Speaker 1: I've always said that balance is bullshit because we are
Speaker 1: never able to be equally across everything in our lives.
Speaker 1: It's actually impossible. Well, look, who's back back again. I
Speaker 1: won't do that to you. I won't do that to you. Hello, guys,
Speaker 1: I am back after a huge eighteen months off stepping up,
Speaker 1: which is actually insane. I can't believe how fast that went.
Speaker 1: All I can say is I've missed you guys so
Speaker 1: so much, and it seems like you guys miss me
Speaker 1: too a little bit. I can't tell you how many
Speaker 1: dms I got for this podcast to come back, and
Speaker 1: I've been dying for it for that to happen. But
Speaker 1: there's been a very very good reason why. You know,
Speaker 1: I know many of you did listen to this podcast
Speaker 1: part of your Monday morning routine. And I'm so stoked
Speaker 1: to say your girl's going to be backing your ear
Speaker 1: again from now and you know, I know you're just dying.
Speaker 1: You're dying to know. The burning question is where the
Speaker 1: bloody hell did I go? So you see, I was
Speaker 1: keeping a secret from everyone for a couple of years,
Speaker 1: and you know I am an oversharer, so that's rough
Speaker 1: for me. Let me just tell you. It actually made
Speaker 1: it really hard to show up online because you know,
Speaker 1: I've been doing this for ten years now and I'm
Speaker 1: very much unfiltered with you guys. But when you have
Speaker 1: this huge secret you're keeping the said secret is what
Speaker 1: you're doing all the time, you kind of just feel
Speaker 1: a bit boring. You don't really know what to say.
Speaker 1: But so, as many of you would know, my big
Speaker 1: secret is that I wrote a book, like an actual book,
Speaker 1: insane and this is a girl that has ADHD and
Speaker 1: all the things. But it was published with Penguin, and
Speaker 1: I just can't tell you how like it's just been
Speaker 1: a dream of mine since I was a little girl
Speaker 1: to write a book. And you know, your feedback on
Speaker 1: the book so far has been insane, like beyond amazing,
Speaker 1: and within two days it was a bloody Amazon bestseller,
Speaker 1: which is yeah, again, I don't have the words for
Speaker 1: once in my life. But basically, this book is just
Speaker 1: all the things I have never shared online before, and
Speaker 1: I've shared way too many things, and it is just
Speaker 1: it's about me and my life and how I've to
Speaker 1: be where I am now. But the story is something
Speaker 1: that you wouldn't expect, and I'm not going to harp
Speaker 1: on about this book the whole podcast. Just trust Mirror
Speaker 1: as much as I want to. But my book is
Speaker 1: called Mastering My Messy Life, which is very fitting, and
Speaker 1: I think that's a little bit funny also because you know,
Speaker 1: I am, you know, the CEO of Staff Based Planners,
Speaker 1: and I'm known online for organization and all the things.
Speaker 1: But the reason I'm organized is because I'm a mess
Speaker 1: and that's just a place I got to over time.
Speaker 1: And the book goes on about, you know, my chaotic
Speaker 1: childhood that was shaped by trauma, binge drinking. You know,
Speaker 1: the themes in my book is actually insane, Like you
Speaker 1: would think that I'm about eighty years old when you
Speaker 1: read this, but it goes through you know, disordered eating,
Speaker 1: binge drinking, heartbreak, EIGHTYHD, anxiety and you know, the tangled
Speaker 1: mess of the nineties, the girlhood for us, you know,
Speaker 1: body image and growing up with the Biggest Loser and
Speaker 1: all these magazine titles that we see at the checkout
Speaker 1: when we're with our parents and we wonder why we
Speaker 1: have issues, you know what I mean? But yeah, I
Speaker 1: just feel like if you knew my story and where
Speaker 1: I am now, it would make you see that. Literally,
Speaker 1: if I can do the things, you can do the things.
Speaker 1: But yeah, writing this book was just something that was
Speaker 1: just I kind of explained, like Ryan was just such
Speaker 1: a legend and he just he literally would have to
Speaker 1: peel me off the floor most days. But it was
Speaker 1: just the most incredible. But like it was just I
Speaker 1: feel like authors are actually athletes, to be honest, But
Speaker 1: it was just it was beautiful, intimidating, you know, exhausting,
Speaker 1: and I have to say it's kind of on par
Speaker 1: with childbirth, I feel, because you've seen true Steph form.
Speaker 1: I started writing the book for a couple of years,
Speaker 1: like I've had this secret for years, and then you know,
Speaker 1: the Jew Day was coming up, the Jew date that
Speaker 1: makes sense, the deadline was coming up, and I ended
Speaker 1: up rewriting the whole book in three months. So I
Speaker 1: wrote two hundred and forty thousand words in three months.
Speaker 1: So apparently I have a lot to say. And I
Speaker 1: do feel like I used up all my words because
Speaker 1: I became a potato for a few months and couldn't
Speaker 1: speak English, and during that time, I think I was
Speaker 1: about eighty percent Indian food and my Uber eats bill
Speaker 1: was very offensive. But that's what I've been doing, guys,
Speaker 1: and I again, I'm just so so grateful. So if
Speaker 1: you haven't read my book, make sure you go to
Speaker 1: your bookstore or you can go online your Amazon. And
Speaker 1: I also have an audio book, so if you want
Speaker 1: to hear my voice even more, then you're going to
Speaker 1: hear it now every single week you can jump on
Speaker 1: and listen to me tell my story. But I just
Speaker 1: want to say yeah, thank you again, and I just
Speaker 1: I can't wait. And in terms of Stepping Up, Stepping
Speaker 1: Up is now part of the Nova podcast Network. Wow,
Speaker 1: like whoa, okay, crazy, it's insane. But before I get
Speaker 1: stuck into it, I basically just wanted to give you
Speaker 1: a little run down. If you are an OG or
Speaker 1: maybe this is the first time you're listening, what can
Speaker 1: you expect from Stepping Up? And I promise I won't
Speaker 1: harp on too much and I'll get straight into it.
Speaker 1: But you know, whether you've been here from the early
Speaker 1: days or you're literally listening for the first time, Stepping
Speaker 1: Up is basically your best Bogan friend in your ear,
Speaker 1: being very open and too honest at time, but I'm
Speaker 1: your go to guy for every single week to help
Speaker 1: you overcome the overwhelm and learn not only life changing hacks,
Speaker 1: but also learn a little bit more about yourself every
Speaker 1: week and the mess that comes with being human. This
Speaker 1: podcast is not for you know, the type a's or
Speaker 1: the people that have, you know, a bloody alarm clock
Speaker 1: integrated into their brain. This is for the messy minds
Speaker 1: of the world, and you know, the people who might
Speaker 1: feel a little bit behind or that you know, everyone
Speaker 1: else around you seem to have got a manual for life,
Speaker 1: and yours is from team and it smells funny. I
Speaker 1: won't like that line. I actually wrote it in my book,
Speaker 1: but it's really funny and I had to say it.
