1 00:00:05,921 --> 00:00:07,281 Speaker 1: Apoday production. 2 00:00:10,121 --> 00:00:13,521 Speaker 2: We begin today by acknowledging the traditional custodians of the 3 00:00:13,601 --> 00:00:16,441 Speaker 2: land on which we gather today and pay our respects 4 00:00:16,481 --> 00:00:19,641 Speaker 2: to their elders past and present. We extend that respect 5 00:00:19,721 --> 00:00:25,441 Speaker 2: to Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people's here today. Welcome 6 00:00:25,481 --> 00:00:28,801 Speaker 2: to the Grow and Glow Podcast. I'm Ashy, I'm Kiara. 7 00:00:28,961 --> 00:00:31,321 Speaker 2: This is a podcast where we learn, laugh, and level 8 00:00:31,361 --> 00:00:31,841 Speaker 2: up together. 9 00:00:32,120 --> 00:00:33,201 Speaker 1: Let's go deep, let. 10 00:00:33,081 --> 00:00:36,161 Speaker 2: The emotions flow, and find the lessons to grow and glow. 11 00:00:36,521 --> 00:00:38,321 Speaker 1: Nothing is off the table with Grow and Glow and 12 00:00:38,361 --> 00:00:45,361 Speaker 1: we're here to be your expander. Hello everybody, welcome back. 13 00:00:46,120 --> 00:00:52,361 Speaker 1: And today we're talking about just slowing it right down. 14 00:00:52,721 --> 00:00:55,801 Speaker 1: This has been so relevant for both Kiara and I 15 00:00:55,840 --> 00:00:58,601 Speaker 1: feel like we're on very similar paths, which is really 16 00:00:58,681 --> 00:01:01,360 Speaker 1: nice to be surrounded by women who just get it. 17 00:01:02,121 --> 00:01:05,481 Speaker 1: And we're trying to listen more, read more, be around 18 00:01:05,681 --> 00:01:09,681 Speaker 1: more beautiful feminine energies and just women that really embody 19 00:01:09,721 --> 00:01:13,041 Speaker 1: their feminine essence and are slowing down and nurturing themselves 20 00:01:13,121 --> 00:01:16,041 Speaker 1: and are open and magnetic, and that's what we're wanting 21 00:01:16,041 --> 00:01:18,041 Speaker 1: more of. So we've really been focusing on it and 22 00:01:18,121 --> 00:01:22,160 Speaker 1: it's been so beautiful and so like, I don't know. 23 00:01:22,401 --> 00:01:23,841 Speaker 2: Just it's an exciting journey too. 24 00:01:23,961 --> 00:01:26,640 Speaker 1: It's really exciting, but it's also there's been moments of 25 00:01:26,681 --> 00:01:31,481 Speaker 1: discomfort as I like change and navigate through. But yeah, 26 00:01:31,521 --> 00:01:33,361 Speaker 1: it's been really cool and excited to see where we 27 00:01:33,441 --> 00:01:35,560 Speaker 1: both are in six months time and how we're showing 28 00:01:35,601 --> 00:01:37,200 Speaker 1: up and how we're doing things differently. So we thought 29 00:01:37,241 --> 00:01:39,281 Speaker 1: we'd talk about it today because anytime you talk about 30 00:01:39,280 --> 00:01:41,961 Speaker 1: it on socials or I mentioned little things on socials, 31 00:01:41,961 --> 00:01:45,280 Speaker 1: like our dms explode with wanting more, which shows us 32 00:01:45,321 --> 00:01:48,121 Speaker 1: that so many women are struggling with this. And you know, 33 00:01:48,201 --> 00:01:50,481 Speaker 1: for so long we were pushing for equal rights and 34 00:01:50,521 --> 00:01:52,441 Speaker 1: for women to be empowered and like we can lead 35 00:01:52,441 --> 00:01:55,081 Speaker 1: the way and we can be directors and CEOs and 36 00:01:55,121 --> 00:01:58,001 Speaker 1: all this stuff, which is so empowering and so cool, 37 00:01:58,481 --> 00:02:02,001 Speaker 1: but also we're still mums, we're still managing household, we're 38 00:02:02,041 --> 00:02:05,921 Speaker 1: still carrying all it and wearing all these hats fucking burn. Yeah, 39 00:02:05,961 --> 00:02:09,001 Speaker 1: and it's so praised and celebrated, but then like, at 40 00:02:09,041 --> 00:02:11,561 Speaker 1: what cost the cost of our energy, the cost of 41 00:02:11,601 --> 00:02:14,520 Speaker 1: our relationships, the cost of our house, our nervous system, 42 00:02:14,601 --> 00:02:17,841 Speaker 1: our sleep, skin, at dijustive issues like everything that we 43 00:02:17,960 --> 00:02:21,001 Speaker 1: value is because we're so fucking busy. Yeah, we need 44 00:02:21,041 --> 00:02:23,161 Speaker 1: to just put a pause for a moment and take 45 00:02:23,161 --> 00:02:26,601 Speaker 1: a breath. But it's hard because now we're all kind 46 00:02:26,641 --> 00:02:27,721 Speaker 1: of stuck in these ruts. 47 00:02:27,800 --> 00:02:30,281 Speaker 2: You've committed to things, and you're if you really want 48 00:02:30,281 --> 00:02:32,321 Speaker 2: to change your life, you're having to make drastic moves. 49 00:02:32,441 --> 00:02:34,521 Speaker 1: Yes, we've all bitten off a little bit more than 50 00:02:34,561 --> 00:02:36,601 Speaker 1: what we can do. Yeah, and sometimes it takes a 51 00:02:36,641 --> 00:02:39,281 Speaker 1: big health scare or something to happen to make us go, oh, 52 00:02:39,401 --> 00:02:42,201 Speaker 1: this does not feel good anymore. And then it's also 53 00:02:42,321 --> 00:02:45,520 Speaker 1: having that realization, Like I remember realizing like I don't 54 00:02:45,561 --> 00:02:47,921 Speaker 1: want to do this business anymore. But it's like, but 55 00:02:48,041 --> 00:02:51,081 Speaker 1: I'm stuck. How do I get out of this? I've 56 00:02:51,081 --> 00:02:53,641 Speaker 1: committed to this. I feel like I owe my audience 57 00:02:53,680 --> 00:02:55,201 Speaker 1: to keep going. I feel like I own my staff 58 00:02:55,240 --> 00:02:57,841 Speaker 1: members to keep going. I owe it to myself. I 59 00:02:57,841 --> 00:03:00,041 Speaker 1: want to show my kids like you can do all 60 00:03:00,081 --> 00:03:02,960 Speaker 1: the things. Yeah, but at what costs? 61 00:03:03,041 --> 00:03:05,721 Speaker 2: Isn't it amazing for your kids to see you actually 62 00:03:05,800 --> 00:03:08,001 Speaker 2: listen to your heart intuition. Yeah. 63 00:03:08,041 --> 00:03:10,921 Speaker 1: I loved having in this conversation with Taj about closing 64 00:03:10,960 --> 00:03:13,440 Speaker 1: Baseline because he was even like, but why, Mom, that's 65 00:03:13,441 --> 00:03:17,441 Speaker 1: your business. It makes money. I was like, yeah, it does, honey, 66 00:03:17,481 --> 00:03:20,361 Speaker 1: it does, but I don't enjoy it anymore. And I 67 00:03:20,401 --> 00:03:21,921 Speaker 1: hope you know right now you want to be a 68 00:03:21,921 --> 00:03:25,041 Speaker 1: police officer. If you go and study and get qualified 69 00:03:25,081 --> 00:03:27,041 Speaker 1: and you're a police officer for six months and you go, 70 00:03:27,520 --> 00:03:30,441 Speaker 1: why don't mum, I don't like this? Cool, Go be 71 00:03:30,520 --> 00:03:32,201 Speaker 1: a painter, you know, whatever you want to do. I 72 00:03:32,240 --> 00:03:35,201 Speaker 1: want you to try different things. And when you're twenty 73 00:03:35,241 --> 00:03:37,081 Speaker 1: to twenty five, you might do one job, and then 74 00:03:37,481 --> 00:03:39,561 Speaker 1: you know, twenty six to twenty eight, you might do 75 00:03:39,561 --> 00:03:41,721 Speaker 1: another job. Like whatever, I just go with the flow, 76 00:03:42,201 --> 00:03:44,681 Speaker 1: do it, set your heart and fire, try new things. 