1 00:00:00,720 --> 00:00:03,840 Speaker 1: Go your bloody champs. Hope you're terrific. It is it's 2 00:00:03,880 --> 00:00:05,600 Speaker 1: Grand Final Day. I don't know why I'm telling you that, 3 00:00:05,600 --> 00:00:08,119 Speaker 1: but it's bloody Grand Final day. It's Grand Final afternoon. 4 00:00:08,200 --> 00:00:14,120 Speaker 1: And because I'm a loser, no not and say that 5 00:00:14,160 --> 00:00:19,320 Speaker 1: about yourself, Harps. It's it's the GF here in Melbourne, 6 00:00:19,360 --> 00:00:22,959 Speaker 1: the thriving tropolis of Melbourne, the one of the sporting 7 00:00:22,960 --> 00:00:28,880 Speaker 1: events that brings the nation to a standstill, allegedly, and 8 00:00:28,920 --> 00:00:31,680 Speaker 1: here I am recording a potty because it can, because 9 00:00:31,680 --> 00:00:33,680 Speaker 1: a bloody can. It's just how I roll and if 10 00:00:33,720 --> 00:00:39,080 Speaker 1: i'm if I'm time efficient and energy efficient. It's one 11 00:00:39,159 --> 00:00:42,360 Speaker 1: thirty three. I'll get this done in thirty odd minutes. 12 00:00:42,680 --> 00:00:45,760 Speaker 1: You can have a little listen and I'll go and 13 00:00:45,800 --> 00:00:49,839 Speaker 1: watch the GF or some of the GF. You know 14 00:00:49,880 --> 00:00:53,680 Speaker 1: what else it is? I actually forgot about this. It's 15 00:00:53,720 --> 00:00:58,440 Speaker 1: me Birthdy. It's me Birthdy, and I don't like lots 16 00:00:58,480 --> 00:01:01,120 Speaker 1: of attention on me Birthdy, which is good. That's why 17 00:01:01,120 --> 00:01:04,040 Speaker 1: I'm telling you now, because by the time you hear 18 00:01:04,080 --> 00:01:07,679 Speaker 1: that it's me Birthdy, it's gone, which works well for me. 19 00:01:07,800 --> 00:01:10,959 Speaker 1: I don't know why, and I'm not saying that insincerely 20 00:01:11,840 --> 00:01:16,480 Speaker 1: meaning I actually really I actually if nobody knew for me. 21 00:01:16,640 --> 00:01:18,720 Speaker 1: I don't know what that's about. It's probably some deep 22 00:01:18,760 --> 00:01:22,160 Speaker 1: seated issue, but I kind of I kind of like 23 00:01:22,240 --> 00:01:29,559 Speaker 1: the non fuss. So anyway, sadday afternoon, sharing some thoughts 24 00:01:29,560 --> 00:01:34,760 Speaker 1: and ideas with you about this door that I opened 25 00:01:34,840 --> 00:01:38,440 Speaker 1: yesterday on this topic, which is what they should teach 26 00:01:38,480 --> 00:01:44,200 Speaker 1: you at school but don't. And when I say they 27 00:01:44,200 --> 00:01:47,560 Speaker 1: should teach you at school, I'm not really being serious. 28 00:01:47,600 --> 00:01:51,680 Speaker 1: I'm just talking about some of the lessons and insights 29 00:01:51,880 --> 00:01:57,120 Speaker 1: and truths that kids don't seem to get taught at 30 00:01:57,160 --> 00:02:02,400 Speaker 1: school or at home quite off and learn later on 31 00:02:02,440 --> 00:02:09,400 Speaker 1: in life, not always in a fun, enjoyable way. And yes, 32 00:02:09,480 --> 00:02:12,520 Speaker 1: we need to learn through pain and uncertainty and discomfort 33 00:02:12,639 --> 00:02:15,200 Speaker 1: and piques and trust, we do need that, But there's 34 00:02:15,240 --> 00:02:20,720 Speaker 1: also some pretty simple but powerful life lessons that we 35 00:02:20,880 --> 00:02:24,400 Speaker 1: could share with kids. Not that it's going to make 36 00:02:24,440 --> 00:02:28,680 Speaker 1: their life painless or smooth or a perpetual Disney kind 37 00:02:28,680 --> 00:02:32,239 Speaker 1: of movie, but what it might do is make them 38 00:02:32,320 --> 00:02:38,000 Speaker 1: more prepared, more practical, more realistic, and more aware of 39 00:02:38,360 --> 00:02:42,760 Speaker 1: what might be coming down the pipe, so to speak. 40 00:02:43,240 --> 00:02:46,680 Speaker 1: So yesterday we did six and as I said, yes, 41 00:02:46,680 --> 00:02:49,079 Speaker 1: say this non indictment on the academic system. I don't 42 00:02:49,120 --> 00:02:52,920 Speaker 1: think these things really necessarily should be taught in schools. 43 00:02:52,919 --> 00:02:55,880 Speaker 1: I just think kids somewhere, somehow should hear some of 44 00:02:55,919 --> 00:02:59,079 Speaker 1: these messages because I think they're valuable for kids. So 45 00:02:59,240 --> 00:03:02,639 Speaker 1: that the six went through yesterday as a recap. One, 46 00:03:03,000 --> 00:03:06,359 Speaker 1: life doesn't care about your feelings, self esteem, health, happiness 47 00:03:06,400 --> 00:03:11,320 Speaker 1: to Statistically, you're quite likely to end up unhealthy and 48 00:03:11,480 --> 00:03:15,160 Speaker 1: or in debt and or divorced, perhaps more than you 49 00:03:15,200 --> 00:03:18,040 Speaker 1: are happily married, healthy, and financially secure. We backed all 50 00:03:18,080 --> 00:03:21,000 Speaker 1: this up with statu yes day. And that's not an 51 00:03:21,080 --> 00:03:25,120 Speaker 1: uplifting message. Nonetheless, it's true, and I think truth is good. 52 00:03:26,480 --> 00:03:30,280 Speaker 1: Number three, the path to success is rarely easy, fun 53 00:03:31,040 --> 00:03:34,920 Speaker 1: or comfortable. Doesn't mean there's not fun or there's not comfort, 54 00:03:35,160 --> 00:03:37,800 Speaker 1: or it's not a party now and then. But it's 55 00:03:37,920 --> 00:03:40,320 Speaker 1: never all that all the time. We know that, and 56 00:03:40,400 --> 00:03:42,360 Speaker 1: I think that's a good lesson for kids to learn. 