1 00:00:00,240 --> 00:00:03,800 Speaker 1: Get a team. I hope you're bloody terrific. So I'm 2 00:00:03,840 --> 00:00:06,120 Speaker 1: not sure exactly where I'm going to go today, so 3 00:00:06,360 --> 00:00:08,600 Speaker 1: I'm bear with me. It could be good, it could 4 00:00:08,640 --> 00:00:12,760 Speaker 1: be a train wreck. You choose keep listening or turn 5 00:00:12,840 --> 00:00:17,160 Speaker 1: off as always up to you your discretion. But I 6 00:00:17,239 --> 00:00:22,760 Speaker 1: do want to talk about an interesting topic, and that 7 00:00:22,920 --> 00:00:26,479 Speaker 1: is the topic of purpose. What is my purpose? What 8 00:00:26,600 --> 00:00:28,720 Speaker 1: is your purpose? Do we have a purpose? Do we 9 00:00:28,720 --> 00:00:30,640 Speaker 1: have one? Do we have many? How do we find it? 10 00:00:30,680 --> 00:00:34,080 Speaker 1: What is it? Is it a compelling force? Is it 11 00:00:34,159 --> 00:00:37,040 Speaker 1: our kind of north star? Do we default to our 12 00:00:38,360 --> 00:00:40,839 Speaker 1: purpose to figure out what we should do and not 13 00:00:41,000 --> 00:00:43,640 Speaker 1: do and what decisions we should make, an action we 14 00:00:43,680 --> 00:00:47,839 Speaker 1: should take, and how we should respond. And this is 15 00:00:48,640 --> 00:00:53,440 Speaker 1: a conversation, just the broad purpose conversation I've been having 16 00:00:53,440 --> 00:00:57,280 Speaker 1: with people for a long time, people that are training 17 00:00:57,320 --> 00:01:00,040 Speaker 1: with me or being mentored or coached by me, but 18 00:01:00,080 --> 00:01:03,040 Speaker 1: also you know, people that have helped me along the way, 19 00:01:03,080 --> 00:01:05,400 Speaker 1: and also just you know friends and family where we 20 00:01:05,560 --> 00:01:08,480 Speaker 1: just talk about stuff. So what I'm about to share 21 00:01:08,480 --> 00:01:12,560 Speaker 1: with you is definitely not, you know, the final word 22 00:01:12,760 --> 00:01:15,800 Speaker 1: on purpose, but it's my thoughts on it. It's my 23 00:01:15,959 --> 00:01:21,320 Speaker 1: thoughts on it based on you know, my research and 24 00:01:21,360 --> 00:01:24,440 Speaker 1: my work and my interactions and my journey and my 25 00:01:24,600 --> 00:01:29,400 Speaker 1: personal you know fuck ups and failures and breakthroughs and breakdowns, 26 00:01:29,440 --> 00:01:33,000 Speaker 1: and my own soul searching and my own kind of 27 00:01:33,760 --> 00:01:37,279 Speaker 1: you know, journey that has taken me far and wide 28 00:01:37,319 --> 00:01:38,720 Speaker 1: and out of that. I've got a bit of an 29 00:01:38,800 --> 00:01:44,720 Speaker 1: idea about for me what purpose is, so we might 30 00:01:44,880 --> 00:01:48,440 Speaker 1: start there. And obviously this is just my thoughts. So 31 00:01:49,640 --> 00:01:56,640 Speaker 1: for me, purpose is purpose is My purpose is? Well, 32 00:01:56,680 --> 00:02:02,120 Speaker 1: it can be found at the what's the right term, 33 00:02:02,400 --> 00:02:05,720 Speaker 1: I don't know, at the intersection maybe of where my 34 00:02:05,840 --> 00:02:10,880 Speaker 1: beliefs and values and goals I should probably write nights 35 00:02:12,240 --> 00:02:17,040 Speaker 1: and passion and connection and contribution and meaning and growth 36 00:02:18,200 --> 00:02:22,119 Speaker 1: and pain and joy. It's where all that stuff kind 37 00:02:22,120 --> 00:02:27,760 Speaker 1: of intersects. It's not always fun like out finding our purpose, 38 00:02:28,720 --> 00:02:34,440 Speaker 1: being aligned to our purpose, operating within the parameters of 39 00:02:34,480 --> 00:02:39,240 Speaker 1: our purpose, and trying to live our purpose in the 40 00:02:39,240 --> 00:02:43,240 Speaker 1: middle of trials and tribulations and tricky situations and peaks 41 00:02:43,240 --> 00:02:47,760 Speaker 1: and troughs and emotions and tough relationships and good days 42 00:02:47,800 --> 00:02:51,800 Speaker 1: and bad days and physical mental emotional challenges, and trying 43 00:02:51,840 --> 00:02:54,120 Speaker 1: to live our purpose in the middle of all of that. 44 00:02:54,560 --> 00:03:00,240 Speaker 1: Whatever our purpose is can be a challenge, and I 45 00:03:00,280 --> 00:03:06,840 Speaker 1: think one of my early questions was, what is it 46 00:03:06,880 --> 00:03:09,160 Speaker 1: even like this idea of, you know, when you find 47 00:03:09,200 --> 00:03:12,000 Speaker 1: your kind of I think the story that I grew 48 00:03:12,080 --> 00:03:13,799 Speaker 1: up with and maybe you grew up with is that 49 00:03:13,880 --> 00:03:16,320 Speaker 1: when you find your purpose, well, your life will be 50 00:03:16,320 --> 00:03:19,600 Speaker 1: better and then you'll know how to live because you'll 51 00:03:19,639 --> 00:03:23,000 Speaker 1: live a life of purpose and a life of choices 52 00:03:23,000 --> 00:03:26,600 Speaker 1: and behaviors and lifestyle and relationships and all of those 53 00:03:26,639 --> 00:03:32,120 Speaker 1: things aligned to that purpose that you somehow figure out 54 00:03:32,160 --> 00:03:35,520 Speaker 1: what that is. But one, how do we figure out 55 00:03:35,640 --> 00:03:41,280 Speaker 1: what it is? Two? Is it one thing? Like? Do 56 00:03:41,440 --> 00:03:47,880 Speaker 1: you only have a purpose? Yes? My purpose is to 57 00:03:47,920 --> 00:03:52,640 Speaker 1: help people get in shape. Okay, well, surely there's more 58 00:03:52,680 --> 00:03:55,160 Speaker 1: to you, Craig than that. Maybe that was one of 59 00:03:55,200 --> 00:03:58,360 Speaker 1: your purposes. Maybe we have a bunch of not a 60 00:03:58,400 --> 00:04:03,040 Speaker 1: single purpose. But maybe maybe the overarching purpose for me 61 00:04:03,440 --> 00:04:06,600 Speaker 1: might be in this little example that I am valuable 62 00:04:06,640 --> 00:04:10,120 Speaker 1: to others, that I am at the service of others. 