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Speaker 1: This podcast is recorded on gaddigal Land Always was, always

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Speaker 1: will be Aboriginal Land. Hi Jicks, I'm Out and I'm

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Speaker 1: Out and the two break Chicks to show that shares

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Speaker 1: life lessons and tips to make you rich in life

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Speaker 1: and welcome back to another cheeky little EP. We had

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Speaker 1: a little time off last week, a little bit of

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Speaker 1: stupid immediately before we introed it and it got cut.

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Speaker 1: That's a that's bts fo yeah bt s. Today we're

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Speaker 1: like a wholesome, cutesy little wounts and episode because we

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Speaker 1: have been inspired by the things I would tell my

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Speaker 1: younger self in a coffee shop when I met her.

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Speaker 1: You know, it was like I met my fifteen year

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Speaker 1: old self for a coffee and she was five minutes

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Speaker 1: The most relatable one I've seen is I was meeting

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Speaker 1: my younger self for a coffee today. She texted me

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Speaker 1: asking if we could cancel. I was relieved. I was like,

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Speaker 2: Me honestly, Sam, Yeah, did you know that that trend

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Speaker 2: was actually inspired by a poem yes, that was written

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Speaker 2: by Jeanne Cecilia in her book Deep in My Fields,

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Speaker 2: which I always think is really interesting. When these trends

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Speaker 2: take off, you don't really know where they began. But

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Speaker 2: I thought we do a little shout out to the og.

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Speaker 1: I love Grato because I did see a piece of

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Speaker 1: content from her where she said she obviously loved seeing

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Speaker 1: so many people, you know, taking her palm and making

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Speaker 1: a little bit sad that, you know, her work wasn't credited,

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Speaker 1: So good jobs out. Okay, my obsession of the week

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Speaker 1: is actually the Paulish Choice Pro Collagen peptid pumping moist

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Speaker 1: straiser that we have both been using for the last

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Speaker 1: couple of weeks months and looking DOWNI yeah, because as

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Speaker 1: some of you chickies may have seen on Instagram, we

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Speaker 1: recently worked with Paula's Choice on the launch of the moisturizer.

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Speaker 3: We hosted their event.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and we hosted the House of Pep event that

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Speaker 4: Did like a little mini live show.

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Speaker 2: There was a pilates class, facials Sephora touch Up. They

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Speaker 2: threw it, of course for a cutely little Valentine's Day event,

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Speaker 2: but also to celebrate the launch of the moisturizer, which,

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Speaker 2: like I said, we have been trying for the last

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Speaker 2: month or so or before Christmas event, and we're both

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Speaker 2: obsessed and loving it. And the moisturizer are actually sold

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Speaker 2: we're not the only fans. And why I do love

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Speaker 2: it is that it has this like cushiony gel like formula,

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Speaker 2: which not all moisturizers have, but I do find it

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Speaker 2: super hydrating. And it's also made with three times pro

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Speaker 2: collagen peptide complex, which is perfect if your skin concerns

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Speaker 2: which is definitely definitely where I sit. And I do

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Speaker 2: find that it instantly plumps and gives your skin a

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Speaker 2: morning because it sits really beautifully under makeup, agreed, which

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Speaker 2: is also important for a moisturizer. But yeah, we also

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Speaker 2: just wanted to say thanks to all the chicks for

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Speaker 3: So amazing.

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Speaker 2: Yeah to Urban Oasis one playground for the event, because

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Speaker 2: we love any opportunity we get to meet you chicks

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Speaker 2: and to have a giggle and a cuddle.

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Speaker 4: And between the.

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Speaker 4: Okay, well what's your obsession?

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Speaker 1: Okay?

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Speaker 3: Leopard print is out and cowprint is in ye yo.

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Speaker 1: Honestly, I am seeing it everywhere, and I feel like

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Speaker 1: sometimes fashion trends are like the car you want to buy.

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Speaker 3: Once you see it once and you become conscious of it,

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Speaker 1: It's like once when you were like sixteen and you

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Speaker 3: Again.

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Speaker 1: Disclaimer, as always, trends are fun to talk about. Doesn't

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Speaker 3: You're all good, So cowprint.

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Speaker 1: I have seen this in so many places because Swede

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Speaker 1: like boho urban street style bike a trend, right, how

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Speaker 3: Can I find a sentence? That's the game we're playing.