57 00:03:42,840 --> 00:03:48,320 Speaker 1: Number four was you can't do anything, as in all things, 58 00:03:48,480 --> 00:03:52,120 Speaker 1: anything you choose, you can't do anything you set your 59 00:03:52,160 --> 00:03:55,200 Speaker 1: mind to. And the message, the messaging for some people 60 00:03:55,320 --> 00:03:58,320 Speaker 1: from some people is whatever you want to do you 61 00:03:58,360 --> 00:04:02,160 Speaker 1: can do it. And as I said yesterday, it sounds 62 00:04:02,240 --> 00:04:04,480 Speaker 1: nice and it makes people maybe it makes people feel 63 00:04:04,480 --> 00:04:10,000 Speaker 1: momentarily good. But telling everyone that anything is possible, not 64 00:04:10,040 --> 00:04:12,960 Speaker 1: only is it not true, which is not a good start, 65 00:04:14,400 --> 00:04:17,720 Speaker 1: but it sets people up for frustration and disappointment and resentment. 66 00:04:18,240 --> 00:04:21,680 Speaker 1: And while yes, most people can do more than they're 67 00:04:21,720 --> 00:04:25,600 Speaker 1: currently doing, and most people can if they really work hard, 68 00:04:25,720 --> 00:04:28,719 Speaker 1: roll up their sleeves, be brave, be resilient, and lean 69 00:04:28,760 --> 00:04:32,480 Speaker 1: into their potential. Most people can do some pretty amazing shit, 70 00:04:32,520 --> 00:04:36,200 Speaker 1: but not everyone can do anything they set their mind to, 71 00:04:37,080 --> 00:04:40,120 Speaker 1: And so we want to encourage and support kids, but 72 00:04:40,680 --> 00:04:43,960 Speaker 1: we also want to be practical. Number five was sometimes 73 00:04:43,960 --> 00:04:46,720 Speaker 1: the people who will undermine, backstab and sabotage you will 74 00:04:46,760 --> 00:04:50,400 Speaker 1: be family and friends. Number six was and we know 75 00:04:50,480 --> 00:04:53,640 Speaker 1: that number six was. Your intentions are often not someone 76 00:04:53,640 --> 00:05:01,000 Speaker 1: else's experiences, and that is people are not necessari the 77 00:05:01,240 --> 00:05:05,839 Speaker 1: getting what you think you're giving them, and at some 78 00:05:06,000 --> 00:05:11,039 Speaker 1: stage your good intentions will absolutely produce bad results or 79 00:05:11,040 --> 00:05:15,159 Speaker 1: a bad outcome. All right, I'm with today, So number 80 00:05:15,200 --> 00:05:17,760 Speaker 1: seven on our list across the two days. Number sevent 81 00:05:17,839 --> 00:05:22,479 Speaker 1: is bad things happen to good people, and weirdly good 82 00:05:22,520 --> 00:05:26,600 Speaker 1: things sometimes happen to bad people. Don't ask me, Take 83 00:05:26,640 --> 00:05:28,800 Speaker 1: it up with God or the universe or whoever your 84 00:05:28,800 --> 00:05:33,640 Speaker 1: bloody high power or deity, deity of choices. But bad 85 00:05:33,680 --> 00:05:36,239 Speaker 1: things happen to good people, and weirdly, good things sometimes 86 00:05:36,279 --> 00:05:39,400 Speaker 1: happen to bad people. You might never understand that, and 87 00:05:39,440 --> 00:05:44,159 Speaker 1: you'll definitely never change it. So invest your mental and 88 00:05:44,200 --> 00:05:47,800 Speaker 1: emotional energy where you will get the best return. I've 89 00:05:47,880 --> 00:05:53,000 Speaker 1: had awesome friends of mine, great people, beautiful human beings 90 00:05:53,200 --> 00:05:58,960 Speaker 1: die who through a range of things, and so have you. 91 00:06:01,520 --> 00:06:05,600 Speaker 1: But moving through life with this awareness and this not 92 00:06:06,360 --> 00:06:09,000 Speaker 1: so this is a burden on our shoulder, but just 93 00:06:09,880 --> 00:06:14,000 Speaker 1: maybe maybe so that it gives us. Like for me, 94 00:06:14,120 --> 00:06:18,360 Speaker 1: what this knowledge does is it gives me a perspective 95 00:06:19,200 --> 00:06:20,800 Speaker 1: that every day is a gift. And I know that 96 00:06:20,839 --> 00:06:24,960 Speaker 1: sounds cheesy. I know it sounds cheesy, but you know, 97 00:06:25,600 --> 00:06:28,880 Speaker 1: right now I'm working with helping a few people I 98 00:06:28,920 --> 00:06:32,880 Speaker 1: should say, probably five or six people whose lives are 99 00:06:33,000 --> 00:06:36,640 Speaker 1: very difficult for a range of different reasons. I don't 100 00:06:36,680 --> 00:06:41,680 Speaker 1: mean you run in the mill kind of garden variety 101 00:06:41,839 --> 00:06:45,400 Speaker 1: issues and problems. I mean really really difficult. And when 102 00:06:46,400 --> 00:06:48,560 Speaker 1: you know, when I work with these people hopefully I'm 103 00:06:48,640 --> 00:06:51,839 Speaker 1: helpful and valuable to them. But when I work with 104 00:06:51,880 --> 00:06:54,839 Speaker 1: these people, apart from the joy that I have with 105 00:06:54,920 --> 00:06:58,200 Speaker 1: the connection and the involvement and the support that I 106 00:06:58,240 --> 00:07:01,479 Speaker 1: can hopefully bring to them, it's a blessing for me 107 00:07:01,600 --> 00:07:04,120 Speaker 1: because it gives me a level of awareness and perspective 108 00:07:04,120 --> 00:07:09,000 Speaker 1: and gratitude for how few problems I actually have. And 109 00:07:09,040 --> 00:07:12,080 Speaker 1: so I think, you know, while we don't want to 110 00:07:12,120 --> 00:07:16,240 Speaker 1: scare the bejeebas out of kids at all, we want 111 00:07:16,280 --> 00:07:21,040 Speaker 1: to let him know that not anything or not everything 112 00:07:21,160 --> 00:07:25,480 Speaker 1: perhaps is guaranteed. You know, one of my best friends 113 00:07:25,480 --> 00:07:27,280 Speaker 1: in the world who worked with me. He was my 114 00:07:27,360 --> 00:07:30,800 Speaker 1: first personal trainer, as in, he was my first worked 115 00:07:30,800 --> 00:07:35,000 Speaker 1: for me trainer, my first employee, Maddie, amazing human being. 