1 00:00:00,360 --> 00:00:02,719 Speaker 1: High Scrollers is produced on gadigul Land. 2 00:00:02,920 --> 00:00:05,280 Speaker 2: We pay our respects to the traditional custodians of this 3 00:00:05,320 --> 00:00:07,320 Speaker 2: country an elder's past and present. 4 00:00:07,360 --> 00:00:15,440 Speaker 1: Always was, always will be Aboriginal Land. Hello, Matthew, close friends. 5 00:00:15,680 --> 00:00:21,400 Speaker 3: Hello, I'm taking over this close friends, yep, because I 6 00:00:21,440 --> 00:00:25,440 Speaker 3: saw a really nice thing that. 7 00:00:25,440 --> 00:00:27,200 Speaker 1: I saved on my Instagram. 8 00:00:27,200 --> 00:00:31,240 Speaker 3: It's a video and it's just good about putting things 9 00:00:31,240 --> 00:00:32,040 Speaker 3: into perspective. 10 00:00:33,159 --> 00:00:38,239 Speaker 4: What it maybe next week's Royal flush for me? 11 00:00:38,479 --> 00:00:41,960 Speaker 1: But yeah, have you got something else in case this 12 00:00:42,120 --> 00:00:42,360 Speaker 1: is it? 13 00:00:42,479 --> 00:00:43,040 Speaker 4: Yeah? 14 00:00:43,159 --> 00:00:44,320 Speaker 1: Is it the video about the future? 15 00:00:44,640 --> 00:00:44,960 Speaker 3: Oh no? 16 00:00:45,360 --> 00:00:47,520 Speaker 1: Oh, okay, well save that thought. 17 00:00:47,640 --> 00:00:49,839 Speaker 2: No, Well, yeah, I will talk about it in this 18 00:00:49,880 --> 00:00:51,639 Speaker 2: episode with you after you talk about this. 19 00:00:51,760 --> 00:00:52,040 Speaker 1: Okay. 20 00:00:52,120 --> 00:00:54,600 Speaker 3: Yeah, Well I'm going to play the video, but there's 21 00:00:54,600 --> 00:00:56,320 Speaker 3: no talking. Someone's going to read out what it says 22 00:00:56,360 --> 00:01:00,000 Speaker 3: on the screen. Okay, everyone listen. Maybe we can get 23 00:01:00,000 --> 00:01:02,000 Speaker 3: I get some inspirational music going in the background or 24 00:01:02,000 --> 00:01:07,760 Speaker 3: something as well. Imagine ten years from now, it's a 25 00:01:07,800 --> 00:01:12,080 Speaker 3: spring Saturday morning in twenty thirty five. You're standing in 26 00:01:12,080 --> 00:01:14,720 Speaker 3: the yard of the house you bought in twenty thirty four, 27 00:01:15,480 --> 00:01:19,840 Speaker 3: humming a song from a twenty thirty three album by 28 00:01:19,880 --> 00:01:20,759 Speaker 3: your favorite band. 29 00:01:21,319 --> 00:01:22,800 Speaker 1: Who you found out about. 30 00:01:22,480 --> 00:01:25,959 Speaker 3: In twenty thirty two, waiting for the dog you got 31 00:01:26,000 --> 00:01:30,080 Speaker 3: in Sorry, just let me go back, because it's going 32 00:01:30,080 --> 00:01:30,880 Speaker 3: faster than I thought. 33 00:01:30,959 --> 00:01:31,240 Speaker 1: Hang on. 34 00:01:33,040 --> 00:01:34,640 Speaker 3: You're standing in the yard of the house you bought 35 00:01:34,640 --> 00:01:38,839 Speaker 3: in twenty thirty four, humming a song from a twenty 36 00:01:38,920 --> 00:01:43,160 Speaker 3: thirty three album by your favorite band who you found 37 00:01:43,160 --> 00:01:46,520 Speaker 3: out about in twenty thirty two, waiting for the dog 38 00:01:46,640 --> 00:01:49,560 Speaker 3: you got in twenty thirty one, to finish doing their business, 39 00:01:50,040 --> 00:01:54,280 Speaker 3: wearing your comfy pajama pants, a birthday gift you received 40 00:01:54,320 --> 00:01:56,400 Speaker 3: in twenty thirty from a friend you met in twenty 41 00:01:56,400 --> 00:02:00,160 Speaker 3: twenty nine. You're planning to spend the afternoon gardening, a 42 00:02:00,200 --> 00:02:03,600 Speaker 3: hobby you picked up in twenty twenty eight. Later, you 43 00:02:03,680 --> 00:02:06,720 Speaker 3: might rewatch a movie you love, the one that won 44 00:02:06,800 --> 00:02:12,480 Speaker 3: Best Picture in twenty twenty seven. Inside, someone you met 45 00:02:12,480 --> 00:02:17,200 Speaker 3: in twenty twenty six is making pancakes. Or because your 46 00:02:17,240 --> 00:02:20,880 Speaker 3: world didn't end in twenty twenty five, you made it 47 00:02:20,880 --> 00:02:21,920 Speaker 3: through twenty twenty five. 48 00:02:23,560 --> 00:02:26,520 Speaker 1: So I saw that. Let me see when it was posted. 49 00:02:26,880 --> 00:02:29,360 Speaker 3: It was posted like literally at the very end of December, 50 00:02:29,400 --> 00:02:30,680 Speaker 3: so I saw it a little bit late. 51 00:02:32,560 --> 00:02:35,080 Speaker 1: But I just think that's like a really cool. 52 00:02:34,840 --> 00:02:40,400 Speaker 3: Way of thinking, because, as you know, we can and 53 00:02:40,560 --> 00:02:42,040 Speaker 3: like to tie in with your word of the year 54 00:02:42,080 --> 00:02:47,120 Speaker 3: being stoicism. You know, we can be so focused on 55 00:02:48,040 --> 00:02:50,880 Speaker 3: right now, you know, the things that we're stressing about, 56 00:02:50,919 --> 00:02:55,640 Speaker 3: the things that we're hyper fixating on Fortnite, Matt in 57 00:02:55,680 --> 00:02:57,359 Speaker 3: twenty thirty five, you could be playing a new game 58 00:02:57,360 --> 00:02:57,959 Speaker 3: that you're obsessed with. 59 00:02:58,040 --> 00:02:59,600 Speaker 1: It comes out in twenty thirty three. 