Speaker 1: I want the fairy tale, I want the prince charming.
Speaker 2: She how do I put this? Isn't a fan of
Speaker 2: my kissing style with.
Speaker 1: A boyfriend and girlfriend for about twelve hours.
Speaker 2: He's in a trash bin.
Speaker 1: He's non recyclable catching them up.
Speaker 2: I love being love, I love love.
Speaker 1: On today's episode of Where's Your Head At, we are
Speaker 1: asking the age old question is he a grow up
Speaker 1: or is he a show up? And doesn't really make
Speaker 1: a difference.
Speaker 2: We will also be sharing some tips on how you
Speaker 2: can boost a man's confidence in and out of the bedroom,
Speaker 2: as men can suffer from insecurity at times as well.
Speaker 1: Matt loves a compliment and sometimes us girls are so
Speaker 1: used to receiving them that we forget to give them.
Speaker 2: So stay tuned on how to stroke that ego.
Speaker 1: Where's Your Head At Is a podcast that talks all
Speaker 1: things relationships, breakups, reality TV, trending shows, and everything in between.
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Speaker 1: Hello, mad, thank you for my tea. Matt's getting very
Speaker 1: good at making me a peppermint tea, which I'm very
Speaker 1: appreciative of.
Speaker 2: Look, I understand that your love language is acts of service.
Speaker 2: So I'm just trying to make you feel good.
Speaker 1: You're doing these ex boyfriends.
Speaker 2: Couldn't had tea bag against some boiling water.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's a very simple process. How are you going today.
Speaker 2: I'm good. I'm honeeded. I've had maybe four coffees already,
Speaker 2: so I thought I'll have a tea to you switch
Speaker 2: it up a little bit. That's too much caffeine in
Speaker 2: my body.
Speaker 1: Do you know what I'm doing? Two coffees max now because.
Speaker 2: You know me.
Speaker 1: You know how I said, like last year, we were
Speaker 1: just going crazy with our coffee intake. I started off
Speaker 1: the year really strong, being like two cups of coffee
Speaker 1: and then I'm done. Then I'm moving to tea. And
Speaker 1: I've just in the past like two months, I've had
Speaker 1: a lot of stress on my plate and I've just
Speaker 1: realized my coffee into Like last week, i think I
Speaker 1: got up to five in a day in a day,
Speaker 1: and I think that's just way too much.
Speaker 2: So we're back to two to get them.
Speaker 1: Get them, guys, there's nothing that you should be proud of.
Speaker 1: Don't be proud of having too much caffee.
Speaker 2: I'm obviously trying to save my money now everything you know,
Speaker 2: and I just learned. I've been told by my mates
Speaker 2: who own properties. They've said I was like, how do
Speaker 2: you get like, how do you get to that next level?
Speaker 2: And I said, just go without, Like they said, you
Speaker 2: just got to learn how to go without for a
Speaker 2: couple of months. And they're like, you know, like don't
Speaker 2: have to go buy that new shirt. You don't have
Speaker 2: to go buy that. You don't have to do this.
Speaker 2: And I was like yeah, I was like fair point.
Speaker 2: And then I was like looking at my bank statement,
Speaker 2: I'm not the only thing that I am not going
Speaker 2: without is my coffee.
Speaker 1: I know.
Speaker 2: I come on here and I say all the time
Speaker 2: that I need to get off my coffees, but I
Speaker 2: don't get anxious from coffees. They literally make me feel normal. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Do you know what's weird is actually this morning I
Speaker 1: was thinking about it because how we do it is
Speaker 1: whoever gets to the podcast first, we'll both buy the
Speaker 1: other one of coffee, right, But then I was thinking
Speaker 1: about it. We could actually get instant coffee, which is
Speaker 1: like about nine dollars for I think like ten sashets.
Speaker 1: And then I was like, just the.
Speaker 2: One that's like you put into the thing that you
Speaker 2: made for me.
Speaker 1: Like the next cafe type of one.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And like we would save so much money if
Speaker 1: we did that. So I was thinking, maybe we could
Speaker 1: do that to save a bit of extra cash money
Speaker 1: on coffee.
Speaker 2: Right, let's bring something to the studio. Yeah, that's save us.
Speaker 2: I can't I can't drink instant coffee, the one no
Speaker 2: thing that you scoop in.
Speaker 1: Oh, but the next cafe one gives you the froth
Speaker 1: and everything, so it feels like a proper coffee. Like
Speaker 1: it's not a proper coffee, but it's as close to
Speaker 1: as you'll get from a little sat when.
Speaker 2: I have when I'm at home and have the pods,
Speaker 2: I reckon I could go through double podmind you coffees,
Speaker 2: I'd probably go through like five. That's easy. They don't
Speaker 2: even touch the sides.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you just That's the thing though, Like if you
Speaker 1: don't actually like mentally focus on not having too much,
Speaker 1: then you just you just go forever.
Speaker 2: Like I said that, they don't they make me feel normal.
Speaker 2: They make me like average.
Speaker 1: Fell that too, but like I just feel like having
Speaker 1: to much caffeine it's a good for you. Although I
Speaker 1: did hear a stat recently that said that women who
Speaker 1: drink more caffeine live longer.
Speaker 2: So I was like, well, your heart's trained, your heart.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I've been on the house hunt. I still have.
Speaker 1: How was that it's actually pretty stressful. Like I'm finding
Speaker 1: it quite stressful. We've been like pretty much like every
Speaker 1: weekend for the past couple of months, other than the
Speaker 1: engagement party. It's just hard because like when initially when
Speaker 1: we wanted to get a house, we were like, we
Speaker 1: wanted to upgrade. So right now we're in a two bedroom,
Speaker 1: two bathroom apartment right in a really central location. We're
Speaker 1: very lucky and when you're renting, you know it is
Speaker 1: it's very like new and nice and whatever. Anyway, we
Speaker 1: started our house hunt and we wanted three bedrooms, two bathrooms.
Speaker 1: We very quickly realized that that was out of our
Speaker 1: budget and we needed to go to two bedrooms, two bathrooms,
Speaker 1: which is kind of what we already have. But obviously
Speaker 1: we're trying to upgrade, but then it's our own house
Speaker 1: that we can't afford it. So now we've actually downgraded
Speaker 1: to one bathroom two and we're like at this point,
Speaker 1: like that we started, we started with high dreams and
Speaker 1: they slowly get gotten crushed as we've like realized kind
Speaker 1: of like how hard the housing market is to get
Speaker 1: into in Australia. Like it's crazy.
