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Speaker 1: This podcast is recorded on gadigal Land Always was, always

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Speaker 1: will be Aboriginal Land.

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Speaker 2: Hey chicks, I'm Sal.

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Speaker 3: And I'm and this is two broke chicks to show

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Speaker 3: that shares life lessons because we're broken buns but rich

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Speaker 3: in life. And today we're joined once again by the beautiful, intelligent,

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Speaker 3: fabulous Alex.

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Speaker 2: Hello.

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Speaker 4: I love this intro. Thank you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you're like that is my official title for correctly

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Speaker 3: you just.

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Speaker 1: Make that your alarm every morning and.

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Speaker 2: I'm like informations from Sal.

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Speaker 1: You know what I love is that sound on TikTok.

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Speaker 1: It's like, good morning, You're stunning, And I'm like, yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's my love language, just being like yelled at it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but like one of the words I like, really swear. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: that's an air thing, is that I think?

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Speaker 1: So?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, ye my best friends in errors and yeah that's

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Speaker 3: But today we've got Alexa song because we're going to

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Speaker 3: be chatting productivity hacks that cost zero dollars because that's

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Speaker 3: like your bread and butter. It is, so we are

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Speaker 3: so excited. But before we get into it, we love

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Speaker 3: to start our episodes with a life lesson of the week,

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Speaker 3: So as our guest of honor, would you like to

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Speaker 3: kick us off?

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Speaker 5: Life lesson of the week. I'm always learning to be

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Speaker 5: more patient.

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Speaker 4: I'm not actually a patient person at the best of times.

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Speaker 4: I'm just not. But my partner.

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Speaker 5: Fiance, we're just talking about this. He teaches me a

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Speaker 5: lot of patience, which is great. Yeah, but yeah, just

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Speaker 5: patients in general, I'm a very impatient person. But this week,

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Speaker 5: I've just had moments where it's just teaching me that

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Speaker 5: I need to slow down, especially when trying to find

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Speaker 5: a car park.

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Speaker 3: Just yeah, when you're stuck in the heat of the

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Speaker 3: moment like that, do you have like a hack or

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Speaker 3: a tip to bring.

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Speaker 5: You down literally breath work? Because I'm also not now

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Speaker 5: I've definitely gotten better. I've taken a you know, leaf

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Speaker 5: out of my own pay book or whatever you call it.

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Speaker 5: But I would have like internalized road rage.

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Speaker 4: I just get so like, like.

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Speaker 5: I just yeah aggressive and I still This is probably

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Speaker 5: from when I got my license. I think it was

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Speaker 5: almost like about my best friend and I in high

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Speaker 4: It was almost like who would be more aggressive? It's

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Speaker 4: like a game, yeah, And I'm like, oh, I.

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Speaker 5: Need to just not be so affected by just people

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Speaker 5: wasting my time.

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Speaker 1: Was literally me this morning exactly literally like screaming here,

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Speaker 1: shaking my head, like what are you doing?

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Speaker 5: I was very late to the podcast this morning, l

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Speaker 5: having like rage blackouts.

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Speaker 2: I don't know how I got from bondy to hear.

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Speaker 1: At one point, I fully Regina George screamed in my car.

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Speaker 2: I've done that kind of embarrassing. I've done that in mind,

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Speaker 2: but I like actually just screamed, Yeah, it felt good.

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Speaker 5: I know you have to have to let it out,

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Speaker 5: but I realized that, you know how, sometimes when you

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Speaker 5: scream with frustration, the same goes for a deep breath.

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Speaker 5: So sometimes like you're so angry you think you need

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Speaker 5: like break something or smash something. It's just kind of

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Speaker 5: like I need a release. But the same thing can

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Speaker 5: be done with like a big breath of air or

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Speaker 5: a couple Yeah, kind of like just like you're just

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Speaker 4: So yeah, a lot of those moments this week.

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Speaker 2: I love that.

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Speaker 4: That's a good way to look at it. What's your

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Speaker 4: life lesson?

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Speaker 1: Now? My life lesson is to get an Alexa because

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Speaker 1: might save your life. Last week I was supposed to

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Speaker 1: be driving down to Wagga on Thursday afternoon to go

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Speaker 1: the wedding because I washed it and then I got

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Speaker 1: But like I was just she was going to be home,

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Speaker 1: Because I was like And then so I go on

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Speaker 2: Door I shut the door, honey, door won't open. I

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Speaker 2: locked myself out on my balcony. No, I had no food,

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Speaker 1: I had no book, I had nothing because the blinds

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Speaker 2: For a good ten minutes. I was like, to you

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Speaker 2: hear this is funny, But then I was like, wait,

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Speaker 2: I'm trapped. I was like, because I'm.

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Speaker 1: Claustrophobic, and you would think that you wouldn't get custrophobic

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Speaker 1: on about it, but it's still like I can't leave

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Speaker 2: And I was like maybe the trees will catch me.

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Speaker 2: But I was like, oh my god, what the how

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Speaker 2: do I do? Because I don't have a phone.

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Speaker 1: I left it inside because I was just popping out

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Speaker 2: The fuck do I do?

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Speaker 1: So I'm sitting here and I was like laying in

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Speaker 1: was like, oh my god, the Alexa because there was

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Speaker 1: an Alexa on the window sill of like the window

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Speaker 2: So then I was like this might not work.

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Speaker 4: And I have screamed been.

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Speaker 1: Like alexa, cool Rob and it works.

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Speaker 4: Oh my does he pick up his phone?

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Speaker 2: No, because he's a fucking.

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Speaker 1: Man, So then I have to cool sel and then

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Speaker 1: sound was like I can't he you all call me back.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, hey, don't wait, wait, don't and then she

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Speaker 4: I'm locked on the bell. I'm like what, like, I.

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Speaker 2: Cannot bond die. I can literally hear the people on

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Speaker 4: Just imagine I should have come down and tried to

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Speaker 1: And then it's like, oh, call the real estate. And

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Speaker 2: I was like it was.

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Speaker 1: And then my poor boyfriend because he just hed opped it.

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Speaker 2: He dropped it wasn't his fault and walked.

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Speaker 4: Like you your head, I couldn't even emergen.

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Speaker 2: Blah blah blah blah. And then anyway, so.

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Speaker 4: Let's save your life.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it could though, if you like fell and hurt

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Speaker 3: yourself and you won't in reach of your phone, but

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Speaker 3: you could be like Alexa, call.

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Speaker 2: Zero zero zero, Like I don't even know that Alexa

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Speaker 2: could call. So that was another lie.

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Speaker 5: Alexa thinks my Alexa thinks that her name is Alexis

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Speaker 5: calls with people and they'll be like, thank you Alexis,

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Speaker 5: and my Alex will be like, no problem.

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Speaker 4: For me, thank you.

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Speaker 2: That was a good impression of Alexa. But that was

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Speaker 2: very good.

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Speaker 4: I feel like I could be a voice oft.

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Speaker 2: I think so too the other day.

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Speaker 1: I'd love to do that, but no one would want

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Speaker 1: to hear that. Imagine me like reading some smart book

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Speaker 1: to you being like he's in gorged.

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Speaker 2: Length, came out of his cats, gorged length.

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Speaker 4: You don't know, You don't know.

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Speaker 3: Everybody has their own kinks, So yeah, exactly, it would

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Speaker 2: I would appreciate.

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Speaker 1: All right, smart books, new career move what's yourself?

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Speaker 4: Okay?

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Speaker 3: My life lesson is actually something that I picked up

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Speaker 3: from our friend Jem, the host of the Psychology of

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Speaker 3: Your twenty's podcast, Friend of the Show, Friend of the Show,

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Speaker 3: and she we were in the office together the other day

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Speaker 3: and she was like, oh, I've got to send my

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Speaker 3: message of the day and I was like, what are

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Speaker 2: And she was like, what are you doing?

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Speaker 3: What are you And she was like, oh, my partner

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Speaker 3: and I've been using this app called a Garpe and

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Speaker 3: it's like a conversation prompt app and there's all different

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Speaker 2: And then within that there's like niches.

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Speaker 3: So it will be like deep conversations like sexual, naughty time, whatever,

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Speaker 3: and you know, or it will be like daily reminders,

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Speaker 4: And I was like, I want to try that.

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Speaker 2: That sounds really cool.

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Speaker 5: Is it a gar pay or a gate a gar

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Speaker 5: pay and then use you use that prompt to then

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so you So then you add your friends on

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Speaker 3: it or your partner or whoever, and then you choose

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Speaker 3: They have to respond and you can't read their response

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Speaker 3: until you also respond to them, so.

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Speaker 4: Like you'll never be left.

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Speaker 3: You both have to Yeah, you both have to engage

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and yeah, I like that that's suck at replying

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean it's it's more so for like meaningful conversations,

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Speaker 3: but it's really like it's such a cute idea and

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Speaker 3: like I feel like that would be so nice for

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Speaker 3: like long distance friends, especially long distance partners. And yeah,

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Speaker 3: my boyfriend and I, who have been together for over

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Speaker 3: fifteen years, I feel like we've talked about every single

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Speaker 3: thing you possibly can talk.

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Speaker 1: About, and we were like, oh, this is done, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: wrap this up.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, run you told me that story before.

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Speaker 1: Now.

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Speaker 2: I did that with people I met like a week.

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Speaker 1: They'll be like I can see you on someone's face

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Speaker 1: and I'm like, I've told you this, yeah, and they're.

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Speaker 2: Like yeah, but it's like kind of my fie, tell

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Speaker 1: Yeah, the chick's like, you already told us aboutcony story about.

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Speaker 4: But yeah.

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Speaker 3: So even though we've been together for so long and

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Speaker 4: And it was so sweet. Yeah it's free.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm really trying to sell the audio Bookay, I'm

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Speaker 5: untouchable thing. It's like, not only do I have to

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Speaker 5: manage my time, because people talk about time management all

447
00:19:49,720 --> 00:19:52,399
Speaker 5: the time, but we don't talk about attention management. And

448
00:19:52,480 --> 00:19:56,000
Speaker 5: attention management is way more important than time management, because

449
00:19:56,000 --> 00:19:58,400
Speaker 5: I could if I manage my attention properly, I could

450
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Speaker 5: do just as much in half the time, you know,

451
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Speaker 5: so we'll you know, when I do move my phone

452
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Speaker 5: away from from where I'm at, is when I do

453
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Speaker 5: time blocking, when I'm writing a book, when I'm really

454
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Speaker 5: like when I need high focus, I will set a

455
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Speaker 5: forty minute time up on my phone, but then I'll

456
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Speaker 5: move my phone away, which stops me from that subconscious reach.

