WEBVTT - HOW OFTEN SHOULD WE BE TALKING TO OUR FRIENDS?

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<v Speaker 1>What happens if one day everyone just goes radio silent

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<v Speaker 1>on you.

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<v Speaker 2>I'd have anxiety, a nervous breakdown, anxiety attack and be like,

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<v Speaker 2>what have I done? Yeah? Love it in my own head,

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<v Speaker 2>like wait, have I done something? What's this? The rejection

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<v Speaker 2>sensitive just more for that ad I'd be like, what's

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<v Speaker 2>going on? What have I done? Lose my mind?

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<v Speaker 1>Where's your head at? Is a podcast that talks full things. Right,

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<v Speaker 1>Hold on a sec, let's give this a refresh. Hi,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm Anna.

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm Matt, and we are now too newlywed, not

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<v Speaker 2>to each other. Just a female and male best friend

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<v Speaker 2>here for the good, the bad, and the ugly times.

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<v Speaker 1>And exploring adulthood, family relationships, dilemmas.

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<v Speaker 2>And whatever else we have the mental capacity to deal with.

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<v Speaker 1>Come get the lowdown.

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<v Speaker 2>This is your male and female perspective.

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<v Speaker 1>So Matt, where's your head at? Good morning, Matt.

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<v Speaker 2>Good morning? Anna wears your head at?

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I'm holding a coffee in hand, which is a

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<v Speaker 1>big deal because I have not drunk coffee for the

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<v Speaker 1>whole of this pregnancy, which is crazy when you think

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<v Speaker 1>about it, Like the amount if you're a longtime listener,

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<v Speaker 1>wears your head at you know how much Matt and

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<v Speaker 1>I used to smash coffee is one for one? Will

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<v Speaker 1>you still do this?

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<v Speaker 2>Is?

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<v Speaker 1>I think I'm probably going to have about a quarter

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<v Speaker 1>of this, but I've reacquired the coffee taste.

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<v Speaker 2>When I called you to ask for your order, you

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<v Speaker 2>were telling me and I was literally sitting there at

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<v Speaker 2>the counter and the girls looking at me, and You're like,

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<v Speaker 2>can I get it? I'm only going to drink a

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<v Speaker 2>quarter of it, so you can get me a quarter

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<v Speaker 2>three quarter field sweete with a medium hot milk, but

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<v Speaker 2>no phone order, And I just was like, okay, I'll

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<v Speaker 2>just get your.

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<v Speaker 1>Coffee just by guys, don't believe anything that's coming out

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<v Speaker 1>of his mouth. I did not. I did say that

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<v Speaker 1>they could put three quarters in it because I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>going to drink anything.

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<v Speaker 2>I think she heard that and she did do that,

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<v Speaker 2>didn't she?

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<v Speaker 1>I think, so yeah, But thank you for my coffee

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<v Speaker 1>this morning. Anyway, So how are you? I literally walked

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<v Speaker 1>into the studio, guys, and that was reading his book

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<v Speaker 1>and I was like, wow, who is he?

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<v Speaker 2>No, Well, it's in the juicy end of my Goosebumps

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<v Speaker 2>the Haunted House, So I'm at the back end of it,

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<v Speaker 2>So I'm really trying to get it done because I

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<v Speaker 2>want to see what happens.

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<v Speaker 1>You're about to finish. Yes, I am, that's an accomplishment.

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<v Speaker 2>It is. Yeah, it's now my third or fourth Goosebumps one.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm loving him.

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<v Speaker 1>You're going to have the whole series. There is one.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know if there is now there is one,

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<v Speaker 2>and there's other series. There's heaps of them. Actually did

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<v Speaker 2>a bit of like googling, so I realized, oh, this

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<v Speaker 2>isn't part of the normal series. I'm not going to

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<v Speaker 2>go too much into that. There's all different spin offs

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<v Speaker 2>of them. But I wanted to touch on that though,

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<v Speaker 2>because when we spoke about it, and I think a

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<v Speaker 2>couple of weeks ago, yeah, I was like, really appreciated

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<v Speaker 2>everyone's messages. I was getting heaps and messages from people

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<v Speaker 2>telling me that it's not I shouldn't be ashamed of

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<v Speaker 2>reading Goosebumps. A lot of people also struggled with reading,

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<v Speaker 2>and they were saying that, look, start at whatever level

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<v Speaker 2>you can. That's pretty much what they were saying. They're

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<v Speaker 2>proud of me for giving it a go. So I'd

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<v Speaker 2>like to thank everyone for their messages and reaching out to.