Speaker 2: Hey, I think that's part of it though, when you
Speaker 2: go looking for a house that you yeah, and you
Speaker 2: learn that like what you want originally isn't isn't exactly
Speaker 2: what you expect. Like I remember when I first went
Speaker 2: out and looked at rent This is like we're looking
Speaker 2: at rentals, like you look online and you're like, oh,
Speaker 2: this one's nice, this one looks good, and then you
Speaker 2: get there and you're absolutely cat fished.
Speaker 1: H yeah, it's a real thing. The cat fishue.
Speaker 2: My mates were kissing ourselves at this one we looked at.
Speaker 2: They didn't have a light in the back shed like
Speaker 2: garage bits, so they like cable tied on, you know
Speaker 2: those fluorescent light globe things like this isn't even connected
Speaker 2: to anything, it's just there on the thing to let
Speaker 2: it look like there was a light. It was like
Speaker 2: I run outside of the past. And then they taped
Speaker 2: blue tape over it and painted it. So this isn't
Speaker 2: even legal.
Speaker 1: It's not it's definitely not.
Speaker 2: Yeah, So the like I could only imagine buying the.
Speaker 1: Wide angles as well that they use. You're like, oh,
Speaker 1: this is a photo that I've seen has been cut
Speaker 1: shot on a wide angle because this room is tired.
Speaker 2: So you so you still looking then, o'bo seen next
Speaker 2: weekend you're going to be looking as well.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm kind of getting to the end of my
Speaker 1: rope though with looking, I'm just getting a bit like
Speaker 1: a little deflated. I found a couple of things that
Speaker 1: we like, there is one that we do like, but
Speaker 1: we're just what we can afford is at like one
Speaker 1: end of the budget, and I feel like everything is
Speaker 1: getting like sold for one hundred k over asking at
Speaker 1: the moment from what we've seen, even in like I
Speaker 1: went to an auction actually on the weekend just to
Speaker 1: like just to gauge, and the property went for like
Speaker 1: two hundred and fifty k over. So I was like,
Speaker 1: if that's like what everything's going for, then like we
Speaker 1: just have no chance of even buying property. So I
Speaker 1: guess it's just something we need to weigh up with,
Speaker 1: you know, Europe coming up the wedding next year, can
Speaker 1: we really afford it? And it is kind of like
Speaker 1: things would be very tight if we.
Speaker 2: Well I think about it now, it's as well if
Speaker 2: what I didn't, I think, you know, oh, you're just
Speaker 2: paying rent, like it's just the same as paying rent
Speaker 2: each week, but it's actually not because you've got like
Speaker 2: you pay the X amount and then you have like
Speaker 2: your interests on as well interest so it's more than
Speaker 2: just paying rent a week.
Speaker 1: It is definitely And body corporate is like a whole
Speaker 1: other thing. And like there's nothing that we can afford
Speaker 1: that won't have body corporate because like it's either going
Speaker 1: to be an apartment or a unit and they all
Speaker 1: have body corporate. Like I went to this one house
Speaker 1: and they reckon it was going to be six k
Speaker 1: for body corporate a year and I was like, I
Speaker 1: love this place, but like, don't ask you to do
Speaker 1: the math. So like in two years you're paying twelve k.
Speaker 1: Like that's arts, Like I can't affought that. Yeah, that's
Speaker 1: you can't afford that, Like it's crazy.
Speaker 2: Was there a pool in a gym?
Speaker 1: Ah? There was a gym, but no pool, So I
Speaker 1: mean six k. I'm like, what are we doing painting
Speaker 1: the sky high?
Speaker 2: Like, actually, what are you going for? Yeah, well your
Speaker 2: weekend sounds a lot more productive than mine. I mean
Speaker 2: I did have a pretty productive Saturday and Friday, but
Speaker 2: then Sunday I was hungover, so I just laid in
Speaker 2: bed and watched Seinfeld.
Speaker 1: Sometimes are nice like hungover kind of watching TV. It
Speaker 1: kind of was a bit holsome Yeah, I.
Speaker 2: Love you know, coffee is just going and making coffee.
Speaker 2: It's just lying back to Baffe. Coffee is laying in bed.
Speaker 2: So I've watched a lot of sign Fad. I've gotten
Speaker 2: into Seinfeld. I think that growing up, you're either friends
Speaker 2: or Seinfeld were you Either I was friends, you were friends,
Speaker 2: or you're friends.
Speaker 1: In my house, yeah, I've never watched Seinfeld. Like I
Speaker 1: didn't even well.
Speaker 2: I was so like I had in and out of episodes.
Speaker 2: I'd be like, no, that's not for me.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I thought, I don't think it's for me either.
Speaker 2: It is so fucking funny, like it is like I'm
Speaker 2: actually in tears abou I don't want you get to
Speaker 2: know the characters really, Yeah, like it's so good. My
Speaker 2: mate when I was living with my mates, he was like,
Speaker 2: you need to watch this, it's so up your alley.
Speaker 2: So then I started it and now I'm addicted to it.
Speaker 2: Really yea it's unbelievable. They had an episode, so if
Speaker 2: you're familiar with Siginfoul, you you remember this where one
Speaker 2: of them, George Castanza, went swimming in the pool and
Speaker 2: he was taking his bodies off afterwards, and the girlfriend
Speaker 2: walked in and saw that he had shrinkage. So his
Speaker 2: pess was, how do you put this?
Speaker 1: Smaller than normal?
Speaker 2: Smaller than normal? Which happened two men when they go swimming,
Speaker 2: because they asked Elaine on there the girl did you
Speaker 2: know this? And she said no, So did you know this?
Speaker 2: Did I know what a man's penis when they're old
Speaker 2: and when they Yeah.
Speaker 1: Like when guys go I know that when guys go
Speaker 1: into cold water, Like I've heard like guys say like,
Speaker 1: oh my Dick's gone or something like you know what
Speaker 1: I mean, Like it's so cold that it's like gone
Speaker 1: into like the bullsack region, because like, isn't it right?
Speaker 2: It's like it's heard, yeah, like the turtle goes and disappears.
Speaker 2: So I was like, well, like let's bring that to
Speaker 2: people's attention about penis sizes.
Speaker 1: Let's talk about penis.
Speaker 2: Let's do it, okay, And first of all, does size
Speaker 2: matter to you?
Speaker 1: I think Okay, I'm gonna be really honest because you
Speaker 1: know you're gonna lie. It doesn't not matter. But I
Speaker 1: think anything like just normal ish size up, it's good.
Speaker 2: How about that.
Speaker 1: That's looking at me in disappointment.
Speaker 2: No, I'm just me. You know the memes and they're
Speaker 2: like she said it was perfect and the guys like crying,
Speaker 2: you know those comments, that's like it's funny.
Speaker 1: I think so. I think number one, the main thing
Speaker 1: is you know how to use it is like the
Speaker 1: ultimate thing. And also like you know how to use
Speaker 1: not only it, but you know other parts of your
Speaker 1: body on the woman. I think that's important to be
Speaker 1: like well educated in that realm.
