WEBVTT - Layne Beachley: How to motivate yourself to do hard things 0:00:00.720 --> 0:00:03.160 Why is it so hard to get real answers about 0:00:03.200 --> 0:00:06.560 your health? If you've been told that everything looks fine, 0:00:06.760 --> 0:00:08.800 but you know that something is off, well, you're not 0:00:08.960 --> 0:00:12.800 imagining it. That's why I created Vitality three sixty to 0:00:12.880 --> 0:00:16.080 help you better understand what's going on inside your body 0:00:16.200 --> 0:00:19.040 so that you can take the targeted action needed. With 0:00:19.120 --> 0:00:22.639 a functional health approach plus testing, we go beyond the 0:00:22.720 --> 0:00:26.480 guesswork to uncover the root causes of your symptoms. I've 0:00:26.520 --> 0:00:30.720 teamed up with Doctyesmina, an incredible integrative GP, and together 0:00:30.800 --> 0:00:33.880 we will help you decode your body's signals and answer 0:00:33.960 --> 0:00:38.040 questions like why am I always exhausted? 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You don't know what you're going to get. 0:01:10.920 --> 0:01:13.520 Some days the WAD is as short as six minutes, 0:01:13.560 --> 0:01:15.800 some days it's as long as thirty minutes. Some days 0:01:15.800 --> 0:01:18.319 it's very cardio focused with lots of box jumps and 0:01:18.360 --> 0:01:21.280 sprints and running. Other days it's very strength focused. 0:01:20.959 --> 0:01:22.000 With big barbells. 0:01:22.160 --> 0:01:25.080 But as part of the wad up on the board 0:01:25.080 --> 0:01:28.480 where the workout is written, you have the RX weights 0:01:28.760 --> 0:01:30.920 and so these are RX for men, RX for women. 0:01:31.000 --> 0:01:33.760 So for example, yesterday it was a fifteen kilo dumbbell 0:01:33.880 --> 0:01:36.160 for the overhead snatches. It was a twenty five kilo 0:01:36.240 --> 0:01:39.280 bar bell for women. And so this year I set 0:01:39.319 --> 0:01:41.920 myself a little goal that I am going to RX 0:01:42.000 --> 0:01:44.560 every workout because often what a lot of us do 0:01:44.640 --> 0:01:47.320 is we'll look at the you know, twenty five kilo barbell, 0:01:47.360 --> 0:01:48.840 we'll go we're not going to do that. We drop 0:01:48.880 --> 0:01:51.320 it down to eighteen or whatever. But no, this year 0:01:51.400 --> 0:01:54.360 my goal was to RX every workout. 0:01:54.640 --> 0:01:56.400 So where are we a couple. 0:01:56.080 --> 0:01:59.400 Of months into the year, and I have to say, 0:02:00.160 --> 0:02:03.080 Sam bagged it. For the last few workouts I've gone in, 0:02:03.200 --> 0:02:04.200 I've been so tired. 0:02:04.320 --> 0:02:05.600 I've looked at the way I've. 0:02:05.440 --> 0:02:08.640 Gone No I'm not doing that, and I've just capitulated 0:02:08.680 --> 0:02:12.200 and do what my coach calls the sandbag workout. So 0:02:12.240 --> 0:02:14.720 it's kind of frustrating for me because I really want 0:02:14.760 --> 0:02:15.120 to do this. 0:02:15.280 --> 0:02:16.360 I know I can do it. 0:02:16.360 --> 0:02:18.120 It's hard, but I know I can do it, and 0:02:18.160 --> 0:02:21.200 so it's just got me thinking lately, how do we 0:02:21.280 --> 0:02:37.720 get more motivated to do the hard things. This is 0:02:37.760 --> 0:02:43.359 Healthy Her with Amelia Phillips. If you're listening to this podcast, chances. 0:02:42.919 --> 0:02:45.080 Are you are already a very. 0:02:44.919 --> 0:02:48.840 Health conscious, motivated person, and I bet you are doing 0:02:48.919 --> 0:02:53.280 amazing things for your health, and I congratulate you. I mean, 0:02:53.320 --> 0:02:55.760 you should be so proud of the healthy habits that 0:02:55.800 --> 0:02:58.320 you do have, Like good for you. I feel like 0:02:58.360 --> 0:03:00.840 we don't celebrate how far we've come enough. 