Speaker 1: Apologie production, erotic blueprints.
Speaker 2: Oh that makes.
Speaker 1: It sound not so sexy. Eartic erotic, And it's kind
Speaker 1: of how you enjoy sexual intimacy.
Speaker 2: Uh huh. And it ebbs and flows.
Speaker 3: It changes all the time, So you might have felt
Speaker 3: one way, you know, last year, and then this year,
Speaker 3: have completely different desires once and needs.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it can change all the time. Hey, yeah, So
Speaker 1: we're going to go through all of them. Now, we'll
Speaker 1: explain what they are, and then we'll talk about which
Speaker 1: ones we are.
Speaker 2: Okay, so first up, the five types. There's sexual, sensual.
Speaker 1: Kinky, energetic, energetic, and shape shifter.
Speaker 2: Ooh, spacey.
Speaker 1: They sound so fun they do.
Speaker 3: Hey, yeah, okay, So firstly, sexual is what you see
Speaker 3: in movie scenes.
Speaker 2: It's all about the orgasm.
Speaker 3: There's no real like build up in chemistry, which I
Speaker 3: feel like you do see that in movies as well.
Speaker 2: They're straight to the but they're straight to the point.
Speaker 1: They straight to the genitals. Why is that word really sexy?
Speaker 2: I don't like that word no genitals, it's just so
Speaker 2: long to say.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but just straight to the point, like let's just bang.
Speaker 3: Yes, And most people who are a sexual blueprint type
Speaker 3: as well like to have a lot of sex, So
Speaker 3: it's something that they have frequently and they're kind of
Speaker 3: just like straight for it. They don't feel like they
Speaker 3: need so build up yeah.
Speaker 1: Before slow sensual moments. They're very sexual just get into it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and stokes like so happy with that and that's
Speaker 3: all that they want, just like ye, sex, So that's
Speaker 3: the first type, and then the second type is sensual.
Speaker 3: So when you think of sensual, what comes to mind
Speaker 3: for you?
Speaker 1: For me, it's slow, it's candles, it's moody music. It's
Speaker 1: a lot of touch, it's a lot of massage, it's
Speaker 1: a lot of kissing, like kissing down the body. Just
Speaker 1: very slow and like very intimate and very special and moody.
Speaker 2: Like moody.
Speaker 1: It's so true, like good lights are dimmed and just
Speaker 1: really taking your time to enjoy each other's body and
Speaker 1: enjoy the whole experience. It's not the goal to get
Speaker 1: to an orgasm, and you will get there eventually, obviously,
Speaker 1: but it's really to enjoy that slow, beautiful experience together,
Speaker 1: more lengthy processed.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like having sensual sex is like when you have
Speaker 3: those like hour long sessions, whereas like quickie, Yeah, sexual sex.
Speaker 1: Yes, that's a good way to put it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, quiki.
Speaker 1: The next one is kinky. So what comes to your
Speaker 1: mind when I say the word kinky.
Speaker 2: I think just anything that's out of the ordinary for you.
Speaker 3: So if you want to explore something new, if you're
Speaker 3: feeling like okay with sex, I'm feeling like I'm wanting
Speaker 3: to be more kinky, probably just wanting to explore different things. Yes,
Speaker 3: so might be introducing toys, blindfolding, spainky.
Speaker 1: Watching porn.
Speaker 4: Watching porn could literally be anything.
Speaker 1: That's just like handcuffs.
Speaker 2: It might even just be.
Speaker 3: Trying your position, like if you always do missionary it
Speaker 3: might be like, oh, I'm wanting to be more kinky
Speaker 3: and wanting to reverseications.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, anything out of the ordinary, not what you would
Speaker 1: do day to day. And I feel like most people
Speaker 1: will go through a time their life where they are
Speaker 1: a bit more kinky yep. And then there's yeah, like
Speaker 1: we said before, times in your life where you want
Speaker 1: it more slow, and then the times in your life
Speaker 1: we don't have much times it's like get in and
Speaker 1: get it done.
Speaker 2: So true.
Speaker 4: Aha, then we've got energetic. So energetic is one that
Speaker 4: kind of starts outside of the bedroom.
Speaker 3: It's the anticipation. It's the build up throughout the day.
Speaker 3: Is you to a tea, me to a tea. At
Speaker 3: the moment, it's feeling like you're like building up that chemistry,
Speaker 3: putting up the energy, building up the energy, building up
Speaker 3: the tension.
Speaker 4: So when you go to do it, it's like had
Speaker 4: the whole process of like the.
Speaker 1: Day and then almost like explosive when you do it,
Speaker 1: Like you feel like it's explosive, amazing sex because it's
Speaker 1: so built.
