Speaker 1: Hello, Hello, Hello to you, when you, when you, oh,
Speaker 1: when there's you, it's mell, it's monkey. Hello today, welcome
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Speaker 1: in today. I just wanted to start off Melissa by saying,
Speaker 1: the other day we did a podcast. It was a
Speaker 1: Lucky Dip episode on nicknames. You went into a deep
Speaker 1: dive into Reddit, which you always do, and we were like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, these people got their nicknames. It's so funny.
Speaker 1: And I said to you guys, if you've got one,
Speaker 1: hit us up and let us know your funny nicknames
Speaker 1: and some good ones who've come through. So I thought
Speaker 1: I'd bet you know, all right, my cousin's been married
Speaker 1: three times, so we've nicknamed him Lord of the Rings. Good.
Speaker 1: That's very good. Okay, Hey, I listen to your podcast
Speaker 1: this morning. I mean I always do. And I went
Speaker 1: to school with an unfortunate boy whose name was Michael Litterus,
Speaker 1: which was shortened to Mike, so Mike Litterus. So his
Speaker 1: nickname was clit or Glitteris that's that?
Speaker 2: Those parents? What the fuck were they? I know, I know, okay, drunk?
Speaker 1: Yeah, seriously, I knew a guy whose surname was Rout.
Speaker 1: His nickname was liquor licker out. Oh that's a blast from.
Speaker 2: The past, isn't it.
Speaker 1: Oh shit, it's so good. And then just on a
Speaker 1: side note, somebody had an embarras for no reason, which
Speaker 1: I loved, which is so true. Getting in an elevator
Speaker 1: when there are other people in it, Oh.
Speaker 2: That is embarrassing, number, you know what. And it's also
Speaker 2: do you say hello? Do you just smile? And then
Speaker 2: you just you know, when it's a real packed one too,
Speaker 2: you sort of stand there or just look down on
Speaker 2: the ground because you look at any way, and because
Speaker 2: you're also people like if it's a packed one, you're like,
Speaker 2: you can tell if you get in and people got
Speaker 2: to shuffle back, they're annoyed, like or do I wait
Speaker 2: for the next one which is going to take ages?
Speaker 1: Or do I just make you all shuffle back? It's
Speaker 1: so unpleasant. And then just inhaling each other's breath.
Speaker 2: Someone's always eaten garlic.
Speaker 1: So funny.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I was thinking about this the other day. You
Speaker 2: know how I love to bring a segment, a new
Speaker 2: segment in.
Speaker 1: I get I've got a new segment idea, and it
Speaker 1: happens once.
Speaker 2: Yes, well this one did happen once, oh of course.
Speaker 2: But I'm bringing it back because I thought I've actual
Speaker 2: We've got a lot of content for this one, because
Speaker 2: there's a lot of things I don't like. And if
Speaker 2: you're a long time listener, you might remember we called
Speaker 2: it things I Ate Hate like pig Latin things I hate.
Speaker 1: Yeah, great, jeez, we could just that's all. That's what
Speaker 1: our podcast should be called.
Speaker 2: That's a never ending that's a never ending segment. Anyway.
Speaker 2: The thing I ate hate at the moment is this
Speaker 2: manifesting ah, and I feel like I sound like just
Speaker 2: a cynical old person, right, But the thing I hate
Speaker 2: about it most is when it is someone who is
Speaker 2: in a privileged position, who may be married very well
Speaker 2: or maybe was born into money, and they are going
Speaker 2: on about how they manifested this incredible life for themselves
Speaker 2: that is not true and also just the idea of
Speaker 2: manifesting to me, is just another way of saying setting
Speaker 2: your goals. It's all it is because yes.
Speaker 1: I don't know, because sorry, continue.
Speaker 2: Because it's like the idea of a vision board. Yes, right,
Speaker 2: do a vision board of all the things you want,
Speaker 2: and then you put it somewhere you'll see all the time.
Speaker 2: That's just a visual reminder to work towards the things
Speaker 2: that you want. I don't think there's any special sparkle
Speaker 2: dust in the universe that's going to bring it to you.
Speaker 2: I think it's just you look and say I want
Speaker 2: that body, that sort of person, that house, whatever, and
Speaker 2: every day you look at it, it's a reminder that's
Speaker 2: what I'm looking for, that's what I.
Speaker 1: Want focuses on. So it's like when you want to
Speaker 1: get a new car and you know the car you want,
Speaker 1: you always see that car on the road. Yeah.
Speaker 2: I think they're just prompts to remind you to go
Speaker 2: for your goal. Say you want abs and you've got
Speaker 2: a picture of I don't know someone who's got great
Speaker 2: abs on your vision for that's a reminder go to
Speaker 2: the gym because that's what I want.
