WEBVTT - #2144 The Wisdom Within - Dr. Cam McDonald 0:00:00.920 --> 0:00:04.080 O God, I term it's a bloody you project. It's Harps, 0:00:04.080 --> 0:00:07.320 It's Monday and the thriving drops. It's the twentieth of 0:00:07.480 --> 0:00:13.160 April twenty twenty six. One of my favorite people to 0:00:13.200 --> 0:00:15.360 come on the show, and that is absolutely true. We 0:00:15.400 --> 0:00:18.320 get him as often as we can as Dr cam 0:00:18.400 --> 0:00:23.640 McDonald up in the sunshine, Sunshine State, just bloody hanging 0:00:23.680 --> 0:00:26.560 out with the menana trees and the beaches and people 0:00:26.560 --> 0:00:28.640 in bikinis. Is it How is it up there? 0:00:29.600 --> 0:00:33.199 It's still bikini weather, that's for sure. I mean there's 0:00:33.240 --> 0:00:34.440 a few people that are getting cold. 0:00:35.840 --> 0:00:38.440 Oh they're just sun but I am still in my 0:00:38.560 --> 0:00:42.040 board shorts walking stocking in the stock You just stop, 0:00:42.159 --> 0:00:45.680 you just cut out, say start from There's a few people, 0:00:47.080 --> 0:00:48.479 there's a few people that are still finding it a 0:00:48.520 --> 0:00:51.239 bit cold, but I am still in my board shorts 0:00:52.080 --> 0:00:55.640 walking the park in the morning with no temperature control 0:00:55.680 --> 0:00:57.520 at all, so it's still lovely for me. 0:00:58.600 --> 0:01:01.880 It's an uncharacteristic This sounds like two old guys talking. 0:01:02.000 --> 0:01:05.440 Sorry anyone, but it is an uncharacteristically warm week down 0:01:05.480 --> 0:01:09.640 here in Melbourne. It is mostly kind of low to 0:01:09.760 --> 0:01:12.600 even higher twenties for the whole week. Which is bloody 0:01:12.720 --> 0:01:15.200 obscene but also enjoyable. 0:01:16.920 --> 0:01:21.080 I thought we want it's exactly it helps the old bones, 0:01:21.440 --> 0:01:21.640 you know. 0:01:22.160 --> 0:01:25.960 Now, my listeners may probably hear nothing, but can you 0:01:26.040 --> 0:01:28.119 hear that concrete cutter in the background? 0:01:28.160 --> 0:01:29.119 Mate? 0:01:29.520 --> 0:01:33.800 No, oh, that's good. There's a man or two men 0:01:33.880 --> 0:01:39.200 everyone who are wearing bloody high vs vests outside my 0:01:39.319 --> 0:01:43.440 house right now cutting concrete and it's about an eight 0:01:43.480 --> 0:01:46.240 out of ten volume in my room where I am 0:01:46.319 --> 0:01:51.520 right now. So if these questions are stupid, just bear 0:01:51.560 --> 0:01:55.280 with me. But well, firstly, let's catch up. Are you 0:01:55.360 --> 0:01:57.960 all right? How's work? How's life? How are you? How's 0:01:57.960 --> 0:01:58.440 your health? 0:02:00.080 --> 0:02:00.360 A good? 0:02:00.360 --> 0:02:03.920 Actually, I've you know what I had? 0:02:03.960 --> 0:02:08.959 A Really, My CEO is probably the most gifted person 0:02:09.040 --> 0:02:10.600 that I know on the planet when it comes to 0:02:10.840 --> 0:02:16.200 understanding the human psyche and. 0:02:18.720 --> 0:02:23.280 Matt Reeman Matt Reeman for you, is it just. 0:02:23.919 --> 0:02:28.399 Is it just natural inherence? Intuitive? Or has he studied 0:02:28.680 --> 0:02:30.120 the shipload or both? 0:02:30.200 --> 0:02:31.400 It's both. 0:02:31.720 --> 0:02:35.600 So he's got the most capacity that I've ever met 0:02:35.639 --> 0:02:38.720 of anybody to interpret a person and what's going on 0:02:38.800 --> 0:02:42.320 for them on all levels. And then he has got 0:02:42.720 --> 0:02:45.880 classical health training as well, so he understands all of 0:02:45.919 --> 0:02:48.840 the physiology and neurochemistry that goes on. 0:02:48.960 --> 0:02:50.480 And then he's an. 0:02:50.480 --> 0:02:52.679 Entrepreneur and does a whole lot of really really cool things. 0:02:52.880 --> 0:02:56.400 But he's just got he's just he's just one of these. 