Speaker 1: What happens if one day everyone just goes radio silent
Speaker 1: on you.
Speaker 2: I'd have anxiety, a nervous breakdown, anxiety attack and be like,
Speaker 2: what have I done? Yeah? Love it in my own head,
Speaker 2: like wait, have I done something? What's this? The rejection
Speaker 2: sensitive just more for that ad I'd be like, what's
Speaker 2: going on? What have I done? Lose my mind?
Speaker 1: Where's your head at? Is a podcast that talks full things. Right,
Speaker 1: Hold on a sec, let's give this a refresh. Hi,
Speaker 1: I'm Anna.
Speaker 2: And I'm Matt, and we are now too newlywed, not
Speaker 2: to each other. Just a female and male best friend
Speaker 2: here for the good, the bad, and the ugly times.
Speaker 1: And exploring adulthood, family relationships, dilemmas.
Speaker 2: And whatever else we have the mental capacity to deal with.
Speaker 1: Come get the lowdown.
Speaker 2: This is your male and female perspective.
Speaker 1: So Matt, where's your head at? Good morning, Matt.
Speaker 2: Good morning? Anna wears your head at?
Speaker 1: Well, I'm holding a coffee in hand, which is a
Speaker 1: big deal because I have not drunk coffee for the
Speaker 1: whole of this pregnancy, which is crazy when you think
Speaker 1: about it, Like the amount if you're a longtime listener,
Speaker 1: wears your head at you know how much Matt and
Speaker 1: I used to smash coffee is one for one? Will
Speaker 1: you still do this?
Speaker 2: Is?
Speaker 1: I think I'm probably going to have about a quarter
Speaker 1: of this, but I've reacquired the coffee taste.
Speaker 2: When I called you to ask for your order, you
Speaker 2: were telling me and I was literally sitting there at
Speaker 2: the counter and the girls looking at me, and You're like,
Speaker 2: can I get it? I'm only going to drink a
Speaker 2: quarter of it, so you can get me a quarter
Speaker 2: three quarter field sweete with a medium hot milk, but
Speaker 2: no phone order, And I just was like, okay, I'll
Speaker 2: just get your.
Speaker 1: Coffee just by guys, don't believe anything that's coming out
Speaker 1: of his mouth. I did not. I did say that
Speaker 1: they could put three quarters in it because I'm not
Speaker 1: going to drink anything.
Speaker 2: I think she heard that and she did do that,
Speaker 2: didn't she?
Speaker 1: I think, so yeah, But thank you for my coffee
Speaker 1: this morning. Anyway, So how are you? I literally walked
Speaker 1: into the studio, guys, and that was reading his book
Speaker 1: and I was like, wow, who is he?
Speaker 2: No, Well, it's in the juicy end of my Goosebumps
Speaker 2: the Haunted House, So I'm at the back end of it,
Speaker 2: So I'm really trying to get it done because I
Speaker 2: want to see what happens.
Speaker 1: You're about to finish. Yes, I am, that's an accomplishment.
Speaker 2: It is. Yeah, it's now my third or fourth Goosebumps one.
Speaker 2: I'm loving him.
Speaker 1: You're going to have the whole series. There is one.
Speaker 2: I don't know if there is now there is one,
Speaker 2: and there's other series. There's heaps of them. Actually did
Speaker 2: a bit of like googling, so I realized, oh, this
Speaker 2: isn't part of the normal series. I'm not going to
Speaker 2: go too much into that. There's all different spin offs
Speaker 2: of them. But I wanted to touch on that though,
Speaker 2: because when we spoke about it, and I think a
Speaker 2: couple of weeks ago, yeah, I was like, really appreciated
Speaker 2: everyone's messages. I was getting heaps and messages from people
Speaker 2: telling me that it's not I shouldn't be ashamed of
Speaker 2: reading Goosebumps. A lot of people also struggled with reading,
Speaker 2: and they were saying that, look, start at whatever level
Speaker 2: you can. That's pretty much what they were saying. They're
Speaker 2: proud of me for giving it a go. So I'd
Speaker 2: like to thank everyone for their messages and reaching out to.
Speaker 1: Me, yeah, and I think, like, you know, the fact
Speaker 1: that you're even reading is great. Like, people don't pick
Speaker 1: up books for a long time. I'm trying to read
Speaker 1: a parenting book and I've got a quarter of the
Speaker 1: way through, and I actually need this information and it's
Speaker 1: hard to you know, we all live such busy lives,
Speaker 1: it's hard to pick up a book.
