WEBVTT - "MY DATE STOOD ME UP FOR A NAP": WYHA HOTLINE

0:00:00.080 --> 0:00:03.519
<v Speaker 1>He has long hair, he's tall, tanned.

0:00:03.680 --> 0:00:10.560
<v Speaker 2>Can go on, Hello and welcome back to another episode

0:00:10.640 --> 0:00:13.360
<v Speaker 2>of Where's Your Head Out. I am currently on Maternity League,

0:00:13.440 --> 0:00:16.760
<v Speaker 2>but we have a really fun hotline for you guys today.

0:00:16.800 --> 0:00:18.000
<v Speaker 2>Matt Hi, how are you?

0:00:18.160 --> 0:00:19.720
<v Speaker 1>Good morning? And I Where's your Head Out?

0:00:20.040 --> 0:00:25.759
<v Speaker 2>My head is at just you know, pregnant life, at

0:00:25.800 --> 0:00:27.880
<v Speaker 2>the very very end of pregnant life. This is the

0:00:27.960 --> 0:00:30.880
<v Speaker 2>last day we're in the studio recording our hot line.

0:00:31.080 --> 0:00:34.440
<v Speaker 2>It is then I'm going on maternityly, but I am

0:00:34.479 --> 0:00:37.200
<v Speaker 2>still doing Where's Your Bump Out? So after next week, then.

0:00:37.120 --> 0:00:39.880
<v Speaker 1>I'm going to be out of the studio, no more

0:00:40.080 --> 0:00:41.879
<v Speaker 1>studio for how long? Six weeks?

0:00:41.960 --> 0:00:45.120
<v Speaker 2>Six weeks? Well, Where's Your Bump Out is a mini series,

0:00:45.200 --> 0:00:49.159
<v Speaker 2>so we have about twelve thirteen episodes, I think, so

0:00:49.280 --> 0:00:52.239
<v Speaker 2>six weeks and then I'll be back recording Where's Your

0:00:52.240 --> 0:00:58.920
<v Speaker 2>Head Out? Exciting unless I'm like struggling solo host, I

0:00:58.960 --> 0:01:01.720
<v Speaker 2>don't know, we'll see. I'm planning on being back. We

0:01:02.120 --> 0:01:04.160
<v Speaker 2>were talking before about if the baby's going to come

0:01:04.160 --> 0:01:07.040
<v Speaker 2>into the studio or not, so you know, there's a

0:01:07.080 --> 0:01:07.800
<v Speaker 2>lot to sort out.

0:01:07.880 --> 0:01:10.319
<v Speaker 1>I said, bring him in. Yeah, you sit in the

0:01:10.319 --> 0:01:15.839
<v Speaker 1>corner and set him up with something he's too small

0:01:15.880 --> 0:01:18.679
<v Speaker 1>to just you just will sleep, cry and eat. That's

0:01:18.680 --> 0:01:19.440
<v Speaker 1>all they do. Ship.

0:01:19.800 --> 0:01:22.760
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, some nappies in here, man.

0:01:22.920 --> 0:01:25.360
<v Speaker 1>Imagine like just being that young again.

0:01:25.720 --> 0:01:29.800
<v Speaker 2>I've never changed the nappy before, really never life.

0:01:30.680 --> 0:01:32.600
<v Speaker 1>You'll be great, Anna, I think, and you'll be great

0:01:32.640 --> 0:01:34.759
<v Speaker 1>at changing nappies. You'll pick it up pretty quickly. You're

0:01:34.800 --> 0:01:38.760
<v Speaker 1>a maternal person, so he'll be second nature. How does

0:01:38.760 --> 0:01:39.520
<v Speaker 1>Michael think he's going.

0:01:39.520 --> 0:01:41.520
<v Speaker 2>To go, Well, he said that he's going to do

0:01:41.560 --> 0:01:42.360
<v Speaker 2>all the naki.

0:01:42.200 --> 0:01:44.600
<v Speaker 1>Changes bold move when he's in the office.

