1 00:00:05,921 --> 00:00:13,361 Speaker 1: Apoge production an easier advice. Are you okay? What happened? 2 00:00:14,001 --> 00:00:16,601 Speaker 1: Promise it won't be too much? Bring it in. 3 00:00:17,921 --> 00:00:25,961 Speaker 2: Welcome to our Bestie segment, Girl, this is the place 4 00:00:26,001 --> 00:00:29,201 Speaker 2: for you. Welcome back to She Rises with Ashi and Tiana. 5 00:00:29,361 --> 00:00:31,961 Speaker 2: This is our bestie segment now. If you haven't listened 6 00:00:32,001 --> 00:00:35,120 Speaker 2: to our Bestie segment before, this is all about answering 7 00:00:35,161 --> 00:00:38,201 Speaker 2: your anonymous questions that you might have for us because 8 00:00:38,200 --> 00:00:41,441 Speaker 2: you were needing and wanting some bestie advice. Now we 9 00:00:41,480 --> 00:00:44,361 Speaker 2: share our responses based on how we would respond to 10 00:00:44,400 --> 00:00:46,961 Speaker 2: each other if we came to each other with a problem. 11 00:00:47,040 --> 00:00:50,241 Speaker 2: So this is definitely your place, so take it away, Ash, What. 12 00:00:50,200 --> 00:00:53,600 Speaker 1: Have you got for us? Alrighty Profts Portrayal and Family 13 00:00:53,641 --> 00:00:56,161 Speaker 1: in the Middle is my old Today's episode. Here we 14 00:00:56,200 --> 00:01:00,281 Speaker 1: go friends getting romantically involved with family. My best friend 15 00:01:00,281 --> 00:01:02,961 Speaker 1: of twenty years very recently had a part of ten 16 00:01:03,081 --> 00:01:06,081 Speaker 1: years and two kids leave her. He'd been trying to 17 00:01:06,161 --> 00:01:08,601 Speaker 1: leave her for years. It is an extremely toxic and 18 00:01:08,641 --> 00:01:12,440 Speaker 1: emotionally abusive relationship. He moved on very quickly, and as 19 00:01:12,481 --> 00:01:14,601 Speaker 1: soon as she found out, she begged him to come back, 20 00:01:15,000 --> 00:01:17,481 Speaker 1: and then she asked for one of my family member's numbers, 21 00:01:17,481 --> 00:01:19,441 Speaker 1: and I had a very honest conversation with her as 22 00:01:19,481 --> 00:01:21,401 Speaker 1: she was broken and so were her kids, and I 23 00:01:21,441 --> 00:01:22,920 Speaker 1: didn't want her to go out there with my family 24 00:01:22,920 --> 00:01:25,601 Speaker 1: member for a distraction or rebound, as it would put 25 00:01:25,681 --> 00:01:27,761 Speaker 1: me in an awkward position with my family member who'd 26 00:01:27,761 --> 00:01:30,881 Speaker 1: been crushed by his ex and just started healing. She 27 00:01:31,000 --> 00:01:33,681 Speaker 1: kept asking, and she promised she knew she wasn't ready 28 00:01:33,681 --> 00:01:35,921 Speaker 1: for any kind of relationship, she would not go there 29 00:01:36,041 --> 00:01:38,961 Speaker 1: and just wanted a friend, which was a lie. She 30 00:01:39,121 --> 00:01:41,881 Speaker 1: very quickly used my family member as a rebound and distraction. 31 00:01:42,560 --> 00:01:44,921 Speaker 1: I feel like the trust of our twenty year friendship 32 00:01:44,961 --> 00:01:46,840 Speaker 1: is just wiped. And it's so hard because I know 33 00:01:46,920 --> 00:01:49,201 Speaker 1: she's struggling and her kids are too, but I feel 34 00:01:49,241 --> 00:01:51,121 Speaker 1: like she's really done the wrong thing by me, even 35 00:01:51,161 --> 00:01:53,521 Speaker 1: though I specifically made her aware of how I felt. 36 00:01:53,921 --> 00:01:55,761 Speaker 1: Am I in the wrong for feeling like I almost 37 00:01:55,801 --> 00:01:57,321 Speaker 1: don't want to be friends with her anymore? 