Speaker 2: Well, one person said, like, don't listen to people when
Speaker 2: they hate you for it. They're like, if you enjoy it,
Speaker 2: do it like and obviously you're enjoying it, So keep reading.
Speaker 1: Be loud and proud about it. Read it wherever you want.
Speaker 2: I was reading it here in the studio while Blake
Speaker 2: was setting up the cameras. He started trying to start
Speaker 2: a chat with me, and I was just like, yeah,
Speaker 2: trying to smash some pages I'm reading.
Speaker 1: No, it's it's cool that people who are supporting you
Speaker 1: and behind you about it. And like I said a
Speaker 1: couple of weeks ago, it really pissed me off that
Speaker 1: people were giving a shit about it.
Speaker 2: Let the man read, Well, they're not now, they're actually
Speaker 2: supporting me and they're telling me to keep reading. But
Speaker 2: on that messages, I was getting a bunch of messages
Speaker 2: about going to the movies by myself.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, so you've liked to do that for a
Speaker 1: while though, I know.
Speaker 2: And that's what people were actually saying. They're like, how
Speaker 2: nice is going to the movies, getting popcorn and sitting
Speaker 2: there by yourself and relaxing. And I was like, I
Speaker 2: love going to the movies. Yeah, I go with my partner,
Speaker 2: I go with my step kids, like I go all
Speaker 2: the time, go with my sisters. I love to go
Speaker 2: to the movies.
Speaker 1: You do love a movie.
Speaker 2: If no one we know and if no one is
Speaker 2: interested in going to that movie with me, I'm not
Speaker 2: gonna skip it. I'm going to go by myself. I
Speaker 2: mean I do TikTok years ago about going to the
Speaker 2: movies by myself because no one wanted to go with me.
Speaker 2: And I love doing it.
Speaker 1: And you know what I've got to give you it
Speaker 1: like you have a lot of confidence. I personally can't relate,
Speaker 1: Like you would never catch me into movies by myself.
Speaker 2: A lot of people message saying that they do it
Speaker 2: as well, and they loved going and it's a find
Speaker 2: a way of peace, and they just switch off. I
Speaker 2: turned my phone off and I just sat there and
Speaker 2: watched it. Actually, sorry, I took the photos of the
Speaker 2: the title and then turn my hand and then turned
Speaker 2: I always do that. I have my phone ready and
Speaker 2: then take the title and then I turned it off.
Speaker 1: You know what, one thing I do love to do
Speaker 1: by myself, which I'm comfortable with is going for a
Speaker 1: coffee by myself, or getting like a croissant at a
Speaker 1: breakfast place, or getting getting breakfast by myself. I'm totally
Speaker 1: comfortable with that. Like, I love that. I think it's
Speaker 1: really good. In fact, you've been in my area recently
Speaker 1: quite a lot working.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, yeah, I don't really talk about my work too.
Speaker 2: So I've been working for my dad. So he obviously
Speaker 2: has a company down in Melbourne which I used to
Speaker 2: company Pool company that I used to work for, and
Speaker 2: I was doing a bit of work while I was
Speaker 2: up on the Gold Coast for UHIM here and there.
Speaker 2: But he's had some people leave, some people retire, so
Speaker 2: I've come down now to just be on the ground.
Speaker 2: It's easy. We found it was easier that way to like,
Speaker 2: you know, go see the clients, go see the boys
Speaker 2: on site and all that sort of stuff. So I've
Speaker 2: been down, yeah, helping him out a fair bit, so
Speaker 2: it's good to be back out there.
Speaker 1: They aren't they expanding to the GC.
Speaker 2: Well, yeah, there is talk of that, definitely looking into that.
Speaker 2: I'm just you know, seeing sussing stuff out, getting contractors,
Speaker 2: seeing building licenses and all that sort of stuff. So
Speaker 2: we're looking into that all.
Speaker 1: The fun stuff.
Speaker 2: No, it's not, it's really there's a big going on.
Speaker 1: Love.
Speaker 2: I do love it, but like it's you know, it's stressful.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's all jobs. Something he said to me the
Speaker 1: other day. You have been saying that we haven't really
Speaker 1: seen each other a lot outside of the podcast recently,
Speaker 1: and you've mentioned that for a while, you've been trying
Speaker 1: to get me to go to the movies and watch
Speaker 1: horror movies with you, which I refuse to do because
Speaker 1: I care about my mental health.
