1 00:00:05,881 --> 00:00:07,281 Speaker 1: Apodjay production. 2 00:00:10,121 --> 00:00:13,521 Speaker 2: We begin today by acknowledging the traditional custodians of the 3 00:00:13,601 --> 00:00:16,401 Speaker 2: land on which we gather today and pay our respects 4 00:00:16,481 --> 00:00:19,641 Speaker 2: to their elders past and present. We extend that respect 5 00:00:19,761 --> 00:00:23,681 Speaker 2: to Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people's here today. 6 00:00:25,081 --> 00:00:28,801 Speaker 3: Welcome to the Grow and Glow Podcast. I'm ashy, I'm Kiara. 7 00:00:28,961 --> 00:00:31,321 Speaker 3: This is a podcast where we learn, laugh, and level 8 00:00:31,401 --> 00:00:31,841 Speaker 3: up together. 9 00:00:32,120 --> 00:00:33,121 Speaker 4: Let's go deep, let. 10 00:00:33,081 --> 00:00:36,161 Speaker 3: The emotions flow, and find the lessons to grow and Glow. 11 00:00:36,521 --> 00:00:38,321 Speaker 3: Nothing is off the table with Grow and Glow and 12 00:00:38,361 --> 00:00:44,801 Speaker 3: we're here to be your expander. Hi guys, welcome to 13 00:00:44,840 --> 00:00:45,601 Speaker 3: Grow and Glow. 14 00:00:45,921 --> 00:00:48,681 Speaker 4: We have got a special guest here today. So exciting. 15 00:00:48,721 --> 00:00:52,041 Speaker 3: We have got Chris, also known as Inside Out with Chris. 16 00:00:52,400 --> 00:00:56,041 Speaker 3: Chris is a master NLP practitioner and personal development coach 17 00:00:56,081 --> 00:00:58,401 Speaker 3: that is taking strides in the industry to help women 18 00:00:58,481 --> 00:01:01,721 Speaker 3: take radical responsibility of their lives, unlock their full potential, 19 00:01:01,761 --> 00:01:03,721 Speaker 3: and tap into their unconscious desires. 20 00:01:04,001 --> 00:01:08,361 Speaker 4: Beyond her incredible as a life coach, she's a devoted mum, stepmom, 21 00:01:08,601 --> 00:01:12,401 Speaker 4: and wife. Her unwavering passion for personal growth and authenticity 22 00:01:12,521 --> 00:01:15,440 Speaker 4: drives a commitment to her client's success and the ability 23 00:01:15,481 --> 00:01:19,000 Speaker 4: she has to deliver is bang on tangible information and 24 00:01:19,041 --> 00:01:21,600 Speaker 4: task to transform her client's lives in such a short 25 00:01:21,640 --> 00:01:24,961 Speaker 4: amount of time is single handly way everyone should experience 26 00:01:25,000 --> 00:01:29,681 Speaker 4: the world inside Chris vortex. That is me. And you're 27 00:01:29,721 --> 00:01:32,920 Speaker 4: a very busy person. You're a mom, you're a stepmom, 28 00:01:33,041 --> 00:01:35,881 Speaker 4: you're a life coach and our peace specialist. How do 29 00:01:35,881 --> 00:01:36,401 Speaker 4: you do it all? 30 00:01:36,601 --> 00:01:39,161 Speaker 1: I don't. That is the job. I actually don't. And 31 00:01:39,200 --> 00:01:41,721 Speaker 1: I think that's so important for women who are in business, 32 00:01:41,761 --> 00:01:43,601 Speaker 1: who are moms, who just need to lean into the 33 00:01:43,601 --> 00:01:45,560 Speaker 1: concept of you actually don't have to do it all 34 00:01:45,640 --> 00:01:47,681 Speaker 1: to have it all. You do have it all, but 35 00:01:47,721 --> 00:01:49,521 Speaker 1: you don't do it all at once, right like never s. 36 00:01:50,601 --> 00:01:53,681 Speaker 4: Yeah, I absolutely love the way you've worked about So 37 00:01:53,721 --> 00:01:55,520 Speaker 4: tell us a little bit bit about yourself, curl. 38 00:01:55,681 --> 00:02:00,441 Speaker 1: So, I am a personal development coach, mindset, business, life, relationships, 39 00:02:00,641 --> 00:02:03,641 Speaker 1: everything in between. I've got my master's in NLP so 40 00:02:03,761 --> 00:02:08,041 Speaker 1: neurolinguistic program so near being the mind, linguistic being communication 41 00:02:08,201 --> 00:02:11,441 Speaker 1: and language, and then programming being our limited beliefs and 42 00:02:11,481 --> 00:02:13,960 Speaker 1: like they're programming right from childhood and teenagers and things 43 00:02:14,001 --> 00:02:16,681 Speaker 1: like that. I have my podcast Inside Out with Chris 44 00:02:16,761 --> 00:02:19,521 Speaker 1: I also have my two step daughters who are fourteen 45 00:02:19,561 --> 00:02:21,680 Speaker 1: and twelve, my little ones that are five and four, 46 00:02:21,680 --> 00:02:22,481 Speaker 1: and my husband, Steve. 47 00:02:23,441 --> 00:02:28,641 Speaker 4: Steve this is called Wow, your hands are full. And 48 00:02:28,841 --> 00:02:31,881 Speaker 4: with your coaching, is it one on one? Is it groups? 49 00:02:31,921 --> 00:02:34,641 Speaker 4: Is it online programs, is it a bit of everything? Yeah? 50 00:02:34,721 --> 00:02:37,641 Speaker 1: So I love one on one. I find like close 51 00:02:37,680 --> 00:02:43,121 Speaker 1: proximity is where the biggest transformative results can happen. Like, 52 00:02:43,201 --> 00:02:47,481 Speaker 1: I'm a coach that really doesn't allow anything to go unturned, 53 00:02:47,520 --> 00:02:49,601 Speaker 1: So I'm like, I will call it as I see it. 54 00:02:49,641 --> 00:02:52,401 Speaker 1: I'm very intuitive with how I operate. I want women 55 00:02:52,441 --> 00:02:55,441 Speaker 1: to feel safe and in a judgment free zone. Right 56 00:02:55,481 --> 00:02:57,240 Speaker 1: at the same time, I'll call you on your shit, 57 00:02:57,361 --> 00:02:59,281 Speaker 1: like we're not here to play small. We're here to 58 00:02:59,321 --> 00:02:59,721 Speaker 1: go all in. 59 00:02:59,841 --> 00:03:02,240 Speaker 4: You're not there to tiptoe around things. We're not straight 60 00:03:02,281 --> 00:03:02,521 Speaker 4: to it. 61 00:03:02,721 --> 00:03:04,280 Speaker 1: That's it, and one on one's the only way to 62 00:03:04,321 --> 00:03:04,761 Speaker 1: kind of do that. 63 00:03:04,800 --> 00:03:07,401 Speaker 4: Other do you find you attract those clients in or 64 00:03:07,761 --> 00:03:09,520 Speaker 4: do you still get some that get quite triggered and 65 00:03:09,601 --> 00:03:10,841 Speaker 4: like scared. 66 00:03:10,601 --> 00:03:13,161 Speaker 1: If you're not triggered working with me, then like it's silly, that's. 67 00:03:13,761 --> 00:03:15,761 Speaker 3: The podcast, Or like if we don't trigger you, then 68 00:03:15,800 --> 00:03:18,001 Speaker 3: we're doing something like. 69 00:03:18,361 --> 00:03:22,121 Speaker 1: For me, I like to reframe it to activate it. 70 00:03:22,201 --> 00:03:24,641 Speaker 1: If I'm activating you, I'm going to get your results. 71 00:03:24,680 --> 00:03:26,681 Speaker 1: If you're not activated, let me know. Let's talk that out. 72 00:03:26,721 --> 00:03:28,561 Speaker 1: Let's unpack why you're not letting me do that. 73 00:03:29,641 --> 00:03:31,400 Speaker 4: It's almost like exercise too. It feel like if you 74 00:03:31,441 --> 00:03:32,721 Speaker 4: go to the gym and you walk out, you're like, oh, 75 00:03:32,800 --> 00:03:35,561 Speaker 4: that was a nice but you didn't work hard. Do 76 00:03:35,601 --> 00:03:37,881 Speaker 4: you want to be gassed and feeling burned and going wow, 77 00:03:37,921 --> 00:03:39,001 Speaker 4: I gave that one hundred percent. 78 00:03:39,121 --> 00:03:42,161 Speaker 1: Yeah, if I'm not sure I'm not doing enough, which 79 00:03:42,321 --> 00:03:44,880 Speaker 1: you know that one hundred percent mentality, I ton't want 80 00:03:44,881 --> 00:03:46,681 Speaker 1: that all the time for myself, Like, yes, the nervous 81 00:03:46,681 --> 00:03:48,801 Speaker 1: system needs us to slow down and we need to 82 00:03:48,841 --> 00:03:51,401 Speaker 1: do our Yoga or polity is a different style of movement. 83 00:03:51,441 --> 00:03:53,081 Speaker 1: Right when we need a walk, let's go for the walk. 84 00:03:53,121 --> 00:03:55,161 Speaker 1: We know when we connect with our bodies what we need. 85 00:03:55,481 --> 00:03:57,041 Speaker 1: But I think that you know you're going in for 86 00:03:57,041 --> 00:03:59,681 Speaker 1: a high intensity workout, do the workout hundred percent. 87 00:04:00,001 --> 00:04:00,841 Speaker 4: Same thing with coaching. 