60 00:03:00,280 --> 00:03:04,000 Speaker 3: Yeah, But I just think it's a really good little 61 00:03:04,080 --> 00:03:06,480 Speaker 3: video And I'll make sure to pop that video in 62 00:03:06,520 --> 00:03:08,639 Speaker 3: our scroller's chat just so everyone can watch it, because 63 00:03:08,760 --> 00:03:10,280 Speaker 3: I know that I read that out weird, but there's 64 00:03:10,280 --> 00:03:12,320 Speaker 3: all like clips that play with the text on the screen. 65 00:03:12,840 --> 00:03:15,440 Speaker 1: But I just think it's a really good way to think. 66 00:03:15,520 --> 00:03:18,400 Speaker 3: And I always love the quote like, isn't it I 67 00:03:18,440 --> 00:03:20,760 Speaker 3: don't know the exact quote, but you know the one 68 00:03:20,760 --> 00:03:23,200 Speaker 3: that's like, isn't it an amazing thing to know that, 69 00:03:23,320 --> 00:03:25,040 Speaker 3: like our best days are yet to happen? 70 00:03:25,120 --> 00:03:27,960 Speaker 1: Kind of thing. I love that way of thinking, especially 71 00:03:28,000 --> 00:03:28,400 Speaker 1: if you. 72 00:03:28,360 --> 00:03:31,560 Speaker 3: Are in a phase in your life where you feel 73 00:03:31,600 --> 00:03:38,320 Speaker 3: like everything's going wrong. You know, you've got family conflicts, friendship, relationship, work, stress, 74 00:03:38,360 --> 00:03:39,440 Speaker 3: whatever it may be. 75 00:03:39,840 --> 00:03:40,840 Speaker 1: I just think it's like. 76 00:03:41,080 --> 00:03:45,000 Speaker 3: Really exciting to think about all the things that we're 77 00:03:45,080 --> 00:03:48,240 Speaker 3: yet to experience at in different ears of our life, 78 00:03:48,280 --> 00:03:50,600 Speaker 3: like the fact that we might have a favorite song 79 00:03:50,920 --> 00:03:53,280 Speaker 3: one day that's by a band that hasn't even like 80 00:03:53,440 --> 00:03:56,640 Speaker 3: come out yet. Yeah, I think, like that's just really 81 00:03:56,680 --> 00:03:59,480 Speaker 3: cool to think about, and it's like a good way 82 00:03:59,800 --> 00:04:03,520 Speaker 3: to be mindful and get excited for the future, like 83 00:04:03,560 --> 00:04:04,840 Speaker 3: the best things are yet to happen. 84 00:04:05,160 --> 00:04:09,720 Speaker 4: That is such a good video. What are you laughing about, 85 00:04:09,720 --> 00:04:10,240 Speaker 4: Google girl? 86 00:04:10,720 --> 00:04:17,719 Speaker 3: I just be like, nah, nah, hate it just to 87 00:04:17,760 --> 00:04:18,600 Speaker 3: be controversial. 88 00:04:18,760 --> 00:04:21,480 Speaker 2: No, I think it's so fun. Like I really enjoyed 89 00:04:22,200 --> 00:04:23,960 Speaker 2: that whole and I was trying to guess what they 90 00:04:23,960 --> 00:04:27,320 Speaker 2: were going to say was coming next. Yeah, but that's 91 00:04:27,360 --> 00:04:30,240 Speaker 2: so fun, Like it's a good reminder. 92 00:04:30,360 --> 00:04:32,200 Speaker 3: I think so too, especially to think of the future 93 00:04:32,279 --> 00:04:34,960 Speaker 3: and think of like it in that exciting way because 94 00:04:34,960 --> 00:04:36,840 Speaker 3: I feel like I don't know about you, Matt, but 95 00:04:36,880 --> 00:04:40,320 Speaker 3: like especially being a woman, like I feel like all 96 00:04:40,360 --> 00:04:44,320 Speaker 3: I see is like anti aging stuff, trying to verse 97 00:04:44,440 --> 00:04:47,760 Speaker 3: aging and like thinking of getting older can be like 98 00:04:47,880 --> 00:04:50,160 Speaker 3: such a bad thing, and like, yeah, I'm doing in 99 00:04:50,279 --> 00:04:53,640 Speaker 3: thirty three next and then nearly forty, and like you 100 00:04:53,680 --> 00:04:56,240 Speaker 3: can think into the future and just think that you know, 101 00:04:56,320 --> 00:04:59,359 Speaker 3: you're losing your youth and whatever, but like, think of 102 00:04:59,360 --> 00:05:01,280 Speaker 3: all the cool things we're going to experience even when 103 00:05:01,320 --> 00:05:02,440 Speaker 3: we are forty and older. 104 00:05:03,760 --> 00:05:07,200 Speaker 4: Does anyone ever figure out life? 105 00:05:10,680 --> 00:05:12,920 Speaker 1: Honestly, mood, I sit here before you. 106 00:05:12,920 --> 00:05:15,880 Speaker 2: Today as a thirty one year old, and I'm going, 107 00:05:16,600 --> 00:05:20,400 Speaker 2: I really still have no fucking clue what I'm doing. 