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Speaker 1: Go, I tell you it's Harps. Happy day, Happy day

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Speaker 1: to you. I hope you're bloody terrific. Today we're talking

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Speaker 1: about the meaning of life, the meaning of life. What

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Speaker 1: a weird thing that is, What a weird idea? The meaning.

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Speaker 1: Let's start with the the like, oh there's only one,

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Speaker 1: there's a meaning. It's not like the meanings. No one

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Speaker 1: ever says what are the meanings of life? Like it?

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Speaker 1: There might be more than one meaning. And so I

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Speaker 1: want to unpack this a little bit with you. Clearly,

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Speaker 1: I'm not going to give you a definitive answer, because

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Speaker 1: you know why. And this is only my thinking. I

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Speaker 1: don't personally think there's a definitive answer, and I don't

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Speaker 1: think and this is just my thinking. And you have

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Speaker 1: to see if you're thinking kind of aligns or if

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Speaker 1: what I say sounds right or reasonable. But I'm going

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Speaker 1: to suggest a few things and you'll consider them, and

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Speaker 1: you'll discard them, or you'll maybe do something with them.

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Speaker 1: But I think that a lot of us believe that

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Speaker 1: there is a single meaning to life, especially when we

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Speaker 1: talk in a theological in a religious context, many people

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Speaker 1: believe there's a meaning to life. And it's pretty much

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Speaker 1: the same for all of us, and we all just

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Speaker 1: need to live that meaning. I don't know about that.

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Speaker 1: I don't agree with that. I don't think that the

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Speaker 1: meaning of my life is necessarily the same as the

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Speaker 1: meaning of your life. I also don't think not better,

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Speaker 1: not worse, but just individual. I also don't think there's

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Speaker 1: a single meaning. I think that the meaning of my

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Speaker 1: life when I'm twenty might not be identical to when

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Speaker 1: I'm thirty or forty, or fifty or sixty or seventy

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Speaker 1: or ten. Maybe it's something that evolves, Maybe it's something

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Speaker 1: that's fluid. Also, maybe it's not a single thing. Why

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Speaker 1: do is then need to be a single meaning? Maybe

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Speaker 1: part of the meaning of my life? This is what

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Speaker 1: I think. I think the meaning of my life in

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Speaker 1: part is to serve and to teach and to coach

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Speaker 1: and to help other people explore and fulfill and optimize

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Speaker 1: their potential. I feel like that's part of the meaning

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Speaker 1: of life. I feel like part of the meaning of

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Speaker 1: my life. Perhaps we could interchange meaning with purpose. Who

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Speaker 1: knows is to is to be loving and compassionate and kind,

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Speaker 1: And I think part of that for me is a

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Speaker 1: real exercise in personal growth. For me, because I can

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Speaker 1: be not those things. I can be selfish and self centered.

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Speaker 1: And so I think part of the meaning of my

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Speaker 1: life in hopefully sharing love and kindness and support and

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Speaker 1: good stuff for the world and the people in my

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Speaker 1: immediate world, is one that so I am of value

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Speaker 1: and benefit to them, but also that I am being

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Speaker 1: tested and I am I am on my own journey

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Speaker 1: of discovery and growth and learning. So you know, I

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Speaker 1: personally don't align to the idea that there is a

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Speaker 1: meaning of life. I think the meaning of our life

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Speaker 1: can evolve over time. I don't even know why we

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Speaker 1: need to give we need to come up with this

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Speaker 1: single kind of explanation or banner that we drape over

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Speaker 1: the top of our life. I'm not sure that it's

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Speaker 1: even a good idea. Perhaps better than that is to

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Speaker 1: get clear about, which I've spoken about before, what are

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Speaker 1: the values of my life? In other words, what are

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Speaker 1: the values of me? What are my values? What are

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Speaker 1: the things that I believe in? What are the things

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Speaker 1: that are important to me? Because then that will probably

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Speaker 1: shape the meaning or slash purpose or slash direction of

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Speaker 1: my life. Like it's almost like this mystical, magical, mythical

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Speaker 1: thing that we need to go on some spiritual journey

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Speaker 1: and look under some spiritual rock or behind some spiritual

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Speaker 1: burning bush to discover the meaning of our life, and

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Speaker 1: then we will be enlightened, and then we will go

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Speaker 1: on to live that enlightened life. Yeah, I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I don't know. Maybe what do I know? What do

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Speaker 1: you know? What do any of us know? What do

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Speaker 1: I do know? Is there's fucking zero agreement on any

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Speaker 1: of this. You ask different religious groups, you'll get different

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Speaker 1: answers to the same question. Different spiritual groups. Ask philosophers,

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Speaker 1: are psychologists, Ask the stoics, Ask different teachers. You'll get

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Speaker 1: nobody knows, you know and so. And why nobody knows

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Speaker 1: is because there's no single universal answer. I don't think.