116 00:07:35,240 --> 00:07:38,000 Speaker 1: We trained together every day, We ate breakfast and lunch 117 00:07:38,040 --> 00:07:41,880 Speaker 1: together together every day. Were joined at the hip. And 118 00:07:42,160 --> 00:07:45,280 Speaker 1: he died at the age of I think twenty four, 119 00:07:45,560 --> 00:07:48,680 Speaker 1: and he never got to live his whole life. And 120 00:07:50,800 --> 00:07:53,920 Speaker 1: I think about him every single day. And he was 121 00:07:53,960 --> 00:07:56,960 Speaker 1: an awesome person. He was a beautiful human being, and 122 00:07:57,040 --> 00:07:59,760 Speaker 1: he ain't here anymore. And while we don't want to 123 00:07:59,760 --> 00:08:01,559 Speaker 1: be more and we don't want to make people sad, 124 00:08:02,760 --> 00:08:05,120 Speaker 1: I think it's great that we're practical and we're down 125 00:08:05,120 --> 00:08:07,680 Speaker 1: to earth and we teach not just kids but grown 126 00:08:07,760 --> 00:08:10,600 Speaker 1: ups that, hey, can you breathe? Can you walk? Can 127 00:08:10,640 --> 00:08:12,640 Speaker 1: you turn on the tap and get cold water? Can 128 00:08:12,680 --> 00:08:15,160 Speaker 1: you turn on a share and have hot water? Can 129 00:08:15,200 --> 00:08:17,760 Speaker 1: you open a fridge and get food? Do you have 130 00:08:18,040 --> 00:08:20,240 Speaker 1: at least one or two or three people who love 131 00:08:20,320 --> 00:08:25,280 Speaker 1: you? You know? Does your spine work, does your brain work? 132 00:08:25,920 --> 00:08:28,600 Speaker 1: You know? Are you for the most part healthy, Then 133 00:08:28,680 --> 00:08:30,960 Speaker 1: that's great. Your life is awesome, or at the very 134 00:08:31,040 --> 00:08:35,400 Speaker 1: least you've got a great running start to life. Number 135 00:08:35,400 --> 00:08:40,160 Speaker 1: eight is and this is really a self awareness thing, 136 00:08:40,440 --> 00:08:46,520 Speaker 1: which I think teaching self awareness, situational and social awareness 137 00:08:46,520 --> 00:08:53,199 Speaker 1: for kids is really really potentially powerful and transformational. The 138 00:08:53,280 --> 00:08:56,040 Speaker 1: number eight is the only person living in your version 139 00:08:56,559 --> 00:09:02,120 Speaker 1: of the world is you. Your personal reality is a 140 00:09:02,160 --> 00:09:07,600 Speaker 1: subjective interpretation of and response to the events, situations, environments, 141 00:09:07,600 --> 00:09:12,000 Speaker 1: and outcomes you find yourself in the middle of. In 142 00:09:12,040 --> 00:09:15,440 Speaker 1: other words, your version of the world is a story 143 00:09:15,440 --> 00:09:20,000 Speaker 1: that you tell yourself as a byproduct of the window 144 00:09:20,080 --> 00:09:22,480 Speaker 1: through which you view the world. So let's use this 145 00:09:22,640 --> 00:09:25,680 Speaker 1: metaphor of a window. We all have a window through 146 00:09:25,720 --> 00:09:29,880 Speaker 1: which we individually view the world. Your window is not mine. 147 00:09:31,520 --> 00:09:34,120 Speaker 1: Yours is not the bloke across the road or the 148 00:09:34,240 --> 00:09:36,200 Speaker 1: lady across the road. And so we all have our 149 00:09:36,280 --> 00:09:40,640 Speaker 1: own window because our window is a byproduct or the filter, 150 00:09:40,880 --> 00:09:42,760 Speaker 1: the window, whatever you want to call it, the thing 151 00:09:42,880 --> 00:09:46,520 Speaker 1: through which we evaluate and view and disseminate and make 152 00:09:46,640 --> 00:09:50,199 Speaker 1: sense of the world around us. That is a byproduct 153 00:09:50,280 --> 00:09:52,080 Speaker 1: of where we've been and what we've seen and what 154 00:09:52,120 --> 00:09:55,760 Speaker 1: we've been through, and beliefs and values and experiences and 155 00:09:55,840 --> 00:09:59,160 Speaker 1: faith and all that kind of stuff and everyone, you know. 156 00:09:59,240 --> 00:10:00,840 Speaker 1: So if you're a tea, you're up the front of 157 00:10:00,840 --> 00:10:03,720 Speaker 1: a classroom and you've got thirty kids in there, You've 158 00:10:03,760 --> 00:10:06,440 Speaker 1: got thirty kids having a different experience. They're all in 159 00:10:06,480 --> 00:10:08,480 Speaker 1: the same room at the same time, listening to the 160 00:10:08,520 --> 00:10:12,920 Speaker 1: same teacher, and they're all in the same practical physical reality, 161 00:10:13,320 --> 00:10:17,760 Speaker 1: but none of them are in the same psychological, sociological, emotional, 162 00:10:18,200 --> 00:10:23,160 Speaker 1: or experiential reality in real time. And it's fucking important. 163 00:10:23,240 --> 00:10:27,880 Speaker 1: Not that we understand this down to the PhD level, 164 00:10:27,880 --> 00:10:31,640 Speaker 1: but it's important that kids go, oh, people think differently 165 00:10:31,679 --> 00:10:35,000 Speaker 1: to me. Just because I think this doesn't mean they 166 00:10:35,080 --> 00:10:38,880 Speaker 1: think this. Just because my intention is good, that doesn't 167 00:10:38,920 --> 00:10:43,200 Speaker 1: mean their experience will be good. So having this understanding 168 00:10:43,280 --> 00:10:46,720 Speaker 1: and applying this in real time, this kind of bigger 169 00:10:46,760 --> 00:10:51,719 Speaker 1: than you awareness. It's a conduit to better communication, to 170 00:10:51,960 --> 00:10:56,360 Speaker 1: problem solving, to conflict resolution, to situational awareness, and to 171 00:10:58,080 --> 00:11:08,240 Speaker 1: more productive, more valuable, and meaningful social outcomes. So, and 172 00:11:08,280 --> 00:11:11,120 Speaker 1: this is where we teach kids the space between your 173 00:11:11,160 --> 00:11:15,880 Speaker 1: world and their world. Metacognition, thinking about your thinking, theory 174 00:11:15,920 --> 00:11:22,160 Speaker 1: of mind, thinking about their thinking. Number nine, speaking of thinking, 175 00:11:22,400 --> 00:11:25,720 Speaker 1: is that you and me we have all been programmed. 