WEBVTT - I'm Back! Master your Mess in 3 Days 0:00:00.720 --> 0:00:03.760 I've always said that balance is bullshit because we are 0:00:03.840 --> 0:00:07.160 never able to be equally across everything in our lives. 0:00:07.400 --> 0:00:11.680 It's actually impossible. Well, look, who's back back again. I 0:00:11.680 --> 0:00:14.320 won't do that to you. I won't do that to you. Hello, guys, 0:00:14.560 --> 0:00:18.360 I am back after a huge eighteen months off stepping up, 0:00:18.400 --> 0:00:21.680 which is actually insane. I can't believe how fast that went. 0:00:22.280 --> 0:00:24.800 All I can say is I've missed you guys so 0:00:24.800 --> 0:00:27.320 so much, and it seems like you guys miss me 0:00:27.360 --> 0:00:29.760 too a little bit. I can't tell you how many 0:00:30.000 --> 0:00:32.680 dms I got for this podcast to come back, and 0:00:32.720 --> 0:00:35.320 I've been dying for it for that to happen. But 0:00:35.360 --> 0:00:37.920 there's been a very very good reason why. You know, 0:00:38.000 --> 0:00:40.000 I know many of you did listen to this podcast 0:00:40.000 --> 0:00:42.600 part of your Monday morning routine. And I'm so stoked 0:00:42.600 --> 0:00:44.680 to say your girl's going to be backing your ear 0:00:44.720 --> 0:00:48.440 again from now and you know, I know you're just dying. 0:00:48.600 --> 0:00:51.000 You're dying to know. The burning question is where the 0:00:51.040 --> 0:00:54.320 bloody hell did I go? So you see, I was 0:00:54.400 --> 0:00:56.680 keeping a secret from everyone for a couple of years, 0:00:56.800 --> 0:01:00.440 and you know I am an oversharer, so that's rough 0:01:00.440 --> 0:01:02.920 for me. Let me just tell you. It actually made 0:01:02.960 --> 0:01:04.920 it really hard to show up online because you know, 0:01:04.920 --> 0:01:06.839 I've been doing this for ten years now and I'm 0:01:07.000 --> 0:01:09.319 very much unfiltered with you guys. But when you have 0:01:09.400 --> 0:01:12.080 this huge secret you're keeping the said secret is what 0:01:12.080 --> 0:01:14.720 you're doing all the time, you kind of just feel 0:01:14.720 --> 0:01:16.360 a bit boring. You don't really know what to say. 0:01:17.360 --> 0:01:20.440 But so, as many of you would know, my big 0:01:20.480 --> 0:01:23.720 secret is that I wrote a book, like an actual book, 0:01:24.640 --> 0:01:26.880 insane and this is a girl that has ADHD and 0:01:26.920 --> 0:01:29.720 all the things. But it was published with Penguin, and 0:01:29.959 --> 0:01:32.440 I just can't tell you how like it's just been 0:01:32.440 --> 0:01:33.920 a dream of mine since I was a little girl 0:01:33.959 --> 0:01:37.160 to write a book. And you know, your feedback on 0:01:37.280 --> 0:01:40.440 the book so far has been insane, like beyond amazing, 0:01:40.480 --> 0:01:43.000 and within two days it was a bloody Amazon bestseller, 0:01:43.040 --> 0:01:45.720 which is yeah, again, I don't have the words for 0:01:45.760 --> 0:01:51.040 once in my life. But basically, this book is just 0:01:51.240 --> 0:01:54.920 all the things I have never shared online before, and 0:01:54.960 --> 0:01:57.800 I've shared way too many things, and it is just 0:01:57.880 --> 0:02:00.280 it's about me and my life and how I've to 0:02:00.280 --> 0:02:02.440 be where I am now. But the story is something 0:02:02.480 --> 0:02:04.920 that you wouldn't expect, and I'm not going to harp 0:02:04.960 --> 0:02:07.080 on about this book the whole podcast. Just trust Mirror 0:02:07.800 --> 0:02:10.360 as much as I want to. But my book is 0:02:10.400 --> 0:02:12.760 called Mastering My Messy Life, which is very fitting, and 0:02:12.800 --> 0:02:14.960 I think that's a little bit funny also because you know, 0:02:15.080 --> 0:02:18.040 I am, you know, the CEO of Staff Based Planners, 0:02:18.040 --> 0:02:20.320 and I'm known online for organization and all the things. 0:02:20.360 --> 0:02:23.120 But the reason I'm organized is because I'm a mess 0:02:23.360 --> 0:02:27.000 and that's just a place I got to over time. 0:02:27.760 --> 0:02:30.919 And the book goes on about, you know, my chaotic 0:02:30.960 --> 0:02:33.720 childhood that was shaped by trauma, binge drinking. You know, 0:02:34.240 --> 0:02:36.679 the themes in my book is actually insane, Like you 0:02:36.680 --> 0:02:39.600 would think that I'm about eighty years old when you 0:02:39.639 --> 0:02:42.120 read this, but it goes through you know, disordered eating, 0:02:42.240 --> 0:02:46.160 binge drinking, heartbreak, EIGHTYHD, anxiety and you know, the tangled 0:02:46.200 --> 0:02:49.560 mess of the nineties, the girlhood for us, you know, 0:02:49.600 --> 0:02:52.520 body image and growing up with the Biggest Loser and 0:02:52.520 --> 0:02:55.880 all these magazine titles that we see at the checkout 0:02:55.880 --> 0:02:57.840 when we're with our parents and we wonder why we 0:02:57.919 --> 0:03:00.080 have issues, you know what I mean? But yeah, I 0:03:00.160 --> 0:03:02.520 just feel like if you knew my story and where 0:03:02.560 --> 0:03:05.240 I am now, it would make you see that. Literally, 0:03:05.240 --> 0:03:08.400 if I can do the things, you can do the things. 0:03:08.639 --> 0:03:11.400 But yeah, writing this book was just something that was 0:03:11.480 --> 0:03:14.399 just I kind of explained, like Ryan was just such 0:03:14.440 --> 0:03:15.959 a legend and he just he literally would have to 0:03:16.000 --> 0:03:18.440 peel me off the floor most days. But it was 0:03:18.480 --> 0:03:22.920 just the most incredible. But like it was just I 0:03:22.960 --> 0:03:25.760 feel like authors are actually athletes, to be honest, But 0:03:25.840 --> 0:03:30.440 it was just it was beautiful, intimidating, you know, exhausting, 0:03:30.560 --> 0:03:32.280 and I have to say it's kind of on par 0:03:32.440 --> 0:03:36.240 with childbirth, I feel, because you've seen true Steph form. 0:03:36.520 --> 0:03:38.000 I started writing the book for a couple of years, 0:03:38.040 --> 0:03:40.280 like I've had this secret for years, and then you know, 0:03:40.480 --> 0:03:42.480 the Jew Day was coming up, the Jew date that 0:03:42.520 --> 0:03:44.400 makes sense, the deadline was coming up, and I ended 0:03:44.440 --> 0:03:46.040 up rewriting the whole book in three months. So I 0:03:46.040 --> 0:03:48.520 wrote two hundred and forty thousand words in three months. 0:03:48.840 --> 0:03:51.040 So apparently I have a lot to say. And I 0:03:51.080 --> 0:03:52.720 do feel like I used up all my words because 0:03:52.720 --> 0:03:54.880 I became a potato for a few months and couldn't 0:03:54.880 --> 0:03:57.720 speak English, and during that time, I think I was 0:03:57.720 --> 0:04:00.880 about eighty percent Indian food and my Uber eats bill 0:04:01.000 --> 0:04:04.240 was very offensive. But that's what I've been doing, guys, 0:04:04.280 --> 0:04:07.320 and I again, I'm just so so grateful. So if 0:04:07.360 --> 0:04:09.320 you haven't read my book, make sure you go to 0:04:09.360 --> 0:04:12.040 your bookstore or you can go online your Amazon. And 0:04:12.080 --> 0:04:13.680 I also have an audio book, so if you want 0:04:13.720 --> 0:04:15.720 to hear my voice even more, then you're going to 0:04:15.720 --> 0:04:17.960 hear it now every single week you can jump on 0:04:18.080 --> 0:04:20.400 and listen to me tell my story. But I just 0:04:20.400 --> 0:04:23.440 want to say yeah, thank you again, and I just 0:04:23.600 --> 0:04:26.760 I can't wait. And in terms of Stepping Up, Stepping 0:04:26.839 --> 0:04:30.800 Up is now part of the Nova podcast Network. Wow, 0:04:31.080 --> 0:04:35.800 like whoa, okay, crazy, it's insane. But before I get 0:04:35.839 --> 0:04:38.720 stuck into it, I basically just wanted to give you 0:04:38.720 --> 0:04:40.560 a little run down. If you are an OG or 0:04:40.600 --> 0:04:42.640 maybe this is the first time you're listening, what can 0:04:42.680 --> 0:04:46.000 you expect from Stepping Up? And I promise I won't 0:04:46.000 --> 0:04:47.600 harp on too much and I'll get straight into it. 0:04:47.920 --> 0:04:49.320 But you know, whether you've been here from the early 0:04:49.400 --> 0:04:52.040 days or you're literally listening for the first time, Stepping 0:04:52.120 --> 0:04:55.279 Up is basically your best Bogan friend in your ear, 0:04:56.920 --> 0:05:00.560 being very open and too honest at time, but I'm 0:05:00.560 --> 0:05:02.520 your go to guy for every single week to help 0:05:02.560 --> 0:05:06.279 you overcome the overwhelm and learn not only life changing hacks, 0:05:06.480 --> 0:05:08.800 but also learn a little bit more about yourself every 0:05:08.839 --> 0:05:12.120 week and the mess that comes with being human. This 0:05:12.200 --> 0:05:14.760 podcast is not for you know, the type a's or 0:05:14.800 --> 0:05:17.120 the people that have, you know, a bloody alarm clock 0:05:17.160 --> 0:05:19.279 integrated into their brain. This is for the messy minds 0:05:19.279 --> 0:05:22.200 of the world, and you know, the people who might 0:05:22.240 --> 0:05:24.560 feel a little