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Speaker 1: I think that you and I get dealt certain cards.

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Speaker 1: We get Okay, here are your genetics, here's the environment

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Speaker 1: you're born, and here's the culture. Maybe here's the religion

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Speaker 1: that you're born into. This is the circumstance and situation.

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Speaker 1: That's your mum, that's your dad, that's your brothers and sisters.

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Speaker 1: And then on top of that, you get to make

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Speaker 1: a whole lot of decisions and hopefully figure out for

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Speaker 1: you who you are, who you are at your core,

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Speaker 1: what your beliefs, what matters to you, what your values,

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Speaker 1: who and how you want to be, And then maybe

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Speaker 1: once you get clarity around that, then you can choose

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Speaker 1: the meaning of your life. There's an idea. Maybe the

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Speaker 1: meaning of your life is not predetermined. Maybe it's you determined.

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Speaker 1: What if you get to choose, Like you've got a brain.

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Speaker 1: Even if we believe in God, which you may or

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Speaker 1: may not, but if God gave us free will, or

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Speaker 1: if we just happen to have free will or whatever,

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Speaker 1: surely you have the capacity to think and choose and

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Speaker 1: make decisions. You have this incredible thing called your brain

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Speaker 1: which allows you to navigate life and to all the

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Speaker 1: complexities and variables of life. Why would you not get

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Speaker 1: to choose the meaning of your life? Oh no, No,

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Speaker 1: You've got this incredible brain. You can do all this

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Speaker 1: incredible shit. You can think for yourself, but you can't

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Speaker 1: choose the meaning of your life. That's done and dusted.

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Speaker 1: You just need to stumble into it, and let's hope

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Speaker 1: you do, because otherwise you're going to die one day

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Speaker 1: and you will have been just doing all this shit

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Speaker 1: that wasn't what you were meant to do because you

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Speaker 1: didn't discover the meaning of your life. Kind of fucking ridiculous, right,

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Speaker 1: and very limiting. And let's just say also, if you

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Speaker 1: want to be a little bit scientific, akat there's zero

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Speaker 1: evidence that there is a set meaning of life. Show

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Speaker 1: me the evidence there. It doesn't exist. So until we

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Speaker 1: get that evidence, why don't we go. You are in

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Speaker 1: charge of the meaning of your life. You get to

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Speaker 1: choose what your life will be about. You get to

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Speaker 1: choose your path and your purpose. You get to choose

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Speaker 1: whether or not there is a meaning or multiple meanings

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Speaker 1: to your life. If you are struggling, then as I

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Speaker 1: said two a minute ago, two what matters to me?

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Speaker 1: And I mean dig deep. I don't mean money, car house, Yes,

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Speaker 1: of course we need money, car house, We need stuff,

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Speaker 1: we need assets, we need to we need to live

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Speaker 1: and navigate the very commercial world that we live in.

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Speaker 1: Nothing wrong with making lots of money, nothing wrong with

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Speaker 1: all the fancy shit that we've spoken about before, of course,

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Speaker 1: But I don't think money is at the core of

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Speaker 1: your value system. When we think about the totality of

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Speaker 1: your life, of my life, of our lives, what are

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Speaker 1: the things that at the most fundamental core of me

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Speaker 1: being a human, me being a conscious creature, me being

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Speaker 1: a loving, kind, hopefully person that wants to build connection

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Speaker 1: and love and to belong and to love and be loved,

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Speaker 1: and all of those things what really matters. And so

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Speaker 1: when we get clear about those values, when we get

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Speaker 1: clear about what are my beliefs, what really matters to me,

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Speaker 1: then the challenge of finding the meaning of our life,

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Speaker 1: or perhaps choosing it becomes much easier. Take a break,

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Speaker 1: because that's what we do it about this time. We'll

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Speaker 1: be back in a mini with a question. And we're back,

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Speaker 1: of course we would be. So my question for you

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Speaker 1: today is what are you choosing for your life? What

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Speaker 1: are you choosing for your life? And see you tomorrow