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Speaker 1: And I've seen some collections at Naked Advice they have

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Speaker 2: Yeah, lefopard print is forever, but I do love a

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Speaker 4: You don't have to buy all of these things brand new.

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Speaker 2: If you want to rock that trend, but doing it

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Speaker 1: Color of summer, well, the color of twenty twenty five,

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Speaker 3: Savvy savvy carpy, Sabby Carpenter.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, she rocks a baby blue moment, yep. And that

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Speaker 2: honestly think that baby blue would look quite nice with

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but the one that will never peplam.

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Speaker 4: No, it's not for me that one, n NA.

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Speaker 1: But anyway, those are my two obsessions. Shall I get

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Speaker 1: at me. I have raise a cut hair with a

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Speaker 1: black emo fringe. I have one direction posters in my room.

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Speaker 4: Wait, you still have those? Honestly?

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Speaker 1: And my MySpace is popping off because they just redid

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Speaker 3: What are you telling me?

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Speaker 4: That was really visceral? I'm taken back.

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Speaker 2: What I loved about this trend is that I think

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Speaker 2: we all could see ourselves in it, and immediately when

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Speaker 2: I What would my younger self ask my older self?

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Speaker 3: Do you know what it made me think about? Though?

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Speaker 1: It's the question that we have in our rich conversations,

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Speaker 1: I exactly what you're saying. It really is a nice

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Speaker 3: In because you do think about what you would say.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and because as much as I feel like I've

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Speaker 4: I'm getting into it okay. And I'm say not that I've.

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Speaker 3: Like the perception that it would bring ye yeah, and.

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Speaker 2: That like I'm doing well because I have a really

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Speaker 2: I was very much influenced by that, And I do

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Speaker 2: think it's important to have a dream job and to

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Speaker 2: also to know that your job can be a means

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Speaker 2: I wasn't particularly proud to tell people where I worked.

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Speaker 2: we say what it was Harry job? You can say

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Speaker 2: When we worked at Findye and I was a credit

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Speaker 2: I learned so much about SEO and digital marketing and

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Speaker 2: So thank god I went uncool girl. Thank god I

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Speaker 2: went for the boring, uncol job because I made so

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Speaker 1: Do you remember that I spent so much money on

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Speaker 2: Yeah, songs on iTunes, the amount of money I was

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Speaker 2: like it's better value for your money. But Spotify's coming,

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Speaker 3: Although I said small businesses one hundred percent.

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Speaker 1: So I wanted to share the sale events of twenty

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Speaker 3: Then in June we have end.

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Speaker 1: Of financial year sales starting from the thirtieth, but last

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Speaker 1: Click Frenzy the main event, and on the twenty eighth

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Speaker 1: absolutely no need to.

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Speaker 3: Pay full price for anything. Save you money.

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Speaker 1: But of course we will also be doing our cheat

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Speaker 1: sheets for every single sale event where we pull in

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Speaker 1: all of the best sales across fashion, beauty, lifestyle and more.

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Speaker 1: And last year, across Black Friday and Boxing Day, we

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Speaker 1: ended up raising five thousand dollars for charity, and we're

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Speaker 1: going to be doing.

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Speaker 3: The exact same thing this year. For every single sale event.

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Speaker 1: We're going to get you chicks to choose a charity

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Speaker 1: and then raise money towards that charity. So our final

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Speaker 1: life lesson, Now, I'm gonna throw a spanner in the works, Okay,

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Speaker 1: I want this to be a joint life lesson that

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Speaker 1: we would tell our younger selves as friends. Ooh, okay,

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Speaker 1: I would tell them not to do anything differently.

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Speaker 4: I like that.

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Speaker 1: I would say just write it all out like everything

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Speaker 1: that has been a hiccup has been a life lesson

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Speaker 1: and has only just made us stronger and smarter.

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Speaker 3: So I would be like, don't do anything differently.

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Speaker 2: My life lesson for our younger selves collectively as a

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Speaker 2: friendship unit would be don't listen to the people who

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Speaker 2: invalidate your.

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Speaker 4: Friendship and your dreams.

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Speaker 2: Yh, meh, Because, as I said drunkenly at one of

466
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Speaker 2: our podcast launchers like two or three years ago, there

467
00:24:43,520 --> 00:24:47,160
Speaker 2: were so many naysayers when we first pitched and wanted

468
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Speaker 2: to do Two Broke Chicks, so many people who found

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Speaker 2: our friendship annoying or abrasive or.

