WEBVTT - Why Does Everything Have to Be a Side Hustle? 0:00:00.390 --> 0:00:04.510 Hi, I'm Adele and welcome to Pretty Sure, the podcast 0:00:04.530 --> 0:00:07.390 where we talk about the things everyone thinks about but 0:00:07.450 --> 0:00:09.760 nobody says out loud. Each week I'll be sharing my 0:00:09.789 --> 0:00:13.860 Pretty Sure opinions, unpacking the internet's biggest conversations and figuring 0:00:13.920 --> 0:00:17.259 out the things I'm not so sure about right alongside you. 0:00:17.540 --> 0:00:19.980 And if a conversation ever feels a little too heavy, 0:00:20.020 --> 0:00:23.079 we'll always include support resources in the show notes. Please 0:00:23.100 --> 0:00:26.270 take care of yourselves, seek professional help if needed, or 0:00:26.340 --> 0:00:28.770 skip the entire episode if it's not for you. Now, 0:00:28.990 --> 0:00:32.330 let's get into the show. Hey, Kitchy. 0:00:32.390 --> 0:00:34.850 Morning. Morning, morning, morning. 0:00:35.090 --> 0:00:37.230 Before we start, can we just talk about the fact 0:00:37.270 --> 0:00:38.870 that we were at the same event and we didn't 0:00:38.890 --> 0:00:41.310 see each other, which was crazy because you think that 0:00:41.380 --> 0:00:44.160 we like come together at these things. There's so many 0:00:44.240 --> 0:00:46.400 people in that room. I kind of got a little 0:00:46.420 --> 0:00:48.940 bit overstimulated, but I was like so happy for my 0:00:49.040 --> 0:00:50.720 friend for this collaboration. 0:00:50.940 --> 0:00:53.280 Yeah. I saw you at the back at one point 0:00:53.380 --> 0:00:55.610 and I was like, there's my girl. And I went 0:00:55.630 --> 0:00:55.970 to get a. 0:00:55.950 --> 0:00:59.030 Drink and then gone, gone. I think I had people 0:00:59.050 --> 0:01:01.510 like the problem with me at these events is like I, 0:01:01.790 --> 0:01:03.250 someone will come up to me. I'll just yap and 0:01:03.270 --> 0:01:04.850 yap and yap and yap and yap. I'll get distracted 0:01:04.890 --> 0:01:06.730 by someone else and yap and yap and yap. And 0:01:06.770 --> 0:01:08.670 I slowly make my way through the room and all 0:01:08.709 --> 0:01:10.490 I'm doing is talking the entire time. And then I 0:01:10.500 --> 0:01:13.080 get in my car and I'm like dead silent. That's 0:01:13.100 --> 0:01:15.280 what it sounds like to not have me, to not 0:01:15.300 --> 0:01:17.480 have me yap away. I want to give a shout 0:01:17.520 --> 0:01:20.760 out to Liz because she is a really cool content creator. 0:01:20.800 --> 0:01:22.800 But not only that, she's a really fucking good person. 0:01:23.310 --> 0:01:27.270 When we speak about Liz as a makeup artist, Elizabeth 0:01:27.430 --> 0:01:30.090 C will pop her name in the description. I'm going 0:01:30.110 --> 0:01:32.750 to give her kudos notes because whenever I want to 0:01:32.990 --> 0:01:35.170 shop around for something new or try something new in 0:01:35.190 --> 0:01:37.470 terms of the makeup category, it's really nice to have 0:01:37.650 --> 0:01:39.709 another makeup artist that you can bounce off and you 0:01:39.730 --> 0:01:43.070 can yap about. She introduced me to the Half Magic 0:01:43.090 --> 0:01:44.149 Lip Liners. Have you used them? 0:01:44.310 --> 0:01:44.830 No. 0:01:44.850 --> 0:01:47.600 No. I'm wearing them today. Okay. Stunning. When I say 0:01:47.620 --> 0:01:50.560 I've unboxed them this morning, unboxed them this morning and 0:01:50.580 --> 0:01:51.960 I used one of them last night. 0:01:52.000 --> 0:01:52.180 Yep. 0:01:52.360 --> 0:01:54.800 But I got three of them and I'm loving them. 0:01:55.020 --> 0:01:57.640 Yeah. It looks really good. I feel like the tone's amazing. 0:01:57.700 --> 0:02:00.059 So thanks for the makeup tips because actually we do 0:02:00.100 --> 0:02:02.700 get a lot of Auntie Adele questions of people who 0:02:02.820 --> 0:02:05.840 come to you for makeup tips and advice. So hopefully 0:02:05.860 --> 0:02:06.640 they found that helpful. 0:02:06.660 --> 0:02:08.760 I'll throw out my recs. As I like things, I'll 0:02:08.780 --> 0:02:10.540 naturally throw them out, you know, and then we can 0:02:10.560 --> 0:02:12.589 yap about them together. All right, shall we get into 0:02:12.610 --> 0:02:13.070 Pretty Sure? 0:02:13.150 --> 0:02:14.030 Let's do it. 0:02:14.230 --> 0:02:16.230 Okay, this week we're talking about how I'm pretty sure 0:02:16.270 --> 0:02:19.000 not everything has to be a business. All right. You 0:02:19.030 --> 0:02:21.620 don't have to turn a hobby into a side quest, 0:02:21.880 --> 0:02:24.320 a business. You don't have to turn the thing that 0:02:24.360 --> 0:02:28.680 you most love into money and commercialize it somehow. I 0:02:28.820 --> 0:02:31.160 am not... the rule of thumb to follow for this 0:02:31.780 --> 0:02:34.430 because I fear after I wanted to speak about this, 0:02:34.530 --> 0:02:36.750 I looked internally and I was like, oh my God, 0:02:37.070 --> 0:02:41.250 I am really, really, really terrible at this. The idea 0:02:41.330 --> 0:02:43.850 is that you can just get into pottery, if that's 0:02:43.889 --> 0:02:46.750 your hobby, and you can love the fact that you 0:02:46.790 --> 0:02:48.510 do pottery and you don't have to share it. You 0:02:48.530 --> 0:02:50.000 don't have to sell it. You don't have to turn 0:02:50.010 --> 0:02:52.359 it into this thing where you're like commercializing it, right? 0:02:52.800 --> 0:02:56.660 But if I look at my life, every single hobby 0:02:57.060 --> 0:03:00.930 that I have Put time and effort. I don't want 0:03:00.950 --> 0:03:03.790 to say naturally excel in because you don't naturally excel 0:03:03.830 --> 0:03:08.350 in anything. It's time, effort, practice, skill set that you 0:03:08.370 --> 0:03:11.990 grow over time. I have turned into a job. Yep. 0:03:12.410 --> 0:03:13.340 I've turned it into a job. 0:03:13.350 --> 0:03:15.010 Give us the rundown. 0:03:15.070 --> 0:03:19.810 Okay. So I've always loved makeup ever since a kid. 0:03:19.830 --> 0:03:22.090 I've loved makeup. I've loved beauty. So then whilst I 0:03:22.130 --> 0:03:23.690 was at uni, I was like, why don't I do 0:03:23.710 --> 0:03:25.990 a beauty degree so I can work in retail makeup 0:03:26.050 --> 0:03:27.750 and have that on the side and then be a 0:03:27.790 --> 0:03:30.590 makeup artist? And then I started working at Napoleon Pertus 0:03:30.950 --> 0:03:33.410 as a casual employee. I then made my way through 0:03:33.450 --> 0:03:36.410 Napoleon Pertus, ended up as a head educator for the brand. 0:03:36.810 --> 0:03:39.400 And I was a head educator for Napoleon Pertus. I 0:03:39.470 --> 0:03:44.010 turned being a makeup artist into a job. Yep. Which 0:03:44.070 --> 0:03:46.770 then I was like, well, I'm doing this and I 0:03:46.810 --> 0:03:49.450 finished uni now and I've got a full time job. 0:03:49.470 --> 0:03:50.670 So I'm going to stick in this. And then I 0:03:50.710 --> 0:03:54.190 moved it to freelance and then I moved into corporate marketing. 0:03:54.470 --> 0:03:56.450 But I still was doing makeup artistry on the side 0:03:56.470 --> 0:03:59.460 and I turned this full blown passion into a job. 0:04:00.160 --> 0:04:02.860 Then I got so busy with content down the track 0:04:02.900 --> 0:04:04.760 that I ended up being like, I can't take clients 0:04:04.820 --> 0:04:07.740 anymore because my job has now reformed itself from being 0:04:07.760 --> 0:04:11.380 like a makeup artist in store and having bridal clients consistently, 0:04:11.420 --> 0:04:15.080 which very blessed love my clients, into content, right? So 0:04:15.100 --> 0:04:17.960 I'm now making money off makeup artistry through content, which 0:04:18.000 --> 0:04:20.690 is fabulous. If we move into my next hobby, which 0:04:20.700 --> 0:04:23.890 was then Pilates, I discovered Pilates. I was like, oh 0:04:23.930 --> 0:04:26.530 my God, I love Pilates. I love Pilates so much. 0:04:26.570 --> 0:04:28.110 I love what it's done for my body. I love 0:04:28.150 --> 0:04:32.700 how much I love how much it's affected my polycystic 0:04:32.820 --> 0:04:35.720 ovary syndrome in a positive way and I'm able to 0:04:35.760 --> 0:04:38.380 like reduce my stress. I want to have that imprint 0:04:38.440 --> 0:04:41.490 on other women. I want to become a Pilates instructor. 0:04:41.510 --> 0:04:42.930 So what do I do? I go do a course. 0:04:42.970 --> 0:04:45.990 I become a Pilates instructor and now I'm a Pilates instructor. Okay. 0:04:46.690 --> 0:04:49.170 And then we move into painting. Okay. 0:04:49.430 --> 0:04:50.780 Yeah, this one was new for me. 0:04:50.779 --> 0:04:52.920 This is new. I don't really speak about this often. 0:04:53.790 --> 0:04:57.430 I love painting. I love textural painting. I love playing. 