WEBVTT - Sex sans politics conundrum; light exposure for longevity; burning incense warning

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Healthy Ish. Thanks for joining us today on

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<v Speaker 1>the Body and Soul podcast. I'm your host of Felicity Halley. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>however you feel about the outcome of the US election? Oh? Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>we are talking about can there ever really be sex

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<v Speaker 1>without politics? I know, juicy topic right, Also two other

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<v Speaker 1>topics that hit our attention this week. I am joined,

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<v Speaker 1>of course by our title editor Holly Beckerman to discuss

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<v Speaker 1>all of the above.

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<v Speaker 2>Holley, Welcome to Healthy Ish. Hi FLEs, how are you.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, I'm leaving the Ish today. I've had a cold,

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<v Speaker 1>but not enough to flatten me.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, You've been flattened a few times this year though

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<v Speaker 2>I have.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe there's a there's a message in there for me.

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<v Speaker 2>Vitamin C pump out. That's my expert advice for you.

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<v Speaker 2>I know, yes, hell you, I'm really well. I've been

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<v Speaker 2>on a massive home improvement kick at the moment. I

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<v Speaker 2>bought a new furniture, I've cleaned things up. I'm feeling

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<v Speaker 2>really good about it. Before lighter I do, I've chucked

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<v Speaker 2>out so much crap. It's so much better in there,

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<v Speaker 2>and it looks great. I just feel so much more

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<v Speaker 2>at ease in my mind.

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<v Speaker 1>It's quite amazing the effect that doing a clear out

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<v Speaker 1>like that can have on you.

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<v Speaker 2>Marie Kondo was onto something, guys, the reason she's the

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<v Speaker 2>best seller.

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<v Speaker 1>Actually, I'm in the stage where I need to do

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<v Speaker 1>a clean out, and I actually feel like it is

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<v Speaker 1>adding to that mental clutter when I see, yes, things

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<v Speaker 1>that need to be thrown out, but perhaps my kids

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<v Speaker 1>don't play with any more old sneakers of mine that

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<v Speaker 1>are worn out, and it just gets that stage where

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<v Speaker 1>you have to commit.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, I agree, and I think I really hold on

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<v Speaker 2>to things for sentimental value. And I was just like

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<v Speaker 2>Holy in the bin gone and it has made me

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<v Speaker 2>feel so much lighter. This is your signed to buy

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<v Speaker 2>a seventy five dollars k much elf, it might change

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<v Speaker 2>your life.

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<v Speaker 1>Well off with the well not the seventy five dollars shelf,

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<v Speaker 1>but the first story of the week.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe you not feel lighter, which the story is, can

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<v Speaker 2>there ever really be sex without politics? Do you see?

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<v Speaker 2>Do you see? So? Obviously we're in the midst of

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<v Speaker 2>the US election, which is a stressful time for many,

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<v Speaker 2>and I loved this piece that Sarah Bozza, who's a

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<v Speaker 2>dating coach, wrote for us. What do you think fliss

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<v Speaker 2>do you think there can be sex without politics. Well, yes,

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<v Speaker 2>if you don't talk about it. Yeah, but then how

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<v Speaker 2>open is your relationship if you don't talk about it. Well,

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<v Speaker 2>that's true.

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<v Speaker 1>It depends how long you are you are along in

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<v Speaker 1>the relationship.

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<v Speaker 2>I agree, Sorry, a spectrum, you are probably tru true. True.

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<v Speaker 2>I know couples who vote very differently who just have

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<v Speaker 2>a rule that they don't talk about it, and they've

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<v Speaker 2>been together for like ten million years.

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<v Speaker 1>I have a rule that I don't talk about it

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<v Speaker 1>to my parents.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. I think that's a safe for all for a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of people. Anyway. Sarah thinks the short answer is no,

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<v Speaker 2>but that doesn't mean that you can't have sex despite politics.

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<v Speaker 2>So she references this new research out of the US

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<v Speaker 2>which shows that political line alignment is now a non

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<v Speaker 2>negotiable for many singles, and twenty eight percent of Gen

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<v Speaker 2>Z and millennials have ended relationships due to differing political beliefs,

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<v Speaker 2>and nearly half of people on both sides of this

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<v Speaker 2>political spectrum are reluctant to date across party line. I

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<v Speaker 2>can't get this totally.

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<v Speaker 1>Like in the last particularly well five ten years, with

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<v Speaker 1>politics being so much more polarizing. Yeah, you know in

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<v Speaker 1>the middle there's not much in the middle ground that

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<v Speaker 1>I you know, if I was dating again, if I

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<v Speaker 1>was in the gen Z category, i'd probably date someone

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<v Speaker 1>who agree with me too exactly.

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<v Speaker 2>And I think that maybe people have much stronger political

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<v Speaker 2>beliefs than they used to because we have those echo

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<v Speaker 2>chambers on social media way just what you think just

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<v Speaker 2>gets circulated around over and over again, so you don't

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<v Speaker 2>get exposed to different things quite as much. So knowing that,

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<v Speaker 2>what do you do if you find yourself across the

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<v Speaker 2>table from someone who is on the opposite end of

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<v Speaker 2>this to throw my training in their face? You're attracted

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<v Speaker 2>to them? Right? Well? I think so, I think you are.

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<v Speaker 2>Sarah's advice she says to start with check your own biases.

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<v Speaker 2>Are you putting someone in a box before you get

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<v Speaker 2>to know them? Probably? So instead ask like genuine questions

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<v Speaker 2>and try and be curious rather than judgmental. Hard good

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<v Speaker 2>advice though. The second she says is acknowledge, don't agree,

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<v Speaker 2>So you don't actually have to agree with everything you say,

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<v Speaker 2>but you should acknowledge their perspective and show that you've

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<v Speaker 2>heard them, just to make the conversation more amiable and

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<v Speaker 2>less combative that, Yeah, you do need to listen, I think.

