WEBVTT - "He Asked Me to Move In After the Second Date" || HOTLINE 0:00:05.840 --> 0:00:08.240 Welcome back to the Where's Your Head At? Hotline, our 0:00:08.280 --> 0:00:10.879 weekly show where we catch up with each other and 0:00:10.920 --> 0:00:13.600 connect with you all on our hotline voicemail. 0:00:13.760 --> 0:00:15.600 We want to hear from you, guys, so please send 0:00:15.640 --> 0:00:18.840 your stories, questions, advice or tea to Where's Your Head 0:00:18.880 --> 0:00:21.560 at pod at gmail dot com to be featured on 0:00:21.560 --> 0:00:22.480 one of our episodes. 0:00:22.640 --> 0:00:30.720 I'm Anna and I'm Matt. Let's jump in Hello Matthew, 0:00:30.960 --> 0:00:31.520 Hello Anna? 0:00:31.640 --> 0:00:32.360 What's going on? 0:00:32.600 --> 0:00:35.880 Do you know what I reckon? This weekend that's just been? 0:00:36.120 --> 0:00:39.440 Is the first weekend where we didn't call each other once? 0:00:39.760 --> 0:00:40.040 Ah? 0:00:40.080 --> 0:00:42.479 I know, were you busy? I was very busy. Is 0:00:42.520 --> 0:00:44.639 that time a year though? There's heaps of events on, 0:00:44.800 --> 0:00:47.360 heaps of shit going on, So yeah, yeah, I just 0:00:47.400 --> 0:00:49.080 didn't find a spare moment to be honest. 0:00:49.120 --> 0:00:51.280 Well, tell me how your weekends, because I feel like 0:00:51.360 --> 0:00:53.880 I'm like in the dark. I haven't heard. 0:00:54.280 --> 0:00:58.440 Okay, So went to my mate's wedding. So he had 0:00:58.440 --> 0:01:01.240 a beautiful wedding up in King Lake. Do you know 0:01:01.280 --> 0:01:03.520 where that is? Past like Hillsville up in the mountains. 0:01:03.560 --> 0:01:05.600 I don't know where it is, but I did see 0:01:05.640 --> 0:01:08.000 that you posted there and it looked stunny. 0:01:08.120 --> 0:01:11.280 Yeah. So it was at like a school camp, believe 0:01:11.319 --> 0:01:13.280 it or not. So it was like the Flying Fox 0:01:13.319 --> 0:01:16.160 and all that. But where they had the ceremony was 0:01:16.200 --> 0:01:18.959 in this nice little nook out in like the forest. 0:01:19.000 --> 0:01:21.119 It was beautiful. Yeah, they had like a it all 0:01:21.160 --> 0:01:24.559 set up and as you walked through like the bush 0:01:24.640 --> 0:01:26.160 or forest, whatever you want to call it, they had 0:01:26.160 --> 0:01:28.400 like pictures of them along the way. It was really cute. 0:01:28.480 --> 0:01:29.720 Yeah, that's beautiful. 0:01:29.880 --> 0:01:32.480 But where we slept, we were in a cabin, so 0:01:32.560 --> 0:01:34.440 like a school camp sort of cabin set up, so 0:01:35.319 --> 0:01:37.880 have like one and we had like bunk beds. Lucky enough, 0:01:37.920 --> 0:01:39.240 I didn't get a bunk bed because I'm like six 0:01:39.319 --> 0:01:43.119 ft six. Yeah, one of my mates tried to say 0:01:43.160 --> 0:01:44.160 that I was in a bunk and I was like, 0:01:44.160 --> 0:01:47.920 there's no way, mate. But it was like I was 0:01:47.920 --> 0:01:50.400 looking around at the reception afterwards, and I was like 0:01:50.440 --> 0:01:51.880 looking at my mate because I've been I went to 0:01:51.920 --> 0:01:54.600 prep with Jack, so I've now seen him get married. 0:01:54.600 --> 0:01:56.560 And there was a couple of other people from primary 0:01:56.560 --> 0:01:58.680 school there and I was just looking at him, and 0:01:58.720 --> 0:01:59.960 I was looking at a couple of the other boys. 0:02:00.040 --> 0:02:02.640 I was just thinking like, how like we're at that 0:02:02.800 --> 0:02:06.400 age now where like everyone's lives are slowly either going 0:02:06.440 --> 0:02:09.080 one way another way, and just every different way. You know, 0:02:09.160 --> 0:02:12.239 some people engaged, some people have kids, some people getting married. 