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Speaker 3: They still are whatever.

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Speaker 2: But that's the thing, and there still are, and that's

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Speaker 2: so fine. We don't have to be everybody's cup of tea,

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Speaker 2: and we never will. Yeah, but I think that I'm

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Speaker 2: glad that we eventually didn't listen to the people who

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Speaker 2: told us that we shouldn't have a podcast and that

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Speaker 2: people would understand our personal.

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Speaker 4: Jokes and whatever.

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Speaker 2: But I won't lie and say that I didn't think

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Speaker 2: about it, or you know, it wasn't an insecurity of

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Speaker 2: mine when we first started it, being like, oh, well,

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Speaker 2: people even get around it or are we just like

482
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Speaker 2: every other basic bestie duo being like we we are?

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Speaker 3: We are so and I love that, Yeah, you know.

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Speaker 2: Exactly, So that would be my lesson to share to

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Speaker 2: love that one. Those baby girls, please, little.

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Speaker 3: Those little baby girls. All right, shall we get into

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Speaker 3: advice with the chicks?

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Speaker 2: Let's do it.

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Speaker 3: Advice please? Hey, firstly, love the podcast. Thank you so

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Speaker 3: much for creating a safe community. Oh Man Kimbibie.

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Speaker 1: I broke up with my ex in October. We had

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Speaker 1: been together for nearly two years. It became really toxic,

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Speaker 1: and I felt like he no longer loved me and

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Speaker 1: I wasn't a priority in his life, so I chose

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Speaker 1: to end it. He has since then gotten a new

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Speaker 1: and quite a bit younger girlfriend. I also lost a

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Speaker 1: lot of friends in the breakup as well.

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Speaker 3: I am loving single life. However, he is my next

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Speaker 3: door neighbor.

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Speaker 1: Ooh, that's right, right next door, and I'm up on

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Speaker 1: a hill so I can see into his house. I

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Speaker 1: can hear the pool parties that he hosts. I can

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Speaker 1: see which cars are home every time I go past.

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Speaker 3: It's become torture.

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Speaker 1: His whole family were horrible to me throughout the relationship.

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Speaker 1: His parents would speak another language in front of me,

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Speaker 1: knowing I couldn't understand them, but I could hear my

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Speaker 1: name being mentioned. So this, combined with the worries of

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Speaker 1: seeing or hearing my old so called friends, his new

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Speaker 1: girlfriend and him, has left me not wanting to be

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Speaker 1: at my own house. I get really bad anxiety every

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Speaker 1: time I drive home. Please give me some advine.

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Speaker 4: I don't know, I've been there, talk through it.

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Speaker 1: I put this in the same category as work. Don't

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Speaker 1: fuck your neighbors. Yeah, and don't fuck people you work

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Speaker 1: with because you can't escape them.

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Speaker 4: Especially your home, Like that's to be your sanctuary.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean the neighbor that I date dated, Oh,

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Speaker 1: I've done it twice. I did it.

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Speaker 3: I did it when I was younger.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I mean I've accidentally dated two neighbors in

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Speaker 1: my lifetime. Yeah, and like none were as intense as

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Speaker 1: what I think this relationship was. Like the one of

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Speaker 1: them was like three dates and you know they still

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Speaker 1: live in the building. Yeah, and it's just like a

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Speaker 1: head nod and doses, you know, I think in this

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Speaker 1: situation it was it sounds like it was a lot

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Speaker 1: more intense and there was a lot more feelings involved,

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Speaker 1: and that would be so hard that. I know this

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Speaker 1: probably is maybe a bit radical, but my first thing

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Speaker 1: would be like.

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Speaker 4: Can I move? Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Same, I was thinking.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I know, that's probably really drastic advice, and it's

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Speaker 1: probably not helpful because maybe she doesn't want to move,

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Speaker 1: or maybe or maybe she owns a house. But my

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Speaker 1: first question to myself if I was in that situation

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Speaker 1: would be can I move?

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Speaker 3: Is there any way that I can not be in

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Speaker 3: this position?

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Speaker 2: How can you remove yourself from the situation if it's possible?

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Speaker 2: I think if it isn't possible.

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Speaker 3: Which I think is very likely, yea.

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Speaker 2: Given that she's running in for advice, remind yourself that

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Speaker 2: you don't want to be in that relationship.

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Speaker 4: I think, take off the rose colored glasses, and rather.