bit behind or that you know, everyone 0:05:24.600 --> 0:05:27.520 else around you seem to have got a manual for life, 0:05:27.600 --> 0:05:29.960 and yours is from team and it smells funny. I 0:05:29.960 --> 0:05:31.960 won't like that line. I actually wrote it in my book, 0:05:31.960 --> 0:05:33.440 but it's really funny and I had to say it. 0:05:34.080 --> 0:05:36.760 I talk about mastering your mess, you know, like routines 0:05:36.800 --> 0:05:40.159 for real life. So like you see all these routines 0:05:40.160 --> 0:05:42.560 on bloody TikTok and stuff, and they're just not They're 0:05:42.560 --> 0:05:45.120 not sustainable and they're not really stick like bloody people 0:05:45.200 --> 0:05:47.320 getting up at four o'clock in the morning and you know, 0:05:47.480 --> 0:05:50.680 just running two marathons and doing all this crap, and 0:05:50.720 --> 0:05:53.719 it's like it's just not sustainable. So my stance on 0:05:53.760 --> 0:05:55.320 all of this stuff, which I do talk about in 0:05:55.320 --> 0:05:59.120 my book, is having routines that are able to evolve 0:05:59.160 --> 0:06:01.240 with you through your life. And also you don't wake 0:06:01.320 --> 0:06:03.279 up feeling the same every day. You know, some days 0:06:03.320 --> 0:06:05.440 you wake up and you feel one hundred percent and 0:06:05.480 --> 0:06:09.160 you're just annoyingly energetic, and that version of you can yes, 0:06:09.279 --> 0:06:11.039 do all the things, but a lot of the time 0:06:11.080 --> 0:06:12.920 you'll wake up and you won't feel so great. You'll 0:06:12.920 --> 0:06:15.920 feel like a potato and that's okay. So I'm gonna 0:06:15.960 --> 0:06:19.600 be taking you through you know, ADHD, mental health, motherhood business, 0:06:19.680 --> 0:06:22.159 all those things, and also how to teach you how 0:06:22.240 --> 0:06:25.280 to stop being an asshole to yourself, because that's that's 0:06:25.320 --> 0:06:27.000 a big one that we all tend to do. So 0:06:27.520 --> 0:06:30.560 this isn't going to be you know, the fluffy you know, 0:06:30.600 --> 0:06:34.520 mindset shifts that are overly complicated, and it's gonna be 0:06:34.600 --> 0:06:37.200 just really honest conversations that I wish I had with 0:06:37.240 --> 0:06:40.680 someone years ago, and realistic advice that you can actually 0:06:40.760 --> 0:06:42.880 use that you don't just like pop on a vision 0:06:42.880 --> 0:06:45.440 board and then it stays there. So if you're in 0:06:45.480 --> 0:06:47.880 a season where you're feeling like behind, burnt out and 0:06:47.920 --> 0:06:50.719 you just you're just barely surviving, this is the place 0:06:50.720 --> 0:06:53.680 for you, my friend. And welcome. We have T shirts 0:06:55.080 --> 0:06:56.880 so I'm here to help you step up into the 0:06:56.880 --> 0:07:00.920 best version of yourself, which is the happiest version of yourself. Now, 0:07:00.960 --> 0:07:03.000 before I get into it, to celebrate the relaunch of 0:07:03.000 --> 0:07:05.640 Stepping Up, I'm actually giving away some free shit. So 0:07:06.200 --> 0:07:08.000 all you have to do is snap a photo of 0:07:08.000 --> 0:07:11.960 yourself on Instagram of you listening to this podcast, to 0:07:12.040 --> 0:07:15.560 this very episode, and tag Stepping Up on Instagram. And 0:07:15.600 --> 0:07:17.000 also if you want to tag me as well, that 0:07:17.000 --> 0:07:19.840 would be great. And I'll be picking a person that's 0:07:19.880 --> 0:07:21.920 going to win one hundred dollars staff based planners of 0:07:21.960 --> 0:07:24.720 voucher to help me get organized for twenty twenty six 0:07:25.360 --> 0:07:27.280 and I'm going to be announcing that by the end 0:07:27.280 --> 0:07:28.760 of the month, so make sure you keep an eye 0:07:28.760 --> 0:07:30.880 out on socials for that. But for the rest of 0:07:30.960 --> 0:07:32.920 you who don't win this prize pack, I've actually got 0:07:33.080 --> 0:07:35.440 the best free beat in this episode that's going to 0:07:35.480 --> 0:07:38.640 help you reset for twenty twenty six. Now, I'm well 0:07:38.640 --> 0:07:42.000 aware it's February, but I have a very good reason 0:07:42.000 --> 0:07:44.720 as to why I wait until now to do my reset, 0:07:45.280 --> 0:07:47.880 and I'll be getting into that very soon. But this 0:07:48.000 --> 0:07:51.040 download is going to be gold for you. It is 0:07:51.240 --> 0:07:53.800 the guide for the messy minds to Reset for the year, 0:07:54.080 --> 0:07:56.160 I thought for the first episode back, I wanted to 0:07:56.240 --> 0:07:59.080 do something a little bit special, So I have decided 0:07:59.080 --> 0:08:01.480 to do a bit of a straight off the bat, 0:08:01.600 --> 0:08:04.920 and it's going to be called Mastering Your Messy Life. Now, 0:08:05.000 --> 0:08:08.000 I'm aware I've completely ripped off my own book title 0:08:08.080 --> 0:08:10.840 for this, but you know, it's repurposing. It's fine. This 0:08:11.000 --> 0:08:13.120 is going to be a series where I'm going to 0:08:13.160 --> 0:08:16.240 be helping you do exactly that, master your mess and 0:08:16.360 --> 0:08:18.200 naturally I'll be giving you all the tips and tricks 0:08:18.200 --> 0:08:21.480 throughout and it's going to be like very realistic and digestible. 0:08:21.880 --> 0:08:23.760 So I'm holding your hand through the process. We're going 0:08:23.800 --> 0:08:26.000 to do this together. During this series, I'm want to 0:08:26.000 --> 0:08:27.960 be covering how to reset for the year, as I said, 0:08:28.240 --> 0:08:31.280 but also things about you know, organization, decluttering and of 0:08:31.320 --> 0:08:34.160 course planning for messy minds. You know, I know there's 0:08:34.200 --> 0:08:37.000 so many podcasts and you know content out right now, 0:08:37.080 --> 0:08:39.120 especially that you would have already seen a lot of 0:08:39.200 --> 0:08:43.160 because it's February of you know, resolutions and these like 0:08:43.400 --> 0:08:45.960 you know, just locking in And I hate that term 0:08:46.040 --> 0:08:47.880 locking in. I know it's trending at the moment, but 0:08:48.080 --> 0:08:51.160 it's not what we want to be doing. Because what 0:08:51.200 --> 0:08:53.280 you need to understand is when we put all this 0:08:53.360 --> 0:08:56.880 pressure on ourselves, you can't hate yourself into being a 0:08:56.920 --> 0:09:01.640 happier person. That's not progress. You can't yourself into growing 0:09:01.679 --> 0:09:04.480 and changing and evolving, and you can't hate yourself into 0:09:04.480 --> 0:09:07.520 becoming your best self. But that's what it seems to be. 0:09:07.600 --> 0:09:09.280 It's like, and I look, I could love you know, 0:09:09.320 --> 0:09:13.800 disciplines important, but our language surrounding it is so so 0:09:13.960 --> 0:09:16.199 crucial to make sure that's correct. And I'm going to 0:09:16.240 --> 0:09:20.360 talk about that really soon. So for this episode, I'm 0:09:20.360 --> 0:09:22.360 going to be holding your hand to do a realistic 0:09:22.400 --> 0:09:25.600 reset for twenty twenty six, and I'm also going to 0:09:25.600 --> 0:09:27.640 tell you why you've never been able to actually stick 0:09:27.679 --> 0:09:30.959 to your New Year's resolutions. And honestly, it's not just you, 0:09:31.200 --> 0:09:33.680 it's pretty much everyone. And we're going to stop hitting 0:09:33.679 --> 0:09:37.200 our heads against the wall and wondering why it's never 0:09:37.240 --> 0:09:39.760 worked before. And of course I will be giving you 0:09:39.800 --> 0:09:42.720 a realistic itinery to help you manage your mess in 0:09:42.800 --> 0:09:44.480 just three days at the end of this episode, and 0:09:44.520 --> 0:09:46.600 it's going to just be so good for you, and 0:09:46.640 --> 0:09:49.199 it's not going to be crazy like Susi who runs 0:09:49.240 --> 0:09:51.480 ten k's in the morning by four am and she's 0:09:51.480 --> 0:09:54.079 made organic water and she's meditated on a rock for 0:09:54.120 --> 0:09:55.920 four hours. It's not going to be anything like that, Okay, 0:09:55.960 --> 0:09:59.720 it's going to be for you and everyone is different. Now. 0:10:00.040 --> 0:10:01.800 I don't know about you guys, but the start of 0:10:01.800 --> 0:10:04.760 the new year is a lot. It feels really really heavy, 0:10:05.280 --> 0:10:07.439 and we all tend to put a lot of pressure 0:10:07.480 --> 0:10:10.360 on ourselves at the start of a new year. You know, 0:10:10.640 --> 0:10:14.840 for me personally, I don't even look at resetting myself. 