0:01:44.760 --> 0:01:46.800
<v Speaker 2>I have to know he's got four weeks off work

0:01:47.080 --> 0:01:50.040
<v Speaker 2>that's fraternity leaves, and obviously I'm going to be doing

0:01:50.080 --> 0:01:51.680
<v Speaker 2>all the breastfeeding, so he's going to be doing all

0:01:51.680 --> 0:01:56.640
<v Speaker 2>the nappy changes. Makes sense. Trade do you know what's

0:01:56.720 --> 0:01:58.040
<v Speaker 2>interesting about being pregnant?

0:01:58.040 --> 0:02:02.240
<v Speaker 1>That tell me Anna, because I really do not know

0:02:02.360 --> 0:02:04.120
<v Speaker 1>what's interesting about being pregnant.

0:02:04.280 --> 0:02:06.800
<v Speaker 2>It's all the cravings that you have, but they all

0:02:06.880 --> 0:02:07.640
<v Speaker 2>mean something.

0:02:07.800 --> 0:02:10.200
<v Speaker 1>So I thought you didn't have cravings, no, but like

0:02:10.440 --> 0:02:12.240
<v Speaker 1>you personally said you didn't have anything, I've.

0:02:12.360 --> 0:02:15.240
<v Speaker 2>No like I mean like I've had cravings like I've

0:02:15.520 --> 0:02:19.680
<v Speaker 2>I've been craving frozen cokes. I've been I've been craving

0:02:19.760 --> 0:02:23.000
<v Speaker 2>fruit like the whole time, but there's specific things that

0:02:23.040 --> 0:02:26.639
<v Speaker 2>I've craved at specific times. So, for example, there was

0:02:26.680 --> 0:02:29.840
<v Speaker 2>a point in my pregnancy where I was crunching ice

0:02:29.919 --> 0:02:33.280
<v Speaker 2>cubes like no tomorrow, you did say that, yeah, Like

0:02:33.919 --> 0:02:37.520
<v Speaker 2>and apparently that means that you're low in iron, and

0:02:37.600 --> 0:02:39.840
<v Speaker 2>I was low in iron, and I swear to god

0:02:39.960 --> 0:02:43.560
<v Speaker 2>I had my iron transfusion and a week later, I

0:02:43.600 --> 0:02:47.160
<v Speaker 2>haven't even looked like crunching ice cubes. Don't you think

0:02:47.200 --> 0:02:48.280
<v Speaker 2>that's so weird that, Like, so.

0:02:48.240 --> 0:02:50.200
<v Speaker 1>It's not is it a scientific proven or is it

0:02:50.240 --> 0:02:51.200
<v Speaker 1>an old wife's tale.

0:02:51.360 --> 0:02:53.799
<v Speaker 2>No, it's like it's a thing like if you're low

0:02:53.840 --> 0:02:54.480
<v Speaker 2>in it, then you.

0:02:54.480 --> 0:02:56.200
<v Speaker 1>Want to crunching ice cubes. I have.

0:02:56.600 --> 0:02:58.600
<v Speaker 2>I don't know the science behind it, and if you

0:02:58.639 --> 0:03:01.560
<v Speaker 2>guys know, please let us know one Facebook group. But

0:03:01.600 --> 0:03:04.959
<v Speaker 2>it's just so interesting. And then recently I've just been

0:03:05.040 --> 0:03:10.000
<v Speaker 2>really craving kiwifruit and I've never never in my life

0:03:10.400 --> 0:03:14.399
<v Speaker 2>I wanted a Kiwi fruit, and now it's like literally

0:03:14.960 --> 0:03:17.120
<v Speaker 2>the only thing i can think of. I've been bringing

0:03:17.120 --> 0:03:19.560
<v Speaker 2>this up right now because I'm really wanting a kiwave fruit.

0:03:20.720 --> 0:03:21.840
<v Speaker 1>Do you eat. I've got one for you. Do you

0:03:21.840 --> 0:03:24.360
<v Speaker 1>eat the Kiwi fruits with the skin on skin on? Yeah?

0:03:24.520 --> 0:03:24.760
<v Speaker 1>Do you?

0:03:25.480 --> 0:03:28.840
<v Speaker 2>Yeah? I cut the ends off, Yeah, like hard, annoying bit.

0:03:29.400 --> 0:03:30.079
<v Speaker 1>You can't eat that?

