Speaker 1: Did Matt ask for your blessing?
Speaker 2: Yes?
Speaker 3: He did.
Speaker 1: He did.
Speaker 2: He came over and asked, He said, can I ask?
Speaker 2: That's right? Both of you boys are nice? Ah, yeah,
Speaker 2: he did. He asked me. Did I how you did
Speaker 2: in my sleep? If I didn't remember?
Speaker 4: Where's Your Head At is a podcast that talks all
Speaker 4: things relationships, breakups, reality TV, trending shows, and everything in between.
Speaker 3: This is your new go to destination for laughs, gossip,
Speaker 3: intimate details, advice, and much more. Oh hey, guys, welcome
Speaker 3: to another week of Where's Your Head At. On today's episode,
Speaker 3: we are joined by my father in law, the one,
Speaker 3: the only, Mark Hembro. We're here to talk about his
Speaker 3: beautiful daughter, Tammy, the love of my life. Anna asked
Speaker 3: the questions that we all want to know the answers to.
Speaker 3: So that's enough from me, So let's hear from Mark.
Speaker 3: Welcome to the podcast.
Speaker 1: Hello Grandpa Hembrow.
Speaker 3: Hello my father, and hello hello are you hi?
Speaker 2: Mate?
Speaker 4: Well, it's our Father's Day episode and we've had my
Speaker 4: dad on the podcast, We've had Matt sat on the podcast,
Speaker 4: and that is about to get married to the love
Speaker 4: of his life, your daughter, your daughter, So we thought
Speaker 4: we'd have the very famous Grandpa Hembrow on the podcast.
Speaker 2: Welcome Everyone's famous. You know that? And pull the stars
Speaker 2: are in the sky. You know that too. It's great
Speaker 2: to be here, to be in this lovely studio. You've
Speaker 2: got no thank you.
Speaker 3: As soon as I called you and I was like, hey,
Speaker 3: do you want to jump on the podcast? You jumped
Speaker 3: at it. You were like anything you family? Yeah, exactly. Yeah,
Speaker 3: I didn't even need to. I thought I was gonna
Speaker 3: have to convince him, be like, hey, look, clak, I've
Speaker 3: got this Father's Day episode, dumb my dad the whole skill.
Speaker 3: You just sit. I thought I was gonna have to
Speaker 3: do that.
Speaker 1: But I'll bring you some week.
Speaker 2: Yeah. I'm quite approachable by most people. It's just a
Speaker 2: matter of it I say yes or not. It's absolutely pleasure.
Speaker 3: All right, Well we'll start off. Where's your head at? Mark?
Speaker 2: Where's my head at? Well, it's it's a fantastic space. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I'm just a fantastic walking miracle. I had to be
Speaker 2: here today. Love it my heads here asking you guys. See,
Speaker 2: I'm gramps. U tell me about your.
Speaker 3: Question.
Speaker 2: You know everyone's got up when you asked me, you know, like, hey, Mark,
Speaker 2: would you like to. Of course, my instinct was straight
Speaker 2: away in a pleasure mate. Yeah, and I thought, oh,
Speaker 2: I better have a look at everything so that you know,
Speaker 2: I went to Greece and back and Michael, this your
Speaker 2: and I know all about eyebrow. You know that when
Speaker 2: you do that. I looked at all me quick. I
Speaker 2: did a quick.
Speaker 5: Grandpa, I've had my eyebrows today, and I thought, you know,
Speaker 5: I'm got Ronnie Howard's you know, I'm after my hairdresser
Speaker 5: and my Ronnie Howard, you know, Annihilator in about a week.
Speaker 2: But anyway, I checked. It was nice to look at
Speaker 2: your work.
Speaker 3: Thank you, appreciate you're saying that before you really well,
Speaker 3: you know, I'm an old.
Speaker 2: I suppose I'm a prostitute to the art all my life,
Speaker 2: you know, being being an actor in the theater and
Speaker 2: then all over the country and the films around the world,
Speaker 2: and blah blah blah blah blah blah blah.
Speaker 3: Well let's let's quit. Let's talk about's quickly touched on that.
Speaker 3: So for anyone who doesn't know Mark.
Speaker 2: A Young show, I'm ancients. I'm like an old piece
Speaker 2: of wood. But I'm coming back. I've been throwing in
Speaker 2: like a rough diamond. I've got a couple of films
Speaker 2: coming out. Blah blah blah. Graham is up to something.
Speaker 3: But yes, yes, sorry, I'm sorry. Yes, I was also
Speaker 3: training of thought. You have been in what films? You've
Speaker 3: been in a lot films in some of them you
Speaker 3: sent it to me before I was.
Speaker 2: I know that I knew you would have been because
Speaker 2: one of them.
Speaker 3: Isn't that still on Netflix? I was saying, something's on Netflix.
Speaker 2: At the other's stuff. There's stuff popping up around the place.
Speaker 2: But it's like I've I sort of quit the business
Speaker 2: for a few years purposely. I suppose the background. The
Speaker 2: best way is really without as questions. I suppose, and
Speaker 2: and for you, because you know, I suppose you know
Speaker 2: all of us where I come from. I started my
Speaker 2: career at the Royal Queens and Theater Company when I
Speaker 2: was eighteen, and I was touring all over the country
Speaker 2: with Arts Council tours. This is like a century ago,
Speaker 2: you know, when before we had anything like the Internet,
Speaker 2: and and and then I ended up in Sydney Theater
Speaker 2: Company at the Opera House, and then I ended up
Speaker 2: with Rookie Horror Show around the country there's a lot
Speaker 2: of ABC worker young doctors, you know, the grandpas and
Speaker 2: the Grandma's hello out there, all of us there with everybody.
Speaker 3: I were talking about this. My mom's best friend was
Speaker 3: talking about it, and she remembers you, I think from
Speaker 3: that as well.
Speaker 2: He was a dreadful character, that one really. Oh yes,
Speaker 2: well he was a learning He was like this just crazype.
