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Speaker 1: I'm Anna and I'm Matt. Let's jump in Hello Matthew,
Speaker 1: Hello Anna?
Speaker 2: What's going on?
Speaker 1: Do you know what I reckon? This weekend that's just been?
Speaker 1: Is the first weekend where we didn't call each other once?
Speaker 3: Ah?
Speaker 2: I know, were you busy? I was very busy. Is
Speaker 2: that time a year though? There's heaps of events on,
Speaker 2: heaps of shit going on, So yeah, yeah, I just
Speaker 2: didn't find a spare moment to be honest.
Speaker 1: Well, tell me how your weekends, because I feel like
Speaker 1: I'm like in the dark. I haven't heard.
Speaker 2: Okay, So went to my mate's wedding. So he had
Speaker 2: a beautiful wedding up in King Lake. Do you know
Speaker 2: where that is? Past like Hillsville up in the mountains.
Speaker 1: I don't know where it is, but I did see
Speaker 1: that you posted there and it looked stunny.
Speaker 2: Yeah. So it was at like a school camp, believe
Speaker 2: it or not. So it was like the Flying Fox
Speaker 2: and all that. But where they had the ceremony was
Speaker 2: in this nice little nook out in like the forest.
Speaker 2: It was beautiful. Yeah, they had like a it all
Speaker 2: set up and as you walked through like the bush
Speaker 2: or forest, whatever you want to call it, they had
Speaker 2: like pictures of them along the way. It was really cute.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's beautiful.
Speaker 2: But where we slept, we were in a cabin, so
Speaker 2: like a school camp sort of cabin set up, so
Speaker 2: have like one and we had like bunk beds. Lucky enough,
Speaker 2: I didn't get a bunk bed because I'm like six
Speaker 2: ft six. Yeah, one of my mates tried to say
Speaker 2: that I was in a bunk and I was like,
Speaker 2: there's no way, mate. But it was like I was
Speaker 2: looking around at the reception afterwards, and I was like
Speaker 2: looking at my mate because I've been I went to
Speaker 2: prep with Jack, so I've now seen him get married.
Speaker 2: And there was a couple of other people from primary
Speaker 2: school there and I was just looking at him, and
Speaker 2: I was looking at a couple of the other boys.
Speaker 2: I was just thinking like, how like we're at that
Speaker 2: age now where like everyone's lives are slowly either going
Speaker 2: one way another way, and just every different way. You know,
Speaker 2: some people engaged, some people have kids, some people getting married.
Speaker 2: Some of the boys aren't even interested in that sort
Speaker 2: of stuff. They're just doing themselves.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Like one of my mates, one of my best mates,
Speaker 2: just quit his job that he's been up for like
Speaker 2: ten years, and he's, you know, just starting again. Like
Speaker 2: it's just wild to think about that age where everything's
Speaker 2: just you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: It must have been a real pinch me moment seeing
Speaker 1: someone you went to prep with get married, Like that's crazy.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Well, I was looking at him and I was actually
Speaker 2: picturing him because there's photo of us in prep, and
Speaker 2: I was actually looking at the photo and I was like, God,
Speaker 2: we look a lot different, but at the same time,
Speaker 2: not much has changed, you know what I mean. Yeah, Yeah,
Speaker 2: that was cool. I love Jelly as well, his wife
Speaker 2: that he got married too. She's a great girl, so
Speaker 2: I'm really happy for them.
Speaker 1: She was a great gal.
Speaker 2: I was a great girl, So I wish many happy
Speaker 2: years for them to come.
Speaker 1: I mean, that's all you want for your friends, right,
Speaker 1: Like when I think about like my core friendship group.
Speaker 1: All I want for them is to just meet someone
Speaker 1: who is a great person who's going to be really
Speaker 1: an amazing partner and really good to them. So like
Speaker 1: that's all you could ask for any of your friends.
Speaker 2: They just click perfectly, like because where they had the wedding,
Speaker 2: like they said in their speech, was just so them.
Speaker 2: They love going hiking, they love traveling. So like I
Speaker 2: remember another one of my mates, I told him I
Speaker 2: had to I was going to Jack's wedding and he goes,
Speaker 2: he goes, oh, good luck that you're going to make
Speaker 2: you hike, And then we were walking up to the reception.
Speaker 2: I was like, fuck Ben, like we're kids.
Speaker 1: Yet Yeah, he was like, lovely hike to start the day.
Speaker 2: Not in my loafers. My feet are cut off the
Speaker 2: fresh loafers.