77 00:03:45,001 --> 00:03:46,641 Speaker 1: Never think that you just have to stay in one 78 00:03:46,681 --> 00:03:49,521 Speaker 1: box and remain as you are. Yeah, which is really cool. 79 00:03:49,521 --> 00:03:52,561 Speaker 2: It's a cool conversation, really cool conversation, an important one 80 00:03:52,561 --> 00:03:54,121 Speaker 2: for us to have in this day and age, and 81 00:03:54,241 --> 00:03:57,081 Speaker 2: also this whole movement of us wanting to slow down, 82 00:03:57,201 --> 00:04:00,201 Speaker 2: both having daughters as well, like I don't want Tarlet 83 00:04:00,281 --> 00:04:02,361 Speaker 2: to put on a masculine shield and mask from an 84 00:04:02,401 --> 00:04:04,641 Speaker 2: early age, and like feel that she needs to be 85 00:04:04,681 --> 00:04:07,121 Speaker 2: moving the pace that women are these days, because it's 86 00:04:07,161 --> 00:04:10,121 Speaker 2: exhausting and it doesn't feel good. It's not where our 87 00:04:10,201 --> 00:04:14,201 Speaker 2: natural energy is, you know, a natural feminine we are 88 00:04:14,521 --> 00:04:18,081 Speaker 2: slow and we receive, and we're flowy, and we're creative 89 00:04:18,121 --> 00:04:21,681 Speaker 2: and we're nurturing. We can't embody all of that when 90 00:04:21,721 --> 00:04:23,760 Speaker 2: we're running at the pace that we are. We cannot 91 00:04:23,801 --> 00:04:26,961 Speaker 2: be that. When we're hustling, going, we're goal orientating. We're 92 00:04:27,001 --> 00:04:27,841 Speaker 2: so stuck in our head. 93 00:04:28,081 --> 00:04:29,721 Speaker 1: When we're in our head, we're not in our body, 94 00:04:29,921 --> 00:04:32,281 Speaker 1: and then our body can't relax and flow. Then we 95 00:04:32,281 --> 00:04:34,961 Speaker 1: can't surrender, Then we can't receive. Then we build resentment 96 00:04:35,001 --> 00:04:37,561 Speaker 1: for the masculine as well. And the polarity is just 97 00:04:37,561 --> 00:04:41,001 Speaker 1: like head butting. It's a downward spiral. But we didn't 98 00:04:41,001 --> 00:04:43,121 Speaker 1: see it until we kind of pull ourselves out and 99 00:04:43,161 --> 00:04:44,081 Speaker 1: go ah. 100 00:04:44,121 --> 00:04:46,281 Speaker 2: I said to Ashi, I feel like a big thing 101 00:04:46,361 --> 00:04:50,561 Speaker 2: for us too with starting this journey was actually eateen. Yeah, 102 00:04:50,601 --> 00:04:54,681 Speaker 2: because I started reading those feminine energy books. So I 103 00:04:54,721 --> 00:04:57,721 Speaker 2: feel like for us and just being in the wavelength 104 00:04:58,241 --> 00:05:02,801 Speaker 2: of being able to completely tune in slow down, there'd 105 00:05:02,841 --> 00:05:06,121 Speaker 2: be no rush is having four days of life really 106 00:05:06,361 --> 00:05:09,281 Speaker 2: going at your body's pace. Yes, it was like, how 107 00:05:09,361 --> 00:05:11,281 Speaker 2: the hell can I incorporate this more into my life, 108 00:05:11,320 --> 00:05:15,080 Speaker 2: because man, I've missed actually like feeling myself, Like you 109 00:05:15,201 --> 00:05:17,280 Speaker 2: get so busy you don't even check in with yourself. 110 00:05:17,401 --> 00:05:19,921 Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah. The pace we're running at, it's like we 111 00:05:19,961 --> 00:05:22,601 Speaker 1: were running a marathon, running at the pace of your 112 00:05:22,841 --> 00:05:23,880 Speaker 1: not even live line. 113 00:05:23,921 --> 00:05:27,801 Speaker 2: You're not living for you, No, you're living for fucking 114 00:05:28,081 --> 00:05:29,601 Speaker 2: everything else but yourself. 115 00:05:29,721 --> 00:05:32,081 Speaker 1: Yeah. The rate that we're running at, our mind, our 116 00:05:32,121 --> 00:05:35,681 Speaker 1: body just is not keeping up, but we're forcing it to. Hence, 117 00:05:35,721 --> 00:05:39,880 Speaker 1: while we feel so burnt out, exhausted, stressed, resentful, digestive 118 00:05:39,880 --> 00:05:42,601 Speaker 1: issues like whatever's going on. I think if we actually 119 00:05:42,601 --> 00:05:44,801 Speaker 1: slowed down and when at the pace of our body, 120 00:05:44,880 --> 00:05:47,521 Speaker 1: not our minds, so much of our issues and problems 121 00:05:47,561 --> 00:05:50,841 Speaker 1: would be resolved so quickly. Like I don't know about you, 122 00:05:50,880 --> 00:05:52,521 Speaker 1: but I feel like I'm just scratching this serve. It's 123 00:05:52,521 --> 00:05:53,881 Speaker 1: like I'm just at the beginning of my journey and 124 00:05:53,921 --> 00:05:57,481 Speaker 1: I've already learned so much and incorporated so much and 125 00:05:57,601 --> 00:06:00,161 Speaker 1: felt so different. But I can't wait for the next 126 00:06:00,241 --> 00:06:02,481 Speaker 1: six months. Yeah, exciting, so cool. 127 00:06:03,721 --> 00:06:06,921 Speaker 2: Something else that I've really noticed as well, that I've 128 00:06:06,961 --> 00:06:09,041 Speaker 2: focused on, which I feel like I've noticed it in 129 00:06:09,081 --> 00:06:11,521 Speaker 2: you too, is my talking pace. 130 00:06:12,001 --> 00:06:14,640 Speaker 1: As we said, that's a previous episode. 131 00:06:14,320 --> 00:06:17,200 Speaker 2: But I feel like it's something I've consciously been doing. 132 00:06:17,481 --> 00:06:19,841 Speaker 2: Rather than like just being in my head and splurting 133 00:06:19,841 --> 00:06:22,841 Speaker 2: out everything I'm thinking, I'm actually taking a second to 134 00:06:22,880 --> 00:06:25,440 Speaker 2: be like, well, how does that feel? How do I 135 00:06:25,440 --> 00:06:28,201 Speaker 2: want to respond, rather than like just reacting and saying 136 00:06:28,281 --> 00:06:30,921 Speaker 2: every little thing that's coming to my mind. So that's 137 00:06:30,921 --> 00:06:33,001 Speaker 2: been a big one for me that I feel like 138 00:06:33,801 --> 00:06:36,001 Speaker 2: has been really cool and been a bit more of 139 00:06:36,041 --> 00:06:38,361 Speaker 2: a challenge because we are fast talkers. 140 00:06:38,481 --> 00:06:39,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, we're talking to water. 141 00:06:39,961 --> 00:06:42,161 Speaker 2: I've noticed a walking pace, babe. This is another thing 142 00:06:42,161 --> 00:06:43,561 Speaker 2: that's cool because I can see these things in you 143 00:06:43,601 --> 00:06:45,961 Speaker 2: as well. Like when we came up here, I think 144 00:06:45,961 --> 00:06:48,001 Speaker 2: it was a couple times ago. We're walking somewhere we're 145 00:06:48,001 --> 00:06:49,401 Speaker 2: going to like dinner, and I remember I had like 146 00:06:49,481 --> 00:06:51,880 Speaker 2: high heels on and I'm like just cruising. 147 00:06:51,561 --> 00:06:53,281 Speaker 1: And You're like, I'm I trying to keep up with you, 148 00:06:53,320 --> 00:06:55,041 Speaker 1: and I was like, I'm a lot taller than you, 149 00:06:55,041 --> 00:06:57,481 Speaker 1: remember to my strips, a lot larger than your spend 150 00:06:57,601 --> 00:07:00,441 Speaker 1: this trip. You've just been like cruiser. 151 00:07:01,121 --> 00:07:04,481 Speaker 2: And that's the thing is it also is just the 152 00:07:04,481 --> 00:07:06,601 Speaker 2: way you sh show up and it doesn't have to 153 00:07:06,641 --> 00:07:07,720 Speaker 2: be all the big things. 154 00:07:07,761 --> 00:07:09,600 Speaker 1: It can also be all the little things. 