0:04:57.490 --> 0:05:01.409 I'm very creative, right? I love that aspect of it. 0:05:02.370 --> 0:05:04.660 I started painting and then people were asking for commission 0:05:04.680 --> 0:05:06.539 pieces at one point. So then I started doing commission 0:05:06.580 --> 0:05:08.240 pieces at one point and I was like, hang on 0:05:08.260 --> 0:05:13.280 a second. I've now turned all of these hobbies into 0:05:13.320 --> 0:05:15.500 businesses and I'm not doing it just for the love 0:05:15.520 --> 0:05:17.820 of doing it, right? The one thing that I have 0:05:17.890 --> 0:05:20.669 for the love of doing it was cooking, right? I 0:05:20.730 --> 0:05:23.350 found that cooking in my kitchen was something that I 0:05:23.390 --> 0:05:25.370 could do myself. And no, I didn't turn into a 0:05:25.410 --> 0:05:27.510 catering business or anything like that. But if you think 0:05:27.570 --> 0:05:30.950 about it, guys, I cook in a lot of my content. 0:05:31.540 --> 0:05:34.700 And then a lot of brands want to throw me 0:05:34.740 --> 0:05:38.430 in some ads if they're like, selling a dishwashing tablet 0:05:38.650 --> 0:05:40.630 or if they're selling, they want me to do an 0:05:40.800 --> 0:05:43.420 ad for a particular chopping board or a knife set 0:05:43.520 --> 0:05:46.100 or a pair of pans or a spice mix or 0:05:46.120 --> 0:05:49.120 a particular rice or a noodle or a milk or 0:05:49.200 --> 0:05:53.860 whatever it is. Without knowing instinctually what I'm doing, I've 0:05:53.900 --> 0:05:57.320 now turned cooking into a job. So I don't think 0:05:57.800 --> 0:06:01.330 I have a single hobby that's not a job. Can 0:06:01.410 --> 0:06:05.029 I speak about something that is very isolated to the 0:06:05.070 --> 0:06:08.229 job that we're in? The question that I'm getting now 0:06:08.250 --> 0:06:10.680 is so when are you going to start a brand? 0:06:12.070 --> 0:06:14.630 And it's like something that's just like, hey, so when 0:06:14.870 --> 0:06:17.230 are you going to start your own brand? What are 0:06:17.250 --> 0:06:19.460 you going to do? Is it going to be makeup? Yeah. 0:06:19.620 --> 0:06:21.219 Is it going to be fashion? Is it going to 0:06:21.240 --> 0:06:24.219 be beauty? Is it going to be hair? Shoes maybe? 0:06:24.339 --> 0:06:24.900 Cooking line. 0:06:25.080 --> 0:06:27.020 Cooking? Are you going to have a set of pots 0:06:27.060 --> 0:06:29.400 and pans? You know, you're going to have girly pink 0:06:29.420 --> 0:06:32.790 pots and pans. Like what's your next brand? What is it? 0:06:32.800 --> 0:06:34.880 What are you doing? I don't think people actually understand 0:06:35.060 --> 0:06:38.010 what it takes to create a brand. 0:06:38.790 --> 0:06:39.930 The energy. 0:06:40.570 --> 0:06:45.000 The time. Forget about content creation. Forget about this podcast. 0:06:45.560 --> 0:06:47.140 I don't know how I would fit it all in. 0:06:47.600 --> 0:06:51.640 And that in itself gives me so much anxiety. It's 0:06:51.660 --> 0:06:54.820 the expectation. Oh, yeah, they'll come up with a brand soon. Yep, 0:06:54.839 --> 0:06:57.000 she'll do a brand. It's the next thing, right? It's 0:06:57.020 --> 0:06:58.520 the next thing. She'll come up with her own line 0:06:58.560 --> 0:07:01.960 of lip liners, right? It's very overwhelming to like sit 0:07:02.020 --> 0:07:04.610 here and know that people are constantly asking you that, 0:07:05.050 --> 0:07:07.170 constantly assuming that you're going to come out with your 0:07:07.230 --> 0:07:10.210 own brand and Just like you're being fed this question 0:07:10.270 --> 0:07:12.210 constantly about like, what are you doing next? What are 0:07:12.230 --> 0:07:15.370 you doing next? Babes, we just launched a podcast. 0:07:15.390 --> 0:07:16.170 This is not enough. 0:07:16.410 --> 0:07:17.250 This is a lot. 0:07:17.670 --> 0:07:19.390 It kind of reminds me of the like, as soon 0:07:19.450 --> 0:07:21.950 as you get married, when. 0:07:21.250 --> 0:07:23.210 You have a baby. When you're having kids. How many 0:07:23.250 --> 0:07:25.090 are you having? Do you want a boy or a girl? Yeah. 0:07:25.130 --> 0:07:27.870 Have you done the nursery yet? Oh my God, Babes. 0:07:28.010 --> 0:07:28.670 Calm down. 0:07:28.690 --> 0:07:29.510 Can I just be married? 0:07:29.610 --> 0:07:30.190 Calm down. 0:07:30.210 --> 0:07:31.610 Can I just have a podcast? I know. 0:07:32.270 --> 0:07:34.490 Anyways, I just find it interesting. I find it interesting 0:07:34.510 --> 0:07:36.790 how people think 10 steps ahead and you're not even 0:07:36.890 --> 0:07:39.490 at that place. Yeah. But then you're feeling this external 0:07:39.530 --> 0:07:42.050 pressure of needing to be there. Who is putting that 0:07:42.090 --> 0:07:44.770 pressure on you, babes? No one's putting that pressure on you. 0:07:44.790 --> 0:07:47.990 You can't say no. That's not for me. I don't think, 0:07:48.030 --> 0:07:49.870 now I'm not saying this. I don't know what the 0:07:49.910 --> 0:07:53.530 future holds. I actually don't. And there's no plans in 0:07:53.550 --> 0:07:55.830 the future, by the way. Yeah. There's no, this is 0:07:55.870 --> 0:07:58.060 not me teasing. I'm not teasing shit. 0:07:58.610 --> 0:08:00.610 Nothing's in the pipeline. Nothing's in the pipeline. 0:08:00.890 --> 0:08:03.630 I'm just focusing on this for the moment. But it 0:08:03.690 --> 0:08:06.350 does add all of this external pressure that then we 0:08:06.430 --> 0:08:08.690 pipe onto and there is no need to. 0:08:08.830 --> 0:08:11.170 But I think also you are, like, someone who, like, 0:08:11.370 --> 0:08:13.000 I really admire because you are. 0:08:13.040 --> 0:08:14.150 Oh, kitchy. So cute. 0:08:14.210 --> 0:08:19.040 Yeah. Because you really do care about what you do 0:08:19.200 --> 0:08:20.760 and you would not just want to put your name 0:08:20.800 --> 0:08:21.300 to anything. 0:08:21.320 --> 0:08:22.000 Oh, absolutely not. 0:08:22.120 --> 0:08:24.540 And if you were to start a brand, which, yeah, 0:08:24.560 --> 0:08:26.100 to be honest, I do see that in your future 0:08:26.140 --> 0:08:28.940 at some point later down the line, not right now, 0:08:29.560 --> 0:08:31.650 you would want to be involved in every touchpoint of 0:08:31.690 --> 0:08:32.510 it and be perfect. 0:08:32.530 --> 0:08:33.050 Every little piece. 0:08:33.230 --> 0:08:35.450 And there would need to be a need for it. Yeah. 0:08:35.550 --> 0:08:36.500 You wouldn't just do it for fun. 0:08:36.510 --> 0:08:39.830 I would think about every, because I've been brand side before, 0:08:40.309 --> 0:08:42.390 that's why I know so much about like what it 0:08:42.429 --> 0:08:45.030 takes to bring a single SKU into the world. When 0:08:45.050 --> 0:08:48.600 we say SKU, like, This particular coffee cup is this shade. 0:08:48.630 --> 0:08:50.740 That's one SKU of this coffee cup. If this coffee 0:08:50.760 --> 0:08:52.860 cup comes in black, it's another SKU. Because I said 0:08:52.880 --> 0:08:53.939 that the other day and someone was like, what the 0:08:54.000 --> 0:08:56.780 fuck are you talking about? And I was like, oh, shit. SKU. SKU. 0:08:57.400 --> 0:08:59.980 I would think about everything down to the tissue paper 0:09:00.020 --> 0:09:03.840 that it's fucking packed in, down to like the unboxing experience, 0:09:03.880 --> 0:09:06.360 down to like how are they revisiting the website to 0:09:06.380 --> 0:09:08.540 check out our other SKUs? Yeah. How do I then 0:09:08.600 --> 0:09:10.500 follow up with the customer to make sure that they're 0:09:10.520 --> 0:09:12.420 loving the product? Is there any faults in the product? 0:09:12.460 --> 0:09:14.900 Do we need to know? Like I think about these things. 0:09:14.920 --> 0:09:15.079 Yeah. 0:09:15.580 --> 0:09:18.199 And I get overwhelmed and I don't know how I 0:09:19.020 --> 0:09:21.599 would be able to do that. And it scares me. Yeah. 0:09:21.860 --> 0:09:22.420 I'm scared. 0:09:22.600 --> 0:09:24.350 So we don't need to worry about that right now. 0:09:24.470 --> 0:09:25.329 Let's move on. 0:09:26.309 --> 0:09:28.270 Anyways, I just find it interesting. So we move on 0:09:28.290 --> 0:09:28.870 to as of late. 0:09:29.010 --> 0:09:29.530 As of late. 0:09:29.630 --> 0:09:29.929 Okay. 0:09:30.050 --> 0:09:30.809 And we're talking food. 0:09:30.990 --> 0:09:35.250 We are chit-chatting food. I asked everybody the question online 0:09:35.390 --> 0:09:39.790 because I had this thought, right, that if you had 0:09:39.890 --> 0:09:43.330 to have one takeaway for the rest of your life, 0:09:43.890 --> 0:09:46.550 what would that takeaway be? Because I wanted to come 0:09:46.940 --> 0:09:50.660 to the podcast with like takeaway recommendations because when we 0:09:50.700 --> 0:09:53.679 recommended all of those restaurants in Melbourne, it popped off 0:09:53.720 --> 0:09:55.390 and everyone was like, oh my God, adding it to 0:09:55.410 --> 0:09:58.630 the list. Oh my God, being there. Love it. Amazing. Cool. 0:09:59.130 --> 0:10:01.280 And I was like, what can I do? for takeaway recommendations? 