Speaker 1: I talk about mastering your mess, you know, like routines
Speaker 1: for real life. So like you see all these routines
Speaker 1: on bloody TikTok and stuff, and they're just not They're
Speaker 1: not sustainable and they're not really stick like bloody people
Speaker 1: getting up at four o'clock in the morning and you know,
Speaker 1: just running two marathons and doing all this crap, and
Speaker 1: it's like it's just not sustainable. So my stance on
Speaker 1: all of this stuff, which I do talk about in
Speaker 1: my book, is having routines that are able to evolve
Speaker 1: with you through your life. And also you don't wake
Speaker 1: up feeling the same every day. You know, some days
Speaker 1: you wake up and you feel one hundred percent and
Speaker 1: you're just annoyingly energetic, and that version of you can yes,
Speaker 1: do all the things, but a lot of the time
Speaker 1: you'll wake up and you won't feel so great. You'll
Speaker 1: feel like a potato and that's okay. So I'm gonna
Speaker 1: be taking you through you know, ADHD, mental health, motherhood business,
Speaker 1: all those things, and also how to teach you how
Speaker 1: to stop being an asshole to yourself, because that's that's
Speaker 1: a big one that we all tend to do. So
Speaker 1: this isn't going to be you know, the fluffy you know,
Speaker 1: mindset shifts that are overly complicated, and it's gonna be
Speaker 1: just really honest conversations that I wish I had with
Speaker 1: someone years ago, and realistic advice that you can actually
Speaker 1: use that you don't just like pop on a vision
Speaker 1: board and then it stays there. So if you're in
Speaker 1: a season where you're feeling like behind, burnt out and
Speaker 1: you just you're just barely surviving, this is the place
Speaker 1: for you, my friend. And welcome. We have T shirts
Speaker 1: so I'm here to help you step up into the
Speaker 1: best version of yourself, which is the happiest version of yourself. Now,
Speaker 1: before I get into it, to celebrate the relaunch of
Speaker 1: Stepping Up, I'm actually giving away some free shit. So
Speaker 1: all you have to do is snap a photo of
Speaker 1: yourself on Instagram of you listening to this podcast, to
Speaker 1: this very episode, and tag Stepping Up on Instagram. And
Speaker 1: also if you want to tag me as well, that
Speaker 1: would be great. And I'll be picking a person that's
Speaker 1: going to win one hundred dollars staff based planners of
Speaker 1: voucher to help me get organized for twenty twenty six
Speaker 1: and I'm going to be announcing that by the end
Speaker 1: of the month, so make sure you keep an eye
Speaker 1: out on socials for that. But for the rest of
Speaker 1: you who don't win this prize pack, I've actually got
Speaker 1: the best free beat in this episode that's going to
Speaker 1: help you reset for twenty twenty six. Now, I'm well
Speaker 1: aware it's February, but I have a very good reason
Speaker 1: as to why I wait until now to do my reset,
Speaker 1: and I'll be getting into that very soon. But this
Speaker 1: download is going to be gold for you. It is
Speaker 1: the guide for the messy minds to Reset for the year,
Speaker 1: I thought for the first episode back, I wanted to
Speaker 1: do something a little bit special, So I have decided
Speaker 1: to do a bit of a straight off the bat,
Speaker 1: and it's going to be called Mastering Your Messy Life. Now,
Speaker 1: I'm aware I've completely ripped off my own book title
Speaker 1: for this, but you know, it's repurposing. It's fine. This
Speaker 1: is going to be a series where I'm going to
Speaker 1: be helping you do exactly that, master your mess and
Speaker 1: naturally I'll be giving you all the tips and tricks
Speaker 1: throughout and it's going to be like very realistic and digestible.
Speaker 1: So I'm holding your hand through the process. We're going
Speaker 1: to do this together. During this series, I'm want to
Speaker 1: be covering how to reset for the year, as I said,
Speaker 1: but also things about you know, organization, decluttering and of
Speaker 1: course planning for messy minds. You know, I know there's
Speaker 1: so many podcasts and you know content out right now,
Speaker 1: especially that you would have already seen a lot of
Speaker 1: because it's February of you know, resolutions and these like
Speaker 1: you know, just locking in And I hate that term
Speaker 1: locking in. I know it's trending at the moment, but
Speaker 1: it's not what we want to be doing. Because what
Speaker 1: you need to understand is when we put all this
Speaker 1: pressure on ourselves, you can't hate yourself into being a
Speaker 1: happier person. That's not progress. You can't yourself into growing
Speaker 1: and changing and evolving, and you can't hate yourself into
Speaker 1: becoming your best self. But that's what it seems to be.
Speaker 1: It's like, and I look, I could love you know,
Speaker 1: disciplines important, but our language surrounding it is so so
Speaker 1: crucial to make sure that's correct. And I'm going to
Speaker 1: talk about that really soon. So for this episode, I'm
Speaker 1: going to be holding your hand to do a realistic
Speaker 1: reset for twenty twenty six, and I'm also going to
Speaker 1: tell you why you've never been able to actually stick
Speaker 1: to your New Year's resolutions. And honestly, it's not just you,
Speaker 1: it's pretty much everyone. And we're going to stop hitting
Speaker 1: our heads against the wall and wondering why it's never
Speaker 1: worked before. And of course I will be giving you
Speaker 1: a realistic itinery to help you manage your mess in
Speaker 1: just three days at the end of this episode, and
Speaker 1: it's going to just be so good for you, and
Speaker 1: it's not going to be crazy like Susi who runs
Speaker 1: ten k's in the morning by four am and she's
Speaker 1: made organic water and she's meditated on a rock for
Speaker 1: four hours. It's not going to be anything like that, Okay,
Speaker 1: it's going to be for you and everyone is different. Now.
Speaker 1: I don't know about you guys, but the start of
Speaker 1: the new year is a lot. It feels really really heavy,
Speaker 1: and we all tend to put a lot of pressure
Speaker 1: on ourselves at the start of a new year. You know,
Speaker 1: for me personally, I don't even look at resetting myself.
