WEBVTT - I am so unhinged!

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<v Speaker 1>Apogae Production. Welcome back to another episode ab am I

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<v Speaker 1>Bad Mom Podcast. It was like kind of Mum's Gone

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<v Speaker 1>Wild on the weekend.

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<v Speaker 2>It was Mum's Gone Wild on the weekend, although I

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<v Speaker 2>heard that it actually got a whole lot wilder after

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<v Speaker 2>we left. Oh really, you and I left when our

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<v Speaker 2>uber driver arrived.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, Uber Sam, your husband Sam. So we had another

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<v Speaker 1>fortieth birthday another the weekend. Everyone's turning forty and it

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<v Speaker 1>was great, Like we had a great time. I could

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<v Speaker 1>tell that you were like ready to let your hair down,

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<v Speaker 1>like at the beginning of the night, like I can

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<v Speaker 1>tell sometimes yeah, you'll be at something, and I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>Rachel wants to leave early, like it would be the

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<v Speaker 1>start of it, like she's going to leave early. And

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<v Speaker 1>this particular day, I was like, Rachel's just gonna let

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<v Speaker 1>her head down. I can just tell already, and you did.

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<v Speaker 1>There was a conversation. I can't even remember what we

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<v Speaker 1>were talking about. Oh, I think me being part Indian.

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<v Speaker 1>And then someone said something else about Asian and he went,

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<v Speaker 1>she's not Asian. I went, well, India's in Asia and

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<v Speaker 1>you went, no, it's not.

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<v Speaker 2>And then I happened to be sitting obviously across from you,

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<v Speaker 2>but next to your husband, and he just sat there

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<v Speaker 2>and shook his head and went Rachel that day. Now

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<v Speaker 2>I looked at him, I was like, Sri Lanka as

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<v Speaker 2>well as a part of and he was like, we're

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<v Speaker 2>stopping this conversation.

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<v Speaker 1>It was a really great example that weekend of doing

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<v Speaker 1>something for yourself and not feeling guilty as mums. And

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<v Speaker 1>you know what else happened when your husband, Douba Sam turned.

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<v Speaker 2>Up to pick us up.

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<v Speaker 1>Not only did he turn up to pick us up

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<v Speaker 1>and drive us back, yeah, but he turned up with

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<v Speaker 1>a bag full of cheeseburgers. Like what gets better than that?

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<v Speaker 2>I think he was probably anticipating, so he turned up

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<v Speaker 2>and he's like, with a whole bag of whole bag

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<v Speaker 2>of cheeseburgers.

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<v Speaker 1>There's been a few occasions like this lately. We had

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<v Speaker 1>your birthday, which reminds me also that I had a

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<v Speaker 1>conversation with a friend you invited to your party, and

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<v Speaker 1>at one point in the night she said to me,

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<v Speaker 1>are you drinking the good champagne or the cheap sparkling?

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<v Speaker 1>And I looked at her and I went, no, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>on the good stuff, And she went, oh, that expectation

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<v Speaker 1>of oh, I should be on the good stuff too,

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<v Speaker 1>And I looked at her and I went, how old

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<v Speaker 1>are you? She went twenty six? Yeah, yeah, twenty six,

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<v Speaker 1>And I went, you've got to do your time with

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<v Speaker 1>the shits.

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<v Speaker 2>Am I a bad mum for feeling slightly unhinged being

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<v Speaker 2>on Instagram at the moment. There's always like monthly recap

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<v Speaker 2>or like what's the other one that I can't stand

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<v Speaker 2>that people keep writing on their captions. It's like monthly dump.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, I don't know why I find dump

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<v Speaker 2>offensive and then.

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<v Speaker 1>They list like number one me and BALI.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't mind it being like monthly recap or here's

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<v Speaker 2>an overview of what I've done for the month. I

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<v Speaker 2>actually quite like it. It's dump. We don't need to

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<v Speaker 2>put the affiliation of dump on the month that it was.

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<v Speaker 2>Find another word atprol fucking chat GBT that shit, use

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<v Speaker 2>some creativity and get rid of dump because that is horrible.

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<v Speaker 2>But I'm going to sidetrack this whole podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>I lives, Oh no, just on the sidetracking the podcast,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm saying something else that really irritates me. And

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<v Speaker 1>this is not against the people, because I love them, like,

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<v Speaker 1>you know people. I don't want to be mean, but

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<v Speaker 1>it's those you know, the little microphones, Oh the little

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<v Speaker 1>fur balls. They're little microphones, but you hold them and

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<v Speaker 1>they're like really tiny. But yeah, that's a problem with them.

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<v Speaker 2>Why what do you find I don't know. Is it

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<v Speaker 2>the location or is it the holding of or is

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<v Speaker 2>it just that we all got mics now.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's the idea of it being too professional

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<v Speaker 1>when it's.

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<v Speaker 2>Just in Yeah. I have to say for work, they've

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<v Speaker 2>sort of done it a few times, because obviously, building

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<v Speaker 2>a marketing background on social media is a tough one

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<v Speaker 2>for every business. But at the same time, they always

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<v Speaker 2>passed me that thing and I'm like, why is this

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<v Speaker 2>so offensive? Like I don't want to put it near

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<v Speaker 2>my mouth and go oh no. Anyway, sidetracked but slightly

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<v Speaker 2>unhinged comes from seeing the monthly recap or overview of

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<v Speaker 2>the month, and we're wrapping April to head into May,

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<v Speaker 2>and April for me has just been just chaos, Katie. Like,

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<v Speaker 2>if I was sitting here and I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>let me do a recap, I wish I had all

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<v Speaker 2>the photos of the shit fight that I've been in

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<v Speaker 2>for the last month, to the point that I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think I've ever been so happy to see

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<v Speaker 2>another month come in.