108 00:05:21,000 --> 00:05:21,839 Speaker 1: None of us do. 109 00:05:22,240 --> 00:05:23,760 Speaker 4: And I thought that, like. 110 00:05:24,080 --> 00:05:28,560 Speaker 2: You know, by twenty five, i'd have my life completely 111 00:05:28,680 --> 00:05:31,680 Speaker 2: sorted and I would. I just think about like like 112 00:05:31,800 --> 00:05:34,479 Speaker 2: I think about my parents, and I go, did they 113 00:05:34,800 --> 00:05:36,440 Speaker 2: even know what the fuck is? 114 00:05:36,680 --> 00:05:36,800 Speaker 3: No? 115 00:05:37,080 --> 00:05:39,080 Speaker 1: Everyone is just making this shit up as we go. 116 00:05:39,200 --> 00:05:42,360 Speaker 3: I literally said in the office last week to two 117 00:05:42,360 --> 00:05:45,600 Speaker 3: of my team members who were like essentially running the 118 00:05:45,640 --> 00:05:48,400 Speaker 3: business with me, like they're in our leadership team, And 119 00:05:48,440 --> 00:05:50,159 Speaker 3: I just kind of had a moment where you know, 120 00:05:50,200 --> 00:05:52,800 Speaker 3: when you're like in a situation and you feel like 121 00:05:52,960 --> 00:05:55,400 Speaker 3: your body steps back out of your actual body and 122 00:05:55,480 --> 00:05:59,200 Speaker 3: you're looking at everything from like some other fucking realm, 123 00:05:59,320 --> 00:06:02,279 Speaker 3: And I was like, this is gonna sound so weird, girls, 124 00:06:02,279 --> 00:06:03,880 Speaker 3: but do you ever think that, like we're just making 125 00:06:03,880 --> 00:06:06,240 Speaker 3: all this shit up as we go? Like in our 126 00:06:06,360 --> 00:06:08,920 Speaker 3: jobs like, how the fuck are we qualified to do 127 00:06:09,000 --> 00:06:10,440 Speaker 3: anything that we're actually doing? 128 00:06:10,760 --> 00:06:11,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, we aren't. 129 00:06:12,279 --> 00:06:14,200 Speaker 4: I feel like that's me in life. 130 00:06:14,279 --> 00:06:16,359 Speaker 1: Yeah, and that's everyone in life, Matt. 131 00:06:16,480 --> 00:06:18,840 Speaker 3: But then we look at you know, social media and 132 00:06:18,880 --> 00:06:22,440 Speaker 3: compare to everyone else when, like you said, like our 133 00:06:22,480 --> 00:06:24,360 Speaker 3: parents still don't know what the fuck's going on. 134 00:06:24,600 --> 00:06:28,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, they still don't know. And I don't think you 135 00:06:28,040 --> 00:06:28,400 Speaker 1: ever do. 136 00:06:28,560 --> 00:06:32,640 Speaker 3: And you see all of those videos that pop up 137 00:06:32,720 --> 00:06:35,680 Speaker 3: of like you know, eighty plus year olds getting interviewed 138 00:06:35,760 --> 00:06:38,080 Speaker 3: and they're like, what's the number one thing you wish 139 00:06:38,160 --> 00:06:40,720 Speaker 3: you did more of or less of? And from all 140 00:06:40,720 --> 00:06:43,880 Speaker 3: the videos I've seen, like they all say I wish 141 00:06:43,960 --> 00:06:49,000 Speaker 3: I traveled more, I wish I had more fun. Like 142 00:06:49,040 --> 00:06:51,120 Speaker 3: there's even that viral video I shared on my story 143 00:06:51,160 --> 00:06:54,200 Speaker 3: a while ago of share like on the stage quite 144 00:06:54,240 --> 00:06:56,960 Speaker 3: a while ago at a concert and she's like, like, 145 00:06:57,600 --> 00:07:00,440 Speaker 3: do everything that you want to do like now, because 146 00:07:00,440 --> 00:07:03,160 Speaker 3: she's like, I wish I could go back. And I 147 00:07:03,200 --> 00:07:04,680 Speaker 3: think she says like I wish I could go back 148 00:07:04,720 --> 00:07:07,400 Speaker 3: and just be the baddest bitch. Yeah, and she's like 149 00:07:07,440 --> 00:07:09,080 Speaker 3: I was, but I will do it more. 150 00:07:09,360 --> 00:07:10,040 Speaker 4: Yeah. 151 00:07:10,240 --> 00:07:11,000 Speaker 1: I don't think. 152 00:07:10,960 --> 00:07:15,320 Speaker 3: Life is about figuring out what it's meant to be, 153 00:07:15,320 --> 00:07:17,440 Speaker 3: because we'll spend our whole life trying to figure out 154 00:07:17,480 --> 00:07:19,320 Speaker 3: what it is that we're supposed to be doing. I 155 00:07:19,320 --> 00:07:22,360 Speaker 3: think it's like literally just making the most of and 156 00:07:22,480 --> 00:07:25,760 Speaker 3: enjoying every era of our life, and that's it. 157 00:07:25,960 --> 00:07:26,280 Speaker 4: Yeah. 158 00:07:27,160 --> 00:07:28,880 Speaker 2: I think it's hard to do everything you want though, 159 00:07:28,920 --> 00:07:34,720 Speaker 2: because other people's opinions, unfortunately, like come into play. 160 00:07:35,640 --> 00:07:37,640 Speaker 3: And I think that's one of the biggest things that 161 00:07:37,720 --> 00:07:40,520 Speaker 3: everyone has to do in life, is try not to 162 00:07:40,560 --> 00:07:43,520 Speaker 3: give a fuck about what other people think, because if not, 163 00:07:43,960 --> 00:07:47,480 Speaker 3: we will truly spend our whole life worrying about that, 164 00:07:47,600 --> 00:07:50,240 Speaker 3: and we will get to eighty if we're lucky enough 165 00:07:50,280 --> 00:07:52,520 Speaker 3: to get there, and wish we'd never done that. 166 00:07:53,240 --> 00:07:54,600 Speaker 4: Yeah, for sure. 167 00:07:54,960 --> 00:07:56,480 Speaker 3: Like one of the biggest things I feel like we've 168 00:07:56,480 --> 