38 00:01:57,521 --> 00:02:00,641 Speaker 2: Ooh, I don't think that you're in the wrong for 39 00:02:00,681 --> 00:02:01,721 Speaker 2: feeling how you feel. 40 00:02:01,801 --> 00:02:03,081 Speaker 1: No, never, I think that your. 41 00:02:02,921 --> 00:02:05,041 Speaker 2: Feelings are valid, and I think obviously there's some level 42 00:02:05,241 --> 00:02:09,041 Speaker 2: of betrayal here, Like fresh friend, Yeah, and you wanted 43 00:02:09,081 --> 00:02:12,521 Speaker 2: to protect your family member from potentially being hurt, and 44 00:02:12,601 --> 00:02:15,481 Speaker 2: you knew the place that she was in mentally and emotionally. 45 00:02:15,520 --> 00:02:17,761 Speaker 2: So I don't think that you're necessarily in the wrong. No, 46 00:02:18,240 --> 00:02:21,841 Speaker 2: how you feel is so so valid. However, when I 47 00:02:21,881 --> 00:02:24,201 Speaker 2: think about it, I don't think that this is worth 48 00:02:24,201 --> 00:02:26,281 Speaker 2: throwing away a twenty year friendship if this person is 49 00:02:26,321 --> 00:02:28,800 Speaker 2: really important to you, and I think only you will 50 00:02:28,841 --> 00:02:31,481 Speaker 2: know how that feels like. Twenty years, Yes, is a 51 00:02:31,520 --> 00:02:33,800 Speaker 2: long time, but it's not about the how long. It's 52 00:02:33,841 --> 00:02:37,321 Speaker 2: about how deep the relationship is, how important the friendship 53 00:02:37,401 --> 00:02:39,361 Speaker 2: is to you. I think that that's what matters. And 54 00:02:39,361 --> 00:02:42,521 Speaker 2: I think, for the most part, most things nine times 55 00:02:42,520 --> 00:02:45,001 Speaker 2: out of ten can be communicated through I think so true. 56 00:02:45,161 --> 00:02:48,001 Speaker 2: And it's clear that you're hurt. It's clear that you 57 00:02:48,041 --> 00:02:50,840 Speaker 2: feel hurt by her decision that she didn't listen. There's 58 00:02:50,841 --> 00:02:53,041 Speaker 2: so many layers to this for you because it involves 59 00:02:53,240 --> 00:02:54,201 Speaker 2: two people that you love. 60 00:02:54,361 --> 00:02:55,201 Speaker 1: Yeah, you're in the middle. 61 00:02:55,361 --> 00:02:57,081 Speaker 2: You're in the middle of it, and you tried to 62 00:02:57,121 --> 00:02:59,921 Speaker 2: prevent it from happening and it still happened anyway. So 63 00:03:00,361 --> 00:03:02,681 Speaker 2: I think, again, you're not in the wrong for how 64 00:03:02,761 --> 00:03:05,001 Speaker 2: you feel. But what I would suggest is like having 65 00:03:05,121 --> 00:03:09,240 Speaker 2: that conversation, communicating everything that's coming up for you, all 66 00:03:09,281 --> 00:03:11,680 Speaker 2: of the ways that you feel hurt, where you're at, 67 00:03:11,721 --> 00:03:13,561 Speaker 2: and why you're feeling like you need to lean out 68 00:03:13,561 --> 00:03:16,121 Speaker 2: from the friendship right now. Do I think it's worth 69 00:03:16,520 --> 00:03:19,161 Speaker 2: ending a friendship? No, I don't, But that's my personal 70 00:03:19,161 --> 00:03:22,960 Speaker 2: opinion based on