Speaker 1: Ad A Lady, ad A Lady, A Lady, ad Lady Unfiltered.
Speaker 2: Hey, hey, welcome to another ad Lady Unfiltered podcast. And
Speaker 2: my name is Hayley Pearson and I.
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Speaker 2: I can't.
Speaker 1: I've got a weird, husky little voice. Yeah, one eight
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Speaker 1: How was your weekend?
Speaker 2: Oh? Oh, look at you? How was my weekend? I
Speaker 2: had your little button mushroom.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh. She could not stop talking about it.
Speaker 1: She loves you so much.
Speaker 2: I had a sleepover with Sophia. And I'm going to
Speaker 2: start with first one, do you want to a shopping
Speaker 2: list of what's coming up? Because there are some really
Speaker 2: exciting things coming up.
Speaker 1: We've got a few mems. Yeah, I've got a meme.
Speaker 1: You've got a mem And then we're going to be
Speaker 1: talking about teenage drinking, yeah, which is big. And I'm
Speaker 1: not going to sing the song, but I've got a
Speaker 1: fake id though, Like I'm not gonna what song. What's
Speaker 1: so we're gonna drop it? Now, drop the song? Now go.
Speaker 2: We can't legally, we're not allowed to do that. What we
Speaker 2: can't play a song in our podcast. We're not Carl Sandalans.
Speaker 2: We can't. We don't pay for royalties. I do what
Speaker 2: I want?
Speaker 1: You young, what do you do?
Speaker 2: We're talking about teenage drinking. And then it's in particular
Speaker 2: it's because there's this ad that's come out that is
Speaker 2: basically called It's Okay to Say Nay, and it's brilliant
Speaker 2: and I think all parents, if you're in my position
Speaker 2: at the moment with teenagers, you need to listen to this.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're in the position, not me, my five year
Speaker 1: olds a few years.
Speaker 2: Oh is she? Or is she? Not she? It won't
Speaker 2: be far off? Oh, barrymore still.
Speaker 1: And then we're gonna talk about some baby bump stuff
Speaker 1: that I'm going through. But firstly you go, so Sophia
Speaker 1: and Laurence little girl, her five year old came for
Speaker 1: a sleepover on the weekend, and I just like, I
Speaker 1: think that I I love it so much that I
Speaker 1: know she feels so safe, she's so comfortable at our
Speaker 1: house and with our family, with Jimmy and the two boys.
Speaker 2: That she's just that's what makes me the happiest. She
Speaker 2: never like it's pretty a big deal for a five
Speaker 2: year old to have a sleepover. It at someone's house.
Speaker 2: It's not their grandparents.
Speaker 1: Isn't it so massive? And you're the only person that's
Speaker 1: had her and you literally go to so much trouble,
Speaker 1: like you even went and book a Gana's tatamaf for
Speaker 1: her and put it in the fridge.
Speaker 2: She didn't want it.
Speaker 1: She didn't want it.
Speaker 2: No, she didn't want she had the options. She she's
Speaker 2: the full boss. Like I've never seen a child so
Speaker 2: sassy in that. So a couple of things happened, some
Speaker 2: things I won't tell on the podcast because I don't
Speaker 2: want to. I just don't want to make it look
Speaker 2: she's an evil dictator.
Speaker 1: But she goes once if you need help.
Speaker 2: We're going scootering, and she's so good on the scooter right,
Speaker 2: she is so fast. And I went for my first
Speaker 2: run in about I don't know ten years. I haven't
Speaker 2: run in so long, and I ran so fast next
Speaker 2: to her it actually felt excellent. I'm really sore today,
Speaker 2: but as we're running, I'm saying to her like, because
Speaker 2: there's little berries on the ground, like little nut things
Speaker 2: on the ground, and I was worried she was going
Speaker 2: to trip over and fall off the scooter, come flying off,
Speaker 2: scrape and knees, and I was like, Sophia, just be careful,
Speaker 2: there's berries on the ground. And then she goes she stopped,
Speaker 2: like went stop, and she goes, Hayley, they're actually gum nuts.
Speaker 2: You's silly butthole.
Speaker 1: Sorry, everything's funny with the word butthole and pooing out
Speaker 1: everything butthole. Everything's but hoole.
Speaker 2: And she's lucky that we laugh at buttholes together. And
Speaker 2: then like, yeah, this is the other point where she
Speaker 2: became the boss of our family. So we're sitting in
Speaker 2: a car. I've got my fourteen year old, my eleven
Speaker 2: year old, my husband, Jimmy, and me and the car
Speaker 2: was so fair. Right, she's sitting there. We're going out
Speaker 2: for sushi. The whole family is so excited to have sushi.
Speaker 2: The boys love sushi more than anything in the world.
Speaker 2: And we rock up at the sushi joint and she goes, ah,
Speaker 2: when I go to this there she plays are we
Speaker 2: And I said, yeah, that's the Sasushi train around the
Speaker 2: corner from my house and she goes, oh, no, they're
Speaker 2: chicken's foul. I'm not eating that.