Speaker 2: I've I've been easying up on it as you're pregnant
Speaker 2: and you're like, I don't want to get you scared
Speaker 2: and stressed out. But as soon as old Stan comes out,
Speaker 2: he will take you to the movies and you can
Speaker 2: watch one.
Speaker 1: I think we need to pivot away from movies and
Speaker 1: finds like a duel hobby that we like. That's not
Speaker 1: scary movies, because I feel like scary movies is your thing.
Speaker 1: We need something like that we can do together, all right.
Speaker 2: And well, I think there's a couple of things if
Speaker 2: you're get into. But I've got one in mind which
Speaker 2: I really love and I reckon you'll enjoy as well.
Speaker 1: Okay, I feel like I know what this is gonna be.
Speaker 2: Go ahead? What is it? Is it?
Speaker 1: The NRL?
Speaker 2: Yes? Do you hear me talking about it? It's the
Speaker 2: other day, didn't you.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean that you always talk about the NRL.
Speaker 1: But also I have a funny story about the NRL
Speaker 1: because I got invited to the NRL. I think it
Speaker 1: was last year with Michael, and because I'm so clueless
Speaker 1: on all things sport, I read NRL and I thought
Speaker 1: it was a basketball So I was like, Michael, I've
Speaker 1: got us tickets to the basketball. We're going to the basketball. Yeah,
Speaker 1: And literally on our way out of the door, I
Speaker 1: showed Michael the tickets because I was like here, like,
Speaker 1: you take the tickets, and he's like, Babe, this is
Speaker 1: the NRL. Ah rugby, this is the rugby. We're going
Speaker 1: to the rugby. And I was like, oh, okay, I've
Speaker 1: never been to before, got it totally wrong. But actually
Speaker 1: I had a really fun time there. Loved it. I
Speaker 1: think the Storm was playing from memory. The Purple team yep,
Speaker 1: loved the color, love the mascot as well. Actually love it.
Speaker 1: There was a lot going on, like there was I
Speaker 1: don't know if there was fireworks, but there was definitely
Speaker 1: like flames fly, there was flay I think cheerleaders maybe.
Speaker 1: So yeah, very entertaining and yeah I loved it so
Speaker 1: I could I could get into the NRL with you,
Speaker 1: is what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: This was a lot easier than I thought to get
Speaker 2: a hobby going together the NRL. I got more into
Speaker 2: it living on the Gold Coast Queensland. Love it up there.
Speaker 2: It's on the TV all the time. Yeah, yeah, it's
Speaker 2: pretty fun.
Speaker 1: So who's your team?
Speaker 2: I would say I grew up going for the North
Speaker 2: Queensland Cowboys, but living on the Gold Coast, I have
Speaker 2: to go for the Gold Coast Titans.
Speaker 1: Yeah. I feel like I'm more Storm, but I'm not
Speaker 1: one hundred percent like I like the Mass like the Purple.
Speaker 1: I mean obviously I saw them play they won, so
Speaker 1: that was like a good star. So I don't personally
Speaker 1: have a team. I'm veering towards the Storm because obviously
Speaker 1: I saw them play. We like the color purple, liked
Speaker 1: the mascot. But you know, I'm open. I'm open to
Speaker 1: exploring new teams as well.
Speaker 2: Sounds like you're on Love Island saying you're open to
Speaker 2: other connections. But okay, you can't judge your team off
Speaker 2: the color. I know that's ridiculous, right you said the mascot. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I think that's a fair enough call. You can. So
Speaker 2: let's have a look at some other mascots and see
Speaker 2: if you prefer them over the Melbourne storm one. Okay,
Speaker 2: so this is the Melbourne storm one.
Speaker 1: Okay, See, that's like I'm veering towards him. I think
Speaker 1: he's pretty cool Stormman, the Stormman. He kind of looks
Speaker 1: like Superman. He's in a purple likera suit.
Speaker 2: He does look like a superhero, doesn't he?
Speaker 1: He does look like a superhero. Okay, what about he
Speaker 1: also gave me a high five for the game, I
Speaker 1: will say, so he's really for a little bit.
Speaker 2: Where about the South Sydney rabbit os.