457
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Speaker 1: Check.

458
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Speaker 4: Yeah, because the.

459
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Speaker 5: Moment I go to reach for it, it's like your

460
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Speaker 5: arm almost and then you're aware, and then you settle

461
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Speaker 5: back and you're like no. And then the more you

462
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Speaker 5: do that, just this noting of your behavior, the less

463
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Speaker 5: you do it, Like when people have a habit they

464
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Speaker 5: flick there and on their rest, it's just this you've

465
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Speaker 5: you've brought your conscious mind into a subconscious behavior and

466
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Speaker 5: it helps kind of stop it.

467
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel like I would feel good.

468
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I love that I would get addicted to that.

469
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Speaker 4: I wouldn't. I wouldn't be like, then you need another

470
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Speaker 4: thing to stop that.

471
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Speaker 1: I put it on my toe'sous cycle.

472
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Speaker 4: Yeah.

473
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Speaker 3: What are some other affordable is that you can change

474
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Speaker 3: up your routine to make it more productive.

475
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Speaker 4: Okay, so we're actually talking about this just yesterday, but I.

476
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Speaker 5: Was saying that what's really exciting for probably everyone listening

477
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Speaker 5: is that where you are right now, you could make

478
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Speaker 5: your life already fifty one hundred percent for some people

479
00:21:20,280 --> 00:21:22,840
Speaker 5: five hundred percent better, just with the tools that you

480
00:21:22,840 --> 00:21:26,239
Speaker 5: have at your disposal already. So sometimes we'll look at

481
00:21:26,240 --> 00:21:28,119
Speaker 5: our life and we think, when I get this, then

482
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Speaker 5: I can have this, and when I get this, then

483
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Speaker 5: I'll feel this way and when when when? And if

484
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Speaker 5: this happened and if I was making more money, which

485
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Speaker 5: is true, resources definitely help you go further, that's all true,

486
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Speaker 5: but we're taking for granted or ignoring the amount of

487
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Speaker 5: resource that we have already at our disposal, and that

488
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Speaker 5: is things like number one thing that will actually change

489
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Speaker 5: your life is so boring, but it's a habit, you know,

490
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Speaker 5: a ritual in your day, and it doesn't have to

491
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Speaker 5: be in the morning, although morning is the most elite

492
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Speaker 5: time time go set your day up, but you can

493
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Speaker 5: also have mini habits throughout the day. You know, a

494
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Speaker 5: mini habit could be, Okay, if I'm going to brush

495
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Speaker 5: my teeth, then there's a series of events that happens

496
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Speaker 5: after I brush my teeth, and it's in the same

497
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Speaker 5: order every night. So then instead of like brushing my teeth,

498
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Speaker 5: fucking around looking at what am I and then it's

499
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Speaker 5: like thirty minutes before it's like, no, I brush my teeth.

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Speaker 4: It's like a set routine.

501
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Speaker 5: Or if when I take my clothes off, I fold

502
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Speaker 5: it and put it away instead of dumping it on

503
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Speaker 5: the floor, which is something that surprisingly I've only started

504
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Speaker 5: to instill in.

505
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Speaker 2: The last yet.

506
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Speaker 4: It's crazy how much time it saves, you know, Oh

507
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Speaker 4: my gosh.

508
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Speaker 5: Yeah, instead of having to redo your wardrobe every week,

509
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Speaker 5: you're doing it once every three months now.

510
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Speaker 1: All that like you know, washing basket that's been in

511
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Speaker 1: the corner for two weeks, being like.

512
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Speaker 5: You're a fire exactly exactly I'm talking to you. Yeah,

513
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Speaker 5: So I would definitely say two things I would say

514
00:22:52,640 --> 00:22:54,800
Speaker 5: is number one. The best way to start a habit

515
00:22:54,840 --> 00:22:56,640
Speaker 5: is just find two behaviors that you can tack onto

516
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Speaker 5: each other and do it. Every time you do it,

517
00:22:58,760 --> 00:23:01,080
Speaker 5: do both of them together the start of a habit,

518
00:23:01,280 --> 00:23:03,320
Speaker 5: because then you could or a routine if you like,

519
00:23:03,400 --> 00:23:05,520
Speaker 5: because then you can start making it longer, long and longer.

520
00:23:05,560 --> 00:23:09,399
Speaker 5: Whatever works for you. And everybody is different, some people have.

521
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Speaker 5: So I interviewed this guy. He's in the States. He's

522
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Speaker 5: a he's a therapist in the States, and his routine

523
00:23:15,200 --> 00:23:18,680
Speaker 5: was so vastly different from mine. But it just he said,

524
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Speaker 5: he rolls out of bed. So I'm like, bed, you know,

525
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Speaker 5: wash my face, meditate Jim.

526
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Speaker 4: He rolls out of bed. He says, he doesn't even

527
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Speaker 4: wash his face.

528
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Speaker 5: He just gets himself to a cafe across the road,

529
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Speaker 5: right and then from there he does two hours of writing.

530
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Speaker 4: Without He hasn't even watched this Fast Night. He's just

531
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Speaker 4: a coffee Wow. After does that?

532
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Speaker 5: You haven't even put water on your I just find

533
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Speaker 5: that and I loved it, Like I do that. Then

534
00:23:47,200 --> 00:23:49,159
Speaker 5: I come home and then he's got this compollet. But

535
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Speaker 5: it works for him. So when you hear about routines.

536
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Speaker 4: You don't have to imitate someone else's routine. Do what

537
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Speaker 4: works for you. Work with what you've got, work with

538
00:23:58,000 --> 00:23:58,960
Speaker 4: the baby, use it.

539
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Speaker 5: Yeah, because some times we think, oh, but I'm you know,

540
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Speaker 5: I could never do that.

541
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Speaker 4: I could never do that.

542
00:24:02,880 --> 00:24:05,960
Speaker 5: Maybe not, but you could do more than what you're

543
00:24:06,000 --> 00:24:08,000
Speaker 5: doing now already with what you've got. You've just got

544
00:24:08,040 --> 00:24:11,119
Speaker 5: to like package it differently. When I started packaging my

545
00:24:11,359 --> 00:24:15,360
Speaker 5: attention and my time and my mornings differently, it transformed

546
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Speaker 5: how focused I was, how I could stay on task

547
00:24:18,840 --> 00:24:21,880
Speaker 5: for longer, how I could just get more things done.

548
00:24:22,160 --> 00:24:24,479
Speaker 5: Because there'd be many days, even to this day, there

549
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Speaker 5: are days where I'm no creativity, I've got no focus,

550
00:24:27,560 --> 00:24:32,280
Speaker 5: I've got nothing. But because you're hitting that target most days,

551
00:24:32,440 --> 00:24:34,200
Speaker 5: then when you have a day like that, you don't

552
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Speaker 5: feel bad.

553
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Speaker 4: Yeah, so try and.

554
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Speaker 5: Hit Like I've got a really laxed hit rate, I'll

555
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Speaker 5: try and do a seventy percent hit rate. If I'm

556
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Speaker 5: doing what I want to be doing seventy percent of

557
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Speaker 5: the time, then the days where I'm just not showing up,

558
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Speaker 5: I've got nothing to give. I don't even feel guilty.

559
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Speaker 4: Because I'm like, that is okay, this falls together. I've

560
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Speaker 4: factored in failure.

561
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Speaker 1: I like that because as well, I think we think

562
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Speaker 1: we have to be protective all the time. All that

563
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Speaker 1: you feel guilty when you're resting, you're not resting, if

564
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Speaker 1: you're feeling good, you have.

565
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Speaker 4: To factor in failure.

566
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Speaker 5: Look at you look at so much in our life,

567
00:25:06,720 --> 00:25:09,760
Speaker 5: so much in our reality already has failure factored into it.

568
00:25:09,760 --> 00:25:11,199
Speaker 4: We have twelve demerit points.

569
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Speaker 5: When you go for your license, you can have x

570
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Speaker 5: amount to fail to get a degree. You don't have

571
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Speaker 5: to get one hundred percent. Failure is factored into everything,

572
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Speaker 5: but we don't do it for us.

573
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Speaker 1: Give your life exactly, literally exactly and.

574
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Speaker 4: Fact and just it's part of it.

575
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Speaker 5: So when I look at it, and you could look

576
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Speaker 5: at it from a food perspective, from a how much

577
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Speaker 5: do I have to give today perspective, if you have

578
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Speaker 5: like I'm going to give it this much, but I

579
00:25:33,960 --> 00:25:37,720
Speaker 5: have already factored this, then there's no guilt. And the

580
00:25:37,760 --> 00:25:40,520
Speaker 5: thing is when you remove this guilt towards what you've

581
00:25:40,520 --> 00:25:42,760
Speaker 5: done in your productivity, you've got to be more productive

582
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Speaker 5: in the future.

583
00:25:43,240 --> 00:25:44,439
Speaker 4: Because one of the things that really.

584
00:25:44,320 --> 00:25:47,200
Speaker 5: Holds us back is this how we speak to ourselves

585
00:25:47,240 --> 00:25:49,480
Speaker 5: this language to ourselves, how we respect ourselves.

586
00:25:49,760 --> 00:25:50,600
Speaker 4: So if you're saying I'm a.

587
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Speaker 5: Fucking idiot, I'm a failure, I'm going to start from zero.

588
00:25:52,240 --> 00:25:54,320
Speaker 5: I got to start again from the beginning because I didn't.

589
00:25:55,200 --> 00:25:57,240
Speaker 5: Then when you approach a task, you feel a little

590
00:25:57,280 --> 00:25:59,160
Speaker 5: bit like your self esteem towards our things a little

591
00:25:59,200 --> 00:26:01,440
Speaker 5: bit low. We just don't feel is good within yourself.