0:03:01.240 --> 0:03:02.440 But if you're. 0:03:02.360 --> 0:03:06.600 Anything like me, you still want more. You want to 0:03:06.639 --> 0:03:08.440 do more, you want to learn more, you want to 0:03:08.520 --> 0:03:12.360 keep improving, striving, setting your body and mind up for 0:03:12.520 --> 0:03:18.040 many more decades of health, adventure, happiness. Well, in order 0:03:18.120 --> 0:03:22.680 to do this, especially when we're already pretty fit, we 0:03:22.919 --> 0:03:26.160 need to do hard things to not just show up 0:03:26.200 --> 0:03:28.320 at the gym consistently and look, if we're doing that, 0:03:28.360 --> 0:03:31.560 we're already doing so so well. But we need to 0:03:31.600 --> 0:03:35.240 push ourselves outside our comfort zone on a regular basis. 0:03:35.520 --> 0:03:38.400 We might need to say no to foods or drinks 0:03:38.400 --> 0:03:41.000 that we love not all the time, but a lot 0:03:41.040 --> 0:03:43.320 of the time. We might have to take a harder 0:03:43.400 --> 0:03:46.160 road of meal prep when uber eats is just a 0:03:46.160 --> 0:03:49.880 couple of taps away. Doing hard things requires us to 0:03:49.920 --> 0:03:54.280 be proactive and to be intrinsically motivated. But how do 0:03:54.320 --> 0:03:57.960 we ignite this intrinsic motivation? How do we ignite it 0:03:57.960 --> 0:03:58.640 inside us? 0:03:58.880 --> 0:03:59.720 You know that inner. 0:03:59.560 --> 0:04:02.080 Voice that says, come on meals, You've got this workout, 0:04:02.160 --> 0:04:05.080 you can r rex this today, you can do it. 0:04:05.200 --> 0:04:09.400 You want this, when often we are overworked, overwhelmed, and 0:04:09.440 --> 0:04:11.880 frankly it would rather be curled up on the couch. 0:04:12.320 --> 0:04:14.920 What is the secret to feeling more motivated to do 0:04:14.960 --> 0:04:17.760 the hard things well? To help answer this question, I 0:04:17.839 --> 0:04:22.640 have called on one incredible woman who has tackled many 0:04:22.760 --> 0:04:26.839 a hard thing in her life, many a hard challenge. 0:04:26.960 --> 0:04:31.919 Lane Beachley is a seven time World surfing champion, the 0:04:32.040 --> 0:04:36.920 only surfer male or female to win six consecutive world 0:04:36.960 --> 0:04:40.440 titles like think about that six in a row, and 0:04:40.480 --> 0:04:43.720 a woman whose impact reaches far beyond the surf. Her 0:04:43.800 --> 0:04:47.880 journey from an adopted baby to a global icon certainly 0:04:47.880 --> 0:04:50.440 hasn't been a smooth ride for her. It's been forged 0:04:50.480 --> 0:04:54.359 through grit, through guts, and through a deep commitment to 0:04:54.440 --> 0:04:59.520 personal growth. Lane's lived experience with mental health challengers, with injury, 0:04:59.560 --> 0:05:02.560 with person and all loss has really become the heartbeat 0:05:02.640 --> 0:05:05.040 of her message. And I love this message. Take a 0:05:05.080 --> 0:05:10.640 listen to her message, Choice, not chance, determines our destiny today. 0:05:10.720 --> 0:05:14.000 Lane is a sought after speaker. She is a fearless 0:05:14.040 --> 0:05:18.839 advocate for mental wellbeing, for gender equality and environmental action. 0:05:19.120 --> 0:05:22.520 And she's a proud ambassador for organizations like the Black 0:05:22.520 --> 0:05:24.279 Dog Institute, Gotcha for. 0:05:24.440 --> 0:05:26.760 Life, and WWF Australia. 0:05:26.880 --> 0:05:30.120 Lane is also the founder of Awake Academy and I 0:05:30.200 --> 0:05:33.760 really recommend you check them out. They're amazing Awake Academy. 0:05:33.800 --> 0:05:36.400 They're on a mission to help a million people thrive 0:05:36.520 --> 0:05:40.680 and live happier, more purposeful lives through their online programs, 0:05:40.800 --> 0:05:44.760 workshops and also then new book co written with Tess 0:05:44.880 --> 0:05:51.000 Brauer Awake Academy, Know Yourself, Grow Yourself. Lane, thank you 0:05:51.080 --> 0:05:52.880 so much for joining us on Healthy Heir. 0:05:53.360 --> 0:05:56.480 You're welcome, Amelia that CrossFit workout sounds horrendous. 