Speaker 1: Yeah, look, I'm not loving his fit. The color scheme
Speaker 1: is more Christmas vires with the red and cream.
Speaker 2: It's a crush on Eastern Christmas, isn't it?
Speaker 1: It is? It is, which it would be good for
Speaker 1: you because you love holidays and celebrating Eastern Christmas. But
Speaker 1: I'm going to say pass.
Speaker 2: What about Reefy the Cronulla sharks.
Speaker 1: It's cool.
Speaker 2: If we're going off mascots, I'm going to go off
Speaker 2: the shark.
Speaker 1: Muscly guy. That top's looking a little tired on him.
Speaker 1: The pants as well.
Speaker 2: Sharks are you know the apex predator out there in
Speaker 2: the ocean.
Speaker 1: He needs to kind of like roof off his Okay,
Speaker 1: that's a maybe.
Speaker 2: Maybe, Reefy. We've got claws from the Penrith panthers.
Speaker 1: Okay, he looks pretty cool. He's got some cool shades
Speaker 1: going on. Muscly, he's got a typed up he looks
Speaker 1: pretty harsh.
Speaker 2: Yeah. The Penrith panthers are are majestic animal, aren't they?
Speaker 1: Panthers are up there.
Speaker 2: Okay, so we've nearly got the panthers. Okay, I'll give
Speaker 2: you one more Anna, Okay, go the Sydney Roosters. Okay.
Speaker 1: I like the colorway, I love Navy, but I mean
Speaker 1: I did like the other guy, the panther.
Speaker 2: Okay, So have you steered away from Melbourne Storm?
Speaker 1: No, definitely not. I think like my top three would
Speaker 1: have to be Melbourne Storm, the Panthers which is who Sydney,
Speaker 1: the Penrith Panthers, and the Roosters. What one was that?
Speaker 2: The Sydney Roosters.
Speaker 1: The Sydney Roosters. Okay, so they're my top three, but
Speaker 1: don't hold me to it. I need to message to
Speaker 1: the group chat get final approofals and who are you again?
Speaker 2: I'm the Gold Coast Titans.
Speaker 1: Gold Coast Titans, okay and bye.
Speaker 2: Well you might be picking between those three, but for
Speaker 2: your son, Steve O, I'm gonna make him go for
Speaker 2: the Gold Coast Titans. He's in new member of the
Speaker 2: Gold Coach Titans cheer squad.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, guys, stay tuned for this activity. Matt
Speaker 1: and I are getting into the NRL. We'll go to
Speaker 1: a game, let's do it. I'm excited.
Speaker 2: Well, I've got a bone to pick with you. Okay, bone?
Speaker 2: You know your Mother's Day? No, you're not your Mother's Day.
Speaker 2: Your mother's baby shower, my mother, blessing, mother, blessing. See
Speaker 2: you don't even know what it is. No wonder I
Speaker 2: didn't give mother's blessing. It's an old girl event, though,
Speaker 2: isn't it.
Speaker 1: No, I didn't get invited, you're saying.
Speaker 2: I know, I'm Actually it looked cute from what I saw.
Speaker 2: It looked sweet. Yeah.
Speaker 1: So I felt like I was getting a lot of
Speaker 1: pressure to do a baby shower. Obviously it's my first baby,
Speaker 1: and I feel like, you know, there's just there's a
Speaker 1: lot of stuff that babies need. I think is what
Speaker 1: I've realized in the past, like five ish weeks when
Speaker 1: I've started getting things ready, like even like, do you
Speaker 1: know what a muslin rap is exactly?
Speaker 2: Can I take a guess? Yeah? Sure, it's when you
Speaker 2: wrap them up in there in the blanket while they're
Speaker 2: asleep so they can't roll anywhere.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think so.
Speaker 2: Do you think so? Yeah?
Speaker 1: I think so. Do you want silverettza they are?
Speaker 2: They are a type of diver? Yeah? Is that a
Speaker 2: full stuff? After? Wrong? Was right there?
Speaker 1: Silverretta like these little silver things that you put on
Speaker 1: your nipples when you're breastfeeding to like relax, like not
Speaker 1: relax the nipples, to soothe the nipples from like nipple
Speaker 1: trauma from breastfeeding.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's pretty intense.
Speaker 1: Apparently, white. Well, I don't know about that, hopefully not.
Speaker 1: Maybe probably I think they have a sucking reflex to
Speaker 1: drink the milk.
