WEBVTT - Dad, don't come home unless you win!

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<v Speaker 1>Apodjae Production.

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<v Speaker 2>Welcome back to another episode of Am I A Bad Mom?

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<v Speaker 1>Podcast?

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<v Speaker 3>Where we constantly asked that question, am I a bad Mom?

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<v Speaker 1>Again and again and again.

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<v Speaker 4>I also get now because my kids are old enough, mom,

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<v Speaker 4>you're being a bad mom?

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<v Speaker 1>Like this is content via podcast.

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<v Speaker 3>I've said numerous times that as the kids get older,

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<v Speaker 3>you really got to do some work on yourself and

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<v Speaker 3>your self esteem because they make you feel like shit,

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<v Speaker 3>like oh, literally put clothes on and they'll like look

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<v Speaker 3>me up and down like mean girl, like what are

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<v Speaker 3>you wearing?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god.

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<v Speaker 4>Just before when you were saying it, and I was

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<v Speaker 4>commenting about how nice you look, and I was like, look,

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<v Speaker 4>we're on a camera.

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<v Speaker 1>This is great.

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<v Speaker 4>We should use this piece of content on a camera

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<v Speaker 4>because you look lovely. You said, Oh, do you know

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<v Speaker 4>what Holly said to me today?

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<v Speaker 2>You look like a watermelon.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm sitting you going you're really nice, and your child

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<v Speaker 4>goes you look like a watermelon.

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<v Speaker 3>It's like being back at school and being bullied, and like,

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<v Speaker 3>I was really lucky.

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't really get Oh, I got Michelle. I remember Michelle.

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<v Speaker 3>She told me that I couldn't play with them and

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<v Speaker 3>if I wanted to I just had to be a tree,

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<v Speaker 3>and so I would stand in the playground like that

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<v Speaker 3>as a tree. And that was her being nice because

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<v Speaker 3>she did once say you can just be the thin air.

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<v Speaker 1>Who the fuck is Michelle? Have that pipe down? I'll

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<v Speaker 1>do whatever I want.

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<v Speaker 4>I would have probably been that person in the playground

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<v Speaker 4>that would have belted Michelle.

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<v Speaker 1>Then you wonder why my kids are late? They are.

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<v Speaker 1>I have to say though, just carrying that on?

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<v Speaker 4>Is that twice this week from both children I have

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<v Speaker 4>had haymum, when you grow out of this?

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<v Speaker 1>Can I have these?

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<v Speaker 4>I was like, if you aren't going to get any bigger,

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<v Speaker 4>I'm not going to give them because my feet aren't

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<v Speaker 4>going to grow out of them. I don't have what

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<v Speaker 4>you have, which is changing feet every five minutes, like

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<v Speaker 4>I am fully grown. Elsie goes, well, just when I

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<v Speaker 4>get big enough, I'm going to take them, okaye.

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<v Speaker 1>And then Gracie sees like a brand new T shirt

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<v Speaker 1>and she goes, oh, I really like that.

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<v Speaker 4>She goes, when you grow out of that, you might

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<v Speaker 4>grow like and I was like, what get bigger and

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<v Speaker 4>not be able to wear it?

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<v Speaker 3>But you've got to enjoy that stage because once they

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<v Speaker 3>get to teenagers. They don't think anything that you wear

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<v Speaker 3>is nice. I've saved stuff for them, Rach, Like, I've

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<v Speaker 3>been through my wardrobe and gone, I'm never going to

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<v Speaker 3>get in that mini skirt again, like things like that

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<v Speaker 3>or that dress is a bit skimpy now bit mutton, and.

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<v Speaker 1>And that is so good. I've not known that for you.

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<v Speaker 3>And I've kept stuff for them, and I was like,

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<v Speaker 3>look at what I've got you like even like denim.

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<v Speaker 2>Jackets, Like what's wrong with that? I like leave eyes

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<v Speaker 2>and like.

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<v Speaker 1>Leave us back in? Aren't they like? Absolutely?

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<v Speaker 3>What I've realized is that it's not that they don't

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<v Speaker 3>like the clothes. It's just that they think anything that

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<v Speaker 3>was mine is really like it.

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<v Speaker 4>It's no, it's just a no mum. Well, at least

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<v Speaker 4>they still like what I wear.

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<v Speaker 1>Am I a bad mum for rewriting their story? Yes?

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<v Speaker 3>So, as we know, your husband, Sam Thaday was last

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<v Speaker 3>night's winner of I'm a Celebrity, Get Me out of Here.