63 00:04:10,200 --> 00:04:12,960 Speaker 1: Maybe that's my purpose. And by the way, of course, 64 00:04:13,000 --> 00:04:15,640 Speaker 1: I do a lot of things in my life which 65 00:04:15,680 --> 00:04:19,279 Speaker 1: don't fall under the banner of you know, living in purpose. 66 00:04:19,320 --> 00:04:21,680 Speaker 1: That might be I'm you know, it might be I'm 67 00:04:21,800 --> 00:04:23,720 Speaker 1: going to the gym or I'm riding my motorbike, and 68 00:04:23,760 --> 00:04:25,760 Speaker 1: I ain't part of my purpose. It's just shit that 69 00:04:25,839 --> 00:04:27,560 Speaker 1: I do. But if I go, well, what is my 70 00:04:27,680 --> 00:04:32,240 Speaker 1: compelling force? What is the thing that really drives me 71 00:04:32,360 --> 00:04:34,839 Speaker 1: to learn and grow and evolve and to serve? What 72 00:04:34,880 --> 00:04:39,480 Speaker 1: does that look like? And so for me, you know 73 00:04:39,560 --> 00:04:42,240 Speaker 1: that part of my purpose at the very least is 74 00:04:42,320 --> 00:04:49,320 Speaker 1: serving others and learning and teaching, and I guess, I 75 00:04:49,320 --> 00:04:56,040 Speaker 1: guess helping people to understand their own potential. And that's 76 00:04:56,040 --> 00:05:01,800 Speaker 1: something that I've really been what's the word, not frustrated, 77 00:05:01,839 --> 00:05:07,080 Speaker 1: but almost frustrated with almost anxious, not anxious, sad about 78 00:05:07,160 --> 00:05:12,480 Speaker 1: with people where I see people's potential. I see people's 79 00:05:12,960 --> 00:05:16,800 Speaker 1: capacity to do great things often when they don't see it. 80 00:05:18,279 --> 00:05:20,719 Speaker 1: And you know, so often especially when I'm for example, 81 00:05:20,760 --> 00:05:23,040 Speaker 1: doing a mentoring group, like I'm in the well, I'm 82 00:05:23,040 --> 00:05:26,400 Speaker 1: not in the middle. I'm week nine. I finished week 83 00:05:26,520 --> 00:05:28,880 Speaker 1: nine of ten weeks last night with a group that 84 00:05:28,920 --> 00:05:31,599 Speaker 1: I'm with and they're great and we have a good time. 85 00:05:33,360 --> 00:05:37,120 Speaker 1: And you know, essentially in a mentoring group, there's there's 86 00:05:37,160 --> 00:05:39,320 Speaker 1: some interaction, there's some Q and A, there's some back 87 00:05:39,360 --> 00:05:43,240 Speaker 1: and forth. But a lot of it is me sharing 88 00:05:43,279 --> 00:05:47,240 Speaker 1: thoughts and ideas and strategies and messages and downloading hopefully 89 00:05:47,279 --> 00:05:53,280 Speaker 1: a bit of inspiration and information and education. But ultimately, 90 00:05:53,520 --> 00:05:56,200 Speaker 1: what I am giving them all I can give them 91 00:05:56,360 --> 00:05:59,640 Speaker 1: on an interactive zoom call to people all around Australia 92 00:05:59,640 --> 00:06:02,280 Speaker 1: and around the world. All I can share is the 93 00:06:02,279 --> 00:06:06,960 Speaker 1: theory of whatever it is we're talking about. All I 94 00:06:07,000 --> 00:06:12,200 Speaker 1: can do is provide the theory of you know, food 95 00:06:12,279 --> 00:06:15,600 Speaker 1: or exercise, or lifestyle, or self management or self awareness 96 00:06:15,720 --> 00:06:19,600 Speaker 1: or self regulation or building a business, or overcoming addiction, 97 00:06:19,880 --> 00:06:23,040 Speaker 1: or being the calm and the chaos equanimity, or all 98 00:06:23,080 --> 00:06:25,440 Speaker 1: of these great things that we talk about, you know, 99 00:06:25,920 --> 00:06:30,080 Speaker 1: creating change, creating positive and lasting change. You know, reprogramming 100 00:06:30,400 --> 00:06:33,320 Speaker 1: our mind, creating a new normal and new default setting, 101 00:06:33,320 --> 00:06:35,640 Speaker 1: and you know who we want to become and our 102 00:06:35,720 --> 00:06:38,320 Speaker 1: reason and our drivers and all of those things. Right, 103 00:06:38,400 --> 00:06:42,400 Speaker 1: And I'm constantly doing what I'm doing now, which is 104 00:06:42,440 --> 00:06:47,520 Speaker 1: I'm talking to someone or someone's But my frustration, on 105 00:06:47,680 --> 00:06:54,960 Speaker 1: my my angst lies in how do I actually get 106 00:06:55,160 --> 00:06:58,560 Speaker 1: people too? And I know I can't, but how do 107 00:06:58,640 --> 00:07:01,160 Speaker 1: I talk in a way, How do I anyway even 108 00:07:01,200 --> 00:07:03,000 Speaker 1: in this moment, how do I share these thoughts and 109 00:07:03,040 --> 00:07:07,000 Speaker 1: ideas around purpose that's going to be valuable to people, 110 00:07:07,160 --> 00:07:10,320 Speaker 1: to you the listener, and then more importantly, perhaps not 111 00:07:10,320 --> 00:07:13,080 Speaker 1: only how do I make it valuable and how do 112 00:07:13,120 --> 00:07:17,680 Speaker 1: I make it relevant and meaningful and understandable, but how 113 00:07:17,680 --> 00:07:22,880 Speaker 1: do I increase the chances of you doing something with 114 00:07:23,040 --> 00:07:27,440 Speaker 1: the theory that you hear right now? And so that's, 115 00:07:27,680 --> 00:07:29,920 Speaker 1: you know, that's