Speaker 2: You play the roles you play, You play the role
Speaker 2: you've given. Then I had a very I was very
Speaker 2: blessed because I'd worked in the theater quite a lot,
Speaker 2: and then I ended up on television, in major television
Speaker 2: across the country at that time, and then I split
Speaker 2: that to go back to the theater a bit back
Speaker 2: forward and a lot of films. So I did about
Speaker 2: twenty three over the eighties and nineties, and then I
Speaker 2: quit the sort of business around two thousand for various reasons,
Speaker 2: and one of them was the girls, because I was
Speaker 2: looking after them full time. Yeah, and that was sort
Speaker 2: of like when Tammy was two, so I was, yeah,
Speaker 2: well we're in crumbin Valley then and she was going
Speaker 2: into preschool. And then wrote a couple of shows and
Speaker 2: they're sort of coming back age now but yeah, so
Speaker 2: my background was stared of film, television, blah blah blah,
Speaker 2: band rufflings, a lot of stuff that the moms and
Speaker 2: dads maybe.
Speaker 3: And what made you get into acting because your.
Speaker 2: Mom was I knew this girl.
Speaker 3: But was your mama cooking host or something?
Speaker 2: Yeah? Yeah, yeah she was just a normal mom. She's
Speaker 2: just fabulous Sally.
Speaker 3: But she was on tea, I mean cooking.
Speaker 2: I mean my mum and dad were very blessed. You
Speaker 2: know where I come from with having them and moments, well,
Speaker 2: all it doesn't matter. Every every situation is different, isn't
Speaker 2: it with families and moms and dads. And again, like
Speaker 2: that I was saying before, if you build it on love,
Speaker 2: it doesn't matter. It gets through any storm, communication, be
Speaker 2: open for new things. But yeah, she was. She was
Speaker 2: married to my dad, who was a teacher, and and
Speaker 2: she was wanting to do extra money to make some money,
Speaker 2: so she started cooking because she was not as a
Speaker 2: good cook around as Grove and Brisbane way back, Sally
Speaker 2: Hembrow and anyway. So she had these I used to
Speaker 2: remember when I was about six, crawling through their feet,
Speaker 2: you know, around the house, which she's had these ladies
Speaker 2: lined up with all their showing them out of cook
Speaker 2: you know, the upside down Prune and that we've got
Speaker 2: cake whatever. And she was only a bit of money
Speaker 2: doing that. And the word got around Brisbane that there's
Speaker 2: this amazing cook. So Channel nine ranger up and said Sally,
Speaker 2: would you be interested in doing a show And they said, off,
Speaker 2: you go go and get some sponsors and I would
Speaker 2: like you to do a show. And she ran a
Speaker 2: show for I think it was about about twelve twelve years,
Speaker 2: four days a week. She was a for runner in
Speaker 2: you for Queensland Girls because she was just to me
Speaker 2: like a real old fashioned mum, just lovely you know.
Speaker 2: My dad was the same, like where they were. Yeah,
Speaker 2: So she did the show and then it grew into
Speaker 2: a show where she was doing interviews and called Living
Speaker 2: Graciously based to call it Living Dangerously with Sally Eyebrow,
Speaker 2: and it was living you know, And yeah, I'm very
Speaker 2: proud of her in a way. And dad because he
Speaker 2: used to write out all the copy. You know, are
Speaker 2: they going to say? A channel mind for many years
Speaker 2: and at that time Sigared Thoughton who's in Snowy, one
Speaker 2: of her mum was in Brisbane too. That was the
Speaker 2: two girls in Brisbane that were stirring in the pot
Speaker 2: for the girls. So it's sort of interesting we've got
Speaker 2: this takeover of women, matthewmber girls for you.
Speaker 3: I mean, that's you that did that. I take notes literally,
Speaker 3: Well let's touch on that. So you had obviously Amy,
Speaker 3: Emily and the beautiful Tammy, and so you said you
Speaker 3: raised them by yourself.
Speaker 2: You their mum. Their mum was great mum, and it
Speaker 2: was lovely and we just had an arrangement that that
Speaker 2: I took them and as opposed to it in those days,
Speaker 2: it was always the mum.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: And she went on to have a new partner and
Speaker 2: have children and and I raised three girls from when
Speaker 2: I when Tammy was four, because I remember that it
Speaker 2: was like preschool. So I got, yeah, I got I
Speaker 2: got the and you know, it's fantastic. Really I was blessed.
Speaker 3: What was a life single dad with three girls. I
Speaker 3: could imagine that being a headache.
Speaker 2: It was good, It really wasn't, you know. I Mean
Speaker 2: the neighbors used to say I had a loud voice
Speaker 2: because you're like, come and get it or whatever you like,
Speaker 2: like a farm, and it was look, you know what,
Speaker 2: it was a delight. It was just one thing after
Speaker 2: other things, and things that happened in life that probably
Speaker 2: would have got me down in other ways and in
Speaker 2: the way they pick you up. So I was just
Speaker 2: touching on that because I'm doing a documentary as well
Speaker 2: as a film. It's just almost completed, coming soon, and
Speaker 2: I was touching on that in the documentary, which is
Speaker 2: not about the girls, but about how, you know, certain
Speaker 2: events that affected me and I had to look after
Speaker 2: him full time. And you know, people say, oh, Mark, hey,
Speaker 2: going at Crumb and Valley. They're lovely. Crumb and Valley
Speaker 2: really put them through Crumber Valley School. Yeah, and you
Speaker 2: know the tuck shop. Mums and myself and a lot
Speaker 2: of people would say Matthew like, hey, now that's great,
Speaker 2: and how you're doing that on your own blah blah
Speaker 2: blah blah blah. And I say, well, there's hundreds and
Speaker 2: hundreds and hundreds of women doing that every day. They
Speaker 2: see your mom's And I said, you know, and they said, yeah,
Speaker 2: but you're a guy. And I said, you know what,
Speaker 2: any guy, and I know you would you know, any
Speaker 2: guy that if he was put in that situation or
Speaker 2: it's going to be you know, what happened at that time?