Speaker 1: I don't even look at maybe you know, goals or
Speaker 1: anything which I don't call them goals, which I'll get
Speaker 1: into later until you know, earliest mid January for me,
Speaker 1: like we've just gotten out of the holiday season, like
Speaker 1: that was wild. I'm from November till the end of
Speaker 1: jan I'm just done, and honestly, I'm still like my
Speaker 1: life is still a mess at this point. But the
Speaker 1: thing is, it's like you need to have these little
Speaker 1: systems in place so you can survive, and sometimes things
Speaker 1: get put on the back burner and that's fine, but
Speaker 1: you need to make sure. You know. I heard this
Speaker 1: saying once that we're all juggling you know balls, Well
Speaker 1: that sounded weird. We're all juggling balls, and then some
Speaker 1: of those balls are glass, and you need to realize
Speaker 1: which ones you can drop versus the ones you can't.
Speaker 1: So obviously some balls, wow, this is weird, are really important,
Speaker 1: so you know, like family, your relationship, health, those things
Speaker 1: like that. So you've got to figure out like maybe
Speaker 1: some of those balls are plastic and they're not so important,
Speaker 1: like keeping up social media or what Margaret from Accounts
Speaker 1: thinks about you. You've got to pick what's important to you.
Speaker 1: So this leads me to why is it so important
Speaker 1: to reset for a new year. The main reason for
Speaker 1: this is so we can be intentional and not reactive. Now,
Speaker 1: let's be honest, we're not toddlers anymore. Although I may
Speaker 1: still cry if I don't get the pink cup. It's
Speaker 1: an autistic thing. And it's also to keep your daily
Speaker 1: routines in check so you can see what's working, but
Speaker 1: more importantly, what's not working, because you can't keep repeating
Speaker 1: the same patterns over and over again and expect to
Speaker 1: feel better or to progress. It's also so begin to
Speaker 1: see what areas you need to focus on again. Like
Speaker 1: we're talking about the balls before. What areas have you
Speaker 1: been focusing too much on that maybe aren't beneficial for you?
Speaker 1: And what areas have you been you know, not focusing on,
Speaker 1: for example, you know, health or your relationship. And it's
Speaker 1: also a reminder of what you want in life, and
Speaker 1: that's the biggest thing. A lot of the time we
Speaker 1: forget that. External pressures do tend to make you think
Speaker 1: the goals you have in place are for you, but
Speaker 1: then maybe not for me. A big one is it's
Speaker 1: to help the house run smoother. So little systems and
Speaker 1: packs that will teach you along the way that's actually
Speaker 1: going to help everyone in your household get along better
Speaker 1: because unfortunately we can't banish our family and we're going
Speaker 1: to be clearing out the clutter and getting on top
Speaker 1: of money goals. Now, before I take you through this process,
Speaker 1: it's really important for you to understand why you've never
Speaker 1: been able to stick to a new Year's resolution. And again,
Speaker 1: it's not just you, it's everyone. It's just like the
Speaker 1: first of January comes around and we automatically feel that
Speaker 1: we have to completely reinvent ourselves and become the best
Speaker 1: version of ourselves. And I personally don't like the term
Speaker 1: New Year's resolutions. The word resolution, I do not like
Speaker 1: it because it kind of implies that you're a problem
Speaker 1: that needs to be resolved, and that's a lot of
Speaker 1: how we actually think of our selves. Think about when
Speaker 1: you have a goal in place and you don't reach it,
Speaker 1: you automatically start, you know, crucifying yourself. And as I said,
Speaker 1: you can't hate yourself into being better. So instead of resolutions,
Speaker 1: I like to use the word intentions because it feels
Speaker 1: a lot less heavy and this kind of language. I'm
Speaker 1: actually going to talk a bit about later, and I'm
Speaker 1: going to even evolve that even further to make it
Speaker 1: more fun, because when things are fun, the pressure comes
Speaker 1: off and you actually start to enjoy it as well,
Speaker 1: you enjoy the journey there. I've actually got some really
Speaker 1: insane stats that are going to make you feel a
Speaker 1: lot better as well, because did you know there is
Speaker 1: a date every year, there's a universal date that majority
Speaker 1: of people end up breaking their resolutions. And it's probably
Speaker 1: not the date you would think. You would probably think
Speaker 1: I'm going to say March or something, but it's actually
Speaker 1: January twelfth. Yes, isn't that wild? By the twelfth day,
Speaker 1: people have mostly given up, and that just goes to
Speaker 1: show how much everyone does that all or nothing mentality.
Speaker 1: It's like I always have about the bandwagon. Everyone is
Speaker 1: always so upset when they fall off the bandwagon, and
Speaker 1: you've got to remember, there is no bandwagon. There's just life.
Speaker 1: Because the thing is we built the bandwagon with, you know,
Speaker 1: growing up with you know, as I said, the biggest loser,
Speaker 1: and all these expectations we put on ourselves and what
Speaker 1: we think society thinks we should be. And then we
Speaker 1: wonder why when we set these crazy goals, why we
Speaker 1: can't keep up when the wagon picks up speed and
Speaker 1: it starts hammering down the road and it gets bumpy.
Speaker 1: And then when we fall on our ass, instead of
Speaker 1: blaming the wagon, and we blame ourselves because we couldn't
Speaker 1: hang on tight enough. You just need to start seeing
Speaker 1: it as a thing that is like, it's not real
Speaker 1: and it's not there, and it's a pressure we put
Speaker 1: on ourselves. Another really interesting statistic I found on this
Speaker 1: is that thirty four percent of news resolutions are about
Speaker 1: eating healthier, thirty three percent is about losing weight, and
Speaker 1: thirty one percent is about improving fitness, and it really
Speaker 1: does show the trend of how heavily health focused we are.
Speaker 1: We are literally hating our way into being healthy. And
Speaker 1: the thing about this is like, we can't just focus
Speaker 1: on one area of our life. We are multi dimensional people.
Speaker 1: We have the career, we have kids, and if you
Speaker 1: don't pay attention to different areas, we start neglecting things.
Speaker 1: And this is what I'm going to be taking you
Speaker 1: through in the process. So this leads me on to
Speaker 1: my very first point, and we need to switch up
Speaker 1: your mindset and language around this. So now what I
Speaker 1: want you to do. Instead of thinking about New Year's
Speaker 1: resolutions as rules you need to follow, because when you
Speaker 1: think about resolutions, it sounds like a contract or a
Speaker 1: deadline or something that you either as successful with or
Speaker 1: you fail. I want you to start thinking of them
Speaker 1: as the plot of your next chapter. That's right. I
Speaker 1: want you to start seeing yourself as the character, and
Speaker 1: then you're going to be planning your story as the author.