0:02:56.240 --> 0:02:57.520 Foods that. 0:02:59.280 --> 0:03:03.359 You can follow really easily, that's for sure, because he's 0:03:03.560 --> 0:03:04.720 he's just got all together. 0:03:05.080 --> 0:03:06.400 It's it's pretty impressive. 0:03:07.520 --> 0:03:09.160 Does he have? You know how a lot of people 0:03:09.200 --> 0:03:12.560 have lots of knowledge but they're not or lots of understanding, 0:03:12.639 --> 0:03:17.120 lots of intuitive awareness. They get stuff, but they perhaps 0:03:17.200 --> 0:03:21.360 never learned that or read that anywhere, or they didn't 0:03:21.360 --> 0:03:24.320 get told that. And then there's other people who are 0:03:25.040 --> 0:03:27.960 academically brilliant. They know a lot, they remember a lot, 0:03:28.040 --> 0:03:30.600 and they can use that in their work. And then 0:03:30.639 --> 0:03:36.560 there's the kind of the the people who are socially, emotionally, 0:03:36.840 --> 0:03:42.400 conversationally brilliant but perhaps not necessarily academics. And then you 0:03:42.440 --> 0:03:47.520 get these fucking phenoms that can do all of that, right, 0:03:47.720 --> 0:03:48.760 is he one of them? 0:03:49.560 --> 0:03:51.200 He's that bloke? Yeah? 0:03:51.280 --> 0:03:55.640 Yeah, Wow, he's that guy wow yeah, And he's he yeah, 0:03:55.680 --> 0:03:57.960 So I think there's all There's a doco who being 0:03:57.960 --> 0:03:59.960 filmed on him right now that will be coming out 0:04:00.560 --> 0:04:01.520 sooner rather than later. 0:04:01.560 --> 0:04:05.080 But yeah, just about all of his capacities and his 0:04:05.160 --> 0:04:07.960 gifts and various things like that. And I've been firsthand 0:04:08.000 --> 0:04:10.600 witnessed to it. And one of the things that he 0:04:10.720 --> 0:04:13.360 played around with me, I was getting stuck in this 0:04:13.880 --> 0:04:17.279 idea of lack and I've realized just talking to friends 0:04:17.279 --> 0:04:20.120 that actually doesn't matter how much you've got, you can 0:04:20.160 --> 0:04:22.279 still have a really powerful lack story going on. 0:04:22.320 --> 0:04:23.080 I don't have enough. 0:04:24.360 --> 0:04:26.320 I was stuck in that a little bit, and I 0:04:26.400 --> 0:04:28.760 was letting it sort of spiral me down a touch. 0:04:30.160 --> 0:04:34.080 And he's just very good at having these conversations of like, well, 0:04:34.120 --> 0:04:38.960 there's a higher part of your consciousness that can really 0:04:39.000 --> 0:04:41.279 see the beauty in all things, and then there's also 0:04:41.400 --> 0:04:43.320 a lower part of it that is going to just 0:04:43.360 --> 0:04:46.000 circle around on this very you know, I don't have 0:04:46.080 --> 0:04:50.040 enough money, the physicality of things, and it all just 0:04:50.080 --> 0:04:52.320 depends on where you want to see it from. And 0:04:52.360 --> 0:04:56.600 so he took me through this process of you might 0:04:56.680 --> 0:04:59.000 look at it like you don't have enough, and there's 0:04:59.040 --> 0:05:02.520 a few there's actually a number of different ways of looking. 0:05:02.279 --> 0:05:05.159 At that, and it's a heads or tails thing. 0:05:05.200 --> 0:05:07.080 You know, you can swear black and blue that that 0:05:07.160 --> 0:05:09.480 coin is a tail, and you're can have somebody else 0:05:09.520 --> 0:05:10.680 looking at that exact. 0:05:10.400 --> 0:05:12.839 Same coin saying that's one hundred percent heads mate. 0:05:13.080 --> 0:05:18.040 And so he gave that analogy and what he did, 0:05:18.640 --> 0:05:21.719 and both of us have we're pretty open. Well, he 0:05:22.279 --> 0:05:25.480 teaches it essentially, but I have a good sense of 0:05:26.920 --> 0:05:28.880 I believe that we're all sort of part of the 0:05:28.880 --> 0:05:31.960 one consciousness. We're all having separate experiences. That's my belief system. 