0:05:57.640 --> 0:05:59.760 I know it is. 0:06:00.080 --> 0:06:02.320 I just drag my I don't let myself because you 0:06:02.320 --> 0:06:05.279 can actually see the workout on the app before, like 0:06:05.320 --> 0:06:07.720 they posted the night before, and I never look because 0:06:07.720 --> 0:06:09.680 if I looked at what the workout was, I wouldn't 0:06:09.720 --> 0:06:10.360 show up. 0:06:12.279 --> 0:06:12.840 Fair enough. 0:06:12.960 --> 0:06:14.080 I know, but look today. 0:06:14.120 --> 0:06:16.200 I really want to get your perspective on how to 0:06:16.320 --> 0:06:19.760 feel more motivated to do hard things. So I'd love 0:06:19.839 --> 0:06:23.039 to rewind the clock and to take you back to 0:06:23.080 --> 0:06:26.200 your competitive surfing days. I'd love for you to paint 0:06:26.320 --> 0:06:29.640 a picture of those days and the hard things that 0:06:29.720 --> 0:06:32.640 you had to do, whether it be in training in 0:06:32.720 --> 0:06:36.440 comms to enable you to dominate like you did well. 0:06:36.480 --> 0:06:38.800 Hard things are different for every one of us, so 0:06:39.440 --> 0:06:42.840 thinking about your audience, for example, the hard things today 0:06:42.960 --> 0:06:46.600 might actually just be finding the time to prioritize self care, 0:06:46.839 --> 0:06:49.520 or making the time to go to the gym, or 0:06:49.560 --> 0:06:52.960 feeling the tension between leaving your child or your toddler 0:06:53.040 --> 0:06:55.159 and then taking care of yourself. There's a lot of 0:06:55.200 --> 0:06:57.960 hard things going on our lives. When I reflect on 0:06:57.960 --> 0:07:04.360 my professional surfing career, I feel that the hard things 0:07:04.640 --> 0:07:07.080 were really hard, like getting up at five o'clock in 0:07:07.080 --> 0:07:09.840 the morning, in the pouring rain, in the middle of winter, 0:07:10.040 --> 0:07:13.120 with a cold, and going to training. But the intrinsic 0:07:13.160 --> 0:07:15.440 motivation is what inspired me to get up and do 0:07:15.560 --> 0:07:19.800 that day in and day out. Unfortunately, that intrinsic motivation 0:07:20.240 --> 0:07:23.920 also overrode the fact that I was sick and I 0:07:23.960 --> 0:07:27.080 needed to pause and I needed to rest. So it 0:07:27.120 --> 0:07:29.440 was even a hard thing to give myself permission to 0:07:29.480 --> 0:07:33.160 stop and recover. I didn't understand the importance of recovery. 0:07:33.280 --> 0:07:37.040 I didn't understand the importance of nutrition. I didn't understand 0:07:37.040 --> 0:07:39.960 the importance of proper hydration. I was just to go 0:07:40.040 --> 0:07:44.200 get a machine, and that cost me the quality of 0:07:44.240 --> 0:07:46.800 my health and well being, which then resulted in chronic fatigue, 0:07:46.800 --> 0:07:47.680 not once, but twice. 0:07:48.160 --> 0:07:52.080 Ah, that's so interesting, so interestingly for you, because you 0:07:52.280 --> 0:07:57.520 were so determined back then that the hard thing for 0:07:57.560 --> 0:08:02.720 you actually was more around slowing down and thinking about 0:08:02.960 --> 0:08:05.760 you know, those challenging things like what was it that 0:08:06.080 --> 0:08:08.560 made you say, yes, I want to get in that cold, 0:08:08.760 --> 0:08:11.840 shark infested water, or I want to tackle that way 0:08:11.880 --> 0:08:14.560 that could snap me in half. Like when you were 0:08:14.640 --> 0:08:20.080 feeling those fears around doing what was driving you to 0:08:20.560 --> 0:08:22.240 keep going well. 0:08:22.600 --> 0:08:25.440 At the time, the intrinsic