Speaker 2: So it doesn't really just come down to the size
Speaker 2: so that the penis. It comes down how.
Speaker 1: They use it, if they know good angles, if they
Speaker 1: have good rhythm, all of that type of thing. Obviously
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna sit here and say I would be
Speaker 1: thrilled if Michael had a micro penis, which he doesn't,
Speaker 1: but like obviously size might matter in that scenario, and
Speaker 1: like that's if you're listening and you have a micro penis,
Speaker 1: Like I feel bad that I've just said that about
Speaker 1: your penis, but for me to feel satisfied, I think
Speaker 1: it just has to be like average and above by
Speaker 1: digging myself a whole.
Speaker 2: No, it's fine. I think that's a fair comment. How
Speaker 2: could you sleep with a micro penis?
Speaker 1: Like, well, you know, be able to feel it even
Speaker 1: if you exactly and you'd just preferred it, you know,
Speaker 1: just think if you have a micro penis, they now
Speaker 1: have like penis enlargement surgery, so like I just feel like,
Speaker 1: you know how like women feel insecure about maybe their
Speaker 1: boobs and they'll be like, I'm going to go get
Speaker 1: a boob job. If you might maybe have a micro penis,
Speaker 1: maybe it's time to look into some surgery.
Speaker 2: When you said the penis in larger, and it makes
Speaker 2: me think of Austin Powers, the first one when he's
Speaker 2: like the Swedish made penis in larger. I swear it's
Speaker 2: not mine maybe and then she's like, it's like me
Speaker 2: and my Swedish made penis and larger and me and
Speaker 2: he's like, that's not my back.
Speaker 1: That's the thing. Like guys pump their penises to make
Speaker 1: them big, to make the blood rush.
Speaker 2: I've never seen that happen. I've never but I remember
Speaker 2: looking to like because I was thinking about putting it
Speaker 2: in my bush, could draw just you know, in case
Speaker 2: if I just have it in there for like, you know,
Speaker 2: what's this. There's no shame in using that if you're
Speaker 2: having an off day and you can't get absolutely bumping there.
Speaker 1: If you feel like you want to, like exactly, if
Speaker 1: you want to make it a bit bigger, like why not.
Speaker 1: No one's complained had a.
Speaker 2: Couple too many whiskey sours at the pub, so you're like, oh, geez,
Speaker 2: I need to get something going here.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I have a question for you. Okay, have you
Speaker 1: ever been self conscious of your penis size? Because women
Speaker 1: talk about it, just like Willy Nearly right, Like I'm
Speaker 1: just kind of like yeah, like medium and above, like
Speaker 1: I'm happy with, like I don't want a small dick,
Speaker 1: but like, have you ever felt that pressure of like fuck,
Speaker 1: like personally it is my dicksize?
Speaker 2: Okay, personally no, I haven't. I mean when I was younger, younger,
Speaker 2: like I'm talking like fuck thirteen fourteen, when I hit
Speaker 2: puberty a little bit later, so I sort of insecure
Speaker 2: then like yeah, you know, like I haven't grown. I'm
Speaker 2: not a man yet, but like and at school like
Speaker 2: I was never really like, oh, like in the change rooms,
Speaker 2: I'd get changed, but that was just.
Speaker 1: Because I was like I still like, you're pretty confident.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like I didn't really care much about it, but
Speaker 2: I never had a complaint really about the size of
Speaker 2: my penis.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but forget about like the women that you've now
Speaker 1: please in the current day. Like I'm saying thing before that,
Speaker 1: like surely you'd be like, is my dick's size, like,
Speaker 1: you know, is it? Is it big enough?
Speaker 2: Every dude? I think when they.
Speaker 1: Think about that, right, yeah.
Speaker 2: About that, Yeah, I think I have hundred percent. Like
Speaker 2: when they're like, like I said, thirteen forty, maybe up
Speaker 2: to sixteen, they're like, oh, is this normal size? And
Speaker 2: I think maybe you sleep with one girl or two girls,
Speaker 2: and you realize, yeah, they'll let you know any roomors
Speaker 2: spreading that like you know, you have a small penis
Speaker 2: as a micro Yeah, okay, I'm in the clear here,
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, yeah, I'm all right.
Speaker 1: Actually this has just reminded me of a really funny story.
Speaker 1: So my ex boyfriend had a best friend and he
Speaker 1: I obviously don't know, but I was told that he
Speaker 1: had like in quotation marks like a horse penis, like
Speaker 1: it was huge, right, And obviously they went to primary
Speaker 1: school together. They were like long term friends, and he
Speaker 1: had got all of his sexual education from watching porn.
Speaker 1: And you know in porn the dicks are pretty huge, right, So.
Speaker 2: Yes, the same, one of the same, but you know
Speaker 2: what I mean.
Speaker 1: So like he's comparing his like willie essentially dick whatever
Speaker 1: you want to call it, to all of these like
Speaker 1: big porn star willies dicks, and he's like, fuck, I've
Speaker 1: got a small cock. Like I'm very embarrassed. So when
Speaker 1: they were growing up, like if they were ever like
Speaker 1: getting changed, because you know, like when you play footy
Speaker 1: and you like all get changed, he would always be
Speaker 1: like covering his dick and he would never look at
Speaker 1: anyone else's because he was like i don't want them
Speaker 1: to look at mine, so I'm not going to look
Speaker 1: at theirs kind of thing, right, No, Like he was,
Speaker 1: so he was that self conscious, like it was a
Speaker 1: full thing. Anyway, one day they were all in the
Speaker 1: change room, they're all getting changed, and someone catches this
Speaker 1: guy's dick and they're like, oh my god, your dick
Speaker 1: and he's like, fuck, everyone knows that I've got a
Speaker 1: small a small dick now right, and they're like, your
Speaker 1: dick is huge, and he's like, wait, what is it?
Speaker 1: I thought it was tiny and they're like no, like
Speaker 1: and then he saw everyone else's and he.
Speaker 3: Was like, oh shit, I'm well in down My best
Speaker 3: mate has a huge cock as well, so growing out
Speaker 3: that probably wasn't the best to compare to.
Speaker 1: Yeah, well it wouldn't be because then you're like, shit,
Speaker 1: is that the normal?
Speaker 2: Yeah? He does, so he's he'd be a shower. I reckon.
Speaker 1: That was my next question. Maybe he's a shower, not
Speaker 1: a grower.
Speaker 2: Well, you taught me before we came on here that
Speaker 2: a shower. This is what I didn't realize, was.
Speaker 1: I taught you?
