WEBVTT - Playdate Etiquette 0:00:07.200 --> 0:00:12.000 Hi everyone, it's Malan. It's Monty. Your friends claws cho and. 0:00:12.200 --> 0:00:18.520 Tell other people could see every time you sing, I'm like, 0:00:18.520 --> 0:00:19.520 like my head. 0:00:19.600 --> 0:00:22.640 You jolt around being around. This is what I mean. 0:00:22.640 --> 0:00:25.160 You're my biggest cheerleader. You just support anything I do. 0:00:25.200 --> 0:00:28.040 You think everything's quite great, even though it's terrible. 0:00:28.720 --> 0:00:30.760 Love your songs. I love your intro song. 0:00:31.080 --> 0:00:34.680 Thank you. Hi everyone, smeling Monty first time. If you've 0:00:34.720 --> 0:00:37.080 joined us, I sing every intro. I don't know why 0:00:37.440 --> 0:00:40.839 I can't not now it's been over six hundred episodes 0:00:40.840 --> 0:00:43.360 and ain't. I can't stop. I just can't stop. You 0:00:43.400 --> 0:00:44.760 can't hold me back from singing. 0:00:45.080 --> 0:00:45.800 It's like a tick. 0:00:45.920 --> 0:00:48.800 Now it's a tick. It's a crutch, like I wouldn't 0:00:48.800 --> 0:00:50.800 know how to just jump on and go. Hi everyone, 0:00:50.880 --> 0:00:52.519 it's Mela Monte. How are you? Oh? 0:00:52.520 --> 0:00:55.200 It feels so weird, feels wrong. 0:00:55.840 --> 0:00:59.320 So what's been exciting lately is I've had insomnia, which 0:00:59.400 --> 0:01:02.080 is really when you've already got chronic health issues, to 0:01:02.160 --> 0:01:04.679 just get something else that really fucks you right in 0:01:04.720 --> 0:01:05.280 the ass. 0:01:05.600 --> 0:01:06.240 Lucky duck. 0:01:06.880 --> 0:01:10.200 Oh my god, it's so brutal. I seem to be 0:01:10.240 --> 0:01:12.320 okay getting to sleep, and then I'm just like bing 0:01:12.640 --> 0:01:14.520 all through the night, then doze back a bit and 0:01:14.520 --> 0:01:17.319 then bing, and I'm like my next day's stuff. So 0:01:17.360 --> 0:01:21.000 now it's like I'm in this anxiety spiral of insomnia 0:01:21.160 --> 0:01:25.720 to the insomnia. It's just hideous. So it's so like 0:01:25.840 --> 0:01:28.240 you know, and I mean, sleep is such a boring 0:01:28.280 --> 0:01:30.560 thing to talk about, but when you're not sleeping, oh 0:01:30.600 --> 0:01:33.040 my god, all you want is a good night's sleep. 0:01:33.720 --> 0:01:36.679 You just crave it. But so I've started seeing a 0:01:36.680 --> 0:01:38.479 new cycle, which I think I told you about. Who's 0:01:38.520 --> 0:01:39.720 doing a md ARE with me? 0:01:40.280 --> 0:01:42.119 Right, that's the eyes the. 0:01:42.240 --> 0:01:44.560 Eye movement thing. They use it a lot with PTSD 0:01:44.920 --> 0:01:47.720 and soldiers, and so you kind of get a specific 0:01:47.840 --> 0:01:50.080 trauma that's happened in your life and it doesn't have 0:01:50.120 --> 0:01:52.920 to be a huge thing, and then you follow, You 0:01:52.960 --> 0:01:54.720 kind of get the feeling and think about the thought, 0:01:54.760 --> 0:01:57.320 and then you follow the finger or you tap on 0:01:57.360 --> 0:02:01.640 your body somewhere. So I've been doing that with her, 0:02:01.680 --> 0:02:03.760 which has been quite good. But I've said to her, 0:02:03.840 --> 0:02:06.760 how I'm not sleeping, and so this wasn't the amd 0:02:06.880 --> 0:02:08.720 OUR session that was just a side note. But she's like, 0:02:08.720 --> 0:02:11.880 you've got to get your sleep hygiene sorted, and I'm like, fuck, 0:02:12.320 --> 0:02:15.200 I'm just one of those people that when I hear 0:02:15.280 --> 0:02:17.320 things like that, I'm like, it's not gonna work for me. 0:02:17.760 --> 0:02:19.440 And then I'll do it for two nights and then 0:02:19.480 --> 0:02:22.320 I'm