592
00:26:02,320 --> 00:26:04,760
Speaker 5: But if you feel like I'm on my side, we're

593
00:26:04,800 --> 00:26:07,719
Speaker 5: a team, me and this. You know, whoever money physical,

594
00:26:09,480 --> 00:26:12,800
Speaker 5: it's a team and we work with each other.

595
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Speaker 4: I love that, you know what.

596
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Speaker 1: It's so true because I would suck at taking supplements,

597
00:26:17,880 --> 00:26:19,320
Speaker 1: like I wouldn't never take my eye and.

598
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Speaker 2: Get a blood test and how are you standing up?

599
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Speaker 1: And then I just put them next to my coffee

600
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Speaker 1: machine because I have a coffee every morning because I

601
00:26:30,440 --> 00:26:32,800
Speaker 1: need that sweet bean juice to make me go.

602
00:26:33,320 --> 00:26:35,720
Speaker 2: And because it's there when I'm waiting for.

603
00:26:35,680 --> 00:26:37,400
Speaker 1: The coffee machine to do his thing, I just take

604
00:26:37,400 --> 00:26:40,000
Speaker 1: the ittoms because they're yeaht literally, And then I went

605
00:26:40,040 --> 00:26:41,080
Speaker 1: I had blood test recently.

606
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Speaker 2: She's like, and I was being like, yeah, how low

607
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Speaker 2: it's my eye And like am I standing up? She's like, no,

608
00:26:47,840 --> 00:26:48,400
Speaker 2: your own's good.

609
00:26:48,480 --> 00:26:50,679
Speaker 1: And I was like, oh, you're like, but it is

610
00:26:51,000 --> 00:26:51,639
Speaker 1: just tagged.

611
00:26:52,359 --> 00:26:55,600
Speaker 5: You've just tagged onto this to you know. And if

612
00:26:55,640 --> 00:26:57,199
Speaker 5: you're like, well, I don't know what I can take on,

613
00:26:57,320 --> 00:27:00,240
Speaker 5: think about it. Behavior that's absolutely inevitable that you're going

614
00:27:00,280 --> 00:27:00,399
Speaker 5: to do.

615
00:27:00,480 --> 00:27:02,440
Speaker 4: Yours is coffee. For a lot of people, it would

616
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Speaker 4: be coffee.

617
00:27:03,359 --> 00:27:06,080
Speaker 5: One could be okay, where do I put my keys

618
00:27:06,119 --> 00:27:08,040
Speaker 5: for my can't then what I have there that I

619
00:27:08,080 --> 00:27:09,760
Speaker 5: have to do before? Like, it could be anything but

620
00:27:11,600 --> 00:27:15,040
Speaker 5: the shower, Yes, yes, exactly. And then the more you

621
00:27:15,080 --> 00:27:18,560
Speaker 5: start doing these things, the more you start remembering things,

622
00:27:18,600 --> 00:27:20,800
Speaker 5: more you start being more in tune. You know, you

623
00:27:20,800 --> 00:27:23,119
Speaker 5: you have to look at your brain as not working

624
00:27:23,359 --> 00:27:24,200
Speaker 5: against you.

625
00:27:24,560 --> 00:27:26,240
Speaker 4: Just look at your brain. It's doing what I've trained

626
00:27:26,240 --> 00:27:26,640
Speaker 4: it to do.

627
00:27:27,440 --> 00:27:34,280
Speaker 2: We work against brain when you pick up that little brick,

628
00:27:34,640 --> 00:27:35,320
Speaker 2: put it away, and.

629
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Speaker 5: You're like, honestly, and if you're always like, I have

630
00:27:40,320 --> 00:27:41,640
Speaker 5: to do this thing, I have to do the thing

631
00:27:41,680 --> 00:27:43,840
Speaker 5: your brain's learning, okay, avoid.

632
00:27:45,480 --> 00:27:46,240
Speaker 2: And then when you go and.

633
00:27:46,200 --> 00:27:48,639
Speaker 5: Do it, your brains avoid it so many times. Why

634
00:27:48,680 --> 00:27:51,200
Speaker 5: a we're doing it now, let's start avoid again. Brain

635
00:27:51,280 --> 00:27:53,480
Speaker 5: loves patterns, loves repetitive.

636
00:27:53,840 --> 00:27:55,760
Speaker 2: Everything good or bad, good or bad.

637
00:27:56,040 --> 00:27:57,560
Speaker 4: It's just going to do what you taught it to do.

638
00:27:57,680 --> 00:28:00,960
Speaker 4: That's all true. So it's my fault.

639
00:28:03,000 --> 00:28:03,399
Speaker 5: You are that.

640
00:28:03,520 --> 00:28:05,520
Speaker 2: I've never fault in my life.

641
00:28:06,119 --> 00:28:09,280
Speaker 4: Didn't anyone tell you? I thought we briefed you before.

642
00:28:09,480 --> 00:28:10,320
Speaker 4: I'm the victim here.

643
00:28:11,080 --> 00:28:13,200
Speaker 1: But the other thing that I think was interesting, again

644
00:28:13,200 --> 00:28:14,920
Speaker 1: that we were talking about yesterday because we're best friends

645
00:28:14,920 --> 00:28:19,200
Speaker 1: and we hang out all the time, is how does

646
00:28:19,280 --> 00:28:22,199
Speaker 1: money equal motivation? Do you need to spend money in

647
00:28:22,320 --> 00:28:24,720
Speaker 1: order to motivate yourself? Yes?

648
00:28:24,760 --> 00:28:25,160
Speaker 4: So okay.

649
00:28:25,200 --> 00:28:30,200
Speaker 5: Really interesting about motivation and money or gains or losses,

650
00:28:30,240 --> 00:28:32,080
Speaker 5: if you want to look at it that way, is

651
00:28:32,119 --> 00:28:36,760
Speaker 5: that we are a lot more motivated to not lose something.

652
00:28:36,880 --> 00:28:41,040
Speaker 5: So the thought of a loss, like retaining something, we're

653
00:28:41,040 --> 00:28:45,520
Speaker 5: motivated way more towards that than the prospect of gaining something. So,

654
00:28:45,680 --> 00:28:50,120
Speaker 5: for example, if I said to you, if you do

655
00:28:50,200 --> 00:28:53,040
Speaker 5: this thing for you know, a week straight, I'll give

656
00:28:53,040 --> 00:28:55,440
Speaker 5: you a hundred bucks, you would think that would motivate you,

657
00:28:55,840 --> 00:28:58,520
Speaker 5: unless we're talking like obscene amounts of money, like a

658
00:28:58,520 --> 00:28:59,880
Speaker 5: million dollars, of course you're going to do it, but

659
00:29:00,040 --> 00:29:02,800
Speaker 5: in general, you know, one hundred bucks.

660
00:29:02,840 --> 00:29:03,720
Speaker 4: But then if we did.

661
00:29:03,560 --> 00:29:07,240
Speaker 5: The equivalent of give me, you pay me one hundred dollars,

662
00:29:07,640 --> 00:29:09,880
Speaker 5: and if you get that thing done, I'll return the hundred.

663
00:29:09,600 --> 00:29:10,280
Speaker 4: Dollars to you.

664
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Speaker 5: You're more likely to do it because you're like, I

665
00:29:12,360 --> 00:29:14,360
Speaker 5: don't want to lose the one hundred that i've This

666
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Speaker 5: is my.

667
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Speaker 4: Money and now you're holding it and if I don't

668
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Speaker 4: follow through.

669
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Speaker 5: It's kind of like with fitness classes we were talking about.

670
00:29:21,960 --> 00:29:25,720
Speaker 5: If you pay a membership for unlimited whatever with no

671
00:29:25,800 --> 00:29:28,320
Speaker 5: penalties for a year, people say, oh, but it's going

672
00:29:28,360 --> 00:29:31,600
Speaker 5: to motivate me. Sometimes it motivates people, but a lot

673
00:29:31,600 --> 00:29:32,760
Speaker 5: of the time people are like, oh my god, I've

674
00:29:32,760 --> 00:29:34,880
Speaker 5: been paying this gym membership, for example, a gym membership,

675
00:29:34,880 --> 00:29:36,680
Speaker 5: have been paying the same thing week in, week out,

676
00:29:36,720 --> 00:29:37,880
Speaker 5: and that hasn't motivated me.

677
00:29:37,920 --> 00:29:39,000
Speaker 4: But the difference is if.

678
00:29:38,920 --> 00:29:41,040
Speaker 5: You were to pay this membership right and you'd booked

679
00:29:41,040 --> 00:29:42,840
Speaker 5: into a class, and then if you don't go to

680
00:29:42,880 --> 00:29:45,080
Speaker 5: the class that you've already booked into, you get a

681
00:29:45,080 --> 00:29:49,240
Speaker 5: twenty dollars penalty, then people are more likely to stick

682
00:29:49,240 --> 00:29:51,360
Speaker 5: that up because if it's like if I pay thirty

683
00:29:51,400 --> 00:29:54,360
Speaker 5: dollars for the gym for unlimited and whether I go,

684
00:29:54,400 --> 00:29:56,400
Speaker 5: whether I don't go, it's still thirty dollars.

685
00:29:56,440 --> 00:29:57,560
Speaker 2: It doesn't really feel like a lost to me.

686
00:29:57,600 --> 00:30:00,120
Speaker 5: I've made that commitment regardless of whether I go. But

687
00:30:00,160 --> 00:30:02,720
Speaker 5: if on top of that it's another twenty bucks.

688
00:30:02,480 --> 00:30:03,200
Speaker 4: For not rocking up.

689
00:30:03,440 --> 00:30:07,960
Speaker 5: I'm going to this class, you know. And we're always

690
00:30:07,960 --> 00:30:11,560
Speaker 5: more motivated towards loss of version. We hate to lose,

691
00:30:12,200 --> 00:30:16,040
Speaker 5: and so it's true. Yeah, and so it's good to

692
00:30:16,120 --> 00:30:18,200
Speaker 5: use that to your advantage because what you could do,

693
00:30:18,400 --> 00:30:21,560
Speaker 5: especially if it's financial, you could say to your friend

694
00:30:21,640 --> 00:30:23,520
Speaker 5: or whatever, you've got to really like stick it out.

