Speaker 1: Hey everyone, it's Cully here and welcome to this week's
Speaker 1: Mojo Monday. So this morning, something very trivial happened, but
Speaker 1: it's a really common thing happened to me and it
Speaker 1: got me thinking and inspired me to do this podcast.
Speaker 1: So I was turning right onto a double lane highway
Speaker 1: and it's one of those highways where you can stop
Speaker 1: in the middle before you actually turn right. And so
Speaker 1: I had stopped in the middle and this big forward
Speaker 1: truck pulled up right beside me. So he clearly didn't
Speaker 1: want to wait for me to go before he came up,
Speaker 1: but by doing this, he blocked my view so I
Speaker 1: couldn't see the traffic coming towards me to turn right.
Speaker 1: This was totally unnecessary for him to do this, and
Speaker 1: I've felt it. I this wave of irritation just rose
Speaker 1: up in my body, and I was really annoyed, and
Speaker 1: for a moment my mind went where it went, exactly
Speaker 1: where you would expect it to go. So I was
Speaker 1: saying things like, why would you do that? You know,
Speaker 1: that's so rude. I can't see. But then something else
Speaker 1: kicked in for me. And what happened was I noticed
Speaker 1: the annoyance and I thought, ah, here it is. I'm
Speaker 1: experiencing what we call she no mujhon. So let me
Speaker 1: explain that term, because it's a really, really powerful one,
Speaker 1: and I would guarantee that the majority of you, if
Speaker 1: not all of you, have experienced this. So she saw
Speaker 1: no mujon and I apologize for my pronunciation to all
Speaker 1: the Japanese speaking people out there, but you don't need
Speaker 1: to be Japanese to really understand this concept. It comes
Speaker 1: from Japanese psychiatry Showmamrita, and it refers to this internal
Speaker 1: conflict that we all experience when reality doesn't match what
Speaker 1: we want things to be. So it's that tension between
Speaker 1: what is which is reality, and what we wish was
Speaker 1: happening instead, which is just an ideal. So this relates
Speaker 1: not only to outside events like trucks blocking your way
Speaker 1: and the blocking your view in the traffic, but it
Speaker 1: also relates to our internal states. So we don't want
Speaker 1: to feel anxious because it's really uncomfortable, so we struggle
Speaker 1: with trying to fight it off, which often makes things worse.
Speaker 1: So he describes this as the opposing tension between one's
Speaker 1: desire that life and a sense of self be a
Speaker 1: certain way and the facts of how life is. And
Speaker 1: this morning, that was exactly what was going on with me.
Speaker 1: So I didn't want the truck to be there. So
Speaker 1: frustration showed up and then all of a sudden, my
Speaker 1: mood and my state is changed. But he was there,
Speaker 1: and frustration was also there, and that was the reality. Now,
Speaker 1: because my awareness of the emotions came up, I had
Speaker 1: a choice. So I could stew in the irritation and
Speaker 1: let it dictate how I behaved, like you know, beeping
Speaker 1: him or giving him a dirty look. Or I could
Speaker 1: simply acknowledge that the situation wasn't what I wanted, it
Speaker 1: was a minor inconvenience, and still choose to respond. So
Speaker 1: I just went with it. I inched forward slowly, I
Speaker 1: got a clear view, saw my lane was open, and
Speaker 1: off I went. So there was no drama, There was
Speaker 1: no horns, no did he looks, no big story. I
Speaker 1: just moved on. Now I'm not telling this because I
Speaker 1: always handle things in this way, because I definitely don't.
Speaker 1: But this morning it was just such a good reminder
Speaker 1: for me. So we deal with she saw normal on
Speaker 1: every day in different ways and in different intensities. You know,
Speaker 1: things like you want peace and quiet because you're trying
Speaker 1: to work or study, but the neighbor's dog is barking NonStop.
Speaker 1: Or your room looks like a floor robe because your
Speaker 1: partner's clothes are just thrown on there, and so you
Speaker 1: start to feel resentful, or you're injured and you can't
Speaker 1: exercise it, you can't play the game, so you start
Speaker 1: feeling depressed about that, or you feel anxious and you
Speaker 1: wish you felt calm already. And it's that gap between
Speaker 1: reality and our desire for something, and it's uncomfortable. And
Speaker 1: the more we struggle with reality, the wider that gap gets.
Speaker 1: But it's not something to fight, it's something to notice
Speaker 1: because the more we can acknowledge both the reality and
Speaker 1: our ideas of how we want things to be equally
Speaker 1: and not focusing on one more than the other, and
Speaker 1: that's our internal experience and our external circumstances, the more
Speaker 1: space we have to be able to respond with clarity
Speaker 1: rather than react with emotion. So this week, if you
Speaker 1: find yourself irritated or anxious or disappointed or just fed up,
Speaker 1: just take a little pause. Ask yourself, is this a
Speaker 1: moment of she saw no mujon am i caught up
Speaker 1: in this tension between what is and what I wish
Speaker 1: was happening, and can I hold space for both and
Speaker 1: still move forward with intention. So I hope you got
Speaker 1: value from that. I certainly get value from this from
Speaker 1: she saw no mujon. This is just increasing our self
Speaker 1: awareness of the nature of our humanness. So I am
Speaker 1: wishing you all a very calm and clear headed week.
Speaker 1: I hope people don't get too annoying in the traffic,
Speaker 1: and I will see you next Monday. See yea