0:02:12.600 --> 0:02:14.560 Some of the boys aren't even interested in that sort 0:02:14.600 --> 0:02:16.080 of stuff. They're just doing themselves. 0:02:16.320 --> 0:02:16.560 Yeah. 0:02:16.680 --> 0:02:18.480 Like one of my mates, one of my best mates, 0:02:18.560 --> 0:02:19.920 just quit his job that he's been up for like 0:02:19.960 --> 0:02:22.560 ten years, and he's, you know, just starting again. Like 0:02:22.680 --> 0:02:24.760 it's just wild to think about that age where everything's 0:02:24.760 --> 0:02:25.400 just you know what I mean. 0:02:25.600 --> 0:02:27.639 It must have been a real pinch me moment seeing 0:02:27.680 --> 0:02:31.120 someone you went to prep with get married, Like that's crazy. 0:02:31.400 --> 0:02:31.600 Yeah. 0:02:31.639 --> 0:02:33.160 Well, I was looking at him and I was actually 0:02:33.240 --> 0:02:35.079 picturing him because there's photo of us in prep, and 0:02:35.120 --> 0:02:36.760 I was actually looking at the photo and I was like, God, 0:02:36.800 --> 0:02:38.880 we look a lot different, but at the same time, 0:02:39.000 --> 0:02:41.480 not much has changed, you know what I mean. Yeah, Yeah, 0:02:41.480 --> 0:02:43.560 that was cool. I love Jelly as well, his wife 0:02:43.560 --> 0:02:45.280 that he got married too. She's a great girl, so 0:02:45.320 --> 0:02:46.240 I'm really happy for them. 0:02:46.360 --> 0:02:47.160 She was a great gal. 0:02:47.320 --> 0:02:49.200 I was a great girl, So I wish many happy 0:02:49.240 --> 0:02:50.079 years for them to come. 0:02:50.200 --> 0:02:51.840 I mean, that's all you want for your friends, right, 0:02:51.919 --> 0:02:54.200 Like when I think about like my core friendship group. 0:02:54.360 --> 0:02:56.960 All I want for them is to just meet someone 0:02:57.160 --> 0:02:59.919 who is a great person who's going to be really 0:03:00.440 --> 0:03:03.080 an amazing partner and really good to them. So like 0:03:03.160 --> 0:03:05.320 that's all you could ask for any of your friends. 0:03:05.360 --> 0:03:08.000 They just click perfectly, like because where they had the wedding, 0:03:08.480 --> 0:03:10.280 like they said in their speech, was just so them. 0:03:10.320 --> 0:03:13.320 They love going hiking, they love traveling. So like I 0:03:13.360 --> 0:03:15.000 remember another one of my mates, I told him I 0:03:15.000 --> 0:03:17.079 had to I was going to Jack's wedding and he goes, 0:03:17.320 --> 0:03:18.760 he goes, oh, good luck that you're going to make 0:03:18.800 --> 0:03:21.840 you hike, And then we were walking up to the reception. 0:03:21.919 --> 0:03:24.160 I was like, fuck Ben, like we're kids. 0:03:25.080 --> 0:03:28.240 Yet Yeah, he was like, lovely hike to start the day. 0:03:28.400 --> 0:03:31.239 Not in my loafers. My feet are cut off the 0:03:31.400 --> 0:03:32.320 fresh loafers. 0:03:32.639 --> 0:03:35.240 It is weird, though, Like I feel like I can 0:03:35.280 --> 0:03:37.960 definitely relate to what you're saying with like everyone going 0:03:37.960 --> 0:03:40.600 in very different directions. And I feel like as we 0:03:40.640 --> 0:03:42.640 get older, a lot of the time, like your friends 0:03:42.680 --> 0:03:45.400 are either school friends or friends you go to UNI with, 0:03:45.600 --> 0:03:48.480 or work friends. And I feel like proximity, like where 0:03:48.520 --> 0:03:51.680 you live is such a big thing for maintaining friendships. 