Speaker 1: It is weird, though, Like I feel like I can
Speaker 1: definitely relate to what you're saying with like everyone going
Speaker 1: in very different directions. And I feel like as we
Speaker 1: get older, a lot of the time, like your friends
Speaker 1: are either school friends or friends you go to UNI with,
Speaker 1: or work friends. And I feel like proximity, like where
Speaker 1: you live is such a big thing for maintaining friendships.
Speaker 2: I was. I was thinking that in a way as well.
Speaker 2: I was thinking, how I know a lot of the
Speaker 2: boys and there was no like real I went to
Speaker 2: school and that was it, you know, I mean, like
Speaker 2: I didn't go to school with anything. The only one
Speaker 2: I did go to school with I hated in school
Speaker 2: and make friends with them outside. You know what I mean,
Speaker 2: you went to like primary school with them then you
Speaker 2: know from footy or you know, I'm through this, you
Speaker 2: know what I mean? And yeah, I was thinking where
Speaker 2: you grew up like determined your friendship group. Yeah, I like,
Speaker 2: look where you all live in different places, have different lives,
Speaker 2: but you're still friends.
Speaker 1: Yeah. And the thing is is, like, you know, I've
Speaker 1: had a friend who's recently moved to Mornington. I have
Speaker 1: friends who are in Somemmerville. Laura, my friend, she's back
Speaker 1: with her parents because she just traveled the US for
Speaker 1: six weeks, so she's a little bit further out, and
Speaker 1: it's just so hard, like it's hard to make time
Speaker 1: to see people when you're so far away because we
Speaker 1: all have like very busy live schedules and it is crazy,
Speaker 1: like you don't realize how much of an impact that
Speaker 1: has especially as you get older and like you start
Speaker 1: to kind of do your own thing and you have
Speaker 1: your own passions, and you know you really have to
Speaker 1: put in the effort for friendships to really last.
Speaker 2: Well, when I pulled up today at the podcast, I
Speaker 2: literally just messaged my mates and I said, yeah, I
Speaker 2: loved being with you boys. I love you boys. Sort
Speaker 2: of like think because I was realizing as I was
Speaker 2: driving in that like being with your boys and hanging
Speaker 2: out with them, you take it for granted.
Speaker 1: You take it for granted. I had my best friends.
Speaker 1: Every year, we have like an annual Christmas party, So
Speaker 1: we had that from this Yeah, we had that yesterday.
Speaker 1: And it's funny because we were all texting last night
Speaker 1: being like, oh my god, like we need to make
Speaker 1: more of an effort to catch up. So I think
Speaker 1: maybe we're both in our feelings about how much we
Speaker 1: love our friends right now.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I know, like we look at us.
Speaker 1: But it's interesting because season yeah, I have recently felt
Speaker 1: like my memory is like not as sharp, And I
Speaker 1: don't know if it's because I'm like constantly like editing
Speaker 1: things on my phone and constantly I don't know, like
Speaker 1: I just so anyway, I was in bed this morning
Speaker 1: with Michael, and I was like, I really want to
Speaker 1: like make my memory sharper, like I want to be quicker.
Speaker 1: Like I feel like I used to be so good.
Speaker 1: This sounds ridiculous, but I used to be so good
Speaker 1: at my times tables, and I always like tell Michael
Speaker 1: to like ask through my times tables like on quick Fire,
Speaker 1: and a couple of the times I've got the answer wrong.
Speaker 1: And I just don't get my timestables wrong because I'm
Speaker 1: a bit I'm a bit stressed. I'm like, fuck, i've
Speaker 1: hit thirty. My memory is going.
Speaker 2: What's six times six thirty six? Yeah?
Speaker 3: Good?
Speaker 2: You should put one of the the back of your.
Speaker 1: Toilet a toilet. I actually wanted like that's so late,
Speaker 1: but I actually want to because I want to get
Speaker 1: sharpa again. But anyway, Michael was like, Okay, it's all good, babe,
Speaker 1: don't stress out like you've just hit thirty. He's like,
Speaker 1: I hit thirty, I felt like my memory wasn't as sharp.
Speaker 1: No one talks about this. No one's told me about this,
Speaker 1: But apparently socializing with your friends and going to like
Speaker 1: new places helps with memory.
