WEBVTT - #2014 Kelly's Back! - Kelly Smith

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<v Speaker 1>Just put my new bloody phone charger thing going. I

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<v Speaker 1>get a team. It's the project, that's you, It's it's

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<v Speaker 1>me in the bloody studio. It's Tiff in the bloody studio,

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<v Speaker 1>Kelly and the other studio, with an orange case over

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<v Speaker 1>her right shoulder, just to remind us that she's a

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<v Speaker 1>jet setterer, world traveler, just to prompt me so that

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<v Speaker 1>I would ask her about her international jet setting. We'll

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<v Speaker 1>get to that in a moment. Bragging bragster over there

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<v Speaker 1>with a European tan, Tiff, how are you?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm good, Probably not as good as cal, but I'm

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<v Speaker 2>pretty good. I'm pretty good.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, it's been a long time since you and I

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<v Speaker 1>caught up about twenty seven minutes ago when we had

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<v Speaker 1>gillespion and you were jowing into a carrot like fucking

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<v Speaker 1>bugs Bunny in the background. There have you done anything

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<v Speaker 1>to satisfy that insatiable stomach of yours?

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<v Speaker 2>Set? Thank goodness. I went and whoped myself up some dinner,

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<v Speaker 2>so I'm much more tolerable now. I was pretty good though,

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<v Speaker 2>running on a carrot.

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<v Speaker 1>What you like when you're starving, like you know, when

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<v Speaker 1>you're like out of control starving is there anything particularly particular,

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<v Speaker 1>like good or bad, healthier, not, doesn't matter where you're Like, fuck,

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<v Speaker 1>I could just killer a whatever, a burger, lasagna, Like

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<v Speaker 1>what is what is your go to? If it didn't

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<v Speaker 1>have a negative impact, Like.

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<v Speaker 2>You could just cook me up the road from Hey,

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<v Speaker 2>they're cookie. They're the best things you've ever eaten in

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<v Speaker 2>your whole life.

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<v Speaker 1>So when you're hungry, you would rather something sweet than savory.

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<v Speaker 2>No, no, that's not true. That's not true. I just

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<v Speaker 2>like I like like steak and stir fried veg or

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<v Speaker 2>fish and stuff frovege I like to like. I like

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<v Speaker 2>meat and beg. I like steak, I like salmon, I

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<v Speaker 2>like fish. Basic. I don't like pasta, and I don't

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<v Speaker 2>really I don't mind lazania, but I don't have it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I'm all about flavor, like whether it's chicken or

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<v Speaker 1>beef or turkey, or it's got to be swimming in

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<v Speaker 1>something that's an awesome flavor, Like eating a bit of

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<v Speaker 1>steak that's doesn't just does not do it for me. No, No,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm all about the flavor. And yeah, like and do

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<v Speaker 1>you know what like my go to right now? Because

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<v Speaker 1>I'm hungry right now. But I'm not hungry like you get.

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<v Speaker 1>But if I could just have you know, when you

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<v Speaker 1>play cards sometimes, Kelly, and you can use a joker

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<v Speaker 1>and that's like a wild card, and that can be anything,

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<v Speaker 1>like I reckon my wild card with food where you

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<v Speaker 1>could eat anything you want but the calories don't count.

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<v Speaker 1>Would be at this point in time, a really good hamburger.

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<v Speaker 1>I say that, egg, cheese, onion, barbecue sauce, big fat meat,

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<v Speaker 1>paddy fucking white bun toasted with butter on it, caramelized onions.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, gidyap, that's like school. I feel horrendous, but yeah, kel,

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<v Speaker 1>what's yours?

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<v Speaker 3>Mine would be lasagna, absolutely, Like I would eat the

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<v Speaker 3>whole tray. Just give me a fork in the tray

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<v Speaker 3>and leave me alone for like an hour and done.

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<v Speaker 1>Has it got that besher moll source on it?

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<v Speaker 4>It does?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, Yeah, that's that's the Shit's My mum makes that.

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<v Speaker 1>But it's about unlike most you know, how you go

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<v Speaker 1>some places you get beef lasagna, it's about ten percent

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<v Speaker 1>beef and ninety percent everything else. I'm like, Mary makes

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<v Speaker 1>like this one, and it's it's about fifty percent meat.

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<v Speaker 1>It's the best thing ever. Yeah, you'd love it. You

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<v Speaker 1>know what else we've spoken about before we get into

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<v Speaker 1>the actual show proper. Melissa and I have had this

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<v Speaker 1>conversation and we think there's a word that's lacking in

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<v Speaker 1>the English language, and the word I don't know what

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<v Speaker 1>the word is. If anyone's got just an idea, just

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<v Speaker 1>just send it in to the you Project Facebook page.

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<v Speaker 1>But you know, when you're real hungry and then you

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<v Speaker 1>get something and you finally get food, but it doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>hit the spot. It's like it doesn't you know, you

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<v Speaker 1>wanted something fucking yummy and you're like, you eat it

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<v Speaker 1>and it's like you've just come home and it's like

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<v Speaker 1>heaven and like, oh my god, this is amazing, right,

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<v Speaker 1>and that's what you want. But you're hungry and you

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<v Speaker 1>get the meal and it's just it's a three out

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<v Speaker 1>of ten. So you get the calories that you wanted,

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<v Speaker 1>but not the satisfaction or the dopamine, not the joy,

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<v Speaker 1>not the mouth but the mouth gasm as I call it. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>And so there's this disappointment that comes with eating a

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<v Speaker 1>meal that's not satisfying, but you've fucked it up because

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<v Speaker 1>now you're not hungry, right, so you can't go eat again.

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<v Speaker 1>There's that disappointment around food. We need a name for

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<v Speaker 1>that because it's like, you know, taste bud nirvana. What's

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<v Speaker 1>the opposite of that when you get the calories but

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<v Speaker 1>not the joy.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, the opposite of a food DoSM Yes?

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<v Speaker 1>Anyway, more on that later. We probably don't need to.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know why I opened that door. It's just

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<v Speaker 1>I think about food too much. So what just before

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<v Speaker 1>we actually talk about what? What did you have for dinners?

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<v Speaker 2>If I had fish? I had fish and some some

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<v Speaker 2>stir fryed veggies and you know what I had that?

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<v Speaker 2>I haven't had for ages? Corn on the cob.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow? How did you did you steam that?

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<v Speaker 2>What did you do with I sted it? I haven't

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<v Speaker 2>had that feet I can't well, I couldn't tell you

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<v Speaker 2>how long it reminded me of like being at NaN's

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<v Speaker 2>or something. That's how long did you.

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<v Speaker 1>Ever used to use the word yonk when you were

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<v Speaker 1>a kid. We haven't had it for yonks?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, I still use that.

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<v Speaker 1>What do you mean you how long is it yonk exactly?

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<v Speaker 1>Is it yon months? Or is it yon years?

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<v Speaker 4>It's kind of open, isn't it.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not it's not. It's not that different to smidge

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<v Speaker 1>or tad or morsel, you know all those like what's

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<v Speaker 1>big a smidge, a tad, a frag Kelly, how was

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<v Speaker 1>your international jet setting?

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<v Speaker 4>It was amazing, it was every day, it was incredible.

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<v Speaker 1>So how long were you away?

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<v Speaker 2>For?

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<v Speaker 4>Just under three weeks?

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<v Speaker 1>All right, we don't have that long light. We're not

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<v Speaker 1>going to do the show on your trip, but give

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<v Speaker 1>us two highlights to memories that will be forever etched

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<v Speaker 1>in your little brain or your big brain. So any

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<v Speaker 1>it could be any highlight, anything.

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<v Speaker 4>Any highlight.

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<v Speaker 3>So we banded together and we rented a boat one

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<v Speaker 3>day with someone who knew how to drive the boat,

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<v Speaker 3>and we went around the Malfy coast.

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<v Speaker 4>That was quite incredible.

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<v Speaker 3>So it was like the water was the color of

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<v Speaker 3>blue I haven't never ever seen before in my life.

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<v Speaker 1>And can I say on behalf of the men, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>sorry to interrupt because all the bloke's gone, yeah, the cool,

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<v Speaker 1>cool story. What kind of boat though?

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<v Speaker 3>It was a boat that had a steering wheel, and

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<v Speaker 3>it was a boat this, I mean this was down.

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<v Speaker 3>It wasn't a yacht it was and it wasn't like

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<v Speaker 3>a little tug boat.

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<v Speaker 4>It was kind of it was in between. It was

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<v Speaker 4>a boat, it had a motor on it.

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<v Speaker 1>Fucking worst story ever on extendable Roots.

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<v Speaker 3>So we didn't get you know, burnt in that you know,

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<v Speaker 3>hot Italian sun that we were having.

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<v Speaker 1>To was Was it okay? So forget the boat? But

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<v Speaker 1>was it beautiful?

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<v Speaker 4>It was beautiful. It was absolutely beautiful.

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<v Speaker 3>And I'm not normally a beachy person, but even I

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<v Speaker 3>swam in that water.

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<v Speaker 4>So wow, that was quite incredible.

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<v Speaker 1>Are you not beachy because you're a ranger?

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<v Speaker 4>Pretty much? Pretty much?

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<v Speaker 1>So imagine like sixty six percent of the people sixty

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<v Speaker 1>six point six percent recurring people on this podcast. Of

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<v Speaker 1>the people on this podcast, I rang us or as

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<v Speaker 1>we used to say, fan of pants. But you can't

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<v Speaker 1>say that anymore. So I'm not going to say that.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't say that at all.

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<v Speaker 4>No, I don't say that. It's not either.

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<v Speaker 1>That could be the name of the show. Oh there's

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<v Speaker 1>so many things that I could say. Now I won't.

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<v Speaker 1>Well again, she just opened the door. Now, all right,

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<v Speaker 1>So you're coming on the show, that's right to ask

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<v Speaker 1>some questions to You're basically the host for the next

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<v Speaker 1>half hour or so. Have you been had you thinking,

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<v Speaker 1>cap on mile you're away.

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<v Speaker 4>I did.

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<v Speaker 3>So there was a lot of really interesting people that

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<v Speaker 3>I met. One of them we did this bike ride

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<v Speaker 3>just out of Rome and we got to go and

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<v Speaker 3>see all of the ancient aqueducts, which was really cool.