Speaker 2: You all stand up to it, Step up everybody.
Speaker 3: She's told me some fond memories from back then, like
Speaker 3: asking the ice cream shop they had like the peppers
Speaker 3: or something, the chili peppers chill, Yeah, they call them
Speaker 3: stuff something like that, and they would like or something. Yeah,
Speaker 3: we had a lot of fun.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because I dropped all the work though. See that's
Speaker 2: what it really entailed.
Speaker 3: But you're a musician as well, because you've Yeah, mainly
Speaker 3: it's mainly been for fun.
Speaker 2: But I'm writing stuff and feature film that I'm writing,
Speaker 2: director and acting.
Speaker 3: And you're quite talented, like I've seen you on the piano.
Speaker 2: On the everyone's got talents. It's just a musician. You
Speaker 2: can learn. Anybody can learn. Just get a cork six
Speaker 2: hundred and I show a few chords and they play themselves,
Speaker 2: your rangers.
Speaker 1: This could be little bonding, you.
Speaker 2: Know when we get pushed into the corner by all
Speaker 2: the girls.
Speaker 3: Okay, So I was talking to Annam before and we
Speaker 3: were like, what are we gonna What are we gonna
Speaker 3: ask Mark? Like, you know, we're going to ask him
Speaker 3: about relationship advice and all that sort of stuff. And
Speaker 3: I said that you were the other day. You were
Speaker 3: giving me some relationship a vice, and I was like,
Speaker 3: I don't know how this is going to go down
Speaker 3: when I go home and tell my fiance. You were
Speaker 3: saying to get my on my home.
Speaker 2: Man, I really wasn't saying that. I just saw you
Speaker 2: just stressed, going like I haven't got room right now,
Speaker 2: like planning the seed of the you know that Australian
Speaker 2: tradition of you can have you know, a garage or
Speaker 2: a shed so when you get married. So I grew
Speaker 2: up in that environment, even though they never did that.
Speaker 2: They just need to be together or they'd argue and
Speaker 2: be together again. That's pretty And yeah, it wasn't It
Speaker 2: wasn't huge. It was just a bit. Yeah. I think
Speaker 2: everyone goes through all that stuff. I don't know because
Speaker 2: I haven't been, you know, in one relationship or whatever
Speaker 2: that long. But yeah, I just I just said that,
Speaker 2: you know, look, if it's getting too much around, just
Speaker 2: get a space, you know, in the in the place.
Speaker 2: And that's what I did when the girls, when they
Speaker 2: were little and I was trying to work as well,
Speaker 2: I just go into the garage, take my computer in there,
Speaker 2: shut the door. Girls could come in here.
Speaker 3: Out, do you reckon that life? When I bring that
Speaker 3: to Tammy, you could be there for me. Get it over.
Speaker 2: I don't know you'll be watching this. I deny it.
Speaker 2: I did not say that at all. I'm here to
Speaker 2: just humor you all into a lovely journey of life together.
Speaker 2: Look as as your father, which I listened to, like,
Speaker 2: you do your best, you see in life with kids
Speaker 2: or kids, and so you're always adjusting. So in that sense,
Speaker 2: it's like what we say, like your dad, you just
Speaker 2: got to let everyone decide themselves and then be there
Speaker 2: if they fall over, We'll just tell them you love them,
Speaker 2: you know, and then let you all decide what you
Speaker 2: want to do yourself. So is that all right, Tammy?
Speaker 2: I can't tell them, Tammy, I can't tell any of
Speaker 2: my girls what to do.
Speaker 3: Well, we got some questions. Obviously it's Father's day, so
Speaker 3: we're going to kids. Here's some questions about before we
Speaker 3: touch into some other stuff about relationships, Questions about quick ones.
Speaker 3: You said you loved all the kids, all that sort
Speaker 3: of stuff. Who was the most difficult though growing up?
Speaker 2: They also at their moments, you know, like it's more
Speaker 2: about attitude and how to deal with it. Who was blessed.
Speaker 2: I was really blessed because I'm pretty good. I had
Speaker 2: no rivalry with the boys, you know, like in that sense,
Speaker 2: we're no boys. I mean I think boys would be
Speaker 2: hard to raise. I heard that, you know, and your
Speaker 2: father talking, you know, like talking, I mate, and you know,
Speaker 2: like I thought, I thought, you know, like they're pretty good. Yeah,
Speaker 2: you know, they play with themselves a lot and happy
Speaker 2: long as they had their dollies and they had this
Speaker 2: and that, and I gave them a bit of room
Speaker 2: to move. That's why it was out in the valley.
Speaker 2: That a fabulous school, you know. I mean there's ninety
Speaker 2: people in the school and I had eleven teachers. So
Speaker 2: they had a lot of cows out the back and
Speaker 2: frogs in the pond and platypuses in the creek. You know,
Speaker 2: lovely fabulous.
Speaker 4: Really, what advice do you have from that as a dad,
Speaker 4: because you've obviously raised three.
Speaker 2: Stick with the theme. Make sure you've got a little garage.
Speaker 2: Just leap in. I have patients, Just leap in. Have
Speaker 2: a laugh. You got a laugh. But that's life. It's
Speaker 2: not just it's all of us, you know, it gets
Speaker 2: what it does. Everybody's life. Good moments and bad moments.
Speaker 3: I think you touched on this when you joined the
Speaker 3: good Ones.
Speaker 2: When it's bad, just rides the storm, right.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you told me this when you said when you
Speaker 3: brought up the man powd or the Bachelor part, whatever
Speaker 3: you want to say, you said that, like, I fall
Speaker 3: in love with this lady, but she has like three
Speaker 3: kids with it, and I've been thrown into this thing
Speaker 3: where I've had to you know, literally we said it
Speaker 3: like change my whole life, like adapt to this thing. Yeah,
Speaker 3: you said something along those lines. Yeah, and yeah, and
Speaker 3: you said you've I've changed, like and I've had to change,
Speaker 3: and it's been a massive shift for me. And I
Speaker 3: found it, yeah, quite different to be like just a
Speaker 3: father from me out of nowhere, from someone who I
Speaker 3: was told that I wasn't going to be a father,
Speaker 3: So now I have three kids.
