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Speaker 1: Hey everyone, it's Cully here and welcome to this week's

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Speaker 1: Mojo Monday. So this morning, something very trivial happened, but

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Speaker 1: it's a really common thing happened to me and it

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Speaker 1: got me thinking and inspired me to do this podcast.

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Speaker 1: So I was turning right onto a double lane highway

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Speaker 1: and it's one of those highways where you can stop

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Speaker 1: in the middle before you actually turn right. And so

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Speaker 1: I had stopped in the middle and this big forward

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Speaker 1: truck pulled up right beside me. So he clearly didn't

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Speaker 1: want to wait for me to go before he came up,

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Speaker 1: but by doing this, he blocked my view so I

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Speaker 1: couldn't see the traffic coming towards me to turn right.

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Speaker 1: This was totally unnecessary for him to do this, and

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Speaker 1: I've felt it. I this wave of irritation just rose

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Speaker 1: up in my body, and I was really annoyed, and

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Speaker 1: for a moment my mind went where it went, exactly

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Speaker 1: where you would expect it to go. So I was

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Speaker 1: saying things like, why would you do that? You know,

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Speaker 1: that's so rude. I can't see. But then something else

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Speaker 1: kicked in for me. And what happened was I noticed

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Speaker 1: the annoyance and I thought, ah, here it is. I'm

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Speaker 1: experiencing what we call she no mujhon. So let me

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Speaker 1: explain that term, because it's a really, really powerful one,

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Speaker 1: and I would guarantee that the majority of you, if

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Speaker 1: not all of you, have experienced this. So she saw

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Speaker 1: no mujon and I apologize for my pronunciation to all

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Speaker 1: the Japanese speaking people out there, but you don't need

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Speaker 1: to be Japanese to really understand this concept. It comes

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Speaker 1: from Japanese psychiatry Showmamrita, and it refers to this internal

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Speaker 1: conflict that we all experience when reality doesn't match what

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Speaker 1: we want things to be. So it's that tension between

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Speaker 1: what is which is reality, and what we wish was

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Speaker 1: happening instead, which is just an ideal. So this relates

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Speaker 1: not only to outside events like trucks blocking your way

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Speaker 1: and the blocking your view in the traffic, but it

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Speaker 1: also relates to our internal states. So we don't want

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Speaker 1: to feel anxious because it's really uncomfortable, so we struggle

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Speaker 1: with trying to fight it off, which often makes things worse.

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Speaker 1: So he describes this as the opposing tension between one's

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Speaker 1: desire that life and a sense of self be a

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Speaker 1: certain way and the facts of how life is. And

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Speaker 1: this morning, that was exactly what was going on with me.

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Speaker 1: So I didn't want the truck to be there. So

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Speaker 1: frustration showed up and then all of a sudden, my

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Speaker 1: mood and my state is changed. But he was there,

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Speaker 1: and frustration was also there, and that was the reality. Now,

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Speaker 1: because my awareness of the emotions came up, I had

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Speaker 1: a choice. So I could stew in the irritation and

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Speaker 1: let it dictate how I behaved, like you know, beeping

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Speaker 1: him or giving him a dirty look. Or I could

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Speaker 1: simply acknowledge that the situation wasn't what I wanted, it

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Speaker 1: was a minor inconvenience, and still choose to respond. So

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Speaker 1: I just went with it. I inched forward slowly, I

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Speaker 1: got a clear view, saw my lane was open, and

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Speaker 1: off I went. So there was no drama, There was

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Speaker 1: no horns, no did he looks, no big story. I

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Speaker 1: just moved on. Now I'm not telling this because I

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Speaker 1: always handle things in this way, because I definitely don't.

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Speaker 1: But this morning it was just such a good reminder

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Speaker 1: for me. So we deal with she saw normal on

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Speaker 1: every day in different ways and in different intensities. You know,

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Speaker 1: things like you want peace and quiet because you're trying

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Speaker 1: to work or study, but the neighbor's dog is barking NonStop.

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Speaker 1: Or your room looks like a floor robe because your

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Speaker 1: partner's clothes are just thrown on there, and so you

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Speaker 1: start to feel resentful, or you're injured and you can't

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Speaker 1: exercise it, you can't play the game, so you start

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Speaker 1: feeling depressed about that, or you feel anxious and you

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Speaker 1: wish you felt calm already. And it's that gap between

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Speaker 1: reality and our desire for something, and it's uncomfortable. And

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Speaker 1: the more we struggle with reality, the wider that gap gets.

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Speaker 1: But it's not something to fight, it's something to notice

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Speaker 1: because the more we can acknowledge both the reality and

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Speaker 1: our ideas of how we want things to be equally

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Speaker 1: and not focusing on one more than the other, and

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Speaker 1: that's our internal experience and our external circumstances, the more

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Speaker 1: space we have to be able to respond with clarity

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Speaker 1: rather than react with emotion. So this week, if you

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Speaker 1: find yourself irritated or anxious or disappointed or just fed up,

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Speaker 1: just take a little pause. Ask yourself, is this a

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Speaker 1: moment of she saw no mujon am i caught up

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Speaker 1: in this tension between what is and what I wish

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Speaker 1: was happening, and can I hold space for both and

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Speaker 1: still move forward with intention. So I hope you got

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Speaker 1: value from that. I certainly get value from this from

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Speaker 1: she saw no mujon. This is just increasing our self

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Speaker 1: awareness of the nature of our humanness. So I am

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Speaker 1: wishing you all a very calm and clear headed week.

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Speaker 1: I hope people don't get too annoying in the traffic,

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Speaker 1: and I will see you next Monday. See yea