Speaker 2: Well, I always sort of grower just means you're like,
Speaker 2: you are bigger, just on a flop. Yeah, but you're happy,
Speaker 2: like you know, you're happy to show it. And then
Speaker 2: I'm a grower where when you get on an erection,
Speaker 2: it gets bigger. So I didn't realize that sometimes a
Speaker 2: shower it stays the same size but just gets erect. Yeah,
Speaker 2: so how can you tell if a man's packing some
Speaker 2: heat down below? Well?
Speaker 1: It's interesting, right, because when you first meet a guy
Speaker 1: I think there's always like a I wonder what's like
Speaker 1: going down below the belt kind of thing, like it
Speaker 1: is something that you think about during dating, like who
Speaker 1: knows what they can be packing? Right, But research has
Speaker 1: actually found that if a guy has a shorter index
Speaker 1: finger then ring finger, then he is above average size wise.
Speaker 1: So do you have a shorter index finger than your
Speaker 1: ring finger? I do if I was a guy, I
Speaker 1: have a just But.
Speaker 2: Do you know what I actually find is it's the
Speaker 2: people that over compensate and overexagger like talk about it
Speaker 2: a lot. That are the people that you know, might
Speaker 2: not have a big cock I feel like, and men
Speaker 2: over compensate and they'll be like, yeah, I've got a
Speaker 2: big dick. I've got to be cock, but they don't.
Speaker 1: Yeah, like they say like big dick. Energy is kind
Speaker 1: of like someone who's confident, but like they're not over
Speaker 1: the top type of thing, but they're like almost like
Speaker 1: quietly confident and.
Speaker 2: They certain themselves and they know.
Speaker 1: Whereas someone who like you know, wants to start a
Speaker 1: fight or is over the top or who has.
Speaker 2: A really nice cars.
Speaker 1: Well, I don't know if we can say that everybody
Speaker 1: has a really nice car that's a still dick. I
Speaker 1: don't think we can say that, but yes, people do
Speaker 1: overcompensate for those things. It's spoken about so much in society,
Speaker 1: and yeah, like potentially that could be a thing. So
Speaker 1: Matt was asking me, this is like pre coming on here.
Speaker 1: He was like, well, you know you've had a few boyfriends. Sure,
Speaker 1: you've had a few showers and a few growers. And
Speaker 1: I was like thinking back to it, and I was like,
Speaker 1: to be honest, there's only one person who I can
Speaker 1: recall being a shower. And it was like this guy
Speaker 1: who I dated very briefly, but he was like very
Speaker 1: like I don't know about like speaking generally, I feel
Speaker 1: like guys who are growers, like they're not like very
Speaker 1: confident or as confident about showing their flaccid dick, right, yeah,
Speaker 1: like they're kind of like hiding it away. They're like
Speaker 1: they will quickly put their undies on, like they're not like,
Speaker 1: this is my flaccid dick. It's like way smaller, right, which,
Speaker 1: to be honest, like it's not a big deal, Like
Speaker 1: it is what it is. You're born that way. Let's
Speaker 1: just accept it. Like I wouldn't mind if like a
Speaker 1: guy I was just like this is it? Like who cares?
Speaker 1: Everyone knows you're going to be a grower. Anyway, there
Speaker 1: was this one guy and he was just like so
Speaker 1: confident in the nude. I remember him like hands on
Speaker 1: hips like and I was just like Jesus Christ or mighty.
Speaker 1: But then it was actually like it didn't actually grow
Speaker 1: longer than it just got sat like it looks huge, flaccid,
Speaker 1: but then it was just like that size hard which
Speaker 1: is still big, but like you know what I'm.
Speaker 2: Saying, just be like the normal size then when it
Speaker 2: gets harder.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think so, Like, what's what is an average
Speaker 1: size dick?
Speaker 2: Okay, so the average size penis globally is five point
Speaker 2: five inches, right, so I.
Speaker 1: Think that's smaller than I thought. What is that? What
Speaker 1: does that look like? Is that like this? Yeah? I
Speaker 1: thought the average dick was seven.
Speaker 2: It's thirteen point ninety seven centimeters.
Speaker 1: Oh that's pretty big.
Speaker 2: You like that? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, that's that big.
Speaker 2: Then Australia's is five point two inches and has taken
Speaker 2: off three hundred Then the US is five inches. England
Speaker 2: we go back up to five point five and this
Speaker 2: one I found interesting. Greece. The Greeks is five point
Speaker 2: eight Michael, so that would be probably fifteen centimeters but that's.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so Greeks have the biggest.
Speaker 2: Well no, they went the biggest, but I put that
Speaker 2: in there because of Michael.
Speaker 1: So what was Australians again?
Speaker 2: Five point two?
Speaker 1: Okay, so like twelves interesting?
Speaker 2: Can a penis be too big?
Speaker 1: I think yes, definitely. I think when a penis is
Speaker 1: too big, like either way, like we're all length, it
Speaker 1: does feel very uncomfortable. Like I've definitely heard people say
Speaker 1: there's like a perfect dick size, which is like an
Speaker 1: average to like slightly above average size, and that's like
Speaker 1: it feels good all the time. So yeah, I think
Speaker 1: dix can be too big. But then again, like I
Speaker 1: don't want to sit here and make someone with a
Speaker 1: huge cock feel insecure because like you know, you can
Speaker 1: always like put it in halfway or you know this
Speaker 1: guy and.
Speaker 2: It was literally just like he's not going in there,
Speaker 2: that's how big it was. And I was like, I
Speaker 2: was like, that is huge. What did you type the
Speaker 2: explore for you my algorithm?
Speaker 1: It's so funny. Would you ever discuss this type of
Speaker 1: thing in your friendship group or is this like a
Speaker 1: chat you'd have with only like a girlfriend or a
Speaker 1: friend who's a girl.
Speaker 2: I don't think we openly go, hey, this is the
Speaker 2: size of my penis. Like everyone knows my best mate
Speaker 2: has a huge cock, so like if anything ever comes up,
Speaker 2: like with Dale's, he's got the huge one.
Speaker 1: So that's like what if Dale's a shower and not
Speaker 1: a grower, and you're all going around saying he has
Speaker 1: a horse Willie, But really it's just he's just showing
Speaker 1: everything he's got up from.
Speaker 2: Well then he's me and my mates and him are
Speaker 2: misleading a lot of girls.
Speaker 1: Then that's so funny.
Speaker 2: But I think I've seen it at different So I
Speaker 2: think Jesus, did.
Speaker 1: You guys talk about it, Like would you talk about
Speaker 1: like insecurities with like your dicks?
Speaker 2: No, No, I don't think any of my mates have
Speaker 2: any to be fair.
Speaker 1: Well, like surely like statistically speaking, that at least one
Speaker 1: of you would have like premature ejaculation, or one of
Speaker 1: you might struggle to get hard, like the things that
Speaker 1: you would chat about.