155 00:07:10,321 --> 00:07:13,601 Speaker 2: How are you walking from place to place? Are you 156 00:07:13,841 --> 00:07:15,881 Speaker 2: rushing and frantic and grabbing this and grabbing that and 157 00:07:15,921 --> 00:07:19,561 Speaker 2: blah blah blah, Or are you like I can take 158 00:07:19,681 --> 00:07:24,721 Speaker 2: five extra seconds to get somewhere and actually be in 159 00:07:24,801 --> 00:07:26,641 Speaker 2: my body, Yeah, and not in my head. 160 00:07:26,681 --> 00:07:28,361 Speaker 1: I caught myself the other day grocery shop. I think 161 00:07:28,361 --> 00:07:30,001 Speaker 1: I was telling you on the way up here, and 162 00:07:30,041 --> 00:07:32,201 Speaker 1: I was rushing around getting the groceries, and I was like, 163 00:07:33,761 --> 00:07:35,361 Speaker 1: I just stopped in the middle of grocery store and 164 00:07:35,361 --> 00:07:37,961 Speaker 1: I was like, soe down, Sis, you don't have to 165 00:07:38,161 --> 00:07:40,841 Speaker 1: keep rushing through, take your time. And I'm having this 166 00:07:40,921 --> 00:07:43,921 Speaker 1: internal conversation, like you love grocery shopping, You love checking 167 00:07:43,921 --> 00:07:45,961 Speaker 1: out the new foods and going down each aisle. Like 168 00:07:46,321 --> 00:07:49,481 Speaker 1: grocery shopping for me is really therapeutic. I love it. 169 00:07:49,521 --> 00:07:52,321 Speaker 1: So I took my sweet ass time walking through the aisles. 170 00:07:52,121 --> 00:07:52,961 Speaker 2: Checking the ingredients. 171 00:07:53,041 --> 00:07:55,361 Speaker 1: Yeah, checking everything out, just like I didn't need to 172 00:07:55,441 --> 00:07:57,641 Speaker 1: rush back. No, so he's coming home with the kids. 173 00:07:57,681 --> 00:07:58,441 Speaker 1: Why am I rushing? 174 00:07:58,601 --> 00:08:01,281 Speaker 2: But that's time differends. This is the thing, like we 175 00:08:01,321 --> 00:08:03,241 Speaker 2: think if you rush, you're going to actually do something 176 00:08:03,401 --> 00:08:06,201 Speaker 2: so much faster. But it's like if you go at 177 00:08:06,201 --> 00:08:08,041 Speaker 2: a bit of a slower pace, it might add an 178 00:08:08,041 --> 00:08:09,961 Speaker 2: extra five or ten minutes to the whole trip. 179 00:08:10,241 --> 00:08:12,721 Speaker 1: Like it's not much, yeah, is it. It's just the 180 00:08:12,801 --> 00:08:16,321 Speaker 1: experience of it making it more slow, more enjoyable, and 181 00:08:16,401 --> 00:08:19,521 Speaker 1: every single day too, Like it's those micro moments you're 182 00:08:19,561 --> 00:08:22,321 Speaker 1: missing if you're rushing that actually can be really enjoyable, 183 00:08:22,841 --> 00:08:25,641 Speaker 1: like cooking your dinner, putting the creams on your body, 184 00:08:25,681 --> 00:08:28,921 Speaker 1: doing your skin care, taking a slower shower, like feeling 185 00:08:28,921 --> 00:08:31,321 Speaker 1: the fabric of the pajamas that you're putting on. Just 186 00:08:31,361 --> 00:08:34,361 Speaker 1: like taking more slow moments with your kids. Yeah, looking 187 00:08:34,361 --> 00:08:37,521 Speaker 1: at the ingredients of the shopping list, like just breathing 188 00:08:37,721 --> 00:08:39,761 Speaker 1: and going at the pace of your body, not your mind. 189 00:08:40,161 --> 00:08:42,161 Speaker 1: That's the big takeaway I think too. 190 00:08:42,281 --> 00:08:45,761 Speaker 2: By slowing down, I feel like I've been loving on 191 00:08:45,801 --> 00:08:49,241 Speaker 2: myself more so when I'm putting like my skin care 192 00:08:49,321 --> 00:08:53,201 Speaker 2: on rather than just like slopping wo whack, she's done 193 00:08:53,281 --> 00:08:57,041 Speaker 2: for the day, actually taking time and like massaging it 194 00:08:57,081 --> 00:08:59,121 Speaker 2: so it actually feels nice. It feels like an experience. 195 00:08:59,521 --> 00:09:02,921 Speaker 2: It's doing the exact same task, but making something. I 196 00:09:02,921 --> 00:09:05,041 Speaker 2: guess it's kind of a little bit like romanticizing your life. 197 00:09:05,081 --> 00:09:07,641 Speaker 1: I feel it was like a trend, but it's actually 198 00:09:07,681 --> 00:09:08,721 Speaker 1: so true. That's it. 199 00:09:08,601 --> 00:09:12,201 Speaker 2: It's like massaging the stuff into your skin, taking your time, 200 00:09:12,721 --> 00:09:17,441 Speaker 2: appreciating all the things about yourself, and you really feel 201 00:09:17,481 --> 00:09:19,561 Speaker 2: like you get just so much more connected and in 202 00:09:19,601 --> 00:09:21,521 Speaker 2: touch with yourself, and it's a really good way to 203 00:09:21,561 --> 00:09:23,321 Speaker 2: show yourself self love as well. 204 00:09:23,601 --> 00:09:25,681 Speaker 1: I saw a stat the other day and was talking 205 00:09:25,721 --> 00:09:29,801 Speaker 1: about kids that are more likely to have anxious tendencies 206 00:09:30,481 --> 00:09:33,601 Speaker 1: can also be stemmed from parents that are always in 207 00:09:33,801 --> 00:09:36,961 Speaker 1: a rush, because it puts their little bodies in flight 208 00:09:37,081 --> 00:09:39,681 Speaker 1: or flight instead of them just like going with the 209 00:09:39,721 --> 00:09:42,001 Speaker 1: flow and going at a nice pace that feels good 210 00:09:42,041 --> 00:09:45,481 Speaker 1: for their body. You like rushing them along, that energy 211 00:09:45,521 --> 00:09:49,441 Speaker 1: and that intensity like freezes their body and like, over time, 212 00:09:49,481 --> 00:09:50,921 Speaker 1: you can see how that makes them anxious. 213 00:09:51,081 --> 00:09:52,321 Speaker 2: Yeah, because you're anxious. 214 00:09:52,321 --> 00:09:54,681 Speaker 1: Oh exactly, carry up, Come on, you can't spend that 215 00:09:54,721 --> 00:09:57,201 Speaker 1: long quickly. Yeah, So when we're moving so fast, your 216 00:09:57,201 --> 00:09:59,561 Speaker 1: body is really really tense, and that means your energy 217 00:09:59,641 --> 00:10:01,921 Speaker 1: is also tense. So then your kids feel that and 218 00:10:01,921 --> 00:10:03,881 Speaker 1: then we continue the cycle of their not being able 219 00:10:03,921 --> 00:10:05,361 Speaker 1: to soften and feel safe. 220 00:10:06,201 --> 00:10:08,401 Speaker 2: So true, right, definitely. 221 00:10:07,881 --> 00:10:09,881 Speaker 1: They can start to feel anxious or on fight or flight, 222 00:10:09,961 --> 00:10:11,881 Speaker 1: or have trouble sitting still and being able to sit 223 00:10:11,921 --> 00:10:13,881 Speaker 1: with their own feelings because they're always on the go. 224 00:10:14,321 --> 00:10:15,881 Speaker 1: So it's I have to ask to break these cycles 225 00:10:15,921 --> 00:10:17,801 Speaker 1: and just do it differently. And the main thing that 226 00:10:17,841 --> 00:10:19,921 Speaker 1: I would try to focus on is just stop during 227 00:10:19,921 --> 00:10:22,361 Speaker 1: the day and just get your breath back. We forget 228 00:10:22,401 --> 00:10:24,121 Speaker 1: to breathe. And this is something I've spoken about for 229 00:10:24,201 --> 00:10:26,401 Speaker 1: a long time, Like a lot of people think they 230 00:10:26,401 --> 00:10:28,961 Speaker 1: don't have time to meditate or do breath work. Call 231 00:10:29,041 --> 00:10:31,401 Speaker 1: I get it. We're all busy in the micro moments, 232 00:10:31,441 --> 00:10:33,761 Speaker 1: whether it's when you're doing a Wii, when you're at 233 00:10:33,761 --> 00:10:36,921 Speaker 1: the grocery store waiting in line, when you know, just 234 00:10:37,041 --> 00:10:38,401 Speaker 1: the first thing you do when you wake up, just 235 00:10:38,401 --> 00:10:39,881 Speaker 1: sit at the end of your bed and just take 236 00:10:40,281 --> 00:10:44,761 Speaker 1: ten intentional slow breaths in the sparless morning while you're 237 00:10:44,841 --> 00:10:46,841 Speaker 1: editing your real I just took five big breaths. It 238 00:10:46,881 --> 00:10:48,721 Speaker 1: doesn't have to be long, it doesn't have to look 239 00:10:48,721 --> 00:10:50,521 Speaker 1: a certain way. You don't have to be in a 240 00:10:50,561 --> 00:10:52,921 Speaker 1: corner meditating like a monk. Like you can literally just 241 00:10:52,961 --> 00:10:56,281 Speaker 1: take micro moments where you stop and breathe, and that's 242 00:10:56,281 --> 00:10:58,921 Speaker 1: something I've been really trying to incorporate whenever I can. 243 00:10:58,961 --> 00:11:01,561 Speaker 1: I have a moment. Even coming back from Eden, I 244 00:11:01,561 --> 00:11:03,841 Speaker 1: haven't been doing the twenty minute meditations in my car, 245 00:11:04,121 --> 00:11:05,721 Speaker 1: but I say to myself, even if you've just got 246 00:11:05,761 --> 00:11:07,921 Speaker 1: time for five minutes, and sometimes I'll just put on 247 00:11:08,041 --> 00:11:10,841 Speaker 1: relaxing music and I'm not even taking massive breasts, but 248 00:11:10,841 --> 00:11:13,801 Speaker 1: I'm just closing my eyes and being still. Being still 249 00:11:13,841 --> 00:11:16,481 Speaker 1: allows your body to rest. And the more we carry 250 00:11:16,521 --> 00:11:18,681 Speaker 1: that energy, and the more our kids see that as well, 251 00:11:18,961 --> 00:11:21,241 Speaker 1: that becomes their normal. I don't know about you, but 252 00:11:21,281 --> 00:11:22,881 Speaker 1: I don't want my kids to feel like they always 253 00:11:22,881 --> 00:11:25,521 Speaker 1: need to rush and be achieving and being busy and 254 00:11:25,601 --> 00:11:28,001 Speaker 1: not sitting and listening to their body, listen to how 255 00:11:28,001 --> 00:11:30,361 Speaker 1: they feel, because when you also do that too, you 256 00:11:30,401 --> 00:11:34,041 Speaker 1: actually get time to get clarity on what you actually want. 257 00:11:34,521 --> 00:11:37,001 Speaker 1: When you're rushing, you don't know, you're just doing anything. 258 00:11:37,841 --> 00:11:40,521 Speaker 1: You're doing the things you've always done, regardless if it 259 00:11:40,561 --> 00:11:42,681 Speaker 1: feels good or not, and even if it doesn't feel good, 260 00:11:42,761 --> 00:11:44,481 Speaker 1: you're not asking yourself, so you just keep doing the 261 00:11:44,481 --> 00:11:47,241 Speaker 1: same shit, getting the same result, and you wonder when 262 00:11:47,281 --> 00:11:48,441 Speaker 1: you end up feeling burnt out. 263 00:11:48,601 --> 00:11:49,160 Speaker 2: Definitely. 264 00:11:49,481 --> 00:11:49,881 Speaker 1: Yeah. 265 00:11:49,921 --> 00:11:53,561 Speaker 2: I also heard that when we experience traumates from something 266 00:11:53,601 --> 00:11:56,881 Speaker 2: happening too fast, too too quickly, or feeling like it's 267 00:11:56,961 --> 00:12:00,481 Speaker 2: too much. And what happens is when we're constantly rushing 268 00:12:00,521 --> 00:12:04,641 Speaker 2: through life, we're not regulated. We're actually almost like retraumatizing ourself. 269 00:12:05,121 --> 00:12:07,241 Speaker 2: Feel like, put yourself in the same experience, the same 270 00:12:07,281 --> 00:12:11,481 Speaker 2: experience again. So by slowing right down as well and 271 00:12:11,561 --> 00:12:16,281 Speaker 2: regulating our nervous system. I can't even start to explain 272 00:12:16,321 --> 00:12:18,881 Speaker 2: how nice it feels to have a more regulated nervous 273 00:12:18,881 --> 00:12:20,641 Speaker 2: system when you wake up each morning. 274 00:12:20,641 --> 00:12:24,081 Speaker 1: And each time you do that, you are then rewiring 275 00:12:24,241 --> 00:12:27,761 Speaker 1: your brain to know and to tell your body it's safe. 276 00:12:28,001 --> 00:12:31,441 Speaker 1: And the more experiences you have of safety, the more 277 00:12:31,681 --> 00:12:35,001 Speaker 1: overall you're healing. 278 00:12:34,401 --> 00:12:37,281 Speaker 2: Within yourself, getting in touch with yourself, checking in with yourself, 279 00:12:37,401 --> 00:12:42,241 Speaker 2: being still being slow, giving yourself like the love it needs. 280 00:12:42,281 --> 00:12:44,521 Speaker 2: Like it's just crazy that we live at such a 281 00:12:44,601 --> 00:12:47,641 Speaker 2: frantic pace. I feel like so many of my friends 282 00:12:47,681 --> 00:12:49,481 Speaker 2: when I chat to them and have this conversation like, 283 00:12:49,481 --> 00:12:51,241 Speaker 2: when was the last time you like just stopped and 284 00:12:51,281 --> 00:12:52,121 Speaker 2: checked in with yourself? 285 00:12:52,201 --> 00:12:54,761 Speaker 1: Yeah, Like I can't even remember because it's celebrated to 286 00:12:54,801 --> 00:12:58,481 Speaker 1: be busy. Yeah, the busy hustlegirl era is over or 287 00:12:58,481 --> 00:13:00,281 Speaker 1: it's coming to an end. I really feel like it is, 288 00:13:00,321 --> 00:13:02,401 Speaker 1: and I'm really excited for the women of the next generation. 289 00:13:02,881 --> 00:13:05,201 Speaker 1: So I think it's up to us. But it's hard 290 00:13:05,241 --> 00:13:07,681 Speaker 1: because we've been living in it for so long. We 291 00:13:07,841 --> 00:13:10,281 Speaker 1: really have. But like we had that conversation with Brad, 292 00:13:10,361 --> 00:13:12,041 Speaker 1: like I won't go over again and go listen to 293 00:13:12,081 --> 00:13:14,321 Speaker 1: the episode. Basically I got a pushback comment that was, like, 294 00:13:14,401 --> 00:13:18,041 Speaker 1: you've glorified the hustle, you know, and maybe maybe some 295 00:13:18,041 --> 00:13:21,041 Speaker 1: people have interpretated like that, but there's different seasons of 296 00:13:21,161 --> 00:13:23,241 Speaker 1: your life. And I don't regret any of that because 297 00:13:23,441 --> 00:13:25,761 Speaker 1: it felt good for me until it didn't feel good, 298 00:13:26,241 --> 00:13:28,601 Speaker 1: and then when it didn't feel good, I had patterns. 299 00:13:28,721 --> 00:13:30,841 Speaker 1: And it's only now that I've actually like taken a 300 00:13:30,841 --> 00:13:34,561 Speaker 1: step back and going oh and reflected and seeing what's happening. 301 00:13:34,601 --> 00:13:36,681 Speaker 1: And now I'm creating the change. And you're all going 302 00:13:36,761 --> 00:13:38,641 Speaker 1: to go through that, Like there might be someone that's 303 00:13:38,641 --> 00:13:40,241 Speaker 1: twenty two listening to this right now and you do 304 00:13:40,361 --> 00:13:42,401 Speaker 1: not relate at all you were in your Like I've 305 00:13:42,441 --> 00:13:44,161 Speaker 1: got a girlfriend at the moment. She's twenty seven. She's 306 00:13:44,201 --> 00:13:46,241 Speaker 1: a life coach, and I talked about all of this, 307 00:13:46,681 --> 00:13:48,921 Speaker 1: but she's in a completely different area. She's got no kid, 308 00:13:49,001 --> 00:13:51,281 Speaker 1: she's in a hustle stage. She is building her business, 309 00:13:51,281 --> 00:13:53,961 Speaker 1: and I'm like, go girl, But she's also like, I'm 310 00:13:54,001 --> 00:13:56,281 Speaker 1: super aware that I also want to be taken care of. 311 00:13:56,681 --> 00:13:59,241 Speaker 1: I also want to nurture, you know, my man and 312 00:13:59,281 --> 00:14:02,161 Speaker 1: my family, and you know when that happens. So whatever 313 00:14:02,281 --> 00:14:04,801 Speaker 1: is feeling good for you right now. But your work 314 00:14:04,841 --> 00:14:08,361 Speaker 1: and your hustle can still be feminine and slow, definitely, 315 00:14:08,401 --> 00:14:10,641 Speaker 1: And that's what I wish I learned earlier, is to 316 00:14:10,641 --> 00:14:12,801 Speaker 1: be able to do all the things, because being femine 317 00:14:12,801 --> 00:14:14,681 Speaker 1: doesn't mean you can't work and have goals and run 318 00:14:14,681 --> 00:14:18,881 Speaker 1: a business. It's making that work more slow, from your heart, 319 00:14:19,081 --> 00:14:23,001 Speaker 1: more intentional that will keep you in your feminine essence. 