Speaker 2: Up a huh.
Speaker 3: It's even like going to kiss and then like stopping
Speaker 3: right beforehand and just like you're moving away energy.
Speaker 1: It's such a good word for like energetic.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so that's energetic. And then shape shifter, which is ashy.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: At the moment, she feels it's.
Speaker 1: A mix of all of them, because when I was
Speaker 1: studying these and reading them and chatting to care about it,
Speaker 1: I was like I couldn't quite identify with exactly one
Speaker 1: of them. I feel like I'm quite a mix of
Speaker 1: all of them.
Speaker 2: Yep, And yeah, that's.
Speaker 1: Me to t But there's been times in my life
Speaker 1: like I was reading this where I was telling you
Speaker 1: I used to watch the series. It was years ago,
Speaker 1: probably two or three years ago and it's called Me,
Speaker 1: You and Her, Yeah, and it just turned me on
Speaker 1: so much, and I was so sexual. I just wanted
Speaker 1: it all the time, Like I would get frustrated if
Speaker 1: Steve didn't want it. And I didn't need the moody.
Speaker 1: I didn't need the build up. I was built up.
Speaker 1: I was ready all the time, so sexual. That was
Speaker 1: like a massive six months for me where I was
Speaker 1: just very very sexual yep. And then there's definitely times
Speaker 1: like after Tala, I wanted it more slower and more sensual,
Speaker 1: and I would put the music on the candles and
Speaker 1: just really enjoy connecting with Steve again because I felt
Speaker 1: like when I was pregnant and tied and not sleeping
Speaker 1: and just like not comfortable, it wasn't our best sex.
Speaker 1: So I really enjoyed that slow essential So it really
Speaker 1: does change depending on what season you're at and what
Speaker 1: you're feeling. And that's cool because you get to experience
Speaker 1: so much.
Speaker 3: To understand your partner and what they're wanting. And I
Speaker 3: thought they're desiring where they're are. Yeah, but yeah, I
Speaker 3: feel like I used to be really central. I feel
Speaker 3: like the massage, the candles, the music, I was like
Speaker 3: that as well. And then yeah, lately there's been a
Speaker 3: few things that have popped up, Like even lately, I've
Speaker 3: been loving doing eye gazing with Kurt sit on his
Speaker 3: lap and you just set a time of like five
Speaker 3: minutes and you just I gaze and that's very energetic because.
Speaker 2: You're not actually doing anything, but you're building that connection that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so I feel like I'm definitely in that realm
Speaker 3: at the moment. And Kurt, I feel like has moved
Speaker 3: from always being very sexual to now. I feel like
Speaker 3: he still likes frequent sex, but I feel like he
Speaker 3: likes it to be more longer and meaningful and moody
Speaker 3: and like fearly touching.
Speaker 1: It's a bit essential, a bit of sexual. Yeah. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I think Steve's shape shifter as well.
Speaker 4: M M.
Speaker 1: I think he's a mix of all of them.
Speaker 2: Yeah, they go.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so interesting and so cool. And there is actually
Speaker 1: a test, yes, that you can do online.
Speaker 2: Uh huh, which is really cool.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but once again, it's cool to do the test
Speaker 1: to identify it. But I feel like even you're listening
Speaker 1: to this and reading about it, you'll be able to
Speaker 1: pick up where you're at. Yeah, definitely open up this
Speaker 1: conversation with your partner as well, because it's so cool
Speaker 1: for you, you to know where they're at, because even
Speaker 1: if it's different, like say, if you're energetic and Kurt
Speaker 1: is sexual, like once again, it's meeting in the middle
Speaker 1: and trying to adapt and like compromise to please each
Speaker 1: other and work together on it.
Speaker 3: Definitely, And like I even was talking to Ashley on
Speaker 3: the way up here, and I feel like, because we've
Speaker 3: been lacking so much quality time lately because it's just
Speaker 3: been a little bit hectic in our household, Kurt's really
Speaker 3: been craving more sensual sex because he's gaining that quality
Speaker 3: time growth yeah, at the same time, rather than like before,
Speaker 3: if we had heaps of quality time together and our
Speaker 3: caustle fall, like the sex was just great, Like it
Speaker 3: was good, but now it's kind of like we need
Speaker 3: to build a bit more yeah y in chemistry because
Speaker 3: we haven't got the same capacity and time that we
Speaker 3: normally do at the moment.
Speaker 1: That makes a lot of sense. I think a lot
Speaker 1: of parents that would be like a goal for them
Speaker 1: to get to to have those longer sessions because you
Speaker 1: are getting that quality time to really connect and be intimate.