Speaker 1: It's discussied.
Speaker 2: She said foul.
Speaker 1: She said foul. Oh my god, she's my child.
Speaker 2: And then I was like, okay, what would you like, Sophia.
Speaker 2: She goes, I'm not a burrito. So we went had
Speaker 2: to go to Zambrero's next door to get her a burrito.
Speaker 1: And change the whole flames and me.
Speaker 2: While my kid's like, hang on, I have to get takeaway,
Speaker 2: but I just want to sit in and they have
Speaker 2: by Sushi, but you know, lawed because Sophie wants her burrito,
Speaker 2: so we got so sorry, don't apologize. I loved it
Speaker 2: because I wanted a burrito as well, so we were happy,
Speaker 2: heavily enough to get burritas. But it was joves a burrito.
Speaker 2: The fact that she's like, Jimmy the chicken, there's foul.
Speaker 2: We can't go there.
Speaker 1: Do you know why? Because it wasn't the crumbed chicken
Speaker 1: she liked.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but even when she gets the crumb chicken, she
Speaker 2: takes the avocado off. Doesn't she want avo? No, Haley,
Speaker 2: I don't like AVO, but I will get the AVO
Speaker 2: and chicken.
Speaker 1: To get the AVO and then take it takes it off.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I love your chick, but thank you. It means
Speaker 2: so much to us that you trust us with her.
Speaker 2: Like I just sleeping next to her with her little
Speaker 2: face and her little tiny teeth smiling back at me.
Speaker 2: It's light. I'm next to you in the bed because
Speaker 2: we share a bed so many times in our lives,
Speaker 2: you and I and I look over it and I
Speaker 2: see her shits so much hair. She's like a doll.
Speaker 2: She has so much hair, and she's faced the other way,
Speaker 2: and I'm like, it's light. I'm lying next to Lauren,
Speaker 2: but like a tiny little version of Lauren.
Speaker 1: And she loves you, guys, and she's so comfortable. That's
Speaker 1: such a thing. And you can be an auntie without
Speaker 1: being a blood relative because you are my sister love
Speaker 1: and my child loves you. And you're gonna have another.
Speaker 2: One soon, I know, and I can't. But also we're
Speaker 2: counting down the days because I get to have her
Speaker 2: when you go to the hospital, which I've not on
Speaker 2: the podcast before, but I'm actually like, I've got an
Speaker 2: advent calendar for it. I can't wait. I'm so sad
Speaker 2: and now I want to talk about singing vaginas.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, I did the silliest thing last night. Okay,
Speaker 1: so did you put up there? We So I had
Speaker 1: a baby moon at Kingsford. That's why you had Sophia. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I had the best weekend, just switching off like Burge
Speaker 1: and I drove up to the Brassa, listening to like
Speaker 1: crazy like Kelly Clark's and music and singing at the
Speaker 1: top of our lungs. There was no Sofia's music was
Speaker 1: our music and Evanescence and all this stuff, and we
Speaker 1: had the best less that's.
Speaker 2: So fucking emo.
Speaker 1: I used to be.
Speaker 2: Wake me Up.
Speaker 1: Oh, I love it. I think I was kind of
Speaker 1: emo back in the day anyway. So we like stayed
Speaker 1: there the night, woke up, had breakey, had the best time,
Speaker 1: drove home, went up to Mom and dads to pick
Speaker 1: up Sophia. Stayed there all day because Mum got a
Speaker 1: puffy which you got to meet little miss Molly.
Speaker 2: So cute, a little baby dash How she's a baby Betty,
Speaker 2: She's so cute.
Speaker 1: We got home at like seven o'clock at night and
Speaker 1: all I wanted to do was have a shower, because
Speaker 1: showers are life at the moment, morning, noon, and night,
Speaker 1: hot shower everywhere. So I had a shower, dried myself,
Speaker 1: got into bed in my clean pajamas, and my bits
Speaker 1: started burning like there were ants down there, like they
Speaker 1: were on fire, just down there, yep, just down there,
Speaker 1: burning fire. I was like, somebody got the fire brigade
Speaker 1: and shit is on fire. Well I forgot that before
Speaker 1: I left. My toothpaste had gone everywhere and it leaked,
Speaker 1: and I wiped the toothpaste on my towel and I
Speaker 1: left it hanging. So then I've dried myself with minty
Speaker 1: fresh toothpaste, peppermint pepperin things. It's so cold, gosh. And
Speaker 1: then as it was burning, I was like, oh my gosh.
Speaker 1: Then I had to have another shower. But I've never
Speaker 1: been in more pain. But it was kind of like
Speaker 1: icy fresh. But my bits made me fresh.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, it's like a great teeth brush. Ah.
Speaker 2: I never put toothpaste down there. It is so cold
Speaker 2: and stingy. I was horrific.