0:03:30.480 --> 0:03:30.679
<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

0:03:30.800 --> 0:03:32.160
<v Speaker 1>Have you ever eaten whole apple core?

0:03:32.960 --> 0:03:33.240
<v Speaker 2>No?

0:03:33.720 --> 0:03:36.480
<v Speaker 1>People do that. No, it's really weird, strange behavior.

0:03:36.240 --> 0:03:38.760
<v Speaker 2>I think, like crunching the pips, it's.

0:03:38.640 --> 0:03:41.160
<v Speaker 1>Just yeah, I don't see the attraction.

0:03:40.920 --> 0:03:43.200
<v Speaker 2>Even like with watermelon, Like I don't love when there's

0:03:43.200 --> 0:03:43.760
<v Speaker 2>pips in it.

0:03:45.080 --> 0:03:48.160
<v Speaker 1>That's annoying. I am. I for a long time cut

0:03:48.240 --> 0:03:54.360
<v Speaker 1>up my apples before it lit. A little weird thing

0:03:54.400 --> 0:03:56.160
<v Speaker 1>I did. I cut them up. You know.

0:03:56.240 --> 0:03:57.800
<v Speaker 2>I would only cut my apples up if I was

0:03:57.800 --> 0:04:01.080
<v Speaker 2>putting peanut butter on it. Yeah, which is a great

0:04:01.160 --> 0:04:02.840
<v Speaker 2>snack I've not had for a while.

0:04:03.120 --> 0:04:05.160
<v Speaker 1>Why I would cut up my apples. I had braces

0:04:05.200 --> 0:04:08.160
<v Speaker 1>growing up, but I haven't a great bracest for fifteen years.

0:04:08.720 --> 0:04:11.360
<v Speaker 2>Speaking of fruit, because obviously you know that I've been

0:04:11.400 --> 0:04:13.560
<v Speaker 2>craving fruit. You know what has been the best fruit

0:04:13.640 --> 0:04:20.320
<v Speaker 2>this year by far? Grapes. Grapes this year this season

0:04:20.600 --> 0:04:23.400
<v Speaker 2>are so crunchy and delicious.

0:04:23.520 --> 0:04:27.520
<v Speaker 1>Right, the cotton candy one's pretty nice. Fridge I like those.

0:04:29.040 --> 0:04:32.240
<v Speaker 2>I once got the cotton candy Ones grapes by accident,

0:04:32.279 --> 0:04:36.440
<v Speaker 2>and it was a disaster because they're so artificially sweetened.

0:04:36.760 --> 0:04:39.160
<v Speaker 1>I hate, but I don't hate a strong word. I

0:04:39.160 --> 0:04:40.960
<v Speaker 1>don't like the purple ones.

0:04:41.400 --> 0:04:42.760
<v Speaker 2>Why's the same?

0:04:42.800 --> 0:04:46.600
<v Speaker 1>I'm not. I like a crisp hard green one.

0:04:46.680 --> 0:04:49.000
<v Speaker 2>You can get a crispy purple.

0:04:49.640 --> 0:04:54.960
<v Speaker 1>Crispy hard out the fridge, cold green one. Bob's your auntie.

0:04:55.000 --> 0:04:55.520
<v Speaker 1>That's great.

0:04:55.560 --> 0:05:00.000
<v Speaker 2>I'm hungry now just thinking about this guy some fruit. Okay, guys,

0:05:00.120 --> 0:05:04.880
<v Speaker 2>let's jump into this week's hotline. This one is anonymous.

0:05:07.960 --> 0:05:11.120
<v Speaker 3>Hey and a Matt, massive fan of the podcast. This week,

0:05:11.160 --> 0:05:11.880
<v Speaker 3>a guy I've been.

0:05:11.760 --> 0:05:13.719
<v Speaker 4>Talking to online asking me to go on a date.

0:05:13.960 --> 0:05:17.200
<v Speaker 4>Things were really flowing over text, and like I was

0:05:17.200 --> 0:05:20.159
<v Speaker 4>actually like super excited to meet him. So I ended

0:05:20.240 --> 0:05:23.240
<v Speaker 4>up driving to the date and tasted him like once

0:05:23.279 --> 0:05:25.080
<v Speaker 4>I got there, saying hey, how are you?