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<v Speaker 3>And the host of the or the tour guide of

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<v Speaker 3>the bike ride, his name was Lorenzo. He was this

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<v Speaker 3>really cool dude and we got to chatting and he

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<v Speaker 3>said that he was currently studying his second university degree

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<v Speaker 3>and was now moving into what he called sports science.

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<v Speaker 3>And I said to him, well, I'm going to have

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<v Speaker 3>to introduce you to the Year Project, and you know,

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<v Speaker 3>you'll have to, you know, listen to this and see

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<v Speaker 3>what you get out of it. But he was he

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<v Speaker 3>was really fascinating in the way that he was talking

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<v Speaker 3>about I just believe that you need to keep moving

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<v Speaker 3>your body every day otherwise, you know, you just you

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<v Speaker 3>stop your diet, like there's no point in not moving

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<v Speaker 3>your body. And he was telling me how, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>he was meeting people that were like in their twenties

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<v Speaker 3>and they could barely pedal even though it was an

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<v Speaker 3>e bike. And then he had some dudes that were

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<v Speaker 3>like eighty five years old, and by the end of

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<v Speaker 3>the bike ride he would check the batteries and the

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<v Speaker 3>batteries hadn't been touched because the eighty five year olds

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<v Speaker 3>were so fit, and so he said that, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>he was spending like his life's purpose was to study

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<v Speaker 3>how bodies work. But then also combine that with the

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<v Speaker 3>mental side of it in that you know, obviously it's

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<v Speaker 3>all things that we talk about, but it was really

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<v Speaker 3>fascinating to hear it from a different cultural perspective.

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<v Speaker 1>I love that.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, he was really really cool.

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<v Speaker 3>And then the other thing that I really noticed in

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<v Speaker 3>meeting people over there is that a little bit of

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<v Speaker 3>effort to say something in their native language or to

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<v Speaker 3>just to be really culturally respectable.

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<v Speaker 4>It went a really long way.

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<v Speaker 3>And that to me was such a big learning in

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<v Speaker 3>that you can put in a little bit of effort

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<v Speaker 3>and show people that you're willing to step into their space,

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<v Speaker 3>and what was reciprocated.

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<v Speaker 4>Was really it was almost overwhelming because people.

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<v Speaker 3>Just started then, you know, talking to us almost in

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<v Speaker 3>full Italian because I thought we could understand and just

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<v Speaker 3>the contrast in doing that when a lot of other

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<v Speaker 3>people weren't. So just having that, I guess acceptance and

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<v Speaker 3>that want to be in another culture and to be

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<v Speaker 3>part of it.

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<v Speaker 4>I found quite fascinating.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you know what I love about? Sorry, just to

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<v Speaker 1>just one thing on you, old mate, before we get

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<v Speaker 1>too far ahead. Like he's fascinated with you know, movement

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<v Speaker 1>and you know sports science, and he's doing his degree

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<v Speaker 1>on all of that, which is great. What is really

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<v Speaker 1>like when we pair it back and we talk about

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<v Speaker 1>strength training, we talk about running, we talk about functional training,

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<v Speaker 1>CrossFit and high rocks or whatever it's called, and pilates

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<v Speaker 1>and the myriad of fitness and exercise and movement options

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<v Speaker 1>that we've got. The overwhelming difference between, like if you

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<v Speaker 1>could just pick one attribute or one kind of factor

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<v Speaker 1>that's different now from say, one hundred years ago, is

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<v Speaker 1>just that overwhelmingly humans move less, like we move less,

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<v Speaker 1>and so you know, and we we sit so much,

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<v Speaker 1>we spend so and I know this is, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>so much time at a death, so much time and

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<v Speaker 1>a chair, so much time in a car, so much time,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, and and I don't know what the actual number,

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<v Speaker 1>but I used to quote this, but I think it

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<v Speaker 1>was dodgy science. But I reckon that's somewhere in the

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<v Speaker 1>ballpark that fifty years ago, Like, compared to fifty years ago,

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<v Speaker 1>the average Australian now moves or expends about one thousand

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<v Speaker 1>calories less per day just because we don't move much,

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<v Speaker 1>you know. So that I mean, irrespective of what kind

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<v Speaker 1>of movement it is. But you think about, like when

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<v Speaker 1>we talk about energy expenditure, we talk about structured exercise,

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<v Speaker 1>then we talk about a thing called incidental activity, and

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<v Speaker 1>then a thing called occupational activity. Well, think about how

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<v Speaker 1>incidental and occupational activity have plummeted now because so many

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<v Speaker 1>jobs have been automated or at least somewhat automated, so

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<v Speaker 1>we don't have to move much, you know. So yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I would think that just that one factor alone, irrespective

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<v Speaker 1>whether it's running or lifting weights or doing any specific

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<v Speaker 1>exercise program, if all you did, whatever that looked like,

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<v Speaker 1>was just moved your body twice as much every day

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<v Speaker 1>as you did the day before, or twice as much

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<v Speaker 1>now as you typically have in the last year, that

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<v Speaker 1>will make a massive difference.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Absolutely, And that's what he was talking about as well.

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<v Speaker 3>So the other people that were in our group, they

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<v Speaker 3>were look, they were older than me, and they were

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<v Speaker 3>quite fascinated by the fact that there was this guy

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<v Speaker 3>who was you know, he was doing his second degree

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<v Speaker 3>in this, but then coupling it with you know, there's

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<v Speaker 3>the exercise and then there's like the mental fitness as well,

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<v Speaker 3>and he had all of these wonderful stories of he said,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, over the course of being a bike tour guide,

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<v Speaker 3>I've met probably about two thousand people. And he said,

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<v Speaker 3>I just want to start sharing their stories. And yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>one of the things that he really was surprised by

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<v Speaker 3>was the fact that there was this incredible spectrum of

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<v Speaker 3>fitness and it didn't matter what age somebody he was.

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<v Speaker 3>As he was saying, you know, there was someone who

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<v Speaker 3>was eighty five that had probably the fitness of the

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<v Speaker 3>twenty five year old and vice versa.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, and I think that's like, that's good news

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<v Speaker 1>because it shows us that fitness is not determined by age.

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<v Speaker 1>It's influenced by age. But you know that we talk

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<v Speaker 1>about that all the time. It's like, what what have

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<v Speaker 1>you got to work with? How old are you, what

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<v Speaker 1>are your genetics, what resources do you have? You know,

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<v Speaker 1>what's your current medical status? You know, what's your current

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<v Speaker 1>fitness level or strength level or flexibility or mobility and

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<v Speaker 1>all that is is information and that's just a starting point,

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<v Speaker 1>you know. So yeah, that's that's the space between chronological

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<v Speaker 1>age and biological age and functional age is you don't

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<v Speaker 1>need to be determined by the calendar. Will be influenced

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<v Speaker 1>by the calendar, but you don't need to be determined

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<v Speaker 1>by it. And for me, that just speaks to that,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, that whole idea of potential and possibilities and like,

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<v Speaker 1>what what could I forget what's normal, Forget what's typical,

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<v Speaker 1>forget what most people do. Like even we had Nicole

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<v Speaker 1>ladell on I think she's on today, Yeah, she's up today.

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<v Speaker 1>And you know she started her degree at her first

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<v Speaker 1>degree at forty three or four, and she's now in

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<v Speaker 1>her fifties doing her PhD. And this is now I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not throwing her under the bus because she's spoken about this,

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<v Speaker 1>but when she was in her mid to late thirties,

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<v Speaker 1>she was a single mum with kids. She was struggling

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<v Speaker 1>to put food on the table. She was using food stamps,

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<v Speaker 1>she literally couldn't pay bills. And when a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>people are starting to wind down, she's in her fifties,

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<v Speaker 1>she's traveling internationally to present her research now doing her doctorate,

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<v Speaker 1>she's getting all of these like it's just and what

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<v Speaker 1>she's doing is great. But what I love so much

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<v Speaker 1>is just that it You're like, your brain doesn't really

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<v Speaker 1>understand age in that sense. Like your brain will keep learning,

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<v Speaker 1>your skills will keep developing, you can keep acquiring knowledge

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<v Speaker 1>and understanding and insight, you can keep getting better as

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<v Speaker 1>long as you do the things that will make you

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<v Speaker 1>get better. But we live in this fucking cultural story

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<v Speaker 1>of oh, well, this is what you should do. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>just the fact that there's a term that says age appropriate,

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<v Speaker 1>age appropriate behavior, age appropriate clothing, age appropriate, like workouts agent.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like fucking ridiculous. You know, there's a of course

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<v Speaker 1>age needs to be factored a bit, but it's really

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<v Speaker 1>part of it, not most of it steps down off soapbox.

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<v Speaker 4>But then how much do you.

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<v Speaker 3>Think is the correlation between because you've just said, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>your brain doesn't stop learning, you can still keep moving forward.

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<v Speaker 4>But then how much of that is linked to the.

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<v Speaker 3>Societal kind of expectations of oh, but you know, on

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<v Speaker 3>this age before, I really can't or you know, I'm

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<v Speaker 3>in this situation so therefore I really can't as opposed

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<v Speaker 3>to I've got the time, I've got the energy, I've

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<v Speaker 3>got the drive, so therefore I can.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. So I think I always always go is this

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<v Speaker 1>a story or is this information? Because I can't that's

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<v Speaker 1>a story. Oh at this age, that's a story. Oh

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<v Speaker 1>I don't have the genetics for that's a story. Depends

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<v Speaker 1>on what we're talking about. I don't have the genetics

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<v Speaker 1>to be able to run one hundred meters in ten seconds.