Speaker 1: Why would I wipe the toothpaste on the towel.
Speaker 2: I'm then going.
Speaker 1: Because it's you I'm just going to leave that town
Speaker 1: there over the weekend, and forcure about it?
Speaker 2: It's you, it's me. What a burgo do about that?
Speaker 1: Absolutely nothing. He was just doing work on his computer,
Speaker 1: going that's all this commotion out here.
Speaker 2: He's on fire with two faces. I wonder if number anyway.
Speaker 2: That's funny. That's where your brain's at at the moment.
Speaker 1: That's what I'm doing.
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, listen up. We want to talk about drinking
Speaker 2: as teenagers. There's this at that's going around and I
Speaker 2: freaking love it. I love that they made this because
Speaker 2: it's like it's talking to me, maybe more so in
Speaker 2: a couple of years time. But I have a fourteen
Speaker 2: year old starting to go to parties and all my
Speaker 2: mum friends are starting to talk about alcohol, and the
Speaker 2: fact that there's even alcohol at a party with a
Speaker 2: fourteen year old is so absurd to me. This ad,
Speaker 2: it's called It's Okay to Say Nay and basically, Lauren,
Speaker 2: it starts with this like teenage kid comes into his
Speaker 2: dad in his school uniform and it's like dirt, can
Speaker 2: I have smell whole on the weekend. My friend's parents
Speaker 2: have assaid it's so right and then the dad like
Speaker 2: looks up into the sky and then has this imaginary
Speaker 2: thought of all these dads around this council kind of
Speaker 2: meeting talking about whether or not it's okay to give
Speaker 2: your child alcohol. Are all the other parents doing it?
Speaker 2: Should I do it? Well, I'll be the only parent
Speaker 2: that doesn't give much kid alcohol. And then in this
Speaker 2: meeting they're like, no, no, eighty nine percent of people
Speaker 2: parents aren't giving their kids alcohol. And then it takes
Speaker 2: him back to the kitchen and the dad goes to
Speaker 2: the sun nay, nay, and he's like nay. He goes, yeah, nah,
Speaker 2: you're not having alcohol. Sorry, And I was like, this
Speaker 2: is so good because it speaks to me because peer pressure,
Speaker 2: even as a parent, is a thing. Right If all
Speaker 2: the other parents are doing it, am I leaving my
Speaker 2: kid out? Is my kid going to be the only
Speaker 2: one that's not? Is he going to be uncool? Is
Speaker 2: he not gonna Is he going to stand out from
Speaker 2: everybody else and people going to pick on him because
Speaker 2: he's not doing what everyone else is doing.
Speaker 1: But surely drinking isn't the only thing that's making kids
Speaker 1: cool these days.
Speaker 2: Like, no, it's not cool any way. I keep saying
Speaker 2: that to the kids. But it's more like, and it's
Speaker 2: the same with the social media thing. It's the more
Speaker 2: like if all like, are all the other parents doing it?
Speaker 2: Am I being unreasonable because I'm not. No, you are
Speaker 2: being reasonable their kids their kids. Don't give your child
Speaker 2: alcohol like that's the thing. You're not supposed to drink
Speaker 2: until you're eighteen. The reality is, of course you're going
Speaker 2: to try it. Like, if you can get to eighteen
Speaker 2: and not try it, freaking brilliant. One of my friends
Speaker 2: offered her kid five thousand dollars. If you can get
Speaker 2: to year twelve without drinking, I'll give you five thousand dollars.
Speaker 2: Isn't that amazing? Rights brilliant. Yeah, I'm a.
Speaker 1: Lady who said to her daughter, if you don't go
Speaker 1: to school, yes, I'll take you to Europe. Yes I
Speaker 1: want to do that.
Speaker 2: I want all the money to go to Europe as well.
Speaker 1: Yes, it's actually trying to bribe your kids like that.
Speaker 1: It's great, totally because it keeps them safe. So the
Speaker 1: thing is with drinking, this is the scary thing. I'm
Speaker 1: in a situation where parties are starting and.
Speaker 2: Quite and they'll go you hear these rumors and whispers
Speaker 2: from other parents like oh, there's going to be alcohol there,
Speaker 2: or there's going to be vaping. I'm like, well, my
Speaker 2: kid's not going to the party. If I know there's
Speaker 2: alcohol there, Why would I send my kid to the party.
Speaker 2: And what kind of parent is putting on alcohol for children?
Speaker 1: Surely the parent wouldn't know.
Speaker 2: Well, this is the other thing. The kids think, Oh, yeah,
Speaker 2: his parent's cool, they give him alcohol. But I don't
Speaker 2: think a lot of the parents do know this. They
Speaker 2: just go and steal it from their parents. Did you
Speaker 2: ever steal alcohol from him? Mom?
Speaker 1: No, I was an angel.
Speaker 2: No you did not. What did you do? You did
Speaker 2: when you were fourteen? I did? I did?
