WEBVTT - Turning Down The Noise: What I Learned From the New Michael Jackson Film // Maritza Barone

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<v Speaker 1>back to Things you Can on here today. I want

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<v Speaker 1>to start with a question for you. When was the

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<v Speaker 1>last time you experienced real silence? And I don't mean

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<v Speaker 1>those moments where the house is quiet but you're scrolling

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<v Speaker 1>on your phone, or you're driving somewhere with a podcast playing,

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<v Speaker 1>or you're technically alone but you're applying to emails at

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<v Speaker 1>the same time. I mean the kind of silence where

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<v Speaker 1>there's nothing asking for your attention, where you're simply left

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<v Speaker 1>with your own thoughts. Because I've been thinking about how

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<v Speaker 1>rare that actually is, not just silence around us, but

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<v Speaker 1>silence inside us. For a lot of people, life is full,

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<v Speaker 1>full of noise, full of movement, full of responsibility. If

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<v Speaker 1>you've got young kids, there's a kind of beautiful chaos

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<v Speaker 1>that never really stops. Or if you're working, there's always

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<v Speaker 1>something waiting in your inbox or a phone call coming through,

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<v Speaker 1>or if you're building something, there's always the next thing

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<v Speaker 1>to do, the next decision to make, the next problem

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<v Speaker 1>to solve. Sound familiar. And then there's that internal noise,

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<v Speaker 1>the thinking, the replaying of conversations, the planning ahead, the

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<v Speaker 1>questioning yourself, the overthinking something you said three days ago

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<v Speaker 1>that probably no one else even remembers. Sometimes I think

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<v Speaker 1>those are the loudest noises of all. But what's interesting

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<v Speaker 1>is that we get so used to it we stop

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<v Speaker 1>even questioning the fact that we never get space to pause,

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<v Speaker 1>and it just becomes normal to live in a constant

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<v Speaker 1>state of input and output. We're always consuming something, We're

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<v Speaker 1>always listening to something, or reacting to something or responding

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<v Speaker 1>to something. But I've been wondering lately, what does that

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<v Speaker 1>do to our ability to hear ourselves, or hear anything

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<v Speaker 1>new for that matter. I was watching the new Michael

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<v Speaker 1>Jackson film recently, which I loved, and there was a

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<v Speaker 1>scene in it that really stayed with me, and I

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<v Speaker 1>haven't been able to stop thinking about it since. In

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<v Speaker 1>this scene, Michael is floating in a swimming pool. His

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<v Speaker 1>eyes are closed and is smiling, and one of his

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<v Speaker 1>brothers asks him what he's doing, and Michael says, I'm channeling.

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<v Speaker 1>If I'm not here to receive the idea, God might

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<v Speaker 1>give it to Prince, I'm not going to let that happen.

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<v Speaker 1>And I loved it. I kept thinking about it for

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<v Speaker 1>days afterwards, the idea that inspiration isn't something you force,

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<v Speaker 1>it's something you receive. In that moment where he's floating

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<v Speaker 1>in the pool and he's being quiet, he wasn't trying

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<v Speaker 1>to be productive. He wasn't chasing anything, he wasn't sitting

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<v Speaker 1>at his piano squeezing out a song. He was just

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<v Speaker 1>silent and available. And I kept thinking about how unusual

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<v Speaker 1>this is for most of us these days, when do

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<v Speaker 1>we actually make time for space. We make space to do,

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<v Speaker 1>to respond, to consume, but not really space to just

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<v Speaker 1>be still enough that something unexpected could actually land. I

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<v Speaker 1>actually read that Prince had a similar approach to so

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<v Speaker 1>he didn't really need to worry about getting Michael's ideas

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<v Speaker 1>because he was getting his own. Apparently he had set

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<v Speaker 1>ups in multiple rooms in his studio so he could

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<v Speaker 1>capture ideas the minute they came in. The kitchen, the hallway,

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<v Speaker 1>and different spaces around the studio were all part of

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<v Speaker 1>the creative process. Because he also knew something really important.