Speaker 2: I tell some other tips as well. I took these
Speaker 2: pills for memory because I used to struggle with memory
Speaker 2: for wrestling, Like you have to remember the whole choreograph
Speaker 2: of a match. Yeah, halfway through the match, I just
Speaker 2: go blank, yeah, And I was like, I can't be
Speaker 2: doing that. So I was taking these vitamins that help
Speaker 2: with memory, like fish oil and all this sort of stuff,
Speaker 2: as well as like download a memory game app on
Speaker 2: your phone, so instead of going on Instagram, play that,
Speaker 2: or if you don't want to be on your phone,
Speaker 2: get like cards and do it with just cards.
Speaker 1: But it's so hard. The more time you spend on
Speaker 1: your phone, it's like really bad for your memory because
Speaker 1: like your memory kind of clumps that phone time all
Speaker 1: into one, so days can like kind of blur into one.
Speaker 1: So I so my recommendation this week is to spend
Speaker 1: less time on your phone and to really make an
Speaker 1: effort to put your phone down, because for me, I
Speaker 1: feel like that's why my memory is getting really bad,
Speaker 1: and I'm really like really making an effort to really
Speaker 1: try and sharpen it up and be like way more accurate.
Speaker 2: Well with like an job. We haven't even spoken about this,
Speaker 2: but I literally last night put my TikTok and Instagram
Speaker 2: into a file and labeled it time wasters, So like,
Speaker 2: so I'm not on there as much, literally, Like, that's
Speaker 2: so funny that we're saying this.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And it's funny because we had no idea where
Speaker 1: this conversation is going this morning. But I feel like
Speaker 1: we're both feeling.
Speaker 2: On the same ship. We're on the same page. We generally.
Speaker 2: I just walked in late as well, and here we
Speaker 2: are chatting like we are the same stuff. So we're
Speaker 2: on the same page.
Speaker 1: We're definitely on the same page. Other than the wedding.
Speaker 1: How it was the rest of your weekend?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I've come off the weekend on a bit of
Speaker 2: a low. I can't put my finger on what exactly
Speaker 2: does it? I mean, big weekend with the boys of
Speaker 2: a bunch of serotonin released, you know, just with all
Speaker 2: the boys having fun, and then you come back to
Speaker 2: Monday and you're like, ah.
Speaker 1: He's he's like, fuck, I have to see Anna space.
Speaker 2: I don't know, I enjoy this, but yeah, you don't
Speaker 2: come off for a weekend. You're driving in traffic, You're like, yeah,
Speaker 2: it is. The weather's a big gloomy now after the hot,
Speaker 2: sunny weekend.
Speaker 1: I know of what's happening with that. I'm just getting
Speaker 1: I'm getting whiplashed a little bit. I'm like, let's just
Speaker 1: stick to summer.
Speaker 2: About your weekend, though, how do you how are you feeling?
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like obviously I had like my fun with the girls,
Speaker 1: had a bit of a stressful week because I thought
Speaker 1: my memory was going. But yeah, I think Michael and
Speaker 1: I on Friday night we went to the location where
Speaker 1: we want to have our engagement party. Super beautiful, really
Speaker 1: beautiful venue. So I'm thinking we're going to lock that in,
Speaker 1: which ising thinking of having it in April, just because
Speaker 1: it's so hard to like get a time when everyone's available.
Speaker 1: My brother works in Queensland, so he only has like
Speaker 1: one weekend off a month, so it's just really hard
Speaker 1: trying to navigate that. So I think it's going to
Speaker 1: be April. I think we have the venue locked in.
Speaker 1: But like, to be honest, like with trying to find
Speaker 1: a venue for the engagement party, trying to find a
Speaker 1: wedding venue the podcast, I have like a little, you know,
Speaker 1: side thing that I'm doing with Michael at the moment.
Speaker 1: Just all of that and the fact that it's Christmas
Speaker 1: and like everything's full on.
Speaker 2: I've just seen.
Speaker 1: Matt's had a little.
Speaker 2: Peak your access to your time tree.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I've just felt super overwhelmed, and I think it's
Speaker 1: kind of had a spill on effect to Michael and
Speaker 1: I's relationships. So on Saturday we were fighting all day.
Speaker 1: Oh and also our rent's gone up by five hundred
Speaker 1: and sixty dollars a month starting in feb which is crazy,
Speaker 1: that's like twenty five percent up. So that, yeah, that
Speaker 1: stress on us as well. So we're like, do we
Speaker 1: stay in this place? Can we afford to stay here?
Speaker 1: Should we move? When are we going to buy a house?
Speaker 1: Like all of kind of like just like the normal
Speaker 1: stresses of life have just gone on top of us.
