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Speaker 1: Apodja Production. Welcome back to another episode of Am I

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Speaker 1: A Bad Mom? Podcast. We're on Instagram as well at

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Speaker 1: am I A Bad Mum? If you want to send

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Speaker 1: us a few loll.

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Speaker 2: Memes, the memes that just keep on giving jeezu. Instagram

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Speaker 2: is littered with funny memes about parenting.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Can I tell you what else?

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Speaker 1: There's a lot out there of is cat content. Pals Jay,

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Speaker 1: my husband made the mistake of sending me this cat

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Speaker 1: video that he found on Instagram. Now I get nothing

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Speaker 1: but cat videos sent constantly, constant cat videos.

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Speaker 3: And I have my cats.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I was like, I get them all the time,

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Speaker 2: cat memes from my brothers because they say I've got

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Speaker 2: tendencies of like a cat. Basically, you know, some cats

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Speaker 2: like to be pat and some cats like to be loved,

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Speaker 2: but it's only on their time and there.

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Speaker 1: You would like to come back in another life as

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Speaker 1: a cat.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I've said that all along, but only if I

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Speaker 2: live in a very well strip house.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, with filtered water, gourmet food, sleeping on furh.

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Speaker 3: God, but imagine it's like lace by the fire on

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Speaker 3: all day.

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Speaker 2: Just in the corner because the house is so beautifully

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Speaker 2: position that you get the right sun and you're just

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Speaker 2: right there and it might be a bit chilly outside,

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Speaker 2: but you're just laying in the sun.

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Speaker 1: On the other yeah, that's not what it's like living

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Speaker 1: is either of my cats. One is shit scared of

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Speaker 1: the other and gets chased around the house hissing, and

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Speaker 1: the other one drinks out of the toilet.

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Speaker 3: I'm not choosing that. Am I a bad mum for

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Speaker 3: choosing the animals over the kids? Oh yeah, I know.

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Speaker 2: Right when we pull into our driveway, and it's usually

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Speaker 2: when I've got both kids in the car, it's not

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Speaker 2: just one just singling out one. Our dogs they come

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Speaker 2: up to the car like, and they always come to

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Speaker 2: my side because I'm the dickhead that feeds them most

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Speaker 2: of the time. But they're just so excited to see you,

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Speaker 2: Like their tails are wagging and their bodies are like

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Speaker 2: half folded because they're so excited to see you.

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Speaker 3: They're just like if they could say how.

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Speaker 2: Fucking excited they are to see you, they're just always

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Speaker 2: forever grateful that you come home.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, right, yeah, And doesn't matter what their mood,

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Speaker 1: it doesn't matter what kind of day they've had.

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Speaker 3: I don't know what's gone on for them for the

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Speaker 3: last eight hours.

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Speaker 2: I definitely know what's gone on for my kids because

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Speaker 2: I've heard about it for the last half an hour

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Speaker 2: NonStop in the car. But you know, like they just

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Speaker 2: sort of really take you off the edge, like when

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Speaker 2: you just open the door and then there they are

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Speaker 2: and they're like, well, you know, our labradoodle has this

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Speaker 2: weird obsession with collecting things in its mouth and then

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Speaker 2: bringing it to you.

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Speaker 3: So every time I opened my door, he's doing that,

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Speaker 3: Thanks Rocco.

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Speaker 1: And he's the one that you ticked to the vet

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Speaker 1: because you thought that he had a bit of a

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Speaker 1: problem missing chromosome.

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Speaker 2: Yes, I took him to the vet because I thought

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Speaker 2: he was a bit a bit special.

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Speaker 3: Turns out dogs don't get that.

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Speaker 2: Long story short is both my girls have recognized how

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Speaker 2: excited and I go, oh, my.

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Speaker 3: God, boys, so good to see yours, Like in my hole.

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Speaker 2: Demeanor changes, my voice changes, and my body language changes,

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Speaker 2: and both of them have noted and gone, you would

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Speaker 2: choose the dogs over.

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Speaker 3: Us any day, wouldn't you. I was like sorry.

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Speaker 2: They were like, you love the dogs more than us.

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Speaker 2: I was like, no, no, I do not love the

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Speaker 2: dogs more than you. There they say, why don't you

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Speaker 2: act like that when you see us, And I was like.

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Speaker 1: Well, you don't act like them when you see me.

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Speaker 1: Look how excited they are and happy.

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Speaker 3: I'm full of joy. And they don't talk. They're not

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Speaker 3: talking right now. They're not telling me how bad of

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Speaker 3: a person I am.

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Speaker 2: They're just fucking smiling at me, saying I'm so glad

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Speaker 2: that you're home. So then we have this full blown

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Speaker 2: conversation around how I treat the animals differently and that

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Speaker 2: I like them better, and I even treat our cat,

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Speaker 2: Trev so differently, and that I care for him more.

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Speaker 3: I just looked at him. I was like, jeezus are

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Speaker 3: so hard done by. You were so hard done by.

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Speaker 2: I'm so sorry that you feel like the animals come

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Speaker 2: before you.

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Speaker 1: They didn't get to go on holidays, they don't get

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Speaker 1: new clothes.