00:07:59,120 Speaker 3: had this conversation before, but one of the biggest things 169 00:07:59,160 --> 00:08:03,920 Speaker 3: that I noticed, especially in my business, is sadly how 170 00:08:03,920 --> 00:08:07,120 Speaker 3: many insecurities people have, in particular women. But I know 171 00:08:07,280 --> 00:08:10,679 Speaker 3: all people have insecurities, but I guess, like us working 172 00:08:10,720 --> 00:08:13,880 Speaker 3: in fashion and you know, having clothes and different sizes 173 00:08:13,920 --> 00:08:16,600 Speaker 3: and our retail stores, it's really opened my eyes to 174 00:08:16,720 --> 00:08:19,960 Speaker 3: you know, everyone's different insecurities about their bodies, because we're 175 00:08:20,000 --> 00:08:22,560 Speaker 3: just constantly getting feedback, Like when people come in our 176 00:08:22,600 --> 00:08:24,600 Speaker 3: stores and they're trying stuff on, they'll say things about 177 00:08:24,640 --> 00:08:27,720 Speaker 3: themselves that are not very nice. Or I'll put a 178 00:08:27,720 --> 00:08:29,760 Speaker 3: little post in our Facebook group saying like, what is 179 00:08:29,760 --> 00:08:31,800 Speaker 3: everyone hoping that Fate's coming out with this year? And 180 00:08:32,080 --> 00:08:33,880 Speaker 3: you know, one of the top comments will be like 181 00:08:34,080 --> 00:08:35,439 Speaker 3: more things with sleeves because I. 182 00:08:35,400 --> 00:08:37,120 Speaker 1: Absolutely hate my arms. 183 00:08:37,240 --> 00:08:39,480 Speaker 3: Like just you know, everyone's got all their insecurities, which 184 00:08:39,480 --> 00:08:42,640 Speaker 3: we know and talk about, and every time we get 185 00:08:42,679 --> 00:08:46,120 Speaker 3: those kinds of comments, like sure, I'm one hundred percent confident, 186 00:08:46,120 --> 00:08:47,960 Speaker 3: but I still have my insecurities about myself. 187 00:08:48,000 --> 00:08:49,320 Speaker 1: But it just makes me really sad. 188 00:08:49,920 --> 00:08:56,160 Speaker 3: I guess hearing about people's insecurities, just knowing that, like 189 00:08:56,360 --> 00:08:58,360 Speaker 3: when we get to eighty, if we're lucky to get there, 190 00:08:58,400 --> 00:08:59,800 Speaker 3: we're going to wish that we didn't hate. 191 00:08:59,679 --> 00:09:01,439 Speaker 1: Our arms so much our whole life. 192 00:09:01,840 --> 00:09:04,400 Speaker 3: And I guess I see the same sort of thing 193 00:09:04,480 --> 00:09:07,280 Speaker 3: when it comes to people doing modeling. I'm always looking 194 00:09:07,320 --> 00:09:09,320 Speaker 3: for more people to model for Fate because we just 195 00:09:09,360 --> 00:09:12,360 Speaker 3: love using all different kinds of people. And you know, 196 00:09:12,440 --> 00:09:14,960 Speaker 3: like my hairdresser and good friend Wade, like they have 197 00:09:15,000 --> 00:09:17,360 Speaker 3: a hair salon so they've got beautiful girls coming in 198 00:09:17,440 --> 00:09:20,280 Speaker 3: and out of their salon every day, and sometimes they'll 199 00:09:20,280 --> 00:09:22,400 Speaker 3: have like a client, a new client come in. And 200 00:09:22,440 --> 00:09:25,200 Speaker 3: because Wade, I guess is like involved in my business too, 201 00:09:25,480 --> 00:09:26,920 Speaker 3: he messaged me the other day. 202 00:09:27,120 --> 00:09:28,960 Speaker 1: I hope he doesn't mind me saying this. I'm sure 203 00:09:29,120 --> 00:09:30,080 Speaker 1: no one will hear it. 204 00:09:30,520 --> 00:09:32,640 Speaker 3: But he messaged me the other day and he was 205 00:09:32,679 --> 00:09:34,560 Speaker 3: at work and he's like, there, he's the most gorgeous 206 00:09:34,559 --> 00:09:37,560 Speaker 3: girl in our salon right now, Like you would love her, 207 00:09:37,640 --> 00:09:39,600 Speaker 3: like she would be so good to model for fate. 208 00:09:39,920 --> 00:09:41,880 Speaker 3: And I was like, take a photo of her, or 209 00:09:41,920 --> 00:09:43,520 Speaker 3: like ask her if she would do it, because we 210 00:09:43,600 --> 00:09:46,520 Speaker 3: just ask people like would you model? And she was 211 00:09:46,559 --> 00:09:49,120 Speaker 3: like Wade said to her, like, my friend has a 212 00:09:49,240 --> 00:09:51,760 Speaker 3: brand and like would you ever do modeling? 213 00:09:51,800 --> 00:09:53,319 Speaker 1: Like you're stunning? Do you do modeling? And she was like, 214 00:09:53,320 --> 00:09:54,360 Speaker 1: oh no, I've never done that. 215 00:09:54,880 --> 00:09:57,480 Speaker 3: And then he said like who I was and what 216 00:09:57,520 --> 00:09:59,520 Speaker 3: the brand was, and she knew and she was like, 217 00:09:59,520 --> 00:10:00,720 Speaker 3: oh no, could never do that. 218 00:10:02,280 --> 00:10:05,200 Speaker 1: And I just think it's so sad because she said. 219 00:10:05,920 --> 00:10:07,640 Speaker 3: I wouldn't do that because of how many people would 220 00:10:07,640 --> 00:10:11,839 Speaker 3: see me, even though this is a gorgeous, drop dead 221 00:10:12,000 --> 00:10:14,760 Speaker 3: Kirby woman, and I just think it's really sad, like 222 00:10:14,880 --> 00:10:17,920 Speaker 3: just thinking of life and you saying what are we 223 00:10:18,200 --> 00:10:19,760 Speaker 3: supposed to do in life? But I feel like so 224 00:10:19,840 --> 00:10:23,880 Speaker 3: many people are held back from doing anything because of 225 00:10:23,920 --> 00:10:30,400 Speaker 3: the fear of what other people might think. Like you said, 226 00:10:33,920 --> 00:10:35,880 Speaker 3: look at us getting a fucking deeper meaning for what 227 00:10:35,920 --> 00:10:38,760 Speaker 3: do us do this in close friends? 