0:03:51.920 --> 0:03:54.440 I was. I was thinking that in a way as well. 0:03:54.560 --> 0:03:55.920 I was thinking, how I know a lot of the 0:03:55.920 --> 0:03:58.800 boys and there was no like real I went to 0:03:58.840 --> 0:04:00.560 school and that was it, you know, I mean, like 0:04:00.840 --> 0:04:02.680 I didn't go to school with anything. The only one 0:04:02.720 --> 0:04:04.520 I did go to school with I hated in school 0:04:04.560 --> 0:04:07.040 and make friends with them outside. You know what I mean, 0:04:07.520 --> 0:04:08.880 you went to like primary school with them then you 0:04:08.920 --> 0:04:10.320 know from footy or you know, I'm through this, you 0:04:10.320 --> 0:04:12.600 know what I mean? And yeah, I was thinking where 0:04:12.640 --> 0:04:15.920 you grew up like determined your friendship group. Yeah, I like, 0:04:15.960 --> 0:04:18.200 look where you all live in different places, have different lives, 0:04:18.200 --> 0:04:19.120 but you're still friends. 0:04:19.279 --> 0:04:22.040 Yeah. And the thing is is, like, you know, I've 0:04:22.200 --> 0:04:25.240 had a friend who's recently moved to Mornington. I have 0:04:25.360 --> 0:04:29.560 friends who are in Somemmerville. Laura, my friend, she's back 0:04:29.600 --> 0:04:31.840 with her parents because she just traveled the US for 0:04:31.880 --> 0:04:34.600 six weeks, so she's a little bit further out, and 0:04:34.640 --> 0:04:36.880 it's just so hard, like it's hard to make time 0:04:36.920 --> 0:04:39.480 to see people when you're so far away because we 0:04:39.560 --> 0:04:42.720 all have like very busy live schedules and it is crazy, 0:04:42.800 --> 0:04:45.200 like you don't realize how much of an impact that 0:04:45.240 --> 0:04:47.839 has especially as you get older and like you start 0:04:47.880 --> 0:04:49.320 to kind of do your own thing and you have 0:04:49.400 --> 0:04:52.080 your own passions, and you know you really have to 0:04:52.080 --> 0:04:54.400 put in the effort for friendships to really last. 0:04:54.480 --> 0:04:56.720 Well, when I pulled up today at the podcast, I 0:04:56.839 --> 0:04:58.960 literally just messaged my mates and I said, yeah, I 0:04:59.000 --> 0:05:00.880 loved being with you boys. I love you boys. Sort 0:05:00.880 --> 0:05:02.440 of like think because I was realizing as I was 0:05:02.480 --> 0:05:05.080 driving in that like being with your boys and hanging 0:05:05.120 --> 0:05:06.919 out with them, you take it for granted. 0:05:06.960 --> 0:05:09.200 You take it for granted. I had my best friends. 0:05:09.480 --> 0:05:11.800 Every year, we have like an annual Christmas party, So 0:05:11.880 --> 0:05:15.680 we had that from this Yeah, we had that yesterday. 0:05:15.720 --> 0:05:18.400 And it's funny because we were all texting last night 0:05:18.480 --> 0:05:20.240 being like, oh my god, like we need to make 0:05:20.240 --> 0:05:21.720 more of an effort to catch up. So I think 0:05:21.720 --> 0:05:24.080 maybe we're both in our feelings about how much we 0:05:24.120 --> 0:05:25.400 love our friends right now. 0:05:25.520 --> 0:05:27.240 Oh yeah, I know, like we look at us. 0:05:28.240 --> 0:05:32.119 But it's interesting because season yeah, I have recently felt 0:05:32.200 --> 0:05:36.040 like my memory is like not as sharp, And I 0:05:36.040 --> 0:05:38.640 don't know if it's because I'm like constantly like editing 0:05:38.680 --> 0:05:41.120 things on my phone and constantly I don't know, like 0:05:41.160 --> 0:05:43.839 I just so anyway, I was in bed this morning 0:05:43.839 --> 0:05:45.760 with Michael, and I was like, I really want to 0:05:45.800 --> 0:05:48.920 like make my memory sharper, like I want to be quicker. 