --> 0:36:49.799
<v Speaker 1>to speak? Or am I blowing this relationship up?

0:36:49.880 --> 0:36:52.520
<v Speaker 3>So it is, and then they break up, and then

0:36:52.560 --> 0:36:55.800
<v Speaker 3>they get back together, and in the meantime, she's told

0:36:55.880 --> 0:36:59.600
<v Speaker 3>him or whoever all the things that you've said, and

0:36:59.640 --> 0:37:03.160
<v Speaker 3>then the relationship is ren to thunder forever. Like it's

0:37:03.440 --> 0:37:06.920
<v Speaker 3>very tricky to rain. It is, and luckily I have

0:37:07.040 --> 0:37:09.160
<v Speaker 3>not had to navigate it, but I've still got three

0:37:09.960 --> 0:37:14.920
<v Speaker 3>other children coming through. Let me touch wood that the

0:37:15.040 --> 0:37:18.399
<v Speaker 3>course of love runs smooth, and we'll be.

0:37:18.360 --> 0:37:21.080
<v Speaker 1>Back in a moment to hear Kate open up about

0:37:21.120 --> 0:37:27.040
<v Speaker 1>how she first experienced anxiety last year. We've talked a

0:37:27.080 --> 0:37:31.000
<v Speaker 1>little bit about radio, obviously worked with Hughsey, and now

0:37:31.239 --> 0:37:34.319
<v Speaker 1>you have the as I said, the weekly podcast, The

0:37:34.360 --> 0:37:34.799
<v Speaker 1>buck Up.

0:37:34.920 --> 0:37:39.319
<v Speaker 3>Yes, but but I don't even know if that's the

0:37:39.360 --> 0:37:40.799
<v Speaker 3>opening song, but I think it is.

0:37:41.120 --> 0:37:43.839
<v Speaker 1>I should really probably return the favor and sing an

0:37:43.880 --> 0:37:46.799
<v Speaker 1>opening song to you, since oh in the top of

0:37:46.840 --> 0:37:51.960
<v Speaker 1>our conversation. But that's okay, I'll come up with I'll

0:37:51.960 --> 0:37:55.000
<v Speaker 1>come up with something a bit later. You clearly are

0:37:55.320 --> 0:38:00.000
<v Speaker 1>very very very good podcast host and extremely capable feeling,

0:38:00.080 --> 0:38:02.120
<v Speaker 1>and so I'm just going to hand over at the

0:38:02.320 --> 0:38:03.799
<v Speaker 1>end of this episode of something to.

0:38:03.760 --> 0:38:06.000
<v Speaker 2>Talk about to you as a co host of The

0:38:06.000 --> 0:38:06.480
<v Speaker 2>buck Up.

0:38:07.080 --> 0:38:11.320
<v Speaker 3>Well, Sarah. So we start by, I mean, we say hello,

0:38:11.600 --> 0:38:12.600
<v Speaker 3>I'm kateline Brook.

0:38:13.239 --> 0:38:14.920
<v Speaker 1>You are I am Sarah Lamarquin.

0:38:15.600 --> 0:38:19.399
<v Speaker 3>Yes, correct, well done. That's the first out of the way.

0:38:20.320 --> 0:38:24.799
<v Speaker 3>But so that ethos of the podcast is and it's

0:38:24.880 --> 0:38:28.200
<v Speaker 3>kind of difficult to articulate, but let me give you

0:38:28.200 --> 0:38:31.400
<v Speaker 3>an example, so that things in life really get you down.

0:38:32.200 --> 0:38:34.759
<v Speaker 3>There's no doubt anyone who lives a life. As my

0:38:34.840 --> 0:38:37.440
<v Speaker 3>mother said, the longer you live, more bad things are

0:38:37.480 --> 0:38:40.600
<v Speaker 3>going to happen to you, which also makes me laugh.

0:38:42.080 --> 0:38:47.720
<v Speaker 3>But there's something about sharing bad things that have happened.