Speaker 1: I stole a lemon rusky from Mom and I went
Speaker 1: to a party and we all shared one rusky, which
Speaker 1: was like a sit between all of us.
Speaker 2: Did you think you were really pissed? So pissed we did.
Speaker 1: Star jumps on the tennis court and ran around with
Speaker 1: their pants down.
Speaker 2: And you won't even piers. That's the funny part, I know.
Speaker 1: But when I got home, Mom knew she had counted them.
Speaker 2: Okay, what does she do?
Speaker 1: She was livid? You know, jewels, I love that livid Jewels.
Speaker 2: It wasn't good because Jewels is a cool mom, right,
Speaker 2: I would say, Jewels is a really cool mom. I
Speaker 2: can talk to about anything.
Speaker 1: I talked to my mom about everything. Yeah, But from
Speaker 1: that day she said to me, if you ever lie
Speaker 1: to me again, that's it.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Like she was so stern, and for mom to be
Speaker 1: that stern, and it was that like I'm disappointed, not
Speaker 1: the screamy, yelly mom. It was like, if you do
Speaker 1: this again and take my alcohol, that's it. No more parties,
Speaker 1: no more fun on the weekends, nothing, And.
Speaker 2: That is what kills a teenager the most. All they
Speaker 2: want to do is be with their friends. So if
Speaker 2: you take that away from them, I am all for
Speaker 2: threatening my kids with that kind of stuff. I so
Speaker 2: one of my good friends, you know her as well.
Speaker 2: She's got a daughter that's a couple of years older
Speaker 2: than us, and I was asking her about the other
Speaker 2: day because I want to know the other parents were
Speaker 2: all on the same page. She had a great thing.
Speaker 2: So her daughter is sixteen now, and she said to her,
Speaker 2: if you drink alcohol, like there is a zero tolerance
Speaker 2: rule in our house. You drink alcohol, you are banned
Speaker 2: for the next few years while you're at school to
Speaker 2: go absolutely anywhere you are not allowed to drink. I
Speaker 2: will know if you come home from a party, I
Speaker 2: will know by one sneap of your breath, which scares kids, right. Yeah,
Speaker 2: they don't want to be like they'll be having all
Speaker 2: the chewy in the world, trying to hide that, take.
Speaker 1: All the impulse on their fingers, trying to cover up the.
Speaker 2: City, get the colleagues Africa. So this girl has done that,
Speaker 2: and she's grown up the last couple of years, going
Speaker 2: to parties and being open going I don't drink. I'm
Speaker 2: the lad of drink. I don't drink. And she would
Speaker 2: see her friends at parties getting drunk, doing stupid things,
Speaker 2: awful things, getting stomach pumped. We've all seen it. We've
Speaker 2: all been at those parties. But she got to see
Speaker 2: what alcohol does. So now she's sixteen and she might
Speaker 2: have mimosa or whatever. She's not allowed a drink yet
Speaker 2: still for a couple of years, but she's got through
Speaker 2: those first couple of years. When you're a kid, fourteen, fifteen,
Speaker 2: you're a kid. Yeah, she's seen what it does to people,
Speaker 2: and she owned it. She go to parties and go, no,
Speaker 2: I don't drink, and then people can't question her because
Speaker 2: peer pressure is something to that.
Speaker 1: It takes a lot for a sixteen year old to
Speaker 1: be that strong. Yeah, and that that's really cool. So
Speaker 1: her mum's actually made her daughter really strong to be
Speaker 1: able to go, I don't drink, and if you don't
Speaker 1: like me, you can piss off.
Speaker 2: So I used to get so mad at my mom
Speaker 2: and dad back in the day, and now I go,
Speaker 2: I'm so glad they did what they did. I was like,
Speaker 2: I remember going, I don't want a sixteenth birthday because
Speaker 2: you're not letting me have alcohol. Like, if they let
Speaker 2: me have alcohol, I would look back and go, why
Speaker 2: did you do that? Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 2: They were streaked. I wasn't allowed to do any of that.
Speaker 2: I don't reckon. I tried. I reckon. I had, like you,
Speaker 2: half a sub zero in a sand dune at Boomer
Speaker 2: Beach with my friend Lucy when we were maybe maybe
Speaker 2: it was a summer of it turned.
Speaker 1: Sixteen, summer of sixty nine.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it was six year. The year is nineteen sixty nine.
Speaker 2: You fuck, I remember the same. I thought I was
Speaker 2: so drug. I was so scared as well, I was
Speaker 2: such a scaredy cat. That's why I never did drugs.
Speaker 2: I was just so silly.
Speaker 1: I did a lot of silly things. And I'm just
Speaker 1: really glad that there was no social media because you
Speaker 1: probably wouldn't have wanted to start a business with me. Yeah,
Speaker 1: because I'm like my child. If you get one laugh,
Speaker 1: I will keep going.