228 00:10:38,800 --> 00:10:40,520 Speaker 1: What is this is. 229 00:10:40,480 --> 00:10:41,760 Speaker 4: Where we have the dn ms? 230 00:10:42,160 --> 00:10:44,640 Speaker 2: Yeah, and we go off the rich scale and talk 231 00:10:44,640 --> 00:10:45,480 Speaker 2: about things that. 232 00:10:45,559 --> 00:10:47,960 Speaker 3: You know well to add on to the top to 233 00:10:48,040 --> 00:10:50,160 Speaker 3: the back of this as well. A TikTok I saw 234 00:10:50,200 --> 00:10:53,080 Speaker 3: the other day which just goes perfectly with what I've 235 00:10:53,120 --> 00:10:53,800 Speaker 3: just been saying. 236 00:10:54,520 --> 00:10:55,800 Speaker 1: A girl posted it. 237 00:10:55,800 --> 00:10:58,680 Speaker 3: It's in my reshares or reposts on TikTok. If you 238 00:10:58,679 --> 00:10:59,400 Speaker 3: want to say it. 239 00:10:59,559 --> 00:10:59,920 Speaker 1: See it. 240 00:11:00,120 --> 00:11:05,240 Speaker 3: Sorry Kelsey Mulkay, I'm probably saying her last name really wrong. 241 00:11:05,320 --> 00:11:10,079 Speaker 3: Sorry m U L c Ahy. This is another quote 242 00:11:10,080 --> 00:11:13,400 Speaker 3: that I saw and I'm like, yes, your ability to 243 00:11:13,520 --> 00:11:17,520 Speaker 3: withstand discomfort is the only edge you need to gain 244 00:11:17,559 --> 00:11:20,600 Speaker 3: an advantage across all aspects of your life. 245 00:11:20,960 --> 00:11:22,440 Speaker 4: Sorry, go again. 246 00:11:22,800 --> 00:11:24,160 Speaker 3: It's a lot when you read it like that, but 247 00:11:24,160 --> 00:11:28,160 Speaker 3: I'll break it down for you. Your ability to withstand discomfort. 248 00:11:28,480 --> 00:11:31,640 Speaker 3: Oh ye, So how comfortable you are with being uncomfortable 249 00:11:32,040 --> 00:11:35,520 Speaker 3: is the only edge that you need to gain an 250 00:11:35,600 --> 00:11:40,080 Speaker 3: advantage across all aspects of your life. So, in simpler terms, 251 00:11:40,760 --> 00:11:44,560 Speaker 3: as soon as you become okay with being uncomfortable in 252 00:11:44,600 --> 00:11:47,360 Speaker 3: whatever situation it may be, you will then unlock your 253 00:11:47,360 --> 00:11:50,679 Speaker 3: full potential in all areas of your life. And this 254 00:11:50,840 --> 00:11:53,720 Speaker 3: goes for becoming okay with people maybe having an opinion 255 00:11:53,720 --> 00:11:57,480 Speaker 3: about you and not caring and doing it anyway. But 256 00:11:57,640 --> 00:12:01,240 Speaker 3: we all see in like our obviously comfort zone. Yeah, 257 00:12:01,280 --> 00:12:03,920 Speaker 3: but to me, life begins when you just step outside it, 258 00:12:03,960 --> 00:12:04,800 Speaker 3: even one step. 259 00:12:05,360 --> 00:12:07,800 Speaker 2: Well as well, if you just sit inside your comfort zone, 260 00:12:07,840 --> 00:12:09,800 Speaker 2: how do you really grow exactly? 261 00:12:10,280 --> 00:12:13,160 Speaker 3: But we're all so afraid of what people might say 262 00:12:13,240 --> 00:12:16,200 Speaker 3: or think of us, or they might look at our arms, 263 00:12:16,240 --> 00:12:18,640 Speaker 3: Like it's such a common one for girls to be like, 264 00:12:18,679 --> 00:12:20,040 Speaker 3: I don't want to show my arms. 265 00:12:21,240 --> 00:12:23,080 Speaker 1: But even if you feel that way about. 266 00:12:22,840 --> 00:12:24,840 Speaker 3: Your arms, if you just wear that tank top once 267 00:12:25,280 --> 00:12:29,280 Speaker 3: like and step outside your comfort zone, I think that's where. 268 00:12:29,280 --> 00:12:32,240 Speaker 1: I think that's what life is all about. Life is 269 00:12:32,240 --> 00:12:33,319 Speaker 1: all about wearing a tank top. 270 00:12:33,480 --> 00:12:35,319 Speaker 2: Well, that was me at the Wicked premiere when I 271 00:12:35,360 --> 00:12:41,040 Speaker 2: wore that dress that was very green arms working well, yeah, 272 00:12:41,080 --> 00:12:43,160 Speaker 2: my arms were kind kind of out in that one. 273 00:12:43,160 --> 00:12:45,800 Speaker 2: But no, the black one in London, yeah, black and gold, 274 00:12:46,200 --> 00:12:48,720 Speaker 2: that was just just had the neckline and oh yeah 275 00:12:49,080 --> 00:12:53,120 Speaker 2: arms letely. I don't like my arms at all either, 276 00:12:53,880 --> 00:12:55,680 Speaker 2: And not