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<v Speaker 1>Me, yeah, and I think, like, you know, the fact

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<v Speaker 1>that you're even reading is great. Like, people don't pick

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<v Speaker 1>up books for a long time. I'm trying to read

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<v Speaker 1>a parenting book and I've got a quarter of the

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<v Speaker 1>way through, and I actually need this information and it's

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<v Speaker 1>hard to you know, we all live such busy lives,

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<v Speaker 1>it's hard to pick up a book.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, one person said, like, don't listen to people when

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<v Speaker 2>they hate you for it. They're like, if you enjoy it,

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<v Speaker 2>do it like and obviously you're enjoying it, So keep reading.

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<v Speaker 1>Be loud and proud about it. Read it wherever you want.

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<v Speaker 2>I was reading it here in the studio while Blake

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<v Speaker 2>was setting up the cameras. He started trying to start

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<v Speaker 2>a chat with me, and I was just like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>trying to smash some pages I'm reading.

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<v Speaker 1>No, it's it's cool that people who are supporting you

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<v Speaker 1>and behind you about it. And like I said a

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<v Speaker 1>couple of weeks ago, it really pissed me off that

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<v Speaker 1>people were giving a shit about it.

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<v Speaker 2>Let the man read, Well, they're not now, they're actually

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<v Speaker 2>supporting me and they're telling me to keep reading. But

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<v Speaker 2>on that messages, I was getting a bunch of messages

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<v Speaker 2>about going to the movies by myself.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, so you've liked to do that for a

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<v Speaker 1>while though, I know.

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<v Speaker 2>And that's what people were actually saying. They're like, how

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<v Speaker 2>nice is going to the movies, getting popcorn and sitting

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<v Speaker 2>there by yourself and relaxing. And I was like, I

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<v Speaker 2>love going to the movies. Yeah, I go with my partner,

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<v Speaker 2>I go with my step kids, like I go all

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<v Speaker 2>the time, go with my sisters. I love to go

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<v Speaker 2>to the movies.

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<v Speaker 1>You do love a movie.

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<v Speaker 2>If no one we know and if no one is

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<v Speaker 2>interested in going to that movie with me, I'm not

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<v Speaker 2>gonna skip it. I'm going to go by myself. I

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<v Speaker 2>mean I do TikTok years ago about going to the

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<v Speaker 2>movies by myself because no one wanted to go with me.

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<v Speaker 2>And I love doing it.

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<v Speaker 1>And you know what I've got to give you it

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<v Speaker 1>like you have a lot of confidence. I personally can't relate,

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<v Speaker 1>Like you would never catch me into movies by myself.

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<v Speaker 2>A lot of people message saying that they do it

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<v Speaker 2>as well, and they loved going and it's a find

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<v Speaker 2>a way of peace, and they just switch off. I

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<v Speaker 2>turned my phone off and I just sat there and

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<v Speaker 2>watched it. Actually, sorry, I took the photos of the

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<v Speaker 2>the title and then turn my hand and then turned

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<v Speaker 2>I always do that. I have my phone ready and

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<v Speaker 2>then take the title and then I turned it off.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what, one thing I do love to do

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<v Speaker 1>by myself, which I'm comfortable with is going for a

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<v Speaker 1>coffee by myself, or getting like a croissant at a

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<v Speaker 1>breakfast place, or getting getting breakfast by myself. I'm totally

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<v Speaker 1>comfortable with that. Like, I love that. I think it's

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<v Speaker 1>really good. In fact, you've been in my area recently

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<v Speaker 1>quite a lot working.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, yeah, I don't really talk about my work too.

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<v Speaker 2>So I've been working for my dad. So he obviously

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<v Speaker 2>has a company down in Melbourne which I used to

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<v Speaker 2>company Pool company that I used to work for, and

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<v Speaker 2>I was doing a bit of work while I was

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<v Speaker 2>up on the Gold Coast for UHIM here and there.

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<v Speaker 2>But he's had some people leave, some people retire, so

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<v Speaker 2>I've come down now to just be on the ground.

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<v Speaker 2>It's easy. We found it was easier that way to like,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, go see the clients, go see the boys

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<v Speaker 2>on site and all that sort of stuff. So I've

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<v Speaker 2>been down, yeah, helping him out a fair bit, so

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<v Speaker 2>it's good to be back out there.

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<v Speaker 1>They aren't they expanding to the GC.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, yeah, there is talk of that, definitely looking into that.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just you know, seeing sussing stuff out, getting contractors,

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<v Speaker 2>seeing building licenses and all that sort of stuff. So

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<v Speaker 2>we're looking into that all.

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<v Speaker 1>The fun stuff.

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<v Speaker 2>No, it's not, it's really there's a big going on.

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<v Speaker 1>Love.

