1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:02,280 Speaker 1: Coming up on Relatables. 2 00:00:04,559 --> 00:00:07,360 Speaker 2: And it hurt, and it hurts to the core. 3 00:00:07,720 --> 00:00:11,080 Speaker 3: Bro let me tell you to sign fall asleep four 4 00:00:11,280 --> 00:00:12,119 Speaker 3: hours that night. 5 00:00:15,320 --> 00:00:27,400 Speaker 4: Relatable the Relatables podcast is hosted by myself, Audie Clark 6 00:00:27,480 --> 00:00:31,520 Speaker 4: ak Mummy, and my partner in crime, the Patrick to 7 00:00:31,640 --> 00:00:35,800 Speaker 4: my SpongeBob Jake Craig ak Daddy. This this, this argument 8 00:00:36,200 --> 00:00:37,280 Speaker 4: is ongoing forever. 9 00:00:38,240 --> 00:00:41,760 Speaker 1: I am not Patrick. Yes, you are not Patrick. Who 10 00:00:41,840 --> 00:00:42,400 Speaker 1: gets more girls? 11 00:00:42,440 --> 00:00:47,279 Speaker 3: Wait? Have a girlfriend? That's why you're Patrick mane. 12 00:00:48,920 --> 00:00:49,280 Speaker 2: Patrick. 13 00:00:49,400 --> 00:00:51,800 Speaker 1: All right, we've said it a few times. We hear 14 00:00:51,840 --> 00:00:55,520 Speaker 1: it a lot. Girls think men put chapstick on. 15 00:00:55,760 --> 00:01:00,720 Speaker 3: Wrong they do? Proven wrong, Jake, proven wrong, proven over promo. 16 00:01:01,360 --> 00:01:03,040 Speaker 3: If you're not I'm about to put some chapstick on. 17 00:01:03,040 --> 00:01:05,720 Speaker 3: If you're on Spotify and not on YouTube, proven wrong, Patrick, 18 00:01:05,760 --> 00:01:12,559 Speaker 3: proven wrong. Mmmm. Move those leaves, mate, move them, move 19 00:01:12,640 --> 00:01:13,279 Speaker 3: those leaves. 20 00:01:15,200 --> 00:01:18,440 Speaker 1: Chapped them ready to talk, chapped and ready to chat? 21 00:01:19,200 --> 00:01:24,880 Speaker 4: Well today, do you want to start with make them say? 22 00:01:25,240 --> 00:01:28,600 Speaker 3: Yes? We're about to give away another hat. 23 00:01:28,840 --> 00:01:29,320 Speaker 1: Let's go. 24 00:01:29,520 --> 00:01:31,760 Speaker 4: We gave one last week away to Matt and we 25 00:01:31,800 --> 00:01:34,040 Speaker 4: didn't play make them say because we felt nice. 26 00:01:34,400 --> 00:01:37,160 Speaker 1: First hat had to be just give a tom. 27 00:01:37,319 --> 00:01:41,600 Speaker 4: But today we are calling mckayley, yes, and we are 28 00:01:41,640 --> 00:01:43,760 Speaker 4: going to try and make her say the word. 29 00:01:43,800 --> 00:01:45,920 Speaker 3: We've got a random generator. Jake's got it right now, what. 30 00:01:45,800 --> 00:01:51,200 Speaker 1: Word did the Jake? We're generating needle needle? Needle needle. 31 00:01:51,240 --> 00:01:55,720 Speaker 3: Okay, that's hard. 32 00:01:56,440 --> 00:01:56,840 Speaker 2: Needle. 33 00:01:57,760 --> 00:02:01,200 Speaker 1: Okay, here's my tactic though, here's my tactic. 34 00:02:02,120 --> 00:02:03,720 Speaker 3: All right, I don't know how I'm gonna put needle 35 00:02:03,760 --> 00:02:07,440 Speaker 3: into it. They they we We open it up with, hey, mckayley, 36 00:02:07,680 --> 00:02:11,440 Speaker 3: it's us, all right, yeah, we she knows there's a 37 00:02:11,520 --> 00:02:15,160 Speaker 3: chance she's playing make them say but also like the 38 00:02:15,280 --> 00:02:17,000 Speaker 3: listen to the podcast, they're gonna be like, oh cool, 39 00:02:17,040 --> 00:02:19,920 Speaker 3: they're calling me. All right, we just open it up 40 00:02:19,960 --> 00:02:24,240 Speaker 3: with like, mckayley, what what are those things that you 41 00:02:24,320 --> 00:02:25,720 Speaker 3: get when you get an injection? 42 00:02:26,960 --> 00:02:29,200 Speaker 2: She just goes a needle and we're like, sorry, love, 43 00:02:29,240 --> 00:02:29,720 Speaker 2: you don't win. 44 00:02:30,400 --> 00:02:31,079 Speaker 3: Is that your game? 45 00:02:31,120 --> 00:02:34,520 Speaker 4: But if that doesn't work, we have the hats between us, 46 00:02:35,080 --> 00:02:39,919 Speaker 4: needle to sew. That's our backup if she doesn't say it. 47 00:02:40,400 --> 00:02:44,680 Speaker 3: Yeah, timer time tim When she answers, I'll have a 48 00:02:44,720 --> 00:02:48,079 Speaker 3: one minute timer. You can we a minute? Yeah, one minute, 49 00:02:48,280 --> 00:02:51,400 Speaker 3: Like I say, I say, tactics wise, Thanks for listening. 50 00:02:51,680 --> 00:02:52,280 Speaker 1: Thanks for putting. 51 00:02:52,360 --> 00:02:57,560 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, okay, we're ready. This is gonna be hard. Mckayley. 52 00:02:57,600 --> 00:02:58,959 Speaker 3: We call and I hope she picks up my phones 53 00:02:59,000 --> 00:03:01,440 Speaker 3: on the call already? Are you going first? 54 00:03:01,480 --> 00:03:08,880 Speaker 4: Straight up with that, mkayley. It's Audi and Jake from 55 00:03:08,919 --> 00:03:09,639 Speaker 4: the Relatables. 56 00:03:09,639 --> 00:03:12,160 Speaker 3: How are you going? Hey? Good? Thanks? Are you good? 57 00:03:12,200 --> 00:03:16,280 Speaker 3: Thank you? You've just won yourself a hat. Oh my gosh, amazing, 58 00:03:16,400 --> 00:03:18,080 Speaker 3: Thank you so much, Kayley. 59 00:03:18,120 --> 00:03:19,760 Speaker 1: Where are you at? 60 00:03:19,840 --> 00:03:22,960 Speaker 3: Where do you were in childcare? 61 00:03:23,200 --> 00:03:23,839 Speaker 1: Childcare? 62 00:03:25,000 --> 00:03:27,720 Speaker 3: I had a little debate, a little debate before the 63 00:03:27,760 --> 00:03:29,400 Speaker 3: show that we were going to get you to settle. 64 00:03:29,840 --> 00:03:31,079 Speaker 1: When getting an injection? 65 00:03:31,280 --> 00:03:33,960 Speaker 3: What is it called? Addie and I have got one 66 00:03:34,000 --> 00:03:35,600 Speaker 3: each of what we think it's called, but it's different. 67 00:03:35,600 --> 00:03:39,200 Speaker 3: What would you call it? Like like when getting injection, 68 00:03:39,360 --> 00:03:45,960 Speaker 3: like a needle or something? We got you you just lost? 69 00:03:46,520 --> 00:03:47,760 Speaker 3: Make them say. 70 00:03:50,800 --> 00:03:51,200 Speaker 2: So much. 71 00:03:51,560 --> 00:03:57,360 Speaker 3: I'm really going to say, like an immunization. We're so Mkayley, 72 00:03:58,440 --> 00:04:07,000 Speaker 3: I feel so bad, horrible. So that's okay. Maybe next time. 73 00:04:08,320 --> 00:04:13,080 Speaker 3: Damn at least I got a hoodie. Ship she bought 74 00:04:13,080 --> 00:04:15,840 Speaker 3: a hoodie. We might we might cut this out. 75 00:04:15,880 --> 00:04:21,840 Speaker 4: We might slip in our hat not to anyone. 76 00:04:22,160 --> 00:04:24,320 Speaker 3: Yes, pink, let's go I have for you. 77 00:04:24,680 --> 00:04:27,599 Speaker 4: Well, thank you, thank you very much for ordering a hoodie, 78 00:04:27,880 --> 00:04:28,760 Speaker 4: and we wish. 79 00:04:28,600 --> 00:04:29,160 Speaker 1: You a good day. 80 00:04:29,960 --> 00:04:33,479 Speaker 3: Thank you to you guys. Love the thank you, thank you, bye, 81 00:04:33,600 --> 00:04:37,160 Speaker 3: thanks bye. You nailed that. 82 00:04:37,360 --> 00:04:39,040 Speaker 4: I thought you were going to go straight into like 83 00:04:39,360 --> 00:04:42,599 Speaker 4: do like kids need injections, but you just asked the questions. 84 00:04:45,839 --> 00:04:47,239 Speaker 1: I forgot to say the time of it. We didn't 85 00:04:47,240 --> 00:04:47,520 Speaker 1: need it. 86 00:04:48,440 --> 00:04:50,400 Speaker 3: You were on your stuff. I was like, oh, he's 87 00:04:50,440 --> 00:04:51,480 Speaker 3: gone for he's going for it. 88 00:04:51,640 --> 00:04:53,240 Speaker 1: Easier to do to random people. 89 00:04:53,240 --> 00:04:55,080 Speaker 3: We've just done it to people we know, so they 90 00:04:55,120 --> 00:04:57,240 Speaker 3: know we're on a podcast, and she knows we're on 91 00:04:57,279 --> 00:04:59,400 Speaker 3: the podcast. But also, I just I knew in the 92 00:04:59,400 --> 00:05:00,720 Speaker 3: heat of the moment, you'd be like, oh, they asked 93 00:05:00,720 --> 00:05:01,080 Speaker 3: me a question. 94 00:05:01,120 --> 00:05:01,960 Speaker 1: I'm just going to be like. 95 00:05:03,520 --> 00:05:05,960 Speaker 3: I feel so I felt so awkward saying well, you 96 00:05:05,960 --> 00:05:07,760 Speaker 3: don't get anything there, Yeah, I know. 97 00:05:08,000 --> 00:05:11,520 Speaker 2: I was like, the rejection is like, you've got to 98 00:05:11,560 --> 00:05:11,960 Speaker 2: be smart. 99 00:05:12,000 --> 00:05:15,320 Speaker 3: You gotta just likes though, because I'm like, I feel 100 00:05:15,360 --> 00:05:18,040 Speaker 3: so bad, but they want a way to start the body. 101 00:05:20,240 --> 00:05:29,440 Speaker 1: That was great, alright. 102 00:05:29,520 --> 00:05:33,200 Speaker 3: The other day I had a memory, like an embarrassing 103 00:05:33,240 --> 00:05:38,800 Speaker 3: memory something because well just in my head because something 104 00:05:38,839 --> 00:05:41,279 Speaker 3: happened where I heard about someone getting like friend zoned. 