like, oh. She's like, you know, a warm shower, 0:02:22.639 --> 0:02:27.520 doing like muscle that muscle relaxing where you like, you know, 0:02:27.639 --> 0:02:29.760 squeeze a part of your body and then relax it 0:02:29.800 --> 0:02:31.600 and stuff, which I do do that during the day. 0:02:31.760 --> 0:02:35.520 But she's also like, maybe some mere yoga and write 0:02:35.560 --> 0:02:38.440 out all of your thoughts before you go to bed. 0:02:38.760 --> 0:02:40.680 I've heard this story out of your head. 0:02:40.840 --> 0:02:43.720 Get it out of here. She said, anything anything before 0:02:43.840 --> 0:02:45.920 you go to bed, write it out, like I didn't 0:02:45.919 --> 0:02:49.519 get to the post office today, Like anything that could 0:02:49.600 --> 0:02:51.680 cause you stress during the night. So of course I 0:02:51.680 --> 0:02:54.400 did that for one night and then stopped. But what 0:02:54.440 --> 0:02:58.080 I have been doing is the yun so three yoga poses. 0:02:58.120 --> 0:03:02.639 I'm doing so literally, what's it called the baby. 0:03:02.200 --> 0:03:03.960 Pose, child Child's pose? 0:03:04.000 --> 0:03:07.400 Yeah, my legs up the wall and then like clam legs, 0:03:07.440 --> 0:03:09.240 like my legs wide open and I just lay there 0:03:09.240 --> 0:03:11.320 for a few minutes in my bedroom before I get 0:03:11.320 --> 0:03:15.040 into bed. But I'm listening to certain music when I 0:03:15.120 --> 0:03:15.400 do it. 0:03:16.240 --> 0:03:18.600 Yeah, and music. 0:03:19.400 --> 0:03:21.760 No. I've tried all different ones, but the one that 0:03:21.880 --> 0:03:24.560 is really resonating the best with me. 0:03:25.280 --> 0:03:29.200 Is it's nothing compares to you. 0:03:29.320 --> 0:03:37.400 Like No, I love it. It's going right back to 0:03:37.480 --> 0:03:38.520 early nineties. 0:03:38.800 --> 0:03:39.200 Huge. 0:03:40.680 --> 0:03:44.240 Wait you'll get it. Wait for the dulcet tones to 0:03:44.280 --> 0:03:47.200 come in. Picture me child's pose on my floor. 0:03:50.240 --> 0:03:53.320 Enya, and ya and ya. 0:03:53.640 --> 0:03:55.640 I've got Anya's greatest hits. 0:03:56.200 --> 0:03:59.520 Only time I was at a wedding and the bride 0:03:59.560 --> 0:04:01.040 walk down al to only time. 0:04:01.600 --> 0:04:04.040 Oh it was so many time, is that, Enya? 0:04:04.600 --> 0:04:06.800 Yeah, but imagine the door's opening. 0:04:07.680 --> 0:04:11.880 Oh yes, Oh it's so dramatic. Get married it is? 0:04:12.600 --> 0:04:21.320 Oh god, oh so good, here we go. Oh my god. 0:04:21.360 --> 0:04:22.200 I love it. 0:04:22.560 --> 0:04:26.240 I'm editing it in my head like the The Redding. 0:04:26.880 --> 0:04:28.240 It's a movie. Now, it's a movie. 0:04:28.279 --> 0:04:31.679 It's a movie now. I yeah, I'm like, God, everyone 0:04:31.760 --> 0:04:33.440 just went so on the nose for it because it 0:04:33.520 --> 0:04:35.240 was so big, and then no one liked it. And 0:04:35.279 --> 0:04:37.440 now I'm like, if I walked into a shop and 0:04:37.600 --> 0:04:40.280 en you was fucking cranking, I would be like, this 0:04:40.440 --> 0:04:41.560 shop is cool. 0:04:42.240 --> 0:04:45.120 Yeah, there was a real time of like it wasn't 0:04:45.240 --> 0:04:48.680 nineties time of Enya and the Gregorian Chance. So remember 0:04:48.800 --> 0:04:53.520 like Sadness by Enigma. Oh, you would know it. 0:04:53.480 --> 0:04:55.480 If you put it on a Gregorian chair. 0:04:55.680 --> 0:04:58.680 It was that chanting like if you put on if 0:04:58.720 --> 0:05:02.200 you put in sat by Enigma, you'll hear it's the 0:05:02.240 --> 0:05:11.720 start of it. Oh yeah, it's actually quite beautiful. 0:05:11.800 --> 0:05:17.400 Really, you remember this Leonardo DiCaprio's The Beach movie. 