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<v Speaker 2>I do love it, but like it's you know, it's stressful.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's all jobs. Something he said to me the

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<v Speaker 1>other day. You have been saying that we haven't really

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<v Speaker 1>seen each other a lot outside of the podcast recently,

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<v Speaker 1>and you've mentioned that for a while, you've been trying

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<v Speaker 1>to get me to go to the movies and watch

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<v Speaker 1>horror movies with you, which I refuse to do because

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<v Speaker 1>I care about my mental health.

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<v Speaker 2>I've I've been easying up on it as you're pregnant

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<v Speaker 2>and you're like, I don't want to get you scared

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<v Speaker 2>and stressed out. But as soon as old Stan comes out,

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<v Speaker 2>he will take you to the movies and you can

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<v Speaker 2>watch one.

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<v Speaker 1>I think we need to pivot away from movies and

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<v Speaker 1>finds like a duel hobby that we like. That's not

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<v Speaker 1>scary movies, because I feel like scary movies is your thing.

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<v Speaker 1>We need something like that we can do together, all right.

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<v Speaker 2>And well, I think there's a couple of things if

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<v Speaker 2>you're get into. But I've got one in mind which

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<v Speaker 2>I really love and I reckon you'll enjoy as well.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, I feel like I know what this is gonna be.

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<v Speaker 2>Go ahead? What is it? Is it?

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<v Speaker 1>The NRL?

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<v Speaker 2>Yes? Do you hear me talking about it? It's the

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<v Speaker 2>other day, didn't you.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I mean that you always talk about the NRL.

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<v Speaker 1>But also I have a funny story about the NRL

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<v Speaker 1>because I got invited to the NRL. I think it

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<v Speaker 1>was last year with Michael, and because I'm so clueless

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<v Speaker 1>on all things sport, I read NRL and I thought

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<v Speaker 1>it was a basketball So I was like, Michael, I've

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<v Speaker 1>got us tickets to the basketball. We're going to the basketball. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>And literally on our way out of the door, I

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<v Speaker 1>showed Michael the tickets because I was like here, like,

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<v Speaker 1>you take the tickets, and he's like, Babe, this is

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<v Speaker 1>the NRL. Ah rugby, this is the rugby. We're going

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<v Speaker 1>to the rugby. And I was like, oh, okay, I've

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<v Speaker 1>never been to before, got it totally wrong. But actually

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<v Speaker 1>I had a really fun time there. Loved it. I

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<v Speaker 1>think the Storm was playing from memory. The Purple team yep,

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<v Speaker 1>loved the color, love the mascot as well. Actually love it.

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<v Speaker 1>There was a lot going on, like there was I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know if there was fireworks, but there was definitely

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<v Speaker 1>like flames fly, there was flay I think cheerleaders maybe.

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<v Speaker 1>So yeah, very entertaining and yeah I loved it so

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<v Speaker 1>I could I could get into the NRL with you,

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<v Speaker 1>is what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 2>This was a lot easier than I thought to get

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<v Speaker 2>a hobby going together the NRL. I got more into

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<v Speaker 2>it living on the Gold Coast Queensland. Love it up there.

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<v Speaker 2>It's on the TV all the time. Yeah, yeah, it's

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<v Speaker 2>pretty fun.

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<v Speaker 1>So who's your team?

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<v Speaker 2>I would say I grew up going for the North

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<v Speaker 2>Queensland Cowboys, but living on the Gold Coast, I have

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<v Speaker 2>to go for the Gold Coast Titans.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. I feel like I'm more Storm, but I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>one hundred percent like I like the Mass like the Purple.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean obviously I saw them play they won, so

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<v Speaker 1>that was like a good star. So I don't personally

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<v Speaker 1>have a team. I'm veering towards the Storm because obviously

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<v Speaker 1>I saw them play. We like the color purple, liked

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<v Speaker 1>the mascot. But you know, I'm open. I'm open to

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<v Speaker 1>exploring new teams as well.

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<v Speaker 2>Sounds like you're on Love Island saying you're open to

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<v Speaker 2>other connections. But okay, you can't judge your team off

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<v Speaker 2>the color. I know that's ridiculous, right you said the mascot. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I think that's a fair enough call. You can. So

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<v Speaker 2>let's have a look at some other mascots and see

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<v Speaker 2>if you prefer them over the Melbourne storm one. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>so this is the Melbourne storm one.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, See, that's like I'm veering towards him. I think

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<v Speaker 1>he's pretty cool Stormman, the Stormman. He kind of looks

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<v Speaker 1>like Superman. He's in a purple likera suit.

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<v Speaker 2>He does look like a superhero, doesn't he?