88 00:04:00,921 --> 00:04:02,521 Speaker 3: You're going in for a one on one you want 89 00:04:02,521 --> 00:04:04,681 Speaker 3: to get out you can that's. 90 00:04:04,521 --> 00:04:06,881 Speaker 4: What you're paying for your pain to really dig deep 91 00:04:06,921 --> 00:04:08,681 Speaker 4: and get to know yourself and do the work that 92 00:04:08,841 --> 00:04:11,201 Speaker 4: you kind can't do by yourself. You're really tapping into 93 00:04:11,241 --> 00:04:14,201 Speaker 4: that unconscious Can we talk a little bit more about that, actually, 94 00:04:14,201 --> 00:04:16,481 Speaker 4: because you know that's something you really specialize and help 95 00:04:16,521 --> 00:04:18,361 Speaker 4: them with. What is the unconscious mind? 96 00:04:18,601 --> 00:04:21,440 Speaker 1: So we operate from our unconscious mind ninety five percent 97 00:04:21,440 --> 00:04:24,721 Speaker 1: of the time. Why we do it, honestly, is life changing. 98 00:04:24,761 --> 00:04:26,921 Speaker 1: Once you become aware of that, you cannot unsee that. 99 00:04:27,561 --> 00:04:29,760 Speaker 1: So the things you do, the conversations that you have, 100 00:04:29,801 --> 00:04:32,721 Speaker 1: the decisions you make, the limitations you create, they're all 101 00:04:32,761 --> 00:04:36,241 Speaker 1: deeply embedded in your unconscious and you have fundamentally created 102 00:04:36,281 --> 00:04:39,801 Speaker 1: these limitations in your belief system between the ages of 103 00:04:39,880 --> 00:04:43,601 Speaker 1: zero and seven. And that's how imprint like. They are 104 00:04:43,681 --> 00:04:46,080 Speaker 1: important years. And look, I have no doubt my kids 105 00:04:46,121 --> 00:04:48,601 Speaker 1: will have limitations from me and all of our parents 106 00:04:48,601 --> 00:04:51,841 Speaker 1: create them, right, It's not something that you can really avoid. 107 00:04:51,961 --> 00:04:54,921 Speaker 1: But at the same time, we can change the way 108 00:04:54,921 --> 00:04:58,161 Speaker 1: that we feel about ourselves by changing our limiting beliefs 109 00:04:58,161 --> 00:04:59,760 Speaker 1: and releasing the ones that are holding us back. 110 00:05:00,001 --> 00:05:01,721 Speaker 4: So how do you do that with your clients? 111 00:05:01,721 --> 00:05:04,521 Speaker 1: So with my clients in NLP, we utilize a process 112 00:05:04,521 --> 00:05:07,440 Speaker 1: called emotional change therapy. So what that is. It's a 113 00:05:07,481 --> 00:05:11,321 Speaker 1: really powerful visualization process. It releases stagnant trauma and it 114 00:05:11,361 --> 00:05:14,241 Speaker 1: can also release limiting beliefs. So the way that it 115 00:05:14,320 --> 00:05:17,760 Speaker 1: feels is almost like meditation. It's soft, it's not nasty 116 00:05:17,880 --> 00:05:20,520 Speaker 1: or harsh or altering their state, Yeah, and takes you 117 00:05:20,561 --> 00:05:22,080 Speaker 1: on a bit of a journey and you get to 118 00:05:22,081 --> 00:05:24,320 Speaker 1: release anything that's holding you back. We would start with 119 00:05:24,401 --> 00:05:29,161 Speaker 1: the major limiting beliefs around particular emotions like anger, sadness, 120 00:05:29,361 --> 00:05:32,041 Speaker 1: your fear, and then we can get really specific and 121 00:05:32,081 --> 00:05:34,760 Speaker 1: talk about fear of judgment, not good enough, fear of success, 122 00:05:34,801 --> 00:05:37,001 Speaker 1: fear of failure. Like, we can explore those things too, 123 00:05:37,440 --> 00:05:40,280 Speaker 1: and that has been transformative for my clients. 124 00:05:40,561 --> 00:05:42,561 Speaker 3: How long are they fall like when you do like 125 00:05:42,601 --> 00:05:44,681 Speaker 3: the meditation type thing, Yeah. 126 00:05:45,081 --> 00:05:47,801 Speaker 1: Act can be about twenty minutes depending. 127 00:05:47,601 --> 00:05:50,200 Speaker 4: Y're okay? Cool? Yeah. Would you say that's one of 128 00:05:50,241 --> 00:05:52,841 Speaker 4: your main tools that you use with every single client 129 00:05:53,081 --> 00:05:54,521 Speaker 4: or just like one of the many. 130 00:05:54,401 --> 00:05:57,001 Speaker 1: Yeah, No, it definitely is, because it's so powerful. It's 131 00:05:57,081 --> 00:05:59,481 Speaker 1: like why did I do anything else beforehand? Kind of thing. 132 00:05:59,481 --> 00:06:01,641 Speaker 4: That's how it feels the first session straight up, you're 133 00:06:01,641 --> 00:06:02,241 Speaker 4: into doing. 134 00:06:02,121 --> 00:06:03,801 Speaker 1: Tho you need to be ready. The client needs to 135 00:06:03,801 --> 00:06:05,640 Speaker 1: be ready, right, So you need to be body and 136 00:06:05,681 --> 00:06:08,121 Speaker 1: you need to be really available to open up to 137 00:06:08,121 --> 00:06:10,801 Speaker 1: the unconscious because a lot of thoughts and feelings will 138 00:06:10,801 --> 00:06:13,121 Speaker 1: play out that you might not have been aware of, right, 139 00:06:13,161 --> 00:06:15,200 Speaker 1: and they're deeply better, So like little memories might pop 140 00:06:15,241 --> 00:06:16,801 Speaker 1: off and things like that. So we'll explore that a 141 00:06:16,841 --> 00:06:19,400 Speaker 1: little bit as well. But yeah, it's a life traging 142 00:06:19,481 --> 00:06:23,561 Speaker 1: procedure and process that I've experienced myself, and that's why 143 00:06:23,601 --> 00:06:25,200 Speaker 1: I know that it's the most beneficial things for my 144 00:06:25,241 --> 00:06:27,241 Speaker 1: clients because I've done it and I've seen the results 145 00:06:27,241 --> 00:06:30,001 Speaker 1: in my own healing journey and self discovery. So yeah, 146 00:06:30,041 --> 00:06:30,321 Speaker 1: a lot. 147 00:06:30,281 --> 00:06:32,521 Speaker 4: Of people in denial that they're conscious and they're living 148 00:06:32,601 --> 00:06:33,241 Speaker 4: very consciously. 149 00:06:33,721 --> 00:06:35,640 Speaker 1: Some things that come up, and this is what I 150 00:06:35,681 --> 00:06:38,320 Speaker 1: preframe and start. I'm like anything that comes up. Example, 151 00:06:38,361 --> 00:06:40,521 Speaker 1: if you want to say frog, say frog, I don't 152 00:06:40,521 --> 00:06:42,960 Speaker 1: care what the word is, it's going to make sense, 153 00:06:43,081 --> 00:06:45,361 Speaker 1: Like it'll make sense eventually. It's kind of like doesn't 154 00:06:45,361 --> 00:06:46,721 Speaker 1: make sense to them why they're saying it, so they'll 155 00:06:46,801 --> 00:06:50,200 Speaker 1: question themselves. But once it's embedded that no, it's actually 156 00:06:50,241 --> 00:06:52,200 Speaker 1: safe to say whatever words are coming to mind, Like 157 00:06:52,241 --> 00:06:54,880 Speaker 1: that's your own conscious, trust the process, stay with me 158 00:06:54,921 --> 00:06:57,081 Speaker 1: here kind of thing. It's really safe. It's amazing. 159 00:06:57,201 --> 00:06:59,161 Speaker 4: Yeah, your sessions around an. 160 00:06:59,041 --> 00:07:01,841 Speaker 1: Hour fifty minutes. Yeah, it's enough. We get where we 161 00:07:01,880 --> 00:07:03,881 Speaker 1: need to be every time. And like, I'm very intuitive 162 00:07:03,880 --> 00:07:05,361 Speaker 1: with how the session is going to go. So in 163 00:07:05,401 --> 00:07:08,080 Speaker 1: some instances, like I'll jump onto do AC ten, I'm like, 164 00:07:08,361 --> 00:07:08,881 Speaker 1: you don't need. 165 00:07:08,801 --> 00:07:10,121 Speaker 4: That today, we're going to explore this. 166 00:07:10,161 --> 00:07:11,280 Speaker 1: We're going to unpack this area. 167 00:07:11,401 --> 00:07:13,521 Speaker 4: I think it's important coaches do that. Brother saying he 168 00:07:13,561 --> 00:07:16,361 Speaker 4: does that too, Like sometimes he'll go into a session 169 00:07:16,401 --> 00:07:18,081 Speaker 4: and he has no idea how he's going to help them, 170 00:07:18,081 --> 00:07:19,521 Speaker 4: because it's like what you're feeling on the day, what 171 00:07:19,521 --> 00:07:21,401 Speaker 4: you're struggling with, and then he'll navigate it from there. 172 00:07:21,401 --> 00:07:23,601 Speaker 4: And I just say that intuitive healing is so beautiful. 