0:05:17.320 --> 0:05:21.599 Remember maybe, Yeah, this one. 0:05:23.560 --> 0:05:24.600 It's powerful. 0:05:24.960 --> 0:05:25.320 It is. 0:05:32.960 --> 0:05:35.600 Oh, I'm liking it. I might do some I might 0:05:35.680 --> 0:05:39.080 do some stretchy bendy up the leggy Walley tonight to that. 0:05:39.560 --> 0:05:43.599 Yeah. Powerful And also it's like attainable because everyone sounds 0:05:43.600 --> 0:05:48.280 good in a choir, a lot of voices. God, WI 0:05:48.279 --> 0:05:49.279 should join a choir? 0:05:50.080 --> 0:05:53.000 Oh my god, virtual choir. You're always like we've got 0:05:53.040 --> 0:05:55.320 to just add something in, like you know, climbing a tree. 0:05:55.320 --> 0:05:58.080 That's fun. Why don't you join an choire. 0:05:58.400 --> 0:06:01.640 I toyed with the idea at one point of doing 0:06:01.839 --> 0:06:07.440 dancing lessons. Do that not partnered just dance myself. 0:06:08.080 --> 0:06:10.480 My friend used to teach a dance school and it 0:06:10.600 --> 0:06:12.960 used to be the structure like teacher dance school. This 0:06:13.040 --> 0:06:14.400 was before I had kids, so I was in my 0:06:14.440 --> 0:06:16.800 early twenties. I was still living at home, but we 0:06:17.000 --> 0:06:19.880 trained and trained, and we kept just all like a 0:06:19.880 --> 0:06:21.760 group of our friends, and we're like the big Sea's 0:06:21.839 --> 0:06:24.080 coming up, the big sea, like the concert we were 0:06:24.080 --> 0:06:25.919 going to dance perform with all the younger kids. And 0:06:25.920 --> 0:06:29.480 then guess what happened on the day you all chicken down? No, 0:06:29.600 --> 0:06:34.120 I got a migraine off. So the big sea that 0:06:34.160 --> 0:06:37.680 I've been like going to dance lessons every night, learning 0:06:37.680 --> 0:06:38.320 a dance. 0:06:38.480 --> 0:06:39.599 And what was the song? 0:06:39.920 --> 0:06:41.919 I knew you were just about to ask that, and 0:06:41.960 --> 0:06:44.400 I can't remember. But my best my mate, who was 0:06:44.400 --> 0:06:47.599 the dance teacher, she did a song. She did a 0:06:47.680 --> 0:06:51.839 dance with her other the other dance instructors. This is 0:06:51.880 --> 0:06:55.080 where I did the standing ovation. No, so this was 0:06:55.120 --> 0:06:57.040 another year because I couldn't have gone if I had 0:06:57.040 --> 0:06:59.440 the hit. So no, sorry, I can't remember the song. 0:06:59.480 --> 0:07:02.159 I did it too, but she did it the following year. 0:07:02.200 --> 0:07:05.680 My dance instructor to and also my good friend to 0:07:05.800 --> 0:07:11.600 this song. Remember this? Do you remember this? 0:07:12.880 --> 0:07:13.080 Nuh? 0:07:13.680 --> 0:07:20.600 I'll fast forward it a bit. It was so huge 0:07:20.880 --> 0:07:22.880 And then at the end I jumped out of my 0:07:22.960 --> 0:07:24.920 chair and clapped, and no one else stood up. 0:07:25.280 --> 0:07:26.600 Well, they all should have stood up. 0:07:26.640 --> 0:07:29.400 They should have a fucking great song, a motive dance. 0:07:29.480 --> 0:07:30.320 It was brilliant. 0:07:30.640 --> 0:07:33.280 Yeah, seeing someone who can dance like not just either 0:07:33.520 --> 0:07:36.800 they can move well, but they're like a dancer. Oh 0:07:36.800 --> 0:07:37.480 it's the best. 0:07:38.040 --> 0:07:39.640 Yeah, you should do dance lessons. 