Speaker 2: Great, Yeah, that's what I said.
Speaker 1: That's what literally we said.
Speaker 4: We were like Tammy and that are literally the best
Speaker 4: couple ever. And it's because like obviously they love each
Speaker 4: other so much, and you know, there's so much love
Speaker 4: between them. But Matt was told he was infertile. Tammy
Speaker 4: has three beautiful kids. You've got to step into that role.
Speaker 4: You've embraced it and you love it.
Speaker 1: So it's I listened to that one incredible.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that one too. Yeah, And there is a lot
Speaker 2: of healing in a lot of different worlds, spiritual and
Speaker 2: the natural world that can happen in those areas. And
Speaker 2: you know, I also looked up that I didn't know
Speaker 2: until this morning that you had well they call it deficiency.
Speaker 2: It's not no, you're special, you're smart. I looked it up. Look,
Speaker 2: I got it in my phone, and I said, what
Speaker 2: are the what are the symptoms? And I thought, all
Speaker 2: my friends that were really famous and clever in Hollywood,
Speaker 2: they've got all these symptoms, everyone who was successful and artistic.
Speaker 2: How's that right, Adhd too. I'll play yeah, because you
Speaker 2: know I love Matthew and I'm here for you, mate.
Speaker 2: You know, whether you need a little man cave around,
Speaker 2: I'll finished that conversation, Dammy. What I meant was, if
Speaker 2: there's kids running everywhere, everyone's screaming, and they're doing that,
Speaker 2: you need to find a little space just to go
Speaker 2: and sit for a minute away from everybody, to take
Speaker 2: a breath. Okay, finished with that one. Thank you.
Speaker 1: You guys need to have a joint man. I feel
Speaker 1: like that's the picture.
Speaker 2: That I've learnt. Now. I just don't go anywhere near anybody,
Speaker 2: but you like a king in my own spiritual world.
Speaker 3: But he was actually very kind. He said to me,
Speaker 3: come around anytime, crush anything.
Speaker 2: Well, sometimes it's nice to you know. And family, as
Speaker 2: we all know, is that if you don't get in
Speaker 2: the road, you can't interfere, you know, step parents, what's
Speaker 2: a funny word anyway, but but you know, like in
Speaker 2: wars whatever, you can't. My mother told me that, you said,
Speaker 2: you just kind of you know, you don't interfere. You
Speaker 2: just just love and be there. They need you, but
Speaker 2: you don't interfere with their lives, you know. So I
Speaker 2: sort of grew up with that. But even if I
Speaker 2: wanted to tame me and Emily and would listen to
Speaker 2: me anyway, they just say yeah right, or you know,
Speaker 2: Tammy and say because you tell me that, you tell
Speaker 2: me that once more, and I will do it.
Speaker 6: You know, I'm experiencing all that forgotten here. I was
Speaker 6: sading all this stuffship advice, you've got any for us,
Speaker 6: like you've been in many relationships, how.
Speaker 2: Many well, I don't know if I'm the best person
Speaker 2: to ask.
Speaker 3: But Tammy did say that.
Speaker 2: I mean I grew up with like the dream of
Speaker 2: like my mum and dad to meet the partner for
Speaker 2: the rest of your life and whatever. But like life,
Speaker 2: things change and whatever. And I think I was really
Speaker 2: really dumb when I was younger, like as a man,
Speaker 2: you know, like we are stupid.
Speaker 3: We are naturally you.
Speaker 2: Know, girls seem smarter, but we seem like more fun
Speaker 2: something like that, you know, some delusional thing of learning
Speaker 2: about life and also being in the business. You know,
Speaker 2: I was. I was on tour with Rocky Horror Show,
Speaker 2: you know, like I mean my wife, the first wife
Speaker 2: that I married, Sally Butterfield, who's delightful lady. She went
Speaker 2: on tour with Oklahoma and she was a singer and
Speaker 2: I went on tour Horror and that was the end
Speaker 2: of our marriage really because we both went a year
Speaker 2: different directions and Rocky Horror Show broke many in marriage.
Speaker 2: So unless you were very strong, you know, like I
Speaker 2: don't know, it was just one of those things that
Speaker 2: I think, really it's different now, see I have learnt
Speaker 2: through life, you know, and look back in times and whatever.
Speaker 2: I always meant well and and those relationships, even my Laylor,
Speaker 2: who I have a good relationship with now who there.
Speaker 2: Laylor was my last wife. I've been married three times. Yeah,
Speaker 2: one that was far too young. Yeah. It was just
Speaker 2: one of those things in both different worlds. And when
Speaker 2: I grew up there, I remember that I was in
Speaker 2: young doctors and things. I thought, well, okay, you fall
Speaker 2: in love, were really in love, the next thing you
Speaker 2: do is get engaged. It was a different sort of
Speaker 2: you know, that's what I think you've done.
Speaker 3: You know.
Speaker 2: There was no like I will spend a year hanging
Speaker 2: out and do this, do that. It was just like, oh,
Speaker 2: what do I do next? I'll do this?
Speaker 3: I's wrong with that?
Speaker 2: There isn't until you're sort of twiddling your thumbs and
Speaker 2: you're going in different directions in six month's time, it's
Speaker 2: going to be. I mean, I don't think there's any
Speaker 2: rules with it all. I mean I think I summed
Speaker 2: it up when I first came in. If you if
Speaker 2: you're based everything on love, that's the good things and
Speaker 2: the bad. If you if you put it on a
Speaker 2: rock of love, then you'll ride through the storms. Of course,
Speaker 2: there's elements, there's the communication. You know what I mean,
Speaker 2: and I think that's what I think. Letters are great.