driver was I wanted to win. 0:08:25.760 --> 0:08:28.920 There wasn't much of an extrinsic goal, like I wasn't 0:08:29.160 --> 0:08:31.480 going for the fame of the fortune. Well there was 0:08:31.480 --> 0:08:33.800 no fortune, and it was women's surfing. But I wasn't 0:08:33.800 --> 0:08:36.480 going for the trophies and the fame and all of 0:08:36.520 --> 0:08:40.440 those things. I was going for the desire to be 0:08:40.559 --> 0:08:42.800 the best, the desire to stand on the podium and 0:08:42.960 --> 0:08:46.440 feel the euphoria a victory. When I achieved my ultimate 0:08:46.480 --> 0:08:49.360 goal of becoming a six times consecutive world champion. When 0:08:49.360 --> 0:08:54.000 I reflected on that intrinsic motivation, the drive actually wasn't 0:08:54.520 --> 0:08:58.640 to win. The drive was essentially worthiness. I had decided 0:08:58.720 --> 0:09:01.080 at a very young age that when my dad told 0:09:01.120 --> 0:09:02.959 me I was adopted as an eight year old, I 0:09:03.000 --> 0:09:06.520 instantly felt unworthy. I felt unworthy of love, I felt 0:09:06.559 --> 0:09:09.920 unworthy of attention, and I decided that the only way 0:09:09.960 --> 0:09:11.520 I was going to prove to myself and the world 0:09:11.559 --> 0:09:13.880 that I was deserving of love and affection and attention 0:09:14.000 --> 0:09:16.880 is to become the best in the world at something. Unfortunately, 0:09:16.920 --> 0:09:18.760 when I did become the best in the world at something, 0:09:18.760 --> 0:09:21.240 I still didn't believe I was enough yet, So it 0:09:21.240 --> 0:09:23.040 wasn't until I won my six One one of my 0:09:23.040 --> 0:09:24.840 friends said, what's driving you? Do you think it's because 0:09:24.840 --> 0:09:27.440 you're adopted? I thought that really hurts, But there's a 0:09:27.440 --> 0:09:30.840 lot of truth in that, because yes, I still feel 0:09:31.080 --> 0:09:34.400 undeserving of love. And I had placed this limitation and 0:09:34.440 --> 0:09:36.440 this expectation that the only way I was going to 0:09:36.440 --> 0:09:38.000 be worthy of love is if I become the best 0:09:38.040 --> 0:09:39.760 in the world at something. But I had to become 0:09:39.800 --> 0:09:42.880 the best of the best, not just the best. 0:09:43.080 --> 0:09:44.360 And when does that end? 0:09:44.520 --> 0:09:47.360 You know, it's a self fulfilling prophecy where every single 0:09:47.440 --> 0:09:48.920 time you know you're never going to get to the 0:09:49.000 --> 0:09:49.720 top of the mountain. 0:09:49.960 --> 0:09:51.480 So what changed for you? 0:09:51.760 --> 0:09:55.520 At what point did you realize that, Okay, this is 0:09:55.559 --> 0:09:56.560 not serving me? 0:09:57.120 --> 0:09:58.720 What's driving me now? 0:09:58.920 --> 0:10:03.000 And you obviously just retire and disappear onto the couch. 0:10:03.120 --> 0:10:07.360 You've continued to strive outside of retirement. Can you explain 0:10:07.440 --> 0:10:10.400 that period, that shift when you decided that being the 0:10:10.440 --> 0:10:14.000 best of the best wasn't what needs to be motivating you. 0:10:14.000 --> 0:10:15.400 But there's got to be something else. 0:10:15.760 --> 0:10:19.000 Yes, So the big shift came when my body broke down. 0:10:19.440 --> 0:10:23.520 I ended up with a severe neck injury that I 0:10:23.559 --> 0:10:25.760 actually endured way back in two thousand and one, but 0:10:25.840 --> 0:10:28.200 chose to ignore all the symptoms and the signs and 0:10:28.240 --> 0:10:31.559 just continued to push through. Basically, I'm so mentally strong 0:10:32.040 --> 0:10:34.480 that when my body breaks down, I just see that 0:10:34.600 --> 0:10:37.920 as another obstacle I have to overcome. I don't honor it, 0:10:38.240 --> 0:10:41.360 I don't connect with it. I just continue to