320 00:14:23,281 --> 00:14:23,841 Speaker 2: Definitely. 321 00:14:24,001 --> 00:14:26,681 Speaker 1: That's tricky. I don't actually know how to do that yet. 322 00:14:27,201 --> 00:14:30,561 Speaker 1: Like that's what I'm learning, But I think our work too. 323 00:14:30,601 --> 00:14:34,241 Speaker 1: We were having this conversation as well. Running Baseline was 324 00:14:34,401 --> 00:14:37,641 Speaker 1: very masculine. Grow and Glow is so fat, so feminine. 325 00:14:37,761 --> 00:14:39,561 Speaker 2: We get to like talk with people, we get to 326 00:14:39,561 --> 00:14:41,641 Speaker 2: be around to help community. 327 00:14:41,241 --> 00:14:45,561 Speaker 1: Get to nurture community connection. We can take our own pace. 328 00:14:45,601 --> 00:14:49,801 Speaker 1: There's no pressure, there's no deadlines. No, there's structure around it, 329 00:14:49,841 --> 00:14:52,521 Speaker 1: but it's such flowy structure it is, and that's why 330 00:14:52,521 --> 00:14:56,161 Speaker 1: it feels so nice. It never feels exhausting or hard 331 00:14:56,401 --> 00:14:59,241 Speaker 1: or I don't know. It's just such a different feeling. 332 00:14:59,281 --> 00:15:01,641 Speaker 1: And it's been so cool since closing that to see 333 00:15:01,681 --> 00:15:03,161 Speaker 1: how different it was and be like, oh, I can 334 00:15:03,201 --> 00:15:05,681 Speaker 1: see how I don't ever want to go back to that. 335 00:15:06,161 --> 00:15:08,281 Speaker 1: I probably do more work, but I want more of 336 00:15:08,321 --> 00:15:10,481 Speaker 1: this flowy, beautiful work that feels really good to my 337 00:15:10,561 --> 00:15:11,761 Speaker 1: heart and my body. 338 00:15:11,961 --> 00:15:14,681 Speaker 2: And even like you know, when you were doing Baseline before, yeah, 339 00:15:14,801 --> 00:15:17,801 Speaker 2: Grow and Globe, probably the energy that you were giving 340 00:15:18,001 --> 00:15:20,161 Speaker 2: all areas of your life was more that energy because 341 00:15:20,201 --> 00:15:22,281 Speaker 2: that was bringing with that energy, you know what I mean. 342 00:15:22,361 --> 00:15:24,081 Speaker 2: Whereas when you let go of those things, then you 343 00:15:24,121 --> 00:15:27,281 Speaker 2: can bring a beautiful energy into everything else. 344 00:15:27,361 --> 00:15:30,481 Speaker 1: It feels different to do the work, and even as 345 00:15:30,521 --> 00:15:33,161 Speaker 1: a parent, like it feels so different to parent in 346 00:15:33,201 --> 00:15:35,681 Speaker 1: my masculine, to parent in my feminine, and parenting can 347 00:15:35,721 --> 00:15:38,281 Speaker 1: be very masculine. It can be very structured and routine, 348 00:15:38,281 --> 00:15:41,881 Speaker 1: and you're keeping a human alive that requires your brain 349 00:15:42,001 --> 00:15:45,801 Speaker 1: being on. But when you're coming from your feminine it's 350 00:15:45,881 --> 00:15:51,161 Speaker 1: so nurturing and soft and patient and playful, playful, and 351 00:15:51,201 --> 00:15:53,321 Speaker 1: you can see the tone and the energy that you 352 00:15:53,441 --> 00:15:56,001 Speaker 1: bring to a room. You can see how much that 353 00:15:56,041 --> 00:15:58,361 Speaker 1: your kids feel that definitely, it's so beautiful. 354 00:15:58,441 --> 00:16:01,001 Speaker 2: I'm saying to Ashy that, like, since I've been really 355 00:16:01,081 --> 00:16:03,081 Speaker 2: leaning into and focusing on this work, Kurt says to 356 00:16:03,121 --> 00:16:05,001 Speaker 2: me in the morning, is like when you come down 357 00:16:05,081 --> 00:16:07,321 Speaker 2: stairs now, he goes, you just bring this calm energy 358 00:16:07,361 --> 00:16:10,881 Speaker 2: with you. And I'm like, yes, because it's not every day. 359 00:16:11,081 --> 00:16:12,481 Speaker 2: You know, we have our off days and I'm like, 360 00:16:12,521 --> 00:16:14,201 Speaker 2: I don't have my calm energy today, but I can 361 00:16:14,281 --> 00:16:16,841 Speaker 2: feel the difference. You know, Ashley and I aren't here 362 00:16:16,841 --> 00:16:19,561 Speaker 2: and we aren't perfect. It's a process, and that's the 363 00:16:19,561 --> 00:16:21,521 Speaker 2: exciting part is it's a journey for us to go 364 00:16:21,601 --> 00:16:23,761 Speaker 2: on and to try to embody more of and listen 365 00:16:23,761 --> 00:16:26,361 Speaker 2: to our intuition more and get more in touch with ourselves. 366 00:16:26,401 --> 00:16:28,761 Speaker 2: And you know, this is the fun part of life 367 00:16:28,881 --> 00:16:30,921 Speaker 2: is discovering these different layers to us. 368 00:16:30,961 --> 00:16:33,601 Speaker 1: And we are talking about this as we're going through it, 369 00:16:34,041 --> 00:16:36,441 Speaker 1: so like we are not keep saying that I want 370 00:16:36,441 --> 00:16:37,881 Speaker 1: to keep saying that out loud, that I'm at the 371 00:16:37,921 --> 00:16:40,321 Speaker 1: start of this journey, like I'm just scratching the service, 372 00:16:40,601 --> 00:16:42,241 Speaker 1: the service, and I can't wait to take you guys 373 00:16:42,281 --> 00:16:44,201 Speaker 1: along this journey with us as we learn and grow. 374 00:16:44,761 --> 00:16:48,041 Speaker 1: And we were also reflecting on an episode that we did, yes, 375 00:16:48,321 --> 00:16:50,961 Speaker 1: only a couple of months ago, and this goes to 376 00:16:51,041 --> 00:16:54,521 Speaker 1: show how much can change in a small amount of time. 377 00:16:54,801 --> 00:16:57,801 Speaker 1: As we were doing episode, it was about Sky Wheatley 378 00:16:57,801 --> 00:17:00,201 Speaker 1: and just like wearing all the hats, and we were like, wow, 379 00:17:00,241 --> 00:17:02,761 Speaker 1: it's incredible. She does it also well and like so inspiring. 380 00:17:02,881 --> 00:17:04,720 Speaker 1: But if you look on a social she's having so 381 00:17:04,761 --> 00:17:07,921 Speaker 1: many like hard times and breakdowns. And I'm saying this 382 00:17:07,961 --> 00:17:09,920 Speaker 1: out loud because she's spoken about on a social media 383 00:17:10,001 --> 00:17:12,360 Speaker 1: so obviously you know she's happy to talk about it. 384 00:17:12,441 --> 00:17:15,680 Speaker 1: But so many women are juggling and wearing all the 385 00:17:15,721 --> 00:17:18,120 Speaker 1: hats at the cost of their energy and feeling burnt 386 00:17:18,160 --> 00:17:21,801 Speaker 1: out and not thriving. They're literally surviving each day, definitely, 387 00:17:21,880 --> 00:17:23,400 Speaker 1: and that is not a way that I want to 388 00:17:23,400 --> 00:17:26,600 Speaker 1: live anymore. No done that, yeah no more, no, no 389 00:17:26,761 --> 00:17:27,241 Speaker 1: thank you. 390 00:17:27,441 --> 00:17:30,080 Speaker 2: How much better does it feel to be living this way? 391 00:17:30,360 --> 00:17:33,401 Speaker 1: So much better. And I felt like too, when you're 392 00:17:33,400 --> 00:17:36,201 Speaker 1: wearing all the hats, like how much of those hats 393 00:17:36,201 --> 00:17:39,241 Speaker 1: that you're actually doing well? Like, yes, I was juggling lots, 394 00:17:39,321 --> 00:17:40,801 Speaker 1: but I feel like I could only give them each 395 00:17:40,801 --> 00:17:43,321 Speaker 1: twenty percent of my actual proper energy and efforts. So 396 00:17:43,360 --> 00:17:46,080 Speaker 1: it was a half past effort definitely, and a half 397 00:17:46,160 --> 00:17:46,680 Speaker 1: last result. 