Speaker 1: And I think on Saturday we just had like probably
Speaker 1: one of our worst fights, if I'm being honest, Like
Speaker 1: we just we're not seeing eye to eye. We're both
Speaker 1: feeling a certain way, and like you know, when you
Speaker 1: just like you're overwhelmed and stress and you don't want
Speaker 1: to see the other person's point of view. I feel
Speaker 1: like we were both in that mood, and normally, if
Speaker 1: only one of us is in that mood, it's totally resolvable.
Speaker 1: But we were both like standing firm. We were like nah,
Speaker 1: and we just like were arguing and it was really sad.
Speaker 1: And then by someday we had kind of Oh, by
Speaker 1: Saturday night, I would say, we kind of made up,
Speaker 1: but we were just like, we don't want to fight
Speaker 1: like this. This is ridiculous. We're so in love, Like,
Speaker 1: we have an amazing relationship, we love our lives together.
Speaker 1: We shouldn't be arguing about this. But there was a
Speaker 1: little bit of yelling, which is really surprising for us
Speaker 1: because we don't really yell. And it's a bit triggering
Speaker 1: from like my last relationship as well, because it's like
Speaker 1: in my last relationship, I was constantly yelling and obviously
Speaker 1: you can't compare relationships because we've never done that. I
Speaker 1: was like, oh, no, it's going to that place.
Speaker 2: I hate when you start to see stuff from your
Speaker 2: ex relationship coming to like a new one, and you're like, fuck,
Speaker 2: hopefully it doesn't go down the same route.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like you're like, I have to avoid going down
Speaker 1: the same route. We're not doing this again. But yeah,
Speaker 1: Like obviously I felt like I wanted to bring this
Speaker 1: up because I did a Q and A on my
Speaker 1: Instagram and someone was like, how do you remain so happy?
Speaker 1: You're constantly happy? And like, I think I was arguing
Speaker 1: with Michael at that point, and I was like, fuck,
Speaker 1: it's not fair for people to think that I'm like
Speaker 1: like living my best life, and like I am, like,
Speaker 1: I'm I love my life. I'm so grateful and I
Speaker 1: practice gratitude constantly. We both say that, like we constantly
Speaker 1: say it out loud, like what we're grateful for, what
Speaker 1: we're happy about?
Speaker 2: A grateful diary. Yeah, things, Yeah, that I'm grateful for.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I was just like, you know, it's not
Speaker 1: been all sunshine and rainbows this weekend, so yeah, I
Speaker 1: wanted to share.
Speaker 2: O, thanks you for that. That will bring me to
Speaker 2: my recommendation, which might help you. Then go for it.
Speaker 1: I'm ready.
Speaker 2: Mine is cold showers. So I accidentally stumbled.
Speaker 1: Onto this water had run out.
Speaker 2: The no, no, nothing as grim as that in England.
Speaker 2: At my uncle's house, fare il staying for a majority
Speaker 2: of the time. It's an old school house in London
Speaker 2: and you have to flick the hot water on. Oh
Speaker 2: yeah yeah, half an hour the boiler. I'm not going
Speaker 2: to do that. I get out of bed.
Speaker 1: I'm not going I'm not thinking that far ahead.
Speaker 2: Three three flights of stairs down to the bottom to
Speaker 2: flick it on. I'm not doing that. I'm like, you
Speaker 2: know what, fuck it, I'll just jump into the on
Speaker 2: sweite and have my shower. So it was cold, and
Speaker 2: I was like having it, and I was like, oh yeah,
Speaker 2: I had And also where we get all our information from.
Speaker 2: TikTok had told me that having a cold shower first
Speaker 2: thing in the morning is good for you.
Speaker 1: It is very good for you.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so I recommend having cold showers. There's a lot
Speaker 2: of benefits. It helps your body release serotonin, gets sort
Speaker 2: of anxiety. It speeds up your tabism, so it's splash
Speaker 2: metabolism as soon as you wake up.
Speaker 1: Love that.
Speaker 2: So yeah, I recommend having a cold shower to wake up.
Speaker 2: And don't do what I didn't, just jump straight into it.
Speaker 2: I reckon well pun intended, probably jumps the best way
Speaker 2: to do it. But like, start at the end of
Speaker 2: your hot shower, turning it to colda like thirty seconds
Speaker 2: however long you can tolerate, turn it off. Then just
Speaker 2: go from there. And now I just jump straight into
Speaker 2: a cold shower. It's a lot easier on the weekend
Speaker 2: with the hot weather, but like when it's it was
Speaker 2: in London especially, it was quite hard doing it.
Speaker 1: So your full shower is a cold shower, yeah.
Speaker 2: Majority of it, but it's not a long one. So
Speaker 2: my first shower in the morning, you're.