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<v Speaker 1>Ideas don't always arrive when you're pushing. They arrive when

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<v Speaker 1>you're open. And that made me start wondering something, where

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<v Speaker 1>do ideas actually come from? Do they come from us

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<v Speaker 1>or do they come through us? And I know that's

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<v Speaker 1>a big question, and people will have different answers depending

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<v Speaker 1>on how they see the world. People will say it's intuition,

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<v Speaker 1>some will say it's the subconscious mind connecting patterns. Some

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<v Speaker 1>will say it's inspiration or creativity or flow state, and

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<v Speaker 1>some people will say it's something way more spiritual than that.

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<v Speaker 1>But regardless of what language you use, I think the

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<v Speaker 1>experience is the same. Ideas don't usually show up when

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<v Speaker 1>we're forcing them. They tend to arrive when we're in

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<v Speaker 1>the shower, on a walk, or driving somewhere with no pressure,

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<v Speaker 1>or even frustratingly for many of us, just about to

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<v Speaker 1>fall asleep, which is why I have a notebook and

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<v Speaker 1>pen by my bed these days. There are moments where

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<v Speaker 1>we're not actively grabbing for them. It's where we've softened

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<v Speaker 1>a bit, and I think there's a reason for that.

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<v Speaker 1>When our minds are constantly full of input, there's very

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<v Speaker 1>little space left for anything else to emerge. We're listening

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<v Speaker 1>to other people's thoughts all day. We're reading, we're watching,

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<v Speaker 1>we're reacting, so it makes sense that our own quiet

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<v Speaker 1>thoughts struggle to surface. Consumption fills you, but creation reveals you.

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<v Speaker 1>And creation doesn't just mean making art or music or

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<v Speaker 1>writing something. It's how you solve a problem you've been

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<v Speaker 1>sitting with, how you respond differently in a conversation or

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<v Speaker 1>perhaps even how you parent when you pause instead of react,

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<v Speaker 1>or if it's as big as Michael Jackson's, it's the

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<v Speaker 1>idea that changes the direction of your work and of

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<v Speaker 1>your life. But all of this needs space, because if

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<v Speaker 1>we're constantly consuming, constantly feeling, constantly distracting ourselves, there's no

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<v Speaker 1>room for anything to actually form underneath it. And silence

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<v Speaker 1>is not empty. Silence is where the things that are

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<v Speaker 1>important finally get to emerge, where thoughts finish themselves, where

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<v Speaker 1>ideas stop competing and start connecting. It's where you actually

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<v Speaker 1>hear maybe what's been there the whole time, just underneath

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<v Speaker 1>everything else. So maybe use this episode as an opportunity

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<v Speaker 1>for you to think about where you're giving your attention

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<v Speaker 1>for most of your day. Many of us don't need

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<v Speaker 1>more information. We already have more than enough of that.

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<v Speaker 1>What we might actually need is a little less noise,

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<v Speaker 1>so you can hear what we already know or what

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<v Speaker 1>is meant for us. And you can try these five

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<v Speaker 1>minutes in the car before you turn something on, or

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<v Speaker 1>you can go for a walk without headphones, or my

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<v Speaker 1>favorite is to just sit with a cup of tea

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<v Speaker 1>without picking up my phone or turning on a television

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<v Speaker 1>just small moments where your mind can actually catch up

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<v Speaker 1>with you. And I think you know through everything that

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<v Speaker 1>I've already said, I do think something interesting and important

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<v Speaker 1>happens in these moments, and it doesn't always have to

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<v Speaker 1>be a big revelation. Sometimes it's just a sense of

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<v Speaker 1>calm clarity. So this week, instead of asking what do

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<v Speaker 1>I need to learn or consume or fix, just notice

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<v Speaker 1>what happens if you turn down the noise a little,

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<v Speaker 1>just enough to hear what might be already there. I

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<v Speaker 1>think a lot of what we're looking for isn't actually missing,

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<v Speaker 1>it's just being drowned out. And I'm going to leave

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<v Speaker 1>you with this. I think a lot of what we're

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<v Speaker 1>looking for isn't actually missing, it's just being drowned out.

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<v Speaker 1>If this episode made you think of someone whose life

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<v Speaker 1>feels a little full right now, send it their way,

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<v Speaker 1>and until next time, I'll leave you with this question,

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<v Speaker 1>if your life was just a little bit quieter, what

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<v Speaker 1>might you finally hear? Thanks for listening to the show.

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