0:10:01.700 --> 0:10:03.140 And then I wrote down all these recs and I 0:10:03.179 --> 0:10:04.680 was like, hang on a second. If I had to 0:10:04.720 --> 0:10:06.180 have one meal for the rest of my life that 0:10:06.220 --> 0:10:08.350 was a takeaway, what would that takeaway be? 0:10:08.870 --> 0:10:10.469 And did you find out what that would be for yourself? 0:10:10.570 --> 0:10:12.650 I was stuck. Yeah. I couldn't pick. 0:10:12.809 --> 0:10:13.870 Couldn't limit yourself. 0:10:13.910 --> 0:10:18.370 I couldn't pick. So I asked the crew. I asked 0:10:18.450 --> 0:10:22.800 everyone online. What would their recommendations be? And if we 0:10:22.840 --> 0:10:25.819 go here, I asked on Instagram and then I also 0:10:25.920 --> 0:10:28.280 asked on TikTok and it exploded. I was not expecting 0:10:28.300 --> 0:10:29.280 it to explode so much. 0:10:29.480 --> 0:10:30.800 People really had opinions. 0:10:30.860 --> 0:10:35.140 People had opinions about their one takeaway that they could 0:10:35.179 --> 0:10:35.860 not live without. 0:10:35.940 --> 0:10:36.120 Yep. 0:10:36.360 --> 0:10:40.660 We had pizza, GYG. We had charcoal chicken shop. 0:10:40.970 --> 0:10:41.330 Yum. 0:10:41.350 --> 0:10:43.770 Your local charcoal chicken fucking slaps. 0:10:43.790 --> 0:10:44.470 I can smell it. 0:10:44.610 --> 0:10:47.800 Fucking slaps. Mmm. I reckon I would do a charcoal 0:10:47.860 --> 0:10:49.700 chicken and chips over a fish and chips. 0:10:50.080 --> 0:10:52.090 Oh, yeah, 100%. Fish and chips makes me feel, like, 0:10:52.140 --> 0:10:52.770 greasy as. 0:10:52.910 --> 0:10:55.750 I know, but I will say I'll do a fish 0:10:55.790 --> 0:11:00.750 and chip burger over a charcoal chicken. Not fish inside. 0:11:00.809 --> 0:11:01.910 They'll do, like, a beef burger. 0:11:02.210 --> 0:11:02.550 What? 0:11:02.610 --> 0:11:04.470 But at the fish and chip shops, they make the 0:11:04.590 --> 0:11:07.550 best burgers with a lot. Has to be with a lot. 0:11:07.809 --> 0:11:10.570 Maybe it's, like, bread in me because all the Greeks 0:11:10.970 --> 0:11:12.089 just owned fish and chip shops. 0:11:12.150 --> 0:11:12.870 Yeah, okay. 0:11:13.050 --> 0:11:14.130 And, like, that's what we used to have. 0:11:14.150 --> 0:11:14.610 It's a family thing. 0:11:14.670 --> 0:11:17.400 It's a family thing. Let's get back to the Rex 0:11:17.460 --> 0:11:19.280 because we had– someone wrote down coffee. 0:11:19.480 --> 0:11:19.660 What? 0:11:20.320 --> 0:11:23.410 But technically it is a takeaway. I more wanted to 0:11:23.429 --> 0:11:23.990 know about food. 0:11:24.170 --> 0:11:24.370 Yeah. 0:11:24.790 --> 0:11:30.809 We had KFC. We had grilled. We had Zeus. Mad Mex. Pizza. Thai. 0:11:31.050 --> 0:11:34.429 Anything Mexican. Thai for sure. Yeah. We had El Janna. 0:11:34.870 --> 0:11:36.300 Oh, my God. Oh. 0:11:36.510 --> 0:11:36.910 El Janna. 0:11:36.929 --> 0:11:38.580 Where have you been all our lives? 0:11:38.620 --> 0:11:39.580 TGI Fridays. 0:11:39.840 --> 0:11:40.719 I've never had that. 0:11:40.840 --> 0:11:44.660 Me either. Someone said Indian and I love Indian food. Same. Same. 0:11:45.690 --> 0:11:48.490 I also like to think naively that I make quite 0:11:48.550 --> 0:11:49.309 good dal. 0:11:49.330 --> 0:11:52.570 I don't know where to get good Indian in Melbourne. 0:11:52.830 --> 0:11:54.950 We should get some Rex, if anyone. We should. 0:11:54.990 --> 0:11:58.270 If you guys have Indian Rex, let us know. Korean 0:11:58.450 --> 0:11:58.970 fried chicken. 0:11:59.070 --> 0:11:59.530 Yum. 0:11:59.770 --> 0:12:01.010 I don't think I could live off that, though. And 0:12:01.630 --> 0:12:03.510 we had grilled. 0:12:03.970 --> 0:12:04.270 Yum. 0:12:04.330 --> 0:12:06.809 Grilled. Oh, the Simon Says from grilled. 0:12:07.050 --> 0:12:09.880 It's the herb mayo for me. And did you know 0:12:09.900 --> 0:12:13.320 they're selling the sauce now in the supermarket? I bought it. 0:12:13.340 --> 0:12:15.340 It's so good. It's a game changer. 0:12:15.559 --> 0:12:17.220 Oh, I need to get it. I didn't know that. 0:12:17.240 --> 0:12:20.220 Thai food, hot chippies. I fucking love hot chips. It's 0:12:20.280 --> 0:12:25.880 so good. We had a lot. What would your takeaway be? Thai. Thai? 0:12:26.040 --> 0:12:26.339 Thai. 0:12:26.400 --> 0:12:29.380 I reckon mine would be Vietnamese. Yum. No one wrote 0:12:29.400 --> 0:12:32.260 down Vietnamese in this. No one. A Vietnamese I just 0:12:32.300 --> 0:12:33.179 think fucking slaps. 0:12:33.280 --> 0:12:35.059 And there's such a broad range of food. 0:12:35.360 --> 0:12:36.740 Oh, I'm going to say this. I'm going to butcher 0:12:36.760 --> 0:12:38.040 the fucking soup name the fuck. 0:12:38.530 --> 0:12:40.190 Offer, yeah. Yum. 0:12:40.210 --> 0:12:40.670 To die for. 0:12:40.929 --> 0:12:42.050 Is that good takeaway though? 0:12:42.070 --> 0:12:42.890 I would say. 0:12:43.030 --> 0:12:43.929 Yeah. 0:12:44.090 --> 0:12:46.930 Or like how they do chicken and like they do 0:12:46.970 --> 0:12:50.440 chicken and noodles and it's just like charcoal-y but there's 0:12:50.460 --> 0:12:55.079 like this sweet, chilli, ginger, garlic sauce. I'm just, I'm salivating. 0:12:55.220 --> 0:12:56.660 I love Vietnamese food. 0:12:57.150 --> 0:12:57.530 It's really good. 0:12:57.550 --> 0:12:58.410 It's so fresh. 0:12:58.670 --> 0:12:58.849 Yeah. 0:12:59.110 --> 0:13:03.000 Whereas I find sometimes Chinese food, love Chinese food, but 0:13:03.040 --> 0:13:04.540 sometimes it can feel a little bit oily. 0:13:04.880 --> 0:13:07.240 I think it's... Well, it so depends because we live 0:13:07.300 --> 0:13:11.480 in a Western country. They'll often only sell what the 0:13:11.540 --> 0:13:13.660 Western palate is asking for. 0:13:13.679 --> 0:13:13.979 Yeah. 0:13:14.000 --> 0:13:16.740 And China is such a huge... I even shudder to 0:13:16.780 --> 0:13:18.800 call it a country because to me it's like a continent. 0:13:18.880 --> 0:13:19.020 It is. 0:13:19.020 --> 0:13:21.569 It's so large. It is. And there's probably so many 0:13:21.610 --> 0:13:24.370 different cuisines depending on the region that we don't even 0:13:24.410 --> 0:13:24.830 get here. 0:13:24.890 --> 0:13:25.790 We don't even know about. 0:13:25.910 --> 0:13:28.410 And we've just... gone too hard on like the lemon 0:13:28.450 --> 0:13:29.270 chicken of it all. 0:13:29.390 --> 0:13:30.000 Yes. 0:13:30.290 --> 0:13:31.390 Give us something like authentic. 0:13:31.410 --> 0:13:33.280 Give us something like we can have something else other 0:13:33.300 --> 0:13:34.020 than fried rice. 0:13:34.059 --> 0:13:36.420 Yeah, like I believe in us guys. I think if 0:13:36.460 --> 0:13:38.160 we start diversifying our orders. 0:13:38.380 --> 0:13:39.240 How do you feel about dumplings? 0:13:39.480 --> 0:13:41.219 I'll eat a vegetable dumpling. Okay. 0:13:41.600 --> 0:13:41.760 Oh. 0:13:42.280 --> 0:13:44.179 I'll eat a vegetable dumpling. Okay, interesting. 0:13:44.220 --> 0:13:46.640 You? So I love dumplings. I love dumplings but I'm 0:13:46.660 --> 0:13:48.360 not able to have them all the time. I'm like 0:13:48.380 --> 0:13:50.260 I just feel a bit sick after a while, you know, 0:13:50.470 --> 0:13:53.069 and I'm not one for like a dim sim. I 0:13:53.130 --> 0:13:55.400 do love a South Melbourne market dim sim. 0:13:55.960 --> 0:13:56.700 Oh, okay. 0:13:57.320 --> 0:13:58.280 I'm salivating again. 0:13:58.580 --> 0:14:01.280 We need to go there now. One thing I want 0:14:01.300 --> 0:14:02.440 to clarify on this though. Okay. 0:14:02.840 --> 0:14:03.059 Oh yeah. 0:14:03.080 --> 0:14:04.360 So what is my rec? What was your rec? 0:14:04.580 --> 0:14:06.740 So I had five, five options. 0:14:06.840 --> 0:14:07.140 Okay. 0:14:07.400 --> 0:14:10.860 Vietnamese. Yeah. This is what I can't beat. Fish and chips. 0:14:11.000 --> 0:14:11.220 Yep. 0:14:11.640 --> 0:14:13.620 Either like it has to be grilled fish or a 0:14:13.660 --> 0:14:14.560 fish and chip burger. 0:14:14.720 --> 0:14:15.000 Okay. 0:14:15.100 --> 0:14:16.099 Then I had grilled. 0:14:16.380 --> 0:14:16.600 Yep. 0:14:16.900 --> 0:14:18.180 Simon says specifically. 0:14:18.280 --> 0:14:18.480 Yum. 0:14:19.120 --> 0:14:23.260 I had GYG, chippies, chippies to die for chips and 0:14:23.360 --> 0:14:27.430 charcoal chicken. Yum. Yum. They're my five. So you can't 0:14:27.470 --> 0:14:29.150 pick it to one. I can't pick. 0:14:29.270 --> 0:14:30.010 Maybe Vietnamese. 0:14:30.350 --> 0:14:32.350 That means I'm getting rid of GYG chips. 