how strong my personal friendships are. 71 00:03:23,201 --> 00:03:25,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, I agree with everything that you've said. 72 00:03:26,161 --> 00:03:28,881 Speaker 1: I also think it's very valid that you were concerned 73 00:03:28,921 --> 00:03:31,441 Speaker 1: for your family member and didn't want it to go ahead, 74 00:03:31,960 --> 00:03:34,401 Speaker 1: and it concerned you and you knew where your friend 75 00:03:34,481 --> 00:03:37,081 Speaker 1: was at and you didn't want anyone getting hurt. But 76 00:03:37,161 --> 00:03:40,201 Speaker 1: we're talking with grown people here, so your family member 77 00:03:40,361 --> 00:03:43,481 Speaker 1: and your friend, regardless of how you feel, they are 78 00:03:43,601 --> 00:03:46,241 Speaker 1: totally responsible for making their own decisions. Even if you 79 00:03:46,281 --> 00:03:47,921 Speaker 1: had to voice that and they still went ahead with it. 80 00:03:48,001 --> 00:03:50,201 Speaker 1: This isn't on you. They need to go on their 81 00:03:50,201 --> 00:03:52,401 Speaker 1: own journey. And if she has used him and he's 82 00:03:52,441 --> 00:03:54,921 Speaker 1: allowed that and he's entertained that, or he hasn't got 83 00:03:54,961 --> 00:03:58,081 Speaker 1: to know her and you know they've just had a time, 84 00:03:58,401 --> 00:04:01,041 Speaker 1: that's their journey. Allow them to do their thing, and 85 00:04:01,041 --> 00:04:02,761 Speaker 1: you get on the sideline and have your opinion and 86 00:04:02,801 --> 00:04:04,521 Speaker 1: have your feelings about it, but then the day it's 87 00:04:04,561 --> 00:04:07,161 Speaker 1: their life, it's not how you would show up maybe, 88 00:04:07,481 --> 00:04:10,001 Speaker 1: and that's okay. We ech everyone does things differently, and 89 00:04:10,161 --> 00:04:13,321 Speaker 1: also we just can't judge what someone else is doing 90 00:04:13,361 --> 00:04:16,601 Speaker 1: when we haven't walked in their shoes. You know, I 91 00:04:16,601 --> 00:04:18,881 Speaker 1: think rebounds. I mean, i haven't been single for a 92 00:04:18,961 --> 00:04:21,601 Speaker 1: very long time, but I'm assuming rebounds have their time 93 00:04:21,641 --> 00:04:24,200 Speaker 1: and place. Yeah, sometimes it is company. Sometimes it is 94 00:04:24,241 --> 00:04:26,121 Speaker 1: you're both growing through stuff and your trouble bonding for 95 00:04:26,161 --> 00:04:27,841 Speaker 1: the moment and it gets you through that season, and 96 00:04:28,281 --> 00:04:30,281 Speaker 1: that's beautiful and okay as well, Like I've had friends 97 00:04:30,281 --> 00:04:32,640 Speaker 1: that have gone through breakups and they've had someone there 98 00:04:32,681 --> 00:04:34,921 Speaker 1: that's just been company and someone to hold them, and 99 00:04:35,320 --> 00:04:37,201 Speaker 1: they've learned lots about each other, and then they've gone 100 00:04:37,201 --> 00:04:39,041 Speaker 1: their own ways as they move on to the next chapter. 