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<v Speaker 3>But there's so much that we haven't talked about, Like,

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<v Speaker 3>for example, you and I chatted about the letters from Home.

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<v Speaker 1>So he's been in the jungle for weeks and weeks

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<v Speaker 1>and weeks.

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<v Speaker 4>The kids aren't missing him like crazy, but have loved

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<v Speaker 4>the idea that they can watch him every night.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so that has definitely helped.

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<v Speaker 3>One of my favorite episodes been the dancing. You know,

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<v Speaker 3>they all had to do the dancing, the twerking.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my gosh.

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<v Speaker 4>I had so much satisfaction showing that to Gracie right

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<v Speaker 4>before school because they haven't been staying. It's too late, right,

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<v Speaker 4>so they only get to a certain time. And then

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<v Speaker 4>I'm like, okay, bed, whatever you miss I'll let you know,

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<v Speaker 4>or it'll be online tomorrow. This particular thing of him

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<v Speaker 4>dancing that's all over online.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't even see it. You're watching masks. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>because they're going to bed.

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<v Speaker 4>Ah, it's just a train wreck.

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<v Speaker 1>I cannot anyway, so I couldn't wait.

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<v Speaker 4>Joe Gracie the next day, just before she was going

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<v Speaker 4>to school, and I.

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<v Speaker 1>Was like, Hey, do you want to see eat dad

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<v Speaker 1>did last night?

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<v Speaker 4>And I showed her and she was like, oh she

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<v Speaker 4>was flipping. Oh my god, I'm so embarrassed.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't even walk into the school yard now people

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<v Speaker 1>don't know Dad's dad. That's disgusting. Why did he open

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<v Speaker 1>his shirt? Anyway?

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<v Speaker 2>It was so I watched it and when yes, there

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<v Speaker 2>he is.

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<v Speaker 4>Yes, then there was another opportunity for the girls to

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<v Speaker 4>be able to connect with him.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, they ask you to write a letter from home.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, and then they do that as an episode, like

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<v Speaker 3>it's a really whole life. They all sit around and

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<v Speaker 3>they read each other's letters home, and it's.

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<v Speaker 1>All it's so like I didn't realize how emotional it was.

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<v Speaker 2>But like I cried, I'm not even in there.

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<v Speaker 4>So I just literally said to the girls, go and

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<v Speaker 4>write Dad a letter, and it has to be one page,

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<v Speaker 4>and then bring it back.

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<v Speaker 1>Elsie's is folded, got a little bit of a.

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<v Speaker 4>Story in there, maybe about three sentences, and then Graces

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<v Speaker 4>is like dear Dad, and it's like point by point

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<v Speaker 4>by point of her whole life over the last five weeks,

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<v Speaker 4>and then a photo. I had to rewrite their versions

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<v Speaker 4>into one page because it's said on their no more

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<v Speaker 4>than one page, okay, right, join blay the like the

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<v Speaker 4>whole thing, the actual actual one that went live.

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<v Speaker 1>So they snipped my snipped version of the story.

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<v Speaker 2>You'll read it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you can hear it. First of what says Daddy's

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<v Speaker 1>out here.

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<v Speaker 4>The girls are literally screaming at you every single night, hearing.

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<v Speaker 1>You on, trying to call you their dad.

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<v Speaker 4>They want you to know that we're all good here

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<v Speaker 4>actually in our own jungle.

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<v Speaker 1>Three women in one household is like living.

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<v Speaker 2>In the Marc room talent.

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<v Speaker 1>Ha. He's crying right now. I'm cool.

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<v Speaker 4>You're right.

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<v Speaker 1>And leaning into every day as it comes. Love you

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<v Speaker 1>to the moon and back and EVTs crying.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, then they show the photos, so now you can

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<v Speaker 4>see I know two that's the two snippets.

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<v Speaker 1>That's the back of G's and then the other one.

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<v Speaker 3>The thing that I love the most about my girls

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<v Speaker 3>is they have huge hearts. But they got a lot

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<v Speaker 3>of moxy about them too, and I wouldn't have it

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<v Speaker 3>any other way.

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<v Speaker 1>It's really nice.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, but I'm really glad that you can sit here

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<v Speaker 3>and tell us actually what happened?

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<v Speaker 4>That was beautiful, so nice, right, And I had to

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<v Speaker 4>summarize both of their letters.

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<v Speaker 1>That was Elsie's.

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<v Speaker 4>The front of Elsie's it literally says, too, Sammy, I

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<v Speaker 4>love evt okay.

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<v Speaker 1>And then that was the back of Grace's.