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<v Speaker 1>But you know, I put up a little video the

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<v Speaker 1>other day which was maybe I didn't mean it to

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<v Speaker 1>be bragging at bragster, but it was me a week

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<v Speaker 1>after my sixty second birthday doing ten chinups, and and

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<v Speaker 1>I don't put it up so people go, fuck, you're

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<v Speaker 1>good at chinups? Or I put it up because I

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<v Speaker 1>want people to know that when you're in your sixties,

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<v Speaker 1>you can do shit in your sixties that most twenty

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<v Speaker 1>year olds can't like if you and I don't mean that, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>Craig Harp is great. No, no, no, I'm talking about

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<v Speaker 1>what is possible, not possible for me. What's what's possible

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<v Speaker 1>if you go and get fifty twenty five year old

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<v Speaker 1>blokes off the street. I doubt that five of them

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<v Speaker 1>could do ten chin ups. Maybe maybe I'm not saying again,

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<v Speaker 1>it's not about me, it's about oh fuck. But when

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<v Speaker 1>you get a sixty two year old body, or a

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<v Speaker 1>fifty year old body or a and you get and

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<v Speaker 1>you do these certain things and you create these outcomes,

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<v Speaker 1>or when you put a broke, impoverished mid to late

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<v Speaker 1>thirties mum in this environment where she's encouraged and she's learning,

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<v Speaker 1>then she opens her eyes. Fifteen years later, she's now,

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<v Speaker 1>she's done her honor, she's done her undergrad program, she's

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<v Speaker 1>doing her PhD, she's traveling the world, she's speaking at conferences.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's just because she kept asking good questions and

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<v Speaker 1>she kept doing the work. So when someone says something,

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<v Speaker 1>I go, is this information and data? Is this true?

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<v Speaker 1>Is this truth? Or is this just a story about something?

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<v Speaker 1>And if it's just a story, we can challenge the story. Obviously,

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<v Speaker 1>I can't wake up tomorrow and be fifty years old,

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<v Speaker 1>but I can wake up tomorrow at sixty two and go,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to go and learn Italian, and then go

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<v Speaker 1>learn Italian, and then in a year I'm sixty three

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<v Speaker 1>and now I speak Italian. Why because I made a decision.

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<v Speaker 1>I took action. I was diligent. I kept learning, I

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<v Speaker 1>kept studying, I kept having conversations, I kept putting myself

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<v Speaker 1>in situations to talk Italian with people. I kept fucking

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<v Speaker 1>up and failing and trialing, trying, and then a year

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<v Speaker 1>later I could hold a conversation. Two years later I

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<v Speaker 1>was fluent. Three years later I was fucking grat at

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<v Speaker 1>at why. Because at sixty two I made a decision like,

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<v Speaker 1>this is just life and whether or not it's learning Italian,

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<v Speaker 1>getting lean, building a business, doing a PhD. We have

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<v Speaker 1>to get the bullshit stories out of the way of

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<v Speaker 1>our potential because what I just described in that little

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<v Speaker 1>learning Italian story, that's my potential, that's my possibilities. Right.

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<v Speaker 1>We can learn, grow, evolve at any age, in any circumstances.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I've seen that with my nn who I've mentioned

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<v Speaker 3>multiple times, but forty seven years old, has a heart

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<v Speaker 3>attack and is told, you know, call your.

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<v Speaker 4>Family, tonight's the night.

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<v Speaker 3>And she woke up the next morning and changed everything

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<v Speaker 3>about her lifestyle. And now she's nearly ninety six, and

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<v Speaker 3>that for her was restructuring that story.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, amazing. Yeah, And that's that and we hear that

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<v Speaker 1>so many times where something happens, like my dad had

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<v Speaker 1>a heart attack, quadruple bypass, he died, he was revived, died,

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<v Speaker 1>he was revived, and you know then he lost a

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<v Speaker 1>whole lot of weight and he turned his life around

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<v Speaker 1>it like your Nan and my dad, they could have

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<v Speaker 1>done that before. You know, It's like that potential was there,

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<v Speaker 1>But what happened I don't know. With your nand maybe,

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<v Speaker 1>but definitely with my dad. What changed was his thinking,

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<v Speaker 1>not his talent, not his potential, not his genetic disposition,

0:21:09.520 --> 0:21:12.000
<v Speaker 1>not his resources, not the hours in a day, not

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<v Speaker 1>his IQ. What changed was what did a one eighty?

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<v Speaker 1>Was he thinking about what he needed to do because

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<v Speaker 1>he was always gonna do it soon. And then when

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<v Speaker 1>you die, for some people anyway, and then you survive

0:21:25.400 --> 0:21:29.520
<v Speaker 1>that death like the crab and like Dad, then all

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<v Speaker 1>of a sudden, it's not I'll get to it soon.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like, no, I don't have an option. I'm going

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<v Speaker 1>to do this now. It doesn't matter about motivation or

0:21:35.800 --> 0:21:39.240
<v Speaker 1>discipline or self control or fucking time availability. All that

0:21:39.280 --> 0:21:42.160
<v Speaker 1>shit goes out the window because now this is completely

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<v Speaker 1>fucking non negotiable. This is my new normal Now here's

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<v Speaker 1>the truth. Everybody has the potential to do that today,

0:21:51.800 --> 0:21:55.040
<v Speaker 1>but they don't have the state of mind because people

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<v Speaker 1>wait for the fucking heart attack, they wait for the diabetes,

0:21:58.440 --> 0:22:02.800
<v Speaker 1>they wait for the catastrophe, and then sadly, I think

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<v Speaker 1>this is one of the biggest things that limits us,

0:22:07.520 --> 0:22:11.600
<v Speaker 1>is we actually wait for something horrendous or terrible before

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<v Speaker 1>we try to really really tap into our power, potential possibilities.

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<v Speaker 1>Like I think I've achieved a bit right, but I

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<v Speaker 1>could do much more. But I feel like I am

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<v Speaker 1>constantly talking to people who've got way more potential than me,

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<v Speaker 1>way more intellect than me, way more creativity than me,

0:22:35.200 --> 0:22:38.760
<v Speaker 1>way more possibilities than me, people who are thirty years

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<v Speaker 1>younger than me. But what holds them back is not

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<v Speaker 1>what they're capable of, but how they fucking think. It's

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<v Speaker 1>how they think. Like you're thinking gets in the way

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<v Speaker 1>of what because you're thinking is oh, yeah, I'm this,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a piece of shit on that I couldn't do this.

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<v Speaker 1>It's all right for him. He's Craig Harper, or she's

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<v Speaker 1>Tip Cook, or you know, she's Kelly Smith or whatever

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<v Speaker 1>the story is. We're always finding a way remember stories

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<v Speaker 1>and facts. We're always finding a way to justify what

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<v Speaker 1>we're not doing. And then we're fifty and then we

0:23:13.000 --> 0:23:15.840
<v Speaker 1>get grumpy at people like me because we're pushing buttons

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<v Speaker 1>and it's like, well, what the fuck do you want?

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<v Speaker 1>Like do you really want a better life? Well, for

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<v Speaker 1>fuck's sake, stop talking and thinking and almost doing it.

0:23:26.720 --> 0:23:29.880
<v Speaker 1>Like what has to happen? Do you have to get sick?

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<v Speaker 1>Do you have to almost die? Does there need to

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<v Speaker 1>be a catastrophe? Because every fucking person listening to this

0:23:37.200 --> 0:23:41.960
<v Speaker 1>can do better. Every person nobody listening to this has

0:23:42.040 --> 0:23:46.280
<v Speaker 1>peaked nobody. Now that doesn't mean everybody listening to this

0:23:46.480 --> 0:23:49.119
<v Speaker 1>needs to do something, but there are a lot of

0:23:49.119 --> 0:23:53.040
<v Speaker 1>people who listen to or read or watch or whatever

0:23:53.080 --> 0:23:56.440
<v Speaker 1>it is that they're putting into their consciousness so much stuff,

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<v Speaker 1>but we spin our wheels. I feel like I've gotten

0:23:59.840 --> 0:24:02.040
<v Speaker 1>off track, girl, and I feel like I've gotten back

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<v Speaker 1>on my high horse. And I apologize, but I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like it was good there. I had a little coaching moment.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll step down and be quiet and just dive into

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<v Speaker 1>the typ bean bag.

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<v Speaker 4>That it's good though, because.

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<v Speaker 3>Retelling that story to yourself is exactly what I've been

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<v Speaker 3>doing these past few months and really trying to keep

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<v Speaker 3>the momentum going of having this opportunity with you guys.

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<v Speaker 3>And for a long time, there's been things that I've

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<v Speaker 3>been really wanting to do and I'm like, I can't

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<v Speaker 3>do that because someone's going to say it's really shit

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<v Speaker 3>and why would anyone want to look at my face

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<v Speaker 3>or hear my voice or give a shit about anything

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<v Speaker 3>that I'm doing. And then slowly I've been reframing that

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<v Speaker 3>into I give a shit about it, and I really

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<v Speaker 3>enjoy this and I'm getting a lot out of this,

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<v Speaker 3>and i really.

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<v Speaker 4>Want to do this.

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<v Speaker 3>So what's stopping me when I've got such a great

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<v Speaker 3>opportunity and I've got all of the tools right.

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<v Speaker 4>In front of me to be able to do it.

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<v Speaker 3>So I've reframed that, and I've really been pushing myself

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<v Speaker 3>to create something every day. And whether I share it

0:25:18.320 --> 0:25:20.440
<v Speaker 3>or not is a different story. But I'm pushing myself

0:25:20.440 --> 0:25:22.080
<v Speaker 3>to do that. And even when I was away, it

0:25:22.119 --> 0:25:24.600
<v Speaker 3>was just taking little notes about well, what am I

0:25:24.640 --> 0:25:27.119
<v Speaker 3>seeing and how is this different to my everyday life?

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<v Speaker 3>And you know what's that like over there? And is

0:25:31.600 --> 0:25:34.400
<v Speaker 3>you know, how's that person interacting with that person, and

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<v Speaker 3>what am I actually getting out of this experience that's

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<v Speaker 3>that's bigger.

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<v Speaker 4>Than me that I can take into.

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<v Speaker 3>And that was probably another really big question that I

0:25:42.240 --> 0:25:44.959
<v Speaker 3>had about the time I was away, and it was like,

0:25:45.560 --> 0:25:48.600
<v Speaker 3>I've got this wonderful feeling where I'm stepping out of

0:25:48.640 --> 0:25:51.359
<v Speaker 3>my comfort zone and it's really lovely and I feel

0:25:51.359 --> 0:25:52.200
<v Speaker 3>really empowered.

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<v Speaker 4>And I know it's.