Speaker 2: I will keep going.
Speaker 1: And that's how I was as a kid. Yeah, do
Speaker 1: you give me a laugh? And I was all ready
Speaker 1: to go.
Speaker 2: But do you think that kids are gonna lie anyway?
Speaker 2: Do you think that if parents what this ad says,
Speaker 2: if we all go all right, eighty nine percent of
Speaker 2: families they're not giving their kids alcohol. That's a good thing.
Speaker 2: Do you think kids are still just going to do
Speaker 2: it anyway? They are, of course they are.
Speaker 1: But it comes down to like the social media band.
Speaker 1: You know how I said to you a few weeks ago.
Speaker 1: It just takes for one parent to be fined, Yeah,
Speaker 1: and then all the other parents would be like, well,
Speaker 1: maybe this is a thing. Maybe I shouldn't be giving
Speaker 1: my kids alcohol or having my kids on social media.
Speaker 1: I feel like the laws are there, but they're not
Speaker 1: really enforced.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we've had this conversation before about It's a tricky
Speaker 2: thing when you get to an age where you want
Speaker 2: to be open and honest with your kids. You want
Speaker 2: them to talk to you and be that person that
Speaker 2: you can talk to. But you're not their friend. You're
Speaker 2: their parents. You're there to raise them and feed them
Speaker 2: and make them healthy and make the right decisions and
Speaker 2: all that stuff. It's not until where like adults, that
Speaker 2: you can be friends with your parents. No, you want
Speaker 2: your parent as well, to be your parent, not your friend.
Speaker 1: My parents are still my parents. Yeah, hey, joby, what's what?
Speaker 2: But I'm friends with your parents. Yeah, No, I'm friends
Speaker 2: with your parents. The other day was no, you rocked up.
Speaker 1: I wasn't even there to have cust I just love.
Speaker 2: Sitting with your parents. Your dad was in his dressing gown.
Speaker 2: He was so cute. Ah, the boys.
Speaker 1: You know what, that's the thing. You're not their friends,
Speaker 1: you're their parents.
Speaker 2: Yeah. And also another stat was like thirty nine percent
Speaker 2: of kids are getting that drink or getting the alcohol
Speaker 2: from their parents. So parents could to stop just let's
Speaker 2: just all be on the same page their kids. Let's
Speaker 2: not give them alcohol. Let's have a no tolerance rule.
Speaker 2: If I find out you're drinking, you are you are
Speaker 2: grounded for the rest of the year.
Speaker 1: I'm so scared of this stage drinking and vaping. See,
Speaker 1: we didn't have that when we were kids. We all
Speaker 1: try a cigarette, but the vaping thing, because it's so unknown.
Speaker 1: I'm like, why would you want to put anything like
Speaker 1: that in your body?
Speaker 2: Can I ask? This is so dumb because I just
Speaker 2: have no idea about this kind of stuff, drugs and stuff. Vaping?
Speaker 2: What does it do? Does it get you high?
Speaker 1: No, it's got like nicotine in it, so it's like
Speaker 1: a cigarette, but it tastes like apple or grape or chocolate. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's so bad and I'm so glad it wasn't around
Speaker 1: when I was a kid, because.
Speaker 2: You would have loved the chocolate.
Speaker 1: I would have loved the chocolate or like the grape
Speaker 1: thing like they put them in their blazer blah bubba. Yes,
Speaker 1: like it's a it's to get kids kind of hooked
Speaker 1: to mis seen so then they go to cigarettes.
Speaker 2: And is it People that vape is not cool though,
Speaker 2: Like at least my kid's like, oh yuck, he's vaping?
Speaker 2: What it is?
Speaker 1: Say that your kids are into sport?
Speaker 2: Yes, and that's what I keep saying, if you're if
Speaker 2: you're in playing sport, that's one of the things that
Speaker 2: will keep you away from drugs and alcohol. Yeah, be
Speaker 2: fit and healthy, play basketball, play soccer, play footy, whatever
Speaker 2: it is. But just be with your friends and play sport.
Speaker 2: Don't drink.
Speaker 1: It's all of this stuff. Actually, when you think about
Speaker 1: it being a parent, drugs, the sex talk, alcohol, cigarettes,
Speaker 1: hopping in cars with boys, it's the worst part for
Speaker 1: us moms with girls. That actually all petrifies me.
Speaker 2: The drinking, the young drinking thing petrifies me for girls
Speaker 2: for what could happen.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I just want to hope that I raise a
Speaker 1: girl that knows her worth. That you don't have to
Speaker 1: do that to a boy to be liked. That's not
Speaker 1: how you get liked. No, strong enough to know that
Speaker 1: I'm not doing.
Speaker 2: That's That's why it brings us back to what I
Speaker 2: said with my friend. Did I love that this girl
Speaker 2: got to see other girls go through this awful but
Speaker 2: she saw it, which means she will now go I'm
Speaker 2: not going to do that, and I don't want to
Speaker 2: be that girl.