173 00:07:23,761 --> 00:07:26,321 Speaker 1: Yeah, absolutely agree. Could not agree more. 174 00:07:26,441 --> 00:07:29,081 Speaker 4: And with your demographic or what kind of women are 175 00:07:29,081 --> 00:07:30,961 Speaker 4: you working with or what are you finding they're struggling 176 00:07:31,041 --> 00:07:33,561 Speaker 4: with most in today's society, because we obviously have a podcast, 177 00:07:33,601 --> 00:07:35,681 Speaker 4: there is a lot of mums. We find there's a 178 00:07:35,681 --> 00:07:38,241 Speaker 4: lot of anxiety, a lot of relationship troubles, a lot 179 00:07:38,241 --> 00:07:40,401 Speaker 4: of self worth issues. What do you find women are 180 00:07:40,401 --> 00:07:41,401 Speaker 4: struggling with most when they. 181 00:07:41,361 --> 00:07:43,721 Speaker 1: Come to you one hundred percent self worth. It does 182 00:07:43,801 --> 00:07:46,801 Speaker 1: play out. But I also feel that for the high 183 00:07:46,881 --> 00:07:49,561 Speaker 1: level women that I do work with, they mostly have 184 00:07:49,761 --> 00:07:51,721 Speaker 1: and this is not all of them. Their mums or 185 00:07:51,761 --> 00:07:53,921 Speaker 1: their business owners and they're doing the mom thing as well, 186 00:07:54,361 --> 00:07:57,921 Speaker 1: or they're having issues in their relationship, but they are 187 00:07:57,961 --> 00:07:58,921 Speaker 1: stuck in victimhood. 188 00:07:59,241 --> 00:08:00,881 Speaker 4: Oh interesting, which. 189 00:08:01,121 --> 00:08:04,841 Speaker 1: It's a self worthing of course, but the victimhood mentality. 190 00:08:05,081 --> 00:08:08,801 Speaker 1: And I'm like, if we start taking responsibility of self 191 00:08:09,321 --> 00:08:11,601 Speaker 1: in all areas, let's see what magic happens. 192 00:08:11,641 --> 00:08:15,361 Speaker 4: That's life changing, isn't it? Mentality? And much to just 193 00:08:15,361 --> 00:08:16,001 Speaker 4: holds you back. 194 00:08:16,241 --> 00:08:19,801 Speaker 1: Radical responsibility is the game changer, Like if you can 195 00:08:19,921 --> 00:08:24,601 Speaker 1: take ownership for everything in your life, like specifically, once 196 00:08:24,641 --> 00:08:27,561 Speaker 1: you start having radical responsibility and you make or adopt 197 00:08:27,601 --> 00:08:30,121 Speaker 1: the mindset of it's always on me, no matter what, 198 00:08:30,161 --> 00:08:31,601 Speaker 1: it's on me. If I'm late for work, it's on me. 199 00:08:31,641 --> 00:08:33,761 Speaker 1: If I'm lated to this, it's on me. What did 200 00:08:33,801 --> 00:08:35,641 Speaker 1: you do in the morning that made you late? Like, 201 00:08:36,201 --> 00:08:39,121 Speaker 1: you can't blame you can't blame the kids, you can't 202 00:08:39,121 --> 00:08:41,121 Speaker 1: blame your husband not helping you in the house. More 203 00:08:41,161 --> 00:08:43,961 Speaker 1: like you actually need to take responsibility for being lame 204 00:08:43,961 --> 00:08:45,721 Speaker 1: and be like, okay, this is on me. Apologize for 205 00:08:45,721 --> 00:08:48,481 Speaker 1: your behavior to whoever you let down, rather than being like, 206 00:08:48,521 --> 00:08:50,721 Speaker 1: oh sorry, there was just so much traffic, no ship, 207 00:08:50,761 --> 00:08:52,721 Speaker 1: there's traffic every morning. So true. 208 00:08:54,441 --> 00:08:56,281 Speaker 4: And you think about it, if your partners always blaming you, 209 00:08:56,281 --> 00:08:58,881 Speaker 4: has that feels. But if your partner's always taken responsibility, 210 00:08:58,921 --> 00:09:01,281 Speaker 4: it's such a trait that I admire and people that's 211 00:09:01,321 --> 00:09:01,721 Speaker 4: really love. 212 00:09:02,001 --> 00:09:02,201 Speaker 1: Yeah. 213 00:09:02,361 --> 00:09:04,321 Speaker 4: Yeah, It's not an easy thing for most people to do. 214 00:09:04,361 --> 00:09:06,201 Speaker 3: It's a been unco comfortable for I think a lot 215 00:09:06,201 --> 00:09:08,121 Speaker 3: of people to be like I am wrong or it's 216 00:09:08,201 --> 00:09:08,761 Speaker 3: my fault. 217 00:09:08,841 --> 00:09:11,001 Speaker 4: It easier to just point the finger, right. 218 00:09:11,121 --> 00:09:15,241 Speaker 1: Vulnerability is your superpower. If you take ownership in all areas, 219 00:09:15,281 --> 00:09:18,281 Speaker 1: that means being sorry, That means being so self aware 220 00:09:18,281 --> 00:09:21,521 Speaker 1: that you own your shit. Vulnerability is your superpower. Just 221 00:09:21,601 --> 00:09:26,161 Speaker 1: let that happen. Then cultivat into your relationships, into your health. Like, 222 00:09:26,401 --> 00:09:28,321 Speaker 1: if you're not happy with yourself, what are you actually 223 00:09:28,361 --> 00:09:31,641 Speaker 1: doing about it? Right? Like I'm already just talking about it. Yeah. 224 00:09:31,681 --> 00:09:33,201 Speaker 4: I hear a lot of people say like, for you 225 00:09:33,241 --> 00:09:35,241 Speaker 4: to be vulnerable, you need to be in a safe environment. 226 00:09:35,241 --> 00:09:37,761 Speaker 4: With safe people. But I now think I would have 227 00:09:37,761 --> 00:09:39,361 Speaker 4: said this like six months ago. I now think it 228 00:09:39,401 --> 00:09:41,361 Speaker 4: takes a level of safety in my own body to 229 00:09:41,401 --> 00:09:43,721 Speaker 4: be vulnerable regardless of what anyone's going to say or 230 00:09:43,721 --> 00:09:46,521 Speaker 4: their reactions. I feel safe and sentered in my body. 231 00:09:46,641 --> 00:09:48,401 Speaker 4: I've got the strength to do it absolutely. 232 00:09:48,441 --> 00:09:50,681 Speaker 1: And that comes back to like writing responsibility again, what 233 00:09:50,681 --> 00:09:52,521 Speaker 1: are you doing to connect with your body? What are 234 00:09:52,521 --> 00:09:55,601 Speaker 1: you doing to support your nervous system a to anger 235 00:09:55,641 --> 00:09:58,441 Speaker 1: into feeling grounded, and like, if you're not doing those things, 236 00:09:58,441 --> 00:10:00,841 Speaker 1: you're gonna feel disregulated. Things are gonna play out leaky 237 00:10:00,921 --> 00:10:03,521 Speaker 1: like cool behavior plays out. And if I'm taking ownership 238 00:10:03,521 --> 00:10:04,721 Speaker 1: of that, well it's on you. 239 00:10:05,041 --> 00:10:06,161 Speaker 4: Thank you for the work that you do. When I 240 00:10:06,161 --> 00:10:08,121 Speaker 4: said this to Bright as well, like any life coaches, 241 00:10:08,161 --> 00:10:10,281 Speaker 4: because I would not be who I am and where 242 00:10:10,321 --> 00:10:12,801 Speaker 4: I am today without having a life coach. I always 243 00:10:13,041 --> 00:10:15,081 Speaker 4: have had one for the last ten years, and I've 244 00:10:15,081 --> 00:10:17,081 Speaker 4: swopped and changed depending on what I've needed in my 245 00:10:17,121 --> 00:10:19,401 Speaker 4: life at that moment. But the work you do and 246 00:10:19,441 --> 00:10:22,081 Speaker 4: how much you can transform someone's life just by being 247 00:10:22,081 --> 00:10:23,681 Speaker 4: there for them, it's freaking incredible. 248 00:10:23,881 --> 00:10:27,801 Speaker 1: Yeah, thank you. I went through really big experiences having 249 00:10:27,801 --> 00:10:29,801 Speaker 1: worked with coaches myself as well and mentors over the 250 00:10:29,881 --> 00:10:32,641 Speaker 1: last decade. And you know, prior to that, it was 251 00:10:32,761 --> 00:10:35,601 Speaker 1: you know, the teenage years of whatever issues I was 252 00:10:35,641 --> 00:10:38,681 Speaker 1: going through back then and working with psychologists or counselors, 253 00:10:38,681 --> 00:10:41,721 Speaker 1: and what I experienced was that they were really governed 254 00:10:41,761 --> 00:10:44,561 Speaker 1: by a body, right, they were governed by the time 255 00:10:44,601 --> 00:10:47,481 Speaker 1: that we had together and what they could and couldn't say. 256 00:10:47,761 --> 00:10:51,401 Speaker 1: And with the work that I do, I give my 257 00:10:51,401 --> 00:10:53,401 Speaker 1: clients access to me via like a messaging app, so 258 00:10:53,441 --> 00:10:56,481 Speaker 1: outside of the session, you have support. You've got me 259 00:10:56,601 --> 00:10:58,521 Speaker 1: for the time we work together, Like I've got you 260 00:10:58,561 --> 00:11:00,121 Speaker 1: and you've got me. I'm all in on you if 261 00:11:00,161 --> 00:11:03,001 Speaker 1: you're all in on you, right, like we utilize that 262 00:11:03,081 --> 00:11:05,001 Speaker 1: because I would walk out of a session with account. 