0:14:32.770 --> 0:14:33.170 Oh, fuck. 0:14:33.210 --> 0:14:36.430 And I'm getting rid of, like, the charcoal chicken. It's 0:14:36.450 --> 0:14:39.090 so hard. I can't do it. Anyways, shall we move on? 0:14:39.170 --> 0:14:41.310 Yeah. Let's move on to my two cents. My stomach's 0:14:41.350 --> 0:14:42.150 going to, like, gurgle. 0:14:42.170 --> 0:14:43.120 I know. Start rumbling now. 0:14:46.260 --> 0:14:49.120 Okay. My two cents. So I'm an op shop girly. 0:14:50.060 --> 0:14:51.700 And you told me you wanted to talk about this 0:14:51.800 --> 0:14:53.380 on the pod. I was like. 0:14:54.080 --> 0:14:56.180 Kitchy said to me, I've got this two cents. I'm 0:14:56.200 --> 0:14:57.380 not going to share it with you because we do 0:14:57.420 --> 0:15:00.120 all of this stuff live, right? We share the two 0:15:00.160 --> 0:15:02.800 cents here and I give my opinion. And she's like, 0:15:02.840 --> 0:15:04.980 I've got my opinion. She's like, I'm an op shop girlie. 0:15:05.060 --> 0:15:06.580 And you know, you're an op shop girlie too. And 0:15:06.600 --> 0:15:12.610 I was like, um, am I? Am I an op 0:15:12.650 --> 0:15:16.170 shop girlie? I love the concept of an op shop. 0:15:16.780 --> 0:15:18.820 I love that the cool girls go to the op 0:15:18.840 --> 0:15:21.440 shop and they find these quirky things. And I'm like, wow, 0:15:21.480 --> 0:15:22.960 where'd you find that? Like an op shop. I'm like, 0:15:23.100 --> 0:15:27.320 that's unreal. I go into the op shop and I 0:15:27.380 --> 0:15:31.760 get this like musky smell that hits my face. And 0:15:31.800 --> 0:15:35.240 then I imagine dead people wearing the clothes. And then 0:15:35.360 --> 0:15:39.370 I'm like, whose feet have been in these shoes? Okay. 0:15:40.540 --> 0:15:42.920 Whose nipples have been touching this top? You know? 0:15:42.940 --> 0:15:44.380 Well, that's your first mistake. 0:15:44.600 --> 0:15:47.380 I don't, I don't, I don't really, I'm out of here. 0:15:47.640 --> 0:15:52.080 The first secondhand purchase I made was my vintage Chanel 0:15:52.240 --> 0:15:52.680 in Japan. 0:15:53.100 --> 0:15:53.760 Oh, okay. 0:15:54.260 --> 0:15:58.440 And that's my version of upshoming is when I was 0:15:58.520 --> 0:16:01.250 in Japan. And I bought a vintage Miu Miu and 0:16:01.290 --> 0:16:02.210 a vintage Chanel. 0:16:02.230 --> 0:16:04.240 From a very nice vintage bag store. 0:16:04.250 --> 0:16:06.840 From a very nice vintage bag store where everything smelled 0:16:06.900 --> 0:16:10.040 immaculate and it didn't smell like dead people. And it's 0:16:10.100 --> 0:16:13.040 funny because I admire the fact that you can walk 0:16:13.080 --> 0:16:15.320 into an op shop and find something really fucking sick. 0:16:16.460 --> 0:16:16.750 Thanks. 0:16:18.060 --> 0:16:20.260 You're like, yes, I'm judging you. 0:16:20.280 --> 0:16:20.980 No, I'm not. 0:16:21.200 --> 0:16:21.620 I promise. 0:16:21.800 --> 0:16:24.100 No, I think a lot of people have the same opinion. Okay. 0:16:24.140 --> 0:16:26.580 And like, I do think op shopping is kind of like, 0:16:26.680 --> 0:16:27.900 there's an art to it. 0:16:27.920 --> 0:16:27.990 Yes. 0:16:28.000 --> 0:16:30.880 Like you've got a rummage in there and fine. And like, 0:16:30.920 --> 0:16:32.960 that's why I love it. It's like, it kind of 0:16:33.000 --> 0:16:35.070 reminds me of like the dopamine of a blind box. 0:16:35.890 --> 0:16:36.090 Yeah. 0:16:36.110 --> 0:16:37.570 You never know what you're going to get in there. 0:16:37.590 --> 0:16:38.530 Like, what are you going to find? 0:16:38.550 --> 0:16:40.090 What am I going to find? And sometimes you're not 0:16:40.110 --> 0:16:41.070 happy with it and you leave. 0:16:41.400 --> 0:16:42.620 Wait, so what was the two cents? 0:16:42.680 --> 0:16:45.100 Okay, so I will pretty much buy anything from the 0:16:45.160 --> 0:16:48.000 op shop. Love. That's my two cents, okay? I'm fine 0:16:48.040 --> 0:16:51.900 with buying towels and bedding from an op shop. And 0:16:51.940 --> 0:16:53.260 I talked about this with a friend of mine and 0:16:53.280 --> 0:16:54.840 she was like, that's where I draw the line. Yeah. 0:16:55.120 --> 0:16:56.540 So I was going to ask you, do you draw 0:16:56.570 --> 0:16:57.640 the line there too? 0:16:57.680 --> 0:16:59.530 Like you wouldn't purchase towels? She wouldn't. 0:16:59.550 --> 0:17:01.470 She was like, I think that's too far. I'll buy 0:17:01.510 --> 0:17:02.810 clothes and shoes and a bag. 0:17:03.470 --> 0:17:06.930 I really like and appreciate the fact that like towels, bedding, 0:17:07.130 --> 0:17:08.949 it can be popped in the washing machine. You can 0:17:08.990 --> 0:17:11.420 take it to the dry cleaners and also like I 0:17:11.460 --> 0:17:13.830 think we spoke about this last week or the week before. 0:17:13.850 --> 0:17:15.490 I can't remember which episode. But like some people can't 0:17:15.510 --> 0:17:20.270 afford to buy a thousand thread cotton bloody linen. And 0:17:20.390 --> 0:17:22.330 if they find it at the op shop, pop off. 0:17:22.390 --> 0:17:22.830 Pop off. 0:17:22.850 --> 0:17:24.190 Give it a good wash. Take it to the dry 0:17:24.230 --> 0:17:26.409 cleaner if you need. And then lay that shit on 0:17:26.450 --> 0:17:29.300 your bed. And that's fine. For me, I think if 0:17:29.380 --> 0:17:32.460 I can't handle buying a shirt from the op shop, 0:17:32.560 --> 0:17:34.940 I'm really going to struggle with a towel. Yeah. 0:17:35.300 --> 0:17:37.340 When was the last time someone stayed at a hotel? 0:17:37.540 --> 0:17:40.119 Think about how many people not only have slept in 0:17:40.160 --> 0:17:42.470 those sheets. But done the deed in those sheets. And 0:17:42.490 --> 0:17:43.189 you're staying in a hotel. 0:17:43.250 --> 0:17:44.389 And they're just getting washed, babes. 0:17:44.410 --> 0:17:45.450 They're getting washed regular style. 0:17:45.470 --> 0:17:48.510 They're getting washed and then getting laid back on the bed. 0:17:48.670 --> 0:17:50.490 And think about the hotel turnover. Oh. 0:17:50.550 --> 0:17:52.400 Hundreds of people. I'm not going to want to sleep 0:17:52.440 --> 0:17:53.220 in a hotel now, bitch. 0:17:53.260 --> 0:17:53.540 Yeah, sorry. 0:17:53.560 --> 0:17:56.860 Give me a hotel ick. Right? 0:17:57.160 --> 0:17:58.100 Oh, God. 0:17:58.540 --> 0:17:59.260 That's so true. 0:17:59.500 --> 0:17:59.660 Yeah. 0:17:59.680 --> 0:18:01.080 That's so true. I think if you give them a wash, 0:18:01.119 --> 0:18:01.480 it's fine. 0:18:01.680 --> 0:18:04.610 It's fine. Wash them really hot. And then I thought 0:18:04.650 --> 0:18:05.330 about underwear. 0:18:05.609 --> 0:18:05.929 Okay. 0:18:06.070 --> 0:18:08.570 And I won't be buying underwear from the op shop. 0:18:09.210 --> 0:18:12.149 So where is the underwear going when we're done with it? 0:18:12.300 --> 0:18:13.480 It's going in the bin, isn't it? 0:18:13.840 --> 0:18:14.560 I think so. 0:18:14.580 --> 0:18:16.540 There's nothing else we can do with it. I was 0:18:16.580 --> 0:18:18.980 just thinking about it. Like everything we've ever owned in 0:18:19.020 --> 0:18:21.159 life is still on the earth and I've owned a 0:18:21.200 --> 0:18:22.899 lot of underwear in my life and I've thrown a 0:18:22.920 --> 0:18:23.920 lot of it out and I was like. 0:18:24.000 --> 0:18:24.700 It's in the ground. 0:18:24.720 --> 0:18:25.760 It's just sitting there. 0:18:25.800 --> 0:18:27.240 It's just sitting there in the ground. It's kind of 0:18:27.260 --> 0:18:28.680 creepy to think about. Alrighty. 0:18:28.740 --> 0:18:34.210 Anyway, that's a nice little chat. Shall we move on? 0:18:34.310 --> 0:18:34.570 Yes. 0:18:34.869 --> 0:18:38.060 Okay, so time for Auntie Adele. We've got some good 0:18:38.140 --> 0:18:39.980 ones that I put some extras in today. 0:18:40.380 --> 0:18:41.300 Fabulous. 0:18:41.720 --> 0:18:45.040 And one thing that someone said, give us an Auntie 0:18:45.100 --> 0:18:48.320 Adele backstory, how Auntie Adele began. 0:18:48.880 --> 0:18:52.750 I just started calling myself Auntie Adele on socials when 0:18:52.830 --> 0:18:55.790 I was raging about things that I think that needed 0:18:55.830 --> 0:18:59.130 to be said. One of them being, we've spoken about 0:18:59.170 --> 0:19:02.570 it before, about people going on peptides. I'm like, that's fucked. 0:19:02.609 --> 0:19:03.610 Heroin shake is back. 0:19:03.630 --> 0:19:04.190 That's fucked. 0:19:04.250 --> 0:19:08.060 Listen to Auntie Adele. Because sometimes through the horse crap 0:19:08.119 --> 0:19:11.780 that happens online, we've lost our marbles and we all 0:19:11.800 --> 0:19:15.260 need to touch some fucking grass. And then from then on, 0:19:15.280 --> 0:19:17.460 I think I said it in one video, and then 0:19:17.480 --> 0:19:19.120 from then on it just like kicked off and everyone 0:19:19.140 --> 0:19:21.399 was like, thank you, Auntie Adele. Or whenever I used 0:19:21.440 --> 0:19:24.230 to like talk smack online, thank you, Auntie Adele. And 0:19:24.250 --> 0:19:26.369 then it just, that's how Auntie Adele became. 