Speaker 1: You know, the stigma attached with girls and boys doing
Speaker 1: that sort of stuff. You always remember, I've got my
Speaker 1: twenty year reunion coming up in October.
Speaker 2: Dude, what are we doing? Where are we going? Scotch.
Speaker 1: We went to the ed we when we parties when
Speaker 1: we were eighteen. So we're going to have it at
Speaker 1: the end and do a school tour because I think
Speaker 1: they want to try and get all our kids back there.
Speaker 2: Of course they do.
Speaker 1: Here's all the new buildings. But even after twenty years,
Speaker 1: you remember what people did, the drinking, the sex, the
Speaker 1: people that did the bad stuff.
Speaker 2: The person that got their stomach pumped on a tennis court.
Speaker 2: We all still look at that person as that person. Yeah,
Speaker 2: and that's the worst thing. It sticks with you for life.
Speaker 1: But we're just lucky that we don't have social media
Speaker 1: our kids. Now. When you're going for a job, if
Speaker 1: that happens, it's on Facebook or Instagram or TikTok of
Speaker 1: oh snapchat.
Speaker 2: And I would have been the kid that would have
Speaker 2: put it on social.
Speaker 1: Because kind of the right hashtags. I've been really good
Speaker 1: at it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I would have been all over this, whereas I
Speaker 2: would have just posted it without any words. Yeah, I'll
Speaker 2: do the words later. No, you're a very smart media woman.
Speaker 2: You great content too. Yes, I know, but not when
Speaker 2: I was eighteen, but we didn't have chat GBT help you.
Speaker 1: I did a whole assignment, my year twelve art assignment
Speaker 1: on Chanel and I spelled it with a double.
Speaker 2: N on Channel. I did it on Channel Oh my gosh.
Speaker 1: But then I got four marks for drama and music,
Speaker 1: but spelling was not.
Speaker 2: That's what spell checks for. You're fine, it doesn't matter.
Speaker 1: They're on the MacBook pros. It wasn't very good.
Speaker 2: I didn't no one pick you up on that halfway
Speaker 2: through the assignment. I don't know. Probably did it the
Speaker 2: night before as per Oh my god, that's so funny.
Speaker 1: All right.
Speaker 2: The drinking thing, parents, just keep that in mind. Eighty
Speaker 2: nine percent of parents and not giving their kids alcohol.
Speaker 2: Don't do it because you think all the other parents
Speaker 2: are doing it. Let's just stay away from it and
Speaker 2: let them be kids, and let's all be harsh on them.
Speaker 2: You're not drinking. You're freaking fourteen.
Speaker 1: But I wish I was a kid.
Speaker 2: Why so you could drink at fourteen?
Speaker 1: No, you didn't have to do everything that we do, Like,
Speaker 1: why do they want to grow up so quickly?
Speaker 2: Oh no, I would hate to go through my twenties
Speaker 2: and you have to buy anything, do anything. Just be
Speaker 2: a kid, yeah, go outside and do fun stuff, yes, yeah,
Speaker 2: get dirty? All right? Are we going to talk about
Speaker 2: what you want to talk about?
Speaker 1: Baby bump?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: So I wanted to talk to you about the baby bump.
Speaker 1: So last night I did a post on Instagram because
Speaker 1: it's something I've been grappling with. And there's all this
Speaker 1: stuff that's popping into my feet about bigger girls with
Speaker 1: pregnant bellies and apron bellies and how to hide apron
Speaker 1: belly when you're pregnant, apron belly like a hangy tummy like,
Speaker 1: so there's like knickers to make your tummy that's pregnant
Speaker 1: look more pregnant so you don't look bigger. There's so
Speaker 1: much stuff out there that just keeps popping into my
Speaker 1: feed and I was kind of grappling in my head
Speaker 1: with my whole life. I've tried to hide, make smaller, dressed,
Speaker 1: to conceal, flatt and tight and suck in were the
Speaker 1: sucker in our undies my whole life. Everyone wants that
Speaker 1: flat tummy, that's what's expected in society, and then suddenly
Speaker 1: your tummy is beautiful. Can I touch it. Oh my gosh,
Speaker 1: it's beautiful. It's getting bigger, it's round. It's a really
Speaker 1: hard thing to come to terms with in your mind,
Speaker 1: even though you're growing a baby and you're creating life
Speaker 1: and eyes and limbs and it's the best thing in
Speaker 1: the entire world. Yeah, it's just like this, this switch
Speaker 1: just flicks. Shouldn't have a bigger tummy. Oh my god,
Speaker 1: your tummy's beautiful. And so I've just been going through
Speaker 1: in my head and it's just been a lot. And
Speaker 1: on the weekend when I was with Burgo, I wore
Speaker 1: a tight dress and it's the first time in thirty
Speaker 1: six weeks I've looked at myself and gone, oh wow,
Speaker 1: I've got a belly and I'm pregnant and this is beautiful.