0:10:14.960 --> 0:10:17.400 I don't even look at maybe you know, goals or 0:10:17.400 --> 0:10:19.480 anything which I don't call them goals, which I'll get 0:10:19.520 --> 0:10:23.480 into later until you know, earliest mid January for me, 0:10:23.720 --> 0:10:26.280 like we've just gotten out of the holiday season, like 0:10:26.320 --> 0:10:29.320 that was wild. I'm from November till the end of 0:10:29.400 --> 0:10:34.080 jan I'm just done, and honestly, I'm still like my 0:10:34.280 --> 0:10:36.520 life is still a mess at this point. But the 0:10:36.559 --> 0:10:39.000 thing is, it's like you need to have these little 0:10:39.040 --> 0:10:43.360 systems in place so you can survive, and sometimes things 0:10:43.360 --> 0:10:45.080 get put on the back burner and that's fine, but 0:10:45.600 --> 0:10:47.760 you need to make sure. You know. I heard this 0:10:47.840 --> 0:10:51.280 saying once that we're all juggling you know balls, Well 0:10:51.400 --> 0:10:54.400 that sounded weird. We're all juggling balls, and then some 0:10:54.440 --> 0:10:56.880 of those balls are glass, and you need to realize 0:10:57.000 --> 0:11:00.000 which ones you can drop versus the ones you can't. 0:11:00.360 --> 0:11:04.400 So obviously some balls, wow, this is weird, are really important, 0:11:04.400 --> 0:11:08.400 so you know, like family, your relationship, health, those things 0:11:08.440 --> 0:11:10.319 like that. So you've got to figure out like maybe 0:11:10.360 --> 0:11:12.960 some of those balls are plastic and they're not so important, 0:11:13.000 --> 0:11:16.280 like keeping up social media or what Margaret from Accounts 0:11:16.320 --> 0:11:19.160 thinks about you. You've got to pick what's important to you. 0:11:20.080 --> 0:11:22.440 So this leads me to why is it so important 0:11:22.480 --> 0:11:25.200 to reset for a new year. The main reason for 0:11:25.280 --> 0:11:27.960 this is so we can be intentional and not reactive. Now, 0:11:28.080 --> 0:11:30.920 let's be honest, we're not toddlers anymore. Although I may 0:11:31.040 --> 0:11:32.880 still cry if I don't get the pink cup. It's 0:11:32.920 --> 0:11:35.720 an autistic thing. And it's also to keep your daily 0:11:35.800 --> 0:11:38.440 routines in check so you can see what's working, but 0:11:38.679 --> 0:11:43.120 more importantly, what's not working, because you can't keep repeating 0:11:43.160 --> 0:11:45.400 the same patterns over and over again and expect to 0:11:45.440 --> 0:11:49.280 feel better or to progress. It's also so begin to 0:11:49.320 --> 0:11:51.120 see what areas you need to focus on again. Like 0:11:51.120 --> 0:11:53.560 we're talking about the balls before. What areas have you 0:11:53.600 --> 0:11:56.560 been focusing too much on that maybe aren't beneficial for you? 0:11:56.800 --> 0:11:59.520 And what areas have you been you know, not focusing on, 0:12:00.080 --> 0:12:03.319 for example, you know, health or your relationship. And it's 0:12:03.320 --> 0:12:06.120 also a reminder of what you want in life, and 0:12:06.160 --> 0:12:08.000 that's the biggest thing. A lot of the time we 0:12:08.120 --> 0:12:11.800 forget that. External pressures do tend to make you think 0:12:12.240 --> 0:12:14.520 the goals you have in place are for you, but 0:12:14.559 --> 0:12:16.959 then maybe not for me. A big one is it's 0:12:16.960 --> 0:12:20.440 to help the house run smoother. So little systems and 0:12:20.600 --> 0:12:22.480 packs that will teach you along the way that's actually 0:12:22.559 --> 0:12:24.960 going to help everyone in your household get along better 0:12:25.040 --> 0:12:28.440 because unfortunately we can't banish our family and we're going 0:12:28.480 --> 0:12:30.400 to be clearing out the clutter and getting on top 0:12:30.440 --> 0:12:33.200 of money goals. Now, before I take you through this process, 0:12:33.240 --> 0:12:35.320 it's really important for you to understand why you've never 0:12:35.360 --> 0:12:38.640 been able to stick to a new Year's resolution. And again, 0:12:38.679 --> 0:12:40.800 it's not just you, it's everyone. It's just like the 0:12:40.840 --> 0:12:43.640 first of January comes around and we automatically feel that 0:12:43.679 --> 0:12:47.160 we have to completely reinvent ourselves and become the best 0:12:47.240 --> 0:12:50.480 version of ourselves. And I personally don't like the term 0:12:50.559 --> 0:12:53.480 New Year's resolutions. The word resolution, I do not like 0:12:53.559 --> 0:12:56.319 it because it kind of implies that you're a problem 0:12:56.320 --> 0:12:59.360 that needs to be resolved, and that's a lot of 0:12:59.400 --> 0:13:01.760 how we actually think of our selves. Think about when 0:13:01.800 --> 0:13:03.640 you have a goal in place and you don't reach it, 0:13:03.679 --> 0:13:08.319 you automatically start, you know, crucifying yourself. And as I said, 0:13:08.360 --> 0:13:11.640 you can't hate yourself into being better. So instead of resolutions, 0:13:11.679 --> 0:13:14.560 I like to use the word intentions because it feels 0:13:14.600 --> 0:13:17.520 a lot less heavy and this kind of language. I'm 0:13:17.520 --> 0:13:19.800 actually going to talk a bit about later, and I'm 0:13:19.800 --> 0:13:21.960 going to even evolve that even further to make it 0:13:22.000 --> 0:13:25.840 more fun, because when things are fun, the pressure comes 0:13:25.880 --> 0:13:27.719 off and you actually start to enjoy it as well, 0:13:27.760 --> 0:13:30.360 you enjoy the journey there. I've actually got some really 0:13:30.400 --> 0:13:32.160 insane stats that are going to make you feel a 0:13:32.200 --> 0:13:35.280 lot better as well, because did you know there is 0:13:35.320 --> 0:13:40.080 a date every year, there's a universal date that majority 0:13:40.120 --> 0:13:44.280 of people end up breaking their resolutions. And it's probably 0:13:44.320 --> 0:13:45.960 not the date you would think. You would probably think 0:13:46.000 --> 0:13:47.960 I'm going to say March or something, but it's actually 0:13:48.080 --> 0:13:52.480 January twelfth. Yes, isn't that wild? By the twelfth day, 0:13:52.520 --> 0:13:55.320 people have mostly given up, and that just goes to 0:13:55.360 --> 0:13:58.000 show how much everyone does that all or nothing mentality. 0:13:58.520 --> 0:14:02.360 It's like I always have about the bandwagon. Everyone is 0:14:02.400 --> 0:14:04.880 always so upset when they fall off the bandwagon, and 0:14:04.960 --> 0:14:07.880 you've got to remember, there is no bandwagon. There's just life. 0:14:08.120 --> 0:14:11.200 Because the thing is we built the bandwagon with, you know, 0:14:11.280 --> 0:14:13.360 growing up with you know, as I said, the biggest loser, 0:14:13.400 --> 0:14:15.560 and all these expectations we put on ourselves and what 0:14:15.600 --> 0:14:18.680 we think society thinks we should be. And then we 0:14:18.720 --> 0:14:21.960 wonder why when we set these crazy goals, why we 0:14:21.960 --> 0:14:24.600 can't keep up when the wagon picks up speed and 0:14:24.640 --> 0:14:27.680 it starts hammering down the road and it gets bumpy. 0:14:27.760 --> 0:14:30.120 And then when we fall on our ass, instead of 0:14:30.120 --> 0:14:32.600 blaming the wagon, and we blame ourselves because we couldn't 0:14:32.640 --> 0:14:35.160 hang on tight enough. You just need to start seeing 0:14:35.200 --> 0:14:38.400 it as a thing that is like, it's not real 0:14:38.480 --> 0:14:40.440 and it's not there, and it's a pressure we put 0:14:40.480 --> 0:14:43.840 on ourselves. Another really interesting statistic I found on this 0:14:44.040 --> 0:14:47.000 is that thirty four percent of news resolutions are about 0:14:47.040 --> 0:14:50.000 eating healthier, thirty three percent is about losing weight, and 0:14:50.040 --> 0:14:53.120 thirty one percent is about improving fitness, and it really 0:14:53.120 --> 0:14:56.360 does show the trend of how heavily health focused we are. 0:14:56.960 --> 0:15:00.360 We are literally hating our way into being healthy. And 0:15:01.480 --> 0:15:04.080 the thing about this is like, we can't just focus 0:15:04.120 --> 0:15:07.160 on one area of our life. We are multi dimensional people. 0:15:07.520 --> 0:15:09.960 We have the career, we have kids, and if you 0:15:10.000 --> 0:15:14.400 don't pay attention to different areas, we start neglecting things. 0:15:14.400 --> 0:15:15.680 And this is what I'm going to be taking you 0:15:15.720 --> 0:15:19.080 through in the process. So this leads me on to 0:15:19.120 --> 0:15:21.840 my very first point, and we need to switch up 0:15:21.880 --> 0:15:26.120 your mindset and language around this. So now what I 0:15:26.160 --> 0:15:28.280 want you to do. Instead of thinking about New Year's 0:15:28.320 --> 0:15:31.320 resolutions as rules you need to follow, because when you 0:15:31.360 --> 0:15:33.960 think about resolutions, it sounds like a contract or a 0:15:33.960 --> 0:15:36.800 deadline or something that you either as successful with or 0:15:36.840 --> 0:15:39.640 you fail. I want you to start thinking of them 0:15:39.680 --> 0:15:42.800 as the plot of your next chapter. That's right. I 0:15:42.800 --> 0:15:45.880 want you to start seeing yourself as the character, and 0:15:45.920 --> 0:15:48.800 then you're going to be planning your story as the author. 