Speaker 2: Yeah, go on.
Speaker 1: Matt's like favorite for where's your bump?
Speaker 2: I say, which is live? Guys at the moment.
Speaker 1: Yes, where's your quickly where's your bumpat is live? It's
Speaker 1: going really well. I've had the most beautiful messages of
Speaker 1: people saying, thank you so much for putting this together
Speaker 1: because you know, it really just encompasses the experience of
Speaker 1: either wanting kids or being pregnant or you know, trying
Speaker 1: or whatever it is. So thank you for listening. Make
Speaker 1: sure you listen. We have two episodes out right now,
Speaker 1: three no, three three yeah, so give it a listen.
Speaker 1: And I really appreciate all of the feedback. But no,
Speaker 1: so yeah, I had a mother's blessing. I felt a
Speaker 1: lot of pressure to do a baby shower, and I
Speaker 1: don't know, I feel like I kind of left that
Speaker 1: too late. Like I'm very pregnant. I'm heavily pregnant. It's
Speaker 1: what people are calling me at the moment, which I'm
Speaker 1: okay with because I am heavily pregnant and I just
Speaker 1: really couldn't be bothered. I couldn't be bothered putting on
Speaker 1: a party. I feel like, you know, I had a
Speaker 1: thirtieth had an engagement party, had a wedding last year,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, I was one year. Well, no, who wasn't, But.
Speaker 2: I'm gone thirty we got married.
Speaker 1: Thirty one?
Speaker 2: You did yet? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Anyway, anyway, I've put on a lot of parties. I
Speaker 1: couldn't be bothered with it. I've heard of this thing
Speaker 1: called a mother blessing, and it's basically less about you know,
Speaker 1: the gifts for the baby, and it's.
Speaker 2: More about the mother.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's about the mom. Like it's looking after the mom,
Speaker 1: say you dug no. I think like I'm the first
Speaker 1: person in my friendship group to have a baby, so
Speaker 1: I really wanted to set the precedence of, like, you know,
Speaker 1: be there for each other, like support each other, Please
Speaker 1: support me. I don't know handle postpartum. And it was lovely,
Speaker 1: Like everyone brought a bead and they made me like
Speaker 1: this little bracelet with all of the beads from each
Speaker 1: person which were all sentimental and I'm going to wear
Speaker 1: it when I go to have the baby and just yeah,
Speaker 1: and like everyone got a candle and everyone. We burned
Speaker 1: it for the whole mother blessing, but when they know
Speaker 1: that I'm heading to the hospital, They're going to start
Speaker 1: burning the candle for me, and just like things like that.
Speaker 2: Wow. Real it was quite.
Speaker 1: Spiritual and just I felt very loved and kind of
Speaker 1: looked after and supported and it was really nice. Like
Speaker 1: I would recommend doing a mother's blessing to anyone who's
Speaker 1: pregnant and who I don't.
Speaker 2: Know how I would have gone there. I would have
Speaker 2: sort of been like, mind you, I wasn't even in
Speaker 2: the state, so I wasn't even in the state. But
Speaker 2: if I was there, I don't know. It seems real spiritual, real.
Speaker 1: Well, we got like everyone got quite emotional at one point.
Speaker 1: It sounds because like you start the mother blessing by
Speaker 1: saying I'm the granddaughter of and then you say your grandparents' names,
Speaker 1: and you say I am the daughter of my mum Emory,
Speaker 1: and then I would say and I'm the mother of
Speaker 1: and then I said the baby's name, like to be mother,
Speaker 1: don't continue trying to get the name. But yeah, no,
Speaker 1: it was lovely, highly recommend it, very I feel very supportive,
Speaker 1: and yeah, it was just good vibes all around. Really Okay, Matt.
Speaker 1: Today on the podcast, we are talking about how often
Speaker 1: we should be chatting with our friends.
Speaker 2: Yes, well, how often do you think you should be
Speaker 2: chatting to your friends?
Speaker 1: Well, I mean you you're a caller, so you call
Speaker 1: all the time, So I think this is not including.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that's not I know a lot of
Speaker 2: my mates have like said they screened my calls because
Speaker 2: I'm a caller.
Speaker 1: Really because I don't want to chat on the phone.
Speaker 2: Yeah, they're not cause.
Speaker 1: Some people don't like some people find it uncomfortable or
Speaker 1: like it is time consuming to chat on the phone.