105 00:05:41,520 --> 00:05:45,880 Speaker 3: All right, And I remember one time I got friend zoned, 106 00:05:46,040 --> 00:05:49,719 Speaker 3: really and I got friend zoned without being actually told 107 00:05:49,760 --> 00:05:53,200 Speaker 3: word for word that I was friend zoned. Leonardo DiCaprio, J. 108 00:05:53,400 --> 00:05:57,960 Speaker 3: Craig got friend zoned. So back in the day, all right, 109 00:05:58,400 --> 00:06:03,479 Speaker 3: school year nine, Yeah, you were still a little ugly, 110 00:06:04,440 --> 00:06:08,400 Speaker 3: would like to say, year nine, I had to krush 111 00:06:08,480 --> 00:06:12,280 Speaker 3: on this girl, name dropping, maybe not actually. 112 00:06:12,160 --> 00:06:13,760 Speaker 1: How to crush on this girl. 113 00:06:14,000 --> 00:06:16,480 Speaker 3: And started messaging her as you do in you're nine. 114 00:06:16,560 --> 00:06:18,720 Speaker 3: You don't talk to him in person. I didn't talk 115 00:06:18,760 --> 00:06:22,000 Speaker 3: to girls, mate, disgusting. 116 00:06:22,279 --> 00:06:23,239 Speaker 1: What am I going to say? 117 00:06:23,560 --> 00:06:26,800 Speaker 3: Hey, how are you? That's stupid? Okay, message her obviously 118 00:06:26,839 --> 00:06:29,680 Speaker 3: trying to mess that. And the way that you back 119 00:06:29,720 --> 00:06:32,160 Speaker 3: in the day would hear around where we live at least, 120 00:06:32,240 --> 00:06:35,800 Speaker 3: is you start messaging a girl and then you know 121 00:06:36,000 --> 00:06:39,880 Speaker 3: chat's flowing. But then when you go to bed, so 122 00:06:40,080 --> 00:06:43,160 Speaker 3: you you go, I'm going to go to sleep, good night, 123 00:06:43,839 --> 00:06:47,000 Speaker 3: X X double X or just an X, all right, 124 00:06:47,279 --> 00:06:49,120 Speaker 3: and then if they send an X back. 125 00:06:49,400 --> 00:06:51,800 Speaker 2: Linked you're talking. You're you're tuning. 126 00:06:51,800 --> 00:06:52,440 Speaker 1: We call it tuning. 127 00:06:52,480 --> 00:06:54,840 Speaker 2: You're you're a couple that is there, right, she's she's 128 00:06:54,880 --> 00:06:55,359 Speaker 2: off limits. 129 00:06:55,400 --> 00:06:55,960 Speaker 1: You're off limits. 130 00:06:55,960 --> 00:06:58,800 Speaker 3: That's the equivalent of sex in your nine facts, bro, alright, 131 00:06:58,839 --> 00:07:01,120 Speaker 3: sex nothing better? Yeah? 132 00:07:01,160 --> 00:07:02,680 Speaker 1: So I do that, all right? 133 00:07:02,800 --> 00:07:06,440 Speaker 3: I do it, and I get a reply no drama's 134 00:07:06,440 --> 00:07:07,880 Speaker 3: good night, smiley face. 135 00:07:10,600 --> 00:07:13,360 Speaker 2: And it hurt and it hurts to the core. 136 00:07:13,760 --> 00:07:17,720 Speaker 3: Bro, let me tell you, sid fall asleep four hours 137 00:07:17,760 --> 00:07:20,400 Speaker 3: that night. It sucks showing my face at school the 138 00:07:20,400 --> 00:07:25,840 Speaker 3: next day. Somehow everyone knew fuck knows how, but I was. 139 00:07:26,760 --> 00:07:28,920 Speaker 3: I was dev you got friend zoned. So the IG 140 00:07:29,120 --> 00:07:31,240 Speaker 3: question of the week this week was, how did you 141 00:07:31,280 --> 00:07:34,280 Speaker 3: tell him he's just a friend without actually telling him 142 00:07:34,360 --> 00:07:36,560 Speaker 3: he's just a friend? And I have one? 143 00:07:36,960 --> 00:07:40,120 Speaker 4: And when I got friend zone, she said to me, 144 00:07:40,720 --> 00:07:43,000 Speaker 4: you know this, this is like yeah, maybe eight or 145 00:07:43,080 --> 00:07:44,800 Speaker 4: nine I think ye, it would have been about the 146 00:07:44,800 --> 00:07:48,560 Speaker 4: same time. And she said he's too nice. 147 00:07:48,880 --> 00:07:53,800 Speaker 3: Reber, I was too hot, I was too nice. I 148 00:07:54,000 --> 00:07:55,720 Speaker 3: hate and we didn't get any of them. But that's 149 00:07:55,760 --> 00:08:00,320 Speaker 3: a red carrying one. How could someone be too nice? Huh? Yeah? 150 00:08:00,360 --> 00:08:01,200 Speaker 3: I was like, what do you want me to do? 151 00:08:01,240 --> 00:08:02,960 Speaker 3: Treat women badly? Like come on? 152 00:08:03,800 --> 00:08:04,000 Speaker 1: Yeah. 153 00:08:04,120 --> 00:08:07,560 Speaker 3: Now she's looking back and she's like, he he. 154 00:08:07,480 --> 00:08:12,280 Speaker 2: Is too nice? And I need it. Fuck single, I 155 00:08:12,400 --> 00:08:13,400 Speaker 2: bet she's single. 156 00:08:14,520 --> 00:08:20,760 Speaker 3: Fucking hell, all right, I'll go first. Her points to 157 00:08:20,800 --> 00:08:23,559 Speaker 3: a girl quote, I think she's into you. You should 158 00:08:23,600 --> 00:08:26,640 Speaker 3: go for it. Oh straight up. That one doesn't hurt 159 00:08:26,720 --> 00:08:29,480 Speaker 3: too much. I don't know though, because you're kind of like, oh, yeah, 160 00:08:29,480 --> 00:08:31,440 Speaker 3: she's into me, like you get distracted a little bit. 161 00:08:31,840 --> 00:08:34,800 Speaker 3: Maybe actually yeah, a guy could just be like, well, 162 00:08:34,840 --> 00:08:37,959 Speaker 3: that one's into me, so we'll just go there. Yeah. True, 163 00:08:38,000 --> 00:08:38,920 Speaker 3: that's actually a good point. 164 00:08:39,000 --> 00:08:41,080 Speaker 4: Okay, my turn. I want you to be the guy 165 00:08:41,120 --> 00:08:50,319 Speaker 4: and I'll be the girl. Oh okay, thanks buddy. 166 00:08:46,160 --> 00:08:51,559 Speaker 3: Okay the high five. 167 00:08:52,280 --> 00:08:54,600 Speaker 1: Oh that's so good. 168 00:08:54,600 --> 00:08:58,240 Speaker 3: Now, So gnarly, how did you tell him he was 169 00:08:58,320 --> 00:09:01,760 Speaker 3: just a friend without actually telling you asked him to 170 00:09:01,800 --> 00:09:04,120 Speaker 3: look at my nudes to make sure they're good enough 171 00:09:04,120 --> 00:09:08,040 Speaker 3: before I send them to an actual boy. That's so misleading. 172 00:09:08,440 --> 00:09:10,920 Speaker 3: I would not clock onto that. I would be like 173 00:09:11,160 --> 00:09:15,040 Speaker 3: I am winning. Yeah, yeah true. I would be like, yeah, 174 00:09:15,200 --> 00:09:19,480 Speaker 3: fair enough. Does he know you're sending them to another boy? Yeah? 175 00:09:19,559 --> 00:09:21,679 Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, yeah, like just make sure these are good 176 00:09:21,720 --> 00:09:23,079 Speaker 4: that I would be thinking she's playing a little game 177 00:09:23,080 --> 00:09:23,720 Speaker 4: if she wants. 178 00:09:23,520 --> 00:09:25,560 Speaker 3: Me fair for me to see, like how good it is. 179 00:09:25,679 --> 00:09:27,880 Speaker 3: I'd go for a kiss. I go for that one, 180 00:09:27,960 --> 00:09:32,560 Speaker 3: would not wait, send one back. This one's good ending 181 00:09:32,640 --> 00:09:39,720 Speaker 3: phone with love you queen. Fuck bro, that's actually that's 182 00:09:39,760 --> 00:09:43,920 Speaker 3: actually really really good. Imagine thinking you're talking to a 183 00:09:43,960 --> 00:09:45,719 Speaker 3: girl and she just goes and he's like, oh, I 184 00:09:45,720 --> 00:09:47,800 Speaker 3: gotta go to bed, good night, and she's like, love 185 00:09:47,800 --> 00:09:51,520 Speaker 3: you queen. I'd be I'd be questioning my own sexuality. 186 00:09:51,679 --> 00:09:53,640 Speaker 3: So would like, what does she who does she think 187 00:09:53,640 --> 00:09:55,840 Speaker 3: I am? But also any in is an in is 188 00:09:55,840 --> 00:10:03,080 Speaker 3: and in yeah, might be comfortable with sleep. I couldn't 189 00:10:03,120 --> 00:10:05,559 Speaker 3: imagine having sex with you. It'd feel like incest. 190 00:10:06,400 --> 00:10:12,200 Speaker 4: What so that's basically like my one, you're like a 191 00:10:12,240 --> 00:10:16,280 Speaker 4: brother to me. That's on another level. That's like creating 192 00:10:16,320 --> 00:10:18,160 Speaker 4: way of saying you're like a brother to me. As 193 00:10:18,240 --> 00:10:20,400 Speaker 4: like they get to the point I love it, it's 194 00:10:20,520 --> 00:10:25,760 Speaker 4: like incest. Oh I'm actually going to go off that 195 00:10:26,440 --> 00:10:27,480 Speaker 4: had sex with his brother. 196 00:10:29,520 --> 00:10:30,280 Speaker 1: Oh my god. 197 00:10:30,760 --> 00:10:32,400 Speaker 2: That's saying that's not even saying how did you tell 198 00:10:32,400 --> 00:10:33,080 Speaker 2: them he's a friend. 199 00:10:33,440 --> 00:10:38,040 Speaker 3: That's saying how do you tell them he's nothing true? 200 00:10:40,040 --> 00:10:41,320 Speaker 3: How did you tell him he was just a friend 201 00:10:41,360 --> 00:10:44,680 Speaker 3: without actually telling him. I said to him, if we 202 00:10:44,720 --> 00:10:46,960 Speaker 3: aren't married by forty, we can get married. 203 00:10:47,640 --> 00:10:50,120 Speaker 1: Oh, I swear, I think that's a good one. 204 00:10:50,160 --> 00:10:51,960 Speaker 4: But I think I did that in like year like 205 00:10:52,120 --> 00:10:54,200 Speaker 4: seven or eight eight. Really yeah, did you ever have 206 00:10:54,280 --> 00:10:55,800 Speaker 4: like a fling with a girl who you never like, 207 00:10:56,000 --> 00:10:57,320 Speaker 4: thought you were going to date and then you were 208 00:10:57,360 --> 00:10:59,480 Speaker 4: just friends and you're like, if we both single at forty, 209 00:10:59,480 --> 00:11:00,000 Speaker 4: we'll get married. 