176 00:11:26,400 --> 00:11:33,720 Speaker 1: We've all been programmed by the experiences of our life 177 00:11:33,800 --> 00:11:37,360 Speaker 1: up until this point in time listening to this podcast. 178 00:11:37,520 --> 00:11:41,240 Speaker 1: Wherever you're at, So, whatever you've been through, what school 179 00:11:41,280 --> 00:11:45,760 Speaker 1: you went to, what books you've read, what media you 180 00:11:45,800 --> 00:11:49,320 Speaker 1: pay attention to, what social media you pay attention to, 181 00:11:49,760 --> 00:11:54,840 Speaker 1: what religion or lack of religion. You grew up in 182 00:11:54,920 --> 00:11:58,960 Speaker 1: the way that your family communicated and socialized and interacted 183 00:11:59,080 --> 00:12:02,280 Speaker 1: or didn't interact with other families, The type of food 184 00:12:02,360 --> 00:12:10,079 Speaker 1: you ate, the cultural influences. All of those things have programmed, 185 00:12:10,400 --> 00:12:16,160 Speaker 1: or let's say less dramatically influenced significantly the way that 186 00:12:16,200 --> 00:12:20,560 Speaker 1: you think. And when we realize that the way that 187 00:12:20,600 --> 00:12:25,080 Speaker 1: we think, remember thinking about thinking metacognition. When we realize 188 00:12:25,120 --> 00:12:27,840 Speaker 1: that the way that we think, if I personalize it, 189 00:12:27,880 --> 00:12:32,360 Speaker 1: when I realize that the way that I think is 190 00:12:32,400 --> 00:12:35,120 Speaker 1: a little bit about my genetics and who I am 191 00:12:35,200 --> 00:12:38,360 Speaker 1: in terms of DNA and just what I was born with. 192 00:12:38,440 --> 00:12:41,720 Speaker 1: It's a little bit about that, maybe twenty percent, but 193 00:12:41,800 --> 00:12:46,840 Speaker 1: it's a lot, maybe eighty percent, a byproduct of everything 194 00:12:46,880 --> 00:12:50,000 Speaker 1: I've been through, all those things I just described to you. 195 00:12:50,920 --> 00:12:54,520 Speaker 1: And so this is not something to worry about, because 196 00:12:54,559 --> 00:12:56,600 Speaker 1: this is not a bad thing. This is a human thing. 197 00:12:57,480 --> 00:13:00,360 Speaker 1: But what we can do now is we can start 198 00:13:00,440 --> 00:13:04,800 Speaker 1: to open We can start to open the consciousness door. 199 00:13:05,880 --> 00:13:09,560 Speaker 1: And the consciousness door is for me. My definition is 200 00:13:09,600 --> 00:13:16,440 Speaker 1: where my programming finishes and I start. So where is 201 00:13:16,520 --> 00:13:24,200 Speaker 1: the where is the cognitive cerebral real estate of mine 202 00:13:24,960 --> 00:13:31,520 Speaker 1: that exists separate to the programmed me, the one that's 203 00:13:31,559 --> 00:13:35,440 Speaker 1: been taught and told and trained and programmed what to think, 204 00:13:36,160 --> 00:13:41,480 Speaker 1: not taught how to think, teaching someone how to think, 205 00:13:41,760 --> 00:13:46,959 Speaker 1: how to think critically, how to disseminate information in an 206 00:13:47,120 --> 00:13:52,560 Speaker 1: unbiased way in an objective manner, how to arrive at 207 00:13:52,679 --> 00:13:58,040 Speaker 1: our own conclusions and thoughts and evaluations, and beliefs. This 208 00:13:58,320 --> 00:14:02,560 Speaker 1: is this is a big deal, this is a big challenge, 209 00:14:04,160 --> 00:14:10,200 Speaker 1: and it's almost impossible. It is almost impossible to be 210 00:14:10,240 --> 00:14:15,240 Speaker 1: objective because even though I'm talking to you about this, 211 00:14:15,320 --> 00:14:20,960 Speaker 1: and even though we understand this the concept objective subjective. 212 00:14:21,080 --> 00:14:25,360 Speaker 1: Something happened. Craig picked up his thing of chewy, he 213 00:14:25,480 --> 00:14:31,120 Speaker 1: dropped it. That's an objective event. Then there's the subjective 214 00:14:31,200 --> 00:14:33,320 Speaker 1: experience of what happened. I don't know if you heard 215 00:14:33,320 --> 00:14:35,560 Speaker 1: that I just dropped something. It's a terrible example if 216 00:14:35,560 --> 00:14:39,200 Speaker 1: you didn't hear it. But then there's the subjective experience 217 00:14:39,240 --> 00:14:42,120 Speaker 1: around that, Oh that was noisy, Oh that that was annoying, 218 00:14:42,320 --> 00:14:47,000 Speaker 1: or that didn't sound like a box of chewy or 219 00:14:47,040 --> 00:14:49,480 Speaker 1: whatever it is. It's just so there's the thing that 220 00:14:49,640 --> 00:14:53,800 Speaker 1: happens in our world, then there's our subjective interpretation of it, 221 00:14:53,880 --> 00:14:58,000 Speaker 1: and for us to be able to realize that, by 222 00:14:58,040 --> 00:15:00,280 Speaker 1: the way, can we be objective on any level? Of 223 00:15:00,320 --> 00:15:02,760 Speaker 1: course we can, and I believe the path to I 224 00:15:02,800 --> 00:15:05,840 Speaker 1: don't think we can ever be completely objective because we're 225 00:15:05,840 --> 00:15:09,200 Speaker 1: always going to have certain ideas and beliefs and values 226 00:15:09,240 --> 00:15:15,400 Speaker 1: and expectations and standards and knowledge or what we believe 227 00:15:15,520 --> 00:15:18,400 Speaker 1: to be knowledge anyway. But I think what we can 228 00:15:18,480 --> 00:15:25,440 Speaker 1: do is we can become less intertwined with being right, 229 00:15:27,600 --> 00:15:34,080 Speaker 1: less identified by our beliefs and our thinking and our 230 00:15:34,200 --> 00:15:40,840 Speaker 1: need to be As I said right. So I've never 231 