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Speaker 3: Welcome back to grow Alue.

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Speaker 1: We're right on the topics of feminine energy at the

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Speaker 1: moment because it's just kind of what we're going through,

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Speaker 1: what we're experiencing.

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Speaker 2: I love how we do this though, Like when we're

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Speaker 2: focusing on something and learning about it, we tend to

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Speaker 2: both go hard on it, read books about it, do

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Speaker 2: all the things, and then it's great that we can

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Speaker 2: really expand on it.

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Speaker 1: And that's why this is just like USO is literally

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Speaker 1: us authentically talking about our lives, experiences, ups and downs

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Speaker 1: and things are learning along the way to help us

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Speaker 1: grow and glow. Yeah, so, yeah, you've been learning all

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Speaker 1: about the three different types of feminine.

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Speaker 2: The three types of feminine women.

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Speaker 3: Feminine women.

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Speaker 1: And it's interesting because I was saying this morning, we're

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Speaker 1: talking about it, I've only ever learned about the wounded

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Speaker 1: feminine and the empowered feminine because you've got a different

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Speaker 1: way to break it down, which is really cool.

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Speaker 2: I've only ever heard of this once, and it was

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Speaker 2: in a book that I read. I can't remember which

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Speaker 2: one it is. I think I've read about six books

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Speaker 2: since coming back from me on feminine energy because I've

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Speaker 2: just really found it fascinating. But I found this so

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Speaker 2: interesting and I think we will all relate to We

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Speaker 2: will at least one type of these feminine women in

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Speaker 2: our lifetime. And the cool thing about the three types

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Speaker 2: of feminine women is we can even flow out of them.

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Speaker 2: Most cases, you will start off as the helpless woman,

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Speaker 2: and then you know, you might transition into the protective

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Speaker 2: women because of a certain situation, and then, I mean,

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Speaker 2: we're all aiming to be the goddess. But I'll break

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Speaker 2: them all down and kind of explain them all. So basically,

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Speaker 2: the helpless woman is a woman who is not in

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Speaker 2: her masculine at all. So I think that it's important

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Speaker 2: for us to remember as well being a feminine woman

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Speaker 2: and embodying goddess energy, we need to still be able

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Speaker 2: to tap into our masculine as healthy from time to time,

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Speaker 2: because it's healthy. We're setting boundaries for you know, having

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Speaker 2: we had to get things done one hundred percent. So

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Speaker 2: when we are completely left field and we are completely

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Speaker 2: in our feminine that's not necessarily healthy.

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Speaker 1: So we humanize a masculine energy, there's not really healthy balance.

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Speaker 3: We have to embody both.

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Speaker 1: It is the same with someone that's in their masculine

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Speaker 1: they call like a husband's masculinity feels more natural to them,

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Speaker 1: but it's really important they have a healthy relationship with

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Speaker 2: Uh huh. So the helpless woman is actually the most

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Speaker 2: wounded type of women feminine traits.

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Speaker 1: She's very reactive, she's very victim mentality, she's very jealous

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Speaker 1: Controlling because she doesn't trust and feel safe. When you're

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Speaker 2: Yes, so you'll notice as well, like with the wounded feminine,

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Speaker 2: So the helpless woman is more so like someone with

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Speaker 2: and they seek a lot of outside external validation as well. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: and they've gotten away with a life of that, and

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so usually what can happen. We tend to start

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Speaker 1: Up comes the masculine shield and masculine mask to protect yourself.

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Speaker 2: One hundred percent, and it's all out of safety because

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Speaker 1: No one can hurt me anymore.

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Speaker 1: I think all of us listening, I reckon majority of

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Speaker 1: If I was not in the energy, I wouldn't be

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Speaker 1: That's why there's no shame around. Don't listen to this

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Speaker 3: For so long, like that's bad. It's like, no, it's

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Speaker 3: actually served you. But let's take a look at how

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Speaker 3: you can step more into your God.

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Speaker 2: Yess absolutely not an even the helpless woman Like I

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Speaker 2: Like I can see early on in my relationship with Kurt,

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Speaker 2: I was so reliant on him. Our relationship was everything

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Speaker 2: codependent type of relationship. So no shame even if that's

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Speaker 1: That, the whole episode on that makes you check it out.

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Speaker 3: It's a lot. I'm excited to read that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it is really really amazing. I really love it.

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Speaker 1: Wow, Yeah, amazing. I really hope you guys enjoyed this episode.

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