Speaker 2: I remember writing my letters say goodbye to my girlfriend
Speaker 2: when I was younger. That's all we had.
Speaker 1: We had letters writing.
Speaker 2: That's why I'm also now a writer of films, because
Speaker 2: I grew up writing.
Speaker 3: Well, Mark, are you dating now?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 3: Not, madterm what mademoiselle, Mademoiselle, No, no, no, no, no, no,
Speaker 3: not at all.
Speaker 2: We're working together. She's yeah, you lovely folks, funny, good,
Speaker 2: good folks. I was working with them still.
Speaker 3: I'm sorry.
Speaker 2: I got the Holy Spirit in my heart and I'm
Speaker 2: a rock and roller.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, just I'll try not to throw you
Speaker 3: under it.
Speaker 2: I think from my point of view of getting to
Speaker 2: know girls, and I grew up at different times in
Speaker 2: my life. I mean, it's always just being in love
Speaker 2: is the best thing. But it was when there was
Speaker 2: a problem of you know, And I think then if
Speaker 2: you've got friends and you say, well, how can you communicate?
Speaker 2: And you learn about each other more, there's a lot
Speaker 2: more in depth communication now. I think more mean I
Speaker 2: don't know it for sure, but I mean, like I mean,
Speaker 2: I think, and you also, you just know. I would
Speaker 2: have been a handful when I was on the road
Speaker 2: all the time. I wasn't sort of being away from home.
Speaker 2: I mean, I had that relationship first off, and I thought,
Speaker 2: I'm never getting married again. I'm married young, and I'm
Speaker 2: never getting married again. And then when I met Natalie
Speaker 2: in Trinidad, who was young, but she sort of acted
Speaker 2: like a thirty year old in the experience of where
Speaker 2: she'd been in the world. She's a brilliant lady in
Speaker 2: her own right, you know, And that was sort of
Speaker 2: like because the girl's called me, you know, cradles natural.
Speaker 2: But I was like it was like it was like
Speaker 2: it was like this, I'm making a movie in South America,
Speaker 2: on Trinidad and Tobago. I had put it to myself
Speaker 2: when I was like twenty three, I'm never going to
Speaker 2: get married until I know it's for sure. And I
Speaker 2: want to have children, yeah, yeah, all right, and without
Speaker 2: going all the sentiment with children, because I think there's
Speaker 2: so many children in the world that need to be
Speaker 2: loved that we don't even have to have our own.
Speaker 2: We can have everybody's, you know, and we can like
Speaker 2: you know, and also you can't have you you can
Speaker 2: do it all right, or you can do it all
Speaker 2: and don't set your sights any lower than that, you know.
Speaker 2: But having that, having that said that, I just remember
Speaker 2: that that it was like one of those things where
Speaker 2: I was sure, and there were complications because I was
Speaker 2: working in America and Natalie couldn't get into America, so
Speaker 2: we had to go via Canada. Then we had to
Speaker 2: fly to Australia, get married, and go back to America.
Speaker 2: And you know, by then Amy were pregnant with Amy,
Speaker 2: and it was like, where do I want to bring
Speaker 2: Amy up? And I have this sort of love well
Speaker 2: I'd never had a love love relationship with La, but
Speaker 2: I have this sort of like about it, and I'd
Speaker 2: probably like it more now, funny enough, even though it's
Speaker 2: even more twisted and going downhill, but I'm used to it.
Speaker 2: But then I didn't. I thought this is not a
Speaker 2: place to bring up kids. Yeah, you know, so I
Speaker 2: made that quite cool, beautiful start a choice. So they
Speaker 2: went to LA and I was going to do four
Speaker 2: picture deal and ed no Marto was going to be
Speaker 2: my agent, who was Mel Gibson's agent, and it always
Speaker 2: my agent. So I was away on a global level.
Speaker 2: But I knew that I'd have three little girls, four
Speaker 2: six and eight, I'd have Mexican nanny. I wouldn't be
Speaker 2: getting home till Saturday night and Sunday guns are everywhere.
Speaker 2: It was just, you know, it wasn't the right time.
Speaker 2: So I was blessed with that decision. I've never ever
Speaker 2: regretted it. You know. I don't know if that helps
Speaker 2: in anything, but you just adapt.
Speaker 4: What did you think when Matt proposed to Tammy so
Speaker 4: early on in their relationship.
Speaker 1: What was your thoughts?
Speaker 2: I don't I don't go down that road too much,
Speaker 2: you know what I mean, because you've got I don't
Speaker 2: know the dynamics of why and how. All I know
Speaker 2: is are in love and they wanted to do what
Speaker 2: they wanted to do in that time. But there's love
Speaker 2: and love and love and love, you know, And that's
Speaker 2: what I've learned over the years. So I didn't really
Speaker 2: I don't do that. I now know what the girls
Speaker 2: also that, you know. I don't try and I'll be
Speaker 2: there and you know, and to this day, I'm still
Speaker 2: connecting with all the boys, you know, because I feel like,
Speaker 2: you know, as being the patriarch of the girls and
Speaker 2: that and I'm here, I'm sixty nights. I soa who
Speaker 2: else going to do the job. You know, I've got
Speaker 2: to sort of be a bit outsmoken with things, you know,
Speaker 2: So in that sense.
Speaker 1: Yeah, did Matt ask for your blessing?
Speaker 2: Yes? He did. He did. He came over and he said,
Speaker 2: can I ask? That's right? Both of you boys are nice?
Speaker 6: Yeah he did, he asked me, did I Yeah, you
Speaker 6: did in my sleep?
Speaker 2: If I didn't.
Speaker 3: Remember, you try to make me sound I don't.
Speaker 2: Think I asked. Now you ask?
Speaker 3: Now. That's why I don't love you. That is here today.
Speaker 1: He's apologizing.
Speaker 3: I'm apologizing for not asking your permission to take your
Speaker 3: daughter's hand in.