push 0:10:41.440 --> 0:10:45.320 through it. And that resulted in a neck injury that 0:10:45.440 --> 0:10:47.880 was so severe at seven eighty percent of my spinal cord, 0:10:47.920 --> 0:10:50.400 and I was given two options. I was given the 0:10:50.440 --> 0:10:53.360 option to retire. I was given the option to get surgery, 0:10:53.400 --> 0:10:55.640 and neither of those appealed to me. So I went 0:10:55.679 --> 0:10:59.320 and sought out a council from a third specialist, and 0:10:59.360 --> 0:11:01.640 he said, you're unfit and strong, allow your body to 0:11:01.679 --> 0:11:03.760 heal itself. And I my first question was how long 0:11:03.800 --> 0:11:07.280 will that take? Yeah, and he said as long as 0:11:07.320 --> 0:11:13.360 it takes. So learning to surrender to an unknown and 0:11:13.400 --> 0:11:17.520 an unseen force, but a strongly felt one, is the 0:11:17.559 --> 0:11:20.560 biggest lesson for me. I learned to surrender every time 0:11:21.040 --> 0:11:23.640 I go into the ocean. It's where I truly feel 0:11:23.640 --> 0:11:26.760 that sense of freedom and acceptance and surrender, but I 0:11:26.760 --> 0:11:29.040 couldn't apply it to my life because I was just 0:11:29.120 --> 0:11:34.439 on this ferocious, go get them goal oriented momentum that 0:11:34.720 --> 0:11:37.280 was driving me and my life and my body and 0:11:37.360 --> 0:11:41.400 everyone in it into the ground. And after I took 0:11:41.440 --> 0:11:43.600 six months out of the water and had to go 0:11:43.679 --> 0:11:47.760 through this soul healing, this deep it was an intense 0:11:47.880 --> 0:11:50.560 period for me where I had to really connect with 0:11:50.679 --> 0:11:53.679 my soul and my heart and ask myself why am 0:11:53.720 --> 0:11:57.880 I so driven through fear and connecting with all of 0:11:57.920 --> 0:12:00.920 those things and just accepting that part of myself and 0:12:01.480 --> 0:12:05.280 then giving myself forgiveness and then permission to do things differently. 0:12:05.600 --> 0:12:08.679 I was able to come back with a completely renewed attitude. 0:12:09.320 --> 0:12:11.760 I instead of being ferocious, I was tagged as having 0:12:11.760 --> 0:12:13.319 the compassion of a tiger shark when I was a 0:12:13.360 --> 0:12:16.760 competitor in that final couple of years of my professional 0:12:16.840 --> 0:12:19.000 surfing career. I came back to win my seventh world 0:12:19.000 --> 0:12:21.920 title with a renewed sense of freedom and joy and 0:12:22.000 --> 0:12:24.240 ease and grace and gratitude. Now that's not saying it 0:12:24.280 --> 0:12:26.800 wasn't hard, because it was. But it didn't define me 0:12:27.080 --> 0:12:29.600 and it didn't dictate the terms of my life to 0:12:29.600 --> 0:12:32.520 me anymore. I was back in charge, I had the helm, 0:12:32.720 --> 0:12:35.360 and I enjoyed it a lot more so. After I 0:12:35.400 --> 0:12:38.320 won my seventh Wold title, I then decided I wanted 0:12:38.360 --> 0:12:41.160 to retire, so I took I had a couple more 0:12:41.200 --> 0:12:43.480 years on tour, and then I retired, and then I 0:12:43.600 --> 0:12:45.600 felt that sense of loss that we all do if 0:12:45.640 --> 0:12:47.920 we step away from something we've done our whole lives. 