Speaker 2: Another one of my best mates, all his laugh about
Speaker 2: that he has premature ejaculation. Yea, that he's he's already
Speaker 2: picking like by the time like he's done he's already
Speaker 2: picking his underwear, arughing. He's out of the house for
Speaker 2: thirty seconds. He's really quick. We always joke about that,
Speaker 2: but every guy has their days, their mistakes. These are
Speaker 2: a lot more common than the average.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so he's he has he has a tub of
Speaker 2: climagra in his bathroom maga. So that is a sachet
Speaker 2: of stuff that you get. It's sort of like viagra,
Speaker 2: but it's not as strong. I don't think.
Speaker 1: Can you eat it?
Speaker 2: And yeah, you put it on your tongue and eat
Speaker 2: it and it makes you last longer. Interesting, So he's
Speaker 2: he might be insecure about it, or he might just
Speaker 2: want to know, please girls and not be too too excited. Wow,
Speaker 2: jump the gun too quickly.
Speaker 1: It's a probably a good thing. Yeah, but you also
Speaker 1: don't want to be taking like medication on the rag,
Speaker 1: like it's a bit you know what I mean. Maybe
Speaker 1: he needs to just like I don't know, you can.
Speaker 2: It's a mind mindful doesn't learn how to well. Yeah,
Speaker 2: when I feel like I below and I want to
Speaker 2: go longer, I do stuff in my.
Speaker 1: Mind, like just distract yourself.
Speaker 2: I'll think about like traffic. Mosquito bites dictionaries mass tests,
Speaker 2: do some quick math, really unsexy things, and I'm like, oh, don't,
Speaker 2: don't do it, Matthew, don't do it.
Speaker 1: That's so funny.
Speaker 2: Do you think that lack society thinks that dick size
Speaker 2: is important? There's a stigma around it, I think.
Speaker 1: In general, Like I don't think women are as picky
Speaker 1: as maybe some men might think. Like you know, occasionally,
Speaker 1: like you can like say a throwaway comment like I
Speaker 1: would love a big dick, but like, realistically, most women
Speaker 1: I think want an average sized penis that you know,
Speaker 1: has a guy on the end of it that knows
Speaker 1: how to work his hips and do you know what
Speaker 1: I mean? Like and like you know, dick is one thing,
Speaker 1: but like I think, having an emotional connection to someone
Speaker 1: and then there's some good dick attached to all of that.
Speaker 1: Just you know, we've spoken about this before, like it
Speaker 1: a lot. It just makes it so much better, Like
Speaker 1: it's not just about the physical. I think there's much
Speaker 1: more to it.
Speaker 2: Well, maybe girls should stop saying those comments and making
Speaker 2: guys feel insecure about it and maybe compliment their men
Speaker 2: a bit more, do you reckon? Yeah, so they feel
Speaker 2: more comfortable. Yeah, men never forget a compliment, and I
Speaker 2: reckon that by every compliment I get given, I'll remember
Speaker 2: that one till I get my next one.
Speaker 1: You probably have like a novel full of all the
Speaker 1: compliments you've ever received, just so you don't forget that.
Speaker 2: My most racing compliment, I said that I'm such a
Speaker 2: great guy because I put the neutra bullet today in
Speaker 2: my bedroom because I got up earlier and didn't wake
Speaker 2: everyone up because the kitchen it will run up the stairs.
Speaker 2: She said. I'm I'm a very thoughtful.
Speaker 1: Hearing you're a decent guy.
Speaker 2: Decent so until I get my next compliment, that's going
Speaker 2: to be front of my mind.
Speaker 1: Well, look, there are ways to boost a man's confidence,
Speaker 1: so we're going to talk about those things next. Okay, Matt,
Speaker 1: So how do we boost a man's confidence in the bedroom?
Speaker 2: I feel like we focus so much on women and
Speaker 2: how they like are making them feel like comfortable in
Speaker 2: that maybe it's the time for like women to make
Speaker 2: a man feel more comfortable in there as well.
Speaker 1: I mean, I think we can both make each other
Speaker 1: feel comfortable. I think not one way, like make.
Speaker 2: Him feel like, you know, like nice compliments to them
Speaker 2: with what they're doing in that let him know when
Speaker 2: they've done something.
Speaker 1: Well, the problem is, yeah, I totally agree. If if
Speaker 1: a guy in the bedroom is doing something that you like,
Speaker 1: that is the time to compliment them so they remember
Speaker 1: what they're doing. If they're doing something you don't like,
Speaker 1: don't be like this is amazing, because then they're just
Speaker 1: going to keep doing the same bad thing. Like I
Speaker 1: the younger version of me has made that mistake before
Speaker 1: and it's just made for a terrible sex life.
Speaker 2: And they would keep doing that thing.
Speaker 1: Yeah you're like owl owl.
Speaker 2: But surely he would be picking up on body language
Speaker 2: and like, yeah, I know that.
Speaker 1: But if you literally have said to a guy, oh,
Speaker 1: that's so good and then they're like okay, well noted
Speaker 1: to sell.
Speaker 2: And then they keep doing it and you're like, fuck,
Speaker 2: I fucked this up.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm like it has to end now, Like we
Speaker 1: can't keep going on like this. Yeah. Look, I think
Speaker 1: the thing is is you don't want to give a
Speaker 1: guy too much too early. But this is like, if
Speaker 1: you know, maybe you're exclusive, maybe you're in a relationship,
Speaker 1: you do want to boost his self esteem, you do
Speaker 1: want to make him feel good about himself, so maybe
Speaker 1: genuinely give him a compliment, whether it's on his appearance
Speaker 1: or personality. You know, as Matt said, guys love a compliment.
Speaker 2: We do. We secretly act like we don't, but trust me,
Speaker 2: we remember every compliment we get.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Absolutely. What about asking for his help, Matt, you
Speaker 1: have spoken about this before on the podcast and how
Speaker 1: excited that makes you to be the breadwinner to you know,
Speaker 1: help change a tire or Yeah.
Speaker 2: When I like a girl, I do like to help
Speaker 2: him and like to. I remember with Jen when we
Speaker 2: started dating, her light bulb was out, so I was
Speaker 2: a night shining armor. I bought a bunch of different
Speaker 2: light bulbs and time because I could reach it and
Speaker 2: she couldn't reach it.
Speaker 1: What made you feel needed and strong.
Speaker 2: Masculine masculine energy that I that I need? Yeah, that's
Speaker 2: that's a good way of doing it as well. Maybe
Speaker 2: didn't we say one time? Pretend that the you've got
Speaker 2: a flat tire or a broken down car, and to fix.