0:15:49.280 --> 0:15:51.520 So because when you think of the story or the plot, 0:15:51.760 --> 0:15:55.000 it seems more flexible, more human, evolving, and a lot 0:15:55.040 --> 0:15:58.800 more fun than a bloody resolution. And you're not going 0:15:58.880 --> 0:16:01.480 to be trying to fix but rather you start to 0:16:01.480 --> 0:16:04.200 see it as where will the story go next? And 0:16:04.240 --> 0:16:06.000 of course there's gonna be plot holes, like there's always 0:16:06.000 --> 0:16:08.560 gonna be plot holes, like someone gets sick, you know, 0:16:08.680 --> 0:16:11.800 the bloody dog spit on the rug again. Things happen. 0:16:11.920 --> 0:16:14.520 That's fine. But when you start to switch things from 0:16:14.600 --> 0:16:17.160 this is happening to me to this is happening to 0:16:17.200 --> 0:16:20.240 the character, you're able to be a bit more objective 0:16:20.480 --> 0:16:23.120 because have a thing about it. You know, say, for example, 0:16:23.160 --> 0:16:26.200 you're going through something really really hard. Maybe you know 0:16:26.720 --> 0:16:29.800 you're in a breakup, or you've just been really struggling. 0:16:29.840 --> 0:16:32.440 You're burnt out, and you expect yourself just to get 0:16:32.480 --> 0:16:34.640 over it. But if your best friend was going through that, 0:16:35.120 --> 0:16:38.000 you wouldn't expect that from them, And that's because you're 0:16:38.320 --> 0:16:40.880 removing yourself from the situation. It's more objective when it's 0:16:40.920 --> 0:16:43.400 another person. So when you start to see yourself as 0:16:43.400 --> 0:16:46.040 a character, you start to see it more as a 0:16:46.080 --> 0:16:48.640 third person. You're able to be more objective, a bit 0:16:48.680 --> 0:16:52.160 more compassionate for them, whereas when it's you, you're not 0:16:52.200 --> 0:16:55.760 the same. That's because we view our own experiences from 0:16:55.800 --> 0:16:59.280 within our emotions, and there's guilt, shame, and pressure, and 0:16:59.320 --> 0:17:01.920 you think, why I get it together, But when it's 0:17:01.920 --> 0:17:05.320 happening to a character, you're not gonna be yelling at them, 0:17:05.520 --> 0:17:09.080 because that's like expecting a character to improve. Or you know, 0:17:09.119 --> 0:17:11.159 even your children. When your children are doing something, are 0:17:11.200 --> 0:17:12.800 you gonna be yelling at them to do better? And 0:17:12.800 --> 0:17:15.919 do you think that would actually work? No, definitely not. 0:17:17.280 --> 0:17:18.879 And then your brain will switch from being on the 0:17:18.880 --> 0:17:21.920 inside to watching them from the outside, and suddenly you're 0:17:21.960 --> 0:17:24.800 no longer harsh your understanding. And that's the bloody key 0:17:25.000 --> 0:17:27.720 right there. For example, when I was writing my book, 0:17:27.760 --> 0:17:31.600 I was feeling so much mum guilt because I just 0:17:31.840 --> 0:17:33.480 wasn't able to be as present with the girls, and 0:17:33.480 --> 0:17:36.280 I just felt absolutely terrible, and I was just thinking, 0:17:36.320 --> 0:17:38.639 you know, I am not doing enough. I should be 0:17:38.720 --> 0:17:40.400 doing better. I need to get up earlier. And guys, 0:17:40.440 --> 0:17:42.040 I was getting up at like bloody four o'clock in 0:17:42.080 --> 0:17:44.080 the morning to write all day and all night, and 0:17:44.119 --> 0:17:46.159 I couldn't do any better. But when I start to 0:17:46.160 --> 0:17:49.399 look at it more objectively, like at my character, I 0:17:49.400 --> 0:17:53.240 can see why she's tired as in Steph, I can 0:17:53.280 --> 0:17:55.320 see why I wasn't able to keep up with certain 0:17:55.359 --> 0:17:57.399 healthy habits and why I wasn't able to be a 0:17:57.440 --> 0:17:59.679 super present mum and I can see what she was 0:17:59.680 --> 0:18:03.600 carrying because the distance alone softens the emotional charge of it. 0:18:04.160 --> 0:18:06.159 So here's the shift. This is how we're going to 0:18:06.160 --> 0:18:08.159 do it. The character is you living it, and the 0:18:08.200 --> 0:18:10.280 author is you planning it because you get to have 0:18:10.320 --> 0:18:12.160 fun with it. So I want you to really think 0:18:12.200 --> 0:18:15.760 about what does this character need in this next chapter 0:18:16.280 --> 0:18:19.720 for twenty twenty six, and what's realistic for them right now? 0:18:19.800 --> 0:18:21.880 So before you set any goals or intentions or whatever 0:18:21.920 --> 0:18:24.640 you want to call it, before you outline your new plot, 0:18:25.040 --> 0:18:27.800 what is realistic for them right now and what would 0:18:27.800 --> 0:18:31.280 help them grow without breaking them. I'm talking being realistic 0:18:31.320 --> 0:18:34.320 here because you need to realize intentions need to be 0:18:34.359 --> 0:18:37.719 set with compassion, not pressure. So now we've fixed our 0:18:37.800 --> 0:18:40.159 language around the subject. We are now the character and 0:18:40.200 --> 0:18:42.840 we are now also the author. That's going to remove 0:18:42.840 --> 0:18:45.760 the shame. It's going to make planning feel safer and 0:18:45.760 --> 0:18:48.080 not so scary, and it's going to stop them all 0:18:48.160 --> 0:18:51.960 or nothing thinking and also creating that emotional distance. But 0:18:52.119 --> 0:18:54.560 what you need to think of now also is you 0:18:54.600 --> 0:18:56.320 know day to day life, we all tend to be 0:18:56.400 --> 0:18:59.240 quite negative. So we always say, like I do this 0:18:59.240 --> 0:19:01.000 all the time. I'll say, oh, I have to make dinner, 0:19:01.119 --> 0:19:03.159 I have to do this instead of I get to, 0:19:03.880 --> 0:19:06.359 or you say I should. Maybe you should say I'm 0:19:06.440 --> 0:19:09.240 choosing to, or you say I need to where maybe 0:19:09.240 --> 0:19:12.399 we should be saying this chapter requires. And when you 0:19:12.560 --> 0:19:14.919 change how you narrate your own story, that's when the 0:19:15.000 --> 0:19:18.080 mindset shifts. Really really bloody happen. And for me, I'm 0:19:18.160 --> 0:19:21.520 someone that I can be very bloody hard on myself. 0:19:21.600 --> 0:19:24.040 I have super high expectations of myself. But when I 0:19:24.040 --> 0:19:27.439 start to be really careful with how I'm talking to myself, 0:19:27.440 --> 0:19:29.600 because let's be honest, I talk to myself all the time, 0:19:30.160 --> 0:19:33.560 that's when I feel a lot more safe. Like even guys, 0:19:33.560 --> 0:19:36.080 I've been posting on bloody Instagram for ten years, I 0:19:36.119 --> 0:19:38.760 still get anxiety before I post. It makes no sense 0:19:38.760 --> 0:19:41.280 at all, Like I literally had this post ready the 0:19:41.320 --> 0:19:43.760 other week. It was ready for three weeks and I 0:19:43.800 --> 0:19:46.119 just wouldn't post it. It was a carousel post and 0:19:46.160 --> 0:19:47.840 it was about me talking about how I kind of 0:19:47.840 --> 0:19:50.359 found myself again after feeling like I was in a 0:19:50.400 --> 0:19:53.000 huge slump for so long, and I thought that post 0:19:53.040 --> 0:19:55.680 was terrible, and then I finally posted it three weeks 0:19:55.720 --> 0:19:57.359 later because I was like, I have nothing else to 0:19:57.400 --> 0:20:00.320 go up, and it went so well. It was to 0:20:00.320 --> 0:20:02.439 show that we are literally the biggest assholes to ourselves. 0:20:02.520 --> 0:20:03.960 We just need to loosen our grip a little bit 0:20:04.280 --> 0:20:06.600 before I move on from changing up the language. I 0:20:06.600 --> 0:20:10.480 actually saw this quote on Instagram and it really woke 0:20:10.560 --> 0:20:14.320 me up because I can be quite negative. I won't lie. 0:20:14.720 --> 0:20:16.840 My name was always such a positive woman, and I 0:20:16.920 --> 0:20:19.760 always she had like the hardest life, but she was 0:20:19.800 --> 0:20:22.439 just so positive. She was someone that was a glass 0:20:22.480 --> 0:20:24.240 half full but grateful to have a glass in the 0:20:24.240 --> 0:20:27.520 first place kind of person, and she was just so inspiring. 0:20:27.560 --> 0:20:30.080 But I do find myself being quite negative, especially when 0:20:30.080 --> 0:20:31.640 I have a lot of deadlines and things like that, 0:20:32.000 --> 0:20:33.800 and it's over the things I love, Like I love 0:20:33.840 --> 0:20:36.440 what I do. I make planners, I get to create 0:20:36.480 --> 0:20:38.479 content with you guys, I get to do all that stuff. 0:20:38.560 --> 0:20:41.000 But I saw this quote on Instagram and it said 0:20:41.000 --> 0:20:43.320 how lucky am I to be tired doing the things 0:20:43.359 --> 0:20:48.359 I once dreamed about? Like isn't that just mind blowing? 