0:05:31.960 --> 0:05:33.839 I don't push it on any people, but it works 0:05:33.839 --> 0:05:37.040 for me. And at that level he goes, may just 0:05:37.080 --> 0:05:39.440 go up to that level for a second and you'll 0:05:39.480 --> 0:05:41.280 see that, well, all of this is just meant to 0:05:41.320 --> 0:05:43.320 happen because we're all having an experience. This isn't good 0:05:43.400 --> 0:05:47.119 or bad. This is just a thing that's happening right now. 0:05:47.240 --> 0:05:49.560 And in the quantum realm, all of these moments are 0:05:49.600 --> 0:05:50.600 happening all at once. 0:05:50.720 --> 0:05:52.000 There's actually no time and space. 0:05:52.040 --> 0:05:54.120 It's all just there. This is one of the moments 0:05:54.120 --> 0:05:56.560 in time. Okay, great, So there's no charge to that 0:05:56.760 --> 0:06:00.160 at all. And then the second layer down is where 0:06:00.160 --> 0:06:03.000 in your life do you have abundance? Like if you 0:06:03.200 --> 0:06:04.880 if you lost at all, what would you do? And 0:06:05.080 --> 0:06:08.000 I'm in a really fortunate situation when my parents live 0:06:08.040 --> 0:06:10.680 in NUSA and have got a house big enough that 0:06:10.720 --> 0:06:12.840 I could go and live there if everything went to shit, 0:06:13.120 --> 0:06:16.039 you know, said mate, So you're saying, the worst case 0:06:16.080 --> 0:06:20.119 scenario is you'd be assuming each morning with your dad, 0:06:20.720 --> 0:06:23.599 and you'd have a room, and you'd have a house 0:06:23.640 --> 0:06:26.680 being cleaned and because all of that sort of stuff, 0:06:27.240 --> 0:06:29.320 and then you've got you've got healthy kids, and you've 0:06:29.320 --> 0:06:31.040 got work that you love, and like, you've got all 0:06:31.080 --> 0:06:35.000 of these things that are incredible abundance. And then and 0:06:35.040 --> 0:06:38.960 then the next step down is if you then were 0:06:39.000 --> 0:06:41.560 to bring it down into a more three dimensional level, 0:06:41.600 --> 0:06:44.719 but still higher than where you've been sitting right now, 0:06:44.880 --> 0:06:48.280 it's a really good lesson for you to feel like 0:06:48.320 --> 0:06:51.000 you have lack So why. 0:06:50.680 --> 0:06:52.599 Do you need that experience right now? 0:06:53.880 --> 0:06:55.960 And then you go through the process of well, it's 0:06:56.040 --> 0:06:58.720 teaching me resilience, it's teaching me for reality, it's teaching 0:06:58.800 --> 0:07:02.880 me appreciation, teaching me that I actually don't even have 0:07:02.960 --> 0:07:07.320 a desire for money. I just desire purposeful work and 0:07:07.360 --> 0:07:09.640 my kids being healthy and having a great life. And 0:07:10.120 --> 0:07:12.080 if I don't, if I've got enough money for that, 0:07:12.440 --> 0:07:16.160 which ultimately a lot of it's free, then I've got enough. 0:07:16.760 --> 0:07:18.960 And so it was just rather than just saying, oh, 0:07:19.000 --> 0:07:21.200 what's the lesson in this, or you know, what can 0:07:21.240 --> 0:07:23.240 you do to get out of this, he just took 0:07:23.280 --> 0:07:25.280 me up to the looking at things from a head's 0:07:25.360 --> 0:07:26.240 space rather than. 0:07:26.120 --> 0:07:27.000 A tail space. 0:07:27.760 --> 0:07:31.440 Yes, and I had one of the most fascinating experiences. 0:07:32.240 --> 0:07:34.040 He said, what you need to do is you need 0:07:34.080 --> 0:07:36.880 to sit down and you need to write down all 0:07:36.920 --> 0:07:39.280 of the stories in your brain that are from a 0:07:39.360 --> 0:07:42.240 tales perspective, like where things aren't enough, when you're not 0:07:42.280 --> 0:07:45.680 good enough, relationships, all of that sort of stuff, and 0:07:46.080 --> 0:07:47.400 you just need to spend a couple of hours on 0:07:47.440 --> 0:07:50.560 it and just like just watch what happens. So I 0:07:50.600 --> 0:07:53.640 started writing some things down and literally I was doing 0:07:53.640 --> 0:07:57.520 an exercise on lack, particularly around finances, and I was 0:07:57.560 --> 0:07:59.640 just writing out, you know, this is a great