263 00:11:05,601 --> 00:11:08,161 Speaker 1: I remember being about sixteen, and I'm hysterical. We're just 264 00:11:08,161 --> 00:11:10,561 Speaker 1: like I'm back some big things and I walked out 265 00:11:10,561 --> 00:11:11,401 Speaker 1: and I had to go home. 266 00:11:11,521 --> 00:11:13,401 Speaker 4: Yeah, and no one to talk to. Now Now what 267 00:11:13,441 --> 00:11:13,841 Speaker 4: do I do? 268 00:11:14,561 --> 00:11:16,601 Speaker 1: What do you mean? I'm so sad? Like how do 269 00:11:16,641 --> 00:11:18,961 Speaker 1: I be happy? Now? Yeah? And I never want anyone 270 00:11:18,961 --> 00:11:19,361 Speaker 1: to leave me. 271 00:11:19,361 --> 00:11:20,721 Speaker 4: For So if they do a session with you and 272 00:11:20,761 --> 00:11:23,921 Speaker 4: then three days later they get activated or triggered or 273 00:11:23,921 --> 00:11:27,001 Speaker 4: something in their relationship with something work happens, they're like, hey, Chris, 274 00:11:27,241 --> 00:11:28,281 Speaker 4: what do I do with this? 275 00:11:28,401 --> 00:11:29,001 Speaker 1: Absolutely? 276 00:11:29,041 --> 00:11:32,161 Speaker 4: We sometimes swear on here please do you're you know, 277 00:11:32,201 --> 00:11:34,241 Speaker 4: within your boundaries. You're then like, I've got you, Okay, 278 00:11:34,321 --> 00:11:35,201 Speaker 4: this is what we're going to do. 279 00:11:35,361 --> 00:11:38,361 Speaker 1: Yeah. Absolutely, Like I get up pretty early for fifteen, 280 00:11:38,521 --> 00:11:40,841 Speaker 1: so I will see any messages overnight. I've got like 281 00:11:40,881 --> 00:11:42,601 Speaker 1: forty five minutes before I start at the gym. So 282 00:11:42,881 --> 00:11:45,121 Speaker 1: I'm happy to get back to people. I want them 283 00:11:45,161 --> 00:11:47,881 Speaker 1: to be held and feel safe and feel that they 284 00:11:48,001 --> 00:11:49,881 Speaker 1: have someone to lean on, because a lot of the time, 285 00:11:50,281 --> 00:11:53,121 Speaker 1: you know, if it's people in relationships, they don't feel 286 00:11:53,121 --> 00:11:55,201 Speaker 1: like this work is something they can share vulnerably yet 287 00:11:55,201 --> 00:11:57,801 Speaker 1: and they're not ready, and even in friendship groups because 288 00:11:57,801 --> 00:12:00,281 Speaker 1: it's still something like there's the self aware girls and 289 00:12:00,321 --> 00:12:01,961 Speaker 1: the girls that are happy not to be self aware. 290 00:12:02,121 --> 00:12:04,441 Speaker 1: That's cool, you're not there yet, and that's absolutely fine 291 00:12:04,441 --> 00:12:06,201 Speaker 1: if that's not you know, an experience that you want 292 00:12:06,281 --> 00:12:09,481 Speaker 1: right now. But these women sometimes feel like they can't 293 00:12:09,521 --> 00:12:12,961 Speaker 1: be open about what they're experiencing or transcending. So that's 294 00:12:12,961 --> 00:12:14,641 Speaker 1: where I come in and they've got me in that time, 295 00:12:14,761 --> 00:12:17,401 Speaker 1: and we bounce off each other just with voice notes, 296 00:12:17,441 --> 00:12:19,201 Speaker 1: and we can get from A to B or A 297 00:12:19,281 --> 00:12:22,561 Speaker 1: to Z. Whatever happens very quickly because it's like, okay, 298 00:12:22,681 --> 00:12:24,561 Speaker 1: what did you do about it? Or you know, an 299 00:12:24,561 --> 00:12:27,961 Speaker 1: example could be I've woken up with really bad anxiety. 300 00:12:28,001 --> 00:12:30,641 Speaker 1: My heart's raising, my stomach feels really sick, and I'm like, okay, 301 00:12:30,681 --> 00:12:32,281 Speaker 1: what times you go to bed? Great, we're on your 302 00:12:32,281 --> 00:12:35,321 Speaker 1: phone before bed? Right, did you eat tonight? How much 303 00:12:35,361 --> 00:12:37,281 Speaker 1: water did you have yesterday? Like let's take it back 304 00:12:37,321 --> 00:12:39,761 Speaker 1: to basics, and then they'll be really honest and they're like, oh, 305 00:12:39,801 --> 00:12:41,441 Speaker 1: I didn't have any water or I. 306 00:12:41,401 --> 00:12:42,281 Speaker 4: Was on my phone. 307 00:12:42,801 --> 00:12:47,401 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like okay. So the word emotion is linguistically speaking, 308 00:12:47,521 --> 00:12:50,641 Speaker 1: energy in motion. So it's like, let's get up, let's 309 00:12:50,681 --> 00:12:52,801 Speaker 1: move your body. That can just be sitting outside with 310 00:12:52,841 --> 00:12:55,201 Speaker 1: a cup of tea watching the sun rise. That can 311 00:12:55,241 --> 00:12:57,001 Speaker 1: be just laying on the ground and stretching. I don't 312 00:12:57,001 --> 00:12:58,681 Speaker 1: care what it is. Just get up and let's move 313 00:12:58,721 --> 00:13:00,681 Speaker 1: through the energy that's sitting within you, and then we 314 00:13:00,721 --> 00:13:03,161 Speaker 1: can see how you feel after that. And nine out 315 00:13:03,161 --> 00:13:05,001 Speaker 1: of ten times they're like, oh I I'm okay now, 316 00:13:05,081 --> 00:13:05,321 Speaker 1: thank you. 317 00:13:05,361 --> 00:13:07,081 Speaker 4: But imagine if they waited two weeks until the next 318 00:13:07,121 --> 00:13:10,961 Speaker 4: appointment with you. All that time they've just carried that anxiety. Yeah, 319 00:13:11,001 --> 00:13:12,641 Speaker 4: I know for me too, Like I just feel like 320 00:13:12,761 --> 00:13:14,761 Speaker 4: I grew up in a household that wasn't very safe. 321 00:13:14,761 --> 00:13:16,681 Speaker 4: So having a life coach that I have access to, 322 00:13:16,721 --> 00:13:18,641 Speaker 4: like say, like what you do, it gives me that 323 00:13:18,681 --> 00:13:21,041 Speaker 4: sense of security so I can continue the work. I 324 00:13:21,041 --> 00:13:24,281 Speaker 4: don't have to park it until my next appointment. So valuable. 325 00:13:24,401 --> 00:13:27,161 Speaker 1: Oh absolutely, It's been, you know, life changing for my 326 00:13:27,201 --> 00:13:29,561 Speaker 1: own healing journey. So I just think that I want 327 00:13:29,561 --> 00:13:31,961 Speaker 1: to give that to every single woman that I can 328 00:13:32,361 --> 00:13:34,081 Speaker 1: and make as much impact with that as I can, 329 00:13:34,121 --> 00:13:37,041 Speaker 1: because like you don't know until you know. I wish 330 00:13:37,081 --> 00:13:39,081 Speaker 1: my mum had a life coach when I was a kid. 331 00:13:39,121 --> 00:13:42,441 Speaker 1: I wish my Arnie's got to experience, you know, thriving 332 00:13:42,521 --> 00:13:44,681 Speaker 1: lives like I'm doing at the moment and just feeling 333 00:13:44,761 --> 00:13:47,521 Speaker 1: great all the time. Like imagine if you felt awesome 334 00:13:47,561 --> 00:13:48,001 Speaker 1: all the time. 335 00:13:48,041 --> 00:13:49,681 Speaker 4: I know, and it's possible, like you kind of have 336 00:13:49,801 --> 00:13:50,401 Speaker 4: access to that. 337 00:13:50,641 --> 00:13:53,841 Speaker 1: Yeah, And like vibrational frequency wise, like being neutral in 338 00:13:53,881 --> 00:13:56,961 Speaker 1: the terms of emotion is something that everyone could just 339 00:13:57,041 --> 00:13:59,441 Speaker 1: adopt and that will be life changing as well, So 340 00:13:59,481 --> 00:14:01,761 Speaker 1: that if you're experiencing a low vibe or a low 341 00:14:01,761 --> 00:14:05,321 Speaker 1: grade frequency where it's like anger, jealousy, hate, whatever, you 342 00:14:05,361 --> 00:14:07,481 Speaker 1: can come back to neutrality really quickly. And that's what 343 00:14:07,561 --> 00:14:09,601 Speaker 1: I can do. I'm dysregulating and I come back. It's 344 00:14:09,641 --> 00:14:11,841 Speaker 1: like thirty seconds. I can do the work, and I'm like, Okay, 345 00:14:11,841 --> 00:14:12,201 Speaker 1: I'm cool. 346 00:14:12,281 --> 00:14:13,641 Speaker 4: Not let it drag on the whole way. 347 00:14:14,001 --> 00:14:15,921 Speaker 1: Yeah, let's not go back and forth text messages or 348 00:14:15,961 --> 00:14:18,361 Speaker 1: writing down everything I want to say and being strategic 349 00:14:18,761 --> 00:14:21,281 Speaker 1: or like stalking someone's page. Like that's all behavior in 350 00:14:21,321 --> 00:14:23,121 Speaker 1: my opinion, So I don't want to do that for 351 00:14:23,201 --> 00:14:24,161 Speaker 1: myself behavior. 