Speaker 1: Going in for thirty seconds quick watching.
Speaker 2: Like minute fifteen. Then I'll go fight my exercise and
Speaker 2: then I'll come back and have a normal shower. Yeah,
Speaker 2: got it, just to wake me up first in the morning.
Speaker 1: Look, I'm feeling, like you know, I'm anxious, some stress.
Speaker 1: You're feeling the same way. You're a bit down in
Speaker 1: the dumps. I feel like this could really maybe help
Speaker 1: us turn over a page. And sometimes I do that
Speaker 1: just it's like if I'm feeling stressed, I put cold
Speaker 1: water on my face. I know it's not like a cold,
Speaker 1: full old ordeal, but I mean, yes, even just starting
Speaker 1: small mag it gradual, as you said, and I love that.
Speaker 1: I love that suggestion from you. Matt.
Speaker 2: Let me know guys how it goes on our Facebook
Speaker 2: group and where's your head out. I would love to
Speaker 2: hear your stories and see how long you guys can
Speaker 2: not if someone goes Yeah, I've been doing that for years.
Speaker 2: I can go for ten minutes in a cold shower.
Speaker 2: It's time up, like, stop showing off you here? All right?
Speaker 2: Should we get into the hot line, Let's do it.
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Speaker 2: Our producer Alex has chosen a few for us.
Speaker 1: We haven't heard these at all.
Speaker 2: Okay, So the first one comes from Tory, Hey man Manna.
Speaker 5: So this one is a bit of an odd one.
Speaker 5: So this is on behalf of one of my closest friends.
Speaker 5: She told me not long ago that she had this
Speaker 5: guy at her own snapchap. Has no idea who he is.
Speaker 5: She just added him back because you know why not.
Speaker 5: And they've had your normal conversation sort of just talking
Speaker 5: about like where each other's from, how old they are,
Speaker 5: like what they do.
Speaker 1: For work, and the.
Speaker 5: Day to day questions that you would normally ask people.
Speaker 5: So that's all fine, that's all will and good, until
Speaker 5: he starts saying to her that he's madly in love
Speaker 5: with her, he wants her to meet his whole family.
Speaker 5: They will absolutely love her and that sort of thing.
Speaker 5: And she says to me, She's like, I've never even
Speaker 5: met this guy in my life. But his where it
Speaker 5: gets super weird. He rocks up to her work acting
Speaker 5: like her boyfriend. So would walk up to anyone who's
Speaker 5: there is someone like here, lack.
Speaker 1: That's traumatizing blah blah blah.
Speaker 5: And everyone of her work is so confused because I
Speaker 5: know she doesn't have a boyfriend, and she's way too
Speaker 5: nice to say anything, so she literally acts like she's
Speaker 5: not at work. She will hide in the back room,
Speaker 5: and he just does not get the hint. So I'm honestly,
Speaker 5: I find it so weird.
Speaker 2: First of all, like I said, adding someone on Snapchat
Speaker 2: or someone adding your snapchat's a red flag straightaway.
Speaker 1: Snapchat, Yeah, like, if they're adding you as a miscellaneous person,
Speaker 1: there's a really good chance they're adding numerous people. But Snapchat.
Speaker 2: To Tory's friend, who accepts a random on Snapchat.
Speaker 1: Just don't do it. Guys, please, if you're listening, would
Speaker 1: you accept Lloyd doing this? I feel like she needs
Speaker 1: to get like an Avio on this guy.
Speaker 2: I was about to say, this guy clearly he's out
Speaker 2: of touch with reality rocking up to her work. But
Speaker 2: another point is.
Speaker 1: She's terrifying though he's he's saying it's her, he's saying
Speaker 1: they're together, Like that's unhinged. That's not normal. That's like
Speaker 1: not someone who's like mentally like with it, who's like
Speaker 1: seeing things clearly for what they truly.
Speaker 2: Are maybe sending of snapchats I like love you all
Speaker 2: this sort of stuff, and then she's saying that to
Speaker 2: her friend.
Speaker 1: I just feel like, as a general rule, like number one,
Speaker 1: as anat said, let's not add people we don't know
Speaker 1: on Snapchat. It's a very like scary platform. Number two,
Speaker 1: like why are you giving out personal details such as
Speaker 1: where you work? Like you really need to be super
Speaker 1: careful with your private details. You don't want anyone rocking
Speaker 1: up like even like you know, I know that there's
Speaker 1: like kids who are like begin to snapchat. It's mainly
Speaker 1: the younger generation or beginning to snapchat. Be careful of
Speaker 1: your like your uniform. Like people who have that like
Speaker 1: stork mentality, they're like analyzing every photo of you, like
Speaker 1: what school are you out? You know, where you work?