Speaker 2: It is, but a lot of the best time to call,
Speaker 2: I feel in a lot of when my mates actually
Speaker 2: call me back is when they're driving. Yeah, true, I think.
Speaker 2: And then I think that My mum actually pointed out
Speaker 2: to me, she said, you only call me when you're driving,
Speaker 2: but you don't realize what I'm doing on the other end,
Speaker 2: like I'm not driving, do you know what I mean?
Speaker 2: And I'm like, yeah, true, never thought of it like that?
Speaker 2: Selfish a little bit like that, how often do you
Speaker 2: reckon your message your friends?
Speaker 1: Then I would say, like the group chat would be
Speaker 1: like three times a week. Yeah, what do you think
Speaker 1: about the group chat?
Speaker 2: Oh, that's sporadic and could be here there, you could
Speaker 2: be here, that could be on fire one time. It
Speaker 2: could be like you know, it could be on fire
Speaker 2: back NonStop messages, or it could be as dry as
Speaker 2: a sahara. No one's chatting. It just really depends if
Speaker 2: there's something we're trying to tee up.
Speaker 1: Yeah, then there's a bit more.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but I have I honestly, with the boys, I'll
Speaker 2: have I have so many different separate group chats.
Speaker 1: We were like one person get's left.
Speaker 2: Hand, yeah, or there's different like things. If one event
Speaker 2: was organized and then that group chat keeps going for
Speaker 2: a while and that fizzled out, do you know what
Speaker 2: I mean? And then like something might spark another group
Speaker 2: chat because you know, like say my bucks one that
Speaker 2: flares up randomly when something happens that's relevant to that
Speaker 2: nice yeah, and then it gets a little bit of
Speaker 2: my managument it just fizzle out again.
Speaker 1: It's funny. I was watching an episode of Keeping Up
Speaker 1: with the Kardashians and they have like lots of different
Speaker 1: group chats. But they'll have like a not Kim group chat,
Speaker 1: not Courtney group chat. Really, I guess if they want
Speaker 1: a bitch about each other, they'll go to like the
Speaker 1: you know not Kendle group chat and be like, can
Speaker 1: you leave Kendle did this?
Speaker 2: That's a bit of effets. We have. Yeah, we have
Speaker 2: like even family ones like mother, kids, dad and kids
Speaker 2: and mum and like we have different ones. I'm actually
Speaker 2: in one with my mates. Am part of a football team,
Speaker 2: and it's called Carpool plus Matt, so I hear all.
Speaker 2: I've muted it now, but it's all their car pool
Speaker 2: things to go to because they play a country football team,
Speaker 2: and they like talk about where they're meeting and times
Speaker 2: and the game on the weekend and all this sort
Speaker 2: of stuff and random football blows and I'm just like, yeah,
Speaker 2: I can't, I've got to mute this. But they're my
Speaker 2: best mates, so I stay in there. I haven't left.
Speaker 1: I just think, like, you sound like you have way
Speaker 1: too many group chats for me, Like that kind of
Speaker 1: stresses me out. I have my friend group chat. I
Speaker 1: have my friends plus the boys group chats like the
Speaker 1: boyfriends and husbands or whatever, and then I have the
Speaker 1: family group chat, and there's like a couple of variations,
Speaker 1: but that's pretty much about it.
Speaker 2: We have a couple of where's your head at ones?
Speaker 1: We have where's your head out? Where's your bump hat
Speaker 1: as well, but they're more like working group chat. Actually,
Speaker 1: I have a few group chats now I'm thinking about it.
Speaker 2: You have heaps I They go off here and there.
Speaker 1: It just depends, really, I mean, look, there's lots of
Speaker 1: different ways to communicate with your friends. Obviously, I feel
Speaker 1: like FaceTime would be the closest thing to being in person. Yeah.
Speaker 1: So there's FaceTime. Then there's calling, which you love to do.
Speaker 1: There's texting, there's voice noting.
Speaker 2: Are you a voice noter?
Speaker 1: Sometimes?
Speaker 2: I am? Sometimes if there's too.
Speaker 1: Much info that I can't my little thumbs can't be followed.
Speaker 2: I how long is a voice note should be? I
Speaker 2: saw this debate on TikTok. How long should a voice
Speaker 2: note be to your friend?
Speaker 1: A minute?