one of my ever present thoughts is 116 00:07:29,960 --> 00:07:34,720 Speaker 1: how do I get people to lean into their own ability, 117 00:07:34,800 --> 00:07:38,760 Speaker 1: to be courageous, be brave, step out of the little 118 00:07:39,280 --> 00:07:41,240 Speaker 1: safety in it that they live in or the little 119 00:07:41,280 --> 00:07:43,240 Speaker 1: box that they live in, and try new things and 120 00:07:43,280 --> 00:07:45,560 Speaker 1: do new things and fall down and get back up 121 00:07:45,640 --> 00:07:49,120 Speaker 1: and be okay and get embarrassed and all of that 122 00:07:49,200 --> 00:07:52,120 Speaker 1: stuff that's part of the human experience. And so I'm 123 00:07:52,320 --> 00:07:57,480 Speaker 1: always thinking about how do I help others find their 124 00:07:57,560 --> 00:08:00,960 Speaker 1: purpose and live purpose? And I guess their purpose and 125 00:08:01,480 --> 00:08:04,400 Speaker 1: I guess, you know, part of my purpose is to 126 00:08:04,400 --> 00:08:07,360 Speaker 1: help others live their purpose. That's interesting, isn't it. I 127 00:08:07,440 --> 00:08:12,200 Speaker 1: just thought that now as I'm going so, and I 128 00:08:12,240 --> 00:08:15,440 Speaker 1: think another question is, and forgive me if I'm rambling, 129 00:08:15,480 --> 00:08:23,240 Speaker 1: but is my purpose the same forever or is the 130 00:08:23,240 --> 00:08:26,600 Speaker 1: thing that drives me, my north star, my internal sat nab, 131 00:08:26,680 --> 00:08:30,880 Speaker 1: my reasons, whatever, whatever that all kind of intermingles with purpose. 132 00:08:33,600 --> 00:08:35,960 Speaker 1: Is that the same when I'm twenty five or thirty five? 133 00:08:36,559 --> 00:08:39,040 Speaker 1: Does it evolve? Does it change? Is the thing that 134 00:08:39,160 --> 00:08:42,120 Speaker 1: was really could it be that the thing that was 135 00:08:42,200 --> 00:08:45,840 Speaker 1: really important to me to do, to be, to create, 136 00:08:45,880 --> 00:08:48,800 Speaker 1: to live when I was thirty that at sixty one 137 00:08:48,880 --> 00:08:51,280 Speaker 1: that's not the same anymore? And is that bad? Or 138 00:08:51,320 --> 00:08:54,160 Speaker 1: is that just an evolution or is it something else? 139 00:08:54,679 --> 00:08:59,960 Speaker 1: And my suggestion is that for most of us, our purpose, 140 00:09:00,320 --> 00:09:06,360 Speaker 1: our reason, our primary driver will evolve over time. It 141 00:09:06,480 --> 00:09:10,480 Speaker 1: won't be the same necessarily, and that's not good or bad. 142 00:09:11,360 --> 00:09:15,840 Speaker 1: But many things, most things, I would think, within the 143 00:09:15,840 --> 00:09:20,440 Speaker 1: context of the human experience, are fluid, They are dynamic, 144 00:09:20,520 --> 00:09:24,800 Speaker 1: They evolve, they change, and as you change, as you 145 00:09:24,880 --> 00:09:28,000 Speaker 1: learn it and grow and evolve and become more self 146 00:09:28,040 --> 00:09:31,800 Speaker 1: aware and open new doors and have greater understanding and 147 00:09:31,880 --> 00:09:35,959 Speaker 1: greater insight and greater resilience, and you learn new things, 148 00:09:35,960 --> 00:09:38,480 Speaker 1: and you have perhaps a different focus and a different 149 00:09:38,600 --> 00:09:42,400 Speaker 1: kind of lens through which you view the world, and 150 00:09:42,440 --> 00:09:46,600 Speaker 1: you've had new experiences and new encounters and different moments. 151 00:09:47,080 --> 00:09:50,480 Speaker 1: Maybe maybe in the middle of all of that, your 152 00:09:50,480 --> 00:09:56,720 Speaker 1: purpose is evolving, if not completely transforming. Maybe the thing 153 00:09:56,800 --> 00:09:59,520 Speaker 1: that was really important to you twenty years ago is 154 00:09:59,559 --> 00:10:05,880 Speaker 1: completely unimportant now. Maybe your focus, maybe your reason for being, 155 00:10:06,520 --> 00:10:13,600 Speaker 1: maybe your purpose is completely changed. Maybe it's come out 156 00:10:13,600 --> 00:10:17,960 Speaker 1: of an experience you had, Maybe you've seen something. Maybe 157 00:10:18,000 --> 00:10:21,120 Speaker 1: you've been in the middle of a situation, a circumstance, 158 00:10:21,160 --> 00:10:27,840 Speaker 1: an event happening that you had a revelation, and in 159 00:10:27,880 --> 00:10:30,520 Speaker 1: the middle of that experience, in the middle of that thing, 160 00:10:31,600 --> 00:10:34,880 Speaker 1: you realize that you wanted to do something about that. 161 00:10:35,520 --> 00:10:38,800 Speaker 1: Maybe you had a bad experience, and maybe you don't 162 00:10:38,840 --> 00:10:41,080 Speaker 1: want to have that bad experience again, and maybe you 163 00:10:41,120 --> 00:10:44,080 Speaker 1: want to help others not have that bad experience. And 164 00:10:44,120 --> 00:10:46,720 Speaker 1: in the middle of all of that, some passion grew, 165 00:10:46,800 --> 00:10:51,800 Speaker 1: some awareness grew, some inspiration and motivation grew, and this 166 00:10:51,960 --> 00:10:55,280 Speaker 1: became your new focus. This became your new reason, This 167 00:10:55,360 --> 00:10:59,400 Speaker 1: became your focus. But ten years ago, you hadn't yet 168 00:10:59,480 --> 00:11:06,160 Speaker 1: had that experience, you hadn't yet had that revelation. I think, 169 00:11:06,240 --> 00:11:11,440 Speaker 1: like many things, you know, purpose is something that is 170 00:11:12,160 --> 00:11:17,760 Speaker 1: cultivated and grows and evolves, and it's kind of sometimes 171 00:11:18,960 --> 00:11:21,320 Speaker 1: you know, sometimes there might be a lightning bolt. I 172 00:11:21,320 --> 00:11:25,320 Speaker 1: don't think often. I think I think people think they're 173 00:11:25,320 --> 00:11:27,800 Speaker 1: going to, you know, they're going to find their purpose 174 00:11:27,880 --> 00:11:30,040 Speaker 1: one day, like they're going to find their car keys. 175 00:11:30,559 --> 00:11:32,400 Speaker 1: It's like, in a moment, what here it is found? 