00:15:40,960 --> 00:15:48,960 Speaker 1: been less sure of things than right now in my life, 232 00:15:48,960 --> 00:15:51,920 Speaker 1: which doesn't mean I don't have absolute thoughts and ideas 233 00:15:51,920 --> 00:15:55,760 Speaker 1: and beliefs. But those thoughts and ideas and beliefs, I 234 00:15:55,840 --> 00:16:00,840 Speaker 1: hold on to them loosely because I know. I know 235 00:16:01,360 --> 00:16:03,080 Speaker 1: that I can be wrong. I know that I am 236 00:16:03,200 --> 00:16:07,920 Speaker 1: probably wrong about several things, even right. Things that I 237 00:16:08,120 --> 00:16:11,000 Speaker 1: currently think nothing comes to mind, but I'm sure there 238 00:16:11,000 --> 00:16:15,960 Speaker 1: are attitudes, opinions, ideas, beliefs. What I think is knowledge, 239 00:16:15,960 --> 00:16:20,400 Speaker 1: But isn't that I currently have that currently resides in 240 00:16:20,800 --> 00:16:25,440 Speaker 1: my cerebral HQ that is actually somewhere between a little 241 00:16:25,440 --> 00:16:28,480 Speaker 1: bit wrong and complete bullshit. But I don't yet know it. 242 00:16:28,600 --> 00:16:31,840 Speaker 1: But here's the thing. I'm okay with that, and I 243 00:16:32,000 --> 00:16:34,680 Speaker 1: have to be okay with it because if I'm not 244 00:16:34,920 --> 00:16:37,520 Speaker 1: okay with it, then one I'm a fraud to all 245 00:16:37,520 --> 00:16:40,280 Speaker 1: of you. And two, if I'm not okay with it, 246 00:16:40,320 --> 00:16:44,520 Speaker 1: then now I'm unteachable because I fucking know everything. So 247 00:16:44,640 --> 00:16:52,760 Speaker 1: remember your thinking is not always your thinking. Number ten. 248 00:16:54,520 --> 00:16:56,720 Speaker 1: This a little bit tough, but I think some of 249 00:16:56,760 --> 00:17:01,320 Speaker 1: you will resonate with the thought. Over your lifetime. Many 250 00:17:01,320 --> 00:17:05,480 Speaker 1: people will pretend to care about you because at that 251 00:17:05,640 --> 00:17:09,760 Speaker 1: point in time you serve a purpose and or are 252 00:17:09,920 --> 00:17:15,040 Speaker 1: valuable to them in some way. So what am I saying? 253 00:17:15,040 --> 00:17:16,920 Speaker 1: There's going to be people who come into your life 254 00:17:16,960 --> 00:17:19,520 Speaker 1: that will play the role of a friend or someone 255 00:17:19,520 --> 00:17:23,880 Speaker 1: who cares. They will have the persona that you are 256 00:17:23,920 --> 00:17:27,680 Speaker 1: important to them, that they love you, that they care 257 00:17:27,760 --> 00:17:31,440 Speaker 1: about you. But you will find out at some stage 258 00:17:31,880 --> 00:17:35,720 Speaker 1: down the track either that wasn't true at all, or 259 00:17:35,760 --> 00:17:39,200 Speaker 1: it was not totally true, or maybe at one stage 260 00:17:39,240 --> 00:17:43,639 Speaker 1: they did, but that changed, And so you know, this 261 00:17:43,840 --> 00:17:48,000 Speaker 1: is not now kindness or love or friendship. This is 262 00:17:48,119 --> 00:17:52,879 Speaker 1: now a strategic alliance. This is now somebody being a 263 00:17:52,880 --> 00:17:57,680 Speaker 1: persona not a person. And I've had this many times 264 00:17:57,720 --> 00:18:00,240 Speaker 1: and I still have it, where people will role play 265 00:18:00,280 --> 00:18:04,280 Speaker 1: friendship to me because I know that at this point 266 00:18:04,320 --> 00:18:07,639 Speaker 1: in time I can open doors for them that are 267 00:18:07,760 --> 00:18:11,600 Speaker 1: valuable to them. So they're all super friendly and gushy, 268 00:18:11,800 --> 00:18:16,000 Speaker 1: borderline creepy, But I know exactly what's going on. And 269 00:18:16,040 --> 00:18:18,080 Speaker 1: I only know that because I've had that happen a lot. 270 00:18:18,240 --> 00:18:22,800 Speaker 1: I'm sure you've had it as well. And having said that, 271 00:18:24,880 --> 00:18:28,800 Speaker 1: I think there are times when you will have relationships 272 00:18:28,800 --> 00:18:33,600 Speaker 1: with people which are primarily strategic in nature. And that's okay, 273 00:18:33,720 --> 00:18:36,600 Speaker 1: because you will serve a purpose for them, they will 274 00:18:36,640 --> 00:18:39,440 Speaker 1: serve a purpose for you. It's a win win. It's 275 00:18:39,480 --> 00:18:44,720 Speaker 1: not necessarily a straight friendship, although you might get on well. 276 00:18:45,119 --> 00:18:49,120 Speaker 1: It's more a strategic alliance or partnership, and everyone knows 277 00:18:49,119 --> 00:18:51,840 Speaker 1: what it is, and that's cool. But what I'm talking 278 00:18:51,840 --> 00:18:55,320 Speaker 1: about today, in this moment is the people who, over 279 00:18:55,320 --> 00:18:57,720 Speaker 1: the course of your lifetime, will pretend that they care, 280 00:18:58,160 --> 00:19:00,520 Speaker 1: but when the shit hits the fan, you know that 281 00:19:00,560 --> 00:19:03,680 Speaker 1: they don't, or it's evident that they don't. Now, we're 282 00:19:03,680 --> 00:19:06,080 Speaker 1: not feeling sorry for ourselves about this. We're not going 283 00:19:06,119 --> 00:19:08,679 Speaker 1: whoy with me. We're going that's okay, that's part of 284 00:19:08,680 --> 00:19:11,080 Speaker 1: the human experience. That's fine. But what a couple of 285 00:19:11,080 --> 00:19:14,240 Speaker 1: things are going to happen. One is I'm going to 286 00:19:14,280 --> 00:19:16,640 Speaker 1: do my very best not to be that. I don't 287 00:19:16,640 --> 00:19:18,360 Speaker 1: want to be that in anyone else. I don't want 288 00:19:18,359 --> 00:19:22,240 Speaker 1: to be that person who's using somebody. And this is 289 00:19:22,280 --> 00:19:27,680 Speaker 1: a hard self inventory