Speaker 1: So because when you think of the story or the plot,
Speaker 1: it seems more flexible, more human, evolving, and a lot
Speaker 1: more fun than a bloody resolution. And you're not going
Speaker 1: to be trying to fix but rather you start to
Speaker 1: see it as where will the story go next? And
Speaker 1: of course there's gonna be plot holes, like there's always
Speaker 1: gonna be plot holes, like someone gets sick, you know,
Speaker 1: the bloody dog spit on the rug again. Things happen.
Speaker 1: That's fine. But when you start to switch things from
Speaker 1: this is happening to me to this is happening to
Speaker 1: the character, you're able to be a bit more objective
Speaker 1: because have a thing about it. You know, say, for example,
Speaker 1: you're going through something really really hard. Maybe you know
Speaker 1: you're in a breakup, or you've just been really struggling.
Speaker 1: You're burnt out, and you expect yourself just to get
Speaker 1: over it. But if your best friend was going through that,
Speaker 1: you wouldn't expect that from them, And that's because you're
Speaker 1: removing yourself from the situation. It's more objective when it's
Speaker 1: another person. So when you start to see yourself as
Speaker 1: a character, you start to see it more as a
Speaker 1: third person. You're able to be more objective, a bit
Speaker 1: more compassionate for them, whereas when it's you, you're not
Speaker 1: the same. That's because we view our own experiences from
Speaker 1: within our emotions, and there's guilt, shame, and pressure, and
Speaker 1: you think, why I get it together, But when it's
Speaker 1: happening to a character, you're not gonna be yelling at them,
Speaker 1: because that's like expecting a character to improve. Or you know,
Speaker 1: even your children. When your children are doing something, are
Speaker 1: you gonna be yelling at them to do better? And
Speaker 1: do you think that would actually work? No, definitely not.
Speaker 1: And then your brain will switch from being on the
Speaker 1: inside to watching them from the outside, and suddenly you're
Speaker 1: no longer harsh your understanding. And that's the bloody key
Speaker 1: right there. For example, when I was writing my book,
Speaker 1: I was feeling so much mum guilt because I just
Speaker 1: wasn't able to be as present with the girls, and
Speaker 1: I just felt absolutely terrible, and I was just thinking,
Speaker 1: you know, I am not doing enough. I should be
Speaker 1: doing better. I need to get up earlier. And guys,
Speaker 1: I was getting up at like bloody four o'clock in
Speaker 1: the morning to write all day and all night, and
Speaker 1: I couldn't do any better. But when I start to
Speaker 1: look at it more objectively, like at my character, I
Speaker 1: can see why she's tired as in Steph, I can
Speaker 1: see why I wasn't able to keep up with certain
Speaker 1: healthy habits and why I wasn't able to be a
Speaker 1: super present mum and I can see what she was
Speaker 1: carrying because the distance alone softens the emotional charge of it.
Speaker 1: So here's the shift. This is how we're going to
Speaker 1: do it. The character is you living it, and the
Speaker 1: author is you planning it because you get to have
Speaker 1: fun with it. So I want you to really think
Speaker 1: about what does this character need in this next chapter
Speaker 1: for twenty twenty six, and what's realistic for them right now?
Speaker 1: So before you set any goals or intentions or whatever
Speaker 1: you want to call it, before you outline your new plot,
Speaker 1: what is realistic for them right now and what would
Speaker 1: help them grow without breaking them. I'm talking being realistic
Speaker 1: here because you need to realize intentions need to be
Speaker 1: set with compassion, not pressure. So now we've fixed our
Speaker 1: language around the subject. We are now the character and
Speaker 1: we are now also the author. That's going to remove
Speaker 1: the shame. It's going to make planning feel safer and
Speaker 1: not so scary, and it's going to stop them all
Speaker 1: or nothing thinking and also creating that emotional distance. But
Speaker 1: what you need to think of now also is you
Speaker 1: know day to day life, we all tend to be
Speaker 1: quite negative. So we always say, like I do this
Speaker 1: all the time. I'll say, oh, I have to make dinner,
Speaker 1: I have to do this instead of I get to,
Speaker 1: or you say I should. Maybe you should say I'm
Speaker 1: choosing to, or you say I need to where maybe
Speaker 1: we should be saying this chapter requires. And when you
Speaker 1: change how you narrate your own story, that's when the
Speaker 1: mindset shifts. Really really bloody happen. And for me, I'm
Speaker 1: someone that I can be very bloody hard on myself.
Speaker 1: I have super high expectations of myself. But when I
Speaker 1: start to be really careful with how I'm talking to myself,
Speaker 1: because let's be honest, I talk to myself all the time,
Speaker 1: that's when I feel a lot more safe. Like even guys,
Speaker 1: I've been posting on bloody Instagram for ten years, I
Speaker 1: still get anxiety before I post. It makes no sense
Speaker 1: at all, Like I literally had this post ready the
Speaker 1: other week. It was ready for three weeks and I
Speaker 1: just wouldn't post it. It was a carousel post and
Speaker 1: it was about me talking about how I kind of
Speaker 1: found myself again after feeling like I was in a
Speaker 1: huge slump for so long, and I thought that post
Speaker 1: was terrible, and then I finally posted it three weeks
Speaker 1: later because I was like, I have nothing else to
Speaker 1: go up, and it went so well. It was to
Speaker 1: show that we are literally the biggest assholes to ourselves.
Speaker 1: We just need to loosen our grip a little bit
Speaker 1: before I move on from changing up the language. I
Speaker 1: actually saw this quote on Instagram and it really woke
Speaker 1: me up because I can be quite negative. I won't lie.
Speaker 1: My name was always such a positive woman, and I
Speaker 1: always she had like the hardest life, but she was
Speaker 1: just so positive. She was someone that was a glass
Speaker 1: half full but grateful to have a glass in the
Speaker 1: first place kind of person, and she was just so inspiring.
Speaker 1: But I do find myself being quite negative, especially when
Speaker 1: I have a lot of deadlines and things like that,
Speaker 1: and it's over the things I love, Like I love
Speaker 1: what I do. I make planners, I get to create
Speaker 1: content with you guys, I get to do all that stuff.
Speaker 1: But I saw this quote on Instagram and it said
Speaker 1: how lucky am I to be tired doing the things
Speaker 1: I once dreamed about? Like isn't that just mind blowing?