Speaker 1: Because you're not just going to wake up in the
Speaker 1: abs of there. Here's the thing. Years and years ago,
Speaker 1: when I was in Aubrey, like doing my radio apprenticeship,
Speaker 1: I call it, I got obsessed with the Secret and
Speaker 1: I loved it. I watched it several times, I read
Speaker 1: the book and I would secret the shit out of things,
Speaker 1: to the point that my friends would be like, oh
Speaker 1: my god, you are secreting everything, right, Yes, And it
Speaker 1: was from a car park to the job I wanted
Speaker 1: to everything. I felt like, fuck, I'm a really powerful manifesto.
Speaker 1: And then chronic health set in and I was like,
Speaker 1: I can manifest everything I want, but chronic my chronic
Speaker 1: help to go away. But I it gave me purpose,
Speaker 1: if you know what I mean in terms of going,
Speaker 1: Oh this is what I really want. So in terms
Speaker 1: of going, I got the job that I wanted. And
Speaker 1: when I say I manifested it, I worked my fucking
Speaker 1: ass off for it, you know what I mean. So
Speaker 1: that's I get it. But I do think that there
Speaker 1: is like you can't just go, oh, this is what
Speaker 1: I want and then I'm gonna because you know how,
Speaker 1: it's like what you think about you bring about, which
Speaker 1: is only true if you actively working towards it. That's right,
Speaker 1: I mean like I can sit and think, oh, I
Speaker 1: want to get abs. I want to get abs, and
Speaker 1: never get off the couch. You're not getting abs. But
Speaker 1: if you think about it and you take the action,
Speaker 1: of course, it's going to be more likely that it's
Speaker 1: going to happen. So it's manifesting bullshit probably, but I
Speaker 1: like to believe it is a bit true.
Speaker 2: And the idea is nice. I get it. And sometimes
Speaker 2: it's just the motivation. Like watch I watch The Secret,
Speaker 2: I thought the same thing.
Speaker 3: I'm on.
Speaker 2: I will get on any fucking bandwagon going like I'm
Speaker 2: a real serial bandwagoner. But sometimes it's just having the
Speaker 2: inspiration to want to do it or something. It's such
Speaker 2: a stupid example, but like when I have to clean
Speaker 2: my house and I really don't want to because I
Speaker 2: hate cleaning. Sometimes I'll watch a YouTube video or something
Speaker 2: of someone cleaning with cleaning hacks or whatever, and I'm like, oh,
Speaker 2: I might try that, and it makes me feel like
Speaker 2: I want to do it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it motivates you to do it.
Speaker 2: It's just the motivation behind it. Hate thing is these
Speaker 2: people that live in these very privileged lives, like see this.
Speaker 2: You can manifest all this too. Buy my seven hundred
Speaker 2: dollars a week course and all tell you the secrets,
Speaker 2: and I'm like, the secret is suck someone rich, make
Speaker 2: them fall in love with you, or alternatively, work very
Speaker 2: hard yourself and make your own wealth. Yea, the stars
Speaker 2: aren't going to bring it to you unless it's you
Speaker 2: marry a star, and then that's different. That was very negative. No,
Speaker 2: it's not.
Speaker 1: It's not. I do because when you do break down
Speaker 1: what manifesting it is putting up, you know, just putting
Speaker 1: a Basically, pictures are putting up reminders, putting things around
Speaker 1: in your world that help you to attract what it
Speaker 1: is that you want. But the attraction is you've actively
Speaker 1: got to be working towards that. You just sit there
Speaker 1: and let it come to you. But maybe it is
Speaker 1: a different way of easier goals. Go get your goals.
Speaker 2: Have you ever tried doing those affirmations?
Speaker 1: What ones like?
Speaker 2: You know, they say do affirmation So in the morning
Speaker 2: you get up and you look at yourself in the
Speaker 2: mirror and you say things like I am beautiful, I
Speaker 2: am strong, I am powerful. I that oh I did
Speaker 2: lasted thirty seconds. I could not do it. I got
Speaker 2: up in the morning and you know, like everyone looks
Speaker 2: shit in the morning and looking myself in the mirror
Speaker 2: and going you are beautiful, and I'm like, fucking bullshit.
Speaker 1: Nah, I have idea a lot like people friends got
Speaker 1: her daughter who does it in the mirror and stuff.