0:12:48.120 --> 0:12:51.040 And then that was a whole nother layer of transition, 0:12:51.280 --> 0:12:55.160 and that was really hard making the decision to retire, 0:12:55.200 --> 0:12:57.920 and retiring wasn't that hard because I literally had to 0:12:57.960 --> 0:13:00.360 ask myself, am I prepared to do the work out 0:13:00.360 --> 0:13:02.880 of the water to generate the results I expected myself 0:13:02.920 --> 0:13:06.319 in it? And the answer was no, I'm distracted by 0:13:06.320 --> 0:13:09.079 life outside of surfing. Now I've been doing this competitive 0:13:09.120 --> 0:13:11.679 surfing thing for nineteen years. It's time to find out 0:13:11.679 --> 0:13:12.880 what life has in store for me. 0:13:12.920 --> 0:13:17.120 After that, with the period just before you went back 0:13:17.200 --> 0:13:21.520 in and you won that seventh consecutive, that seventh title, 0:13:22.280 --> 0:13:24.600 what were some of the strategies and the techniques you 0:13:24.679 --> 0:13:29.000 used to find that self compassion and to work through 0:13:29.160 --> 0:13:31.120 some of those issues around fear. 0:13:31.320 --> 0:13:34.480 Was it therapy? Was it just self reflection, all of it. 0:13:34.760 --> 0:13:37.160 There was a variety of different things. Yes, I relied 0:13:37.240 --> 0:13:41.240 on external therapies and external support and everything you can 0:13:41.280 --> 0:13:48.160 possibly imagine too, from magnetic therapy, hyperbaric chambers, chiropractice, massage therapists, acupuncturist, 0:13:49.160 --> 0:13:51.120 sonic key like explore. 0:13:51.280 --> 0:13:55.000 Just went on this kind of like self discovery journey, 0:13:55.600 --> 0:13:56.400 which I love. 0:13:57.200 --> 0:14:00.480 That was the external stuff. The internal stuff was justice powerful. 0:14:00.520 --> 0:14:03.400 The first It meant sitting still and sitting in discomfort 0:14:03.480 --> 0:14:07.280 and sitting in pain and just allowing myself to be 0:14:07.440 --> 0:14:09.760 in that and honor the time that it took for 0:14:09.800 --> 0:14:11.360 me to process it. So there was a lot of 0:14:11.360 --> 0:14:14.000 self reflection. There was a lot of journaling. There was 0:14:14.040 --> 0:14:19.400 a lot of meditation, yoga, breath work, a lot of forgiveness, 0:14:19.640 --> 0:14:22.720 soul searching. It was the full gamut, you know. And 0:14:23.120 --> 0:14:27.960 I didn't have an outcome or like a deadline to reach, 0:14:28.040 --> 0:14:29.560 you know. It was just a matter of just sitting 0:14:29.600 --> 0:14:30.840 in it for as long as I had to sit 0:14:30.880 --> 0:14:34.200 in it. I did biosinc therapy, which was really really powerful. 0:14:34.560 --> 0:14:36.080 What's biosinc therapy. 0:14:36.520 --> 0:14:39.440 It's working with a therapist who truly understands the body 0:14:39.480 --> 0:14:43.080 but also the emotional connection because our bodies harbor emotions 0:14:43.120 --> 0:14:45.000 and that stores it in the body. The body keeps 0:14:45.040 --> 0:14:49.960 the score, and our bodies distract us through physical pain 0:14:50.120 --> 0:14:52.400 to prevent us from dealing with the emotional trauma that 0:14:52.480 --> 0:14:56.360 stored in the body. So it essentially the practitioner basically 0:14:56.440 --> 0:14:59.920 guess his elbow and just runs up meridians and fine 0:15:00.160 --> 0:15:04.040 blocked channels and opens them back up. And one you're 0:15:04.040 --> 0:15:08.720 opening up physical pain, you're liberating emotional pain. So I 0:15:08.800 --> 0:15:11.840 explored that for a long time to help me process 0:15:11.880 --> 0:15:13.840 a lot of the physical trauma that I had stored 0:15:13.840 --> 0:15:16.080 in my body, which essentially was emotional trauma. I also 0:15:16.120 --> 0:15:17.880 did a lot of and I still do a lot 0:15:17.920 --> 0:15:20.920 of rebirthing, so breath work connecting with the breath. It's 0:15:20.960 --> 0:15:23.560 a cyclical process that's a kind of like a controlled 0:15:23.640 --> 0:15:26.800 hype of ventilation that liberates emotions that are stuck in 0:15:26.840 --> 0:15:28.600 my body that I'm not okay with, that I don't 0:15:28.640 --> 0:15:30.800 want to talk about, I don't want to process, I 0:15:30.800 --> 0:15:32.880 don't want to understand. I just want to get them out. 0:15:33.560 --> 0:15:35.760 So there's all the sorts of these modalities that I 0:15:35.800 --> 0:15:39.000 still tap into this day to help me free myself 0:15:39.120 --> 0:15:42.600 of trauma and pain and suffering because suffering literally is 0:15:42.640 --> 0:15:49.400 a choice. 