Speaker 1: It it's super easy. I actually have a friend who
Speaker 1: was dating a guy and she's a very independent woman
Speaker 1: and he was always asking her like, Hey, can I
Speaker 1: help you with moving? Or can I help you with this?
Speaker 1: And that she was always like no, no, no, I've got
Speaker 1: it because she did, like she literally had it. But
Speaker 1: then it made him feel inferior because he was like, well,
Speaker 1: I want to help you, like I want to I
Speaker 1: want to do something for you, and she actually never
Speaker 1: like allowed him to kind of take that role. And
Speaker 1: like sometimes it is nice, like I'm an independent woman
Speaker 1: as well, but like sometimes of service, I think, so, yeah,
Speaker 1: sometimes it's nice to just like, you know, task someone,
Speaker 1: can you please do this? I would love it. Thank
Speaker 1: you so much. You're so strong.
Speaker 2: It's such a good guy. You're such a good guy
Speaker 2: on that. Another good one is tell him how much
Speaker 2: you want him and how much you crave him. I
Speaker 2: love that when he says that.
Speaker 1: To me about like a late night text or something,
Speaker 1: or just like a text in the day during sex.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah they want you and.
Speaker 2: How good it is. I love that. Yeah.
Speaker 1: So making you feel like an alpha man just like
Speaker 1: you're the only man for them type.
Speaker 2: Of hot hot hot.
Speaker 1: What about giving him enough attention and also just like
Speaker 1: listening to what he has to say. I think taking
Speaker 1: the time to hear about his day at work or
Speaker 1: to hear about like what he likes.
Speaker 2: You find though a lot of some guys don't really
Speaker 2: open up with that sort of stuff, So I think
Speaker 2: it depends on what guy I know that like. But
Speaker 2: I feel like I.
Speaker 1: Listened to.
Speaker 2: I have to say that. I feel that you find
Speaker 2: that they actually do want to be listening to it.
Speaker 2: They don't feel like they can or have been listened
Speaker 2: to in the past. So make that space for that,
Speaker 2: hold some space for room so they feel like they
Speaker 2: can open up to you and tell you that sort
Speaker 2: of stuff, because everyone has to vent after a day's work.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and like, if you're interested in things that he's
Speaker 1: interested in, then it gives him like a good vibe
Speaker 1: about you and makes him want to even open up
Speaker 1: more than he already is.
Speaker 2: And like, I'll never forget the day that Jen told
Speaker 2: me that she wanted to watch the Marvel movies with me.
Speaker 1: He still dreams about it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's that sort of stuff. I love when they
Speaker 2: show interest to my interest.
Speaker 1: And you know what, guys love being like an expert
Speaker 1: on things, and you love Marvel, so you would have
Speaker 1: just loved like having her there for the ride. She's
Speaker 1: like a first time watcher.
Speaker 2: Set up a flow chart. I spoke all through who Yeah,
Speaker 2: I was talking through I had like Disney Plus with
Speaker 2: the remote and I was like, Okay, this movie comes next, this, this,
Speaker 2: and this, Yeah, the greatest story ever told Marvel.
Speaker 1: Okay, let's think about boosting confidence. What about just flirting
Speaker 1: with them? Sometimes we forget to flirt with our men,
Speaker 1: even like, especially when we've been in relationships for a while.
Speaker 1: Sometimes I forget to flirt with Michael and just like,
Speaker 1: you know, make him feel special because you know, mundane
Speaker 1: activities get in the way. I'm like, Okay, what's for dinner?
Speaker 1: We need to clean the bathrooms, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: But sometimes it is nice to just flirt and to.
Speaker 2: How would you flirt with Michael now, like in a
Speaker 2: long term relationship, Like what's the definition of flirting because
Speaker 2: it obviously changed to someone that you've just started talking to.
Speaker 1: I don't know, like pouring a glass of wine, or
Speaker 1: making dinner together, or like sometimes laughing. Sometimes we put
Speaker 1: on music and we dance together in the kitchen, Like
Speaker 1: that's really fun. Just doing things that we like have
Speaker 1: always loved to do, but just making a point to
Speaker 1: continue to do them. Also getting your partner to take
Speaker 1: you out on the date night and getting dressed up and.
Speaker 2: Very important don't forget to do that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, like if you feel good and they're all dressed
Speaker 1: up and feel good, then you do kind of want
Speaker 1: to get your flirt on. You're kind of like, well,
Speaker 1: this is a day, and you know it's probably going
Speaker 1: to end in some sex, some fun. I was gonna
Speaker 1: say that, yes, not sex.
Speaker 2: Also, well, before sex, maybe give him a BackRub or
Speaker 2: head tickles as well. I know I was never really
Speaker 2: big on that sort of stuff, and then I started
Speaker 2: getting it, and fuck I love my head rubs. Yeah,
Speaker 2: a massage yeah, yeah, physical touch wasn't like that version
Speaker 2: of physical touch wasn't much of my love language. I
Speaker 2: thought it was more hugging, and I realized that like
Speaker 2: massages and that sort of stuff is as well. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I love that.
Speaker 1: We love a massage. It's just like it's almost like foreplay, right,
Speaker 1: It's just like adding to the foreplay, but without like
Speaker 1: crossing those sexual into that sexual barrier region.
Speaker 2: Well, all backrubs lead to sex, well not all of them.
Speaker 1: What about building him up in front of your friends
Speaker 1: and family and his too, just so that it makes
Speaker 1: him feel really appreciated.
Speaker 2: Love this one. I reckon This one's good. Yeah, I
Speaker 2: reckon all like, you should always do that to your man,
Speaker 2: or you should always do that to your partner. I feel,
Speaker 2: always build them up in front of your friends and
Speaker 2: family so they feel good. And then your friends and
Speaker 2: family have a what's the word, They have a good
Speaker 2: opinion of you, and they think that they can hire
Speaker 2: of you.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Absolutely, Look, we want to boost confidence in the
Speaker 1: men in our life, and we do this through all
Speaker 1: of those things. But something that we don't want to
Speaker 1: be used for is just an ego boost. So we
Speaker 1: are going to tell you if you're just being used
Speaker 1: for an ego boost. Next. Okay, Matt, we've all been
Speaker 1: with those people who are hot and cold, who aren't
Speaker 1: exactly a boyfriend. Then we're not exactly exclusive with them,
Speaker 1: but they seem to somehow stick around, and usually that's
Speaker 1: because they're using you for an ego boost. Have you
Speaker 1: ever done this? I have?
Speaker 2: You know, I'll admit I've probably done this for the girl,
Speaker 2: like subconsciously not knowing that it's for an ego boost.
Speaker 2: It's more like, you know, I don't see a future
Speaker 2: with her, I just you know, maybe it's just for fun.