695
00:30:23,520 --> 00:30:25,560
Speaker 5: You can't actually need that money, give it back to me,

696
00:30:28,720 --> 00:30:32,000
Speaker 5: Give your money to your friend or whatever, and say,

697
00:30:32,080 --> 00:30:34,000
Speaker 5: because instead of saying, if I don't follow through, I'll

698
00:30:34,000 --> 00:30:35,960
Speaker 5: pay you this, your friends at gotta hold a gun

699
00:30:35,960 --> 00:30:39,200
Speaker 5: to your head and say they're not down.

700
00:30:40,480 --> 00:30:42,280
Speaker 4: So now I'm going to break your knee.

701
00:30:45,080 --> 00:30:49,600
Speaker 1: Like I don't what to do, but I mean, while

702
00:30:49,600 --> 00:30:51,840
Speaker 1: you've got to smile like it.

703
00:30:51,880 --> 00:30:57,400
Speaker 4: Didn't take you vitamin didn't absolutely violent.

704
00:30:58,080 --> 00:31:01,920
Speaker 5: But you could say, if if I don't follow through

705
00:31:01,920 --> 00:31:04,240
Speaker 5: with this, I want you to give that money to

706
00:31:04,360 --> 00:31:10,160
Speaker 5: then some cause that you hate. You know, you can

707
00:31:10,200 --> 00:31:14,200
Speaker 5: get me to do your GIF the worst thing. You

708
00:31:14,200 --> 00:31:18,280
Speaker 5: would donate money to a political campaign Trump.

709
00:31:19,560 --> 00:31:22,320
Speaker 4: The worst and say to your friend, hold hold those funds.

710
00:31:22,440 --> 00:31:25,880
Speaker 4: If I don't follow through, donate it to that and

711
00:31:25,920 --> 00:31:28,440
Speaker 4: then you contribute it to that thing. It's great.

712
00:31:28,520 --> 00:31:30,680
Speaker 2: If I was that friend, I wouldn't donate it. I

713
00:31:30,680 --> 00:31:32,959
Speaker 2: would just keep it. Yeah I did.

714
00:31:33,680 --> 00:31:35,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, I donated it because one I don't want like

715
00:31:35,880 --> 00:31:38,600
Speaker 1: organization to get it into I'm better than Donald Trump,

716
00:31:40,120 --> 00:31:41,800
Speaker 1: I tell them I did, But I just keep.

717
00:31:41,680 --> 00:31:44,200
Speaker 4: It making proper.

718
00:31:45,080 --> 00:31:48,440
Speaker 2: No one's going to know. Don't give me money. Just

719
00:31:48,480 --> 00:31:50,520
Speaker 2: make up like a fake invoice on camber or something.

720
00:31:50,600 --> 00:31:51,280
Speaker 4: Yeah, I did it.

721
00:31:51,440 --> 00:31:55,640
Speaker 3: Pauline Hanson just got fifty Yeah, exactly.

722
00:31:56,840 --> 00:32:04,360
Speaker 2: Market Pauline's Glee markets this yeah shit stall.

723
00:32:06,720 --> 00:32:10,400
Speaker 3: So how can you actually make yourself do things that

724
00:32:11,120 --> 00:32:13,920
Speaker 3: you want to do when you don't want to do

725
00:32:14,040 --> 00:32:16,440
Speaker 3: it at the same time. So, for example, you want

726
00:32:16,520 --> 00:32:19,440
Speaker 3: to get up early to go to the gym, but

727
00:32:19,600 --> 00:32:22,000
Speaker 3: you know that when the alarm goes off in the morning,

728
00:32:22,280 --> 00:32:24,880
Speaker 3: you just lose it. You just it and like it's

729
00:32:24,920 --> 00:32:26,479
Speaker 3: like you're a different person when you go to bed

730
00:32:26,560 --> 00:32:27,080
Speaker 3: verse when.

731
00:32:26,920 --> 00:32:29,200
Speaker 1: You're like I'm going to run a marathon tomorrow morning,

732
00:32:29,320 --> 00:32:31,200
Speaker 1: and then the morning comes and you're like, oh, my

733
00:32:31,320 --> 00:32:33,040
Speaker 1: legs are broken exactly. Yeah.

734
00:32:33,320 --> 00:32:37,720
Speaker 5: So there's two things. The first one is you always

735
00:32:37,760 --> 00:32:39,680
Speaker 5: have to look at discomfort is inevitable.

736
00:32:40,320 --> 00:32:42,280
Speaker 4: You just choose your discomfort.

737
00:32:42,440 --> 00:32:45,840
Speaker 5: Okay, am I going to have the discomfort of getting

738
00:32:45,920 --> 00:32:47,840
Speaker 5: up now and going to the gym? Or am I

739
00:32:47,920 --> 00:32:51,520
Speaker 5: going to have the probably worst discomfort off in a

740
00:32:51,600 --> 00:32:53,520
Speaker 5: week's time being like I could have done it, but

741
00:32:53,600 --> 00:32:55,840
Speaker 5: I didn't. Yeah, and I'm annoyed it myself. So there's

742
00:32:55,840 --> 00:32:58,719
Speaker 5: always a discomfort. Or I'm so I'm not recovering as

743
00:32:58,800 --> 00:33:00,680
Speaker 5: fast I had a trip, but had I been like

744
00:33:01,160 --> 00:33:04,160
Speaker 5: exercising regularly, it probably would have healed strong like faster

745
00:33:04,360 --> 00:33:06,000
Speaker 5: and I would have recovered better, would have been healthier.

746
00:33:06,320 --> 00:33:08,720
Speaker 4: There's always a discomfort. There's the discomfort of not having

747
00:33:08,720 --> 00:33:11,520
Speaker 4: the life you want, and there's the discomfort of action.

748
00:33:11,720 --> 00:33:15,560
Speaker 5: Now you choose, it's up to you. No no judgment,

749
00:33:15,640 --> 00:33:17,840
Speaker 5: no shame, but it's a choice. You're like, which discomfort

750
00:33:17,880 --> 00:33:20,560
Speaker 5: in my choosing? That's number one. And the second one

751
00:33:20,920 --> 00:33:26,000
Speaker 5: is stop thinking that your future self is this amazing,

752
00:33:26,160 --> 00:33:28,880
Speaker 5: motivated version of you that's got something that you don't

753
00:33:28,920 --> 00:33:29,440
Speaker 5: have right now.

754
00:33:29,800 --> 00:33:32,960
Speaker 4: Whoever you are right right now is who the you

755
00:33:33,280 --> 00:33:34,800
Speaker 4: off tomorrow will be.

756
00:33:35,120 --> 00:33:37,400
Speaker 5: So when you set yourself a goal, when you set

757
00:33:37,440 --> 00:33:40,200
Speaker 5: yourself a task, set it when it's the hardest to

758
00:33:40,320 --> 00:33:40,600
Speaker 5: set it.

759
00:33:41,160 --> 00:33:43,719
Speaker 4: So I always use my sorry mum as an example.

760
00:33:44,320 --> 00:33:46,880
Speaker 5: My mom and my aunt is because they always are like,

761
00:33:46,960 --> 00:33:49,280
Speaker 5: we need to eat less sugar because they love cake,

762
00:33:49,520 --> 00:33:50,200
Speaker 5: love coffee.

763
00:33:54,080 --> 00:33:55,440
Speaker 4: I also love cake, but.

764
00:33:55,640 --> 00:33:58,120
Speaker 5: They would They will go to a cafe, buy this

765
00:33:58,480 --> 00:34:01,400
Speaker 5: hectic piece of cake, share a haha, eat it, eat it,

766
00:34:01,480 --> 00:34:01,760
Speaker 5: eat it.

767
00:34:01,840 --> 00:34:05,160
Speaker 4: Be full, and they're like, right after they've eaten the cake,

768
00:34:05,520 --> 00:34:08,080
Speaker 4: right one week, no sugar, no sugar.

769
00:34:09,400 --> 00:34:11,239
Speaker 5: Like, you've just made that promise to yourself at the

770
00:34:11,440 --> 00:34:14,799
Speaker 5: easiest possible time. So when you wake up hungover dying,

771
00:34:14,840 --> 00:34:16,439
Speaker 5: you're like, that's it, I'm not drinking for two weeks.

772
00:34:16,560 --> 00:34:18,319
Speaker 5: Of course, try to say that on a Friday night

773
00:34:18,320 --> 00:34:19,640
Speaker 5: with a cocktail right in front of you. I'm not

774
00:34:19,760 --> 00:34:23,600
Speaker 5: drinking for two weeks. No, your voice less and.

775
00:34:26,960 --> 00:34:27,240
Speaker 4: Fine.

776
00:34:27,440 --> 00:34:29,680
Speaker 5: But the beauty of that is then you you learn

777
00:34:29,840 --> 00:34:33,799
Speaker 5: how to structure a realistic goal for yourself. Because I'm

778
00:34:33,800 --> 00:34:37,640
Speaker 5: all for like aiming super high, but you've also got

779
00:34:37,920 --> 00:34:40,000
Speaker 5: it's got to be align with your lifestyle.

780
00:34:40,239 --> 00:34:42,280
Speaker 4: You also don't want to be a marta and suffer

781
00:34:42,440 --> 00:34:44,239
Speaker 4: day in day out. We're here to enjoy our life

782
00:34:44,360 --> 00:34:44,719
Speaker 4: as well.

783
00:34:45,200 --> 00:34:48,160
Speaker 5: So if you are sitting in front of a cocktail

784
00:34:48,239 --> 00:34:53,200
Speaker 5: right now it's Friday afternoon, you could say, Okay, realistically,

785
00:34:53,400 --> 00:34:54,000
Speaker 5: I would love.

786
00:34:53,960 --> 00:34:54,600
Speaker 4: To have that drink.

787
00:34:55,520 --> 00:34:57,799
Speaker 5: I love socializing, I love these all these things about

788
00:34:57,840 --> 00:35:00,799
Speaker 5: my my lifestyle that I really enjoy. So to now

789
00:35:00,960 --> 00:35:03,480
Speaker 5: make this ridiculous statement of I'm not doing this for

790
00:35:03,640 --> 00:35:07,319
Speaker 5: another month when it's I really enjoy it, that's unrealistic.

791
00:35:07,960 --> 00:35:10,200
Speaker 5: It's realistic when I'm hungover, but right now it's unrealistic.

