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Speaker 1: This podcast is recorded on gadigal Land. Always was, Always

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Speaker 1: will be Aboriginal Land. Heytisime out and this is two

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Speaker 1: broad chicks show that shares life, listens and tips to

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Speaker 1: help make you rich in life. And Welcome back, sour Welcome.

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Speaker 1: One week it was horrible. I felt so lonely. Lonely,

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Speaker 1: I know, but you've got practice doing a solo pod.

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Speaker 1: So I still missed you.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, no, I missed you guys too. Glad to be

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Speaker 2: back fresh off the live show. The group chat tool

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Speaker 2: was all done and dust it.

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Speaker 1: I know, it went so quickly. It went so quick,

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Speaker 1: I actually can't believe. It feels like a fever dream. Yes,

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Speaker 1: so much fun. It was so cool seeing like the

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Speaker 1: mixes before the show. Yeah, so we like organized venues

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Speaker 1: and a bar tab for all the solo chicks like

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Speaker 1: go and meet up and make friends. And I was

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Speaker 1: seeing like the stories of where people tagged us of

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Speaker 1: them like going out after the show as well.

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Speaker 2: And I was just like, it's so cute. Yeah, And

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Speaker 2: we like run into some chicks who had gone and

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Speaker 2: they were like, yeah.

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Speaker 1: We made like a group chat after we're all.

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Speaker 2: Going to catch up, and I'm like, yes, like that

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Speaker 2: was exactly what we wanted to come out of those

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Speaker 2: mixes so exactly.

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Speaker 1: And at the show, we had you chicks send in

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Speaker 1: your diabolical stories dilemmas, and we could only read four

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Speaker 1: per show, so we were like, do you know what,

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Speaker 1: let's bring that segment to the potty and we're going

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Speaker 1: to be reading even more of your diabolical confessions, storytimes

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Speaker 1: and advice. So before we get into it, though, what's

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Speaker 1: your obsession of the weeks? Yea, my obsession of the week?

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Speaker 2: I was actually just inspired because Al and I were

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Speaker 2: talking about cozy games and one that I've probably got

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Speaker 2: maybe like a month or two ago now, but I

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Speaker 2: haven't mentioned on the show. Yeah, is the Tales of

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Speaker 2: the Shire, which is the Hobbit game that you can

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Speaker 2: play on Nintendo Switch. And it's like the perfect cozy game,

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Speaker 2: especially if you're a fantasy girl. Like all of the

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Speaker 2: tasks and things that you have to do are like

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Speaker 2: really cute and simple and comforting, Like you get some

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Speaker 2: of them. You have to go meet certain people in

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Speaker 2: the town and find like the rule book of the town,

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Speaker 2: and you have to go fishing, and you have to

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Speaker 2: like garden.

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Speaker 1: Don't you make like a herb garden as well.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like a garden, and then you move into like

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Speaker 2: an old Hobbit hole and then so as you do

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Speaker 2: more challenges, you also can like fix up and customize hole.

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Speaker 1: It's just such a cute fun game. It's like very

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Speaker 1: like Animal Crossing ESQ, but it's like Lord of the

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Speaker 1: Rings fantasy kind of more like that realm exactly. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'm on my Animal Crossing bullshit, like let's let's get

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Speaker 1: the fruit. Everybody in trees so into it in like lockdown,

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Speaker 1: lockdown and everything. Yeah, I reckon, let's bring it back.

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Speaker 1: I'm I'm in. It was an impulse purchase, like it

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Speaker 1: was the Sunday after the live show, and I was

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Speaker 1: like I deserve a treat. Yeah, I deserve a little something.

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Speaker 1: And went to all three shops and like got it

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Speaker 1: price matched and I saved like two hundred bucks what

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Speaker 1: of like six hundred dollars. That's so good. I know.

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Speaker 1: The cheek there was an absolute legend. She was like, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I have one of these, and I was like, look,

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Speaker 1: I'm not like hardcore game of girly. Yeah, it'll be

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Speaker 1: like I'm just a little loser that wants to play

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Speaker 1: online because normally in store they only price match if

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Speaker 1: in that center right Like it'd be like if there's

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Speaker 1: a Jbi Hi Fi, what's the BONDI Harvey Norman doing?

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Speaker 1: And that's what they price match. But she went through

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Speaker 1: all the internet, and all the internet. She went through

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Speaker 1: it for like the absolute cheapest. And the thing is,

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Speaker 1: I was like, do you have a kiss? Literally, come

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Speaker 1: on now you stop that. But also keep going, Oh,

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Speaker 1: what's the day. Oh my god, I just realized the

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Speaker 1: new Witch season's out in three days. I know, I know,

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I'll see, Okay. My obsession of the

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Speaker 1: The twenty twenty four season sounded exactly the same, I know,

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Speaker 1: but we we are bringing back the Two Broke Chicks

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Speaker 1: Black Friday Sales cheat sheet. She is loading, she is prepped,

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Speaker 1: single sale event, we create the Two Broach Chicks sales

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Speaker 1: cheat sheet, and Black Friday is our biggest sales cheat sheet.

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Speaker 2: Of the year.

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Speaker 1: We spend hours manually going through all the sales and

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Speaker 1: picking the best ones to put in a cheat sheet.

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Speaker 1: We collect all the best sales from fashion, beauty, lifestyle, home, travel, accessories.

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Speaker 1: If it's on sale, you name it, you know it's

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Speaker 1: in there. And this year we are going to be

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Speaker 1: doing our charity initiative again, so we will be donating

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Speaker 1: one hundred percent of affiliate revenue that we own from

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Speaker 1: we want to be able to do something good with that.

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Speaker 1: So if you want to shop Black Friday and click

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but that's my obsession. I'm obsessed with us. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I love that. Yeah, it's queez. Seriously all right, shall

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Speaker 1: we get into our diabolical confessions. It's high sound. Now,

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Speaker 1: this isn't exactly a convention, but it is a crazy

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna eat feed us okay. My ex boyfriend and

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Speaker 1: not doing okay and that his mom's cancer had come back.

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Speaker 1: been spreading news about my wife that isn't true. Yes, dad, Oh, speechless,

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Speaker 1: he said, his wife has never had cancer, She's completely healthy,

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Speaker 1: I was shocked. I said, I'm glad she wasn't dying

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Speaker 1: Straight for work. Oh my god. Ironically, I was told

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Speaker 1: Maybe that's the secret key no regrets. I am a

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, Brava, there is a standing ovation in

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Speaker 1: That's amazing. Oh my god. At the same damn time,

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Speaker 1: the same damp time. What a good story, What a

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Speaker 1: great fucking story. You're still a hot bitch, she said,

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, that's amazing. We need can Oh she

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Speaker 1: three hundred and sixty five days being like you lost

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Speaker 1: I love that. I love that. That's amazing. You can

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Speaker 1: like like celebrity look alike. I'm sure you don't have

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Speaker 1: perfect note to end on. It's a positive note, a

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Speaker 1: positive life. Yeah, I would love to know how many

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Speaker 1: I hope a lot of you. Yeah, they've all been

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Speaker 1: as iconic as that one as two Italian stallions quietly

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Speaker 1: taking you for the right of your life. Well, thank

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Speaker 1: you chicks for having us in your eh hols. We

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Speaker 1: absolutely love to be here. Shout out to the cheeky

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Speaker 1: jocks who have sent in their diabolical dilemmas, and you

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Speaker 1: can also send in your diabolical dilemmas. You can email us.

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Speaker 1: We'll put the details below, But yeah, thanks for having

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Speaker 1: us in your e holes. By Chie