0:20:48.960 --> 0:20:51.600 You know? And it is one of those things that 0:20:51.960 --> 0:20:53.600 we do get caught up in the day to day 0:20:53.640 --> 0:20:55.920 so quickly and easily, and especially at the start of 0:20:55.920 --> 0:20:58.080 a new year, where we do forget to just slow 0:20:58.119 --> 0:21:00.480 down for a second and be like, I'm literally living 0:21:01.119 --> 0:21:03.840 the days I once dreamed of. Maybe if your kids 0:21:03.880 --> 0:21:06.320 are little, or you've had a little baby, or maybe 0:21:06.359 --> 0:21:08.760 you're you've got a new career and you don't have kids, 0:21:08.800 --> 0:21:11.160 But these are the days we're living right now, where 0:21:11.200 --> 0:21:12.920 one day, when we're eighty, we're going to look back 0:21:12.920 --> 0:21:14.679 and be like this, this was the good old days. 0:21:14.840 --> 0:21:18.040 We're living the good old days right now. So let's 0:21:18.119 --> 0:21:20.119 just all of us. One of our intentions we can 0:21:20.160 --> 0:21:22.320 make together is to just really have a check in 0:21:22.359 --> 0:21:25.639 with our language, because it's a big one. Now we're 0:21:25.680 --> 0:21:28.760 going to be moving on to the first official step 0:21:28.920 --> 0:21:32.560 of your twenty twenty six reset or your twenty twenty 0:21:32.560 --> 0:21:34.920 six plot. Now. In order for us to move forward, 0:21:35.000 --> 0:21:37.399 we do need to check the revision mirror. We need 0:21:37.480 --> 0:21:40.119 to look back and see the journey that we've just had, 0:21:40.320 --> 0:21:43.760 because you can't expect to grow and move forward if 0:21:43.800 --> 0:21:45.920 you keep repeating the same old patterns, Like I said, 0:21:46.040 --> 0:21:47.560 so you need to look in the mirror back there, 0:21:47.800 --> 0:21:50.400 see the road you've just driven on. See the potholes 0:21:50.440 --> 0:21:53.320 that U turns the detours. You know, maybe there was 0:21:53.320 --> 0:21:55.000 some angry drivers along the way that you need to 0:21:55.000 --> 0:21:58.240 avoid for this next season or next chapter for us 0:21:58.280 --> 0:22:01.160 in order to see where we can move forward. Now, 0:22:01.200 --> 0:22:03.600 your reflection questions are going to be in the free 0:22:03.640 --> 0:22:05.879 download that you can get in the show notes, and 0:22:05.920 --> 0:22:08.320 it's totally free and it's going to literally guide you 0:22:08.359 --> 0:22:11.040 through all of these steps. But some different types of 0:22:11.080 --> 0:22:13.400 questions I'm going to be asking you in this download 0:22:13.480 --> 0:22:15.840 are the following, and if you are a time Paul, 0:22:15.880 --> 0:22:17.399 you can answer them in your head right now. We 0:22:17.440 --> 0:22:19.680 can do that now, So a couple of these types 0:22:19.720 --> 0:22:23.399 of questions to help you really not only reflect on 0:22:23.480 --> 0:22:26.399 what you don't want, but also to see and highlight 0:22:26.440 --> 0:22:29.040 the winds, because the big thing with us as humans 0:22:29.160 --> 0:22:32.640 is we can achieve so much and we never will 0:22:32.720 --> 0:22:36.480 sit in that achievement. See, I'm someone that constantly moves 0:22:36.480 --> 0:22:38.639 the goalposts. I've been like that ever since I was little. 0:22:38.800 --> 0:22:41.440 I've always been like, oh, it's like shiny object syndrome 0:22:41.520 --> 0:22:43.679 or whatever they call it, Like the next thing, the 0:22:43.720 --> 0:22:46.520 next thing, and I'll hit a milestone, even milestones I've 0:22:46.560 --> 0:22:48.679 never even think I would before. Just like when I 0:22:48.680 --> 0:22:52.119 started my business, Staphe's Planners, my very first launch, like 0:22:52.640 --> 0:22:54.960 the plan is sold out straightaway, and I never in 0:22:55.000 --> 0:22:56.720 a million years would have thought that was going to happen. 0:22:57.160 --> 0:22:58.919 And yet I was onto the next thing and the 0:22:58.960 --> 0:23:01.360 next thing. And my thing is I've never been able 0:23:01.400 --> 0:23:04.120 to celebrate myself or my achievements because I never sit 0:23:04.200 --> 0:23:07.000 still long enough to do so. And there gets a 0:23:07.000 --> 0:23:10.399 certain point in our lives where we think we have 0:23:10.520 --> 0:23:12.679 goals that are for us, but they're actually not. And 0:23:12.720 --> 0:23:14.880 this is a question I think that would really it'll 0:23:14.880 --> 0:23:17.959 probably rattle you a little bit. But in terms of 0:23:18.320 --> 0:23:21.240 your intentions, goals, resolutions, whatever you want to call it, 0:23:21.320 --> 0:23:23.600 right now, the big things that you've always wanted to do, 0:23:23.760 --> 0:23:26.400 I want you to ask yourself, if no one was watching, 0:23:26.960 --> 0:23:29.439 would I still want these things? If there was no 0:23:29.480 --> 0:23:32.159 one sitting on the sidelines clapping me on and cheering 0:23:32.160 --> 0:23:35.560 me on, would I still want to reach that goalpost? 0:23:35.840 --> 0:23:38.960 And with that answer, that will make you realize if 0:23:39.119 --> 0:23:41.920 those goals are for them or for you or what 0:23:42.000 --> 0:23:45.240 you think other people want you to do. So once 0:23:45.240 --> 0:23:47.679 you've thought of that, I want you to start seeing 0:23:47.720 --> 0:23:51.320 your life and your intentions and goals through that lens, 0:23:51.680 --> 0:23:54.400 because at the end of the day, you don't want 0:23:54.440 --> 0:23:56.120 to get again to eight years old and look back 0:23:56.119 --> 0:23:58.840 and be like, I lived for them, I didn't live 0:23:58.880 --> 0:24:01.720 for me. That is so so important and for me, 0:24:01.840 --> 0:24:05.919 I am someone that I did. I've chased, you know, 0:24:05.960 --> 0:24:08.480 it definitely could be an ego thing, the validation, you know, 0:24:08.600 --> 0:24:11.960 chasing titles constantly so you feel like you're worthy. And 0:24:12.000 --> 0:24:14.399 then you look back and you're like, for what, what 0:24:14.520 --> 0:24:16.520 do I want to do? What do I want this 0:24:16.600 --> 0:24:19.639 next chapter and my twenty twenty six plot to actually 0:24:19.640 --> 0:24:22.440 look like for my character as the author, Because you're 0:24:22.440 --> 0:24:24.840 the author. You're writing your story. No one else, no 0:24:24.920 --> 0:24:27.800 one has their hand on yours with the pen and 0:24:27.880 --> 0:24:29.679 he's going to write your story for you anymore. This 0:24:29.720 --> 0:24:32.720 is the day you're going to stop that. Now it's 0:24:32.760 --> 0:24:35.040 time for you to like really reflect on any wins 0:24:35.080 --> 0:24:37.520 you had over the last year. And when I say wins, 0:24:37.560 --> 0:24:40.320 it could just be surviving the year. That's fine, bro, 0:24:40.400 --> 0:24:43.400 Like it's been a time, and it's been a time, and 0:24:43.520 --> 0:24:46.720 I want you to think about your habits. So now 0:24:46.760 --> 0:24:48.320 when I say this is a bit of like a 0:24:48.320 --> 0:24:50.800 little exercise you can do. You can draw up three 0:24:50.840 --> 0:24:53.320 columns and I want you to write on the left 0:24:53.359 --> 0:24:55.960 side stop and then the next one start and then 0:24:56.000 --> 0:24:58.840 stick with. And these are the habits that you need 0:24:58.840 --> 0:25:01.560 to list out under st start or stick with. So 0:25:01.960 --> 0:25:04.320 there's gonna be habits that you need to stop because 0:25:04.320 --> 0:25:05.680 they're not the best for you, They're not the best 0:25:05.720 --> 0:25:09.520 for your character. So for me, mine is scrolling past 0:25:09.600 --> 0:25:12.439 nine o'clock at night because there's a ripple effect on that, 0:25:12.480 --> 0:25:14.080 and then I don't sleep, and then I can't get 0:25:14.160 --> 0:25:16.240 up earlier, can't do my morning routine and feel good. 0:25:16.280 --> 0:25:17.760 So that's a habit I would stop, and then a 0:25:17.800 --> 0:25:20.000 habit you would start. So list out some habits that 0:25:20.040 --> 0:25:21.960 you want to start. So some for me would be 0:25:22.440 --> 0:25:25.120 more quality one or one time with my kids, especially 0:25:25.119 --> 0:25:27.119 like putting the phone in my drawer, like in a 0:25:27.200 --> 0:25:31.600 draw because having that physical distance from your phone, like 0:25:31.760 --> 0:25:34.520 that barrier, you'll, honestly, I want you to give it 0:25:34.560 --> 0:25:35.760 a try at home. If you're at home now, I 0:25:35.840 --> 0:25:38.760 want you to grab your phone unless you're listening to 0:25:38.760 --> 0:25:40.280 me on it, and chuck it in the drawer and 0:25:40.280 --> 0:25:43.120 shut it and you'll feel lighter instantly it's actually insane. 