176 00:11:32,400 --> 00:11:35,520 Speaker 1: It's over here. It's just it's just down here next 177 00:11:35,559 --> 00:11:38,280 Speaker 1: to my coffee cup. Here's my purpose, you know. And look, 178 00:11:38,320 --> 00:11:41,760 Speaker 1: maybe people do that, not in my experience, not with 179 00:11:41,800 --> 00:11:45,000 Speaker 1: the people that I've worked with. I think that it's 180 00:11:45,040 --> 00:11:48,800 Speaker 1: something that almost reveals itself. It kind of finds you, 181 00:11:50,120 --> 00:11:57,640 Speaker 1: It reveals itself over time. And I think in general terms, 182 00:11:57,920 --> 00:12:02,760 Speaker 1: purposes something that expands beyond the self. In the middle 183 00:12:02,800 --> 00:12:05,560 Speaker 1: of your life, it's bigger than you, it's bigger than me. 184 00:12:05,640 --> 00:12:07,840 Speaker 1: It's not about you necessarily. That doesn't mean that you 185 00:12:07,840 --> 00:12:11,800 Speaker 1: don't benefit from it, or that you can't at all 186 00:12:11,880 --> 00:12:14,520 Speaker 1: be looking after you. It doesn't mean that, of course, 187 00:12:14,559 --> 00:12:17,400 Speaker 1: it doesn't mean that. But I think for most people 188 00:12:18,280 --> 00:12:20,480 Speaker 1: it's you know, when we talk about the role of 189 00:12:20,640 --> 00:12:27,000 Speaker 1: surface service, that purpose often expands beyond self interest. And 190 00:12:27,080 --> 00:12:33,439 Speaker 1: I think I think we also confuse, you know, things, 191 00:12:33,559 --> 00:12:37,840 Speaker 1: certain things with purpose, like career purpose. I would argue 192 00:12:37,880 --> 00:12:44,000 Speaker 1: that that career does not equal purpose. I would argue 193 00:12:44,040 --> 00:12:50,520 Speaker 1: that career is a vehicle to perhaps live your purpose, 194 00:12:51,640 --> 00:12:56,560 Speaker 1: that your career could be a vehicle and purpose is 195 00:12:56,800 --> 00:13:01,440 Speaker 1: the destination. A career can help you express your purpose 196 00:13:02,320 --> 00:13:05,640 Speaker 1: or it can completely derail you from your purpose, depending 197 00:13:05,679 --> 00:13:09,559 Speaker 1: on what it is. I think also, especially in the 198 00:13:09,640 --> 00:13:13,400 Speaker 1: days of you know, social media and podcasts and Instagram 199 00:13:13,440 --> 00:13:16,800 Speaker 1: and all the things you know, is that people if 200 00:13:16,840 --> 00:13:19,800 Speaker 1: you look at how some people live, you would think 201 00:13:19,840 --> 00:13:23,600 Speaker 1: that their purpose was to become more and more popular. 202 00:13:25,679 --> 00:13:28,600 Speaker 1: Wherein truth and by the way, being popular, not that 203 00:13:28,679 --> 00:13:30,720 Speaker 1: being popular is a bad thing, but I don't know 204 00:13:30,800 --> 00:13:38,520 Speaker 1: that popularity is the idea that popularity equals purpose. I 205 00:13:38,559 --> 00:13:40,840 Speaker 1: don't think that's a healthy idea. I don't think that 206 00:13:41,040 --> 00:13:48,840 Speaker 1: ends well. So perhaps popularity is a metric, and perhaps 207 00:13:48,880 --> 00:13:56,520 Speaker 1: purpose is a mission chasing validation about being liked and 208 00:13:57,000 --> 00:14:03,920 Speaker 1: versus living on purpose is a out being aligned. I 209 00:14:03,960 --> 00:14:07,959 Speaker 1: think also some people I reckon I was going to 210 00:14:08,000 --> 00:14:09,800 Speaker 1: say I was one of I don't think I was. 211 00:14:10,080 --> 00:14:12,240 Speaker 1: I think I was close to this, and that is 212 00:14:12,360 --> 00:14:16,720 Speaker 1: money being our purpose, Like my purpose is to make money. 213 00:14:18,160 --> 00:14:21,880 Speaker 1: Nothing wrong with making money, nothing wrong with being incredibly wealthy, 214 00:14:21,920 --> 00:14:24,360 Speaker 1: building a brand, building a business. Having all more dough 215 00:14:24,400 --> 00:14:27,360 Speaker 1: than you can spend, knock yourself out. Nothing bad about that. 216 00:14:27,480 --> 00:14:30,640 Speaker 1: But for me, money is a resource, not a reason. 217 00:14:32,200 --> 00:14:34,320 Speaker 1: You know, money is a tool. Purpose is a truth. 218 00:14:34,400 --> 00:14:39,400 Speaker 1: Money can fund your mission, but it can't be your mission. 