Speaker 1: I think it's very cute to do that. You gotta
Speaker 1: start him young, you gotta start a good Yeah. But
Speaker 1: I couldn't stand in the mirror and seriously say you
Speaker 1: are powerful, you are strong.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: No, self talk would do better for us to self
Speaker 1: be nicer to ourselves. So I'm the biggest asshole to myself,
Speaker 1: Like I'm at such a fucking mole to myself.
Speaker 2: Imagine people here the ship that you say to yourself.
Speaker 1: Imagine they could hear the ship you say to yourself
Speaker 1: and also to your thoughts about other people. My f
Speaker 1: I'd be so oh my god, oh my god.
Speaker 2: I would have no anybody lonely. I would be the
Speaker 2: old woman who lived in a shoe. That's who I'd be.
Speaker 1: But didn't she have a lot of kids?
Speaker 2: Yeah, but I mean maybe she didn't like them.
Speaker 1: My kids wouldn't be Oh my god, my kids would
Speaker 1: be the first one to go You're an actual asshole. Mom,
Speaker 1: it's just a thought. They just see. They're just like
Speaker 1: leaves on a river. You watch them go by, Let
Speaker 1: them flow, Let them flow. So last week, because we
Speaker 1: hadn't caught up when Liam Payne had died, this morning
Speaker 1: I'm like, hey, let's talk about Nile dying. And you're
Speaker 1: like it was lamb.
Speaker 2: Yes, very sad. My daughter sent me a text from
Speaker 2: school and she loves One Direction.
Speaker 1: She really, yeah, to love One Direction.
Speaker 2: I think they're one of those bands that just keep
Speaker 2: going on, right, you know. And she goes to a girls' school,
Speaker 2: so she was like, they were doing the year twelve
Speaker 2: mass that day and she's like, they're trying to do
Speaker 2: a minute silence for him, a mass. Like everyone was
Speaker 2: devastated and we remember there's always someone you know that
Speaker 2: we remember when we were kids that died.
Speaker 1: Yeah, like your River Phoenix and stuff like that.
Speaker 2: Theirs will be this, Oh my god, River Phoenix. You know,
Speaker 2: in a few days it'll be thirty years Phoenix died. Yes,
Speaker 2: I'm lying, No, thirty one years. Wow, I'm sure he
Speaker 2: died in ninety three.
Speaker 1: Oh wow. Yeah, that's so long, isn't it. I know,
Speaker 1: I know, weird when you get to the point where
Speaker 1: you're dead longer than you're alive.
Speaker 2: Oh I know.
Speaker 1: Yes, so so sad. And it's always a shock. Like
Speaker 1: I was sitting having coffee with a friend. She's like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, in Pains died and then it's all unraveled,
Speaker 1: just how hideous the whole situation is and everything like that.
Speaker 1: But it's always a shock. On a side note, I
Speaker 1: vowed the book that lidsa Marie Presley book, Oh did
Speaker 1: you uck? Oh? Oh my god. It is recommend I
Speaker 1: couldn't recommend it higher. Like it's written really badly, and
Speaker 1: it's sometimes hard to follow because they kind of jump
Speaker 1: around a little bit. And also it goes from Lisa
Speaker 1: Marie to Riley writing and it changes the font a
Speaker 1: little bit. And now I was reading it at night
Speaker 1: and so my eyes are not very good. So sometimes
Speaker 1: I would go, oh, no, that's Riley, that's list R.
Speaker 1: But you can pick it up pretty quickly. A friend's
Speaker 1: mum's like, it's so confusing, I can't tell who to
Speaker 1: I'm like, well, the font is different, but they I
Speaker 1: didn't realize when Elvis died, they let put his body
Speaker 1: in the house and people it was like a public
Speaker 1: the public could come through and see his body. Did
Speaker 1: you know that.
Speaker 2: I didn't. I had heard that they kept the body
Speaker 2: in the house for a certain amount of time. Yeah.
Speaker 1: At Graceland and Lisa Marie was sitting there at the
Speaker 1: bottom of the stairs and said it was the house
Speaker 1: was full of people, and she said it was so
Speaker 1: strange watching other people grieve, and she would just sit
Speaker 1: there and watch. And she said, literally, there was not
Speaker 1: a spare spot in the street. The whole street was
Speaker 1: full of people who would just coming through the house
Speaker 1: to have a look at Elvis's dead body.
Speaker 2: Again, this is going to sound insensitive. I wouldn't line
Speaker 2: up like that for anything.
Speaker 1: Oh, Wood, down the street, down the street. We're so voyeuristic, though,
Speaker 1: aren't we, Because you go, I don't want to get
Speaker 1: into Elvis's house, but I get to see the dead
Speaker 1: body of Elvis.
Speaker 2: Listen if abe. I would for anyone who has seen
Speaker 2: a dead body, it's not something you know, like that
Speaker 2: idea of like open caskets and stuff.