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<v Speaker 3>Because I'm not seeing or dealing with anyone that I

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<v Speaker 3>would normally see in my everyday life. But why can't

0:26:01.480 --> 0:26:05.000
<v Speaker 3>I take this attitude and this feeling back home? And

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<v Speaker 3>so that is again part of this reframing of the story.

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<v Speaker 1>I think part of the human experience, A big part

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<v Speaker 1>of the human experience is because we're emotional. Right, It

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't matter how logical and intellectual and strategic we are

0:26:20.160 --> 0:26:22.080
<v Speaker 1>on this show and we talk about it, but at

0:26:22.080 --> 0:26:24.480
<v Speaker 1>the end of the day, I get off here and

0:26:24.520 --> 0:26:27.960
<v Speaker 1>I'm more emotional than I am logical. That doesn't mean

0:26:28.560 --> 0:26:32.240
<v Speaker 1>I'm controlled by emotions, but we are all. I think

0:26:32.320 --> 0:26:36.520
<v Speaker 1>human beings are more emotional and social creatures than we

0:26:36.560 --> 0:26:39.640
<v Speaker 1>are intellectual, Which is not say we're stupid. We're clearly

0:26:39.680 --> 0:26:46.520
<v Speaker 1>not stupid, but this is why so many people, when

0:26:46.520 --> 0:26:51.399
<v Speaker 1>they get out of the emotional state of motivation, just

0:26:51.440 --> 0:26:54.359
<v Speaker 1>stop doing what they need to do to live their

0:26:54.400 --> 0:26:56.840
<v Speaker 1>best life or actually their goals or get where they

0:26:56.880 --> 0:26:58.720
<v Speaker 1>say they want to go right. And so we are

0:26:58.720 --> 0:27:03.400
<v Speaker 1>so controlled by these fluctuating states that we call emotions.

0:27:04.600 --> 0:27:06.879
<v Speaker 1>We need to find a way to be able to

0:27:07.280 --> 0:27:11.120
<v Speaker 1>in the middle of our emotion turn the volume down

0:27:11.160 --> 0:27:13.959
<v Speaker 1>a little bit, feel what we feel, acknowledge what's going on.

0:27:14.000 --> 0:27:16.560
<v Speaker 1>We're not pretending we're not emotional. We're not pretending we're

0:27:16.600 --> 0:27:19.439
<v Speaker 1>not anxious when we are anxious. We're not pretending that

0:27:19.480 --> 0:27:22.480
<v Speaker 1>things are great when they're shit. But we need to

0:27:22.480 --> 0:27:24.359
<v Speaker 1>find a way in the middle of the peaks and

0:27:24.359 --> 0:27:27.399
<v Speaker 1>troughs of the emotional experience that is being human. We

0:27:27.440 --> 0:27:29.439
<v Speaker 1>need to find a way to keep doing what works,

0:27:29.920 --> 0:27:33.679
<v Speaker 1>and we need to find a way to move forward

0:27:33.720 --> 0:27:37.119
<v Speaker 1>with the program or the protocol or the framework or

0:27:37.160 --> 0:27:40.520
<v Speaker 1>the to do list or whatever it is, because so

0:27:40.680 --> 0:27:44.040
<v Speaker 1>many of us are held to ransom by how we

0:27:44.119 --> 0:27:48.120
<v Speaker 1>feel on a day, and how I feel today will

0:27:48.160 --> 0:27:52.000
<v Speaker 1>determine what I do now. If that happens four days

0:27:52.000 --> 0:27:57.520
<v Speaker 1>a week, my emotions and my feelings are controlling my behavior,

0:27:57.760 --> 0:28:00.960
<v Speaker 1>then your emotions and feelings are controlling your outcomes, which

0:28:01.000 --> 0:28:03.920
<v Speaker 1>is controlling your reality. Now, we're not trying to turn

0:28:03.920 --> 0:28:07.200
<v Speaker 1>everyone into cyborgs, because I just said I'm more emotional

0:28:07.200 --> 0:28:10.440
<v Speaker 1>than logical. But I want to be able to acknowledge

0:28:10.440 --> 0:28:14.000
<v Speaker 1>my emotions, my feelings, my fears, my anxiety, my self doubt,

0:28:14.080 --> 0:28:20.480
<v Speaker 1>my internal bullshit, while still intellectually understanding that I'm okay,

0:28:21.000 --> 0:28:24.359
<v Speaker 1>I'm pretty good. I'm not a terrible human. I'm not

0:28:24.480 --> 0:28:28.760
<v Speaker 1>terrible at podcasting. Sometimes I'm not great. Sometimes I'm fucking brilliant,

0:28:28.800 --> 0:28:32.560
<v Speaker 1>let's be honest. Sometimes I'm funny. Sometimes I'm a dickhead, right,

0:28:33.200 --> 0:28:37.800
<v Speaker 1>But it's being able to self regulate and ride these

0:28:37.880 --> 0:28:41.640
<v Speaker 1>peaks and troughs of the human experience that usually shows

0:28:41.760 --> 0:28:45.560
<v Speaker 1>up in the form of, you know, some kind of emotion,

0:28:46.440 --> 0:28:51.320
<v Speaker 1>and it's the challenge is not to be perpetually focused

0:28:51.360 --> 0:28:54.520
<v Speaker 1>and disciplined and in the zone and you know, just

0:28:54.640 --> 0:28:58.360
<v Speaker 1>full of fucking self control and resilience. And because that's

0:28:58.400 --> 0:29:03.720
<v Speaker 1>a ridiculous unachieved aspiration, But what's a better aspiration is

0:29:03.720 --> 0:29:06.600
<v Speaker 1>to go, well, look, I'm pretty fucking human, and there's

0:29:06.640 --> 0:29:08.480
<v Speaker 1>a fair chance tomorrow I'm going to get up after

0:29:08.520 --> 0:29:12.040
<v Speaker 1>I listened to Craig and Tiff and Kelly, and despite

0:29:12.080 --> 0:29:13.640
<v Speaker 1>the fact that I'm in the zone and pumped and

0:29:13.680 --> 0:29:17.520
<v Speaker 1>excited now, either tomorrow or the day after, I'm not

0:29:17.600 --> 0:29:20.360
<v Speaker 1>going to be. So what I'm interested in is not

0:29:20.400 --> 0:29:22.880
<v Speaker 1>what people do after they listen to this show because

0:29:22.880 --> 0:29:27.000
<v Speaker 1>they're pump focused in the zone or whatever. I'm interested

0:29:27.040 --> 0:29:31.320
<v Speaker 1>in next Friday, when all this shit is just a

0:29:31.360 --> 0:29:35.479
<v Speaker 1>distant memory. So it is. I believe that success is

0:29:35.600 --> 0:29:39.280
<v Speaker 1>so much about our ability to keep doing the things

0:29:40.920 --> 0:29:43.880
<v Speaker 1>that we want to stop doing, and to be the

0:29:43.960 --> 0:29:47.360
<v Speaker 1>person who when everyone else gets to a particular stage,

0:29:47.680 --> 0:29:51.520
<v Speaker 1>an emotional state, a stage of their journey, when they

0:29:51.520 --> 0:29:54.200
<v Speaker 1>would step down, it's how challenge to step up? And

0:29:54.240 --> 0:29:56.600
<v Speaker 1>that is just how long can you keep going? How

0:29:56.640 --> 0:30:00.040
<v Speaker 1>resilient can you be? What can you do when and

0:30:00.160 --> 0:30:03.880
<v Speaker 1>you can't be bothered, like when you really feel like

0:30:04.000 --> 0:30:07.560
<v Speaker 1>giving up, when no one's watching, when no one's cheering,

0:30:07.600 --> 0:30:10.440
<v Speaker 1>when no one's telling you you're good, when there's no validation,

0:30:10.920 --> 0:30:14.200
<v Speaker 1>even when you're not getting good results, What can you

0:30:14.240 --> 0:30:18.000
<v Speaker 1>do then? Because it's in all of those different emotional

0:30:18.000 --> 0:30:22.920
<v Speaker 1>and psychological spaces where people would go, oh, it's totally

0:30:22.960 --> 0:30:25.240
<v Speaker 1>reasonable that you gave up, or that you stopped because

0:30:25.280 --> 0:30:27.440
<v Speaker 1>it wasn't working, or because this, or because your back

0:30:27.560 --> 0:30:29.800
<v Speaker 1>was sore, or because fuck it's cold, or because and

0:30:29.840 --> 0:30:33.080
<v Speaker 1>then we're fifty, and this is my That was my

0:30:33.200 --> 0:30:37.280
<v Speaker 1>fear for me. I was terrified of waking up at

0:30:37.320 --> 0:30:42.560
<v Speaker 1>forty or fifty and being a nobody doing nothing, And

0:30:42.600 --> 0:30:44.840
<v Speaker 1>not because I thought I was destined for greatness, but

0:30:44.880 --> 0:30:49.720
<v Speaker 1>because I knew I had potential. I knew I had potential,

0:30:50.160 --> 0:30:52.920
<v Speaker 1>and I know that when I was young, nobody else

0:30:52.960 --> 0:30:57.440
<v Speaker 1>thought I had potential, and that scared me, you know.

0:30:58.080 --> 0:31:02.000
<v Speaker 1>So it's just like this is all of these things

0:31:02.000 --> 0:31:04.240
<v Speaker 1>that we all. You know, you feel it, tip feels

0:31:04.280 --> 0:31:06.640
<v Speaker 1>that I feel it. You get up and you're like,

0:31:06.680 --> 0:31:09.960
<v Speaker 1>I'm not feeling it today. Cool? Great, great? So today

0:31:10.040 --> 0:31:13.160
<v Speaker 1>when you're not feeling it, how fucking awesome can you

0:31:13.240 --> 0:31:17.520
<v Speaker 1>be today? That's the great question. And we've got to

0:31:17.600 --> 0:31:19.480
<v Speaker 1>keep going to the wall, like we've got to keep

0:31:19.520 --> 0:31:21.360
<v Speaker 1>going to the fucking room of mirrors and have a

0:31:21.400 --> 0:31:23.640
<v Speaker 1>look at ourselves. And it sounds all very gung ho,

0:31:24.120 --> 0:31:27.840
<v Speaker 1>Craig Harprish, but tell me how else it works. Like

0:31:27.880 --> 0:31:30.320
<v Speaker 1>if we're not doing the work, if we're not making

0:31:30.320 --> 0:31:33.360
<v Speaker 1>the decisions. If we're not rolling up our sleeves, if

0:31:33.400 --> 0:31:36.959
<v Speaker 1>we're not getting courageous, if we're not producing the outcomes,

0:31:37.320 --> 0:31:41.200
<v Speaker 1>how the fuck else do we succeed? There is no

0:31:41.320 --> 0:31:46.200
<v Speaker 1>other way. Nobody can make success for you. Nobody can

0:31:46.280 --> 0:31:49.440
<v Speaker 1>lose weight for you. Nobody can do a PhD for you,

0:31:49.480 --> 0:31:53.320
<v Speaker 1>Nobody can build a business for you. Nobody can do

0:31:53.400 --> 0:31:56.960
<v Speaker 1>the work like. This is the uncomfortable reality that people

0:31:57.080 --> 0:32:00.720
<v Speaker 1>try and avoid by taking the fuck and easy path,

0:32:00.840 --> 0:32:05.040
<v Speaker 1>or the instant gratification path, or the dopamine button. Good luck.