0:19:26.830 --> 0:19:27.730 It stuck. 0:19:27.830 --> 0:19:31.689 It stuck. So let's read the first Auntie Adele. 0:19:31.730 --> 0:19:32.230 Let's go. 0:19:32.250 --> 0:19:35.980 Hi, Adele. I have a great background as well. Welcome. Welcome. 0:19:36.000 --> 0:19:38.400 We're happy to have you here. I want to know 0:19:38.420 --> 0:19:40.700 if your yacht is as gritty as mine, Romeo. 0:19:42.770 --> 0:19:43.310 That's funny. 0:19:43.630 --> 0:19:45.209 She hasn't worked a day in her life and is 0:19:45.230 --> 0:19:46.229 a hoarder, of course. 0:19:46.930 --> 0:19:47.410 What? 0:19:48.130 --> 0:19:51.739 I've had her taken. from me and then claim that 0:19:51.800 --> 0:19:54.160 she hasn't got it. I know when the time comes, 0:19:54.200 --> 0:19:56.540 I'm going to find many things that I've been looking 0:19:56.640 --> 0:19:57.880 for for years. 0:19:58.240 --> 0:19:58.600 P.S. 0:19:58.640 --> 0:20:02.680 I've been loving the episode. This is hilarious. This is 0:20:02.740 --> 0:20:06.850 really funny. Okay. Can I just say that not every 0:20:06.890 --> 0:20:10.710 yaya is the same. And I think that What people 0:20:10.750 --> 0:20:14.550 tend to forget is our ya-ya-das are human beings and 0:20:14.570 --> 0:20:18.410 they have all different types of personalities. Some ya-ya-das are really, 0:20:18.490 --> 0:20:22.170 really sweet and really kind. Some ya-ya-das are like, fuck you, bitch. 0:20:22.570 --> 0:20:24.330 I'm going to take you down. I'm going to take 0:20:24.369 --> 0:20:24.889 you down. 0:20:25.109 --> 0:20:26.050 And steal your stuff. 0:20:26.109 --> 0:20:29.030 And steal your stuff. Some ya-ya-das like to stir the pot. 0:20:29.350 --> 0:20:32.030 Some ya-ya-das like to tell you to bish off. Some 0:20:32.070 --> 0:20:35.389 ya-ya-das are just like, they're just different. They're just girly 0:20:35.410 --> 0:20:38.130 pops trying to live their life. The fact that this 0:20:38.210 --> 0:20:41.190 is your ya-ya-da I'm going to say it probably stems 0:20:41.230 --> 0:20:43.290 from the fact that like as a child, she didn't 0:20:43.390 --> 0:20:46.129 have much. And this isn't uncommon for a lot of 0:20:46.170 --> 0:20:49.710 this generation to hoard. They didn't grow up with much. 0:20:49.970 --> 0:20:51.990 And it either goes one or two ways. They didn't 0:20:52.010 --> 0:20:53.830 grow up with much, so they feel the need to 0:20:53.869 --> 0:20:57.080 not really have much. Or they didn't grow up with much, 0:20:57.130 --> 0:20:59.859 so then they feel the need that whenever they find something, 0:20:59.880 --> 0:21:01.820 they want to hold it close to them, as close 0:21:01.840 --> 0:21:03.520 to them as possible. And then they begin to hoard. 0:21:03.540 --> 0:21:05.960 So I think it probably stems from that. 0:21:06.300 --> 0:21:06.800 Baby grower. 0:21:07.280 --> 0:21:08.590 I think like your hoard. 0:21:08.810 --> 0:21:10.010 You'll get it back eventually. 0:21:10.090 --> 0:21:12.470 And when the time comes and you're snooping in the closet, 0:21:12.750 --> 0:21:15.190 you know, when she's in the kitchen making something or 0:21:15.250 --> 0:21:17.129 she's out in the garden, you just maybe put it 0:21:17.150 --> 0:21:19.210 back in your pocket and like, you know, maybe slowly 0:21:19.250 --> 0:21:25.310 take those things back. Okay. We have the second little 0:21:25.470 --> 0:21:28.360 Auntie Adele. Very short and very sweet. And it says 0:21:28.470 --> 0:21:30.820 pressure of going on a Zempik, et cetera, to try 0:21:30.859 --> 0:21:33.359 to be thin like everyone else. And oh, I just 0:21:33.380 --> 0:21:33.959 spoke about this. 0:21:34.000 --> 0:21:35.100 Yeah, we just touched on it. 0:21:35.470 --> 0:21:39.619 I understand the pressure. We're living in a world where 0:21:39.650 --> 0:21:42.119 people are getting smaller and smaller and smaller and smaller 0:21:42.180 --> 0:21:46.140 and smaller. It's now becoming the norm. It is not normal, guys. 0:21:46.280 --> 0:21:50.080 It's really not normal. I understand the feeling of the pressure, 0:21:50.119 --> 0:21:53.200 but all I can say is just be as healthy 0:21:53.420 --> 0:21:57.090 as you can in any way that you can. Try 0:21:57.130 --> 0:22:00.330 and avoid it as much as possible. There are long-term implications, 0:22:00.390 --> 0:22:03.430 but also... There is no judgment if you are on it, 0:22:03.530 --> 0:22:05.850 if your doctor has prescribed it for you, for whatever 0:22:05.890 --> 0:22:09.010 the reason being. I do know that it is an 0:22:09.859 --> 0:22:14.540 option for many girls that have polycystic ovary syndrome and diabetics, 0:22:14.580 --> 0:22:17.600 for instance, to be able to control insulin levels. And 0:22:17.740 --> 0:22:21.619 it is a lifesaver for those that might be overweight 0:22:21.680 --> 0:22:23.480 or have food noise in their head. So there's no 0:22:23.540 --> 0:22:27.119 judgment around it. But I understand the pressure. I get it. 0:22:27.660 --> 0:22:30.860 But also... There's pressure about a lot of things in life. 0:22:30.880 --> 0:22:33.760 There's pressure to look a certain way. I don't know. 0:22:34.040 --> 0:22:36.600 To wear a certain piece of clothing because everyone's wearing capris. 0:22:36.680 --> 0:22:39.780 I must put capris on my ass. It's just buying 0:22:39.800 --> 0:22:40.460 into the trend. 0:22:40.600 --> 0:22:41.060 Yeah. 0:22:41.460 --> 0:22:44.399 Make it a considered choice. Make it a thought-out choice, 0:22:44.500 --> 0:22:47.810 an educational choice, and speak to your doctor about it. Please, 0:22:47.869 --> 0:22:51.790 just get professional advice. All right. Let's move on to 0:22:51.810 --> 0:22:54.490 the next one. Hi, Auntie Adele, long-time listener. 0:22:54.790 --> 0:22:54.889 Oh! 0:22:56.000 --> 0:22:59.139 If you count having listened to every podcast up until now, 0:22:59.380 --> 0:23:01.560 long time fan. I'm going to count it as a 0:23:01.600 --> 0:23:05.570 long time fan. Side note, really enjoying. People are like 0:23:06.170 --> 0:23:07.510 coming up to me and being like, oh my God, 0:23:07.550 --> 0:23:09.290 I love the podcast. And I'm like, oh my God, 0:23:09.330 --> 0:23:10.190 people listen? 0:23:10.390 --> 0:23:11.210 Yes, they do. 0:23:11.230 --> 0:23:12.470 People are listening to this? 0:23:12.530 --> 0:23:14.790 It's wild. That's so good. 0:23:14.830 --> 0:23:17.639 That's so wild. I love it. Okay. I'm in a 0:23:17.700 --> 0:23:20.420 bit of an emotional state at the moment. I'm 23 0:23:20.420 --> 0:23:23.550 and my parents are about to divorce. Okay. Okay. They've 0:23:23.590 --> 0:23:26.590 been married for 29 years and about five months ago, 0:23:26.750 --> 0:23:28.429 I told my mom that I think she needs to 0:23:28.470 --> 0:23:32.020 divorce my dad. My dad is quite volatile and unfortunately 0:23:32.060 --> 0:23:34.640 has no relationship with my younger brother. I'm so sorry 0:23:34.660 --> 0:23:37.919 to hear. That's really sad. I'm the only child that 0:23:37.960 --> 0:23:40.580 continues to talk to him, but I'm reluctant to continue 0:23:40.619 --> 0:23:44.580 this post-divorce given the relationships he's burnt and how he 0:23:44.600 --> 0:23:48.540 has treated me previously. He doesn't know that I was 0:23:48.560 --> 0:23:50.869 a catalyst for my mom's decision for divorce and I 0:23:50.900 --> 0:23:54.210 don't think he ever will. I'm going interject here. Before 0:23:54.330 --> 0:23:56.649 I read the rest of this, Auntie Adele, you are 0:23:56.690 --> 0:23:59.889 not a catalyst for your mom's divorce. First of all, 0:23:59.910 --> 0:24:02.510 you're not at fault for the marriage breakdown. You're not 0:24:02.550 --> 0:24:06.100 at fault for your dad's behavior. He is his own person, 0:24:06.260 --> 0:24:10.100 as is your mother. And your mom's probably been thinking 0:24:10.160 --> 0:24:11.920 about this for years and years and years and years 0:24:11.960 --> 0:24:14.660 and years. And one thing that happens to a lot 0:24:14.700 --> 0:24:19.340 of women in these situations is that the mom guilt 0:24:20.080 --> 0:24:24.619 about breaking apart, I use quotation marks here, breaking apart 0:24:24.640 --> 0:24:27.740 a family through divorce is something that many women experience 0:24:28.320 --> 0:24:30.900 and fathers as well. I would say it's not isolated 0:24:30.940 --> 0:24:34.869 to just mothers. This has probably been cemented in the 0:24:34.880 --> 0:24:37.370 back of your mom's mind for many years. And you've 0:24:37.410 --> 0:24:40.350 just gone, Hey mom, it's okay if you do this. 0:24:40.430 --> 0:24:44.450 And she's probably gone, Oh, okay. Big sigh of relief. 