Speaker 1: You know? And it is one of those things that
Speaker 1: we do get caught up in the day to day
Speaker 1: so quickly and easily, and especially at the start of
Speaker 1: a new year, where we do forget to just slow
Speaker 1: down for a second and be like, I'm literally living
Speaker 1: the days I once dreamed of. Maybe if your kids
Speaker 1: are little, or you've had a little baby, or maybe
Speaker 1: you're you've got a new career and you don't have kids,
Speaker 1: But these are the days we're living right now, where
Speaker 1: one day, when we're eighty, we're going to look back
Speaker 1: and be like this, this was the good old days.
Speaker 1: We're living the good old days right now. So let's
Speaker 1: just all of us. One of our intentions we can
Speaker 1: make together is to just really have a check in
Speaker 1: with our language, because it's a big one. Now we're
Speaker 1: going to be moving on to the first official step
Speaker 1: of your twenty twenty six reset or your twenty twenty
Speaker 1: six plot. Now. In order for us to move forward,
Speaker 1: we do need to check the revision mirror. We need
Speaker 1: to look back and see the journey that we've just had,
Speaker 1: because you can't expect to grow and move forward if
Speaker 1: you keep repeating the same old patterns, Like I said,
Speaker 1: so you need to look in the mirror back there,
Speaker 1: see the road you've just driven on. See the potholes
Speaker 1: that U turns the detours. You know, maybe there was
Speaker 1: some angry drivers along the way that you need to
Speaker 1: avoid for this next season or next chapter for us
Speaker 1: in order to see where we can move forward. Now,
Speaker 1: your reflection questions are going to be in the free
Speaker 1: download that you can get in the show notes, and
Speaker 1: it's totally free and it's going to literally guide you
Speaker 1: through all of these steps. But some different types of
Speaker 1: questions I'm going to be asking you in this download
Speaker 1: are the following, and if you are a time Paul,
Speaker 1: you can answer them in your head right now. We
Speaker 1: can do that now, So a couple of these types
Speaker 1: of questions to help you really not only reflect on
Speaker 1: what you don't want, but also to see and highlight
Speaker 1: the winds, because the big thing with us as humans
Speaker 1: is we can achieve so much and we never will
Speaker 1: sit in that achievement. See, I'm someone that constantly moves
Speaker 1: the goalposts. I've been like that ever since I was little.
Speaker 1: I've always been like, oh, it's like shiny object syndrome
Speaker 1: or whatever they call it, Like the next thing, the
Speaker 1: next thing, and I'll hit a milestone, even milestones I've
Speaker 1: never even think I would before. Just like when I
Speaker 1: started my business, Staphe's Planners, my very first launch, like
Speaker 1: the plan is sold out straightaway, and I never in
Speaker 1: a million years would have thought that was going to happen.
Speaker 1: And yet I was onto the next thing and the
Speaker 1: next thing. And my thing is I've never been able
Speaker 1: to celebrate myself or my achievements because I never sit
Speaker 1: still long enough to do so. And there gets a
Speaker 1: certain point in our lives where we think we have
Speaker 1: goals that are for us, but they're actually not. And
Speaker 1: this is a question I think that would really it'll
Speaker 1: probably rattle you a little bit. But in terms of
Speaker 1: your intentions, goals, resolutions, whatever you want to call it,
Speaker 1: right now, the big things that you've always wanted to do,
Speaker 1: I want you to ask yourself, if no one was watching,
Speaker 1: would I still want these things? If there was no
Speaker 1: one sitting on the sidelines clapping me on and cheering
Speaker 1: me on, would I still want to reach that goalpost?
Speaker 1: And with that answer, that will make you realize if
Speaker 1: those goals are for them or for you or what
Speaker 1: you think other people want you to do. So once
Speaker 1: you've thought of that, I want you to start seeing
Speaker 1: your life and your intentions and goals through that lens,
Speaker 1: because at the end of the day, you don't want
Speaker 1: to get again to eight years old and look back
Speaker 1: and be like, I lived for them, I didn't live
Speaker 1: for me. That is so so important and for me,
Speaker 1: I am someone that I did. I've chased, you know,
Speaker 1: it definitely could be an ego thing, the validation, you know,
Speaker 1: chasing titles constantly so you feel like you're worthy. And
Speaker 1: then you look back and you're like, for what, what
Speaker 1: do I want to do? What do I want this
Speaker 1: next chapter and my twenty twenty six plot to actually
Speaker 1: look like for my character as the author, Because you're
Speaker 1: the author. You're writing your story. No one else, no
Speaker 1: one has their hand on yours with the pen and
Speaker 1: he's going to write your story for you anymore. This
Speaker 1: is the day you're going to stop that. Now it's
Speaker 1: time for you to like really reflect on any wins
Speaker 1: you had over the last year. And when I say wins,
Speaker 1: it could just be surviving the year. That's fine, bro,
Speaker 1: Like it's been a time, and it's been a time, and
Speaker 1: I want you to think about your habits. So now
Speaker 1: when I say this is a bit of like a
Speaker 1: little exercise you can do. You can draw up three
Speaker 1: columns and I want you to write on the left
Speaker 1: side stop and then the next one start and then
Speaker 1: stick with. And these are the habits that you need
Speaker 1: to list out under st start or stick with. So
Speaker 1: there's gonna be habits that you need to stop because
Speaker 1: they're not the best for you, They're not the best
Speaker 1: for your character. So for me, mine is scrolling past
Speaker 1: nine o'clock at night because there's a ripple effect on that,
Speaker 1: and then I don't sleep, and then I can't get
Speaker 1: up earlier, can't do my morning routine and feel good.
Speaker 1: So that's a habit I would stop, and then a
Speaker 1: habit you would start. So list out some habits that
Speaker 1: you want to start. So some for me would be
Speaker 1: more quality one or one time with my kids, especially
Speaker 1: like putting the phone in my drawer, like in a
Speaker 1: draw because having that physical distance from your phone, like
Speaker 1: that barrier, you'll, honestly, I want you to give it
Speaker 1: a try at home. If you're at home now, I
Speaker 1: want you to grab your phone unless you're listening to
Speaker 1: me on it, and chuck it in the drawer and
Speaker 1: shut it and you'll feel lighter instantly it's actually insane.
Speaker 1: And then you're gonna list out some habits that you
Speaker 1: want to stick with. So once habits that you're already
Speaker 1: doing that are actually you know, they make you feel
Speaker 1: good or maybe they're fun, and you're gonna stick with
Speaker 1: it because it is important with this process that yes,
Speaker 1: we look at things we need to stop or start,
Speaker 1: but it's also good to be able to celebrate yourself
Speaker 1: from remember how I said we need to be still
Speaker 1: long enough to appreciate our achievements. That is that So
Speaker 1: maybe you're reading again, or maybe you're going for a
Speaker 1: walk every day, like that's something to celebrate. So look
Speaker 1: at your habits that you're already doing and you have
Speaker 1: been doing that you want to stick with. One really
Speaker 1: important question which is going to make you realize how
Speaker 1: much of an asshole you've been to yourself, is how
Speaker 1: well did I take care of myself this year? Like
Speaker 1: was your character looked after? Did you look after her?