0:32:05.080 --> 0:32:08.200
<v Speaker 1>After you've pressed the dopamine button for fucking ten years,

0:32:08.840 --> 0:32:13.320
<v Speaker 1>then what now I'm addicted to seventeen different things? Tiff?

0:32:14.240 --> 0:32:17.320
<v Speaker 2>How do you walk the line between knowing really knowing

0:32:17.480 --> 0:32:21.400
<v Speaker 2>when it's appropriate to push and change your circumstances and

0:32:21.440 --> 0:32:24.720
<v Speaker 2>when it's appropriate to sit down and change your expectations?

0:32:25.560 --> 0:32:25.640
<v Speaker 1>Like?

0:32:25.720 --> 0:32:29.000
<v Speaker 2>How long can you let your expectations run the show

0:32:29.120 --> 0:32:31.760
<v Speaker 2>and in a toxic way before you go? Fuck? It

0:32:31.800 --> 0:32:34.440
<v Speaker 2>doesn't matter what. I'm never going to be happy and

0:32:34.560 --> 0:32:38.080
<v Speaker 2>pushing through and soldiering on is not going to be

0:32:38.080 --> 0:32:38.560
<v Speaker 2>the answer.

0:32:39.520 --> 0:32:41.440
<v Speaker 1>Well, I think quite often we head down a road

0:32:41.520 --> 0:32:43.880
<v Speaker 1>me included, and we get halfway down the road and

0:32:43.920 --> 0:32:45.800
<v Speaker 1>we realize, oh, this is not the road for me,

0:32:46.360 --> 0:32:48.920
<v Speaker 1>or I'm climbing the wrong mountain, and that's okay too.

0:32:49.040 --> 0:32:53.480
<v Speaker 1>That's not giving up. That's awareness. It's like I've started

0:32:53.480 --> 0:32:56.440
<v Speaker 1>things and I've got somewhat into the thing, and I realized, no,

0:32:56.560 --> 0:32:59.160
<v Speaker 1>this isn't for me. This isn't It's not that I'm scared,

0:32:59.240 --> 0:33:01.480
<v Speaker 1>or it's not that I'm maybe you can't do it.

0:33:01.480 --> 0:33:04.440
<v Speaker 1>It's just that this is not this is not for me.

0:33:05.760 --> 0:33:10.520
<v Speaker 1>And I think, you know, to be able to have

0:33:10.640 --> 0:33:15.880
<v Speaker 1>that situational awareness and figure out that you know, for

0:33:15.920 --> 0:33:18.760
<v Speaker 1>me in this, in this moment in time or on

0:33:18.800 --> 0:33:21.240
<v Speaker 1>this part of my journey, this is not a good

0:33:21.400 --> 0:33:24.120
<v Speaker 1>use of me. And I think also, you know, we

0:33:24.160 --> 0:33:26.040
<v Speaker 1>need to pay attention to the data. We need to

0:33:26.040 --> 0:33:28.600
<v Speaker 1>pay attention to the results there are. I mean, I've

0:33:28.600 --> 0:33:31.760
<v Speaker 1>done many things that failed, and I've done other things

0:33:31.760 --> 0:33:35.720
<v Speaker 1>that worked. But then you know, things have a used

0:33:35.720 --> 0:33:37.920
<v Speaker 1>by date. Like I used to love running gyms, I

0:33:38.000 --> 0:33:39.680
<v Speaker 1>used to love being on the gym floor, I used

0:33:39.680 --> 0:33:42.160
<v Speaker 1>to love coaching people. I used to love and then

0:33:42.200 --> 0:33:44.400
<v Speaker 1>I got to the point where I didn't. And it

0:33:44.440 --> 0:33:47.200
<v Speaker 1>wasn't that it was bad. It's just like, Okay, this

0:33:47.280 --> 0:33:49.440
<v Speaker 1>is not I need to learn and grow and evolve

0:33:49.440 --> 0:33:51.920
<v Speaker 1>in other ways and other environments and doing different things.

0:33:51.920 --> 0:33:53.800
<v Speaker 1>And it's not that owning a gym is bad or

0:33:53.880 --> 0:33:57.480
<v Speaker 1>training clients or athletes is bad. It's all fucking amazing.

0:33:58.400 --> 0:34:02.240
<v Speaker 1>But it's for me. It's reached its use by date.

0:34:02.440 --> 0:34:04.720
<v Speaker 1>And I think that's just part of evolution, and that's

0:34:04.760 --> 0:34:08.840
<v Speaker 1>part of you growing and learning but also being able

0:34:08.880 --> 0:34:12.239
<v Speaker 1>to you know, I could listen to you way more

0:34:12.280 --> 0:34:14.919
<v Speaker 1>things that I've done that didn't work than things that did.

0:34:15.880 --> 0:34:19.200
<v Speaker 1>And you know, like even with this this podcast, it

0:34:19.239 --> 0:34:22.360
<v Speaker 1>would have been very reasonable after five hundred episodes to

0:34:22.440 --> 0:34:25.439
<v Speaker 1>go all right, I gave it a good go five

0:34:25.520 --> 0:34:29.120
<v Speaker 1>hundred episodes, like we're making no money because it took

0:34:29.200 --> 0:34:32.080
<v Speaker 1>us six hundred dollars before it was profit sorry, six

0:34:32.160 --> 0:34:36.640
<v Speaker 1>hundred episodes before it was profitable. So you know, I

0:34:36.680 --> 0:34:39.040
<v Speaker 1>think there's that. I think there's just paying attention to

0:34:39.080 --> 0:34:41.919
<v Speaker 1>the results and the data as well. And I think

0:34:42.040 --> 0:34:45.920
<v Speaker 1>maybe like sometimes when you just go and go and go,

0:34:46.000 --> 0:34:48.120
<v Speaker 1>and you realize, well, this is never going to work.

0:34:48.160 --> 0:34:51.080
<v Speaker 1>It doesn't matter how hard I try, Well, that that's

0:34:51.080 --> 0:34:53.680
<v Speaker 1>a different thing, you know, And that's just acknowledging that

0:34:54.760 --> 0:34:58.640
<v Speaker 1>either this isn't possible and that's okay, or it's very

0:34:58.800 --> 0:35:02.399
<v Speaker 1>very unlikely, or perhaps my strategy is wrong.

0:35:03.040 --> 0:35:07.560
<v Speaker 2>Perhaps I'm you and our psychology like some sometimes we

0:35:07.680 --> 0:35:11.839
<v Speaker 2>have a story that we're spending our lives affirming. So

0:35:11.920 --> 0:35:15.840
<v Speaker 2>everything I do not me specifically, but there can be

0:35:15.880 --> 0:35:19.600
<v Speaker 2>people who everything they do is really unconsciously to prove

0:35:19.680 --> 0:35:22.400
<v Speaker 2>to themselves that they will not make it, They.

0:35:22.320 --> 0:35:23.160
<v Speaker 4>Are not worthy.

0:35:23.280 --> 0:35:26.840
<v Speaker 2>It will not be easy, that shit all of the things.

0:35:27.120 --> 0:35:32.560
<v Speaker 2>And yes, yeah, so getting and that you can't get

0:35:33.000 --> 0:35:36.040
<v Speaker 2>a coach or a person that knows that about you,

0:35:36.120 --> 0:35:37.960
<v Speaker 2>But sometimes you don't know that about you.

0:35:38.840 --> 0:35:41.839
<v Speaker 1>Yes, yes, And I think when your story is I'm shit,

0:35:41.960 --> 0:35:45.040
<v Speaker 1>you find evidence to support your story. Correct, You look

0:35:45.080 --> 0:35:50.440
<v Speaker 1>for evidence and whether or not that's within or without. Yeah,

0:35:50.520 --> 0:35:54.680
<v Speaker 1>But I think also a big part of this journey

0:35:54.719 --> 0:35:58.000
<v Speaker 1>of becoming and whatever that I hate all these cliches everyone,

0:35:58.000 --> 0:36:00.760
<v Speaker 1>so I apologize. But whatever success is for you, right,

0:36:01.520 --> 0:36:04.279
<v Speaker 1>it doesn't matter what it is. It only matters to

0:36:04.320 --> 0:36:06.400
<v Speaker 1>you and whatever a better version of you or a

0:36:06.400 --> 0:36:10.959
<v Speaker 1>better life, whatever that means to you. But is being

0:36:11.000 --> 0:36:15.040
<v Speaker 1>able to do stuff where you get embarrassed, you get scared,

0:36:15.600 --> 0:36:19.160
<v Speaker 1>you get humiliated, you get all of the things that

0:36:19.239 --> 0:36:24.080
<v Speaker 1>you don't want, and you go, that's okay, that's okay,

0:36:24.520 --> 0:36:27.040
<v Speaker 1>I don't want this, but this is part of it,

0:36:28.120 --> 0:36:31.200
<v Speaker 1>you know that. It's like, back to your story of boxing.

0:36:31.239 --> 0:36:33.240
<v Speaker 1>How did you get good at boxing? Well, you started

0:36:33.239 --> 0:36:37.560
<v Speaker 1>by being shit, and you got beaten, and you got skilled,

0:36:37.600 --> 0:36:40.080
<v Speaker 1>and you got schooled, and you had a whole lot

0:36:40.080 --> 0:36:43.520
<v Speaker 1>of you know, I guess, mental emotional and physical pain.