0:24:44.869 --> 0:24:47.370 It's okay. And then she started to put things in place. 0:24:47.390 --> 0:24:49.760 So you're not You're not at fault. You're not the 0:24:49.820 --> 0:24:52.590 reason why they're getting a divorce. She is her own person. 0:24:52.660 --> 0:24:55.750 She has made this decision on her own. Okay. Let's just, 0:24:56.010 --> 0:24:59.290 let's just say that. When I think about future life events, weddings, 0:24:59.390 --> 0:25:01.929 et cetera, I'm not sure how involved I will be 0:25:01.970 --> 0:25:04.109 with him. I have guilt over telling my mom to 0:25:04.150 --> 0:25:06.649 get a divorce, but I know that I wasn't the 0:25:06.780 --> 0:25:07.449 only reason. 0:25:07.580 --> 0:25:08.320 Okay, here we go. 0:25:08.400 --> 0:25:10.260 As to why she came to that decision. That's good. 0:25:10.500 --> 0:25:13.560 That's good. I'm glad that you know that. And don't 0:25:13.600 --> 0:25:15.800 really know how to go about my relationship with my 0:25:15.840 --> 0:25:18.990 dad anymore. Can you please help? This is really sticky. 0:25:19.710 --> 0:25:23.330 This is really sticky. I would say do whatever feels 0:25:23.410 --> 0:25:28.550 right in your gut for you. Maybe just let this 0:25:28.630 --> 0:25:32.250 time settle a little bit. Let things fall how they 0:25:32.310 --> 0:25:35.930 need to fall. And you just do whatever you think 0:25:36.010 --> 0:25:37.970 is right in the moment where you can hold on 0:25:38.020 --> 0:25:40.040 to those relationships, hold on to them. If you feel 0:25:40.060 --> 0:25:42.439 like you need to separate from those relationships, separate from 0:25:42.460 --> 0:25:46.680 the relationships. Maybe you might just distance yourself. Don't do 0:25:46.740 --> 0:25:50.000 it for any other reason other than your own mental health. 0:25:50.540 --> 0:25:53.040 Don't do it because your dad said this about your 0:25:53.060 --> 0:25:54.850 mom and you're pissed off that he said that about 0:25:54.890 --> 0:25:57.869 your mom and, you know, he might be volatile towards 0:25:57.890 --> 0:25:59.810 your brother and fuck him because he did this to 0:25:59.850 --> 0:26:03.150 your brother. You need to make your own decisions based 0:26:03.210 --> 0:26:07.740 on how you feel with your relationship with your father. 0:26:08.760 --> 0:26:11.679 If you decide to sustain a relationship with your dad... 0:26:12.700 --> 0:26:15.920 Just because your brother and dad aren't speaking doesn't mean 0:26:15.940 --> 0:26:18.050 that you and your dad can't speak. This is not 0:26:18.070 --> 0:26:21.869 like an all-round fuck you party. It is different. You 0:26:21.890 --> 0:26:23.950 have a different relationship with your dad than your brother 0:26:23.970 --> 0:26:25.950 would with your dad. This is not me telling you 0:26:26.290 --> 0:26:29.570 to sustain a relationship with him. This is me saying, 0:26:30.270 --> 0:26:34.770 maybe get some therapy. Talk about this whole new life 0:26:34.840 --> 0:26:38.960 chapter because it is one. Even though you are an adult, 23, 0:26:38.960 --> 0:26:41.920 it's still a big change, life change. talk about it 0:26:41.960 --> 0:26:44.840 with someone professional, talk about it with someone who's unbiased 0:26:45.440 --> 0:26:48.220 and they can give you advice on how to deal 0:26:48.320 --> 0:26:50.980 with this new chapter that will come with a lot 0:26:51.000 --> 0:26:54.100 of different emotions and it'll be triggering for the rest 0:26:54.140 --> 0:26:56.879 of your life, I will say. You might find that 0:26:56.900 --> 0:26:59.419 when they separate, your dad might find a whole new 0:26:59.460 --> 0:27:01.880 lease on life and might be a different person. You 0:27:01.920 --> 0:27:05.080 just don't know. You don't know. We're not in the 0:27:05.119 --> 0:27:08.940 relationship with our parents. We don't know the ins and outs, 0:27:08.980 --> 0:27:12.550 the intricacies. We don't know We went there when they met. 0:27:13.090 --> 0:27:15.470 We went there when they have all these little layers 0:27:15.510 --> 0:27:17.670 that happen when you come into a relationship about how 0:27:17.710 --> 0:27:20.790 you met and how you discover who each person is 0:27:21.430 --> 0:27:25.450 and what makes them tick. So just let the leaves 0:27:25.510 --> 0:27:28.149 fall where they need to fall and then get some 0:27:28.170 --> 0:27:31.609 therapy and good luck with this next chapter in your life, 0:27:31.710 --> 0:27:36.970 baby girl. Also, thanks for listening. Friend or enemy? 0:27:37.070 --> 0:27:38.409 What would you do? 0:27:41.150 --> 0:27:43.450 Hey, Auntie Adele. My dilemma is that I have a 0:27:43.510 --> 0:27:47.409 friend of around seven years. For the most part, the 0:27:47.450 --> 0:27:50.310 friendship is solid. We don't see each other too frequently, 0:27:50.350 --> 0:27:53.890 but when we do, it's a good time. Aha. Okay. 0:27:54.010 --> 0:27:54.490 We love. 0:27:54.790 --> 0:27:56.869 Over the last year or so, every few weeks, she 0:27:56.910 --> 0:27:59.450 seems to find something to have a problem with me 0:27:59.530 --> 0:28:02.190 and will cause an argument. The most recent one being 0:28:02.800 --> 0:28:04.740 that I asked if she was going to come to 0:28:04.780 --> 0:28:08.120 a run she signed up for with me in honor 0:28:08.140 --> 0:28:11.010 of my mom who has terminal cancer. The fight began 0:28:11.050 --> 0:28:14.129 because I asked if perhaps she needed new runners as 0:28:14.170 --> 0:28:16.840 she was talking about a bunch of pain in her hip. 0:28:17.760 --> 0:28:21.399 This went on saying she felt me asking meant I 0:28:21.440 --> 0:28:22.260 didn't want her there. 0:28:22.920 --> 0:28:26.219 Oh, so because you brought up the runners, the friends like, oh, 0:28:26.240 --> 0:28:27.770 were you bringing that up to imply that? 0:28:28.210 --> 0:28:29.489 That I don't want to run with you. 0:28:29.510 --> 0:28:30.590 Yeah, that you don't want me to come. 0:28:30.850 --> 0:28:33.770 Okay. It continued for a few days and then it 0:28:33.810 --> 0:28:35.930 just kind of fizzled. She also went and got new 0:28:35.990 --> 0:28:38.030 runners and said her hip was good after the run. Lol. 0:28:38.430 --> 0:28:39.410 Okay. 0:28:40.450 --> 0:28:43.360 Another big one, being over that I wasn't very present 0:28:43.400 --> 0:28:46.140 when my son, he was one and a bit at 0:28:46.160 --> 0:28:49.380 the time, was in hospital for months and needing surgery. 0:28:49.710 --> 0:28:52.930 My mum's cancer was worsening and myself getting tested for 0:28:52.970 --> 0:28:55.330 cancer after them finding out I had a lump on 0:28:55.350 --> 0:28:57.970 my pancreas. I hope you're okay now, my angel pie. 0:28:58.130 --> 0:28:59.410 So much to go through all at once. 0:28:59.570 --> 0:29:01.550 So much to go through. I simply didn't have the 0:29:01.590 --> 0:29:04.580 capacity for anything as my life was truly a nightmare. 0:29:04.600 --> 0:29:05.100 Okay. 0:29:06.020 --> 0:29:08.420 These are only two issues out of, I'm not even kidding, 0:29:08.420 --> 0:29:11.740 10 or so over the last 12 months. That's a 0:29:11.800 --> 0:29:13.060 lot of fucking issues to have. 0:29:13.120 --> 0:29:14.020 Yeah, in a friendship. 0:29:14.140 --> 0:29:15.840 Are they of that calibre, do you think? 0:29:16.370 --> 0:29:18.590 They mustn't be that bad, else they probably would have 0:29:18.610 --> 0:29:20.610 made it into this list. Like, these must be the 0:29:20.650 --> 0:29:21.820 two worst offenders, I guess. 0:29:21.840 --> 0:29:23.800 Okay. I hope. I fucking hope so. 0:29:23.820 --> 0:29:24.260 I hope. 0:29:24.740 --> 0:29:26.580 I'm starting to feel as though I can't do anything 0:29:26.620 --> 0:29:28.380 right by her, and everything I'm doing is being, as 0:29:28.420 --> 0:29:31.360 it means to be brought up later on, to argue about. 0:29:31.830 --> 0:29:33.470 It is causing a heap of anxiety, and I'm not 0:29:33.490 --> 0:29:37.090 really sure where to go from here. This is a lot. 0:29:37.150 --> 0:29:38.050 That is a lot. 0:29:38.130 --> 0:29:39.310 I would bin this person. 0:29:39.370 --> 0:29:40.910 What the fuck? 0:29:41.630 --> 0:29:44.710 I've said to myself the friendship isn't serving me anymore 0:29:45.070 --> 0:29:48.040 and I've tried to distance myself but I'm a pushover 0:29:48.100 --> 0:29:49.670 and I don't like doing that to people that I 0:29:49.710 --> 0:29:52.180 generally care about. I feel like I'm reading this story 0:29:52.220 --> 0:29:52.820 about myself. 