0:38:48.560 --> 0:38:52.200
<v Speaker 3>And I think I believe this because I spent a

0:38:52.400 --> 0:38:55.279
<v Speaker 3>long part of my life in a religion where I

0:38:55.320 --> 0:38:57.120
<v Speaker 3>had to keep a big part of my self secret,

0:38:57.239 --> 0:39:00.560
<v Speaker 3>like the most essential part of myself, because it would

0:39:00.560 --> 0:39:03.200
<v Speaker 3>be so disapproved of and everything about me was wrong

0:39:03.239 --> 0:39:06.080
<v Speaker 3>for that religion. It turned out the religion was wrong

0:39:06.160 --> 0:39:09.400
<v Speaker 3>for me, but whatever. So now I'm like, I don't

0:39:09.400 --> 0:39:15.200
<v Speaker 3>really have many, if any secrets. So the buckup is

0:39:15.239 --> 0:39:19.960
<v Speaker 3>when stuff happens to you that's kind of terrible. If

0:39:20.000 --> 0:39:24.319
<v Speaker 3>you just reset yourself a bit, often you'll find that

0:39:24.360 --> 0:39:26.839
<v Speaker 3>it's got an upside to it. So when we were

0:39:26.880 --> 0:39:31.880
<v Speaker 3>talking about first doing the podcast, I was telling nath

0:39:32.600 --> 0:39:35.319
<v Speaker 3>what had happened when I went to America earlier this

0:39:35.400 --> 0:39:39.480
<v Speaker 3>year and I did these two massive interviews with Zendaia

0:39:39.600 --> 0:39:44.040
<v Speaker 3>and Florence Pew and Austin Butler and Timothy Chalomay, and

0:39:44.080 --> 0:39:46.560
<v Speaker 3>I talk about that in the first episode of the podcast.

0:39:46.600 --> 0:39:48.560
<v Speaker 3>But what I didn't talk about was when I came

0:39:48.600 --> 0:39:51.080
<v Speaker 3>back from America, this really weird thing happened and I

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<v Speaker 3>had anxiety for the first time in my life. I've

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<v Speaker 3>never had it before. I'm modern, so I know heaps

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<v Speaker 3>of people who have got it, and kids have got it,

0:40:00.680 --> 0:40:03.520
<v Speaker 3>and grown ups have got it, and even dogs have

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<v Speaker 3>got it. Right, it's the malaise of our modern world.

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<v Speaker 3>And I had it for the first time, and it

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<v Speaker 3>took me a little while to realize what it was.

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<v Speaker 3>I was waking up in the morning with this just

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<v Speaker 3>this waking up ding, and then terrible things were popping

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<v Speaker 3>into my mind, real or imagined. And then I went, oh,

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<v Speaker 3>I've got anxiety. Right, this is terrible. But so I

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<v Speaker 3>call the number of a guy who I'd been recommended by, strangely,

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<v Speaker 3>a woman that I go and have colonics with, right,

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<v Speaker 3>and she had mentioned this guy to me before, and

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<v Speaker 3>I'd met him in the past and he was really lovely.

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<v Speaker 3>So I just seen him a message. At this stage,

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<v Speaker 3>I was so low that I couldn't even explain to

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<v Speaker 3>him why I was coming to see him. I just

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<v Speaker 3>had to say, I really need to see you. I

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<v Speaker 3>was so low that even the people that I live

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<v Speaker 3>with who are very often blind to you because they

0:41:00.520 --> 0:41:04.280
<v Speaker 3>see you every day and you're like a service animal

0:41:04.440 --> 0:41:09.600
<v Speaker 3>in that life, you know. No, no, yeah, so even

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<v Speaker 3>they noticed and I said, I said to Lewis, I

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<v Speaker 3>can't go into the backyard. Peter was doing armor garden

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<v Speaker 3>in the backyard. I just I'm like, I can't go

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<v Speaker 3>in the backyard. It's giving me anxiety. Peter comes to anxiety, said,

0:41:22.960 --> 0:41:26.960
<v Speaker 3>Louis Seed, you've got anxiety. And I said, yeah, I do.