0:15:55.520 --> 0:15:58.000 Why is it so hard to get real answers about 0:15:58.000 --> 0:16:01.360 your health? If you've been told that everything looks fine, 0:16:01.560 --> 0:16:04.480 but you know that something is off, we're not imagining it. 0:16:04.680 --> 0:16:08.000 That's why I created Vitality three sixty to help you 0:16:08.040 --> 0:16:11.240 better understand what's going on inside your body so that 0:16:11.320 --> 0:16:14.480 you can take the targeted action needed. With a functional 0:16:14.520 --> 0:16:18.360 health approach plus testing, we go beyond the guesswork to 0:16:18.480 --> 0:16:21.760 uncover the root causes of your symptoms. I've teamed up 0:16:21.800 --> 0:16:25.960 with Dottesmina, an incredible integrative GP and together we will 0:16:26.000 --> 0:16:29.680 help you decode your body's signals and answer questions like 0:16:29.920 --> 0:16:33.680 why am I always exhausted? What's really causing my stubborn weight? 0:16:33.960 --> 0:16:38.280 Am I inflamed? Insulin resistant? Or maybe missing key nutrients? 0:16:38.480 --> 0:16:39.160 Because when you. 0:16:39.160 --> 0:16:42.560 Understand your body better, you can transform your health. Visit 0:16:42.680 --> 0:16:45.040 v three sixty dot health or check out the show 0:16:45.080 --> 0:16:56.200 notes for more. That's what I love about your message, 0:16:56.280 --> 0:17:00.280 This concept you know of it being a choice. You 0:17:00.320 --> 0:17:04.400 know this idea of you know, choice, not chance, determines 0:17:04.560 --> 0:17:08.520 our destiny, and that can be really liberating, Like you say, 0:17:08.600 --> 0:17:11.560 especially for people that have experienced a lot of trauma 0:17:11.600 --> 0:17:14.639 bit big tea little tea trauma in their life. I 0:17:14.680 --> 0:17:17.359 really love how empowering that is. Tell me when you 0:17:17.880 --> 0:17:22.359 shifted out after you retired, what was the transition like 0:17:22.440 --> 0:17:24.280 and what were some of their skills that you were 0:17:24.320 --> 0:17:28.840 able to transfer out of your competitive surfing athletic world 0:17:29.000 --> 0:17:33.240 that serves you and still serves you today in your 0:17:33.320 --> 0:17:34.680 career and in your. 0:17:34.600 --> 0:17:37.359 Life, your full you know, three sixty life. 0:17:37.640 --> 0:17:40.359 Love to know some of those kind of winning formulas 0:17:40.359 --> 0:17:42.040 that you are able to still harness. 0:17:42.560 --> 0:17:45.600 The winning formula for me is a three part model, 0:17:45.760 --> 0:17:50.280 so essentially it's it's a living of values based life 0:17:50.600 --> 0:17:53.840 and understanding what my values are then help me articulate 0:17:53.920 --> 0:17:56.720 my vision. I believe majority of us put a vision 0:17:56.840 --> 0:17:59.480 or you know, a stake in the sand, and sometimes 0:17:59.520 --> 0:18:02.320 that vision and is somebody else's vision for our life, 0:18:02.320 --> 0:18:05.000 not our own. So if we want to achieve our 0:18:05.080 --> 0:18:07.520 vision for us, we need to understand what we value. 0:18:07.880 --> 0:18:11.200 Because our values govern our behaviors and they help us 0:18:11.720 --> 0:18:15.360 set standards for ourselves so we're not dictated to by 0:18:15.359 --> 0:18:18.400 external circumstances. We can govern our own lives just about 0:18:18.440 --> 0:18:22.200 through our values. Then when our values have motivated our vision. 