Speaker 2: Mabe you did, or maybe it just flew down through
Speaker 2: Instagram by me. I don't know. The first time I
Speaker 2: met you.
Speaker 3: Well, well, I figured, Mark, can I have your approval
Speaker 3: to marriag?
Speaker 2: I don't have to have your I told Matt the
Speaker 2: same thing. You don't have to have my approval, you know,
Speaker 2: Just so that'll be nice to each other, you know,
Speaker 2: and you know I'm gonna I'll put it inscribe for everybody.
Speaker 2: Be nice to each other, Just love each other. If
Speaker 2: you've got a problem and I can help any time,
Speaker 2: come to me.
Speaker 3: I'm never going to.
Speaker 2: I'm never going to judge. I'll just say, you know,
Speaker 2: because I was up and down through my life, and
Speaker 2: you know, and you look back on your life, See
Speaker 2: this is the thing. I don't think there's enough compassion
Speaker 2: in that world, not understanding and people don't know how
Speaker 2: to steer them back down the direction, you know, like
Speaker 2: a you know, like the real mentors are the real
Speaker 2: let's say, the wise men in our lives, which you
Speaker 2: have to lean to. Unfortunately, me and your father and people. Right,
Speaker 2: but we're pretty good, okay, but you know what I mean,
Speaker 2: Like we'll do the research if we don't. But you
Speaker 2: know what I mean, in the olden days, so we
Speaker 2: call it the olden days. He'll know what that means.
Speaker 2: You know, there was always an elder and our society
Speaker 2: has sort of lost a bit of that flavor. I say,
Speaker 2: I'm not I'm not winging. I mean, it's just realities.
Speaker 2: But we also with that, we hand on the baton
Speaker 2: to you guys. Let it lead us, lead us into
Speaker 2: the next decade, lead us through social media and follow
Speaker 2: your dreams. That's what I was doing. I was trying
Speaker 2: to find a shot of Reese and Russell Crowe. I
Speaker 2: have them together and think. But that's the difference, you
Speaker 2: know again.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, you just you're Yeah, I jump around around.
Speaker 2: I can change lange without indicating if.
Speaker 3: It's meant that's a trade of ADHD.
Speaker 2: You know, well it's a brilliant thing.
Speaker 3: Yeah that is.
Speaker 2: So there's two things I wanted to say about that,
Speaker 2: because I looked it up. I looked at it, and
Speaker 2: you know it doesn't want to concentrate on things. Of
Speaker 2: course not. I answered them all mate, I got it
Speaker 2: to them all right, each one, like and then I
Speaker 2: thought all my mates and HI were the smart people
Speaker 2: I know from mel gives them to all them those traits. Yeah,
Speaker 2: they're all artists. They're not following their.
Speaker 3: Dream because it's boring to the you know what, Yeah,
Speaker 3: it's boring the people that don't have it.
Speaker 2: If that means something in the world, because it's like
Speaker 2: I think, it's a gift.
Speaker 3: If you know how to manage it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and then you got your mates to help you
Speaker 2: do that, and that gives a reason to ask you say, look,
Speaker 2: I got this, so if I get to out a
Speaker 2: handle on it, it gets remind me of you. If
Speaker 2: you haven't got it, no one tells you.
Speaker 3: You're fine, brother, Thank you. I appreciate the man.
Speaker 2: You're a king, the king of the world, and don't
Speaker 2: let anybody tell you the queen of the world. And
Speaker 2: Michael's another king.
Speaker 1: Thank you. Thank you are a true king.
Speaker 3: You are the king. I was going to give you props,
Speaker 3: like you're a great dad, but as well as a
Speaker 3: great granddad like you, you know, you take the kids,
Speaker 3: pick him up and all that, like to take him
Speaker 3: to basketball and that. Like, yeah, well I've I've realized
Speaker 3: in the role that I've stepped into as like a
Speaker 3: father figure, a lot of it is just showing up.
Speaker 3: You know, you just got to be there. Showing up
Speaker 3: is like ninety percent of the job and the rest,
Speaker 3: you know what I mean, It just it comes. You've
Speaker 3: got to show up. And I realized and Tammy or
Speaker 3: whenever we lean on you for something, you're there straight away.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Well the dynamics, the dynamics are different in different circumstances. Yeah,
Speaker 2: so you know, that's that's why I did say if
Speaker 2: it gets too much, that's fine. A spot where you
Speaker 2: can have a breath might be behind the vegetable garden.
Speaker 2: There's always a spot. I do it on set I'm acting.
Speaker 2: I run around with the chair just before I quit
Speaker 2: the business from now been thrown. I wonder with the
Speaker 2: umbrella and a chair all day when you're go starring
Speaker 2: these pictures, right, and then that's the umbrella is always
Speaker 2: there because they don't want to get sunburned. It's not
Speaker 2: because it just looks good and it makes you look
Speaker 2: as soon as you're sunburnt on set. You can't make up,
Speaker 2: you can't make it look unsun burned. Years been, they weren't.
Speaker 2: They just did get money.
Speaker 3: Have you watched any of us on the holand is
Speaker 3: that your next thing to go back and watch? Do
Speaker 3: you know when we were on a TV.
Speaker 2: Show that's my next thing to watch? Do you have
Speaker 2: to have me back.
Speaker 3: Your reviewer, get your recap, to get your recat your
Speaker 3: reviews of Love Island.
Speaker 2: You know my advice is just everybody, But I don't
Speaker 2: think it's just said anybody. When things get cool or
Speaker 2: heated or whatever, you just take time out for a
Speaker 2: minute and walk away for a minute. I think I
Speaker 2: said something to you, like I remember that I always
Speaker 2: wanted to fix it. Girls. Yes, yes, girls never forget
Speaker 2: any thing where Guys which sort of can have a
Speaker 2: blue and then the next day you wake up and go, oh,
Speaker 2: that was yesterday. Stupid idiot, stupid idiot. Where girls, I've
Speaker 2: noticed one of the trades. It's a blessing.