792
00:35:10,480 --> 00:35:14,280
Speaker 5: So how would I structure it differently? Can I maybe say, okay,

793
00:35:14,960 --> 00:35:17,560
Speaker 5: I'm only going to drink twice a week, or can

794
00:35:17,640 --> 00:35:19,680
Speaker 5: I say, you know, like you always have to think

795
00:35:19,719 --> 00:35:22,200
Speaker 5: about how can I structure the goals when it's the

796
00:35:22,400 --> 00:35:26,960
Speaker 5: hardest to do it, because the U of tomorrow the

797
00:35:27,120 --> 00:35:29,600
Speaker 5: U of next week. Unless you are able to make

798
00:35:29,640 --> 00:35:31,360
Speaker 5: the changes now, it's not different to who you are

799
00:35:31,480 --> 00:35:34,239
Speaker 5: right now. That person doesn't have more self control than you.

800
00:35:34,719 --> 00:35:38,879
Speaker 5: That person doesn't have this wave of motivation and drive

801
00:35:39,040 --> 00:35:41,920
Speaker 5: that's never ending that can do. We always put off

802
00:35:41,960 --> 00:35:44,360
Speaker 5: things for our future self, thinking that there's.

803
00:35:44,200 --> 00:35:47,000
Speaker 2: A version of ourselves out there that's willing to do.

804
00:35:47,120 --> 00:35:50,239
Speaker 4: What we're not willing to do. It's me, it's you like,

805
00:35:50,360 --> 00:35:51,160
Speaker 4: it's that's sad.

806
00:35:52,320 --> 00:35:56,480
Speaker 5: Why would that mean the future be more likely to

807
00:35:56,560 --> 00:35:57,759
Speaker 5: do this thing that I'm not going to do now?

808
00:35:57,960 --> 00:35:59,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, there's no reason.

809
00:36:00,280 --> 00:36:03,759
Speaker 5: So another good thing is can you take some of

810
00:36:03,840 --> 00:36:06,919
Speaker 5: the responsibility of your future self and do it right

811
00:36:07,040 --> 00:36:09,440
Speaker 5: now to help your future self. So let's say we're

812
00:36:09,440 --> 00:36:12,640
Speaker 5: doing the morning thing. Okay, I really want to get

813
00:36:12,680 --> 00:36:13,800
Speaker 5: up early in the way. Okay, what can I do

814
00:36:13,960 --> 00:36:17,640
Speaker 5: right now to really help my future self? Because future

815
00:36:17,640 --> 00:36:19,040
Speaker 5: self is me and I don't want to do it.

816
00:36:19,280 --> 00:36:20,920
Speaker 5: So what can I do right now? And if I'm

817
00:36:20,920 --> 00:36:23,440
Speaker 5: willing to take action now, then are more willing to

818
00:36:23,480 --> 00:36:25,839
Speaker 5: take action tomorrow morning. So I'm gonna get my outfit ready.

819
00:36:25,840 --> 00:36:27,600
Speaker 5: I'm gonna get my sneakers, my sock's my outfit. I'm

820
00:36:27,600 --> 00:36:28,759
Speaker 5: gonna have the keys by the door. I'm gonna have

821
00:36:28,760 --> 00:36:30,120
Speaker 5: the cup ready for the coffee. I'm gonna have it

822
00:36:30,239 --> 00:36:33,160
Speaker 5: already to go. I'm going to set my lum on

823
00:36:33,200 --> 00:36:34,520
Speaker 5: my phone and move it a little bit further away

824
00:36:34,560 --> 00:36:36,480
Speaker 5: from the red big glass of water that it is

825
00:36:36,680 --> 00:36:37,360
Speaker 5: so red.

826
00:36:39,640 --> 00:36:41,440
Speaker 4: Now yeah, and then by the time you get up,

827
00:36:41,480 --> 00:36:43,480
Speaker 4: you're like, I've made it so easy for myself. I've

828
00:36:43,520 --> 00:36:45,480
Speaker 4: already done half of this. I don't have to think

829
00:36:46,080 --> 00:36:47,439
Speaker 4: clothes on coffee, I'm out the door.

830
00:36:47,600 --> 00:36:49,359
Speaker 2: I don't really I think that makes so much sense.

831
00:36:49,520 --> 00:36:51,000
Speaker 4: Yeah, so it's thinking.

832
00:36:51,520 --> 00:36:53,080
Speaker 5: But if you're sitting there saying, oh, but I'll do

833
00:36:53,120 --> 00:36:54,960
Speaker 5: it in the morning, then the chance if you're doing

834
00:36:54,960 --> 00:36:56,319
Speaker 5: it in the morning are really low because if I'm

835
00:36:56,320 --> 00:36:58,799
Speaker 5: not willing to do it now, I'm definitely not willing

836
00:36:58,880 --> 00:36:59,040
Speaker 5: to do.

837
00:36:59,040 --> 00:37:01,120
Speaker 3: It now when you're half a because that's the hardest

838
00:37:01,160 --> 00:37:03,879
Speaker 3: battle is actually getting up and getting out of bed.

839
00:37:04,160 --> 00:37:06,480
Speaker 3: Once you've stepped out of bed and put your clothes on,

840
00:37:06,520 --> 00:37:08,840
Speaker 3: you're not going to be like, I'm not going like

841
00:37:08,920 --> 00:37:11,640
Speaker 3: you're going once you've got one we.

842
00:37:11,800 --> 00:37:14,200
Speaker 1: Got shared with the life coach that once came and

843
00:37:14,280 --> 00:37:17,120
Speaker 1: spoke at like our old workplace was when there's things

844
00:37:17,160 --> 00:37:19,480
Speaker 1: you don't want to do, set a ten minute tim yeah,

845
00:37:19,920 --> 00:37:23,360
Speaker 1: and when the ten minutes stops you can stop like

846
00:37:23,440 --> 00:37:26,080
Speaker 1: you're allowed to. But when you put your clothes on

847
00:37:26,160 --> 00:37:27,640
Speaker 1: and you're in the car, you're not going to turn

848
00:37:27,640 --> 00:37:28,840
Speaker 1: around and go home, are you? Like?

849
00:37:28,960 --> 00:37:30,600
Speaker 2: Totally if you're any way to the gym. That's just

850
00:37:30,640 --> 00:37:31,160
Speaker 2: one example.

851
00:37:31,160 --> 00:37:34,080
Speaker 1: Wee totally in your room and sometimes I'll do it

852
00:37:34,200 --> 00:37:35,759
Speaker 1: and I will be cleaning that and the ten minutes

853
00:37:35,800 --> 00:37:38,200
Speaker 1: happens and I'm like, yeah, I am done. I don't

854
00:37:38,200 --> 00:37:38,880
Speaker 1: want to do it anymore.

855
00:37:39,360 --> 00:37:42,480
Speaker 2: I would say, ninety percent of the time you go further.

856
00:37:42,640 --> 00:37:44,040
Speaker 4: Yeah, it just isn't.

857
00:37:44,160 --> 00:37:49,000
Speaker 5: It works because the hardest thing is gaining momentum to Yes,

858
00:37:49,480 --> 00:37:51,680
Speaker 5: Once the momentum is there, it's actually fine off.

859
00:37:51,880 --> 00:37:54,760
Speaker 4: Like when I would when I was like writing my books,

860
00:37:54,880 --> 00:37:55,480
Speaker 4: I would.

861
00:37:56,280 --> 00:37:57,920
Speaker 5: Sometimes be like, I don't really have anything to get,

862
00:37:57,960 --> 00:37:59,120
Speaker 5: but I'm like, but if I just sit there for

863
00:37:59,200 --> 00:38:03,600
Speaker 5: the hour, even if it's garbage, I'm putting something down.

864
00:38:03,640 --> 00:38:05,680
Speaker 5: I'm putting ideas down. Some days I'm going to be

865
00:38:05,760 --> 00:38:09,040
Speaker 5: flying through. Some days I've got not much, but I'm

866
00:38:09,080 --> 00:38:11,480
Speaker 5: setting the timer. And like you said, more often than not,

867
00:38:11,800 --> 00:38:13,600
Speaker 5: I would set thirty minutes and I'd end up being

868
00:38:13,640 --> 00:38:14,359
Speaker 5: there for two hours.

869
00:38:14,520 --> 00:38:17,000
Speaker 4: Not every time, sometimes like yeah, that's literally all I've got.

870
00:38:18,200 --> 00:38:20,279
Speaker 4: I did it, say, but more often than not, you

871
00:38:20,400 --> 00:38:20,719
Speaker 4: do more.

872
00:38:21,080 --> 00:38:23,600
Speaker 5: And you also want to look at emotions and feelings

873
00:38:23,640 --> 00:38:26,840
Speaker 5: and what we're experiencing is nothing, not even heartbreak, not

874
00:38:26,960 --> 00:38:32,759
Speaker 5: even loss. Nothing, No intense emotion can be sustained constantly.

875
00:38:33,200 --> 00:38:37,480
Speaker 5: Always we go through waves. Things come in waves, so

876
00:38:38,160 --> 00:38:40,360
Speaker 5: including the discomfort of waking up in the morning, that

877
00:38:40,520 --> 00:38:43,440
Speaker 5: is a very short lived wave of discomfort, very very

878
00:38:43,719 --> 00:38:47,560
Speaker 5: very short lived, you know. So most of most of

879
00:38:47,640 --> 00:38:50,280
Speaker 5: these waves last around like a couple of minutes max.

880
00:38:50,640 --> 00:38:54,360
Speaker 4: But waking up for me is a minute. If that

881
00:38:55,680 --> 00:38:57,280
Speaker 4: if you get out of bed straight away.

882
00:38:57,239 --> 00:38:59,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, have to hay, otherwise you're just at Homer and

883
00:39:00,040 --> 00:39:02,280
Speaker 1: yet that toasty little cinnamon button photo.

884
00:39:02,880 --> 00:39:04,160
Speaker 4: Yes me, yes, yeah.