0:07:39.680 --> 0:07:42.160 So I'm not going to. I won't, I won't, but 0:07:42.200 --> 0:07:45.480 I do think we should make it a series, Mike. 0:07:45.680 --> 0:07:49.440 But micro things like the climbing a tree, I know 0:07:49.560 --> 0:07:52.640 what you mean, Just something small because it forces you 0:07:52.720 --> 0:07:54.880 to do something totally more. 0:07:54.920 --> 0:07:59.200 Well you know what this is one, but it's it's 0:07:59.520 --> 0:08:02.880 not as it was unplanned and I think our plans 0:08:02.920 --> 0:08:05.560 almost better. But I was the goal umpire at footy 0:08:05.600 --> 0:08:06.239 the other day. 0:08:06.480 --> 0:08:08.680 That is my worst nightmare. 0:08:09.040 --> 0:08:12.280 Well I realized how adhd I am during that because 0:08:12.280 --> 0:08:13.720 the ball would go down the other end and I 0:08:13.760 --> 0:08:16.080 couldn't concentrate. I had a piece of paper aut to mark. 0:08:15.920 --> 0:08:17.640 Their their point. 0:08:18.920 --> 0:08:20.840 No score as well, so then you can match it 0:08:20.880 --> 0:08:23.880 with the scorer and the other goal umpire. And also 0:08:23.880 --> 0:08:28.400 they have two separate jobs. No they know, apparently not. 0:08:28.640 --> 0:08:31.520 There's a scorer and then each goal umpire scores as well, 0:08:31.600 --> 0:08:34.520 so then there's three scores. This is for AFL three 0:08:34.600 --> 0:08:38.120 scores that you go, okay, are they all matching? And 0:08:38.200 --> 0:08:40.520 of course I'm not fucking writing it down properly. And 0:08:40.600 --> 0:08:43.120 also I didn't realize that if down the other end 0:08:43.160 --> 0:08:44.960 they get a goal, the goal umpire does it, I 0:08:45.000 --> 0:08:47.320 have to copy him as well with my flags. So 0:08:47.400 --> 0:08:50.240 of course I made it into a fucking show. Oh 0:08:50.280 --> 0:08:53.320 so the first because I was so excited too, because 0:08:53.360 --> 0:08:55.560 it was Arlo's team playing and we'd get a goal 0:08:55.600 --> 0:08:59.120 and I fucking do highlight. It was like I was 0:08:59.200 --> 0:09:03.080 a Dallas cow boy cheerleader. It was. It was so 0:09:03.840 --> 0:09:05.800 much fun. I only did it two times and then 0:09:05.840 --> 0:09:07.679 I was like, okay the crowd, I need the crowd 0:09:07.679 --> 0:09:10.440 want anymore. I can't leave. I can't keep going because 0:09:10.480 --> 0:09:12.320 it's not going to be funny anymore. But fucking gave 0:09:12.320 --> 0:09:14.720 the crowd a good time, had a real hoot, and 0:09:14.800 --> 0:09:16.640 tried a new skill that I'll never do again. 0:09:17.000 --> 0:09:20.600 I'm really disappointed that Sam didn't. He's worked in media 0:09:20.679 --> 0:09:22.920 long enough to know that he should have documented that. 0:09:23.640 --> 0:09:25.920 No, I know he wasn't there. He was a buster 0:09:26.080 --> 0:09:29.000 game dad. I know, I know. I got a lot 0:09:29.040 --> 0:09:30.520 of attention, so I liked it. 0:09:30.520 --> 0:09:33.480 It's being able to even judge whether it's a goal 0:09:33.600 --> 0:09:36.520 or not on me because I can't. It's disorientating like 0:09:36.640 --> 0:09:36.920 it is. 0:09:37.000 --> 0:09:39.400 And one of them went through my untouched though it 0:09:39.440 --> 0:09:41.240 should have been a goal, and the goal umpire was 0:09:41.280 --> 0:09:43.720 like touched and I didn't say I don't think it 0:09:43.840 --> 0:09:46.520 was like, yeah, I didn't like it. 0:09:46.800 --> 0:09:49.280 Mark did that once he made a wrong call. Oh 0:09:49.440 --> 0:09:53.120 my kid, it was terrible, terrible, And then I could 0:09:53.120 --> 0:09:55.320 hear everyone going, hang on, that wasn't a goal. That 0:09:55.360 --> 0:09:56.920 wasn't a goal, and I'm like oh, and when he 0:09:56.960 --> 0:10:01.360 came off, I'm like, you fucked that. Everyone sh I know. 0:10:01.840 --> 0:10:04.400 Well, there were the supporters from the other team behind me. 0:10:04.480 --> 0:10:06.600 That's why I didn't say anything either, because they would 0:10:06.640 --> 0:10:10.240 have been like no. They all get really into it. 0:10:10.520 --> 0:10:12.959 And we play in the Queensland League, like my boys 0:10:12.960 --> 0:10:15.400 play for Barron, but we're in the Queensland League because 0:10:15.440 --> 0:10:18.520 there's not that many teams around us. They run the 0:10:18.640 --> 0:10:22.600 Queensland teams like it is an AFL team, like they've 0:10:22.600 --> 0:10:25.400 got paid staff, they've got this, they've got that, and 0:10:25.400 --> 0:10:28.520 then we're just these junkyard dogs that roll up and 0:10:28.559 --> 0:10:30.599 occasionally we occasionally don't. 0:10:31.000 --> 0:10:35.319 Imagine being the team manager. I feel so sorry for that. 0:10:35.559 --> 0:10:38.040 One of my best Sam's team manager, and all my 0:10:38.080 --> 0:10:41.840 best mates a team manager. So I have so much 0:10:41.960 --> 0:10:45.520 empathy because I see the shit that the parents might 0:10:45.559 --> 0:10:48.360 do and say, and I'm like, you fucking kidding me. 0:10:48.800 --> 0:10:51.200 You get out there and your mouth off and talk 0:10:51.400 --> 0:10:53.719 badly about the club and everything, yet you won't put 0:10:53.760 --> 0:10:56.400 your fucking you won't do any work, you won't go 0:10:56.440 --> 0:11:01.280 on the committee. It's unbelievable. Parents of kids who play sports, 0:11:02.040 --> 0:11:05.600 some of them are disgusting. 0:11:05.520 --> 0:11:07.600 Io were can say. Some of them are amazing and 0:11:07.600 --> 0:11:10.120 as going to go and I am one of them. 0:11:10.320 --> 0:11:14.000 No, a club usually chugs off about five people though, 0:11:14.040 --> 0:11:15.560 do you know what I mean? And those five people 0:11:15.600 --> 0:11:17.640 are good at delegating and saying can you do tree 0:11:17.679 --> 0:11:21.360 or whatever? But they're politics in local community sport. 0:11:22.040 --> 0:11:25.720 It's hilarious. There's there's a real like there's a real 0:11:25.840 --> 0:11:29.160 kind of person to who is like right into it. 0:11:29.160 --> 0:11:32.320 It's like they live and breathe the club, yes or whatever. 0:11:32.920 --> 0:11:34.080 I've never understood that. 0:11:34.440 --> 0:11:38.040 Nah, I don't our colors are where the Magprize Byron Magprize. 0:11:38.080 --> 0:11:41.440 I don't bleed black and white, but I do enjoy it, 0:11:41.640 --> 0:11:43.600 and I'll cut up an orange, but I don't think 0:11:43.640 --> 0:11:45.959 I'll be a goalkeeper again, a goal umpire again. 0:11:46.280 --> 0:11:48.760 Ours is rosted. Ours works on a roster like you 0:11:48.920 --> 0:11:51.360 just delegated, Like there's if we're playing a home game, 0:11:51.440 --> 0:11:53.920 someone's got to work in the canteen, which I've uploated 0:11:53.920 --> 0:11:55.720 that to my daughter. She does that, but like someone's 0:11:55.720 --> 0:11:57.679 got to be timekeeper, someone's got to do orange. 0:11:57.800 --> 0:11:59.760 Yeah, you know we do do that too, but it 0:11:59.840 --> 0:12:02.160 was just for some reason, was like, so I've done 0:12:02.200 --> 0:12:04.120 orange just twice and we're only four games in, so 0:12:04.120 --> 0:12:08.880 it's definitely not my turn again. That's something I wanted 0:12:08.880 --> 0:12:10.320 to tell you. The other day, it was the cutest 0:12:10.320 --> 0:12:13.720 seeing Odie had a playdate. So Odie's five, he's not 0:12:13.800 --> 0:12:16.920 at school yet and he he's got a little mate 0:12:16.920 --> 0:12:18.640 who's at school now, and I said, does he want 0:12:18.679 --> 0:12:20.400 to come over for a play like a drop off 0:12:20.400 --> 0:12:23.360 play because normally when they play he plays with kids 0:12:23.400 --> 0:12:25.000 will go to the park, or it will be at 0:12:25.000 --> 0:12:27.880 the pool or something like that, you know, and the 0:12:27.960 --> 0:12:30.040 parents always there. But because he's got older brother and 0:12:30.280 --> 0:12:33.520 brothers now he knows no a playdate is no parents 0:12:33.840 --> 0:12:34.679 like you yet dropped. 