210 00:11:00,840 --> 00:11:03,640 Speaker 3: One time, I think I did. I was. I was 211 00:11:03,760 --> 00:11:06,440 Speaker 3: at like a house party when I was younger one time, 212 00:11:06,559 --> 00:11:10,120 Speaker 3: and the person hosting it, like their parents were there, 213 00:11:10,160 --> 00:11:12,400 Speaker 3: their parents are cool, they had friends there too. Whatever. 214 00:11:12,440 --> 00:11:17,600 Speaker 3: They were drinking, and there this girl's mom who I 215 00:11:17,640 --> 00:11:20,520 Speaker 3: was friends with was talking about how she just wants 216 00:11:20,600 --> 00:11:24,559 Speaker 3: like someone nice for her her daughter. And I was like, 217 00:11:24,840 --> 00:11:27,240 Speaker 3: how about this, if we're not, if neither one of 218 00:11:27,320 --> 00:11:30,040 Speaker 3: us i'm married at forty, then we'll go for it. 219 00:11:30,160 --> 00:11:31,280 Speaker 1: She goes, well, I don't want. 220 00:11:31,120 --> 00:11:33,080 Speaker 3: That, so I don't want to want to just marry 221 00:11:33,120 --> 00:11:34,480 Speaker 3: her because they didn't get anyone else. 222 00:11:34,520 --> 00:11:35,760 Speaker 1: And I was like, that's kind of fair enough. 223 00:11:36,040 --> 00:11:39,560 Speaker 3: That's a good point. It takes trying to do something 224 00:11:39,600 --> 00:11:45,240 Speaker 3: heroic act it just looks first this one you're gonna love. 225 00:11:46,280 --> 00:11:47,520 Speaker 3: How did you tell him he was just a friend? 226 00:11:47,559 --> 00:11:50,600 Speaker 3: Without actually telling him you don't because girls and guys 227 00:11:50,600 --> 00:11:51,320 Speaker 3: can't be friends. 228 00:11:51,600 --> 00:11:55,280 Speaker 4: Yes, yes, he's an avid listener. 229 00:11:55,679 --> 00:11:55,880 Speaker 3: Yes. 230 00:11:56,080 --> 00:11:58,760 Speaker 2: I messaged her back and I said, you want at life? 231 00:11:59,480 --> 00:12:00,600 Speaker 2: Who know what's up? 232 00:12:00,800 --> 00:12:01,680 Speaker 3: Let's send this a murder. 233 00:12:01,800 --> 00:12:03,560 Speaker 2: You live in the real world? 234 00:12:03,800 --> 00:12:04,520 Speaker 1: Is what you live in? 235 00:12:07,320 --> 00:12:07,600 Speaker 3: Okay? 236 00:12:07,640 --> 00:12:08,800 Speaker 4: How did you tell me it was just a friend 237 00:12:08,880 --> 00:12:11,240 Speaker 4: without I don't even know how to say it. Told 238 00:12:11,320 --> 00:12:13,960 Speaker 4: him about my type in boys, and he was the opposite. 239 00:12:14,840 --> 00:12:16,880 Speaker 4: That's mean, bro, that's intricate. 240 00:12:16,960 --> 00:12:18,760 Speaker 3: But I got to say, that's actually probably the least 241 00:12:18,800 --> 00:12:23,520 Speaker 3: hurtful way to do it, because, like I think that 242 00:12:23,520 --> 00:12:25,200 Speaker 3: that would work in a way where his feelings aren't 243 00:12:25,240 --> 00:12:26,640 Speaker 3: hurt that much. Like he's going to be like, oh, 244 00:12:26,760 --> 00:12:28,240 Speaker 3: I'm just not her type. Like now I know I 245 00:12:28,240 --> 00:12:30,040 Speaker 3: can't even go for it. 246 00:12:29,040 --> 00:12:32,439 Speaker 4: I'm going to say I'm going to be the girl 247 00:12:32,440 --> 00:12:35,360 Speaker 4: and say the type it's not you ready, I'm. 248 00:12:37,400 --> 00:12:39,560 Speaker 3: Already ready, I'm good. 249 00:12:40,240 --> 00:12:41,680 Speaker 2: I know exactly what I'm gonna say. 250 00:12:41,880 --> 00:12:42,920 Speaker 3: Don't take it away from me. 251 00:12:43,400 --> 00:12:50,520 Speaker 4: A six foot brown eyes, tanned dark skin, brown hair. 252 00:12:51,640 --> 00:12:58,280 Speaker 3: Not you close, no, no, no, no, all. You got 253 00:12:58,280 --> 00:13:00,640 Speaker 3: about four out of five, mate, or out of five 254 00:13:00,720 --> 00:13:02,880 Speaker 3: that first one. I hit that first one. 255 00:13:03,360 --> 00:13:04,360 Speaker 2: Right on the mark. 256 00:13:04,760 --> 00:13:06,960 Speaker 3: That's literally a boy's mindset. She would probably be like, 257 00:13:07,280 --> 00:13:10,080 Speaker 3: doesn't know the height, and she said six foot. I've 258 00:13:10,080 --> 00:13:12,240 Speaker 3: got one out of the five. That's all I need. 259 00:13:12,280 --> 00:13:14,000 Speaker 2: One out of five is better than zero out of five. 260 00:13:14,040 --> 00:13:19,040 Speaker 3: Buddy, I'll get her use exclamation points instead of x's. 261 00:13:19,360 --> 00:13:21,160 Speaker 1: Oh that was for a smiley face. 262 00:13:22,440 --> 00:13:23,320 Speaker 3: Girls know what they're doing. 263 00:13:23,559 --> 00:13:25,160 Speaker 1: Girls do know what they're doing. Back in the day, 264 00:13:25,160 --> 00:13:26,360 Speaker 1: if I got a smiley face, I was. 265 00:13:26,320 --> 00:13:28,480 Speaker 3: Still would be like, yeah, it's called this subliminal message, 266 00:13:29,240 --> 00:13:32,280 Speaker 3: sublime sublibe quote. 267 00:13:32,360 --> 00:13:35,520 Speaker 4: I don't want to date anyone right now. That's the 268 00:13:35,720 --> 00:13:38,400 Speaker 4: get our jail free card that everyone uses the friend zone. 269 00:13:38,400 --> 00:13:40,000 Speaker 1: It's like saying you're too nice. 270 00:13:40,120 --> 00:13:42,680 Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm not ready to date anyone. 271 00:13:42,800 --> 00:13:43,360 Speaker 1: I'm not ready. 272 00:13:43,400 --> 00:13:46,440 Speaker 3: And then two weeks later she has a boyfriend. You 273 00:13:46,480 --> 00:13:47,559 Speaker 3: were just aside. 274 00:13:48,000 --> 00:13:49,800 Speaker 1: You weren't even aside. You weren't good enough to be 275 00:13:49,840 --> 00:13:50,200 Speaker 1: a side. 276 00:13:50,280 --> 00:13:52,560 Speaker 3: I didn't even want to don't even a garlic bread, 277 00:13:52,559 --> 00:13:59,160 Speaker 3: You're like you you weren't even the broccoli on my plate. 278 00:14:00,120 --> 00:14:02,240 Speaker 3: My god, that piece of letters that like falls off 279 00:14:02,280 --> 00:14:05,200 Speaker 3: when you're in that chicken snitzel. You know that, you 280 00:14:05,240 --> 00:14:07,560 Speaker 3: know that leftover gristle that I feed to my dog. 281 00:14:07,800 --> 00:14:08,120 Speaker 1: That's you. 282 00:14:08,320 --> 00:14:12,760 Speaker 3: Yeah, how do you tell him he's just a friend 283 00:14:12,800 --> 00:14:14,760 Speaker 3: without actually telling him? 284 00:14:15,040 --> 00:14:17,000 Speaker 1: Quote you can have your hoodie back? 285 00:14:17,320 --> 00:14:20,960 Speaker 4: Oh no, if I give you a hoodie, I don't 286 00:14:20,960 --> 00:14:21,320 Speaker 4: want to back. 287 00:14:21,360 --> 00:14:22,320 Speaker 3: If we're not talking anymore. 288 00:14:22,320 --> 00:14:24,400 Speaker 1: Do you imagine imagine she's like, oh, here's your hoodie 289 00:14:24,400 --> 00:14:25,440 Speaker 1: and you go, no, you can keep it. She goes, 290 00:14:25,480 --> 00:14:26,360 Speaker 1: now you can. 291 00:14:27,120 --> 00:14:30,400 Speaker 2: I don't want it. 292 00:14:31,280 --> 00:14:34,560 Speaker 3: Oh that would kill me. It would kill me. D'd 293 00:14:34,600 --> 00:14:36,760 Speaker 3: be like, I see what this is. Now, just tell 294 00:14:36,800 --> 00:14:37,400 Speaker 3: me you hate me? 295 00:14:37,680 --> 00:14:38,200 Speaker 1: Just tell me. 296 00:14:40,320 --> 00:14:41,960 Speaker 3: Okay, going off one of the other ones, Will you 297 00:14:42,080 --> 00:14:43,160 Speaker 3: be my wingman? Tonight? 298 00:14:43,600 --> 00:14:49,480 Speaker 1: Fuck that Fuck that bro. That's menacing. That is menacing. 299 00:14:49,560 --> 00:14:52,680 Speaker 3: Oh this is actually this is a classic and you're 300 00:14:52,720 --> 00:14:54,680 Speaker 3: gonna hate it. But I think this has happened to 301 00:14:55,120 --> 00:15:00,560 Speaker 3: millions upon millions of poor guys. Okay. Quote I wish 302 00:15:00,600 --> 00:15:03,520 Speaker 3: I could find a boy like you. Oh I think 303 00:15:03,600 --> 00:15:05,480 Speaker 3: what do they mean by that? I think that has 304 00:15:05,480 --> 00:15:07,640 Speaker 3: happened to me before. I wish I could find a 305 00:15:07,640 --> 00:15:09,720 Speaker 3: guy like you. Yeah, I'm right here. I am a 306 00:15:09,760 --> 00:15:14,600 Speaker 3: guy like Yeah, that's what we think. I'm right here. 307 00:15:15,240 --> 00:15:17,640 Speaker 3: You know you could counter that with is I wonder 308 00:15:17,680 --> 00:15:19,320 Speaker 3: if a counter for that, a good one would be 309 00:15:20,200 --> 00:15:23,440 Speaker 3: him going yeah, would be good, wouldn't funk? I wish 310 00:15:23,480 --> 00:15:26,400 Speaker 3: I could find a girl like you. If that did, 311 00:15:26,440 --> 00:15:29,200 Speaker 3: like cut a counter kind of I reckon guy, she'd 312 00:15:29,240 --> 00:15:31,600 Speaker 3: be like, well now I want him yeah, and he'd 313 00:15:31,640 --> 00:15:33,040 Speaker 3: be like, yeah, I just wish IL find one like you. 314 00:15:34,120 --> 00:15:37,080 Speaker 4: Okay, my last one or I don't think anyone would 315 00:15:37,080 --> 00:15:39,280 Speaker 4: read onto this one, but let me okay, let me know, 316 00:15:39,880 --> 00:15:43,160 Speaker 4: hugging him with the arms around his body and not. 317 00:15:43,200 --> 00:15:44,960 Speaker 2: His neck, I reckon. 