Speaker 3: Against we did this.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I said that. I I said, I think that
Speaker 2: what I tried to do was I was trying to
Speaker 2: remember when I when I was getting a bit shaky.
Speaker 2: It's just life. It's not you, it's not It's just
Speaker 2: what happens, particularly if you've got kids and things and
Speaker 2: all the dynamics that you have, and it's a wonderful
Speaker 2: thing to have the opportunity to have those dynamics. It's
Speaker 2: also a way of, like everything in life, how we
Speaker 2: all deal with it. You know, it was not just
Speaker 2: about kids, family, But I thought that that was that
Speaker 2: was just important that I think, I said, I used
Speaker 2: to try and go to I think I used my
Speaker 2: relationships say I just want to work this out now,
Speaker 2: you know, I just I mean, I mean, I'm blaming us, folks.
Speaker 2: I was younger. That could have been the downfall of
Speaker 2: my relationship if I just shut up, you know, I
Speaker 2: want to fix it. I want to fix it now.
Speaker 2: I carry on to one o'clock in the morning. Yeah, no,
Speaker 2: only you're driving the house, right, So I've.
Speaker 1: Been there with we would until three in the morning.
Speaker 3: You know, I've done anything like that.
Speaker 2: But I'm saying that I used to try and just
Speaker 2: fix it. It wasn't that, it wasn't that extreme at all,
Speaker 2: But it was just more like if there was a problem,
Speaker 2: I try and I think I was a man thing.
Speaker 2: We try and fix it, and a girl just doesn't
Speaker 2: want to know until the next day or the right
Speaker 2: opportunity is picking it.
Speaker 1: What was the hardest thing about being an actor.
Speaker 2: Probably was being able to pin down your emotions well
Speaker 2: enough when you're in the heart of it. When when
Speaker 2: I was younger in the world of method you know,
Speaker 2: Stanistowski method training, I trained a certain way, But then
Speaker 2: a little bit of would have been if I was
Speaker 2: in a relationship, it would have been on the road
Speaker 2: that would have been a problem, you know, But I
Speaker 2: wasn't really that long enough to be that. Or I'd
Speaker 2: take my partner with me, or they'd take me with them,
Speaker 2: you know. I think it was I think a certain
Speaker 2: amount of like with you all actors, I burdened with
Speaker 2: is when you're working and when you're not, Because when
Speaker 2: you're working, you're meeting good bucks, and you're working, and
Speaker 2: when you're not working, you're not making anything. So then
Speaker 2: you'd have to see these gaps so to survive and
Speaker 2: still be you know. I mean, I remember, way way
Speaker 2: way back in when I was young, and I was
Speaker 2: very blessed because I thought, if I can earn a
Speaker 2: living out of this, then I'm ahead. I did. I
Speaker 2: have all my life, really, and it's been just you know,
Speaker 2: it's been up and down. I've been in hair and
Speaker 2: off a couple of things that have happened, you know.
Speaker 2: But I think that but it was probably more emotionally
Speaker 2: in a sense that you just get a bit messy
Speaker 2: emotionally because if you're playing like like there was one
Speaker 2: role I was playing with Tessa Humphrey's Barry Humphrey's daughter
Speaker 2: was a co lead in it. It was called Out
Speaker 2: of the Body and it was a horror film. I
Speaker 2: won't do horror films anymore. I'm owned you comedies and
Speaker 2: and maybe Love Adventures or this or that or rom coms,
Speaker 2: you know, No, I'm not. I'm really got. I'm doing
Speaker 2: House of Music, which is a comedy like The Young
Speaker 2: Ones set in service Paradise after this film. This film
Speaker 2: will come out in about February and they'll go all
Speaker 2: over the world. No, we get asked to do number two,
Speaker 2: and I've already got a story, and there's a comedy
Speaker 2: musical which I want to shoot up with Margo Robbie
Speaker 2: used to live a Dolby called Bells with Smells, which
Speaker 2: is sort of like about a Catholic church that turns
Speaker 2: Pentecostal and some musical and it's really quite funny. So
Speaker 2: there's a couple of things that I want to do.
Speaker 2: So they're funny or they're educational, they drop pearls. That's
Speaker 2: only because I can now you know what I mean.
Speaker 2: I'm not working with my old agent who died recently,
Speaker 2: looked after Russell Crowe and everybody. That's how I know Russell.
Speaker 2: We're all in the same mob, you know. So you know.
Speaker 2: So I was going to say, there were roles that
Speaker 2: I played in a horror film where I had to
Speaker 2: stretch the emotions out, you know, and so you'd be
Speaker 2: and the role the role was this character has a
Speaker 2: nervous breakdown like continuously for like the whole movie. He's
Speaker 2: on the verge of nervous breakdown because he's killing people
Speaker 2: and he doesn't know why and it's inside him and
Speaker 2: a demon and all that stuff. But it was like
Speaker 2: the whole time, And so I had like a twelve
Speaker 2: week shoot and he's having a nervous breakdown on set.
Speaker 2: So I'm at five o'clock in the morning till nine
Speaker 2: o'clock at night having a nervous breakdown getting paid good money, right, Yeah,
Speaker 2: And I suppose because I just swrammed myself into it
Speaker 2: as well as the training. I'd come home and then
Speaker 2: after about five, six, six seven weeks, I just started
Speaker 2: feeling like I was having a nervous breakdown and I
Speaker 2: got emotionally upset all the time, and you know, so
Speaker 2: the hardest thing for me was actually, I mean, I
Speaker 2: can't really say because I was trained, so I can't
Speaker 2: blame my lack of training.
Speaker 3: It was just emotionally it would be taxing on your mind,
Speaker 3: just a massive shift.
Speaker 2: So I think really having permanent work and dealing with
Speaker 2: the emotion to go with all of that as well.
Speaker 1: Absolutely, I can turn them off like that. Now, what
Speaker 1: do you love most about being a granddad?