0:36:43.600 --> 0:36:45.880
<v Speaker 1>And through the middle of that and all the training

0:36:45.880 --> 0:36:47.600
<v Speaker 1>and all the fights and all of that, you develop

0:36:47.680 --> 0:36:51.480
<v Speaker 1>skill and ring craft and awareness and the right kind

0:36:51.520 --> 0:36:55.480
<v Speaker 1>of fitness and strength and confidence and competence. And eventually,

0:36:56.680 --> 0:36:59.359
<v Speaker 1>after being shit, you become less shit, and then less shit,

0:36:59.400 --> 0:37:02.520
<v Speaker 1>then eventually not terrible, then kind of okay, and then wow,

0:37:02.520 --> 0:37:05.439
<v Speaker 1>not bad, then kind of good, and then for who

0:37:05.480 --> 0:37:07.360
<v Speaker 1>you were and what you had to work with, really

0:37:07.360 --> 0:37:10.279
<v Speaker 1>fucking good and winning titles. Right, But you had to

0:37:10.320 --> 0:37:13.719
<v Speaker 1>go through all the shits. And it ain't about boxing.

0:37:13.840 --> 0:37:16.680
<v Speaker 1>It's about growth. It's about being prepared to do what's

0:37:16.760 --> 0:37:20.040
<v Speaker 1>required to get to where I want to go now.

0:37:20.440 --> 0:37:23.480
<v Speaker 1>And you started late. Imagine if you started when you're eighteen,

0:37:23.520 --> 0:37:25.600
<v Speaker 1>you could have perhaps who knows has been a fucking

0:37:25.600 --> 0:37:29.319
<v Speaker 1>world champion, who knows. Like I didn't write my first

0:37:29.360 --> 0:37:32.400
<v Speaker 1>book till I was Nelly forty, and people used to

0:37:32.440 --> 0:37:35.200
<v Speaker 1>say to me, and they weren't I mean, they weren't

0:37:35.960 --> 0:37:37.840
<v Speaker 1>trying to reign on my parade. I think it's just

0:37:37.880 --> 0:37:40.600
<v Speaker 1>how they thought it's very hard to get a book

0:37:40.640 --> 0:37:44.200
<v Speaker 1>published if you're not a published author. I'm like, that's

0:37:44.239 --> 0:37:47.520
<v Speaker 1>the dumbest shit ever, because everybody had at some stage,

0:37:47.520 --> 0:37:49.600
<v Speaker 1>every author wrote a first book.

0:37:50.080 --> 0:37:50.319
<v Speaker 2>You know.

0:37:51.080 --> 0:37:55.640
<v Speaker 1>And it's like everyone, you know, JK. Rowlings wrote a

0:37:55.640 --> 0:37:59.000
<v Speaker 1>first book. Everyone wrote a first book, and everyone that

0:37:59.080 --> 0:38:01.640
<v Speaker 1>is a published author I had a chance somehow or

0:38:01.640 --> 0:38:07.600
<v Speaker 1>they created one or anyway. Sorry, Kelly, we've actually hijacked

0:38:07.600 --> 0:38:08.680
<v Speaker 1>to your moment in the sun.

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<v Speaker 4>This is great. I'd like sitting here. I'm sitting here

0:38:12.840 --> 0:38:14.359
<v Speaker 4>just absorbing at all.

0:38:15.040 --> 0:38:19.680
<v Speaker 3>What I do want to ask you both though, is yeah, absolutely,

0:38:19.800 --> 0:38:22.160
<v Speaker 3>it's you know, stepping into that room and looking at

0:38:22.160 --> 0:38:25.000
<v Speaker 3>yourself and asking yourself those questions about you know, what

0:38:25.120 --> 0:38:27.640
<v Speaker 3>is it that I'm telling myself around whether I can

0:38:27.760 --> 0:38:30.959
<v Speaker 3>or I can't, and just showing up every day, which

0:38:31.000 --> 0:38:34.799
<v Speaker 3>goes back to the initial thing I said about a

0:38:34.800 --> 0:38:36.600
<v Speaker 3>little bit of effort and how you can get so

0:38:36.719 --> 0:38:39.480
<v Speaker 3>much back from it, But what do you both do

0:38:39.600 --> 0:38:48.480
<v Speaker 3>on the days where you just really really don't want to.

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<v Speaker 1>To if you go first?

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like it's almost the opposite to me. I'm

0:38:53.600 --> 0:38:57.960
<v Speaker 2>in that adjusting expectations phase where I've made changes to

0:38:59.080 --> 0:39:04.640
<v Speaker 2>be okay with doing less and reprioritizing, and then still

0:39:04.680 --> 0:39:07.960
<v Speaker 2>in recent times coming up with oh, you're like, you

0:39:08.120 --> 0:39:11.000
<v Speaker 2>just you get trained. You train yourself in a behavior

0:39:11.120 --> 0:39:14.200
<v Speaker 2>so strongly that I have just been on the go

0:39:14.280 --> 0:39:17.200
<v Speaker 2>and chase and achieve and do and do every minute

0:39:17.200 --> 0:39:21.560
<v Speaker 2>of the day, and it's put me in a space

0:39:21.600 --> 0:39:24.880
<v Speaker 2>of rushing all the time. I'm always rushing, excited, like

0:39:24.920 --> 0:39:28.600
<v Speaker 2>I'm excited until I'm exhausted, and then I'm like, how

0:39:28.640 --> 0:39:34.319
<v Speaker 2>did we get here? So it's, you know, everything's doing

0:39:34.320 --> 0:39:37.359
<v Speaker 2>the hard things hard until not doing the hard thing

0:39:37.440 --> 0:39:40.520
<v Speaker 2>is harder, and stopping doing the hard thing, Like that's

0:39:40.880 --> 0:39:44.600
<v Speaker 2>what I'm The basis of my current kenot is how

0:39:45.400 --> 0:39:47.640
<v Speaker 2>what's the hard thing that I pretend I'm doing that's

0:39:47.719 --> 0:39:50.560
<v Speaker 2>really the hard thing would be to stop it?

0:39:51.719 --> 0:39:55.160
<v Speaker 4>Yeah? Yeah, yeah.

0:39:55.160 --> 0:39:58.800
<v Speaker 3>I just wonder for people that are listening who maybe

0:39:58.880 --> 0:40:05.680
<v Speaker 3>are absolutely terrified about starting or stopping something that have

0:40:05.800 --> 0:40:11.480
<v Speaker 3>those days of almost being you know, they just physically

0:40:11.520 --> 0:40:16.239
<v Speaker 3>can't or they mentally can't. Because I think that the

0:40:16.280 --> 0:40:18.560
<v Speaker 3>three of us are probably in spaces where we seek

0:40:18.600 --> 0:40:23.200
<v Speaker 3>out to be learning more, doing more, pushing ourselves like

0:40:23.239 --> 0:40:26.160
<v Speaker 3>I know, for instance, like I push myself to do

0:40:26.560 --> 0:40:30.120
<v Speaker 3>everything that I want to achieve. And again it's a story, right,

0:40:31.160 --> 0:40:35.400
<v Speaker 3>but yeah, I just find it so fascinating around just

0:40:35.440 --> 0:40:37.839
<v Speaker 3>being able to keep putting that one foot in front

0:40:37.840 --> 0:40:40.080
<v Speaker 3>of the other, and whether it's like it's a relearning

0:40:40.160 --> 0:40:42.440
<v Speaker 3>or it's just this is what I do now, or

0:40:42.840 --> 0:40:45.200
<v Speaker 3>this is what I have to do because not doing

0:40:45.239 --> 0:40:48.719
<v Speaker 3>it is going to be harder. Yeah, it's a really

0:40:48.760 --> 0:40:52.480
<v Speaker 3>fascinating thing for me to know what gives people that

0:40:52.560 --> 0:40:55.799
<v Speaker 3>drive on the days that they potentially can't even get

0:40:55.800 --> 0:40:59.480
<v Speaker 3>out of bed, like they're just frozen almost.

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<v Speaker 1>I think sometimes doing nothing is wisdom not weakness, right,

0:41:03.480 --> 0:41:06.719
<v Speaker 1>And there are times when doing nothing is weakness not wisdom, right.

0:41:06.760 --> 0:41:10.600
<v Speaker 1>So it's like there are times when you shouldn't train,

0:41:10.840 --> 0:41:13.320
<v Speaker 1>there are times where you should have a day or

0:41:13.360 --> 0:41:16.200
<v Speaker 1>a week off. There are times when hey don't make

0:41:16.239 --> 0:41:19.040
<v Speaker 1>any hard decisions today. But I think when you do

0:41:19.120 --> 0:41:24.000
<v Speaker 1>that consciously and intentionally and you've thought that through. This

0:41:24.040 --> 0:41:27.319
<v Speaker 1>is not a response or a reaction, or this is

0:41:27.360 --> 0:41:30.880
<v Speaker 1>not coming out of laziness or fear. This is like, oh, yeah, well,

0:41:31.239 --> 0:41:34.239
<v Speaker 1>of course I can't redline all the time. And while

0:41:34.280 --> 0:41:36.600
<v Speaker 1>I talk about having the crack and da da dah,

0:41:36.640 --> 0:41:39.240
<v Speaker 1>I'm also the big you know. I did a podcast

0:41:39.320 --> 0:41:43.640
<v Speaker 1>a few I don't know, weeks months ago, and I

0:41:43.640 --> 0:41:45.960
<v Speaker 1>think it was called there was something around the idea

0:41:46.000 --> 0:41:49.200
<v Speaker 1>of having fuck all days where you do fuck all.

0:41:49.480 --> 0:41:52.080
<v Speaker 1>It's like, what are you doing? Fuck all? But gladly

0:41:52.120 --> 0:41:55.319
<v Speaker 1>do fuck all? You know. It's like, oh, today's a

0:41:55.360 --> 0:41:57.640
<v Speaker 1>fuck all day. I'm going to watch Netflix. I'm going

0:41:57.719 --> 0:41:59.640
<v Speaker 1>to put my toes in the water, I'm going to

0:41:59.760 --> 0:42:02.640
<v Speaker 1>fuck can eat food. I'm not going to the gym.