that I don't like or like, I don't. 277 00:12:55,760 --> 00:12:57,280 Speaker 2: It's very hard because I don't look in the mirror 278 00:12:57,280 --> 00:13:00,240 Speaker 2: and go, I hat my arms, but I just when 279 00:13:00,280 --> 00:13:03,280 Speaker 2: I pick a dress, i'd like to cover them up. 280 00:13:03,440 --> 00:13:04,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, but I. 281 00:13:04,080 --> 00:13:06,480 Speaker 2: Don't stew on the fact that I don't like them. 282 00:13:06,480 --> 00:13:10,040 Speaker 2: I just go, it's just gonna look better if I 283 00:13:10,120 --> 00:13:12,839 Speaker 2: cover my arms. And so that was the first time 284 00:13:13,160 --> 00:13:17,240 Speaker 2: that I decided to get the arms, and especially the 285 00:13:17,400 --> 00:13:22,439 Speaker 2: under arms as well, because common thing for I mean 286 00:13:22,760 --> 00:13:25,280 Speaker 2: a lot of people, but for bigger people is darker 287 00:13:25,360 --> 00:13:29,640 Speaker 2: under arms. So I actually fixed it with my I 288 00:13:29,679 --> 00:13:32,440 Speaker 2: started using natural deodo and now I don't really have 289 00:13:32,640 --> 00:13:35,559 Speaker 2: darker under arms, but I used to have such dark 290 00:13:35,640 --> 00:13:38,359 Speaker 2: under arms, and then when with losing weight, like extra. 291 00:13:38,120 --> 00:13:38,800 Speaker 4: Loose skin, etc. 292 00:13:39,240 --> 00:13:42,719 Speaker 2: Like it rubs together, they got very dark underneath and 293 00:13:42,760 --> 00:13:44,800 Speaker 2: I was like it was almost like chafe under there. 294 00:13:44,840 --> 00:13:46,440 Speaker 2: At one point I was like, what the fuck is 295 00:13:46,480 --> 00:13:49,280 Speaker 2: going on? And I read online that natural deodorant could 296 00:13:49,440 --> 00:13:54,120 Speaker 2: help do that and exfoliating under there and shaving under 297 00:13:54,120 --> 00:13:57,280 Speaker 2: there and all the rest of that. So anyway, it's 298 00:13:57,360 --> 00:14:00,800 Speaker 2: fine now, But that was one of the things I 299 00:14:00,800 --> 00:14:02,040 Speaker 2: was like, I never want my arms out because my 300 00:14:02,080 --> 00:14:02,960 Speaker 2: under arms were dark. 301 00:14:03,320 --> 00:14:04,959 Speaker 4: And then when. 302 00:14:04,800 --> 00:14:08,920 Speaker 2: I got it out at h the London premiere of Wicked, 303 00:14:09,720 --> 00:14:12,880 Speaker 2: it was very it was liberating. It's probably like the 304 00:14:12,960 --> 00:14:17,480 Speaker 2: right word, but I still would choose address now with uns. 305 00:14:17,520 --> 00:14:19,640 Speaker 2: But I also I'm like, I have the option not to, 306 00:14:19,880 --> 00:14:23,800 Speaker 2: you know, but I yeah, I don't know. I think 307 00:14:23,840 --> 00:14:26,200 Speaker 2: it's like I kind of feel for the people who 308 00:14:26,200 --> 00:14:28,800 Speaker 2: are like, oh, I want more things with sleeves because 309 00:14:28,880 --> 00:14:32,600 Speaker 2: I think, like, I mean, I'm sure some of them 310 00:14:32,640 --> 00:14:34,640 Speaker 2: just hate their arms and that's just how it is. 311 00:14:34,680 --> 00:14:36,800 Speaker 2: But I think like for me, it's it's almost like 312 00:14:36,920 --> 00:14:40,480 Speaker 2: time and place to have the tuch shop lady arms 313 00:14:40,520 --> 00:14:43,040 Speaker 2: out as we call them, and the dark earned drums 314 00:14:43,080 --> 00:14:45,840 Speaker 2: and the everything else. Yeah, I think I also don't 315 00:14:45,880 --> 00:14:47,640 Speaker 2: like getting that out because I've got to shave my 316 00:14:47,680 --> 00:14:49,640 Speaker 2: fuck back too. If I get from I get my 317 00:14:50,000 --> 00:14:52,280 Speaker 2: arms on my back out, like you. 318 00:14:52,320 --> 00:14:55,320 Speaker 1: Gotta shay back, say your own back. 319 00:14:55,600 --> 00:14:59,240 Speaker 2: It's hard, hard to get back there, skotchle, I'm in 320 00:14:59,280 --> 00:15:00,560 Speaker 2: the shower, come. 321 00:15:00,400 --> 00:15:02,120 Speaker 1: In, come and shave her back. 322 00:15:02,920 --> 00:15:04,920 Speaker 4: He's done it. Tobey's done it too, the poor thing. 323 00:15:04,920 --> 00:15:08,160 Speaker 4: Although I've shaved a lot of areas of Tobey for him. 324 00:15:08,200 --> 00:15:09,960 Speaker 4: So you know, it's fine, you know. 325 00:15:10,600 --> 00:15:11,360 Speaker 1: I just want you to do it. 326 00:15:11,520 --> 00:15:14,480 Speaker 3: It's sad, like we obviously all have our insecurities about 327 00:15:14,520 --> 00:15:15,040 Speaker 3: our body. 328 00:15:15,120 --> 00:15:16,320 Speaker 1: That is inevitable. 329 00:15:16,680 --> 00:15:18,760 Speaker 3: But just like going back to you being like, what 330 00:15:18,800 --> 00:15:20,160 Speaker 3: the fuck is life? 331 00:15:20,040 --> 00:15:20,240 Speaker 4: Yeah? 332 00:15:20,400 --> 00:15:22,360 Speaker 1: And how much of life. 333 00:15:22,280 --> 00:15:25,000 Speaker 3: We are held back by what other people might say 334 00:15:25,080 --> 00:15:26,320 Speaker 3: about us or their opinion. 