Speaker 1: They are hideous to me.
Speaker 2: I'm very very solid on the fact I don't want that.
Speaker 2: I don't want anyone seeing me like that.
Speaker 1: I would terrify me. I've always That's been one of
Speaker 1: my fears about fear.
Speaker 2: Its like did you not see your mum?
Speaker 1: No? I didn't. I really know. I didn't see my mom.
Speaker 1: I didn't want to go in there. My sister went
Speaker 1: in there and she passed away at home, but I
Speaker 1: stopped going into the room. Probably about three days before
Speaker 1: Mom passed. I didn't go back into the room because
Speaker 1: I'm just like, that's not my mom anymore. Yeah, like
Speaker 1: she just it's looked very different, and it's very clear,
Speaker 1: I reckon from the second they go no way that
Speaker 1: it's just it's clear there is a shift that they
Speaker 1: are not there anymore.
Speaker 2: Really, so it is immediate. But also when they've been
Speaker 2: embalmed and you see them, it's it's like a wax figure.
Speaker 2: And when it's someone that you really love, it's like
Speaker 2: looking at them like this is almost like a caricature
Speaker 2: of who they were. It's fucked. Yeah, sorry, a hijack
Speaker 2: your story.
Speaker 1: So did your dad have an open casket?
Speaker 2: No, oh my god, he would have hated that.
Speaker 1: But if you went and saw him, like did you
Speaker 1: see him at the hospital.
Speaker 2: Well, we were there, and then you have to wait for,
Speaker 2: you know, people to come and sign off and all
Speaker 2: that stuff. So it was probably a couple of hours
Speaker 2: that we sat there with him. But then at the
Speaker 2: funeral place where they had him just close close, immediate
Speaker 2: people who were actually in his life came and saw him. Yeah,
Speaker 2: we did that.
Speaker 1: At my NaN's as well, where you could like she
Speaker 1: was there in another room, so if you wanted to
Speaker 1: go in and see it. But I'm like, I just
Speaker 1: don't want to see her. And I said to my uncle,
Speaker 1: you know, how did she look? And he said she
Speaker 1: looked good, but he said that they've kind of done
Speaker 1: her mouth in a like positioned her mouth in a
Speaker 1: different way. And he's like, so she looked a little
Speaker 1: bit most angry, and Nam was never angry, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean.
Speaker 2: It looks like her, but not it's not them. It's
Speaker 2: not them. But then there's also that feeling but you
Speaker 2: want to just one last seeing them sort of thing.
Speaker 2: And for a little kid of that age like Lisa
Speaker 2: Marie Pressley I.
Speaker 1: Think she was nine, and she was like it just yeah,
Speaker 1: just full onugh yeah. No.
Speaker 2: Well, going back to Liam Payne, right, as happens when
Speaker 2: someone dies, all these tributes pour in. People are writing
Speaker 2: the most beautiful things about him, and I was thinking
Speaker 2: about how when someone dies, you forget the shitty stuff,
Speaker 2: you forget their shortcomings, they you just talk about what
Speaker 2: you loved about them, the amazing things about them that
Speaker 2: we don't do in life, which we should totally. But
Speaker 2: I was thinking about this idea of living funerals, and
Speaker 2: I think it's gaining a little bit of popularity. But
Speaker 2: it's like I was saying the other night, I want
Speaker 2: to hear that stuff, like it's too late when I die.
Speaker 1: I've always had this thing that I'm like, I wish
Speaker 1: that we all died on like our eighty third birthday.
Speaker 1: The night before you had everyone there and they can
Speaker 1: tell you what they would say your funeral, so then
Speaker 1: you hear it and then the next morning you just die. Well,
Speaker 1: this is a possibility for people. I mean we're talking
Speaker 1: about obviously, people who have.
Speaker 2: A terminal illness where they know that, you know, they
Speaker 2: have a finite amount of time left. But I read
Speaker 2: this article that was in The Guardian back in January
Speaker 2: and it said this is the quote. It says, living funerals,
Speaker 2: which are also known as pre funerals, offer a chance
Speaker 2: for people to say goodbye to their friends and family
Speaker 2: on their own terms and to celebrate their life while
Speaker 2: they're still alive. It's not an entirely new concept. Living
Speaker 2: funerals started gaining popularity in Japan in the nineteen nineties,
Speaker 2: and they're known as I'm probably going to mispronounce this,
Speaker 2: but say zenzo, which means funeral while living, with the
Speaker 2: idea that it would take the pressure of family members
Speaker 2: or friends organizing a funeral after someone had died. The
Speaker 2: practice has also taken off in South Korea. In twenty nineteen,
Speaker 2: twenty five thousand people took part in a mass living
Speaker 2: funeral to face their mortality and embrace living m I
Speaker 2: love that idea. I love the thought of it being
Speaker 2: invitation only, like a birthday party.