Speaker 1: But you're also getting that sexual time, Whereas I think
Speaker 1: a lot of parents they might not be feeling like
Speaker 1: they are that sexual, but their sex life is sexual.
Speaker 1: Because I don't have much times, I get in and
Speaker 1: get it done. Yes, do you think, yeah, our parents
Speaker 1: would feel like that. I don't have a lot of time,
Speaker 1: but I still want to do it.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, yeah, gosh, I've so been there.
Speaker 1: Most people would have, hay, But when you've got the
Speaker 1: time and space, it's so nice to tap into it.
Speaker 1: And I feel like I'm definitely a shape shifter. But
Speaker 1: even like the five love languages, Yes you have one
Speaker 1: or two that's your main driving forces, but you like
Speaker 1: all of them definitely. Like I love physical touch, I
Speaker 1: love quality of time, but I'm not going to complain
Speaker 1: when you buy me a gift. That's probably my bottom one,
Speaker 1: but I still love gift. Yeah, you can be doing
Speaker 1: all of them. It's awesome. So it's cool if you
Speaker 1: can tap into each of these depending on what you're
Speaker 1: desiring at that time.
Speaker 2: Yeah, for sure.
Speaker 1: So we thought if we'd actually go into some TV
Speaker 1: series and books that have really like spiced up our
Speaker 1: sex life, and for me, I feel like in books
Speaker 1: sometimes I read like it's one of the twisted loved ones.
Speaker 1: It was very dominating the way he spoke to it. At first,
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, I don't like that, yep, but
Speaker 1: it still turned me on. It's like, I don't think
Speaker 1: it wants me to do that, but it was cool
Speaker 1: because it's like it's kinky and it's different and it's
Speaker 1: a bit more rough.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: In my head, I'm like, I've got friends and I
Speaker 1: know that freaking love this, But it's just cool to
Speaker 1: read that and be turned on by something different that
Speaker 1: I wouldn't normally be turned on by. Yes, And same
Speaker 1: with have you watched three hundred and sixty five Days?
Speaker 3: No?
Speaker 1: I haven't.
Speaker 2: Oh is it a movie?
Speaker 1: Yeah, she like gets kidnapped and then like falls in
Speaker 1: love with the kidnapper and what. But it's so sexual,
Speaker 1: like that's obsessed with the main character. He's very, very sexy.
Speaker 1: They've done a couple more, but the second one I
Speaker 1: couldn't get into. No, but it's just so much sex.
Speaker 1: It is so sexual. It's yeah, definitely turn you on.
Speaker 1: And then there's also sex life. You've done that, haven't
Speaker 1: You Don't tell me you haven't done sex life.
Speaker 2: I think I started it.
Speaker 3: Oh, you got to keep going, Billy, And I think
Speaker 3: I started it a long time year or two ago.
Speaker 1: You're currently to finish that. Yeah, so sexy. That's another
Speaker 1: really good one. And then you mean her. That's about
Speaker 1: a thruffle relationship, which is not something I am ever
Speaker 1: thinking of considering doing. Yeah, but it was just so sexy.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: The dynamic of three people in a relationship and the
Speaker 1: way they communicated each other and the way they play
Speaker 1: with each other was just so cool to show.
Speaker 2: Like the hardships as well.
Speaker 1: I did. It was so eye opening. And I've got
Speaker 1: a girlfriend that it's actually been in a throple relationship before.
Speaker 1: She was in there for like five years. Wow. And
Speaker 1: the couple actually had children, so she was like very
Speaker 1: involved with all of that life. And the couple actually
Speaker 1: ended up splitting so it all broke away. But she
Speaker 1: loved it. See, It's not something I think I would
Speaker 1: ever do, but I've really enjoyed watching the show and
Speaker 1: it turned me on so much. So it's really cool
Speaker 1: how movies and TV like, I don't like porn, but
Speaker 1: I love movies and TV shows and books more realistic.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I agree, And even with certain books, I feel
Speaker 3: like that like, I'll read ones and I'm like, that's
Speaker 3: so not realistic, and probably because I'm were in my
Speaker 3: energetic face if a book, it takes like half of
Speaker 3: a book to build up to get there and then
Speaker 3: they finally.
Speaker 1: Do you Like, yes, love was really good for that,
Speaker 1: It was really good for that. I finally did it.
Speaker 1: I was like, yes, okay, so good and sexy book.
Speaker 3: So the Deal by Ellie Kennedy, that was a sexy one.
Speaker 1: Writing this down The Deal After.