Speaker 2: I think longer than a minute? Yeah, stop, I'm not
Speaker 2: listening to that, you know what I mean? I think,
Speaker 2: what bang on a minute? Once it hits like a
Speaker 2: minute oh two, I feel like that's when I'm rapping
Speaker 2: my voice.
Speaker 1: Get to the point.
Speaker 2: Get to the point.
Speaker 1: If you've not got there yet you're know they're.
Speaker 2: Going to get there because I remember a new girl
Speaker 2: who would send my friend like literally like three minute
Speaker 2: once and she'd sit there listening to it, and I'm like,
Speaker 2: that's drain.
Speaker 1: Like, yeah, you need to get to the point.
Speaker 2: You get to the point by a minute. I think
Speaker 2: that's the average length of a voice not to a
Speaker 2: friend for.
Speaker 1: Sure, and like you're not looking like if someone sending
Speaker 1: a four minute voice note.
Speaker 2: It's a bit like do you read the text on
Speaker 2: a voice not how it scribs out the text underneath.
Speaker 1: Sometimes if I'm like, yeah, I'll read it in a
Speaker 1: place where I can't listen out loud, but I'd prefer
Speaker 1: to listen.
Speaker 2: Okay, I prefer to read it or listen to it.
Speaker 2: And it's so funny because it's how scrabbled up it is,
Speaker 2: scrambled like scrambled in different words it.
Speaker 1: Okay. Then there's sending videos as in like not sending
Speaker 1: videos of yourself, like sending reels and reels and tiktoks, yes,
Speaker 1: which you love to do. I love to do that too,
Speaker 1: actually to connect with friends. Like even if I'm not
Speaker 1: saying hi to you, I might send you a little
Speaker 1: reel where I've been reminded of you and even like
Speaker 1: a little connection.
Speaker 2: Even before I literally was saw a real or TikTok,
Speaker 2: just before I was a reel on Instagram and I
Speaker 2: literally sent it to like three different group charts, six
Speaker 2: different mates, and you just send it off to all
Speaker 2: of them. Yeah, I'm massive at reels and tiktoks ending.
Speaker 2: I'm a huge of that. It's probably I get stuck
Speaker 2: in those TikTok holes and I send so many. Yeah,
Speaker 2: it's probably the only communication I have with one of
Speaker 2: my best mates, benji Obi, Me and him just literally
Speaker 2: send reels and TikTok.
Speaker 1: You just never speak.
Speaker 2: Well, finally enough, we're getting lunch after this downstairs.
Speaker 1: But it's the one off.
Speaker 2: Normally it's just TikTok sending and we've got like different
Speaker 2: things that keep going different inside jokes and the tiktoks
Speaker 2: and that.
Speaker 1: So what you'll just see each other and be like,
Speaker 1: so let's talk about all of the tiktoks.
Speaker 2: At each other, just sending each other things.
Speaker 1: No chat, I don't have a profit.
Speaker 2: We'll chat normally.
Speaker 1: How often do we need to talk to our friends though?
Speaker 1: Because like I know that we say you know, two
Speaker 1: or three times a week roughly, kind of checking with
Speaker 1: people see how they're going. As someone who's about to
Speaker 1: go into having a baby postpartum, I'm hoping that my
Speaker 1: friends check up on me and say how you're going?
Speaker 1: But then am I going to be too busy and
Speaker 1: exhausted to reply? I don't know. There's so many questions
Speaker 1: for me personally.
Speaker 2: I think seeing your friends should be really up to
Speaker 2: each other. I think if it goes some friends though
Speaker 2: you could not see for like a month, true, and
Speaker 2: it's just like where you picked up. Like I went
Speaker 2: to a thirtieth the other day for my mate. I
Speaker 2: hadn't seen him in probably a year. I briefly caught
Speaker 2: up with him at my wedding. You know how that
Speaker 2: is catching up. That's like just brief at weddings. It's
Speaker 2: not like a full thing. But I was like, I'd
Speaker 2: never not seen him. Yeah, talk spoken normally.