0:05:49.000 --> 0:05:50.240 Like I feel like I used to be so good. 0:05:50.279 --> 0:05:52.120 This sounds ridiculous, but I used to be so good 0:05:52.120 --> 0:05:55.239 at my times tables, and I always like tell Michael 0:05:55.279 --> 0:05:58.000 to like ask through my times tables like on quick Fire, 0:05:58.440 --> 0:06:00.320 and a couple of the times I've got the answer wrong. 0:06:00.320 --> 0:06:02.360 And I just don't get my timestables wrong because I'm 0:06:02.360 --> 0:06:04.560 a bit I'm a bit stressed. I'm like, fuck, i've 0:06:04.640 --> 0:06:06.840 hit thirty. My memory is going. 0:06:07.040 --> 0:06:09.360 What's six times six thirty six? Yeah? 0:06:09.400 --> 0:06:09.560 Good? 0:06:10.160 --> 0:06:12.040 You should put one of the the back of your. 0:06:11.920 --> 0:06:14.880 Toilet a toilet. I actually wanted like that's so late, 0:06:14.920 --> 0:06:16.880 but I actually want to because I want to get 0:06:16.920 --> 0:06:21.440 sharpa again. But anyway, Michael was like, Okay, it's all good, babe, 0:06:21.440 --> 0:06:24.720 don't stress out like you've just hit thirty. He's like, 0:06:24.800 --> 0:06:27.480 I hit thirty, I felt like my memory wasn't as sharp. 0:06:27.920 --> 0:06:30.320 No one talks about this. No one's told me about this, 0:06:30.640 --> 0:06:34.359 But apparently socializing with your friends and going to like 0:06:34.440 --> 0:06:36.520 new places helps with memory. 0:06:36.760 --> 0:06:39.840 I tell some other tips as well. I took these 0:06:40.040 --> 0:06:42.799 pills for memory because I used to struggle with memory 0:06:42.800 --> 0:06:44.960 for wrestling, Like you have to remember the whole choreograph 0:06:45.000 --> 0:06:47.120 of a match. Yeah, halfway through the match, I just 0:06:47.160 --> 0:06:48.919 go blank, yeah, And I was like, I can't be 0:06:48.960 --> 0:06:51.000 doing that. So I was taking these vitamins that help 0:06:51.040 --> 0:06:54.440 with memory, like fish oil and all this sort of stuff, 0:06:54.480 --> 0:06:57.000 as well as like download a memory game app on 0:06:57.040 --> 0:06:59.400 your phone, so instead of going on Instagram, play that, 0:06:59.640 --> 0:07:01.000 or if you don't want to be on your phone, 0:07:01.080 --> 0:07:03.320 get like cards and do it with just cards. 0:07:03.400 --> 0:07:05.120 But it's so hard. The more time you spend on 0:07:05.160 --> 0:07:07.719 your phone, it's like really bad for your memory because 0:07:07.760 --> 0:07:10.880 like your memory kind of clumps that phone time all 0:07:10.880 --> 0:07:14.400 into one, so days can like kind of blur into one. 0:07:14.520 --> 0:07:18.440 So I so my recommendation this week is to spend 0:07:18.560 --> 0:07:21.240 less time on your phone and to really make an 0:07:21.240 --> 0:07:24.040 effort to put your phone down, because for me, I 0:07:24.080 --> 0:07:26.400 feel like that's why my memory is getting really bad, 0:07:26.520 --> 0:07:29.239 and I'm really like really making an effort to really 0:07:29.280 --> 0:07:32.320 try and sharpen it up and be like way more accurate. 0:07:32.640 --> 0:07:35.320 Well with like an job. We haven't even spoken about this, 0:07:35.360 --> 0:07:38.880 but I literally last night put my TikTok and Instagram 0:07:38.920 --> 0:07:43.080 into a file and labeled it time wasters, So like, 0:07:43.200 --> 0:07:45.640 so I'm not on there as much, literally, Like, that's 0:07:45.720 --> 0:07:46.880 so funny that we're saying this. 0:07:47.160 --> 0:07:49.800 Yeah, And it's funny because we had no idea where 0:07:49.800 --> 0:07:52.000 this conversation is going this morning. But I feel like 0:07:52.040 --> 0:07:53.080 we're both feeling. 0:07:52.840 --> 0:07:55.280 On the same ship. We're on the same page. We generally. 