to do, because I think we've 290 00:19:27,720 --> 00:19:33,040 Speaker 1: all done it. Have I Craig Anthony Harper birthday Boy? 291 00:19:33,359 --> 00:19:39,600 Speaker 1: Have I ever taken advantage of somebody or or kept 292 00:19:39,720 --> 00:19:45,000 Speaker 1: a relationship afloat because they were in some way helpful 293 00:19:45,040 --> 00:19:49,760 Speaker 1: or valuable to me? I would be lying if I 294 00:19:49,760 --> 00:19:53,480 Speaker 1: said I hadn't. I'm not doing that at the moment 295 00:19:53,480 --> 00:19:55,520 Speaker 1: that I'm aware of. I don't do that that I'm 296 00:19:55,560 --> 00:20:00,400 Speaker 1: aware of. I'm aware of this particular thing, and so 297 00:20:01,280 --> 00:20:06,359 Speaker 1: I work very hard to be the person that is 298 00:20:06,480 --> 00:20:14,360 Speaker 1: of value and service to others. Having said that, I 299 00:20:14,400 --> 00:20:16,400 Speaker 1: don't want people to take the piss, and I will 300 00:20:16,440 --> 00:20:21,240 Speaker 1: not let people take the piss. I will definitely help people, 301 00:20:21,840 --> 00:20:25,840 Speaker 1: look after people, encourage and support people where there's nothing 302 00:20:25,880 --> 00:20:28,400 Speaker 1: in it return in return for me, of course, because 303 00:20:28,440 --> 00:20:32,080 Speaker 1: that's called love and kindness. But when somebody is role 304 00:20:32,200 --> 00:20:36,720 Speaker 1: playing or feigning that they care about me, that we 305 00:20:36,800 --> 00:20:40,280 Speaker 1: have some kind of special connection or bond, which I 306 00:20:40,359 --> 00:20:45,160 Speaker 1: know is bullshit, I shut that down, and I shut 307 00:20:45,200 --> 00:20:47,120 Speaker 1: that down because I just won't. You're probably going, how 308 00:20:47,119 --> 00:20:50,000 Speaker 1: do you do that? I just don't play along. I 309 00:20:50,119 --> 00:20:53,120 Speaker 1: just don't play along. I don't I whatever it is 310 00:20:53,119 --> 00:20:56,679 Speaker 1: that they want from me, I cut off access to 311 00:20:56,720 --> 00:21:01,160 Speaker 1: that because I'm a good guy. I won't be used 312 00:21:01,200 --> 00:21:04,680 Speaker 1: and manipulated for a range of reasons, for a range 313 00:21:04,680 --> 00:21:10,520 Speaker 1: of reasons. Number eleven is this not being good at school, 314 00:21:10,560 --> 00:21:12,400 Speaker 1: And this is good news for me. Not being good 315 00:21:12,400 --> 00:21:15,200 Speaker 1: at school or sport or creative stuff, for tech stuff 316 00:21:15,280 --> 00:21:17,760 Speaker 1: or fucking fill in the blank. Not being good at 317 00:21:17,800 --> 00:21:21,480 Speaker 1: certain things at school doesn't mean you can't be awesome 318 00:21:21,720 --> 00:21:25,080 Speaker 1: at life. How good is that? How good is it 319 00:21:25,119 --> 00:21:28,639 Speaker 1: that you can be you know, even the kid that 320 00:21:28,680 --> 00:21:30,800 Speaker 1: got picked on or the kids that got picked on 321 00:21:30,920 --> 00:21:34,080 Speaker 1: or the kid that got you know, like, by the way, 322 00:21:34,119 --> 00:21:36,520 Speaker 1: my school wasn't hard, but I was literally the kid 323 00:21:36,560 --> 00:21:40,080 Speaker 1: that got picked last for sporting teams and all that shit, right, 324 00:21:40,960 --> 00:21:47,240 Speaker 1: But that kid, those kids can be fucking rock stars 325 00:21:47,280 --> 00:21:49,760 Speaker 1: in life. You whether or not, you know, not being 326 00:21:49,800 --> 00:21:53,880 Speaker 1: great academically for example, or not being a brilliant athlete 327 00:21:54,040 --> 00:21:57,760 Speaker 1: for example, or not being a musical or creative genius 328 00:21:57,840 --> 00:22:02,840 Speaker 1: for example, or even not being popular at school, it 329 00:22:02,880 --> 00:22:08,720 Speaker 1: doesn't necessarily indicate anything for the future. And I would say, 330 00:22:08,720 --> 00:22:11,520 Speaker 1: and this sounds kind of a little bit like bullshit, 331 00:22:11,560 --> 00:22:15,000 Speaker 1: but for me, this has been true anyway, For me, 332 00:22:15,160 --> 00:22:17,399 Speaker 1: this was true, and so I know that it can 333 00:22:17,480 --> 00:22:23,120 Speaker 1: be true for others. My mediocrity, my averageness, my inability 334 00:22:23,160 --> 00:22:28,320 Speaker 1: to excel at stuff naturally. For me, that was a superpower, 335 00:22:29,040 --> 00:22:32,919 Speaker 1: and it was a superpower because it made me realize 336 00:22:33,080 --> 00:22:38,119 Speaker 1: early that I would never be a high achiever, a 337 00:22:38,240 --> 00:22:41,960 Speaker 1: high performer, or successful in inverted commas, whatever that means. 338 00:22:42,359 --> 00:22:44,840 Speaker 1: But I realized that I would never just fucking land 339 00:22:44,880 --> 00:22:48,560 Speaker 1: on my feet. And I realized this quite early because 340 00:22:48,600 --> 00:22:53,119 Speaker 1: I looked around me at kids who are more talented, smarter, 341 00:22:53,880 --> 00:22:56,760 Speaker 1: better looking, better genetics, all that stuff, right, I looked 342 00:22:56,760 --> 00:23:00,320 Speaker 1: at those kids and there wasn't jealousy or resembs, but 343 00:23:00,359 --> 00:23:03,600 Speaker 1: there was awareness. I'm like, well, that motherfucker can run 344 00:23:03,880 --> 00:23:07,639 Speaker 1: one hundred meters in eleven seconds, you know, three minutes 345 00:23:07,680 --> 00:23:10,840 Speaker 1: after he's eaten a bloody hamburger. I could train for 346 00:23:10,880 --> 00:23:13,480 Speaker 1: a year, and I couldn't do that, right, So for me, 347 00:23:13,720 --> 00:23:18,120 Speaker 1: it was just an awareness when I would see what 348 00:23:18,200 --> 00:23:21,280 Speaker 1: other people could do with little or no efforts, some effort, 349 00:23:21,359 --> 00:23:23,119 Speaker 1: and of course there were people who made lots of effort. 