Speaker 1: Did she have time for herself, did she get to
Speaker 1: have fun, did she get to socialize? All that type
Speaker 1: of stuff. And that's going to really help you kind
Speaker 1: of zoom out, because if you have the ability to
Speaker 1: zoom out on your life and what you're doing. That's
Speaker 1: where you can really see the areas that you've been
Speaker 1: lacking in as well, which is not a negative thing,
Speaker 1: like it's fine, Like we are human. I've always said
Speaker 1: that balance is bullshit because we are never able to
Speaker 1: be equally across everything in our lives. It's actually impossible,
Speaker 1: because there is going to be some seasons or chapters
Speaker 1: where my kids require more of my attention, or there's
Speaker 1: going to be a season or to where work needs
Speaker 1: more of my attention, because I can't possibly spread myself
Speaker 1: that thin across everything and be good at all of
Speaker 1: it at the same time. So I think balance. I
Speaker 1: don't think it's a negative idea, but I think it's impossible.
Speaker 1: And it's like that saying, I don't know if you
Speaker 1: guys would have probably heard this, it's the way you
Speaker 1: do one thing is how you do everything. And I
Speaker 1: call bullshit on that because the way I am three
Speaker 1: weeks behind on emails or life admin is not the
Speaker 1: same way I shop to my kids awards, and the
Speaker 1: way I'm really badly folding my laundry is not the
Speaker 1: same way I show up at work. Like there is
Speaker 1: duality and being a human We're not going to be
Speaker 1: We can't be consistent across everything. I can't, and I
Speaker 1: just think that saying is just setting people up for
Speaker 1: failure because I genuinely wouldn't have that energy to be
Speaker 1: able to put in one hundred percent everywhere in my life.
Speaker 1: So I think once you realize that, and you can
Speaker 1: see that your character isn't really striving for balance, They're
Speaker 1: striving to be seen and to be understood by you
Speaker 1: the author. Now we've done the first step of our
Speaker 1: twenty twenty six Reset slush plot, I'm going to be
Speaker 1: getting you up to scratch real quick. I know many
Speaker 1: of you would be feeling really behind at the moment,
Speaker 1: and it's pretty easy to feel like that, especially when
Speaker 1: all the content online, as I said, is making out
Speaker 1: that everyone is already on their fourth or fifth goal,
Speaker 1: and you know they've already called the whole house like
Speaker 1: Bloody Marie Kondo. But fortunately we don't have a whole
Speaker 1: Netflix crew to come into our house and do things
Speaker 1: like that and also organize all of our life admin.
Speaker 1: But I've created this mini reset three day schedule for you,
Speaker 1: So once you've gotten to the end of day three,
Speaker 1: you were going to feel like you've managed your mess,
Speaker 1: or at least you can have made sense of your
Speaker 1: mess and made a bit of a dint. Because I
Speaker 1: will go on about this more in other episodes, but
Speaker 1: our mess is something that just makes us human. It's
Speaker 1: not something that you're ever going to get rid of.
Speaker 1: It's like our to do list. You're never going to
Speaker 1: get to the end of your to do list. I'm
Speaker 1: so sorry to tell you that information. I don't know
Speaker 1: if you knew that, But as long as when you're alive,
Speaker 1: you're going to have mess, and you're going to have
Speaker 1: a to do list, and this schedule is just going
Speaker 1: to make that feel a bit lighter and less scary.
Speaker 1: Because when you think about our mess, like as humans,
Speaker 1: we are so ashamed of our mess. Like think about
Speaker 1: when a guest comes over, you run around frantically, You're
Speaker 1: hiding everything, you don't even want to show that people
Speaker 1: live there. Literally doesn't make any sense. Why do we
Speaker 1: do that? The thing is mess is something we all
Speaker 1: have and this is going to just help you clear
Speaker 1: the noise in your brain and just make sense of it.
Speaker 1: So let's get started in to day one. Now. Day
Speaker 1: one is going to be your mini reset day. We're
Speaker 1: going to be resetting your physical space, your personal space,
Speaker 1: and also your digital space. But I'm not going to
Speaker 1: be making you do like crazy shit like this is
Speaker 1: not going to be something you're going to be spending
Speaker 1: like your whole day on. But what I want you
Speaker 1: to do, let's start with our physical space. And the
Speaker 1: reason why we're also starting with this out of our
Speaker 1: three day schedule is because once your environment feels clearer,
Speaker 1: you're going to feel much lighter and you're going to
Speaker 1: be able to actually think clearly. I want you to
Speaker 1: think about you know, when you walk into your kitchen
Speaker 1: in the morning and if you haven't reset it or
Speaker 1: put the house to bed the night before, which is
Speaker 1: where you know you clean up and do like your
Speaker 1: closing shift and you do all the dishes and you
Speaker 1: wipe the benches. If you haven't done that, and you
Speaker 1: walk into the kitchen in the morning, you feel so
Speaker 1: overwhelmed straightaway. And that's because all of the mess and
Speaker 1: the things around you are reminders of all the things
Speaker 1: you have to do. And when you already have it
Speaker 1: to do list in your head, and then you see
Speaker 1: all these other things added to your to do list,
Speaker 1: that's when we start to get quite anxious. So if
Speaker 1: we can clear that physical space, we're going to be
Speaker 1: able to do Day two, which is our get shit
Speaker 1: done day. So first, I want you to focus on
Speaker 1: a high impact area only in your house, in your space.