219 00:14:39,920 --> 00:14:42,360 Speaker 1: I'm going to say that again. Money can fund your mission, 220 00:14:42,960 --> 00:14:46,320 Speaker 1: but it probably shouldn't be your mission. It can be 221 00:14:46,360 --> 00:14:50,000 Speaker 1: a resource to help you do awesome stuff, to serve others, 222 00:14:50,720 --> 00:14:55,400 Speaker 1: to create change, to be of value, to get the 223 00:14:55,440 --> 00:14:59,360 Speaker 1: needle moving on the things you want to move the 224 00:14:59,400 --> 00:15:01,880 Speaker 1: needle on. So it can be a valuable resource, but 225 00:15:01,920 --> 00:15:05,600 Speaker 1: it's probably not a reason for your existence. And we've 226 00:15:05,640 --> 00:15:10,760 Speaker 1: seen time and time again with people whose identity is 227 00:15:10,840 --> 00:15:15,760 Speaker 1: completely intertwined with their wealth. Well, that never ends well 228 00:15:15,800 --> 00:15:20,160 Speaker 1: because they never get to a number where the number 229 00:15:22,320 --> 00:15:27,240 Speaker 1: is satisfactory. Oh I've got two billion. I'm done. I'm happy, 230 00:15:27,280 --> 00:15:31,560 Speaker 1: I'm content, I'm fulfilled. I'm financially set, and I'm spiritually 231 00:15:31,600 --> 00:15:35,800 Speaker 1: and emotionally and socially and physically. I'm set. I'm good. 232 00:15:35,880 --> 00:15:39,040 Speaker 1: I got to the number. All I wanted was two billion, 233 00:15:39,080 --> 00:15:41,200 Speaker 1: All I wanted was two million, All I wanted was 234 00:15:41,240 --> 00:15:44,000 Speaker 1: two hundred grand. Whatever the number is, I'm at the number, 235 00:15:44,040 --> 00:15:48,400 Speaker 1: and now I'm good because money is not purpose. Money 236 00:15:48,480 --> 00:15:52,760 Speaker 1: is a tool, money is a resource, and maybe maybe 237 00:15:53,280 --> 00:15:56,120 Speaker 1: part of your mission is to create lots and lots 238 00:15:56,120 --> 00:15:58,440 Speaker 1: and lots of dough so you can help lots and 239 00:15:58,480 --> 00:16:01,400 Speaker 1: lots of people. And I'm not trying to sound judge 240 00:16:01,440 --> 00:16:05,160 Speaker 1: you here, and as I'm saying, I'm thinking, maybe it 241 00:16:05,160 --> 00:16:07,080 Speaker 1: does sound a bit judge. I don't think there's anything 242 00:16:07,120 --> 00:16:11,320 Speaker 1: wrong with making lots of money. I make reasonable money. 243 00:16:11,400 --> 00:16:14,560 Speaker 1: I get paid quite well for my corporate speaking all 244 00:16:14,600 --> 00:16:16,840 Speaker 1: of those things, and I'm very grateful. But in the 245 00:16:16,880 --> 00:16:19,280 Speaker 1: middle of all of that, I realize what it is 246 00:16:19,320 --> 00:16:21,160 Speaker 1: and what it isn't and what money is for me, 247 00:16:21,240 --> 00:16:24,120 Speaker 1: And I think what money probably should be for most 248 00:16:24,160 --> 00:16:28,040 Speaker 1: of us is something that we can use to do good, 249 00:16:28,440 --> 00:16:31,640 Speaker 1: do good for ourselves, or do good for others. That's 250 00:16:31,760 --> 00:16:37,280 Speaker 1: just my slightly moralistic take on money. Do with what 251 00:16:37,320 --> 00:16:39,440 Speaker 1: you will. And I think the last one, so we've 252 00:16:39,440 --> 00:16:43,160 Speaker 1: got career, money, popularity. The last one on the you 253 00:16:43,160 --> 00:16:50,760 Speaker 1: know kind of purpose, fake purpose kind of list is 254 00:16:50,880 --> 00:16:56,880 Speaker 1: comfort And you know, comfort is a state and purpose 255 00:16:57,160 --> 00:17:00,640 Speaker 1: is a compass. Like we don't find perp in the 256 00:17:00,680 --> 00:17:05,840 Speaker 1: comfort zone generally. Again, nothing wrong with being comfortable. But 257 00:17:05,880 --> 00:17:08,919 Speaker 1: when our mission in life is to take the easy path, 258 00:17:10,040 --> 00:17:14,239 Speaker 1: when our reason for choosing anything is because it's the 259 00:17:14,280 --> 00:17:18,879 Speaker 1: most comfortable route, very very likely that we're going to 260 00:17:18,880 --> 00:17:20,879 Speaker 1: be fulfilled, that we're going to grow, that we're going 261 00:17:20,920 --> 00:17:24,359 Speaker 1: to evolve, that we're going to become a better version 262 00:17:24,400 --> 00:17:31,080 Speaker 1: of us. And back to the matter of how do 263 00:17:31,160 --> 00:17:38,359 Speaker 1: we find or identify or cultivate our purpose. I think 264 00:17:39,560 --> 00:17:41,439 Speaker 1: this is a weird saying, but I think the clues 265 00:17:41,440 --> 00:17:45,119 Speaker 1: are in the pain. I think the clues are in 266 00:17:45,160 --> 00:17:49,960 Speaker 1: the pain. Think about, like what breaks your heart, think 267 00:17:49,960 --> 00:17:55,720 Speaker 1: about what upsets you, think about what pisces you off, 268 00:17:55,880 --> 00:17:57,800 Speaker 1: What do you want to fight for? What do you 269 00:17:57,880 --> 00:18:02,280 Speaker 1: want to fix? As I said before, you know, purpose 270 00:18:02,440 --> 00:18:08,320 Speaker 1: often grows from or a rises out of adversity or 271 00:18:08,400 --> 00:18:15,600 Speaker 1: deep emotion. And as I intimated before, for me, it's 272 00:18:15,800 --> 00:18:23,480 Speaker 1: painful watching people suffer that I know don't need to suffer. 273 00:18:23,560 --> 00:18:26,119 Speaker 1: I know they've got the potential to rise above that, 274 00:18:26,960 --> 00:18:30,719 Speaker 1: to do better, create better, produce better. People that I 275 00:18:30,840 --> 00:18:35,800 Speaker 1: see who are wasting their body, they're wasting their genetics 276 00:18:35,840 --> 00:18:40,240 Speaker 1: because they're doing bad, self destructive things to their body. 277 00:18:40,600 --> 00:18:44,200 Speaker 1: And I'm not being judgmental I'm being compassionate. I don't 278 00:18:44,280 --> 00:18:46,960 Speaker 1: care what they look like or what they weigh. There's 279 00:18:47,040 --> 00:18:51,040 Speaker 1: no judgment in terms of you know, aesthetics or anything like. 280 00:18:51,160 --> 00:18:53,960 Speaker 1: It's only about I want you to have a healthy 281 00:18:54,040 --> 00:18:57,160 Speaker 1: body to live in for as long as possible. And 282 00:18:57,280 --> 00:19:00,840 Speaker 1: I'm watching you and I'm