318 00:15:45,000 --> 00:15:47,680 Speaker 1: I'd actually, it's around I don't know. 319 00:15:47,680 --> 00:15:49,800 Speaker 4: The body, and you don't like the body touch instead 320 00:15:49,800 --> 00:15:50,600 Speaker 4: of going around the neck. 321 00:15:51,160 --> 00:15:52,360 Speaker 3: Now, I don't know if i'd read that, But you 322 00:15:52,360 --> 00:15:54,000 Speaker 3: know what I would read if I got a hug 323 00:15:54,040 --> 00:15:54,640 Speaker 3: and she'd tap me. 324 00:15:54,640 --> 00:15:57,920 Speaker 1: On the back that pat on the bad friend. That's condescending. 325 00:15:57,960 --> 00:15:59,360 Speaker 4: Oh, I don't reckon, I'd read it because I get 326 00:15:59,360 --> 00:16:02,440 Speaker 4: too anxious touch like touching other people stress. 327 00:16:02,800 --> 00:16:04,240 Speaker 3: I'm not thinking about the place for me. And I 328 00:16:04,280 --> 00:16:06,680 Speaker 3: are about to meet a new person, and like, if 329 00:16:06,680 --> 00:16:08,040 Speaker 3: it's a dude, we know we're going to shake the 330 00:16:08,080 --> 00:16:10,800 Speaker 3: hands comfortable. Yeah. If we meet a new person and 331 00:16:10,800 --> 00:16:13,880 Speaker 3: we're like, is this girl a hugger upon greeting. We're 332 00:16:13,960 --> 00:16:16,160 Speaker 3: kind of like one of us needs to either greet 333 00:16:16,200 --> 00:16:18,080 Speaker 3: first and have the balls to not hug, go in 334 00:16:18,120 --> 00:16:21,400 Speaker 3: for a handshake, or like just be like like, let's 335 00:16:21,400 --> 00:16:23,880 Speaker 3: say I meet meet someone first, all right, and they're 336 00:16:23,880 --> 00:16:24,760 Speaker 3: going for a hug and I do it. 337 00:16:25,040 --> 00:16:26,240 Speaker 1: In his head, I know he's. 338 00:16:26,080 --> 00:16:27,320 Speaker 3: Like, fuck you. 339 00:16:27,320 --> 00:16:28,520 Speaker 1: You know, we have to hug her every time we 340 00:16:28,560 --> 00:16:29,360 Speaker 1: see her. I hate that. 341 00:16:29,720 --> 00:16:31,520 Speaker 3: I know you hate it. I hate it too, because 342 00:16:31,520 --> 00:16:32,880 Speaker 3: when you do it, I mean my head, I'm like, 343 00:16:32,880 --> 00:16:33,520 Speaker 3: fucking hellot. 344 00:16:35,560 --> 00:16:36,280 Speaker 1: I got one more. 345 00:16:37,080 --> 00:16:38,520 Speaker 3: How did you tell him he was just a friend 346 00:16:38,640 --> 00:16:42,080 Speaker 3: Without actually telling him? I started calling him big fella, 347 00:16:42,520 --> 00:16:46,120 Speaker 3: big fella, smell fella, big fella. I like, big fella 348 00:16:46,240 --> 00:16:47,600 Speaker 3: is worse than being called like Champ or. 349 00:16:47,520 --> 00:16:48,600 Speaker 1: Something like that, big fella. 350 00:16:49,640 --> 00:16:52,480 Speaker 3: I told an old boss of mine once that I 351 00:16:52,520 --> 00:16:55,280 Speaker 3: started calling him champ as an insult, and he didn't 352 00:16:55,360 --> 00:16:57,760 Speaker 3: understand yet, and then I explained it to him, and 353 00:16:57,800 --> 00:17:00,800 Speaker 3: he he thought it was the funniest thing. He cackling 354 00:17:01,320 --> 00:17:04,359 Speaker 3: and then he's like fifty something. He was cackling. And 355 00:17:04,400 --> 00:17:07,760 Speaker 3: then every time I posted like someone on Facebook or Instagram, 356 00:17:07,800 --> 00:17:12,600 Speaker 3: he'd come a nice photos chain that's pretty funny actually, 357 00:17:13,840 --> 00:17:15,680 Speaker 3: and I was just like, funk, I wish I'd never told. 358 00:17:15,480 --> 00:17:17,119 Speaker 4: That the context is meant to be used in for 359 00:17:17,280 --> 00:17:20,439 Speaker 4: like an adult call. Yeah, like what's the age that 360 00:17:20,560 --> 00:17:23,159 Speaker 4: a parent or like an adult can stop calling us buddy? 361 00:17:23,200 --> 00:17:26,200 Speaker 4: And it becomes like condescending, like because go to the 362 00:17:26,240 --> 00:17:27,560 Speaker 4: gym and somebodys. How's you day, buddy? 363 00:17:27,600 --> 00:17:29,359 Speaker 3: I was like, I don't know. Fuck, I don't know. 364 00:17:29,400 --> 00:17:29,720 Speaker 3: I like that. 365 00:17:29,880 --> 00:17:30,720 Speaker 1: It's like, you're twenty eight. 366 00:17:30,840 --> 00:17:36,320 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I'm twenty four. Yeah, we're basically piers. You 367 00:17:36,359 --> 00:17:38,600 Speaker 3: didn't finish school, not that I can say I did, 368 00:17:38,640 --> 00:17:42,520 Speaker 3: But it's like, what's that age bracket? Yeah, that's actually 369 00:17:42,640 --> 00:17:44,680 Speaker 3: such a good question, like how far how much older 370 00:17:44,720 --> 00:17:47,960 Speaker 3: than you? Like if I get called buddy by a grandparent, Yeah, 371 00:17:47,960 --> 00:17:49,840 Speaker 3: I guess I still like it. Yeah, yeah, you know, 372 00:17:49,920 --> 00:17:52,240 Speaker 3: I'm so cute, but like, if you call me buddy, 373 00:17:52,440 --> 00:17:54,880 Speaker 3: I'd be off. I'd be like, I'm older than You're 374 00:17:54,880 --> 00:17:58,679 Speaker 3: ready to record, buddy? Not that? 375 00:18:05,880 --> 00:18:08,359 Speaker 4: Okay, everybody up next is dilemmas. You know what to 376 00:18:08,400 --> 00:18:11,000 Speaker 4: do link in the description of the episode or linking 377 00:18:11,080 --> 00:18:12,359 Speaker 4: bio of Instagram scroll the bottom. 378 00:18:12,359 --> 00:18:14,720 Speaker 3: It will say weekly dilemmas. Here we go. 379 00:18:15,280 --> 00:18:17,920 Speaker 4: I am twenty and my boyfriend is twenty four. We've 380 00:18:17,920 --> 00:18:20,360 Speaker 4: been together for nearly a year now. We barely ever 381 00:18:20,480 --> 00:18:23,959 Speaker 4: argue and always laugh together, and he is perfect. However, 382 00:18:24,080 --> 00:18:27,159 Speaker 4: I work in a heavily male dominated industry and he 383 00:18:27,200 --> 00:18:29,400 Speaker 4: always makes comments and makes it clear that he doesn't 384 00:18:29,400 --> 00:18:32,040 Speaker 4: feel comfortable with it. Due to the nature of my job, 385 00:18:32,119 --> 00:18:34,800 Speaker 4: I often have to work with events outside of working hours, 386 00:18:34,960 --> 00:18:37,160 Speaker 4: and this always causes a lot of friction between us 387 00:18:37,280 --> 00:18:40,199 Speaker 4: due to me being outside working with men for a 388 00:18:40,200 --> 00:18:43,040 Speaker 4: lot of hours. His excuse is I trust you but 389 00:18:43,119 --> 00:18:46,679 Speaker 4: not other people. We've heard that before. He often causes 390 00:18:46,760 --> 00:18:50,000 Speaker 4: arguments about this if I have an upcoming event. When 391 00:18:50,000 --> 00:18:52,600 Speaker 4: I'm at the event, he'll be very blunt and argumentative 392 00:18:52,720 --> 00:18:54,600 Speaker 4: with me, which causes me to feel like I'm doing 393 00:18:54,680 --> 00:18:57,240 Speaker 4: something so wrong and I end up apologizing and trying 394 00:18:57,240 --> 00:18:59,600 Speaker 4: to make it up to him. He doesn't like it 395 00:18:59,600 --> 00:19:02,200 Speaker 4: when I wear certain items of clothing when he isn't there, 396 00:19:02,320 --> 00:19:03,879 Speaker 4: and he finds it disrespectful. 397 00:19:04,160 --> 00:19:04,960 Speaker 3: What should I do? 398 00:19:05,640 --> 00:19:07,520 Speaker 4: What do you think is a good point to bring up? 399 00:19:07,560 --> 00:19:10,400 Speaker 4: And am I being disrespectful? I always text him throughout 400 00:19:10,400 --> 00:19:12,160 Speaker 4: the events and let him know an EdVance if anything's 401 00:19:12,160 --> 00:19:13,879 Speaker 4: coming up, so he doesn't feel blindsided. 402 00:19:17,240 --> 00:19:20,520 Speaker 1: Oh, man, like hearing it. I hate it. I don't 403 00:19:20,560 --> 00:19:21,840 Speaker 1: like that at one single bit. 404 00:19:22,040 --> 00:19:30,159 Speaker 3: And obviously I understand that, you know, other than that, 405 00:19:30,400 --> 00:19:33,439 Speaker 3: he's probably fine, but he just doesn't like what you 406 00:19:33,480 --> 00:19:34,119 Speaker 3: do for work. 407 00:19:34,800 --> 00:19:37,360 Speaker 1: But I think that's crazy. So she does. 408 00:19:37,400 --> 00:19:40,320 Speaker 3: She's in event management, yeah, and she works with it's 409 00:19:40,320 --> 00:19:42,199 Speaker 3: heavily it's maleperformers. 410 00:19:42,640 --> 00:19:46,240 Speaker 1: Yeah wait, wait are you working events with naked dudes? 411 00:19:46,920 --> 00:19:52,000 Speaker 4: But still like she's organizing the whole event like they're colleagues. 