experience 0:07:59.680 --> 0:08:01.920 and it's teaching me this and I'm getting this out 0:08:01.920 --> 0:08:03.520 of it. And what am I going to say when 0:08:03.560 --> 0:08:06.080 people say, hey, Cam, like shouldn't you be earning more 0:08:06.080 --> 0:08:07.360 money or whatever it might be, what are you going 0:08:07.400 --> 0:08:12.040 to say to them to stay in the heads perspective? Literally, 0:08:12.160 --> 0:08:14.480 as I am doing that and I've done that exercise 0:08:14.520 --> 0:08:16.840 three or four times. Two out of the three times 0:08:16.840 --> 0:08:19.440 that I've done it, I've had people contact me to 0:08:19.480 --> 0:08:23.840 pay me money. And then and then I've had the 0:08:23.880 --> 0:08:28.560 biggest or the biggest relatively bigger sales of my career 0:08:29.040 --> 0:08:31.160 have dropped in. 0:08:30.520 --> 0:08:33.280 Exactly those days that I've been doing that stuff. And 0:08:33.360 --> 0:08:36.400 it was just the most powerful. However you want to 0:08:36.520 --> 0:08:40.000 ascribe it, it doesn't matter. It was. It's been the 0:08:40.000 --> 0:08:43.559 most spectacular shift. And I've always known. 0:08:43.600 --> 0:08:45.440 Now I see things from a higher perspective, like it's 0:08:45.440 --> 0:08:48.520 not new. But for whatever reason, this bit of advice, 0:08:48.520 --> 0:08:51.760 and this is part of Matt's gift. He just gave 0:08:51.760 --> 0:08:54.280 me the right advice at the right time. And just 0:08:54.400 --> 0:08:56.360 as soon as I started connecting back up with that, 0:08:56.480 --> 0:08:58.679 I just started laughing, like I had all of this 0:08:58.760 --> 0:09:01.320 emotion car I was like, what almost spending so much 0:09:01.360 --> 0:09:05.400 bloody time just focusing on I don't have enough? 0:09:05.600 --> 0:09:08.520 And I know that for some people it gets seen 0:09:08.559 --> 0:09:10.520 as spiritual bypassing. 0:09:10.000 --> 0:09:11.600 You know, just say, oh, what's the benefit of this, 0:09:11.760 --> 0:09:13.600 or you don't understand I've got to feed my kids 0:09:13.640 --> 0:09:15.400 and blah blah ah, this bad stuff has happened. 0:09:16.360 --> 0:09:18.439 It's just and what I'm trying to do. 0:09:18.440 --> 0:09:20.440 Right now, is I'm trying to take every moment in 0:09:20.480 --> 0:09:22.880 my life up to a head's perspective, just to see 0:09:22.880 --> 0:09:23.679 what happens, just. 0:09:23.600 --> 0:09:24.600 To run an experiment. 0:09:25.120 --> 0:09:29.600 It has been absolutely fascinating so that that has just 0:09:30.000 --> 0:09:34.719 dramatically improved. It's just honed my ability to understand what 0:09:34.840 --> 0:09:36.400 state do I want to be in? How can I 0:09:36.440 --> 0:09:39.800 get into that state? And it's interesting how just the 0:09:39.840 --> 0:09:42.720 timing of my exercise when I do my little vision 0:09:42.760 --> 0:09:45.440 set for the day, the work that I'm going about, 0:09:45.800 --> 0:09:47.319 the way that I'm reflecting on the day. 0:09:47.400 --> 0:09:49.800 I've just done some little additional practices that have. 0:09:49.840 --> 0:09:52.720 Been in the line with that, and things are just flying, 0:09:52.920 --> 0:09:55.920 Like it's just been so fascinating to get out of 0:09:55.960 --> 0:09:58.640 that garbage and just you know, it's. 0:09:58.520 --> 0:09:59.240 The same event. 0:10:00.000 --> 0:10:01.960 I see it as a head, sat as a tails 0:10:02.000 --> 0:10:03.719 and it's been absolutely phenomenal. 