0:25:43.720 --> 0:25:45.520 And then you're gonna list out some habits that you 0:25:45.520 --> 0:25:48.280 want to stick with. So once habits that you're already 0:25:48.320 --> 0:25:50.640 doing that are actually you know, they make you feel 0:25:50.640 --> 0:25:52.760 good or maybe they're fun, and you're gonna stick with 0:25:52.840 --> 0:25:55.560 it because it is important with this process that yes, 0:25:55.640 --> 0:25:57.600 we look at things we need to stop or start, 0:25:57.920 --> 0:25:59.760 but it's also good to be able to celebrate yourself 0:25:59.800 --> 0:26:01.399 from remember how I said we need to be still 0:26:01.480 --> 0:26:05.000 long enough to appreciate our achievements. That is that So 0:26:05.080 --> 0:26:07.879 maybe you're reading again, or maybe you're going for a 0:26:07.920 --> 0:26:10.160 walk every day, like that's something to celebrate. So look 0:26:10.160 --> 0:26:12.000 at your habits that you're already doing and you have 0:26:12.119 --> 0:26:15.080 been doing that you want to stick with. One really 0:26:15.119 --> 0:26:18.200 important question which is going to make you realize how 0:26:18.320 --> 0:26:20.960 much of an asshole you've been to yourself, is how 0:26:21.000 --> 0:26:23.479 well did I take care of myself this year? Like 0:26:23.680 --> 0:26:25.960 was your character looked after? Did you look after her? 0:26:26.680 --> 0:26:28.399 Did she have time for herself, did she get to 0:26:28.400 --> 0:26:31.560 have fun, did she get to socialize? All that type 0:26:31.560 --> 0:26:34.480 of stuff. And that's going to really help you kind 0:26:34.480 --> 0:26:36.440 of zoom out, because if you have the ability to 0:26:36.520 --> 0:26:38.920 zoom out on your life and what you're doing. That's 0:26:38.920 --> 0:26:40.439 where you can really see the areas that you've been 0:26:40.520 --> 0:26:42.960 lacking in as well, which is not a negative thing, 0:26:43.040 --> 0:26:46.160 like it's fine, Like we are human. I've always said 0:26:46.200 --> 0:26:49.760 that balance is bullshit because we are never able to 0:26:50.080 --> 0:26:53.679 be equally across everything in our lives. It's actually impossible, 0:26:54.000 --> 0:26:56.159 because there is going to be some seasons or chapters 0:26:56.200 --> 0:26:59.080 where my kids require more of my attention, or there's 0:26:59.080 --> 0:27:01.120 going to be a season or to where work needs 0:27:01.160 --> 0:27:05.280 more of my attention, because I can't possibly spread myself 0:27:05.320 --> 0:27:07.280 that thin across everything and be good at all of 0:27:07.280 --> 0:27:09.800 it at the same time. So I think balance. I 0:27:09.800 --> 0:27:13.360 don't think it's a negative idea, but I think it's impossible. 0:27:14.119 --> 0:27:16.159 And it's like that saying, I don't know if you 0:27:16.160 --> 0:27:18.439 guys would have probably heard this, it's the way you 0:27:18.480 --> 0:27:20.439 do one thing is how you do everything. And I 0:27:20.480 --> 0:27:23.760 call bullshit on that because the way I am three 0:27:23.760 --> 0:27:25.960 weeks behind on emails or life admin is not the 0:27:25.960 --> 0:27:28.720 same way I shop to my kids awards, and the 0:27:28.760 --> 0:27:31.920 way I'm really badly folding my laundry is not the 0:27:31.960 --> 0:27:34.280 same way I show up at work. Like there is 0:27:34.400 --> 0:27:36.560 duality and being a human We're not going to be 0:27:36.640 --> 0:27:39.679 We can't be consistent across everything. I can't, and I 0:27:39.720 --> 0:27:42.800 just think that saying is just setting people up for 0:27:42.920 --> 0:27:46.560 failure because I genuinely wouldn't have that energy to be 0:27:46.600 --> 0:27:48.880 able to put in one hundred percent everywhere in my life. 0:27:49.000 --> 0:27:51.360 So I think once you realize that, and you can 0:27:51.400 --> 0:27:55.920 see that your character isn't really striving for balance, They're 0:27:55.920 --> 0:27:59.440 striving to be seen and to be understood by you 0:28:00.040 --> 0:28:02.679 the author. Now we've done the first step of our 0:28:02.720 --> 0:28:07.399 twenty twenty six Reset slush plot, I'm going to be 0:28:07.440 --> 0:28:09.760 getting you up to scratch real quick. I know many 0:28:09.800 --> 0:28:11.680 of you would be feeling really behind at the moment, 0:28:11.880 --> 0:28:14.360 and it's pretty easy to feel like that, especially when 0:28:14.359 --> 0:28:17.400 all the content online, as I said, is making out 0:28:17.440 --> 0:28:20.880 that everyone is already on their fourth or fifth goal, 0:28:21.280 --> 0:28:23.760 and you know they've already called the whole house like 0:28:23.760 --> 0:28:26.520 Bloody Marie Kondo. But fortunately we don't have a whole 0:28:26.560 --> 0:28:28.640 Netflix crew to come into our house and do things 0:28:28.680 --> 0:28:31.159 like that and also organize all of our life admin. 0:28:31.280 --> 0:28:34.439 But I've created this mini reset three day schedule for you, 0:28:34.800 --> 0:28:37.160 So once you've gotten to the end of day three, 0:28:37.640 --> 0:28:39.640 you were going to feel like you've managed your mess, 0:28:39.680 --> 0:28:41.360 or at least you can have made sense of your 0:28:41.360 --> 0:28:44.280 mess and made a bit of a dint. Because I 0:28:44.320 --> 0:28:46.920 will go on about this more in other episodes, but 0:28:47.040 --> 0:28:49.640 our mess is something that just makes us human. It's 0:28:49.680 --> 0:28:52.320 not something that you're ever going to get rid of. 0:28:52.520 --> 0:28:54.160 It's like our to do list. You're never going to 0:28:54.200 --> 0:28:55.760 get to the end of your to do list. I'm 0:28:55.760 --> 0:28:57.520 so sorry to tell you that information. I don't know 0:28:57.560 --> 0:29:00.520 if you knew that, But as long as when you're alive, 0:29:00.640 --> 0:29:02.080 you're going to have mess, and you're going to have 0:29:02.080 --> 0:29:04.400 a to do list, and this schedule is just going 0:29:04.480 --> 0:29:07.560 to make that feel a bit lighter and less scary. 0:29:07.640 --> 0:29:09.719 Because when you think about our mess, like as humans, 0:29:09.720 --> 0:29:12.560 we are so ashamed of our mess. Like think about 0:29:12.560 --> 0:29:15.480 when a guest comes over, you run around frantically, You're 0:29:15.520 --> 0:29:19.040 hiding everything, you don't even want to show that people 0:29:19.120 --> 0:29:22.480 live there. Literally doesn't make any sense. Why do we 0:29:22.520 --> 0:29:24.800 do that? The thing is mess is something we all 0:29:24.840 --> 0:29:28.120 have and this is going to just help you clear 0:29:28.160 --> 0:29:30.720 the noise in your brain and just make sense of it. 0:29:31.080 --> 0:29:35.280 So let's get started in to day one. Now. Day 0:29:35.360 --> 0:29:38.160 one is going to be your mini reset day. We're 0:29:38.160 --> 0:29:40.840 going to be resetting your physical space, your personal space, 0:29:40.920 --> 0:29:43.560 and also your digital space. But I'm not going to 0:29:43.600 --> 0:29:46.320 be making you do like crazy shit like this is 0:29:46.360 --> 0:29:48.160 not going to be something you're going to be spending 0:29:48.320 --> 0:29:50.280 like your whole day on. But what I want you 0:29:50.320 --> 0:29:52.840 to do, let's start with our physical space. And the 0:29:52.880 --> 0:29:55.280 reason why we're also starting with this out of our 0:29:55.280 --> 0:29:59.640 three day schedule is because once your environment feels clearer, 0:30:00.600 --> 0:30:02.920 you're going to feel much lighter and you're going to 0:30:02.920 --> 0:30:05.840 be able to actually think clearly. I want you to 0:30:05.840 --> 0:30:07.800 think about you know, when you walk into your kitchen 0:30:07.800 --> 0:30:09.600 in the morning and if you haven't reset it or 0:30:09.600 --> 0:30:11.720 put the house to bed the night before, which is 0:30:11.720 --> 0:30:13.240 where you know you clean up and do like your 0:30:13.240 --> 0:30:15.520 closing shift and you do all the dishes and you 0:30:15.560 --> 0:30:17.360 wipe the benches. If you haven't done that, and you 0:30:17.400 --> 0:30:20.280 walk into the kitchen in the morning, you feel so 0:30:20.520 --> 0:30:23.560 overwhelmed straightaway. And that's because all of the mess and 0:30:23.600 --> 0:30:26.200 the things around you are reminders of all the things 0:30:26.200 --> 0:30:28.920 you have to do. And when you already have it 0:30:28.960 --> 0:30:30.719 to do list in your head, and then you see 0:30:30.760 --> 0:30:32.720 all these other things added to your to do list, 0:30:32.880 --> 0:30:35.760 that's when we start to get quite anxious. So if 0:30:35.760 --> 0:30:38.240 we can clear that physical space, we're going to be 0:30:38.240 --> 0:30:40.600 able to do Day two, which is our get shit 0:30:40.680 --> 0:30:43.240 done day. So first, I want you to focus on 0:30:44.120 --> 0:30:47.479 a high impact area only in your house, in your space. 