seeing you destroy your body 283 00:19:00,880 --> 00:19:04,840 Speaker 1: with bad behaviors and bad choices, and it makes me 284 00:19:04,920 --> 00:19:07,520 Speaker 1: sad because I know that you can be healthy and 285 00:19:07,560 --> 00:19:10,919 Speaker 1: amazing and so too, you know, with other habits and 286 00:19:11,040 --> 00:19:16,080 Speaker 1: other you know, people who have talked themselves into a 287 00:19:16,160 --> 00:19:21,040 Speaker 1: corner where they have convinced themselves that they're useless, that 288 00:19:21,080 --> 00:19:24,119 Speaker 1: they're hopeless, that they are inept, that they are unlovable, 289 00:19:24,160 --> 00:19:27,639 Speaker 1: that they are untalented, that they don't have the potential 290 00:19:27,760 --> 00:19:32,919 Speaker 1: to create something special. And I see more potential in 291 00:19:32,960 --> 00:19:35,400 Speaker 1: them than they've ever seen. I see more in five 292 00:19:35,480 --> 00:19:39,640 Speaker 1: seconds than they've seen in themselves in five decades sometimes. 293 00:19:39,720 --> 00:19:43,199 Speaker 1: And so for me that you know, the clues are 294 00:19:43,240 --> 00:19:45,600 Speaker 1: in the pain. That's where part of it came from. 295 00:19:45,640 --> 00:19:47,480 Speaker 1: For me, for being the fat kid, the kid that 296 00:19:47,560 --> 00:19:51,439 Speaker 1: was picked last, all those boring Craig Harper stories, all 297 00:19:51,480 --> 00:19:53,960 Speaker 1: of that bullshit, right, But at the same time, that 298 00:19:54,040 --> 00:19:57,520 Speaker 1: bullshit was real. That bullshit was painful, It was uncomfortable, 299 00:19:57,840 --> 00:20:01,560 Speaker 1: it was emotional, you know, falling down and failing and 300 00:20:01,600 --> 00:20:04,720 Speaker 1: being embarrassed and humiliated and all of that kind of 301 00:20:04,800 --> 00:20:07,480 Speaker 1: you know, marginalized somewhat at times, all of that shit, 302 00:20:07,560 --> 00:20:09,600 Speaker 1: which is part of the human experience, of course, but 303 00:20:09,720 --> 00:20:15,440 Speaker 1: for me, that really compelled me to one do better 304 00:20:15,480 --> 00:20:19,000 Speaker 1: for myself and then off the back of that, help 305 00:20:19,119 --> 00:20:25,800 Speaker 1: others do better also. So all right, heading towards the end, 306 00:20:25,840 --> 00:20:28,199 Speaker 1: I want to weave in a couple of kind of 307 00:20:29,400 --> 00:20:36,320 Speaker 1: psychological and vaguely research based well not vaguely research psychology threads, 308 00:20:37,800 --> 00:20:40,320 Speaker 1: not high level science. But you know, one of my 309 00:20:40,400 --> 00:20:45,520 Speaker 1: favorite authors was Victor Frankel, who of course wrote Man's 310 00:20:45,520 --> 00:20:51,280 Speaker 1: Search for Meaning and also developed logo therapy, form of 311 00:20:52,320 --> 00:20:59,280 Speaker 1: kind of existential psychology, psychotherapy based on the based on 312 00:20:59,320 --> 00:21:03,679 Speaker 1: the idea that the primary human driver is not as 313 00:21:03,800 --> 00:21:09,199 Speaker 1: much pleasure or power, but meaning, and so he was 314 00:21:09,320 --> 00:21:12,920 Speaker 1: all about this purpose and meaning. Victor Frankel, of course, 315 00:21:12,960 --> 00:21:17,560 Speaker 1: he was a survivor of being a prisoner of war 316 00:21:17,600 --> 00:21:23,440 Speaker 1: in the Second World War, and he was an Austrian psychiatrist. 317 00:21:23,520 --> 00:21:26,040 Speaker 1: But one of his famous quotes was those who have 318 00:21:26,119 --> 00:21:32,280 Speaker 1: a why to live can bear almost any how. Those 319 00:21:32,320 --> 00:21:35,520 Speaker 1: who have a why, a reason, a driver, a purpose, 320 00:21:36,359 --> 00:21:40,000 Speaker 1: I'm adding in some Craig words, to live can bear 321 00:21:40,080 --> 00:21:44,920 Speaker 1: almost any how. And he did that. He was one 322 00:21:44,960 --> 00:21:49,800 Speaker 1: of the few people that survived the most horrendous, heinous, horrible, 323 00:21:50,040 --> 00:21:55,359 Speaker 1: inhumane conditions. And then you know, in the middle of 324 00:21:56,440 --> 00:22:00,800 Speaker 1: I can't remember if he said this or I just 325 00:22:00,880 --> 00:22:03,480 Speaker 1: thought he said this, but I'm pretty sure he said 326 00:22:04,720 --> 00:22:07,600 Speaker 1: they can something like they can take everything from me, 327 00:22:07,680 --> 00:22:10,480 Speaker 1: but they can't take my mind. And I love that. 328 00:22:10,920 --> 00:22:14,359 Speaker 1: I love that. I love that, as hard as it is, 329 00:22:14,400 --> 00:22:17,919 Speaker 1: sometimes we still get to manage what goes on in 330 00:22:17,960 --> 00:22:22,480 Speaker 1: our head. Ain't always easy, of course. And I also 331 00:22:22,600 --> 00:22:26,200 Speaker 1: love a concept called icky guy, which is ikey guy 332 00:22:26,280 --> 00:22:30,879 Speaker 1: spelled I k i g ai ikey guy, which is 333 00:22:30,880 --> 00:22:38,120 Speaker 1: a Japanese concept. And in this concept, it's really the 334 00:22:38,200 --> 00:22:43,120 Speaker 1: intersection of what you love, what you're good at, what 335 00:22:43,200 --> 00:22:46,520 Speaker 1: the world needs, and what you can be paid for. 336 00:22:47,760 --> 00:22:51,360 Speaker 1: And I love that because that's where for me, I 337 00:22:51,400 --> 00:22:54,360 Speaker 1: think that sentence, and I'm very grateful because it took 338 00:22:54,400 --> 00:22:58,960 Speaker 1: me a very long time that