0:10:04.360 --> 0:10:06.760 Yeah, I love that. So many things that fascinate me 0:10:06.800 --> 0:10:10.280 about this and I talk about this and related to 0:10:10.320 --> 0:10:14.680 this stuff all the time, and it's like that I 0:10:14.800 --> 0:10:17.120 call sometimes I call it looking for a needle of 0:10:17.160 --> 0:10:20.520 negativity and a haystack of hope. Like people have got 0:10:20.559 --> 0:10:23.360 fucking ninety eight good things going on in their life, 0:10:23.360 --> 0:10:26.120 and two that are maybe not awesome, and all their attention, 0:10:26.320 --> 0:10:30.640 focus and energy goes on the two yes, And that's like, 0:10:30.760 --> 0:10:34.680 I think, a couple of not solutions, but strategies for 0:10:34.720 --> 0:10:37.480 around that. For me, it's a kind of a bigger 0:10:37.520 --> 0:10:40.760 than me awareness, and it's knowing that this is not 0:10:40.880 --> 0:10:44.720 the reality. This is my story about the objective reality. 0:10:44.800 --> 0:10:50.679 This is my ongoing, ever present, subjective Craig experience in 0:10:50.720 --> 0:10:54.000 the middle of just what is right and nothing means 0:10:54.040 --> 0:10:58.120 anything on Planet Craig until I give it meaning. Now, 0:10:58.160 --> 0:11:00.480 if I assign that a bad meaning, I have a 0:11:00.520 --> 0:11:04.600 bad experience. If I assign it interesting, I'm interested. If 0:11:04.679 --> 0:11:08.199 I think, oh, that's curious, I'm curious. If I think 0:11:08.240 --> 0:11:11.680 it's hilarious, I fucking laugh. Right. If I think it's 0:11:11.760 --> 0:11:14.320 tragic and sad, I'm crying. The person next to me 0:11:14.400 --> 0:11:18.280 goes through the same situation or that has the same 0:11:18.480 --> 0:11:23.199 stimulus but a totally different response, I'm legitimately sad. They're 0:11:23.320 --> 0:11:29.400 legitimately not sad, confronted with the same objective reality. And 0:11:29.480 --> 0:11:35.440 so I think this realizing that we are constantly just 0:11:35.559 --> 0:11:38.800 looking through the Kraig lens or the cam lens full 0:11:38.840 --> 0:11:42.560 of our own thinking and bias and prejudice and skills 0:11:42.679 --> 0:11:47.160 and all our bullshit, the good bullshit, the bad bullshit, 0:11:47.360 --> 0:11:50.560 and realizing that this is in reality, this is my reality, 0:11:50.600 --> 0:11:53.760 and I'm creating it and where does that come from? 0:11:53.840 --> 0:11:57.600 And trying to have a level of self awareness. I 0:11:57.640 --> 0:12:02.200 think the beginning of consciousness, like real deep consciousness and 0:12:02.240 --> 0:12:07.800 awareness is firstly recognizing your lack of consciousness, like I 0:12:07.840 --> 0:12:11.600 am moving through the world and conversations and situations and 0:12:11.679 --> 0:12:17.599 stuff unconsciously and unconsciously labeling shit. Oh fuck, this is 0:12:17.640 --> 0:12:21.000 a catashphi and now I have a catastrophe. You know. 0:12:21.720 --> 0:12:27.440 I was talking to someone this morning about without mentioning stuff. 0:12:27.480 --> 0:12:29.520 I've mentioned my parents fair bit on the show, but 0:12:29.640 --> 0:12:33.640 my parents are, you know, heading towards the home straight 0:12:33.880 --> 0:12:37.040 like they've Hopefully it's not, you know, I said, the 0:12:37.160 --> 0:12:39.400 check and flags in sight, And this person I was 0:12:39.480 --> 0:12:42.320 talking through is laughing, right, and I said, hopefully not 0:12:42.440 --> 0:12:45.200 too soon, you know. But it's like they're eighty six 0:12:45.280 --> 0:12:48.319 and there's lots of challenges and I hope they're around 0:12:48.320 --> 0:12:50.840 for another five years or more, but it just is 0:12:50.880 --> 0:12:53.199 what it is. And then there's you know, like I'm 0:12:53.240 --> 0:12:55.880 submitting my PhD in four weeks, and then I've got 0:12:55.880 --> 0:12:59.120 a few friends I had, you know. Anyway, it doesn't 0:12:59.160 --> 0:13:01.240 but lots of shit. And in the middle of it, 0:13:01.400 --> 0:13:06.560 none of it I can control. I can't control the outcome. 0:13:06.720 --> 0:13:10.880 I go, all right, well, what can I do which 0:13:11.040 --> 0:13:14.360 might be a positive influence or impact on that person, 0:13:14.640 --> 0:13:18.280 which might be of help or value. Let me do that. 0:13:19.040 --> 0:13:23.319 But it's very difficult because we're so emotionally driven, and 0:13:23.360 --> 0:13:26.800 we believe our emotions and your emotions is going this 0:13:26.880 --> 0:13:29.679 is a fucking catastrophe, mate, What are you bullshitting yourself? 