0:30:47.680 --> 0:30:49.640 So it's like high traffic area or an area that 0:30:49.680 --> 0:30:51.080 you do spend a lot of time. So a lot 0:30:51.080 --> 0:30:53.920 of people will probably say the kitchen, maybe the lounge room, 0:30:54.200 --> 0:30:56.560 maybe it's your home office. But what I want you 0:30:56.600 --> 0:30:59.320 to do is set a timer for thirty minutes and 0:30:59.320 --> 0:31:03.040 you're just going to reset that space. It's not a 0:31:03.040 --> 0:31:05.840 deep clean, this is just you know, getting rid of 0:31:05.880 --> 0:31:08.440 any rubbish. I want you to. You can, literally my 0:31:08.480 --> 0:31:11.240 biggest hack as someone with ADHD's you grab a bucket 0:31:11.440 --> 0:31:15.200 like a basket, and anything that's in that space that 0:31:15.240 --> 0:31:17.880 doesn't live there, you chuck it in there, you know, 0:31:17.880 --> 0:31:19.720 as you like catchu a basket, which is a hack 0:31:19.760 --> 0:31:22.680 I'll give you guys later, And this is just going 0:31:22.760 --> 0:31:24.320 to make it easy for your brain to understand. So 0:31:24.320 --> 0:31:27.400 you're gonna grab the rubbish, grab your basket. Anything that 0:31:27.440 --> 0:31:29.719 doesn't belong in that space goes in there, and you're 0:31:29.720 --> 0:31:32.240 gonna wipe down the benches or whatever it is. And 0:31:32.320 --> 0:31:34.200 once that's done, we're going to move on to your 0:31:34.240 --> 0:31:38.720 personal space. Now, your personal space is something just to 0:31:38.800 --> 0:31:41.760 help with you feeling a bit more like calm, make 0:31:41.800 --> 0:31:43.440 you feel a bit better. So I want you to 0:31:43.440 --> 0:31:45.800 do things like I know this sounds so lame. Okay, 0:31:45.840 --> 0:31:47.959 I get this sounds lame as but I did this 0:31:48.040 --> 0:31:51.200 little ritual after I had my girls. I had postnatal 0:31:51.280 --> 0:31:55.000 depression with both, and I did this every single morning, 0:31:55.040 --> 0:31:58.000 and it honestly helped me so so much. This is 0:31:58.040 --> 0:32:01.479 the actual thing I talk in my book. This is 0:32:01.520 --> 0:32:05.320 actually the thing that really helped me get into routines. Now, 0:32:05.360 --> 0:32:07.760 I want you to do things like open all of 0:32:07.760 --> 0:32:09.800 the windows in your house, and I want you to 0:32:09.880 --> 0:32:12.680 light a candle or a diffuser, and I want you 0:32:12.760 --> 0:32:15.440 to know, chuck on Spotify and put on your most 0:32:15.480 --> 0:32:19.360 favorite playlist. It's just resetting yourself personally for the little 0:32:19.360 --> 0:32:22.760 things that you love and really change the atmosphere around you. 0:32:23.240 --> 0:32:25.520 And that's going to help you get into the next step, 0:32:25.960 --> 0:32:28.160 which is your digital space. Now, this is a space 0:32:28.200 --> 0:32:31.680 that is quite overwhelming, and this is the one that's 0:32:31.760 --> 0:32:34.560 quietly draining you a lot. You know, think about it 0:32:34.560 --> 0:32:36.719 on your phone all the screenshots you have and all 0:32:36.720 --> 0:32:38.800 the crap you don't need, and that app that you're 0:32:38.800 --> 0:32:42.000 paying one hundred and fifty dollars for a year. That's 0:32:42.000 --> 0:32:45.360 a plant identifier. You know. Not speaking from experience or anything, 0:32:45.840 --> 0:32:48.520 I really got into plants over covid. Okay, you got 0:32:48.520 --> 0:32:50.080 your music on, you've got your candle, you know your 0:32:50.160 --> 0:32:52.440 kitchen's clean. Now you're feeling a little bit fresher, You're 0:32:52.440 --> 0:32:54.240 feel in a bit more on top of things. Now, 0:32:54.240 --> 0:32:56.240 what we're going to do is sit down, and I 0:32:56.240 --> 0:32:58.080 want you to grab your phone and I want you 0:32:58.120 --> 0:33:01.160 to delete any screenshots you don't need. And a really 0:33:01.240 --> 0:33:02.800 good hack for this, because I know this can be 0:33:02.880 --> 0:33:06.400 quite overwhelming, is every day. Maybe it's once the kids 0:33:06.400 --> 0:33:07.720 are in bed. I want you to set a timer 0:33:07.760 --> 0:33:10.160 for ten minutes and I want you to search that 0:33:10.280 --> 0:33:12.720 like today's date. I want you to search that date, 0:33:12.760 --> 0:33:14.400 and I want you to go through every fody you've 0:33:14.400 --> 0:33:16.480 ever taken on that date and delete things that you 0:33:16.520 --> 0:33:18.920 don't need anymore. So you're only doing it day by day, 0:33:19.200 --> 0:33:21.600 but if you do that every day for the whole year, 0:33:21.680 --> 0:33:24.600 your whole phone will be cleared out. It's so smart anyway, 0:33:24.640 --> 0:33:26.160 and I know you can get apps that do things 0:33:26.200 --> 0:33:28.080 like that too, where they can, you know, show you 0:33:28.120 --> 0:33:29.600 double ups and things like that and you can get 0:33:29.640 --> 0:33:31.800 rid of it. So you're going to do that. And 0:33:31.840 --> 0:33:34.400 then I also want you to, of course get rid 0:33:34.440 --> 0:33:37.479 of that plant. Identify your app that you're paying for 0:33:37.520 --> 0:33:39.200 and you don't use on your phone. So go through 0:33:39.240 --> 0:33:41.080 your apps, go on the app store, and like just 0:33:41.120 --> 0:33:42.720 get rid of them more because the amount of money 0:33:42.760 --> 0:33:45.560 you'll save is insane. There's so many apps I freaking 0:33:45.600 --> 0:33:48.640 download I don't even look at. So do that. And 0:33:48.680 --> 0:33:52.080 then I want you to tackle your emails. Now. I 0:33:52.120 --> 0:33:54.240 want to make this super simple for you. Guys. We're 0:33:54.240 --> 0:33:56.840 going to empty your inbox. No I no, that sounds terrifying. 0:33:56.960 --> 0:33:59.520 I know it's scary, but we're going to do it together. Now, 0:33:59.640 --> 0:34:02.000 one thing I did that change my life with my 0:34:02.040 --> 0:34:05.120 emails is I archived anything older than six months or 0:34:05.120 --> 0:34:08.759 even three months. I archived the whole thing. Now, I 0:34:08.800 --> 0:34:11.600 know you're probably freaking out when I say that, but 0:34:11.640 --> 0:34:13.600 the thing is when you archive all these emails, you 0:34:13.640 --> 0:34:15.839 can still search them. But the thing is if they're 0:34:15.840 --> 0:34:18.480 that old, you obviously don't need them. You're not going 0:34:18.560 --> 0:34:20.400 to get back to them. Let's be honest, you're not 0:34:20.400 --> 0:34:23.320 going to reply to it. It's done, it's gone. Archive 0:34:23.360 --> 0:34:26.840 the motherflickers, get rid of them and you can search 0:34:26.880 --> 0:34:28.680 them later. Now I want you to create two to 0:34:28.760 --> 0:34:32.640 three really simple folders. It could be you know, family, 0:34:32.760 --> 0:34:35.719 it could be work, whatever, and anything in those your 0:34:35.719 --> 0:34:38.160 inbox that still needs to be placed somewhere, pop it 0:34:38.200 --> 0:34:40.640 in a folder. Because I'm someone I know there's like 0:34:40.640 --> 0:34:42.719 two types of people in the world. It's people that 0:34:42.800 --> 0:34:45.040 have folders and they make sure they read everything, and 0:34:45.040 --> 0:34:47.640 then there's people who don't have any folders and everything 0:34:47.680 --> 0:34:50.240 just stays in the inbox. So we're going to slowly 0:34:50.400 --> 0:34:55.560 just migrate over to be the former. Yeah, And the 0:34:54.920 --> 0:34:59.319 best advice I can give you with your emails is 0:34:59.480 --> 0:35:03.160 to only check them twice a day max. Have two 0:35:03.200 --> 0:35:05.239 set times a day. Don't be on them all the time. 0:35:05.280 --> 0:35:08.040 I actually, you guys would be probably shocked to know 0:35:08.440 --> 0:35:11.279 that I actually have my notifications on my emails on 0:35:11.320 --> 0:35:13.680 my phone turned off. I did that years ago because 0:35:13.719 --> 0:35:17.040 I found I was so reactive that no matter whenever 0:35:17.080 --> 0:35:19.319 an email would come in, I would just you know, 0:35:19.400 --> 0:35:21.920 I'd get back to them straight away. And you need 0:35:21.960 --> 0:35:24.839 to remember like their urgency is not your emergency, and 0:35:24.840 --> 0:35:27.719 you're not saving lives. Unless you're a doctor, then yes 0:35:27.800 --> 0:35:30.480 you are. But otherwise the rest of us, me immortals, 0:35:30.480 --> 0:35:33.960 are not saving lives. So you need to remember that, 0:35:34.120 --> 0:35:36.480 and you really need to protect your space. And this 0:35:36.520 --> 0:35:38.680 is what we're doing in twenty twenty six. Our character 0:35:39.239 --> 0:35:41.520 they're going to protect themselves from all the noise in 0:35:41.560 --> 0:35:44.360 the outside world. So that's your rules coming into a 0:35:44.360 --> 0:35:47.319 new year. So yes, please set two alarms on your 0:35:47.320 --> 0:35:49.360 phone if you need to, if you're like me, to 0:35:49.440 --> 0:35:51.799 check your emails, and then that is it. You're done. 0:35:51.880 --> 0:35:54.279 You don't need to be reacting though we're doing. We're 0:35:54.280 --> 0:35:56.400 not being reactive this year. We're not doing it. Okay, 0:35:56.880 --> 0:35:59.040 now you've done that. We've done a good little mini reset. 