101 00:04:39,121 --> 00:04:41,561 Speaker 1: And I don't judge that either. So I think as 102 00:04:41,641 --> 00:04:43,641 Speaker 1: much as you've got feelings around it, I wouldn't be 103 00:04:43,641 --> 00:04:45,601 Speaker 1: throwing the friendship away. I'd be having a big conversation 104 00:04:45,641 --> 00:04:48,121 Speaker 1: about it. And also just like I would let go 105 00:04:48,281 --> 00:04:50,921 Speaker 1: of the need to try to control the outcome and 106 00:04:50,961 --> 00:04:53,041 Speaker 1: the situation of your family member and your friend and 107 00:04:53,081 --> 00:04:55,121 Speaker 1: just let them do their things. Yeah, it's gonna love it, 108 00:04:55,161 --> 00:04:56,761 Speaker 1: whether it's gonna blow up or it's going to work 109 00:04:56,880 --> 00:04:57,241 Speaker 1: or whatever. 110 00:04:57,521 --> 00:04:58,561 Speaker 2: And it's not your responsibility. 111 00:04:58,561 --> 00:05:00,801 Speaker 1: It's not your responsibility, and you can't control it. They've 112 00:05:00,841 --> 00:05:03,241 Speaker 1: grown as well, not your circus, not your monkeys. 113 00:05:03,281 --> 00:05:06,681 Speaker 2: Surely they are your monkeys, but yes, we just. 114 00:05:06,601 --> 00:05:08,361 Speaker 1: Have to let go of some things that we can't control. Like, 115 00:05:08,401 --> 00:05:10,161 Speaker 1: we all have people in our lives, whether it's your kids, 116 00:05:10,201 --> 00:05:11,841 Speaker 1: or your friends or your partner, and they do shit 117 00:05:11,841 --> 00:05:14,520 Speaker 1: and you're like, why I wouldn't do that, you know, 118 00:05:14,561 --> 00:05:16,481 Speaker 1: and let them to them, or like you shouldn't be 119 00:05:16,521 --> 00:05:18,721 Speaker 1: doing that. You're saying that based on your own experiences 120 00:05:18,761 --> 00:05:20,921 Speaker 1: and values and beliefs, and which's okay to have those. 121 00:05:21,041 --> 00:05:21,241 Speaker 1: You know. 122 00:05:21,281 --> 00:05:23,520 Speaker 2: What's interesting as well as somebody who has been through 123 00:05:23,561 --> 00:05:26,001 Speaker 2: the whole like done the whole rebound thing quote unquote 124 00:05:26,041 --> 00:05:29,361 Speaker 2: rebound thing. It's interesting because anytime that I have shared 125 00:05:29,361 --> 00:05:32,001 Speaker 2: time with somebody, it has taught me so much about myself. 126 00:05:32,081 --> 00:05:33,841 Speaker 1: Yeah, they're for a reason, taught me so much. 127 00:05:33,721 --> 00:05:36,521 Speaker 2: About myself, about life, about a future partner that I 128 00:05:36,601 --> 00:05:39,720 Speaker 2: want to attract about that person. I feel like everyone 129 00:05:39,761 --> 00:05:42,081 Speaker 2: comes into your life for a reason, even if it's 130 00:05:42,121 --> 00:05:43,841 Speaker 2: just for a really short season. It doesn't matter what 131 00:05:43,841 --> 00:05:47,001 Speaker 2: it is. And whether for her it was company support, 132 00:05:47,201 --> 00:05:50,161 Speaker 2: emotional support. Maybe she leant on him for emotional support. 133 00:05:50,440 --> 00:05:51,361 Speaker 1: You don't know what it. 134 00:05:51,361 --> 00:05:54,320 Speaker 2: Was that really. Maybe it was just that okay, Maybe 135 00:05:54,361 --> 00:05:56,520 Speaker 2: that's where they were both at, and that's also okay too. 136 00:05:56,601 --> 00:05:59,121 Speaker 2: But I feel like it depends how you label it, 137 00:05:59,161 --> 00:06:00,641 Speaker 2: because how you label it is how you're going to 138 00:06:00,721 --> 00:06:03,281 Speaker 2: perceive it. You know, if for you, you know immediately 139 00:06:03,320 --> 00:06:04,961 Speaker 2: there was language in there of like, oh, she lied 140 00:06:05,121 --> 00:06:08,201 Speaker 2: to me, she did this, assuming that she had bad intentions. 