352 00:14:27,081 --> 00:14:27,161 Speaker 4: Ye. 353 00:14:27,761 --> 00:14:30,041 Speaker 3: So what you saw as well, Chris, is that you 354 00:14:30,081 --> 00:14:33,081 Speaker 3: speak a lot about emotional intelligence. Actually know, I haven't 355 00:14:33,081 --> 00:14:35,681 Speaker 3: really done much work around this, and we're really intrigued 356 00:14:35,721 --> 00:14:37,281 Speaker 3: taut to you a little bit about that too. 357 00:14:37,361 --> 00:14:39,521 Speaker 4: This is something I say my son is he's very 358 00:14:39,521 --> 00:14:42,081 Speaker 4: emotionally intelligent. Yes, and I think he's very aware of 359 00:14:42,121 --> 00:14:44,521 Speaker 4: his emotions. He can articulate his emotions really well. His 360 00:14:44,561 --> 00:14:46,801 Speaker 4: teacher says it as well. But yeah, when I read that, 361 00:14:46,801 --> 00:14:48,521 Speaker 4: that's something you specialize, and I'm like, oh my gosh, 362 00:14:48,561 --> 00:14:49,281 Speaker 4: I need to know more. 363 00:14:49,401 --> 00:14:52,201 Speaker 1: I think that it's very much girls are both emotionally 364 00:14:52,201 --> 00:14:55,921 Speaker 1: intelligent people. Like that's self awareness, it's writing, corresponsibility, it's 365 00:14:56,761 --> 00:14:59,281 Speaker 1: personal growth. It's a growth mindset. So in all of 366 00:14:59,281 --> 00:15:01,281 Speaker 1: the schools at the moment, they're really teaching kids to 367 00:15:01,361 --> 00:15:03,841 Speaker 1: have a growth mindset and utilize this language a lot. 368 00:15:03,881 --> 00:15:05,681 Speaker 1: And I think it kind of maps to what emotional 369 00:15:05,761 --> 00:15:09,161 Speaker 1: intelligence actually is. It's essentially a label on self development 370 00:15:09,161 --> 00:15:12,761 Speaker 1: and self awareness and growth. Right. It's being able to 371 00:15:13,281 --> 00:15:17,361 Speaker 1: manage your own emotional state at any given moment, not 372 00:15:17,401 --> 00:15:20,601 Speaker 1: bever reactive, not have major leaky behaviors in response like 373 00:15:20,601 --> 00:15:25,161 Speaker 1: what we just said, and being aware of other people's 374 00:15:25,241 --> 00:15:28,881 Speaker 1: behaviors and emotions and thought processes and perspectives and their 375 00:15:28,881 --> 00:15:31,961 Speaker 1: projections right right, And it's like, oh, you can be 376 00:15:32,001 --> 00:15:33,841 Speaker 1: projecting that, but I'm not going to hold that in 377 00:15:33,881 --> 00:15:34,321 Speaker 1: my body. 378 00:15:34,561 --> 00:15:36,561 Speaker 3: Yeah, because really that's like cool thinking about as well, 379 00:15:36,561 --> 00:15:38,681 Speaker 3: like how do you go about, you know, being surrounded 380 00:15:38,721 --> 00:15:41,401 Speaker 3: by other people who might not be so emotional intelligent 381 00:15:41,441 --> 00:15:43,481 Speaker 3: and do you have any tips for handling. 382 00:15:43,521 --> 00:15:46,241 Speaker 4: People like it in your Yeah, people. 383 00:15:46,041 --> 00:15:47,761 Speaker 1: Are doing the best with the tools they have at 384 00:15:47,761 --> 00:15:52,841 Speaker 1: that time. That's the first lesson compassion. Secondly, all behavior 385 00:15:52,921 --> 00:15:55,481 Speaker 1: is changeable. If they're open to it, you can share 386 00:15:55,481 --> 00:15:57,721 Speaker 1: how you can support them or that there's options to 387 00:15:57,841 --> 00:16:02,281 Speaker 1: change how they feel. And Thirdly, it's just about not 388 00:16:02,401 --> 00:16:05,361 Speaker 1: taking it on as your own, taking your personally. It's 389 00:16:05,441 --> 00:16:09,001 Speaker 1: not you the fact that they are reactive or explosive. 390 00:16:09,121 --> 00:16:11,841 Speaker 1: Let's say a woman or a man is reactive or 391 00:16:11,841 --> 00:16:13,881 Speaker 1: explosive in their behavior towards you around something that they 392 00:16:13,961 --> 00:16:16,481 Speaker 1: didn't like the reason that they're behaving that way is 393 00:16:16,481 --> 00:16:19,481 Speaker 1: because they don't actually have self worth deep down. So 394 00:16:19,801 --> 00:16:22,241 Speaker 1: get really clear about why that's hurting you. It's hurting 395 00:16:22,241 --> 00:16:24,481 Speaker 1: you because that feels like an attack on your ego. 396 00:16:24,681 --> 00:16:27,281 Speaker 1: So our ego being our concept of self. We don't 397 00:16:27,321 --> 00:16:29,641 Speaker 1: like when someone's arguing back or being mean. We're just like, 398 00:16:29,681 --> 00:16:30,721 Speaker 1: oh my God, like me, love. 399 00:16:30,881 --> 00:16:33,601 Speaker 4: We need to defend, validate me like I thought everyone's 400 00:16:33,601 --> 00:16:34,321 Speaker 4: supposed to like me. 401 00:16:34,361 --> 00:16:36,361 Speaker 1: And that's how inner child wanting to be liked and loved. 402 00:16:36,361 --> 00:16:40,361 Speaker 1: But when you have neutrality and you have emotional intelligence, 403 00:16:40,401 --> 00:16:42,841 Speaker 1: you can manage that by just integrating the belief around 404 00:16:42,961 --> 00:16:44,681 Speaker 1: this is a you thing. But if it's a friend 405 00:16:44,761 --> 00:16:47,161 Speaker 1: or someone you love, be like, I've got you. When 406 00:16:47,161 --> 00:16:49,241 Speaker 1: you're ready to unpack this more if you want to. 407 00:16:49,361 --> 00:16:51,801 Speaker 1: If not, I don't tolerate that behavior and just move along. 408 00:16:52,121 --> 00:16:55,841 Speaker 1: And also everyone's on their own timeline. Just because I'm 409 00:16:55,881 --> 00:16:57,921 Speaker 1: doing the work doesn't mean my family's all doing the 410 00:16:58,001 --> 00:17:00,521 Speaker 1: work or my kids are on this path. Like I've 411 00:17:00,521 --> 00:17:03,201 Speaker 1: got a very emotionally intelligent family, which is amazing, but 412 00:17:03,961 --> 00:17:06,521 Speaker 1: they're not where I am into being able to regulate themselves. 413 00:17:06,600 --> 00:17:09,201 Speaker 1: And I think that's very common and normal for any 414 00:17:09,360 --> 00:17:11,600 Speaker 1: woman that's on her self development and mindset sort of 415 00:17:11,681 --> 00:17:13,680 Speaker 1: journey of changing the way that she behaves and things. 416 00:17:13,681 --> 00:17:15,960 Speaker 4: So much of this is like nervous system regulation. How 417 00:17:16,001 --> 00:17:18,521 Speaker 4: we always talk about this, like everything that you're growing 418 00:17:18,600 --> 00:17:21,161 Speaker 4: through and trying to navigate through, the more you can 419 00:17:21,481 --> 00:17:23,721 Speaker 4: regulate your nervous system, the more you'll be able to 420 00:17:23,761 --> 00:17:26,681 Speaker 4: see things clearly and not be reactive and just stay 421 00:17:26,761 --> 00:17:28,840 Speaker 4: centered throughout it all. But that's a lot of work, 422 00:17:28,921 --> 00:17:31,120 Speaker 4: Like we're still actively working on that all the time. 423 00:17:31,281 --> 00:17:35,281 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, absolutely, just keep evolving. Like that's my main 424 00:17:35,281 --> 00:17:37,400 Speaker 1: message to women. It's like, don't stop. It's a new 425 00:17:37,481 --> 00:17:41,440 Speaker 1: level on new devil no matter when you get to 426 00:17:41,481 --> 00:17:43,561 Speaker 1: that height of like you're like, I'm at my peak, 427 00:17:43,681 --> 00:17:46,760 Speaker 1: everything's great, She's gonna come right. I get ready for it, 428 00:17:46,801 --> 00:17:48,880 Speaker 1: prepare for it, and just keep moving. And that's why 429 00:17:49,281 --> 00:17:51,241 Speaker 1: I've worked with some of my clients for like over 430 00:17:51,281 --> 00:17:53,801 Speaker 1: two years, and they continue to reinvest with me. And 431 00:17:53,880 --> 00:17:55,920 Speaker 1: I know why they do because they know the value 432 00:17:55,961 --> 00:17:58,640 Speaker 1: in a coach. Yes, I continue to reinvest in my coach. 