350 00:23:24,160 --> 00:23:28,560 Speaker 1: But I was surrounded not constantly, but you know, reasonably regularly. 351 00:23:28,600 --> 00:23:31,760 Speaker 1: I was surrounded by people who were just really quite gifted, 352 00:23:31,840 --> 00:23:34,840 Speaker 1: quite smart, quite blessed in all of those things, and 353 00:23:35,000 --> 00:23:39,239 Speaker 1: good on them. And that's amazing. I think that, you know, 354 00:23:39,320 --> 00:23:42,360 Speaker 1: for me, that the fact that I didn't have that 355 00:23:42,520 --> 00:23:46,000 Speaker 1: running start with all of these innate abilities or gifts, 356 00:23:47,080 --> 00:23:49,600 Speaker 1: that was my superpower. That was my fuel, that was 357 00:23:49,600 --> 00:23:54,040 Speaker 1: my motivation, that was my reason. It's what got me going, 358 00:23:54,880 --> 00:23:58,879 Speaker 1: It's what it was my compelling force. You know, I 359 00:23:59,760 --> 00:24:03,240 Speaker 1: knew that I wouldn't succeed because I had some amazing 360 00:24:03,600 --> 00:24:08,840 Speaker 1: unfair advantage over the other kids, you know, be that academic, intellectual, genetic, creative, whatever. 361 00:24:09,200 --> 00:24:13,000 Speaker 1: I knew that. I knew that for me it was 362 00:24:13,040 --> 00:24:16,719 Speaker 1: going to be about work, self controlled discipline. But I also, 363 00:24:17,440 --> 00:24:22,280 Speaker 1: I don't know why, but the times where I really 364 00:24:22,400 --> 00:24:25,280 Speaker 1: did set my mind to something, I actually produced some 365 00:24:25,320 --> 00:24:29,399 Speaker 1: good results. So I had I had a few wins 366 00:24:29,400 --> 00:24:32,199 Speaker 1: on the board, but I also had a bunch of 367 00:24:32,240 --> 00:24:35,679 Speaker 1: losses on the board. And so the good news is 368 00:24:35,760 --> 00:24:39,440 Speaker 1: the good news is if you're shit at school, if 369 00:24:39,480 --> 00:24:42,840 Speaker 1: you don't love school, if you're not the bloody, prettiest 370 00:24:42,920 --> 00:24:47,199 Speaker 1: or handsomest or fucking whateverest doesn't matter. Like and this 371 00:24:47,320 --> 00:24:49,800 Speaker 1: is not me trying to make people feel good. The 372 00:24:49,920 --> 00:24:54,200 Speaker 1: problem is some people get destroyed for life before they 373 00:24:54,240 --> 00:24:59,280 Speaker 1: even fucking start life in a way. And this is 374 00:25:00,119 --> 00:25:03,480 Speaker 1: obvious with the amount of mental health issues and even 375 00:25:04,119 --> 00:25:08,359 Speaker 1: tragically teen suicide that's happening. We see all these numbers 376 00:25:08,400 --> 00:25:13,720 Speaker 1: go up. It's so tragic, it's so it's so sad, 377 00:25:14,600 --> 00:25:18,879 Speaker 1: and I wish. I don't know, if you're a teacher 378 00:25:18,920 --> 00:25:21,919 Speaker 1: listening to this and you don't live a million miles away, 379 00:25:24,040 --> 00:25:27,920 Speaker 1: or you're a principal, hit me up with an email 380 00:25:28,080 --> 00:25:30,399 Speaker 1: if you would like me to, I don't know, do 381 00:25:30,440 --> 00:25:32,240 Speaker 1: a talk or something. You know, I can't do a 382 00:25:32,240 --> 00:25:34,439 Speaker 1: million talks, but I can definitely do one or two 383 00:25:36,359 --> 00:25:38,800 Speaker 1: for me. It's just really really important that kids that 384 00:25:39,119 --> 00:25:44,600 Speaker 1: all kids talented, not talented, you know, academically brilliant, strugglers, 385 00:25:44,600 --> 00:25:47,320 Speaker 1: battlers or everyone. You know, we're not just like we 386 00:25:47,440 --> 00:25:50,480 Speaker 1: care about because even some of the gifted kids still 387 00:25:50,520 --> 00:25:53,359 Speaker 1: struggle mentally and emotionally. We know that. And the last 388 00:25:53,400 --> 00:26:00,879 Speaker 1: one for today is sometimes success is got nothing to 389 00:26:00,920 --> 00:26:06,960 Speaker 1: do with money or staff or winning. I mean, think 390 00:26:07,000 --> 00:26:10,240 Speaker 1: about how many people are ticking for one of better term, 391 00:26:10,320 --> 00:26:18,080 Speaker 1: are ticking the success box, but are simultaneously unhappy. So 392 00:26:18,200 --> 00:26:23,600 Speaker 1: many people are from the outside looking in they are successful. 393 00:26:23,920 --> 00:26:28,639 Speaker 1: And if you evaluated their career or their financial situational 394 00:26:28,720 --> 00:26:32,800 Speaker 1: status or brand or bloody even their physical appearance, Like 395 00:26:32,800 --> 00:26:35,040 Speaker 1: for a lot of people, you go, wow, they're successful 396 00:26:35,080 --> 00:26:40,960 Speaker 1: because we evaluate success by these observable, measurable KPIs. They own, that, 397 00:26:41,000 --> 00:26:43,800 Speaker 1: they drive, that they live there. She is gorgeous, he 398 00:26:43,960 --> 00:26:47,719 Speaker 1: is handsome. Their kids are fucking superstars. Oh he's going 399 00:26:47,760 --> 00:26:51,960 Speaker 1: to get drafted into the AFL. She's got a singing career. Bibody, 400 00:26:52,000 --> 00:26:56,960 Speaker 1: bobbody boo. Tick all the boxes, what a Hollywood beautiful, amazing, 401 00:26:57,040 --> 00:27:02,200 Speaker 1: successful family. But behind the image and the kpiyes of 402 00:27:02,240 --> 00:27:07,240 Speaker 1: success and all the box ticking is misery. Sometimes his 403 00:27:07,320 --> 00:27:11,119 Speaker 1: loneliness is, frustration is depression, anxiety is inability to sleep 404 00:27:11,320 --> 00:27:19,919 Speaker 1: is