0:07:55.280 --> 0:07:57.280 I just walked in late as well, and here we 0:07:57.320 --> 0:07:59.120 are chatting like we are the same stuff. So we're 0:07:59.160 --> 0:07:59.960 on the same page. 0:08:00.120 --> 0:08:02.720 We're definitely on the same page. Other than the wedding. 0:08:02.720 --> 0:08:04.040 How it was the rest of your weekend? 0:08:04.240 --> 0:08:06.120 Yeah, I've come off the weekend on a bit of 0:08:06.120 --> 0:08:08.960 a low. I can't put my finger on what exactly 0:08:09.320 --> 0:08:11.320 does it? I mean, big weekend with the boys of 0:08:11.320 --> 0:08:14.080 a bunch of serotonin released, you know, just with all 0:08:14.080 --> 0:08:15.920 the boys having fun, and then you come back to 0:08:16.000 --> 0:08:17.120 Monday and you're like, ah. 0:08:17.840 --> 0:08:19.880 He's he's like, fuck, I have to see Anna space. 0:08:22.160 --> 0:08:24.280 I don't know, I enjoy this, but yeah, you don't 0:08:24.280 --> 0:08:26.840 come off for a weekend. You're driving in traffic, You're like, yeah, 0:08:27.160 --> 0:08:29.160 it is. The weather's a big gloomy now after the hot, 0:08:29.160 --> 0:08:29.880 sunny weekend. 0:08:29.960 --> 0:08:32.640 I know of what's happening with that. I'm just getting 0:08:32.640 --> 0:08:34.800 I'm getting whiplashed a little bit. I'm like, let's just 0:08:34.840 --> 0:08:35.640 stick to summer. 0:08:37.880 --> 0:08:39.880 About your weekend, though, how do you how are you feeling? 0:08:40.080 --> 0:08:42.560 Yeah, Like obviously I had like my fun with the girls, 0:08:42.679 --> 0:08:45.000 had a bit of a stressful week because I thought 0:08:45.040 --> 0:08:49.320 my memory was going. But yeah, I think Michael and 0:08:49.400 --> 0:08:53.080 I on Friday night we went to the location where 0:08:53.080 --> 0:08:56.880 we want to have our engagement party. Super beautiful, really 0:08:56.880 --> 0:08:59.440 beautiful venue. So I'm thinking we're going to lock that in, 0:08:59.480 --> 0:09:02.720 which ising thinking of having it in April, just because 0:09:02.720 --> 0:09:08.040 it's so hard to like get a time when everyone's available. 0:09:08.200 --> 0:09:10.680 My brother works in Queensland, so he only has like 0:09:10.720 --> 0:09:14.000 one weekend off a month, so it's just really hard 0:09:14.040 --> 0:09:15.640 trying to navigate that. So I think it's going to 0:09:15.679 --> 0:09:17.959 be April. I think we have the venue locked in. 0:09:18.320 --> 0:09:21.320 But like, to be honest, like with trying to find 0:09:21.360 --> 0:09:24.240 a venue for the engagement party, trying to find a 0:09:24.280 --> 0:09:28.600 wedding venue the podcast, I have like a little, you know, 0:09:29.040 --> 0:09:31.720 side thing that I'm doing with Michael at the moment. 0:09:32.280 --> 0:09:34.479 Just all of that and the fact that it's Christmas 0:09:34.520 --> 0:09:36.080 and like everything's full on. 0:09:36.400 --> 0:09:37.319 I've just seen. 0:09:40.160 --> 0:09:41.120 Matt's had a little. 0:09:40.920 --> 0:09:43.320 Peak your access to your time tree. 0:09:43.559 --> 0:09:47.240 Yeah, I've just felt super overwhelmed, and I think it's 0:09:47.320 --> 0:09:49.640 kind of had a spill on effect to Michael and 0:09:49.720 --> 0:09:53.960 I's relationships. So on Saturday we were fighting all day. 0:09:54.080 --> 0:09:56.559 Oh and also our rent's gone up by five hundred 0:09:56.600 --> 0:10:00.000 and sixty dollars a month starting in feb which is crazy, 0:10:00.280 --> 0:10:03.040 that's like twenty five percent up. So that, yeah, that 0:10:03.200 --> 0:10:05.280 stress on us as well. So we're like, do we 0:10:05.320 --> 0:10:07.920 stay in this place? Can we afford to stay here? 0:10:08.040 --> 0:10:10.560 Should we move? When are we going to buy a house? 