885
00:39:04,360 --> 00:39:06,879
Speaker 5: And then the problem is if you then sleep, because

886
00:39:06,960 --> 00:39:09,040
Speaker 5: if you wake up at the you know, in the morning,

887
00:39:09,160 --> 00:39:11,239
Speaker 5: you're most likely to wake up around the time that

888
00:39:11,280 --> 00:39:13,280
Speaker 5: you're in like a REM sleep and rem sleep stage.

889
00:39:13,320 --> 00:39:15,959
Speaker 5: This is why we remember our dreams so easily, because

890
00:39:16,000 --> 00:39:18,920
Speaker 5: you've woken up in your dream state, and REM sleep

891
00:39:19,200 --> 00:39:21,520
Speaker 5: is the closest to waking as far as brain waves got.

892
00:39:21,800 --> 00:39:24,680
Speaker 4: So when you wake up, most of the people are

893
00:39:24,680 --> 00:39:25,320
Speaker 4: going to be waking.

894
00:39:25,160 --> 00:39:27,040
Speaker 5: Up with the REMS sleep unless you had really poor

895
00:39:27,120 --> 00:39:29,040
Speaker 5: quality sleep and you're just in a different stage of

896
00:39:29,120 --> 00:39:31,359
Speaker 5: your sleep. That's the time to get out of bed

897
00:39:31,520 --> 00:39:34,360
Speaker 5: because if you then drift back off to sleep, you

898
00:39:34,520 --> 00:39:37,240
Speaker 5: then risk falling into a deeper stages of sleep again

899
00:39:37,360 --> 00:39:38,880
Speaker 5: and then to pull yourself out of that.

900
00:39:39,760 --> 00:39:40,600
Speaker 4: That's why then you're like.

901
00:39:40,640 --> 00:39:43,919
Speaker 5: Snoo snow snow after the first snooze, the first news

902
00:39:44,000 --> 00:39:47,480
Speaker 5: never works, so there's no point, like you you either

903
00:39:47,520 --> 00:39:51,120
Speaker 5: snooze ten times or you don't snore going to be

904
00:39:51,239 --> 00:39:54,200
Speaker 5: and then you get that job being like exactly so,

905
00:39:54,920 --> 00:39:57,080
Speaker 5: so you've just got to think, Okay, I need to

906
00:39:57,920 --> 00:40:01,160
Speaker 5: And don't get me wrong, I still snooze, not not

907
00:40:01,360 --> 00:40:05,280
Speaker 5: Monday to Friday, but I'll snooze on a weekend. Being like, honestly,

908
00:40:05,520 --> 00:40:08,360
Speaker 5: this is ridiculous that just sleep is not weaken you know.

909
00:40:08,440 --> 00:40:10,799
Speaker 5: So it's not like I never snooze anymore. Not, yeah,

910
00:40:10,960 --> 00:40:14,280
Speaker 5: I definitely do. Or if I've had really poor sleep.

911
00:40:14,960 --> 00:40:16,959
Speaker 5: There are times the way I'd have really bad sleep

912
00:40:17,040 --> 00:40:19,319
Speaker 5: and my routine will go out the window because I think,

913
00:40:19,440 --> 00:40:21,600
Speaker 5: right now, I know how poor quality my sleep was.

914
00:40:21,640 --> 00:40:24,239
Speaker 5: I value rest over working out.

915
00:40:24,680 --> 00:40:27,160
Speaker 4: I'm just gonna not do it. So again, this is

916
00:40:27,160 --> 00:40:29,040
Speaker 4: the seventy thirty thing. It's not like I'm you know,

917
00:40:29,320 --> 00:40:32,840
Speaker 4: it's just that most of the time I'm doing X,

918
00:40:33,320 --> 00:40:33,480
Speaker 4: you know.

919
00:40:33,680 --> 00:40:35,719
Speaker 5: And then It factors in for when you're not feeling well,

920
00:40:35,760 --> 00:40:38,440
Speaker 5: for when you're tired, when you need that downtime, when whatever.

921
00:40:40,000 --> 00:40:41,800
Speaker 5: But yeah, so when you do get up in that

922
00:40:41,920 --> 00:40:45,000
Speaker 5: rem state, stay up. Just stay up because you're more

923
00:40:45,120 --> 00:40:47,879
Speaker 5: likely to feel a lot more alert after a couple

924
00:40:47,960 --> 00:40:49,640
Speaker 5: of minutes. But if you wake up in like a

925
00:40:49,719 --> 00:40:53,880
Speaker 5: stage two or three of your sleep deep sleep, it

926
00:40:53,960 --> 00:40:55,920
Speaker 5: takes like thirty minutes to feel alert.

927
00:40:56,400 --> 00:41:00,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, get your ass up and woke any.

928
00:41:02,880 --> 00:41:04,960
Speaker 1: Okay, Kim, I'm going to say that was my alarm

929
00:41:05,040 --> 00:41:06,440
Speaker 1: and I'm good morning.

930
00:41:06,520 --> 00:41:11,480
Speaker 4: You study and I'm like, kick a door off, just

931
00:41:11,560 --> 00:41:14,840
Speaker 4: record all your friends voices, just like motivating you to.

932
00:41:19,239 --> 00:41:20,800
Speaker 5: Like keive, morning.

933
00:41:24,160 --> 00:41:24,799
Speaker 4: Wakes me up.

934
00:41:25,160 --> 00:41:27,920
Speaker 1: Then I get the tiniest little like cup of her

935
00:41:27,960 --> 00:41:28,719
Speaker 1: hand being like.

936
00:41:29,640 --> 00:41:32,359
Speaker 4: Just stroking waving carts to tap.

937
00:41:33,600 --> 00:41:36,840
Speaker 2: That is so waking me up. It's like me waking

938
00:41:36,960 --> 00:41:38,759
Speaker 2: sour up. Is I go and get in bed with

939
00:41:38,840 --> 00:41:41,120
Speaker 2: her and become the big smooth and go back to sleep.

940
00:41:42,160 --> 00:41:43,760
Speaker 2: I wakes up and just like I'm.

941
00:41:43,640 --> 00:41:46,759
Speaker 4: Like and see.

942
00:41:48,719 --> 00:41:50,799
Speaker 1: But the one thing I do think is we can

943
00:41:51,280 --> 00:41:54,880
Speaker 1: sometimes overlook our productivity. Like you get to the end

944
00:41:54,920 --> 00:41:57,080
Speaker 1: of a work day and you're like I was at

945
00:41:57,080 --> 00:41:59,080
Speaker 1: my desk all day, or I was working all day,

946
00:41:59,200 --> 00:42:01,680
Speaker 1: or I did today, but I can't.

947
00:42:01,480 --> 00:42:03,520
Speaker 2: Think of anything that I actually did, or I can't

948
00:42:03,560 --> 00:42:06,239
Speaker 2: think of anything I achieved. And I think it would

949
00:42:06,280 --> 00:42:07,480
Speaker 2: be really helpful.

950
00:42:07,200 --> 00:42:08,880
Speaker 1: To know some ways that we can be a bit

951
00:42:08,960 --> 00:42:12,879
Speaker 1: more mindful and a bit more conscious of our productivity,

952
00:42:12,960 --> 00:42:15,040
Speaker 1: Like how can we kind of keep track on that?

953
00:42:15,120 --> 00:42:17,359
Speaker 1: So we're getting that dopemine here and we're feeling good

954
00:42:17,400 --> 00:42:19,120
Speaker 1: about it, which is going to make us do it

955
00:42:19,239 --> 00:42:20,200
Speaker 1: more well.

956
00:42:20,280 --> 00:42:22,120
Speaker 5: A big reason why a lot of people feel that

957
00:42:22,239 --> 00:42:26,759
Speaker 5: way is because we have a really skewed perception on

958
00:42:27,200 --> 00:42:31,440
Speaker 5: we'll prioritize everything that's quote unquote urgent, and we put

959
00:42:31,520 --> 00:42:33,440
Speaker 5: way too many things in the urgent part. There's actually

960
00:42:33,520 --> 00:42:36,239
Speaker 5: not as many when you look at what's really urgent.

961
00:42:36,360 --> 00:42:38,200
Speaker 5: We put way too much in that urgent. This needs

962
00:42:38,200 --> 00:42:41,399
Speaker 5: to be enough first and all the important things come last.

963
00:42:41,719 --> 00:42:43,960
Speaker 5: So you'll do a whole day doing things that are

964
00:42:44,000 --> 00:42:46,920
Speaker 5: quote unquote urgent, putting out small fires, putting out tiny fires.

965
00:42:47,440 --> 00:42:49,480
Speaker 2: Marketing an email that really doesn't matter, and the.

966
00:42:49,560 --> 00:42:50,960
Speaker 4: Day it gets done, you've done stuff.

967
00:42:51,560 --> 00:42:54,160
Speaker 5: But the reason it doesn't feel like you've accomplished anything

968
00:42:54,239 --> 00:42:57,759
Speaker 5: is because you've not hit that stuff that works for

969
00:42:57,800 --> 00:43:01,280
Speaker 5: your soul, You've not worked towards that thing that matters

970
00:43:01,360 --> 00:43:04,239
Speaker 5: to you, that's important to you as an individual. So

971
00:43:04,800 --> 00:43:08,319
Speaker 5: it feels really unfulfilling. So you've got to find a way.

972
00:43:08,640 --> 00:43:11,239
Speaker 5: And this might not be able to happen in your

973
00:43:11,320 --> 00:43:12,120
Speaker 5: work hours.

974
00:43:12,320 --> 00:43:13,280
Speaker 4: Everyone is different.

975
00:43:13,400 --> 00:43:15,400
Speaker 5: Some people get this at work, some people get it

976
00:43:15,440 --> 00:43:17,560
Speaker 5: outside of focus. But you've got to find a way

977
00:43:17,719 --> 00:43:20,720
Speaker 5: to even if just for a small amount of time. Firstly,

978
00:43:20,760 --> 00:43:22,239
Speaker 5: you want to categorize all the things that you have

979
00:43:22,360 --> 00:43:25,080
Speaker 5: to do, which one of those are legitimately urgent, like

980
00:43:25,200 --> 00:43:27,239
Speaker 5: actually time crunch. If this doesn't happen, then it will

981
00:43:27,280 --> 00:43:29,879
Speaker 5: never happen, or I lose the opportunity legitimately urgent.