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<v Speaker 1>He does look like a superhero. Okay, what about he

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<v Speaker 1>also gave me a high five for the game, I

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<v Speaker 1>will say, so he's really for a little bit.

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<v Speaker 2>Where about the South Sydney rabbit os.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, look, I'm not loving his fit. The color scheme

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<v Speaker 1>is more Christmas vires with the red and cream.

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<v Speaker 2>It's a crush on Eastern Christmas, isn't it?

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<v Speaker 1>It is? It is, which it would be good for

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<v Speaker 1>you because you love holidays and celebrating Eastern Christmas. But

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to say pass.

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<v Speaker 2>What about Reefy the Cronulla sharks.

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<v Speaker 1>It's cool.

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<v Speaker 2>If we're going off mascots, I'm going to go off

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<v Speaker 2>the shark.

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<v Speaker 1>Muscly guy. That top's looking a little tired on him.

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<v Speaker 1>The pants as well.

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<v Speaker 2>Sharks are you know the apex predator out there in

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<v Speaker 2>the ocean.

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<v Speaker 1>He needs to kind of like roof off his Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>that's a maybe.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe, Reefy. We've got claws from the Penrith panthers.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, he looks pretty cool. He's got some cool shades

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<v Speaker 1>going on. Muscly, he's got a typed up he looks

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<v Speaker 1>pretty harsh.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. The Penrith panthers are are majestic animal, aren't they?

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<v Speaker 1>Panthers are up there.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, so we've nearly got the panthers. Okay, I'll give

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<v Speaker 2>you one more Anna, Okay, go the Sydney Roosters. Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>I like the colorway, I love Navy, but I mean

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<v Speaker 1>I did like the other guy, the panther.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, So have you steered away from Melbourne Storm?

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<v Speaker 1>No, definitely not. I think like my top three would

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<v Speaker 1>have to be Melbourne Storm, the Panthers which is who Sydney,

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<v Speaker 1>the Penrith Panthers, and the Roosters. What one was that?

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<v Speaker 2>The Sydney Roosters.

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<v Speaker 1>The Sydney Roosters. Okay, so they're my top three, but

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<v Speaker 1>don't hold me to it. I need to message to

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<v Speaker 1>the group chat get final approofals and who are you again?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm the Gold Coast Titans.

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<v Speaker 1>Gold Coast Titans, okay and bye.

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<v Speaker 2>Well you might be picking between those three, but for

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<v Speaker 2>your son, Steve O, I'm gonna make him go for

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<v Speaker 2>the Gold Coast Titans. He's in new member of the

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<v Speaker 2>Gold Coach Titans cheer squad.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, guys, stay tuned for this activity. Matt

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<v Speaker 1>and I are getting into the NRL. We'll go to

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<v Speaker 1>a game, let's do it. I'm excited.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I've got a bone to pick with you. Okay, bone?

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<v Speaker 2>You know your Mother's Day? No, you're not your Mother's Day.

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<v Speaker 2>Your mother's baby shower, my mother, blessing, mother, blessing. See

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<v Speaker 2>you don't even know what it is. No wonder I

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<v Speaker 2>didn't give mother's blessing. It's an old girl event, though,

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<v Speaker 2>isn't it.

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<v Speaker 1>No, I didn't get invited, you're saying.

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<v Speaker 2>I know, I'm Actually it looked cute from what I saw.

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<v Speaker 2>It looked sweet. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>So I felt like I was getting a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>pressure to do a baby shower. Obviously it's my first baby,

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<v Speaker 1>and I feel like, you know, there's just there's a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of stuff that babies need. I think is what

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<v Speaker 1>I've realized in the past, like five ish weeks when

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<v Speaker 1>I've started getting things ready, like even like, do you

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<v Speaker 1>know what a muslin rap is exactly?

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<v Speaker 2>Can I take a guess? Yeah? Sure, it's when you

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<v Speaker 2>wrap them up in there in the blanket while they're

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<v Speaker 2>asleep so they can't roll anywhere.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I think so.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you think so? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>I think so. Do you want silverettza they are?

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<v Speaker 2>They are a type of diver? Yeah? Is that a

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<v Speaker 2>full stuff? After? Wrong? Was right there?

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<v Speaker 1>Silverretta like these little silver things that you put on

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<v Speaker 1>your nipples when you're breastfeeding to like relax, like not

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<v Speaker 1>relax the nipples, to soothe the nipples from like nipple

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<v Speaker 1>trauma from breastfeeding.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's pretty intense.

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<v Speaker 1>Apparently, white. Well, I don't know about that, hopefully not.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe probably I think they have a sucking reflex to

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<v Speaker 1>drink the milk.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, go on.