398 00:17:46,880 --> 00:17:48,600 Speaker 2: And I want to go back as well. When we're 399 00:17:48,600 --> 00:17:51,400 Speaker 2: talking before about us starting this journey and being on 400 00:17:51,441 --> 00:17:54,041 Speaker 2: this journey, I think as well, sometimes people look at 401 00:17:54,080 --> 00:17:57,640 Speaker 2: other people when they're doing certain things and feel like 402 00:17:57,681 --> 00:18:02,080 Speaker 2: they're perfect. No matter how amazingly great someone is, they 403 00:18:02,080 --> 00:18:05,121 Speaker 2: could have done all of the work. We're all still 404 00:18:05,241 --> 00:18:08,321 Speaker 2: human beings and we're all still gonna fall off or 405 00:18:08,321 --> 00:18:10,400 Speaker 2: wheel around, or even when we're chatting to Brad about 406 00:18:10,561 --> 00:18:11,761 Speaker 2: you know, how he's wrong about his car on the 407 00:18:11,840 --> 00:18:13,840 Speaker 2: road and how it like pulls you back in if 408 00:18:13,880 --> 00:18:15,401 Speaker 2: you guys have one of those cars, and he's like, yeah, 409 00:18:15,441 --> 00:18:17,761 Speaker 2: you go off track, and yeah, I just wanted to 410 00:18:17,801 --> 00:18:20,761 Speaker 2: say as well, like that is completely okay and part 411 00:18:20,801 --> 00:18:21,641 Speaker 2: of the journey. 412 00:18:21,360 --> 00:18:23,840 Speaker 1: One hundred percent. But it's just having that self awareness 413 00:18:23,880 --> 00:18:27,160 Speaker 1: to be like, oh, interesting, that's still there, Okay, cool, 414 00:18:27,241 --> 00:18:30,001 Speaker 1: let's rain it back in. And I'll notice myself too, 415 00:18:30,080 --> 00:18:32,680 Speaker 1: Like if I'm busy on my phone working whatever, and 416 00:18:32,721 --> 00:18:34,681 Speaker 1: I get agitated with the kids and I'm like, oh, 417 00:18:34,880 --> 00:18:37,521 Speaker 1: hang on a second, no, I'm not doing that anymore. 418 00:18:37,880 --> 00:18:40,481 Speaker 1: Take a big breath, get back in my body. Who's 419 00:18:40,481 --> 00:18:42,721 Speaker 1: the mum that I want to be? Okay, let's go. 420 00:18:43,321 --> 00:18:45,001 Speaker 2: One other thing that I really want to say as well, 421 00:18:45,281 --> 00:18:49,880 Speaker 2: is like, what are these outcomes all worth? If we 422 00:18:49,961 --> 00:18:53,001 Speaker 2: are feeling overwhelmed and stressed? So you know, all these 423 00:18:53,041 --> 00:18:55,601 Speaker 2: things that everyone is doing, right, these businesses that all 424 00:18:55,640 --> 00:18:57,880 Speaker 2: this money that you're making, it's like, yeah, that's all great, 425 00:18:58,241 --> 00:19:00,161 Speaker 2: but you're spending it and you're miserable. 426 00:18:59,761 --> 00:19:01,241 Speaker 1: For what exactly? 427 00:19:01,481 --> 00:19:03,080 Speaker 2: And like it's just such a good little thing to 428 00:19:03,080 --> 00:19:07,241 Speaker 2: think about. It's like, actually the time to be like, Okay, yeah, 429 00:19:07,241 --> 00:19:08,520 Speaker 2: so maybe I need to do this, maybe I need 430 00:19:08,521 --> 00:19:09,441 Speaker 2: to do that, blah blah blah. 431 00:19:09,481 --> 00:19:11,840 Speaker 1: But it's like, but what's it all for? What's it 432 00:19:11,880 --> 00:19:14,880 Speaker 1: all worse? Literally? And that's the questions I was asking 433 00:19:14,880 --> 00:19:17,321 Speaker 1: myself when closing down Baseline, and Steve was like, can 434 00:19:17,321 --> 00:19:19,880 Speaker 1: you see yourself doing this in five ten years? I 435 00:19:19,921 --> 00:19:22,720 Speaker 1: was thinking about it. I'm like even if it's making money, Like, 436 00:19:22,801 --> 00:19:26,161 Speaker 1: for what, what does the money mean? Is that more 437 00:19:26,160 --> 00:19:27,961 Speaker 1: important to me than having time with my kids or 438 00:19:28,001 --> 00:19:31,440 Speaker 1: working on something that truly lights me up? Drains my energy, 439 00:19:31,600 --> 00:19:33,600 Speaker 1: stressed me all the time I ever get a break 440 00:19:33,640 --> 00:19:36,880 Speaker 1: from for what? I still couldn't give you an answer 441 00:19:37,120 --> 00:19:38,160 Speaker 1: why I would continue doing that. 442 00:19:38,281 --> 00:19:38,481 Speaker 2: Yeah. 443 00:19:38,481 --> 00:19:40,920 Speaker 1: I love active wear, I love designing clothes. I love 444 00:19:40,961 --> 00:19:43,440 Speaker 1: photo shoots for sure, But it's like twenty percent of 445 00:19:43,441 --> 00:19:46,840 Speaker 1: it for what, there's no answer I get, or you'll 446 00:19:46,880 --> 00:19:48,801 Speaker 1: have bills to pay. But even does a change of 447 00:19:48,880 --> 00:19:50,360 Speaker 1: job one hundred percent? 448 00:19:50,521 --> 00:19:52,001 Speaker 2: Does a change of job just going you know what? 449 00:19:52,160 --> 00:19:52,360 Speaker 1: Yeah? 450 00:19:52,481 --> 00:19:54,200 Speaker 2: Or changing a role, like if you're in like a 451 00:19:54,201 --> 00:19:56,000 Speaker 2: really high up CEO role, maybe get paid a bit more, 452 00:19:56,001 --> 00:19:57,840 Speaker 2: Maybe it's worth going, Like maybe I want to just 453 00:19:58,561 --> 00:20:01,361 Speaker 2: go down a notch and have that been more flowy, 454 00:20:01,441 --> 00:20:02,081 Speaker 2: less pressure. 455 00:20:02,400 --> 00:20:04,521 Speaker 1: Yeah, BII. There's a girl on social media that I've 456 00:20:04,561 --> 00:20:06,801 Speaker 1: told you about. Her name's Ellie, Yeah, and she was 457 00:20:06,840 --> 00:20:10,801 Speaker 1: an assistant to a influencer and business owner and she 458 00:20:10,840 --> 00:20:13,001 Speaker 1: had an amazing career and then she left that and 459 00:20:13,041 --> 00:20:15,201 Speaker 1: then she started an online business where she was helping 460 00:20:15,241 --> 00:20:17,880 Speaker 1: other CEOs find personal assistance. And it looked like it 461 00:20:17,921 --> 00:20:20,321 Speaker 1: was doing amazing and she was busy and living this 462 00:20:20,400 --> 00:20:23,360 Speaker 1: cool life and then she could it all and went 463 00:20:23,400 --> 00:20:26,041 Speaker 1: back to being a brewster. And I loved hearing her 464 00:20:26,120 --> 00:20:28,600 Speaker 1: talk about it because I was like, this is so 465 00:20:28,681 --> 00:20:30,801 Speaker 1: cool that she can fully just be like that wasn't 466 00:20:30,801 --> 00:20:33,041 Speaker 1: serving me. And yes, society might think I've failed or 467 00:20:33,041 --> 00:20:35,281 Speaker 1: I'm taking a step back, but for me, I'm taking 468 00:20:35,281 --> 00:20:37,521 Speaker 1: a step forward because it looks after my health, I'm 469 00:20:37,561 --> 00:20:39,600 Speaker 1: more happier. I want to just go to work and 470 00:20:39,600 --> 00:20:41,561 Speaker 1: then finish and come home and live my life and 471 00:20:41,561 --> 00:20:43,521 Speaker 1: be a twenty two year old. And I was like, 472 00:20:43,561 --> 00:20:45,761 Speaker 1: I can't relate Because'm obviously a lot older in that sense, 473 00:20:45,801 --> 00:20:46,600 Speaker 1: but it's similar. 474 00:20:46,921 --> 00:20:48,921 Speaker 2: Yeah, she just wants to be able to enjoy a life. 475 00:20:49,521 --> 00:20:51,200 Speaker 2: She had so much pressure, so much going on, that 476 00:20:51,241 --> 00:20:53,641 Speaker 2: she was busy, she didn't have time to actually enjoy 477 00:20:53,640 --> 00:20:54,001 Speaker 2: a life. 478 00:20:54,001 --> 00:20:55,640 Speaker 1: I remember there's one video she was like, I just 479 00:20:55,681 --> 00:20:57,400 Speaker 1: don't actually like sitting in front of a computer all 480 00:20:57,441 --> 00:20:59,561 Speaker 1: day every day by myself at home running a business. 