412 00:19:52,080 --> 00:19:55,040 Speaker 4: It's more she doesn't have she contractly obliged not to 413 00:19:55,080 --> 00:19:56,920 Speaker 4: get over him evens as well, like it be illegal, 414 00:19:57,200 --> 00:19:58,720 Speaker 4: it would be illegal. But also I want to I 415 00:19:58,760 --> 00:20:02,240 Speaker 4: wanted to say, firstly, I think she was maybe being 416 00:20:02,400 --> 00:20:04,360 Speaker 4: a bit clouded because of love. Don't ever let any 417 00:20:04,359 --> 00:20:06,760 Speaker 4: guy tell you that you can't wear something or you 418 00:20:06,880 --> 00:20:09,400 Speaker 4: can't do something like that. Hey you're comfortable, Yeah, yeah, 419 00:20:09,400 --> 00:20:11,120 Speaker 4: that's the only thing that matters. Be comfortable. 420 00:20:11,200 --> 00:20:14,000 Speaker 3: Yeah. I wonder if like he's fucking insecure and it's 421 00:20:14,000 --> 00:20:16,760 Speaker 3: not your problem, Like he's very clearly very insecure. 422 00:20:16,800 --> 00:20:17,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, Like I'm. 423 00:20:17,480 --> 00:20:21,280 Speaker 3: Assuming one of the reasons that, like I'm just assuming this, 424 00:20:21,400 --> 00:20:24,840 Speaker 3: But she must be working with hot dudes, all right, 425 00:20:25,080 --> 00:20:27,040 Speaker 3: and he thinks that they are better than him. 426 00:20:27,160 --> 00:20:29,680 Speaker 1: True, it's not up to It's like they don't necessarily 427 00:20:29,720 --> 00:20:30,080 Speaker 1: have to be hot. 428 00:20:30,119 --> 00:20:30,600 Speaker 3: He could just think that. 429 00:20:30,800 --> 00:20:31,440 Speaker 1: No, yeah, true. 430 00:20:31,440 --> 00:20:33,760 Speaker 3: But and like the same thing is, like you know, 431 00:20:34,800 --> 00:20:37,879 Speaker 3: it's not fully up to you for to make him 432 00:20:37,920 --> 00:20:40,000 Speaker 3: feel secure, Like use these things you can do as 433 00:20:40,040 --> 00:20:42,200 Speaker 3: a partner to make the other one feel secure. Security 434 00:20:42,200 --> 00:20:44,359 Speaker 3: comes from yourself though. Also he needs to be secure 435 00:20:44,359 --> 00:20:46,240 Speaker 3: in his own like his own body, his and mind 436 00:20:46,280 --> 00:20:49,760 Speaker 3: his own fucking life before it's like you have any 437 00:20:49,760 --> 00:20:50,800 Speaker 3: partner doing that for him. 438 00:20:50,840 --> 00:20:52,960 Speaker 4: That's one of those checkboxes you tick off before you 439 00:20:52,960 --> 00:20:56,280 Speaker 4: get into a relationship. Yeah, you're like proud and contempted 440 00:20:56,320 --> 00:20:59,040 Speaker 4: yourself the person you are. You don't need someone else 441 00:20:59,080 --> 00:21:01,760 Speaker 4: to validate you. And he's obviously he probably thinks his 442 00:21:01,760 --> 00:21:04,399 Speaker 4: girlfriend's better than anything. She can run off at any moment, 443 00:21:04,640 --> 00:21:06,879 Speaker 4: which is a terrible dynamic to have it in relationship. 444 00:21:07,040 --> 00:21:09,720 Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, yeah, did it say anything about in there, 445 00:21:09,760 --> 00:21:11,199 Speaker 3: like how she did she did she say she really 446 00:21:11,240 --> 00:21:13,199 Speaker 3: wants to stay with him? Yeah, well she said he's 447 00:21:13,200 --> 00:21:15,280 Speaker 3: perfect otherwise. Yeah, been together for a year. 448 00:21:15,280 --> 00:21:17,359 Speaker 4: We barely our unit and laugh and everything is perfect 449 00:21:17,359 --> 00:21:18,320 Speaker 4: other than this one thing. 450 00:21:18,400 --> 00:21:20,359 Speaker 3: But it's bigger than one thing. It's a few things. 451 00:21:20,400 --> 00:21:22,879 Speaker 3: It's a few events obviously, or every event where I 452 00:21:22,880 --> 00:21:25,760 Speaker 3: think she's doing everything right, like telling him in advance 453 00:21:25,760 --> 00:21:28,520 Speaker 3: when events coming up. Sure, more than she needs to do. 454 00:21:28,600 --> 00:21:29,120 Speaker 3: It's her job. 455 00:21:29,240 --> 00:21:31,800 Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, exactly. He should be able to respect and 456 00:21:31,880 --> 00:21:33,359 Speaker 4: understand it. That's what she does. 457 00:21:33,520 --> 00:21:36,800 Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm trying to think here, like what's her way 458 00:21:37,320 --> 00:21:41,840 Speaker 3: to bring it up? Where? You know, I think I'm 459 00:21:41,880 --> 00:21:44,119 Speaker 3: sure every topic has been brought up, and every single 460 00:21:44,359 --> 00:21:47,440 Speaker 3: like every every every argument to make him feel secure 461 00:21:47,480 --> 00:21:49,400 Speaker 3: has probably been been brought up. You know, like she's 462 00:21:49,440 --> 00:21:51,480 Speaker 3: she's she's walking on eggshells. I think he's got to 463 00:21:51,480 --> 00:21:52,520 Speaker 3: be put in his place a little bit. 464 00:21:52,720 --> 00:21:55,560 Speaker 4: Yeah, Like, I know, a relationship is two people, but 465 00:21:55,680 --> 00:21:59,840 Speaker 4: like at a certain time it becomes a hymn problem, like, hey, 466 00:21:59,840 --> 00:22:02,240 Speaker 4: this is my job. You ever trust me or you don't, 467 00:22:03,040 --> 00:22:05,639 Speaker 4: Like I'm not getting with any other boys, this is 468 00:22:05,680 --> 00:22:07,720 Speaker 4: your problem. You need to deal with it and just 469 00:22:07,720 --> 00:22:09,520 Speaker 4: trust me. I think that's what you should say. 470 00:22:09,640 --> 00:22:11,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, I like that. I reckon next time he's like 471 00:22:11,600 --> 00:22:13,200 Speaker 1: trying to you know, and. 472 00:22:13,160 --> 00:22:15,360 Speaker 4: He's been all like a blunt and stuff when your 473 00:22:15,400 --> 00:22:16,960 Speaker 4: work and you're trying to concentrate and he's been a 474 00:22:16,960 --> 00:22:18,520 Speaker 4: little dog like that's just immature too. 475 00:22:18,640 --> 00:22:21,880 Speaker 3: I think in this scenario you shouldn't. I know, it's 476 00:22:21,920 --> 00:22:25,600 Speaker 3: really it's so hard to disconnect from. But I think, 477 00:22:25,760 --> 00:22:29,640 Speaker 3: like I do genuinely think he's acting like a child. Yeah, 478 00:22:29,760 --> 00:22:34,440 Speaker 3: so I reckon something you could try is if he's 479 00:22:34,480 --> 00:22:37,000 Speaker 3: like acting like a child, tell him like you're going 480 00:22:37,040 --> 00:22:38,879 Speaker 3: to treat him like a child, and say to him 481 00:22:38,920 --> 00:22:41,360 Speaker 3: if he's having a little tantrum even of a text, 482 00:22:41,400 --> 00:22:42,639 Speaker 3: I don't care if you do whatever the phone or 483 00:22:42,640 --> 00:22:44,200 Speaker 3: of a text. If you just if he's like trying 484 00:22:44,200 --> 00:22:45,400 Speaker 3: to make you feel bad of a text and he's 485 00:22:45,440 --> 00:22:48,920 Speaker 3: being blunt, you can just be like, once you like seriously, 486 00:22:49,000 --> 00:22:50,800 Speaker 3: talk to me when you're done having a tantrum, Like 487 00:22:50,840 --> 00:22:52,080 Speaker 3: there's not that he needs to be told that this 488 00:22:52,119 --> 00:22:53,479 Speaker 3: is a tantrum. Like he thinks he's in the right, 489 00:22:53,560 --> 00:22:56,280 Speaker 3: Like he doesn't understand what he's doing is like selfish 490 00:22:56,320 --> 00:22:58,840 Speaker 3: as fuck. Yeah, so I think that because this is. 491 00:22:58,800 --> 00:23:00,000 Speaker 1: The way you make money. 492 00:23:00,119 --> 00:23:02,840 Speaker 3: This is how you make a living, you know, this 493 00:23:02,880 --> 00:23:06,440 Speaker 3: is how you genuinely make your money to pay rent, 494 00:23:07,080 --> 00:23:10,280 Speaker 3: Like it's ridiculous. This is your fucking career if you 495 00:23:11,240 --> 00:23:14,840 Speaker 3: and like he doesn't understand because he's too insecureing himself. 496 00:23:14,840 --> 00:23:16,880 Speaker 3: I think one thing you can try is so next 497 00:23:16,880 --> 00:23:19,800 Speaker 3: time he's having a tantrum, just say, hey, talk to 498 00:23:19,800 --> 00:23:21,359 Speaker 3: me when you're done having your tantrum, because this is 499 00:23:21,400 --> 00:23:22,919 Speaker 3: my job, this is how I make money. And what 500 00:23:22,960 --> 00:23:25,200 Speaker 3: you're doing is super selfish and I'm not going to 501 00:23:25,240 --> 00:23:27,920 Speaker 3: baby you. Yeah, and this isn't a healthy relationship, no, 502 00:23:28,160 --> 00:23:30,359 Speaker 3: like at all, well in that sense, no, not at all, 503 00:23:30,400 --> 00:23:31,200 Speaker 3: because he's insecure. 504 00:23:31,240 --> 00:23:32,359 Speaker 1: So I think you need to try and call him 505 00:23:32,400 --> 00:23:32,720 Speaker 1: out on it. 506 00:23:32,720 --> 00:23:35,000 Speaker 3: And then it's like depending on his actions based off 507 00:23:35,040 --> 00:23:37,240 Speaker 3: of that, because I think what you're doing if you 508 00:23:37,320 --> 00:23:40,360 Speaker 3: said to him, yep, I think she's already done enough 509 00:23:40,359 --> 00:23:43,240 Speaker 3: at this point due for him. Yah, I say, I tantrum, 510 00:23:43,400 --> 00:23:44,800 Speaker 3: let me know when you're done, and if you fucking 511 00:23:44,840 --> 00:23:47,240 Speaker 3: reacts bad, reacts bad, and he might break up with you, 512 00:23:47,320 --> 00:23:48,600 Speaker 3: but it's going to be better for you in the end. 513 00:23:48,600 --> 00:23:50,280 Speaker 3: I'm even thinking what men and Jake do. We're both 514 00:23:50,359 --> 00:23:51,120 Speaker 3: in relationships. 