141 00:06:08,401 --> 00:06:10,001 Speaker 2: If she's been your friend for twenty years, I don't 142 00:06:10,001 --> 00:06:11,320 Speaker 2: think that she's got bad don't you. 143 00:06:11,361 --> 00:06:13,801 Speaker 1: And if she's going through a breakup and so emotionally 144 00:06:13,921 --> 00:06:16,241 Speaker 1: like going through a lot, she might be a little 145 00:06:16,241 --> 00:06:17,601 Speaker 1: bit in her own head too, and you trying to 146 00:06:17,641 --> 00:06:20,401 Speaker 1: survive and get validation and feel loved and feel worthy 147 00:06:20,440 --> 00:06:21,760 Speaker 1: of someone being interested in her. 148 00:06:22,041 --> 00:06:24,161 Speaker 2: And I don't think it's a reflection of your relationship 149 00:06:24,641 --> 00:06:26,440 Speaker 2: or the way that she feels towards you. 150 00:06:26,721 --> 00:06:28,880 Speaker 1: I don't know. I just think with every situation, the 151 00:06:28,961 --> 00:06:31,561 Speaker 1: older I get, the more I just try not to 152 00:06:31,601 --> 00:06:34,801 Speaker 1: assume the worst of someone and try to understand where 153 00:06:34,841 --> 00:06:37,041 Speaker 1: they may be at and look at all the options, 154 00:06:37,201 --> 00:06:39,041 Speaker 1: because you don't actually know until you're in their shoes. 155 00:06:39,081 --> 00:06:41,281 Speaker 1: But if you straight away assume the worst and attach 156 00:06:41,320 --> 00:06:42,961 Speaker 1: a story that they've lied to you, they've betrayed you, 157 00:06:43,001 --> 00:06:45,041 Speaker 1: they've done this wrong. Yeah, they've got bad intentions, they 158 00:06:45,041 --> 00:06:47,561 Speaker 1: don't care about me, Like it's not always the truth. 159 00:06:47,601 --> 00:06:49,760 Speaker 1: But then you're gonna it's gonna affect your relationship. 160 00:06:49,961 --> 00:06:52,041 Speaker 2: No, wonder why you don't want to be friends anymore, 161 00:06:52,081 --> 00:06:53,921 Speaker 2: you know what I mean. Story you've made that's the story, 162 00:06:53,961 --> 00:06:56,640 Speaker 2: and you'll never really know her intentions until you have 163 00:06:56,761 --> 00:07:00,401 Speaker 2: that conversation with her about Hey, I want to understand 164 00:07:00,481 --> 00:07:02,521 Speaker 2: where you're at. You know, I did try to pre 165 00:07:02,641 --> 00:07:05,041 Speaker 2: warn you, But what I do want to know is 166 00:07:05,121 --> 00:07:07,080 Speaker 2: is like where your head was at? Like what was 167 00:07:07,121 --> 00:07:07,720 Speaker 2: it for you? 168 00:07:07,801 --> 00:07:10,841 Speaker 1: Like? Was it just sexy? However it wow? Where does 169 00:07:10,881 --> 00:07:11,521 Speaker 1: this go from here? 170 00:07:11,601 --> 00:07:13,921 Speaker 2: How do you feel about where you're at in your 171 00:07:13,921 --> 00:07:16,241 Speaker 2: own head, in your own journey? Like if you come 172 00:07:16,281 --> 00:07:18,521 Speaker 2: in with curiosity, I think you'll get a very different 173 00:07:18,561 --> 00:07:23,041 Speaker 2: outcome than you anticipate, and you might be surprised, Like 174 00:07:23,121 --> 00:07:25,081 Speaker 2: what that conversation opens up for