433 00:17:58,921 --> 00:18:01,080 Speaker 4: The baseline was here and now it's here in they're 434 00:18:01,120 --> 00:18:01,640 Speaker 4: climbing up. 435 00:18:01,721 --> 00:18:04,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, And like, I'll continue reinvesting in myself because I 436 00:18:04,600 --> 00:18:06,521 Speaker 1: know I'm wor and I deserve to know everything I 437 00:18:06,561 --> 00:18:09,321 Speaker 1: possibly can about myself. I want to unpack my shadows. 438 00:18:09,321 --> 00:18:11,281 Speaker 1: I want to get to the like the peak and go, Okay, 439 00:18:11,281 --> 00:18:13,921 Speaker 1: what else is there? What else is available? Let's keep going. 440 00:18:14,481 --> 00:18:16,400 Speaker 4: Yeah, I haven't done much study around it. I know 441 00:18:16,400 --> 00:18:19,041 Speaker 4: you've done a little bit on NLP therapy. I would 442 00:18:19,160 --> 00:18:20,880 Speaker 4: love to hear more people that are listening and I 443 00:18:20,921 --> 00:18:23,120 Speaker 4: have to go, what the hell is that? Yeah? Could 444 00:18:23,120 --> 00:18:24,281 Speaker 4: you break it down for us? Yes? 445 00:18:24,360 --> 00:18:28,001 Speaker 1: So NERO for M is mind and then linguistic is 446 00:18:28,041 --> 00:18:31,041 Speaker 1: our language, and communication and programming is our patterns, so 447 00:18:31,281 --> 00:18:34,001 Speaker 1: behaviors and things like that. It's why we do the 448 00:18:34,041 --> 00:18:36,761 Speaker 1: things that we do. It's tapping into your unconscious desires. 449 00:18:36,801 --> 00:18:39,600 Speaker 1: Like I've had a beautiful client of mine who was 450 00:18:39,600 --> 00:18:42,001 Speaker 1: climbing the corporate ladder and then discovered that she wanted 451 00:18:42,001 --> 00:18:43,801 Speaker 1: to own a business. And now she's owning a business 452 00:18:43,840 --> 00:18:46,080 Speaker 1: and it's successful and it's super exciting. I have another 453 00:18:46,120 --> 00:18:49,041 Speaker 1: beautiful client who owned a business and thought that's what 454 00:18:49,080 --> 00:18:50,880 Speaker 1: she wanted. She's like, I don't actually want it because 455 00:18:50,880 --> 00:18:53,961 Speaker 1: she was able to tap into her unconscious desires because 456 00:18:53,961 --> 00:18:56,160 Speaker 1: she was given a safe space to do so through 457 00:18:56,561 --> 00:18:59,120 Speaker 1: releasing limiting beliefs like fear, judgment, shame. 458 00:18:59,160 --> 00:19:00,440 Speaker 4: But I still be good enough if I don't have 459 00:19:00,481 --> 00:19:03,281 Speaker 4: a business, correct, Like what does success mean to me? 460 00:19:03,521 --> 00:19:06,801 Speaker 1: And she thought it was being an entrepreneur owning a 461 00:19:06,840 --> 00:19:10,841 Speaker 1: business and it's not success. Was feeling regulated, was supporting 462 00:19:10,840 --> 00:19:16,361 Speaker 1: a fil system. I think that NLP is so powerful 463 00:19:16,400 --> 00:19:19,640 Speaker 1: because of the way that we explore the mind, the 464 00:19:19,721 --> 00:19:23,360 Speaker 1: unconscious mind, and we utilize the language stuff in this 465 00:19:23,481 --> 00:19:26,801 Speaker 1: as well, so your unconscious mind will not process negatives. 466 00:19:27,241 --> 00:19:29,721 Speaker 1: So what that means is if you say I don't 467 00:19:29,721 --> 00:19:31,561 Speaker 1: feel good enough today or I feel really shitty, and 468 00:19:31,561 --> 00:19:33,041 Speaker 1: you're staring at the minute like fuck, my has not 469 00:19:33,041 --> 00:19:35,961 Speaker 1: doing its thing. It will literally take that as a 470 00:19:36,001 --> 00:19:38,041 Speaker 1: positive and it's like it's dancing on the right. It's like, oh, yes, 471 00:19:38,080 --> 00:19:40,521 Speaker 1: limiting belief, confirm found the evidence, let's confirm I'm not 472 00:19:40,561 --> 00:19:43,080 Speaker 1: good enough. And it's like building this brick wall of 473 00:19:43,321 --> 00:19:46,160 Speaker 1: not good enough and it's like celebrating it. Right, So 474 00:19:46,160 --> 00:19:49,281 Speaker 1: when you say crappy stuff to yourself, your unconscious is like, yes, 475 00:19:49,360 --> 00:19:51,561 Speaker 1: that's a wind, but it's not because it's confirming a 476 00:19:51,600 --> 00:19:53,801 Speaker 1: limiting belief that's stopping you getting you where you want 477 00:19:53,801 --> 00:19:55,401 Speaker 1: to go. And that's some of the work that we'll 478 00:19:55,441 --> 00:19:56,561 Speaker 1: explore as well in NLP. 479 00:19:57,120 --> 00:19:59,840 Speaker 4: Yeah, that's so cool. Yeah, how does that look like? 480 00:19:59,880 --> 00:20:01,481 Speaker 4: If I was coming to a session and say, I'm 481 00:20:01,481 --> 00:20:04,241 Speaker 4: having all these negative thoughts, I hate myself, i hate 482 00:20:04,241 --> 00:20:06,041 Speaker 4: what I'm doing, I'm not happy. 483 00:20:06,360 --> 00:20:08,321 Speaker 1: We'd start exploring like all areas of your life, and 484 00:20:08,360 --> 00:20:10,321 Speaker 1: probably the starting point of zero is seven. What that 485 00:20:10,321 --> 00:20:13,360 Speaker 1: looked like specifically, right and right back? Take it right back, 486 00:20:13,400 --> 00:20:15,200 Speaker 1: start from the start, and then we'll go seven to 487 00:20:15,241 --> 00:20:17,321 Speaker 1: fourteen and then fourteen to twenty one, and then we'll 488 00:20:17,321 --> 00:20:20,080 Speaker 1: talk about the now how are these things specifically impacting 489 00:20:20,080 --> 00:20:22,801 Speaker 1: them now? And in that session you would probably experience 490 00:20:22,921 --> 00:20:24,921 Speaker 1: like a lot of learning. It's a lot of this 491 00:20:24,961 --> 00:20:26,521 Speaker 1: is why you do this, or I might take a 492 00:20:26,521 --> 00:20:28,481 Speaker 1: stab at it intuitively, I'll be like cool. So you 493 00:20:28,561 --> 00:20:30,400 Speaker 1: might say this to your partner when you're angry and 494 00:20:30,441 --> 00:20:33,281 Speaker 1: they'll be like yep, or they'll be like, I go silent. 495 00:20:33,321 --> 00:20:35,600 Speaker 1: The things that you did or that you do make 496 00:20:35,640 --> 00:20:38,440 Speaker 1: complete sense because of the experiences that you've had. But 497 00:20:38,481 --> 00:20:40,521 Speaker 1: it's light bulb moments for you in that first session 498 00:20:40,801 --> 00:20:42,281 Speaker 1: of me confirming things right. 499 00:20:42,360 --> 00:20:44,160 Speaker 4: Once you know, when you understand, then you can have 500 00:20:44,201 --> 00:20:45,961 Speaker 4: the awareness around it, and then you'll give me tools 501 00:20:45,961 --> 00:20:48,961 Speaker 4: and tips to be able to change and do practice 502 00:20:48,961 --> 00:20:50,961 Speaker 4: doing things differently, and that too takes time. 503 00:20:51,080 --> 00:20:53,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, and look, the starting point can be you know, 504 00:20:53,640 --> 00:20:56,921 Speaker 1: for women that are stuck in the masculine right, which. 505 00:20:56,721 --> 00:20:58,761 Speaker 4: For a lot of business owners so common these days. 506 00:20:58,961 --> 00:21:01,360 Speaker 1: It can support us and it can hinder us in 507 00:21:01,400 --> 00:21:03,801 Speaker 1: terms of out growth. So little things like I might 508 00:21:03,840 --> 00:21:05,761 Speaker 1: task a client, ah, you might be like how often 509 00:21:05,801 --> 00:21:08,400 Speaker 1: you wear black? And she's like every day? Great, So 510 00:21:08,441 --> 00:21:10,400 Speaker 1: I want you to go and get a floral dress. 511 00:21:10,640 --> 00:21:12,201 Speaker 1: It can be sure, it can be long. You can 512 00:21:12,201 --> 00:21:13,480 Speaker 1: do what you want with a dress. I don't care 513 00:21:13,481 --> 00:21:15,120 Speaker 1: it just needs to be colorful and she's like, I 514 00:21:15,160 --> 00:21:19,680 Speaker 1: don't do that. I'm like, yes, you do now with 515 00:21:19,721 --> 00:21:21,200 Speaker 1: your husband and be more regularly in that, Like you 516 00:21:21,281 --> 00:21:23,680 Speaker 1: need to drop in, babe. Like the reason you're disconnected 517 00:21:23,721 --> 00:21:27,240 Speaker 1: in your relationships, in your work, relationships, in the success 518 00:21:27,281 --> 00:21:29,400 Speaker 1: of your business is because you're not utilizing you feminine 519 00:21:29,441 --> 00:21:32,201 Speaker 1: and that's the part of you that's supposed to feel integrated, right, 520 00:21:32,640 --> 00:21:34,720 Speaker 1: So when you start operating from that, that can be 521 00:21:34,761 --> 00:21:35,521 Speaker 1: really helpful as. 522 00:21:35,400 --> 00:21:38,401 Speaker 4: Well so powerful. Something we've also been discussing so much 523 00:21:38,400 --> 00:21:38,920 Speaker 4: of lately. 