481 00:20:59,561 --> 00:21:01,561 Speaker 1: And I was like, that alone coffee shop is enough 482 00:21:01,600 --> 00:21:04,041 Speaker 1: to say no more. I felt the same. I'm sitting 483 00:21:04,041 --> 00:21:06,600 Speaker 1: in my office like on a computer all day every day, 484 00:21:07,160 --> 00:21:09,201 Speaker 1: I don't want to do that. No, I don't even 485 00:21:09,241 --> 00:21:11,561 Speaker 1: like being said it true where I'm sitting all day. No, Like, 486 00:21:12,400 --> 00:21:14,761 Speaker 1: it's just so cool to ask yourself those questions. So, yeah, 487 00:21:14,761 --> 00:21:16,761 Speaker 1: maybe it's a role, or maybe it's the environment of 488 00:21:16,761 --> 00:21:19,881 Speaker 1: your work feels so fast paced and you just want 489 00:21:19,880 --> 00:21:22,441 Speaker 1: to be in the same role in a smaller company. 490 00:21:22,640 --> 00:21:25,401 Speaker 2: Or maybe you can start to slow the pace down. Yeah, 491 00:21:25,521 --> 00:21:28,041 Speaker 2: maybe just start moving slower and see what people do, 492 00:21:28,201 --> 00:21:29,400 Speaker 2: see what the reaction is. 493 00:21:29,640 --> 00:21:31,441 Speaker 1: Or if it's not your work, maybe it's your home 494 00:21:31,481 --> 00:21:33,201 Speaker 1: life and just like like you said, the small things 495 00:21:33,241 --> 00:21:36,001 Speaker 1: like how your play skincare, just see where in your 496 00:21:36,041 --> 00:21:38,681 Speaker 1: life you can pull it back a couple of steps, 497 00:21:39,041 --> 00:21:41,241 Speaker 1: Just take it a bit slower, breathe, get back in 498 00:21:41,281 --> 00:21:43,721 Speaker 1: your body, and then just see where it takes you, 499 00:21:43,761 --> 00:21:46,521 Speaker 1: because you'll get clarity and you'll actually think more about 500 00:21:46,561 --> 00:21:49,641 Speaker 1: what's serving and what's not. What's feeling good. It's all feeling, 501 00:21:49,681 --> 00:21:52,321 Speaker 1: isn't It really is feeling into your body. 502 00:21:52,160 --> 00:21:54,361 Speaker 2: Always doing stuff, you're not listening to yourself. 503 00:21:54,041 --> 00:21:57,001 Speaker 1: And always doing hustling in your head. You're not feeling 504 00:21:57,001 --> 00:21:58,720 Speaker 1: you're out of your body. Yeah, and you're in your 505 00:21:58,761 --> 00:22:02,640 Speaker 1: masculine Yeah, getting back to that feminine essence is so beautiful, 506 00:22:02,801 --> 00:22:03,841 Speaker 1: so beautiful. 507 00:22:03,400 --> 00:22:06,481 Speaker 2: It feels so good, well aligned, because that's your core. 508 00:22:06,521 --> 00:22:09,121 Speaker 1: Baby. Yeah. And the polarity of the relationship as well, 509 00:22:09,160 --> 00:22:11,960 Speaker 1: it helps. Regardless of gender, we will have masculine and 510 00:22:12,001 --> 00:22:14,641 Speaker 1: feminine energy. If both of you are running in your 511 00:22:14,640 --> 00:22:16,561 Speaker 1: masculine energy too much, your butt heads and it won't 512 00:22:16,561 --> 00:22:18,561 Speaker 1: feel good. The polarity of one being feminine, one being 513 00:22:18,561 --> 00:22:22,080 Speaker 1: more masculine, it just flows more. Feels so good for 514 00:22:22,160 --> 00:22:25,600 Speaker 1: both parties. And to feel that in your relationship is 515 00:22:25,600 --> 00:22:28,681 Speaker 1: so nice. If you are butting heads and you are disconnected, 516 00:22:28,840 --> 00:22:30,241 Speaker 1: then this is something to look into. 517 00:22:30,921 --> 00:22:33,201 Speaker 2: And the crazy thing is like with this as well 518 00:22:33,241 --> 00:22:34,760 Speaker 2: as a lot of people that go like, but my 519 00:22:34,880 --> 00:22:37,520 Speaker 2: husband's like not being masculine, blah blah blah. You can 520 00:22:37,600 --> 00:22:40,081 Speaker 2: lead the way, you can hold the true lean more 521 00:22:40,120 --> 00:22:43,041 Speaker 2: into your feminine and I guarantee you he will start 522 00:22:43,080 --> 00:22:45,201 Speaker 2: to move more into his masculine role because you're leaning 523 00:22:45,201 --> 00:22:47,561 Speaker 2: into your feminine. It only takes one of us to 524 00:22:47,561 --> 00:22:48,680 Speaker 2: make that initial. 525 00:22:48,321 --> 00:22:51,840 Speaker 1: Move, definitely, And it's so easy, isn't it so interesting? 526 00:22:51,840 --> 00:22:53,601 Speaker 1: It's so easy to put the blame on the other 527 00:22:53,600 --> 00:22:55,760 Speaker 1: person and say, well, he's not masculine. He's not doing this, 528 00:22:55,840 --> 00:22:57,921 Speaker 1: I have to do it. It's like we you're don't. 529 00:22:57,961 --> 00:23:00,680 Speaker 1: Actually you're don't. And there's ways to communicate, and it 530 00:23:00,681 --> 00:23:02,401 Speaker 1: can be like a little ikey at the start while 531 00:23:02,400 --> 00:23:05,281 Speaker 1: you're both navigating it. But just have those open conversations 532 00:23:05,640 --> 00:23:07,960 Speaker 1: explain how certain things make you feel or how you 533 00:23:08,001 --> 00:23:11,401 Speaker 1: want to feel. Most masculine men want to fix, want 534 00:23:11,400 --> 00:23:13,801 Speaker 1: to make you happy, want things to flow. They want 535 00:23:13,840 --> 00:23:16,001 Speaker 1: to be nurchure and take care for. They want to provide. 536 00:23:16,481 --> 00:23:18,961 Speaker 1: It can flow, but we both might have been living 537 00:23:19,001 --> 00:23:21,120 Speaker 1: out of your core energies. So now you've got to 538 00:23:21,120 --> 00:23:24,281 Speaker 1: communicate and work together to be dancing definitely flow. 539 00:23:24,481 --> 00:23:26,440 Speaker 2: In this book that I read, it was talking all 540 00:23:26,441 --> 00:23:28,640 Speaker 2: about polarity and it had a really cool way to 541 00:23:28,640 --> 00:23:32,041 Speaker 2: communicate to your husband because men obviously always want to help, 542 00:23:32,080 --> 00:23:33,920 Speaker 2: they want to protect, they want to fix. If you 543 00:23:34,001 --> 00:23:35,801 Speaker 2: come to them and being like you're not being on 544 00:23:35,840 --> 00:23:38,720 Speaker 2: your masculine blah blah blah, obviously that's going to just 545 00:23:38,761 --> 00:23:41,801 Speaker 2: create fire and you're going to criticized if you go 546 00:23:41,880 --> 00:23:45,321 Speaker 2: to them and you're like, I'm feeling really disconnected from you. 547 00:23:45,640 --> 00:23:48,921 Speaker 2: I'm feeling like I'm wanting to make you feel more 548 00:23:49,241 --> 00:23:51,360 Speaker 2: like this, and I wanted to feel more flowy, and 549 00:23:51,600 --> 00:23:53,360 Speaker 2: you know, I'm wanting to be that person a shop 550 00:23:53,360 --> 00:23:55,160 Speaker 2: in this way for you. How can we do this together? 551 00:23:55,561 --> 00:23:57,680 Speaker 2: But when you go to your feeling or say a 552 00:23:57,681 --> 00:23:59,521 Speaker 2: feeling first, or even you know off a situation happens, 553 00:23:59,561 --> 00:24:01,600 Speaker 2: rather be like you may be so fucking angry because 554 00:24:01,600 --> 00:24:05,241 Speaker 2: of this, you can go I'm feeling really upset. I'm 555 00:24:05,241 --> 00:24:08,201 Speaker 2: feeling really sad because I felt like maybe you didn't 556 00:24:08,321 --> 00:24:10,400 Speaker 2: like me, or maybe I don't feel worthy right now 557 00:24:11,041 --> 00:24:13,400 Speaker 2: because of the way that we spoke to each other before. 