Speaker 1: It's just terrifying to me. It makes me scared to
Speaker 1: be a parent because my kids are going to be like.
Speaker 2: Wool and they're not going to have any Snapchat. Well,
Speaker 2: I think as well, I'm going to come from the
Speaker 2: other angle with this guy.
Speaker 1: Oh, be careful, man, be careful.
Speaker 2: Maybe rock up with some flowers or something like flowers.
Speaker 3: Okay, I'm taking a piss, Maybe this guy should.
Speaker 1: Yeah, just you know, I feel like she needs to
Speaker 1: be very clear with this guy, Like, I get it
Speaker 1: if you're like too scared and too nice. And I
Speaker 1: feel like at a younger age, I was that person.
Speaker 1: I was too scared to hurt people's feelings. But I
Speaker 1: think with something like this, where someone is lying about
Speaker 1: being your partner and like trying to give other people
Speaker 1: false information, which you know it could lead you into
Speaker 1: a really dangerous pass I feel like she needs to
Speaker 1: be like, very clear, very clear, you are not my partner.
Speaker 1: Do not rock up at my work. And I think
Speaker 1: she needs to block him on Snapchat. And if that
Speaker 1: doesn't work, ABO, yes, all right.
Speaker 2: So the next voicemail comes from Nicole, let's see who's
Speaker 2: been stalking her?
Speaker 1: Fuck unstressed.
Speaker 3: So I went to a summer camp in America where
Speaker 3: I met this man from England who I felt madly
Speaker 3: in love with, and I thought, oh my gosh, this
Speaker 3: is my husband.
Speaker 1: I'm so happy and in love.
Speaker 3: And then obviously the summer camp came to an end
Speaker 3: and I was like, we'll just keep going, you know,
Speaker 3: we'll see each other over Christmas. I'll fly to you,
Speaker 3: like I was willing to really put in the effort.
Speaker 1: But then when I got home, like.
Speaker 3: He was barely replying, like every like three days he's replied.
Speaker 3: It was like terrible, just basically avoided me and just
Speaker 3: was to give me the absolute bare minimum, like what
Speaker 3: a reply for three days?
Speaker 2: Piss take.
Speaker 3: Yeah. So I basically obviously got the message and it
Speaker 3: was like, well, see you later. Not happy, it was
Speaker 3: heartbroken as well. But then I was also kind of
Speaker 3: hopeful that I would see him again the following year
Speaker 3: at the same summer camp, because the plan was that
Speaker 3: we would both go back. He then decided he was
Speaker 3: isn't going, so I was like, oh, well, like I'll
Speaker 3: still have an amazing summer. I then basically had an
Speaker 3: unreal summer where I just fucked around essentially and fucked
Speaker 3: multiple people and I was dropped morning and I sent
Speaker 3: him a snapchat by accident, I was meant to go
Speaker 3: to the girls where basically I was on the Walk
Speaker 3: of Shame and I was laughing and going, oh yeah,
Speaker 3: look at me just walking through my summer camp on
Speaker 3: the Walk of Shame, and like said same in the morning,
Speaker 3: and then basically he apparently decided that that was not okay,
Speaker 3: and he rang me and said that he'd made the
Speaker 3: biggest mistake of his entire life and that he was
Speaker 3: going to come and fly to the US to come
Speaker 3: and see him for a weekend, in which I said, now, mates,
Speaker 3: so I was too little, too late. You missed your chance.
Speaker 3: I'm having a great summer. My plan after the summer
Speaker 3: camp was to go to Canada to Whistler, moved there,
Speaker 3: and a week later he then rang me and said, oh,
Speaker 3: I'm actually thinking about moving to Canada myself out of nowhere.
Speaker 3: And I was like, well, that's great for you, but
Speaker 3: you can make sure you don't come to the same
Speaker 3: town I.
Speaker 1: Do, because like that's just a bit weird.
Speaker 3: He's like, no, no, no, like of course, not like
Speaker 3: I'm not even thinking Whistler. And I said, okay, great,
Speaker 3: you do you even though I'm going I know exactly
Speaker 3: what's gonna happen, because four weeks after I moved to Canada,
Speaker 3: what do you know, he's in the same town as
Speaker 3: I am. I also got a job at a place
Speaker 3: at a hotel, and like I think, well, two or
Speaker 3: three weeks later, he got a job at the exact
Speaker 3: same hotel, and within a week of me actually being there,
Speaker 3: he yeah, broke down and said basically, he came here
Speaker 3: for me, got the whole bees up, moved countries from
Speaker 3: England to.