524 00:21:39,120 --> 00:21:41,200 Speaker 3: Sounds like you do so much work, which is awesome, 525 00:21:41,241 --> 00:21:43,360 Speaker 3: and you're also like cool people out on their bullshit, 526 00:21:43,360 --> 00:21:45,881 Speaker 3: but then know all of the bits and bobs surrounding 527 00:21:45,880 --> 00:21:47,761 Speaker 3: feminine energy, which I feel like a lot more women 528 00:21:47,840 --> 00:21:50,481 Speaker 3: this day and age and needing that, then needing someone 529 00:21:50,521 --> 00:21:52,440 Speaker 3: to be like, is this actually what you're wanting? And like, 530 00:21:52,521 --> 00:21:55,400 Speaker 3: what's your ideal you know life look like like? Because 531 00:21:55,400 --> 00:21:57,081 Speaker 3: it can take huge change. 532 00:21:56,921 --> 00:22:00,080 Speaker 4: Life coach, just really ask questions you've never really asked yourself, 533 00:22:00,160 --> 00:22:01,880 Speaker 4: if no one else has really asked you, and you're like, 534 00:22:02,281 --> 00:22:04,640 Speaker 4: holy shit, okay, is that what I actually want? I 535 00:22:04,640 --> 00:22:06,360 Speaker 4: don't feel like that why am I doing that? 536 00:22:06,400 --> 00:22:06,680 Speaker 1: Though? 537 00:22:06,880 --> 00:22:08,041 Speaker 4: If you don't know, you don't know. 538 00:22:08,961 --> 00:22:11,281 Speaker 1: And I just encourage everyone to do it before kids. 539 00:22:11,281 --> 00:22:13,960 Speaker 1: But if you've got it to do it. 540 00:22:15,160 --> 00:22:17,161 Speaker 4: Yeah, it's so much harder with kids. But once again, 541 00:22:17,201 --> 00:22:19,561 Speaker 4: that's why having a lar coat, you're having support is 542 00:22:19,600 --> 00:22:22,321 Speaker 4: so important because trying to navigate that and regulate yourself, 543 00:22:22,360 --> 00:22:25,120 Speaker 4: why you're trying to look after and regulate their emotions, 544 00:22:25,160 --> 00:22:26,801 Speaker 4: it's just a lot even trying to. 545 00:22:26,801 --> 00:22:29,041 Speaker 3: Learn, like learn about yourself or like if you want 546 00:22:29,041 --> 00:22:31,400 Speaker 3: to read something, it's so much harder and more time 547 00:22:31,521 --> 00:22:33,240 Speaker 3: versus going for like a one hour of woymen you 548 00:22:33,321 --> 00:22:35,521 Speaker 3: like learn so much, Like, oh my gosh, it's so true. 549 00:22:35,561 --> 00:22:39,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, absolutely. Look, I'm going through different experiences with 550 00:22:39,521 --> 00:22:42,600 Speaker 1: the four kids, three girls, one boy. My son is five, 551 00:22:42,801 --> 00:22:46,120 Speaker 1: and like you'll probably understand as well that their emotions 552 00:22:46,201 --> 00:22:49,600 Speaker 1: can be so freaking consuming. And teaching my son to 553 00:22:49,640 --> 00:22:52,080 Speaker 1: release healthy younger has been like pivotal for us, like 554 00:22:52,160 --> 00:22:54,680 Speaker 1: taking him to like so he's allowed to go in 555 00:22:54,761 --> 00:22:56,400 Speaker 1: his room and be as angry as he needs to be. 556 00:22:56,481 --> 00:22:57,921 Speaker 1: You are not allowed to throw toys at the wall. 557 00:22:57,961 --> 00:23:00,080 Speaker 1: You are not allowed to damage anything. You're not allowed 558 00:23:00,120 --> 00:23:02,001 Speaker 1: to hurt yourself, but you are allowed to scream in 559 00:23:02,041 --> 00:23:03,721 Speaker 1: your pillow and you are allowed to punch the crap 560 00:23:03,721 --> 00:23:05,681 Speaker 1: out of your bed if you need to. And when 561 00:23:05,681 --> 00:23:07,761 Speaker 1: you're done there, come see mom. Let's talk it out. 562 00:23:07,840 --> 00:23:10,001 Speaker 1: And then Helois say, Mommy, I already talk. It's super 563 00:23:10,041 --> 00:23:13,640 Speaker 1: c yeah. So, And I just think like for women 564 00:23:13,721 --> 00:23:16,920 Speaker 1: who might have their man who was never taught to 565 00:23:16,961 --> 00:23:21,240 Speaker 1: regulate his feelings, he may feel explosive and reactive. Like 566 00:23:21,360 --> 00:23:23,480 Speaker 1: I think the women that I work with, they have 567 00:23:23,600 --> 00:23:25,801 Speaker 1: these experiences where they're like, you know, he's this, he's that. 568 00:23:25,880 --> 00:23:28,801 Speaker 1: It's like, let's not blame the fact that he didn't 569 00:23:28,801 --> 00:23:31,120 Speaker 1: have a mom that taught him to regulate his feelings. 570 00:23:31,681 --> 00:23:34,200 Speaker 1: This can happen. It's going to take some time and 571 00:23:34,281 --> 00:23:36,961 Speaker 1: let him feel anger, like, teach him that it's safe 572 00:23:37,001 --> 00:23:38,801 Speaker 1: to be feeling. That it's not okay to hurt you. 573 00:23:39,001 --> 00:23:41,120 Speaker 1: I do not containe that in any possible way, but 574 00:23:41,561 --> 00:23:43,761 Speaker 1: it is okay for him to feel and he needs 575 00:23:43,761 --> 00:23:45,840 Speaker 1: space to do that. So you know, that's for you 576 00:23:45,880 --> 00:23:48,720 Speaker 1: to communicate back, Hey, this feeling kind of reactive. I'm 577 00:23:48,721 --> 00:23:50,121 Speaker 1: going to give you some space. Let me know when 578 00:23:50,120 --> 00:23:50,761 Speaker 1: you're ready to talk. 579 00:23:50,801 --> 00:23:52,441 Speaker 4: I feel like with men these they don't if you agree, 580 00:23:52,521 --> 00:23:54,281 Speaker 4: But it's either one or the other. That are either 581 00:23:54,441 --> 00:23:56,920 Speaker 4: very violent and loud and aggressive or they are a 582 00:23:56,921 --> 00:23:59,120 Speaker 4: complete avoidant and they'll shut down. Give a lot of 583 00:23:59,120 --> 00:23:59,961 Speaker 4: women coming to you. 584 00:24:00,080 --> 00:24:03,761 Speaker 1: Yeah, and intuitively, I believe that that is the reactive 585 00:24:03,801 --> 00:24:08,680 Speaker 1: and explosive seen the behavior that they've witnessed it learned behavior. 586 00:24:08,721 --> 00:24:10,440 Speaker 1: And if it's the other way, they probably had a 587 00:24:10,441 --> 00:24:12,761 Speaker 1: non present mum. All right, So it's that they'll go 588 00:24:12,840 --> 00:24:15,761 Speaker 1: inwood because they didn't have that nurturing. That's safeness to 589 00:24:15,761 --> 00:24:19,240 Speaker 1: be vulnerable. So they're really sensitive and vulnerable right in 590 00:24:19,281 --> 00:24:20,840 Speaker 1: themselves because they actually. 591 00:24:20,561 --> 00:24:21,961 Speaker 4: Don't know how to communicate what they do and they've 592 00:24:21,961 --> 00:24:24,921 Speaker 4: probably had to just deal with it by themselves. Yeah, yeah, 593 00:24:25,201 --> 00:24:27,360 Speaker 4: to grow up really fast. You can all relate to 594 00:24:27,400 --> 00:24:29,880 Speaker 4: a man that's gone through that. It's sad, Yeah it 595 00:24:30,001 --> 00:24:31,481 Speaker 4: is. You see that like little boy in them that just 596 00:24:31,521 --> 00:24:33,521 Speaker 4: wants to be heard. I justn't know how to them 597 00:24:33,761 --> 00:24:37,360 Speaker 4: voice it. Yeah. Yeah. We talk about self development all 598 00:24:37,360 --> 00:24:39,321 Speaker 4: the time with both head coaches for years. We love 599 00:24:39,400 --> 00:24:40,960 Speaker 4: learning all the time and love having guests like you 600 00:24:41,001 --> 00:24:43,400 Speaker 4: on that can share their knowledge and wisdom. There's still 601 00:24:43,921 --> 00:24:45,961 Speaker 4: not a stigma around it. But there's still so many 602 00:24:45,961 --> 00:24:47,480 Speaker 4: people that are so scared to put their hand up 603 00:24:47,521 --> 00:24:50,360 Speaker 4: and say I'm not coping. I'dn't understand I need help 604 00:24:50,721 --> 00:24:52,200 Speaker 4: on this and that. Like, what advice do you have 605 00:24:52,201 --> 00:24:54,520 Speaker 4: for anyone listening who's like, Okay, Chris sounds great, I'd 606 00:24:54,521 --> 00:24:57,041 Speaker 4: love to work with her, but fucking petrified. Yeah to 607 00:24:57,041 --> 00:24:59,360 Speaker 4: book a session? What would you say to invite something? 