0:29:53.960 --> 0:29:54.030 Aww. 0:29:55.480 --> 0:29:57.560 I've tried speaking to her about it, but it falls 0:29:57.620 --> 0:30:01.200 on deaf ears. And I met with chat GPT responses 0:30:01.660 --> 0:30:04.790 as she struggles to communicate effectively. So what would you do? 0:30:04.810 --> 0:30:06.610 Oh, that's the worst. 0:30:06.630 --> 0:30:10.110 This is really tricky and really sticky. I think that 0:30:10.190 --> 0:30:13.650 morally this person isn't able to sit back and say, 0:30:13.730 --> 0:30:17.720 my friend is really struggling. Mum's got cancer. I'm testing 0:30:17.760 --> 0:30:21.940 myself from cancer. I'm struggling with my one-year-olds. I've communicated 0:30:22.050 --> 0:30:24.170 all of this to this person. This person knows that 0:30:24.210 --> 0:30:26.730 this is happening. It's not like if you're silent about 0:30:26.790 --> 0:30:29.490 that and you're struggling, you haven't said anything, I'm sorry, 0:30:29.510 --> 0:30:32.050 but that's on you. If you have communicated that you're 0:30:32.070 --> 0:30:33.850 struggling with all of that and you need some time 0:30:33.910 --> 0:30:36.510 and space and your friend hasn't gotten that and the 0:30:36.550 --> 0:30:39.390 penny hasn't dropped on that end, I would say morally 0:30:39.410 --> 0:30:41.810 you're not aligned. And it's not a fuck you, you 0:30:41.830 --> 0:30:45.490 didn't know. Like my life was hard. Everyone's life's hard, babe. Everyone, 0:30:45.790 --> 0:30:50.080 everyone has something going on. It's not isolated to you. 0:30:50.160 --> 0:30:53.480 It's not isolated to her. It's not isolated to Gary, Sarah, 0:30:53.500 --> 0:30:56.959 and Bob. It's just, everyone's got shit going on. It's 0:30:57.020 --> 0:31:01.510 how we reach out. Okay. It's how we go, Hey, 0:31:01.910 --> 0:31:05.469 are you okay? Can I help you in this situation? 0:31:05.590 --> 0:31:07.750 Is there anything I can do to help you? When 0:31:07.810 --> 0:31:10.700 my friends, if I ask them what's going on, I say, 0:31:11.340 --> 0:31:14.080 I'm struggling because The first thing that will happen will 0:31:14.100 --> 0:31:16.420 be like, how can I help you? If I reach 0:31:16.460 --> 0:31:18.320 out to my girlfriends and we do this thing where 0:31:18.340 --> 0:31:20.840 it's like we say welfare check, if we haven't heard 0:31:20.880 --> 0:31:22.610 from them in a while and they might be drowning, 0:31:22.640 --> 0:31:25.910 we literally just text each other, welfare check, XX. And 0:31:25.930 --> 0:31:28.989 they'll be like, I am drowning. Cool. What can I do? 0:31:29.270 --> 0:31:30.890 Do we have dinner tonight? Do I need to drop 0:31:30.930 --> 0:31:32.930 off some dinner? Are we okay? Can I Uber Eats 0:31:32.970 --> 0:31:35.270 you something? Is there anything that I can do to help? 0:31:35.330 --> 0:31:37.100 And it's something that I always ask anybody. And if 0:31:37.130 --> 0:31:39.080 it just means that they need me to pick up 0:31:39.120 --> 0:31:40.740 the phone so they can yap to me for half 0:31:40.780 --> 0:31:43.590 an hour, great. So maybe this just isn't the person 0:31:43.630 --> 0:31:43.910 for you. 0:31:44.290 --> 0:31:45.890 Yeah. But good luck. 0:31:46.270 --> 0:31:49.010 I would say have a conversation about it. Try and 0:31:49.030 --> 0:31:51.070 work out if there's something bigger going on. And if 0:31:51.130 --> 0:31:55.070 there's not, maybe just take a beat. Yeah. Hi, Auntie Adele. 0:31:55.090 --> 0:31:57.090 Thank you for being here and creating this beautiful space 0:31:57.130 --> 0:32:00.470 for us girly pops. Oh, you are most certainly welcome, 0:32:00.490 --> 0:32:04.469 my angel fairy princess pie. I need some advice. My 0:32:04.550 --> 0:32:09.590 ex and I broke up three years ago. Congratulations. Congratulations. 0:32:10.010 --> 0:32:13.090 How are you loving the single life? I hope you're thriving, 0:32:13.130 --> 0:32:13.610 baby boo. 0:32:13.870 --> 0:32:14.910 Don't speak too soon. 0:32:14.930 --> 0:32:15.830 Keep reading. Oh, really? 0:32:16.190 --> 0:32:16.810 Oh, God. 0:32:16.990 --> 0:32:17.470 Oh, God. 0:32:17.590 --> 0:32:17.910 Okay. 0:32:17.930 --> 0:32:20.469 Well, it's okay if you're not single anymore. And then 0:32:20.490 --> 0:32:22.930 a year later became my situationship. 0:32:22.950 --> 0:32:23.810 Okay. 0:32:25.170 --> 0:32:28.530 Oh, back to dating situation. A year before, he dumped 0:32:28.630 --> 0:32:33.230 me a week before my birthday last year before leaving 0:32:33.310 --> 0:32:34.330 for a boys' trip. 0:32:34.510 --> 0:32:35.210 We hate this man. 0:32:35.530 --> 0:32:38.110 I see red flags. 0:32:38.130 --> 0:32:39.210 Okay. 0:32:39.230 --> 0:32:42.230 Okay. Anyways, it's been a year. I feel better, but 0:32:42.270 --> 0:32:44.710 can't seem to get back out there. And I recently 0:32:44.750 --> 0:32:46.610 moved to the Gold Coast, but don't know how to 0:32:46.670 --> 0:32:50.450 talk to guys anymore. So we've binned the ex-boyfriend that 0:32:50.470 --> 0:32:52.430 we went back to, and then he dumped you before 0:32:52.450 --> 0:32:55.380 your birthday for a boy's trip, aka that's code for 0:32:55.580 --> 0:32:57.080 I want to fuck people overseas. 0:32:57.200 --> 0:32:57.940 And I'm a fuck boy. 0:32:58.140 --> 0:33:00.360 And I'm a fuck boy. And I'm a walking red flag. 0:33:00.820 --> 0:33:02.000 So well done for getting rid of him. 0:33:02.020 --> 0:33:04.840 So I'm going to say congratulations now. Good job. 0:33:05.360 --> 0:33:05.959 Congrats. 0:33:07.640 --> 0:33:09.980 I love being single, but would love some advice on 0:33:10.000 --> 0:33:13.850 not being scared of just complimenting an attractive man. Oh 0:33:13.870 --> 0:33:18.150 my God. I actually love, I love this Auntie Adele question. 0:33:18.170 --> 0:33:19.930 It's so different to everything we've had so far. 0:33:20.190 --> 0:33:23.290 Oh, I love this. Okay. So I love the fact 0:33:23.330 --> 0:33:25.260 that like you're single, you're happy being single, but like 0:33:25.280 --> 0:33:26.680 you just want some advice on like how to talk 0:33:26.700 --> 0:33:29.850 to people. This is cool. Okay, and I'm struggling with 0:33:29.960 --> 0:33:32.770 all my roommates being in long-term committed relationships and sometimes 0:33:32.870 --> 0:33:35.490 question what's wrong with me as I know I'm not 0:33:35.610 --> 0:33:39.270 any man's type physically as a mixed British, Asian and 0:33:39.350 --> 0:33:42.250 Indigenous Torres Strait Islander woman. Okay, I want you to 0:33:42.830 --> 0:33:48.070 absolutely abolish that from your brain. That is your insecurity 0:33:48.110 --> 0:33:50.970 talking and I want you to grab that insecurity and 0:33:51.090 --> 0:33:53.370 throw it in the fucking trash can. Throw that away 0:33:53.450 --> 0:33:55.550 because that is, I'm telling you right now, that is 0:33:55.690 --> 0:33:58.240 not true. By the way, Auntie Adele, we share a 0:33:58.280 --> 0:34:00.739 birthday week and I love sharing a birthday week with 0:34:00.780 --> 0:34:07.110 a queen. That's beautiful. It's mutual. Thanks for listening to 0:34:07.150 --> 0:34:09.070 my rant. I appreciate it. Okay. 0:34:10.410 --> 0:34:10.890 Okay. 0:34:10.930 --> 0:34:14.130 I'm excited about this one. First of all, there's nothing 0:34:14.190 --> 0:34:17.280 wrong with you. Okay. There's absolutely nothing wrong with you. 0:34:17.290 --> 0:34:19.649 I want to start there. It is very hard because 0:34:19.670 --> 0:34:22.450 when you're single, you see everyone in relationships around you like, 0:34:22.489 --> 0:34:26.100 what's wrong with me? How isn't anybody attractive to me? 0:34:26.440 --> 0:34:29.280 What's going on? There must be something wrong with my appearance. 0:34:29.300 --> 0:34:31.200 There must be something wrong with my energy. There must 0:34:31.219 --> 0:34:33.879 be something wrong. There's nothing wrong with you. Absolutely nothing 0:34:33.900 --> 0:34:38.180 wrong with you. But I will say confidence is key. 0:34:39.010 --> 0:34:44.470 Whether it's fake confidence or real confidence, confidence is key. 0:34:44.890 --> 0:34:47.430 And I want to say that, let's say, let's paint 0:34:47.450 --> 0:34:48.469 a picture. We're in a bar. 0:34:49.150 --> 0:34:49.890 We're in a bar. 0:34:50.370 --> 0:34:51.910 Did we say we're at the Gold Coast? Yep. 0:34:51.930 --> 0:34:52.649 She said the Gold Coast. 0:34:52.670 --> 0:34:56.150 We're at the PAV. Okay. Right? We're at the PAV. 0:34:56.590 --> 0:34:57.009 Locked in. 0:34:57.310 --> 0:35:00.710 Locked in. We're there. We're having bevvies with our friends. 