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<v Speaker 1>Matt's like favorite for where's your bump?

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<v Speaker 2>I say, which is live? Guys at the moment.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, where's your quickly where's your bumpat is live? It's

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<v Speaker 1>going really well. I've had the most beautiful messages of

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<v Speaker 1>people saying, thank you so much for putting this together

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<v Speaker 1>because you know, it really just encompasses the experience of

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<v Speaker 1>either wanting kids or being pregnant or you know, trying

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<v Speaker 1>or whatever it is. So thank you for listening. Make

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<v Speaker 1>sure you listen. We have two episodes out right now,

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<v Speaker 1>three no, three three yeah, so give it a listen.

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<v Speaker 1>And I really appreciate all of the feedback. But no,

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<v Speaker 1>so yeah, I had a mother's blessing. I felt a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of pressure to do a baby shower, and I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know, I feel like I kind of left that

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<v Speaker 1>too late. Like I'm very pregnant. I'm heavily pregnant. It's

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<v Speaker 1>what people are calling me at the moment, which I'm

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<v Speaker 1>okay with because I am heavily pregnant and I just

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<v Speaker 1>really couldn't be bothered. I couldn't be bothered putting on

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<v Speaker 1>a party. I feel like, you know, I had a

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<v Speaker 1>thirtieth had an engagement party, had a wedding last year,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm like, I was one year. Well, no, who wasn't, But.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gone thirty we got married.

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<v Speaker 1>Thirty one?

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<v Speaker 2>You did yet? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>Anyway, anyway, I've put on a lot of parties. I

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<v Speaker 1>couldn't be bothered with it. I've heard of this thing

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<v Speaker 1>called a mother blessing, and it's basically less about you know,

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<v Speaker 1>the gifts for the baby, and it's.

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<v Speaker 2>More about the mother.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's about the mom. Like it's looking after the mom,

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<v Speaker 1>say you dug no. I think like I'm the first

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<v Speaker 1>person in my friendship group to have a baby, so

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<v Speaker 1>I really wanted to set the precedence of, like, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>be there for each other, like support each other, Please

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<v Speaker 1>support me. I don't know handle postpartum. And it was lovely,

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<v Speaker 1>Like everyone brought a bead and they made me like

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<v Speaker 1>this little bracelet with all of the beads from each

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<v Speaker 1>person which were all sentimental and I'm going to wear

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<v Speaker 1>it when I go to have the baby and just yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and like everyone got a candle and everyone. We burned

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<v Speaker 1>it for the whole mother blessing, but when they know

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<v Speaker 1>that I'm heading to the hospital, They're going to start

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<v Speaker 1>burning the candle for me, and just like things like that.

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<v Speaker 2>Wow. Real it was quite.

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<v Speaker 1>Spiritual and just I felt very loved and kind of

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<v Speaker 1>looked after and supported and it was really nice. Like

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<v Speaker 1>I would recommend doing a mother's blessing to anyone who's

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<v Speaker 1>pregnant and who I don't.

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<v Speaker 2>Know how I would have gone there. I would have

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<v Speaker 2>sort of been like, mind you, I wasn't even in

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<v Speaker 2>the state, so I wasn't even in the state. But

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<v Speaker 2>if I was there, I don't know. It seems real spiritual, real.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, we got like everyone got quite emotional at one point.

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<v Speaker 1>It sounds because like you start the mother blessing by

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<v Speaker 1>saying I'm the granddaughter of and then you say your grandparents' names,

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<v Speaker 1>and you say I am the daughter of my mum Emory,

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<v Speaker 1>and then I would say and I'm the mother of

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<v Speaker 1>and then I said the baby's name, like to be mother,

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<v Speaker 1>don't continue trying to get the name. But yeah, no,

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<v Speaker 1>it was lovely, highly recommend it, very I feel very supportive,

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<v Speaker 1>and yeah, it was just good vibes all around. Really Okay, Matt.

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<v Speaker 1>Today on the podcast, we are talking about how often

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<v Speaker 1>we should be chatting with our friends.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, well, how often do you think you should be

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<v Speaker 2>chatting to your friends?

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I mean you you're a caller, so you call

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<v Speaker 1>all the time, So I think this is not including.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I think that's not I know a lot of

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<v Speaker 2>my mates have like said they screened my calls because

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<v Speaker 2>I'm a caller.

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<v Speaker 1>Really because I don't want to chat on the phone.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, they're not cause.

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<v Speaker 1>Some people don't like some people find it uncomfortable or

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<v Speaker 1>like it is time consuming to chat on the phone.