0:12:34.720 --> 0:12:36.600 Oh god, yes, so. 0:12:36.600 --> 0:12:38.480 I invited this little kid over. I said, you want 0:12:38.480 --> 0:12:40.400 to drop it? Do you want to drop Alfie over? 0:12:40.440 --> 0:12:42.720 And he's like yep, so he dropped Elfie off. Great 0:12:42.760 --> 0:12:47.880 name Otis, Yeah, great name Otis was on heat. You've 0:12:47.920 --> 0:12:52.280 never seen somebody more excited, like just like this, just 0:12:52.480 --> 0:12:57.080 like the cheshire cat. This a dog just panting, so excited. 0:12:57.120 --> 0:12:59.960 And he's showing Alfie every area of our house, right, 0:13:00.400 --> 0:13:04.800 so the starters he runs out. He's like, Dad, Dad, 0:13:05.520 --> 0:13:11.880 show Alfie their drink bottle cabinet. So Sam like, okay, 0:13:13.320 --> 0:13:16.200 opens the cupboard to show the drink bottles and he's like, 0:13:16.520 --> 0:13:18.800 there's our drink bottles. Some of them are my brothers. 0:13:18.840 --> 0:13:20.320 They take them to school. But that's where the drink 0:13:20.320 --> 0:13:20.800 bottles are. 0:13:20.840 --> 0:13:22.480 Cool. Huh oh my god. 0:13:22.720 --> 0:13:27.200 It's like yes, he's it was so gorgeous. Then I'm 0:13:27.280 --> 0:13:29.480 laying in bed. Of course I've got a fucking migraine. 0:13:29.640 --> 0:13:32.839 So Alo I mean Odie runs in with Alfie into 0:13:32.920 --> 0:13:36.160 my bedroom. He's like, Alfie, this is my mom. She 0:13:36.400 --> 0:13:38.360 loves hugs. Get up on the bed. You can give 0:13:38.400 --> 0:13:38.920 her a hug. 0:13:42.240 --> 0:13:44.240 That is the best. 0:13:44.440 --> 0:13:46.520 Oh get up, no, Elfie, you can't get out of 0:13:46.600 --> 0:13:50.000 bed because imagine Elfie went home and was like, Odie's 0:13:50.040 --> 0:13:51.760 mom was in bed, and I got in there and 0:13:51.800 --> 0:13:52.760 gave her a hug. 0:13:53.679 --> 0:13:57.160 What though, like, other than the fact that that is 0:13:57.200 --> 0:14:00.840 the fucking cutest thing I've ever heard, how nice is 0:14:00.880 --> 0:14:04.040 it that I know for myself that idea of oh, 0:14:04.040 --> 0:14:06.880 the house is a mess. Yeah, this is ugly, this 0:14:06.920 --> 0:14:09.520 is whatever. That idea that they're just so proud and 0:14:09.559 --> 0:14:12.000 they want everything, there's no. 0:14:13.200 --> 0:14:16.920 Yeah, ours is still like our house, which we've put 0:14:17.000 --> 0:14:20.000 on Instagram before to show you we purchased to renovate, 0:14:20.000 --> 0:14:22.720 and we haven't and probably never will renovate. But he 0:14:23.400 --> 0:14:26.280 loves our house so much, and he has some friends 0:14:26.360 --> 0:14:29.800 that are so minted, like the houses some of this 0:14:29.960 --> 0:14:32.680 kid's friends live in. I go there and I'm like, well, 0:14:32.720 --> 0:14:34.440 so then when they come to pick up their kid 0:14:34.440 --> 0:14:37.200 from our house, I do have that pang of oh God, 0:14:37.760 --> 0:14:41.040 like yeah, anyway, Aura will go to their house and 0:14:41.040 --> 0:14:42.840 then they'll both get dropped here and then he'll give 0:14:42.840 --> 0:14:45.560 the grand tour of our fucking four bedroom shack. I'm like, 0:14:46.000 --> 0:14:48.520 you are so proud. He's like, I love this house. 