social, emotional and psychological dysfunction. There is nothing wrong 405 00:27:20,080 --> 00:27:22,440 Speaker 1: with making lots of dough and driving a good car 406 00:27:22,480 --> 00:27:26,240 Speaker 1: and living in a good house, of course, and I'm 407 00:27:26,240 --> 00:27:30,600 Speaker 1: not telling you what your measurement of success should be. 408 00:27:30,720 --> 00:27:35,720 Speaker 1: Success is individual. For somebody running ten k's in an 409 00:27:35,760 --> 00:27:39,080 Speaker 1: hour is bloody amazing. For someone else that's devastatingly slow, 410 00:27:39,960 --> 00:27:42,159 Speaker 1: they get the same outcome, and one is happy and 411 00:27:42,160 --> 00:27:45,560 Speaker 1: one is sad. For somebody to make two thousand dollars 412 00:27:45,640 --> 00:27:49,520 Speaker 1: in a week would be mind blowingly incredible. For somebody 413 00:27:49,560 --> 00:27:53,399 Speaker 1: else the same number in the same amount of time, 414 00:27:54,040 --> 00:27:56,720 Speaker 1: two grand in a week would not be enough to 415 00:27:56,920 --> 00:28:03,080 Speaker 1: cover their expenses. Right, So different things have different meanings 416 00:28:03,119 --> 00:28:05,640 Speaker 1: to different people. So that the same whatever, the same 417 00:28:05,680 --> 00:28:09,080 Speaker 1: outcome two grand, one hour run. You know, somebody gets 418 00:28:09,359 --> 00:28:14,360 Speaker 1: a science degree, somebody's delirious with it, somebody thinks it 419 00:28:14,400 --> 00:28:17,280 Speaker 1: was a waste of four years. Whatever. It's all about 420 00:28:17,760 --> 00:28:23,040 Speaker 1: what it means to that individual. So wealth doesn't always 421 00:28:23,080 --> 00:28:31,879 Speaker 1: look like money. Wealth doesn't always look like stuff like 422 00:28:32,000 --> 00:28:36,600 Speaker 1: for me personally. Again, these are just If you find 423 00:28:36,640 --> 00:28:42,000 Speaker 1: my personal examples boring, I apologize, but I can't talk 424 00:28:42,040 --> 00:28:44,920 Speaker 1: too broadly about too many other people because it ain't fair. 425 00:28:44,960 --> 00:28:47,160 Speaker 1: But for me, you know, when I was in my 426 00:28:47,280 --> 00:28:50,720 Speaker 1: early thirties, I was ticking what would be considered to 427 00:28:50,760 --> 00:28:54,360 Speaker 1: be nearly all of the success boxes. I was going 428 00:28:54,680 --> 00:28:57,080 Speaker 1: from the outside looking in, I was going great. But 429 00:28:57,280 --> 00:28:59,400 Speaker 1: while I was going great, while I was driving this 430 00:28:59,520 --> 00:29:01,840 Speaker 1: and living and owning that and earning that and looking 431 00:29:01,960 --> 00:29:04,880 Speaker 1: like that, while I was ticking all those boxes. In 432 00:29:04,920 --> 00:29:08,920 Speaker 1: the middle of all of that, I personally was spiritually, emotionally, 433 00:29:09,520 --> 00:29:16,520 Speaker 1: and mentally bankrupt. I was fucking behind the curtain, behind 434 00:29:16,560 --> 00:29:21,320 Speaker 1: the public curtain, behind the success persona, away from the 435 00:29:21,360 --> 00:29:26,560 Speaker 1: fucking Craig show. I was shit. I wasn't successful at all. 436 00:29:27,760 --> 00:29:31,560 Speaker 1: I had the representation of success, but I didn't have 437 00:29:31,600 --> 00:29:36,960 Speaker 1: the experience. And I was really good at hiding that 438 00:29:37,080 --> 00:29:40,200 Speaker 1: from people. And people would be like, Wow, you're killing it. 439 00:29:40,280 --> 00:29:43,120 Speaker 1: You're this, You're that. I'm like, thank you, thank you. 440 00:29:43,200 --> 00:29:48,719 Speaker 1: I know it's fucking amazing, and through their eyes, based 441 00:29:48,760 --> 00:29:52,320 Speaker 1: on what they were seeing, they were right. But the 442 00:29:52,400 --> 00:29:55,440 Speaker 1: truth was that the personal truth for me was away 443 00:29:55,440 --> 00:29:58,160 Speaker 1: from the razzle dazzle and the Craig Show and the 444 00:29:58,200 --> 00:30:04,760 Speaker 1: smoke and mirrors. I wasn't successful at all. I was sad. 445 00:30:04,800 --> 00:30:09,160 Speaker 1: I was anxious. I was not sleeping. I was questioning 446 00:30:09,400 --> 00:30:11,880 Speaker 1: what the fuck I was doing, even though it was 447 00:30:11,920 --> 00:30:17,800 Speaker 1: all working. I was living out of alignment. And so 448 00:30:17,920 --> 00:30:20,680 Speaker 1: while we all need the resource of money, of course, 449 00:30:20,680 --> 00:30:23,160 Speaker 1: we need dough, of course we need stuff to function 450 00:30:23,240 --> 00:30:29,600 Speaker 1: in society. But for me, happiness and contentment and calm, 451 00:30:29,840 --> 00:30:34,240 Speaker 1: or we might say the absence of anxiety. That's generally, 452 00:30:34,280 --> 00:30:37,600 Speaker 1: and this is what people really want. What people Yes, 453 00:30:37,640 --> 00:30:39,320 Speaker 1: we need to pay the bills and feed the kids 454 00:30:39,320 --> 00:30:42,600 Speaker 1: and educate. Well, of course, of course we need that, 455 00:30:43,960 --> 00:30:46,880 Speaker 1: But the people that I talk to, it's not generally. 456 00:30:47,200 --> 00:30:50,120 Speaker 1: Sometimes it's that, but most of the people I talk 457 00:30:50,200 --> 00:30:54,120 Speaker 1: to most of the time, success for them is really 458 00:30:54,160 --> 00:30:58,560 Speaker 1: about their internal state, not the external show. It's really 459 00:30:58,600 --> 00:31:06,320 Speaker 1: about mental, emotional, and social wealth. It's about being the 460 00:31:06,480 --> 00:31:13,960 Speaker 1: calm and the chaos. It's about being able to exhale. 461 00:31:14,480 --> 00:31:15,240 Speaker 1: See you next time.