the both of you. 175 00:07:25,241 --> 00:07:28,281 Speaker 1: The curiosity is everything. Yeah, go in with all your 176 00:07:28,321 --> 00:07:30,761 Speaker 1: weapons and you did this. You shouldn't have done that. 177 00:07:30,801 --> 00:07:33,041 Speaker 1: I'm disappointed you've lied, and like coming out her, she's 178 00:07:33,041 --> 00:07:34,881 Speaker 1: just gonna get on the defense. She's not gonna feel 179 00:07:34,881 --> 00:07:36,241 Speaker 1: safe with you. She don't how to tell you anything. 180 00:07:36,241 --> 00:07:38,121 Speaker 1: In future that goes on, You're going to feel like 181 00:07:38,161 --> 00:07:41,481 Speaker 1: there's more lies and betrayal go on with curiosity and 182 00:07:41,561 --> 00:07:45,001 Speaker 1: just like the intention to connect and understand. And at 183 00:07:45,001 --> 00:07:46,881 Speaker 1: the end of the day, this is like your friendship 184 00:07:46,881 --> 00:07:48,921 Speaker 1: should be the most important thing. So it's like, what 185 00:07:48,921 --> 00:07:50,441 Speaker 1: do you have to do to protect that and get 186 00:07:50,481 --> 00:07:52,721 Speaker 1: that back connected? That's a good about their situation. It's 187 00:07:52,761 --> 00:07:54,161 Speaker 1: like how do we protect us? 188 00:07:54,201 --> 00:07:55,881 Speaker 2: How do how do we repair this? 189 00:07:56,761 --> 00:07:58,281 Speaker 1: For me, like, I'm just thinking that was me and 190 00:07:58,321 --> 00:08:00,281 Speaker 1: you like that would be my biggest priority is making 191 00:08:00,321 --> 00:08:02,361 Speaker 1: sure that we're all good. I want you to feel 192 00:08:02,401 --> 00:08:04,201 Speaker 1: her understood. I want you to know that you can 193 00:08:04,201 --> 00:08:06,201 Speaker 1: come to me with all of it, even if it's 194 00:08:06,241 --> 00:08:08,281 Speaker 1: not quote unquote right what I would do. I still 195 00:08:08,321 --> 00:08:10,121 Speaker 1: want you to come and say, fuck, I've done this, babe. 196 00:08:10,241 --> 00:08:11,761 Speaker 1: I know I said I wouldn't, but in the moment, 197 00:08:11,881 --> 00:08:14,041 Speaker 1: like it met this need and I've learned this now 198 00:08:14,121 --> 00:08:17,241 Speaker 1: and like you know, messed up or have conversations. 199 00:08:17,361 --> 00:08:20,761 Speaker 2: Yeah, we're talking then communication is everything. Yeah, I can't 200 00:08:20,761 --> 00:08:23,041 Speaker 2: say that enough. And if you haven't had the conversation, 201 00:08:23,121 --> 00:08:25,161 Speaker 2: I think it's too soon to judge whether you don't 202 00:08:25,161 --> 00:08:27,481 Speaker 2: want to be her friend or not. Twenty years twenty 203 00:08:27,561 --> 00:08:30,201 Speaker 2: is a long time. You know, it's worth having the conversation, 204 00:08:30,241 --> 00:08:30,801 Speaker 2: it really is. 205 00:08:31,001 --> 00:08:33,881 Speaker 1: It's important, but going with curiosity, really regulate yourself, like 206 00:08:33,921 --> 00:08:35,761 Speaker 1: calm your body down, even like map out in your 207 00:08:35,801 --> 00:08:38,201 Speaker 1: note section the points that you want to bring up. Yeah, 208 00:08:38,241 --> 00:08:40,361 Speaker 1: I plan it got chucked into chatchipoutines. They can you 209 00:08:40,401 --> 00:08:43,321 Speaker 1: advise me, like how I can