982
00:43:30,440 --> 00:43:32,080
Speaker 4: Then you've got to put in the things what are

983
00:43:32,160 --> 00:43:33,560
Speaker 4: actually important to me.

984
00:43:34,480 --> 00:43:37,720
Speaker 5: And I always try and spend some time every morning

985
00:43:37,760 --> 00:43:40,520
Speaker 5: at the start of the morning, even if it's twenty minutes,

986
00:43:40,880 --> 00:43:44,000
Speaker 5: working on something that's really important to me, really matters

987
00:43:44,080 --> 00:43:46,120
Speaker 5: to me. Some people will have more time, some people

988
00:43:46,160 --> 00:43:46,520
Speaker 5: have less.

989
00:43:46,560 --> 00:43:47,279
Speaker 4: Depends on your day.

990
00:43:47,640 --> 00:43:50,000
Speaker 5: But if you end the day, I mean like I've

991
00:43:50,040 --> 00:43:51,719
Speaker 5: done nothing, Like if you guys want to start this

992
00:43:51,760 --> 00:43:55,680
Speaker 5: podcast right, but every day you'd get to the end

993
00:43:55,680 --> 00:43:57,439
Speaker 5: of the day and it's still just this pipe drain

994
00:43:57,560 --> 00:43:58,200
Speaker 5: just to pipeam.

995
00:43:58,239 --> 00:44:00,040
Speaker 4: You're going to be feeling a bit like, oh, what

996
00:44:00,160 --> 00:44:01,320
Speaker 4: did I do? What have we done all day? What

997
00:44:01,360 --> 00:44:03,600
Speaker 4: have we done? You were still working, you're still doing stuff.

998
00:44:03,360 --> 00:44:05,919
Speaker 5: But you'd feel very unproductive because you weren't tapping into

999
00:44:06,000 --> 00:44:07,719
Speaker 5: that thing that really mattered to you that you really

1000
00:44:07,760 --> 00:44:09,759
Speaker 5: wanted to do. So the same guest for anyone that's

1001
00:44:09,760 --> 00:44:11,319
Speaker 5: wanting to do something, whether it's a hobby or whether

1002
00:44:11,320 --> 00:44:12,120
Speaker 5: it's career related.

1003
00:44:12,400 --> 00:44:13,480
Speaker 4: You've got to find a way to.

1004
00:44:14,960 --> 00:44:19,440
Speaker 5: Feed that every day, and then you will feel accomplished,

1005
00:44:19,920 --> 00:44:21,600
Speaker 5: you know, because you've always got to work on your.

1006
00:44:21,600 --> 00:44:22,359
Speaker 4: Growth every day.

1007
00:44:22,400 --> 00:44:24,840
Speaker 5: They're like the three pillars of happiness. I talk about growth, connection,

1008
00:44:24,960 --> 00:44:27,560
Speaker 5: and purpose, and growth is a huge one. And if

1009
00:44:27,600 --> 00:44:30,279
Speaker 5: you do something for your growth every day, you will

1010
00:44:30,360 --> 00:44:32,320
Speaker 5: at the end of the day be like, Okay, that

1011
00:44:32,520 --> 00:44:34,560
Speaker 5: was boring, but I got this done, and I'm really

1012
00:44:34,560 --> 00:44:36,520
Speaker 5: proud of myself and I feel like I've changed, I've grown,

1013
00:44:36,560 --> 00:44:38,279
Speaker 5: I've learned something new. And then the next day you

1014
00:44:38,400 --> 00:44:39,040
Speaker 5: just build on that.

1015
00:44:40,080 --> 00:44:42,239
Speaker 3: Yeah, because it is like you need to break it

1016
00:44:42,320 --> 00:44:45,719
Speaker 3: down into those small things every day otherwise it's just

1017
00:44:45,800 --> 00:44:48,200
Speaker 3: impossible to achieve anything totally.

1018
00:44:48,600 --> 00:44:50,920
Speaker 1: As soon as you're at it, to do this, your

1019
00:44:51,000 --> 00:44:53,600
Speaker 1: day just becomes so much easier and it goes really.

1020
00:44:53,600 --> 00:44:57,359
Speaker 5: Yeah yeah, And coming back to productivity when you write

1021
00:44:57,360 --> 00:45:01,279
Speaker 5: it to do list, most people, I am guilty of

1022
00:45:01,360 --> 00:45:02,479
Speaker 5: this as well, shure.

1023
00:45:02,560 --> 00:45:03,319
Speaker 4: Most people want to.

1024
00:45:03,320 --> 00:45:07,640
Speaker 5: Do really short, easy tasks first, right, because I love

1025
00:45:07,719 --> 00:45:08,640
Speaker 5: to cross out.

1026
00:45:08,719 --> 00:45:13,440
Speaker 2: I like the handwritten so satisfying in the little.

1027
00:45:13,200 --> 00:45:15,799
Speaker 4: And because you want to do that, You're like, that's

1028
00:45:15,880 --> 00:45:17,560
Speaker 4: ten minutes, that's ten minutes, that's ten minutes, like a

1029
00:45:17,640 --> 00:45:20,359
Speaker 4: quicker week bank. I'm doing all these short jobs.

1030
00:45:20,440 --> 00:45:23,600
Speaker 5: This replied to this, Okay, now let's sit down into

1031
00:45:23,680 --> 00:45:24,640
Speaker 5: this bigger important time.

1032
00:45:24,920 --> 00:45:27,160
Speaker 4: I'm oh, oh my god, my god, to that cafe

1033
00:45:27,160 --> 00:45:28,000
Speaker 4: and get a coffee before I.

1034
00:45:28,000 --> 00:45:29,640
Speaker 5: Settle before I settle in, and then you then you

1035
00:45:29,719 --> 00:45:31,360
Speaker 5: go to settle in, and then someone's like, oh, I

1036
00:45:31,400 --> 00:45:33,600
Speaker 5: need this from you, I need this, and it never happens.

1037
00:45:33,840 --> 00:45:35,319
Speaker 4: So you think, okay, it's the start of the day.

1038
00:45:35,320 --> 00:45:36,120
Speaker 4: I've got thirty minutes.

1039
00:45:36,160 --> 00:45:38,200
Speaker 5: Can I do thirty minutes if this brainstorming for this

1040
00:45:38,280 --> 00:45:39,680
Speaker 5: thing I'm so passionate.

1041
00:45:39,360 --> 00:45:41,560
Speaker 4: About bang and all these ten minute tasks they're going

1042
00:45:41,600 --> 00:45:42,600
Speaker 4: to get done. I can slot them in.

1043
00:45:42,640 --> 00:45:45,359
Speaker 5: In between bigger tasks, like when I time block, I'll

1044
00:45:45,400 --> 00:45:48,600
Speaker 5: set forty minutes to do something and twenty minutes off.

1045
00:45:48,640 --> 00:45:51,759
Speaker 5: And the twenty minutes off could be scrolling on social media,

1046
00:45:51,840 --> 00:45:54,640
Speaker 5: could be watching TV. Or sometimes I just break the

1047
00:45:54,680 --> 00:45:55,720
Speaker 5: circuit and do something different.

1048
00:45:55,760 --> 00:45:58,880
Speaker 4: I'll clean, i'll prep, I'll do something completely different, and

1049
00:45:58,960 --> 00:46:00,319
Speaker 4: then back to the high focus task.

1050
00:46:00,760 --> 00:46:02,600
Speaker 5: But you've got to think, if this is high focused,

1051
00:46:02,640 --> 00:46:04,719
Speaker 5: I can't I can't have a high focused eight hour day.

1052
00:46:04,760 --> 00:46:07,400
Speaker 4: That's not possible. No one sustains focused that long. So

1053
00:46:07,560 --> 00:46:09,200
Speaker 4: how can I break it up that my high.

1054
00:46:09,160 --> 00:46:12,759
Speaker 5: Focused moments are when I'm normally most focused, which is

1055
00:46:12,960 --> 00:46:15,200
Speaker 5: for a lot of people, it's in the morning, and

1056
00:46:15,320 --> 00:46:16,719
Speaker 5: then a lot of people if you do get rest

1057
00:46:16,760 --> 00:46:18,760
Speaker 5: in the afternoon, they'll get a second wave in the evening.

1058
00:46:18,880 --> 00:46:21,200
Speaker 5: But it's it's normally like first thing in the morning

1059
00:46:21,320 --> 00:46:24,360
Speaker 5: or quite late at night, and people my ADHD people

1060
00:46:24,520 --> 00:46:27,200
Speaker 5: out there very often it's late at night.

1061
00:46:27,520 --> 00:46:30,440
Speaker 4: For people with ADHD, yeah they get a three pm slump.

1062
00:46:30,920 --> 00:46:33,520
Speaker 5: Yes that's everyone too, but yeah, that's because if you're

1063
00:46:33,520 --> 00:46:36,360
Speaker 5: circadian rhythm, there's always like a going to be a slump.

1064
00:46:37,320 --> 00:46:40,880
Speaker 2: What are you supposed to do at that time? Literally,

1065
00:46:40,960 --> 00:46:46,359
Speaker 2: I go have a mask, have open, have a caffeine nap.

1066
00:46:46,600 --> 00:46:47,920
Speaker 2: Yeah literally.

1067
00:46:48,320 --> 00:46:51,160
Speaker 3: Okay, So we have covered a lot today, but we

1068
00:46:51,239 --> 00:46:54,320
Speaker 3: always love to wrap our episodes with this question.

1069
00:46:54,880 --> 00:46:56,239
Speaker 4: So what's the biggest.

1070
00:46:55,960 --> 00:46:59,960
Speaker 3: Life lesson for you for creating a more productive lifestyle?

1071
00:47:00,000 --> 00:47:06,279
Speaker 4: Well, oh, there's just so many pure break it down

1072
00:47:06,280 --> 00:47:06,719
Speaker 4: into one.

1073
00:47:12,040 --> 00:47:15,839
Speaker 5: Oh, look when it comes to your productivity that yeah, Look,

1074
00:47:16,480 --> 00:47:19,560
Speaker 5: the biggest life lesson is This is actually a quote

1075
00:47:19,560 --> 00:47:22,560
Speaker 5: from Tony Robbins that I really liked and he said

1076
00:47:22,600 --> 00:47:24,600
Speaker 5: to someone it was.