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<v Speaker 1>I've been hearing this a lot. There's something that's happened

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<v Speaker 1>with the start of twenty twenty five. And as I'm saying,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sure they said this at the start of twenty

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<v Speaker 1>twenty four and then all the way through a year

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<v Speaker 1>twenty two, but something's happened with the start of twenty

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<v Speaker 1>twenty five where there's something going on for everyone.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, whether it's.

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<v Speaker 1>Fine, so so much. Someone also said to me that

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<v Speaker 1>this week apparently there's a new moo.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know, there's another moon, new moon, another full moon.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, didn't we just finish one? Didn't my

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<v Speaker 2>crazy emotional energy just finish so that I can start another. Wise,

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, I don't want to do it. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>going to end up in a straight jacket. Now. Bringing

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<v Speaker 2>this back into parenting and being slightly unhinged. When we

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<v Speaker 2>are feeling it, usually the kids are feeling it too.

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<v Speaker 2>That's how I base majority of my stuff is like,

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<v Speaker 2>if you're feeling it, I'm usually feeling it too. It's

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<v Speaker 2>just whether we want to bridge the gap and sort

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<v Speaker 2>of acknowledge the fact that we're both in a little

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<v Speaker 2>hot pickle at the same time. Whilst I'm feeling it

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<v Speaker 2>and the month has been ginormous, my kids have been

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<v Speaker 2>so testing, and I feel like it is a knock

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<v Speaker 2>on effect because I've been in such a state. And

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<v Speaker 2>when I say state, I mean like we started off

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<v Speaker 2>my birthday party into their birthday parties. Also throw in

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<v Speaker 2>their school holidays.

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<v Speaker 1>And then there's also been like seven hundred public colaba.

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<v Speaker 2>So many public holidays, throw in Easter, so there's so

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<v Speaker 2>much in there that I just go, like all I

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<v Speaker 2>have done for the home of April, it just feels

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<v Speaker 2>like you're sitting on the edge of a cliff. You're

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<v Speaker 2>just hinging on this like fact that you're just about

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<v Speaker 2>to like go face first off. But at this point

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<v Speaker 2>in time, if that means we're going into May, and

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<v Speaker 2>that's what I have to do, I'm so willing and

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<v Speaker 2>ready because I want my kids to just like stopping

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<v Speaker 2>mean to me. I just want to find some consistency

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<v Speaker 2>and some flow for myself because I know that the

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<v Speaker 2>knock on and carry on effect means that my girls

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<v Speaker 2>will sort of come with me a little bit more do.

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<v Speaker 1>You feel like it's because the routine's all been thrown out, Like.

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<v Speaker 2>I think it was, like obviously Holidays sends everyone into

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<v Speaker 2>a spin. It's so much busier. You feel like I'm

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<v Speaker 2>going to keep achieving stuff for them every day. And

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<v Speaker 2>then by the time I have to say, Katie, by

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<v Speaker 2>the time that they were going back, even though it

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<v Speaker 2>was three days, because it was like they went back

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<v Speaker 2>to school, three days off, another long weekend, three days

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<v Speaker 2>back at school, and I was just like, so okay

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<v Speaker 2>with being back at school and routine and yes, if

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<v Speaker 2>that means a lunch box every morning, I'm going to

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<v Speaker 2>take that. I'm going to cop that on the gin.

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<v Speaker 2>I just feel like it's so weird to say, but

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<v Speaker 2>I can breathe again because it's May.

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<v Speaker 1>The thing about May is you're almost halfway through that year. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>Like we keep saying, it feels like it's just been Christmas,

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<v Speaker 1>Like what is it. I have got kind of a

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<v Speaker 1>theory on why time feels like it's going so fast.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's because that whole whenever board with scrolling,

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<v Speaker 1>even when the ads come on in TV, we're like

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<v Speaker 1>either fast yeah through them, or we're scrolling whilst they're

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<v Speaker 1>on or with like even I found myself the other

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<v Speaker 1>day I was in a line at the post office

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<v Speaker 1>that's long.

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<v Speaker 2>Always we're not starting on that, but always and do

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<v Speaker 2>not go.

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<v Speaker 1>It was out the door anyway, I found myself in

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<v Speaker 1>that line and I really noticed it instead of looking around.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, once you get in the shop. The post

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<v Speaker 1>office is very clever. They've got all sorts of sh

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<v Speaker 1>Do you know what I bought in.

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<v Speaker 2>There the other day?

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<v Speaker 1>A fucking light up star Christmas decoration.

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<v Speaker 2>It was on special.

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<v Speaker 1>Because it's nowhere near Christmas, and I was bored in

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<v Speaker 1>the line. I need I need that light up star

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<v Speaker 1>Christmas decoration.

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<v Speaker 2>It's big, like.

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<v Speaker 1>Big wooden star, and I bought it. And I was

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<v Speaker 1>buying it, I was like, the fun are you doing?

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<v Speaker 2>What does my life come to? That's the sort of.

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<v Speaker 1>Shit you do if you're not scrolling on your phone.

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<v Speaker 1>In this particular occasion, I was like, I'm about to

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<v Speaker 1>head into the post office. Don't look at what you

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<v Speaker 1>could buy, because God knows what you'll leave with. Just

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<v Speaker 1>keep scrolling on Instagram. Just I'm wearing. You know, when

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<v Speaker 1>you watch horse races and they've got blinkers on, so

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<v Speaker 1>that they don't get spooked or like distracted. When I

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<v Speaker 1>get this, I have to wear blinking.

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<v Speaker 2>The old classes, and that's all I can think about.

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<v Speaker 1>Was you with a big side