0:05:25.200 --> 0:05:25.839
<v Speaker 1>Like where are you?

0:05:26.640 --> 0:05:29.120
<v Speaker 3>Thirty minutes passed and I still hadn't heard back from him.

0:05:29.200 --> 0:05:31.880
<v Speaker 4>Well, I just like thought that he was either running

0:05:31.960 --> 0:05:34.240
<v Speaker 4>late or his phone was off, so I just gave

0:05:34.279 --> 0:05:35.359
<v Speaker 4>him like another thirty minutes.

0:05:35.400 --> 0:05:38.040
<v Speaker 3>Anyways, long story short, he stood me up.

0:05:38.160 --> 0:05:42.599
<v Speaker 4>Obviously. I was devastated. I drove home like completely embarrassed.

0:05:43.080 --> 0:05:45.200
<v Speaker 4>And then two hours later I got a text from

0:05:45.320 --> 0:05:49.120
<v Speaker 4>my date apologizing. He said he'd fallen asleep and was

0:05:49.320 --> 0:05:51.960
<v Speaker 4>like so apologetic. He said he wanted to make it

0:05:52.000 --> 0:05:54.560
<v Speaker 4>up to me by taking me on another date. When

0:05:54.560 --> 0:05:56.800
<v Speaker 4>he stood me up, I said to myself, I was

0:05:57.040 --> 0:06:00.440
<v Speaker 4>never giving this man a chance, but he had away

0:06:00.520 --> 0:06:04.480
<v Speaker 4>with his words. And now I just don't know if

0:06:04.520 --> 0:06:06.760
<v Speaker 4>I should go on the other other data or lot A.

0:06:06.839 --> 0:06:10.680
<v Speaker 3>I'm making the right decision. Any advice would be amazing, Thanks, guys.

0:06:11.839 --> 0:06:13.960
<v Speaker 1>So she was at the venue, she was meeting him

0:06:13.960 --> 0:06:14.560
<v Speaker 1>at the venue.

0:06:14.839 --> 0:06:18.000
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and she was sitting in her car waiting for

0:06:18.080 --> 0:06:21.640
<v Speaker 2>this guy to rock up. That's really bad. That's slack.

0:06:22.080 --> 0:06:22.880
<v Speaker 2>I don't know about you.

0:06:22.920 --> 0:06:25.040
<v Speaker 1>But what I was about to say, no, don't give

0:06:25.080 --> 0:06:27.119
<v Speaker 1>him a second chance. We don't fall asleep on someone

0:06:27.120 --> 0:06:29.760
<v Speaker 1>that you're interested in, or you actually respect their time

0:06:29.880 --> 0:06:32.559
<v Speaker 1>or their like you respect them. You don't fall asleep.

0:06:32.680 --> 0:06:34.480
<v Speaker 1>You set an alarm. I don't care how busy you

0:06:34.520 --> 0:06:36.760
<v Speaker 1>are at work. Don't make plans, buddy, and A.

0:06:37.120 --> 0:06:39.800
<v Speaker 2>That's what I was thinking. But then like, we don't

0:06:39.800 --> 0:06:44.400
<v Speaker 2>know the thing think about life that I feel is like, yes,

0:06:44.680 --> 0:06:47.320
<v Speaker 2>situations can be black and white, but sometimes we don't

0:06:47.320 --> 0:06:49.000
<v Speaker 2>allow space for the gray area.

0:06:49.160 --> 0:06:51.080
<v Speaker 1>You know that I've said this multile times. I don't

0:06:51.080 --> 0:06:53.120
<v Speaker 1>believe in absolutes and black and whites, but in the

0:06:53.120 --> 0:06:54.839
<v Speaker 1>gray area. Okay, hear me out.

0:06:54.960 --> 0:06:57.440
<v Speaker 2>Let's say he's like a busy guy, then he has

0:06:57.480 --> 0:06:59.359
<v Speaker 2>no time for your relationship and you're not going to

0:06:59.360 --> 0:07:01.159
<v Speaker 2>be uncau ab out what do you want to say?