that concept, that word, 339 00:22:59,000 --> 00:23:03,439 Speaker 1: that term iky guy, that's almost representative of my life now. 340 00:23:04,080 --> 00:23:07,439 Speaker 1: It wasn't for a long time. But I'll just say again, 341 00:23:07,720 --> 00:23:09,720 Speaker 1: I'll just share it with you again. So ikey guy. 342 00:23:09,800 --> 00:23:13,359 Speaker 1: That the Japanese term for essentially what it means is 343 00:23:14,119 --> 00:23:17,800 Speaker 1: it is the intersection of what you love, what you're 344 00:23:17,840 --> 00:23:21,320 Speaker 1: passionate about, what you're good at doing, what you excel at, 345 00:23:21,400 --> 00:23:24,000 Speaker 1: what the world needs, as in what people need, what 346 00:23:24,040 --> 00:23:26,600 Speaker 1: you're bringing to the world, remember, a purpose bigger than 347 00:23:26,600 --> 00:23:29,760 Speaker 1: you and something you can make a few bucks from. 348 00:23:31,359 --> 00:23:40,120 Speaker 1: It exactly describes part of my life anyway. Number three 349 00:23:40,160 --> 00:23:43,160 Speaker 1: on my little list here that I've got is self 350 00:23:43,200 --> 00:23:51,160 Speaker 1: determination theory, which is autonomy, competence, and relatedness are essential 351 00:23:51,359 --> 00:23:56,800 Speaker 1: psychological needs. I'll say him again. Autonomy, competence, and relatedness 352 00:23:57,359 --> 00:24:03,000 Speaker 1: are all essential psychological needs, and they often correlate with purpose. 353 00:24:04,560 --> 00:24:07,600 Speaker 1: Is you figuring out who you are, who you want 354 00:24:07,640 --> 00:24:11,440 Speaker 1: to be, what you want to connect with, what your 355 00:24:11,520 --> 00:24:14,680 Speaker 1: reason is. And in the middle of all of that 356 00:24:14,800 --> 00:24:21,360 Speaker 1: sometimes we find clarity about why we're here or our 357 00:24:21,400 --> 00:24:24,280 Speaker 1: ideas about why we're here and what we're going to 358 00:24:24,280 --> 00:24:26,359 Speaker 1: do and who we're going to be or who we 359 00:24:26,400 --> 00:24:30,040 Speaker 1: want to be moving forward and building creating I guess 360 00:24:30,240 --> 00:24:35,040 Speaker 1: a purpose driven life an aligned life, a life and 361 00:24:35,040 --> 00:24:39,919 Speaker 1: an operating system, a way of being, an existence that 362 00:24:40,080 --> 00:24:45,800 Speaker 1: is reflective of you know, our values, our faith, our beliefs, 363 00:24:45,880 --> 00:24:48,640 Speaker 1: the things that matter to us, the things we want 364 00:24:48,680 --> 00:24:55,560 Speaker 1: to do, be create, change, our goals. And the last 365 00:24:55,560 --> 00:24:57,880 Speaker 1: one I want to share with you is a little 366 00:24:57,880 --> 00:25:00,159 Speaker 1: bit of a red herring compared to the rest, a 367 00:25:00,160 --> 00:25:03,479 Speaker 1: little bit of an outlier. It's interesting though, And so 368 00:25:03,520 --> 00:25:08,960 Speaker 1: there's been research looking at the correlation between or the 369 00:25:09,000 --> 00:25:13,600 Speaker 1: relationship between life satisfaction. So you would think a person 370 00:25:13,720 --> 00:25:16,360 Speaker 1: living their purpose would have a high level of satisfaction. 371 00:25:16,920 --> 00:25:20,520 Speaker 1: So we might tie those in purpose, life satisfaction, and 372 00:25:20,560 --> 00:25:26,800 Speaker 1: mortality and mortality studies, I should say. And so what 373 00:25:26,840 --> 00:25:30,600 Speaker 1: we know is that purpose correlates with living our purpose, 374 00:25:30,720 --> 00:25:34,679 Speaker 1: having a clearly defined purpose, executing that living in the 375 00:25:34,680 --> 00:25:39,639 Speaker 1: middle of it correlates with reduced risk of Alzheimer's, of 376 00:25:39,720 --> 00:25:45,399 Speaker 1: cardiovascular disease, and of depression. So living a purpose filled 377 00:25:45,560 --> 00:25:52,080 Speaker 1: or purpose driven life is literally good for our health. Alrighty, 378 00:25:52,320 --> 00:25:57,439 Speaker 1: So let me finish with four questions that just simple 379 00:25:57,520 --> 00:26:01,119 Speaker 1: questions to think about that might help you find a 380 00:26:01,119 --> 00:26:05,320 Speaker 1: little bit of clarity. Questions that I've asked myself and 381 00:26:05,359 --> 00:26:09,479 Speaker 1: I ask others about this. So question one is this, 382 00:26:11,040 --> 00:26:16,240 Speaker 1: if you weren't worried about money failure or judgment, what 383 00:26:16,359 --> 00:26:20,160 Speaker 1: would you do more of? If you weren't worried about 384 00:26:20,240 --> 00:26:24,800 Speaker 1: money failure or the judgment of others, what would you 385 00:26:24,880 --> 00:26:32,080 Speaker 1: do more of? Question two, what's something that you do 386 00:26:32,920 --> 00:26:39,320 Speaker 1: that energizes you but drains others? What's something that you 387 00:26:39,440 --> 00:26:44,560 Speaker 1: can do that energizes you but drains others? And also 388 00:26:44,880 --> 00:26:50,520 Speaker 1: I would suspect in the energizing gives you joy. I 389 00:26:50,520 --> 00:26:54,040 Speaker 1: guess for me, I was thinking about that what energizes like, 390 00:26:54,080 --> 00:27:00,280 Speaker 1: what energizes me is talking to an audience. And it's 391 00:27:00,280 --> 00:27:03,720 Speaker 1: so funny that sometimes I can talk for three hours 392 00:27:04,560 --> 00:27:10,399 Speaker 1: and I come away from that. I might get on 393 00:27:10,480 --> 00:27:13,119 Speaker 1: stage at nine o'clock and finish at twelve or twelve thirty, 394 00:27:13,119 --> 00:27:15,120 Speaker 1: and we've had a small break, but essentially I've been 395 00:27:15,160 --> 00:27:18,879 Speaker 1: speaking for three hours, and I literally have better energy 396 00:27:19,080 --> 00:27:22,560 Speaker 1: at lunchtime than I did at breakfast time, despite the 397 00:27:22,640 --> 00:27:26,600 Speaker 1: fact that I've been doing something which for many people 398 00:27:26,640 --> 00:27:35,159 Speaker 1: would be overwhelmingly terrorizing and also energetically very expensive, And 399 00:27:35,200 --> 00:27:38,760 Speaker 1: I'm super grateful for that. So question number three is 400 00:27:38,880 --> 00:27:42,919 Speaker 1: what advice do people always come to you for like, 401 00:27:43,040 --> 00:27:48,040 Speaker 1: what do people need help with that come to see you? 402 00:27:48,040 --> 00:27:49,760 Speaker 1: What are you the person where people go, ah, really 403 00:27:49,840 --> 00:27:52,280 Speaker 1: need to help with this, or they know that you 404 00:27:52,359 --> 00:27:57,800 Speaker 1: are good at advising or helping or being of value 405 00:27:57,840 --> 00:28:01,800 Speaker 1: with a certain thing. You may or may not find 406 00:28:02,680 --> 00:28:06,359 Speaker 1: your purpose in the proximity of that. And my last 407 00:28:06,440 --> 00:28:10,800 Speaker 1: question for you is what's the thing that you would 408 00:28:10,800 --> 00:28:16,560 Speaker 1: regret not doing? What's the thing that you would regret 409 00:28:17,400 --> 00:28:22,679 Speaker 1: not doing? And so you know, here's the thing with 410 00:28:22,760 --> 00:28:26,960 Speaker 1: this stuff, like if you're waiting for you know, some 411 00:28:27,040 --> 00:28:31,480 Speaker 1: kind of lightning bolt or burning bush moment or dove 412 00:28:31,840 --> 00:28:36,280 Speaker 1: on the windowsill sent by God, probably not going to happen. 413 00:28:38,440 --> 00:28:43,200 Speaker 1: I think that more likely for us to find our 414 00:28:43,240 --> 00:28:47,520 Speaker 1: purpose and to start to move into that and to 415 00:28:47,560 --> 00:28:51,960 Speaker 1: live aligned with our purpose. It's about it's about asking 416 00:28:52,040 --> 00:28:55,400 Speaker 1: questions of others and of ourselves, of trying new things. 417 00:28:56,560 --> 00:28:59,880 Speaker 1: And I think sometimes over time we'll find clarity and 418 00:29:00,280 --> 00:29:04,280 Speaker 1: awareness and joy and will realize Oh, and sometimes it's 419 00:29:04,320 --> 00:29:08,880 Speaker 1: a really slow burn. And also, as I said earlier, 420 00:29:09,000 --> 00:29:13,560 Speaker 1: sometimes it isn't now what it was then. There was 421 00:29:13,600 --> 00:29:17,520 Speaker 1: a time where a big part of my purpose was 422 00:29:17,600 --> 00:29:22,040 Speaker 1: helping people get in shape physically that was a big 423 00:29:22,120 --> 00:29:26,160 Speaker 1: part of my purpose, and that did intersect with making 424 00:29:26,200 --> 00:29:28,360 Speaker 1: a few bucks and having fun, but also at the 425 00:29:28,360 --> 00:29:33,080 Speaker 1: same time helping people who needed physical help to do 426 00:29:33,160 --> 00:29:35,480 Speaker 1: good things to their body. For me, for a very 427 00:29:35,480 --> 00:29:39,720 Speaker 1: long time, that was a big part of who I was, 428 00:29:40,520 --> 00:29:44,000 Speaker 1: or my purpose at the very least, But these days 429 00:29:44,040 --> 00:29:47,160 Speaker 1: not so much. And it's not that that's a bad 430 00:29:47,240 --> 00:29:50,600 Speaker 1: thing or a bad purpose. It's just that I've changed. 431 00:29:51,360 --> 00:29:59,239 Speaker 1: And so my value and my value to others and 432 00:29:59,320 --> 00:30:05,120 Speaker 1: my capacity need to help others in different ways has evolved. 433 00:30:05,640 --> 00:30:08,400 Speaker 1: And now you know, yeah, I still talk to people 434 00:30:08,400 --> 00:30:10,600 Speaker 1: about their body, of course, but I talk to I'm 435 00:30:10,640 --> 00:30:13,840 Speaker 1: more interested in the person, the totality of the person, 436 00:30:14,720 --> 00:30:16,520 Speaker 1: than the body that they live in. And so that 437 00:30:16,600 --> 00:30:19,120 Speaker 1: might be mind stuff or body stuff, or emotional stuff, 438 00:30:19,200 --> 00:30:23,520 Speaker 1: or career stuff or internal you know, non physical stuff, 439 00:30:23,600 --> 00:30:27,000 Speaker 1: or the external practical, three dimensional we can all see 440 00:30:27,000 --> 00:30:31,320 Speaker 1: it stuff. But either way, I'm helping. I'm passionate about 441 00:30:31,440 --> 00:30:37,400 Speaker 1: helping you. I'm helping. I'm passionate about helping people become 442 00:30:37,480 --> 00:30:41,920 Speaker 1: the version of themselves that aligns with their values and 443 00:30:41,960 --> 00:30:45,800 Speaker 1: their purpose. And I guess also the version of themselves 444 00:30:45,840 --> 00:30:52,360 Speaker 1: that incorporates a level of calm and contentment and joy. 445 00:30:53,080 --> 00:30:55,280 Speaker 1: I probably should have thought about this more before I 446 00:30:55,320 --> 00:30:57,400 Speaker 1: open my mouth at the start of this, but again, 447 00:30:57,560 --> 00:30:59,560 Speaker 1: like I said at the start, this is me riffing. 448 00:31:01,160 --> 00:31:04,000 Speaker 1: I hope you got something from that, and I hope 449 00:31:04,040 --> 00:31:05,480 Speaker 1: you're great. See you next time.