Speaker 1: So it's like high traffic area or an area that
Speaker 1: you do spend a lot of time. So a lot
Speaker 1: of people will probably say the kitchen, maybe the lounge room,
Speaker 1: maybe it's your home office. But what I want you
Speaker 1: to do is set a timer for thirty minutes and
Speaker 1: you're just going to reset that space. It's not a
Speaker 1: deep clean, this is just you know, getting rid of
Speaker 1: any rubbish. I want you to. You can, literally my
Speaker 1: biggest hack as someone with ADHD's you grab a bucket
Speaker 1: like a basket, and anything that's in that space that
Speaker 1: doesn't live there, you chuck it in there, you know,
Speaker 1: as you like catchu a basket, which is a hack
Speaker 1: I'll give you guys later, And this is just going
Speaker 1: to make it easy for your brain to understand. So
Speaker 1: you're gonna grab the rubbish, grab your basket. Anything that
Speaker 1: doesn't belong in that space goes in there, and you're
Speaker 1: gonna wipe down the benches or whatever it is. And
Speaker 1: once that's done, we're going to move on to your
Speaker 1: personal space. Now, your personal space is something just to
Speaker 1: help with you feeling a bit more like calm, make
Speaker 1: you feel a bit better. So I want you to
Speaker 1: do things like I know this sounds so lame. Okay,
Speaker 1: I get this sounds lame as but I did this
Speaker 1: little ritual after I had my girls. I had postnatal
Speaker 1: depression with both, and I did this every single morning,
Speaker 1: and it honestly helped me so so much. This is
Speaker 1: the actual thing I talk in my book. This is
Speaker 1: actually the thing that really helped me get into routines. Now,
Speaker 1: I want you to do things like open all of
Speaker 1: the windows in your house, and I want you to
Speaker 1: light a candle or a diffuser, and I want you
Speaker 1: to know, chuck on Spotify and put on your most
Speaker 1: favorite playlist. It's just resetting yourself personally for the little
Speaker 1: things that you love and really change the atmosphere around you.
Speaker 1: And that's going to help you get into the next step,
Speaker 1: which is your digital space. Now, this is a space
Speaker 1: that is quite overwhelming, and this is the one that's
Speaker 1: quietly draining you a lot. You know, think about it
Speaker 1: on your phone all the screenshots you have and all
Speaker 1: the crap you don't need, and that app that you're
Speaker 1: paying one hundred and fifty dollars for a year. That's
Speaker 1: a plant identifier. You know. Not speaking from experience or anything,
Speaker 1: I really got into plants over covid. Okay, you got
Speaker 1: your music on, you've got your candle, you know your
Speaker 1: kitchen's clean. Now you're feeling a little bit fresher, You're
Speaker 1: feel in a bit more on top of things. Now,
Speaker 1: what we're going to do is sit down, and I
Speaker 1: want you to grab your phone and I want you
Speaker 1: to delete any screenshots you don't need. And a really
Speaker 1: good hack for this, because I know this can be
Speaker 1: quite overwhelming, is every day. Maybe it's once the kids
Speaker 1: are in bed. I want you to set a timer
Speaker 1: for ten minutes and I want you to search that
Speaker 1: like today's date. I want you to search that date,
Speaker 1: and I want you to go through every fody you've
Speaker 1: ever taken on that date and delete things that you
Speaker 1: don't need anymore. So you're only doing it day by day,
Speaker 1: but if you do that every day for the whole year,
Speaker 1: your whole phone will be cleared out. It's so smart anyway,
Speaker 1: and I know you can get apps that do things
Speaker 1: like that too, where they can, you know, show you
Speaker 1: double ups and things like that and you can get
Speaker 1: rid of it. So you're going to do that. And
Speaker 1: then I also want you to, of course get rid
Speaker 1: of that plant. Identify your app that you're paying for
Speaker 1: and you don't use on your phone. So go through
Speaker 1: your apps, go on the app store, and like just
Speaker 1: get rid of them more because the amount of money
Speaker 1: you'll save is insane. There's so many apps I freaking
Speaker 1: download I don't even look at. So do that. And
Speaker 1: then I want you to tackle your emails. Now. I
Speaker 1: want to make this super simple for you. Guys. We're
Speaker 1: going to empty your inbox. No I no, that sounds terrifying.
Speaker 1: I know it's scary, but we're going to do it together. Now,
Speaker 1: one thing I did that change my life with my
Speaker 1: emails is I archived anything older than six months or
Speaker 1: even three months. I archived the whole thing. Now, I
Speaker 1: know you're probably freaking out when I say that, but
Speaker 1: the thing is when you archive all these emails, you
Speaker 1: can still search them. But the thing is if they're
Speaker 1: that old, you obviously don't need them. You're not going
Speaker 1: to get back to them. Let's be honest, you're not
Speaker 1: going to reply to it. It's done, it's gone. Archive
Speaker 1: the motherflickers, get rid of them and you can search
Speaker 1: them later. Now I want you to create two to
Speaker 1: three really simple folders. It could be you know, family,
Speaker 1: it could be work, whatever, and anything in those your
Speaker 1: inbox that still needs to be placed somewhere, pop it
Speaker 1: in a folder. Because I'm someone I know there's like
Speaker 1: two types of people in the world. It's people that
Speaker 1: have folders and they make sure they read everything, and
Speaker 1: then there's people who don't have any folders and everything
Speaker 1: just stays in the inbox. So we're going to slowly
Speaker 1: just migrate over to be the former. Yeah, And the
Speaker 1: best advice I can give you with your emails is
Speaker 1: to only check them twice a day max. Have two
Speaker 1: set times a day. Don't be on them all the time.
Speaker 1: I actually, you guys would be probably shocked to know
Speaker 1: that I actually have my notifications on my emails on
Speaker 1: my phone turned off. I did that years ago because
Speaker 1: I found I was so reactive that no matter whenever
Speaker 1: an email would come in, I would just you know,
Speaker 1: I'd get back to them straight away. And you need
Speaker 1: to remember like their urgency is not your emergency, and
Speaker 1: you're not saving lives. Unless you're a doctor, then yes
Speaker 1: you are. But otherwise the rest of us, me immortals,
Speaker 1: are not saving lives. So you need to remember that,
Speaker 1: and you really need to protect your space. And this
Speaker 1: is what we're doing in twenty twenty six. Our character
Speaker 1: they're going to protect themselves from all the noise in
Speaker 1: the outside world. So that's your rules coming into a
Speaker 1: new year. So yes, please set two alarms on your
Speaker 1: phone if you need to, if you're like me, to
Speaker 1: check your emails, and then that is it. You're done.
Speaker 1: You don't need to be reacting though we're doing. We're
Speaker 1: not being reactive this year. We're not doing it. Okay,
Speaker 1: now you've done that. We've done a good little mini reset.
Speaker 1: We've fixed your fish space, we fixed your personal space,
Speaker 1: we've done your tech most of it. I'll do another
Speaker 1: episode on that one day now, on today two, which
Speaker 1: is the get shit done day. Now, this is the
Speaker 1: day you're going to be doing those tasks that have
Speaker 1: been weighing on you heavily. Now the tasks themselves might
Speaker 1: only take literally two minutes. Speaking from experience here where
Speaker 1: I literally need to just make an appointment to see
Speaker 1: the dentist. Then I'll lose sleep over it for three
Speaker 1: weeks and have mass anxiety. And it takes two seconds,
Speaker 1: and it's fine. This is the day we do stuff
Speaker 1: like that. Yeah, we're going to just get it done.