0:07:01.400 --> 0:07:03.840
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so if he's already busy on the first date,

0:07:03.920 --> 0:07:05.680
<v Speaker 1>he can't make it. What do you How does he

0:07:05.720 --> 0:07:08.159
<v Speaker 1>think that he's going to withstand a relationship with you

0:07:08.440 --> 0:07:11.240
<v Speaker 1>that fulfills you and makes you feel like you are

0:07:11.520 --> 0:07:12.880
<v Speaker 1>an important in his life?

0:07:12.920 --> 0:07:14.840
<v Speaker 2>What if he has a condition that makes him drowsy,

0:07:15.280 --> 0:07:18.280
<v Speaker 2>I'm making excuses for him, let's make Let's not make excuses.

0:07:18.880 --> 0:07:21.640
<v Speaker 2>It's pretty poor. Like when I'm going on a date.

0:07:21.960 --> 0:07:24.480
<v Speaker 2>The morning I'm going on a date, I wake up

0:07:24.520 --> 0:07:27.880
<v Speaker 2>in the morning, my eyes open and immediately get a

0:07:27.920 --> 0:07:29.800
<v Speaker 2>sinking feeling because I'm like, oh, I'm going on a

0:07:29.880 --> 0:07:31.000
<v Speaker 2>date because I hate dating.

0:07:31.120 --> 0:07:33.760
<v Speaker 1>So I'm like, oh, yeah, how does Michael feel when

0:07:33.800 --> 0:07:36.440
<v Speaker 1>you're waking up? Thinking that he must feel like what the.

0:07:36.320 --> 0:07:38.920
<v Speaker 2>Fuck no, But you know what I mean, Like, I

0:07:38.920 --> 0:07:40.720
<v Speaker 2>feel like going on a first date is a big

0:07:40.760 --> 0:07:44.680
<v Speaker 2>deal to everyone. Maybe he just like wasn't really thinking

0:07:44.680 --> 0:07:47.400
<v Speaker 2>about it. Could we say he was kind of just like, yeah, whatever,

0:07:47.440 --> 0:07:50.280
<v Speaker 2>and then accidentally accidentally falling asleep? Can happen?

0:07:50.360 --> 0:07:53.360
<v Speaker 1>You're playing let's see well and you're walking. You're walking

0:07:53.360 --> 0:07:55.160
<v Speaker 1>in the fence pretty well, and I'll give you credit

0:07:55.200 --> 0:07:56.840
<v Speaker 1>for that. I just think it's a lack of respect

0:07:56.920 --> 0:07:59.800
<v Speaker 1>for you. And if that's how the relationship is starting

0:07:59.800 --> 0:08:03.080
<v Speaker 1>off with that much disrespect, it's it's not onwards and

0:08:03.120 --> 0:08:03.760
<v Speaker 1>upwards from there.

0:08:03.960 --> 0:08:07.720
<v Speaker 2>I agree with what you're saying, Like it's disrespectful, it's rude.

0:08:08.600 --> 0:08:10.720
<v Speaker 2>Could she give him another chance? If they're like, have

0:08:10.840 --> 0:08:12.400
<v Speaker 2>really connected and bonded.

0:08:12.200 --> 0:08:14.320
<v Speaker 1>Go on and give him another chance, go on just

0:08:14.360 --> 0:08:15.040
<v Speaker 1>for the sake of it.

0:08:15.160 --> 0:08:17.240
<v Speaker 2>But he'd best be like Prince Charming when.

0:08:17.160 --> 0:08:20.280
<v Speaker 1>I way don't even everyone can be Prince Charming for

0:08:20.400 --> 0:08:22.200
<v Speaker 1>a couple of hours and then.

0:08:22.600 --> 0:08:25.640
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but everyone can be doesn't mean they will be, yeah.

0:08:25.480 --> 0:08:28.400
<v Speaker 1>But then what happens, Like I look, I would say,

0:08:28.720 --> 0:08:31.000
<v Speaker 1>you know, I don't deal in absolute sith do I

0:08:31.040 --> 0:08:34.240
<v Speaker 1>don't believe in that. I think that there's gray areas

0:08:34.240 --> 0:08:37.240
<v Speaker 1>and everything. But I think that you've got to respect

0:08:37.240 --> 0:08:41.080
<v Speaker 1>yourself when people don't and see and read for what

0:08:41.160 --> 0:08:41.520
<v Speaker 1>it was.