Speaker 2: The things they say to you, you know, just they
Speaker 2: just come out with these classic lines, you know, Wolf
Speaker 2: and Sassin, like that little thing that she said the
Speaker 2: other day, little page to you, you know, just the lines,
Speaker 2: the one line is this I love you or whether
Speaker 2: it's you know Dad, Grandpa, your car is almost done
Speaker 2: for you know your car is done for? Right? Okay? Cue.
Speaker 3: They said something to me one time like I can't remember,
Speaker 3: like and you're just like, yeah, it's funny.
Speaker 1: Isn't about your.
Speaker 3: It was about something like along those lines, some classic.
Speaker 4: Something no filter, right, that's hilarious.
Speaker 2: You know she did one of those you know, I'm
Speaker 2: losing my my COVID curve now like I had it
Speaker 2: for the film. Right, there's quite a lot of comedy
Speaker 2: around because that's a big sassic. He came up to
Speaker 2: me and just went and poked me in the tummy
Speaker 2: and went, Grandpa, are you having a baby? I said no,
Speaker 2: it was after my heart operation. I put on a
Speaker 2: bit of weight and it was cod said, I'm getting fit. Anyway,
Speaker 2: I should take up mum's app.
Speaker 4: Any parting words with us, you have just been absolutely
Speaker 4: phenomenal to have on the podcast. We've loved having you.
Speaker 4: But any parting words from.
Speaker 3: You we've run.
Speaker 2: We'll just nail the television stituations until you get on. Yeah,
Speaker 2: don't say no to anybody, show the tenacity, believe in yourselves.
Speaker 2: You know, I don't say this to any young folks.
Speaker 2: Work and I have fun. You know, that's probably the
Speaker 2: best advice I can give because it's always you know,
Speaker 2: I mean what I've learned. And that's another story in
Speaker 2: my life. It was it was about ups and downs,
Speaker 2: and everyone says I'll be happy or you know that
Speaker 2: no one's going to be happy all the time. They're
Speaker 2: going to be happy times. It's going to be sad times.
Speaker 2: So I suppose I've learned to speak life into everything,
Speaker 2: even if I'm sick, and I've had some amazing things
Speaker 2: happened to be amazing miracles, thank you God, right, and
Speaker 2: but I'll always speak life into it. And I've been
Speaker 2: taught that now through some masters and and and with that,
Speaker 2: it was like just the things are important were joy, peace,
Speaker 2: you know, like happiness is going to be happiness is
Speaker 2: going to be sad. You can still live with joy.
Speaker 2: You still live with joy when there's tragedy. You can
Speaker 2: still be instilled in your heart, mind, body and soul.
Speaker 2: So really is to you know, just have fun, find
Speaker 2: your joy and party hard.
Speaker 1: We love it.
Speaker 7: And you get in trouble, ask a friend to help
Speaker 7: you can I just ask your friends put your hand up,
Speaker 7: don't go into a corner, you know, because and make
Speaker 7: us old people a bit more useful, you know, because
Speaker 7: we're around the place.
Speaker 2: Just kick us a couple of times and we'll go,
Speaker 2: what do you want? You know? Can I help? And
Speaker 2: then maybe we can just just just love yourselves and
Speaker 2: love what you're doing, love your partners. And I'm very
Speaker 2: very happy that you are to be my son in law. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I think it's great, mate.
Speaker 3: I couldn't ask for a better father in law.
Speaker 2: You know, we'll wait till we know. Will cut to
Speaker 2: us when you know it's two years down to the
Speaker 2: line and we've got each other and headlock at a.
Speaker 3: Football you know what, We get along chart.
Speaker 2: Have a problem there.
Speaker 1: Be excited about the wedding.
Speaker 2: Yes, yes, I've got to walk my little darling down
Speaker 2: the aisle apparently.
Speaker 3: You know that.
Speaker 2: A yeah, well there you go, you get it to
Speaker 2: the you know, it'll be fabulous. I am excited. Yeah,
Speaker 2: so I'm really excited for both of you.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's getting close down excited.
Speaker 2: Love is the best. You build it a lot of love,
Speaker 2: you can work the rest out.
Speaker 1: Absolutely, it's going to be incredible and later in life.
Speaker 2: And I just have fun enjoy it. Those letters. She's
Speaker 2: got a better romance goes a long way, a.
Speaker 3: Basket, all of them.
Speaker 2: A mystery doesn't go along far these days. That's where
Speaker 2: I grew up. It's like a bit of mystery goes
Speaker 2: a long way, you know, because I was in a
Speaker 2: different age, like there's.
Speaker 3: No mystery, there's nothing everything, especially in this we've got
Speaker 3: a podcast where we're open posting all her stuff, like
Speaker 3: you're don't have mystery these days?
Speaker 2: And all I got to say to all those haters.
Speaker 2: And now at the end of this, so you can
Speaker 2: can you edit something, We can edit anythings out there
Speaker 2: in that world of social media.
Speaker 3: That's and we still love you and forgive you.
Speaker 1: Yes, great, and thank you for the engagement.
Speaker 2: You might not want that.
Speaker 3: That was more than anything.
Speaker 1: That is just for our listeners. We just all gave
Speaker 1: the finger and.
Speaker 2: It comes because we'll remember you in your prayers.
Speaker 3: Absolutely, them, No, they're they're quite unhappy to have that
Speaker 3: much hate. You have to be in your life, would
Speaker 3: have to be in such an unhappy state to project
Speaker 3: it onto someone on social media. It is fucking mind bubbling.
Speaker 3: I read some of it and I am like, I.
Speaker 2: Don't think too much about it, don't.
Speaker 1: Even let it like water.
Speaker 3: That's good at.
Speaker 2: Handling that great mark.
Speaker 1: You are and I can't. We've loved having you on
Speaker 1: the show. Thank you so much. Father's Day, thank you
Speaker 1: very much, thank you
Speaker 4: Today.