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Speaker 1: Hey, everyone, it's Carlie Taylor here for this week's Mojo Monday.

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Speaker 1: So there's a little phrase I want to introduce you to,

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Speaker 1: and that is be where your feet are. So I

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Speaker 1: would be so curious to know what came into your

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Speaker 1: mind when I said that phrase, be where your feet are,

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Speaker 1: because so often we're actually not where we are right now.

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Speaker 1: So our minds are often the future or the past,

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Speaker 1: or we're thinking about all the things that we've got

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Speaker 1: to do, the people who are relying on us, the

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Speaker 1: things we should be doing, the things we shouldn't have done.

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Speaker 1: And it's no wonder we get overwhelmed and exhausted. And

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Speaker 1: I'm not promising a cure for all that, but I

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Speaker 1: am going to give you a bit of a strategy

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Speaker 1: to manage it, and that is to be where your

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Speaker 1: feet are. It's so easy to get trapped in your

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Speaker 1: feelings exhaustion, stress, hopelessness, and your mind tends to shrink

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Speaker 1: everything down until it feels like that's all there is.

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Speaker 1: It's like you are your feelings. It's like you're looking

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Speaker 1: at life through blinkers either side of your face, like

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Speaker 1: a horse, so you can't see beyond how you feel

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Speaker 1: and then you feel stuck, stuck in this prison of

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Speaker 1: your mind and a prison of your nervous system. But

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Speaker 1: your feet aren't stuck. You can always control what you

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Speaker 1: do with your feet. So you can't always control what

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Speaker 1: you feel, but unless you have a disability, you can

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Speaker 1: control what you do with your body. You can press

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Speaker 1: your feet into the ground, which is something I do

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Speaker 1: all the time. If I feel my mind wandering off

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Speaker 1: to thoughts that just aren't helpful to me, I press

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Speaker 1: my feet into the ground, and it reminds me. It's

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Speaker 1: kind of a bit of a trigger to me that

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Speaker 1: I have control over my body and I'm here. So

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Speaker 1: you can stand up, you can take a step forward,

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Speaker 1: you can move even if your mind feels like it can't.

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Speaker 1: And there's this really effective practice that it reminded me of.

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Speaker 1: It's an exercise by Russ Harris who and it's called

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Speaker 1: dropping anchor, and it's basically, notice what's going inside you,

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Speaker 1: So notice your thoughts, notice your feelings, and then shift

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Speaker 1: your attention to your body. Press your feet into the floor,

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Speaker 1: roll your shoulders back, take a stretch so those feelings

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Speaker 1: and thoughts are still there, and then your body's here,

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Speaker 1: and then you look around, what's here? What can you see,

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Speaker 1: what can you hear? What can you touch? So you

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Speaker 1: can see that sort of that three levels. There's these

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Speaker 1: feelings and thoughts going on inside of us. We have

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Speaker 1: this body that we have control over, and then there's

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Speaker 1: the outside world. And when you do that, what tends

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Speaker 1: to happen is those blinkers slowly come off. Life stops

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Speaker 1: being just about how exhausted or overwhelmed you feel. It

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Speaker 1: also becomes about the sound of a bird outside, or

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Speaker 1: the shadows created by the light coming through the window,

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Speaker 1: or the fact water comes out of a tap when

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Speaker 1: you turn it on so you can drink it, which

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Speaker 1: is pretty amazing when you think about it. And when

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Speaker 1: this perspective of your life widens this way, you can

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Speaker 1: start to feel this sense of gratitude for what you have,

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Speaker 1: rather than putting all your attention on how crappy you feel.

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Speaker 1: And from there you take a step not to do

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Speaker 1: everything all at once. You know it could be making

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Speaker 1: a nutritious meal, replying to that text message, going for

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Speaker 1: a walk and looking around you, being curious about your environment,

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Speaker 1: putting your laundry away, or pulling some weeds. You take

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Speaker 1: your feelings with you and you move your body. And

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Speaker 1: I said to I was working with a teenager the

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Speaker 1: other day and we were going through this, and I

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Speaker 1: said to her, put your feelings in a little tope

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Speaker 1: bag and just take them along with you while you

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Speaker 1: focus on what you need to do. So that's what

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Speaker 1: b where your feet means to me. It's not about

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Speaker 1: fixing your feelings. It's about more about getting unstuck and

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Speaker 1: grounding yourself in the here and now and then noticing

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Speaker 1: that there's always something else around you, some little path forwards,

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Speaker 1: because life's not black and white, and it's also not easy.

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Speaker 1: It's not about waiting for life to get better only

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Speaker 1: when you feel better. It's not about waiting for these

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Speaker 1: feelings to pass, because if you do that, you may

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Speaker 1: be waiting a long time. It's about being where you're

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Speaker 1: f feet are pivoting, adapting, doing what you need to

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Speaker 1: do at this moment. And when you approach life like that,

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Speaker 1: anchored in the present, that's where we can become more resilient.

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Speaker 1: Not to tougher out or deny how you feel, but

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Speaker 1: to be aware to accept, to open up, open up

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Speaker 1: to where your feet are right now, and then move forward.

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Speaker 1: So if you are feeling worn out this week. If

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Speaker 1: you are feeling exhausted overwhelmed, try this. Try being where

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Speaker 1: your feet are drop an anchor, drop an anchor to

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Speaker 1: hold yourself steady in the emotional storm you might be

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Speaker 1: going through. Notice your feelings, notice your thoughts, notice your body,

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Speaker 1: move your body, press your feet into the ground. Then

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Speaker 1: notice what's around you in the outside world, and then

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Speaker 1: move forward. So I hope that is a practical, practical,

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Speaker 1: and helpful little exercise that you can do, especially if

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Speaker 1: you are feeling overwhelmed. I hope you all have a

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Speaker 1: great week and I will catch you next week. See ya.