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Speaker 1: This is the Fitty and Whipper with Kate Richie podcast.

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Speaker 2: I just got a text from my mom.

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Speaker 1: Yes, because I'm a textbot an expert a textee, write

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Speaker 1: my reply coming love. Things are getting weird.

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Speaker 2: Things are getting really weird.

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Speaker 3: Sarcasm is very hard to portray through a text, isn't it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah? I mean this is why we.

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Speaker 3: Need to dissect some of these messages, because we don't

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Speaker 3: know what's going on.

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Speaker 1: All right, put yourself in this position. Put yourself in

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Speaker 1: Holly's position. So Jake is nineteen and is dating his

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Speaker 1: first girlfriend, Holly, who's twenty one, who stayed over for

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Speaker 1: the first time this week. Okay, what's interesting is that

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Speaker 1: Jake still lives at home. The message reads from Holly

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Speaker 1: to Jake. I didn't want to say anything while I

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Speaker 1: was still at your parents' house, But why the f

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Speaker 1: did your mom come in and tuck you into bed

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Speaker 1: last night? That's so so weird? Does she do that

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Speaker 1: every night? Do you know how weird I felt like

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Speaker 1: next to you while she adjusted your blankets and pattered

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Speaker 1: to your head. Give me one good reason. Well that's

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Speaker 1: not a red flag thirteen times this? Does this still happen?

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Speaker 3: How old were you before your mom stopped tucking you

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Speaker 3: into bed?

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Speaker 1: Not Mummy, No, no, mummy? Are you sorry? Mom? This

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Speaker 1: is Holly. Have you met Holly? Do you want to

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Speaker 1: tuck her in?

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Speaker 4: No?

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Speaker 2: Just you Dolly. I mean we're having a conversation.

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Speaker 3: B J and I having a conversation now, and how

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Speaker 3: old the boys are going to be.

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Speaker 2: Before they stop taking their soft toys to bed? Still

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Speaker 2: doesn't know what I mean? Doesn't matter, mate, I mean

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Speaker 2: that's but tucking.

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Speaker 3: I mean it gets to a point where, especially a

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Speaker 3: young man, where you've got to say, Mum, I don't.

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Speaker 2: Think you need to tuck me in anymore. I'm right,

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Speaker 2: I'm nineteen years.

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Speaker 1: Of Polly's here with me and she's a couple of

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Speaker 1: years older than me, and she's tucked me in as well,

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Speaker 1: so I don't need to worry about that. If it

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Speaker 1: was me, I would have been like, where's my milk

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Speaker 1: and cookies? Think Holly's there to tuck his brains there?

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Speaker 2: Be honest. Yet now that's something mother can't do.

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Speaker 1: Kate and Penrith on the topic of the red flags, have

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Speaker 1: you ever experienced anything like this?

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Speaker 4: Oh? Look, I was when I first started dating my husband.

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Speaker 4: It wasn't as bad as that, but his mum used

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Speaker 4: are always come in and clean his room and we

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Speaker 4: would be in the room together and she would come

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Speaker 4: in and just start tidying up his room, and you know,

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Speaker 4: when I was not there, she would also go through

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Speaker 4: his draws. But look, we ended up just having a

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Speaker 4: really honest conversation about it, and I said, I think

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Speaker 4: that you really need to tell your mom that you're

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Speaker 4: a crown boy and you can do this on your own.

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Speaker 4: And eventually you got you got it after a few

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Speaker 4: honest conversations. But now we're married with bud.

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Speaker 2: Kids, Okay, And is she still hard work now that

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Speaker 2: you're married.

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Speaker 4: Look, she's actually amazing. Now she's.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, you take her an any state, won't you? Kate?

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Speaker 2: That is extraordinary? Sure?

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Speaker 1: Can we can we get onto the topic of red

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Speaker 1: flags like that is one? Really it's the first night

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Speaker 1: she stayed over.

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Speaker 2: Like when you see a red flag so early.

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Speaker 3: Does it say a lot about a person if you're

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Speaker 3: still letting that happen, like I think it says even

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Speaker 3: more if you let that happen while you're in the room.

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Speaker 2: Still, just give your mama heads up before.

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Speaker 3: And he mum don't come in with the tucking, you

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Speaker 3: know the routine tonight, Just don't do the tuck bit.

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Speaker 2: I'm trying to impress this girl. She's my girlfriend.

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Speaker 1: Don't need the tucking, and don't pat my head.

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Speaker 2: It's getting really weird.