0:08:42.000 --> 0:08:44.480
<v Speaker 2>Okay, so you're saying, don't go on the day. No,

0:08:44.840 --> 0:08:49.839
<v Speaker 2>I'm saying, oh, it's so hard, Like like, if I'm

0:08:49.840 --> 0:08:52.559
<v Speaker 2>being honest with myself, would I give someone a second

0:08:52.640 --> 0:08:56.400
<v Speaker 2>chance after that? Probably not? Probably not?

0:08:56.679 --> 0:09:04.040
<v Speaker 1>You're single. He has long hair all tamped there, exactly

0:09:04.120 --> 0:09:07.559
<v Speaker 1>your exactly your flavor, and you're like, go on there,

0:09:08.800 --> 0:09:12.160
<v Speaker 1>I mean, look, he's clearly unavailable emotionally.

0:09:12.800 --> 0:09:14.880
<v Speaker 2>Do you reckon? That's what that means. Yeah, so he

0:09:14.960 --> 0:09:15.840
<v Speaker 2>didn't just fall asleep.

0:09:16.440 --> 0:09:18.400
<v Speaker 1>He probably did fall asleep, but you're not. You're not

0:09:18.640 --> 0:09:20.959
<v Speaker 1>available to someone. If you're falling asleep before first day.

0:09:21.080 --> 0:09:22.599
<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry, you're not setting.

0:09:22.320 --> 0:09:24.040
<v Speaker 2>It awe, but I accidentally fell asleep.

0:09:24.520 --> 0:09:25.720
<v Speaker 1>No, not if I have plans?

0:09:26.120 --> 0:09:30.439
<v Speaker 2>True? Actually no, okay, don't go on the day. I

0:09:30.480 --> 0:09:30.800
<v Speaker 2>don't know.

0:09:32.240 --> 0:09:33.079
<v Speaker 1>I'm so torn.

0:09:33.400 --> 0:09:36.880
<v Speaker 2>The empathetics side of thathetic, yeah, because I'm pregnant, and

0:09:38.280 --> 0:09:38.560
<v Speaker 2>you know.

0:09:38.720 --> 0:09:41.599
<v Speaker 1>Me, I am very I don't deal in absolute so

0:09:41.640 --> 0:09:43.920
<v Speaker 1>I'm very empathetic. I do think, but I think like

0:09:44.040 --> 0:09:44.960
<v Speaker 1>you've got to take it for what.

0:09:45.040 --> 0:09:48.559
<v Speaker 2>It is Yeah. It's the only reason why I think

0:09:48.600 --> 0:09:51.640
<v Speaker 2>I'm like dabbling with the idea is because, like she

0:09:51.800 --> 0:09:54.120
<v Speaker 2>said that, they really got along and they had a

0:09:54.160 --> 0:09:59.040
<v Speaker 2>lot in common. So then I'm like, do you, well,

0:09:59.640 --> 0:10:01.440
<v Speaker 2>you know what, into a fork in the road and then.

0:10:01.480 --> 0:10:03.959
<v Speaker 1>Say for the plot, for the plot, go do it

0:10:04.000 --> 0:10:04.959
<v Speaker 1>and let us know how you go.

0:10:05.720 --> 0:10:08.839
<v Speaker 2>But he's on strike one and he's distract to it.

0:10:08.880 --> 0:10:11.439
<v Speaker 1>He's out a relationship.

0:10:12.720 --> 0:10:15.080
<v Speaker 2>Okay, guys, that's all we have time for. I'm currently

0:10:15.120 --> 0:10:18.400
<v Speaker 2>on maternity leave. I will be back very soon. We

0:10:18.559 --> 0:10:21.480
<v Speaker 2>appreciate all of the love on our socials and also

0:10:21.600 --> 0:10:25.600
<v Speaker 2>head to our Facebook group to continue the conversation until

0:10:25.679 --> 0:10:26.079
<v Speaker 2>next time.

0:10:26.280 --> 0:10:27.040
<v Speaker 1>Bye.