Speaker 1: Yeah right, Why.
Speaker 2: Does they do it?
Speaker 1: Then you can do it?
Speaker 2: Oh well, I mean like if I get an illness
Speaker 2: and no I'm going to die, I'll do it. It would
Speaker 2: be insincere to.
Speaker 1: Do Yeah, it would be weird to do it. Now.
Speaker 1: Imagine you did it now, Like, that's so narcissistic. Everyone,
Speaker 1: come over, You're invited to say something about me while
Speaker 1: I'm alive. I want to take it in.
Speaker 2: Oh no, you couldn't. You couldn't do it now. But
Speaker 2: I do always have this sense I'm going to go early.
Speaker 1: Really, yeah, I do.
Speaker 2: I do. And I'm like, I always try, and I
Speaker 2: think it's important to talk about stuff that you want.
Speaker 2: So I'm always trying to talk to Mark about it.
Speaker 2: Like I don't want to be cremated. The thought of
Speaker 2: being buried seems lonely, but that's probably the only option. Yes,
Speaker 2: And I'm like, we have to talk about that stuff.
Speaker 2: Doesn't like to talk about it. I don't have to
Speaker 2: talk about it.
Speaker 1: You have to.
Speaker 2: And I found the greatest funeral song ever. Okay, you'll
Speaker 2: know this song. You may not know the actual words
Speaker 2: because it's in another language, but I probably imagine this,
Speaker 2: imagine this.
Speaker 3: No no.
Speaker 1: Na milam.
Speaker 2: Also reminds me of a copyad.
Speaker 1: Is it Italian?
Speaker 2: No, it's French edith p f right?
Speaker 1: And what is she singing about?
Speaker 2: Okay? The lyrics are No, I do not regret anything,
Speaker 2: neither the good people have done to me nor the bad.
Speaker 2: It's all the same to me, No, nothing at all. No,
Speaker 2: I do not regret anything paid for, swept away, forgotten.
Speaker 2: I do not care about the past with my memories.
Speaker 2: I lit the fire my troubles my pleasures. I do
Speaker 2: not need them anymore. The lovers are all swept away
Speaker 2: and all of their drama swept away forever. I am
Speaker 2: starting from scratch.
Speaker 1: Oh I love it? Can I have it too?
Speaker 2: Yeah, you can have it too?
Speaker 1: Of course she canks. I like that. They'd be like,
Speaker 1: if Monty would ever play this song, you can't even
Speaker 1: speak French.
Speaker 2: I'm also like, oh no, but like I'm sure I'm
Speaker 2: gonna die with heaps and regrets.
Speaker 1: Oh and I also was like, I leave everything behind now.
Speaker 1: I still fucking hate most of you. So my friend
Speaker 1: and I used to say we're going to sing at
Speaker 1: each other's funeral and I'm I said, okay, well I
Speaker 1: want you to sing Lightning Crashes?
Speaker 2: Is this abby?
Speaker 1: Abby? Yeah? Make me crashes? And she's like, okay, well
Speaker 1: you have to sing this one for me at her funeral.
Speaker 1: Stand up in front of everyone. It's Christina Aguileras.
Speaker 3: Live today, slowly drifty into a peaceful beat, concerns list
Speaker 3: my memory.
Speaker 2: That would also be such a good like would allow
Speaker 2: for some humor too, because you'd be so shit.
Speaker 1: But you'll be laughing so shit. Could you imagine?
Speaker 2: But imagine the celebrant getting up and he's like okay.
Speaker 2: So to finish off, we have Katie Diamond who'd like
Speaker 2: to get up, and.
Speaker 1: I'll go, no, Monty, I'm famous as Monty. They don't
Speaker 1: know me.
Speaker 2: Ask and everyone's expecting this unbelievable powerhouse performance. And it's
Speaker 2: so shit.
Speaker 1: Because there's a live band too. And I just look
Speaker 1: at the live band and give them the nod, so
Speaker 1: I look really fucking in control.
Speaker 2: I mean, that does need a choiet behind it the start, bitch, I'm.
Speaker 1: We get a quiet, amazing yeah.
Speaker 3: Uly band today every on we don't know the song.
Speaker 2: I feel like maybe that's one for the wake afterwards
Speaker 2: when you're about like three three glasses in yeah.
Speaker 1: Oh, come on, everybody, come on me along? So good.
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