1077
00:47:24,640 --> 00:47:28,480
Speaker 4: Like, I think on one of his TV shows on Netflix.

1078
00:47:28,320 --> 00:47:31,360
Speaker 5: He said to someone, you overestimate what you can do

1079
00:47:31,480 --> 00:47:33,840
Speaker 5: in a year, but you underestimate what you can do

1080
00:47:33,920 --> 00:47:37,960
Speaker 5: in ten. We are so we expect so much from

1081
00:47:38,000 --> 00:47:39,759
Speaker 5: ourselves in such a short amount of time, and that

1082
00:47:39,840 --> 00:47:42,360
Speaker 5: actually can be damaging to our relationship with ourselves because

1083
00:47:42,360 --> 00:47:44,360
Speaker 5: then when we don't achieve it, we're like, I'm a failure,

1084
00:47:44,920 --> 00:47:48,320
Speaker 5: But you're not a failure. You set yourself up to

1085
00:47:48,440 --> 00:47:51,239
Speaker 5: fail because you set the bar so high for a

1086
00:47:51,320 --> 00:47:54,440
Speaker 5: short time frame. Instead of set the bar high but

1087
00:47:54,680 --> 00:47:57,920
Speaker 5: allow for progress, allow for things to unfold, allow for

1088
00:47:58,000 --> 00:48:00,680
Speaker 5: things to develop at the cadence that they're supposed to

1089
00:48:00,719 --> 00:48:03,680
Speaker 5: develop at. If you then say I've got to do

1090
00:48:03,719 --> 00:48:05,040
Speaker 5: all of this and I have to do it now,

1091
00:48:05,239 --> 00:48:07,120
Speaker 5: and then you don't achieve it, you think, well, I'm

1092
00:48:07,200 --> 00:48:10,080
Speaker 5: obviously a failure. Look at all these times I've failed. Yeah,

1093
00:48:10,120 --> 00:48:12,040
Speaker 5: I'm not going to try again. I this I I

1094
00:48:13,000 --> 00:48:16,279
Speaker 5: And then your relationship with yourself starts to crack, you know.

1095
00:48:16,440 --> 00:48:19,560
Speaker 5: So if you then think, Okay, I'm going to take

1096
00:48:19,600 --> 00:48:21,640
Speaker 5: this goal and I'm going to stretch it out, stretch

1097
00:48:21,680 --> 00:48:24,279
Speaker 5: out the time, you're more likely to not only achieve it,

1098
00:48:24,360 --> 00:48:25,960
Speaker 5: but you're also more likely for it to become a

1099
00:48:26,080 --> 00:48:27,840
Speaker 5: permanent fixture in your life forever.

1100
00:48:28,320 --> 00:48:29,719
Speaker 4: That's why crash dietes never work.

1101
00:48:30,120 --> 00:48:32,960
Speaker 5: They're horrible, they're painful, everything about it's horrible, and then

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Speaker 5: when you achieve it, you never stick to it because

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Speaker 5: it's just completely unsustainable. And then you say, oh I failed,

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Speaker 5: No you didn't, No you didn't. You just put yourself

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Speaker 5: through torture and now you're not being tortured.

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Speaker 1: You know.

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Speaker 4: So it's you got to look at that with every goal,

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Speaker 4: how can I do this? Being my friend?

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Speaker 5: Because being mean to myself hasn't worked clearly, so how

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Speaker 5: can I turn it around? And you know, not make

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00:48:52,440 --> 00:48:55,400
Speaker 5: the time things such. Don't fixate on when it's going

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Speaker 5: to be done, because that can be your biggest enemy.

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Speaker 5: Just fixate on can I implement this time you change? Yes,

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Speaker 5: I've done it for five days now, now making implement

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Speaker 5: this and then can add this and in one year.

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00:49:06,120 --> 00:49:08,879
Speaker 5: A lot of people like New Year's resolutions, we want

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00:49:08,920 --> 00:49:10,440
Speaker 5: to by the end of January all these things.

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Speaker 4: It's like, no, no, no, no, no.

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Speaker 5: Just think where could I be if I implemented just

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Speaker 5: these five things in my day in one year, And

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Speaker 5: a lot of people like, oh.

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Speaker 4: That's boring, I want to do it sooner.

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Speaker 5: No, no, just give yourself a year and you'll be

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Speaker 5: amazed that in a year you'll probably be doing fifteen things.

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Speaker 5: Not fine, but it's this idea of I just want

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Speaker 5: to make it permanent. Yeah, I'm just going to be

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Speaker 5: patient with myself.

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Speaker 4: Patience. We're talking about patience, and that's actually what makes

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Speaker 4: it perminent. So yeah, that's a bit of a long

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Speaker 4: winded No.

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Speaker 1: I really like that you underestimate you can do in

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Speaker 1: ten days, but you overestimate what you can do it

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Speaker 1: in a year.

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Speaker 2: I've never done that ever.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm perfect.

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Speaker 3: That's a good reminder as well, because nobody expects you

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00:49:52,280 --> 00:49:57,160
Speaker 3: to do these things by this deadline, you're just putting yourself.

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Speaker 2: Nobody else is asking you.

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Speaker 4: Nobody's going to be.

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Speaker 2: Waiting there being Yeah exactly, it's sour with the crowbar.

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Speaker 4: You said.

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Speaker 3: Nobody else is putting that pressure on you. Yeah, so

1143
00:50:10,200 --> 00:50:11,960
Speaker 3: you can also take that pressure up totally.

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Speaker 5: And then also a little piece of advice if you

1145
00:50:14,680 --> 00:50:17,680
Speaker 5: really want to make change, and there's all these studies

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00:50:17,719 --> 00:50:19,399
Speaker 5: that back this, which I love. If you really want

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00:50:19,440 --> 00:50:21,879
Speaker 5: to make permanent, lasting we're not even if you want

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00:50:21,920 --> 00:50:25,440
Speaker 5: to do something in your life. Normally we'll tell everyone

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Speaker 5: that we're doing something to get like the accolades and

1150
00:50:27,600 --> 00:50:30,160
Speaker 5: to get this into The more people you tell, the

1151
00:50:30,280 --> 00:50:32,319
Speaker 5: less likely you're actually going to follow Through's doing that thing,

1152
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Speaker 5: which is wild, and it's because one of the reasons

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00:50:35,880 --> 00:50:38,600
Speaker 5: why we do all these things is to feel certain emotions.

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Speaker 5: We want to fel accomplished, we want to feel really good.

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Speaker 5: We're doing this because we want a feeling. We're chasing

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Speaker 5: a feeling, which is great. That's why we do anything

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00:50:45,200 --> 00:50:47,960
Speaker 5: in our life. But if you start telling somebody. If

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Speaker 5: I tell you I'm I'm going to run a marathon

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Speaker 5: this year, I'm doing it. It's happening. It's definitely happening.

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Speaker 4: I'm running it. Haven't even started training. My babe, that's

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Speaker 4: so amazing. Oh my god, you're a babe. Oh my god,

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Speaker 4: that's going to happen. And then I'm like, that's god.

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00:51:05,400 --> 00:51:09,160
Speaker 4: I'm just sitting there literally, and then you just you.

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Speaker 5: Then before you know it, you've told everyone you've you've

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00:51:12,600 --> 00:51:14,640
Speaker 5: felt all the feelings, and then you're like, now I

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00:51:14,680 --> 00:51:17,879
Speaker 5: actually have to run this thing, and I don't want

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00:51:17,920 --> 00:51:21,000
Speaker 5: to and I've already felt I got all the congratulations

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00:51:21,080 --> 00:51:22,480
Speaker 5: on the accolades. Now now I've got to do it,

1169
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Speaker 5: and I.

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Speaker 4: Don't want to do it because I feel flat.

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Speaker 5: So I always say, the more you want something, the

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00:51:26,880 --> 00:51:29,360
Speaker 5: less people you tell unless they're completely relevant to it,

1173
00:51:29,520 --> 00:51:34,120
Speaker 5: like yeah, you know, directly involved. Keep it to yourself

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00:51:34,200 --> 00:51:35,719
Speaker 5: and think if the only way that I can show

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00:51:35,840 --> 00:51:38,880
Speaker 5: people that I've done something is through my actions, what

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Speaker 5: would my actions look like.

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Speaker 2: That's a great place to finish.

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Speaker 3: But before we let you go, where can the chicks

1179
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Speaker 3: find you and learn more about you?

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Speaker 4: Yes, I've got a podcast called Do Your Fucking Mind.

1181
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Speaker 4: We've hit some roadblocks with that with like sponsors and stuff,

1182
00:51:58,120 --> 00:52:00,439
Speaker 4: but I'm like, it's just it's change.

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Speaker 2: I don't want to work with those nerds anyway. Yeah,

1184
00:52:07,880 --> 00:52:09,000
Speaker 2: do you freaking mad?

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00:52:09,760 --> 00:52:12,600
Speaker 4: Freaking yeah, can you imagine? Imagine freaking cute?

1186
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Speaker 1: So like you.

1187
00:52:18,080 --> 00:52:22,000
Speaker 4: But yeah, and then I've got my books. I've got

1188
00:52:22,040 --> 00:52:24,440
Speaker 4: to be bold. And then I've got the Neuroscience of Self.

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Speaker 1: Love, which both amazing fans fut links to everything in

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Speaker 1: the show notes as usual so that you can find it.

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Speaker 3: But thank you so much for coming on. I feel

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Speaker 3: like we can have you on everybody enough.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, so we'll definitely have to have.

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Speaker 3: You on again.

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Speaker 4: I need you to be my alarm I get up

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00:52:46,000 --> 00:52:51,319
Speaker 4: please subscription every morning. I should sell that. Oh my god,

1197
00:52:51,440 --> 00:52:54,000
Speaker 4: that's such a good idea. You should sell that personalized

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Speaker 4: me like, yeah.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, they will play that every morning.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, perfect, would.

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Speaker 1: Love that.

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Speaker 2: Well, thank you so much for joining us, and thank

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Speaker 2: you to your chicks for having us in the ear holes.

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Speaker 2: We absolutely love to be here.

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Speaker 1: We love it.

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Speaker 3: And thank you to m I K Made for making

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Speaker 3: today's episode happen by Chicks