Speaker 2: And then like you've obviously set those because we know
Speaker 2: how transparent I am. So I always set those expectations
Speaker 2: with the girl and she will agree to him. But
Speaker 2: I think in a way she doesn't realized, you know,
Speaker 2: like that it's just because I want an ego bruce.
Speaker 2: But then on the same on the other hand, I've
Speaker 2: been fucking used for an ego boos like a hundred times. Seriously,
Speaker 2: I've been used for an ego bruce that many times.
Speaker 2: So I think it's just like it's part of it all,
Speaker 2: isn't it.
Speaker 1: I've definitely used guys for ego boosts in the past,
Speaker 1: and I do feel bad about it in a way,
Speaker 1: but like also like all is for love and war,
Speaker 1: and I think as long as you are being open
Speaker 1: about kind of where you stand, like I've always been open.
Speaker 1: So like if obviously I've been on a few dates
Speaker 1: with a guy, maybe we've had sex, and then I'm
Speaker 1: kind of like, this isn't moving into a relationship for me,
Speaker 1: so I'll tell them that, but obviously, like I would
Speaker 1: still text them, and you know, if we're both out,
Speaker 1: then we could potentially both end up back at mine.
Speaker 1: I would classify that as kind of me using them. Well, like,
Speaker 1: sometimes it's not even about an ego boost, but it's
Speaker 1: just kind of like the flavor of the month type
Speaker 1: of vibe.
Speaker 2: Or you could say you're dating.
Speaker 1: Well, we're dating, but it's not going anywhere, and I
Speaker 1: would be definitely open to getting to know other people.
Speaker 1: And that's kind of the what I've made clear. But yes,
Speaker 1: if you're listening to what we're saying right now and
Speaker 1: you're like, shit, I could be that person who's getting used,
Speaker 1: we're going to give you some pointers on how to
Speaker 1: tell if that's happening to you.
Speaker 2: He's on and off with his messaging, so he drops
Speaker 2: in when he needs some validation or attention, and then
Speaker 2: he goes to you most likely to go something to
Speaker 2: get the next hit of validation.
Speaker 1: Yeah, have you ever dated someone and then like you're texting, texting, texting,
Speaker 1: and then they go missing and you're like what happened
Speaker 1: to them? And then it's like they're clearly on a
Speaker 1: date with someone else. And then like twelve o'clock the
Speaker 1: next day, they're like, hey, how was your night last night?
Speaker 1: And you're like, no, how was yours?
Speaker 2: You see some fucking trauma host trauma Like yeah, man,
Speaker 2: it's a nasty world out there in the dating world.
Speaker 2: I mean I remember getting that all the time. And
Speaker 2: then when you hang out with them and you see
Speaker 2: that another guy or even I've seen their X pop
Speaker 2: up on their phone.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, that's the way, and you're like, oh, well that's.
Speaker 2: Clearly who you were with.
Speaker 1: Then now we can put two in two.
Speaker 2: Yeah, now it makes sense.
Speaker 1: The pieces start like slowly coming together. What about when
Speaker 1: they use you as a therapist, so there's like a
Speaker 1: lot of trauma dumping on you. They're offloading all of
Speaker 1: their shit onto you, often via phone. You know, they're
Speaker 1: talking about their exes on the first day, like that
Speaker 1: type of shit, Like that's a red flag on that.
Speaker 2: Though as a guy, I feel like you would have
Speaker 2: to be awfully close to someone to start doing that.
Speaker 1: I've gone on a first date with someone and they
Speaker 1: literally started telling me about why it didn't work out
Speaker 1: with their ex. And you know when it's like, I.
Speaker 2: Reckon, they're not over their acts if they're.
Speaker 1: Doing Oh definitely, he definitely wasn't over his and in fact,
Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure he was seeing us both at the
Speaker 1: same time one hund But like, I think it's just
Speaker 1: those red flags that you need to look out for
Speaker 1: when you are dating someone. Like if someone brings up
Speaker 1: their X and it's just like a very like passing comment,
Speaker 1: that's fine, I think. But if they're like talking about
Speaker 1: their X and then they get onto the bandwaggon talking
Speaker 1: about their ex and they're like, oh, I found someone
Speaker 1: who's gonna listen to me talk about my ex.
Speaker 2: Run, yes, run, don't walk away from that one. He
Speaker 2: only asks you out every once in a while, so
Speaker 2: there's no real like making plans like all right, let's
Speaker 2: I'll catch up with you next week. He's sort of spontaneously.
Speaker 2: It's just like but then again, that could be like
Speaker 2: cute in a way, but I feel like when it's
Speaker 2: more just like so like sporadic and there's no real
Speaker 2: intention behind it, I think.
Speaker 1: When someone does that, it's kind of like they're making
Speaker 1: a point that you're not dating and they don't want
Speaker 1: to like go on dates with you too close together
Speaker 1: because they want them to be spaced out so that
Speaker 1: you don't get attached. And that's kind of when you
Speaker 1: can start to piece that puzzle together and realize, like,
Speaker 1: this person is definitely talking to other people and I'm
Speaker 1: definitely not their priority about.
Speaker 2: When you would make plans with them, and then they'd
Speaker 2: be like, yeah, that sounds fun, and you're like sort
Speaker 2: of like, all right, well this organize a time and date,
Speaker 2: and they just don't.
Speaker 1: Stress. They don't introduce you to friends or to family.
Speaker 1: That's a big one. It's pretty obvious choosing to spend
Speaker 1: their weekends hanging out with other people instead of you.
Speaker 1: I mean all of those things are pretty self explanatory.
Speaker 1: Sometimes I just feel like, you know, and especially as women,
Speaker 1: we make excuses like, oh, he's spending time with his mom's,
Speaker 1: he's talking to with his best friend, he's not spent
Speaker 1: time with him forever, and like you hear them kind
Speaker 1: of give these excuses. But I think it's always just
Speaker 1: really good to remember that if someone wants to hang
Speaker 1: out with you, guess what, you'll hang out with them.
Speaker 2: Yeah, one hundred percent. Like I feel like you and me,
Speaker 2: especially if you like obsessed with someone and you like them,
Speaker 2: you want to hang out with them. And I think
Speaker 2: that goes for a lot of people.
Speaker 1: Yeah, people are all or nothing and like, ye, yes,
Speaker 1: at the start, they might kind of like give it
Speaker 1: some time. And also I think when people do start dating,
Speaker 1: like for instance, if you meet someone and then go
Speaker 1: on a first date with them and you really get
Speaker 1: along with them. That person could have three other people
Speaker 1: that they're talking to. You could still be their first
Speaker 1: priority now that you guys have had an amazing date,
Speaker 1: But like you've got to respect you're not exclusive with them.