558 00:24:13,961 --> 00:24:15,880 Speaker 2: So when you can speak from the way that you feel, 559 00:24:15,921 --> 00:24:19,521 Speaker 2: and that again is pausing and going internal and responding 560 00:24:19,600 --> 00:24:22,480 Speaker 2: rather than reacting. Yeah, but if you can go to 561 00:24:22,561 --> 00:24:24,880 Speaker 2: them with a feeling, they want to help. 562 00:24:25,561 --> 00:24:27,681 Speaker 1: It's a simple switch of instead of saying you, it's 563 00:24:27,761 --> 00:24:30,441 Speaker 1: I you how it makes you feel? You did this, 564 00:24:30,721 --> 00:24:32,600 Speaker 1: You've done that, you're not doing this, It's like, I 565 00:24:32,640 --> 00:24:34,480 Speaker 1: feel this, I would like this. Do you think you 566 00:24:34,481 --> 00:24:36,961 Speaker 1: could help me with this? Yes, it's all about you 567 00:24:37,080 --> 00:24:39,761 Speaker 1: bringing on yourself so they don't feel criticized or blamed 568 00:24:39,840 --> 00:24:41,801 Speaker 1: or like it's their fault. They then want to step 569 00:24:41,880 --> 00:24:42,961 Speaker 1: up and be like okay, and. 570 00:24:42,880 --> 00:24:44,801 Speaker 2: They feel so great because they're like, holy. 571 00:24:44,561 --> 00:24:49,721 Speaker 1: Crad help you, I helve you. Yeah I can do that. Yeah, 572 00:24:50,001 --> 00:24:50,681 Speaker 1: yeah for sure. 573 00:24:50,840 --> 00:24:52,400 Speaker 2: Yeah. So that's been something that Kurt and I have 574 00:24:52,400 --> 00:24:54,640 Speaker 2: been practicing a lot, and he really likes it because 575 00:24:54,640 --> 00:24:56,200 Speaker 2: he likes fixing things. And I feel like that was 576 00:24:56,241 --> 00:24:57,640 Speaker 2: something that I used to always kind of do. I 577 00:24:57,640 --> 00:24:58,961 Speaker 2: would just like jump in and try to do it 578 00:24:59,001 --> 00:24:59,360 Speaker 2: for myself. 579 00:24:59,400 --> 00:25:02,321 Speaker 1: I'll just do it whatever. I'm quicker anyway, and. 580 00:25:02,400 --> 00:25:04,880 Speaker 2: Even like if I'm going through a situation like I 581 00:25:04,921 --> 00:25:07,120 Speaker 2: just I have space and time and you know, see 582 00:25:07,120 --> 00:25:08,880 Speaker 2: how I feel now, I'm actually going to him to 583 00:25:08,921 --> 00:25:10,761 Speaker 2: break it down because it's not this thing. It's like 584 00:25:10,840 --> 00:25:12,761 Speaker 2: more so I'm asking for his help rather than I 585 00:25:12,761 --> 00:25:14,881 Speaker 2: don't need your help, yeah, and I'm spending to him. 586 00:25:14,880 --> 00:25:16,521 Speaker 2: It's more like, no, I do want your help, Like 587 00:25:16,561 --> 00:25:17,521 Speaker 2: we can do this together. 588 00:25:17,801 --> 00:25:19,840 Speaker 1: That's beautiful. Yeah, I love that. 589 00:25:19,840 --> 00:25:21,360 Speaker 2: That was a really cool thing that I read in 590 00:25:21,400 --> 00:25:21,801 Speaker 2: a book. 591 00:25:21,961 --> 00:25:24,881 Speaker 1: That's nice and even for the masculines too, like allowing 592 00:25:24,921 --> 00:25:27,561 Speaker 1: them to lead. I think as mums we can be 593 00:25:27,561 --> 00:25:30,880 Speaker 1: a bit overbearing and overpowering sometimes because we think we 594 00:25:30,961 --> 00:25:32,921 Speaker 1: know best, and you know what, most of the time. 595 00:25:32,921 --> 00:25:36,600 Speaker 1: We probably can't change that. We can probably do things 596 00:25:36,600 --> 00:25:38,960 Speaker 1: a lot quicker and more efficiently and better because we 597 00:25:39,001 --> 00:25:40,441 Speaker 1: do it a lot more than them majority of the time. 598 00:25:40,441 --> 00:25:41,880 Speaker 1: If you're the primary care gifer and you're with your 599 00:25:41,961 --> 00:25:43,761 Speaker 1: kids more, and I'm definitely with the kids more than 600 00:25:43,801 --> 00:25:46,360 Speaker 1: what Steve is now, we really do it better. But now, 601 00:25:46,400 --> 00:25:48,401 Speaker 1: like I'll catch myself and I'm like, just let him 602 00:25:48,400 --> 00:25:50,080 Speaker 1: do it how he wants to do it. You have 603 00:25:50,120 --> 00:25:52,360 Speaker 1: to jump in there, let him lead, let him learn, 604 00:25:52,441 --> 00:25:54,760 Speaker 1: let him do what feels good for him. They can 605 00:25:54,840 --> 00:25:56,361 Speaker 1: have their own way to do things. It's not right 606 00:25:56,441 --> 00:25:59,321 Speaker 1: or wrong, but just take a step back and just 607 00:25:59,321 --> 00:26:01,881 Speaker 1: trust your man. They want to feel trusted. That helps 608 00:26:01,921 --> 00:26:05,041 Speaker 1: them feel respected and helps them stay in their masculine energy. 609 00:26:05,241 --> 00:26:07,160 Speaker 1: If you are criticizing, putting them down, and trying to 610 00:26:07,241 --> 00:26:09,561 Speaker 1: change everything that they're doing, they will just step back. 611 00:26:09,600 --> 00:26:11,801 Speaker 1: Then they won't step up how you want them to. 612 00:26:12,281 --> 00:26:13,761 Speaker 1: You want them to lead. It makes you feel safe, 613 00:26:13,761 --> 00:26:16,001 Speaker 1: and it helps you to drop in, helps you to soften. 614 00:26:16,041 --> 00:26:17,960 Speaker 1: It helps you to receive. We want to receive being 615 00:26:17,961 --> 00:26:20,881 Speaker 1: a feminine. But if you're constantly on them and controlling them, 616 00:26:21,080 --> 00:26:22,401 Speaker 1: you're not in your receiving and. 617 00:26:22,360 --> 00:26:25,801 Speaker 2: Doesn't that go back to rushing again? Does hate? Because 618 00:26:25,801 --> 00:26:27,160 Speaker 2: if you're like not in a rush and you're like 619 00:26:27,201 --> 00:26:29,281 Speaker 2: okay with it being ten minutes later that you leave 620 00:26:29,360 --> 00:26:31,481 Speaker 2: or whatever, you're not caring about how long they take. 621 00:26:31,400 --> 00:26:34,921 Speaker 1: To change, they take to do a poo in the toilet. 622 00:26:34,801 --> 00:26:38,480 Speaker 2: Or whatever it may be that they're doing right when 623 00:26:38,521 --> 00:26:40,801 Speaker 2: you're But when you're not in a rush and you're 624 00:26:40,840 --> 00:26:43,321 Speaker 2: more like okay, it's just slowing down your pace. 625 00:26:43,761 --> 00:26:46,761 Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, there's an incredible book that I actually 626 00:26:46,801 --> 00:26:49,680 Speaker 1: I think I skim read years ago because she was 627 00:26:49,681 --> 00:26:51,041 Speaker 1: actually a friend of mine and met her on a 628 00:26:51,041 --> 00:26:54,840 Speaker 1: Tony Robins event. But Libby Weaver's that last name. She's 629 00:26:54,840 --> 00:26:58,761 Speaker 1: got a book called The Rushing Woman's Syndrome. Oh I 630 00:26:58,801 --> 00:27:01,201 Speaker 1: want to read I need to read it again. Yeah, 631 00:27:01,241 --> 00:27:03,160 Speaker 1: I'll actually get her on the podcast. She'll come on. Oh, 632 00:27:03,241 --> 00:27:09,160 Speaker 1: yeah's incredible, woman's hormones, health, mental health, sex, hormones, like, 633 00:27:09,201 --> 00:27:12,801 Speaker 1: she's health, so holistic, she's incredible. 634 00:27:12,801 --> 00:27:14,521 Speaker 2: We'll get her own mate, especially for right now. 635 00:27:14,561 --> 00:27:16,360 Speaker 1: But yeah, she's got a book about the rushing women's 636 00:27:16,360 --> 00:27:18,281 Speaker 1: syndrome and the effect that it has on our bodies 637 00:27:18,321 --> 00:27:20,241 Speaker 1: and our health. So let's get her on to talk 638 00:27:20,241 --> 00:27:22,961 Speaker 1: about that. 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