0:35:59.160 --> 0:36:02.040 We've fixed your fish space, we fixed your personal space, 0:36:02.200 --> 0:36:04.560 we've done your tech most of it. I'll do another 0:36:04.560 --> 0:36:07.200 episode on that one day now, on today two, which 0:36:07.239 --> 0:36:09.640 is the get shit done day. Now, this is the 0:36:09.719 --> 0:36:12.239 day you're going to be doing those tasks that have 0:36:12.320 --> 0:36:15.399 been weighing on you heavily. Now the tasks themselves might 0:36:15.600 --> 0:36:20.280 only take literally two minutes. Speaking from experience here where 0:36:20.719 --> 0:36:23.200 I literally need to just make an appointment to see 0:36:23.200 --> 0:36:25.040 the dentist. Then I'll lose sleep over it for three 0:36:25.080 --> 0:36:27.880 weeks and have mass anxiety. And it takes two seconds, 0:36:27.920 --> 0:36:29.800 and it's fine. This is the day we do stuff 0:36:29.840 --> 0:36:31.880 like that. Yeah, we're going to just get it done. 0:36:32.040 --> 0:36:34.799 Because how good will you feel with all those like 0:36:34.840 --> 0:36:36.880 a little annoying tasks that you've been wanting to get done. 0:36:36.960 --> 0:36:39.000 How good will you feel when they're done? They're gone. 0:36:39.120 --> 0:36:41.200 It's off your mental load. We carry such a heavy 0:36:41.200 --> 0:36:43.279 mental load and this is going to help with that. Now, 0:36:43.320 --> 0:36:45.440 there's a few rules with this day. You're going to 0:36:45.440 --> 0:36:49.359 be doing three tasks only and that's it. And once 0:36:49.360 --> 0:36:51.520 you've done the three tasks, you're done for the day. 0:36:51.560 --> 0:36:53.239 You're not going to be trying to do any more 0:36:53.800 --> 0:36:56.040 all the things. But look, I will say, if you 0:36:56.080 --> 0:36:59.200 are on a roll, go for it. But the less 0:36:59.239 --> 0:37:03.160 pressure we play on ourselves for this day, you'll notice 0:37:03.360 --> 0:37:05.400 it will be a lot less resistance. There'll be a 0:37:05.480 --> 0:37:08.000 lot less resistance. You're not gonna be overwhelmed and you 0:37:08.040 --> 0:37:10.120 might end up doing more. But if you just tell yourself, 0:37:10.120 --> 0:37:11.719 I've only got to do these three things today and 0:37:11.760 --> 0:37:14.720 that's it, and I'm done. You're going to probably smash 0:37:14.760 --> 0:37:17.560 it very fast to find out these three tasks that 0:37:17.600 --> 0:37:19.319 you need to do for this get shit done day. 0:37:19.400 --> 0:37:22.600 I want you to write a list of things I'm avoiding, 0:37:23.000 --> 0:37:25.520 so all the things you've been avoiding. Do a brain dump, 0:37:25.600 --> 0:37:27.400 just things you know that you also maybe have to 0:37:27.440 --> 0:37:29.719 do that's been weighing on you. Just dump it all 0:37:29.760 --> 0:37:31.880 out now in this list. I want you to have 0:37:31.880 --> 0:37:34.280 a good look at it, and just make sure everything 0:37:34.400 --> 0:37:37.239 in this list is actually important and also does need 0:37:37.280 --> 0:37:40.520 to be done by you, as in you can't delegate it, 0:37:40.880 --> 0:37:43.960 or maybe it's actually not that important and it's you know, 0:37:44.080 --> 0:37:46.400 pressure from other people are making you do that task. 0:37:46.560 --> 0:37:48.120 Just make sure you have a good look at this 0:37:48.160 --> 0:37:51.120 list and make sure they're actually all tasks that need 0:37:51.160 --> 0:37:53.560 to be done by you. Now, the three tasks we're 0:37:53.560 --> 0:37:56.920 going to be picking is one annoying task you've been avoiding, 0:37:57.040 --> 0:37:59.320 So something like replying to that email you've been skipping 0:37:59.680 --> 0:38:03.440 book said dentists or a vet, submitting a form and 0:38:03.480 --> 0:38:06.640 an assignment, or calling customer service over a refund that 0:38:06.960 --> 0:38:08.480 meant you were supposed to do like three months ago, 0:38:08.520 --> 0:38:10.080 and you're probably not going to get a refund now, 0:38:10.480 --> 0:38:13.719 stuff like that, or maybe returning something or updating your 0:38:13.719 --> 0:38:16.760 address somewhere. And now the second task is a life 0:38:16.800 --> 0:38:20.480 maintenance task gross I know, so doing something like refilling 0:38:20.560 --> 0:38:24.480 prescriptions or ordering your household items, maybe cleaning out your 0:38:24.520 --> 0:38:27.920 handbag or backing up your phone a laptop, something like that. 0:38:28.640 --> 0:38:30.200 And the third one is going to be a quick win. 0:38:30.400 --> 0:38:32.759 So this is something like clearing out your desk or 0:38:33.280 --> 0:38:35.800 paying a bill or making it to do this for 0:38:35.840 --> 0:38:38.400 the next day, or setting that message you've been overthinking, 0:38:38.520 --> 0:38:40.640 just something that's really quick. It could literally just be 0:38:41.120 --> 0:38:43.080 the most simple thing. So I want you to pick 0:38:43.120 --> 0:38:45.120 those three tasks. So we've got the annoying task, we've 0:38:45.120 --> 0:38:47.640 got the life maintenance, and we've got the win. Now 0:38:48.000 --> 0:38:50.239 your day might just look like this. This is an 0:38:50.280 --> 0:38:52.600 example of what this day could look like. Reply to 0:38:52.640 --> 0:38:55.759 an email, washing my towels, and clearing the desk for 0:38:55.800 --> 0:38:58.040 ten minutes and then you're done for the day. That's it. 0:38:58.360 --> 0:39:00.440 But you're going to feel so much lighter when that 0:39:00.480 --> 0:39:03.680 thing is done. Now this leads us to day three. 0:39:04.040 --> 0:39:07.160 This is your potato day. Yes you heard that right, 0:39:07.200 --> 0:39:09.320 and a potato day this is a day where you 0:39:09.360 --> 0:39:13.480 do absolutely nothing, because you know we've reset your space, 0:39:13.640 --> 0:39:16.839 we've got your mental load lighter. You feel a lot 0:39:16.920 --> 0:39:19.600 better about that. But this is a day for you. 0:39:19.920 --> 0:39:22.439 This is a day where you can do whatever you want, 0:39:22.520 --> 0:39:24.200 Like you don't have to lay on the couch all day. 0:39:24.480 --> 0:39:26.200 You can go do something that you love. You know, 0:39:26.280 --> 0:39:29.760 as adults, we really do stop having fun. We stop 0:39:30.080 --> 0:39:32.640 we only do things for a certain outcome, so like 0:39:32.719 --> 0:39:34.960 make more money, or to get fitter, or to clean 0:39:35.000 --> 0:39:37.680 the house. So we stop doing things just for us. 0:39:38.080 --> 0:39:41.399 And that's always do start to lose ourselves. And that's 0:39:41.440 --> 0:39:44.879 also why I honestly believe that you know, life does 0:39:44.960 --> 0:39:47.160 speed up and when you get to have fun, you 0:39:47.200 --> 0:39:50.960 are so much more present and that is so important. 0:39:51.040 --> 0:39:53.600 So your Potato day, you do whatever you want and 0:39:53.640 --> 0:39:55.440 there's no guilt. The rule is you're not allowed to 0:39:55.440 --> 0:39:57.520 feel guilty about it, and you're not going to because 0:39:57.520 --> 0:40:00.440 it's our last day of this reset and you've just 0:40:00.520 --> 0:40:02.640 done all this really cool stuff. You've done the stuff 0:40:02.680 --> 0:40:05.960 you've been putting off, you've reset, you've cleaned. Now it's 0:40:06.000 --> 0:40:08.879 a day for you, and now you've seen that these 0:40:08.920 --> 0:40:11.800 three days have covered. Day one has given you clarity, 0:40:12.080 --> 0:40:15.200 made things feel lighter because we've reset your space. Day 0:40:15.239 --> 0:40:17.640 two has given you relief because you've actually done the things, 0:40:18.360 --> 0:40:20.760 and Day three has given you capacity because you've taken 0:40:20.800 --> 0:40:25.360 time for yourself. Now, I really hope you guys enjoyed 0:40:25.360 --> 0:40:28.000 this first episode back. I just feel like it was 0:40:28.080 --> 0:40:31.000 such an important one and I had so much to 0:40:31.040 --> 0:40:33.359 give you guys, and I'm so so excited to be back. 0:40:33.640 --> 0:40:36.759 Stepping Up is back, and it's just it is. It's 0:40:36.760 --> 0:40:39.560 a whole new chapter for me, and I am just 0:40:39.600 --> 0:40:41.360 so excited to about to help you guys again and be 0:40:41.400 --> 0:40:43.960 in your ear and be your bogan best mate that 0:40:44.160 --> 0:40:46.279 is here just to hold your hand through it all. 0:40:46.640 --> 0:40:49.399 Please don't forget to take a photo of you listening 0:40:49.480 --> 0:40:52.040 to this episode and tag us on Instagram, and I 0:40:52.080 --> 0:40:53.960 will be picking a winner for that one hundred dollars 0:40:54.000 --> 0:40:57.600 Steph Face Planner's voucher and they will also win my 0:40:57.800 --> 0:40:59.600 copy of my new book as well, which I forgot 0:40:59.600 --> 0:41:03.000 to mention. Please don't forget to grab your free download 0:41:03.000 --> 0:41:04.880 in the show notes so you can do all the things, 0:41:04.960 --> 0:41:07.040 and there's all the other steps coming up as well, 0:41:07.440 --> 0:41:10.319 And please subscribe and leave me a review if you'd 0:41:10.360 --> 0:41:14.120 love to I would really really appreciate it. And now 0:41:14.160 --> 0:41:16.360 your mess is a bit more tame. You feel like 0:41:16.400 --> 0:41:19.439 maybe you've caught up, which you know, it's a big thing. 0:41:19.520 --> 0:41:21.759 It is a big thing in a new year, and 0:41:22.520 --> 0:41:25.200 hopefully your load feels a bit lighter after this. And 0:41:25.400 --> 0:41:27.960 just remember you were the character and the author of 0:41:27.960 --> 0:41:29.960 your own life, and we're not gonna let anyone else 0:41:30.000 --> 0:41:33.640 write our stories for us anymore. So I can't wait 0:41:33.640 --> 0:41:36.080 to help you keep mastering your mess. And I will 0:41:36.080 --> 0:41:37.880 see you guys next week. Bye.