0:35:00.950 --> 0:35:04.049 Easy breezy. You clock. you clock a tall, dark, and 0:35:04.090 --> 0:35:06.770 handsome in the background. It might not be tall, dark. 0:35:06.969 --> 0:35:12.510 If your type is tall, petite, blonde, and geeky looking, 0:35:13.790 --> 0:35:16.609 you clock your energy from across the room. You think, 0:35:16.710 --> 0:35:19.370 my God, how I would like a slice of that 0:35:19.489 --> 0:35:23.930 hunky chunk, right? All you have to do is just 0:35:23.989 --> 0:35:27.310 remind yourself that is just a human being. That is 0:35:27.370 --> 0:35:30.220 just another human being, whether they're tall, dark, and handsome, 0:35:30.640 --> 0:35:34.820 whether they're blonde and geeky, it's just a human being. 0:35:35.120 --> 0:35:37.540 I think a lot of the time we forget this. 0:35:38.320 --> 0:35:42.360 We forget this and we internally build up this like 0:35:43.260 --> 0:35:46.580 fangirly moment that happens. And it's like very common for 0:35:46.620 --> 0:35:48.610 the girly pops. It's the same when we see someone 0:35:48.620 --> 0:35:52.250 that we idolize online or a celebrity, we're like, oh 0:35:52.290 --> 0:35:54.950 my God, oh my God, Beyonce's in the corner. And 0:35:55.050 --> 0:35:57.370 I would, I would, I would shit myself with excitement. 0:35:57.430 --> 0:35:58.710 I would soil my pants. I'm not going to lie. 0:35:58.890 --> 0:36:01.670 But I know that That is just a human being 0:36:01.710 --> 0:36:04.009 living on the same earth that I'm living on. It's 0:36:04.190 --> 0:36:07.109 actually not that deep. When you start to think that 0:36:07.160 --> 0:36:11.600 way and you start to also consider that they're here 0:36:11.640 --> 0:36:14.040 having drinks with their friends. I'm here having drinks with 0:36:14.080 --> 0:36:16.359 my friends. It's not that deep. That's a person. I'm 0:36:16.380 --> 0:36:19.259 a person. Let's just get rid of this like idealization 0:36:19.280 --> 0:36:21.779 that goes on in the head. Let's just have a yeah. 0:36:22.300 --> 0:36:23.980 And I would say it's going to be really fucking 0:36:24.000 --> 0:36:26.160 scary the first time that you do it. The second 0:36:26.200 --> 0:36:27.819 time you do it, it might be a little less scary. 0:36:28.110 --> 0:36:29.850 The third time that you do it, it might be 0:36:29.989 --> 0:36:33.110 even less scarier than that. Okay. The 20th time that 0:36:33.150 --> 0:36:36.989 you do it, you're just meeting another person. We have 0:36:37.050 --> 0:36:41.960 forgotten how to interact with people individually. in real life. Instead, 0:36:42.000 --> 0:36:44.819 we focus towards apps. We slide into the DMs and 0:36:44.880 --> 0:36:48.259 people are getting sick of it so much that we're 0:36:48.280 --> 0:36:52.820 creating run clubs where we meet people because as we're running, 0:36:53.320 --> 0:36:56.220 we can yap to a stranger that we've never met before. 0:36:56.239 --> 0:36:57.860 So if we can do it in a run club, 0:36:58.380 --> 0:37:00.620 why can't we do it at the path? Go in 0:37:01.060 --> 0:37:03.819 just to have a good night. See how it happens. 0:37:04.350 --> 0:37:07.250 Practice maybe talking to someone that you might not find 0:37:07.310 --> 0:37:09.270 that attractive. Just a random. 0:37:09.290 --> 0:37:10.169 Like non-threatening. 0:37:10.310 --> 0:37:14.060 Non-threatening. And just practice the art of yap, I would say. 0:37:14.440 --> 0:37:17.380 Practice the art of like standing next to someone in 0:37:17.420 --> 0:37:20.279 the bar. You say something random like, hey, you having 0:37:20.320 --> 0:37:22.000 a good night? Yep, having a good night. That's great. 0:37:22.040 --> 0:37:26.800 Grab your beer. Walk away. Okay. Just practice having random 0:37:27.120 --> 0:37:30.230 small talk, saying a couple of sentences and then leaving. 0:37:30.250 --> 0:37:30.450 Okay. 0:37:31.060 --> 0:37:33.560 Sit with it. See how that feels in your gut 0:37:33.620 --> 0:37:35.799 and in your belly. See if maybe the next time 0:37:35.840 --> 0:37:37.870 you can continue that conversation a little further. And it 0:37:37.890 --> 0:37:39.930 doesn't have to be romantic. Just because you speak to 0:37:39.969 --> 0:37:41.690 someone of the opposite sex doesn't mean you have to 0:37:41.750 --> 0:37:43.989 end up in bed with them. You can just speak 0:37:44.030 --> 0:37:47.920 to someone. Learn about Fred from The Pav, who's 26, 0:37:47.920 --> 0:37:53.570 who's a finance bro and loves playing... Astro Bot on 0:37:53.590 --> 0:37:54.110 the weekends. 0:37:54.590 --> 0:37:56.609 I don't know. I don't know. 0:37:56.790 --> 0:37:59.610 I don't know. I don't know what the hobbies are. Maybe, 0:38:00.280 --> 0:38:03.879 maybe he likes to crochet. Learn a little bit about 0:38:03.920 --> 0:38:05.520 that dude and walk the fuck off. 0:38:05.600 --> 0:38:09.319 I feel like the crochet Gold Coast Pav intersection must 0:38:09.360 --> 0:38:11.080 be an interesting type. 0:38:11.380 --> 0:38:14.170 I think, I think, is that your type? It's not 0:38:14.210 --> 0:38:15.510 my type, but is that your type? 0:38:15.630 --> 0:38:17.290 I don't think that type exists. I don't know. 0:38:17.630 --> 0:38:18.950 But you never know if you never ask. 0:38:19.110 --> 0:38:19.510 Exactly. 0:38:19.550 --> 0:38:21.189 If you never ask, you never know. 0:38:21.210 --> 0:38:22.450 I think that's great advice. 0:38:23.100 --> 0:38:23.400 Thanks. 0:38:23.400 --> 0:38:24.580 10 out of 10. Thanks. 0:38:24.960 --> 0:38:25.919 Auntie Adele's here for play. 0:38:26.120 --> 0:38:28.620 And please report back. It was like, you try this 0:38:28.680 --> 0:38:29.360 and it works. 0:38:29.540 --> 0:38:31.839 If you learn about a Fred that crochets and plays 0:38:31.900 --> 0:38:34.460 Astro Bot at the path, I would love to know. 0:38:34.860 --> 0:38:37.180 I'd love to know if that type exists. I think 0:38:37.219 --> 0:38:38.739 we have time for one more Auntie Adele. One more. 0:38:38.760 --> 0:38:39.259 Let's squeeze it in. 0:38:39.260 --> 0:38:43.110 So we're going to squeeze her in. Okay. My best 0:38:43.219 --> 0:38:47.750 friend just isn't a friend anymore. Oh. She will criticize 0:38:47.790 --> 0:38:49.930 what I wear and my life choices. Throw her in 0:38:49.969 --> 0:38:51.910 the bin. Ew. Throw her in the bin. 0:38:51.930 --> 0:38:51.989 Ew. 0:38:52.410 --> 0:38:53.710 Usually in front of other people. 0:38:54.489 --> 0:38:55.049 Oh, fuck that. 0:38:55.590 --> 0:38:59.890 Yuck. Are you joking? She started treating me differently since 0:39:00.230 --> 0:39:03.569 we started working together. I love her to bits, but 0:39:03.650 --> 0:39:07.700 she's choosing this behavior. Did you get that on the mic? 0:39:08.550 --> 0:39:09.069 Can you hear that? 0:39:09.360 --> 0:39:10.640 That stomach rumble? Did you hear that rumble? 0:39:11.239 --> 0:39:14.460 Guys, my stomach just rumbled and grumbled. I think it's 0:39:14.480 --> 0:39:15.459 time for those corn chips. 0:39:15.540 --> 0:39:16.000 I'm ready. 0:39:16.340 --> 0:39:19.029 I'm ready for that drive-through corn chip saga. Thank you. Okay, 0:39:19.650 --> 0:39:22.100 let's go back to this. She started treating me differently 0:39:22.140 --> 0:39:24.759 since we worked together, since we started working together. I 0:39:24.780 --> 0:39:26.450 love it a bit, but she's choosing this behavior and 0:39:26.489 --> 0:39:28.150 I've broken up with men for less. Well, if you're 0:39:28.170 --> 0:39:29.629 broken up with men for less, why aren't you breaking 0:39:29.650 --> 0:39:31.880 up with her? I'm sorry is that all right is 0:39:31.920 --> 0:39:34.299 she all right she's putting you down in front of 0:39:34.380 --> 0:39:39.140 other people that's disgusting behavior like literally that's gross I 0:39:39.160 --> 0:39:41.440 would say bin her she's not your type of person 0:39:41.920 --> 0:39:43.739 and that's the end of the auntie Adele vice I 0:39:43.780 --> 0:39:45.910 don't think it's any more complicated than that how dare 0:39:46.010 --> 0:39:49.510 she did we hear it again wait get the microphone 0:39:49.530 --> 0:39:52.560 down You're like doing an ultrasound with the mic. Oh, no, 0:39:52.620 --> 0:39:55.580 it's gone. It's gone. My tummy grumbled again, guys. It's 0:39:55.920 --> 0:39:59.280 ready for breakfast. We're in the studio a lot earlier 0:39:59.300 --> 0:40:00.480 than we would traditionally be. 0:40:00.580 --> 0:40:01.740 Hence the hunger pains. 0:40:01.980 --> 0:40:04.600 Hence the hunger pains. It's just grumbling, grumbling, grumbling. I 0:40:04.600 --> 0:40:07.870 need to eat. I'm ready for some corn chips. Guys, 0:40:07.910 --> 0:40:10.130 that's the end of our episode. Thank you for joining 0:40:10.250 --> 0:40:13.049 us today. If you love the ep, let us know. 0:40:13.140 --> 0:40:15.020 If you hate the ep, don't let me know. I 0:40:15.040 --> 0:40:16.739 don't think my confidence can handle that. 0:40:17.100 --> 0:40:17.580 Love you. 0:40:17.600 --> 0:40:20.880 I'll see you next week. Bye.