Speaker 1: And you know, that's the kind of hard thing about
Speaker 1: dating is you can't you can't really expect all or
Speaker 1: nothing from people because people are kind of moving in
Speaker 1: between different people and different.
Speaker 2: Situationships part of dating. I feel like you we should
Speaker 2: never take that away from dating because you have to
Speaker 2: explore all those different options. Yeah, but I think that
Speaker 2: one is though, if you're with them and you're out
Speaker 2: with them or to say, just even at dinner or anything,
Speaker 2: out the bar or something, and they start flirting with
Speaker 2: other people in front of you, red flag, it's a
Speaker 2: red flag. Yeah, I feel like that's a red flag.
Speaker 1: Yeah, flirting, it's just rude if they're doing it.
Speaker 2: If they're doing it like subconsciously, you should know that
Speaker 2: you're with someone that you're dating that it's probably not
Speaker 2: the best thing to do.
Speaker 1: And speaking of flirting, what about people who social media flirt?
Speaker 1: So I feel like we all know one of those
Speaker 1: guys who just has liked every girl's photo on social media. Like,
Speaker 1: I'm thinking of three of them right now, all of
Speaker 1: their faces, and they literally any girl where there's like
Speaker 1: a bikini pick or a really sexy pick or any
Speaker 1: sort of pick at all. Really, they've liked it, and
Speaker 1: we've I think we're all probably sitting thinking of at
Speaker 1: least three people that we can think of who've done that.
Speaker 2: So that's a red flag.
Speaker 1: It's a red flag. Who wants to date the guy
Speaker 1: who's liked every girl's picture? I mean, it's a gross.
Speaker 2: If they follow a bunch of like Instagram models, red flag, red.
Speaker 1: Flag, red flag bin Like, that's just a no.
Speaker 2: Well, I only follow them because I know them for himself,
Speaker 2: probably works with them or you know, being to an
Speaker 2: event with him. That's why I followed. But I'm saying, yeah,
Speaker 2: like people that just follow random Instagram models, I think
Speaker 2: there's a bit of a red flag in that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, he only compliments you on how you dress and
Speaker 1: how you look, huge red flag. And also you know
Speaker 1: that they're using you for an ego boost.
Speaker 2: There, I've got to come in from the guys angle here.
Speaker 2: Maybe they're just really awkward at giving compliments, and they
Speaker 2: just could have literally point out the obvious thing, and
Speaker 2: they're not emotionally in touch and don't know how to
Speaker 2: even gauge people's personalities and emotions and know how to
Speaker 2: do with that.
Speaker 1: Ooka, I get that, And like, you know, no one's
Speaker 1: going to turn down you look beautiful tonight compliment. But
Speaker 1: I think if you are going to give out you
Speaker 1: look beautiful tonight compliment, you could also give out a
Speaker 1: compliment saying, I don't know, you look really happy tonight.
Speaker 1: Your energy is really contagious, all of those things that
Speaker 1: make you feel like I am more than how I look.
Speaker 2: And but a lot of guys, yeah, one hundred percent agree.
Speaker 2: A lot of guys aren't so emotionally in touch with
Speaker 2: their emotions as I am, so they would really not
Speaker 2: know that sort of you know that they look after
Speaker 2: you know what I mean? Like guys sometimes would be
Speaker 2: like not understand how to put that into words.
Speaker 1: Well, if you're listening, now you know?
Speaker 2: Now you know? Yeah, so I think that, Yeah, I
Speaker 2: think that it is if I think, okay, I'll tell
Speaker 2: you what. If they're saying it in a sleazy way,
Speaker 2: like what like, well, you're looking hot to know, Yeah,
Speaker 2: that's clearly that that's clearly they use I can't look
Speaker 2: at that now, but I wasn't. Yeah, but that's that's
Speaker 2: when they're clearly saying that in a way that they're
Speaker 2: using you for your looks. But if they say like, oh,
Speaker 2: you look really nice tonight, or you look beautiful tonight.
Speaker 1: That's lovely.
Speaker 2: Yeah, they're just probably not emotionally in touch to go like,
Speaker 2: you know, your energy is contagious.
Speaker 1: What's your favorite compliment that doesn't have anything to do
Speaker 1: with your looks?
Speaker 2: I don't mind that energy is contagious one, but it'd
Speaker 2: have to be valid to say to.
Speaker 1: The girl, Well, like, you're a really fun person to
Speaker 1: hang out.
Speaker 2: With, that I love talking to you.
Speaker 1: I love talking to you. You have a very calming
Speaker 1: presence on me.
Speaker 2: Do we love that?
Speaker 1: Ma's adding them all to Matt things that I'm giving
Speaker 1: him these compliments, he's adding them to his novel as we.
Speaker 2: See, are you saying them to me right now?
Speaker 1: Finally, he doesn't show interest in your life. So if
Speaker 1: you're going on a date with someone and they don't
Speaker 1: ask you about themselves and they're spending a lot of
Speaker 1: time talking about themselves, big problem and sometimes Matt, you
Speaker 1: talk about your loss, I can't even say it, like
Speaker 1: without like fishing myself, I do.
Speaker 2: I like to talking about myself. I find it easier
Speaker 2: in conversations to talk about myself, but it doesn't hurt.
Speaker 2: And I'm getting better at asking people about their days.
Speaker 1: And actually like listening, listening and hearing them and then
Speaker 1: reacting to what they say instead of you know, sometimes
Speaker 1: when you have a conversation with someone and you can
Speaker 1: already tell their pre planning what they're saying before you
Speaker 1: finish what you've said, No, I'm not saying you know
Speaker 1: that's looking at me like guilty, like he's just done that.
Speaker 1: You've not done that. No, no, but I'm just saying
Speaker 1: like you know that, and like someone's not actively listening
Speaker 1: to you. Like there's something like attractive when you're dating
Speaker 1: someone for them to listen to what you say and
Speaker 1: then react accordingly. Like obviously if you're on a first
Speaker 1: date and you're freaking out about what to say, have
Speaker 1: a question in the back of your mind again as
Speaker 1: the conversation flops, but like also actively.
Speaker 2: Listen, yes, actually hear what they're saying and reply back
Speaker 2: to even if it's boring and mundane as fuck, and
Speaker 2: they're talking about their their par averaging golf.
Speaker 1: That sounds bleak.
Speaker 2: But if he's talking to you about that, he's got
Speaker 2: no game. Maybe on the golf course. What was a
Speaker 2: TikTok we saw before? You're either good at sex or golf.
Speaker 2: No man can be good at both. I've never I
Speaker 2: can't even strike it at the driving range. I missed
Speaker 2: the cold fall every time, but I never missed the
Speaker 2: the marsh.
Speaker 1: I did not know where you.
Speaker 2: Go I ship myself. I was like, I can't say
Speaker 2: anything too fun to you.
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