515 00:23:51,119 --> 00:23:53,800 Speaker 4: We record for like majority of a day and we'll 516 00:23:53,800 --> 00:23:56,200 Speaker 4: put our phones on do not disturb. Yeah, imagine if 517 00:23:56,200 --> 00:23:58,240 Speaker 4: this girl put her phone on do not Disturb it work, 518 00:23:58,280 --> 00:24:00,240 Speaker 4: I bet you her boyfriend would go bully. 519 00:24:00,080 --> 00:24:02,120 Speaker 1: Stick Fuck he needs to. 520 00:24:02,160 --> 00:24:04,480 Speaker 4: Yeah, that's I'm saying, Like, if he's going to do that, 521 00:24:04,480 --> 00:24:05,640 Speaker 4: maybe that's a little wake up call. 522 00:24:05,680 --> 00:24:07,200 Speaker 3: Like this guy is pretty toxic. 523 00:24:07,320 --> 00:24:08,920 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, definitely sounds pretty toxic. 524 00:24:09,000 --> 00:24:10,639 Speaker 3: Yeah, like you can't trust him for eight hours when 525 00:24:10,640 --> 00:24:12,480 Speaker 3: he works a work sorry, Like I don't know. I 526 00:24:12,480 --> 00:24:15,080 Speaker 3: feel like i'd understand a little more if he was 527 00:24:15,440 --> 00:24:18,240 Speaker 3: if he was insecure, but he didn't make you feel 528 00:24:18,240 --> 00:24:20,400 Speaker 3: bad about it, Like he just was kind of like, oh, 529 00:24:20,760 --> 00:24:23,919 Speaker 3: you know, it makes me a bit insecure, just so 530 00:24:24,040 --> 00:24:24,480 Speaker 3: you knew. 531 00:24:25,280 --> 00:24:27,160 Speaker 1: And then he didn't make you feel. 532 00:24:26,960 --> 00:24:29,320 Speaker 3: Bad about it, just actions, and then you're knowing that 533 00:24:29,359 --> 00:24:32,520 Speaker 3: he's insecure, you just kind of do what you're doing already, 534 00:24:32,560 --> 00:24:34,640 Speaker 3: where you just like, you know, tell him stuff because 535 00:24:34,640 --> 00:24:36,240 Speaker 3: like being honest with starts always like the right thing, 536 00:24:36,240 --> 00:24:38,520 Speaker 3: and just like letting him know what you're doing. But 537 00:24:38,960 --> 00:24:41,800 Speaker 3: the way he's acting is just fucking ridiculous. 538 00:24:41,920 --> 00:24:44,800 Speaker 4: Yeah, I just think believe it on be you dress 539 00:24:44,880 --> 00:24:46,840 Speaker 4: however you want, do your job to the best of 540 00:24:46,840 --> 00:24:48,840 Speaker 4: your ability, and tell him this is how it is 541 00:24:49,320 --> 00:24:50,200 Speaker 4: yeah or wrong. 542 00:24:50,560 --> 00:24:52,440 Speaker 3: I also wack So's he's clearly never been put in 543 00:24:52,480 --> 00:24:54,120 Speaker 3: his place by anyone. I think he was gas lying 544 00:24:54,119 --> 00:24:55,680 Speaker 3: here a little bit. He's yeah, he's never been put 545 00:24:55,680 --> 00:24:58,480 Speaker 3: in his place by anyone, And if you do it, 546 00:24:58,800 --> 00:25:02,199 Speaker 3: he might have this like a assive tantrum, And I like, 547 00:25:02,240 --> 00:25:04,840 Speaker 3: you just have to see what happens, because obviously, if 548 00:25:04,840 --> 00:25:07,720 Speaker 3: you've got to ask yourself, if this doesn't get fixed, 549 00:25:08,240 --> 00:25:10,040 Speaker 3: would you even want to be with him forever? And 550 00:25:10,080 --> 00:25:11,560 Speaker 3: if you in your head, you're like, no, I wouldn't 551 00:25:11,560 --> 00:25:13,280 Speaker 3: want to be with him forever if this doesn't get fixed. 552 00:25:13,400 --> 00:25:14,439 Speaker 3: So what you have to do is you have to 553 00:25:14,600 --> 00:25:17,119 Speaker 3: just almost push him to the edge where he makes 554 00:25:17,160 --> 00:25:20,000 Speaker 3: a massive mistake in blowing up for no fucking reason, 555 00:25:20,320 --> 00:25:22,240 Speaker 3: breaks up with you or something, and then he comes 556 00:25:22,280 --> 00:25:24,280 Speaker 3: crawling back and he's like, I'm so sorry, I'm so insecure, 557 00:25:24,440 --> 00:25:25,879 Speaker 3: And then you're gonna be like, yeah, you fucking are 558 00:25:26,240 --> 00:25:29,359 Speaker 3: and just be like no, not impressed, like fuck off exactly. Yeah, 559 00:25:29,440 --> 00:25:30,680 Speaker 3: I think so we'll cut through it. 560 00:25:30,680 --> 00:25:32,320 Speaker 1: But I think that's true. I know it's so hard 561 00:25:32,320 --> 00:25:34,639 Speaker 1: to do when you love him, it is. It's the 562 00:25:34,680 --> 00:25:35,560 Speaker 1: hardest thing in the world. 563 00:25:35,560 --> 00:25:37,520 Speaker 3: To do. I know it is the hardest thing in 564 00:25:37,520 --> 00:25:40,320 Speaker 3: the world to do, but you have to like ask yourself, 565 00:25:41,080 --> 00:25:43,520 Speaker 3: is it that or is it just the gonna keep 566 00:25:43,520 --> 00:25:45,000 Speaker 3: going the way it's going, Like what would you profession? 567 00:25:45,080 --> 00:25:46,480 Speaker 4: You're a year in, like, this is probably a good 568 00:25:46,480 --> 00:25:48,120 Speaker 4: time to do it before he gets three, four, five 569 00:25:48,200 --> 00:25:48,440 Speaker 4: years in. 570 00:25:48,600 --> 00:25:51,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, and then you see start holding on more exactly. 571 00:25:57,920 --> 00:26:00,760 Speaker 4: All right, Jake, We are both in relationship. We tell 572 00:26:00,800 --> 00:26:03,920 Speaker 4: stories all the time. This is one of my I 573 00:26:04,000 --> 00:26:06,920 Speaker 4: want to see if you agree one of my realizations. 574 00:26:06,960 --> 00:26:10,639 Speaker 4: It's a very handy tip to have in a relationship. 575 00:26:10,640 --> 00:26:11,959 Speaker 4: I want to know if you use it or if 576 00:26:11,960 --> 00:26:14,520 Speaker 4: you agree or disagree with me, because it's a little 577 00:26:14,520 --> 00:26:17,080 Speaker 4: bit left field, but I use it quite often and 578 00:26:17,119 --> 00:26:18,040 Speaker 4: my girlfriend does too. 579 00:26:18,080 --> 00:26:20,359 Speaker 3: After I've we've had a fight. To do with fights. 580 00:26:20,960 --> 00:26:26,200 Speaker 4: So it's all about timing and people's emotions. So it's 581 00:26:26,280 --> 00:26:29,399 Speaker 4: a tricky thing to understand because say something you and 582 00:26:29,440 --> 00:26:31,560 Speaker 4: your girlfriend or anyone listening, you and your boyfriend, girlfriend, 583 00:26:31,560 --> 00:26:35,560 Speaker 4: what any dynamic something happens and one of you is 584 00:26:35,600 --> 00:26:39,600 Speaker 4: really really upset. There's something beautiful about timing and rather 585 00:26:39,720 --> 00:26:42,760 Speaker 4: than the natural instinct of a human is to deal 586 00:26:42,760 --> 00:26:46,600 Speaker 4: with the problem right there and then, but I realize 587 00:26:46,720 --> 00:26:49,280 Speaker 4: and me and my girlfriend implement it that when one 588 00:26:49,280 --> 00:26:51,320 Speaker 4: of us are heated in a really bad mood or 589 00:26:51,359 --> 00:26:54,320 Speaker 4: something like that, that it's better to just let it 590 00:26:54,400 --> 00:26:57,359 Speaker 4: process and sit and figure it out ourselves a little 591 00:26:57,359 --> 00:26:59,359 Speaker 4: bit before we bring it to the other person and 592 00:26:59,400 --> 00:27:03,040 Speaker 4: talk about it. Yeah, because we've had our two biggest 593 00:27:03,040 --> 00:27:05,520 Speaker 4: fights because we just kept trying to solve the issue 594 00:27:05,760 --> 00:27:08,160 Speaker 4: and she was heeded, I was heated, and just going 595 00:27:08,200 --> 00:27:10,000 Speaker 4: back and forth, back and forth, and we're saying things 596 00:27:10,000 --> 00:27:13,199 Speaker 4: we do it didn't really mean. But now if one 597 00:27:13,240 --> 00:27:14,800 Speaker 4: of us has something that just really really bad, or 598 00:27:14,800 --> 00:27:16,960 Speaker 4: like someone pisses the other one off, we sit on it, 599 00:27:17,240 --> 00:27:19,760 Speaker 4: let us process the feeling and take away that initial 600 00:27:20,000 --> 00:27:22,920 Speaker 4: anger and resentment and that you sort of thing, and 601 00:27:23,000 --> 00:27:25,159 Speaker 4: now it's sort of then we can talk about it 602 00:27:25,200 --> 00:27:27,359 Speaker 4: openly and honestly and work through the problem. So a 603 00:27:27,400 --> 00:27:29,720 Speaker 4: lot of relationship issues is all about timing, and it 604 00:27:29,720 --> 00:27:31,879 Speaker 4: comes down to also being tired when you want to 605 00:27:31,920 --> 00:27:33,560 Speaker 4: do it fuck and things like that. 606 00:27:34,200 --> 00:27:36,960 Speaker 1: Boy, yeah, this is no, this is crazy. Yeah, I 607 00:27:36,960 --> 00:27:37,960 Speaker 1: think this is really good. 608 00:27:38,920 --> 00:27:41,520 Speaker 3: Yeah. I mean I don't implement that, but I think 609 00:27:41,600 --> 00:27:43,200 