0:42:02.840 --> 0:42:04.920
<v Speaker 1>I'm going to ring mum and talk shit to her

0:42:05.080 --> 0:42:07.799
<v Speaker 1>and doesn't and cool, That's what I'm doing. But I'm

0:42:07.840 --> 0:42:10.080
<v Speaker 1>not doing a month of that, do you know what

0:42:10.120 --> 0:42:12.200
<v Speaker 1>I mean? So I think to be able to and

0:42:12.239 --> 0:42:18.360
<v Speaker 1>this comes back to living consciously and intentionally, where I

0:42:18.360 --> 0:42:21.399
<v Speaker 1>would never suggest anybody redlines or has their foot flat

0:42:21.480 --> 0:42:24.439
<v Speaker 1>to the metaphoric floor. You know, seven days a week,

0:42:24.520 --> 0:42:26.759
<v Speaker 1>or six or even five days a week necessarily, it's

0:42:26.840 --> 0:42:29.400
<v Speaker 1>like think about you know, and if you get up

0:42:29.440 --> 0:42:31.719
<v Speaker 1>and your body is genuinely your body is going no,

0:42:31.800 --> 0:42:37.080
<v Speaker 1>not today. Well that's just that's biological insight. That's not weakness.

0:42:37.400 --> 0:42:40.040
<v Speaker 1>But that's not the same as I can't be fucked.

0:42:41.000 --> 0:42:43.960
<v Speaker 1>That's different. Go on, Tiff, I feel like, yeah, I'm

0:42:43.960 --> 0:42:44.560
<v Speaker 1>going to say.

0:42:44.400 --> 0:42:47.560
<v Speaker 2>To probably to more specifically answer your question for me, Kelly,

0:42:47.680 --> 0:42:51.399
<v Speaker 2>is I'd always lean on and remind myself of what

0:42:51.440 --> 0:42:54.560
<v Speaker 2>I learned through boxing. Like, every single time I got

0:42:54.560 --> 0:42:58.279
<v Speaker 2>in a car to go to boxing training, I hated it.

0:42:58.400 --> 0:43:00.719
<v Speaker 2>I was like, I'm tired, I don't want to go this,

0:43:00.920 --> 0:43:03.440
<v Speaker 2>I couldn't want to go less and every time I

0:43:03.520 --> 0:43:07.360
<v Speaker 2>left training was I couldn't wait to get back. So

0:43:07.480 --> 0:43:09.960
<v Speaker 2>I remind myself, well, you know that thing you love

0:43:10.000 --> 0:43:13.359
<v Speaker 2>the most, you know how every single time you had

0:43:13.360 --> 0:43:15.600
<v Speaker 2>to do it you hated it. That's what it takes.

0:43:15.680 --> 0:43:19.319
<v Speaker 2>That's what it takes to get what you want when

0:43:19.320 --> 0:43:20.400
<v Speaker 2>you know what that is.

0:43:21.360 --> 0:43:26.120
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, and you think about again the old if

0:43:26.160 --> 0:43:28.319
<v Speaker 1>we had one hundred people in a room and you said,

0:43:28.320 --> 0:43:31.680
<v Speaker 1>to the hundred people, who wants to be physically mentally

0:43:31.680 --> 0:43:35.319
<v Speaker 1>and emotionally stronger and more resilient and more capable. And

0:43:35.440 --> 0:43:39.320
<v Speaker 1>everyone puts up their hand because everyone likes the idea

0:43:39.520 --> 0:43:42.160
<v Speaker 1>of that. And then you go, right now, who's going

0:43:42.239 --> 0:43:45.319
<v Speaker 1>to fully commit to the work. It's like all the

0:43:45.400 --> 0:43:49.520
<v Speaker 1>hands stayed down. This is a podcast. This is like,

0:43:49.640 --> 0:43:53.759
<v Speaker 1>it's the theory of change, and that's that, you know.

0:43:54.120 --> 0:43:57.640
<v Speaker 1>And I just think for people, I think people get

0:43:57.640 --> 0:44:01.560
<v Speaker 1>and I completely understand this. People get overwhelmed by the

0:44:01.600 --> 0:44:05.520
<v Speaker 1>magnitude of the work ahead of them, especially when they're

0:44:05.520 --> 0:44:09.680
<v Speaker 1>coming from a long way back. You know, it's like, oh, fuck, yeah,

0:44:09.680 --> 0:44:12.520
<v Speaker 1>that's cool, Craig. But I can't even walk a kilometer

0:44:12.560 --> 0:44:16.920
<v Speaker 1>without having a rest. Great, Like, that's called baseline data.

0:44:17.000 --> 0:44:18.680
<v Speaker 1>So what can you do? Oh, well, I can walk

0:44:18.680 --> 0:44:20.840
<v Speaker 1>about five hundred meters? I go, well, well done you.

0:44:21.360 --> 0:44:24.480
<v Speaker 1>How often do you do that? I don't. Okay, So

0:44:25.280 --> 0:44:29.719
<v Speaker 1>why don't you three times a day walk five hundred meters? Great? Well,

0:44:29.760 --> 0:44:32.279
<v Speaker 1>that's a kilometer and a half a day. That's ten

0:44:32.320 --> 0:44:35.480
<v Speaker 1>and a half k's a week. You know, that's over

0:44:35.560 --> 0:44:39.319
<v Speaker 1>forty kilometers a month. Fuck, that's amazing. Let's start like

0:44:39.440 --> 0:44:41.960
<v Speaker 1>what it's not like, oh, let's run a marathon. Let's

0:44:42.000 --> 0:44:44.759
<v Speaker 1>build a brand. It's let's become a fucking influencer. It's like,

0:44:44.800 --> 0:44:46.960
<v Speaker 1>what can you do? What can you do well? I

0:44:47.000 --> 0:44:50.280
<v Speaker 1>can do three push ups leaning against the wall. Well done,

0:44:50.680 --> 0:44:53.400
<v Speaker 1>let's start there. I can stand on one foot and

0:44:53.400 --> 0:44:56.520
<v Speaker 1>balance for twelve seconds. Fuck go you, let's do that.

0:44:57.080 --> 0:44:59.480
<v Speaker 1>What else can you do? Well? I guess I can

0:44:59.560 --> 0:45:03.319
<v Speaker 1>read a bo I can read five pages. Fuck yeah,

0:45:03.480 --> 0:45:06.600
<v Speaker 1>read five pages? Like what can you do? What? Like?

0:45:06.680 --> 0:45:10.000
<v Speaker 1>What can you do? I trained a guy called Ben.

0:45:10.719 --> 0:45:15.040
<v Speaker 1>I've told this story maybe twice. He came to me.

0:45:15.120 --> 0:45:18.800
<v Speaker 1>He was over two hundred kilos, over two hundred kilos,

0:45:18.840 --> 0:45:25.000
<v Speaker 1>young man, early twenties, maybe late maybe nineteen. Anyway, he

0:45:25.040 --> 0:45:28.080
<v Speaker 1>came to me, His mum came to me, and they're like, basically,

0:45:28.480 --> 0:45:31.759
<v Speaker 1>is there any point like could you work with him?

0:45:31.880 --> 0:45:34.719
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, of course I can work with him. Fuck yeah,

0:45:34.760 --> 0:45:37.920
<v Speaker 1>I'm excited to work with him. And it's just like

0:45:38.080 --> 0:45:41.960
<v Speaker 1>for me, that was so much fun and so enjoyable

0:45:42.000 --> 0:45:45.399
<v Speaker 1>and so exciting because I'm like, hey, bro, what can

0:45:45.440 --> 0:45:48.759
<v Speaker 1>you do? I'm like, here's ten stairs, can you get

0:45:48.840 --> 0:45:51.400
<v Speaker 1>up them? He's like he got up the ten stairs.

0:45:51.440 --> 0:45:54.160
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, fucking high five dude, get the up, butter Cup,

0:45:54.239 --> 0:45:56.719
<v Speaker 1>look at you like a fucking gang star, right, all

0:45:56.760 --> 0:45:59.839
<v Speaker 1>of a sudden, Like for that dude to walk ten

0:46:00.040 --> 0:46:04.360
<v Speaker 1>stairs is like Tiff running three k's right. So it's like,

0:46:04.440 --> 0:46:06.560
<v Speaker 1>what can you do? What can you do? I can

0:46:06.600 --> 0:46:09.600
<v Speaker 1>do ten? Great? Now can you come back down. Let's

0:46:09.640 --> 0:46:11.680
<v Speaker 1>have a little drink of water, Let's have a chat.

0:46:11.800 --> 0:46:14.680
<v Speaker 1>Now can you do that again? Cool? And so today

0:46:14.719 --> 0:46:17.120
<v Speaker 1>we did four times ten. We did forty steps, which

0:46:17.160 --> 0:46:19.920
<v Speaker 1>is forty more than you did yesterday. Now can you

0:46:19.960 --> 0:46:24.160
<v Speaker 1>lift this weight? Now? Can you let's go for a walk.

0:46:24.320 --> 0:46:26.319
<v Speaker 1>Let's see how far we can. Let's do a four

0:46:26.360 --> 0:46:29.400
<v Speaker 1>minute walk and see if you can walk four minutes NonStop.

0:46:29.440 --> 0:46:31.960
<v Speaker 1>You did, well done. I'm writing and in the diary

0:46:32.040 --> 0:46:35.759
<v Speaker 1>this is day one of you fuck better butter Cup.

0:46:36.600 --> 0:46:41.080
<v Speaker 1>Did my microphone just change Tiff just briefly? Yeah? Sorry?

0:46:41.120 --> 0:46:44.680
<v Speaker 1>But I mean that's the thing, like, get fucking excited.

0:46:44.880 --> 0:46:48.000
<v Speaker 1>What can you do? It doesn't matter what other people do.

0:46:48.440 --> 0:46:52.600
<v Speaker 1>The only person you should compare yourself to, you compare

0:46:52.640 --> 0:46:56.600
<v Speaker 1>yourself to is you, And then that way you're moving

0:46:56.640 --> 0:47:01.120
<v Speaker 1>forward in a positive emotional and psychological and also space.