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Speaker 2: I'm pretty sure I've just picked you up from dance

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Speaker 2: and I've taken you to athletics, and I'm still up

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Speaker 2: since four am this morning since work.

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Speaker 3: And I'm still going for you guys. But I love

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Speaker 3: the animals.

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Speaker 1: And at the moment, the dogs sleep out in the

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Speaker 1: garden in the cold, in the freezing Yeah, hasn't happened

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Speaker 1: to you yet.

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Speaker 3: You still go to bed.

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Speaker 2: My friend with the diffuser and a fucking heat pack

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Speaker 2: every night.

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Speaker 3: That dog's outside freezing its use off. You're in pajamas.

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Speaker 3: The rolling of the eyes. Mom's at it again. No, mate.

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Speaker 1: What you could do, though, is you could kind of

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Speaker 1: reverse it a little in that. Well, they're excited to

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Speaker 1: see me because I'm the one that looks after them.

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Speaker 1: How about you step up and do the looking after

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Speaker 1: and feed the animals. And how excited would they be

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Speaker 1: for you to come home.

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Speaker 3: They'll go to your side to.

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Speaker 1: Side, They'll make you feel special, They'll you feel seen good.

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Speaker 1: This is what apparently they're all after.

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Speaker 3: That's what they being seen seen.

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Speaker 1: Being seen and not heard was the old fashioned rule.

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Speaker 1: Now it's being seen and being heard.

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Speaker 3: That's why we don't overkill. This is why we don't

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Speaker 3: respond well to it, because we were not taught that way.

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Speaker 3: We'll talkt the complete opposite.

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Speaker 2: But now we've got children and that expect to be

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Speaker 2: seen and heard and have an opinion.

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Speaker 1: And it's when they go, you can't talk to me

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Speaker 1: like that, and I'm like, yes i can, Yeah, no,

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Speaker 1: you can't not allow to talk to me.

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Speaker 3: Like that, mate, you're living in my house.

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Speaker 1: Everything you own is mine. I don't know whether you're

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Speaker 1: supposed to say that.

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Speaker 2: Sometimes I think that sort of stuff and I don't

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Speaker 2: say it out loud. Sometimes I accidentally say it out

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Speaker 2: loud and then feel bad later. Yeah, or that's probably

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Speaker 2: going to add to the therapy sessions later in their lives.

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Speaker 1: I said something like that to them the other day

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Speaker 1: because they off the back of a holiday when we're arguing.

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Speaker 1: I was like, there's no part of that holiday that

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Speaker 1: you paid for. You did nothing towards that holiday.

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Speaker 3: You just go to.

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Speaker 1: You're a freeloader. You're an absolute freeloader.

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Speaker 3: You just scround you for your parents.

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Speaker 1: You're old enough to work, you don't work because you

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Speaker 1: can't be bothered because you get everything from here. What

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Speaker 1: are you going to do when you're going to sit

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Speaker 1: on the doll.

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Speaker 3: Freeloader, I'm just gonna see them next.

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Speaker 1: Well, I tell you something, my friend, The doll is

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Speaker 1: not going to fund the lifestyle that you want to have. No,

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Speaker 1: you're not going to Bali anytime soon.

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Speaker 3: Sorry, I'm with you.

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Speaker 1: You know the clothes that you want, Yeah, no, you're

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Speaker 1: not having them and those payments are for people that

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Speaker 1: need it you can't be bothered.

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Speaker 3: They're not for people that just can't be bothered.

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Speaker 2: Going back to the animal situation before we do wrap up, though,

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Speaker 2: I did feel somewhat better, Katie when your husband popped

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Speaker 2: his head in to say hello whilst we were starting

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Speaker 2: this podcast, and he made mention because we were talking

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Speaker 2: about your cat Orgie, who's a little bit rogue. And

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Speaker 2: I have said that a little bit is a lot rogue,

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Speaker 2: But basically he's a street cat that is living inside

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Speaker 2: house that now is like an addict to any type

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Speaker 2: of food that you've left out.

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Speaker 1: I have never known any animal to be so obsessed

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Speaker 1: with food. He's a cat bread. He loves when he

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Speaker 1: gets a piece of bread. It's like watching a heroin

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Speaker 1: addict take a hit.

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Speaker 2: I said to him, I think maybe your cat needs

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Speaker 2: to probably go outside for a bit because he's a

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Speaker 2: little bit roke.

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Speaker 3: You probably just needs to exert some energy.

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Speaker 2: Your husband wrapped up with the comment of I will

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Speaker 2: let the kids go outside before I will let the cat.

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Speaker 2: I will move one of your child insert name out

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Speaker 2: of the house.

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Speaker 3: Before I will move that cat out.

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Speaker 2: Oh yes, And I looked at him and just had

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Speaker 2: a bit of a chuckle because there I have my

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Speaker 2: children telling me I love I chuse the animals all

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Speaker 2: the time over the kids, and then your husband drops

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Speaker 2: that one line, and I was like, thank you, my friend.

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Speaker 3: Right there, Mike drop, you're out of here. I'm happy

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Speaker 3: with that