0:10:10.600 --> 0:10:12.640 Like all of kind of like just like the normal 0:10:12.920 --> 0:10:15.160 stresses of life have just gone on top of us. 0:10:15.200 --> 0:10:17.920 And I think on Saturday we just had like probably 0:10:17.920 --> 0:10:20.160 one of our worst fights, if I'm being honest, Like 0:10:20.200 --> 0:10:23.040 we just we're not seeing eye to eye. We're both 0:10:23.240 --> 0:10:26.240 feeling a certain way, and like you know, when you 0:10:26.400 --> 0:10:29.280 just like you're overwhelmed and stress and you don't want 0:10:29.280 --> 0:10:31.440 to see the other person's point of view. I feel 0:10:31.480 --> 0:10:33.559 like we were both in that mood, and normally, if 0:10:33.600 --> 0:10:36.520 only one of us is in that mood, it's totally resolvable. 0:10:36.800 --> 0:10:39.960 But we were both like standing firm. We were like nah, 0:10:40.160 --> 0:10:42.360 and we just like were arguing and it was really sad. 0:10:42.400 --> 0:10:45.720 And then by someday we had kind of Oh, by 0:10:45.800 --> 0:10:48.560 Saturday night, I would say, we kind of made up, 0:10:48.840 --> 0:10:50.200 but we were just like, we don't want to fight 0:10:50.240 --> 0:10:52.360 like this. This is ridiculous. We're so in love, Like, 0:10:52.400 --> 0:10:55.520 we have an amazing relationship, we love our lives together. 0:10:55.520 --> 0:10:58.439 We shouldn't be arguing about this. But there was a 0:10:58.520 --> 0:11:00.920 little bit of yelling, which is really surprising for us 0:11:00.960 --> 0:11:03.880 because we don't really yell. And it's a bit triggering 0:11:03.920 --> 0:11:06.440 from like my last relationship as well, because it's like 0:11:06.880 --> 0:11:09.319 in my last relationship, I was constantly yelling and obviously 0:11:09.320 --> 0:11:12.480 you can't compare relationships because we've never done that. I 0:11:12.520 --> 0:11:14.640 was like, oh, no, it's going to that place. 0:11:15.000 --> 0:11:16.600 I hate when you start to see stuff from your 0:11:16.600 --> 0:11:19.559 ex relationship coming to like a new one, and you're like, fuck, 0:11:19.760 --> 0:11:21.280 hopefully it doesn't go down the same route. 0:11:21.559 --> 0:11:24.160 Yeah, Like you're like, I have to avoid going down 0:11:24.200 --> 0:11:27.040 the same route. We're not doing this again. But yeah, 0:11:27.080 --> 0:11:29.480 Like obviously I felt like I wanted to bring this 0:11:29.600 --> 0:11:32.000 up because I did a Q and A on my 0:11:32.080 --> 0:11:34.800 Instagram and someone was like, how do you remain so happy? 0:11:34.840 --> 0:11:37.720 You're constantly happy? And like, I think I was arguing 0:11:37.720 --> 0:11:39.320 with Michael at that point, and I was like, fuck, 0:11:39.360 --> 0:11:42.240 it's not fair for people to think that I'm like 0:11:42.240 --> 0:11:44.480 like living my best life, and like I am, like, 0:11:44.559 --> 0:11:46.800 I'm I love my life. I'm so grateful and I 0:11:46.920 --> 0:11:50.280 practice gratitude constantly. We both say that, like we constantly 0:11:50.800 --> 0:11:52.880 say it out loud, like what we're grateful for, what 0:11:52.920 --> 0:11:53.720 we're happy about? 0:11:54.080 --> 0:11:58.400 A grateful diary. Yeah, things, Yeah, that I'm grateful for. 0:11:58.640 --> 0:12:00.640 Yeah, but I was just like, you know, it's not 0:12:00.800 --> 0:12:04.040 been all sunshine and rainbows this weekend, so yeah, I 0:12:04.080 --> 0:12:04.920 wanted to share. 0:12:04.840 --> 0:12:06.960 O, thanks you for that. That will bring me to 0:12:07.000 --> 0:12:10.280 my recommendation, which might help you. Then go for it. 0:12:10.360 --> 0:12:10.840 I'm ready. 