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<v Speaker 2>It is, but a lot of the best time to call,

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<v Speaker 2>I feel in a lot of when my mates actually

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<v Speaker 2>call me back is when they're driving. Yeah, true, I think.

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<v Speaker 2>And then I think that My mum actually pointed out

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<v Speaker 2>to me, she said, you only call me when you're driving,

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<v Speaker 2>but you don't realize what I'm doing on the other end,

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<v Speaker 2>like I'm not driving, do you know what I mean?

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm like, yeah, true, never thought of it like that?

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<v Speaker 2>Selfish a little bit like that, how often do you

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<v Speaker 2>reckon your message your friends?

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<v Speaker 1>Then I would say, like the group chat would be

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<v Speaker 1>like three times a week. Yeah, what do you think

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<v Speaker 1>about the group chat?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, that's sporadic and could be here there, you could

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<v Speaker 2>be here, that could be on fire one time. It

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<v Speaker 2>could be like you know, it could be on fire

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<v Speaker 2>back NonStop messages, or it could be as dry as

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<v Speaker 2>a sahara. No one's chatting. It just really depends if

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<v Speaker 2>there's something we're trying to tee up.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, then there's a bit more.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but I have I honestly, with the boys, I'll

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<v Speaker 2>have I have so many different separate group chats.

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<v Speaker 1>We were like one person get's left.

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<v Speaker 2>Hand, yeah, or there's different like things. If one event

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<v Speaker 2>was organized and then that group chat keeps going for

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<v Speaker 2>a while and that fizzled out, do you know what

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<v Speaker 2>I mean? And then like something might spark another group

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<v Speaker 2>chat because you know, like say my bucks one that

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<v Speaker 2>flares up randomly when something happens that's relevant to that

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<v Speaker 2>nice yeah, and then it gets a little bit of

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<v Speaker 2>my managument it just fizzle out again.

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<v Speaker 1>It's funny. I was watching an episode of Keeping Up

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<v Speaker 1>with the Kardashians and they have like lots of different

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<v Speaker 1>group chats. But they'll have like a not Kim group chat,

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<v Speaker 1>not Courtney group chat. Really, I guess if they want

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<v Speaker 1>a bitch about each other, they'll go to like the

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<v Speaker 1>you know not Kendle group chat and be like, can

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<v Speaker 1>you leave Kendle did this?

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<v Speaker 2>That's a bit of effets. We have. Yeah, we have

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<v Speaker 2>like even family ones like mother, kids, dad and kids

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<v Speaker 2>and mum and like we have different ones. I'm actually

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<v Speaker 2>in one with my mates. Am part of a football team,

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<v Speaker 2>and it's called Carpool plus Matt, so I hear all.

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<v Speaker 2>I've muted it now, but it's all their car pool

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<v Speaker 2>things to go to because they play a country football team,

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<v Speaker 2>and they like talk about where they're meeting and times

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<v Speaker 2>and the game on the weekend and all this sort

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<v Speaker 2>of stuff and random football blows and I'm just like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I can't, I've got to mute this. But they're my

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<v Speaker 2>best mates, so I stay in there. I haven't left.

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<v Speaker 1>I just think, like, you sound like you have way

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<v Speaker 1>too many group chats for me, Like that kind of

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<v Speaker 1>stresses me out. I have my friend group chat. I

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<v Speaker 1>have my friends plus the boys group chats like the

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<v Speaker 1>boyfriends and husbands or whatever, and then I have the

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<v Speaker 1>family group chat, and there's like a couple of variations,

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<v Speaker 1>but that's pretty much about it.

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<v Speaker 2>We have a couple of where's your head at ones?

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<v Speaker 1>We have where's your head out? Where's your bump hat

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<v Speaker 1>as well, but they're more like working group chat. Actually,

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<v Speaker 1>I have a few group chats now I'm thinking about it.

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<v Speaker 2>You have heaps I They go off here and there.

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<v Speaker 1>It just depends, really, I mean, look, there's lots of

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<v Speaker 1>different ways to communicate with your friends. Obviously, I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like FaceTime would be the closest thing to being in person. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>So there's FaceTime. Then there's calling, which you love to do.

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<v Speaker 1>There's texting, there's voice noting.

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<v Speaker 2>Are you a voice noter?

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<v Speaker 1>Sometimes?

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<v Speaker 2>I am? Sometimes if there's too.

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<v Speaker 1>Much info that I can't my little thumbs can't be followed.

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<v Speaker 2>I how long is a voice note should be? I

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<v Speaker 2>saw this debate on TikTok. How long should a voice

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<v Speaker 2>note be to your friend?

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<v Speaker 1>A minute?