0:13:29.720 --> 0:13:29.920 You know? 0:13:29.960 --> 0:13:32.480 And it's like, oh is it? And then my nervous 0:13:32.520 --> 0:13:36.440 systems go, system goes, oh, of course it is. And 0:13:36.480 --> 0:13:39.319 now that thing is is inhabiting us, not the other 0:13:39.320 --> 0:13:43.880 way around. So that's this. When I talk to corporates, 0:13:44.320 --> 0:13:46.520 this is not the right word. I don't mean this offensively, 0:13:46.559 --> 0:13:49.280 but dumb it down. And we talk about the external 0:13:49.280 --> 0:13:52.400 world in the internal world, and I go external world, 0:13:52.400 --> 0:13:56.840 and I right, situation, circumstance, environment, government, traffic lights, other people, 0:13:58.280 --> 0:14:00.680 bank balanced, blab But these are these are things you 0:14:00.720 --> 0:14:03.959 can't in the moment anyway. Bank balance, maybe the exception, 0:14:04.120 --> 0:14:07.920 but these are things you can't control. More broadly, what 0:14:07.960 --> 0:14:10.440 other people do, say be well, they like you, not 0:14:10.679 --> 0:14:12.800 like you. You can move the needle a bit, right. 0:14:12.840 --> 0:14:15.960 But here's all the shit. So that's my external world, 0:14:16.040 --> 0:14:20.400 whether you know, whatever internal world is thoughts and feelings 0:14:20.400 --> 0:14:25.800 and data processing and meaning giving and storytelling and realizing 0:14:25.840 --> 0:14:28.760 that I don't live in an external world. That's where 0:14:28.800 --> 0:14:31.760 I do life. But where I live is in that 0:14:32.000 --> 0:14:37.280 internal place, and it's that internal world that drives all 0:14:37.360 --> 0:14:40.640 my physiology to a large extent, one way or the other, 0:14:40.720 --> 0:14:44.720 better or worse. And then I don't know I might 0:14:44.760 --> 0:14:47.520 be If I sound arrogant listeners, I apologize, but I 0:14:47.600 --> 0:14:52.280 don't know that. Too many people really try to zoom 0:14:52.320 --> 0:14:55.520 out from the in the moment me experience right now, 0:14:56.120 --> 0:14:59.200 to get like a high level perspective, like to be 0:14:59.320 --> 0:15:02.400 the observer of the self in the middle of shit. 0:15:02.880 --> 0:15:06.200 It's like, oh no, this is just you know. And 0:15:06.240 --> 0:15:09.120 sometimes I like, I'm really good under pressure. I do 0:15:09.160 --> 0:15:13.160 not know why, but if something fucking terrible happens, you 0:15:13.160 --> 0:15:15.840 want me there because I'm good. But there will be 0:15:15.880 --> 0:15:18.840 other things that are not catastrophic that I won't cope 0:15:19.040 --> 0:15:22.960 with as well as the average person perhaps you know, 0:15:23.120 --> 0:15:27.200 and then that trying to understand what you are opening 0:15:27.240 --> 0:15:30.400 the door on. I can regulate me, I can understand 0:15:30.400 --> 0:15:35.080 me better. Oh, my stories aren't the reality. My stories 0:15:35.160 --> 0:15:40.120 are stories. They're interpretations of things. But the problem is, 0:15:40.200 --> 0:15:42.880 or one of the problems, is my body can't tell 0:15:42.920 --> 0:15:45.360 the difference between what I think and what is real. 0:15:46.200 --> 0:15:48.360 So that do you know what I'm saying? So I think, 0:15:48.640 --> 0:15:50.720 which is why And we've spoken about this before. I 0:15:50.800 --> 0:15:52.840 think people wake up in the middle of a fucking 0:15:52.880 --> 0:15:57.960 horrendous dream which is completely untrue. You know that is 0:15:58.000 --> 0:16:00.920 not the reality, but your body he doesn't know that. 0:16:01.040 --> 0:16:04.640 For five minutes, like you wake up, heart rates up, 0:16:04.640 --> 0:16:07.680 All these things are happening despite