0:12:11.800 --> 0:12:17.679 Mine is cold showers. So I accidentally stumbled. 0:12:17.280 --> 0:12:20.959 Onto this water had run out. 0:12:21.800 --> 0:12:26.480 The no, no, nothing as grim as that in England. 0:12:26.480 --> 0:12:28.760 At my uncle's house, fare il staying for a majority 0:12:28.800 --> 0:12:30.840 of the time. It's an old school house in London 0:12:30.880 --> 0:12:33.160 and you have to flick the hot water on. Oh 0:12:33.240 --> 0:12:36.520 yeah yeah, half an hour the boiler. I'm not going 0:12:36.600 --> 0:12:38.320 to do that. I get out of bed. 0:12:38.400 --> 0:12:40.600 I'm not going I'm not thinking that far ahead. 0:12:40.720 --> 0:12:42.880 Three three flights of stairs down to the bottom to 0:12:42.880 --> 0:12:44.240 flick it on. I'm not doing that. I'm like, you 0:12:44.240 --> 0:12:45.440 know what, fuck it, I'll just jump into the on 0:12:45.440 --> 0:12:47.840 sweite and have my shower. So it was cold, and 0:12:47.880 --> 0:12:50.000 I was like having it, and I was like, oh yeah, 0:12:50.040 --> 0:12:52.880 I had And also where we get all our information from. 0:12:53.000 --> 0:12:55.440 TikTok had told me that having a cold shower first 0:12:55.440 --> 0:12:56.560 thing in the morning is good for you. 0:12:56.679 --> 0:12:57.720 It is very good for you. 0:12:57.840 --> 0:12:59.920 Yeah, so I recommend having cold showers. There's a lot 0:12:59.960 --> 0:13:03.559 of benefits. It helps your body release serotonin, gets sort 0:13:03.600 --> 0:13:06.480 of anxiety. It speeds up your tabism, so it's splash 0:13:06.600 --> 0:13:07.959 metabolism as soon as you wake up. 0:13:08.120 --> 0:13:08.520 Love that. 0:13:08.559 --> 0:13:10.679 So yeah, I recommend having a cold shower to wake up. 0:13:10.720 --> 0:13:13.320 And don't do what I didn't, just jump straight into it. 0:13:13.360 --> 0:13:16.440 I reckon well pun intended, probably jumps the best way 0:13:16.480 --> 0:13:18.439 to do it. But like, start at the end of 0:13:18.480 --> 0:13:21.880 your hot shower, turning it to colda like thirty seconds 0:13:21.920 --> 0:13:24.640 however long you can tolerate, turn it off. Then just 0:13:24.640 --> 0:13:26.559 go from there. And now I just jump straight into 0:13:26.559 --> 0:13:29.120 a cold shower. It's a lot easier on the weekend 0:13:29.240 --> 0:13:31.760 with the hot weather, but like when it's it was 0:13:31.840 --> 0:13:34.040 in London especially, it was quite hard doing it. 0:13:34.080 --> 0:13:36.679 So your full shower is a cold shower, yeah. 0:13:36.600 --> 0:13:38.040 Majority of it, but it's not a long one. So 0:13:38.080 --> 0:13:39.760 my first shower in the morning, you're. 0:13:39.679 --> 0:13:41.599 Going in for thirty seconds quick watching. 0:13:41.400 --> 0:13:44.800 Like minute fifteen. Then I'll go fight my exercise and 0:13:44.800 --> 0:13:46.640 then I'll come back and have a normal shower. Yeah, 0:13:46.679 --> 0:13:48.760 got it, just to wake me up first in the morning. 0:13:49.000 --> 0:13:52.120 Look, I'm feeling, like you know, I'm anxious, some stress. 0:13:52.240 --> 0:13:54.160 You're feeling the same way. You're a bit down in 0:13:54.200 --> 0:13:56.920 the dumps. I feel like this could really maybe help 0:13:57.040 --> 0:13:59.840 us turn over a page. And sometimes I do that 0:13:59.880 --> 0:14:01.760 just it's like if I'm feeling stressed, I put cold 0:14:01.760 --> 0:14:04.560 water on my face. I know it's not like a cold, 0:14:05.280 --> 0:14:08.840 full old ordeal, but I mean, yes, even just starting 0:14:08.880 --> 0:14:11.480 small mag it gradual, as you said, and I love that. 0:14:11.520 --> 0:14:13.040 I love that suggestion from you. Matt. 0:14:13.200 --> 0:14:15.679 Let me know guys how it goes on our Facebook 0:14:15.679 --> 0:14:18.000 group and where's your head out. I would love to 0:14:18.320 --> 0:14:20.120 hear your stories and see how long you guys can 0:14:20.400 --> 0:14:22.120 not if someone goes Yeah, I've been doing that for years. 