0:14:48.920 --> 0:14:52.080 I love it, Like it's so beautiful when it's just 0:14:52.160 --> 0:14:55.200 their home and they don't see the four boards that 0:14:55.280 --> 0:14:57.200 need to be done, or the holes of me to 0:14:57.280 --> 0:14:59.680 be patched or anything like that. 0:15:00.160 --> 0:15:00.760 It's funny. 0:15:00.840 --> 0:15:02.000 I was speaking. 0:15:02.040 --> 0:15:05.200 We're talking the other day about moments in our life 0:15:05.200 --> 0:15:06.840 that we thought we were the happiest, Like, when do 0:15:06.840 --> 0:15:07.440 you reckon. 0:15:07.240 --> 0:15:08.040 You were happiest? 0:15:08.800 --> 0:15:11.920 And I said, if I think about it, it was 0:15:11.960 --> 0:15:14.840 when we were we knocked down our house and we're 0:15:14.880 --> 0:15:18.280 rebuilding years and years ago. The kids were little luck 0:15:18.280 --> 0:15:21.160 I think Don was four and Luca was two and 0:15:21.200 --> 0:15:26.520 we were renting this absolute shit hole. It was so ugly. 0:15:27.160 --> 0:15:28.640 But I said to Mark, I think that's when I was. 0:15:28.640 --> 0:15:30.600 My happiest because she didn't care about it. 0:15:30.880 --> 0:15:35.080 I didn't care. But also it was like I think 0:15:35.240 --> 0:15:38.440 I've sort of always worked on the side, but there 0:15:38.480 --> 0:15:41.160 was no sort of pressure, Like I was just sort 0:15:41.160 --> 0:15:44.120 of doing work at night as I wanted sort of thing. 0:15:44.400 --> 0:15:46.680 But I was like, I think it was that idea 0:15:46.720 --> 0:15:50.560 that back then everything was about the kids. I wasn't 0:15:50.560 --> 0:15:55.320 obsessing over things about myself, like I was just so happy. 0:15:55.480 --> 0:15:59.040 It wasn't Now it's like I'm on my own so 0:15:59.240 --> 0:16:03.800 much that I ruminate on on your head a lot, yes, 0:16:04.080 --> 0:16:06.200 but with them, I was like too busy and they 0:16:06.960 --> 0:16:08.680 they I mean, like, of course they still love me, 0:16:08.720 --> 0:16:09.840 but they you know when. 0:16:09.680 --> 0:16:13.200 They meet you, I still have Odi like that. I 0:16:13.240 --> 0:16:15.120 was speaking to a woman the other day. His daughters 0:16:15.160 --> 0:16:17.400 are nineteen and fifteen, and she's like, they obviously love me, 0:16:17.400 --> 0:16:20.680 but she's like, it's so different because Odie needs me 0:16:20.920 --> 0:16:23.320 and he loves me, and like he walks in the 0:16:23.320 --> 0:16:26.320 door and sprints up to me and hugs me. You know, 0:16:26.440 --> 0:16:28.840 we're back to be like I'll be like hi, mum, 0:16:29.120 --> 0:16:33.720 like I know, which is so normal, so normal, just 0:16:33.960 --> 0:16:37.600 that way absolutely should be. But the difference and like 0:16:37.680 --> 0:16:40.120 it's always Sam, Odie and I because the older two 0:16:40.400 --> 0:16:42.480 get home and they'll just do their own thing, where 0:16:42.480 --> 0:16:44.520 Odie wants to be with us. So it's like we're 0:16:44.560 --> 0:16:48.160 this little trio and he's just never happier than when 0:16:48.240 --> 0:16:50.520 Sam and I are close to him, or if you 0:16:50.560 --> 0:16:52.720 see Sam and I hug and he'll come over and 0:16:52.760 --> 0:16:55.800 get in it. Like he just just still at that 0:16:55.840 --> 0:16:58.440 age where he desperately needs and wants to be around me. 0:16:59.400 --> 0:17:02.400 Oh that's pretty special. Something else that happened on the 0:17:02.400 --> 0:17:04.760 playdate though, so it was raining and they were out 0:17:04.760 --> 0:17:06.760 the back having They were so cute. They took a 0:17:06.800 --> 0:17:09.760 remote control and an umbrella out into the remote control 0:17:09.800 --> 0:17:12.080 car and an umbrella out into the backyard and were 0:17:12.119 --> 0:17:14.239 holding that umbrella for the other person while they did 0:17:14.240 --> 0:17:17.560 the remote control. Oh my god, don't it was. I 0:17:17.680 --> 0:17:20.240 was like, I couldn't deal with how cute this was. 0:17:20.280 --> 0:17:22.760 But they got quite muddy and dirty, and I said, 0:17:23.080 --> 0:17:24.560 do you guys want to keep your undys on and 0:17:24.600 --> 0:17:28.240 have a bath? And Sam's like, no, oh, yeah, no, because. 