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Speaker 1: She's here for that. If you've been to the start

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Speaker 1: of a relationship, those early red flags. Kira in Camden, Hello,

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Speaker 1: h you guys, all right?

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Speaker 2: What was the red flag?

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Speaker 1: So this was fourteen years ago, our first state.

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Speaker 4: We went to watch a movie and he fell asleep.

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Speaker 2: Okay, is that a red flag?

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Speaker 1: Or is he working hard?

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Speaker 2: Is he a plumber or a trade or he was

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Speaker 2: seventeen at this time?

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Speaker 4: Fourteen years later?

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Speaker 2: Oh beautiful, can you remember what the movie was, Kira?

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Speaker 4: It was Getting to the Greek which that was his

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Speaker 4: argument that it wasn't the best man, Russell.

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Speaker 2: Brand it's a funny film. No it's not, mate, That

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Speaker 2: is a funny film. That's a good film.

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Speaker 3: And he obviously knew that Russell Brown would be canceled

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Speaker 3: at some stage, and he's gone a slate, that's what

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Speaker 3: he's done.

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Speaker 2: Ashley and Cherry Brooke. What do you consider a red flag?

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Speaker 2: Ash a meddling?

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Speaker 1: Mother?

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Speaker 2: Oh, here we go on the top of how meddling

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Speaker 2: was she.

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Speaker 4: Telling him what to wear on a date, telling him

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Speaker 4: what he should order at the restaurant? Was she right though?

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Speaker 1: Asherman, It's one thing for mom to be a pain

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Speaker 1: in the bum, but if she's actually right and she's

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Speaker 1: making him look good to.

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Speaker 2: Order at a restaurant made.

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Speaker 3: Are you serious?

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Speaker 2: Did you order for you should too much?

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Speaker 4: It was too much?

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Speaker 1: Did you?

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Speaker 2: Did you confront him about it and say, look, what's

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Speaker 2: the gay with your mum? Is it a bit full on?

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Speaker 4: No?

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Speaker 3: Iran, I'm going thanks Vanessa and Bankstown red flags?

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Speaker 2: Ness, what do you got for us? Yeah?

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Speaker 4: So my red flag is that he had a personalized

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Speaker 4: car place you can't get in the car with someone's car.

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Speaker 4: Place very entitled to me?

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Speaker 1: Okay, Vanessa, what was the number plate?

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Speaker 4: I think? Okay? Said, so was I And that's all

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Speaker 4: I can really say with the c at the end, serious,

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Speaker 4: not joking.

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Speaker 2: Did he did he? Did he love a bit of himself? Ness?

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Speaker 2: I absolutely?

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Speaker 4: It's white on down.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, get well done.

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Speaker 1: That's got on you?

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Speaker 2: Becking bronze red flags?

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Speaker 4: Beck Oh dirty stilthy hair.

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Speaker 1: Oh but knits like knit type hair?

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Speaker 4: Oh no, it don't even have to be and it's

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Speaker 4: just filthy, dirty, greasy, stinky hair.

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Speaker 3: Did you give him any sort of tips or did

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Speaker 3: you give him any sort of clues to wash his hair?

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Speaker 2: Beck?

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Speaker 4: Oh, it was just like, oh no, thanks Mane.

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Speaker 1: Didn't you notice it early on? Beck, Like when you

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Speaker 1: first looked up with him, didn't you. You're rubbing your

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Speaker 1: hands through his hair and you think, oh, this is

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Speaker 1: so romantic, and then you had like a grease slick

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Speaker 1: on your palms, and.

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Speaker 4: Then I just wiped it down his shirt and SI's

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Speaker 4: not wear out?

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Speaker 2: Oh what is it?

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Speaker 1: Fil yeah?

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Speaker 2: Or wax when they just leave the wax in for ages?

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, grease, Tommy, what do you use again?

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Speaker 1: You've got the frize dismissed, Yeah, Redkin's frizze dismiss.

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Speaker 2: Red red Can Yeah, yep, yeah not red Ken. No, no,

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Speaker 2: absolutely right. And you here to use a bit of

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Speaker 2: ad our sassoon, don't you, tom.

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Speaker 1: Not?

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Speaker 2: Since he died. I don't, but the like you just

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Speaker 2: stepped out of a salon, he left it to ssoon

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Speaker 2: gone to sesoon. Very good. Rhyme's on fire. We should

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Speaker 2: tuck you in later.

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Speaker 1: I think it.

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Speaker 2: Becomes Claire fizzle

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