Speaker 3: that that is really good. 610 00:27:43,359 --> 00:27:44,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I think that's great. Wow. 611 00:27:45,359 --> 00:27:47,960 Speaker 4: It happened with we had our first our first fight, 612 00:27:48,000 --> 00:27:50,720 Speaker 4: which is our biggest one, was like maybe six months 613 00:27:50,760 --> 00:27:53,720 Speaker 4: into dating, and I said from the start I wanted 614 00:27:53,760 --> 00:27:55,679 Speaker 4: to go home and sit on it. And she's like, no, 615 00:27:55,760 --> 00:27:58,040 Speaker 4: you can't leave when we're like this angry and angry 616 00:27:58,080 --> 00:27:59,159 Speaker 4: at each other. And I was like, no, I just 617 00:27:59,160 --> 00:28:01,000 Speaker 4: want to go home and like sort myself out before 618 00:28:01,000 --> 00:28:02,720 Speaker 4: I talked to you about it, and she couldn't. 619 00:28:02,720 --> 00:28:05,920 Speaker 3: We process that. I didn't have this implementation yet. 620 00:28:06,000 --> 00:28:08,600 Speaker 4: But I had that realization after because after we settled down, 621 00:28:08,600 --> 00:28:09,760 Speaker 4: we went to the beach and didn't talk to each 622 00:28:09,760 --> 00:28:11,520 Speaker 4: other for a bit and then we just talked about 623 00:28:11,560 --> 00:28:13,000 Speaker 4: We talked about it after it. I was like, fuck, 624 00:28:13,000 --> 00:28:15,439 Speaker 4: it's easy to talk when there's at these emotions, like 625 00:28:15,480 --> 00:28:16,080 Speaker 4: at the top. 626 00:28:15,920 --> 00:28:19,560 Speaker 3: Of my heart, yo, Because sometimes in the heat of 627 00:28:19,640 --> 00:28:22,720 Speaker 3: the moment, even though even if you remember, like you 628 00:28:22,840 --> 00:28:24,960 Speaker 3: even if you actively remember it's me and you against 629 00:28:24,960 --> 00:28:27,480 Speaker 3: the problem, not you and me against each other, it's 630 00:28:27,520 --> 00:28:30,960 Speaker 3: still so difficult to I guess, implement it. You know, 631 00:28:31,320 --> 00:28:32,679 Speaker 3: when you're in it, you can't see it, and it's 632 00:28:32,680 --> 00:28:34,119 Speaker 3: always just like you've done this to me and it 633 00:28:34,119 --> 00:28:35,800 Speaker 3: makes me feel this bad and it's always you, but 634 00:28:35,800 --> 00:28:39,720 Speaker 3: it's not never the wee thing yoh so what so 635 00:28:39,800 --> 00:28:42,760 Speaker 3: do you wouldn't believe in? How Like some people are like, no, 636 00:28:43,200 --> 00:28:44,120 Speaker 3: never go to a bit angry. 637 00:28:44,360 --> 00:28:46,480 Speaker 4: Yeah, so that's like, that's the rebuttal with some people 638 00:28:46,520 --> 00:28:48,760 Speaker 4: need to because some people can't go away from the 639 00:28:48,760 --> 00:28:50,720 Speaker 4: situation and deal with that anger. They have to resolve 640 00:28:50,720 --> 00:28:53,880 Speaker 4: it before they can leave, which I can understand to extent. 641 00:28:53,960 --> 00:28:55,600 Speaker 4: But for me, I find it so much harder to 642 00:28:55,600 --> 00:28:58,000 Speaker 4: resolve that problem if we're both heated and we're in 643 00:28:58,040 --> 00:28:59,920 Speaker 4: it and our heads are like all fuzzy and we're 644 00:28:59,920 --> 00:29:01,040 Speaker 4: just like hating each other. 645 00:29:01,120 --> 00:29:03,440 Speaker 3: That's a very very good point. I take a long 646 00:29:03,480 --> 00:29:06,600 Speaker 3: time to process things too. For a long time in. 647 00:29:06,560 --> 00:29:09,960 Speaker 4: An argument, A boy's coping mechanism is to go silent 648 00:29:10,480 --> 00:29:12,360 Speaker 4: when and girls hate that because they want to talk 649 00:29:12,400 --> 00:29:14,640 Speaker 4: about it. Yeah it's that weird, so they want to 650 00:29:14,640 --> 00:29:15,840 Speaker 4: talk about it and they say things, and then we 651 00:29:15,840 --> 00:29:17,160 Speaker 4: don't want to talk about at all, and then you just 652 00:29:17,200 --> 00:29:18,400 Speaker 4: fucking hate each other even more. 653 00:29:18,520 --> 00:29:18,720 Speaker 3: Yeah. 654 00:29:18,760 --> 00:29:21,520 Speaker 4: So if we both go away from it, I process 655 00:29:21,600 --> 00:29:23,440 Speaker 4: how I'm feeling so I can articulate what I want 656 00:29:23,480 --> 00:29:26,440 Speaker 4: to say yeah, and she doesn't get as angry as well. Yeah, 657 00:29:26,440 --> 00:29:28,320 Speaker 4: and then we come back together and have a normal 658 00:29:28,320 --> 00:29:30,160 Speaker 4: conversation and we work through it, and that's how we 659 00:29:30,200 --> 00:29:37,640 Speaker 4: deal with our problems. Fuck, that's very very healthy, healthy, No, dude, 660 00:29:37,640 --> 00:29:39,880 Speaker 4: I like it's so basically okay. So there is people 661 00:29:39,960 --> 00:29:42,000 Speaker 4: that you see these like old people in interviews that 662 00:29:42,040 --> 00:29:44,400 Speaker 4: are giving They're like, what's your best advice to have 663 00:29:44,440 --> 00:29:45,120 Speaker 4: a long marriage? 664 00:29:45,320 --> 00:29:47,240 Speaker 3: Yeah, and how that will be like, never go to 665 00:29:47,240 --> 00:29:50,200 Speaker 3: bed salty. Yeah, So basically so you'd be happy to go. 666 00:29:50,280 --> 00:29:51,760 Speaker 3: We're not happy to but you would go to bed 667 00:29:51,800 --> 00:29:53,960 Speaker 3: salty if that meant that you get some time to 668 00:29:54,800 --> 00:29:55,160 Speaker 3: I would. 669 00:29:55,320 --> 00:29:57,440 Speaker 4: I'm but I could sit on it for a night 670 00:29:57,920 --> 00:29:59,320 Speaker 4: or when I did seed it an hour for my 671 00:29:59,360 --> 00:30:01,520 Speaker 4: girlfriend still a different time for those things. I could 672 00:30:01,520 --> 00:30:02,760 Speaker 4: happily just spill on it for a night, but I 673 00:30:02,760 --> 00:30:04,600 Speaker 4: know she doesn't like to go to bed with that 674 00:30:04,640 --> 00:30:05,760 Speaker 4: in the back of it. I'm like, okay, yeah, so 675 00:30:05,760 --> 00:30:07,440 Speaker 4: if we had a fight, I don't know, three o'clock, Well, 676 00:30:07,480 --> 00:30:09,440 Speaker 4: so let's just sit on it on like even if 677 00:30:09,520 --> 00:30:11,520 Speaker 4: it's just different sides of the house. Yeah, Like we 678 00:30:11,640 --> 00:30:13,200 Speaker 4: just go I go on my computer and she goes 679 00:30:13,200 --> 00:30:14,719 Speaker 4: and watch TV for a couple of hours, and then 680 00:30:14,760 --> 00:30:15,200 Speaker 4: we come back. 681 00:30:15,240 --> 00:30:16,840 Speaker 3: It's just as simple as that. Yeah, yea, yea, yeah, 682 00:30:16,880 --> 00:30:18,640 Speaker 3: yea yeah yeah. And then yeah you come back and 683 00:30:18,640 --> 00:30:22,400 Speaker 3: they're like there's no because you leave, heartbreaks up. 684 00:30:22,440 --> 00:30:26,240 Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, yeah, you're about to get someone. Yeah he 685 00:30:26,320 --> 00:30:28,080 Speaker 4: loves there and someone's like affected, they love me. 686 00:30:28,160 --> 00:30:30,280 Speaker 1: Like fuck fulking. Like someone can put you in a 687 00:30:30,280 --> 00:30:30,800 Speaker 1: bench press and. 688 00:30:30,800 --> 00:30:33,880 Speaker 3: You're pring bro yeaheah yeah, but you go, yeah, you 689 00:30:33,960 --> 00:30:37,560 Speaker 3: settle down and take a breather. I really really like that. 690 00:30:37,600 --> 00:30:38,959 Speaker 3: I think that would be very that could be very 691 00:30:38,960 --> 00:30:41,040 Speaker 3: well implemented. I was thinking about it. 692 00:30:41,040 --> 00:30:43,400 Speaker 4: I was like, this is because when Cassi's friends called 693 00:30:43,440 --> 00:30:45,000 Speaker 4: her and something having a relationship and Cassie was talking 694 00:30:45,000 --> 00:30:46,120 Speaker 4: about time and I was and then she goes, oh, 695 00:30:46,200 --> 00:30:46,760 Speaker 4: he told me about it. 696 00:30:46,840 --> 00:30:48,320 Speaker 3: I was like I did too. I forgot about that. 697 00:30:49,640 --> 00:30:51,800 Speaker 3: I was like, this is a really good tip. 698 00:30:51,840 --> 00:30:53,360 Speaker 4: But then I was like, maybe some other people might 699 00:30:53,360 --> 00:30:55,000 Speaker 4: think it's a good tip too, because like, yeah, you 700 00:30:55,040 --> 00:30:56,320 Speaker 4: know when you do things and you just sort of 701 00:30:56,360 --> 00:30:58,080 Speaker 4: take it for grand and think everybody does the same thing. 702 00:30:58,160 --> 00:30:59,360 Speaker 3: Yeah, it was just one of those things I was like, 703 00:30:59,360 --> 00:31:00,560 Speaker 3: doesn't everyone do that I have. 704 00:31:01,560 --> 00:31:06,800 Speaker 1: I have this like thing where I like a cute 705 00:31:06,840 --> 00:31:09,080 Speaker 1: lot of humans. I want I want to solve the problem. 706 00:31:10,320 --> 00:31:11,959 Speaker 3: Yeah, like I want to solve the problem because, like 707 00:31:12,760 --> 00:31:14,600 Speaker 3: I just put you out, I prefer it to be solved. 