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Speaker 2: Than comparing yourself to his new girlfriend, which I think

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Speaker 2: is very natural to do, think about that. You don't

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Speaker 2: want friends who are going to abandon you when you

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Speaker 2: go through a breakup when you probably need them the most.

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Speaker 2: You don't want in laws who aren't welcoming and you

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Speaker 2: don't get along with. You don't want a partner that

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Speaker 2: clearly there wasn't any longevity in the relationship beyond what

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Speaker 2: you had. It's really hard not to compare yourself and

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Speaker 2: dwell and be like, oh my god, especially when it's.

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Speaker 1: Right in because you're probably sitting there being like that

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Speaker 1: used to be meet like I used to be at

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Speaker 1: those pool parties I used to get to go. But

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Speaker 1: try to remind yourself and because you get rose colored

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Speaker 1: glasses on when you go through a breakup, try to

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Speaker 1: remember all the shit times. I know that sounds so nag,

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Speaker 1: but you just you think like, oh no, that looks

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Speaker 1: like so much fun, and I want to know you

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Speaker 1: don't you don't want to go there, like try to

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Speaker 1: think about the reasons why, because you broke up with

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Speaker 1: him and you didn't do that for no reason. And

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Speaker 1: think about the fact that you are going to meet

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Speaker 1: someone that you know. You are going to have friends

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Speaker 1: that are there for you during really hard times. You

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Speaker 1: are going to meet a partner that gives you the love,

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Speaker 1: attention and care that you deserve, and they're gonna have

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Speaker 1: parents that you know are very open and welcoming and

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Speaker 1: warm to you. And that's what you want and that's

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Speaker 1: what you deserve, and that it's actually a blessing that

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Speaker 1: you now have the freedom in the space to pursue

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Speaker 1: those things that you want.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it will also get easier with time. Let's go

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Speaker 2: feel relatively.

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Speaker 1: Fresh, put a pin in the pool, floaties under the

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Speaker 1: cover of darkness.

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Speaker 3: We'll jump the fence.

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Speaker 1: Let's fight in the corner of your floating and reel

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Speaker 1: it small and they'll be like, why don't they keep

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Speaker 1: going down? We'll go kill the giants worn floating. That's

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Speaker 1: another thing I spent money on that I shouldn't.

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Speaker 3: Have dum the giant floaty phase with like unicorns and shit.

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Speaker 4: Yep, I do.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's bad.

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Speaker 4: I do. Remember. Oh, that would suck.

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Speaker 3: That would suck, Like that situation sucks.

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Speaker 1: And yeah, I think it probably might even need a

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Speaker 1: little bit of journaling to really kind of cement those

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Speaker 1: things in your brain, because sometimes just saying them to

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Speaker 1: yourself doesn't really sink it in. Yeah, and maybe try

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Speaker 1: to pursue some friendships outside of the area that you

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Speaker 1: live in.

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Speaker 3: But look into moving out if.

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Speaker 4: You can, if possible.

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Speaker 2: So it won't It won't be forever regardless, even if

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Speaker 2: it's the living situation or how you feel.

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Speaker 4: Yes, remember that too, It's only temporary.

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Speaker 1: I know.

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Speaker 4: That's kind of annoying to hear, but it's true.

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Speaker 3: And who's to come live with me?

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Speaker 1: And I'll put more watched Lilma Mate, we'll host a

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Speaker 1: Paul party. That's a rappy Doodle's Chicks, thank you so

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Speaker 1: much for listening, and we want to know what you

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Speaker 1: would tell your younger self, what's like your life? Lesson

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Speaker 1: that you would tell little baby you and comment it

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Speaker 1: on Spotify or you can DM.

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Speaker 4: It to us.

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Speaker 3: We live to see them, we do.

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Speaker 2: And if you want to send in an advice with

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Speaker 2: the chicks, we will put the number in the show

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Speaker 2: notes so you can send us a voice note or

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Speaker 2: text it in, but we do always love.

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Speaker 4: A voice note exactly.

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Speaker 3: Forehead kisses for you all, Love you so much. Thank

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Speaker 3: you to m ik Made for making this episode of

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Speaker 3: Two Bread Chicks happen. Thank you to Nick and Rush,

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Speaker 3: our wonderful team who'll put up with us every week.

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Speaker 3: And thanks to you chicks for having us in your emails.

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Speaker 4: We love to be here.

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Speaker 3: We love it, We love it.

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Speaker 4: By Checks