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Speaker 1: This is the Fitty and Whipper with Kate Richie podcast.

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Speaker 2: I don't think this comes as any surprise, and it's

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Speaker 2: just the reality of life, and it's actually just the

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Speaker 2: result of nature and the way this beautiful world works.

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Speaker 2: A study has come out, and I don't think it

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Speaker 2: needed a study, but they've said, if you ever suspected

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Speaker 2: your partner loving your children more than they love you, you're

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Speaker 2: probably right. Scientists looked at the brain activity when experiencing

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Speaker 2: feelings of affection towards your children and obviously towards you

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Speaker 2: as a partner, and the activity that was noted was

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Speaker 2: the level of affection was a lot higher for the

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Speaker 2: children than it was for you.

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Speaker 3: No, sh well, see this, do you know what? We're

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Speaker 3: at the stage, so we've got Lenny's just about.

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Speaker 1: To become a teenager.

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Speaker 3: But you you focus so much on your children that

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Speaker 3: you do let the little things in your relationship going

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Speaker 3: and you don't spend as much time with each other.

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Speaker 3: We're only talking about this the other day, Whip that

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Speaker 3: we were so that people that grow apart, and I

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Speaker 3: always think to myself, that's the person that you've fallen

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Speaker 3: in love with, aren't you always in love?

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Speaker 1: With that person you are.

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Speaker 2: But when you talk about growing apart, I think the

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Speaker 2: other thing that happens is people grow into different people,

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Speaker 2: so that the person that you fell in love with

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Speaker 2: might be a different person today, and you might be

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Speaker 2: a different person also.

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Speaker 1: Don't you have to give them a chance to go

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Speaker 1: back to that though? But you might be in love

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Speaker 1: with the new them.

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Speaker 3: So I've got nearly two teenage boys, and our whole

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Speaker 3: lives focus around them, sports, school, everything else. That you

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Speaker 3: are letting things. I suppose that's my fault, isn't it.

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Speaker 3: I've got to spend more time.

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Speaker 2: It would be nice life because she she wants to

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Speaker 2: love you, and you need to let her in. But

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Speaker 2: I mean, she's got op shops, she loves them.

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Speaker 1: This is so does she have time for you so much?

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Speaker 1: So do you think we're growing apart? Well, I didn't

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Speaker 1: want to say. If she could buy you in an opshop,

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Speaker 1: she might love you again. If I was cheap, she

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Speaker 1: probably would.

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Speaker 2: It makes sense naturally though, if you think we're just animals, right,

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Speaker 2: we're all made of the same thing. We're naturally meant

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Speaker 2: to be the closest to to our kids, aren't we Yep,

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Speaker 2: Because we're meant to from a caring from a parental role,

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Speaker 2: from a teaching role. They're all the parts of what

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Speaker 2: makes up parenting. And you need to be number one

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Speaker 2: for that kid because a kid growing up, I mean

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Speaker 2: they talk about it, you're needing a village to raise

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Speaker 2: a child, which you do because you need so much

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Speaker 2: influence and help because it's such a wild ride. So

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Speaker 2: if you weren't focused on your kid, then there'd be.

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Speaker 1: A bit of an issue.

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Speaker 3: I mean, you were just talking about a relationship that

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Speaker 3: have been together for twenty years and then all of

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Speaker 3: a sudden they've just grown apart Like that just makes

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Speaker 3: me sad to know that. Do you know what, as

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Speaker 3: you get older, you mature, things do change.

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Speaker 1: You probably don't focus on things just as much, but

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Speaker 1: then all of a sudden, you lose that love.

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Speaker 2: I said to Lisa the other day or last night, actually,

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Speaker 2: because we're going apart, sleeping separate beds, and I wandered

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Speaker 2: it in Amanda pants.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, not out of it. You wanted it sleeping in

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Speaker 1: different houses, which is weird as we.

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Speaker 2: Wanted him under pants, And I thought she may have

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Speaker 2: seen that as an opportunity to jump my bones.

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Speaker 1: But she chose her big bones.

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Speaker 2: I wandered it and I said to her, Honey, I

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Speaker 2: understand why maybe you don't want to make out with me.

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Speaker 1: I have a look at me. I was having a

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Speaker 1: down day yesterday. It was a little bit of I'm

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Speaker 1: a mess. Have a look at this.

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Speaker 2: And I said to Medications, you know what I saw

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Speaker 2: Larry posted yesterday. Larry posted a photo of when he

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Speaker 2: was fifty and now he's turning sixty and he's going to.

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Speaker 1: Get that body back as well.

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Speaker 2: And his wife.

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Speaker 1: I remember when Larry was that ten years ago.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and now Larry's turning sixty and Larry's going to

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Speaker 2: sharpen up the rig again. And I said to Lisa

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Speaker 2: last night, I'm going to be your Larry Emda.

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Speaker 1: Oh, that's that is not entertainment, not.

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Speaker 2: A gold LOGI winner, mate, you got you got a

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Speaker 2: cheap radiowater best.

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Speaker 1: You're not a goal. He was looking at it again.

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Speaker 1: That is not a loggie. That's more of a keyring.

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