335 00:15:26,440 --> 00:15:27,720 Speaker 1: For sure, I think a big. 336 00:15:27,560 --> 00:15:32,760 Speaker 3: Part of life is learning to become comfortable with being 337 00:15:32,880 --> 00:15:36,800 Speaker 3: slightly uncomfortable, even if that means doing something where you're 338 00:15:36,840 --> 00:15:38,800 Speaker 3: worried what people might say or think. 339 00:15:39,200 --> 00:15:42,080 Speaker 2: And I think that's what boils down to me in 340 00:15:42,160 --> 00:15:45,240 Speaker 2: this week's episode talking about the YouTube videos and going, 341 00:15:45,920 --> 00:15:50,000 Speaker 2: you know, it's hard to give people access to that 342 00:15:50,160 --> 00:15:53,360 Speaker 2: much content of me. It's not because I don't want 343 00:15:53,360 --> 00:15:56,400 Speaker 2: to give access. It's because that's now a whole other 344 00:15:56,600 --> 00:16:00,520 Speaker 2: hour of content per week for people to criticize or judge. Really, 345 00:16:01,040 --> 00:16:04,640 Speaker 2: whereas you're very secure in that and really don't give 346 00:16:04,640 --> 00:16:05,000 Speaker 2: a fuck. 347 00:16:05,040 --> 00:16:07,600 Speaker 3: To put it lightly, I couldn't give a fuck what 348 00:16:07,760 --> 00:16:13,320 Speaker 3: people say. Like I'm open to constructive criticism of course, 349 00:16:14,040 --> 00:16:16,520 Speaker 3: but like, just for example, I don't really like to 350 00:16:16,560 --> 00:16:17,360 Speaker 3: talk about this shit. 351 00:16:17,480 --> 00:16:21,080 Speaker 1: But we were just like, oh, it. 352 00:16:21,000 --> 00:16:24,280 Speaker 3: Was a few weeks back now, but fate was in Reddit, 353 00:16:24,480 --> 00:16:29,680 Speaker 3: in this Australian fashion snark page of a snark page, 354 00:16:29,680 --> 00:16:32,080 Speaker 3: it's just like an Australian fashion one, and it was 355 00:16:32,120 --> 00:16:35,800 Speaker 3: about one of our dresses, the Marnie dress, which we restocked, 356 00:16:36,080 --> 00:16:39,520 Speaker 3: and I just put up a few ads of me 357 00:16:39,680 --> 00:16:41,120 Speaker 3: like talking about the Marni dress. 358 00:16:41,120 --> 00:16:44,520 Speaker 1: I don't know if you saw, yeah, Facebook, Yeah, so 359 00:16:44,560 --> 00:16:45,320 Speaker 1: you've been seeing the ad. 360 00:16:45,360 --> 00:16:48,120 Speaker 3: So I put out all these ads and obviously people 361 00:16:48,160 --> 00:16:50,880 Speaker 3: were seeing it. And we did a restock and it 362 00:16:50,920 --> 00:16:54,520 Speaker 3: was like really big, and someone had screenshotted like me 363 00:16:54,720 --> 00:16:56,840 Speaker 3: talking in a video in the dress, like a really 364 00:16:57,240 --> 00:17:00,720 Speaker 3: not so nice screenshot, like when I'm mid center, and 365 00:17:00,720 --> 00:17:03,920 Speaker 3: there was hundreds of comments on there, just ripping me 366 00:17:04,040 --> 00:17:08,600 Speaker 3: to shreds, ripping the dress to shreds, just talking about 367 00:17:08,600 --> 00:17:11,399 Speaker 3: how bad the dress is. Heaps of comments about me 368 00:17:11,440 --> 00:17:14,680 Speaker 3: and my body, people saying is she pregnant? Why have 369 00:17:14,760 --> 00:17:17,800 Speaker 3: they cheapened out on models, and then other people were 370 00:17:17,800 --> 00:17:19,800 Speaker 3: in there, like that's the owner and they're. 371 00:17:19,600 --> 00:17:21,359 Speaker 1: Like, oh yeah, blah blah blah. 372 00:17:21,440 --> 00:17:23,840 Speaker 3: And so there was a couple of nice comments in there, 373 00:17:24,080 --> 00:17:29,000 Speaker 3: but I sat there reading through them because someone DMed 374 00:17:29,040 --> 00:17:30,639 Speaker 3: it to me. So then I went to Reddit. 375 00:17:30,400 --> 00:17:32,919 Speaker 4: To look at it, which also, don't do that. 376 00:17:33,920 --> 00:17:34,760 Speaker 1: Don't DM it to me. 377 00:17:35,119 --> 00:17:37,919 Speaker 3: Yeah, I know, but I was like, oh whatever, and 378 00:17:38,000 --> 00:17:39,960 Speaker 3: like the restock had just happened that Friday, and this 379 00:17:40,040 --> 00:17:41,320 Speaker 3: was the Friday night, so I went on and I 380 00:17:41,359 --> 00:17:43,160 Speaker 3: was like, Okay, let's see what people have to fucking say, 381 00:17:43,160 --> 00:17:45,159 Speaker 3: which I wouldn't normally do. I wouldn't normally go and 382 00:17:45,200 --> 00:17:48,560 Speaker 3: read shit about me or fate. But I was like whatever. 