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<v Speaker 2>I think longer than a minute? Yeah, stop, I'm not

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<v Speaker 2>listening to that, you know what I mean? I think,

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<v Speaker 2>what bang on a minute? Once it hits like a

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<v Speaker 2>minute oh two, I feel like that's when I'm rapping

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<v Speaker 2>my voice.

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<v Speaker 1>Get to the point.

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<v Speaker 2>Get to the point.

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<v Speaker 1>If you've not got there yet you're know they're.

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<v Speaker 2>Going to get there because I remember a new girl

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<v Speaker 2>who would send my friend like literally like three minute

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<v Speaker 2>once and she'd sit there listening to it, and I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>that's drain.

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<v Speaker 1>Like, yeah, you need to get to the point.

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<v Speaker 2>You get to the point by a minute. I think

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<v Speaker 2>that's the average length of a voice not to a

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<v Speaker 2>friend for.

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<v Speaker 1>Sure, and like you're not looking like if someone sending

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<v Speaker 1>a four minute voice note.

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<v Speaker 2>It's a bit like do you read the text on

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<v Speaker 2>a voice not how it scribs out the text underneath.

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<v Speaker 1>Sometimes if I'm like, yeah, I'll read it in a

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<v Speaker 1>place where I can't listen out loud, but I'd prefer

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<v Speaker 1>to listen.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, I prefer to read it or listen to it.

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<v Speaker 2>And it's so funny because it's how scrabbled up it is,

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<v Speaker 2>scrambled like scrambled in different words it.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay. Then there's sending videos as in like not sending

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<v Speaker 1>videos of yourself, like sending reels and reels and tiktoks, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>which you love to do. I love to do that too,

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<v Speaker 1>actually to connect with friends. Like even if I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>saying hi to you, I might send you a little

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<v Speaker 1>reel where I've been reminded of you and even like

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<v Speaker 1>a little connection.

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<v Speaker 2>Even before I literally was saw a real or TikTok,

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<v Speaker 2>just before I was a reel on Instagram and I

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<v Speaker 2>literally sent it to like three different group charts, six

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<v Speaker 2>different mates, and you just send it off to all

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<v Speaker 2>of them. Yeah, I'm massive at reels and tiktoks ending.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm a huge of that. It's probably I get stuck

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<v Speaker 2>in those TikTok holes and I send so many. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>it's probably the only communication I have with one of

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<v Speaker 2>my best mates, benji Obi, Me and him just literally

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<v Speaker 2>send reels and TikTok.

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<v Speaker 1>You just never speak.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, finally enough, we're getting lunch after this downstairs.

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<v Speaker 1>But it's the one off.

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<v Speaker 2>Normally it's just TikTok sending and we've got like different

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<v Speaker 2>things that keep going different inside jokes and the tiktoks

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<v Speaker 2>and that.

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<v Speaker 1>So what you'll just see each other and be like,

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<v Speaker 1>so let's talk about all of the tiktoks.

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<v Speaker 2>At each other, just sending each other things.

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<v Speaker 1>No chat, I don't have a profit.

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<v Speaker 2>We'll chat normally.

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<v Speaker 1>How often do we need to talk to our friends though?

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<v Speaker 1>Because like I know that we say you know, two

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<v Speaker 1>or three times a week roughly, kind of checking with

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<v Speaker 1>people see how they're going. As someone who's about to

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<v Speaker 1>go into having a baby postpartum, I'm hoping that my

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<v Speaker 1>friends check up on me and say how you're going?

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<v Speaker 1>But then am I going to be too busy and

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<v Speaker 1>exhausted to reply? I don't know. There's so many questions

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<v Speaker 1>for me personally.

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<v Speaker 2>I think seeing your friends should be really up to

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<v Speaker 2>each other. I think if it goes some friends though

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<v Speaker 2>you could not see for like a month, true, and

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<v Speaker 2>it's just like where you picked up. Like I went

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<v Speaker 2>to a thirtieth the other day for my mate. I

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<v Speaker 2>hadn't seen him in probably a year. I briefly caught

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<v Speaker 2>up with him at my wedding. You know how that

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<v Speaker 2>is catching up. That's like just brief at weddings. It's

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<v Speaker 2>not like a full thing. But I was like, I'd

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<v Speaker 2>never not seen him. Yeah, talk spoken normally.