the fact that there 0:16:07.760 --> 0:16:10.760 is no risk, there is no drama. You are not 0:16:11.000 --> 0:16:14.760 in trouble, you are safe, you are okay, And it's 0:16:14.840 --> 0:16:20.040 trying to you know. That's the not always symbiotic relationship 0:16:20.080 --> 0:16:24.840 of mind, you know, emotion, physiology, and trying to navigate 0:16:24.920 --> 0:16:28.240 life with some level of awareness and understanding and perhaps 0:16:28.840 --> 0:16:33.840 self regulation. In the middle of the ship, we can't regulate. Yes, 0:16:34.320 --> 0:16:36.680 steps down off soapbox. I love it. 0:16:36.960 --> 0:16:39.760 And what there's so many things about that. One of 0:16:39.840 --> 0:16:41.960 the things that I've noticed is that there is no 0:16:42.360 --> 0:16:45.720 end to understanding yourself, like the layers that come off, 0:16:45.760 --> 0:16:48.120 and you'll you'll go through the same lesson three or 0:16:48.120 --> 0:16:50.240 four times, but every time you go through the lesson, 0:16:50.280 --> 0:16:54.080 it's with another layer of awareness, another layer of consciousness, 0:16:54.400 --> 0:16:58.600 and that lack of consciousness it's not just a matter 0:16:58.640 --> 0:17:01.640 of Obviously, you can increase that by deciding to be. 0:17:01.600 --> 0:17:04.160 More aware and taking a more observer look at your life. 0:17:04.760 --> 0:17:07.920 Then there are things that obviously, and we've spoken about 0:17:07.920 --> 0:17:12.359 this previous ones as well, is the subconscious elements of 0:17:12.440 --> 0:17:15.120 things and stuff that you're not even aware of even 0:17:15.119 --> 0:17:18.439 and when you try and be aware, and it's and 0:17:18.440 --> 0:17:23.600 that's obviously where the right mentalist can really help you. Psychotherapist, 0:17:23.680 --> 0:17:27.400 whatever it may be, whatever your flavor is. But I'd 0:17:27.400 --> 0:17:30.080 have to say that a lot of the I'm getting 0:17:30.119 --> 0:17:32.960 stuff and holding it better because I cleared a bunch 0:17:33.000 --> 0:17:35.360 of subconscious stuff. And I know we spoke about that previously. 0:17:36.240 --> 0:17:39.120 The things that are landing for me now, they used 0:17:39.119 --> 0:17:41.520 to be things I couldn't let go of, like the negativity, 0:17:42.040 --> 0:17:45.000 and now I find that I could literally just choose 0:17:45.359 --> 0:17:47.800 to switch my brain and think about it in a 0:17:47.800 --> 0:17:51.480 different way and immediately my state changes. Whereas and when 0:17:51.520 --> 0:17:53.640 you hear Bruce Lipton talk about this is very interesting 0:17:53.680 --> 0:17:56.200 that ninety five percent of your world is being constructed 0:17:56.200 --> 0:17:59.960 by your subconscious and so if you're not aware of 0:18:00.160 --> 0:18:02.880 that stuff, then I can be giving this thing about oh, 0:18:02.960 --> 0:18:04.400 just flip everything into our heads and towels. 0:18:04.440 --> 0:18:06.080 You go, Okay, that doesn't work for me. That's because 0:18:06.119 --> 0:18:07.200 we'll probably. 0:18:07.160 --> 0:18:10.879 Because there's some subconscious stuff that's still playing out that's 0:18:10.960 --> 0:18:13.080 blocking your ability to just flip. 0:18:13.160 --> 0:18:14.640 Your mindset and go that way too. 0:18:14.720 --> 0:18:16.840 So I just want to put that as a disclaimer 0:18:16.880 --> 0:18:20.760 because the advice that works for one person generally doesn't 0:18:20.800 --> 0:18:22.960 work for the next person because their situation is so 0:18:23.040 --> 0:18:24.639 different and the things that stresses. 0:18:24.240 --> 0:18:25.400 Them out are so different as well. 0:18:26.280 --> 0:18:29.040 I think, also, yeah, I love that, but we're not 0:18:29.119 --> 0:18:31.960 trying to Firstly, I think everyone knows by now, and 0:18:32.000 --> 0:18:35.320 we're not trying to direct people or prescribe anything for people. 