383 00:17:48,600 --> 00:17:50,160 Speaker 3: And I was on a really big high as well, 384 00:17:50,200 --> 00:17:53,040 Speaker 3: because we just did a restock with those two dresses 385 00:17:53,320 --> 00:17:57,600 Speaker 3: and it was a really successful like restock. So I 386 00:17:57,680 --> 00:17:59,520 Speaker 3: was just like, we're fucking explain with these dresses, So 387 00:17:59,560 --> 00:18:00,720 Speaker 3: I don't care anyone says. 388 00:18:01,200 --> 00:18:02,200 Speaker 1: And I sat there and. 389 00:18:02,160 --> 00:18:05,639 Speaker 3: I read it, which I wouldn't normally do, and I 390 00:18:05,680 --> 00:18:08,560 Speaker 3: was reading it about me and my body, and I 391 00:18:08,640 --> 00:18:11,879 Speaker 3: feel like, for the first time, well not for the 392 00:18:11,920 --> 00:18:15,160 Speaker 3: first time, but I had a moment of realizing how 393 00:18:15,200 --> 00:18:17,359 Speaker 3: far I've come in terms of what people say about 394 00:18:17,400 --> 00:18:20,359 Speaker 3: me and Fate, especially like going back to YouTube, like 395 00:18:20,400 --> 00:18:23,000 Speaker 3: we were just saying if people when I was younger, 396 00:18:23,119 --> 00:18:26,440 Speaker 3: like twenty twenty one, in my YouTube prime era, people 397 00:18:26,440 --> 00:18:28,840 Speaker 3: would comment on my body and say things like, yeah, 398 00:18:28,880 --> 00:18:31,200 Speaker 3: is she pregnant or whatever, she looks horrible in that dress. 399 00:18:31,240 --> 00:18:33,520 Speaker 3: I would have read that and probably cried and then 400 00:18:33,640 --> 00:18:36,639 Speaker 3: felt bad about myself. And then everyone was just ripping 401 00:18:36,680 --> 00:18:38,880 Speaker 3: the dress to shred saying they fucking hate it, which 402 00:18:38,880 --> 00:18:41,479 Speaker 3: is fair enough. Not every fucking dress is for every person, 403 00:18:41,560 --> 00:18:44,040 Speaker 3: by the way, But I sat there on the Friday 404 00:18:44,119 --> 00:18:49,399 Speaker 3: night reading those comments and I felt completely unaffected. Good 405 00:18:49,640 --> 00:18:53,600 Speaker 3: because and then someone's like, look out, she might post 406 00:18:53,640 --> 00:18:56,720 Speaker 3: this on her story. I'm like, nah, I actually won't 407 00:18:56,760 --> 00:19:01,359 Speaker 3: because you are all fucking losers the quote, you know, 408 00:19:02,119 --> 00:19:04,479 Speaker 3: and again like it feeds into so many things, like 409 00:19:04,680 --> 00:19:06,800 Speaker 3: you want to see a woman be successful until she's 410 00:19:06,840 --> 00:19:08,639 Speaker 3: too successful that you're going to rip it to shreds 411 00:19:08,680 --> 00:19:09,119 Speaker 3: on Reddit. 412 00:19:09,400 --> 00:19:11,560 Speaker 1: So first of all, I'm like, these are all fucking losers, 413 00:19:11,800 --> 00:19:12,200 Speaker 1: But I. 414 00:19:12,160 --> 00:19:14,720 Speaker 3: Don't care if there are people out there that hate Fate, 415 00:19:15,000 --> 00:19:19,119 Speaker 3: that think our designs suck that think I'm terrible, Like, 416 00:19:19,480 --> 00:19:21,880 Speaker 3: make me the villain in your story all you want, 417 00:19:21,920 --> 00:19:23,600 Speaker 3: because you're all the fucking. 418 00:19:23,400 --> 00:19:24,520 Speaker 1: Losers in mind. 419 00:19:24,960 --> 00:19:27,000 Speaker 3: I would rather be a villain, and people want me 420 00:19:27,080 --> 00:19:28,879 Speaker 3: to be, you know, to see the downfall of me 421 00:19:28,960 --> 00:19:29,640 Speaker 3: and my business. 422 00:19:29,760 --> 00:19:31,199 Speaker 1: But you're a fucking loser to me. 423 00:19:31,640 --> 00:19:34,600 Speaker 3: Love love, So that's what I've got to say to 424 00:19:34,640 --> 00:19:38,719 Speaker 3: the people on Reddit. And we made multiple six figures 425 00:19:38,720 --> 00:19:41,600 Speaker 3: in that restock So fuck is all nice? 426 00:19:42,240 --> 00:19:45,480 Speaker 1: Like, I literally don't care twenty six given. 427 00:19:45,280 --> 00:19:48,080 Speaker 3: No fucks given, and I think And people were like, oh, 428 00:19:48,119 --> 00:19:52,480 Speaker 3: she's so up herself on her podcast talking. No you 429 00:19:52,640 --> 00:19:54,840 Speaker 3: motherfuckers are talking about me. So I'm gonna tell you 430 00:19:54,880 --> 00:19:57,440 Speaker 3: how I feel about you. You are all on anonymous 431 00:19:57,440 --> 00:20:03,439 Speaker 3: accounts commenting, screenshotting my ads which have targeted you and 432 00:20:03,560 --> 00:20:07,720 Speaker 3: found the right people. You commented in Reddit, bringing more 433 00:20:07,800 --> 00:20:11,080 Speaker 3: awareness to the fucking dresses, and we made a shit 434 00:20:11,160 --> 00:20:14,679 Speaker 3: ton of sales. Love, So who's the real loser in 435 00:20:14,720 --> 00:20:18,360 Speaker 3: this situation? Me having a wonderful business that's doing well 436 00:20:18,400 --> 00:20:21,080 Speaker 3: and providing lots of jobs, or you sitting behind a 437 00:20:21,119 --> 00:20:24,480 Speaker 3: faceless account on Reddit on your Friday night ripping apart. 438 00:20:24,520 --> 00:20:27,480 Speaker 1: Another woman saying is she pregnant. What an ugly model, 439 00:20:29,119 --> 00:20:29,399 Speaker 1: And with 440 00:20:29,480 --> 00:20:35,800 Speaker 4: That, we'll see you next Tuesday.