0:17:28.040 --> 0:17:34.800 That's that's getting into potentially could appear be Michael Jackson bath. 0:17:34.880 --> 0:17:36.600 And I'm like, but they had their undys on and 0:17:36.600 --> 0:17:39.719 they're five, Like, is that wrong? I don't know. 0:17:40.560 --> 0:17:44.080 Well, for you, it's not wrong. But if I think 0:17:45.040 --> 0:17:47.440 if I think if my child was at someone else's house, 0:17:47.480 --> 0:17:48.280 I wouldn't like it. 0:17:48.680 --> 0:17:51.480 You also, I don't know him that well. Like if 0:17:51.480 --> 0:17:54.639 it was a good family friend, I think that would 0:17:54.640 --> 0:17:58.000 be very different. It's like the time when I babysat 0:17:58.320 --> 0:17:59.359 my friend's daughter. 0:17:59.440 --> 0:18:01.000 Was about to say, I think yes. Is one of 0:18:01.040 --> 0:18:03.840 the first things you wrote for Sean Tell It. 0:18:03.720 --> 0:18:05.240 Was, you know what? It was one of the first 0:18:05.240 --> 0:18:07.960 things I wrote for Mam and Maya maybe Sean Tell 0:18:08.000 --> 0:18:11.800 as well. And the backlash I got was so huge. 0:18:11.840 --> 0:18:14.760 I remember messaging Maya and going, oh my god, I 0:18:14.760 --> 0:18:17.040 was so new to writing, and yeah, it was like 0:18:17.520 --> 0:18:20.440 this is this, this is our part and part it's okay. 0:18:20.680 --> 0:18:22.840 This is a good sign that you've hit a good topic, 0:18:22.920 --> 0:18:24.960 that you've a good rid blah blah blah. So she 0:18:25.000 --> 0:18:27.000 made me feel really good about it because I was 0:18:27.240 --> 0:18:32.760 fucking freaking out because I was very heavily pregnant, like 0:18:34.480 --> 0:18:37.560 very like nine months pregnant, not far off giving birth. 0:18:37.600 --> 0:18:40.639 And so Sam and a couple of our friends went 0:18:41.119 --> 0:18:44.520 to the races, and I looked after their daughter. Their 0:18:44.640 --> 0:18:49.920 daughter was like so that we are so close. 0:18:49.720 --> 0:18:52.359 And she was like a niece, like a niece. 0:18:52.800 --> 0:18:56.200 Yes, she was like a niece. And so when they 0:18:56.200 --> 0:18:59.000 were out, she stayed at my house. A little guy said, 0:18:59.000 --> 0:19:00.840 she can come and hang with me and stay the night. 0:19:00.920 --> 0:19:02.960 So you guys go and have a good night. So 0:19:03.160 --> 0:19:05.960 when it was shower time, I jumped in the shower 0:19:05.960 --> 0:19:08.600 with her, and her and I had a shower together. 0:19:08.960 --> 0:19:11.160 So the shower was over the bath, so I put 0:19:11.200 --> 0:19:14.959 the bar in and showered. I can't remember now, I 0:19:15.000 --> 0:19:18.240 think I kept my undies on. I can't remember you. 0:19:18.280 --> 0:19:20.040 Were like showering in the Big Brother House. 0:19:20.600 --> 0:19:23.119 Yeah, yeah, I can't remember if I did or not, 0:19:23.200 --> 0:19:26.320 but I remember like they didn't care at all. It 0:19:26.440 --> 0:19:28.520 was still funny then, though, because I was like, oh, 0:19:28.520 --> 0:19:30.600 I had a shower with Billy and they were it 0:19:30.680 --> 0:19:32.760 was like I think Sam was like, oh did you 0:19:33.240 --> 0:19:35.880 And I was like yeah, of course, like I'm this big, fucking, huge, 0:19:35.920 --> 0:19:38.960