0:14:22.120 --> 0:14:23.920 I can go for ten minutes in a cold shower. 0:14:24.280 --> 0:14:28.280 It's time up, like, stop showing off you here? 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Has no idea who he is. 0:15:08.200 --> 0:15:10.800 She just added him back because you know why not. 0:15:11.920 --> 0:15:14.760 And they've had your normal conversation sort of just talking 0:15:14.760 --> 0:15:16.920 about like where each other's from, how old they are, 0:15:16.960 --> 0:15:17.520 like what they do. 0:15:17.520 --> 0:15:20.440 For work, and the. 0:15:19.440 --> 0:15:23.040 Day to day questions that you would normally ask people. 0:15:23.640 --> 0:15:27.840 So that's all fine, that's all will and good, until 0:15:28.200 --> 0:15:31.520 he starts saying to her that he's madly in love 0:15:31.560 --> 0:15:34.560 with her, he wants her to meet his whole family. 0:15:34.600 --> 0:15:38.640 They will absolutely love her and that sort of thing. 0:15:38.760 --> 0:15:41.440 And she says to me, She's like, I've never even 0:15:41.520 --> 0:15:45.040 met this guy in my life. But his where it 0:15:45.040 --> 0:15:51.000 gets super weird. He rocks up to her work acting 0:15:51.080 --> 0:15:54.640 like her boyfriend. So would walk up to anyone who's 0:15:54.680 --> 0:16:00.880 there is someone like here, lack. 0:16:00.960 --> 0:16:03.119 That's traumatizing blah blah blah. 0:16:03.640 --> 0:16:06.360 And everyone of her work is so confused because I 0:16:06.440 --> 0:16:09.680 know she doesn't have a boyfriend, and she's way too 0:16:09.840 --> 0:16:12.960 nice to say anything, so she literally acts like she's 0:16:13.080 --> 0:16:16.000 not at work. She will hide in the back room, 0:16:16.080 --> 0:16:20.760 and he just does not get the hint. So I'm honestly, 0:16:21.520 --> 0:16:23.160 I find it so weird. 0:16:24.760 --> 0:16:28.040 First of all, like I said, adding someone on Snapchat 0:16:28.200 --> 0:16:31.400 or someone adding your snapchat's a red flag straightaway. 0:16:31.440 --> 0:16:34.720 Snapchat, Yeah, like, if they're adding you as a miscellaneous person, 0:16:34.720 --> 0:16:39.360 there's a really good chance they're adding numerous people. But Snapchat. 0:16:39.680 --> 0:16:43.040 To Tory's friend, who accepts a random on Snapchat. 0:16:42.720 --> 0:16:45.360 Just don't do it. Guys, please, if you're listening, would 0:16:45.400 --> 0:16:49.000 you accept Lloyd doing this? I feel like she needs 0:16:49.000 --> 0:16:50.600 to get like an Avio on this guy. 0:16:50.720 --> 0:16:54.360 I was about to say, this guy clearly he's out 0:16:54.400 --> 0:16:56.760 of touch with reality rocking up to her work. But 0:16:56.880 --> 0:16:58.120 another point is. 0:16:58.000 --> 0:17:01.840 She's terrifying though he's he's saying it's her, he's saying 0:17:01.880 --> 0:17:05.520 they're together, Like that's unhinged. That's not normal. That's like 0:17:05.600 --> 0:17:08.919 not someone who's like mentally like with it, who's like 0:17:09.119 --> 0:17:11.360 seeing things clearly for what they truly. 0:17:11.080 --> 0:17:18.679 Are maybe sending of snapchats I like love you all 0:17:18.680 --> 0:17:20.119 this sort of stuff, and then she's saying that to 0:17:20.160 --> 0:17:20.560 her friend. 0:17:20.720 --> 0:17:23.200 I just feel like, as a general rule, like number one, 0:17:23.359 --> 0:17:25.720