Speaker 1: Nada just to follow me.
Speaker 3: But yeah, he basically kept breaking down, but essentially, over
Speaker 3: about six months he did get over me and we
Speaker 3: kind of are friends now. But I think sometimes people
Speaker 3: go a bit cuckoo for people and they do things
Speaker 3: and say things that they wouldn't normally do. So but
Speaker 3: you know, it's worked out quite well because now he
Speaker 3: lives there permanently and I'm back home And the only
Speaker 3: regret I have is that we didn't have more sex,
Speaker 3: because he was the best sex in my life.
Speaker 2: Little too crazy, Well you know what they say, the
Speaker 2: crazier they are, the better.
Speaker 4: At sa mair, But I look multiple things Snapchat again,
Speaker 4: that's got her trouble.
Speaker 1: I don't know, like, Okay, it's definitely full on and
Speaker 1: crazy of him and totally stalk herresque to move countries
Speaker 1: for someone, But.
Speaker 2: I just look at it just being so romantic.
Speaker 1: There was a part of me that was like it
Speaker 1: was a little romantic because at the start, she was like, oh,
Speaker 1: here's my future husband. So this is what I think happened.
Speaker 1: She was they had like this, like they had the
Speaker 1: best sex of their life. They met, sparks were everywhere,
Speaker 1: they were like, oh my god, it's amazing. He's gone
Speaker 1: home been like fuck, this is too hard. He's probably
Speaker 1: met a few other girls forgot about her. Yeah, it's
Speaker 1: kind of worn off. He's kind of like distanced himself
Speaker 1: because he's like, fuck, we live in different countries. It's
Speaker 1: going to be too hard. Then he's got the snapchat
Speaker 1: and he's like, fuck, she's the lover of my life.
Speaker 1: She's he's probably imagining her like she's become celibate for
Speaker 1: the rest of her life.
Speaker 2: A he's gotten a bit jealous.
Speaker 1: He's gotten a bit jealous. Maybe he's like met heaps
Speaker 1: of women and he's like, no one compares to her.
Speaker 1: Obviously they're having great sex, and he's like, fuck, there's
Speaker 1: no one that is like her. And then he's like,
Speaker 1: you know what, maybe I'm going to put in the commitment,
Speaker 1: but it was too little, too late for her. So
Speaker 1: then he's like, I need to do this for romantic
Speaker 1: gesture to like, you know.
Speaker 2: What I mean?
Speaker 1: Am I wrong in thinking this?
Speaker 2: I don't. I was thinking it was quite romantic that
Speaker 2: he's moved over to Canada.
Speaker 1: For her, I thought, I guess, I guess the thing
Speaker 1: is is that she doesn't want him to anymore. Like
Speaker 1: she's like the boat has sailed, your chance is gone,
Speaker 1: and fair enough of her to do that. Good on
Speaker 1: over setting those boundaries.
Speaker 2: I think you should have rocked up with flowers.
Speaker 1: Mistake that things that're rocking up with flowers solves every
Speaker 1: world problem.
Speaker 2: To be honest, though, I'm not a flower giving guy either,
Speaker 2: so I don't know why I'm coming up with that.
Speaker 1: I feel like, good on her for setting those boundaries
Speaker 1: and being like, you know what, you had your chance
Speaker 1: and you blew it. You can't have me now, because
Speaker 1: I love that because it teaches men a lesson.
Speaker 2: If she's giving up that sex though, if it was
Speaker 2: so amazing.
Speaker 1: I wonder if they had sex in Canada, just like
Speaker 1: one last hurrah.
Speaker 2: I'm assuming they would if there was that much sexual tension.
Speaker 1: Well, she said that they just became friends, and she
Speaker 1: was like, no, I mean she had to set some
Speaker 1: clear boundaries of a strong note. If he's moved countries
Speaker 1: for her. Maybe she was like, I'm moving to Canada obviously,
Speaker 1: Like they've both done this camp in America, so they're
Speaker 1: both obviously well traveled people, adventures, spontaneous people. Maybe he
Speaker 1: was like, I've maybe wanted to move to Canada. The
Speaker 1: fact that you're here is just like the cherry on top.
Speaker 2: I am one of my biggest regrets. He's not doing
Speaker 2: Camp America. Me too.