Speaker 1: It's taken that long for me to get to that stage.
Speaker 1: Think about it.
Speaker 2: You've had a pregnant belly for a while.
Speaker 1: I know, but you even you go, oh you look
Speaker 1: beautiful today. You look at your belly. Oh it's foul.
Speaker 2: I feel fat.
Speaker 1: I hate myself because it's a feeling that negativity. Whereas
Speaker 1: like on the weekend, I looked at myself and went,
Speaker 1: I'm growing a baby. Do you, I already got a
Speaker 1: couple of weeks to go, and I've aody just got
Speaker 1: there mentally.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Do you know what is screwed up really is
Speaker 2: that you're celebrated because you've got a baby, and then
Speaker 2: you have the baby, and then if you lose too
Speaker 2: much weight too fast, people comment, oh, she's lost too
Speaker 2: much weight. Are you eating a U? Okay? Are you okay?
Speaker 2: If you don't, people go, oh, she just still looks pregnant.
Speaker 1: Yeah, well that's when I got that win. No, that's
Speaker 1: when I got that letter last time, after having so Fie,
Speaker 1: because I put on a bunch of weight after I
Speaker 1: stop breastfeeding. Because your body is the hormones and everything
Speaker 1: that's doing so much. Off the back of my post,
Speaker 1: I had a few people message me saying that they
Speaker 1: were going through similar things. Growing four boys in my
Speaker 1: belly was a blessing. It's hard to tell my brain
Speaker 1: that complains about how my body looks after years of
Speaker 1: pregnancy that it's okay to be saggy and flappy. But
Speaker 1: it's so friggin hard. But I just keep reminding myself
Speaker 1: every day that the blessings are growing, they're thriving, they
Speaker 1: will have their own families that I'll get God willingly
Speaker 1: to enjoy. Our bodies are vessels for life. We need
Speaker 1: to treasure them and adore them. And I know I
Speaker 1: don't always. It's so hard seeing these tiny, gorgeous bodies
Speaker 1: on social but my body has gone through a lot.
Speaker 1: We need to remember to be proud of what they've done.
Speaker 1: Because some people's baby, but they literally just have this
Speaker 1: tiny little bump and then they have the baby, and
Speaker 1: then they go straight back into wearing their jeans. Like
Speaker 1: I've had people tell me, oh, I took my jeans
Speaker 1: into the hospital and then I put them on after
Speaker 1: the baby and walked out.
Speaker 2: My cool. But also if you do that cool, that
Speaker 2: doesn't like great. Let's not judge anyone for how their
Speaker 2: body mounts, but everyone different bigger.
Speaker 1: We judge ourselves. It's not about judging anything else. It's
Speaker 1: that for me, I'm judging myself. So when I see
Speaker 1: my hips getting bigger or my cheek's getting a bit puffier,
Speaker 1: it's the judgment of myself as no one else is
Speaker 1: doing it.
Speaker 2: Remind yourself that I'm because I'm having a baby. Yes,
Speaker 2: So then it's.
Speaker 1: Gotten to this point of say thirty six weeks that I.
Speaker 2: Now go, oh, that's sad. You're almost at the end.
Speaker 1: And now I only just stayed to go, well, look
Speaker 1: what I've done.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you've done an amazing job. You carry babies so well.
Speaker 2: She's been so safe and growing perfectly inside you.
Speaker 1: She's in a penthouse, she's in a pair of house.
Speaker 2: Tell me about this apron thing? What do you mean
Speaker 2: by that?
Speaker 1: So then I get these messages. I got one this
Speaker 1: morning how I got the perfect round bump as a
Speaker 1: pregnant plus sized mum with an apron belly by these underwear.
Speaker 2: Okay, what's an apron belly?
Speaker 1: So like, I've always had a soft tummy, like, especially
Speaker 1: after Sophia, I went back to the same weight, but
Speaker 1: your belly it's never really the same, so it can
Speaker 1: be a bit hangy, yeah, which is women get.
Speaker 2: So conscious it's not hard like a basketball.
Speaker 1: No, So my belly is really hard at the top,
Speaker 1: but underneath it's a bit hanging and soft. Yeah, which
Speaker 1: I just go whatever, So some women get so self
Speaker 1: conscious that their baby belly isn't.
Speaker 2: Like the big round ball. What's right? Though? I know
Speaker 2: if you're like me, people would say, oh, are you
Speaker 2: eating enough? Is your baby, okay, like and give me
Speaker 2: anxiety because I didn't have a huge belly. I didn't
Speaker 2: have heaps of amniotic fluid, and so I would then
Speaker 2: stress going, oh my gosh, you said my baby's not growing.
Speaker 2: Is there something wrong with my baby? Just don't I
Speaker 2: know we've spoken about this on the podcast before. I
Speaker 2: know we're probably repeating ourselves, but don't comment on the
Speaker 2: way someone holds a baby. I know, but it's just
Speaker 2: so you look so beautiful. Loss. It's just so funny
Speaker 2: that padding is great.