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<v Speaker 2>And then the third one she says is check to

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<v Speaker 2>see if the person feels heard at the end of

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<v Speaker 2>the conversation, because if you do that for them, then

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<v Speaker 2>hopefully that trains them to reciprocate when it's your turn

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<v Speaker 2>to share as well. Is wisdom for all of us.

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<v Speaker 2>I think so too. Not necessarily dating. It's with friends,

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<v Speaker 2>with your parents, with new people.

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<v Speaker 1>Listen, just listen to people's perspectives without jumping down their throats.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, listen, guys, I like that.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I've got something that's completely on a different tangent here,

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<v Speaker 1>but in fact hit me in it. No more politics.

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<v Speaker 1>This is all about light and how light exposure can

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<v Speaker 1>alter your life span by up to five years, according

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<v Speaker 1>to a new study out of Flinders University. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know about you, but I'm interested in the circadian rhythms

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<v Speaker 1>and how it works and how it evolves. So this

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<v Speaker 1>study basically, wearable light sensors were worn by eighty eight

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<v Speaker 1>thousand adults over the age of forty for one week

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<v Speaker 1>and then researchers followed up on their outcomes more than

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<v Speaker 1>eight years later.

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<v Speaker 2>And what date's going on in that pick it up.

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<v Speaker 1>But yes, and what their findings were were basically, bright

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<v Speaker 1>light at night and dim light during the day increased

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<v Speaker 1>the risk of premature death by thirty percent.

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<v Speaker 2>Homate your death. That's high stakes, exactly exactly.

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<v Speaker 1>So basically, I mean it just points back to ever

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<v Speaker 1>and how we were set up. You know, well, how

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<v Speaker 1>we evolved as humans, and that we have evolved in

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<v Speaker 1>a twenty four hour light dark cycle, and you know

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<v Speaker 1>that's almost baked into our DNA, and that light sets

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<v Speaker 1>our circadian rhythms time where we're at and can either

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<v Speaker 1>enhance or disrupt that depending on the time of exposure.

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<v Speaker 1>So really you have to avoid the bright lights at

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<v Speaker 1>night and seek as much daylight as possible in the

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<v Speaker 1>daytime hours to promote optimal health and longevity.

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<v Speaker 2>Wow, I guess because the knock on effects really are

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<v Speaker 2>it's concentration, it's sleep, it's mental health, like of course

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<v Speaker 2>that's going to contribute, and also quality.

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<v Speaker 1>Of I read a yeah, a expert talk about the

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<v Speaker 1>fact that it's so back to our DNA that are

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<v Speaker 1>actual organ systems also feed into our circadian rhythms and work,

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<v Speaker 1>and so that's why at nighttime it's better to eat earlier,

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<v Speaker 1>so your body digests, your digestive systems working and it's firing.

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<v Speaker 1>Whereas you know, deep into the night when you're supposed

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<v Speaker 1>to be sleeping and you're still firing digestion.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's not great for sleep. It really reminds you

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<v Speaker 2>that we are animals, we are creatures of the earth.

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<v Speaker 1>The other thing I will add that is that it's

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<v Speaker 1>actually really easy to change these patterns. So your body,

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<v Speaker 1>basically your body clocks can respond quickly, and so tonight,

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<v Speaker 1>dim the lights down after dinner and start bringing your

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<v Speaker 1>body into almost sleep mode and then when you wake up.

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<v Speaker 1>We've heard all heard this before, no doubt it's been

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<v Speaker 1>I think Doc and Michael Mosley said it many years ago.

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<v Speaker 1>But just get out in daylight as soon as you

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<v Speaker 1>wake up.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and turn off the big light, put those small

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<v Speaker 2>pendent lights on. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Anyway, just quickly before we go, give us a rundown

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<v Speaker 1>of the most clicked story of the week.

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<v Speaker 2>The top clicker woes. The one thing people with allergies

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<v Speaker 2>or asthma should never do. Can you guess what it is? No,

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<v Speaker 2>it's actually lighting incense. Huh. Yeah, I'm hoping that candles

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<v Speaker 2>aren't included. In that because I'm a big candle. But

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<v Speaker 2>a new study examined the rapid health decline of a

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<v Speaker 2>woman with asthma and was linked to burning incense regularly,

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<v Speaker 2>which it says that that can lead to various health

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<v Speaker 2>issues such as headaches, respiratory dysfunction, and skin sensitivity. And

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<v Speaker 2>as explained in the research, incense fumes contain a whole

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<v Speaker 2>host of chemicals that I can't pronounce, but are carcinogenic.

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<v Speaker 2>So what a bummer. I'm good to know.

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<v Speaker 1>Interesting, I wonder if it doesn't relate to candles as well.

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<v Speaker 2>I'll dig deeper and report back on that one next week.

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<v Speaker 1>But interesting, that was the most clique that this time

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<v Speaker 1>of year because I am a high ferver sufferer and

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<v Speaker 1>I have got allergies bad right now?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah? Are you eyes? Weeping, nose running.

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<v Speaker 1>An itchy knows?

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<v Speaker 2>It's so reallyable, isn't it so frustrating? Anyway?

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<v Speaker 1>Luckily I don't burn incense.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I stay safe.

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<v Speaker 1>People sat in the sunlight and see you next week.

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<v Speaker 1>But Sully, well, folks, how do you feel about that?

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<v Speaker 1>Sex and politics?

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<v Speaker 2>Anyway?

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<v Speaker 1>I hope you do have a great week that follows.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for listening. If you do well have any topics

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<v Speaker 1>for us to dissect on a Friday. You can DM

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