Speaker 1: Someone was talking about my friend Natty was talking about
Speaker 1: how she's going to potentially do a camp like that
Speaker 1: in Switzerland, and I was like, what about Camp America.
Speaker 2: I might wants to do. My youngest sister wants to
Speaker 2: do Camp America.
Speaker 1: What an amazing experience.
Speaker 2: My regrets. I think it would be so much fun.
Speaker 1: But you're twenty seven, you know what I mean, You're
Speaker 1: as young as you're ever going to be.
Speaker 2: I don't know exactly, I don't know why.
Speaker 1: I then we have the podcast. I probably don't get
Speaker 1: to Camp America.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I couldn't zoom in from a cabin with some kids.
Speaker 2: That just got really creepy. Okay, So the next one
Speaker 2: comes in from Josie. Let's hear about her stalker him
Speaker 2: at Nana.
Speaker 6: So I met a guy through a like semi mutual
Speaker 6: friend and we went on a date and like it
Speaker 6: was pretty good, you know, like we clicked, we had
Speaker 6: a good time. But like I'd just gotten out of
Speaker 6: a relationship a few months before, so I was thinking, like, like,
Speaker 6: whatever happens, I'll take it slow. So then, like I think,
Speaker 6: like five days later, we met up for a second date,
Speaker 6: and he tells me his roommate is moving out to
Speaker 6: move in with his girlfriend and he can't afford the
Speaker 6: rent on his his own, So would I want to
Speaker 6: move in with him?
Speaker 2: Don't do it?
Speaker 6: After two dates? And so I politely like said no,
Speaker 6: like that's nuts and yeah, And so then we went
Speaker 6: on like one more date after that, because I wanted
Speaker 6: to give him the benefit of the doubt that you know,
Speaker 6: maybe he'd just temporarily lost his mind. And he asked
Speaker 6: me again even though I'd said no, red flag, So
Speaker 6: I said no again, and then The next day he
Speaker 6: texted me asking me to move in with him again,
Speaker 6: So I didn't go out with him again.
Speaker 2: Yeah, naturally, look on that though, I'm going to play
Speaker 2: Devil's advocate again.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, that we didn't be on the side
Speaker 1: of the people.
Speaker 2: He should have got a flowers. Okay, it's it annoying
Speaker 2: though that, Like I haven't been in the situation in ages,
Speaker 2: but you know, when you're dating so on and you're
Speaker 2: more keen than they are, and like, how much how
Speaker 2: annoying is that?
Speaker 1: That is annoying.
Speaker 2: That makes me feel sorry for the bloke. But but
Speaker 2: he's coming on way too keen. He's laying it on
Speaker 2: way look me and.
Speaker 1: You move probably as fast as anyone. We love. We
Speaker 1: love a fast moving thing. Like when we're in. Yeah,
Speaker 1: when we're in, we're in.
Speaker 2: But like I don't know how to read a room.
Speaker 1: We can read a room. And I think it's a
Speaker 1: real fucking red flag if after two dates you're asking
Speaker 1: someone to move in. Not only is it like rude,
Speaker 1: but it's also putting someone in a position where they're
Speaker 1: starting to like, they feel like guilty and you're making
Speaker 1: them feel like, well, it's your fault. That they now
Speaker 1: kind of for their rent, Like that's a you problem.
Speaker 2: Doesn't doesn't she Josie have a lease as well that
Speaker 2: she probably can't break, Like what is he thinking about it? Smartly?
Speaker 1: Like, but it's also weird, Like it's just a line cross.
Speaker 1: It's just there's no like mental boundaries that he set
Speaker 1: to me, Like that's like way too far, Like we
Speaker 1: don't care how much, how great these first two dates
Speaker 1: have gone two dates in, Like that's not going to happen,
Speaker 1: Like at least, I mean, I moved in after four months,
Speaker 1: so you know, we moved quickly. But like I didn't
Speaker 1: ask Michael to move in. He was basically living at
Speaker 1: my house.
Speaker 2: He was already squatting there.
Speaker 1: And he was allowed to become a squatter, so this
Speaker 1: was easy.
Speaker 2: No, I think that, Yeah, that's why too, can you're
Speaker 2: not even exclusive, you haven't even had the chart. You're
Speaker 2: not together.
Speaker 1: You need to be dating for at least three months
Speaker 1: before that conversation is even brought up, Like you need
Speaker 1: to know that each other is one hundred percent all
Speaker 1: in and in two dates. Even if you've had incredible
Speaker 1: sex and like the best two dates of your life,
Speaker 1: it does not equate to moving in. No done. Okay, guys,
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