Speaker 1: You hate people padding their belly.
Speaker 2: No padding. You've got padding, and that's good. It makes
Speaker 2: a baby safe in there. It's nice and warm. I know.
Speaker 1: Yeah, the apron belly thing is weird. It's like you
Speaker 1: can buy these undies that just kind of pad it
Speaker 1: out so it looks more round than flabby.
Speaker 2: It's so weird, Like it's so weird because that's something
Speaker 2: that like you just no one else is thinking. I'm
Speaker 2: not buying those. You look perfect how you are.
Speaker 1: I bought the biggest undies the other day, the big
Speaker 1: under they like come up to here, and like I
Speaker 1: showed Burgo, I was like, yeah, it's like Bridget Jones
Speaker 1: three point zero. I like skin color, like a right
Speaker 1: up like I could actually probably pull them over my boobs,
Speaker 1: but I keep them just under anything.
Speaker 2: They're so comforting feeling. I don't know what it is.
Speaker 2: It might be when you get to my age. I
Speaker 2: don't know why I hate things tight on my belly.
Speaker 2: Now do you get that where I always forgin know
Speaker 2: the sucking any undie stuff? I actually feel sick going
Speaker 2: to an event. No, why do we suck in ourselves?
Speaker 2: Because it is so no one needs to, but it's
Speaker 2: just so uncomfortable. I feel like I'm going to vomit.
Speaker 1: I once went to an event and my girdly thing
Speaker 1: was so tight. I hopped in the car. I hadn't drunk,
Speaker 1: and I vomited out my dinner because it was my
Speaker 1: kny because we was so tight. I took them off
Speaker 1: and had to drive home without role.
Speaker 2: And then you just let the tummy hang because it's
Speaker 2: just like it is, why do we do this to
Speaker 2: our seat?
Speaker 1: That's flat tummy? But it's the flat tummy mentality. And
Speaker 1: then suddenly let's celebrate your.
Speaker 2: Bump, but seriously, who has a flat Tommy Kayler at
Speaker 2: Ceni's and she works out twenty four to seven beautiful.
Speaker 2: But that's that's do you know what I mean? Like
Speaker 2: it's quite unachievable. No one has time to do that
Speaker 2: unless it's your job. Yeah, I know, I don't have time.
Speaker 2: Do you know what we need to do? And you
Speaker 2: can start this change. We need to be posting real
Speaker 2: timmies after you have a baby. I know Olivia Molly
Speaker 2: Rogers did it. She is obviously she's a supermodel. She's
Speaker 2: absolutely gorgeous. But after she had a baby she posted
Speaker 2: it might have been a story and she was wearing
Speaker 2: one of those big maternity pads. She had a tummy
Speaker 2: still there after the baby. Like, that's real. That's what
Speaker 2: we should be seeing. And do you know what real is?
Speaker 2: Anything from losing your weight straight away to taking three
Speaker 2: years to lose weight. Yeah, but you should post the
Speaker 2: real stuff, the real tummies.
Speaker 1: Yeah I did after Sophia. I did lose my weight
Speaker 1: straight away. I didn't put much on. It was actually
Speaker 1: after the breastfeeding. But you're right, I just need to
Speaker 1: embrace and it will all happen. I think it's the
Speaker 1: nervous factor now because she's close.
Speaker 2: Like, don't think about your weight when you're about to
Speaker 2: have a baby. You're gonna be so fine. I never
Speaker 2: be the last thing on your own, babe, I know,
Speaker 2: the last thing. You just need to make sure that
Speaker 2: you're doing all the right things that it's gonna make
Speaker 2: you feel good mentally, Like if that's just going for
Speaker 2: a walk around the block getting fresh air by yourself,
Speaker 2: you just need to make sure that is the most
Speaker 2: important thing mentally, and everything will fall into place.
Speaker 1: You're right, that's why you're my best.
Speaker 2: You took me off a legs and you're beautiful just
Speaker 2: the way you are. And fuck it.
Speaker 1: I have an Apron belly and that's fine for home
Speaker 1: wanted Apron belly. It feels like my legs say nice
Speaker 1: and warm with my Apron belly.
Speaker 2: Do you mean like the apron banks you have to
Speaker 2: lift it up? Yeah, but you've got a baby in there.
Speaker 2: It's not like you're lifting it up and there's nothing
Speaker 2: in there. Can you see your fanny anymore?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 2: Yeah, disappeared, Yeah.
Speaker 1: Into the eblisk. Where's your fanny? I don't know. Well
Speaker 1: I do know, because they've got toothpaste in it.
Speaker 2: So I felt it.
Speaker 1: She's alive. Wow, I thought she died for a while,
Speaker 1: but she was back.
Speaker 2: She's there, the minty redding. All right. We hope we
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