Speaker 1: Welcome to Healthy Ish. Thanks for joining us today on
Speaker 1: the Body and Soul podcast. I'm your host of Felicity Halley. Now,
Speaker 1: however you feel about the outcome of the US election? Oh? Yes,
Speaker 1: we are talking about can there ever really be sex
Speaker 1: without politics? I know, juicy topic right, Also two other
Speaker 1: topics that hit our attention this week. I am joined,
Speaker 1: of course by our title editor Holly Beckerman to discuss
Speaker 1: all of the above.
Speaker 2: Holley, Welcome to Healthy Ish. Hi FLEs, how are you.
Speaker 1: Oh, I'm leaving the Ish today. I've had a cold,
Speaker 1: but not enough to flatten me.
Speaker 2: Yeah, You've been flattened a few times this year though
Speaker 2: I have.
Speaker 1: Maybe there's a there's a message in there for me.
Speaker 2: Vitamin C pump out. That's my expert advice for you.
Speaker 2: I know, yes, hell you, I'm really well. I've been
Speaker 2: on a massive home improvement kick at the moment. I
Speaker 2: bought a new furniture, I've cleaned things up. I'm feeling
Speaker 2: really good about it. Before lighter I do, I've chucked
Speaker 2: out so much crap. It's so much better in there,
Speaker 2: and it looks great. I just feel so much more
Speaker 2: at ease in my mind.
Speaker 1: It's quite amazing the effect that doing a clear out
Speaker 1: like that can have on you.
Speaker 2: Marie Kondo was onto something, guys, the reason she's the
Speaker 2: best seller.
Speaker 1: Actually, I'm in the stage where I need to do
Speaker 1: a clean out, and I actually feel like it is
Speaker 1: adding to that mental clutter when I see, yes, things
Speaker 1: that need to be thrown out, but perhaps my kids
Speaker 1: don't play with any more old sneakers of mine that
Speaker 1: are worn out, and it just gets that stage where
Speaker 1: you have to commit.
Speaker 2: Yes, I agree, and I think I really hold on
Speaker 2: to things for sentimental value. And I was just like
Speaker 2: Holy in the bin gone and it has made me
Speaker 2: feel so much lighter. This is your signed to buy
Speaker 2: a seventy five dollars k much elf, it might change
Speaker 2: your life.
Speaker 1: Well off with the well not the seventy five dollars shelf,
Speaker 1: but the first story of the week.
Speaker 2: Maybe you not feel lighter, which the story is, can
Speaker 2: there ever really be sex without politics? Do you see?
Speaker 2: Do you see? So? Obviously we're in the midst of
Speaker 2: the US election, which is a stressful time for many,
Speaker 2: and I loved this piece that Sarah Bozza, who's a
Speaker 2: dating coach, wrote for us. What do you think fliss
Speaker 2: do you think there can be sex without politics. Well, yes,
Speaker 2: if you don't talk about it. Yeah, but then how
Speaker 2: open is your relationship if you don't talk about it. Well,
Speaker 2: that's true.
Speaker 1: It depends how long you are you are along in
Speaker 1: the relationship.
Speaker 2: I agree, Sorry, a spectrum, you are probably tru true. True.
Speaker 2: I know couples who vote very differently who just have
Speaker 2: a rule that they don't talk about it, and they've
Speaker 2: been together for like ten million years.
Speaker 1: I have a rule that I don't talk about it
Speaker 1: to my parents.
Speaker 2: Yeah. I think that's a safe for all for a
Speaker 2: lot of people. Anyway. Sarah thinks the short answer is no,
Speaker 2: but that doesn't mean that you can't have sex despite politics.
Speaker 2: So she references this new research out of the US
Speaker 2: which shows that political line alignment is now a non
Speaker 2: negotiable for many singles, and twenty eight percent of Gen
Speaker 2: Z and millennials have ended relationships due to differing political beliefs,
Speaker 2: and nearly half of people on both sides of this
Speaker 2: political spectrum are reluctant to date across party line. I
Speaker 2: can't get this totally.
Speaker 1: Like in the last particularly well five ten years, with
Speaker 1: politics being so much more polarizing. Yeah, you know in
Speaker 1: the middle there's not much in the middle ground that
Speaker 1: I you know, if I was dating again, if I
Speaker 1: was in the gen Z category, i'd probably date someone
Speaker 1: who agree with me too exactly.
Speaker 2: And I think that maybe people have much stronger political
Speaker 2: beliefs than they used to because we have those echo
Speaker 2: chambers on social media way just what you think just
Speaker 2: gets circulated around over and over again, so you don't
Speaker 2: get exposed to different things quite as much. So knowing that,
Speaker 2: what do you do if you find yourself across the
Speaker 2: table from someone who is on the opposite end of
Speaker 2: this to throw my training in their face? You're attracted
Speaker 2: to them? Right? Well? I think so, I think you are.
Speaker 2: Sarah's advice she says to start with check your own biases.
Speaker 2: Are you putting someone in a box before you get
Speaker 2: to know them? Probably? So instead ask like genuine questions
Speaker 2: and try and be curious rather than judgmental. Hard good
Speaker 2: advice though. The second she says is acknowledge, don't agree,
Speaker 2: So you don't actually have to agree with everything you say,
Speaker 2: but you should acknowledge their perspective and show that you've
Speaker 2: heard them, just to make the conversation more amiable and
Speaker 2: less combative that, Yeah, you do need to listen, I think.