0:41:27.120 --> 0:41:29.200
<v Speaker 3>And Peter was like, this is a phrase I have

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<v Speaker 3>never uttered ever. Right, I'm not an anxious person. I'm

0:41:33.080 --> 0:41:38.080
<v Speaker 3>not a fearful person. It's just not been a thing anyway.

0:41:38.600 --> 0:41:40.719
<v Speaker 3>I said, yes I have. And he goes, what are

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<v Speaker 3>you anxious about? Which is what people always say to

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<v Speaker 3>people who have got anxiety. I'm like, it's not a thing,

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<v Speaker 3>but has been triggered by this trip overseas and the

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<v Speaker 3>full on stress and the Americans who was wowow and

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<v Speaker 3>all of that. I said, but I've made an appointment

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<v Speaker 3>to see someone and on and in between. He said,

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<v Speaker 3>what do you mean. I said, I've made an appointment

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<v Speaker 3>to see someone on Monday. Now, this is where the

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<v Speaker 3>magic of the buck up comes Sarah. Because he became

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<v Speaker 3>he became obsessed with the idea that I was going

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<v Speaker 3>to talk about him and that he was somehow responsible

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<v Speaker 3>for my anxiety. So he became the greatest person in

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<v Speaker 3>the world. He just became obsessed. It was all like

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<v Speaker 3>at one stage we were getting out of the car

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<v Speaker 3>and he said to me, I hope you're going to

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<v Speaker 3>tell her that I carry your jacket out of the

0:42:39.800 --> 0:42:44.640
<v Speaker 3>car for you. And I said to him, for starters,

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<v Speaker 3>she is a hymn, and also, why do you think

0:42:48.160 --> 0:42:52.040
<v Speaker 3>it's about you? And he goes, what else would you

0:42:52.200 --> 0:42:53.320
<v Speaker 3>talk to him about?

0:42:53.920 --> 0:42:54.080
<v Speaker 1>Right?

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<v Speaker 3>And I'm like, well, that's an interesting observation. So it

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<v Speaker 3>just actually became even before I had started that process,

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<v Speaker 3>what became what started off in such such a I

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<v Speaker 3>don't know, pain and despair, not really pain, but just

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<v Speaker 3>that that awful thing of anxiety actually became something of

0:43:16.400 --> 0:43:19.480
<v Speaker 3>humor and great And so then I was like, I've

0:43:19.520 --> 0:43:21.680
<v Speaker 3>got to go to bed. I need a cup of tea.

0:43:22.360 --> 0:43:26.359
<v Speaker 3>It's like bounding up the stairs. It was just it

0:43:26.440 --> 0:43:31.280
<v Speaker 3>was just brilliant. It was brilliant. Now, who would think

0:43:31.520 --> 0:43:33.879
<v Speaker 3>that that that I would get a buck up from

0:43:33.880 --> 0:43:36.400
<v Speaker 3>when I had anxiety, and yet I did.

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<v Speaker 1>And that it would inspire a whole podcast.

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<v Speaker 3>Well there you go. And so often in life things

0:43:44.239 --> 0:43:47.799
<v Speaker 3>terrible things happen, And I guess this is what comedians do,

0:43:48.239 --> 0:43:50.720
<v Speaker 3>is that they will always put a spin on something

0:43:51.200 --> 0:43:55.399
<v Speaker 3>so that the the it boomerangs its way back to you.

0:43:56.160 --> 0:43:59.520
<v Speaker 3>But it's somehow got a little bit of sparkle on it.

0:43:59.600 --> 0:44:02.759
<v Speaker 1>Peter, and continue, do you still have this sort of yes,

0:44:03.320 --> 0:44:04.520
<v Speaker 1>buck up at home.

0:44:05.120 --> 0:44:11.240
<v Speaker 3>Well, okay, So seeing the counselor that I saw was fantastic.

0:44:12.120 --> 0:44:15.960
<v Speaker 3>He's just enough, he's woo woo enough that it was great.