0:18:35.359 --> 0:18:40.320 But it's I think it's like this, it's a journey, right, 0:18:40.359 --> 0:18:42.520 It's not like here's a strategy, do this and this 0:18:42.560 --> 0:18:46.080 will be the outcome. No, fuck that, because you know, 0:18:46.800 --> 0:18:49.360 we don't even to it. You know, this is my research, 0:18:49.560 --> 0:18:56.560 like you know metapception, metaaccuracy, theory of mind, metacognition, Like 0:18:56.600 --> 0:19:00.400 we don't even know what we're like. Really, we only 0:19:00.480 --> 0:19:03.600 know our version of us. And one of the questions 0:19:03.640 --> 0:19:07.199 I ask groups is I walk in and often in 0:19:07.240 --> 0:19:09.120 the first minute or two, if I'm going to talk 0:19:09.160 --> 0:19:12.920 about self awareness and communication and context and culture and 0:19:13.440 --> 0:19:17.320 problem solving and conflict resolution and all that communication y 0:19:17.520 --> 0:19:22.080 into personal human e stuff, I say, I'm going to 0:19:22.119 --> 0:19:23.720 ask you a question. I need you to be honest, 0:19:23.760 --> 0:19:25.560 straight up, put up your hand if you've heard your 0:19:25.640 --> 0:19:30.000 voice on audio recording, And people reluctantly put up their hands, 0:19:30.000 --> 0:19:32.439 shaken the head, and I go, how many of you 0:19:32.520 --> 0:19:35.320 think you sound shit? And they all go me, I 0:19:35.400 --> 0:19:38.280 sound shit on And I go, well, how you sound 0:19:38.320 --> 0:19:42.080 on audio is exactly how we all hear you all 0:19:42.080 --> 0:19:45.120 the time, right, So you know you think you've got 0:19:45.119 --> 0:19:48.360 that when it's recorded, your voice is different. It's whiny 0:19:48.400 --> 0:19:51.240 and it's shitty. I go, no, that is the voice 0:19:51.240 --> 0:19:53.239 that the rest of us. You don't even know what 0:19:53.280 --> 0:19:55.920 you sound like because none of us live in your head. 0:19:56.320 --> 0:19:59.120 We don't hear what you hear. Now, even that as 0:19:59.240 --> 0:20:02.520 kind of an open of the door to realizing not 0:20:02.560 --> 0:20:04.960 only do you not know how people see you, you 0:20:05.000 --> 0:20:10.240 don't even know how you sound because we're we're hearing 0:20:10.359 --> 0:20:14.680 you through different modalities, you know, and that that where 0:20:14.720 --> 0:20:17.320 you go, because that's a nice kind of entree into 0:20:17.440 --> 0:20:20.480 oh yeah, what is the rest of me? Like, well, 0:20:20.520 --> 0:20:23.160 if that's what my voice is like for everyone, what's 0:20:23.160 --> 0:20:28.320 my personality? Like, what's my energy? Like, what's my body language? Like, 0:20:28.359 --> 0:20:32.960 what's what's my actual language that you know, Craig stop 0:20:33.000 --> 0:20:35.359 saying fuck, this is not the right environment, you know, 0:20:35.560 --> 0:20:39.560 or or where you start to try to see yourself 0:20:40.520 --> 0:20:45.679 from a curiosity perspective, not a I'm insecure perspective, but like, 0:20:45.760 --> 0:20:49.399 what is the Craig experience like? And I talk to 0:20:49.480 --> 0:20:54.119 speakers about this often because I coach speakers, and I go, 0:20:54.280 --> 0:20:56.400 here's here's the deal. You can get up and have 0:20:57.359 --> 0:21:00.439 you know, the best content, and you could have rehearse 0:21:00.480 --> 0:21:02.920 whor you're blue in the face and you've got I 0:21:02.920 --> 0:21:05.879 don't know, you've basically got a forty five minute monologue, 0:21:05.920 --> 0:21:08.800 which I do not recommend any potential speakers. I do 0:21:08.960 --> 0:21:12.920 not recommend that. Neither do I recommend forty seven PowerPoint slides, 0:21:14.040 --> 0:21:16.240 don't never use them, but don't use them like that. 0:21:16.480 --> 0:21:20.480 And then that whole thing of like being on stage, 0:21:20.720 --> 0:21:24.360 and which is if you're in experienced, obviously it's difficult, 0:21:24.480 --> 0:21:27.520