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<v Speaker 2>Call him Sammy, does she no?

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<v Speaker 1>No?

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<v Speaker 4>And then that's the back of Grace's with the photo

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<v Speaker 4>and she says ps we don't accept second place in

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<v Speaker 4>this house.

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<v Speaker 1>Pps, I love you gg.

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<v Speaker 2>Can you tell us what the letters said? Originally?

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<v Speaker 4>So originally I was like, if I went through graces,

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<v Speaker 4>you know everything that's going on in her life.

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<v Speaker 2>Literally it was literally, dear dad, this happened on Monday.

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<v Speaker 4>I broke up with such and such. Don't worry, I

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<v Speaker 4>broke my foot. Elsie's was literally too summi love evt

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<v Speaker 4>open it up. It said, Dad, stay in the jungle

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<v Speaker 4>as long as you can. It's just like camping with

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<v Speaker 4>no tent. Also, we don't accept second place in this house,

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<v Speaker 4>so don't come back.

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<v Speaker 2>With don't come home. And that's sure the winner you

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<v Speaker 2>have to be king of the jungle.

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<v Speaker 1>You're not welcome back home.

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<v Speaker 2>And so what the producers didn't want nothing?

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<v Speaker 1>I couldn't said that. I was like that goes live people.

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<v Speaker 1>They won't understand who we are. Obviously.

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<v Speaker 4>Now I summarized it into one YEP and just sort

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<v Speaker 4>of owned it down a bit. Didn't put all the

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<v Speaker 4>details about breaking feet and all those sorts of things.

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<v Speaker 4>This is how I wrapped it up. We all hope

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<v Speaker 4>that you're loving being in the jungle. The girl said,

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<v Speaker 4>it's suit's dad, keep doing us proud, keep opening your

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<v Speaker 4>heart and leaning into every day. Gracie said, don't worry.

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<v Speaker 4>We are happy and protected, so don't worry about a

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<v Speaker 4>thing other than bringing your crown of just being yourself

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<v Speaker 4>in the jungle.

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<v Speaker 1>Elsie said, Dad, we love you so much.

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<v Speaker 4>Keep living in the jungle. It's like camping with no tent.

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<v Speaker 4>And remember first place always counts. You've got this, Oh god,

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<v Speaker 4>we have. We have your back, love you to the

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<v Speaker 4>moon and back. You know, it's all there.

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<v Speaker 1>But I had to rewrite their stories.

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<v Speaker 4>I felt a bit bad about that, but at the

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<v Speaker 4>same time kind of needed to generalize it but also

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<v Speaker 4>just take out that part of like, oh my gosh,

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<v Speaker 4>if he reads this bit. Everyone else was like sentimental

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<v Speaker 4>and like we miss your own proud of you and

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<v Speaker 4>your extraordinary.

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<v Speaker 1>We said that.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, it was enough, but there was also like some

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<v Speaker 4>unless you win, don't bring anything else home other than

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<v Speaker 4>the crown.

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<v Speaker 3>And I don't know if you're allowed to say or not,

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<v Speaker 3>but he was struggling a little bit to start with

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<v Speaker 3>because he was so worried about you guys at home

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<v Speaker 3>and you having to take on everything.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, the night that he was handing his phone over

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<v Speaker 4>there was a part of like ride.

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<v Speaker 1>At the start before it even got in.

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<v Speaker 4>Obviously weren't allowed to go anywhere and do any of

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<v Speaker 4>that because he was just anticipating going into the jungle.

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<v Speaker 4>So he handed his phone over like a week out

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<v Speaker 4>and he was doubting at that. He's like, oh, I've

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<v Speaker 4>changed my mind.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh I need to get out. I can't do this

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<v Speaker 1>and like and I was like, too bad. Ro you

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<v Speaker 1>signed up? There's lock a load.

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<v Speaker 4>Basically the producer touches base when they.

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<v Speaker 1>Need something from you.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, And at that time they were like, oh, it's

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<v Speaker 4>pretty flat. So they all go through like these lulls

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<v Speaker 4>apparently of like being really good and then being really low,

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<v Speaker 4>and they were just concerned that he wasn't going to

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<v Speaker 4>pop up from the lull again.

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<v Speaker 1>But he did.

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<v Speaker 4>He came back stronger than ever with his dances to it,

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<v Speaker 4>and he's half stripping, that's what Gracie called it.

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<v Speaker 1>Why is he stripping on TV? I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>god

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<v Speaker 3>Knows, Yeah, well paid off stripper Sam for the wind