Speaker 1: Because how good will you feel with all those like
Speaker 1: a little annoying tasks that you've been wanting to get done.
Speaker 1: How good will you feel when they're done? They're gone.
Speaker 1: It's off your mental load. We carry such a heavy
Speaker 1: mental load and this is going to help with that. Now,
Speaker 1: there's a few rules with this day. You're going to
Speaker 1: be doing three tasks only and that's it. And once
Speaker 1: you've done the three tasks, you're done for the day.
Speaker 1: You're not going to be trying to do any more
Speaker 1: all the things. But look, I will say, if you
Speaker 1: are on a roll, go for it. But the less
Speaker 1: pressure we play on ourselves for this day, you'll notice
Speaker 1: it will be a lot less resistance. There'll be a
Speaker 1: lot less resistance. You're not gonna be overwhelmed and you
Speaker 1: might end up doing more. But if you just tell yourself,
Speaker 1: I've only got to do these three things today and
Speaker 1: that's it, and I'm done. You're going to probably smash
Speaker 1: it very fast to find out these three tasks that
Speaker 1: you need to do for this get shit done day.
Speaker 1: I want you to write a list of things I'm avoiding,
Speaker 1: so all the things you've been avoiding. Do a brain dump,
Speaker 1: just things you know that you also maybe have to
Speaker 1: do that's been weighing on you. Just dump it all
Speaker 1: out now in this list. I want you to have
Speaker 1: a good look at it, and just make sure everything
Speaker 1: in this list is actually important and also does need
Speaker 1: to be done by you, as in you can't delegate it,
Speaker 1: or maybe it's actually not that important and it's you know,
Speaker 1: pressure from other people are making you do that task.
Speaker 1: Just make sure you have a good look at this
Speaker 1: list and make sure they're actually all tasks that need
Speaker 1: to be done by you. Now, the three tasks we're
Speaker 1: going to be picking is one annoying task you've been avoiding,
Speaker 1: So something like replying to that email you've been skipping
Speaker 1: book said dentists or a vet, submitting a form and
Speaker 1: an assignment, or calling customer service over a refund that
Speaker 1: meant you were supposed to do like three months ago,
Speaker 1: and you're probably not going to get a refund now,
Speaker 1: stuff like that, or maybe returning something or updating your
Speaker 1: address somewhere. And now the second task is a life
Speaker 1: maintenance task gross I know, so doing something like refilling
Speaker 1: prescriptions or ordering your household items, maybe cleaning out your
Speaker 1: handbag or backing up your phone a laptop, something like that.
Speaker 1: And the third one is going to be a quick win.
Speaker 1: So this is something like clearing out your desk or
Speaker 1: paying a bill or making it to do this for
Speaker 1: the next day, or setting that message you've been overthinking,
Speaker 1: just something that's really quick. It could literally just be
Speaker 1: the most simple thing. So I want you to pick
Speaker 1: those three tasks. So we've got the annoying task, we've
Speaker 1: got the life maintenance, and we've got the win. Now
Speaker 1: your day might just look like this. This is an
Speaker 1: example of what this day could look like. Reply to
Speaker 1: an email, washing my towels, and clearing the desk for
Speaker 1: ten minutes and then you're done for the day. That's it.
Speaker 1: But you're going to feel so much lighter when that
Speaker 1: thing is done. Now this leads us to day three.
Speaker 1: This is your potato day. Yes you heard that right,
Speaker 1: and a potato day this is a day where you
Speaker 1: do absolutely nothing, because you know we've reset your space,
Speaker 1: we've got your mental load lighter. You feel a lot
Speaker 1: better about that. But this is a day for you.
Speaker 1: This is a day where you can do whatever you want,
Speaker 1: Like you don't have to lay on the couch all day.
Speaker 1: You can go do something that you love. You know,
Speaker 1: as adults, we really do stop having fun. We stop
Speaker 1: we only do things for a certain outcome, so like
Speaker 1: make more money, or to get fitter, or to clean
Speaker 1: the house. So we stop doing things just for us.
Speaker 1: And that's always do start to lose ourselves. And that's
Speaker 1: also why I honestly believe that you know, life does
Speaker 1: speed up and when you get to have fun, you
Speaker 1: are so much more present and that is so important.
Speaker 1: So your Potato day, you do whatever you want and
Speaker 1: there's no guilt. The rule is you're not allowed to
Speaker 1: feel guilty about it, and you're not going to because
Speaker 1: it's our last day of this reset and you've just
Speaker 1: done all this really cool stuff. You've done the stuff
Speaker 1: you've been putting off, you've reset, you've cleaned. Now it's
Speaker 1: a day for you, and now you've seen that these
Speaker 1: three days have covered. Day one has given you clarity,
Speaker 1: made things feel lighter because we've reset your space. Day
Speaker 1: two has given you relief because you've actually done the things,
Speaker 1: and Day three has given you capacity because you've taken
Speaker 1: time for yourself. Now, I really hope you guys enjoyed
Speaker 1: this first episode back. I just feel like it was
Speaker 1: such an important one and I had so much to
Speaker 1: give you guys, and I'm so so excited to be back.
Speaker 1: Stepping Up is back, and it's just it is. It's
Speaker 1: a whole new chapter for me, and I am just
Speaker 1: so excited to about to help you guys again and be
Speaker 1: in your ear and be your bogan best mate that
Speaker 1: is here just to hold your hand through it all.
Speaker 1: Please don't forget to take a photo of you listening
Speaker 1: to this episode and tag us on Instagram, and I
Speaker 1: will be picking a winner for that one hundred dollars
Speaker 1: Steph Face Planner's voucher and they will also win my
Speaker 1: copy of my new book as well, which I forgot
Speaker 1: to mention. Please don't forget to grab your free download
Speaker 1: in the show notes so you can do all the things,
Speaker 1: and there's all the other steps coming up as well,
Speaker 1: And please subscribe and leave me a review if you'd
Speaker 1: love to I would really really appreciate it. And now
Speaker 1: your mess is a bit more tame. You feel like
Speaker 1: maybe you've caught up, which you know, it's a big thing.
Speaker 1: It is a big thing in a new year, and
Speaker 1: hopefully your load feels a bit lighter after this. And
Speaker 1: just remember you were the character and the author of
Speaker 1: your own life, and we're not gonna let anyone else
Speaker 1: write our stories for us anymore. So I can't wait
Speaker 1: to help you keep mastering your mess. And I will
Speaker 1: see you guys next week. Bye.