Speaker 1: Well. It is interesting that you say that. I have
Speaker 1: a lot of friends who live overseas, one in la
Speaker 1: one in London, and when they come back to Australia,
Speaker 1: it's literally like nothing has changed. We just fall straight
Speaker 1: back into being friends. But do I talk to them
Speaker 1: as much as I would like to when they're over there,
Speaker 1: Probably not, I think, with the time differences and things
Speaker 1: like that. But there are some friends where you don't
Speaker 1: need to talk to them every week or every month,
Speaker 1: or you know, every maybe three months, and then you'll
Speaker 1: talk to them and you'll have like a really nice chat,
Speaker 1: or you might have a forty five minute for conversation
Speaker 1: and just unpack both of your lives and kind of
Speaker 1: be like, okay, we're good for another three months.
Speaker 2: Three months literally the same. But like I said, it's
Speaker 2: case by case. I don't think you can put an
Speaker 2: actual amount of times on each I think you need to,
Speaker 2: you know, maybe even talk to your friend and say, hey,
Speaker 2: check in, are you okay? Do you want to talk more?
Speaker 2: I'm here for you. Let's chat. Let's go get a drink,
Speaker 2: let's get a coffee, Let's go for a drive, Let's
Speaker 2: go to the beach, Let's go get some ice cream.
Speaker 2: Let's just hang out. If you want to hang out,
Speaker 2: let's chat. If you want to call, let's call facetiming.
Speaker 2: If you want facetimeing, text me, I'm here for your.
Speaker 1: God, even the I just was talking, Oh my god,
Speaker 1: that like really whigged me out. I felt like I
Speaker 1: was going to labor or something. Oh my gosh, Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm still recovering from that. But interestingly enough, many close
Speaker 1: friendships actually thrive on more regular communication. For instance, there
Speaker 1: was a study that found that fifty nine percent of
Speaker 1: teenagers are in touch with their closest friends daily, which
Speaker 1: to me is not surprising.
Speaker 2: Yeah, when you're at school with them.
Speaker 1: So, yeah, they're seeing each other at school, they're communicating,
Speaker 1: they have social media, smartphones. It's a little bit, you know,
Speaker 1: it's easy.
Speaker 2: It's easier to communicate. Yeah, you have to call the
Speaker 2: home phone.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you have to tell phone, dial up, the internet.
Speaker 2: Hey, we spend there.
Speaker 1: Yea to the parents alone. As opposed to for adult friendships,
Speaker 1: especially those involving busy professionals or long distance friendships, weekly
Speaker 1: or monthly interactions are actually sufficient, so you don't need
Speaker 1: as much talking and interacting and reassurance. But again, it's
Speaker 1: nice to always check in with your friends, making sure
Speaker 1: that they're all good, even if it's just like a
Speaker 1: little how you're going, what's happening in your world?
Speaker 2: What's your preferred I'm not gonna say method, what's your
Speaker 2: preferred way of catching up with a friend.
Speaker 1: Okay, I would say like booking in like a dinner
Speaker 1: and like, obviously I can't drink at the moment, but
Speaker 1: maybe having a couple of cocktails, having dinner kind of
Speaker 1: unwinding on like what's happening in both of our lives,
Speaker 1: or even if it's just like getting breakfast or a coffee,
Speaker 1: breakfast and a walk. Yeah, like sometimes when we go
Speaker 1: for a coffee rarely, but now really when we have
Speaker 1: gone for a coffee before, it's actually quite nice and
Speaker 1: you just like have a little chat, have a drink
Speaker 1: and you know it's cheap, it's easy, and.
Speaker 2: A walk afterwards. That's me and my mates when I
Speaker 2: come down here, we go out for breakfast and go
Speaker 2: for a walk around South Melbourne.
Speaker 1: Okay, I have a question. Are your expectations the same
Speaker 1: for your family and loved ones as it is with
Speaker 1: your friends.
Speaker 2: I don't really have any expectations for people to contact
Speaker 2: me or talk to me same? Actually yeah, I mean
Speaker 2: if I call you answer.
Speaker 1: What happens if one day everyone just goes radio silent on.
Speaker 2: You, I'd have anxiety, a nervous break down, anxiety attacking
Speaker 2: and be like, what what have I done? Yeah, love
Speaker 2: it in my own head like wait, have I done something?
Speaker 2: What's this? The rejection sensitive just more for the ADHD.
Speaker 2: I'd be like, what's going on? What have I done?
Speaker 2: Lose my mind?
Speaker 1: Well, look, guys, this is your sign to check up
Speaker 1: on your friends. Say hi, check in and make sure
Speaker 1: they're all good, Send them some love, even send them
Speaker 1: a TikTok or a reel and until next time, Bye
Speaker 1: bye