Speaker 3: I think I've mentioned that to you before, See The Deal,
Speaker 3: The Deal. I read so many books, so sometimes I
Speaker 3: get confused with what happened in which one.
Speaker 1: I know I asked her about. I asked you about
Speaker 1: the Twisted Love series, the third one that I stopped reading.
Speaker 1: You're like, I can't even remember.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I can't realize it's about Was that with this one?
Speaker 2: Or was that with that one? Was that the one?
Speaker 2: It does?
Speaker 4: It gets like that because I read.
Speaker 2: Often, So The Deal, The After After series.
Speaker 3: I really really liked the first book. I had so
Speaker 3: many people recommend the entire series to me. Yeah, I
Speaker 3: got so bored in the second one.
Speaker 1: I was like, I just just the first one.
Speaker 2: I can't finish this.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: The first one was great.
Speaker 1: The Twisted series, I really enjoyed the first and second book.
Speaker 1: The third boring is bad shit. I couldn't even finish it,
Speaker 1: and now I'm turned off to read the fourth. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I can't remember, but the first and second the two
Speaker 1: characters the sex life, I think both were a little
Speaker 1: bit aggressive.
Speaker 4: No, like literally it was like cunt, like yes, yes.
Speaker 1: Come hear you, little yeah tea, and like get on
Speaker 1: your hands and knees and like yes, yeah, and just
Speaker 1: more aggressive sex. But obviously it was consensual and yes
Speaker 1: she loved it, so go you. Yeah, but yeah it
Speaker 1: was I really like those two. Yeah.
Speaker 3: Yeah, the first one was great, so good. Okay, this
Speaker 3: one is a musk oh okay. The Chestnut Springs series.
Speaker 3: I'm still not finished this one yet because what I
Speaker 3: like to do is I like to read like one
Speaker 3: or two, then have a break and go to a
Speaker 3: different book, and then go back to a sexy one.
Speaker 1: I don't know how you do that. I have to
Speaker 1: finish a book and a series before I move on
Speaker 1: to the next one. I remember when I was struggling with
Speaker 1: the book, you like, just put that one down and
Speaker 1: start another one. I was like, no, I have to
Speaker 1: finish it, but I love how you do that.
Speaker 3: I just so the first who though, oh my gosh,
Speaker 3: I actually read it in the wrong order. I did
Speaker 3: the second one first because the first book wasn't at
Speaker 3: the shop, but you couldn't even tell because they're all
Speaker 3: like different stories, but they're all friends. So it's like
Speaker 3: in Twine, similar Twisted, similar to Twisted series, but I
Speaker 3: feel like this one's better.
Speaker 1: It's more realistic, okay.
Speaker 3: And the scenes and that, like I was like, oh,
Speaker 3: it was really really go so Chestnut Spring series. I
Speaker 3: don't know why it's called that, because every book is
Speaker 3: called like heartless, reckless. Where's the Chestnut.
Speaker 1: That's super random, very.
Speaker 2: Random, but it's like Cowboy.
Speaker 3: Oh it's really sexy and it's like a rough like
Speaker 3: Cowboy that's like, you know, not like this and not
Speaker 3: like that, and then.
Speaker 1: Like she changes in, Oh I love it.
Speaker 2: Oh so good.
Speaker 1: I forget what they called. I haven't read them, but
Speaker 1: someone recommended one the other day, and it's all based
Speaker 1: around sports stars and their journeys and how the relationships
Speaker 1: intertwined that I'll have to figure out what it was.
Speaker 2: This is one that I thought was a flop.
Speaker 3: I've had so many people being like, if you haven't
Speaker 3: read Icebreaker, okay, you need to read it.
Speaker 2: It's like a sexy like romance. I was so bored.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, okay, yeah, what was it about it?
Speaker 4: It's just like slow.
Speaker 2: Wasn't that steamy?
Speaker 1: I know? And like I like the.
Speaker 3: Romantic stories and it's nice, but like I need a
Speaker 3: little bit of like twist or a little bit of
Speaker 3: like steam or a little.
Speaker 2: Bit of Yeah.
Speaker 4: So that's one that I would say for me personally,
Speaker 4: didn't quite hit.
Speaker 1: But lots of people recommended it.
Speaker 3: Lots of people recommended it. But maybe now we've read
Speaker 3: like the really spicy books, it's just not spicy enough.
Speaker 3: I think our standard for spiciness is maybe a little bit.
Speaker 1: Steve can knows when I'm reading a good book to you.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, so I can cut. It's like, are you
Speaker 3: reading that one this time? And I'm like, no, I
Speaker 3: want to read a thriller.
Speaker 1: He's like, oh so funny.
Speaker 2: Well,