608 00:24:59,441 --> 00:25:01,360 Speaker 1: Yeah? The hard asking me wants to go just quickle 609 00:25:01,761 --> 00:25:05,641 Speaker 1: yeah yourself and book on the other and like, I'm 610 00:25:05,681 --> 00:25:08,561 Speaker 1: relatable and I'm nice and anyway, but the other side 611 00:25:08,561 --> 00:25:10,720 Speaker 1: of me is like I see you, I see you 612 00:25:10,761 --> 00:25:14,281 Speaker 1: in it. It's hard and it feels scary. But go 613 00:25:14,400 --> 00:25:16,200 Speaker 1: and grab a photo of when you were seven. This 614 00:25:16,281 --> 00:25:17,640 Speaker 1: age always comes up for me in the work that 615 00:25:17,681 --> 00:25:19,521 Speaker 1: I do. Grab that photo, go and look at that 616 00:25:19,561 --> 00:25:22,120 Speaker 1: little you and actually speak to her for a second 617 00:25:22,160 --> 00:25:24,880 Speaker 1: and ask her what does she need? Do you want 618 00:25:25,120 --> 00:25:28,480 Speaker 1: to feel better? Do you want to have healthy relationships 619 00:25:28,521 --> 00:25:32,480 Speaker 1: with yourself internally and others externally? Do you want a 620 00:25:32,521 --> 00:25:35,360 Speaker 1: thriving relationship with your partner or do you want to 621 00:25:35,400 --> 00:25:37,761 Speaker 1: stay stagnant? Do you want to grow? Do you want 622 00:25:37,761 --> 00:25:40,001 Speaker 1: a successful business? Do you want to tap into desire. 623 00:25:40,600 --> 00:25:42,321 Speaker 1: Do you want your kids feeling like this? If you've 624 00:25:42,360 --> 00:25:46,121 Speaker 1: got kids, just look at them and say better for them. Yeah, 625 00:25:46,160 --> 00:25:48,401 Speaker 1: one hundred percent. The high level women that I work 626 00:25:48,441 --> 00:25:51,201 Speaker 1: with continue to meet their edge and stretch. Right, it's 627 00:25:51,201 --> 00:25:54,481 Speaker 1: supposed to feel like a stretch. It's supposed to feel 628 00:25:54,481 --> 00:25:57,321 Speaker 1: that little bit scary. Like if you think about feeling 629 00:25:57,400 --> 00:25:59,921 Speaker 1: safe right and your comfort zone gets fireplace and you've 630 00:25:59,921 --> 00:26:01,441 Speaker 1: got your warm blankey on and like you're like, oh, 631 00:26:01,481 --> 00:26:03,080 Speaker 1: this is cozy, but I hate it here. I'm so bored. 632 00:26:03,080 --> 00:26:05,561 Speaker 1: I haven't left the house in so long. Like open 633 00:26:05,600 --> 00:26:08,841 Speaker 1: the front door and what's available to you. It's possible 634 00:26:08,880 --> 00:26:12,041 Speaker 1: if you just get intentional and vulnerable with yourself and 635 00:26:12,041 --> 00:26:13,120 Speaker 1: clear with what you want. 636 00:26:13,201 --> 00:26:14,881 Speaker 4: And I love all those questions you asked at the start. 637 00:26:14,921 --> 00:26:16,481 Speaker 4: It's like, if you're listening to this right now and 638 00:26:16,521 --> 00:26:18,520 Speaker 4: you've been wanting to get a coach and you've felt scared, 639 00:26:18,880 --> 00:26:20,920 Speaker 4: and all those questions that christ just asked, are you 640 00:26:20,961 --> 00:26:22,441 Speaker 4: wanting this? Are you want that? If you said yes 641 00:26:22,441 --> 00:26:25,360 Speaker 4: to all of those, there's your answer like yes, you 642 00:26:25,360 --> 00:26:27,960 Speaker 4: know what I mean, no question about it, absolutely, And 643 00:26:28,001 --> 00:26:31,240 Speaker 4: that's the work is being brave, being vulnerable, prioritizing yourself, 644 00:26:31,241 --> 00:26:34,521 Speaker 4: prioritizing even your money, Like it's putting yourself as a 645 00:26:34,521 --> 00:26:36,200 Speaker 4: priority in saying I'm ready for this. 646 00:26:36,241 --> 00:26:37,840 Speaker 3: It's like hard to go to your first session, But 647 00:26:37,880 --> 00:26:41,281 Speaker 3: how hard is it if you never decide to God? 648 00:26:42,640 --> 00:26:42,840 Speaker 4: Yes? 649 00:26:43,840 --> 00:26:46,041 Speaker 1: And I think like it'll feel like a stretch as 650 00:26:46,041 --> 00:26:49,321 Speaker 1: an investment, because what happens is if it was free, 651 00:26:49,481 --> 00:26:50,321 Speaker 1: you wouldn't give a shit. 652 00:26:50,400 --> 00:26:51,481 Speaker 4: If you don't know. 653 00:26:51,801 --> 00:26:54,321 Speaker 1: You don't care, Like if it's nine dollars a week, 654 00:26:54,360 --> 00:26:56,641 Speaker 1: you're not going to care. I need you to care 655 00:26:56,721 --> 00:27:00,080 Speaker 1: enough about you to want to change, and if you don't, 656 00:27:00,120 --> 00:27:01,281 Speaker 1: then I'm not the coach for you. 657 00:27:02,521 --> 00:27:05,041 Speaker 4: And if you want radical change, you to take radical responsible. 658 00:27:05,441 --> 00:27:06,960 Speaker 4: If you want change in general, you have to do 659 00:27:07,001 --> 00:27:07,601 Speaker 4: things differently. 660 00:27:07,721 --> 00:27:10,441 Speaker 1: Absolutely, yeah, so frequently. Could not agree more. 661 00:27:10,521 --> 00:27:11,680 Speaker 4: Oh, I absolutely love that. 662 00:27:12,041 --> 00:27:13,521 Speaker 1: Thank you so much, Chris. 663 00:27:13,521 --> 00:27:14,321 Speaker 4: Going on today? 664 00:27:14,321 --> 00:27:15,961 Speaker 3: Where can everyone find you? 665 00:27:16,001 --> 00:27:19,601 Speaker 1: Inside Out with Chris Kris at Little Symbol But that's 666 00:27:19,600 --> 00:27:21,921 Speaker 1: pretty much everywhere I am. So that's on Instagram, that's 667 00:27:21,961 --> 00:27:26,280 Speaker 1: on Instagram, on YouTube, Facebook, My website is inside Out 668 00:27:26,281 --> 00:27:26,880 Speaker 1: with Chris dot com. 669 00:27:26,921 --> 00:27:28,480 Speaker 4: Do you and they can book one on one session? 670 00:27:28,561 --> 00:27:28,801 Speaker 1: Yes? 671 00:27:29,080 --> 00:27:29,801 Speaker 4: Do group calls? 672 00:27:30,120 --> 00:27:31,121 Speaker 1: No? No? 673 00:27:30,761 --> 00:27:31,521 Speaker 4: No, group. 674 00:27:31,561 --> 00:27:33,840 Speaker 1: I like the personal life and really like be spoke 675 00:27:33,921 --> 00:27:35,721 Speaker 1: kind of coaching where we don't go all in. So 676 00:27:36,241 --> 00:27:38,400 Speaker 1: you're in Newcastle so they can be face to face. Yeah, 677 00:27:38,441 --> 00:27:40,201 Speaker 1: in NEWI we can definitely do it face to face. Look, 678 00:27:40,241 --> 00:27:43,080 Speaker 1: the zoom is so much easier. But yeah, just jump 679 00:27:43,120 --> 00:27:45,321 Speaker 1: on and book that discovery call. It's on my website. 680 00:27:45,481 --> 00:27:46,880 Speaker 1: Get in and get it done. We can have a 681 00:27:46,961 --> 00:27:49,001 Speaker 1: chat about what you want, where you want to be, 682 00:27:49,600 --> 00:27:52,521 Speaker 1: and really set some intentions for the end of the year. 683 00:27:52,561 --> 00:27:54,321 Speaker 1: I suppose, because oh my gosh, when early at the 684 00:27:54,400 --> 00:27:57,761 Speaker 1: end of the year, crazy happy, where you're at, go 685 00:27:57,801 --> 00:27:58,041 Speaker 1: get it. 686 00:27:58,080 --> 00:27:59,441 Speaker 4: I think other people think you have to wait till 687 00:27:59,441 --> 00:28:01,241 Speaker 4: the new year to like start fresh. Lit. You still 688 00:28:01,281 --> 00:28:02,961 Speaker 4: have the whole second half of the year if you 689 00:28:02,961 --> 00:28:05,160 Speaker 4: want that to look different to the first time. Is 690 00:28:05,160 --> 00:28:05,801 Speaker 4: your opportunity. 691 00:28:05,880 --> 00:28:08,640 Speaker 1: Absolutely, I'm not a Monday mindset. Girl. Well let's do 692 00:28:08,721 --> 00:28:10,721 Speaker 1: it now, like next intention, next step. 693 00:28:11,001 --> 00:28:13,200 Speaker 4: Beautiful. We thank you so much for being here. Hopefully 694 00:28:13,201 --> 00:28:14,561 Speaker 4: we have you on again Monday soon. Yeah. 695 00:28:14,561 --> 00:28:15,041 Speaker 1: I would love that. 696 00:28:15,160 --> 00:28:16,160 Speaker 4: Thanks girl, Thank you