0:44:16.040 --> 0:44:18.920
<v Speaker 3>So it was some talking and breaking stuff down and

0:44:18.920 --> 0:44:21.960
<v Speaker 3>then some acupuncture on a table and some it was

0:44:21.960 --> 0:44:25.440
<v Speaker 3>so it's great, but yes, I'm like, for a few

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<v Speaker 3>days afterwards, I would say, in a couple of weeks

0:44:28.280 --> 0:44:32.040
<v Speaker 3>after even I would say to Peter, be careful, you

0:44:32.080 --> 0:44:35.960
<v Speaker 3>don't want to trigger my anxiety, right, And he was like,

0:44:36.840 --> 0:44:43.200
<v Speaker 3>snap to it. And he's a beautiful, loving like he's

0:44:43.360 --> 0:44:47.080
<v Speaker 3>my person. But in the cut and thrust of life,

0:44:47.560 --> 0:44:49.799
<v Speaker 3>we've been married a long time, We've got a lot

0:44:49.800 --> 0:44:55.000
<v Speaker 3>of responsibilities. You're not always treated like the orchid that

0:44:55.080 --> 0:44:58.120
<v Speaker 3>you believe you are. In the hot house and sometimes

0:44:58.120 --> 0:45:02.000
<v Speaker 3>you're treated by the weed that's growing on the median strip. Right.

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<v Speaker 3>It was just nice. It ended up actually being an

0:45:07.920 --> 0:45:11.439
<v Speaker 3>unexpected benefit of something. You would never think that there'd

0:45:11.480 --> 0:45:13.600
<v Speaker 3>be a silver lining on that dark cloud, and in

0:45:13.600 --> 0:45:16.440
<v Speaker 3>fact it ended up being. It ended up just being

0:45:17.880 --> 0:45:24.160
<v Speaker 3>part of part of the joy, but also what I did.

0:45:24.239 --> 0:45:29.200
<v Speaker 3>And because I'm a stoic and that is very much

0:45:29.239 --> 0:45:35.920
<v Speaker 3>my ideology that I that's how I lead that there

0:45:36.000 --> 0:45:38.560
<v Speaker 3>might have been an inclination for me to keep this

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<v Speaker 3>vulnerability secret. That suddenly I was all wobbly and untethered

0:45:47.560 --> 0:45:50.040
<v Speaker 3>when it was whereas I normally wake up, you know,

0:45:50.120 --> 0:45:54.960
<v Speaker 3>I just I'm okay, and I wasn't okay, and there

0:45:55.040 --> 0:45:58.120
<v Speaker 3>is a tendency to keep that. You're like, oh, what's

0:45:58.200 --> 0:46:01.200
<v Speaker 3>going on? Or I didn't have that. I was like,

0:46:01.360 --> 0:46:04.440
<v Speaker 3>I have to step into these and if had I

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<v Speaker 3>not done that, none of the other benefits would have come.

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<v Speaker 1>That's great, and it's so good that you gave you

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<v Speaker 1>yourself permission to feel it and acknowledge it.

0:46:15.440 --> 0:46:19.960
<v Speaker 3>And also that aspect of it was funny, not all

0:46:20.000 --> 0:46:25.400
<v Speaker 3>of it, but that aspect was funny and contained like

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<v Speaker 3>some joy.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a bit like some of many of the things

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<v Speaker 1>that we've talked about. Isn't it that there's the beauty

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<v Speaker 1>of it and then the difficulty of it, and then

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<v Speaker 1>all of those things.

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<v Speaker 2>Can be true at once.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, Yes, thank you so smartly right for sharing that

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<v Speaker 1>story about the genesis.

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<v Speaker 3>Of the buck Up.

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<v Speaker 1>It is a fantastic podcast and it is a very

0:46:48.520 --> 0:46:54.319
<v Speaker 1>welcome antidote or as Sarah Harris would say, prozac if

0:46:54.600 --> 0:46:58.120
<v Speaker 1>podcast was prozac. Kate, thank you again so much, and

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<v Speaker 1>you can listen to Kate lame Brook on the buck

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