Speaker 2: And then the third one she says is check to
Speaker 2: see if the person feels heard at the end of
Speaker 2: the conversation, because if you do that for them, then
Speaker 2: hopefully that trains them to reciprocate when it's your turn
Speaker 2: to share as well. Is wisdom for all of us.
Speaker 2: I think so too. Not necessarily dating. It's with friends,
Speaker 2: with your parents, with new people.
Speaker 1: Listen, just listen to people's perspectives without jumping down their throats.
Speaker 2: Yeah, listen, guys, I like that.
Speaker 1: Well, I've got something that's completely on a different tangent here,
Speaker 1: but in fact hit me in it. No more politics.
Speaker 1: This is all about light and how light exposure can
Speaker 1: alter your life span by up to five years, according
Speaker 1: to a new study out of Flinders University. I don't
Speaker 1: know about you, but I'm interested in the circadian rhythms
Speaker 1: and how it works and how it evolves. So this
Speaker 1: study basically, wearable light sensors were worn by eighty eight
Speaker 1: thousand adults over the age of forty for one week
Speaker 1: and then researchers followed up on their outcomes more than
Speaker 1: eight years later.
Speaker 2: And what date's going on in that pick it up.
Speaker 1: But yes, and what their findings were were basically, bright
Speaker 1: light at night and dim light during the day increased
Speaker 1: the risk of premature death by thirty percent.
Speaker 2: Homate your death. That's high stakes, exactly exactly.
Speaker 1: So basically, I mean it just points back to ever
Speaker 1: and how we were set up. You know, well, how
Speaker 1: we evolved as humans, and that we have evolved in
Speaker 1: a twenty four hour light dark cycle, and you know
Speaker 1: that's almost baked into our DNA, and that light sets
Speaker 1: our circadian rhythms time where we're at and can either
Speaker 1: enhance or disrupt that depending on the time of exposure.
Speaker 1: So really you have to avoid the bright lights at
Speaker 1: night and seek as much daylight as possible in the
Speaker 1: daytime hours to promote optimal health and longevity.
Speaker 2: Wow, I guess because the knock on effects really are
Speaker 2: it's concentration, it's sleep, it's mental health, like of course
Speaker 2: that's going to contribute, and also quality.
Speaker 1: Of I read a yeah, a expert talk about the
Speaker 1: fact that it's so back to our DNA that are
Speaker 1: actual organ systems also feed into our circadian rhythms and work,
Speaker 1: and so that's why at nighttime it's better to eat earlier,
Speaker 1: so your body digests, your digestive systems working and it's firing.
Speaker 1: Whereas you know, deep into the night when you're supposed
Speaker 1: to be sleeping and you're still firing digestion.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's not great for sleep. It really reminds you
Speaker 2: that we are animals, we are creatures of the earth.
Speaker 1: The other thing I will add that is that it's
Speaker 1: actually really easy to change these patterns. So your body,
Speaker 1: basically your body clocks can respond quickly, and so tonight,
Speaker 1: dim the lights down after dinner and start bringing your
Speaker 1: body into almost sleep mode and then when you wake up.
Speaker 1: We've heard all heard this before, no doubt it's been
Speaker 1: I think Doc and Michael Mosley said it many years ago.
Speaker 1: But just get out in daylight as soon as you
Speaker 1: wake up.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and turn off the big light, put those small
Speaker 2: pendent lights on. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Anyway, just quickly before we go, give us a rundown
Speaker 1: of the most clicked story of the week.
Speaker 2: The top clicker woes. The one thing people with allergies
Speaker 2: or asthma should never do. Can you guess what it is? No,
Speaker 2: it's actually lighting incense. Huh. Yeah, I'm hoping that candles
Speaker 2: aren't included. In that because I'm a big candle. But
Speaker 2: a new study examined the rapid health decline of a
Speaker 2: woman with asthma and was linked to burning incense regularly,
Speaker 2: which it says that that can lead to various health
Speaker 2: issues such as headaches, respiratory dysfunction, and skin sensitivity. And
Speaker 2: as explained in the research, incense fumes contain a whole
Speaker 2: host of chemicals that I can't pronounce, but are carcinogenic.
Speaker 2: So what a bummer. I'm good to know.
Speaker 1: Interesting, I wonder if it doesn't relate to candles as well.
Speaker 2: I'll dig deeper and report back on that one next week.
Speaker 1: But interesting, that was the most clique that this time
Speaker 1: of year because I am a high ferver sufferer and
Speaker 1: I have got allergies bad right now?
Speaker 2: Yeah? Are you eyes? Weeping, nose running.
Speaker 1: An itchy knows?
Speaker 2: It's so reallyable, isn't it so frustrating? Anyway?
Speaker 1: Luckily I don't burn incense.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I stay safe.
Speaker 1: People sat in the sunlight and see you next week.
Speaker 1: But Sully, well, folks, how do you feel about that?
Speaker 1: Sex and politics?
Speaker 2: Anyway?
Speaker 1: I hope you do have a great week that follows.
Speaker 1: Thanks for listening. If you do well have any topics
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