approach this in a kind, respectful, 210 00:08:43,401 --> 00:08:45,801 Speaker 1: curious way and or give you prompts like there's a 211 00:08:45,801 --> 00:08:48,401 Speaker 1: way as you can do this in a really beautiful way. Yeah, 212 00:08:49,401 --> 00:08:51,641 Speaker 1: oh could love an update. Let's know how a conversation goes, 213 00:08:51,681 --> 00:08:53,641 Speaker 1: even if it's not publicly. You can drop into our 214 00:08:53,681 --> 00:08:55,601 Speaker 1: DMS or you can write it an ominously. 215 00:08:55,961 --> 00:08:58,961 Speaker 2: Good luck with it all and just get curious, have 216 00:08:59,001 --> 00:09:02,081 Speaker 2: an open mind and remember like what this is actually about, 217 00:09:02,121 --> 00:09:04,601 Speaker 2: which is about the friendship. Yeah, it's not about what 218 00:09:04,681 --> 00:09:07,281 Speaker 2: she chose, her behavior, what she did, what triggered you, 219 00:09:07,361 --> 00:09:09,001 Speaker 2: Like I mean, there's definitely some work there to do 220 00:09:09,081 --> 00:09:12,601 Speaker 2: and like what specifically triggered you about it. That's definitely 221 00:09:12,641 --> 00:09:15,041 Speaker 2: worth exploring. But right now I think the main priority 222 00:09:15,121 --> 00:09:16,281 Speaker 2: is like protecting the friendship. 223 00:09:16,441 --> 00:09:18,401 Speaker 1: One more thing too, Like it's so easy and we 224 00:09:18,441 --> 00:09:20,001 Speaker 1: all do it like I've been used to. It was 225 00:09:20,001 --> 00:09:21,761 Speaker 1: too like I would never do that, Oh my gosh, 226 00:09:21,761 --> 00:09:23,881 Speaker 1: like I've said to myself in the past, now, like 227 00:09:23,921 --> 00:09:25,681 Speaker 1: get off your high horse. Ash Like you think you 228 00:09:25,801 --> 00:09:28,281 Speaker 1: never made a mistake, You've never hurt someone, You've never lied, 229 00:09:28,561 --> 00:09:29,801 Speaker 1: you've never betrayed someone. 230 00:09:29,641 --> 00:09:32,481 Speaker 2: Never did something for personal gain or literally feel comfortable a. 231 00:09:32,521 --> 00:09:34,481 Speaker 1: Validate ever being selfish. Of course you have. 232 00:09:34,561 --> 00:09:36,041 Speaker 2: I tried to get someone's attention before. 233 00:09:36,161 --> 00:09:38,161 Speaker 1: Literally It's like I'm not saying for you to get 234 00:09:38,161 --> 00:09:39,601 Speaker 1: off your high horse. But I say that to myself 235 00:09:39,601 --> 00:09:41,641 Speaker 1: sometimes because it just brings me back down to like 236 00:09:41,961 --> 00:09:44,201 Speaker 1: we're all living life for the first time. We're all 237 00:09:44,201 --> 00:09:46,601 Speaker 1: trying to navigate this. We all don't know how the 238 00:09:46,641 --> 00:09:48,921 Speaker 1: other person's feeling and their exact experience. If we can 239 00:09:48,961 --> 00:09:52,401 Speaker 1: all just come to get the collectively communicate with curiosity, kindness, 240 00:09:52,401 --> 00:09:55,361 Speaker 1: and respect. The whole outcome and result would be ten 241 00:09:55,441 --> 00:09:59,001 Speaker 1: times better. Yeah, yeah, absolutely all right. I would love 242 00:09:59,001 --> 00:10:01,241 Speaker 1: an update. Please bring it in otherwise I'll see you 243 00:10:01,281 --> 00:10:08,521 Speaker 1: tomorrow for Wednesday's episode. Bye.