0:18:22.280 --> 0:18:24.080 We then need to build a dream team of people 0:18:24.080 --> 0:18:24.600 around us. 0:18:24.680 --> 0:18:29.359 All yes, yes, so I may. 0:18:29.200 --> 0:18:32.679 Have been an individual athlete, but I always had a 0:18:32.720 --> 0:18:36.320 team around me, whether it was my shaper, my surf coach, 0:18:36.480 --> 0:18:40.760 my nutritionists, my therapists, my boyfriend, like, there was always 0:18:40.840 --> 0:18:44.320 a dream team around me that held me accountable, that 0:18:44.400 --> 0:18:47.080 were honest with me. They were supportive, they were encouraging. 0:18:47.400 --> 0:18:49.760 They believed in me. Sometimes they believed in me more 0:18:49.800 --> 0:18:52.359 than I believed in myself. And so I listened to 0:18:52.400 --> 0:18:54.639 your story at the start, about you know, wanting to 0:18:54.800 --> 0:18:58.320 RX your workout, and I think about today when I 0:18:58.359 --> 0:19:01.199 go training, I know I don't have the motivation to 0:19:01.240 --> 0:19:04.879 show up every day or every second day, even on 0:19:04.920 --> 0:19:07.679 my own. I need a personal trainer to hold me accountable. 0:19:08.000 --> 0:19:10.200 I also need a personal trainer to hold me accountable 0:19:10.240 --> 0:19:11.960 when I do get into my head and I start 0:19:12.000 --> 0:19:14.120 getting tired, and I start thinking this is too hard 0:19:14.119 --> 0:19:16.480 and I just don't need to push myself, And he 0:19:16.560 --> 0:19:18.760 gets me out of my head and says, push, come on, 0:19:18.920 --> 0:19:22.280 let's go fortifying your dream team, knowing who it is 0:19:22.320 --> 0:19:24.600 that you have around you, how they can bring the 0:19:24.600 --> 0:19:26.840 best out in you how you can support them to 0:19:26.880 --> 0:19:28.920 do what they do. So it's not. 0:19:28.880 --> 0:19:30.320 That's really powerful what you just said. 0:19:30.480 --> 0:19:33.840 Then actually how you can support them to bring the 0:19:33.880 --> 0:19:37.119 best out in you, which is actually because let's face it, 0:19:37.200 --> 0:19:39.880 in the real world, we're not paying our dream team. 0:19:40.000 --> 0:19:41.040 You know, our dream team. 0:19:40.920 --> 0:19:44.760 Is probably you know, our partner or a colleague or 0:19:44.800 --> 0:19:48.639 a friend. And so I love this reciprocity of like, well, also, 0:19:49.040 --> 0:19:50.840 you know, I'm not just sucking the life out of 0:19:50.880 --> 0:19:53.480 them for me. But for example, I just had a 0:19:53.480 --> 0:19:55.280 little brain unlocked when you were saying that. In my 0:19:55.760 --> 0:19:59.160 example about the RX, I haven't told my coach that 0:19:59.160 --> 0:19:59.920 that was my goal. 0:20:00.320 --> 0:20:01.600 I did not say to him. 0:20:01.520 --> 0:20:03.439 Because I was too scared because if I said to 0:20:03.480 --> 0:20:07.040 my coach, hey, coach, my goal for the first three 0:20:07.080 --> 0:20:09.439 months of the year is to RX every workout, he 0:20:09.520 --> 0:20:14.120 would support me and he would be saying meals, remember 0:20:14.119 --> 0:20:15.560 what we said, and I'd be. 0:20:15.440 --> 0:20:17.560 Like, no, no, I. 0:20:17.600 --> 0:20:21.359 Haven't given him what he needs to support me because 0:20:21.359 --> 0:20:22.200 I haven't shared. 0:20:22.359 --> 0:20:25.199 I haven't shared with the dream team. I love that. 0:20:26.000 --> 0:20:27.000 I love that so much. 0:20:27.040 --> 0:20:28.639 You know what a great what a great thing for 0:20:28.680 --> 0:20:31.360 our listeners to think, who's your dream team? You think 0:20:31.400 --> 0:20:34.880 about the life you want to live right now, who 0:20:34.960 --> 0:20:37.119 is your dream team? And are there gaps Like I 0:20:37.119 --> 0:20:39.359 think I need some therapy. I used to did therapy 0:20:39.400 --> 0:20:41.080 years ago, but I haven't sort of gone down that path. 0:20:41.119 --> 0:20:42.879 I feel like there's a gap for me and a 0:20:42.880 --> 0:20:44.120