0:47:01.160 --> 0:47:05.359
<v Speaker 1>But also it's just intelligent because the body that you've

0:47:05.400 --> 0:47:07.400
<v Speaker 1>only got one body, and that's the body you're working with,

0:47:07.520 --> 0:47:09.520
<v Speaker 1>or only one brain, or only one mind, or only

0:47:09.560 --> 0:47:13.120
<v Speaker 1>one intellect, or only one creative capacity, whatever it is

0:47:13.120 --> 0:47:16.399
<v Speaker 1>that you're working with, that's all you've got to work with.

0:47:16.480 --> 0:47:21.200
<v Speaker 1>So just compare current you with yesterday's you and tomorrow

0:47:21.360 --> 0:47:23.919
<v Speaker 1>with yesterday's you, and then we get a real sense

0:47:23.920 --> 0:47:27.400
<v Speaker 1>of progress and achievement. And that makes sense. And going

0:47:27.440 --> 0:47:31.000
<v Speaker 1>from you know, whether or not it's walking for three minutes,

0:47:31.719 --> 0:47:34.160
<v Speaker 1>or whether or not it's it's reading a book in

0:47:34.239 --> 0:47:37.719
<v Speaker 1>a year, or whether or not it's having a hard conversation,

0:47:38.400 --> 0:47:41.319
<v Speaker 1>it's only relative to the person in the middle of it.

0:47:43.520 --> 0:47:45.520
<v Speaker 3>And you know, that's the answer to what I was

0:47:45.600 --> 0:47:49.359
<v Speaker 3>just asking. On the days that you really don't want to,

0:47:49.520 --> 0:47:51.200
<v Speaker 3>it's just a question of what can you do?

0:47:53.080 --> 0:47:55.480
<v Speaker 1>Open ten dollars for that answer, No worries.

0:47:55.560 --> 0:47:56.400
<v Speaker 4>I think that's great.

0:47:56.440 --> 0:47:59.640
<v Speaker 3>I think that you can apply that to everything, and

0:47:59.719 --> 0:48:03.080
<v Speaker 3>it's just a matter of the effort and the intent

0:48:03.360 --> 0:48:05.799
<v Speaker 3>that Yeah, there we go, look at that.

0:48:05.960 --> 0:48:07.080
<v Speaker 1>Yeahreate you.

0:48:07.320 --> 0:48:08.560
<v Speaker 4>Thanks, Thanks guys.

0:48:08.880 --> 0:48:11.480
<v Speaker 1>I feel like we uh and by we I mean

0:48:11.600 --> 0:48:14.960
<v Speaker 1>me hijacked. Have you got another question? And both of us,

0:48:15.000 --> 0:48:18.200
<v Speaker 1>will shut up while you asked the question and actually

0:48:18.280 --> 0:48:19.399
<v Speaker 1>let you have some mere time.

0:48:20.520 --> 0:48:23.200
<v Speaker 4>I'm enjoying you. Though it's great, I feel a bit.

0:48:23.320 --> 0:48:25.520
<v Speaker 3>I feel a bit rusty having come back from, you know,

0:48:25.560 --> 0:48:29.440
<v Speaker 3>three weeks on the Carbonara tour and it was let

0:48:29.480 --> 0:48:31.000
<v Speaker 3>me tell you, it was the Carbonara tour.

0:48:31.560 --> 0:48:32.879
<v Speaker 4>It was great. Did you put on.

0:48:32.920 --> 0:48:36.160
<v Speaker 1>Did you put on weight? Mary? Mary would say, did

0:48:36.160 --> 0:48:38.520
<v Speaker 1>you put on any weight while you're away? Mary rang

0:48:38.560 --> 0:48:41.640
<v Speaker 1>me just before canell? Do you know? Can I just no,

0:48:41.760 --> 0:48:43.839
<v Speaker 1>I's going to hijack it again. Remind me to tell

0:48:43.840 --> 0:48:46.600
<v Speaker 1>you the Mary story. Tip tell us about the Carbonara

0:48:46.800 --> 0:48:48.759
<v Speaker 1>Bloody Tour. I did.

0:48:48.840 --> 0:48:51.239
<v Speaker 3>Let let Mary know that I indulged in a lot

0:48:51.280 --> 0:48:57.360
<v Speaker 3>of Carbonara daily Carbonara feasts, and I have returned a

0:48:57.360 --> 0:49:00.920
<v Speaker 3>little bit heavier, but you know, so what, it was enjoyable.

0:49:01.120 --> 0:49:04.720
<v Speaker 3>It was so enjoyable. And I've come back and started

0:49:04.719 --> 0:49:07.520
<v Speaker 3>back at the gym, which is also very enjoyable. And

0:49:07.680 --> 0:49:10.640
<v Speaker 3>it's such a beautiful community of people there. They walked

0:49:10.680 --> 0:49:13.160
<v Speaker 3>in and they're like, oh my god, you're back.

0:49:13.480 --> 0:49:15.080
<v Speaker 4>We missed you. How was it? And I was like,

0:49:15.160 --> 0:49:16.160
<v Speaker 4>oh that's nice.

0:49:16.920 --> 0:49:18.040
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's good, isn't it.

0:49:18.400 --> 0:49:18.640
<v Speaker 4>Yeah?

0:49:20.040 --> 0:49:23.040
<v Speaker 1>I've never been to Italy. Been to Europe, but I

0:49:23.080 --> 0:49:26.200
<v Speaker 1>haven't been to Italy. Is the pastor as good as

0:49:26.239 --> 0:49:29.239
<v Speaker 1>they say? Like everyone's like, oh, it's different, it's not

0:49:29.320 --> 0:49:32.279
<v Speaker 1>the same, Like you cannot understand is it that good?

0:49:33.080 --> 0:49:33.640
<v Speaker 4>It's better?

0:49:34.320 --> 0:49:34.680
<v Speaker 1>Really?

0:49:35.040 --> 0:49:42.080
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, different ingredients, different way of cooking. It's very simple

0:49:42.160 --> 0:49:44.240
<v Speaker 3>food done really really well.

0:49:45.520 --> 0:49:46.600
<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

0:49:46.640 --> 0:49:49.120
<v Speaker 1>Wow, all right, I'll bet a prodominal list. All right,

0:49:49.200 --> 0:49:53.680
<v Speaker 1>let's here's my Mary story before we go. So Mary

0:49:53.760 --> 0:49:56.960
<v Speaker 1>rang me just before I was out traversing suburbia like

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<v Speaker 1>a fucking weirdo that I am with my beanie on,

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<v Speaker 1>my headphones on, looking like fucking the Hampton Terrorist. Anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>Mary rings and she goes, oh, you off to Queensland tomorrow?

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<v Speaker 1>And I go yep. She goes, all right, well I

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<v Speaker 1>thought i'd ring before you go. I go, mum, you can.

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<v Speaker 1>It doesn't matter where I am, you can ring, right,

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<v Speaker 1>It's like my phone works in Queensland. She thinks she

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<v Speaker 1>has to call me before I go and after I

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<v Speaker 1>get back that doesn't want to bother me. I go, mum,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm actually got more free time when I'm away. So anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>She's like, all right, all right, then I'll my Mum's

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<v Speaker 1>way of saying I'm going to pray for you is

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<v Speaker 1>I'll send a few up for you. And she's like,

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<v Speaker 1>and I don't know, but in Catholicism there are all

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<v Speaker 1>these patron saints of different things, right, So she goes,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll say a prayer to Sir Anthony, and she goes, all,

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<v Speaker 1>not Sir Anthony. She goes, who's the patron saint of

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<v Speaker 1>travel again, and then it's like, Saint Christopher. I'll pray

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<v Speaker 1>to Saint Christopher for you. I'm like, you do that, Mary,

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<v Speaker 1>I go, what about Jesus? She goes, yeah, him too.

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<v Speaker 1>But you know, I'm like, all right, well, let's let's

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<v Speaker 1>just bang out a couples to Saint Christopher. He's the

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<v Speaker 1>patron saint of travel and St Anthony, Tiff and kel

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<v Speaker 1>and listeners. Apparently he's the saint when you lose something

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<v Speaker 1>and you can't find it, you say prayer to Saint.

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<v Speaker 2>Anthony to befriend Saint Anthony, just to.

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<v Speaker 1>Keep everyone in the loop. According to Mary anyway, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't quote me exactly, but I think that's that's how

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<v Speaker 1>it goes. So, and can I say to you when

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<v Speaker 1>she says I'm going to pray to Saint Anthony for you.

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<v Speaker 1>She's not being hilarious and funny. She's like she's giving

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<v Speaker 1>me her like spiritual covering so that when I'm away,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to be protected. Oh. I love her so much.

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<v Speaker 4>That's beautiful.

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<v Speaker 1>Who's going to pray for me? When Mary buys the farm?

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<v Speaker 1>When she goes to that big bloody you know cathedral

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<v Speaker 1>in the sky.

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<v Speaker 4>She'll she'll be sending prayers down. That's right, Yeah, she'll

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<v Speaker 4>be sending.

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<v Speaker 1>That'll make me more nervous because she'll know everything I'm

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<v Speaker 1>fucking doing, because with her little beady eyes from her

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<v Speaker 1>cloud up there, she'll just be watching me.

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<v Speaker 2>She might be sitting in the bamboom.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, I don't know how we're talking about my mum's

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<v Speaker 1>death now. I feel like that's taken a dark turn.

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<v Speaker 1>But she's still here and we love her. Let's hope

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<v Speaker 1>she's here for a long time. And Ronnie as well.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh that got bad quick, didn't it. Oh, let's chop

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<v Speaker 1>that out. No, Hey, everyone, thanks so much for joining us.

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<v Speaker 1>Kel I'm glad you're back. We're glad you had a

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<v Speaker 1>good trip.

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<v Speaker 4>Thank you.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so glad you put on ten kilos via the pasta. No,

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<v Speaker 1>you didn't, you don't. You don't look like you've gained anything,

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<v Speaker 1>which is very annoying. But next time you travel, let

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<v Speaker 1>Mary know and she'll send a few up for you.

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<v Speaker 4>I'll request it, absolutely all right.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks everyone, Thanks TIV, thank you Sarah,