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<v Speaker 1>Well. It is interesting that you say that. I have

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of friends who live overseas, one in la

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<v Speaker 1>one in London, and when they come back to Australia,

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<v Speaker 1>it's literally like nothing has changed. We just fall straight

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<v Speaker 1>back into being friends. But do I talk to them

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<v Speaker 1>as much as I would like to when they're over there,

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<v Speaker 1>Probably not, I think, with the time differences and things

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<v Speaker 1>like that. But there are some friends where you don't

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<v Speaker 1>need to talk to them every week or every month,

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<v Speaker 1>or you know, every maybe three months, and then you'll

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<v Speaker 1>talk to them and you'll have like a really nice chat,

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<v Speaker 1>or you might have a forty five minute for conversation

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<v Speaker 1>and just unpack both of your lives and kind of

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<v Speaker 1>be like, okay, we're good for another three months.

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<v Speaker 2>Three months literally the same. But like I said, it's

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<v Speaker 2>case by case. I don't think you can put an

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<v Speaker 2>actual amount of times on each I think you need to,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, maybe even talk to your friend and say, hey,

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<v Speaker 2>check in, are you okay? Do you want to talk more?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm here for you. Let's chat. Let's go get a drink,

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<v Speaker 2>let's get a coffee, Let's go for a drive, Let's

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<v Speaker 2>go to the beach, Let's go get some ice cream.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's just hang out. If you want to hang out,

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<v Speaker 2>let's chat. If you want to call, let's call facetiming.

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<v Speaker 2>If you want facetimeing, text me, I'm here for your.

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<v Speaker 1>God, even the I just was talking, Oh my god,

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<v Speaker 1>that like really whigged me out. I felt like I

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<v Speaker 1>was going to labor or something. Oh my gosh, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm still recovering from that. But interestingly enough, many close

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<v Speaker 1>friendships actually thrive on more regular communication. For instance, there

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<v Speaker 1>was a study that found that fifty nine percent of

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<v Speaker 1>teenagers are in touch with their closest friends daily, which

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<v Speaker 1>to me is not surprising.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, when you're at school with them.

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<v Speaker 1>So, yeah, they're seeing each other at school, they're communicating,

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<v Speaker 1>they have social media, smartphones. It's a little bit, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>it's easy.

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<v Speaker 2>It's easier to communicate. Yeah, you have to call the

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<v Speaker 2>home phone.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you have to tell phone, dial up, the internet.

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<v Speaker 2>Hey, we spend there.

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<v Speaker 1>Yea to the parents alone. As opposed to for adult friendships,

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<v Speaker 1>especially those involving busy professionals or long distance friendships, weekly

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<v Speaker 1>or monthly interactions are actually sufficient, so you don't need

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<v Speaker 1>as much talking and interacting and reassurance. But again, it's

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<v Speaker 1>nice to always check in with your friends, making sure

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<v Speaker 1>that they're all good, even if it's just like a

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<v Speaker 1>little how you're going, what's happening in your world?

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<v Speaker 2>What's your preferred I'm not gonna say method, what's your

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<v Speaker 2>preferred way of catching up with a friend.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, I would say like booking in like a dinner

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<v Speaker 1>and like, obviously I can't drink at the moment, but

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<v Speaker 1>maybe having a couple of cocktails, having dinner kind of

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<v Speaker 1>unwinding on like what's happening in both of our lives,

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<v Speaker 1>or even if it's just like getting breakfast or a coffee,

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<v Speaker 1>breakfast and a walk. Yeah, like sometimes when we go

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<v Speaker 1>for a coffee rarely, but now really when we have

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<v Speaker 1>gone for a coffee before, it's actually quite nice and

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<v Speaker 1>you just like have a little chat, have a drink

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<v Speaker 1>and you know it's cheap, it's easy, and.

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<v Speaker 2>A walk afterwards. That's me and my mates when I

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<v Speaker 2>come down here, we go out for breakfast and go

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<v Speaker 2>for a walk around South Melbourne.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, I have a question. Are your expectations the same

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<v Speaker 1>for your family and loved ones as it is with

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<v Speaker 1>your friends.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't really have any expectations for people to contact

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<v Speaker 2>me or talk to me same? Actually yeah, I mean

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<v Speaker 2>if I call you answer.

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<v Speaker 1>What happens if one day everyone just goes radio silent on.

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<v Speaker 2>You, I'd have anxiety, a nervous break down, anxiety attacking

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<v Speaker 2>and be like, what what have I done? Yeah, love

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<v Speaker 2>it in my own head like wait, have I done something?

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<v Speaker 2>What's this? The rejection sensitive just more for the ADHD.

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<v Speaker 2>I'd be like, what's going on? What have I done?

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<v Speaker 2>Lose my mind?

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<v Speaker 1>Well, look, guys, this is your sign to check up

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<v Speaker 1>on your friends. Say hi, check in and make sure

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<v Speaker 1>they're all good, Send them some love, even send them

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<v Speaker 1>a TikTok or a reel and until next time, Bye

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<v Speaker 1>bye