708 00:31:14,880 --> 00:31:15,080 Speaker 3: You know. 709 00:31:15,520 --> 00:31:16,400 Speaker 1: I'm just like, oh, I know. 710 00:31:16,480 --> 00:31:18,480 Speaker 3: Sitting on it doesn't feel good because it's like something 711 00:31:18,520 --> 00:31:19,760 Speaker 3: in the back of my mind is like, we have 712 00:31:19,800 --> 00:31:21,200 Speaker 3: to fix this, and we have to fix this now. 713 00:31:21,560 --> 00:31:23,200 Speaker 1: So some sort of talent and being able to. 714 00:31:23,120 --> 00:31:24,320 Speaker 3: Be like they're going to be mad at me for 715 00:31:24,360 --> 00:31:27,040 Speaker 3: a few hours or a day or a few days, 716 00:31:27,560 --> 00:31:30,120 Speaker 3: but we need to like really sit on it and 717 00:31:30,240 --> 00:31:31,840 Speaker 3: think about how we both feel about it. 718 00:31:32,080 --> 00:31:33,240 Speaker 1: And then but when you come. 719 00:31:33,080 --> 00:31:37,320 Speaker 3: Back to it, do you just like say how each 720 00:31:37,360 --> 00:31:40,560 Speaker 3: of you feel? And what if it's like feelings just 721 00:31:40,600 --> 00:31:43,200 Speaker 3: fully haven't change. Now you both just have these wicked 722 00:31:43,240 --> 00:31:45,360 Speaker 3: good arguments because you've had time to think. You both 723 00:31:45,400 --> 00:31:48,200 Speaker 3: have wicked arguments that that are gonna that are backing 724 00:31:48,320 --> 00:31:50,560 Speaker 3: up both sides. And at what point are you like, 725 00:31:50,880 --> 00:31:53,760 Speaker 3: we're never disagreeing, Sorry, we're never going to agree on this. Well, 726 00:31:53,720 --> 00:31:55,760 Speaker 3: there are always going to be points we never agree 727 00:31:55,760 --> 00:31:58,600 Speaker 3: on things. But I think that time taking away from 728 00:31:58,640 --> 00:32:01,240 Speaker 3: it takes away that initial fight and fire that you 729 00:32:01,320 --> 00:32:04,480 Speaker 3: have when it first initially happens. That's all it works. 730 00:32:04,840 --> 00:32:07,680 Speaker 4: This might not work for everybody, but it works for 731 00:32:07,760 --> 00:32:09,640 Speaker 4: us because I'm thinking that because I've always had and 732 00:32:09,640 --> 00:32:12,360 Speaker 4: I can't. I can't think and articulate my thoughts. I 733 00:32:12,400 --> 00:32:14,320 Speaker 4: just want to go silent. That's why I just want. 734 00:32:14,160 --> 00:32:14,800 Speaker 3: To go nonverbal. 735 00:32:14,840 --> 00:32:16,640 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, no, I can't. 736 00:32:16,800 --> 00:32:18,400 Speaker 4: And then it makes a situation so much where I'm like, 737 00:32:18,440 --> 00:32:19,680 Speaker 4: I just need some time to process it. 738 00:32:19,720 --> 00:32:22,760 Speaker 3: I'm terrible in that situation because I go silent and 739 00:32:22,800 --> 00:32:24,640 Speaker 3: then it's like, well, do you have anything to say? 740 00:32:24,720 --> 00:32:26,520 Speaker 3: And it's like, well, I'm gonna have something to say, 741 00:32:26,560 --> 00:32:29,200 Speaker 3: but I literally can't process it that quick. Yeah, like 742 00:32:29,240 --> 00:32:30,560 Speaker 3: I have nothing to say right now, but I one 743 00:32:30,600 --> 00:32:32,160 Speaker 3: hundred percent will have something to say. But I need 744 00:32:32,160 --> 00:32:34,200 Speaker 3: to think about everything that was said, and I need 745 00:32:34,200 --> 00:32:37,600 Speaker 3: to process it because right now I don't understand how 746 00:32:37,640 --> 00:32:41,520 Speaker 3: you feel, But in five minutes or ten minutes, I 747 00:32:41,520 --> 00:32:44,840 Speaker 3: could understand. Now I'm yeah, that's how I'm processing it, 748 00:32:44,880 --> 00:32:48,600 Speaker 3: Like stuff needs to be explained because I don't know, 749 00:32:48,640 --> 00:32:52,120 Speaker 3: Like it's no excuse, but yeah, no, I definitely I'm 750 00:32:52,240 --> 00:32:54,040 Speaker 3: one that needs time and I'm definitely got And it's 751 00:32:54,040 --> 00:32:56,600 Speaker 3: sort of also like it feels kind of awkward to 752 00:32:56,600 --> 00:32:58,880 Speaker 3: bring it up after it being a while because sometimes 753 00:32:58,920 --> 00:33:00,400 Speaker 3: you just brush it under the door mat and if 754 00:33:00,440 --> 00:33:02,160 Speaker 3: you're both happy after like a couple of hours. 755 00:33:02,080 --> 00:33:03,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, you both kind of like were stupid. 756 00:33:03,600 --> 00:33:05,000 Speaker 3: Yeah, that sometimes happens. 757 00:33:05,040 --> 00:33:07,200 Speaker 4: But also you need like that healthy little outlet system 758 00:33:07,240 --> 00:33:08,480 Speaker 4: like me and my girlfriends call it. You want to 759 00:33:08,480 --> 00:33:10,200 Speaker 4: have a check in, You need to try and like 760 00:33:10,240 --> 00:33:11,680 Speaker 4: you have like a little system there where you can 761 00:33:11,760 --> 00:33:13,480 Speaker 4: openly talk about your feelings the way we call it 762 00:33:13,520 --> 00:33:13,840 Speaker 4: a check in. 763 00:33:13,840 --> 00:33:15,680 Speaker 3: But because I like, let's have let's have a chat. 764 00:33:15,800 --> 00:33:17,200 Speaker 4: Yeah, like you just have that there so you don't 765 00:33:17,200 --> 00:33:18,800 Speaker 4: have to be having something like awkward like just standing 766 00:33:18,800 --> 00:33:20,000 Speaker 4: there and be like so this. 767 00:33:19,880 --> 00:33:22,320 Speaker 3: Is what made me feel? Like Yeah, so you think 768 00:33:22,320 --> 00:33:24,640 Speaker 3: it's a little awkward sometimes to go away for a 769 00:33:24,680 --> 00:33:26,479 Speaker 3: few hours and then come back and bring it back up. 770 00:33:26,600 --> 00:33:27,560 Speaker 1: Yes, So it's. 771 00:33:27,400 --> 00:33:30,480 Speaker 3: Like you go away and then you make it yeah okay, 772 00:33:30,480 --> 00:33:31,840 Speaker 3: because I can I can see how that could be 773 00:33:31,840 --> 00:33:35,000 Speaker 3: a bit awkward where you you're in a heated argument, 774 00:33:35,440 --> 00:33:37,640 Speaker 3: you can't figure it out, so you go, look like, 775 00:33:37,920 --> 00:33:40,360 Speaker 3: let's just both take an hour or two to see 776 00:33:40,400 --> 00:33:43,680 Speaker 3: how we feel. And then when you're unheeded, you're unheeded. Yeah, 777 00:33:43,720 --> 00:33:45,800 Speaker 3: you know, it's like you don't feel like talking about 778 00:33:45,800 --> 00:33:48,840 Speaker 3: it anymore because it took so much energy. It takes energy, 779 00:33:48,920 --> 00:33:51,920 Speaker 3: like mental energy to argue, and so then when you 780 00:33:51,920 --> 00:33:53,640 Speaker 3: do come back, you're like, I honestly would rather just 781 00:33:53,680 --> 00:33:55,120 Speaker 3: like sit down and watch a movie and cuddle you 782 00:33:55,680 --> 00:33:58,680 Speaker 3: then keep arguing, and sometimes it just gets forgotten. 783 00:33:58,720 --> 00:34:00,920 Speaker 4: But sometimes that's all it needs, is well, like the 784 00:34:01,200 --> 00:34:04,000 Speaker 4: problem is the problem is YouTube being so heated. Yeah, well, 785 00:34:04,400 --> 00:34:06,240 Speaker 4: like sometimes you just need to hug it out. Yeah, 786 00:34:07,240 --> 00:34:08,640 Speaker 4: and one of you says I'm sorry, But in that 787 00:34:08,640 --> 00:34:10,200 Speaker 4: moment when you're heated, they won't say sorry. 788 00:34:10,719 --> 00:34:14,040 Speaker 3: Yeah fuck no, they believe what they're saying. Yeah yeah, yeah, 789 00:34:14,080 --> 00:34:14,799 Speaker 3: I've done it before. 790 00:34:14,840 --> 00:34:16,960 Speaker 4: I've been like, has it ever clicked when you when 791 00:34:16,960 --> 00:34:18,480 Speaker 4: you're in an argument and you're like, holy shit, I 792 00:34:18,480 --> 00:34:21,680 Speaker 4: am being fucking wrong here, oh yeah, y yeah yeah yea, 793 00:34:21,719 --> 00:34:23,040 Speaker 4: yeah I was on and you still I would have 794 00:34:23,080 --> 00:34:23,520 Speaker 4: just kept going. 795 00:34:23,640 --> 00:34:25,360 Speaker 3: I've got a double down on myself. Yeah no, no, 796 00:34:25,440 --> 00:34:27,759 Speaker 3: I am very that's what really, very very rarely right, 797 00:34:27,840 --> 00:34:29,000 Speaker 3: yeah exactly, Yeah, yeah. 798 00:34:28,840 --> 00:34:29,239 Speaker 1: I'm just. 799 00:34:30,680 --> 00:34:33,400 Speaker 3: I'm about as stupid as they come fast. I actually 800 00:34:33,520 --> 00:34:37,120 Speaker 3: know what could be Patrick, Yeah, I might need that 801 00:34:37,160 --> 00:34:41,920 Speaker 3: pink jumper. Maybe that's what it's throw. That's what it's throw. Yeah, 802 00:34:41,960 --> 00:34:42,839 Speaker 3: but that was me tip. 803 00:34:43,000 --> 00:34:44,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, I like that tip. 804 00:34:44,160 --> 00:34:44,759 Speaker 3: Yeah, that's a. 805 00:34:44,680 --> 00:34:45,239 Speaker 1: Really good tip. 806 00:34:45,320 --> 00:34:45,799 Speaker 3: Leave it on that. 807 00:34:52,520 --> 00:34:54,640 Speaker 1: Thanks for listening, guys. 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